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How Caffeine makes Anxiety worse with Stephanie Nelson, CTNC - NLP
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Happy Halloween! This episode is perfect timing.
In this episode we have special guest Stephanie Nelson who is an Anxiety Freedom expert and coach.
- Learn how your anxious behavior is learned.
- What projecting your anxiety looks like and how to feel empowered by saying no to social or personal parts of life.
- 3 tips to holisicolly manage your anxiety by quitting caffeine.
Learn more from Stephanie on her Instagram and Website
PS you will want to grab the REPLAY for her amazing Masterclass
"Break your Caffeine Addiction" you can get that replay here.
Don't forget to SHARE this episode and your BIGGEST TAKEAWAY on your social media and tag us both @sexandmotherhoodwithheather and @stephanie.nelson.ctnc
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Transcript
Introduction to Podcast Themes and Guest
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Hey sister friend, it's Heather Georgel, your certified life and NLP practitioner. And here we make doing the inner work not suck by talking about all things motherhood, womenhood, sex, and everything in between. Are you ready? Let's talk. This is the sex and motherhood podcast.
00:00:24
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On today's podcast, we have Stephanie Nelson. She is a certified transformational nutrition coach, certified NLP practitioner, and mental emotional release in the mind surgery method. And she helps busy women never have another anxiety attack again. Doesn't that sound amazing? So that they can come off meds for good to live a happy and full life.
00:00:49
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We are so excited that you are on the Sex and Motherhood podcast. Well, why don't you introduce yourself?
Stephanie's Personal Anxiety Journey
00:00:56
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Sure. So I'm Stephanie Nelson. I'm an anxiety freedom coach and I help busy women never have another anxiety attack ever again. And the reason why I do this work
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is because I, for one, I have a passion for health and wellness, but mostly because I found myself struggling really bad with anxiety to the point of I need to go to the emergency room because I literally thought I was having a heart attack at, I don't know, like 25, 26. And I got there, they ran some tests and they're like, oh, you probably just have anxiety. Here's some Xanax. And I'm like, oh, cool, thanks.
00:01:39
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So I went on a mission after that to figure out what the heck was going on with my anxiety because I knew that it was something that now that I know a lot more about it that I've always had anxious tendencies.
00:01:55
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However, it had gotten to a point where it was chronic daily anxiety and I didn't really know that's what was going on until I went to the emergency room. And then it just got worse from there. But anyway, so I went on the journey. I was able to overcome it holistically. I went on medications, was able to come off medications. And one of the things that really surprised me when I started diving deep into the anxiety world was how common it is for women to struggle with this daily chronic anxiety.
Exploring Alternatives to Anxiety Medication
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everyday panic attacks their entire lives, a lot of people have since childhood or teenage years. And the only solution that has ever been fitted to them was medications and or therapy. And while both of those things can be great tools and there's a place for them,
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It's not the end all be all. And especially with medications, you don't have a Prozac deficiency. Like that's not a thing. Like there are actual group causes reasons why you are experiencing this daily chronic anxiety. So.
00:02:58
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When I saw that, I was like, no, there's another way. So anyone who wanted to listen and hear me talk about what those ways were, I wanted to try that with them because I felt like I needed to do that. So that's a little bit about me and why I do what I do. That's amazing because I think a lot of women, and I know, especially when you start raising humans, it's been known that
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they have the baby blues, which could be a whole nother subject, which I do not believe in baby blues. Okay. It's like a real thing. I had postpartum. And I know that for a lot of my friends and other women that I know, they
00:03:41
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their doctors put them on some type of drug to help with the anxiety and the postpartum because there feels like there's no other option. And what you're saying is that there are ways to be able to system that. However, there's still a time and a place that something like a drug of some kind would be helpful. Exactly.
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Now the problem that, or the challenge that I'm finding with other moms and like women that have had children is they start to get addicted to the feeling or the things that are happening with the drugs. And if they try to go off of it, they feel like that crawly feeling in their skin and it's like they're more agitated. How do you know if you can beat a drug rather than a supplement? Like how, how do you know the difference?
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This is a difficult question because I'm also not a huge proponent of just take this supplement and this is going to cure your anxiety. Because when you're taking a supplement, especially one of the biggest ones is magnesium being touted for anxiety.
00:04:56
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When you're doing that, magnesium is an antagonist. So it plays a role in other minerals in the body. So if you over consume something like that, it can have a negative effect over time on these other minerals and vitamins and things and systems in the body.
Holistic Approaches and Temporary Medication Use
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So to answer this question, I would say,
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If you're trying the holistic route, if you're trying, say, the magnesium, if you're working with somebody and you're taking a look at what you really need nutritionally, whether you're doing the mental and emotional release, or you're working with a therapist, whatever it is, and it's still not working, you're still struggling daily, then that might be the time when you need to go see your doctor about getting on prescription medication that can help you get through that specific time.
00:05:51
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because that's exactly what I did. I was trying to do it on my own, not postpartum, but just anxiety in general, and it didn't, I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it at that point. I didn't have the tools, I didn't have the resources to get through it at that point. So I felt like I had no other choice to go on medications. So I did, but while I did that, I understood that this wasn't going, and I had this belief that this wasn't going to be my life.
00:06:20
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Medications, I wasn't just going to stop at medications and then just use that as my tool to cure my anxiety. You can't see me. I'm air quotes for me.
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What pushed me to get on the medication was, honestly, affecting my relationship with my husband. So I had a lot of issues with sleep anxiety. So the only way that I would be able to sleep would be if he was there, like, calming me down. And even then, sometimes that wouldn't happen until early in the morning if he needed to go to work. So what he was doing is he was calling in and saying, hey, I'm going to be a couple hours late.
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So he couldn't keep doing that. So that was the, for me, that was the click in my head. Okay. I need to do something. I need to get on the medication so that I can kind of level these symptoms out so that I can then work on what those holistic things would be. Is that kind of answer the question? A lot of amazing things. And
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Here, you know, with the Sex and Motherhood podcast, we really want to make the inner work not suck. And so you mentioned a key phrase, which was the root cause, which I love the root cause. And have you noticed for, you know, now that you know what you know, because before you didn't know,
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Yeah. You've seen the changes in your clients. When you are able to get to the root cause of what's causing the anxiety, have you found that there is more freedom in feeling in control of your anxiety? Oh, absolutely. Okay. Talk to me about that. Yeah. This is, well, first of all,
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One of the things that we do, especially if they don't have tools, is I give them tools, we figure out tools, things that work for them in their lifestyle that's going to help lower their daily anxiety, help lower their stress, help them manage it on a day-to-day basis. Once they see that they can do that, that ups the confidence in themselves, being able to handle those stressors. Once you add in some of the diet changes and sleep changes and all of those things,
00:08:32
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that's going to help lower the anxiety. So they're not experiencing as much anxiety as they were before. And especially now that I have gone through the mind surgery method, and I do the mental and emotional release, a lot of those limiting beliefs that are coming up, and even the emotions like anger, and fear and shame and guilt,
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A lot of anxiety can be tied to those specific things. So once those are released, a lot of that stress and then a lot of that anxiety kind of goes away because it's being released. And again, like you said, sometimes just having that perspective on, oh, that wasn't even mine, or, oh, that's where that came from. In and of itself, thinking about before I had the mental and emotional release tools,
00:09:25
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Having that awareness that that's where that specific stress or anxiety was coming from is just like a weight off of your shoulders. Yeah, it really is. And for those of you that don't know what mental and emotional release is,
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We love our jargon. It is a form of NLP, which you learned is a way that your mind communicates with you. And when you go into mental and emotional release, you are communicating with your unconscious mind so that you can go back into your past and be able to release the emotions and the beliefs
00:10:06
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that reside there. We call this the root cause or the first event. So then it's disconnected and you can reevaluate all the way back to now. So you're not bringing all of that baggage. That's the emotional baggage. Everyone talks about the emotional exhaustion, the mental exhaustion. It's coming from a root place. So that's what we mean when we say mental, emotional release or
00:10:34
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the limiting beliefs and finding the root cause. And it's a powerful, powerful tool that is amazing for all aspects. But in this case, for anxiety, being able to know where it's coming from and being able to investigate it is amazing. So to change the way, because I hear so much from family and friends and people that I see
00:11:03
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I did not have a caffeine tolerance. Like me and caffeine do not work well together unless I have like a major headache. It's like I pop a little bit of Tylenol and I drink like a few sips of like Dr. Pepper or Mountain Dew. And it's like the head in a vice feeling starts to go away. But then I find that I get really parched and I got to drink a lot of water. And have you ever noticed, what do you say about caffeine? Because I know that
00:11:33
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There's a lot of people I know that say, oh, I don't have a caffeine problem. It has no effect on me. I'm like, are you here? Because you drink a lot of caffeine, but you always seem so tired. You always seem so exhausted. I don't think the caffeine's actually doing its job anymore.
The Impact of Caffeine on Anxiety
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How does caffeine, can it trigger it more anxiety? How does that work?
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Yeah, absolutely. Because what caffeine does is it increases the stress hormone in the body. I would love to talk to somebody who is anxious, but also things that they have a high tolerance for caffeine. Chances are if you're anxious and you think that you have a high tolerance for caffeine, your caffeine is probably contributing to how anxious you are. I've had so many clients when
00:12:27
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they remove the caffeine like their daily panic attacks literally go away because caffeine can be that powerful for people. So what happens when you're drinking tons of caffeine is so with no caffeine you have a bunch of tired receptors in the brain.
00:12:47
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And then once you feel tired, your body's like, okay, you're tired, you need to rest, go to sleep. What we do when we do that, instead of resting, because of just how our modern society is, we're always on the go, we take caffeine. What caffeine does is it goes into those tired receptors and blocks them so that we don't feel tired.
00:13:09
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But then our body is really smart. And it's like, well, dude, you're so tired. And so we're just going to make more tired receptors because you're obviously not listening. So then, you know, a week later, or maybe two weeks later, however, that works for you. You notice that, okay, this one cup of coffee isn't really doing it. I need to up it to two. And that's because you have more tired receptors of the happiness of Phil. So
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You actually, when you're drinking caffeine regularly, you're not actually giving yourself more energy. You actually have more energy, more stable energy without caffeine at your baseline than you do if you were drinking caffeine regularly. So one of the ways that I personally know, so I am for sure caffeine sensitive and grow up.
00:13:54
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drinking coffee. Thank God I didn't try coffee in college. I don't know if I would have asked college. It was just kind of like everything after college where I tried and I got that. So I drink a small amount of a very specific type of coffee now. But even then, one of the things that I notice
00:14:16
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that happens, and it's a sign for me that I need to take a break, is that the caffeine is no longer giving me that desired effect of a little bit of alertness and mental sharpness. That's kind of what I'm aiming for with the caffeine. And instead,
00:14:33
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I'm usually either there's no change or it actually makes me feel more tired. So what most people do is they will just increase their caffeine intake. Me, I'm like, okay, I need to take a step back and my brain needs a reset from this. My body needs a reset from this. So that's actually what I'm doing right now for this May Day 3. So when someone says that,
00:14:55
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or when you notice that they're drinking tons of caffeine but they're always so tired, you don't have a caffeine problem. You have a stress and exhaustion problem and a dehydration problem. So what caffeine does as well is it strips your body of nutrients and minerals that it needs to be energetic.
00:15:12
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So not only are you not resting when your body is telling you to rest, but you're also stripping your body of all these minerals. So you're making yourself tired in both directions. And this is usually a cycle that continues for years, decades even. And then that's why you feel like you have a high tolerance for caffeine, especially if you're anxious. No, you probably are sensitive to it, but you've just completely overblown your caffeine intake and your thyroid receptors and
00:15:40
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you've completely exhausted your body, and that's why. So there's no amount of caffeine that's actually gonna help you there. If anything, it would just probably kill you if you try to take enough caffeine to get to that anxiety. So what you're saying is it's okay to still have some, but it's checking. So if you're still feeling anxious and you notice that you're drinking a lot of caffeine, and I feel that each one of you will know what a lot of caffeine is, okay? And like you have the average amount, which I think is like what they say on average
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Is it like 80 grams of caffeine that you can have in a day?
00:16:13
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And for me, that's pushing it. And then even in sodas, you have all of that. Like how many things are you throwing back and how many rock stars? We probably shouldn't be name dropping. Those have a purpose, but if you're still feeling extremely exhausted, it's time to have a check-in to see how much are you actually drinking and maybe have a talk with yourself about
00:16:42
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cutting back a little bit. Don't go cold turkey, I assume, because that can probably have repercussions. Right. Yeah, I would never, unless you're super brave, and maybe you've done it before, so you know how your body reacts to it. But if you've never done it before, and you're an avid caffeine drinker, these are the three tips that I recommend. One, don't go cold turkey. So whatever you feel comfortable with, either cutting it in half, or say you're drinking four cups of coffee a day, dropping down to three, I'm switching out a couple of them for decaf.
00:17:11
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Find whatever combination you feel comfortable with and then slowly lean yourself off either every day or every week. And then that's my first tip. Second tip is don't start on a Monday. We all like to start things on Mondays, you know, nice and fresh, but when you're talking about caffeine, I always recommend maybe start on a Friday because typically, the first day that you're off caffeine,
00:17:42
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is not the worst. It's usually days two, three, four, depending on how long and how much and how you're doing it, where you're going to feel the most effect. Say two and three are definitely the worst. So that's why I would plan those on the weekend when you're not working or if you work on the weekends, take at least two or three days in a row where you're not working and you can take time for extra rest. Like for me,
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Even though I don't consume much and I do take regular breaks, what I notice about myself is that when it comes to about like meow to two, I'm like wanting to take a nap. I'm like falling asleep. I did this actually when I was doing my surgery method. We had our calls at noon and I'm like sitting there on our calls and I'm like, oh my gosh, like I literally could fall asleep right now. Not because like the material was boring, but just because
00:18:34
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my body is needing the extra energy and that's just the time where I'm like, I need like a 20 minute nap. So allowing yourself those breaks and those naps during that time. And then three, starting your morning off with a cup of either
00:18:55
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warm or room temperature, lemon water is always great for singing in the morning to get your bowels moving, get all the junk flushed out and to give you a little bit of a little bit of energy for singing in the morning. That's caffeine. I love that. I love that because
00:19:10
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I think that I know here in Utah, we love our dirty sodas, everything. Dirty soda. Oh, dirty sodas. Oh, dirty sodas. If you're from Utah or any surrounding state, you know a dirty soda. My favorite is Mountain Dew, and you have mango puree in it, and you have raspberry puree in it, and it's just delicious.
00:19:35
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I've literally never heard of this. It's so good. And we have so many soda shops because we apparently have a soda and puree addiction out here. Really? So not only are the coffee shops backed up, but the soda shops are backed up. Wow. We're just, we love caffeine, apparently. Wow. We love the fruity tastiness of everything, I guess. But. Hey, I'll try that. I'll try it once. Just for.
00:20:05
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the experience. Just for the experience. But be careful because it can be really good. Yes, so I think that that's really important to start out small. I love those three tips because it might not feel if you have kids that you can kind of take that reset time, but
00:20:25
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Hey, you can always have your kids have quiet time so you get a chance to have a little space and time to yourself to rest. That doesn't mean you absolutely have to sleep. If you're a busy mom or a busy dad, you're probably not going to sleep.
00:20:41
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but you can create a quiet time moment so that you can relax. Exactly. Which kind of leads me into the, now I know that you don't have kids, Stephanie, but I know that you know about like projecting your anxiety on other
Managing Anxiety's Impact on Relationships
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people.
00:20:58
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Right. And I know that this can happen unintentionally, or a place of love or like someone's projecting their anxiety. Sometimes you feel obligated to either say yes to something, the anxiety is projecting. And how do you have the how can you feel empowered to say no,
00:21:21
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when someone's projecting their anxiety onto you? Or how do you realize if you're projecting your anxiety onto someone else or to a child? Because I feel this a lot in doing what I do, that it's really easy to project your own emotions. I mean, their emotions are big.
00:21:44
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But then we think that our children or others are just like us. So we'll project it. Does that make sense? So how can we notice if we're projecting or notice if we're being projected at with anxiety? Yeah. So there are so many things that I want to say about this.
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One of the biggest things that I had to learn in one of the most helpful things that I teach my clients is to start to pay attention to when you're feeling anxious, when you're feeling a strong emotion, when you're being triggered by something and asking yourself, like, why? Like, where is this coming from? Like, what do I, what do I really need?
00:22:33
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Like what am I actually, what am I afraid of? What am I trying to get across? What am I actually needing? What is actually, what are the thoughts that are going through my head? So asking yourself and pausing and asking yourself these hard questions because oftentimes we are projecting a behavior or a thought pattern or a thought process that's been ingrained in us and we're doing it
00:23:03
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and we're not realizing that we're doing it. So we need to take a step back and really, and often writing it down or speaking out loud really helps. Sometimes speaking about it doesn't help. You need to actually speak it or you need to write it down. And oftentimes you'll notice when you get really good at this and this is where working with a coach or somebody that can help you with this, super important. But you'll notice that one, there's something that you're needing
00:23:32
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that you can figure out and give that to yourself and not continue with that specific pattern. Or you can ask if you're needing something from somebody, you can actually ask for that instead of help remember that anxious behavior, whatever it is that you're doing. Number two, you might notice that whatever behavior that you're exhibiting is coming from a line of thinking that just isn't true.
00:24:01
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So we had a stop and this is what Dr. Daniel Eamon says this, I love him. He says, don't believe every stupid thing that your brain tells you. So really questioning what you're thinking and if it's actually true, is it really true? And keep asking yourself why, but why? You know, just keep asking yourself those questions. And more often than not, if it's a worst case scenario or it's an anxious thought, you'll eventually come to the conclusion that
00:24:32
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It's not a big deal. It's not what you thought it was. And there's something else at the end of that, that tones down whatever that behavior or that, that anxious thing that you're projecting on to someone else. The second thing is that when it comes to especially children, and I've seen this when doing the mental and emotional release work that you explained,
00:25:00
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is that as a mom, once you work on yourself, that automatically translates to your children. So one of my clients is a mom just to get two young girls. And one of her, her older girl is very independent, likes to do things on her own.
00:25:19
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doesn't really reach out to her mom for quality time to do stuff together. She kind of tries to avoid that. Once we did that work and she worked with me, she noticed immediately that that daughter started coming to her and asking to like do puzzles together, like watch TV, read. And she's like, I don't know this for certain, but this can't be a coincidence that this is happening now after we released
00:25:46
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these beliefs and these emotions that were contributing to her stress and her anxiety. She must now feel that it's safe to come and approach me, whereas before, for some reason, the more I didn't realize, she felt unsafe to come and spend time with me. Her younger daughter, who hates, hates taking showers, throws a huge fit,
00:26:08
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And when this happens, her mom, so my client, would also get stressed, and her emotions would get high, and then her daughter's emotions would get even higher, and then her husband and her other daughter's emotions would get high, and the house would just be chaos. Now, she stays calm, the daughter that hates the shower is still freaking out, but she's freaking out at the same level, she stays at that same level and then de-escalates, and then her husband and her other daughter
00:26:36
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They're just cool and chill. Like everybody else is calm, except for the one daughter that's freaking out. So when you're working on yourself as a mom with this stuff, that's the best thing that you can do for your kids. Because you're releasing that stuff, you're able to handle situations better, and you're a model for them. Your kids learn from you. And I'm sure you learned your anxious behaviors. You probably learned that from, partly from your parents.
00:27:04
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I know I did. So it does matter. One of the best things that you can do is to do that work for yourself. The third part of that, which was how do you say no or feel comfortable saying no to social situations.
Setting Boundaries and Social Decisions
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So again, this kind of goes back to part one, asking yourself
00:27:24
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Why do you feel the need to say yes when you don't really want to do something? Typically it's because you don't want to disappoint somebody you want to. You're kind of people please, you want people to like you. When you are always saying yes or trying to please other people all the time, you're actually being inauthentic.
00:27:50
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and manipulative and we don't see it that way because we're just like, no, I'm just trying to do what they want, what they expect from me or what they want or I'm trying to just anticipate what they want me to do. But if it's not true for you, then you're just trying to manipulate them into liking you. So think if you think about somebody in your life or a situation that you've been in where somebody said no to something
00:28:16
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And maybe it was something that you would have done the opposite or you expected the opposite because you would have done that. Do you feel like you liked them more because they were true to who they were when they said no? Or did you like hate them because they said that they couldn't do something? Cases are you had more respect for them because they were honest with you.
00:28:41
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So as far as being comfortable for saying no, just keep that in mind. If it's something that you really just can't do, just say no. If they are healthy emotionally, they are going to be okay with saying no, they're going to respect that. And they're going to want you to say no, it's really a no for you.
00:29:00
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If they're not, then that's on them, that's on you. If you're feeling really triggered by that, that's another good reason to work with a coach. Find what that belief is and then release it. And then watch what happens.
00:29:17
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It's almost like magic and being able to know what's really happening inside and the reason why you feel that sometimes your anxiety is projected or, you know, you see that person in the story and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't want to see them. I got to run away. I hope they didn't see me. And then you get guilty and then, you know, it's like a whole thing.
00:29:34
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There is a shadow which is called your negative shadow and you have a positive shadow and really it's all you. You are 100% responsible for you and if there's a problem you're probably always there so you're part of the problem because you can only work on you and when you work on you it's like you said Stephanie that everything else will take care of itself in its own time
00:30:00
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in its own space and just to allow yourself some grace that things will not always go according to plan and I'm a recovering people pleaser and it is so much more empowering and such a better relationship that you can create with others and with yourself when you do say no. Are you still going to experience emotions? Yes.
00:30:26
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Yeah. It's just part of the game. Okay. But there's power in saying no and being able to set that boundary. And I just like that's, that's a big, that's a big one. One thing that kind of popped into my mind too is, is have grace with yourself when you are in those times and you're feeling that anxious, triggered feeling and you say yes. And then after your word, you're like, I really didn't, I didn't really didn't mean that.
00:30:56
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And in those moments, you can always, you know, message or text, email, whatever, whatever their communication is, and be like, actually, I really can't do that. You know, you can go back after and say, actually, no.
00:31:11
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Or another thing that you can do is in the moment, you can get in the habit of, hmm, I'm not sure. When we think about that, I'll get back to you. So that way you don't feel pressured to either give a yes or a no in the moment. Cause I know I felt that and I still feel that sometimes where I'm like, oh, I feel like I really need to say yes, but I don't really want to.
00:31:29
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That way you can take your emotions out of it and really decide for yourself, is this a true yes for me or is this a true no? Am I saying yes because I think that's what they want or am I saying yes because I'm really excited and I want to do this.
00:31:42
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Yeah, or they ask you, you get that message to watch someone's kids and your kids are being totally crazy and you're like, no, I'm busy, sorry. I think that having a one-liner when someone needs something from you, I think that also your own intuition will let you know if it's right. But I really like the idea of just having a thing, oh, hey, let me just, can I get back to you on that?
00:32:08
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so that you can have the time and space to check in with yourself and maybe your circumstances that are happening around you and remove those so that you can make the conscious and intentional decision to say yes or no to
00:32:25
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the people pleasing or social things that you may or may not want to go to and just feel empowered whether your answer is no or whether your answer is yes. Both are powerful and you don't have to stay with the emotions that come up with that. Emotions last 90 seconds or less, unless they're tied to a belief or a thought that makes you believe the belief. But that's a story for another day.
00:32:52
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If you do take the time in this space to think about, is this something that you really want to do? I also encourage you to not let fear or anxiety cloud what is actually a true yes or a no for you as well. Because sometimes like as an anxious person, you can forethink something and allow your fear to get in the way.
00:33:13
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So really try to take that out of it as well and do things that are scary or maybe that you're afraid of or you might think that it gives you anxiety if really deep down it's something that you want to be doing.
00:33:27
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I love that. I say to my oldest daughter, sometimes she says to me when she's going to go to school, but mom, like I'm scared. I'm scared to do that. And I say, you know, I get scared over things too, going and doing things. But sometimes I do those things scared because then I start to become brave and I know that I can do it.
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Growth comes when you're uncomfortable. You can't grow if you continue to be in comfort. You can't grow if you just stay inside of your anxiety and let it control your life and your emotions. You know, since talking with you, knowing that there is other ways that if you feel they are right for you
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As you know, there's a time and a place to take medications and there's nothing wrong with taking medications. I think it's powerful to speak with a professional, someone that knows what they're talking about. Stephanie does this day in and day out with others to be able to really
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find ways that work for you. What I know from Stephanie is nothing is ever cookie cutter. Like it's going to be like designed to fit your life, which is what is so important when working with someone and you're going to want to find someone like that for you. It's an empowering feeling to know that your anxiety doesn't control you, but that you're in control of your anxiety, your emotions, and the way that you respond. Stephanie, where can everyone find you?
Conclusion and Social Media Tips
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So my main, the main place where you can find me all things, anxiety, tips, that type of stuff is on my Instagram. So that's at stephanie.nelson.ctnc. In my bio, there's a link that goes right to my website and anything that's current, currently going on in my Rails or any freebies, that type of stuff.
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Perfect. Me is doing a master class. You're going to be able to get the replay. Yes. And it's going to be so great. And we'll link that in the show notes. Tell us about the master class that's going on. Yeah. And I don't believe anything like happens by chance. I think everything is in like God's timing.
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Literally yesterday, I was talking about on my Instagram stories, about caffeine, I was talking about that you don't, some of the things that we talked about today. And as I was talking on my stories, I was like, you know what, we just need a masterclass on this because there are so many things involved with caffeine, anxiety, stress, exhaustion, how is depleting your minerals, we just need a masterclass on this.
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That's what the masterclass is gonna be on. It's gonna be on how to decrease or get rid of, eliminate your caffeine so that you can start to rebuild your minerals, get your energy back, sleep amazing, and get rid of your daily anxiety and panic attacks. So I'm so excited for it. It is going to be super amazing. So if you feel that you don't have a caffeine addiction, but you're drinking a lot of caffeine, this masterclass is for you.
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I will also say if you are anxious, we're gonna be talking a lot about really important minerals. Even if you don't consume caffeine, just get in on it because you're gonna learn so much.
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Amazing. You guys, so many wonderful things and tips were mentioned today. I want you to pick one thing, one tip that you can really resonate with so that you can continue to grow and develop in your journey of finding a way to have a holistic approach to your anxiety and to know that there is another way besides just taking medications
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It's been done. Stephanie shared with us other clients that she's worked with that have done the exact same thing. And you know, you always get that, well, if they can do it, why can't I? And it's true. If it's been done, that means it's possible for you. So Stephanie, thank you so much for being on Sex and Motherhood. So fun. Thanks so much for asking me. I hope that your listeners really enjoy this.
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