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in this week's episode, Heather and Cynthia dive deep into their goals and aspirations for living a healthier, more fulfilling lifestyle!
Join us, as we share our dreams of finished FIVE 5K and a Triathamom and how it's changing not only how our bodies feel, but also how it's healing our minds and relationships.
Listen in now, and remember to tag us on instagram @sexandmotherhood.podcast with your biggest take away!
Here is the LINK TO RACES we are running. If you are not from here, we encourage you to grab your Sister Friends and find a 5K you can do together! Be sure to tag us so we can cheer you on :)
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Introduction to Hosts and Podcast Themes
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Hey sister friend, it's Heather Georgelli, your certified life and NLP practitioner. And I'm Cynthia Fields, your CBF, certified best friend and mother of three. And together we want to make doing the inner work not suck. By talking about all things womanhood, motherhood, sex, and everything in between. Are you ready? Let's talk. This is the Sex and Motherhood Podcast.
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Hey sister, we are so excited to be on the podcast today. I am joined obviously by our awesome co-host, Cynthia, and she has been feeling a little under the weather. So we're really hoping that she can still bring the energy, but let's face it, of course she can, because she's Cynthia. Hey guys.
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I, you know, just been having some fun this week being sick and I had some asthma issues, which has been really super fun. But yeah, we're super excited for this week's topic because I'm not actually with Heather right
Motherhood: Reclaiming and Celebrating Our Bodies
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now. It's super weird doing this over Zoom.
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normally when we record this we are like right next to each other laughing it up we're like it's fine let's just do it on video still and so we can see each other and she's like please don't post this video i look terrible and i'm like well i don't know but no everything needs to be consensual and if she says no
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That means no. So unfortunately, you won't be able to see how awesome we look right now, but just know we look awesome. We are just really excited about our topic today because we mentioned in our last episode about how I felt like I was done having kids. Cynthia, you're for sure done having kids. 150 million times 3% got my two side.
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I'm done. Yes, yes, she is like, for real done guys. And I'm like, I am done. And she says, No, I want my body back. I was like, Oh, you know what?
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I actually want my body back. Like with my first two kids, I was exclusively breastfeeding. My first, I breastfed for 15 to 16 months. And my second, I breastfed for up to 10 months. And my third, I breastfed for a few days and she was a piranha and I was bleeding out of my nipples so badly. They told me I couldn't nurse and I needed to recover.
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And then, you know, hell broke loose and I was back in the hospital with another C-section, but that's a story for another time. And so she was bottle fed. And there was many times during that nursing period that my husband would say, oh, I just can't wait till those boobies are mine again. And I was like, wait, hold up. First of all, they've never been yours and they will always be mine.
Setting Fitness Goals: 5Ks and Triathlon
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So this is just the year that Cynthia and I
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want to reconnect with our bodies and our minds and just ourselves in
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all of the levels and aspects that that is. And so we've decided to set a goal this year. We set goals for ourselves to get our bodies back. But before we talk about these goals, can we just rewind a second and talk about why men think that they own our boobs? Yes, please, please talk about that, that I am not owned.
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by my husband. He can enjoy the goodies, but he does not own the goodies. Yeah, like they don't mean the same thing to me anymore. Yes, they do bring pleasure. And yes, sometimes I do want them to be touched and played with, but also when I say don't touch them, don't touch me, it's because in that moment they don't feel like anything other than a way to feed a child.
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and or a way to feel pain when my menstrual cycle is coming around I don't know like who wants their boobs to be touched when they are tender and sore because you're about to have a period or milk ducks are drying up and you're just like oh this dies I want to die ladies okay listen
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It is so important to feel empowered in your life and in your story and in who you are. And that is a big reason why I believe that when me and Cynthia decided to do this podcast together,
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We wanted to share with all of you that that's something that's possible. And also, that's why we set goals to run five K's this year. And also, drumroll, we wanted to do a triathlon together. And that might be a little cray cray for some.
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But I think that it's going to be awesome. And it's not about winning. It's about being able to finish it and to really see how strong and capable we really are. I mean, maybe that's just me. Cynthia is going to share her reasons, but I just really wanted to be able
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to feel strong and capable and allow my body to see that I am strong and capable so that mentally I am on track with myself physically. That might not make a lot of sense, but when you are so stuck in your mind about the things that you're not capable of doing or you're not strong enough and you don't celebrate when your body is becoming strong enough and you can't see her as the strong, capable,
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powerful being, you will forever be stuck in the old version of you.
Health Insights and Lifestyle Changes
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And this year, that's what I want to break away from and connect with every aspect of my transformation, mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. So when me and Cynthia thought about this idea of let's complete some 5Ks and try to do a triathlon, we got pretty excited because we knew it would be a challenge. We knew that we
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needed to make some commitments and we knew that we'd need to have integrity with ourselves and let's just say sometimes that's not so easy. Yeah and Heather it doesn't sound crazy I promise. My reasonings are very similar but also a little different so I've been one of
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to do a 5k for a few years now but every time I would start training I got freaking pregnant and then I got so sick I couldn't do them so now that I'm done having babies I decided okay I'm gonna do this the right way I'm gonna go to the doctor and I get a full physical because guys I'm gonna be super super open with you guys and very vulnerable and share some numbers that a lot of people would never share with
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anybody but I went to the doctor and honestly it's not about like being skinny or being fit for me for me it's you know I want to feel better in my clothes I want to have more energy playing with my kids and not get so exhausted during sexy time and guys I'm not gonna lie I really want to be able to tie my shoes without holding my breath like I feel like sometimes I want to pass out because I'm trying to tie my shoes and
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and I'm like holding my breath and then I'm like type faster type faster you're you're running out of breath so I was like hey that's it I'm going to the doctor so I went to the doctor and when I stepped on the scale I literally was so embarrassed because I've never weighed this much in my life I weighed 315 pounds it's a big number it really was kind of like an eye-opener and then I
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happened again when we went over my blood work. And I had my good cholesterol was slight, not where it should be. My bad cholesterol was slightly elevated. I'm technically pre-diabetic, but that is like starts at like 5.7 and I'm 5.8. So it was either make a life change or go on metformin. And I really have not heard anything good about that. Not that it's bad for people to take, but if you don't have to, don't.
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Like I've just been told that everyone don't take it. Those are like my biggest reasons, my biggest why's because I want to be a better me for myself, for my children, for my family, for my future.
Family and Fitness: Inspiring Through Action
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So I went to Heather and I said, let's do a 5K. And then she said, let's do five 5Ks and a triathlon. And I was like, let's do it.
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told my doctor and he's on board so I was like awesome but guys I'm not a morning person and Heather likes to work out in the morning so it's been really interesting because we're so different in that aspect but we're so similar at the same time wouldn't you say oh yeah totally we are not wanting to do these 5ks to get skinny we are not about that mindset we are definitely because we've talked about this where we just want to feel good and we want to feel
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a little more confident during that sexy time and being able to have my clothes fit properly. I want to feel confident in what I'm wearing. The times that I feel confident is when I am moving my body and I can tell that I'm getting stronger
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And I can tell that I actually am capable of doing these things that I always told myself that I couldn't. That was a big reason why I was like, oh, you want to do one 5K? No, we're going to do lots of 5Ks, but all for really great reasons. And if you are in Utah and you want to do one of these 5Ks with us, do it. If you want to go out,
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and look in your own community and find a 5K and start training with us for your 5K, please do it and tag us in your journey because it's about coming together as women and supporting each other in our goals, whatever that may be, because we
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want you to feel confident and empowered in your life. And when you're taking care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, big things can happen. And I think that's a big reason why we were like, okay. And then she just hopped on board on my crazy train of let's not do one, let's do five and a triathlon. We can totally do it. It's gonna be grand.
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It is kind of wild, but I've been really excited. And everyone I talk to about it, they're super excited for us. And our husbands have been so supportive in the sense that we're not letting them say no to us. No, but really they are being really supportive. I mean, my husband watches both of our kids so that we can go to Zumba class or to go do weight training or soon to be cycling. And they're so supportive. And in fact, like my husband today was like, I think
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I think that we're going to do our own 5K. So we've inspired our husbands to also do this, but they don't want to do it with us. They just, they want to do it themselves. And I'm supportive of it. You do it, get it, you know? There's definitely something when you are working on something together. I guess I have this belief where it's like couples that move together, stay together. Because if you're moving outside of your sexy time,
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and you're getting to know your own body, it can only make sexy time better. Then you're not totally utterly exhausted and you're like, probably TMI, but let's face it, it's the sex and motherhood. But like, I mean, when you're the one that's arms out, man, it can be exhausting. If both of you are not doing your due diligence and trying to feel better and taking care of yourself physically,
00:11:46
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It can kind of be a hindrance and you can't always be the one that just lays there no matter how appealing that sometimes may be. That is not even a lie. Like you guys, sex is not easy all the time and like the movies make it look like it's like so much fun and so
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easy and exciting and it's not always like that. My husband is going to kill me for saying this. He broke his tailbone right before Christmas and we have not been able to do anything sexual because it hurts, like physically hurts him.
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And so in that time, I've been working out so much with Heather and I've been doing intermittent fasting because that feels really good guys. For me personally, I'm a mindless eater at night. So if I can stop eating at night, then I'm fine. So I've just been working out so much that I've lost over 25 pounds now. And I'm like,
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I cannot wait to see what sex is like 25 pounds lighter because it's going to be easier. I mean, I've been working out my cardio is better because sex is cardio guys. And so that's just like another reason, like let's make sex great. And I think it's a great motivator. I want it to be fun again. And I found that I really started to feel that way. Lots of other reasons, which will be for a totally different episode. It really came down to how do I want to feel?
00:13:10
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Because I've been doing better at taking care of myself, it starts to trickle into my family and my husband. And even my kids are like, mom, we want to work out too. Can we do a workout with you? It's all about leading by example. And I love that we're connecting that way. I have to say like, I've even been less angry, which is saying something because my kids tell me I'm angry like all the
Workout Styles and Personal Motivation
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time. They once said that I need a yelling jar.
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and I didn't like that idea. So I need to work out because of working out and letting my heart pump as hard as it's pumping. I think just this last week I went to high fitness which I'm not usually a fan of because high fitness is hit for 60 minutes and I feel like that's insane. If you love it great you go get it girl but for me it's a little insane but this time I did stay the whole 60 minutes
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it was rough because my heart rate got up to like 180 beats a minute and it had never beat that hard in a really long time and I was out of breath and I found myself really just like getting these unhelpful thoughts of you can't actually do this you need to stop and you aren't capable of this and we just need to go home like this is hard this is too hard but it made me want to cry because
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I knew, I knew with every fiber of my being that these unhelpful thoughts were no longer true. And that if I wanted to continue, I could continue because I knew I could, not because I just wanted to give up. As I pushed through this temporary fire burning in my gluteus maximus, my butt, it went away.
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I push through and Cynthia always makes fun of me because I am really loud when I exercise. I'm like, yeah, go get it. And then I'm really quiet in the bedroom. It's true. I am very loud in the bedroom, which if you know me and you're listening to this,
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Hi. When I work out, I'm so much in my head that I'm not, I'm not loud because I'm like Heather where I'm like thinking all these thoughts. But a lot of times where I'm a little different than Heather is, it's like, I'm in my head, like pumping myself up. Like you can do this. Just keep going. Like don't give up. And I'm telling these things in my head because in my head, it'd be weird if I'm like around like 20, 30 people and I'm like, don't give up.
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you got this one step at a time. Like, I think it'd be so interesting to see. I mean, people probably think I'm talking to them like get it, but really, I'm talking to myself. That's just the self talk I do in my head. And so I get really quiet and my husband says I have really bad RBS.
00:15:57
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And if you don't know what that means, resting bitch face, I have been told I don't look very approachable all the time. That's me when I work out. So if you see me working out ever like at Vossa or you see us running around or something, like don't be scared to come up to us because I am nice and I'm friendly. I'm just in my head saying, get it girl. See, and I think it would be very empowering for me being her exercise partner
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to fill a little more scene when I'm over here like, yeah, get it! I'm not tired! And she's like, OMG, you need to calm down. Like, that's the look that I'm getting when really she's probably saying it in her head.
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But to me, I want to hear it. Like for me, I need to hear it because I do want to give up. And so that's why I have to say it out loud to myself. It's fine. I still feel supported. I just sometimes wish that she could be a little louder when we exercise and encourage me like I'm encouraging her.
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guys we took a water aerobics class a few weeks ago and there was I think 10 of us in the whole class in this giant pool and Heather was in there going yeah let's get it and everybody was like staring at her and she was looking at me like come on and I was like just staring at her like no it echoes in here I'm not doing this and she was like really come on and I was like not today sis and she
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I could tell she was so disappointed in me, but I was like, I can't, I need to focus. I could have been louder, but at the same time, I've just, I've just, I've never been the type of person to be loud when I'm working out. In the bedroom is a different story. To be clear, I have never been this loud working out until I started releasing limiting beliefs.
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because I realized that my superpower, that's right, I said superpower, is using my voice. And when I use my voice, actually using it like I am right now, I feel more empowered. I want other people to feel empowered by how I'm feeling inside. And if I can't express that vocally, I really internalize, oh, am I not actually capable of this? No one else is reciprocating the level that I'm at.
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So when we go to Zumba, that's a different story though, because Cynthia is like, whoo, yeah. And I'm like, kid, this is so unfair. Like, you're not loud any other time that we work out. But if we go to Zumba, she's going to meet me at my vocal level. And she's going to be my woo girl with me as she's outwardly expressing what she's internally telling herself. And I need that. I can't be that crazy. There has to be more of you that feel like I do.
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And then a lot of you that also feel like Cynthia, because it's okay. And I think that's why we make such a good team when we actually are able to work out. We're still trying to figure out a schedule that works for the both of us, but we're both doing work. And it's just, it's important to find that camaraderie as I come down from that soapbox and high that I was just on, as I mellow out my voice a little. I'm just saying, I wasn't always loud when I exercised because I felt like if I said anything out loud,
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people would really know that I wasn't capable and that I wasn't strong enough. So I would eat myself up inside saying, if you don't finish this, you're not good enough. And that's more of why I am so vocal when I exercise because I am telling that
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unhelpful voice in my head to shut the hell up. I will say when Heather is being loud when we work out it does motivate to go harder and so it does work and maybe I should start being a little louder I don't know we'll see. It is important to have somebody I think to not just motivate you but also
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to give you that support and to give you that accountability because we all need accountability. I truly believe we need accountability with anything we set our minds to because it's just too easy to give up if it's just ourselves. Who's going to keep us accountable, you know?
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I just, I think it's so important and it is really fun to see the familial changes that have been happening in my family.
Vulnerability and Strength in Fitness
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Like the other day I was doing a workout at home and I was doing mountain climbers, which I hate, but I'll do them and they'll get better one day, but it's fine.
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I'm doing it, guys. But my four-year-old started doing them with me and she made it look so easy. She was like, mom, this is so much fun. And I was like, in my head, I was like, go away, child. Like, child, go away.
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because she was just like over there just like climbing up the the ladder on the floor and she was like look I can do it this way and she was like doing the hardest way you can ever do mountain climbers and she was just making it look so easy and I was like in my head I was like two before wouldn't that be nice all the energy in the world and when she finished she was like what's next and when I finished I fell to the floor
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Like I just like collapsed. She saw that I was struggling and she looked over at me and she said, mom, you're doing such a good job. You're doing so good, mom. And then when I was done, she brought me my water and she's like, it's time for water, mom. And so she's like, she sees me and Heather working out sometimes and she sees how we are together. And she's starting to see like how it should be, how to support somebody, how to love somebody.
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and how to show support when they're struggling at like their weakest most summer times. Working out like that is so vulnerable. Letting people see you struggle is not easy.
00:21:47
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I feel that as women, sometimes we spend so much time comparing ourselves to other people's strengths and to our weaknesses and vice versa. We need to start celebrating each other and cheering each other on because I'm tired of feeling repressed as a woman to where you got to fit this mold and we've talked about this. Like I can't name one person that isn't struggling
00:22:16
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with something, whether that's physically, whether that's spiritually, whether that's mentally, whether that's emotionally in any aspect of their life, because it's all connected. Everything is connected.
00:22:30
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I just wish that we'd stop worrying so much about what we think others are thinking about us and focusing more on what do I want to bring to the world to help motivate the other women around me. So I think that's kind of why we're
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wanting to do this for us. And even like my kids want to get in on some of these 5Ks. Yeah, we have some really fun ones lined up. We're doing a 5K in March. That's a fun one. It's in Vineyard. So if you guys want to do that, super fun. It's called the Gold Rush. My mom had breast cancer and ovarian cancer at the same time.
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And I've always wanted to run a run that was in support of cancer research. One of the things I told Heather is I really wanted to run one for cancer too because both her mom, her grandparents, my grandmother died of ovarian cancer. She also had breast cancer and a lot of my aunts as well. So it really hits home for us in that aspect.
Participating in Events for a Cause
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So that was really important for both of us to find a run where we can donate to a really important cause.
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Running for cancer was something that was definitely important to us. So we have that one in June and we're going to link to all of these. So if you want to sign up for the same races and come and run with us. And when I say run, I mean, we might run a little bit, but it's probably going to be a really fast. Let's just be real. Right. And the more that we do these, maybe by our last one, we're going to be these expert runners and we can run the whole 3.25 miles. But for right now, let's just focus on we're doing it and it's going to be great.
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Our whole goal is to finish. We're not worried about the time. We're not so worried about the competitiveness of it. We just want to finish because it's for us. It's not for anyone else. Okay. So we got one in March, one in June, one in July, two in August, and one in October. We have our fun one. That's our first one in Vineyard. Then we have our Timpanogos run, and then we have our Heber.
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5k, which is Hebrew, Utah. And then we have our triathlon mom. So it's for women only, which is very exciting. And they have a carnival guys. And that one's in Riverton, Utah on August 5th. That's the first August one.
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And the best part about the triathlon mom is it's non-competitive. It literally is do your best. If you can't complete every single one within the time limit, like that's fine. Move on to then like get your way to like the next part or whatever. And
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I have never heard of a triathlon not being competitive and that's what's really like driven me away from it for so long because while I am a competitive person Heather's over here nodding her head she knows me so well I don't want to be competitive
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when I have to run because I am not like the biggest fan of it.
Building a Supportive Fitness Community
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So the fact that it was non-competitive and it was for moms and it has the carnival and it's just women supporting women. And that is what really, you know, when Heather told me about it, I was like, yes.
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I'm telling you, you gotta come and join us on these races. We want to celebrate with you. We want to be able to cheer you on. And I need some other woo girls that will be as loud as me while we're running. And I'm gonna be like, we're not tired. See what Heather hasn't known yet is she hasn't gone actual running with me yet. She will see that I am loud, but it's not like a woo girl status. It's like, oh my heck.
00:26:11
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kill me now but you know what I'm changing my attitude on that because I can run and it's a mind game and so now starting right now I'm going to start thinking more positive I can do this I can run well I can find the joy in running yeah I'm gonna try and find the joy in running you guys but really she's gonna see she'll hear me
00:26:38
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I better hear you. You might hear curse words. If you want to feel motivated by running, just watch the movie on Amazon. Britney runs a marathon. Fantastic movie. So motivational. It's based on a true story. And it's like it's
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It's just amazing. It's a great movie, so it's on Amazon. We'll even link it to it in the show notes, and we'll link all of the race details in the show notes too, like, for reals. Brittany runs a marathon, you guys. Honestly, it is what motivated me in the beginning to do this. I was like, if she can do it, so can I.
00:27:22
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She literally just got out of bed one day and started running. And she said she was going to go to one spot and she was going to make it there. And I literally was like, I can do that. I can do this. I'm not saying I'm going to run a marathon, but I can do a 5K. I'm excited. I'm excited. And it will be even more exciting if we have more of you sister friends come and join us. And if you're not here local in Utah,
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go and find a 5K that you can do and post your pictures and tag us. We want to support you because we need each other. So true. We really do need each other. We want you to know that like you're not alone. If you're finding that it's just becoming too hard or you're having a hard time finding the time to do it, you just think of me and how I'm doing this because it
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Brittany can run a marathon. I can run a 5K. It's true. I'm just, I'm really excited guys. We can do anything we put our minds to. Half of everything we do is so mental. And as long as we keep pushing and as long as we stay positive, I don't want to be like that person who's like, just put your mind to it. You can do it. You know, we're not fans of toxic positivity over here.
00:28:40
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but there is times where it's like, you just, you have to keep pushing through. You have to just stay as positive as possible because if you don't, then you're just gonna find every excuse in the book not to do it. That's not to say that there's not gonna be obstacles, setbacks, detours, challenges, hardships, crying, struggle. That's not what it means because if you got to the finish line and you didn't have any of those things, would you be able to look back and be like, wow,
00:29:10
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I did that. It's definitely, for me, not going to mean as much if I didn't have a few of those setbacks, those detours, those struggles, those moments of internal dialogue where I really had to confront myself. It's really exciting, you guys. I'm really excited to be doing this, but I'm really excited to be doing this with Heather because she is such a great motivator for me. She's such a great friend. There's no one else that I'd want to do it with.
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Aw, thanks. I feel the same way about you. Seriously, sisters, friends, ladies, we love you. Fulfill your dreams and please cheer each other on. And have fun.
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