Pretty Baby Bubble Bumpers

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Speaker: bamper down paper down and am um I'm glad you like those i do they're really good they're perfect thank you i I think I have a catalog of those somewhere on the Ko-Fi of just like i don't know if you buy them or if there's just for free but I think I have a catalog of music somewhere that someone can just have can't remember.

Speaker: Anyway, yeah hey, listeners, we're just getting things set up here for the stream. We're about to kick it off here in a second. So you're just here for the early stuff. Well, you're not here for early stuff because no one else can hear what we're like doing.

Speaker: But Danny's going to go live here any minute. um And so then we'll actually get the conversation started. but Oh, any minute? I still got minutes? Oh, perfect. Yeah. We just want to let you know that we all really care about you loads, heaps even.

Speaker: um And Danny and I haven't really gotten to Get together a little while because life gets in the way and life changes happen. And, you know, we're back to it. And so you'll have to hear about it in the actual episode. Yeah. have the average what would Yeah. Well, pretty. Which is starting right now.

Speaker: right. I don't see it yet. So I need to make sure that. i Oh, OK. Hang on. We can't start yet. There's a delay. So Adam hasn't seen it yet. yeah We can't, you know. He doesn't trust that I started it yet. I'm an audience member. I also want to make sure audience can hear us, because we've had issues like that before as we, you know, do the thing. look at that. I see us. I see our faces. I see us.

Speaker: I love that our that the Fun and Saar's logo's on there twice. I never noticed that before. Is it? it's not. not It is. Oh, damn it. I love that. you know why? Because I have it as a watermark for...

Speaker: YouTube like it yeah on the YouTube video. It is not on the stream itself. Yeah, it's not. Anyway, check, check one, two. Here we go. Buck on my shoe. Hello. No sound, boys. All right. We're doing it.

Speaker: We're doing it. You can hear me now, I bet. I bet you can hear me now because I just turned on the volume. There we go. ha, ha. That's why I didn't want to start until I knew.

Speaker: Nailed it. Uh-huh. Now we're cooking with Crisco. This is why we need to have. People so good at this. Listen, to you we're getting there. It's fine. I haven't streamed in long time. So good at this. God, there were times where like when I was a newer streamer that like I went for so fucking long without having my sound on and just went back to like use the VODs for videos and just I had nothing.

Speaker: I also did one where I did pre-recorded things um on Streamlabs and had people on. I think you might have been part of it. I can't remember. Were you there for the Who Wants to Be a Millionaire thing?

Speaker: I can't remember. But anyway, we did like a who wants to be a millionaire stream. I don't think so. And like three of the videos that i recorded on Streamlabs ended up being garbage. And I only had the video and no audio because fucking didn't turn it on.

Speaker: I recorded three in a row that day and fucking had shit to use. Anyway, are you ready, Danny? No, hang on one sec.

Speaker: Oh, no. About to hear some really loud music for a second. What's happening over there? I wanted to add the background music. You want add the background music to the stream? On stream, yeah, yeah. So it started at full volume. So sorry in a second when everything was really loud. Well, people that are on the stream, let us know if it's too loud.

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Speaker: it was indeed too loud. and It's quiet again. Okay, great. you know you can turn that down before you put it on there, right? couldn't. No. ah fuck i don't think I am able to. Anyway, we have ah we have a question here, but before we get to it, Danny, I was hoping you would share some good news because I know there's a little bit of a change as much as you're allowed to share that you feel comfortable to share, but I do think it's um exciting. I'm very happy for you, and I just want... You know, because i think you've mentioned on the show before a struggle, so...

Speaker: I think it's true. Are you willing to talk about it? Everybody. No, no, it's fine. Everybody. Your boys employed. Your boys employed.

Speaker: i don't start yet, but I'm still doing the pre boarding stuff. But yeah, when I got a job, alright I start the 22nd. 22nd. twenty second I still got a couple more weeks. OK, a little bit. And but but the end is couple of weeks because it is an insane amount of stuff they want me to do.

Speaker: Yeah. Oh, man, I started at some jobs are like you have to get certain like ah like background checks from like three different sources. You have to get like child abuse. You have to get um like two different kind of drug screenings and like schedule like a full on physical at one point.

Speaker: i was um just telling dad on but right before we started that I had to. I had to do a background check. I had to do my first like real drug test where it's like you don't just pee in a cup, but you pee in a cup with all your stuff locked in a room. It had a thermometer on it so that they could tell if the temperature was off.

Speaker: What? Yeah. That's crazy. had to submit photos of my passport and then immediately schedule an interview with a live representative to show them my passport so that they could verify that the photos I sent in are of me with my passport.

Speaker: It was a whole thing. It's insane. Yeah. Well, you don't have to say the name of the company or anything. Oh, I don't have the clearance to do that. Yeah. Yeah. What is the what is the job? Like, what will you be doing? I'm basically going to be doing inventory for a pharmaceutical lab.

Speaker: Interesting. So is that, is that maintaining inventory? Is that acquiring things? Like what does that mean? It's maintaining. They have a whole warehouse that's going to make deliveries of the equipment. It's my job to order the equipment.

Speaker: And then once they're delivered, I have to, yes. Well, kind of, but I'm ordering it right from the warehouse it's not like ordering it off of your own stock yeah yeah the food bank and then once they deliver it it's my job to inventory it and make sure everything is where it needs to be some of it needs to be refrigerated some of it doesn't that's so fascinating that um because danny you interviewed at this place for what three different jobs at the same company or two i have about 80

Speaker: eighty ah ah applications in with them with them active with them they had 80 positions open no I have eight well I guess they do because I have 80 applications going through with them right now and how does that finally took because you had because I can get into my I had multiple interviews for the same position like different openings of the same position yes Different openings of the same position. Like they posted a job. I went to the interview for that job, but didn't get it.

Speaker: And then they posted the same job, but they needed more person. I got the interview again. That's so funny. Didn't get the job. That's insane. Why wouldn't they just call you and be like, you know, we already talked to you twice. I don't know. They even mentioned it when I went into the interview the second time. The guy was like,

Speaker: Weren't you here before? Are you still looking for a job? i was like, yes, yes, I am. No, I'm just here because I really love practicing interviews. But yeah, something finally worked out. The stars aligned.

Speaker: And yeah, I start on the 22nd. Very excited. This going be cool. Yeah, man, that's great. is that Is that correct me if I'm wrong? I thought you said you also applied there for like an accounting position.

Speaker: I did. Did you interview for that one, too? I did. And I did get that one. So you interviewed you. So you did also interview multiple times for different positions at the same company.

Speaker: All in all, I done.

Speaker: Five or six interviews for this company. And one of them was a different job entirely. Like your actual specialty. This one was not the one that I went for three times either.

Speaker: I had three different positions that I interviewed for. That's what I thought you did you said. Okay, what were the other two positions? One was just working in the lab, helping process things. Like a lab assistant. And then the other one was um accounts receivable.

Speaker: Which is crazy that you didn't get that one, because that's like what your bread and butter is.

Speaker: Fucking crazy. Next time. i'm excited for you, though, to kind of least with this, i I have a job, I have a paycheck coming in, and I can use that as a springboard to move around the company. can always move laterally or up.

Speaker: Yeah. Right. It's something. So I'll take it. Yeah. Somebody leaves the accounting and you go, well, hey, you know, I could probably like do that, like while I'm done managing the inventory. And they're like, oh, yeah, that that was a bit of a bummer because that one was like fully remote, heavy in Excel.

Speaker: Yeah, it's a shame. I'm interested to hear how it goes, though, man. I'm super excited for you I've been thinking about you and I was wondering about like if if that took hold because you had mentioned that place several times. i was like, they've got to like be at this point. It's like it's got it practically works here. Yeah, it was. ah It was funny because we didn't do TOQ last week because I was in Texas for a wedding.

Speaker: And not only was there a wedding, but the day before the wedding was Mbeluga and I's 10 year wedding anniversary. And I got the email that night that I got the job.

Speaker: Nice. So it was like a nice little ending to our 10 year anniversary. Yeah. The next 10 years, a different thing entirely. So exciting. Well, yeah. So you got a couple more weeks just to kind of get all your other ducks in a row, but.

Speaker: That's exciting, man. I've been like, yeah, should be good. I'm very excited for it. Yeah, me too. I think I do you get the impression, like, is it a bigger comp? Like you said, like all these other things, all these other applications. So like, is it a large a company?

Speaker: Yes, it is. And it's a company that is continuing to get larger ah with no signs of slowing down. it the one downside, i guess, for me with this job.

Speaker: This building that I have to deliver around is huge. So you're going to get a lot of steps in. Yeah, it's it's like five or six city blocks long.

Speaker: And um they have labs all over the place and I'm going have to go all over which way. That's ah that's like so anti you. That's so funny. Yeah, because you and I are talking about how like you don't like to park very far. You prefer not to have to move. Yeah, and you're gonna be fucking dude. You're gonna have like gonna bere it's legs, man. You're gonna be fucking like I like i already warned blue ago. I'm like these these daily walks if once I start this job that ain't happening.

Speaker: I'm sorry, but My job is going to be my daily walkies. They don't give you like a little ah motorized pallet jack to like scoot around on and shit? No, sir. I got a good set of getaway sticks. That's what I use. What do they give you a little cart to push around?

Speaker: No, I don't even need it because they deliver the goods. Sorry, wires. They deliver the goods to the lab. It's, you know, I don't have to. Oh, you're not delivering it.

Speaker: No, i'm I'm not delivering it. I am just inventorying it and taking the delivery and putting it where it needs to go. mean, they should get you like a little scooter. You can just scoot around. Give me like a Razor scooter or like um a hoverboard.

Speaker: Give me a hoverboard. Yeah, yeah. Or those' one of those big wheels I see all the kids riding around on these days. Those big wheels are pretty cool. You know, we started ah we started watching Falling Skies while we were gone.

Speaker: Great show. And... as a product of its time at the start, they it's one kid's birthday and they give them a rip stick. You remember what rip stick is?

Speaker: Rip stick is that, that's not like the real big, like you pull it off and it does a little spinny thing, like a giant Bay blade. and No, then what's This was a, Oh God. How do you even describe it? It's like a skateboard with only two wheels.

Speaker: And the middle twist. Yes. And you were supposed to like shimmy with it in order to move around. I, yes, I do remember these. When the kid, recall when the kid rode around on that, i was like, oh man, the nostalgia.

Speaker: Oh yeah. I would eat shit on that though. There's oh absolutely. yes I know exactly. Yeah. I know what you're talking about now. It almost looks like the, each end of the, The skateboard is kind of like looks like it's pedals, like just like little fins. It was it was prime.

Speaker: We don't care about safety right now. Oh, yeah. That is too, man. Razor scooters. I've hurt myself on those a lot. I got so many shindings from fucking riding on a Razor scooter. loved my Razor scooter. Oh, God.

Speaker: The shit that people learn how to do on those. I'm like, I can barely go down a hill without hurting myself. I was able to go no handed and do ollies on it. Woof. Yeah, I don't know, man.

Speaker: My shins are hurting just thinking about it. I love those. Well, we get now. Yeah. There's so many physical things I want to learn how to do, but like, if I fall once, I'm probably fucked forever. Like, I want to go back to learning how to skate, but like falling one real bad fall, like the one summer, like really shook me. was like, fuck, that hurt. It's going so long to recover from a skate fall. as was like, shit, dude.

Speaker: Last time Mbeluga and I went snowboarding. we don't know how to stop. So to stop, we just fall on purpose. Yeah. And I guess I'll die. Yeah. I, I just, I try to fall backwards, you know, and just kind of skate on my ass and I hit a lip and it flung me forward and knocked the wind out of me. And I was like, done for the rest of the day. I was like, that, that's it.

Speaker: I'm done. I don't blame you. Not a one bit. Yeah. Um, when I, my first big fall for skating, I've had a few, but my first big one, i went down like a new series of sidewalks and right alongside like this new river project, like a few years ago, they were working on those, what they call like the, the riverfront project or some shit.

Speaker: Um, and God, I, I felt during like, like I was the, the sidewalk I was on was right along like a main drag of highway. And there was a red light there.

Speaker: And like everybody stopped at the red light. And for some reason, my dumb ass started looking at the cars like, oh, wow, it's a different way to kind of look at the cars. Look at me. I'm on wheels like you. You know, just like ADHD moment. And like i hit something and fucking like hit my right ribs on the ground and bruised my whole right side. That when I took my shirt off later and looked at how bad I actually hurt myself, I swear to God, it looked like the country of Africa on my body. Oh, It started like really small at the bottom, worked its way up. and was like this big fucking heart-shaped looking thing.

Speaker: And I was like, I have a continent on my body. And dude, it was just all purple. And I was like, oh, God. God, that was so bad. it's Scared the shit out of me. Knocked the wind right out of me. And people were like in traffic. And one guy like yells out to me. goes, buddy, you okay? like Do you need help? Do you want me to call somebody? like no He's like, no. I remember, man. I remember when I used to be able to get hurt and just bounce back.

Speaker: Those were the good old times. Mm. Yeah, yeah, i'm I'm trying to get back to that now. Yeah, I don't know. But also, um... chiming in the chat, Paint the Stars says, we were in downtown the other day, and a full-on businessman crossed the street on a Razor scooter, briefcase and everything. What the fuck?

Speaker: I aspire to be that man. that's I would to love that. What do the kids say? That's a mood. That's a mood. Big mood. I don't know what that mood is. Oh my god, you're so unk. Ew. I said the words earlier during our lunch. I said the word low-canually and everybody was like looked at me they're like, oh, ew. Ew.

Speaker: And I didn't say it. didn't say it. i didn't say like lokely I didn't say it genuinely you know like Instantly uncool.

Speaker: And then I said choo-gi and bust in and I think I forget what else the fuck I said. I can't remember. But like I'm just like, God, I hate it. They feel like they have to invent words instead of just learn the fucking words and use them in a sentence. Oh, yeah. That's because they can't read it. Anyway.

Speaker: and up i think Before we start, can I tell you about a dream I had of you? ah Yeah, actually, I would love if you told me my dream you had of me. What did I have that? I have animal parts.

Speaker: You did not. Actually, this was you at work. And this was on probably one of the most normal dreams I've ever had. That's funny. It was you at work designing a new like team building kind of company spirit kind of thing like you did with the plushies and everything.

Speaker: Yeah. And this one, I wanted to tell you about it because I was like, this actually sounds like a really cool Adam idea. What you did was you got a cheap digital camera and you took a selfie with it and then you took a selfie with someone else with it.

Speaker: And then you gave them the camera and said they had to take a selfie with someone else and then give them the camera. And then you printed all the pictures. So it was you, then you and a A, and B, B and d C and D. woke up that morning and I was like, i have to tell him about that. I bet you he would do that.

Speaker: Yeah. Like, it's funny you say that. Cause I'm like working on like a new initiative to like connect people. And I'm also working on like a new professional development idea for this employee group I'm in.

Speaker: And somebody just asked me the other day, cause like Jerry tomato is what you're referring to. And I was passing like this giant red tomato ball around the food bank. Somebody recently was like, where's Jerry been? I haven't seen him in a while. You should bring him back out. And he's like currently hiding under my desk. Cause like, i don't know what to do with him anymore.

Speaker: Cause it kind of ran its course, but yeah. ah but that is absolutely something that I would do. I'd just like, take this and take a picture of yourself with someone else. Yeah, take a selfie with somebody and then give them the camera and have them... You know what, Danny? I might just do something like that just for you and then show you the pictures because I think... I would be honored.

Speaker: um I don't know how I would blend them all together to... um Oh, my... so yeah dream shop In my dream, you just had, like, the conspiracy theorist hack board with pictures all over it. Oh, my God.

Speaker: And you were showing it to me and you were like, yeah, welcome. You know, you finally get to see where I work. This is my latest project. Oh, dude, I would love. You were so proud of it Yeah, I love shit like that, dude. Um,

Speaker: I just started pitching like a board within the food bank. That's not the main board that owns the food bank. And it's a board of like, cause we have these things called employee groups that like facilitate different activities or kind of support and like their own the way that you can join.

Speaker: And I was like, I just took the leadership of one of them, like about a month or ish ago. um And I was like, so I got put into like a new group chat where like some of the other leaders are in there and I was like, there's not enough people in here. and There's stuff I want to do with all of you, but when you're not all here.

Speaker: I realize that we don't do enough stuff together as like a combined unit. should we guys like Do you guys want to like do it like all of us? good with something And they were like, well, what do you mean? I was like, you want to have like a board? There's a board of all of us, and we all just decide together like big things that happen if all of us voice at the same time we want to do something. they're like,

Speaker: Oh, like, how do we do that? So I asked the director today, one I was like, hey, if I just wanted to fucking do a thing, can I just do it? And he's like, yeah, I don't see why you would need our permission to do that. And I was like, stick. so I want to go back on Monday and be like, guys, guess the fuck what I just found out?

Speaker: i was like, so I'm really in like an ask forgiveness later kind of thing. I'm like, no one said I couldn't. it it Yeah, because you're you're such a bad boy. You're going get in so much trouble, I'm sure. i am trying to disrupt in the right way.

Speaker: Oh, Danny, we haven't even gotten to the question yet. I could tell you this whole other fucking story that's been happening to me over the last seven days. No, go ahead. People, du you're going to have to sit and wait on this one. It's been two weeks. All right. I'm sorry. Adam and I have to catch up. This is very important.

Speaker: Well, I don't know how much I can share, but I'll tell you this, man. that Like, I was talking to HR a lot over the like past couple of And for the first time, me and the HR director got into like a little spat because of a question I had asked during like an HR...

Speaker: like an HR, uh,

Speaker: it's like a designated time that like they create for you to show up and ask HR questions essentially. And so I showed up and asked a specific kind of question while the other, while the union rep for the people who work in our warehouse was there. And it turned into a whole Adams trying to start a union thing. And it was just very interesting.

Speaker: Um, oh and just, it created, there's just so much that happened. Like there was a lot of ebb and flow. And it just was a lot of toss. It was just, God, it's just hard. Cause like, I don't know how much to say, cause cause people know where I work and I don't want it to come off as like, Oh, there's like,

Speaker: trouble brewing in the food bank because there isn't. It just felt like there was like this crazy, weird misunderstanding that just led to like me being at ends at odds with all of HR at one point. And I was like, hmm, how did get myself in this predicament? Only for like another director and my supervisor at one point be like, yeah, you're not in trouble. I don't know why HR thinks this. Another guy came in. was like yeah, don't only worry about that. They're crazy. You didn't do anything wrong. You went and did the right thing. They just took it the wrong way. That's on them. And it was like a whole crazy thing.

Speaker: And then I made up with them. and then the big bad HR lady that everybody doesn't like, I ended up being even closer with, you know, which was crazy because most people don't trust her. And I'm like, I think you just like the whole HR. We're scared of HR.

Speaker: So I've been trying to work on connecting people to HR and executive leadership as like, ah don't be afraid of the people who are in charge. You know, they're people too. And also trying to bring challenges from people at my level up because people always don't often don't know who to turn to. And so me just like poking around, like made people think I was trying to start union because I asked the question like, well, if you get in trouble, can you have a friend there with you? Like if they if you sign a paper that says like you can be there like to like be support.

Speaker: And they were like, hmm. Because it like crazy that just being like, hey, can I have one person help me immediately sends red flags? Right. Because like the times we live in there for the because our warehouse workers have of a union from like a 30 year old initiative that happened long before.

Speaker: And so the J.D.s never got rid of it. And so he was talking about like why they that they have like a rep that they can elect to come and speak on your behalf or be there with you.

Speaker: And so I asked loosely, I said, is that like, well, not like the representative thing. Can just have like a buddy if I'm in trouble, like be in the room as like a witness. And it just started this whole thing and it just really got the fuck away from me. And i was like, I didn't know this was going to be that. I didn't mean it.

Speaker: And it was like crazy. And then like after it was all said and done, the director of my team, which is supply chain strategy, came up to me and goes, man, even if you were trying to start a union, this is a no but a non-retaliatory company.

Speaker: No one can fire you for trying to start a union. He's like, so like like you didn't do anything. Even if you told me right now you were going to, you can't get fired for that. Cool, man. I really appreciate you telling me that. Cool. Hey, will you sign this? Yeah.

Speaker: Yeah, that's great. Hey, so anyway. And just to troll some people, I have like one of those little desk mates at my desk that says like if you're in a meeting or whatever. And on the very back page, it's just a dry erase section.

Speaker: And so I always write like a little funny doodle or like a joke or something there every week for people to laugh at or ask questions about. And I just wrote the words onion eyes on there. And one person said onion eyes. And I was like, oh, you know, like the song onion eyes.

Speaker: And they're like, okay, whatever. Another person comes up, shit gives me something to sign like for like a collab that we're doing. And she goes, Onion Eyes, what's that? Oh, I get it. And i was like, I knew you would because she's one of the people I talked to him about.

Speaker: She goes, oh, onion eyes. Yeah. Onion. Union eyes, maybe you have anyway. union eyes Yeah, it was just a very funny, but also very stressful week.

Speaker: And yeah, it I wish I could say more, but like I don't want to paint the food bank in a bad way because like. ended up having some really good conversations with the people involved. And like a lot of it was just like a assumption all around.

Speaker: And, you know, that's all the more reason to just like talk shit out instead of just like wait for it, you know, or let people let rumors spread. um And then my director said one of the sweet, because my supervisor had been out, she was having some family challenges and show. So my, I was speaking a lot more to the director who was like her supervisor.

Speaker: And um he said one of the nicest things to me when I talked to him before the big, big talk, because he just said, Hey man, I just want to check in. Like, how's everything going? Like, i you know, I know this has kind of gotten out of hand and like, I'm trying to help you kind of work through it. Cause I've known this person for a long time. And she really expressed how like, she thought you guys had a good relationship. So she wants to patch it. And you said the same thing. So as we were talking, he told me at the end of our, of our chat,

Speaker: I don't remember the exact words, but he essentially he said, you know, he's like, I don't say this about a lot of people, but I think that you are a very excellent and very sincere communicator, um which is really sweet of him to say.

Speaker: and he said, like, you know, I don't say this about everybody because frankly, and everybody is. He's like, but I appreciate that you have good intentions, that you always follow up, that you tell people what you mean, that you try to, you you know, you try to get in front of problems.

Speaker: When a problem does happen, you always want to try to wrap it up and get in front of that too. He's like, not everybody makes that kind of effort. And like, you know, I think the team is better for you here because everybody around the food bank like appreciates that you reach out to them and that you try to connect with them. And like, I just wanted, you know, that's not unseen. People see what you do.

Speaker: And that was just a really nice thing to hear when I was already like really stressed out about everything that had been going on. No, that that's very nice. And so I went to all the right people in the very beginning, the moment that thing happened. And i was like, hey, I think this something bad happened.

Speaker: I talked to all the right people and tried to get in front of it. And he was like, man, you like did so much work that you didn't have to do. um You know, it was just a really nice thing to hear. Cause like, you don't always know.

Speaker: i think we've probably talked about it on the show before, but like not everybody knows what you think of them. You might just assume that like, oh, my brother, my cousin, my friend, my bestie, my whatever, like knows how I'm feeling.

Speaker: But like, that's not always the case. And so like, you don't quite know how others see you sometimes. um And so it was just, it was nice to hear that out loud because like, you never know like how people think of you. So that really gave me at least enough confidence to go into the talk and like finish it. And I'm still working through some stuff that happened, but ultimately like that left me at least feeling wild tired emotionally. Um,

Speaker: hopeful that like maybe if he was able to to confess that maybe like he said others notice it that maybe that means other conversations are happening too and they're like hey adam's really trying to make some moves yeah i wouldn't be surprised if he told you that because conversations were happening and somebody brought you up and they were like oh yeah he always talks to me and somebody else went oh me too and Yeah. yeah i wouldn't be surprised at all.

Speaker: i would Yeah, I hope so. um But like it left me feeling so emotionally drained over the past couple of days that yesterday I was a goddamn rock. like I could barely fucking move. I was so deflated.

Speaker: I almost called you. i was like, man, I just need you just tell me something nice. I was like so fucking... um I didn't realize just how much i needed to extrovert to like power myself back up because I was just so...

Speaker: hired and ah physically I'd been doing a lot too. I was just very physically exhausted, but I think that mental dam of like trying to hold all these different realities and conversations and potential things happening and trying to figure out what happened and how to get here? And, you know, and then some people chiming in that ended up leaving me more disappointed in their response than,

Speaker: don't know. It was weird. Like there's a couple of different people in that department. And the one that I liked the most ended up by the end of that conversation falling much farther in the rankings. And the one that I thought would be the most adversarial was the one that supported me the most. And it really just shook how perceived some people. That's interesting.

Speaker: And I was like, what the fuck? How did I end up leaving liking you way more? Like, I didn't think you would be the voice. Welcome to the Twilight Zone. It was crazy. So, yeah, I was just really worried coming into today. But like, I really caught a second wind um at the end of the day yesterday and into this morning and gave myself a lot more breaks when I needed them.

Speaker: And like I feel so much better now. um I was like, God, I can't wait to talk to Danny now. Like I was so worried I was going to be a drag by the time I got here. um But ah but yeah, anyway, that I know that's kind of a vague telling of the story because like I don't want to get too into the Pacific. No, I wouldn't want you to get in trouble over it. You know, it's not even so much getting in trouble. I just don't want to paint my because I speak very openly about where I work.

Speaker: And so like I don't want to make it seem like I'm trying to start anything. is It was just something that. Right. Like a union. It's a very exactly. You know, there's a lot of human element of people that like made mistakes and assumptions, myself included, that just like you're like, wow, I don't know how we got here. And so it was good to finally like be able to put a lot of that to bed. Yeah.

Speaker: And yeah, and if I want to start a union, i know way more about it now. There you go. its okay Not that I think we need one, but like, you know, you never know. Like, and I think if people are already saying, hey, Adam's a mover and a shaker, maybe, maybe ah you know, who knows?

Speaker: And I won't get fired for it, which is great. um But I like where I work and I like the people I work with. I'm just glad that ultimately, like, for the for the most part, like what I, I'm glad that I was surprised for the most part in a good way that like,

Speaker: while the misunderstandings were there, the conversation ended up being really good. so I'm really happy that it turned out that way. and then And then that compliment, I think, really just helped me feel probably more seen than I realized that I probably needed to feel. So that was a really nice thing. So just to kind of lead back to like launching off of this into a question, though, like I think That's a little lesson that like, just like when I told that story of the the winter fucking snow and everything, like there's just these humbling moments where you just think, you know, what's happening. You think, you know, what's going on. You think, you know, how someone feels, you think you've expressed something the right way, whatever that may be.

Speaker: And it just fucking kicks you right in the dick, man. And you're like, nope, I still have so much to fucking learn about how to listen, how to communicate, like how things work or how I thought you never finished learning. You know, it's one of those things you just always have to learn.

Speaker: No. and And I like how you got, I like how you got Adamed. I did. adam got adamed Somebody came up to him and said exactly what Adam would say to somebody else. Yeah. And I think I needed that because like, I think there was a moment where I think I also brought a teaching moment to people in leadership because they asked me a lot of really good questions about where some of these questions, my questions came from, which was very telling for me to think like, Oh, these guys really do want to make sure that you know but as the company grows, it's harder to maintain everybody likes their happiness and they want to make sure this feels less corporate and feels more familial.

Speaker: And like getting somebody who's not afraid to approach them and say, hey, here's the vibe. Here's what I propose. Here's what doesn't work. But I also see you and what you've already done.

Speaker: can i be a liaison of some sort so that's crazy i've tried to do exactly that at some other like past jobs and it did not go nearly as well as that like i went to upper management and i was like hey look you know this was a long time ago this wasn't even my last job this was like before that right um i remember i went up to leadership and i was like hey morale in the office is you know real bad like just the decisions they were making with people and stuff. I was like, yeah, I just told them this, you know, you might want to just know that this is what people are saying and everything. I honestly thought I was helping.

Speaker: He did not see it that way. He saw it as me not being a team player. It didn't come nearly as well as yours is. No, which is you work with some really cool people.

Speaker: Yeah, that that was like ultimately like why like I was like, ah I don't want it to seem like a whiplash if I say like these are all the bad things people feel and then ah, surprise. It's just like, you know, again, I think that you people build.

Speaker: know, I think it's easy when you especially if you haven't worked in like I've worked in nonprofit places where it is like that, you know where it is like you know so you try to give like good feedback and they're like, all right, well, fuck you, buddy. you know Because nonprofit work, depending on what sector you're in, is really hard.

Speaker: um But like this place in particular is like, I feel a lot braver to make these approaches because I think for the most part, the people that are there, and I can't say everybody because like I don't know everybody.

Speaker: But like the people that I know that are there, I think regardless of how they go about it, I think they're there for the right reasons, you know? And I think that's like really rare to find in a, in a workplace.

Speaker: And um so, but it's easy to still look at somebody because of past job experience, such as like what you described to think like, oh, this is going to be a mountain and I'm going to get a lot of resistance.

Speaker: And like, it's easy for colleagues who are like, that's why I was trying to play a middle person. who work on a similar level to assume like, oh, they don't know anything. They're so disconnected. They don't care about us when like maybe they are disconnected, but it's because they have so much more to do that they they rely on someone like me to say, okay, it's very true that when you become management, people treat you like the people you used to work with. If you get promoted to management, we'll treat you differently. They're not gonna say no. You know, ah people become yes men, not just because they're sycophants, but also because

Speaker: it's not uncommon in America to get in trouble in one way or another for criticizing your company in any way.

Speaker: Yeah. So I, and you're right. i and I, I see that as, you know, in, in people I've worked with or who I work with now who might still need to like kind of shake some of that off because it is a different environment, but, but it was just a lot of just,

Speaker: my assumption, their assumption, I think we all left it like feeling like we learned something, which was really important. That's good. And so I got Adam to and I Adam at the same time, which was really nice. But um yeah, anyway, all that to say, people, you don't always know like how things work and it's important to ask questions.

Speaker: And once you ask those fucking questions, ask them with the intent to actually learn. and not just like get a gotcha because you're not going to get anywhere. And the last thing I'll add to that before we move on, i think it's important because this comes up a lot is if you have a problem with your company or if you have a problem with how something works, whether it's societally, and in in your job functions, you know in your community, whatever that may be, you can't just bitch about it.

Speaker: like you can't like If you just want to complain, talk to your therapist or tell your friend you need to vent. But like if you're like, i don't understand why this doesn't do this, and i don't understand why it doesn't do that, and I wish they would do this, and you're not to actually push for that change or rally with other people to do it, then like you don't get to complain anymore, man. like There's something that just kind of happens a lot where people want change, but then you say, well, what does that change look like? And you go, don't know. It helps if you come with ideas or at least if you help figure out what ideas don't work. So like feedback is important.

Speaker: And what I see a lot is people who want change or they want something new, but they don't give feedback as to what that is. And it's like, well, then like, you know, I don't know, like that's not productive. So like you're just being a radical for sake of being a radical.

Speaker: You have to be a radical with an idea in mind of what change looks like. You have to be a disruptor to know like, hey, this doesn't work, but it's because this might work better. You know, like it's just being a disruptor for sake of being a disruptor is not productive and you need to grow the fuck up.

Speaker: It's kind of like... Last episode of TOQ and we were talking about being a rebel without a cause is just being an asshole. Like, right. You're just, exactly. You're just causing trouble, but there's nothing you believe in to change. Like,

Speaker: Right. It just doesn't work. And like that, some of the inner workings of how I've been working through this whole thing has showed me that there's a lot of people who want change. And it's not that they're assholes. It's just that like, they're not contributing like solutions, but then there are a small subset of those people who want change, but don't know what it is, who still want to be loud about it. And it's just like, like you're being disruptive, but like not productive. And like, that's just,

Speaker: make You're just being a complainer, basically. Right. And it makes people not trust your voice and the voice of those connected to you because nothing's coming of it. And like, it's just, I understand why they're like, all right, here's this person again.

Speaker: So I try to model like really big. Like if I say, Hey, you should go talk to this executive. I can't do that. Well, sure you can watch. I'll do it. Come with me. yeah i'll I'll go with you. You would, you would absolutely. do this If someone tells me they got an open door policy, guess what, brother? I'm walking in.

Speaker: I'm respectable about it, but like I'll knock on the door like as it's open and say, hey, notice your door's open. he got a sec? was hoping run something by you I got an idea. you know I'd be the person behind you going like, no, no, no, no.

Speaker: Can I tell you one quick mini story events that relates to that? In that same meeting that ultimately got me what I thought was in trouble but wasn't,

Speaker: they we have these things called staff cookouts where like every month, uh, one of these employee groups hosts like a cookout outside for a couple of hours. And, Nobody had gotten to the word to host it yet. So the HR rep had to do it.

Speaker: And so she wasn't happy about being and being on the grill all day. She had like all this other stuff going on. Her anxiety was high and she just didn't want to do it. So she kept trying to pass it off on the people and nobody wanted to do it with that little notice. And so she said to me in the meeting, and she goes, Adam, you're always you're you know you always have my back. Do you want to...

Speaker: do the thing. And I was like, I really don't know. And one of my colleagues says to me, she goes, why don't you get the CEO to do it? And she says her name. And um I was like, yeah, sure. I can text her. And they're like, no, no, don't do that. And so um I said the girl's name. was like, Hey, so-and-so wants you call me, girl. And she goes, no, no, no. Don't put my name in it. Don't put my name in it. Don't put my name in it. And I was like, fine, I'm going to take credit for it then because you don't want your name in it. And so the hl you think HR right in front of me. And she goes,

Speaker: She goes, Adam, don't you dare. That's not appropriate. You really shouldn't ask the CEO of that question. So I teams through the question, then I showed everybody that I sent it. Like 45 minutes later, she responds and she goes, oh my gosh, that sounds so fun.

Speaker: I'm actually on my way to Colorado right now. i'm not going to be in the office for a few days. Otherwise, I would absolutely do it. And I said, ah, man, I just want to hang out with you because I'd totally grill if it was me and you doing it.

Speaker: And she was like, hey, maybe next time. Let me know. And I was like, OK, cool. I will. And so I teased that later to them. and They're like, I can't believe you sent that. And I was like, I told y'all, I'm like real tight with the CEO. She like we're cool. Like it's for our first name basis, guys. Yeah, run first name. Like, you know, like everybody's on a first name basis with her, though. She's one. She's lovely. But like but everybody still looks at her like she's like some big bad like. But she's so approachable. She's so sweet. Like she wants you to talk to her. oh That's real nice.

Speaker: So I was like, yeah, but the more I was like the ah hr rep and everybody around like, oh my, no, don't put my name on it. I was like, I would want you to put my name on everything. And if I was talking to the ah HR or to the CEO, I made like my own hat that's on my desk that says CEO on it. And it says, but it says CEO, I don't know what I'm doing. okay But like, I'm always trying to talk to the CEO. And i was like, why are y'all so afraid of this wonderful, lovely woman? Like what the frick is wrong with you?

Speaker: but Anyway, so that was just a very funny thing where just like I would just like walk up to see. I'm like, no, no, she's in her office. Let's go talk to her real quick. And you're like, no, no, no, no. I mean, that part of that, maybe that's privilege. But I think a lot of its personality, if I'm being honest, like you just have to be an outgoing person and just like take a chance. And like, I think. Well, it it helps. Like you said, your CEO was is very approachable, very kind person.

Speaker: And that is not. a lot of CEOs in my know and my history. And to our conversation earlier, i think people still have, even though they have seen her, she's at almost every big meeting. She talks a lot to us. She says hi whenever she sees people. But like, I think people still kind of have that like old corporate feel of like, oh, you can't say that to this. You can't talk to the CEO.

Speaker: um Fuck, man. I booked like an an hour with her. like two weeks ago. And all we talked about was theater. Most people book an hour with because they want to ask her about a problem or pitch something. And so she said, Hey, if anybody ever wants to talk to me, ask my, you know, my assistant to like put it on the calendar and I'll make sure we have time for you.

Speaker: And I just said, Hey, I just want to spend like, I know you're busy. I just want to give you like a chill hour to just like shoot the breeze. And she's like, Oh yeah, that'd be awesome. And so we just, she shared about all of her favorite theater spots and where she, her favorite shows and, I learned a lot about her history and about her father, who she helps take care of and all this other stuff. I just didn't know before we had that meeting. And I was like, just fucking go talk to the woman. She's lovely. Like, why are you all so afraid of That's Adam's experience with a CEO. Meanwhile, I'm getting messages from.

Speaker: Again, years and years ago, like not even last job way before that, i got messages from a coworker after around the layoffs. basically saying like, hey, i emailed the CEO asking them to please not do this.

Speaker: It was an older lady. And she's like, I i won't be able to get another job. I'm too old. I won't be able to do this, that. And the other thing, CEO never even answered her. She just gets a phone call from HR saying like, Hey, yeah, we know that the CEO says all the time that if you have anything you want to talk to them about, you can call them or email them, but you're not actually supposed to do that.

Speaker: Which is insane. it's And that's why. Well, that's the kind of things that I hear. And what makes me go like, I don't want any like anything to do with like, if you're going to talk to the CEO, don't bring my name up. Because God, some of the stories I've personally heard of past CEOs is Wild.

Speaker: No, that and that's fair. Like, like I said, I think that's why, like, I've had my share. I think i've I've gotten fired from two nonprofit jobs. Like, I've definitely had experiences where they just don't actually care for feedback at all because they don't communicate well.

Speaker: um So but like I have like and I i think I told what everybody at one point I had nine different jobs in one year in nonprofit because I kept either getting let go or I left of my own accord.

Speaker: because i didn't feel appreciated there. i didn't feel safe there. i was uncomfortable there. And so like, and it's because I wanted that kind of communication and just like people would present as such as you said, but then show their true face later. But like, actually, i don't fucking want you to talk to me unless it's, hey, I got my work done, you know?

Speaker: um And so this place has never given me the impression that like, I can't talk to somebody. And so i was like, well, I need to model that so that way others can see that you can, in fact, go do that.

Speaker: um And so I think the best way to teach is by doing. And so like I want people to see it. I feel like I feel like you'd probably see more people like that in not for profits, like jobs where you're helping the community out of the goodness of your heart tend to get more empathetic, friendlier people, I would assume.

Speaker: Yeah. and And not every nonprofit I've worked for has given me that energy. And not every place is going to be perfect. there's always like bad actors or at least like maybe lazy people or whatever have you. But like.

Speaker: like I said, for the most part, the people I've encountered, while there's definitely like things that can be improved overall, like I feel like there's no one that's ever given me the impression, like you can't ask me something that you, you know, and like, and I want people to see that. Cause I think as you, as we talked about, like they still have that maybe preconceived experience from before, like, Oh, when I talked to CEOs, bad things happen.

Speaker: And so I'm like, yeah, I'll message the CEO right now. Yeah. You want to come do a cookout? You want to come get behind the grill? I can't imagine it. She would absolutely do it. it's like You guys are crazy. You guys are fucking crazy.

Speaker: But yeah, she's lovely. And, you know, I just, you know, I always like to see what I can get away with. Because why the fuck not? So I got to get fired for asking a CEO to grill a burger. Get out of here.

Speaker: The fuck i Adam after a cool hour. Yeah.

Speaker: No! you on You want to answer a question? We have to, because on this stream, we've had this question on stream the whole time. For the whole hour. Fuck, I forgot all about it. We need to have a separate board just says Adam and Danny are fucking around. While you were doing your story, I even repositioned the question, made a figure. was like, maybe he'll notice.

Speaker: I saw you moving it, but I wasn't paying attention as to why. Shit, man. Fuck. Fuck. alright, alright, just tell me one more thing before... Uh, why the fuck is everyone so pretty nowadays? My friend Skiing Life wants to know.

Speaker: He's saying Skiing Life? His name is Skiing Life? We're just talking about snowboarding and eating shit. Do you want to read the question? Yeah, Maybe 23 female, didn't just pay attention as a child, but I feel like women are so, so beautiful nowadays, and it's not a social media thing.

Speaker: I don't even use social media. I'm talking about women I see in real life who are genuinely gorgeous. I haven't really seen an ugly woman, and it's not confirmation bias. I actively look for them.

Speaker: It seems impossible to compete in the dating market because it seems like every woman Could be some kind of model. What the heck? Everywhere I look, everywhere I look, I see perfect hair, thick and healthy, clear, poreless skin, no body hair, and amazing facial and body proportions.

Speaker: How? Dadom, how? Well, first of all, I would just like to point out that Reddit is social media. In my opinion, that is media where you post things and it's a social board.

Speaker: Reddit is social media. Yes, you do. So, sorry, there's i'm actually number one. You do use social media. Um... right, so that they're saying, I feel like... So this person this woman is talking specifically about women.

Speaker: She said, why the fuck is everyone so pretty? Yeah, they said everyone, but it it really is just all about women. So why are all these women so attractive? Why are they all so pretty? yeah what's What's going on with all these women? Why are they so so like pretty all the time?

Speaker: you know what? I don't... know know I don't know. My guess is like, I don't know if I would say I've seen this the same way. I don't know where this person is from, but I do notice that like if there is a pretty person, I'm like, damn, they're like really fucking pretty.

Speaker: um You know, um I do think that. There is more conscience, people are more conscious of.

Speaker: Let me put it like this. Actually, I've got it. The ones that is you see are the ones that are bold to go out in the first place for you to see. Right. There's a lot of people who just don't want to leave their house.

Speaker: And those are again, I'm not calling them like non beautiful people, but like typically like they're the ones that don't want to get dressed up. They're the ones that like don't want to. you know do their hair up and they don't want to wear a nice makeup or they don't want to go out and hit the gym because like that's just not the style lifestyle they want or they're not motivated to do that at least or they don't know how.

Speaker: so i'm Probably the people that you're seeing are the ones that are out there being the most active. They're out there probably participating in things and you know, trying to look good while they do it or showing up for shows or plays or music or or rock climbing or whatever the fuck, you know, the more, you know, I think typically socializing and I don't know if there's science behind this or not, but like, I like to think that like people who spend more time with people tend to look better.

Speaker: You know, like, like when I say that, I mean like socializing and like building community and things like that. Like I think typically you, You get that air of confidence that you wouldn't have otherwise. like you walk You walk a certain way better. you want to like show up for those people. you care a little bit more about your appearance. So like you want to show up and look nicer for them.

Speaker: ah you know But I also think people are much more health conscious too. At least, again, the ones that are going out and doing these things are probably – if they're looking good and dressing well and smelling good and like their bodies are nice, they're like, well, they must be taking care of themselves.

Speaker: So the ones that are like really into it are like really fucking into it. Hell yeah, get that BBL. Yeah. So like, that's my guess. It's just like the ones you're noticing. It's because those are the ones that go out for.

Speaker: You know, like if you walk into like a nerd convention, it's mostly BO because like, you know, those people probably haven't left their house in a long time and they may not know how to interact with humans or being around society as much. And that's not me poking fun. That's just reality, bro. I think it was Yu-Gi-Oh that added that to an official rule of their tournaments is like, you can't smell if you smell. Yeah, but a lot of people who might be. It's because they don't.

Speaker: but a lot of people who might be it's they don't Might be... um I'm lacking a better word. I was going say homely, but I still think that's a bad word to say. No, they get so into the game that they just don't even think about it. like Right. It's literally all they think about. And and because of that, yeah from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to bed, they're just like coming up with their decks, their strategies. And it's not just Yu-Gi-Oh! It's other things as well. but Well, yeah, that's what I mean. It's like the people who might not...

Speaker: go out as much because it's really easy to just not leave your house to do most things. Like you can find work that is remote. You can have most of your stuff that you want delivered to your home.

Speaker: So like a lot of people found a comfortable lifestyle without having to leave their fucking house. And in the height of that are probably not as looking in the height of the pandemic, when everybody had to stay indoors for a while and I was working fully remote or I was furloughed for a bit,

Speaker: Yeah, i I would go a day or two without a shower sometimes because you just don't even think about it. I'd wake up, I'd have a cup of coffee, watch some TV. Next thing I know, it's lunchtime, then dinnertime, and I'm going to bed and i'm like, never even took a shower today.

Speaker: Tomorrow. And then I forget tomorrow. I'm better now. Don't worry. better now. Yeah, I think... I think there's also, you know, there's also trends, you know, like people who are on social media, there's always a trends of like,

Speaker: um oh, only drink cucumber water for breakfast. you know like Not to say that they're all great. There are a lot of beauty trends and stuff out there too um that people tend to participate in. But I think people are just more aware of themselves. like I would argue, and this isn't me trying to be like superior or anything, but I think especially like Gen X people, or ah is Gen X into millennial people, like I think there's like an overlap where I think...

Speaker: Because I know what, when I was a boy, what my uncle at 44 looked like and what my dad at 45 looked like. And I was like, you know, I looking back now from what I remember, I wouldn't like, oh, that's a 40 something. I'd like, that's what 40 looks like. Yeah. Like I'm pushing 40 in a couple of years and like, I feel way better than I think my dad could have ever moved. And like my uncle and my aunts like could ever have been.

Speaker: It's funny because I was on Reddit and I saw a meme of exactly that of like, you know, 30, 80 years ago and it showed like an old man. And I was like 30 now and it was a baby face. But it's kind of truly people just kind of look younger, longer now.

Speaker: Yeah. I mean, I don't know what that is like. I know what my choices have been. Some haven't been so great, but other ones have helped. Like, again, I'm not in the shape that I want to be in, but I'm in better shape than I thought I would be in based on what I thought 35 and 40 looked like.

Speaker: um You know, like I get mistaken for 20s all the time just because like, you know, again, but I think it's, I do believe that there is a community aspect to that. I do just sincerely, like when you get into a community, you participate in more things, thus you become healthier looking because like, you know, you're, you're out and about, you're getting more sun, like just generally good moods are good for your physical health as much as it is for your mental health and your emotional health.

Speaker: And so like, I do think there's like something to that of like, If you're a little bit more outgoing or at least if you're participatory in more community activities, even if they're like, oh, I have a running group. but like You don't really talk to them, but you just run with them.

Speaker: you know like It's still like something that motivates you to participate in something. So there must be something to that. um But like I think maybe that's why this person is perceiving everybody as pretty is because maybe just there's more...

Speaker: the ones that do go out or the ones that are participating in more stuff and like working on themselves more. And, you know, I, I would bet dollars of donuts that if the people who don't get everything door dash to their home every day also went out more,

Speaker: the turn, you know, it might turn a little bit where you're like, Oh, you know, and it's not a knock against anybody. Not everybody's going to look the way you're perceiving them. But like, you're like, but they probably would be healthier if they continue to do those things. Like you have to, you got to get some sun, bro. You got to get outside. you got to leave your house.

Speaker: Anyway. I don't know. I've been rambling for a minute, but that's my guess is like, Okay. I don't think there's anything new in the water. I don't think there's any, I think there's more chemicals than ever in food, so that can't be it. So I don't know. I'm thinking it's community, especially, you know, post COVID people really realized how much that's important and that they were missing it.

Speaker: So I don't know. What do you think? I think honestly, I think that they grew up a little bit. I, when I was in high school, I had a very,

Speaker: set idea of what somebody I was attracted to would look like. I've always been into very tiny, petite girls. I, you know, the heaviest, uh, any of the girlfriends I ever had was probably like 120 pounds.

Speaker: And that's not because I'm like, you know, Oh, any fat is bad fat or anything. That's just what I like. Sure. Even now my, my wife is like a hundred pounds. Yeah.

Speaker: Yeah, I was going to say, when you say you like your teeth, when she's soaking wet, she's off. Yeah, she's going blow away in the wind. Again, not like saying that anything different is bad. It's just what I like. It's, you know, what I'm... I've seen Dan tie a rope around his wife's waist and fly her like a kite when he's bored. Yes, and it's a lot of fun, especially that one time she got struck by lightning.

Speaker: Yeah, it was nuts. He discovered electricity doing that. did. You're welcome. But she... when I was in high school, I was very, you know, ah very picky, I guess, about what was hot, what was look good and everything. But as I got older, man, those things have laxed so much and not saying that like I'm settling, I think it's more I've matured. I've learned that like other things can be just as beautiful as what I thought.

Speaker: Super thin and petite was beautiful, you know, like. Nowadays, yeah, I love, you know, a girl with some good curves on her and stuff like you just expand your mind expands things that you didn't think were pretty or good looking before.

Speaker: As you get older and and wiser and more mature, you start to realize like. Looks don't even matter as much as you think they do, like to me.

Speaker: You could be.

Speaker: you could be butt ass ugly, but if you have a really cool personality and I get along really well with you and everything, i will love you, man. I will absolutely be attracted to you on some level. It does not matter.

Speaker: Yeah. And I think what they're experiencing is something along those lines. m I know I went to, the ballpark where Mbeluga and I first met where we worked and,

Speaker: And I used to volunteer there in high school. So I was like 16-ish when I started working there. And I went there and I saw the high school students volunteering there now. And I'm like, is that honestly what we looked like at 16? Like these kids are babies.

Speaker: And I think just as you see, you know, when you're 16, you think that other 16-year-olds are hot. but then you grow up and you're like, oh my God, they're babies.

Speaker: The same thing happens for older as well. You go like, oh, ew, you're 30. You know, like when you lower your hand to your side, you could see the veins. You're so old. Yeah.

Speaker: Yeah. You could like, ew. But now that you're 30, you're like, i don't give a shit. My veins do that. don't care. I think you're just growing up and and getting a little bit more wiser and and realizing that there's,

Speaker: more ways of being pretty than what you probably first thought when you were younger. Yeah. I i appreciate that you went a different route than what I went. yeah I got you. You went more like an emotional journey, and I was just like, yeah, people are, you know, we're just hotter. well Or if you want to be more cynical, it absolutely is social media, because now all these people want to look perfect for their social medias.

Speaker: You may not be looking at social media, but they're probably making them. Yeah. Yeah, I would like if you want to go on the darker route. There you go. Yeah, I do. I do agree with you, though. i do think that there I don't know if it's what this person is experiencing or not, but I do.

Speaker: I can speak my own experience that I like you were. I think there's definitely like I still have a type. but like a lot of it is more so like in their personality.

Speaker: Like I still want to be attracted to somebody obviously, but like I've definitely gone out with people who I know like past Adam wouldn't have because like they didn't fit a certain bill at one point.

Speaker: But like, you know, I went out with one girl because she asked me what my favorite dinosaur was. And I was like, great question. Let's talk more about it. You know? And she wasn't the traditional build that I ordinarily would have dated I was like 21 Um, and same with like, you know, who I find attractive now, like there are traditional people. I know I'm losing my voice. Hang on.

Speaker: oh There are too much talking. Who, uh, what's that? Too much talking. and i used to it now. I know. I'm like, so out of fucking practice. Um, But like like there's people who like you could say traditionally attractive. that I'm like, yeah, I could see that.

Speaker: But also there's a point where like i'm like that person's too hot that like I don't want to go out with them because like they worked on it too much. Like that's what my brain says. is Like, I don't know, man, like something about you just like it's like too hot. and Like, I don't know.

Speaker: Like, especially then then when someone starts talking, I'm like, man, you're beautiful. But it's like, there's nothing that you're saying that's like exciting my brain right now. And like, there's never been me that chases that where i'm just like hotness. So like physical hotness over like personality hotness has never been. You never put lust over love. No, never. i like, I've definitely found something hot. I can't.

Speaker: But I've never been like, oh, you're hot. So we should go out. i'm like, all right, well, what do you like? Who are you? you like i Like you said, I've definitely looked at women.

Speaker: who are the exact opposite of umbeluga and been like young dan you know high school dan wouldn't even give this the time of day but damn they look good like damn and yeah i think as you get older and and more mature you just i guess it comes along with realizing that looks aren't everything and stuff but your your standards tend to get i don't want to say more lax more open yeah they're become more open-minded yeah abroad Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker: Yeah. And that's exactly it. Like, I don't think it's like you said it. I don't think it's settling. a lot Like you could that's settling. It's just like, much yeah. you Like you said, you're open-mindedness. Yeah. Yeah. Like you're like, I didn't know I would be open to these things until, you know, I was like, you know what, let's just kind of see. I'm trying something new. Maybe I'm trying to, you know, like,

Speaker: be a little less paranoid about these, you know, these kind things. I mean, teenage Dan would never admit the the huge man crush he has on Danim. Yeah. Ever.

Speaker: Although Danim now, Danim. Oh my God. you dan now Dan now wants to ship Danim. Yeah. I was going to say Danim is our, our ship name. Absolutely. um But, um,

Speaker: they uh the funny enough though high school adam was always like very kind comfortable in himself so he absolutely would have been like yeah yeah i i would for sure that that yeah absolutely i have always that's something i've never been afraid of i've never been like oh i don't want people to think i'm gay or oh i can't joke about that with my friends or i've never in my life like felt like i had to hide like a comment like that like No, I wouldn't say I have either. Like, I've always been a ah hugger with my friends, male or female, it didn't matter.

Speaker: Yeah. But I don't think I would have, you know, outright on the internet made a joke of like, oh, i would have oh yeah, I absolutely love this guy. I would bang him in a second. Yeah. I guess I can't even say it's a joke now either. ah Sorry, Terry. Yeah.

Speaker: But like, yeah. Happy Pride Month. Yeah, I truly, i've like i feel really happy that like and first of all, because you and I can talk that way to each other. Like it's rare to have a friendship where you can do that. And like, regardless of the innuendo and the comedy that comes with it, there's like real love there. Oh yeah. And like, not a lot of people can truly like look at their friend and like, I love that guy.

Speaker: you know, and like, I think that's really important that we have that. Um, but also like, I think there is just like, but Hey, it's Pride Month. you You're welcome. That's a compliment. Damn right we are. yeah Yeah, I've just never, like I've definitely evolved in, like, how I understand how other love develops. Like, I've told stories of participating in ethical non-monogamy, and I've told told stories of living with people who, like, i you know, I live with a trans woman, and I live with a non-binary gremlin now.

Speaker: I live with two gay dudes for the past two years, like stuff that like I never would have imagined like anybody would even want me in that picture or that I would be comfortable in that picture, which is weird considering I never was uncomfortable about it.

Speaker: But I was in my own little world then. Like I didn't realize how big the world was. So like, yeah, I feel very good that like while some parts were slower than others that like I was able to. It's good to get out of your bubbles, people.

Speaker: For sure. Absolutely. um You know, the world's a much better place than your bubble will have you believe it is. It's true. And, you know, sometimes you your bubbles smashes in with someone else's bubble and you make like a super bubble and it's like that's how that's how baby bubbles are made. Baby bubbles are

Speaker: made.

Speaker: Yeah, fuck. I'm trying to come up with like baby bubble bumpers or something like that for title. Oh my god. Something hit me. was like, how do I make it pretty? Baby bubble bumper boppers.

Speaker: Pretty baby bubble. um bumpers. Bumper stickers. I don't know, dude. Maybe bubble bumper stickers. Don't get me started on bumper stickers again, man. Oh, yeah. The good old bumper stickers. the The bumper stickers. You put stickers on your bum to get people put them in on your butt.

Speaker: um But yeah, all that to say, warningate i I will say one more point to the prettiness thing is while I really hate that vaping is still as prevalent as it is, a lot less people are smoking now.

Speaker: Yes. So like, I do think that is part of to the chagrin of the tobacco industry. Yeah. And much to the hurrah of people who think that fucking vaping is good for you. Much to the hurrah of lungs. But I think it poisons you in a different way when you vape.

Speaker: But like, but cigarette smoke and cigarette, all that chemical in general will like age the fuck out of you. Well, I think, I think drinking too is also on the decline. Yeah. I think, honestly, I think that's what you were saying before. Like how,

Speaker: 30 looks so different now. I think it's a lot to do with the lack of smoking and drinking and, you know, kind of like the the later Gen X, millennial and beyond.

Speaker: Like sober, curious people. yeah like you get obviously people that drink a lot in high school, college, whatever. That's always going to be a thing. But, you know, people in their 30s and stuff nowadays.

Speaker: I haven't had a drink in... a year and a half or longer. Not because I'm against it. I just haven't. Yeah. know. It's not what I do when I'm alone and bored. It's not.

Speaker: I'd much rather have a Diet Coke. Yeah, I think too, um like there's a lot more companies out there that help support that, that like organizations that make more like non-alcoholic versions of their drinks that you can enjoy. Like Liquid Death came out a few years ago and it's like, hey, you can still drink and look cool without actually drinking. Like there's a lot of like encouragement. And I think one thing I will give our generation and like people on like the cusp of either side is like,

Speaker: we're we've been traumatized by a lot of shit. And I think a lot of people are like working through that trauma in a way that they're like, Hey, wait, wait, wait. Traumatized. All we've done is survive three once in a lifetime. What are you talking about? market Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know, just, just, just, that's, that's just, a that's just three of them 30 years. Yeah. That's a Tuesday for us.

Speaker: um You know, but like, I do think that there is, a lot of people who are like, I, you know, and I can say for me too, I made the choice very early as a child that I didn't care to drink. Now I will say i tried to break it as an adult to like, maybe I over assumed, maybe there's a way to do it in moderation that like I can do and enjoy, but like, I don't want to be like my parents and I just couldn't find it and it just wasn't safe for me. So but I still had the motivation of like, I don't want to be the way that my parents were. I know what like that raising was and how a lot of it was, you know, you know, my mom died from destroying her liver with like medications and alcohol. Like,

Speaker: you know, like that shit is a very real thing. And so I think there's a lot of people like myself who are just like, yeah, I got to get away from those things. And like when you don't partake in those things daily, weekly, whatever, like, yeah, your body shows those results.

Speaker: So even if you're not like working on working out or being out in the sun or whatever, there's a lot fewer people who are like yeah i'm not gonna fucking smoke i'm not gonna drink you know it always it always amazes me how similar me and you are but then when we talk about like our childhoods and our past they're so different because like my parents besides like my mom having the odd glass of wine at night really didn't drink ever i mean they'd get like a little tipsy maybe at like ah a super bowl party or something but like

Speaker: I've never seen my parents wasted. I've never seen them even close to that. And like, yeah. And then at the same time, we grew up to be so similar. Both of us are just like, yeah, just don't don't want to drink.

Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. Funny how, you know, those those those paths coalesce at some point into, you know, it's crazy to me. It'll never not be.

Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. Uh, but I mean, i do think that, you know, generationally there's that sort like shared trauma, but then like, yeah yeah, I do think there's people who are just like you said, making that choice. Like I don't wish to partake in these things any anymore.

Speaker: Um, but also on the flippy flop of that, like there are people who are much younger than us who look a lot well closer to our age because of things like vaping and such too. Like, I do think people are starting to look older, a lot more screen time, a lot more, um,

Speaker: things like that well i think i think hitch said i've never had a drink and i'm gorgeous you're damn straight you are right you're damn right sorry you're damn gay you are you you did yeah yeah that's right pride month you are it's right damn gay you are very very true yeah very queer gorgeous yeah you're you're queer just gorgeous

Speaker: don't know what that means. That's a funny way to make my mouth do things. Queer. Oh, queer. Like, think about that. But see, now it just sounds like you're you're saying Jesus. But like, you're queer. that's that. No, that's.

Speaker: What would be Queer Jesus' name? It wouldn't be Gages? No. Gages? That sounds like a fucking like Autobot or some shit. Gages, roll out. Gages. I don't know. Yeah, but like Queer just

Speaker: know i engage yeah but like a breath queer just We are just... Anyway, all I'm trying to say is that we're all beautiful.

Speaker: um and Everybody's pretty. That's why everybody looks pretty to you. Everybody's pretty. Yeah, I mean, that's very valid. There ain't nothing out there that somebody ain't attracted to, so...

Speaker: Everybody's pretty. You might just be super fucking, uh, what's that word that means you're attracted? It's super pansexual. You know, you just might fucking think everyone's hot and like, that's cool.

Speaker: Good for you, man. I think that's awesome. Um, and hopefully everybody looks at you when things are hot. So, you know, respectfully. So, I mean, that could be, that could be your life. It'd be you.

Speaker: Um, but all right, Danny, what do you say? We wrapped this puppy up, huh? I think so. I mean, it's only been a cool hour and 15 minutes, hour, hour 30. Yeah. yeah Well, 30, 15 minutes of that was intro before we started. so that's true.

Speaker: We're at about an hour and 14, almost 15 minutes and about four seconds. You want me to take us out today? Uh, yeah, sure. I could do it. Uh, you know, I think.

Speaker: I would like to find like a fun thing to do at the end of every episode to like like wind us down. I don't know what that is yet, um but I think it would be nice to kind of like come back to center. All right.

Speaker: You know, I got one for you. Nixie is here. We finally made it. Woo woo woo. Hell yeah. i worry I got one for you. ah Since you're a gigantic nerd like me.

Speaker: i don't know if I'm so a little bit of a bro exercise for us. Yeah. You know, the D&D stat block like the the the six. Yeah. OK.

Speaker: What do you think my stats would be? You know, I actually I actually did a ah few months ago. did. did Like we do these of icebreakers. We alternate who does the icebreakers every Monday meeting. And I did one like this where I said, you know, for the non-nerds, iss like, here's what they mean. What do you think yours are? And what do you think ours are? And that was a very fun conversation.

Speaker: I don't remember what anybody said. my I remember what the number one thing was, but I don't but Gee, I wonder. yeah go be yeah but What do I think yours are? Hang on. I have to write them all out. cause i' i've done this I've done this with pretty much everybody I've played D&D with. So is it Strength, Dex, Charity.

Speaker: Strength, Dex, Con. kind of Constitution. institution Wisdom, Intelligence. And Charisma. I've done this with pretty much everybody I've played D&D with, and there is a pattern for mine. There is one stat that everybody agreed would be my best stat. I want to see if you get it too.

Speaker: That is interesting. um

Speaker: If I had to guess, it might be easier for me to work on what I think like the lowest ones are and work my way up. Yeah, that's fine. You don't have to do it in any order. ah So I'm just going to rank them one through six. OK, so six being like the one that might be like the lowest.

Speaker: So for the folks at home, strength is like, you know, your draw power. Dexterity is, you know, just like your agility plus like, you know, your, you know, general accuracy. Reflexes, accuracy. Constitutions, like how much shit can you take? Like how, you know, how much life do you have?

Speaker: Wisdom is usually just like how well you perceive something or like how like you like piece together information. Intelligence is just like what you know and like how much, what your breadth of knowledge is.

Speaker: um And then charisma is like your um your ability to interact with others or to do well in social situations or to convince people to see your way.

Speaker: Whistling Dixie says I call wisdom for Danny is the highest followed by charisma. You know, I was I'm I'm this that's that's why I want to start from the bottom up, because wisdom is in like the top three that I'm trying to think of where it would fall.

Speaker: Um, so I'm going to go ahead and say that strength is probably your lowest one. Like.

Speaker: Why is that? for Not that you're weak, but like if I have to rank these, I don't look no no i get like like raw power output. I just don't see as the guy who just said, oh, man, I have to walk everywhere at my new job.

Speaker: it fair like i just don't see and honestly it's not what i see as high for me either like physical strength i just don't i'm stronger probably than i look but i definitely wouldn't rank it as high um so um let's see this might be a bit um this might be a bit um controversial my next one but like I also don't know if I think your dexterity is all that high either. Honestly, if I would have put dexterity as the lowest.

Speaker: Really? Interesting. Okay. Yeah. I'm about as limber as I look. ah Yeah. Oh, Dixon says good job. Oh, yes. Thank you so much. Yes, I am.

Speaker: I'm employed. Yes. No longer a drain on society. You have to listen to the beginning of the episode of the recording. You have to go back an hour and a half to get the full scoop.

Speaker: But yes, Danny is newly employed um as of the 22nd. 22nd. Yeah. could see either one. Now I'm so but yeah i could see either one now i' I don't know. I think you're, you're probably more dexterous than you probably give yourself credit for.

Speaker: Like you don't, you know, you, you're very efficient with like those Excel spreadsheets and shit. And like you move them all around really quickly. And I think there's a certain level of like finesse to how you do that. that Like kind eye coordination kind of. Yeah. Like i think you kind of have to like, you can snap all that shit together pretty quickly.

Speaker: And I think that's like, I don't know. That's why I think that's probably higher. Cause like you're flexing a different kind of reflexes that you don't, Okay. With strength by sitting in a chair and doing office work, you know?

Speaker: I like that. So, yeah. um Number four of them would probably be, this is where it gets tricky because I'm teetering on constitution because I feel like even though you have like these health challenges, I feel like that also to me speaks that you have a higher constitution than most to even be able to deal with it in the first place.

Speaker: like diabetes and these other things going on. Like, I feel like to me, while those might seem like deficits and and they are to a degree, don't get me wrong. But like, I think to deal with that kind of shit, like I think of constitution is not just like how well your body works. just how well do you deal with it?

Speaker: You know, kind like mental fortitude kind of thing. I think there's like, i again, I know that like there's like wisdom could probably be in that in some way. But like, I think like constitution is also just like how, what is your,

Speaker: like I don't think wisdom is necessarily willpower all the time. I think constitution is mostly willpower. um so ah Thank you. Thank you, Dixon. I'm assuming it's Dixon. I'm hoping I'm not calling the wrong name. Thank you, Whistling Dixie. I was going to call you Whistling Dixon. They speak as if they know you, so I think that's you. You know what? I'm going to say that...

Speaker: i'm going to say that Danny, I'm going to say your intelligence is number four. OK, I'm going to say your intelligence is nice. You think I'm dumb. i see how it is. No, I just think that these other three are higher.

Speaker: Yeah, no, i I'm just I don't. Again, these aren't scores. These aren't scores. Something has to be the lowest. Right. These these stats would have scores to them. i am not giving them scores.

Speaker: Right. They are just ranking. So like one could be, by the way one could be a 20 and another one could be like an 18. Right. um So I would say your intelligence is at a four. Like, I think that you're an intelligent person.

Speaker: But I do think that if I were to tap intelligence versus wisdom, I would say you definitely have a higher wisdom than you do. it Like you're smart, but I think you're much more feely than you are like. Thinky a lot of the time, if it makes sense.

Speaker: So I know this might be a bit. um Controversial, but I'm going to say number three is charisma. Okay. Number three is charisma. And I think number two is wisdom. And I'm going to say number one is constitution.

Speaker: That's what I think. Wow. All right. Constitution, as I already said, like, I think that there is, you know, I think with the things that you have had to deal with chronically, that like takes a lot of fucking fortitude to deal with that kind of shit, especially like with some of the stories you share, but like dehydration and other things that have happened and medications and all those other things like that takes a lot on a person to deal with regularly. And like, you do it with a smile on your face a lot of the time, which I think is like really cool. And you do, you deal with it like gracefully and like you find ways to be able to joke about it. And not everybody can just fucking do that, man. um

Speaker: Well, thank you. I appreciate it. I'm going to say your constitution is number one. I think your wisdom, your perception of how other people are doing, and like how you typically will handle it. I think the wisdom and constitution go hand in hand. like Wisdom comes from experience, and constitution comes also from experience. And I think those things go hand in hand.

Speaker: And then I think with charisma, obviously, like you know youd like to get along with people. You have to have it for like the voice acting that you want. You do well like when you talk to individuals and try to to connect with them. so The final score is Constitution number one, Wisdom number two, Charisma number three, Intelligence number four, Dexterity number five, Strength number six.

Speaker: That's right. Nice. Okay. So when I said I did this with a bunch of D&D people, yeah Wisdom was far and away the number one stat.

Speaker: the So, Dixon, you hit the nail on the head like immediately. Constitution was also way up there. Although its same reasons for most people, no, most people actually attributed it to. um ah handle pain well and.

Speaker: I can eat. Really bad, spicy food without. The complications that come later. dis gracious i have an iron stomach.

Speaker: And then after that, yeah, it kind of is a toss up like it's usually up there and then decks and strength are kind of interchangeable. Like you said, nobody ever really ranked anything as low. I would put decks under strength now.

Speaker: When I was taking karate, I'd probably put decks higher, but I don't stretch at all ever. So I'm not a very graceful person, but like you said, I am stronger than I look.

Speaker: Um, so I would probably do decks, then strength, then, then probably charisma. Cause a lot of it for me is faking it till you make it.

Speaker: I'll be honest. That's why I put it in the middle. Yeah. It would be smack dab in the middle. Yeah. And then probably and constitution wisdom for everybody, you know, that's kind of where I saw it and where most people have seen it.

Speaker: Uh, But for Adam, let's see. i mean, i'm going to do it the opposite. I'm going to start at the top because we all know that charisma is going to be the top stat.

Speaker: There is absolutely no fucking question there. i would say after o toss up here. Really? Interesting. Yeah, I'm between two right now. wow I'm going to say next would probably be wisdom for the same reasons you gave. I think I always considered intelligence and wisdom to be book smarts and street smarts.

Speaker: You know, one requires a lot more abstract thinking and a lot more piecing things together. Whereas the other one is how well do you memorize things? And I think you also are very good at reading people, piecing intuitively, piecing things together.

Speaker: So i'm going to put Wisdom. After that, I'm going to put Dex. Dexterity. You dance all the time. I've seen you twinkle toes. I've seen you glide across the room and pirouette without anybody noticing. You noticed. I noticed. Well, that's because I never take my eyes off of you.

Speaker: I know. That's why i do the pirouettes.

Speaker: Like, I'm going to miss a chance to look at that ass. I know. lay Listen, well know when people are watching. Let's see. Charisma, Wisdom, Dex. And then I would say probably Intelligence.

Speaker: What am I missing? I'm missing Constitution and I'm missing Strength. Again, i don't think any of these are low. I would say you have average at the lowest, like 10 at the low end.

Speaker: ah But I would probably do...

Speaker: con and then yeah constitution and then strength okay that's interesting for mine i would say strength is the lowest than constitution intelligence dexterity wisdom and then charisma at the top oh interesting mm-hmm yeah i don't know i i don't know if i remember what i thought mine was it changes all the time i just don't have like a solid locked in what i think um

Speaker: Dude, would love... Cleric is one of my favorite classes. Sorry. Whistling Dixie says, Danny is a cleric bard multi-class. I would absolutely love to be a cleric. That is one of my favorite classes. I love holy magic and stuff, so that would absolutely be there. Bard? I'll take bard. I like bard. I did... Bard card. Adam, I channeled you and I did karaoke at the wedding. Oh, yeah? Nice shit. Yeah, sang two songs.

Speaker: What'd you sing?

Speaker: One

Speaker: one of them was by Lifehouse. Fuck, no, I don't remember. What did I sing? You you you go while i remember what I sang. um i one time in a room of several hundred strangers saying.

Speaker: Let it go Frozen. frozen When the guy who took me to this wedding reunion, this family reunion, just abandoned me to like survive on my own.

Speaker: I went and did the Adam thing and just tried to find people to hang out with. And then i was wearing a Captain America shirt at the time. And, The DJ looks at me and he goes, he's trying to get other people to ah come up and sing and no one will do it. No one's drunk enough yet.

Speaker: So he goes, ladies and gentlemen, Captain America is going to sing for us. And he points to me and I was like, ah yeah, okay. So I walked up. i was like, what do you have? He goes, don't know, man, what do you want? I like, I'll turn it on. i was like, yeah, let it go by.

Speaker: you know, from the Frozen movie, he goes, oh, yeah, I already have that queued up. He's like, that's like the biggest thing right now. And I was like, yeah, man, like it's not going to be good. So like, he's hey, man, I just need other people to participate. So maybe we'll do it if you do it. I was like, okay. And so I just, it it was awful.

Speaker: Like, I had fun, but the singing wasn't good. But And then my buddy who took me there showed up crying, laughing because he just like couldn't get over me doing that. and i was like, oh, that's where the fuck you've been the whole time. Like you show up to see me embarrass myself. and my friend My friend went up to and they did um K-pop Demon Hunters.

Speaker: Ah, which song? As if I know. Was it take that down, take that? No, it's not take down was golden. I don't know that one.

Speaker: I barely remember take down.

Speaker: and Why is it that the songs that I think are the best ones are the ones that media like. God, like when fucking Encanto came out, I was like, man, the song from what's her name?

Speaker: Lisa, was it the big bulky girl? I can't remember her name now. It's like escaping me. Like pressure. That was a way better song than what the fuck was. bruome was Way better song. i was like, why did that not get?

Speaker: like the love it deserved. That song ruled. OK, I know the one song I did was Hanging by a Moment by Lifehouse.

Speaker: Hanging by a moment to you with you. There's nothing left to lose. Is that her name? Is Louisa her name? I can't remember. Eloise.

Speaker: I don't know. Someone has to look it up. What the fuck is her name now? Shit. Is it Louisa? Maybe it is. And what's the what's the what's the rose petal plant girl's name?

Speaker: Rosie. see Is it Rosie? I have no idea. You know, like the pretty the the pretty pretty princess one that like feels like has to be perfect. um Is that Louisa? Fuck. I can't remember anybody's name now.

Speaker: I don't fucking know. Well, anyway, while they do that, thank you all so very much for watching. Hang on, I have to look it up. Shut up.

Speaker: So, Louisa is... No, shut up. Louisa is the older sister with superhuman strength, and then ah Isabella, you're right, is um the one that makes Plants. Isabella was from Phineas and Ferb.

Speaker: That's also true. You got it, Hitch. You you fucking nailed it. um And yeah, Pressure is the best song. Um, which I don't just don't get like how that one wasn't the one that fucking stole everyone's hearts. It's so good.

Speaker: Can you believe that they were going to not make like action figures of her? Cause they didn't think anybody would sell it. But then like when that movie came out, there was such a demand. Oh, it was huge. Cause like everybody was like, yeah, we liked it. There's like a muscle girl and like, she's like, you know, strong, but like vulnerable. Like, was like, why the fuck would you fucking like realistic girl boss?

Speaker: God, that song rules. It's so good. And the donkeys are in it the whole time. It's so fun. It's such a great like it's so emotional, but also fun at the same time.

Speaker: um but ah But but yeah, anyway, yeah, that's all that. All that to say, i should say real quick that um before we round out, I just want to see if I agree with your scores because I i didn't really get a chance to discuss that.

Speaker: So charisma, am I charismatic or Do you really think... It's a toss-up. Yeah, you know. up. Yes, your car is me. Um... You should know it.

Speaker: Uh... Let's see. Strength is the lowest. Sure. i honestly feel like my intelligence shouldn't be as high as you ranked it Like, I don't think I'm stupid, but I just think I don't do well with memory. Well, like I said...

Speaker: Even the lowest thing would be like at worst average. Nothing, yeah nothing was like worse than average. I would probably flip constitution and say that that or decks could flip, but I would agree generally for the most part, I think. Um,

Speaker: Although I never know. i I always question like if charisma really is like my greatest strength or not, like because like I just think it's because I'm loud and I talk a lot that people think that. So like, I don't know if that's real. And like, so there's more to it than that. Like charisma isn't just being loud and talking a lot. But like you said before, you have.

Speaker: You have the charismatic strength to go up to like your CEO and actually talk to them like a person. despite everybody else, you know, and and the overwhelming stigma of like, I don't want to talk to them. I don't want to ruffle any feathers by accident or anything. I think it takes a very high level of charisma to do that more than once.

Speaker: You've weaseled things out of me that I wouldn't tell most people just because like, i don't even know how you do it. Yeah. We'll just be talking, and then after like a half a hour, I'm like, I can't believe I'm telling you this. There have been times where you're you know what, I can't talk about it right now, but just blah. And I'm not even trying, but like all of sudden... And he just weasels it out of me anyway.

Speaker: ah

Speaker: Danny went with the by and Adam rolled his numbers when the DM wasn't watching. Maybe, I don't know. Yeah, see, that's the thing. I'm truthful to a fault. I went with the point by. should have rolled.

Speaker: Yeah. Oops, all 20s. i am Yeah, I guess that makes sense. I always like for like, I guess in the game of D&D specifically, charisma covers like persuasion and deception.

Speaker: What the fuck? There's like, what, three things, four things? There's like... Persuasion, deception, and some, I think intimidation, which I hate. I don't think it should.

Speaker: There's something else in there. I can't remember. um But yeah, I always confuse like how much of that is wisdom and how much of that is charisma. So like, i like you know, i i'm I am a child of a lot of trauma. And so like I often think like that has informed a lot of like how I approach people. But I do think like, but I see what you mean because I think maybe a part of it is like, okay, I understand it.

Speaker: So I'm going into this person, this conversation with this person perceiving something or maybe understanding like maybe where they're coming from. But then like I have to convince them to listen to me. So like maybe that is like what maybe I'm just conflicted. There's a strength to it that you have that like.

Speaker: That that there's like that missing fear of making a fool of yourself and not wanting to talk to people because you have that thought of like, well, they don't care what I have to say. If I talk to them, they're just to think I'm an idiot or something.

Speaker: hmm. I don't want say a missing of that fear, but like you have a bravery that a lot of people don't have like a charismatic bravery to talk to people you don't know interesting and learn life stories because you genuinely find them interesting. And they're like, I don't give a shit. Like, I just want to know what they do for a living. i want to know about the mural that lady painted.

Speaker: You think I would have talked to her about that? Fuck no. You referenced that like once, at least once semi-annually. Because it's the only thing I've ever seen. It's the only time I've seen that.

Speaker: I swear, at least once every six months that fucking story comes up. Damn right. I don't even think it's that impressive. That's why I'm always so shocked. Yeah, it is extremely impressive. I really don't see it that way. And I think that's why you don't see your charisma as high as it is. Because for you, it's normal.

Speaker: But to us normal, us normies, us plebeians over here afraid to talk on the phone, leave you're like a god to us. Yes.

Speaker: It's so funny to me, dude. That like fucking blows my mind that it blows your mind. That's so funny. I've been saying something to Hitch lately just to like psych myself up. I'm like, man, the rest of the world needs to get on my level for once. Yeah, it really does.

Speaker: yeah it's like You guys need to follow my fucking suit for a little It is a core memory for me. dude He doesn't understand when he was talking to that woman. That's all the rest of the group was talking about is just staring at him being like,

Speaker: How did he do that? He just walked over to her and said hi. And like, she's telling him everything. That's so funny. I'm just like, we were all mesmerized. I remember, I remember like something that I don't bring up enough, but I remember,

Speaker: Turning around like after we all got shuffled through and we're like doing that that you guys were just like staring at me for a minute. Yeah i was like no we couldn't believe it It was very like sitcom me we're like, you know, like some character does some big wacky fucking goofy thing then turns around is like what?

Speaker: yeah like exactly what it was I literally felt like turned around on y'all were just like like like how did I'm like what? and like what what did you talk You just performed a miracle. None of us thought was possible.

Speaker: well all right. like like You know what? You make a good point, though. I don't mean to like drag this out, but like do you make a good point. So I i can accept that. like I guess I don't always think of it that way. It's like, what's normal to me isn't normal to you. um But yeah, I guess I don't think of it that way.

Speaker: But I like I said, I guess I was conflated, like how much that is charismatic and how much of that is like wise, you know, and I'm sure they dovetail together. I think, well, I think the wisdom comes from like being able to look at a person and be like, they have a story I want to hear.

Speaker: kar Charisma is going up to them and and asking. Sure. I could see that. OK. Yeah. and I accept. I just want to make sure because like I always wondered, was like, is that really what it is or is that just what it looks like to people? And so like I think the difference between having charisma not is people watching versus talking to people.

Speaker: Huh? You know what people watching is? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Sorry. yeah So like if if it were me, I would be looking at somebody and being like, wow, I bet you they have a story to tell. You can kind of tell that they have like a rough past or like they're dressed in, you know, very loud clothing. You're like, I bet you they're fun to talk to or whatever. And that's where I would end it.

Speaker: But you have the charisma to then go up and talk to them and peace out what, you know, what's cool about them and talk to them about and compliment them to their face. I gotcha.

Speaker: Um, Dixon says it's like when the goofy guy suddenly turns to start having a conversation in three different languages that nobody knew they knew. Yes, exactly. Yeah. He spoke an extrovert and it was fucking weird.

Speaker: I thought he was possessed. Man, that's so funny. Anyway, I didn't mean to drag it out about me for so long. and No, no, no. You're half of the show. You're allowed to make it about you. We haven't really like talked like that deeply about that before. like so And so like as you brought it up, and like no one at work knows me well enough.

Speaker: ah I guess I would argue that Hitch is getting like a more deeper dive being a roommate. But like like the people who I did this exercise with, I don't think they also rated my charisma high.

Speaker: because like, I'm just more outgoing, but like, but that's why I was like, do they just think charisma is just being an outgoing person? i don't always think of it that way. Um, this is why I like doing this with people is cause it's a great way to just like see how people view you.

Speaker: Yeah. And what you give off as a person. And it gives them a chance to explain why they feel the way they do. Like, Yeah. Like you said, you didn't think I thought that deeply about it, but like I have my reasons.

Speaker: Yeah, I mean, which is good. Like, ah you know, I think, you know, like 20 some minutes ago, I think we addressed that too. Like, you know we probably more than 20 minutes ago about how you know we you don't know how people perceive you you don't know what you're thinking like when my when my director paid me that compliment like 20 minutes took ago it was like an hour and 20 yeah that was about man this is what happens if we don't record for like two and a half weeks fucking we go so long guys look we got to the question eventually it only took us an hour jesus fuck

Speaker: Dixon says charisma is a is force of personality. You have a yeah huge personality. for better No, I think that's good. so Like the fact that you can get people to do what you want them to do. And I don't mean that in a manipulative way, but like in a you give people the bravery to do things they wouldn't normally. Like when we first met with the DDR.

Speaker: I don't play DDR. I'm not. Strength and decks are tied for last. yeah But you got me up there. I was thinking of you when I did the. um

Speaker: Karaoke at the wedding. Oh, really? hear you in the back of my mind just being like, fucking go for it, because I wanted to do it, but I was scared. And i was like, I don't think I could sing. And everybody's always told me my whole life I can't sing.

Speaker: But then I heard you in the back of my mind just saying like, oh, fuck, who cares? Go for it. So I did. And you know what? Everybody said they did a pretty good job. And did you have fun? i did have fun. I went I had enough fun. I did a second song.

Speaker: Fuck yeah. What was the second one again? i don't remember, but the first one was Lifehouse something. Lifehouse, which is such a good 90s jam. That early aughts. It's like in that ballpark.

Speaker: They were both from that like yeah time period. Hanging by a moment. Was it Blink-182? Oh, actually.

Speaker: Was it Three Doors Down? it might have been Three Doors Down. Oh, was it Kryptonite? Did you sing Kryptonite? No, it wasn't Kryptonite. I did Hanging by a Moment by Lifehouse. I know some other three-door-down songs. might have been done Here Without You.

Speaker: Here Without You, baby. That's a good one. Oh, that's a good one. Shit, I forgot how much like Three Down. love that song. I got to add that to my play. I love Three Doors Down.

Speaker: Away From the Sun is one of my favorite songs. Can I tell you a song that I just like blessed Hitch's ears with the other day? United States of whatever. Do you remember that song? I do.

Speaker: And it's only like a minute, 31 seconds. It's so good. and There's just a guy talking and then going, whatever. Whatever. did Did you did you show um Hitch the mermaid song or King's?

Speaker: When I'm King. No, I didn't show when I'm King. I will. ah Mermaid Song is on the agenda, though. I haven't. though but Mermaid Song is a banger. Beautiful song. Speaking a Hitch, for the record, I would also rank charisma as number one.

Speaker: And it's because you' ah of your ability to have emotionally intelligent conversations with people, which I guess like aligns with what you're saying. That's what we do every week. Yeah, I appreciate that. Thanks. um It's good to know. It's nice to know how people see you.

Speaker: um Anyway, yeah, why don't we wrap this up before we hit two hours? Because we were going to wrap this up like 20 minutes ago. We were at two hours and one minute. On the stream we are, but 16 minutes after of that is just like intro music playing.

Speaker: True. On with the Zencaster time clock. We're at a minute. We're at an hour 45 or hour 46. Let's wrap it up quickly get out of here. Yeah. So, hey, everybody. First of all, let's just get to the meat and potatoes of how you can support us so before we get to the final message.

Speaker: First of all, thank you for everybody who jumped in and chatted on the stream. That really like means a lot to see that and to have things really appreciate. You know, it's so much more fun with people. And I, and I know we don't like plan it out. We try to do it every Friday when we can.

Speaker: Um, but, uh, sometimes life gets in the way. So maybe one day we'll have a regular schedule, but like, but like, we appreciate that when you see it, you jump in, um, uh dixon blames himself for extending it actually i'm really glad that you did i'm really happy that you yeah actually actually dixon thank you for extending it yeah honestly it was great because danny and i haven't gotten to record in a few uh days so or a few weeks we haven't gotten to see you in a little bit it's always good to talk to you guys so yeah we're and i know last time you couldn't get into the stream for some reason at least comment so like i'm glad that you were able to do that so thank you um and then um

Speaker: But yeah, but also like, thank you for doing that. But if there's any questions when you guys are in the stream that you want to ask, um or if you have any feedback for it or how the streams go, please let us know. And then of course for the listeners, if you want to submit questions, ah you can do them on the YouTube channel now. So if you're listening to these on the internet and you just want to go into a random episode and say, Hey, answer this question. That'd be great. Make sure you at us.

Speaker: Even though it's on our channel, we might not always see it right away. So just add us so that like it'll give us an notification. um And of course, if you go on our website, funnestellersnetwork.biz, you can leave it there.

Speaker: um But also, um I'm in the process of building our Etsy store. We do have a new shirt up right now. It is ah the Bucket shirt. Apparently, there are people at my place of employment that thought that was really funny and said, you should do Bucket next. And so I did Bucket.

Speaker: I'm still working on some of the other extra color designs and things. But right now we have What Color Is My Shirt? I've gotten a lot of compliments on my orange shirt. Hitch has worn purple shirt and has gotten compliments.

Speaker: One guy even said that shirt is very accurate, which was really exciting. And people get really stoked when they see your shirt and they go, ah so I guarantee it'll be a fun little conversation piece. So if you want to support um the show, that that would be one way to do it. Yeah.

Speaker: So the 20 bucks on the store, that was like the lowest I can put it where we would still make like ah like an okay profit of like three or four bucks. So like, hey, that's, you know, I still appreciate it if you like it.

Speaker: And then of course, Bucket a is key. Please go check out Bucket and tell me if you think that's stupid. it's very stupid, but in best way. If you think it's stupid in a fun way, like Danny said, then please go buy it because have, I just want to share-

Speaker: Long before Justin and I like really embellished our friendship, like, you know long, you know, everybody knows the saga by now, but there was a point where Justin and I way back when we're going to write ah a a story called scary tales. And it was essentially a spinoff of supernatural.

Speaker: And ah ah my character was based off me named Sean Wesson and his character was named Dan Smith. And um we were going to be like the Smith and Wesson boys. And um it was very funny based off a supernatural thing. And when we wrote our concept art, he said, because Justin was the one that drew, he said, what do you want to be on your shirt?

Speaker: And I was like, I don't know, man, fuck it. And so... at first it was just B-U-C-K hyphen I-T and then he had a bucket on it I was like dude you just have it just say bucket and so he's like alright and so it's just this really old concept pencil sketch of a guy that looked like me wearing a bucket shirt has never left my brain and I just thought one day I'm gonna make that fucking shirt and I'm gonna like I hope someone will think that's fun and so like if anybody buys the bucket shirt that would like give me so much joy to see people wearing a shirt that just says bucket on it

Speaker: So that's why it's there. It has a deep backstory that has just been with me for probably since that was probably like 2000 and like, I don't know, or 13. Yeah.

Speaker: So it's been around for over a fucking decade in my brain that like I've always wanted to make the shirt and I finally feel courageous enough to do it. And if people like shirt, then we're going to make hoe and we're going make dirty hoe and then we'll do hose and then we'll do hammer, whatever. I don't know, but please go check those out. Those are a great way not only to help the store get some more traction and that is at etsy.com slash fun installers network.

Speaker: Go check that out. Eventually we'll integrate it into the website, but like it's become more of a process. So right now I'm just focused on building the store and I'll put it into our main page later. So fun and sellers network off Etsy, please check it out.

Speaker: um And yeah, there's other ways to do, of course, the Ko-Fi and stuff, but like, I think, It would be really cool to know that people will have those shirts and that they like them.

Speaker: um So anyway, and if you have other shirt ideas you would like to see, we have some all already kind of in the burner, but if you have other things that you'd like to check out or that you have suggestions, please let us know. Yes, Guarded Implements for the win.

Speaker: um That would really mean a lot to us as well. So we want to make things that people want to see that feels like it's us, but also relatable enough to an audience of people that might not know who we are yet. So That's kind of we're trying to find a nice niche of yeah that. um So think it's- We're trying to find like-minded people who like just stupid shit. Like stupid, silly shit. Yeah. um So yeah. Add some whimsy to your life.

Speaker: Bucket. So the dream- That's right. Exactly. When life hands you lemons, fuck it. I just like- I can't stress enough how important Bucket is. um So yeah. So um Danny, do you want to say anything else before I do the outro?

Speaker: ah Yeah, I just have a little thing. Mbeluga and I have been playing a lot of Archipelago lately. And for those that don't know, it's basically just a new way to play different games. Right. But she's been playing Stardew Valley and a different shirt idea I've had because of something I've seen there.

Speaker: You can find progressive items. So. Whenever you have something that you can upgrade, progressive items mean you find the base version and then you find the upgrades after that.

Speaker: No matter what order you technically find them in, you always get it in the order of the upgrades. So we always find her the progressive hoe, and I love the idea of progressive hoe. Progressive hoe? Progressive hoe. Hitch, get on it. Hitch, get on it. I need my progressive hoe.

Speaker: Make it like a rainbow hoe. for What does a progressive vote look like? I don't know, but we're gonna we'll figure it out. We'll figure it out. We'll come back to you next week. I'll have my person reach out to you. Yeah, we'll have our design our design hitch work on it Yeah. Yeah. you You'll have to message Hitch and say, like, here's what I'm thinking. Yeah. Hitch, I need a progressive. Progressive. It's so funny. It's like a hoe on wheels or some shit. It's just moving back forward.

Speaker: It looks like a scooter. looks like a Segway. You're just standing on it. I'd like to picture a hoe that as it tills the ground, the ground is just rainbow colored. Oh, that's fun, too. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's good.

Speaker: um you know hitch i believe in you the hitch says considerate the image of each level and then progressive oh yes absolutely funny oh my god um but it's great because it says you sent somebody so it always says i sent beluga a progressive hoe and i just love that sentence yep yeah the little the little commentary that's so good that was a girl here eating have this progressive hoe There was a girl I was dating once that like we played this game to like bond like Sardew Valley. And I walked up to her while she was laying in the bed and I handed her a stick and it just says Adam offers you his stick.

Speaker: I love shit like that. I love shit like that. Anyway. Well, you've kept you all here long enough. Adam, have we hit the two hour mark yet?

Speaker: Yeah, we're at six minutes till so we're okay. So good. So I just got to waste a little bit more time. It's a dream come true. Tell them that. Yes, everybody. It is. In fact, believe it or not, surprise shock to all a dream come true. And it really is. i appreciate each and every one of you, whether or not you spoke in the chat. But I absolutely love everybody who did come in the chat. Thank you all so much for making this so much fun.

Speaker: so many laughs today it was actually just what I needed same dude and and this is just it's a dream come true I mean I get to come on here and just bullshit with my friends for for two fucking hours it's great and like it doesn't feel like two hours do you realize how hard it is to get me to do shit like this for two fucking hours but because of you all it is an absolute pleasure and I love it and yes Pitch yeah coming in clutch.

Speaker: Please, people, just maybe. Don't be a piece of shit this year. Don't be a dick. Don't be a piece of shit. Don't see a piece of show Don't be a dick is very true. That was on my idea for making a shirt.

Speaker: Don't be a dick was the original fun installer slogan, and it still is number one in the server now. don Don't be dick an eight equals D this year. That's true. And try not to be piece of shit this year. Because Danny, I went back and listened to that episode and what you actually said was try not to be a big piece of shit this year. So what you said, Try not to be a big piece of shit this year. So we're showing it to don't be a dick. Try not to be a piece of shit this year.

Speaker: So, yes, please, for the love of all things. Look, I'm only giving you this challenge because I know you can do it. You can absolutely. know you can do it. I believe in you. You are. You can be the best version of yourself. The version of you that's not a piece of shit this year. You can be the non-dick. You can be the not-dick. You can be vagina. You can be rich.

Speaker: You can be. Don't get me started. Don't make me say words if you're white. Don't do that. The sticker is on my, which one? Don't be a dick.

Speaker: Do I have it Don't Be a Dick sticker and I forgot about it? Shit. Okay. We got to stop. We got to go. Damn it. Fuck. Oh, man. I got to go back and look at Good everybody.

Speaker: Jesus Christ. did wait we'll We'll wait another minute for Dixon to answer. But then we got to we gotta go. we have to let the people get back to their lives. We're starting to be pieces of shit. i don't like it.

Speaker: You know, some people stream for like seven hours, by the way. Oh, dude, it's awesome. I don't know how people do it, but it is cool. It got censored. what got centered oh makes sense That sounds about right.

Speaker: Although I have one that says no people messages that I'm pretty proud of that I thought about bringing it back. have a mug that says that and I'm so proud of it. Oh, man. Yeah. All right. Listen, everybody, we're going to get going. If you would like to see us just do other stuff outside of the show, too, please come and subscribe to the That's Our Q channel on YouTube.

Speaker: And then maybe just play video games and shit. I like video games and shit. Just shoot the breeze. And it's just like a little special thing for the stream. And of course, for the listeners, if you watch the stream and you listen to us afterwards, that's fucking dope as hell. That's really cool. And you're a real G.

Speaker: But if you're also just been a longtime listener, that's like it's super important. I see the numbers are still there. So if you're that one person in Papua New Guinea, we have one. You are the best. are vi I love I absolutely love you. You are the best. I don't know what the time difference is, but please try to get on the stream sometime because that's fucking. Oh, I will. Absolutely. Yeah. You you get front row seat.

Speaker: Oh my God. That's incredible. Um, but right, everybody take care of your mind. Take care of your heart. Take care of each other. And once more the love of all things sacred, don't be a dick and try just really, really try so hard.

Speaker: So fucking hard not to be a piece of shit this year. Amen, brother. See you next time.