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Hug Your Bros - Happy Friendship Day!
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Today we discuss a good valentine's day present and why V day is kinda bs anyway, ya know?
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Introduction to 'That's Our Q or T'
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And action. Good morning. Good afternoon. And of course, good evening, ladies, gentlemen, non-binary folks in universe. And this is that's our Q or T or Q for sure, where we take your questions and we harvest them after months and months and months of watering and crying and and trudging and digging and being out in that hot beating sun that just makes you all tan and sweaty and gross but also kind of hot but in like a sexy way not in a temperature way then after all that work we harvest and those tasty little a's are just plucked right off of the vine right off of the plant, you know, thousands at a time from people who are just probably not paid as much as they should, but we pay them the appropriate amount because those Q's and those A's are worth a lot of money and at least a lot
Source of Questions: Reddit, Quora, and Funimselves
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of peace of mind. And if you don't know what the fuck I'm talking about, just means we take your questions from places like Reddit, Quora, or from our own website, Funimselves Network, but yeah, Bob is done. And we answer them as if anybody mostly gives a shit to hear our answers, except for you who actually gives a shit to hear our answers.
Introducing Co-host Danny Guarantee
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So with me is my pal Danny Guarantee. Danny, please greet the audience. Hi, audience. I'm Danny Guarantee, and I like to stir fry my A's.
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Oh, I like a good stir fry. for One fact about me, I didn't have stir fry until I was 30 years old. Oh, damn. Yeah, I had such a limited palate. I didn't have ah pie until I was 25. Like any kind pie? Yeah. Yeah.
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yeah Interesting. OK, I guess technically my mom made chocolate pudding pie, but. m oh Yeah, I haven't had any real pies and chocolate pudding pie. is So interesting, because like in my experience, no matter what you do with it, it's still just chocolate pudding in a crust.
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Like it doesn't do a lot yeah like you don't even need to bake it. Just but that crust, man, it's so good with the chocolate pudding. Can I tell you, I'm not a fan of like pie crust, like like the top of it, like the edges or like the crunches. I know a lot of people like that crumble. I don't. It's hard for me to enjoy that. Like the texture of it makes my brain feel like it's itchy, like like nails on a chalkboard. And I don't know why.
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But like the bottom of the crust that got all the moisture that's been like collecting all the stuff. That's my jam right there. I will admit I prefer. Yeah, I prefer the bottom. Yeah. yeah all don Don't get me wrong. I'll I'll eat whatever.
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um And I saw what you did there. But yeah, I do like the bottom of the pie as well. Yeah, you do. Who doesn't? um Dirty pie-eating bastard. Yeah. um Well, it's speaking of pie, which is delicious, I hear you've got us quite a delicious cue ready for us. I do, do and I got a nice love-related one for Valentine's Day. Yeah, because as we're recording this, this is not going to come out on Valentine's Day. It's going to come out two weeks after Valentine's Day. and don't worry. Yeah.
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On the time that we're recording this, it's not Valentine's Day. That's tomorrow. It's actually Friday the 13th. It's Friday the 13th. So that's just what we needed.
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Yeah. So anyway, let's hear that question. You got it, sir.
Valentine's Gift Advice: Thoughtful vs. Expensive
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Let's let's let's let lovers out there know how they can be better lovers. ah This is from Reddit slash R slash relationship advice.
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Because if anybody should be giving that, it's us. By Pale Effective, 97.79. Pale Effective, 97.79? Pale Effective, 97.79. Oh, 79. Oh, okay. I thought I knew him. Never mind. I don't know. Oh, sorry.
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That would have been great. And they want to know. 19 female, am nervous that I have a stupid Valentine's gift for my 22 male boyfriend.
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How can I improve it? This is my first boyfriend and I really want to give him something special. I am currently really broke so I don't have much money to spend on him unfortunately.
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I love him very very much and he's been having a hard time and has felt really pressured but in a lot of situations lately. I just want to make him feel loved. I am preparing a cheesecake for him inspired by one we tried at a restaurant on one of our early dates.
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It's a cinnamon bun cheesecake But I've never made cheesecake before, and I have no idea if I did it right. Cheesecake is his favorite dessert, so if it turns out good, I'm sure he'll like it.
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I am also working on a nice lover card a nice love letter slash card for him, which I hope he likes. I thought about buying him a cologne, but that's definitely not a very personal gift, and I don't know if that's a good idea.
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What can I add to the gift to make it better? Is my idea totally stupid? Please let me know. I really love him. This is both our first Valentine's Day in relationships, as this is both our first relationship.
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I really see a future with him, and I want him to know how much I love him with this gift. So what can I do?
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Well, love doesn't last. This is not going to last that long, so i don't even try that hard. It's your first one. This one's just the one you do just to just try all the shitty things and get it out of the way. Get all your red flags out in the open. See what ones will tolerate. All right. I'm sorry to cut in here. Hey, we're we're experiencing some technical difficulties. ah You may notice some some cutting around here. Yeah. Sorry, Evil Adams. Get out here, Evil Adams. Nah, Alright, sorry about that, guys. He he comes out sometimes when you know he yeah he's feeling extra naughty. Sorry about that.
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So this person, this woman wants to have a nice Valentine's gift for new boyfriend. Well, boyfriend that this is their first Valentine's Day together.
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First time in a relationship in general. um And she wants to make him a cheesecake, but she's not sure if she's good at it.
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And she wants to write him a love letter or a note. And she wants to know if there's more to do and doesn't want to go off on buying cologne or something because it doesn't seem as personable or or something. So she wants to know what's a good gift.
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Is that the general? That is the general gist of it. Well, if I'm going to give a sincere answer, like without like going too in depth, because we can break this down piece by piece. But like in general, here's some boxes that have been checked.
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Right. Number one. you're making him something that you know he likes. Number two, you're attempting to do something you've never done before because you like this person. Number three, you're doing it because it is inspired by a memory that you all had, which means you you know cherish those moments and you're thinking of those things.
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And number four, you're putting another touch on it by writing him a note. These are all things that you are making instead of buying, which is honestly some of the best presents I've ever gotten were either handmade or handwritten or hand created or crafted or just some like a little trinket, like a button or a, you know, um I don't know, like a like a magnet of some sort that was a reference to something I like. It was maybe a few dollars.
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My roommate today just brought me a can of liquid liquid death, dead billionaire and put it on my desk at work today. Like those little things, those are all the things that people will remember. There's nice gestures that you thought of them, that it came from a good place.
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So if he's anybody worth his salt, he'll recognize like all of those things, especially if you say, Hey, I did all these things for you. I did them, you know, in with a ah very dear memory of ours in mind. I hope you like it Please let me know, you know, or maybe even ask him if he wants to make it with you. If you want to jazz it up more, say, Hey, I want to make you your favorite dessert. do you want to do it together? it might be fun to do something in the kitchen together.
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Um, But overall, I think you got a good, that's pretty solid. I think those are just really sweet things to think of and a sweet thing to make and a literally sweet thing to make. So yeah, I think, you know, no notes.
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Yeah, honestly. Oh, go ahead. That's it. I think, I think it's a solid, a solid run. Yeah, honestly, I, I hate to make it a boring question, but like you done good.
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yeah ah Worst case. you make the cheesecake and it's bad and it becomes a funny story later on the line in the relationship, you know, assuming the relationship works out long-term next year for Valentine's day. You go, Hey, remember when I tried to make you that cheesecake and it becomes a silly story, like but like, yeah this is thoughtful. And that's the whole idea.
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um Now, I hate to be that person, but I feel like I wouldn't be doing my due diligence if I didn't warn everyone.
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Don't keep your expectations as high for your significant other. Not saying the boyfriend isn't going to do anything nice back, but it's very hard when you do something this good.
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to not feel like it wasn't reciprocated if he just got you a nice little present. That's a good point. Especially if he doesn't know you're going through all of this work for him, which again, not saying that's what he's going to do. I'm not saying he's not going to do anything.
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And I'm not saying you should lower your expectations to the point where if your significant other doesn't do anything, you just say, oh, well, whatever. I'm not, I'm not worth it anyway. I am not saying that.
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What I am saying is when you go so far above and beyond like this person clearly is. It can be very easy to feel slighted when he just gives you a small trinket or something as like, ah you know, like a nice little necklace. Maybe he found out a kiosk at a mall.
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Showing my age. Right. um So I just want to warn you of that. Yeah, I think you in addition to that point, I think. Yeah.
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you both have to, as you, as this person has mentioned, it's your first serious relationship. Uh, and you know, you don't want, you know, you don't want to create certain expectations, you know, but as long as you give each other grace too, I hope that he's a graceful person and that like, Oh, he also knows,
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If you say, hey I've never made this before, but I thought of you and I wanted to try like to me, even if it tastes like dog shit, I'm going to be like that's so nice that you did that for me. Like, yeah, absolutely. Like anybody worth their salt is going hey, like, that's so cool that you tried. I don't know how to fucking make a cheesecake either.
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um You know, and so but I will also say this. This is where slightly evil Adam is going to come back out in, but it's for good intentions. OK, OK.
Critique of Valentine's Day as a Capitalistic Holiday
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Valentine's Day is a fucking joke, right?
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It is not based on anything other than to get capitalism to boost the economy a little bit and have desperate people try to buy their way into doing something.
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Now, if you as long as you don't create it as like a capitalistic way to spend more money on each other, because right now you're both broke or at least you're not as in a good financial spot. Great. Handmade gifts are the best because then you don't feed into the machine and you still do nice things.
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But also it's Valentine's Day. Like a lot of people put too much stock in a a fake holiday. It doesn't really mean anything, right? Like it doesn't do anything. It's especially when you see the decorations come out at the end of December already for people to start preparing with flowers and whatever. Yeah, I have feelings on Valentine's Day where I don't think you need to actually like You should be Valentine's-ing all the time, not just on February 14th or the weekend of February fourteen That's all I'm going to say.
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So these are nice things to do all the time. And you can follow up with this if it goes well or if it's like, oh, hey, maybe we should do this. Or if he does have a critique, give him grace or, you know, don't take it too hard.
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Or like Danny said, if he doesn't reciprocate in the same way, give it grace. Or if you just like, oh, I didn't if you guys didn't agree on doing Valentine's Day, I've been caught like that before. i was like, hey, I thought we agreed we weren't doing this.
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And then girlfriend does something anyway. I'm like, ah, like, well, now I feel like an asshole. You know, so as long as you both agree, like, hey, let's do something together for Valentine's Day. That's cool.
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But as long as you're doing it together, I think it's less about the gifts and more about the experience. But what I was going to say was if this is like the the the cheesecake thing, especially or even the notes thing, that's something that can happen again in like a week or two. You can say, oh, hey, you know, it'd be really fun.
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Is it next time you're feeling like cheesecake? It'd be really nice to do that together this time. Now that, you know, I'm i'm trying to learn how to do it. You know, that could be something you could do together or you can still leave nice handwritten notes for each other or cards if you want to show that. I've kept literally as many as I can remember every card I've ever gotten in my adulthood.
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I have every i've like probably like well over 100 and some like in a shoebox somewhere. Because like cause that's something that, not everyone has like a handwritten note in them, but a lot of them do. A lot of them have something really sweet written in them that it's just like someone bought this and wrote something with their bare hands. They didn't type it. They had to come up with their own words. They wrote it in their own writing. And it doesn't seem like a big deal, but not a lot of people do that enough.
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And so getting just a nice card is it a wonderful thing. And so you can just get like a little like 20 pack of those little like note card or there's little, there's those little baby cards, right? And just write like, i hate Hey, I was thinking of you and yuck you shove it in his bag when he goes to work or something.
00:13:59
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Like, so just these are things you can continue to do. Don't just put it on one day. Because I think that's part of relationships that people get really stupid about is the only thing they have to try, like on certain days. like It's kind of like the Christmas issue. like Exactly. Why are you only good to your neighbor and like generous and stuff on Christmas? Right. Why is it peace on earth only on December 25th? And it's still not even then because people kill each other over presents. So like, exactly. Like, don't turn it into this novel thing like, oh,
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Because I think it's great that you're looking forward to it and it's a milestone for your relationship, but just don't too put too much stock in it. I think that's ah that's a slippery slope
Unrelated Interests: Skeet Shooting and Accuracy
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that just... Because then what's next? What's after that?
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The next big one is... President's Day. President's Day. And God, you're going to be like, well, I don't want to go to D.C. or I hate the current president. Don't we all? But listen, like, you can't like, you know. Oh, no. I mean, there's only so many eggs you can throw. There's only so many signs you could make. There's only so many bullets you can stock up on. And all I'm saying is that, like, you know, for to go to the range together for a day to learn that. Oh, my.
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Come on, Danny. um I don't know where these guys live. They might be into that kind of thing. Who knows? I want to learn how to shoot. um So thank you shooting.
00:15:26
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Yeah. I've only been shooting once, you know, and it's hard. It's a lot harder than it looks. To be accurate from range. You want to do skeet shooting? I do skeet shooting. Oh, dude, I skeet. Yeah, yeah, sure. Let's go do that.
00:15:38
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Yeah. do you know what skeet shooting is? Yes, I know what it is, but i was going to. You know, I've played Duck Hunt. There's a version of that where you shoot skeet. Yes, there is. Well, they're clay pigeons, but like, I think that's what they mean.
00:15:51
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Yes. Well, that's what we call it was clay pigeon shooting. Yes. um Anywho, all I'm saying is that at the end of the day, if you're gonna like. do these nice little cute little effort things you guys should both be doing them on a regular basis don't just make it around one day a year that you actually try right so anyway rant over danny back to you yeah i mean i can't argue with you uh we have no plans for valentine's day perfect we purposely make sure we don't go out because we don't want
00:16:24
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To have to deal with everybody else out for Valentine's Day. Don't feed the machine, Danny. um the All we're going to do is I'm going to make pancakes at some point.
00:16:35
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Not even that morning because Beluga wants to sleep in. I've had your pancakes. Yeah, I'm just going to make pancakes that day, like yeah lunch or something. That's our Valentine's Day.
00:16:49
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Oh, you know, you should do is you should grab one of her books that she's reading and read a passage from it and record it and then send it to her.
00:16:59
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That's actually not a terrible idea. I know because I came up with it.
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but think it'd be cute. You know, you grab it, you know, cute. She already told me she wants me to to do some of the. audio books for it. So it's like I know going to read it anyway. So, yeah, it wouldn't be. It's a sweet thing. It's something she likes. You know, she knows it's a career that you're pursuing and that you're already you kind of it doing an endeavor in. So it all kind of lines up and it costs you nothing. Just grab one of her books, do a little recording.
00:17:31
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so Time like a text to go out at like 9 a.m. m tomorrow or 11 a.m. m whenever she gets up and then she'll get it when she wakes up. And you're like. That's really. Daniel.
00:17:43
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It's really cute that you put AM at the end of that. i tried You know, I tried to give her like maybe before noon. a
00:17:54
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It all depends because like this morning when I woke up, I woke up to the sound of what I thought was a torrential downpour outside. And it was her crying.
00:18:07
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It was... It must have been almost 100 birds on a roof. Holy shit. you couldn't. It was just constant pitter patter of their feet as they ran around. And then I started like as I woke up a little bit more, I started hearing all the chirping. i was like, holy crap. Like I even brought it up to Umbeluga later. And she was like, oh, my God, it was insane. The amount of birds on the roof.
00:18:34
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She's like, a whole yard was covered with almost like, yeah I thought it was a torrential downpour. Yeah, I wonder what that was about. Maybe they were gathering as a warning. They're coming back. and It's finally timed. The earth is healing. Spring is sprunging.
00:18:47
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I wouldn't say the earth is healing. It's just getting warmer, maybe. Well, it's healing from winter. It's not healing from us. Sometimes winter is the only way that the earth has a chance to maybe heal a little. But but yeah, that's really interesting to How did how did Link take it?
00:19:06
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Did he react to all the birds? Apparently he was ringing his bell at them. So he's he's got one bell that he'll like. You'll talk to him and when he's in the kind of a bitchy mood, he'll just look at you and then ring this one bell.
00:19:20
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So we call it the bell of defiance. Ah. And apparently, Mbeluga said he was ringing that the whole time. That's like man yells at cloud or get off my lawn. Yeah. Get off my roof. d Yeah, get off my roof. It was my roof. Ding.
00:19:39
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I could see that. He's just being a cranky old man. Just get the fuck out of Oh, yeah. Well, he's like six or seven now. He's old. Is that old for a bird? I don't know what the standard like life. Budgies live for five to ten years.
00:19:52
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Really? Yeah. yeah Yeah, they're not super long-term pets. but like Most pets aren't. You know, seven, he's well into his middle ages.
00:20:04
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Well, said five to ten. Yeah. So he's he's a little past middle age. Yeah.
Danny's Pet Bird, Link: The Cranky Bell-Ringer
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but that's exciting. Good diet, I hope. He's old. Yeah.
00:20:15
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Just a cranky old man. He's like, I just want my house a piece. He's a cranky old man. I don't want other birds around here. I actually kind of like the idea of just a bird like ringing a bell to tell other birds to fuck off. It's so funny. Or he's trying to get you guys to go. problem is he'll he'll do it to us, too.
00:20:34
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Yeah. Like, we'll be talking to him and he'll just stare at you and then ring the bell and stare at you. He's just like, dude, get away. I'll be like, don't you dare ring that ding. i thought I told you not sting.
00:20:45
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trying to communicate with you to leave him alone. got to honor his wishes. I can't. When people tell me to leave them alone, that makes me want to annoy them more. yeah Well, you know, he doesn't have very many ways to communicate. you just That's the only way he can let you know. He's trying to sleep. He wants to get out of here. which She said, tell me about it.
00:21:07
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Every time she tells me to leave her alone, I get worse. i see. OK. But Link Link gets me back because every time I walk by, I always, you know,
00:21:19
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kind of put my finger by him so who he can like nibble at it and stuff. Sure. And there will be times where like, I have to pee. So I'll get up and as I'm walking by, I'll absentmindedly put my hand in the cage and kind of play with him. And he'll jump up on my finger and I'm like, well, now I'm stuck here and I really need to pee.
00:21:41
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So you're telling me that you let him nibble on your finger, but I don't get to nibble on your finger. No, you can have my toes. I want to start with your fingers.
00:21:57
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Like, I don't want to go for like words juiciest if I don't even know of like the other stuff. You can have my, yeah, you can nipple my finger. For Valentine's Day, you can do it. Oh, oh, my hero. Thank you. you for You're very welcome.
00:22:10
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About time we get some recognition around here.
00:22:14
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I feel like I just don't get my mom won't anymore these days. ah Your son's your son's a little queer. and That's OK.
00:22:23
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but Just be OK with it. At this point, i feel like my mom would be like yeah, i'm not surprised. That's good. Harry, let's have breakfast sometime. Let's be real. We all know I have a man crush on Adam.
00:22:34
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I hope that's true. You know, sometimes I wonder if you love me as much as I love you. So it's good to hear that. Yeah, absolutely. There's a reason why in our friend group, you're considered my husband.
00:22:47
Speaker
Well, I know you cheat on me with your other friends that are live, live local. Look, I'll tell you what I tell, you know, what I actually just told my other group of friends is. I'm not somebody that has.
00:23:01
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friends, yeah acquaintances, friends and best friends and all that. I just I love everyone. So like, if you're my friend, you're also probably one of my best friends because I wouldn't hang out with you if you weren't.
00:23:15
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Sure. i feel I feel very similarly. hmm. Like i've i've I've spent a long time trying to fine tune and craft around this group of people that make me feel like valued, but also feel valued by me. And sometimes there's a few that have to go and, you know, you prune as you go, but I've been pretty happy lately with just a group of people that like, I'm excited. I mean, I'm excited to meet a lot of people and talk to people. That's just like the nature of my human battery. But like,
00:23:46
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Like the ones that really give me a lot of that fulfillment and the ones that like I feel the most connected to are the ones that also check in on me. And like I didn't realize that was something that I was missing in a lot of relationships in the past until like I got this more over the past five years, especially with like the online crew and fun installers and a lot of my friends, the the people that i have now that I see more regularly or that I hear from more regularly. And I'm like, they actually say like, hey, how's it going? How are you doing? What can we do for you? Do you need help?
00:24:17
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And it's just nice. Like, oh, that's what it feels like to for that. movie be People actually like me. Yeah.
Evolution of Friendships: Reciprocal Support
00:24:22
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Yeah. And it well I hope you you figure out. I hope you figure that this counts for me. Because I know I'm not the best at reaching out, so I want it to be known.
00:24:33
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This is my weekly catch up with Adam. It's true. I'm holding him to the fire here. He's got to tell me it's OK that this is the weekly catch up. I mean, like like I said, i I I it's different in that, like.
00:24:50
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When I have expressed in the past, like, hey, I'm like having a hard time, I'll get back to you or hey, I'm a little tired. you guys and, and, and Kimmy and others have reached out and we're like, Hey, just checking in. How you been, you know? And I, I have friends in my past who I love, who I miss, but like, there's a reason I don't see them as much anymore. I fit all. And it just because, you know, part of its life gets in the way and families happen and it's kind of hard to keep it. I get how that happens. I don't regret, resent that.
00:25:19
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But no when I started getting this other group of people who, started reciprocating in a way that I wasn't used to, I realized like, oh, a lot of my relationships were mostly one sided. Not that they didn't care about me, but there was a less of a effort to express those things. Right.
00:25:36
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So I think I'm very lucky. And also to give my my own self credit, I've been trying to be better about discerning amongst different people to make sure that, hey, is this person going to be good for my mental health as much as I hopefully am for them?
00:25:52
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And so I've been trying to ask more, like, what do I need? You know, what do I need from this friendship or what do I hope that they can give? And so and currently, you know, save for the whole Justin debacle back last year, um which I've always kind of known, and I just kind of held on to it because, you know, I've had it for so long.
00:26:10
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um But everybody so far in my current friend group has been very, you know. Open and sweet and they reach out and they reciprocate and they answer and they can have heartfelt questions.
00:26:22
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or heartfelt conversations and answer tough questions. And yeah, I feel pretty, pretty happy about all that. So to get back to what you were saying, I mean, I'm very grateful we still do this because it's really easy to,
00:26:35
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lose track and skip a week. And then when a month goes by, like has happened before, we just stop doing the show, but we always get back to it. We always try to catch up. We always talk when we can. And, you know, I know you got other stuff going on, but I'm like, Hey, I know at least once a week or at least once every other week, if schedules get crazy, I'm going to get a chance to hang out with my buddy. And I look forward to it.
00:26:54
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It's the only thing that I think you could do to, huh? I said, same here. I love this. Yeah, man, it's a nice way just to decompress and and knowing that like I can be vulnerable with you, but at the same time, just shift gears to something totally stupid.
00:27:07
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And, you know, that's really nice to know that we have that dynamic having like, you know, it's only been a few years since we met. And like, I feel like we've gotten relatively close in a short amount of time.
00:27:18
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So, yeah, I don't I don't expect. I agree. I don't have like high expectations because I'm already grateful for what I have. So everything else is gravy.
00:27:29
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Honestly, the only thing, the only improvement I have that i you know, I think you could do if I can be completely honest with you, Danny, please. You could come visit me once.
00:27:41
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So about that.
00:27:44
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Remember when i I gave some advice On this question saying like, hey, you know, you went really above and beyond. Please don't take it personally. If if like he doesn't do that as, you know, reach that same level. Yeah. I was thinking of you.
00:28:01
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ah For those who need a quick catch up, Adam lives five hours away from me and he has visited me at least twice.
00:28:13
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And he's telling i to visit him and I keep telling him he's insane for driving five hours just to visit me. And I've driven the lion's share of the time when we'd meet up at other locations. It's usually a lot. better know King of Prussia is three and a half to four hours for me. And it's like an hour. change for you Actually, I really would like to get out there one time and visit you. Yeah. But but no, I'm not saying that it's not something I'm just going to do like.
00:28:38
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It's something I want to plan with you and like. Oh, yeah. i Have like a whole weekend or something. I still want to go to Hershey. I bought that ticket and didn't use it. Same. ah We have it, too. Yeah. i was like, damn it. I got to buy new tickets now.
00:28:51
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um Just to the schedule and just it and fucking got away from didn't work. Yeah. A lot of shit went down. A lot of shit went down in the country, the world, our lives.
00:29:01
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um But yeah, ah but that and that's not me saying like, oh, you need to pull your your share. That wasn't me trying to do that. No, I know. I was just saying that would be something that, you know. And it is something I'm trying to to do.
00:29:14
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I do want to go out there, but it's something we're going to plan ahead. Not sure. I would like to even not even just like come to my house. just like, let's like plan something around the area that maybe even I don't get to do that much. So, um yeah, i'll let's say Danny.
00:29:27
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I'm happy with with, you know, the friend group that I have, and I'm always happy to add to it. And I've been very fortunate that my current career also has found me new friends, my new roommate included.
00:29:37
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um So, yeah, I feel like I'm a lot better at that and mentally healthy when it comes to those kind of things and emotionally healthy. And that's in no small part because of you as well, my friend. Thank you. You know, why Adam, I love you.
00:29:49
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I love you, too, you man. Oh, yeah. Hell yeah. Yeah. And that's um what love should be. Absolutely. There's a bromance. Absolutely. Tell men, tell your men friends that you love them.
00:30:02
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Absolutely. Men need love, too. And platonic counts, man. Absolutely. Most people, you know, ah hugs. There's oh, can I tell you about this song? So Dixon, our one of our listeners, actually sent this song to me and it has been my fucking jam for like two weeks. At least it feels like it's been two weeks. I've been playing it so much. I don't know when he sent it.
00:30:23
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It's a song by this band that I'd never heard of before called the Aquabats. And they have a song called Hey Homies. And I wouldn't expect that because when you look at the cover, it's like a bunch of white dudes and like these purple, like weird looking jumpsuit superhero looking things. It's very strange, very like 80s, 90s looking kind of retro look.
00:30:44
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But apparently they're still doing stuff. um And there's this song is called Hey Homies. And it's just about getting hugs. The whole fucking song is just about hugs. Yeah.
00:30:58
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and the And the chorus goes, hey, homies, what's up? Hey, homies, what's up? What was that? We don't need no thugs unless those thugs was giving out hugs.
00:31:14
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It's so fucking good, dude. I've been jamming to it. When Hitch drives with me anywhere, that song comes on at least twice because I'm like, oh, no, replayed it again. Accident. Oh, shucks. It's so fun.
00:31:27
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um And I got to tell Dixon, oh, you know what? I'm just going to hold on to because you'll hear this episode eventually in here. I'll have to I'll have to listen to it. It's so good. I've been amazing. It's so fun. It makes me feel so happy.
00:31:39
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He said it to me and he's like, Hey man, I heard this and I immediately thought of you. And that left such a nice impression on my heart that someone thinks this guy wants to hear a fun song about hugging his friends.
00:31:51
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That's the kind of impression I leave on people. And that, Oh, it absolutely is. i can't tell you, like, I never thought about that before. i always hoped.
00:32:02
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that I leave a good impression or that people think I'm good or that they are happy to see me or be around me. But I never been courageous enough or even thought to ask like, you know, what do I invoke? Who am I to you?
00:32:13
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But when somebody says, Hey, I heard this and I thought of you and it's something that fucking weird, but so funny, but also on the nose with hugging your friends that he thought and Adam would love this song. And you are fucking right. My friend is awesome. Yeah. yeah That Dixon, you got them pegged to rights. You got them.
00:32:30
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it ah that like nailed it right on the bullseye. That's an Adam song thousand percent. um So and very nice. so let this be a lesson to all you listeners.
00:32:42
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You hear a lot about how as you get older, you you know your friend group starts shrinking. You stop ah hanging out with as many people, and that's fine. If you play your cards right, and you're nice person, and you are willing to meet other nice people, that friend group isn't just going to shrink. It's going to tighten to the point where you are all in love with each other. I'll
Platonic Love for Friends: Strong, Loving Bonds
00:33:06
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just say it. you're ah yeah I love all of my friends. I honestly do.
00:33:10
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Platonically... Just, you know, because I have to say that because we're we're here and all this. But yeah, I love my friends. I really do. I love each and every one of you.
00:33:23
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Yeah, and I think it's it's a consistency thing because i don't think to reach out to every friend all the time. i don't think to, know, sometimes just, again, I understand how life gets in the way, but I think when you say you're, that's the thing, is when you say you're going to show up, you show up.
00:33:40
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When you say you're going to be there, you be there. When someone needs needs help or or if they're reaching out, you you you read you know you let them know that you're thinking of them or if, hey, if I can help,
00:33:51
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And it's not an empty promise that they say, hey, actually, i could use some help. You fucking show up. And like, that's how you build those strong friendships that even if you don't see each other every day or every week, you still have that bond.
00:34:03
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And. Yeah. Some consistently has to be there. It doesn't have to be, you don't have to go years between seeing someone until the next birthday, wedding, funeral, whatever life event happens. which' Oh man, it's been yeah all your kids are, you know, they're so grown up, which I know happens. But if you want to keep those strong friendships, you got to just show up.
00:34:23
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You got to let people know you're thinking of them. And sometimes that's all I can do during the week is say, Hey, I was just thinking about you. I hope you're doing well. And I got to tell you, I know when I get those texts, when I get those calls or those voice messages, I'm I love that.
00:34:35
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That makes me feel so happy that this someone thought of me, which is such a beautiful thing for someone to say, which is why i hold on to every card that I get. If someone thought of me, whether it was a holiday, a birthday, Valentine's Day.
00:34:48
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just I've gotten some just becauses, and I do those a lot at work for people who I know are having a rough week. I'll leave them a little note in their mailbox to say, i was thinking about you. Hope you're a good day. Please come see me if you need anything.
00:34:59
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And yeah, I always get good positive responses, and I feel the same way when I get them. So those little things add up. you know People don't often feel like they're valued or don't know that they want to be until you tell them that you
Maintaining Friendships: Communication and Support
00:35:11
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value them. So keep that communication up, and I promise you, you'll forge friendships for our life, man.
00:35:16
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Mm hmm. Absolutely. Took a while for me to figure that out. You know, at least. Yeah, don't think that this is like something we always have done. You know, this. Oh, we're still learning. We're still figuring everything out. But like, let us help you with what epiphanies we have had.
00:35:37
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oh yeah, absolutely. um So, yeah, I think that is. I think that's that's the question. I think we answered it. i think we gave a I think we're good. Yeah, I think we did a good job today.
00:35:51
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Yeah, I think so. You want to go hang out behind the Walmart and make out? No, I want to hang out in front of the Walmart so everybody can see. Oh, he's a bit of an exhibitionist, Daniel.
00:36:03
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um ah Yeah. um So, hey, if you want to send us some questions, please do that. and Slaughter Network dot biz. I'm still hoping that Daniel's mom will send us some.
00:36:15
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I think she said she has, but we never got him on the other one. So I'm hoping. Hi, Mom. I'd love to get a question from Terry. Fun and Solar is not worked out biz. I would love to answer a Terry question. That would be the ultimate prize for me.
00:36:28
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um So make it a good one. Tear, tear. All right. I got this. Hey, Mom, if you're listening to this right now, I'm not coming to visit you until we've gotten a question from you on TOQ. Oh, shit.
00:36:42
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OK, well, there we go. We'll get one right away when this comes out. The gauntlet has been talk a cast um trip in may oh i'll cancel it that's fine i don't know if those tickets are refundable or not we cancel the may trip oh it's fine i'll cancel them and just make my parents pay us back because it's their fault we didn't go that's right down to there and just not visit them oh that's even more insulting do that we'll go we'll come and visit your state but we're not gonna we're not gonna see you unless you've asked a question toq yet
00:37:19
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And it's got to be a good one. don't want no like bullshit like, oh, how are you? Yeah. No, no. Give me a real question to answer. Give us something existential. And no math.
00:37:30
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No math. No math. I hate math. Oh, fuck. Um, okay. Well, yeah. So send us some questions, especially if your name is Terry. Um, by the way, we appreciate you all. Thank you so much. Uh, Danny, go ahead and say any other goodbyes you have before we wrap up this bad boy. What Adam just said. Absolutely. Uh, appreciate you guys. Like always we do this in part because it's fun to mess around with our friends, but we also do it to try and bring smiles to people, uh, whether we know them or not. And just you knowing that you're listening
00:38:01
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makes a world of difference to us. We hope we bring you some light in your life, some joy in your day. If you are enjoying this, please tell somebody else about it, somebody else you think doesn't mind some stupid crass humor or better or or actual answers to better questions and stuff. But we we really do appreciate every listen and we appreciate you and you are loved.
00:38:26
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Even though I don't know you, I do love you. And I hope that you have a good life and you get everything good that you deserve. Yeah. So having said that, I think, um you know, please, if you like the show, please share it. ah Take one person that you know that trusts your word and say, hey, you should check out this podcast or.
00:38:51
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If you're somebody who likes to make clips, please do that because I don't have a good enough social media presence to do that. Although I should. Or if you just want to take some quotes that you like, or if you just want to give us some feedback, I i have finally been able to go through on our old Spotify and look at old notes that people have been leaving us. That's been really great. Thank you to those of us who left some comments on those episodes. Those are really awesome.
00:39:18
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Thank you. Thank you for doing that. And also, hey, go to Podchaser because we haven't been as present on Spotify just because some things have been going on over there. But if you're still listening there, please, that's great. Keep doing it. I understand.
00:39:30
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But if you want to leave us some better reviews, you can go to Podchaser.com. And find TatsRQ on there. We're definitely on there. And you can leave reviews on every single episode. Not that I expect you to do that.
00:39:41
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But if there's one that you really like, if you want to leave some criticisms or give us some star ratings, that is something I'm trying to be better about because I think it's a really great place for... people to find new podcasts. Podchaser is a very trusted place.
00:39:53
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And so the better the ratings, the better the reviews, the more likely they'll get recommended for people who are looking for similar kinds of podcasts. So podchaser.com, look up TOQ on there. Please let us know.
00:40:05
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um If you do that, it would really mean a lot to us. So podchaser, I barely know her. Oh, shit. I was trying to come up with something that for cheesecake for the title episode, but I couldn't think of anything.
00:40:17
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How about if you can't make a good cheesecake, you are an unlovable loser. That's a bit long. Can you shorten that? ah I'm a cheesecake, baby. Why don't you eat me? Yeah.
00:40:32
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Matt cheesecake, bring all the boys to the yard. Oh, yeah. Oh, we're we're on this. I'm there. Shit. Shit. We're so close to something. Did you see that? um Little current event news for you, but somebody was successfully rickrolled Rick rolled Rick Astley.
00:40:50
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Oh, that's awesome. Yeah. Somebody won the Internet. Was he happy? He was he said, Bravo, he did an AMA and he was like, Bravo, I was able to dodge all of them so far, but you got me.
00:41:03
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Oh, man. He took it like a champ. Love that for him. Love that for us. Love that for the Internet. And and I love you, Danny. So I love you, too, Adam.
00:41:14
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Happy Valentine's Day. Happy just friendship time. Fair enough. Happy, happy loving in your bro time. That's right. Happy loving you everyone. Happy loving in your bro time. Go love your bros. Your bros need some loving.
00:41:29
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Love your bros. Love your sisters. Love your non-binary gremlins. Love them all. Let them know that you love them. And if and if hey, and if you heard this episode and you love us, you should let us know. Yeah.
00:41:41
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Tell me you love me. Tell me you love me. Tell him you love me.