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Cold Stinky Karma
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Today we talk about how you can tell somebody that they stink... in a nice way!
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Introduction and Nickname Shenanigans
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one good morning good afternoon and good evening everybody boys and girls ladies and gentlemen everybody inside outside upside down the gender binary welcome to that's rq or toq for short i am danny guarantee as always followed by my sidekick adam hang on oh yeah oh that sounds nice blueberry buzzsaw liquid death baby o yeah Is that your psychic name? Blueberry Buzzsaw?
00:00:35
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No, I'm not Blueberry Buzzsaw. I'm Wildberry... Wildberry Drillbit.
00:00:46
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This is my partner in crime. Wildberry Drillbit. It doesn't quite flow off the tongue. That's our you hang on perfect no it rolls right off the tongue i got a wild berry band saw there we go okay okay this is my my co-host wild berry band saw you will call him exclusively wild berry bandsaw for the rest of today or uh i'll do something i don't know i'll find something to do i'll do something i'll sing real bad wild berry band books well you can't keep changing it
00:01:21
Speaker
You're going to confuse everyone, especially me. ah Man, I just keep having the other names now. Uh-oh. Now we've got them thinking of this. Wildberry Wildebeest. I like that one.
00:01:33
Speaker
Yeah. That sounds like it would be like a football mascot. Yeah. And now the Wildberry Wildebeest. Yeah, Wildberry High School, like Wildberry Wildebeest. I can see that. Absolutely. Oh, yeah. Like a blue Wildebeest.
00:01:50
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Yeah, it or kind of sounds like a like ah Like a like a Capri Sun flavor, like a tropical flavor. It's like, oh, try the new Wildberry Wildebeest. It's going to be put out by the guys that make Jack Lang's beef jerky.
Addressing Smelly Situations: A Guide to Tact
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Yeah, I could see that. Yeah. then Now they have a drink called. Wildberry. was it? Wildberry Wildebeest. Yeah, I will the beast. Dude, I miss those commercials with Sasquatch.
00:02:19
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those yeah Those were some classics. Messing with Sasquatch. Messing with Sasquatch was some classics. Yeah, dude. Did you know that wildebeests are antelopes? I didn't know that.
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I did not know that. I just looked it up. Isn't that fruit? No, that's cantaloupes. Yeah, it says and Google's like, is wildebeest a cow or deer? And it says they are antelopes.
00:02:42
Speaker
Interesting. Of eastern and southern Africa. I always thought, I guess because they have the word beast and in their name. Yeah. And it's kind of like wild beast. I always expected something like the Tasmanian devil, like some kind of crazy Canadian goose level angry thing. I they can get pretty big.
00:03:08
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They could definitely kill like ah a lion if enough of them just decide to go, you know, remember in the Lion King? I think those are all wildebeests that trampled Mufasa. Oh, that's yeah, I think it was Wildebeest.
00:03:21
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And it's but that did the stampede.
00:03:25
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How's it spelled? B-E-E-S-T like. Oh, so it's as in like best, but with a long E. Right. Like you might will to be your the beast. Yeah. Yeah. Borat's beast friend. My wife, she's the best. She's a well the beast friend.
00:03:44
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Anyway, speaking of beast, let's get into these beasties. Shall we do it? That you have ready for us, Daniel. So I found a new subreddit that I think is perfect for us.
00:03:55
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OK, and this is the subreddit. What do I do? Where people just post a problem and ask, what do I do? Fuck yeah. I think that's kind of perfect for us.
00:04:07
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I think that's right. That's literally what we do. Yeah, yeah, that's right. That's right down Adam and Danny Lane. So. I got one for us. I sent it to you so you could read along because I understand it might be kind of hard to just follow along with me.
00:04:21
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If you're listening to the show too bad, this is what you signed up for. Yeah, I'll read it along with you guys so you feel like you are reading it too. There you go. I'm going to read it extra hard.
00:04:33
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This is from NewRubarb8046 on Reddit. What do I do? Why do I feel like I've read a question from them before? That sounds so familiar. New rhubarb? I don't know why, but i feel like... right, hang on. we're We're going on a little or going on a tangent here. Let's see their post history.
00:04:51
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um they Am I the asshole for charging my roommate for damage to my couch? Does that sound right? I don't remember that. I don't remember either. That's only all they got. That's the only other post Maybe it was a different rhubarb.
00:05:06
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Sorry, Rhubarb. That must have been 8045. Yeah. Rhubarb, bro.
00:05:14
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Anyway, apologies, Danny. New Rhubarb 8046. No, not at all. So New Rhubarb 8046 wants to know, what do I do? My friend's boyfriend smells really, really bad.
00:05:26
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Title explains it. I seriously don't know what to do. Me, 25 female, and my friend, 23 female, hang out from time to time with our group, and she will sometimes ask if her boyfriend, 25 male, can come.
00:05:41
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I feel like it's rude for me to say no, but it's really hard for me to be around him because he smells so bad. We'll go out to dinner, and I cannot sit next to him. I can smell him when he enters the room. It's that bad.
00:05:53
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I seriously don't know what to do because it almost makes me cringe and I feel sick. I'm hosting a party this week, and she asked if she could come and she asked if he can come, and I seriously don't want him in my house because of the smell.
00:06:06
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or I don't know how to bring this up without making her feel bad or getting angry at me. Other info, my friend brought it up once that she doesn't like the smell, but it was four months ago, so nothing.
00:06:19
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She also told me he obliges he applies beef tallow every day to his skin. I don't know... if this is like a thing or not, but I suspect that is what this is the source of the smell that where he just doesn't shower or both. And that's for me. i' on this skin Yeah. Apparently that's a skincare routine thing.
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It effectively supports the skin barrier, making it excellent for very dry or sensitive skin. While it offers moisturizing benefits, it is highly comatogenic. It clogs the pores, which can cause acne and lack scientific evidence for anti-aging claims.
00:06:57
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Interesting. So you probably had saw some fucking beauty influencer. Could be. A little bonus info for you in the comments. ah Dan Dan Dan 2. Not me, I promise. Dan did Dan Dan de Dan. Oh, such a great show.
00:07:14
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Dan to Dan 2. said, I tried some tallow stuff on my skin that was apparently good for you. I absolutely detest the smell. It stinks. I would not put that on before going out. It's vile. I threw it away because I couldn't stand it.
00:07:27
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So it very well might be the tallow is just tallow beef tallow might just smell real bad. Yeah. But what what should they do? Their friend's boyfriend smells really bad and they don't want the boyfriend going to the party at their house because you bring the smell in.
00:07:44
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Well, That's ah it's a toughie. I have a couple of ideas. um Some are more direct. Some aren't. um Congratulations. Your party just became an outdoor water party.
00:07:58
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ah shit Yeah, I was going to say that one of the first things I'm thinking of was like pool party. Yeah, there you go. The beef towel will just wash right out with the chlorine. um But one thing that I have done in similar situations was like, I don't know if I told the story on the show or not before, but there was a ah a buddy of mine's sister would come hang out. Like I was, I was friends with the whole family. So I knew his brother and his sister
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And his sister brought her boyfriend over who was an incredibly heavy pothead, which like, I don't judge that specifically as long as you're being safe about it. But like,
00:08:41
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I think that skunky smell. He had that skunky smell, but also it was body odor. So like it was a mixture of like somebody who sits around a lot and doesn't leave. But also much like yourself, Danny, wears like the same hoodie all the time.
00:08:54
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OK, but I wash the hoodie and I take showers. Right. Well, that I do wear the same hoodie almost every day, though. Right. It's true. but Like this thing stank. He came in one time and I'm a hugger. I just met the dude.
00:09:06
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And I gave him a hug and a immediately i was like, Whoa. And he goes, what? And i was like, I don't know. Sorry, man. I just, my allergies got real bad there for a second. Oh yeah. You know, nice cover. Yeah. Like I didn't know what had happened. So i was reacting. He's like, Oh, I have a cat. And i was like, well, maybe it's the cat. i don't know.
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Um, but then like he sat on my couch and when he got up, I was like, that's his fucking hoodie. I bet. And so I, I like, I didn't want to hurt his feelings and I was going to go ask his girlfriend, my friend's sister.
00:09:34
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um But i was like, you know what? There is a much better way to go about doing this. So he went out into the kitchen. He was grabbing like we ordered a pizza. He was going to get a slice.
00:09:45
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And I walked out. i was like, well, what the fuck is that? And he goes, oh, man, what? he starts looking around. i was like, there's like a like a smell in here that like what? Like I'm not I don't smell my pizza.
00:09:56
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And he was like, oh, yeah, I don't know what it is. And so he starts to sniffing around and I pretend like I'm trying to sniff it out like a dog, you know, and I found my way over to him. i was like, did you spill? You know, again, I'm trying to spare this man's feelings. Like, did you spill something on on your clothes or like do you have a new cologne or something? cause it's like a smell. And it's like, give me a bit of a headache now that I'm like near you.
00:10:17
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i was like, do you have something on you? And he's like starting to smell stuff. He goes, no, no, I don't have any cologne on or anything. I was like, do you smoke? You know, cause like, he goes, oh, well, you know, I do, you know, I hit, hit the bowl a few times and like stuff like that in my house. And like, you know, like we're ah you know,
00:10:33
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And I was like, do you do with the windows open? Cause like, I feel like maybe that's what I'm smelling. And he goes, ah, shit, man. No, I didn't, I don't even smell it. and I was like, well, I'm smelling it big time. And so like, he was like, ah, dude, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. And so I made him take the hoodie off. i was like, do you mind if you take your hoodie off and see if maybe it's just like on your clothes? Cause like, I don't wanna want to make you feel like you can't be here.
00:10:53
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And so he took his hoodie off. He's like, it's my favorite hoodie. So be careful with it. And i was like, so then like, I got closer to him. was like, nah, man, it's like all over your, your coat, your hoodie. He goes, ah, shit. And so I was like, do you mind if I just put it out in the hallway? Like I'll hang it up and put it out on the railing and I'll put it out in the hallway.
00:11:07
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And he goes, oh, yeah, man, like whatever. Like I just don't want, you know, i was like, I can get you like a blanket or like a coat or something. Like if you're cold, he goes, no, I just put it on because it's just like my favorite hoodie. I'm not really that cold. And i was like, good. So I put it out in the hallway. And then like before he left, I said, hey, man, you're welcome back anytime. but you got wash that thing. ah I was like, cause that shit, like it was a lot. And I was like, you know, I'm a hugger. And like, you know, I, I was like, now I know. i was like, do you remember when I made, I went, Whoa. And I thought it was my allergies. I was like, I think it was your jacket.
00:11:35
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And he goes, ah, shit, man. I'm sorry. I don't even know. I didn't even smell it. And then when he came back, like his, his girlfriend, her name is Jenna. Jenna was there. And,
00:11:46
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She comes up to me and she goes, I'm so sorry. Like, i you know, like I smell it sometimes. I'm just used to being around it. And I was like, yeah, that's just how it works. Like I used to hang out with a lot of smokers and I didn't realize that when I would leave their home that I left with that smell because I got used to it.
00:12:00
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And then like somebody like, dude, you fucking stink. Why do you stink? And I'm like, i don't know what you're talking about. So like your olfactory senses just like, you know, getting numb to certain things and you just don't know that you fucking reek.
00:12:12
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And yeah you go nose blind to it. Right. And so I just had to gently just nudge the dude like, hey, I think like, you know, and then he came back and I didn't smell it on him since like Jenna was like, hey, man, you got to make sure you wash it or wear a different hoodie.
00:12:25
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And he kept wearing the same It was like his bright ass, like mostly green, but kind of tie dyed looking thing. Definitely something you think a pothead would wear. And like, um you know, but it didn't have the smell on it anymore. They wash it regularly now, you know, and like it just kind of work out, worked out. And i was like, OK, he just needed someone to talk to him about it.
00:12:46
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So like, you know, but like I didn't do it in like a dude you fucking reek way. But I was like, hey, like I'm just like something's hitting me and like give me a headache and I'm uncomfortable. like Can you help me feel what it is? Oh, it's you. You know, like I have to say you handled that well.
00:13:01
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But man, you got lucky that he took that as well as he did. Yeah, I mean, I could absolutely see that going the other way. Sure. I mean, I'm not saying that like that is the best way, but that's just an anecdotal way of being like, you know, sometimes just like, oh, hey, but if he's like, but also, but if he had reacted very poorly, I'd have been like, oh hey, man, I'm just saying like, you know, then I'd have that had to be direct and just like, well, you stink. And if I can smell it, chances are other people can smell it.
00:13:28
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And then like, If he was getting angry, like, well, I'm out of here. like, all right, cool. Well, then the smell's leaving with you, dude. Sorry. Like you could stay as long as you take off the jacket or like shower or whatever it is. But like, you know, I was just talking to my roommate about this because like we started hosting more people. We got a new place.
00:13:44
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And I was like, I had to explain to them that hosting is very important to me and that like I've been doing it for such a long time. I take a lot of pride in being a good host. I always make sure everybody's comfortable, make sure all the right foods are there, any allergies are taken account for, any lifestyle choices are taken into account, games options, whatever. Like I always make sure I have everything set up because I'm like, you know, I want people to be comfortable.
00:14:06
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But I told them recently that, you know, we're trying to like intermix some friend groups like ones that they have and ones I have. And I was like, I hope that they're all having a good time. But like the big rule for me is somebody
Handling Personal Discomforts with Humor and Introspection
00:14:17
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in the house shouldn't have to be uncomfortable for someone else to be comfortable.
00:14:22
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You know, and I was like, it's different if it's just like, oh, you're having like a disagreement about something. But if someone's being overbearing, if they're being allowed and you want to walk, ah no one should have to walk on eggshells or somebody smells or somebody's being rude or whatever that case may be.
00:14:37
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You know, like we should be allowed to talk about these things. And so that was me trying to be gentle. But at the same time, if he had reacted poorly, I'd have been like, well, then leave because like everyone else can smelt you. And I was I was trying to be polite and how I approach this. But like the moment I hugged you, I knew it was you, but I was trying to be polite. how i So, yeah I mean, it's it's tough and it.
00:15:04
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It sucks that like. Because you go nose blind to this stuff, most of the time people don't know they stink. Yep. So it it always feels insulting to bring it up, and it feels insulting to have it brought up to you. Because nobody wants to know they stink, right? Sure. It's a hard one. I mean, i don't... Yeah, to bring it back to the question, I don't feel...
00:15:31
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envious of this situation at all um she has an in though right her friend she can talk to her friend yeah i would say to the friend or she must have smelt it at some point when he started applying it unless he had always been applying this beef tallow um since they've dated, i think like there's a way to talk to her at least about it and say, Hey, like, are you aware that it smells? Cause like, it's like, it's, you know, don't want to hurt you did is the way to go where you kind of circumvent the stink option of it and just be like, Hey, I noticed the last few times that, you know, boyfriend has been here that he, he seems to give off a scent that really just gives me a headache. And like,
00:16:17
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really screws up my allergies or my nose or something like don't say he stinks, but say like there's just, you know, it like it gives me a headache. Can you like just make sure maybe he showers right before he comes just so that whatever it is maybe is off of, you know, is gone when he comes over?
00:16:36
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I don't think that's too insulting because at that point you're not saying you stink. You're saying there was just something on you that gave me a headache. Would you mind? doing this one thing just to kind of get it off. Maybe.
00:16:49
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I don't know. It's still kind of sounds insulting, but like there's no non insulting way to do it. Well, see, but that's the thing is like, I disagree. It's like if somebody has something stuck in their teeth or if like they're something like they ate and there's like some food on their face or maybe they spilled something and they didn't realize it's been all over them and you everyone's looking at it. Everyone's aware of it, but you're like, oh, it's rude to tell them.
00:17:11
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And then every time, what do you say? Why didn't anybody fucking tell me? You know, like, I think you're doing this person a favor because, like, just like you said, nobody wants to be the smelly person, but a lot of times they might not even know they're the smelly person.
00:17:25
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Right. Like. You know, ah there's like like in in school, there's always as much as I hate to say there's usually a smelly kid or two in class. A lot of times. There's a reason for it. And everybody will pick on him like, oh, you don't shower. You don't this. You don't that.
00:17:41
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But like one of my friends that I was close with for a long time was called the stinky kid and he showered every day. But there was like a sewage issue down the road and it just stuck to a lot of people.
00:17:51
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who lived on that street and he just fucking, no matter what he did, he couldn't escape walking out his door and walking through that smell. And like he, they got so used to it living on that street.
00:18:03
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Right. If he hadn't, if no one had ever told him that, like he wouldn't like, they just got used to it after a while. It's like when, if you live out in the farms and like the manure gets put down, eventually that smell just doesn't, I mean, it permeates a lot of places, but like,
00:18:17
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you get used to the manure smell because like, it's just something that happens all the time. Yeah. I was actually going to say, would, I would want to know you'd be doing me a favor. Okay. Yeah. i was actually going to say something similar to the, the farm thing is I live out, you know, in kind of like farm country, New Jersey, as much as that is, but I meet people that work on farms and stuff and they smell like farms and stuff. Yep. And at that point, it's like, you can't even say you stink because what are they going to do? You know, it's literally their livelihood is what does it when I gonna smell like animals and hair and straw. Yeah. At that point, there's just nothing for it.
00:18:58
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I used to work at a ballpark, uh, behind the counters doing like the beers and the foods and stuff. I used to come home smelling like beer every night because you change a tap, it explodes all over you a little bit.
00:19:12
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You're going to smell like beer or you're going to smell like oil or something. There's, No helping it then. But stuff like weed or just BO, things you can just wash off easily. Yeah, I mean, ah part of it is just, well, like you said with the the other guy with the sewage problem, that yeah I feel like is extenuating circumstances. But whenever I'm going out to meet somebody or we have a party, the last thing I do after getting everything ready before people get there
00:19:48
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I've even had people show up while I'm doing this, but the last, very last thing I do is take a shower so that it is, I am as fresh as possible. I want you to smell my soap, not me.
00:20:04
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i want you to smell my shampoo, not me. And I've had people come over for a party and stuff and I'm in the shower and, you know, Beluga just has to entertain the guests while I finish up.
00:20:16
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Yeah. And then we tell them not to go into the, The hallway, because I have to run from the shower to the bedroom naked. Yeah. Because I wasn't expecting people to get there early. Yeah.
00:20:28
Speaker
I do not have a rope. I just have a blanket around my bare butt cheeks. Nice. Uh, yeah, I think at the end of the day, when it comes to stuff like this, I think you're doing someone a favor as long as you're not like, if it's like your buddy, like if it's you and me and I'm like, Danny, you fucking read, dude, what were you doing? You know, like, you know, like I think you have certainly way if depending on how close you are to somebody.
00:20:51
Speaker
But the thing that you don't want to do is you don't want to call them out in front of everybody else. Yeah. like That's the thing I think that'll really set someone off because they have all the eyes on them. They, you know, everyone's going to feel like that secondhand embarrassment or cringes, they say like, and they're going to feel really mortified where as long as you pull them to the side and you say, or or again, in this case, the girlfriend, I'm sorry, the, the, the girlfriend's friend or the friend's girlfriend, whatever the friend's girl boyfriend, she has the friend who she seems to be tight with. So like, Hey,
00:21:26
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Hey, I was wondering every time he comes around, I smell like the same smell. Do you know what that is? And maybe she might say, Oh, you know what? He uses beef tallow. I hate it too. You know, like, or something like that. Like, well, hey can you let him know that like, it's kind of like,
00:21:41
Speaker
It's a strong smell and it gives a lot of us a headache and like everyone's kind of too nervous to talk to about it because we don't hurt his feelings. What's a good way to bring it up? Can you bring it up? You know, um there's ways to do it. I actually really like that saying like, look, man, I'm sorry. You know, I don't want to have to say this because I don't want to hurt your feelings. I feel like that's a big that makes it a lot easier to to take.
00:22:03
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Sure. Because now you're you're making it obvious that like, look, I'm not just making fun of you. I'm not just going to be like, oh, dude, you reek. But like, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I do need to let you know this.
00:22:16
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And I think this is one of those moments where tact is king. yeah You need to think long and hard about what you're going to say before you say it and try to be as non-insulting as possible.
00:22:34
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Yeah, I think um it's a sensitive subject. Yeah, I mean, definitely. i think there's certainly credence to.
Fashion and Practicality: A Humorous Take
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um Like.
00:22:49
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like Like, I guess actually what what I want to get at instead is like. what I was just thinking was mid thought that there's most friend groups have that friend, unless you've really been precise and um intentional on your friendships. There's usually at least that one outspoken friend that the moment someone gets close enough that they smell, they're like, fuck, what is that smell? and they're going to say it out loud to everyone, right? they know or not. And some do know, and that's how they're calling it. I was like, fuck, what's that smell, dude?
00:23:19
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But other people are not going to be aware that, you know, some person in particular carries a smell. They're going fuck, something fucking reeks. Somebody not shower today. And someone immediately is going to like, oh, that's me.
00:23:30
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I know exactly which front that would be. Right. And I have had those friends, too, who can clock exactly where the smell is coming from. But instead of tact, their way of doing it is just shouting about it yeah and hoping that person is like, oh, and then everybody has to have a discussion about it.
00:23:47
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And now all the the friend I'm thinking of, he's not even like doing it to, to like bring awareness. He just doesn't think he's, he'll just be like, just react Oh God, what does that smell before he even thinks about it? Yeah. Right. And some people don't have that social tact. Some people don't have that filter. Some people don't have that social awareness.
00:24:06
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Some people are neurodivergent in that way and just will react to what's happening and and declare it because that's how they think and process. So like, but again, you are saving this person more embarrassment if you tell them in private, as opposed to like letting something like that happen that you have no control over. Now the cat's out of the bag. The embarrassment is in full swing.
00:24:27
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And here's the thing too. And I'll put this on the, on the stinky person as well. Cause like, what I have found in other situations where I couldn't get in front of it before something happened was the person was aware of it and just hasn't taken any steps to mitigate that yet.
00:24:43
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And so the moment someone says, fuck, what's that smell? They know who they're talking about, right? They know it's them. And if you know, it's you, then don't show up smelling like that shit. yeah Just because you can't smell it anymore. doesn't mean it's not there. Okay.
00:25:01
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Like, And the moment someone says it, you know, it's you. you get Again, there are some extenuating circumstances. And if you can say, oh, that's probably me. You know, like the sewer lines down the street are broken. I was worried that it still stuck to me. I'm sorry.
00:25:17
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You know, there's a ways to kind of just say, fuck, man, I'm sorry. I thought that I got it off of me. Yeah. But other times it's just like, hey, I haven't showered in four days because I didn't feel like it and I still wanted to party.
00:25:28
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You know, it's like, no, fucking go get in my shower. There's towels in the cupboard. you know like But also don't touch anything. Right. You know, or I'm going to take you outside and spray you with Febreze and Lysol.
00:25:43
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Like, yeah. So there is the social contract is two ways because like, but again, but that's what I was saying earlier, Danny was like, everyone else shouldn't have to be uncomfortable because you're so that you can stay comfortable, right?
00:25:58
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Everyone either has to be uncomfortable together or they all get to be comfortable together, but it can't be both. Right. So are you trying to tell me that I can't go out and sweatpants anymore?
00:26:09
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You can go out and sweatpants all you want, homie, as long as you don't fucking stink. I don't, but I wear sweatpants. I look like I probably do. it I mean, yeah whatever. I've seen way worse outfits go out in public. Have you seen the at Walmart? like What was that old website? Walmart? or walmart Or people of Walmart? Yeah, that's what it's called. And it was a shaming website, and I'm not proud of it, but also some outfit choices were choices. And you're like, you know what? No, I feel no sympathy if you're wearing like
00:26:43
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basically lingerie to Walmart. I'm going to make fun of you. I'm sorry. I'm to make fun of you. That's not outerwear. That is not outerwear. I'm going to make fun if you're wearing Crocs, because I think those are the ugliest fucking shoes on planet Earth. Oh, yeah, absolutely. And I know people like them, and I'm sure they're comfortable, and I get that there's a utilitarian thing to it, but if your whole life is just rocking Crocs everywhere you go, just... It's so hard for me not to think that's gross. And I feel like a shitty person when I see it, but I'm like, God, I hate those things. No, I'm with you. The moment it rains, you're fucked because those things are not meant for, you know, for your socks. The only thing that would ever get me to wear Crocs.
00:27:21
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Is if I bought like, you know Crocs have those little holes in the top. yeah They make decorations that you can kind of whatever the bits or gibbets or something like that. Sure.
00:27:32
Speaker
Well, there are ones that looked like fucked up toes. Yeah. So you can stick it out the front. It looks like your toes are poking out. I'd wear that just because I like that one. That one's silly and disgusting. Crocs are house shoes or like patio shoes. They're not like go out in the fucking weather shoes.
00:27:49
Speaker
But also, but I will say for people who are neurodivergent, especially children. Crocs are great. They're easier to get on kids' feet. Like, a totally, 100%. hundred percent Getting a pair of fucking sneakers on a kid's foot is, like, torture to me. oh I hate it.
00:28:04
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I hate it so much. like So, like, that is free pass. If you have a kid and you're like, this dude is, like, fucking tiresome to even put clothes on and he hasn't learned how to dress himself yet, put those fucking Crocs on, kid, or put on a pair of slip-ons. I ain't tying your goddamn shoes. Let's go.
00:28:23
Speaker
Actually, you know what? Life pro tip. buy Buy slip-on shoes, sneakers. I wear slip-on sneakers now. Changed my life. ay So I, like many other people, don't tie my shoes every time I would put them on.
00:28:40
Speaker
I would just take them off, tied, and then slip them back on, tied. And I'd always break... the heel of the shoe or like the behind your heel part of the shoe stepped on the back of it tight. And because I was pulling on it and stepping on it every time I put them on.
00:28:56
Speaker
So getting shoes that were actually designed and made to be just slipped on and off game changer. Yeah. I actually it's so much nicer. I actually wear a pair of those as house shoes. Like, you know how Mr. Rogers changes from his outside shoes to his inside shoes? Like I have been i switched from wearing slippers inside.
00:29:16
Speaker
These ones are called Skechers Swift Fit. And like the way that the heel is designed is like you just put your foot them and go. And they're very comfortable. They're breathy. Um, they're great if, if you need to go outside for a little bit and grab a little something, I don't think I would wear these for like every day outside, just because like, I do feel like my feet are more secure when I have laces on them. If I need to, I always say like, if I needed to run, i would not want to run a knees, but these are just really nice for just generally wearing around. If you need a quick slip on.
00:29:44
Speaker
They're called it swift fit and they fucking roll. Like they're really comfortable. Nice. um But yeah, I prefer the slip on so much. I'll still wear like I still have my my big old boots, you know, for when it's snowing or from going hiking or anything where I'm like a little more stability on my ankles would be a good thing for this.
00:30:06
Speaker
I got my heavy duty boots for that. But man, those slip ons being able to just like throw them on in 10 seconds and be done.
00:30:15
Speaker
Yeah. Game changer. Definitely get a pair. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I wouldn't do that for everything, but that's just my jam. Everything. But I've gotten all of my slip on shoes, sweats.
00:30:28
Speaker
T-shirt and the same hoodie every day. That is Dan style. was going say, that's where we change because I. That's Dan style. I need novel things and you don't. And that is like. You need longer hair as well and an unkempt beard.
00:30:46
Speaker
And that's Dan style. Mbeluga loves it. I'm sure she does. Yeah. Yeah, she definitely does and doesn't want to shave me in the middle of
00:30:59
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Um,
Beverage Preferences and Health Conscious Choices
00:31:00
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my face and my head. Yeah, we mean to talk to you about that, Danny. and Now's a good time to talk about it. yeah You know, we're all kind of worried about you. i asked Beluga to slip vitamins into your food, you know, like when you eat I still drink Gatorade.
00:31:17
Speaker
Do you drink it sugar free? Hopefully. Of course. OK, good. Oh, my God. Beluga was telling me that apparently they're coming out with sugar free Oreos. I hate that idea. oh no. know.
00:31:27
Speaker
i know. i know I'm like, part of me wants to try it. and And a bigger part of me is like, you better not ever try these. Oh, man. Speaking of that, Dan, you know how you were looking for like Sody Pops to drink? And I kept telling you about this stuff called Zevia.
00:31:42
Speaker
Well, your boy got a Costco membership a couple of weeks ago. And I went to Costco and saw this big ass like 30 pack of Zevia. And there's like... they all mirror different kind of flavors. So there's like an orange creamsicle. There's like a Dr. Pepper style one.
00:31:58
Speaker
There's a ginger. It's called like Dr. Zevia, which is really funny. um There's a baller fucking ginger ale. Oh my God. I was audibly like making pleasure noises drinking it. It was so good. Holy fuck.
00:32:12
Speaker
Um, and I let it sit on my desk cause I forgot I had it cause that's ADHD. And I came back after a work day and found it on my desk and drank it. And it was still bubbly as fuck. Um, like incredible.
00:32:24
Speaker
So Danny, I'm telling you, buddy, it's a game changer. If you want to drink something, it's not, it's sugar free. It's made from like a Zevia plant. Do me a favor. Um, message it to me in discord so I can reference it.
00:32:39
Speaker
I actually, I was just watching like a medical thing. um and they were talking about how one of the best fixes for like if you have um what would it be like a ah gut impaction like like you're constipated on steroids like you are just straight up locked up yeah one of the best things to do is drink carbonated beverages because the carbonation will knock everything loose it'll cause all of your
00:33:11
Speaker
digestive tract to like puff out from the gases was like see see good it's good it it helps me extra burpee and farty though because all those bubbles and gas gotta go somewhere yeah oh yeah but usually they're not bad it's just like air escaping to my my one friend if he takes even the smallest sip of a carbonated drink he gets burps for like the next half hour, just the smallest little sip. Oh, and he gets these loud ass huge burps for the next half hour.
00:33:42
Speaker
See, I get like, if I get the kind that's made from like the hoses in like a restaurant, always hiccups. I always avoid carbonated beverages at restaurants or like fast food places because always, always, always immediate hiccups when I start drinking it. like Really? I don't know what it is about how that's made or there's extra air in there, but every fucking time.
00:34:03
Speaker
Like, I just do not get carbonated stuff when I go out because it just it doesn't agree with like how my esophagus works. Dude, I can't remember the last time I had uncontrollable hiccups.
00:34:14
Speaker
Well, like sometimes when I'm eating, if I eat too fast or whatever, I'll get a hiccup. You know, you you get like that one big one. ah But I can't remember the last time I just had the hiccups for like a day or whatever, and I couldn't stop it.
00:34:28
Speaker
I don't know. I just never get them. Yeah. Yeah. For me, it's always when I drink something from a restaurant or especially from like a fast food place. Just like just avoid it. Interesting.
00:34:39
Speaker
Yeah. But I sent you that link. Xevia rules. I fucking it's awesome. Zero calories, zero sugars. We don't have a Costco membership, but I know someone who does. Maybe a yeah you can get that at other places. It's not just at Costco. Yeah.
00:34:53
Speaker
I just found like a super pack of it. Well, that was super pack sounds more my speed. Let's be real. It's fucking I've only just gotten down to like the last 12. I've been drinking. i'm like crazy. um But there's one called like strawberry lemon burst. And I'm not like super big on but like it's OK. It's all right.
00:35:10
Speaker
But like, again, there's like doctors. There's a there's a root beer one. Oh, man. like We've been doing Celsius lately. Yeah. As like a sort of alternative for me.
00:35:22
Speaker
And there's an energy drink, isn't it? I mean, it has caffeine in it. Yeah. But meant for like working out. Yeah. Well, don't drink that as a cop alternative. Don't do that.
00:35:33
Speaker
yeah don't do that. they're They're so expensive. I would love a cheaper alternative. Stop doing that, dude. Get liquid death instead. Well, that doesn't have fizz. I need the fizz. Yes, I do What are you talking about?
00:35:47
Speaker
No. Original ones have not the ones I drink. There's the flat water. There's the carbonated water. And then there's severed lime. Bury it alive. Mango chainsaw and a few others. And then I don't want. I don't want. have cool as long duck I want have soda flavored.
00:36:03
Speaker
Huh? I want soda flavor. But those are expensive, too. They have killer cola and Dr. Death. Those are just as expensive, but they're good. They're delicious.
00:36:14
Speaker
Get the ZV as I'm telling you, dude, you can order right off their website. need a cheap alternative. Get them off to get them off their website. I think I paid at the all the not all these, but a Costco. I think I paid like, oh, like 20. I think it's like 20 bucks for the whole thing, like 20 bucks, are like all 30, the 30 pack. Yeah, but that would be fine. That would be fantastic.
00:36:34
Speaker
I'm going to buy you one and get it sent to your house. Deal. Uh, yeah, I'm going to do going to see if they have the pack that I got on their website. And if you want to send me free stuff, I'm not about to dox myself. Yeah.
00:36:47
Speaker
yeah If you guys want to go to ZVIA.com and then buy Danny a gift, buy me stuff and then send us the code to get into the gift card. Don't worry about like the co-fi and all that. Just send me things personally.
00:37:02
Speaker
okay If you know somebody who works at Zevia or liquid death and ask them to sponsor us, that would be. du That's fine. I'll do that. i yeah, i'm I'm a big fan. and I don't know enough about the company yet, but also liquid death has like energy drinks now. Do you know that?
00:37:22
Speaker
I did not know that. Yeah, like I there's I can't remember the names of them, but I just tried a couple of them recently and I was like, oh, they're in the energy drink game. I love that company so much. I can't speak highly enough about how awesome that fun company is.
00:37:36
Speaker
Costco, too, man. I've never seen more pleasant workers anywhere than at Costco. Like that company treats at least the ones that I go to, they treat them well over there because like they're all fucking happy. They're happy. I think. Yeah, I think Costco pays like really well, if I remember right.
00:37:51
Speaker
Yeah. They're a good company. They still keep their $1.25 hot dog or whatever
Snowstorm Adventures and Community Kindness
00:37:55
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it is. Dude, did you hear about the one company in New York opening a free grocery store?
00:38:02
Speaker
No. Yeah, there's a company in New York opening a grocery store for free, like just to help people. That's awesome. Oh, dude, it's so cool. I have to look more into it. I don't know.
00:38:14
Speaker
The money has to be coming from somewhere, obviously. i see sure the company's not just I'm sure the company's not just eating that, but... Actually, let me let me see. i would just if i find it I would assume it's a nonprofit or like a like a co-op of some sort that might like be funding it. um Because like the food bank I work at does something similar where we have what we call the market and then people can come in and kind of get a shopping cart and they kind of shop.
00:38:41
Speaker
But there's like certain things have certain item limits so everybody can get one or two. But other things like produce, we have enough of it that you can just take as many bags of it as you want. And then they just weigh it and then they leave. um So like, I'm wondering if it's something like that, maybe. So it's, it's from poly market, which is a bedding company, I think.
00:39:02
Speaker
Oh, um like it's it's fully stocked. No purchase required. Open to all New Yorkers, a real physical investment in our operate in our community.
00:39:14
Speaker
It's opening the 12th. So if you live in New York and times are getting rough, Totally understandable. Check out the Polymarket Free Grocery. Maybe it it is as good as it sounds. I have no idea, but from what I've heard, it sounds like it's very few strings attached.
00:39:33
Speaker
So check it out. Yeah. it'll be a available Okay, it's a five-day pop-up between the 12th and the 16th. It'll be open to everyone, require no advance purchase to registration.
00:39:45
Speaker
Gotcha. So there you go. If you're a New Yorker, times are getting rough. Look this up. See where it is. I don't see the address anywhere, but five days, free groceries. Do it. That's such a great, great thing to have.
00:39:58
Speaker
Oh, yeah, absolutely. um I'm going to write that down and see if I can still some of that idea, because at the food bank, we're trying to come up with some different ideas to how to get food in certain places a little bit better. So if we can set up a market over the course of a couple of days, that would be cool. Yeah, there you go. Look up. um ah Look up just New York City.
00:40:17
Speaker
Free groceries. That's how I found it right away.
00:40:22
Speaker
Pop up market. All right. So, Danny, before run out the episode, I was wondering if I could share a karmic story with you, a positive one that started off negative.
00:40:37
Speaker
Oh, OK. I'd be insulted if you didn't. Yeah, I've been holding on to this one because I wanted to tell you about it earlier this week, earlier, well, a couple of days ago, but I guess it happened yesterday. I was going to tell you about it when were chatting, but I was like, I kind of want hold on to it.
00:40:50
Speaker
Well, I know what it was now. Before this thing happened, I was going to tell you about everything leading up to it, but I'm glad I didn't because the ending really shifted. So kind of to make a long story short as far as how we got to this story,
00:41:05
Speaker
um I moved into a new place a few weeks ago with a new roommate in this house. We're renting a home. it's kind it's our It was our second option because the place we were going to rent originally had some issues and a pipe burst before we moved in.
00:41:20
Speaker
Had to make some last minute decisions. There has been a lot going on in this place. And ultimately, we found out this place needs to be reinspected entirely after we've had some failed electrical workings. So much so that one of the breakers literally disintegrated when the electrician came and took it out.
00:41:37
Speaker
So like a lot has been going on. That's a whole other story. But during last week, there was this big snowstorm that blew through. And we talked about it in a previous episode.
00:41:48
Speaker
And i had been digging for hours. I don't have a snowblower. I'm just just me. My roommate has a lot of asthma issues triggered by the cold and by perfumes. So i was like, it's too cold out there for you. I'll go take care of it. Stay inside. So I just been shoveling like a maniac, like for days.
00:42:05
Speaker
but right at the height of that snow, when like the temperature severely dropped our, um, our power had gone out. And so we had gone for almost three full days without heat in our home.
00:42:19
Speaker
Um, because we had, god we had about two rooms that had some plugs that worked, but like I'd say 80% of our power failed. Um, because most of the main breaker was running a lot of it and there was a few plugs that work. So,
00:42:35
Speaker
There was one in their room, one in my room, and I plugged in a space heater in their room and said, just stay in here. But like by the end of day two, it was like 38 degrees in the house and we could see our breath with every breath we took.
00:42:47
Speaker
It was cold and the electrician couldn't get out for a couple of days because they were snowed in and all this other stuff. And so we just had to rough it, man. And it was difficult.
00:42:59
Speaker
Um, but you know, there are people who have it worse, but it was tough, but I was doing a lot of digging thought there's days just trying to stay busy and stay warm and like, make sure we didn't get buried while we were cold.
00:43:10
Speaker
And I had known that we were having company come over later in the weekend, our first time hosting a group. And I was like, I hope this all gets corrected by then. So I'd gone out and I shoveled like the whole main street.
00:43:24
Speaker
Cause like, I want them to have somewhere to park. And then eventually our power came on and our friends came and they parked and they left and the next week started. And that same week, somebody had just left their car out in front of our house.
00:43:39
Speaker
Like the spots that I shoveled out, you know, and I'm just like, who the fuck is this parking? Like no one else lives on this part of the street. Who is this to decide to park where I just like, like just manually dug all of this heavy ass ice and snow out of here. And you took a spot I dug.
00:43:55
Speaker
Like I was really salty about the whole thing. And it took ah for two days. I bitched and moaned that this person was still out there. The car had never left. And I thought it was our neighbors across the street.
00:44:08
Speaker
And I was getting real mad at these people for no reason other than that, like a car was left outside my house. I didn't need that space anymore for a while. There was no reason for me to be this pissed. And there's a point to this story. And I just want to like,
00:44:21
Speaker
emphasize here that I processed later that it wasn't about the parking space. I had been frustrated by other things going on in my life, especially with the power going out and the cold and the water before that, like a lot of issues with this home and the company that's working with us and finding out that we need inspection and just everything going on in America and people getting killed. There was just a lot of things that I was internalizing because I want to be strong for my roommate and for everyone else.
00:44:48
Speaker
Um, so the straw that felt like it was within my control was when somebody left this car in front of my house. And every day I saw it right out our living room window. I was like, motherfucking stupid. Like, come on, man. Oh God.
00:45:01
Speaker
I was just ranting and complaining about it. And to bury their car. I'm going to be petty. Yeah. going to fucking go bury it back where I did it. Cause I earned it. I dug that out. They didn't do it. I was like, and my roommate was just kind of like humoring me a bit, but like, I didn't realize until days later that like, it wasn't about that at all.
00:45:18
Speaker
No, but i understand like that it's like a perceived slight. Right. Yeah, and when you're already upset, it just... Piles on. I get you. And it wasn't even about that. Like, yeah like sometimes you just need something to be mad at.
00:45:33
Speaker
That feels the outlet in your control. It's the outlet. Yeah. And like, I didn't realize what I was doing for a couple of days. And like, this can happen to anybody, which is why I try to be patient with people, because I didn't realize I was doing it.
00:45:46
Speaker
So like, and I thought for sure it was the people across the street. And I was like, oh, man, because they have like a little two car driveway. And only one side of it was shoveled out for one car to get into.
00:45:57
Speaker
And I thought maybe like, I don't really know who lives over there. And I thought I never paid attention enough to know if they have two cars. Maybe they parked it over here. Cause they saw that I dug out the spot and instead of digging out their own driveway. And I was like, what fucking lazy assholes. I was like, so mad at this dump. Like I didn't need the spot. My roommate and I both, they have a carport and I have a garage. I didn't need those spots anytime soon. I don't know. Like I was, I was just being an asshole.
00:46:22
Speaker
So like, ah But like I woke up on the third day that that car had been sitting there and no one had come out. It just sat there. And I was like, i don't want to be mad. I'm like, I just, you know, I like I don't want to be petty. want pissed off about something stupid.
00:46:38
Speaker
And so I was like, I'm just going to go and dig out their driveway for them. I saw they had a couple of cameras like on the garage and up on the window. So i was like, I'm going to go and hope it has audio. there I walked over there when no one was home, or at least that no one was in the parking lot or in the driveway.
00:46:53
Speaker
And I looked up at their cameras and I said, I don't know if you can hear this. Well, no, actually what happened before that happened, I i was like, I'm just going to go and like do this. But then I saw one of them come out and I went up into my roommate's room so I could have a better view.
00:47:06
Speaker
And they were coming out and they were starting their car and heating it up. And they were just kind of like inching around like to get to their car. Because there's a lot of snow in the driveway, except for where the car was. And i just sat and I waited and I just waited and I watched and I watched.
00:47:20
Speaker
And when, and this, I was already planning on going to dig them out, but like my perspective changed even more because I was like, I don't know, am I going to get in trouble? they going to be mad at me? Does some other company do it? I don't know.
00:47:33
Speaker
And then I saw the gentleman get out of his car and another girl who was kind of looking like she was struggling to walk a bit. He walked up and put his arm out kind of like a cane and said like, hold on. And I realized that she was inching along like,
00:47:46
Speaker
The pathway from her door to the car was just a sheet of ice and the big pile of snow was beside it. So she was kind of blocked in walking almost penguin style, not to fall in this guy. And I it's like, don't let me fall. Don't let me fall.
00:47:59
Speaker
So I don't know. I started to feel like shitty. I was like, I didn't realize that was all ice over there. And I was just being like a dickhead. And again, I thought these people did it. Turns out this was not their car that was in front of my house, but yeah,
00:48:13
Speaker
How I found that out was when I saw them leave and I saw her and him struggling to get her into that car, I was like, that must really suck. I didn't know that was all ice over there. They must not have a lot of resources. I don't know if they have salt. A lot of people had purchased all of it during the storm and there had been a shortage everywhere.
00:48:30
Speaker
And I was like, I managed to get another bag before that happened. was like, I'm going just go and I'm to take care of this. So. They left and i was like, now I know for sure I'm going to go over and do it. I'm not going to ask permission. I'm just going to go do it.
00:48:43
Speaker
And so I walked up to their cameras and I said, hey, i don't know if you can hear me or if you guys get alerts. I saw you guys slipping and sliding on this ice. I'm going to dig this out for you because my initial motivation, if I'm being honest, was if I dig out their spot for them, they can park their car in their own driveway. Maybe that's more convenient for them.
00:48:59
Speaker
So that's why I was going to do it because I thought I'd be doing myself a favor and them a favor. But then when I saw them slipping and sliding, I was like, why didn't they dig that up Um, so I went over there and I spent like probably two hours, just this heavy fucking, there was like a little part of it. I couldn't finish, but I got like 90% of it clear.
00:49:17
Speaker
Took me a couple of hours to do is very exhausting. And, um, I even started chanting like we fucking hate ice around here. And I started like ax kicking the ice on their driveway, breaking it with my foot and like throwing salt all over it. in here yeah fuckwise And I was like, fuck ice. Ice is stupid. We don't want you fucking here.
00:49:35
Speaker
And so like, you know, I was kind of having fun with it for a little while, but I got really exhausted by the end that I looked up and I was like, guys, I'm too pooped to do the rest of it. But like you could, you know, I got like most of it. You should have plenty of room. All the ice by the door was gone. All the ice by the garage was gone.
00:49:50
Speaker
Um, It was very cathartic actually to have something to like really exhaust myself doing um and to do something good. Cause was like, you know what? Yeah.
00:50:01
Speaker
I just, this, this will be easier for them to get her into this car. Cause clearly she was struggling to move. So I did it. I gave the camera a salute and I went inside and then like the day finished.
00:50:12
Speaker
Right. So cut a couple of days later. Oh, and I iced the, or and I salted the fuck out of it too, dude. I was like, felt like I was baptizing it or something or like casting out demons because I was just grabbing handfuls of it and just like throwing it out like I was rolling dice at the casino. Did you chant as you did it?
00:50:28
Speaker
I was a couple of times. I was like, fuck you, ice. And I was like, the power of salt compels you. And I was just like throwing it around having a little party. I probably wasted more than I should have. But like, at some point I was like, this is making me feel better. And so,
00:50:44
Speaker
So cut to a couple of days later today. Well, actually, no partway through that. This is the thing I wanted to say was, A lot has happened short amount of time, so sorry I'm jumping around. But like that same day, I was halfway done, and I saw a guy who looked like he was struggling to turn around on our street.
00:51:01
Speaker
And I waved to him and i said, hey, bud, you need to turn around because my friend's not here if you want to turn around on the carport if that's easier for you. He says, no, no, it's okay, bud. I'm dropping off my son. He had to drop his car off here the other day, and I was just trying to help him get it all going.
00:51:14
Speaker
So he drops this guy off probably like, i don't know, looks like he's maybe 17, 18, maybe a little bit older. Um, and guy jumps out immediately, hops in the car, cranks it on, leaves.
00:51:25
Speaker
And turns out it was the guy that lived on the perpendicular street, a few houses up. They had a spot open, but for whatever reason, his son didn't think to park there. Or maybe they didn't have parked there, except maybe he was afraid his car was going to get hit or something. So he parked it in one of the spots that I carved out and turns out he just need to leave it there. i don't know why. but It's like, sorry, my son just need to leave it there for a few days. You know, we're going to get it out of here now.
00:51:47
Speaker
And I just felt like I was halfway through shoveling this thing. And, you know, I don't believe I'm karma necessarily, but it's fun to talk about. But like, it was just like halfway through doing this exhausting work to do a good deed.
00:51:59
Speaker
All of a sudden this car that I was so pissed off about was gone. And it wasn't even the people that I thought did it. Right. Like I was so fucking humbled so fast. Yeah.
00:52:10
Speaker
Like, but also I felt so liberated that like, all I needed to do was channel this energy into something nice instead of being a fucking prick this whole time. Like, you know, I thought all these petty things to do, like, oh, I'm going to put, so I'm going to bury the car. I'm going to leave them a note or I'm going to make sure I catch them. I'm like, Hey, is this your car?
00:52:28
Speaker
You know, like when like, it's not doing anything to hurt me. Like I was, I had part. It doesn't even matter. Yeah. It didn't fucking matter at all, dude. Like at fucking all. And so like,
00:52:40
Speaker
I just remember being like, I'm halfway through this and this dude moved his car. And I was like, this whole thing I've been mad about has now been resolved as I am doing something nice thinking that was their car so they could park in their driveway.
00:52:52
Speaker
So then we cut to today, a couple of days later. have a maintenance man in here trying to help us with all this this madness that's going on in this house. He comes back after like going on like a trip to get some supplies.
00:53:04
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He says, Hey man, is this yours? And he holds up like this kind of grocery bag with like some Epsom salt in it. And I was like, he says, this was just like sitting like, cause like we have like a sun porch that you walk up the stairs to, to come into our home.
00:53:17
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And someone left it outside the glass door. And he goes, is this yours? I didn't see this when I left. I'm sorry if I stepped on it. i was like, no. And so I'm looking at it like, I don't know why the fuck there's a bag of Epsom salts outside our door, dude.
00:53:29
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And so as I'm digging, pulling it out, there's a little note in there that says the Garcia family. And I was like, oh, I open it up and it says, you know, I'm summarizing because i can't remember the whole thing, but we have it on our fridge downstairs because it was a very sweet thing.
00:53:47
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But they said, like, you know, thank you so much. We saw that you dug out. You know, they must have watched the camera feed. We saw that you dug our driveway out. The kids are really excited because, you know, it it was hard for us to get in. I'm disabled. I can walk a little bit.
00:54:02
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So that was really helpful for you to do that for us. And we hope this helps you feel better. um And so they said and it just said signed crystal on it. um So I now know somebody over there. His name is Crystal.
00:54:14
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And um and it just, like you know, thank you from the Garcia family. And I was like, oh, shit, you know, like that made me feel like super good today. um Like I didn't I wasn't expecting anything. I don't even know if they knew that I did it. I don't know if they watch the camera or I don't know if like another company shovels them out or not, because like I didn't see them shoveling. I never saw them with shovels.
00:54:34
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I don't know if they rent and maybe like somebody maybe just like used a truck to dig out part of it. Like, I don't know what their situation is, but for whatever reason, they just couldn't do the other side. And so I didn't know any of this about these people.
00:54:46
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I was just like, I'm going to just do a thing because I think it'll help them and they can park their car there. That turns out was not their car. But then the car disappeared. Turns out they needed that service anyway because the woman was disabled. So when I saw her struggling on the ice, it was also just because she was struggling to walk in general.
00:55:02
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And so like, i was like, I didn't know that. I didn't perceive that it was like a disability thing. I was like, oh, this is very dangerous. There's ice everywhere. But if she had taken a fall, that could have been really bad for her.
00:55:13
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And so like, You know, it all just like this whole thing was just like in it a constant reminder. This is like you're i'm always learning just when I think I'm wise enough, just when I think I know better, just when I think like, you know, I'm at a higher level of thinking than like I do stupid shit like this. And then like I have to reset and be like, is this worth being pissed off about or can you turn? this coal into warmth instead.
00:55:39
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And so like, that's what I wanted to do. i was like, I'm just going to put this frustration to something that will exhaust me that maybe we'll do something good for them. Maybe they're not trying to be an asshole. And yeah, it felt like a slight, but obviously it wasn't. Somebody else had done it. They were apologetic when they saw me, you know, but again, it's public street. Like um mean we're we're on like a back street. So it's not like there's a ton of traffic, but like, again, this minor stupid thing.
00:56:04
Speaker
thing that fucking didn't affect me in any way but i realized at the end of it all and i had apologized to my roommate because like i was being a real prick about like i wasn't mean to them but every time i saw it i complained about it right and like you weren't fun to be around no i wasn't fun to be around about it and i was just like you know the rest of the day was fine but every time i'd come downstairs and i'd say like oh that stupid fucking car you know i was like i'm griping about this thing that we can't control like you know?
00:56:30
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um And so i was very apologetic and I told him, I was like you know what? I realized after, like and this was after the whole thing was done. And I, not before I got the note, this was before I got the note, but I was just like, I feel good that I went and did this thing without knowing how they were going to react. i was like, I feel better that I got this out of my system and that I turned this into something nice instead of being an asshole.
00:56:52
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And I said, and I know now why, as I was digging all day, what I was doing, I was like, I am mad about this and this and this thing happening and, and your health issues and what's going on with our country and like some other stressors in my life. And i was like, I just needed something to focus on that felt like it was in my control that I could be angry about, that I could do something about.
00:57:15
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And i was like, but I know that I have not been fun about this particular thing. And I'm sorry about that. And they were like, yeah, I was wondering why you were so passionate about this thing that like, you know, it wasn't like blocking our driveway or anything, but they were like, it must've, I was just trying to give you space to be angry. And I was like, well, I appreciate that. And they they never fought me once on it, but I was like, sometimes that's all you need.
00:57:36
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Yeah. And I think like, but I just wanted to share the story because like, it number one was very interesting just to see like the moment I started trying to do something good and like, you ever watch that show? My name is Earl.
00:57:51
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Yes. Like, like he, if for those you who don't know, like he was a guy who was kind of a scumbag and then he survives a car wreck, finds like ah a lottery ticket for $50,000, decides to turn his life around. He learns about karma through Carson Daly being on a show.
00:58:05
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And like, he says, Oh, if I do good things, good things will happen. And so he just tries to turn his life around. And every time he does something good, something good happens. And so, I just was like, oh, that's like an episode of My Name is Earl. Like I did the good thing and all of a sudden the lottery ticket showed back up.
00:58:18
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You know, like he did a bad thing and he got the lottery ticket and he got hit by a car. So i was like, oh, the guy moved and he apologized and I'm still midway through digging this thing. i'm like, i God, like goodness, like what what the fuck is wrong with me? Like all of a sudden this weight is lifted and it wasn't even that big of a deal.
00:58:34
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um But it also helped me realize that sometimes like you have to like be a little bit more introspective and be like, am I really mad about this? Why am I this pissed off about this? Is this really that big of a deal?
00:58:46
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If the answer is no, then there's probably something else going on out of this surface that like you
Emotional Health and the Power of Communication
00:58:51
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need to check in with. And it helps to have somebody to bounce ideas off of. And my roommate hitch was very sweet to just listen.
00:58:58
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And I was like, I just, and they were like, you know, we, I know you've been doing a lot. I know you've been taking point on all these challenges that have been coming. And I know, you know, My health issues have been challenging to work with. And they're like, you know, like, it's okay to take a break. And, you know, I'm sorry you've been dealing with all this stuff.
00:59:14
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And it's just been a nice reminder that, like, sometimes there's more going on and you don't even realize, even though you're the one running the show, you're the first person player. Sometimes you don't even know what's going on in your head.
00:59:26
Speaker
Right? you don't know why your skin's crawling. You don't know why your stomach hurts. You don't know why you're angry all the time. You don't know why you're sleeping poorly. And it's because sometimes just shit kind of develops in your subconscious and you just don't recognize it's happening.
00:59:41
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And it wasn't until I just decided to put that energy into something that felt more like me because I hadn't been feeling like myself the past couple days. And I realized that after I started digging and I was like, I'm tired, but I feel good.
00:59:53
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I'm exhausted, but I feel good. I'm cold, but I feel good. You know, as I threw that salt everywhere, i was like, I fucking feel amazing that I'm doing this. Like, this is who I am. This is what I want to do. I don't want to be an asshole.
01:00:04
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I want to do good shit. That makes me feel good. You know, and if they never thank me, that's fine. I feel good that I'm doing this right now. And like, and then the cherry on top of it, They thought to go and buy some Epsom salt and drop it off at my house next door and leave me a sweet note that it now lives on our fridge.
01:00:22
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And like now I know their names and like it just makes me feel really good. And I've been a bit emotional about it all day just because like what a great turnaround to what started off as me being a fucking pissant, you know, like.
01:00:37
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And now like it's a good thing. And like, I feel like I just went and left them a note back with my phone number on it. I said, if you guys need anything, if you need any help, anything around the house, if you want me to dig some more, you just send me a text and you let me know and I'll be over.
01:00:50
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um You know, and that makes me feel good that now I'm connected to someone in a community that I just moved into. Um, and I hope that, you know, I'll get to speak to them person to person someday, but you know, I get, if you're disabled, you can't quite come down and open the door. so I was like, I'm just going to just do it.
01:01:04
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And I went over and salted more today when the snow started coming and I didn't even ask. And like, it just made me feel good. So anyway, I know I've been rambling for a hot minute, but I just wanted to share that because no, that was good. I wish that was a story I could have more people here because I feel like it's so easy to get into that bitchy mood that you were in about things like, yeah,
01:01:25
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It takes nothing to set people off nowadays. And I understand everybody's got a mountain of stress on them. But this story is such a beautiful example of just like taking a step back and realizing later, like. This I didn't even need to be upset about this, this just added stress to for no reason.
01:01:46
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And I wish I could get more people to hear that because I think more people need to. But that I am. I'm very happy for you, man. That's awesome. That's such a great way to like meet your neighbors and and kind of get your name into the.
01:01:59
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Into the community a little bit. It's a very Adam thing to have happen. ah yeah That's what that somebody else said something being very similar. They were like, if there's anybody this was going to happen to it would be you. It's like my roommate was also talking to their friend who visited our home for the first time today. And they were like, oh, you know, we're friends with we're friends with the the the plow guy that comes up here.
01:02:23
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We're friends with Zach. That's our friend. Zach's cool. and And their friend was like, are you sure that you mean Adam made friends? They're like, yeah, i just dragged you along. Yeah.
01:02:35
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No, like, you know, because like when Adam makes friends, I get to make friends and i was just like, you're the introvert that he, yeah. Okay. Yeah. He adopted you. ah Right. Exactly. And like, also Hitch has, uh, says hi, by the way, to Dan, I forgot to tell you. i hitch Um, and, uh, I was just, yeah, I just thought like, those are the, like, it's like you said, it's easy to like, be just be set off and like, you know, it,
01:03:04
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I think there's a lot of things going on that are just people being very reactive as opposed to proactive. And I was definitely being reactive.
01:03:17
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in a very bad way. And like at some point you just start to recognize like, you know, when you're sick physically, you go, oh I'm tired. I'm achy. I'm sniffly. I'm, I'm, my eyes are red. I'm itchy, whatever that may be.
01:03:31
Speaker
And you go, oh, my stomach hurts. You know, something's wrong. And then you have to figure out how you fix it. What are the remedies? Is it rest? Right. But sometimes when those emotional things happen or those mental things happen, like it can be a little hard to kind of diagnose because there's, sometimes there's not a definite sign, you know, that I'm cranky. Like, okay. could A lot of things it could be that you're hungry. it could be that you're still hurting subconsciously over something. It could be,
01:04:00
Speaker
You know that like you're an empath and you feel other people's misery or just could be just for me. I hate being cold and sometimes I'm cranky just because I'm cold and bitching about it makes me feel better. Like you never know what that might be. But like if somebody stops to tell you or if they start to look at you different or if you're just like, why am I acting like this? If ever in your brain, you're like, why am I so pissed off?
01:04:22
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It's always good to check back in and ask somebody that's in your circle and say, like, don't say, am I overreacting? Just say, like, is this worth being this mad about? Because some people will just say, no, no, you're not overreacting and they'll coddle you.
01:04:35
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But say, like, is this worth being this pissed off about? Because the moment you put a question mark in the middle and the end of that sentence with that inflection, Other people go, I mean, i guess like it's not I mean, i don't think it's a big deal. And then you're like, OK, I'm being an asshole. you know yeah Well, now now you you deflected it from being.
01:04:53
Speaker
Do you think this about me, too? Do you think this about the situation? And I think that's why it's so much easier to answer that truthfully. That's a good point. Yeah, because you're you're putting it at the situation. You're not saying am I blank? You're saying, is it worth Being pissed off at blank.
01:05:09
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Right. And that's a that's pretty much what I had to ask myself. And then when I was able to reconcile with what I was feeling, when I talked to Hitch about it, I was like, hey, like. um' I've been.
01:05:21
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a real prick about all this, haven't I? Like, have just this is not worth being that mad about, right? And they were like, I'm not mad about it at all, but it seemed like you really were. I was just commenting to kind of like, make you feel like I was listening, but I didn't want to fight you on it and say, you know, because it sounded like you really need to just be mad for a little while. And I was like, I did, but like, you know,
01:05:43
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But I also but also thank be thankful because like I realized like I had to thank them, too. and I was like, thank you for putting up with it. Thank you for listening thank you for, you know. But also I said, hey, if I'm being in a certain way and it's making you uncomfortable, you're because we're still getting to know each other, too. And i was like, it is well, then you're right to say, dude, shut up.
01:05:59
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It sounds like one hell of a roommate. I got
Stories of Strength and Cold Weather Tolerance
01:06:01
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to say. Incredible human being. um um Incredible. Real quick before we stop. Do you want to hear the Dan version of this story? yeah he's the dance love The Dan version? No, all it's it's my version of events that happened to me.
01:06:16
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ah okay, cool. It ended very differently than yours. This was not this year. This was last time we had like a big snowfall or whatever.
01:06:27
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And I was using the snowblower. And I'm about a quarter of the way done. And i see the people across the street. This woman comes out alone.
01:06:38
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maybe middle-aged, you know, maybe 60s or so. And she starts shoveling. 60 middle-aged? Well, yes, if you live to be 100. Actually, it's past middle-aged. Say we're middle-aged, my friend. Well, you know, middle-aged 260, somewhere in there.
01:06:55
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Shut up, pedantic. um So I take a mental note and i'm like, okay, when I'm done with my driveway and my walkway, if she, you know, I'll head over there with the snowblower and help her out.
01:07:09
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She finished before I did, and I was using a snowblower. I'm like, I don't know if if she power lifts or what, but dude, she fucking destroyed. And to this day, I still notice it. Like, it'll start snowing. I'll be like, okay, you know, it's been snowing for like two hours. It's just about covering everything. Let me go out with the shovel and just kind of push everything to the side while it's light.
01:07:37
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Theirs is already done. Or like she'll come out after I start and she'll be finished long before I'm done. Like, what what the what is the secret here? Sometimes she has other people help her and it's over like in an instant, but sometimes she's alone and she's still done so much faster than I am.
01:07:56
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ah don't understand. because She's not wearing slip on shoes in the same hoodie all the time. Oh, drop my mic.
01:08:10
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Even when I was shoveling in the dead winter and it was like super cold, all I was wearing was that hoodie. Yeah, I think in the legs. I'm cold resistant, man. It takes a lot to make me cold. It has to be like that bone chilling wind. If it's just cold outside, it doesn't bother me at all.
01:08:29
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Like that cold that feels like a ghost just passed through you? Yeah. if it If it's just like a still cold day, i could shovel in a short sleeve shirt and I'd be all right.
01:08:42
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Yeah, i think I think for me, it's just like like I can deal with like that kind of phantom cold. I still fucking hate it, and I'll complain the whole time. Um, that's me in the city.
01:08:55
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For me, it's like when like that, that bitter wind, just like, like there are those cold ass winds that come through and I feel like i'm not even wearing pants. It just cuts right through my jeans, like into my skin. i'm like, oh my God. Yeah. They're the worst the ones that cut right to the bone.
01:09:10
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Oh man. I fucking hate it. It's like ice daggers in my body.
01:09:16
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But thus is living on the east
On Kindness and Understanding at Food Banks
01:09:20
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side of the country. That's how it would be. yeah Well, that that's actually what you were saying before about, you know, like sometimes you just need something to take off all that pressure and stuff. That's why when I saw this grocery store thing, i was like, I need to remember to tell Adam about this.
01:09:37
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He needs to hear some good news in the world for once. I i think it's great. I love, you know, and like they are this is one of those things where like, yeah, OK, you could probably split spin it as it's a publicity stunt or they're just doing it for X, Y and z and with I don't really care. They're feeding hundreds to thousands of people for free that need food. I don't care why you're doing it.
01:10:00
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I don't care why you're helping the homeless guy if you're filming it, as long as it's not a stupid fucking prank and you're actually helping him. I don't care if you film it. You're still doing a good thing. You could do it for better reasons, but at least you're doing a good thing.
01:10:13
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And the and the the thing to remember about this kind of stuff, too, I'll leave everybody with one more little nugget that sometimes I have to. stop and swallow myself is sometimes you may see people at things like this at a food bank, a food pantry, a pop-up ah distribution, a shop, whatever that is that is distributing free or very inexpensive things.
01:10:38
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You may see someone rolling up, wearing nice clothes, driving a nice car, whatever that may be. And you're like, well, this person doesn't need to be here. They should be a ashamed.
01:10:48
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There is a reason in probably 99.9% of cases, regardless of what that person is rocking, driving, wearing, whatever, that if they are using their time to come and get free groceries, there's a reason for that, right?
01:11:03
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Most people don't want to waste their time standing in a fucking line, especially in the dead of winter to get free food. Unless there's a reason that car might be the last nice thing that they own that they're holding on to. They could be living out of that really nice car.
01:11:18
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They could be living out of that nice car. Maybe they have a nice outfit and they still want to feel good about themselves when they go out. Maybe at one point they were in a really good position and now they're not. And those are the things that make them feel good.
01:11:29
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I get it. Sorry, go ahead. Continue. No, I was going to say was, or they might be there to pick up food for someone else who can't get out and get it themselves. Right. You don't know what people's stories are unless you ask.
01:11:42
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And let's face it. Most of y'all are awkward as fuck and you're not going to ask. So shut up. Leave people alone. Right. You're all there for the same reasons because you're fucking hungry or, you know, somebody who is right. So just like remember that. OK, like just again, eat some humble pie just like I had to this week and like recognize that people are not going to waste their time in long lines and cold weather to get free food unless there's a reason.
01:12:10
Speaker
Right. And you don't know what that reason is and you don't know their story. So just before you start fucking firing from the hip, like a goddamn untrained ice agent, just think about it and be like, I don't know their story.
01:12:24
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I'm going to continue on my way or I'm going to shut up, put in my ear pods, air pods, earphones, what the fuck kids call them, put on my earbuds and then just listen to my music while I wait in line for my free food or just keep on driving, dude.
01:12:38
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Just leave because you have other shit to worry about. So anyway, that's my soapbox moment is just let people people are there for a reason. Let them have their reasons and leave them alone.
01:12:49
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Yeah. Now is not the time to be fighting with each other over this stuff. It sounds like they, you know, this company took very good care to make sure everything they got enough for everything for everyone.
01:13:01
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It's fine. ah Besides the people that have enough money that, definitely don't need this, will probably think it's like beneath them to go, which it's not.
01:13:13
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It's not beneath anybody to need any kind of help for anything. The only time it's beneath you is when you try and take that help without asking or being offered or whatever. If you need help and somebody offers it, there is no shame in taking it.
01:13:26
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And regardless, don't take advantage, whatever your financial status is, you know, food's expensive. And even if you're super wealthy, you don't want to pay for expensive food. If that helps you not have to pay for more expensive food, then go get it.
01:13:41
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Yeah. I would go to this because it would be nice to save some money for a month. my God. So much right now. Like, cause everything's fucking expensive. Yeah. I can afford all my groceries and everything, but it sure would be nice to save an extra $300. I honestly, like, even if I could save an extra 50 bucks by getting like some extra produce or like, you know, meats are really hard to get for some people or a couple of dozen eggs. Like that's like, that's huge some people. Like sometimes that's just, what's going to be enough to get you through to get your gas tank filled or like,
01:14:09
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Gives you a few extra bucks you can save to put in your savings for something else. Like you don't know people's stories. You don't know. You just don't know. And just as better just to shut up and let them do it because you wouldn't want to be judged if it were you.
01:14:22
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But sometimes people judge because they wish it were them, but they're too proud to ask for help. And it's fine to go get it. The only thing I'll say on the inside of that is sometimes people just run out of shit.
01:14:34
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If it's a free service, especially, I've been to enough food distributions, where sometimes people who show up to get food aren't always kind about it if you're out of the thing that they want. if that's the case, just understand, number one,
01:14:47
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There's only so much supply. And if you get there late, you get whatever's left. Right. And that sucks. And I'm sorry, but it's a lot of people are lining up. A lot of people are hurting. Right. Should be kind to the people who are working there because most of them are volunteers.
01:15:00
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They're not getting paid to do that. They're giving their precious time that they will not get back to try to help people like you. So be kind, be patient, and be good to those people because they don't have to do that for you, right? So just some people feel a little bit entitled when they go there that they can treat people poorly because they're in like a customer service environment.
01:15:18
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But it's like, no, no, no. Treat people with kindness the way that they want to treat you. Be good to people. And like, don't be greedy. If you notice there's only a few dozen eggs left, take one.
01:15:29
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Leave some for someone else to get. right? Like a lot of people get a bit greedy or they get mad if there's limits put on stuff. It's like, look, dude, we only have 40 dozen eggs and we have 900 people could gel either that or we're going start cutting them down to half dozen, you know, like you just have to be okay that people, you know, have to,
01:15:48
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improvise sometimes to help as many people as they can. And you can be a part of that solution by just being a decent person when you're there. Get your help and leave. Get your get your help and be kind.
01:15:58
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So just both on both sides of that, be nice about people who are going. And if you are someone who are going, be nice to the other patrons and those who are serving you. Because they don't have to be there.
01:16:09
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Most of the time, you know, they're out in the cold right now doing these services. They're cold, too. And they've been there all day. So, like, be cool about it. OK, just now um I'm going to one last quick thought before we go, because it has been a long episode.
01:16:27
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We missed a week. You could tell. So, you know, look, just real quick, real short, simple to the point. If you hear about this free grocery store and your first thought is disgusting socialism, fuck you. Don't listen to the show anymore. I don't want you here.
01:16:45
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Anyway. Bye. Get educated, bitch. Oh,
01:16:53
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ah that usually shit. We're still rolling. I thought we ended.
01:17:01
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i thought I thought you were like, oh, that was such a great ending. I didn't even look to see if we were still recording.
01:17:13
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Oh, God damn it. ah All right. Well, you're not going to cut all this out, are you? No, I'm going to leave it all in. Bye, Terry. yeah yeah