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Becoming a Sex Queen: Empowerment through Sacred Sexuality - with Nicole & Carolina | EP16
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In this episode, I'm joined by two of my incredible clients, Nicole & Carolina, to share their journey of reclaiming their sexuality, pleasure and power in my signature group program Sex Queen.
In this conversation expect to hear all about:
- Falling in love with Sex Magic
- Doing sacred sexuality work in a group of women
- Getting to know your bodies boundaries - your yes and no
- Opening conversations around intimacy with your partner
- How they're feeling so confident in their bodies & in their sexuality
- Their message to any woman thinking about embarking on a sacred sexuality journey by joining Sex Queen
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Transcript
Introduction to Unfiltered Femme & Agenda
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Welcome to the Unfiltered Femme podcast. Your new world to get the lowdown on all things pleasure, sexuality, the mysterious female body, dating, relationships and everything you need to know to step into your most unfiltered, unapologetic, empowered and turned on self.
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I'm Steph Morris, a love, sex and intimacy coach and along with some incredibly fabulous guests, I'm here to spill the tea on those topics that are typically hush hush. The juicy things that you want to know all about that have maybe been a little bit too shy to talk about.
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Think of me as your fearless guide and partner in crime, creating a space for the unfiltered, the raw, the authentic chats where nothing is off limits and there's no such thing as too much. The Unfiltered Femme podcast is all about breaking down those walls and celebrating what it means to be an unfiltered, feminine being. I hope you're ready for a wild ride.
Meet the Guests: Carolina and Nicole
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Let's dive right in.
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Welcome back to this episode of the Unfiltered Femme Podcast. I am so excited to take you on a journey today with two fabulous guests that I have, which are amazing, beautiful sex queens, two clients who have been on the journey of embodying and connecting with their inner sex queen.
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So Sex Queen is my signature group program which helps women reclaim their sensuality, their sexuality, their pussy, their pleasure, their femininity and really step into their power and these two queens embarked on this
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wild journey of connecting with their inner sex queen.
Carolina's Journey with Sex Queen Program
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And so we're going to be diving into the conversation today. So I'm going to start by bringing out Carolina, who is our first guest. She is a fertility awareness educator and mother of the Red Tent Collective. Come on out, say hello. How are you doing? And can you tell me a little bit about your story and your journey to where you are today and how you got onto the sex queen embodiment journey?
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Hmm. Thank you, Steph. Yes. I'm Carolina. I'm so happy to be here. Yeah. How I began this journey. You know, I think that that's a really funny question actually, because I think that everything is kind of laid out even like beforehand. So as far as this journey goes, I would say like just life itself is a, of like reclaiming one's sexuality. As far as how I started sex queen, I was in
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one of your program's stuff. And joining Sex Queen was an opportunity for me. And it just felt like this natural, just this intuition that I was, I was called to join. So it just lined up perfectly. And yeah, I just felt this like deep calling that there was
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like more sexuality work for me to dive into. And I felt really right doing it in the group container of sex queen.
Nicole's Transformation through Sex Queen
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So, and it was such, such a good decision. I'm so grateful I did this.
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Yay. Thank you. I'm super excited to dive into the juiciness of this conversation. And now let's say hello to the fabulous Nicole, who I'm loving the Sex Queen embodiment vibes also that you have here. Nicole is a biomedical engineer who makes electrical anatomical maps of people's hearts. How cool is that? She's also an adventurer who loves to share how she finds joy and magic in the little things in life and is a soon to be Reiki practitioner. So welcome, Nicole. How's it going?
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Thanks Steph, so excited to be here. I totally resonated with everything Carolina was saying, thinking back to what made me decide to join Sex Queen. Kind of like similar vibes. I just felt this calling and a need to dive into this work and to learn more about myself and my body. I feel like the past two years I've been so deep in work on myself. I've gone on retreats when I'm one of Steph's fabulous retreats.
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And I've just been feeling more and more connected with my body. And I feel like this piece, this sexual energy or sex queen energy is kind of the piece that I was like a little bit hesitant to explore or like, I don't know, a little bit scared, but I also want that part of myself to come out. So when I heard about her program, it's just like really spoke to me and I wanted to learn what I feel like every woman should learn.
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and what we need to talk about more, so.
Overcoming Initial Hesitations
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That's kind of how I got there. Thank you for sharing. I would love to know with both of you being on your own individual journeys, when you heard about the programme Sex Queen, what were your initial thoughts, perhaps even around the name? There is a group programme that she's doing called Sex Queen, like were there thoughts, preconceived notions, fears, hesitations? Carolina, I'd love to hear from you first. Yes, I would say the initial things that popped up for me with that was like, it felt like
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a little naughty in a good way. I was intrigued by the title of sex queens for sure. So that, that kind of drew me in. It's like I said, it's got that naughty aspect, but also something that felt like a deep call to something that I think, you know, in the taboo world, if something is considered possibly like a taboo topic, there can be a lot of, a lot of healing that can go down for those, those areas. Love and Nicole. Yeah. I felt pretty similarly, but I,
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I feel like it was almost like I was afraid to see what it was or even afraid to tell people that I was interested. I was like, ooh, sex queen. When you hear something like that, you're like, oh, I don't know if I want to tell anyone, but I'm kind of interested in it.
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And I feel like after diving in, it's like, I want to tell everyone about it. But yeah, it was that initial fear of like, what are people going to think? Can I even tell anyone that I'm embarking on this?
Reflections on Transformational Journeys
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But it's definitely helped to have done similar sort of embodiment work before I saw that. Like if you asked me, I don't know, let's say three years ago, if I saw Sex Queen, I would immediately be like, who is signing up for that?
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But I feel different now. So when I saw it, I was like, Oh, okay. I think it's going to be beautiful. And I'm, I'm really into it. So I saw resonate too. And the name was very intentional. I was like, are people though going to be, is this going to be too much for people? Is it going to be like, who's going to join the sex beam program? But I love the journey that I saw of everybody at this beginning. And then that transformational journey through to the end. And by the end of those three months.
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I see everyone now saying and you're all talking about it like, yes, sex queen, like join sex queen or not being, you know, we've ruined that shame around sex and especially having that group contained in that safe and sacred space to talk openly with the other women who are in there. I think that really helps to release any shame or judgment we might feel that we could receive from other people. And oftentimes it's from other women around this kind of work that we're doing.
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I love the shares so far. So I would love to know if you're open to sharing, of course, how how much you're open to sharing is totally up to you.
Personal Breakthroughs in Meditation
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What would you say were your biggest breakthroughs? Were there any magic or favorite moments that you're like, oh, yeah, that changed me or that was a pivotal insight that I received from the program? Yeah, for sure. So the first thing that pops into my mind is this moment in my bathtub.
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doing one of the meditations. But when you ask for a significant moment, that is the thing in my mind. It was such a womb initiation for me, that experience. And the meditation was just, it was just like perfectly timed exactly what I needed to receive that day and take part in. And yeah, that just stands out to me extremely. I have actually felt like a shift.
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in my connection with my womb space in particular since that meditation. It was just, it was that powerful at that time for me. Thank you for sharing that. I love that so
Impact of Sex Magic Practice
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much. The first thing that popped into my head that I feel like has already been super transformational for me is the sex magic.
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For those of you who don't know what it is and stuff, you can talk more about this and I bet you already have on the podcast. But you do a practice, a meditation practice where you bring your sexual energy and you manifest something that you want in your life. And it's basically rewiring your brain to feel pleasure when you're thinking of this thing that you want.
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And for some reason, that concept just really stuck with me. I'm like, wow, that makes so much sense. You have your subconscious know and believe that that thing that you're reaching for is pure pleasure. And I just thought that was the coolest thing ever. And now I've done it since sex queen two. And it's just like, I want to tell everyone about it because it's not only fun, but it's also just so magical. And for something that people might think is taboo, it's like, it's not it's magic. And
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Yeah, that was one of my favorite things from the program.
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Oh, I love that. And I'm super excited. You were both at the last retreat, but the next retreat, I'm going to be doing some version of sex magic live as a group. So it's going to be wild, but amazing. And I love that you touch on that because it is such a powerful practice. Our sexual energy is the most powerful energy that we have access to. And for most women, it's completely unharnessed and not tapped into, and we can use that energy for
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healing, for manifestation, we can use it to really, in the sex magic practice, we're tapping into the different chakras, the different energy centers in the body and spiraling that energy to circulate that chakra and then as we move up the body, we reach the crown and we reach the climax as we have built the sexual energy, the turn on energy in and through our body.
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And we basically shoot it out into the universe as we're deeply connected and visualizing connecting with our senses. The thing that we're really desiring to manifest into our life, provided it's in the highest good of everybody involved. We're not trying to manipulate anything here, but it is such a fun and powerful and pleasurable.
Supportive Group Environment
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practice and I love this one as well so I'm happy that that resonated and yeah I love it that's a favorite practice thanks to Leila Martin for teaching that one that's who I learned this from and I feel like every every woman needs to have this in her in her toolkit
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I would love to know talking around the group aspect. So this can be a bit of a fear for a lot of women, especially something so sensitive as work around sensuality and sexuality. Oftentimes people can want to hide away.
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to do this work more in a one-on-one capacity or in their own space so that they're not truly being seen by other women. So I'd love to hear from your experience. How did doing it in a group affect your experience? Do you think it would be the same if you were doing it individual or what was the power and the magic of doing this work amongst other women?
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I would say having done sexuality work on my own by myself and now having done it on a group level in a group of women, a container of women, the support, the just emotional energetic support of other women knowing that they are going through the process with you, even though everyone's journey is going to be unique to them, we all there's this like collective energy of us moving through it together and
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Yeah, having experienced both, I absolutely would say that the group container felt so much safer to me. I felt like I was able to go so much deeper, like as if we were kind of feeding off of each other's capacity to go deep, right? That's the power, I think, of doing these things together. And the fact that it might be scarier to do this in a group container, I think might be the exact reason that it's
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the most powerful, you know, those things that scare us a little bit, like let us know where vulnerability lies. But in vulnerability, there is like a lot of a lot of depth that can be reached through that. Yeah, I totally agree. I feel the exact same way. And I feel like to just the concept of not being alone and how you're feeling, like there are a few things like I remember asking to the group because we had a group chat where we could talk to everyone in the program and
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Like I'd be like a little bit hesitant to share something, but then I share and then several people would respond and say, Oh, I'm feeling the same way. And like, this is how I felt about it. And like, just being able to connect with people and like realize that a lot of us are thinking the same things. And it's just like so healing to be able to talk about it together. And like Carolina said, just feeling so supported by that group of women. And it's really healing for like that girl friendship wound that some of us may have.
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It was really beautiful. I feel like I wouldn't want to do it any other way after experiencing it this way.
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Thank you. Thank you for sharing that. It's really powerful and I think it is, like you said, oftentimes the thing that scares us the most is what we really need and doing this work amongst women is so powerful and it's so magic and that's really it. Like this realm of sexuality, of sex, of relationships and intimacy, it can be the most isolating part of our human
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existence and yet it's something that we all are experiencing our own version of the same thing yet so many people are feeling so alone and that's really my mission for women is to never have to feel alone around this area because it's one of the most important areas.
Connection between Sexuality and Self-Love
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Everybody desires
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an intimate relationship. Everybody desires to have good sex or the majority of people do. Of course, there are some exceptions there and yet we're not talking about it. And I love creating this space where we get to talk about it and not only talk about it, but have fun talking about it, even through the discomfort and the things that might feel really scary. And then sometimes things that we've not shared with other people, but it gets to be
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sacred and fun and celebratory. And that's what I really love about this. So I'd love to know from each of your own journeys, how would you say your relationship to your own body and your sexuality has shifted having gone through this experience? How has it shifted? It's almost like how has it not shifted.
00:15:04
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It feels so significant in the way I carry myself even I think the thing to understand is that every part of us is so intimately tied to every other part of us. So when you expand so far in any one area, so sexuality, in this case, it's it just expands everything, right? Everything around you. Like I think it touches the other aspects of you, or at least like allows you to look at them.
00:15:34
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And that has just, it's just allowed me to feel more at home in my own body. I feel this confidence that is not like a vanity thing, but rather just a deeply rooted in who I am as a human being. I think sexuality is a part of all of us as human beings. It's a core aspect of what we even are. So being able to be in connection with that really taps you into your like primal life force.
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And that really pulls out into every area of life. Yeah, I love that. I feel like I remember one of the first things that Steph said at the beginning is that like sexual healing and that type of work is a portal to self-love. It almost like quick jumps you there. And I couldn't agree more after diving into this work because I feel like when you start to do this, you do become more connected with your body and you start to
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act more loving to your body too like even simple practices like a breast massage or even a tummy massage like giving yourself love where you might not have given yourself that love before or at least very often. It really gives you that space and time to appreciate your body and to give it the love and the attention that it deserves. So I'm feeling a lot more loving in my body and because of that I feel like I've been more confident showing up in like
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a new way or not even a new way, but just a more confident way. Like for instance, putting on a fun outfit when I want to feel confident. It's just like showing my body and soul some love by dressing it up. Something that I learned from Mama Gina's book, Pussy, which we write during the times that like you can do little things to pussify your life. And I feel like just like those little things is something that I've been doing in my life.
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Now like, oh, like I'm going to have this space where I can put on my jewelry or put on a fun outfit and because it feels good and I feel good in my body and that's become kind of a daily practice for me, which I'm really happy about. Something else too, that I feel like I've found from this is just like more of a childlike curiosity in myself and in my body.
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It's like the permission slip to be like, I can explore it. Just like when you were younger and you were figuring yourself out, you can still do that now. And I feel like excited because there's just still so much to learn. So I'm really happy about that curiosity that I've been exploring.
00:18:02
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I love that. A few things I want to touch on that. One, the self-love piece. Yes. I think this is so important for people to know. I always say don't bother doing self-love work. Do the work to reclaim your sexuality and dive into the world of sexual healing and you will find the deepest self-love that is accessible to you.
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as a human being. You can't truly love yourself if you are disconnected from this big part of the human experience. We are sexual beings by nature. We all have our own sexual story. Oftentimes, there's a lot of sexual trauma varying degrees that women especially have. There's so much programming that we grow up
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are receiving different stories, different narratives and we internalize those and they become our lived experience. And so we all have this conditioning and it's really hard for most, it's hard for a lot of women to really love themselves because of this and we have to do this work. We have mindset work, we have personal development, we have, you know, people
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into mental health and mindfulness now and I think we'll see sexuality and sexual healing really on the rise over the next few years as people start to see we can't ignore this part and it's not just about sex and orgasms, it's really about stepping into ourselves as a human being and owning who we are.
Exploring Sexual Curiosity
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And that is where we get the deepest self-love and self-acceptance possible to us. And it's a beautiful byproduct of the work. It's not even what we are going to seek. It's like we just get to experience that. Because too many women are disconnected and disgusted, quite frankly, by their body, by their bleed, by their womb, by their pussy, by
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their vagina, their vulva, like so many different aspects that they're either ignoring or criticizing or rejecting. And so how can they love themselves? Affirmations aren't going to get you there. You got to get deep into the work. So I love that thread. Thank you for opening that. And literally it makes me so happy to hear
00:20:08
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that you feel that you have that curiosity back. This is something that I hear from a lot of women who come into my world to do this work. They desire that curiosity back because it's interesting that we can find that in other areas of life and yet we don't bring that same curiosity into sexuality. And that can be around our own bodies, around our own preferences, around our own likes. It can also be around adventurous things that we want to explore in the bedroom. And it gets to be fun and it gets to be playful and it's also healing.
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And we can embrace the curiosity because this work I like to say is opening the door to a whole new world that most of us don't know exists until we're given the key and we take the key and we put it in the door and we open the door and it's like, oh my gosh, I didn't know.
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this was available to me and now I get to go and have fun and explore kind of like we go traveling and we go to a new country and it's like oh my gosh nobody told me how amazing Thailand was until you go to Thailand or Bali it's like oh my gosh it is so beautiful and then you get to explore it as a new person that's never been there it's the same thing with our bodies and with the world of sexuality
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and you can go to Bali or Indonesia once and then you maybe want to go back to explore it a different way or explore it with different people or explore it more as a local or go to different islands or go to different parts of Indonesia. Basically, that's the problem.
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of sexuality is taking these different approaches and seeing what way of traveling do you like? Do you like to be a bougie traveler or do you like to be a backpacker? Do you like to explore your own body in this way? Do you want to explore kink? Like there's so many different ways. I'd love to hear your takes on that. Like how did you find this and do you feel more open to explore things yourself, like perhaps in partnership or solo now that you have done this work?
00:22:07
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That was a perfect metaphor, by the way. Yeah, definitely. As far as this curiosity piece goes and being willing to branch out, I think what
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like caused that for me was this renewed sense of self trust. So the sexuality work in sex queens really instilled a deeper self trust within my body. So when I trust myself, I trust my body. I know my body. I know how she works. You know, I know how to read the signals that my body is giving me. And I listened to those.
00:22:51
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I am able to explore in a way that feels fun, that feels playful. Experimenting gets to become this, you know, instead of some big, like, scary, intimidating thing, I can fall back on knowing that my body is going to communicate with me, no matter what it is, whether it's a yes, no, maybe, whatever. She's going to communicate with me. And as long as I listen to that, I'm okay. I'm safe. Beautiful.
00:23:19
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Thank you for sharing. Love that. That made me think of like, I think there was a practice where, or maybe not even a practice, maybe in one of our calls, like we were asking our bodies, like, does this feel like a yes? Does this feel like a no?
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I remember that was really eye opening because I feel like I didn't really ask myself those questions before. So yeah, I really love that. I definitely feel like this work has made me more open and again with that curiosity, I feel like I've been looking up the next book to read and listening to other podcasts and stuff. I just want to know more because I know this like world like Steph said, there's just like so much out there. So I'm super curious and I've been learning and I'm willing to try new things and
00:23:59
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What has also been great for me is I feel like doing this course has kind of opened that door of communication or at least that confidence where I feel like I can communicate these things to my partner. And that has been really awesome so far because we've had some really good conversations and I think that me being open is allowing him to be more open and we're both willing to kind of
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see what's out there and try new things or just even in the bedroom communicating in the moment itself and asking, oh, why don't we try this? Does this feel good? And I honestly felt more uncomfortable having those conversations in the bedroom until now. I feel like I'm opening that space and
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My throat chakra, that's something that I think about. It's open and I'm like willing to put my voice out there, which was really scary before. And I was like, Oh, that would be a mood killer. But no, it's not. It's fun. And it doesn't have to be so serious all the time. And you can try new things. And if it doesn't work, that's fine. It's still fun to try and try new things and see what what you end up liking. So that's been fun.
Importance of Open Communication
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Hey there, I hope that you're enjoying this juicy episode. If you are, then make sure to check out the details of Sex Queen. Sex Queen is my signature three month sacred sexuality group program where you reclaim the connection to your body, your pleasure, your power, and your femininity.
00:25:22
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If you are ready to experience more intimacy, more orgasms, and step into your sexual empowerment era that will help you embody more bold, confident, and magnetic energy in every area of your life, then go to the show notes to get all of the details, including the free wait list, and let's get right back into this episode.
00:25:41
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I love this so much. Communication can be sexy and fun and playful. It doesn't have to be this scary thing. And so many people are afraid of communicating, especially in the bedroom because they're worried that it's going to come across.
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criticizing or judgmental or mood killer and actually it can be super sexy and who doesn't want to receive more pleasure and who's not wanting to pleasure their partner. Hopefully if you're in a relationship you're with somebody that is prioritizing your pleasure and they you are you know wanting to also pleasure them because you have that intimacy and desire for one another.
00:26:21
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and it can be super fun, but first we have to know our own body super well. It's near impossible to communicate with another person in the bedroom, hey, I would love it if you went a little bit slower or I would love it if you did this with your fingers or I would love if you could do this to me more. If you don't know that about yourself, if you've not explored your own body, it's so hard to have those conversations because it feels scary. And there are a lot of men specifically out there who get stuck in doing
00:26:51
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things a certain way because no woman has ever told them and then they just are lacking the education completely so we have a duty we have a service to be to the people of this world to educate them on our own individual bodies so that
00:27:07
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Everyone can be experiencing maximum pleasure and also it creates that deeper intimacy and connection when you can share and be heard and receive in that way. So I really love that you touched on that and it gets to be fun and exciting and it makes it mean that in partnership there is always more to explore.
00:27:30
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you're always communicating. So I'm so happy that you're weaving that in and taking that back into your relationship and seeing where things want to go. It's super sexy. I'd love to know for both of you, how have you seen, touch on this a little bit, but how have you seen this
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change the way that you show up in other areas of life.
Boosted Confidence & Self-Expression
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So of course we've touched on in partnership, in relationship, in the bedroom. But how has this affected how you feel as a woman and how you show up, how you express yourself, how you feel in being seen and being heard in your work and in the way that you just show up in this world? I'd love to hear. Yeah. So how's this kind of shown up in other areas of my life? So for me, the first thing that came to mind
00:28:14
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is feeling confident in my body. That helps me to make decisions of what I might want to do or how I might want to show up. Like an example of that is I just moved to a new state and something I was a little bit afraid of was just like making friends. And when I got here, I had this calling to sign up for a dance class because
00:28:34
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I love to dance. I was like, oh, that might be a cool way to make some friends. And I remember getting ready for the class. So this is a heels class. So you dance in high heels, which is kind of crazy because I barely ever wear high heels. So I was like, you know what? This sounds sexy and fun. This is so fitting for me stepping into my sex queen. So I put on a fun outfit and I showed up at class and I haven't looked back since. It's just been so amazing to step into that sexy, confident part of myself.
00:29:01
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Also I feel like it's been putting myself out there because I went alone and it can be intimidating to go to a group like that especially where everyone else is so confident and I've never done it before but it's been a blast and also it's been fun to share even on social media a little scary but also find some of the dances that I've done and that's just been helping me grow more confident in myself and my body because I feel like sharing a dance video is just
00:29:26
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so vulnerable because I mean people are looking at you like you're really like moving and feeling in your body but like I feel like it's just a pure expression of joy and it's just been so fun and I've made really good friends so far from it so that's just been life-changing for me and I don't know if I would have done it before. I feel like doing this work has given me that permission slide for that confidence to do something like that
00:29:51
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So I've been loving that energy. Yeah. I'm celebrating you so much. I freaking love the shit out of your videos that you posting like full sexy queen embodied in your sexual energy vibes. Yeah.
00:30:08
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sexy as fuck and I'm so proud of you because it is vulnerable and scary to do that and then to be seen as being sexy that could be such an edge for us as well as women so I'm celebrating you keep doing it and it's so inspiring you are spreading the joy which I know is your thing like you are such an embodiment of
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Joy and magic and you're sharing that with other women and that is now inspiring so many other women as well and I'm just celebrating you. I love it. Keep being you.
Visions of the Inner Sex Queen
00:30:40
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Keep sharing. It's beautiful. Thank you. Carolina, anything you want to add? Yeah. From your experience? Yes. I feel like I didn't really even step fully into my womanhood actually until I reclaimed or began reclaiming my sexuality. I think
00:30:59
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you know, that's, that's a journey that will go with me throughout my life. But I definitely was not in my power as a woman. Like we said, it's such a core aspect of who we are. And women have this access to very sensual experiences when
00:31:21
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they're tapped in when they're tapped into their bodies. So everything just feels a little bit more alive around me. I'm able to perceive other people's energies even more strongly. My intuition is heightened like crazy. And my connection with other people just seems more vulnerable and intimate, like as if my journey into allowing myself to go there with just myself and with the other women in this group
00:31:50
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has allowed me to just branch out and be more open, be more of an open-hearted person out in the world, just in everyday experiences. And that's a big deal. It feels so expensive.
00:32:04
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Wow, that's so powerful. Thank you for sharing and I'm celebrating you so much. And it is the beginning of a journey that we're on for a lifetime. And I love this and I celebrate it. And I think when we can approach things with this way, it makes it more fun and we can release that pressure that we can often put on ourselves. So thank you for sharing that. I would love to know
00:32:28
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Nicole, you're up first. What does your expression of your inner sex queen look like for you? That's a really good question. I feel like my expression of my inner sex queen is my most confident, radiant self. That's kind of like who I picture when I think of my inner sex queen. She shows up and she doesn't care what people think of her and she does what gives her pleasure. She appreciates the little things.
00:32:54
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She really enjoys all life has to offer and she spreads her love and joy with others and also just being tapped into that sensual power too. So feeling good in your body and feeling good with a partner, just all the love, all the joy. Yes, I love it. Celebrating your inner sex queen. Yes. Carolina.
00:33:21
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my intersex queen, when I visualize her, I see
00:33:26
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myself like naked outside, like in the woods, you know, next to some beautiful river. So she's obviously very connected like to nature still because it's me. And there's just this very grounded energy when I think of my intersex queen, very, very strong in who she is, very tapped into her body and just knows exactly what she wants. Like just knows and also knows exactly what she does not want.
00:33:56
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powerful. Yeah, that's super important. Knowing what she wants, knowing what she doesn't want, never settling and being super tapped into that in a yes and in a no like you have both touched on
Advice for Future Participants
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is super, super important.
00:34:11
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Thank you for sharing. I would love to know if there was a woman that you were in conversation with and she was like, Hey, this is a program called sex queen. And you're like, Oh, I know sex queen. I've been in that. And she was asking you what your experience was like. What would you say to her if she was kind of on the fence about whether to dive into this world? I love that question. I.
00:34:35
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The first thing that came to my mind is I would first ask her a question back of what do you feel in your body? Put your hands over your womb space, put your hands over your breasts, your pussy, just put your hands on your body. And how do you feel when you think of joining? Like if you had just joined it, you already were, you were beginning, how does your body feel?
00:35:00
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because I think our body always communicates to us. Whatever it is, it really does communicate. And so I would encourage that woman to really listen to that inner knowing because I think that is what drew every single one of us to this program. The inner see, that inner knowing, that just, you really can't ignore it.
00:35:19
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Beautiful answer from a true sax queen connected with her pussy and womb and body yes and no. So thank you for sharing that. I love that. That's such a perfect answer, Carolina. It's so beautiful. I feel like that's something that you even continue to do after saying yes to something like that too. And then once you learn all the tools and
00:35:43
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It's, that always comes first, asking your body how she feels and is it a yes? Is it a no? What came to, what came to mind for me is if someone asked me whether or not they should join or if they're kind of on the fence is how do they want to feel? Just pondering on that question, not only how they currently feel, but also how would they want to feel if they stepped into that intersex queen and kind of like what we just did, visualizing
00:36:08
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that woman of, or that inner version of yourself, that higher version of yourself, what do you want and what might help you get there? And I feel like I would say for me, it really helped me to get closer to her and to really step into that. So I would tell her that in this program, you're going to learn these tools in order to get more in your body and get more connected and feel closer to that inner sex queen. So if that's something that she's desiring,
00:36:38
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then I would say go for it because it's definitely going to get you closer to that. And if anything, it's just, you're going to learn so much about yourself. So I feel like it's a no brainer.
00:36:51
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Yes, I love it. I'd love to know as a final question here, what would be your favorite thing or the biggest practice or moment or the biggest shift that you're taking away on reflection from this experience that you're embodying into your life now?
Power of Women's Support
00:37:09
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I have to say, for me, it's that significant recognition of how powerful women are when they join together to do things.
00:37:22
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like, yeah, the significance of that is just so massive. I don't think that can be ignored. Yeah, being able to do this in a group with other women is something that I did not foresee how impactful that was going to be how much more connected to women in general, that was going to make me feel
00:37:45
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because our sexuality is just such a vulnerable area for us. So to be able to do that together, it let me know also how important it is to me to facilitate and gather women together under the Red Tent Collective. And it just felt very reaffirming and like a deep reminder almost, like something I'm deeply already knew, understood, and I was being reminded of it. I love that so much.
00:38:15
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I agree too that I feel that powerful connection now with women and it just keeps growing every day. And I also feel called to share that with others and especially like the people I'm closest to. I just want to let them know that they can feel that too and they can have it too. For me, probably the biggest takeaway is feeling that worthiness that I can feel this way and I can have this and that there's so much pleasure that I can experience.
00:38:45
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And I'm worthy of that. And that's just like my mantra after this because not all women feel like they're entitled to pleasure or that they deserve this kind of happiness and joy through sexuality. And I just feel so much gratitude for you staff and for Carolina and all the women I've connected with in this journey. And I feel so worthy and I want others to feel that way too.
00:39:12
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Oh, beautiful. Thank you. Thank you both for being a part of it. I'm so honored to have guided you on this journey. And it was so beautiful to witness the connections and the depth of vulnerability that was displayed from each woman in this experience. And I am so excited to continue to share
00:39:34
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this with other women because it is so needed. Imagine if every woman on the planet went through sex queen or embodied their sensuality and sexuality. The world would be such a different place. Women would be fucking on fire. It's so powerful and juicy and pleasurable and alive and I'm super excited for more women too.
00:39:56
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get to play with their sex queen and embody their inner sex queen. So thank you for sharing here today. I would love to end. This is the way I always like to end these episodes when I have guests on is by asking three questions. So we'll go around, whatever comes into your mind, there's no right or wrong. We'll start with you, Nicole. What is something that you are celebrating right now? Hmm.
00:40:20
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I love rapid fire stuff like this. Something I'm celebrating right now is creating a community here and making new friends. I'm really excited about that. Celebrating you, Carolina. I am celebrating a women's circle that I'm currently cultivating for this fall for my local people, my local women.
00:40:42
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Like I said, that reminder of how special, how sacred it is, women gathering together. I'm just so grateful to be able to hold that space for other women and for us to be able to get together. So I'm really celebrating that. I'm celebrating that very much. I love the thread of community here. And I'm going to share a celebration as well because I feel called to. I am also celebrating.
00:41:04
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Finding my people here locally, that is such a big focus for me is finding my people and cultivating community in person as well. And it's fun that we all have a similar thread here. I'm also, I'm going to do an extra celebration for me because this is, this is on brand for sex queen. I'm celebrating a great orgasm I had right before this call. And then also pizza.
00:41:28
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This was like, what was on the dinner menu for me before the podcast? Pizza and orgasm, so it's celebrating that. And that also is the second question, which I'm going to share with you both now, I'd love
Finding Joy in Everyday Pleasures
00:41:41
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to hear. Nicole, first, what is bringing you pleasure right now? I'm going to have to say dance again. I know I keep talking about it, but it's just been so much fun. I love moving my body and I dance at home when I'm alone too, and that natural fun movement.
00:41:57
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How's that feeling? I love it. So I'm finding a lot of pleasure lately. This is a little random, but in nesting, I've been like redecorating my office space, just nesting around my home. And something about it is just very pleasurable. It feels very intentional and just recognizing my intentional energy when I place things a certain way or put things in certain places. It just feels very pleasurable. It's bringing me
00:42:26
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I'm recognizing these days that pleasure can really be found in anything that I do. But that's one way that it's like definitely significant right now for me. I love it. It really shows that pleasure can be found in all ways and all things. And we're always going through different seasons and really embracing pleasure and everything we do is so powerful. It makes us feel alive and get so much joy and fulfillment from.
00:42:49
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life. So I love this for you. The final question, whoever feels cool to share first, I'm going to let you pop out because this last question is, what is something that you wish every woman on the planet could know or experience? The sense of community and loving power of a group of women because not everyone gets to experience that, but I want everyone to because it's been so life changing for me the last couple of years, especially after the first retreat I went on.
00:43:17
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women have so much love to offer and men too, but the power of women getting together is just, oh, there's nothing like it. I want every woman to have that. Yeah, that was great. I do agree with you, Nicole. And additionally, I would love for every woman to be able to experience, to feel thriving in their body, to feel
00:43:42
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that they are really thriving in their body, mind and soul and the connection of all of those. And to just feel this, this deep connection with their womb space. I am obviously connected to the womb as far as recognizing that to be a very powerful
00:44:00
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And I really, I would just love for every woman to be able to feel such a deep connection to her body and feel deeply trustful in that. Beautiful. I love that. So powerful. Thank you both for being here and for sharing. It was a pleasure to connect and grateful for you to share your authentic experience of
00:44:22
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Your journey of embodying a sex queen and your journey of life. And it doesn't end here. It's just the beginning. And I'm really excited to see both of you step even more into who you are in owning each of your individual magic because the world needs it. The women need it.
00:44:38
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and I can't wait for people to experience everything that you're bringing in really incredible that you're both bringing this locally connecting in community in the places that you live. So we'll put your links of how people can connect with you in the notes below and maybe find you locally as well and on Instagram and all of the places. So thank you both you sex queens for being here. I've loved this conversation and love you both as well. So thank you.
00:45:05
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Thank you so much. Love you guys so much.