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Dadam Bomb & Danny's Mom
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Today we finally get a question from Danny's mom and there's some roleplay involved; get ready!
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Introduction and Humorous Banter
00:00:00
Speaker
Good morning, good afternoon and good evening, ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls and everybody upside down. Wait, you got up down all around inside and outside the gender binary. My name is Danny Guarantee. te to Doing my epic echo is Dadom. Can I tell you, I've been really trying to lean into getting people to call me that in real life. Have you really?
00:00:29
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Yeah, no one's gone for it yet, but they do tell me that I give big brother and dad energy. And I was like, well, I'm trying to go for like cool uncle energy, but like I take But if you're going to go with that energy, can you call me dad? And everybody goes, you know, well, you know what?
00:00:45
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Just for you, because you are special and I care about you. You can be my dad. Can I be your dad? I'm where your other dad get mad. Oh, he doesn't listen to the show.
00:00:56
Speaker
OK, OK. Yeah. As long as you're not my mom. um She does. and Mom, you're not my mom. um Would that be like Madam Wadzel? No.
00:01:07
Speaker
No.
Work Relationships and Humor
00:01:08
Speaker
Did I ever tell you about the time I got in trouble with one of my coworkers? What? Because I made fun of her. Maybe. I can't remember. One of my coworkers was talking about how um me and her get along great. Right. But she's like, I'm in my thirty s mid thirty s She was probably nearing 60.
00:01:30
Speaker
And, uh, we used to get along really well. you And people, well, we don't work together anymore. Oh, I thought it was just like, she kicked her ass or something. Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:01:41
Speaker
Okay. She couldn't. She'd never hear me coming. She was deaf. Anyway, she said sorry. That's the kind of humor we had though. She would make fun of me too. I promise. Right. Right.
00:01:52
Speaker
And, uh, The one day people were calling her my work wife and she's like, yeah, I really am like your work wife. And I was like, ah more like my work mom. she got like Her face dropped. She got all like fake offended. She's like, that's not true. I'm not that much older than you. And then she starts doing the math and she's like, shit, I am your work mom.
00:02:17
Speaker
Have you ever had a work wife? Yes. That wasn't your wife? Yes, absolutely. She even got me to go to the gym once. Whoa. an i And I couldn't walk for a week, not because of that, but because we did squats.
00:02:31
Speaker
Was it was it pre pre marriage? We were engaged. You were engaged, but you had to work. OK, yeah. And Beluga knew about her, knew that that was what I was doing, going to the gym that one day.
00:02:45
Speaker
That's a healthy thing. The girl was a very big health nut. She's the girl that made me healthy brownies. with we protein and like some other like natural protein that tasted kind of like chocolate, but wasn't chocolate.
00:03:01
Speaker
And she was like, yeah, these brownies are actually healthy and they tasted worse than regular brownies, but better than bad sugar free brownies. Oh, mm hmm. She could have made a frickin killing off that.
00:03:16
Speaker
Interesting. OK, yeah, I think it'd be awesome. ah I'd love to try it at least. It sounds great. I think it really good. ah I do think for the work wife thing, I realized that over the years I've collected either a lot of moms and and a lot of work wives.
00:03:34
Speaker
Mm hmm. And sometimes I realized that I come up with nicknames for people a lot more than I thought I did because I came up with a nickname for her, too. Was it Mumsy? It was not.
00:03:45
Speaker
um I guess it doesn't matter. I'm not going say last names, but her name was Christina. And the one day I called her Christophina. And she was like, oh, my God, i love that.
00:03:57
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I want everybody to call me Christophina. OK, I see I came up with another one for her, too, and I liked it a lot better because she used to spell her name ex Tina.
00:04:12
Speaker
So I was like, I want to call you Chris Cross. But she didn't like that one as much as Chris. She what? Yeah, because it was. Christina Christ. Yeah.
00:04:23
Speaker
So she'd spell like you like you do Christmas with Xmas. Oh, interesting. Christina as Xtina. Oh, that's fun, actually. i like. Yeah. So I wanted to call her Chris Cross because it's an X, but she she liked Chris Tofina a lot more. And I was like, yeah, I mean, you know, it's more feminine, I guess. You know, maybe she liked that.
Feminist Men Q&A Session
00:04:44
Speaker
um Speaking of femininity, ah we as two feminist men have questions that we need to answer today. We do. We do. is the question that you've chosen for us to answer? All right. So a while back in a different episode, far, far away, we sent a challenge to my mother.
00:05:01
Speaker
Yeah. We told her that if she didn't ask a question, I wouldn't visit. yeah for forgot that was what it was. Yes, that is what it was. So my mother sent me a question specifically for you, Dad.
00:05:16
Speaker
ah That's incredible. i i I forget how funny we are because I don't remember. how hilarious you Going over doing the shorts now on our YouTube. We have a YouTube that's our cue on YouTube. um We're hilarious. I love finding little funny bits for us.
00:05:33
Speaker
Yes. So um the questions from Terry for for me specifically. Yes. Oh, okay i didn't I quote. Please send this to Adam.
00:05:43
Speaker
My question is, how do you handle when one of your kids, or I'm sorry, how do you handle one of your kids when they place demands on your love?
00:05:54
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An example would be threatening to cancel their trip to South Carolina unless they you do what they ask. Is that normal or rude behavior? Am I being too sensitive? Is this considered blackmail?
00:06:09
Speaker
I didn't know your mom was such a Such a writer. Oh, my God. yeah Beautiful question. OK, well,
00:06:20
Speaker
that's great. I love that. That's so funny. ah OK, well, first of all, thank you for coming to me. You've come to the right place. oh yeah my be You have so many kids.
00:06:31
Speaker
i Well, I have a lot of kids in my life. I don't have any kids of my own, but I have a lot of kids in my life. um Always the uncle, never the dad. i and Which is, I am fine to be the cool uncle. I get to keep all of my energy and all of my money for myself. What little I can retain. retain That's how I am, man. Like, my sister-in-law's kids, I love them because I can be like, oh, it's crying now. Here, it's all yours. Yeah, you get to give them back. You get to give them back. It's the best...
00:06:56
Speaker
When they're being really bad and ruining the party, I could just be like, yeah, I'm going home to my nice, quiet life. Bye, guys. I am the... And I can say to them, i tell all of my all of my nieces and nephews all the time, all of my nibblings, um that...
00:07:10
Speaker
if they're ever just being little crank asses, little shit bags, I just tell I'm going throw em in a trash can. I'm going to throw in a dumpster. I'm going to toss him in a lake somewhere. You know, just get to throw these fun little threats at them. And like, you know, there's no repercussions because I'm not their parent. Yeah. You mean like our friend's kid who you keep stealing $20 from?
00:07:28
Speaker
Yeah. Well, he owes me more money. i was Even more now. Yeah. That little, that little fart owes me so much money and I still haven't gotten all my dollars yet. You're supposed to buy your wife at one point. It's the whole thing.
00:07:40
Speaker
um Anyway, can you can you quickly skim read the question one more time? Yeah. How do you handle it when one of your kids is placing demands on your love?
00:07:51
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An example would be not going to visit them unless. um um Unless you do what they want. Is that considered blackmail? OK. Well, you know, I got to say that probably one of the best things that you can do is be a guest on That's Our Q. I think that would really give you a lot of what I like to call purchasing power with, you know, your your, um,
00:08:20
Speaker
your favor currency to be like, I did this thing that means a lot to you because I care about you. Now I get to Lord that over you and you have to visit me at least five or six times. So what I'm trying to say here, Terry, is you should also blackmail your kid in a way that is also entertaining and also gets me involved because I want to be.
00:08:43
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um That's my instinct is to tell you to do that. Now, if you if you want real if you want a real ah piece of advice. um i Go back and listen to the the minute that I just recorded about this question, and that's my real answer.
00:09:02
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ah I also have a an answer, mother. um No, it's not blackmail. It's extortion. It's that is true. You're you're right. You're right. I'm not hurting you. I'm just not doing something you want.
00:09:18
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It's like a reverse gaslighting almost. I don't know. yeah you You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours, mother. But like platonically. What other ways are to scratch someone's back? The Internet, man.
00:09:31
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You can't take anything for granted. Is there pervy back scratching on the eye I guarantee that there is.
Transactional Relationships and Emotional Barter
00:09:38
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Danny guarantee it. That's crazy. um I will say, though, on the subject of stuff like this,
00:09:46
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Like that there are relationships that are often transactional like that. And I don't think a lot of people recognize that they have like this emotional bartering system implanted or maybe implanted is not like just kind of like ingrained is the word i'm looking for ingrained in like their day to day or in their general communication with each other. And it is as someone on the outside,
00:10:11
Speaker
Have you ever witnessed that? Have you ever, like, if you ever really pay attention to certain words that people say a lot of times, it's if, right. Like you were saying earlier, if you do this or what's in it for me, stuff like that. But just they fly by your ears so quickly that you might not recognize that people say that shit all the time.
00:10:28
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It is very fascinating to be somebody on the outside of those conversations to think, oh, wow, like there's a lot of transactions going on here just to like get, I don't know, the fucking yard mode or something, you know? um ah But yeah, Danny, what what do you think about this question from this this beautiful, wonderful woman who who messaged us? um This angelic human being who deserves everything. Like, do you?
00:10:55
Speaker
I think there's no such thing as bad questions, Adam. I agree. I think all questions, if they're if you're genuine, are good. Yeah, I do. You know what? That's true. I agree with that.
00:11:06
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But I do have to question the authenticity of this question. is Believe it or not, I actually know the person that asked this question. ah And i actually know that she has probably like the best son ever who would never do anything like this, let alone record it so that the whole world could fact check him.
00:11:30
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So I have a hard time believing that there's any authenticity. In fact, I think that this might be a manipulation tactic to get her son to visit more than he already was going to.
00:11:46
Speaker
Well, I would be i would be curious. you know There's no way to hear the other person's side. like I wish I could talk to her kid and ask, like why don't you visit more? you know like What is it about visiting your parents that makes this woman feel like she has to get into this bartering system to do that or to, or to value how little she sees you so much that she's willing to send in a question just to maintain that relationship. So I wish I could talk to her. well If I were the kid, I'm just going answer it as me. Right. Obviously.
00:12:21
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mean, have a mom. I just know her. You're right. I guess you have some credentials as a, as a, as a son. So i guess you can maybe speak to it. I would say probably that no amount of visiting would probably be enough.
00:12:33
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be the first thing. ah Two, and I only partially blame this one, right? But ah they did say that they were going to visit their son multiple times, but canceled every time due to snow, which is fair. And it's New Jersey. It sucks.
00:12:52
Speaker
I get it. um But I mean, i also don't think it's that big of an ask. You know, they just had to ask a question. It's not like their son said, i need you to jump through all these hoops. You know, this was, hey, can you support my my side hustle endeavor?
00:13:14
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So I guess what he's really doing is saying, like, hey, can you be a great mom and and support me?
00:13:24
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Mom, I love you. I'm so sorry. So but so I guess what I. I see, but that's all just a guess, you know, like you don't know. Cause you're not, right obviously, obviously I don't know.
00:13:37
Speaker
I'd be curious. Like how often does this person, this, I think she said her son, right? how often does her son go visit her? That makes her feel like it's not enough.
00:13:49
Speaker
You know, like, is it maybe twice a year? Why did he move so far away? It sounds like he moved States away. You know, like why did he do that? That must have been difficult. I really liked that second one. Like,
00:14:00
Speaker
If it's such a big problem, why did you move so far away? I think that's a really good question. did did Did they did the do we do do we think the parents moved away from the son? Yes, I know for a fact that that is what happened.
00:14:13
Speaker
Oh, interesting. OK, so I believe the if I remember right, they kicked their son out basically by moving and saying you need to find somewhere else to live. Yeah, like totally heartless. Just toss them to the wolves.
00:14:31
Speaker
Interesting. Do you think that maybe they in so much trouble? Do you think maybe they were feeling the parents were feeling, um you know, like this was the only way to get the son to branch out because he's kind of awkward. i think he said I mean, from what I can tell, the son sounds manipulative, awkward, kind of like.
00:14:50
Speaker
dorky, doesn't really know how to interact, doesn't know how to branch out of his own, really kind of means a lot of motivation. so it sounds like maybe the parents were like, what if we just uproot everything and remove ourselves from the state? So you can't follow us. You have to thrive now and go find yourself a woman to like,
00:15:08
Speaker
you know, coexist with and cohabitate with, you know, like, do do we think that, I mean, we don't know anything about this kid. Like maybe this was a drastic move to push him in the right direction. Do we think that this was kind of like a nuke to, to get him to move? Like this was the the final.
00:15:26
Speaker
Yeah, this was, okay this was the, this was the atom bomb that like, they were just like, yeah the dad bomb. The dad bomb.
00:15:35
Speaker
Right. Do I think that? No. Why don't why not? I just don't. I get the feeling more that it was. Hey, we hate New Jersey.
00:15:48
Speaker
And this place seems real nice, right? So we're going to move. But also, yeah, you need to grow up. Now, um even though I think.
00:16:02
Speaker
Because, again, i don't know the son, but I've heard of him before. I've heard stories about him And I'm pretty sure he's like a really good looking, like well-adjusted socialite. Right. Like even though he's from what I heard, ah he is an introverted kind of person. You know, he gets his battery recharge from being alone. He actually does really well talking with new people and everyone he meets loves him.
00:16:27
Speaker
Apparently he's like the life of the party and like the coolest person ever. So I have a feeling, actually, here's what I think happened. I think the parents were ah tired of living in their kid's shadow.
00:16:40
Speaker
And so they were like, we need to get away, you know, just for a little bit. Um, but we, need we need to get away so that we can live our own lives and people will stop comparing us to our amazing, perfect child.
00:16:55
Speaker
And they left, but then they got hit with the old, you don't know what you got till it's gone syndrome. And they're like, wow, our lives were so much better, but we can't admit that what we did to him, you know, we, we can't admit what we did to him. We're too proud. So we're just going to pretend we miss him.
00:17:16
Speaker
And get all snippety when he puts conditions on visiting us. Danny, can we can i ask you to participate in a little bit of role playing? Oh, finally, will. Yeah. Well, you're going to hate it. I need you to role play as.
00:17:33
Speaker
um I need you to role play as this person, as as as Terry. I want you to be this person's mom. You want me to be the mom? I'm going to be the son of this mom.
00:17:47
Speaker
um Or just, I don't know what name we should give him because she didn't say his name, but like, well, I don't know. Let's just call him um Enid, right? His name is Enid. All right. Yeah, Enid.
00:18:01
Speaker
So, all right. So you can be Terry and I'll be Enid. Okay. Okay. Hello, my boy, I love you so much. Why don't you come visit Mama anymore?
00:18:13
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ah Because my wife doesn't let me leave the house. Oh, the tramp, how dare she How could she keep you from me? you are such a nice boy. I need you.
00:18:27
Speaker
She says that no other woman can have me. Oh, my goodness. Well, I fully understand why she'd want to keep you all too lonesome. But when are you going to come visit your mother?
00:18:40
Speaker
Now that you've submitted a question to this really wonderful podcast, I'm kind of obligated. I have to come and visit you pretty soon. I'm going to guess maybe for Easter or Mother's Day, perhaps. That's right. I need you to come visit me now. I did the thing for you. Now I need you to do something for me. That's much more intensive than what I had what you had me do. That's how I get my hooks in you.
00:19:06
Speaker
Hey, Bob, what and why do you feel do you think that I don't come and see you would enough? And if so, how often is enough?
00:19:15
Speaker
I think you should leave the tramp and come live with me again! Will I be able to stay there rent free? No. Oh.
00:19:27
Speaker
Well, you kind of put me a bit of a pickle here, Bah. But I kind of, you know, just knew the economy and everything, I just thought maybe you might be able to put me up for a little while. You know, my wife is like, do you think I'm made of money? was not. Well, yes, because remember, I've been asking you to donate $10,000 that's our queue for, you know, to help launch the next. That's right. And have I?
00:19:54
Speaker
gosh no, I'm too busy volunteering and having my husband play pickleball. Oh, yeah. how hell's How's how's how's dad's pickleball game going?
00:20:08
Speaker
Son, I need to tell you something. It's not good. oh is it about the pickleball? It is. Oh no. Your father. Yeah? yeah He hit the pickleball one day.
00:20:22
Speaker
it went over you the fence so we could get it back.
00:20:34
Speaker
He hasn't touched the pickleball since. Wait, he hit the ball over the fence and he can't play pickleball? He hit the ball over the fence and can't reach it. Well, you know, pickleball has come like three in a pack, right? What's your father lived for?
00:20:49
Speaker
Ah. Well, I'm sorry to hear that, but ah i ah I'll check in on the family group text and ah see how that's going. Okay, sounds good. I can't wait to see you.
00:21:01
Speaker
Oh, I'm going to come see you right away. How's this weekend sound? Perfect. You'll never want leave. Oh, I'm bringing a whole i'm packing everything because my wife has been hanging out with this woman over in Philadelphia a bunch. And I think there's some suspect stuff going on. So I kind of need to get it on my such a tramp. You should bring that lovely boy down with you.
00:21:23
Speaker
Who's dad of? Oh, oh, that guy. Oh, yeah. Yes. I heard him on a podcast. He sounds like such a handsome man. Yeah, you know, he's see's he's in the very least. He's interesting looking. It's what I have what I've heard.
00:21:34
Speaker
You should bring him. I feel like he'd be a good fit for you. okay you know, what end of course. Of course. And um hey, you know what, but Bob, I'm sorry i haven't been there enough. And I just wanted you to know that despite the the fact that I don't see you a bunch, just know that I think of you all the time and I only have nothing but good things to say about you. And I love you very deeply and I can't wait to see you for Mother's Day.
00:21:56
Speaker
Oh, Heidi, don't worry. I understand. Nothing's ever enough for Mama.
00:22:03
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Antine.
00:22:06
Speaker
Okay. Okay. Full disclosure. None of this represents my actual feelings toward my mother. Mom, I love you very much. You are a great mother. You do not bother me that much. I just need to make sure that I get that out there because I really am that big a pushover and I do not want to hurt my mother's feelings. We already heard the guy talk about it. It was a funny aha moment. Mom, I love you and I'm sorry.
00:22:28
Speaker
we already heard we already heard that We already heard the son talk about didn't need to say it again. i need to make sure because I'm going to feel bad otherwise. We already heard it. I mean, okay. um But yes, um I think that in the future, a lot of, you know, it's okay. You know I know it sounds a bit cheesy, but something to pay attention to when you're working on these familial and friendly relationships.
00:22:59
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Familial is a fun word to say, um but like,
00:23:05
Speaker
Pay attention to if the words I think or I feel come out of someone's mouth when they're talking about a reaction to something or if they're trying to communicate
Communication Styles and Self-awareness
00:23:17
Speaker
with you. You ever you ever pay attention to those things, do you?
00:23:20
Speaker
Mm-hmm. Yeah. I heard a lot um a lot about that from the – oh, God, what's it called? Sure is a lot. My solo podcast.
00:23:30
Speaker
God, no. Oh. Yeah. It's a, it's a debate theory. Um, Oh my God. The backfire effect where people think that because you're debating them and trying to prove them wrong about something, they take it as a personal attack because they keep that feeling as an actual part of themselves.
00:23:52
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And one of the biggest ways to avoid that reaction is instead of saying, I think you're wrong or you're wrong, say, I feel like that's wrong or I disagree. Here's why.
00:24:06
Speaker
Or I feel, you know, say I feel not because then takes the blame away from them. You're no longer saying they're wrong. You're saying you're putting the blame on you saying I feel differently.
00:24:19
Speaker
Sure. Yeah. That's where I heard about it. But yeah, yeah and well, that is a separate thing. I mean, just, but no, but that's a good point. a very good one to remember, like instead of being accusatory, nobody has to be the loser. It's just like, we're trying to figure out where the blockades are. But what I was referring specifically was like, if somebody says just in general conversation, not necessarily if it's you're in an an argument or something, but if I came to you and said, you know,
00:24:48
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Danny, I think you've been spending too much time on your video games. Or I could come to and say, i feel like you've been on your video games a lot. like There's two ways to say that. And so one is I think and one is I feel.
00:25:01
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Right. And either way, I want to cut you. Yeah, right. I feel like and while it's not like a totally proven thing for everybody, it does have some correlation to like what – kind of communication works best with certain kinds of people. So if somebody says, I think a lot, they're a much more of a ponderer. they They're a little bit more kind of,
00:25:22
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ah thoughtful and precise in how they wanted to handle things. They're a little bit more mental about stuff where if somebody says, I feel like you've been doing something, they're speaking from their feelings first. Like you have to communicate with them on the same kind of energy level. you have to communicate with them based on how they're feeling, not what they're thinking or what they're doing. And so like sometimes you, to help with that, you have to communicate in the same way that they communicate. That way it's like a,
00:25:45
Speaker
You know, you're, you're, matt you're putting a circle in a circle hole and ah and a square in a square hole, as opposed to trying to nail a square hole in a round peg, right? Or a round peg in a square hole. What are you, are you a thinker or feeler?
00:25:58
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ah It fluctuates a lot from I've since I've been trying to pay attention to this more in the past couple of years, but I definitely say feel more than think. But I think when I use the word think it comes from when I'm strategizing about something.
00:26:10
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When I use the word I feel it's definitely when there's potential conflict. I have or if there is some sort of discomfort, I'm almost always going to say I feel something like.
00:26:22
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If I say, i feel like you've been on your computer a lot, that's probably also me saying, like, I feel like we're not spending a lot of time together. I feel like you're doing your, you know, like it's, there's a connection between like me and you, but I'm saying something ah about you from me about me, you know?
00:26:38
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Where like, I think is usually just like, you know, I think you're on a computer a lot. It's like, they're trying to figure something out. Like, are you on your computer a lot? Like, you know, is there something going on? or you know, then it's just like, they're in problem solving. I think this is happening. I think something's going on.
00:26:52
Speaker
You know, I'm definitely a thinker. Yeah, I was going to say that, too. I definitely feel like you are someone who would approach with the thinking thing. I'm trying to think if I hear you say at least in those kind of situations, because not to say you can't say I think and I feel, but like it's the situations in which you.
00:27:08
Speaker
Right. Well, know I can. As an example, Mbaluga has very. Restrictive like she she doesn't like a lot of foods. And there are times where she's not feeling well.
00:27:24
Speaker
And she's trying to figure out why. And every time I try and help, I'll be like, I think you've been eating this too much. Maybe you've been doing that too much. Like there's, I say, I think a lot instead of feeling. um And I'm pretty sure usually that's how I go at it. I try to be very utilitarian when it comes to disagreements and arguments and and things like that.
00:27:50
Speaker
I try to figure out logically, like, What's, you know, what can I concede in a way and what do I expect from you in a way where we both can come out of this?
00:28:01
Speaker
Hopefully better, but at at the very least, like cutting out the max amount of pain. So I'm very much one in a disagreement to be the guy that says, all right, well, how about like, if I just do this bit, you know, this way you don't have to do all of it. You can just do that bit.
00:28:18
Speaker
That's the bit you like. I don't mind doing this bit. hmm. You know, I'll be the one to to try and push out. Solutions. So yeah I do try to think logically in those signs of times.
00:28:31
Speaker
That reminds me of when we were discussing months back, those color personalities like with the red, blue, yellow and green. I guess that kind that tracks to me like you're I think you are what predominantly green or blue. earth a low blow Yeah. So like blue is logic. Green is kind of more like.
00:28:51
Speaker
feels, but like in like the more kind of problem solving kind way, uh, yellow is much more energetic. So that I tend to just like bring a lot of energy to these things. So yeah, like if again, for me, I notice since I've been tracking like my, my behavior more is if I'm speaking much more slowly because I'm thinking a lot harder,
00:29:14
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like If I'm trying to be more tactful, I'm definitely aware that I say, i think we should try this or how about we try that? It's very much like problem solving centered.
00:29:24
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But at the same time, what I've been trying to do lately is This is a bit of a story, so i'm going to try to keep it short. But like recently I came into contact with my younger brother who I haven't seen in a very long time.
00:29:36
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whole lot of things going on with that that I just don't have time to get into right now. But the one thing I noticed about him that has been consistent for very many years is that the moment you open a conversation with him, he only wants to talk about himself, what he's doing or how he's involved in the story. Or if he's not involved in it, he will find a way to chime in to get the attention by making some sort of crass or weird joke. And he's not aware. He just doesn't.
00:30:02
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I don't know if he's aware that he does that the way he does. um So badly so that one time I had to stop him because he was talking at me for like a solid 20 minutes on the phone.
00:30:14
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And I said, John, do you realize you've been talking for this long and you haven't asked me how I'm doing? um He says, well, fine. How are you doing? i was like, I don't want to fucking give you a script. i was like, do you, did you realize you haven't said, ask me anything about my life, anything new? We haven't talked in how long it was the moment I picked up the phone. It was, yeah. So as if we've been talking, he starts to call with, yeah. So, and just starts going not hello. Yeah.
00:30:40
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And so that's really got me thinking about, and I'm trying to be, i think I'm pretty good at this, but I think there are times where depending on the situation, the drive, the problem, whatever it may be, the ah anatomical structure of how I would like a conversation to go shifts from me want being more curious to throwing out solutions.
00:31:08
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And then I realized a lot of times I'm like, well, have you tried this? Did you think about doing that? I think you could do this. And then like, there's a bunch of pieces missing though. Well, I already tried that from bla blah, blah, blah, blah. Instead of me just asking questions.
00:31:19
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So my brother, Jonathan has really made me realize that and when I'm in conversations with certain people, that the people's responses often, are very much centered around them because like they're the main character in their own story. Right. You're the most interesting person, you know?
00:31:37
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So like, I'm trying to be better about asking those questions and make sure I say, you know, Go back to the old sales technique of going three deep. I'm just like, ask a few more questions before you start trying to pitch solutions. Ask what's been tried.
00:31:50
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You know, ask how they're feeling. Sometimes they don't want solutions. You say, how can I support you? And sometimes it's so easy to go into just fucking problem solver mode. Or like, I'm so embarrassed of myself after I don't do that.
00:32:01
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I'm like, fuck, Adam, you know better. Like, what are you doing? And that's how I know my brother doesn't know he does it Because sometimes i don't realize I'm doing it until I've done it. and I'm like, shit. um So anyway, all that to say was, you know, i I just find it very fascinating to think about those things now. Like, what words am I choosing?
00:32:19
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Before I say them, which is when I really get ramped up, it's hard for me to do with the power of ADHD. But like when I have that ability to say, okay, this person's talking to me. It sounds like they're stressed out. Let's see how they're feeling first.
00:32:32
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And then I'll meet their feeling with what they're feeling. So it's like, oh man, I'm really frustrated. Like, yeah, I feel that. That really sucks. You know, that way, like you yeah get in there. So all that to say, um I just think it's fun to think. Do you ever think about that kind of thing? do you ever like track like when,
00:32:47
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whether it's you or if you're in a conversation with somebody else, like have they asked about me? Have they asked about someone else? Have they talked about themselves? like do you ever just kind of like recognize like where their attention goes when the conversations with a certain? um Not usually. It's not something I've tried to keep track of.
00:33:05
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But what your story did make me think about is how I, so i'm I'm a serial overthinker, right? I, can work myself into feeling guilty about just about anything, even if the other person hasn't even thought about yeah, I've been there, dude. Yeah, um I'm a serial overthinker about pretty much everything.
00:33:26
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And I have caught myself being annoying before with, ah like, questions. Like like I said, Mbeluga, restrictive diet, you know, sometimes when she's not feeling well. I will sit there long after the conversation is over thinking about it.
00:33:43
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And then I'll come up with something and I'll be like, did you try this or do you think it could be that? And I could tell like, you know, after the 50th or 60th question, her answers start getting a little short and I'm like, okay, I should probably just stop asking. Like, you know, I'm not doing it to be annoying.
00:34:02
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ah But yeah, I just, because in my head, I really love puzzles. I do. um And so like, I don't hate being stuck on a puzzle for a long time.
00:34:17
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And I'll just sit there and think about it in the background. And then each time I come up with an idea, i'm like a little excited. So I'll ask. But I'll catch myself being annoying with it.
00:34:28
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I know I definitely will do that. Oh, yeah. i Yeah, i i I feel that very much because like sometimes like when you know He's like, do you feel like it's almost like a hyper fixation once you know, like, oh, um I feel like I'm so close to getting this thing to like. i almost feel like it's a hyper fixation to want to help.
00:34:49
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i Yeah. One of the things I hate most in life is feeling helpless to. Help other people. I I hate it. It's one of the only things that really bothers me.
00:35:03
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um I was playing. a very hard video game before and Mbulugu was watching me and I was dying to the same boss over and over again.
00:35:15
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And I had told her, this kind of goes into what you you were saying about being at like the cusp of an answer. who ah I must've died to this boss like 30 times.
00:35:26
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And i was like, okay, next one is the last one. And I died and I went again. and Yeah, there's like 50 last ones. Yeah. Well, Umbeluga, I think she was starting to think that I was getting upset and headstrong and just throwing my head against the wall.
00:35:45
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So she's like, Hey, I thought, you know, the last one was going to be the last one. And i'm like, don't worry, I'm not upset. It's a puzzle, right? And I feel like I got closer that time and I came up with a new idea and I did end up beating it eventually.
00:36:02
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Um, but like, I, I just even die, like failing over and over again, doesn't usually piss me off is what I'm trying to say. It's when I can't do anything to come up with a new solution that I start to get upset.
00:36:17
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As long as I have avenues to think down, I'm fine. Like with that boss, I had other ideas I had come up with. It's when there's, you know, it's when Beluga isn't,
00:36:31
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feeling well, but she doesn't want to talk about it will annoy me. And it's not her fault, obviously, you know, she's allowed to not want to talk about it. But without somebody to spit ideas at, I'm like, now I just feel fucking useless. Like I'm just sitting here, you know, I could think about it till the dogs come home, but like I can't do anything. And that's when I get frustrated.
00:36:53
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Well, what do you do in that situation then so that we you can alleviate that frustration? Play video game.
00:37:01
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And the cycle continues. Yeah. I mean, there's not really anything I can do. She doesn't want to talk about it. It's her body or her problem. If she doesn't want me to talk to her about it, I have no right to push that on her. Eventually when she's feeling better, I'll ask about it. Yeah. But for the time being, I have to just kind of force myself to focus on something else and get my mind off of it. Otherwise I'm driving myself crazy.
00:37:26
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And putting myself in a bad mood, which then keeps me from being able to cheer her up if she needs it. And it kind of creates a cycle. We're both very empathetic people to each other.
00:37:38
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If one of us is a bad mood, it'll put the other in a bad mood without even having to say a word. And it'll become a cycle that feeds itself. But it's also the same for good mood. So if I can put myself in a good mood again, i can then cheer her up and then that'll cheer me up. and Yeah.
00:37:57
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Yeah. So usually I just do something to kind of force myself to stop thinking about it. Gotcha.
00:38:05
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Hmm. So. What other. um What other ways have I mean, have you tried other ways to. um Get out of that funk, aside from a video game or like it sounds like a video game usually works, but.
00:38:21
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Have you gone down any the other avenues for that since you're a problem solver? Like, do you try other solutions or is it just I know what works? I'm going to do that. ah Mostly I know what works, but mostly because i don't really know what else I could do Like, like I said, it's.
00:38:38
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It's all her, you know, I'm not the one that's not feeling well, I'm not the one that can try things. Well, I mean, in any situation, not just with her, but just like, i mean, yeah I'm assuming there must be other instances in which you've encountered these avenues of, I don't know how to help this person or I can't help this person right now or whatever that may be. Right. It can't. I mean, I know you spend the most time with your wife, obviously, but whether it's at work or with a friendship online or or whatever that may be.
00:39:04
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you know, with this, you know, I don't know if you had the same challenge with your mom as this person who emailed us did. But, you know, when those things come up, like what yeah what other ways do you explore? ah What other avenues do you explore to bring Danny's battery back up?
00:39:19
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Usually i will try me halfway. um I know that personally, when my mom starts asking after me a lot, how I'm doing and stuff, I kind of get the feeling that She misses me and stuff. So I will make a call.
00:39:39
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You know, I'm not very good at reaching out to people. It's not anything against anyone. I just. Time is meaningless to me. You know, I just focus so hard on living my own life. I i don't even think about it.
00:39:55
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And so I realized that. It could seem insensitive that I never reach out to anybody. I never ask anybody how they're doing out of the blue. ah So when I kind of get the sense that, you know, my mom is, misses me or something, i will give her a call. Or if she calls me, I always try to make sure I can call her back.
00:40:18
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I try to not bring up bad things every time I call, you know, because I understand there's like that.
00:40:32
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stereotype of like, oh, my kid only ever calls when there's something wrong. So I'll make a point when I call her to just be like, yeah, you know, like maybe there's something going on and I'll say it's, you know, something's going on, but it's fine. Like I got it covered.
00:40:46
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I just wanted to say hi and see how you're doing and make sure that, you know, you guys are good. What's new with the family. um So that's a big one. Like I said, I try, I try very hard to,
00:40:59
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utilitarian my way through and and try and figure out what's best for both people, not just myself. I really do try to look in the other person's shoes as well.
00:41:12
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And if you walk a mile in that person's shoes and you have their shoes and you're a mile away. Bitch, please. I don't walk a mile in my own shoes. ah Yeah, no, I know. Excuse me. are you trying to say, dadum?
00:41:25
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Well, as your dadum, I need to tell you that I'm concerned that you don't move around enough, sir. I'm going to get you a little step master for the point of view. have an elliptical.
00:41:42
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Now, one of those little, you know, they're just like a little step stools, but they're extra sturdy. So you can do like a little step up exercise. I actually want to get one for myself. I can't. I wish I could get the ones that are at Planet Fitness because those things are huge. And I just want one from a basement. I have a squatty potty. Does that count?
00:41:57
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If you can stand up on it, sure. But you have to do some step up stuff. Get them quads working. Yeah. But all that to say, Danny, I think that's great. And I just want to hear how you went about that, because I feel like you approach those things a little differently than I do.
00:42:12
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And I feel like if I'm being totally honest, I feel like there are a lot more people who can relate to how you would probably. but i think a lot more people can probably relate to how you.
00:42:24
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process and, but then could also take the extra advice from you to like, Oh, and this is what I do after I process. Cause some people only make it to the processing point. I don't think, i hate to say this because I feel like I'm a,
00:42:39
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I don't think I'm like an absolute weirdo, but like, I do feel like it's harder for some people to relate to me, but I do, I think people find me safe, which is really important to me. Um, but I don't, I'm finding that not as many people can relate to how I do things. Um, you know, and I think maybe just cause my brain's wired a little bit weirdly. Um, but I find a lot of times people just don't get an extrovert. Nobody can relate to you. So it's tough. Yeah, it's tough. It's hard. It's difficult for me to convey sometimes to how,
00:43:07
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I channel that energy into something. I do process similarly to you, but similar ideas, but definitely different. Yeah. Different like ah steps to get there.
00:43:19
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Yeah. I don't really know how to describe it. Like I'm definitely. Yeah. I have witnessed a lot of awful things in my life and I have seen through my own siblings, um three of whom are still alive, that like there are paths that people go down from the things that we've all witnessed together.
00:43:39
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And you think to me, how I've processed that is like my brother and I are the closest in age of all the other kids, 13 months apart. And just seeing the path he took, seeing the path I took and the path I took was not the most ideal one, but I came out probably,
00:43:55
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the most emotionally grounded compared to how I see him and my two sisters kind of process earth. And that's not to say that I'm better than them because they definitely have strengths that I don't.
00:44:09
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But I think that as between the four of us, just knowing what I know, I've been like, that's where some of the hard to relate part comes from. I think for people is only because I have that extroverted energy, but like I've had to process a lot of awful things. It took me a long time.
00:44:24
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to get to the point I'm at. And it's still not perfect. Like I said earlier, some, but, but the the new level up that I've been doing is I'm aware of it after the fact. and I'm like, okay, fuck. I realized what I did. Follow your pride for a minute process through it. Like when I just, when I ran through that story of the, the, this, the snowstorm shoveling car incident a few episodes ago, right?
00:44:43
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Like that took me a little bit to be like, okay, what's really going on here? Like, why am I, having this happen. That definitely was not how my brain processed like three or four years ago.
00:44:54
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Not even close. um I was still in a better place then, but not in, but but I've realized just when you think you're done and then you realize you have so much farther to go. One the, one of the reasons that this question is so hard for me to answer is and I look, I don't like to toot my own horn much, but like, this is one of the things where I i feel like I kind of deserve it.
00:45:19
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I am very, uh, what's it called? Self-actualized or I'm very in aware of myself mentally.
00:45:30
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Uh, mostly because when I overthink, it's not just two other people, but even myself, I, it's not out of the ordinary for me to introspective my way through my own life and sit there and be like, why did that bother me?
00:45:46
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Like, what, what was I feeling? Like, When Critical Role first came out, i didn't like it. I didn't like the people on it. They all seemed really nice, but I just had this chip on my shoulder for the show.
00:46:01
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And I just did not like it. And i was sitting there one day just thinking about that while I was bored. Like, what is it about this show that I don't like? Because they're friendly. They're funny.
00:46:14
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You know, they're playing D&D, which is a game I like. And it took me a while to realize. I was jealous because they're all accomplished voice actors and it's a field I wanted to get in.
00:46:26
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And I was jealous. i was going to ask about that. Yeah. And so and it's not weird for me to do that, even to myself, to sit there and wonder why I act the way I do.
00:46:38
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um So it's very hard for me to say, like.
00:46:44
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How do you process through this thing? Because it's so second nature for me now. to process through myself and question myself and do like to me, if it sounds weird when people say you need to search yourself, you need to start asking yourself questions.
00:47:05
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Because to me, I'm like, how do you get through life not doing that? I do it to everything I do. m But sometimes to your detriment at the same time, because like you said, you can think yourself into oblivion.
00:47:18
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But I also think it's a large part of where my empathy comes from. Sure. Because the more you understand why you do something, the more you understand why other people are doing something, because believe it or not, 99.9% of the way you think and other people think is the same.
00:47:35
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There are slight differences, you know, not me, brother. There are ah obviously differences. Everybody's different. Everybody's got different attitudes. But for the most part, people act the same when they feel the same emotions.
00:47:49
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People are going to act a certain way when they're jealous of something. They're going to act a certain way when they're happy to see someone. they're gonna And the more you ask yourself why you're doing something, the more insight it can give you into why other people are doing the same things.
00:48:04
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But you should also still ask them. I will say that still ask them. Don't shouldn't assume. Don't just assume. But it does help for dealing with empathy. And I do think the world could definitely use more empathy.
00:48:16
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Oh, for sure. I think it's it's easy to get stuck in your own like main character syndrome situation where you obviously you're the main character in your own story. But I think it's.
00:48:28
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It's easy to just assume that everybody else is a is is a robot in your story is an NPC. And like, they're what they're what's as long if you don't have any connection to them directly, then what happens to them doesn't matter.
00:48:41
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um And it's really easy to get lost in that when you just have a constant stream of information hitting you all the time. um So definitely get that. So yeah, I agree. This is completely off topic, but it's something I was thinking about with my overthinking brain the other day. Do you mind if I just make it quick?
00:48:59
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Oh, yeah, go do it. A quick observation. And it does have to do with people being the main character in their own life. I believe.
AI and CEO Syndrome
00:49:11
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That.
00:49:12
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The advent of A.I. has shown the world just how easy it is to slip into ceos syndrome when you have a yes man.
00:49:26
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Hmm. I mean, yes, I agree. and Think of how many people have gone insane because of AI. And we call it AI psychosis. We have a name for it. But what these people are experiencing is having somebody is a lack of a detach, a detachment from reality caused by a thing telling them whatever they want to hear and telling them they're always right.
00:49:52
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And to me, that is not AI derangement. That is CEO syndrome. You hear so many times where the CEOs say, oh, well, you know, it's the player's fault the game flopped. Or how are we supposed to know that this thing nobody wanted isn't going to make us any money? I was told that it was a great idea and that it was going to be the next big thing.
00:50:14
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Well, yeah, because you're surrounded by yes, man. And I think the advent of AI is showing the world just how easy it is to slip into that mindset of, I am the main character. I'm always right because I have this person or this thing telling me that and backing up everything I say.
00:50:34
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Also, check out Eddie Burbank's video on AI psychosis. It's amazing. He was the smartest baby of 1996. Fight me about it. Anyway, have you read watched that video?
00:50:47
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No, no, I have. Oh, dude, watch it. You'll get a kick out of it. No, I'm just going to ask this guy to summarize it for me. I hate you. This guy told AI that he was the smartest baby in, I think it was 1996, the year he was born.
00:51:02
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And the AI agreed with him. And he goes on this whole big thing, coming up with more and more ridiculous prompts for it. And it yes-mans him. And he actually follows through on these prompts. So he'll be like, I feel like somebody's out to get me.
00:51:17
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And the AI will be like, well, then you should probably move without telling anybody and live in a cabin in the woods. So he'll go do that. And he'll be like, there's this big rock here. I think it's feeding me positive, you know, mental mental ah energies.
00:51:32
Speaker
Oh, absolutely. You should sit and meditate by the rock. So he'll go do that for a couple hours. And it's amazing what this AI is willing to just yes man him through. Yeah, absolutely watch it. It is a crazy look it into ai derangement from somebody who is not.
00:51:50
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actually experiencing it, but is willing to go through the steps that you would if you were. Right. Yeah, that is interesting. um Yeah, we should do a whole other
Future Episodes and AI Exploration
00:52:01
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episode on AI. We should do an episode where we pull up ah an ai and then ask it the same questions that we get and see after we answer See what the difference And then see what the difference is.
00:52:14
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I'm not against it. I'm not a big proponent of AI, but I'm not against it Well, I'm not really using it as a way to actually solve a problem. It's more so just to kind of see.
00:52:26
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have no problem with AI being used to help humans do things. I'm fine with that. It's replacing humans doing things that have. And also just, you know, putting these awful fucking data centers in like already is a problem to disenfranchised places and making things worse and polluting their places and kill in killing off their plants and in and just polluting their water. and you know, all those things. There's a better way to do it. And we're not doing it. um But anyway, that's a different episode for a different time. We're going on 50 plus minutes, Daniel. um
00:52:58
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Oh, yeah, we should probably. Let me just say first, some point Terry, thank you for sending us a question. And I'm sorry that your son, whoever that is, made you feel like you had to do that in order for. Agreed. I'm sorry that you are So jealous of your perfect son that you feel the need to to besmirch his good name.
00:53:19
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um by daring to assume that like he wouldn't visit you even if you didn't ask a question. I don't think she assumed that at all. I don't know. She kind of strikes me as somebody very insanely jealous of the goodness of her son. And you should text your mom right now on the show and say, hey, just texting you to say that you're the bee's knees. You want me to call her right now and tell her?
00:53:43
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If you call her, then we'll have to do a whole other episode. We'll have to make this episode longer because i won't want you to hang up the phone. um ah But you should text her at least. Okay.
00:53:55
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And just because we should do a call at one point. We'll just do like a secret call and say, hey, Ma, hey, thanks for coming. No, no, I'm afraid of the stories that would come out. of the moment she answers The moment she answers the phone, we'd go like, all right, well, thanks for being a guest on the show. So today our question is, and just like get right into it. Like, no, no,
00:54:14
Speaker
I wish we could just make a phone call, go right to voicemail so you could just leave a voicemail. Adam says you're... No, no, you say you're the bee's knees. No, not from me, from you, because she misses you.
00:54:28
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Okay. You're the bee's knees. ah You know what? I just got it. i think the bee's knees, because that's where they keep all the pollen, which I think...
00:54:43
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is how they, i always thought cause they'd dance. Is it? mean, cause I guess pollen isn't sweet, but they collect all that stuff to go put it in the hive to spit on it and make honey with it. Right. So, well, what they do is they eat it and then barf it back up. Right. Multiple times to make honey.
00:55:00
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Let me see. Why is it the, I'm just going type in, why is it the beess knee why the bees Nobody ever asked how are the bees? how are Yeah. Yeah. right. You know, let's learn something real quick.
00:55:12
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um 20th century fad explained by, let me see. Amongst the shocking and fun-loving flappers of the Americas in the 1920s, there was vogue of concocting bizarre phrases. Yeah, it definitely sounds like 1920s thing. It survives a rhyme. Real quick, my mom just answered, thank you. Did you really? Yeah.
00:55:34
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So I just sent the thumbs up emoji. Nice. Uh, doesn't really say anything. It just says it's something that someone said because it rhymed. There's not. Okay. Some said it could be related to the sacks in their legs in which some bees carry pollen.
00:55:49
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Yeah, that was my guess. Okay, well. Turns out. Just goes to show you that dumb shit like Skibbity was around all the time. you just were up hip with it. We did an episode of Role Players in the 1920s and I looked up so much slang to say and there's just fucking heaps of it from the 20s.
00:56:06
Speaker
Although one of my favorites is Getaway Sticks. I think that's so funny. We've all had our brain rot. We've all had our stupid mean nothing sayings, but you were hip with it back then and you knew what they meant because you grew up with them.
00:56:18
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And this one, you're old and it's scary and I get it and it's stupid. Yeah, you better hit the bricks with your getaway sticks. Getaway sticks as your legs is to run away.
00:56:29
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that's what does Yeah, although it makes sense. They're your getaway sticks. um we Well, we looked these up. We looked up we used to look up the slangs. We did a long time ago. um All that to say, everyone, thank you for listening to the podcast. We appreciate that you hang out with us every however often you listen to it. I know some of y'all listen to a little backlog and you just wait until we suck up episodes and then you binge them. Whatever way you like to consume them. That's wonderful.
00:56:57
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um Danny has initiated uploading slowly all all of our episodes to YouTube. So if you go to ah what is it? Just YouTube slash that's RQ. It's just YouTube slash that's RQ. Oh.
00:57:10
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Uh, we are on there. Uh, the episodes are being slowly uploaded. the new, he means one a day. Yeah. Well, i mean, you know, we, we have like 70 of them to catch up on. So take a couple months to get them all on. It will, it will take a little while, but you know, if you, ah missed us or you just want to hear us on the big screen, unfortunately there's no like video yet. Um, maybe I think that's something I would love to do eventually. It's on the docket. I just have to figure out the programming a bit more.
00:57:36
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Yeah, but for now we have like waveforms and stuff, you know, but you could throw us on in the background. um you know, if you want to hear our voices and YouTube's an easier way to do it, you can do that. if If you want to ask us the question, you can do it on YouTube. You could just leave us a comment. We will check it and we will see your question and we will answer it.
00:57:55
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00:58:18
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Oh man, if I could get a ah video editor, oh my goodness. Right? come imagine I will say right now as like a ah little teaser to something I'm very seriously working on and Danny, from what I understand, I feel like you are too interested in helping me work on this thing, which we've already kind of started spitballing ideas.
Establishing a Nonprofit for Creators
00:58:36
Speaker
But myself and Danny and my roommate, Hitch, who I've spoken about a few times, have taken active steps to try to launch Fun Installers Network as a nonprofit. And it is a bit of a process from what I've been studying. However, ah we have started take active steps. We've been working on our mission statement. We're looking at how bylaws are written. we are looking at how to get our We were looking at like how to get our IRS, what they call it, EETN number, E-E, something like that, EETN number, I think.
00:59:12
Speaker
ah So there's a lot of other steps we're looking into to try to nail all that stuff down so we can eventually write some bylaws, maybe a few months, maybe even a year down the road. I don't, it just depends on how, when we get the, the write up in and how we launch it and what the rules are.
00:59:25
Speaker
But we have taken active steps to turn the Fund Installer's content network into and actual nonprofit so that way we can have more opportunities to reach more people, to help more people, to even get funding from different sources and grants that we can write for.
00:59:43
Speaker
a lot of stuff that ah we've been looking into and a lot of stuff I've just been kind of absorbing through working in the nonprofit sector for the past six years. um So again, it's going to be a little while, but I just wanted to tease it out now that that's something that we are actively working on. And if you need a little refresher on what this is about, ah we are looking to make Fund Installers a safe place and a safe place for creative people to gather, help network.
01:00:09
Speaker
You know, we're trying to reach creative people all over the spectrum of creative endeavors. So writers, animators, artists, Voice actors like myself and and things like that.
01:00:23
Speaker
Uh, so that everybody can network, they can work on projects and they have a pool of people that they can pull from to fill in their roles that they may need. and we are not, you know,
01:00:34
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ah
01:00:37
Speaker
well, it's a not for profit. We're not looking to profit off of this. We're just looking to help. and to be a way to help facilitate people to get their foot in the door and get some projects out there to help fill their portfolio as well as give them a safe space to talk about different ideas questions they may have and to network hu yep yeah so uh something just we're poking around with and hopefully we'll um see some more daylight on it pretty soon but we'll keep you all posted but this is the first time I felt confident to like really tell more people because like more steps have been taken and there's more interest being showed in it and again it's a bit of a lengthy process um and what with
01:01:25
Speaker
government spending and funding and all these other things. It's hard to really predict that future, but it's something we're still going to try regardless. And whether, if we can get it awesome or depending on how close we get, we'll learn and then we'll try something different. But yeah, the idea is to have a safe space created for creators by creators to help us to just make sure that art thrives in a way that I think a lot of people don't know how a lot of people have good ideas. A lot of people have a lot of talents, a lot of skills, and they might not know how to develop them or what to do with them while they have them. And some people just want to keep it as a hobby and other people want to turn it into their business. So they want to turn it into a project that maybe they don't know how to do. And so,
01:02:04
Speaker
I have a dream one day of just like, you know, ideas where somebody is like, I'm a good writer, but I'm not a good drawer. I'd love to write a comic book. And someone's like, I can fucking draw. Let's like spitball some ideas together. And then boom, now comic book happens. Or, you know, I want to make a web comic or I want to make a short film or You know, I want to learn how to paint. And instead of just doing a collaborative thing, you learn from someone who knows how to do it.
01:02:27
Speaker
And through funding, we can even hire other experts to come help us learn those things and develop skills and almost like a maker space kind of style. So again, what differentiates us from like some other places is we wouldn't own whatever you create. It's yours.
01:02:41
Speaker
you You know, we're just here to help facilitate and give you that place to do it. Just because you met that person through the Fund Installers Network does not mean that Your project is owned by the Fun and Stallions Network. It is your project and the artist's project, the writer's, whatever. It is your baby to do it as you please.
01:03:01
Speaker
We would like it if maybe you mentioned us to give us, you know, like, hey, yeah, we're a bunch of creative people we met here, but you don't even have to do that. We're just here to help. It's what we want to do. Yeah. All that'll come out in the bylaws a lot later and most people won't even see those.
01:03:15
Speaker
But yeah, anyway, not to, not to jam around about it too much, but just wanted to kind of put it out there because it's something that I've been excited to do finally explore. It's been on my mind for a long time. um And there's other things I want to tackle, other situations I want to tackle, but right now this seems to be the one that is gaining a lot more momentum and one that has a lot of interest. And so,
01:03:37
Speaker
Yeah. Keep an ear out for that. But for now, everything will be the same. ah And that's our cue isn't going anywhere. And hopefully it'll continue to thrive. And my goal one day is to be able to just, you know, let Danny do this exclusively and never have to work again, at least in and a standard day to day job and have a creative job.
01:03:58
Speaker
Or at least if not that, at least a, ah at least a supplement his income so he can work less and have fun more. But yeah, Well, thanks. you I appreciate that. That's the dream.
01:04:09
Speaker
But anyway. yeah this this has been not long enough. Yeah. so everybody from the bottom of our hearts to the top of yours, please take care of your minds. Take care of your hearts. And most importantly, for the love of all things sacred and holiness world, especially the empathy within all of you, take care of each other. And we will see you next time on That's Our Queue.