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Stressed Yarn?
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Trigger warning: Depression, self-harm
Stressed ka na din ba in life? In this economy, sino bang hindi? Chz.In this episode, we are joined by our Scorpio friend, Franz, and talk about stressful events and our coping mechanisms-- both the unhealthy and healthy.
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World Health Organization. (2020). Doing what matters in times of stress. World Health Organization. Retrieved July 15, 2022, from https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240003927?gclid=CjwKCAjw_b6WBhAQEiwAp4HyIFGx70tLDm7NR7USHL9iHi2J9b2wVa7T5NntBrobNnzaEf2U8WEdxxoCvfkQAvD_BwE
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Navigating Podcast Uncertainty
00:00:02
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I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my guest. I don't know what to do with my guest. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast. I don't know what to do with my podcast.
00:00:30
Speaker
I'm not going to do that, I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to prepare for this, I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to do that anymore, I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to do that anymore, I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to do that anymore, I'm not going to do that anymore.
Confusion Over Episode Dates
00:00:52
Speaker
Do you want to watch the episode, Cash? I want to watch one, two, three. Do you want to watch the episode, Not in this podcast? I imagine that I will be able to watch this part. Oh my gosh. For which are they already? I want to watch the episode, Cash in June. Oh, I want to watch the episode, Cash in June. Oh, I want to watch the episode,
00:01:25
Speaker
It's July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. It's July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th or July 9th. It's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't know if it's July 9th or July 9th. I don't
00:01:52
Speaker
I don't know if you're a guest or not, but I'm a guest. I'm a guest. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I'm going to pick four. So, I
00:02:21
Speaker
Hello, my name is Chirp. Hello, poor Chirp. Hello, hi. Hello, darling. So, yeah. But I don't want to have a guest. So, I'm going to have a guest.
Planning Episodes with Special Guests
00:02:40
Speaker
So I'm going to tell you something, I'm going to tell you something, but I'm going to do the first episode, I'm going to do the second one, and I'm going to do the third one. I'm going to do the third one, I'm going to do the third one. I'm going to do the third episode, the third one. Next episode, I'm going to do the third one.
00:03:00
Speaker
But yes, again, are you a non-uncoming special guest for this episode? Oh, actually, I don't know. I don't know how to say it in English. I don't know how to say it in English. I don't know how to say it in English. I don't know how to say it first. That's what I mean by from the past.
00:03:23
Speaker
I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'm going to try my best. I'll try my best.
00:03:45
Speaker
I'm not subject to all of my friends. I'm a huge saucy, stripple, sai, and... She said... I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. It's funny. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about.
00:04:14
Speaker
For me, it's not a curriculum, it's a hierarchy of my core subjects, prioritizing English, science, math. And it's not a periphery, it's not a society, it's not something that's really important, but it's...
Coping with College and Life Stress
00:04:31
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00:04:40
Speaker
So friends will be joining us for our third episode where we will have a very special topic. Well, not really, really special, but it's a topic that we are all familiar with. It's... nutrition. It's stress. But yeah, again, this is our third episode. And my name is Darren.
00:05:11
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My name is Cash. And this is... Is this thing on? The podcast. F***. Oh, it's like... Oh, it's like... I thought it was an intro. Well, it's like a video podcast now, man. Anyway... Okay, take it away, Dario. I'm so... I'm very conscious that I'm going to be on an airplane. Okay.
00:05:38
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say
00:05:49
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say
Emotional Detachment During Stress
00:06:05
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it.
00:06:08
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it.
00:06:11
Speaker
Look at me, I'm gonna go work in friendship now, I listen. She talks, I talk, she listens. Yeah, it works. I don't want to be subconscious. I don't want to be unconscious. I don't want to go to the airport. I don't want to go to the airport. I don't want to go to the city.
00:06:36
Speaker
I'm going to make a podcast for you guys. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit about it. I'm going to tell you a little bit.
00:07:11
Speaker
So see friends, I am college friend Namin. Samba tai na kare lala friends.
00:07:20
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:07:40
Speaker
And... I don't know, I don't know. But it's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard. It's the best song I've ever heard.
00:08:18
Speaker
And so now we've got college friends coming. They're like, I don't want to go to college. So they're like, I don't want to go to college. But I'm a political organization. I don't want to go to college. I don't want to go to college. I don't want to go to college. I want to go to college. Very good.
00:08:25
Speaker
First question of the day.
00:08:47
Speaker
So that's how I felt. I felt like I was a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. I was like, I'm a friend. My historical revisionist though.
00:09:16
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This is my side of history. This is my opinion. This is my side. This is my opinion. This is my side. This is my opinion. This is my side. This is my side of history. This is my side of history. This is my side of history. This is my side of history. This is my side of history.
00:09:44
Speaker
I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it. I don't know what to do with it.
00:10:05
Speaker
What is this here? What is this being your history? What is this here? What is this being your history?
00:10:25
Speaker
No, I don't know how to say that I'm not going to do anything like that. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:10:56
Speaker
I think it's important to remember that there is no stress, no college, that we don't have to do anything about it.
00:11:05
Speaker
In a college, there's a lot of people who don't know what to do, but they don't know what to do when they're in a college. There's a deadline, they don't know what to do, they don't know what to do, they don't know what to do when they're in a high school, they don't know what to do when they're in a high school, they don't know what to do when they're in a high school, they don't know what to do when they're in a high school.
00:11:30
Speaker
The experience in college, at that time, there was no stress at all. But it was... When I
Healthy vs Unhealthy Stress Coping
00:11:40
Speaker
was in college, there was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all. There was no stress at all.
00:12:07
Speaker
If you're going to answer the same question you threw at France.
00:12:19
Speaker
We want the princess. I feel like we have a lot of stress and we don't manifest physically. Like, I don't know how to say that I'm a doctor. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. Because of stress.
00:12:48
Speaker
I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know.
00:13:05
Speaker
I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know.
00:13:32
Speaker
I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:13:49
Speaker
I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:14:16
Speaker
I mean, I'm talking to myself, the third person.
00:14:44
Speaker
I don't know, but I don't know the responsibilities, but I don't know what to do with the repercussions. There are consequences, but I don't know what to do with them. But at the same time, I think it's important to have freedom.
00:15:11
Speaker
Empower. Power hungry.
00:15:30
Speaker
must my power not go over my own choices in life. So even though stressful, I don't want to make my own choices to make my own choices. But again, that's another topic. I don't want to make my own choices. I don't want to make my own choices. But again, that's another topic. I don't want to make my own choices. I don't want to make my own choices. But again, that's another topic. I don't want to make my own choices. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another topic. But again, that's another
00:16:00
Speaker
How do you feel about your own responsibilities? My own responsibilities are very stressful.
00:16:19
Speaker
I don't know if it will happen or not, but I don't know if it will happen or not. I don't know if it will happen or not. I don't know if it will happen or not. I don't know if it will happen or not.
00:16:39
Speaker
Actually, when I was young, I didn't have any stress. When I was young, I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do.
00:17:08
Speaker
To be fair, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:17:35
Speaker
I would like to consider that I'm really interested in being resilient. So for a role model, I'm really interested in being resilient. And I would like to say that I've had a lot of adversity since childhood. Since childhood, I've had the pandemic when I battled with cancer. So I'm really interested in being able to do that.
00:18:00
Speaker
I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor. I'm a cancer survivor.
00:18:14
Speaker
I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that. I don't know what to do with that.
00:18:49
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:19:00
Speaker
But I don't know how long it will take for me to get a treatment. I don't know if I will be able to get a treatment for that treatment.
00:19:19
Speaker
I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it
00:19:52
Speaker
It is easy to be beautiful because beauty is natural. I'm related to a pretty privilege, so I don't know if it's true or not.
00:20:18
Speaker
Well, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:20:27
Speaker
That's how you do it, man. That's how you do it, man.
00:20:42
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:21:08
Speaker
Oh, it's a friendship quiz. Oh my, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good. Oh, it's coming so good.
00:21:32
Speaker
That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny. That's really funny.
00:21:57
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:22:24
Speaker
It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism. It was a good idea to have a shopping mechanism.
00:22:47
Speaker
a day. So that's how I distract myself. I'm a productive and a bad guy. I'm going to record the whole thing. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting. I'm going to do a lot of painting.
00:23:15
Speaker
I will give myself an ice cream after I do this task. Eventually, I will give myself an ice cream. I will give myself an ice cream.
00:23:50
Speaker
What is the most stressful event or if not the most one of the most stressful events that you remember happening to you?
00:24:00
Speaker
I think it's a bit of a reason why I'm here at the college level. It's been a long episode since the pandemic started. I think it's been a long time since the welfare crisis started.
00:24:16
Speaker
I've been working with a lot of people, but I don't have a lot of financial aspects. I don't have a lot of wealth, I don't have family, I don't have a lot of stress, I don't have a pandemic, at least the height of the pandemic, I don't have a lot of money, I don't have a lot of cost, I don't have a lot of stress.
00:24:42
Speaker
day-in-day-out, but I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:25:09
Speaker
I don't know. I don't know. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID. It's anti-COVID.
00:25:33
Speaker
It's like, I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:26:02
Speaker
Outlet for stress. I think it's a stressful moment in my life. If you don't have a top-down list, you won't find out who is going to be a hiker. First son. First son. First kid.
00:26:22
Speaker
So, there is a moment in the moment. Because for me, I think it was unfortunate. I think it was unfortunate that it was unfortunate that it was unfortunate.
00:26:35
Speaker
I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to expect.
00:27:05
Speaker
I'm not going to change, I'm just coming now. I don't want to go into shock, which is normal. But how I cope during those events was I detached. I detached emotionally, because it's all brown.
00:27:35
Speaker
I also don't like, I don't like feeling my emotions. I know how to feel my emotions, but sometimes the emotions can get so overwhelming. The more you get deeper, the more you try to struggle out of it.
00:28:05
Speaker
I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know how to say it but I don't know
00:28:45
Speaker
It's really hard to get out. It's really hard to get out. It's really hard to get out.
00:29:05
Speaker
So whenever things get too intense, like too emotional, I detach right away. I detach myself from the situation, I detach my emotions, but I'm a third person just looking at myself.
00:29:23
Speaker
And there are times I still do that now. Is it healthy? I don't know.
00:29:36
Speaker
I can say anyway, if you detach, but it's also a professional. Let me just put that disclaimer with psychology and all that stuff. But the problem when I detach is I repress the feelings instead of trying, instead of feeling my emotions and acknowledging it.
00:30:01
Speaker
What I did before was, I just don't acknowledge them at all and then repress it and then it's not unexpected. I think it's unhealthy. I think it's unhealthy. I think it's a good thing to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings about your emotions. I think it's a good thing to acknowledge your emotions.
00:30:27
Speaker
I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:30:45
Speaker
I don't have a support system. I don't have a coping mechanism, like relying on my support system. But before it was unhealthy, I couldn't break the damn emotions that I kept.
00:30:59
Speaker
It gets so overwhelming. So it wasn't healthy for me then. That's how I cope now. If I can't handle the emotions on my own, I don't have to be on my own. There are other people who can help me.
00:31:25
Speaker
You share the burden with other people. Yeah, make them feel it though. Along with the other burden. Make them feel your burden.
00:31:38
Speaker
Actually, if someone asked for your help, someone asked for your help, someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help. Someone asked for your help
00:32:00
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This is my psychosocial disorder, this is my bowel incontinence. So, imagine a young adult who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time, who has been here for a long time.
00:32:30
Speaker
Imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine, I can't imagine,
00:32:58
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So for two years, what's the two years now? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:33:11
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two years now. It's been a long time since I've been a doctor for a long time. It's been a long time since I've been a doctor for a long time, since I've been a doctor for a long time.
00:33:30
Speaker
and spread the urinary system. Since the pandemic, there has been a lot of lockdown and community quarantine. There have been a lot of health protocols in the hospitals.
00:33:45
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I'm a doctor, so I don't want to go to the hospital. I don't want to go to the hospital. I don't want to go to the hospital. I don't want radiation therapy. I don't want to go to the hospital after radiation therapy. I want to go to the hospital.
00:34:04
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I was in the operating room, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office, and I was in the office.
00:34:36
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There is power in the community.
00:34:42
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I don't know if it's because I'm 11. Hello, my classmates are 11. My beauty is power. Which is true. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:35:13
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But on that note, we're also talking about coping mechanisms.
00:35:26
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drinking alcoholism and coping mechanism was drinking and you also acknowledge now you knew that that wasn't healthy well physically and i don't mentally i don't think it's also healthy because it's just numbing your mind right in your emotions it's numbing everything now that you've acknowledged or you since you've realized that that's not healthy have you found other coping mechanisms
00:35:53
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Yeah, um, so no, um, drinking rates, like sober every day to get away with the stress.
00:36:16
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There are a lot of challenges in Abhinikesh. There is a lot of pressure from the situation. There is a lot of drinking and drinking. But there are a lot of challenges. There are a lot of opportunities. There are a lot of bikes.
00:36:38
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I don't know how to open a gym, I don't know how to open a gym, I don't know how to distract myself and do more by legends, others would see it unhealthy.
00:36:53
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it's for me it was the better choice available also and accessible to me and so it got my head and thoughts away from a lot of stuff so
00:37:09
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Because of the pandemic, because of that stressful event.
00:37:28
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It would have, you know, the situations in my life would have spiraled down in such a way that it would be very irreversible. You're welcome. At least not to improve. That's great. At least not to recognize that.
00:37:57
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I guess my next question, or the next question we can ask is, was his unhealthy coping mechanism and now he has a new healthy mechanism?
00:38:20
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See, friends, I wanted to ask her if, did you have any unhealthy coping mechanisms?
00:38:44
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Some of our listeners are hesitant to tell us that we are going to have a conversation with them. We are going to have a conversation with them. We are going to have a conversation with them. We are going to have a conversation with them. We will have a conversation with them.
00:38:59
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I don't think there are any unhealthy coping mechanisms. I don't think there's any reason for that. I don't think there's any reason for that.
00:39:19
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I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me. I care about the people around me.
00:39:43
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So if I have the capacity, the environment to do the self-destruct mode,
00:39:53
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And I think that there are ways to cope with stress. I think that there are a lot of thought styles that are helpful. Think about the people that you think, care about. Before, another stressful event for me was when I was pregnant again. Follow me with a different kid.
00:40:23
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Motherhood is so for me, you know. I wanted to work, but I had to leave my son and my husband here in Bulan. It was very stressful for me then. Even though I had the support system, like that he was there and other friends as well, like nah.
00:41:00
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Even though I had a support system then, it was still overwhelming for me. I was going through something with all due respect to my friends who tried their best to support me, they still didn't
00:41:16
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know how it felt for me as a mom and also being pregnant too, like your extra hormone.
00:41:25
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I was apart from my child and I was also pregnant with a baby that I wasn't ready again all the time. This is one of the darkest moments in life. I was so freaking tired because I was working too. So I was tired emotionally, I was tired physically, working on top of night shift, on top of being pregnant.
00:41:54
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I have to go on, of course, for the sake of my kid who was already alive. I had to go on for the sake of the one that I was scaring. Trigger warning, self-harm.
00:42:23
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So, I have a picture frame. I have a glass with a picture frame. I have a glass with a picture frame.
00:42:38
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For me, it's hard to say what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm doing.
00:43:09
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They told me, you have to ask for help. And I didn't know how, so I just screamed. They were like,
00:43:49
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figure warning again, content warning, self-harm.
00:43:57
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Speaking of self-harm
00:44:05
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I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if that's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know if it's what it is. I don't know
00:44:49
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I had to do something to make me cry or else
00:45:00
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I don't know what's going to happen. So I started to cut myself. I said that would help me feel the pain, basically, and that would help me cry. And it became a thing for me on and off.
00:45:27
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Until, yeah, until I was pregnant with big, big. So no, no times then. I'm very sorry. I know, like, please stop listening. I hope. I know.
00:45:47
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Why are you hurting yourself? I would cut myself, but not too deep, of course, because I don't want to go to the hospital, but just deep enough for me to bleed and for me to be able to feel the pain and cry.
00:46:07
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And you had the shame that came with it because you had to hide it. Those were very dark times. How because we're gonna keep this podcast light. I'm so sorry.
00:46:26
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Yeah, that was a very, very unhealthy coping mechanism that I'm glad I have started to unlearn. I wasn't even ready for that. I wasn't ready for that.
00:46:50
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Um, like, yeah, uh, that was, that was crazy. Crazy times. But anyway, sorry, sorry, sorry. I was, I was asking, I was asking friends about unhealthy coping mechanisms. And I think the reason why I wanted to ask that.
00:47:16
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They say like even small vices like smoking and drinking and just being reckless is
00:47:28
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science, small ways of being self-destructive. And that's how we became conscious of it. Even actually, when I choose to drink, I remember you guys telling me, oh, you know what I mean? Like, girl, I don't know what you want. I don't know what you want. I don't know what you want. I don't know what you want.
00:48:05
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It's unhealthy. I find excuses for it. Unhealthy. Usually, a lot of people would say that there are defense mechanisms. There are actually natural responses. Now we would find ways to regress or to project.
00:48:27
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I think an important thing for me to take away when I'm young is we come to a point of acknowledging
00:48:36
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This is what I enjoy, seeing that I didn't afford the unprofessional help. The resilience! I don't know what to do with this. The coping mechanism! I don't know what to do with this episode. I don't know what to do with this. But I don't know what to do with this. I don't know what to do with this.
00:49:01
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Because talking about it is one way of acknowledging. But that's how you come to realize things when you talk to other people. So it's one way to realize.
00:49:18
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Once you acknowledge, that's a step forward to becoming better, right? Yeah. If you had any lessons that you learned along the way, you know, with these unhealthy coping mechanisms or stressful situations. That's a good question.
00:49:41
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After a long time, I had a little bit of control over the stress. So I had a little bit of a problem, but I had a lot of expectations to help the family provide for the finances. I had a lot of expectations because of what happened, because of that unfortunate event. So I had a little bit of stress, but
00:50:10
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Nicole, do you have any questions? No, I don't have any questions. I don't have any questions about life after cancer. I don't have any questions, but I have a question for you. I don't have any questions. I don't have any questions. I don't have any questions. I don't have any questions.
00:50:39
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Sometimes healthy, because of stress. Like a diamond.
00:50:51
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I think it's a favorite of education theories. There is discomfort in growth. At the stress part, you know, discomfort. So, if you don't overcome stress, you will grow. So, you know, if you don't have stress, you will overcome stress. But if you don't have stress, you will grow. I don't know.
00:51:22
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You can go! Hi! I'm so happy that you learned a lesson that you've learned along the way. When I was a kid, I had a lot of experience. I had a lot of difficult thoughts and feelings. I had a lot of stress.
00:51:47
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I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:52:17
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But I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to talk about it. I want to listen to it. I want to talk about it.
00:52:36
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Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity. Every day is a learning opportunity.
00:53:03
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Realize putting it on my own situation. Well, basically things are happening to me because of my own choices then. For the other things, I'm not stressful because they just happen. You struggle so much to find control over it.
00:53:24
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and we stress out because of that. I'm learning that there are things that really we just can't control and maybe we don't have to control it. Maybe we just have to let that go. Yeah, you unhook yourself from those thoughts and feelings that are harmful for you.
00:53:45
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How do you do that? You ask for help. You look for support where you can find it in the right places. For me, like Dariel, I survived most of the, I am surviving. And present tense, I can say it's still happening. We're surviving the most stressful times that we're having right now because we know now, when we take comfort.
00:54:15
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But knowing that there's someone there to have your back when you need it is very helpful and gets you out of the darkest places most of those dark times.
00:54:32
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:54:54
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I think of it as an imagined danger. I think what I was trying to do was to meditate in a way.
00:55:12
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like grounding yeah i ground myself and then i envision myself you know when i close my eyes and then i envision myself and that when i open my eyes i am in my happy place and it really brings me that surge of comfort and my happy place is
00:55:35
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It's a Japanese guide in me. I'm on the street, I'm on the pine trees of the world. I'm on the park now. It's a bit too serious. I'm on the school now. I don't know if this is the best thing I've ever seen in my park. My partner is on the pine trees. So I'm going to go to the town. I'm going to go on a bike during the afternoon. And there's that...
00:56:03
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Yeah, there's an hour during the afternoon where it's not too cold and it's not too hot. But the sunlight is going through the pine trees and it hits your face and it's just warm. It's not even burning hot. It's warm and everything's calm. And I always envision that during my darkest moments.
00:56:27
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And then I can breathe again and I can tell myself I'll be okay.
00:56:43
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I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:57:07
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You live by your values. You give up those values that are not valuable or bad values. You run towards those values that you care about most.
00:57:23
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So, for example, if you're interested in social media, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change, if you're interested in making a change,
00:57:55
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It leads you against your values.
00:58:20
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What are your values? What are your actions? What are your values? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions? What are your actions?
00:58:46
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What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about? What are you excited about?
00:59:20
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Now we got through the episode and actually I learned a lot of stuff from the both of you and I feel less stressful now than before starting the episode.
00:59:34
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Oh, I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to do.
01:00:00
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So, we try our best. Yeah, we try our best as you can see. We try our best. We are trying. We're learning. True. Actually, I learned a lot. I've said it already, but I've learned a lot. And salamat friends, we're coming. We're coming over and being a friend all the time. And it's been great to have you on this episode.
01:00:45
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We hope now we can have you again in another episode, but this has been a great episode. It was a bit serious, more serious than our other, like our past two episodes.
01:00:54
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Yes, and we really hope, there are so many, we have so many topics actually.
01:01:07
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we can make a pride episode any month if we want to because pride should be celebrated every month not just because it's June right so we will have that episode soon if not
01:01:25
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We make our own rules. Let me slam into the schedule. Because we're like adults now, right? We try to stick by our own expectations.
01:01:46
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Um, I'll stress your episode not in this week. I just want to know audience engagement for the next week. Can you comment on your opinion? No, no, no, no, no. It's a social media at any of the non-camps. Or comment supposed. Or comment supposed, actually. Um, like we prepare for an episode where we talk about the X's and the Y's and the Z's.
01:02:25
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01:02:36
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The alphabet. We're going to talk about the alphabet.
01:02:45
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It's true. It's like when I was a kid. When I was a kid, I was like, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do.
01:03:14
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Okay, actually, I don't know how to move on or move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode. I don't know how to move on the X mode.
01:03:42
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
01:03:59
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01:04:29
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Hi, JP! How are you? So, I'm falling out because of this podcast. He reached out to me and he was like...
01:04:48
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Wait so recently, I'm going to connect with him. Oh, because he was listening to the podcast. And he wanted to reach out and it touched my heart so much. Like, oh, I want to know how you're gonna learn levels. So, yeah. So, after, you know, moving on, I'm going to tell you a new topic. Bye! Bye!
01:05:36
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For that loud, for that loud.
01:05:41
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I don't know. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
01:05:49
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01:07:35
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I don't know. I don't know if you're an expert or not, but I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert or not. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert. I don't know if you're an expert.
01:08:03
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01:08:30
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01:08:55
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Anyways, I hope you enjoyed this video, and I'll see you next time!