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Speaker: Hello, I'm Daryll. And I'm Kesh. And you're listening too. Is this thing on? The podcast. It's official guys like Casa Wannami. Give us a hard topic.
Speaker: Oh my god. Oh my god.
Speaker: Oh, no, that was short lived. Well, Alipasav is a new NRE with the podcast. I think NRE. New Relationship Energy. Honeymoon Face. Then New Year Long.
Speaker: Yeah, you keep telling yourself that. I think we were around each other for a long time. There wasn't really anything to talk about. No, no, no.
Speaker: It was the holidays, it was a break.
Speaker: Oh, I know, man. I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know,
Speaker: in jus lassan sudagdas we come to this we just talk about vip what's the next thing we're gonna talk about the weather
Speaker: I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here. I don't know what's going on here.
Speaker: Which is true! I don't want to be a brother in Loho. Brother in Loho. I don't want to be a brother in Loho. I don't want to be a brother in Loho. I don't want to be a brother in Loho. I don't want to be a brother in Loho. I don't want to be a brother in Loho.
Speaker: Should we take them down?
Speaker: No, no, I think my point was we have so much energy and I do not know how to, you know, sustain that. But... Just stay. Just stay. Happy New Year! So this is our last episode, guys.
Speaker: We have officially run out of things to talk about now. We're just kidding. We're just tired. I think we have the holiday hangover. And I think we all do. You all do. You guys could agree with that, right?
Speaker: New Year in the New Year. Oh, New Year in the New Year with motivation. Even though we do it shitty. At least we did it. Yes, we did it. I think that is one of the topics we brushed into. We brushed up. We brushed on.
Speaker: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know how to say it last year. So I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
Speaker: I think that's why I'm here today. I don't know why I'm here today, but I'm going to do a new year's resolutions. But for the new year, the concept is going to be a little bit different. I'm going to start with a way of life, a way of life, a way of life. I don't know how curious it is, but I'm going to do a lot of instances. I'm going to do a lot of research.
Speaker: from a past lifestyle or practice. Oh my god! Oh my god!
Speaker: So, in general, I would like to say, I don't know how to say it. Let me know in the comments if you want to say it, because I don't know how to say it
Speaker: I think he meant it in a very, very endearing way. In a nice way. It was one of my friends that I just reconnected my own New Year. We were actually talking on New Year's Eve. And that was what he commented. He was like, I don't want to talk to you anymore. I don't want to talk to you anymore. I don't want to talk to you anymore. I don't want to talk to you anymore.
Speaker: I don't know, I don't know how to say that in English, but I don't know how to say that in English. I don't know how to say that in English. I used to say that too, but then I realized, wouldn't that be very, very regressive? That's so boring. That's so weird. Like a person would never change. Like they grow up, you know, emotionally, mentally.
Speaker: Then I stopped saying that. I was just like, I don't know. Stay pretty. Stay safe. Keep working.
Speaker: Cheers!
Speaker: Do whatever you want, we'll just be here, happy for you. Stuff, stuff, stuff. Etc, etc. I think I meant that a bit. But yeah, I think it's good. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea. I think it's a good idea.
Speaker: Madami instances where I said, there are some things that I'd like to change about myself or change about how I deal with things. There are a few then I thought of like, just changing the whole thing, changing the whole persona. Because I was sick of being myself, but that's another conversation and a very, very long one. But yeah, I have, I have, I have a couple. How about you? Do you have?
Speaker: So like, since this is a bad guess, can you tell me more about it? I don't know how to say it. I don't know. Oh, I don't know. I don't know how to say it. Yes. Like, I don't know how to say it. Like, I feel like almost every time I clean the house. Yeah. Small things like that. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
Speaker: Who wants to follow Jesus?
Speaker: I don't know what to say, but I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
Speaker: I will overhaul myself. I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way... I will turn my way...
Speaker: same but this is not a resolution this year I would be more airy type I think so yeah I believe I did a couple of times although never most similar indeed
Speaker: When I was younger, when I was younger, there was a solution for me.
Speaker: a better Christian girl. I second you on that with what you said or shared about your altar call. It's a church camp.
Speaker: So the altar call is it usually happens during a service. We usually experience it in camp or in a very intense service. It's like during the end of the sermon of a pastor.
Speaker: where he or she calls forward the people who would like to accept Jesus Christ as their personal savior or you know would like to return or go back and repent or recommit that's the term that they use recommit their lives to God and I do not recall any altar call that I passed or I missed
Speaker: every Altar call I answer. Yeah and I answered it like of course with all my heart.
Speaker: Everybody went forward, they were so emotional. Of course, subconsciously, yes. Subconsciously, you would be compelled to go in front. But consciously, yes, I would like to answer the call and recommit myself to God again. Because, you know, as humans, we are...
Speaker: a backgrounder for context. No, that's what we used to do as a good Christian girl before, regardless on how good I am, I would still be a very, very bad girl. Like I said, that's very naughty. Very, very naughty. Naughty as in Palasa Gutsanana.
Speaker: There were like so many things that made me guilty as a person and made me feel unworthy. I just felt like shit is the main point. But yeah, so I answered the outdoor call, you know, to recommit myself or
Speaker: It's an insider joke for a lot of Christians, ex -Christians who have deconstructed, when I say deconstructed, they are no longer practicing the faith they have.
Speaker: found a new path which is no longer Christianity, which is no longer that faith. It's an inside joke that a lot of us were born again and again and again and again and again because apparently it's very common for a lot of born -again Christians especially of young people who were indoctrinated early, right? And that's what that's all you've known.
Speaker: that you feel sometimes unsure if saved kapaba. So that is one of the reasons why we also go and answer the altar call. Just in case the first time didn't work. The first 20 times. The triumph formula is to really make you feel unworthy. So unworthy enough that you have to answer to the altar call.
Speaker: And that's how we felt. Other people, though, they went up front, in front rather, they went in front for various reasons. Even for them, they're like rededicating their lives or recommitting their lives. Love that for them.
Speaker: Anyway, the intention is not to shit on, or sorry, it used a bad word. The intention is not to shit on that. The intention right now of us telling this experience is to tell a story of what are the instances where we felt like we were about to change again for the good or for the better. Did it work? It would work for the first few months.
Speaker: Just kidding, any other new year is just a illusion. It's an exploration. It's an exploration, but in yourself, you know, if you know, you know. So that was one of the instances. Another instance would be, I think right now when I got older,
Speaker: I think one of them is like, I would always tell myself after paying the bills, I would say.
Speaker: That's a very consistent lie, I tell myself. But at the end of the day, I don't deserve to do that. But I think it's important to have a gratification support. I don't want to do that anymore. But I think it's important to have a good trip. And I don't want to do that anymore.
Speaker: And I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair and I think that's fair
Speaker: I would exercise more this year. I would lose weight this year.
Speaker: When I got my first breath. Your first breath? My first breath. Ever. Like refrigerator? Yeah.
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Speaker: I love the biggest scum! See you in the next video, bye!
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Speaker: for some reason that would make you feel better
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Speaker: in the whole model scene. This is how biggest lies that I made myself believe was like, it's okay that this gym membership is so pricey, that would actually motivate me to go to the gym. Spoiler, it did not. It definitely did not.
Speaker: But yeah, but I don't know, I don't know, I don't know if you want to go to your fridge, hospice, I don't know if you want to go to a vegetable. Oh my god! They said that's where they go today!
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Speaker: I don't know how to play this. I don't know how to play this. I don't know how to play this. I don't know how to play this.
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Speaker: to add something new to it for it to motivate. It doesn't necessarily really have to be something you buy that is new. Just something new that you can add to the situation to make it more interesting. I think that's the hack, not the buying shit that's new. No, no, no. Yeah, right. Give me an example of not buying things, but it's new to you. I know.
Speaker: I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym. I don't have a gym.
Speaker: You should be closer with them, no? Or at least ask them.
Speaker: I think it's a bit more motivated than I thought. I think it's a bit more of a guest than I thought. I think it's a bit more motivated than I thought. Actually, it's not a guest's podcast. They're very motivated people. But it's not rubbing on us. Or so we think. But we're just really stubborn people. Anyway,
Speaker: And that's why I don't want to go to the gym. I don't want to go to school. I don't want to go back to school. I want to go back to school. I want to go back to school. I want to go back to school. I want to go back to school. I want to go back to school. I want to go back to school.
Speaker: Oh my god, it's like the first few days of the program. Oh, that's not the end. Oh, that's not the end. That's not the end. Excited guy. Except for the program. Excited guy. I'm excited, but I don't know. There's a previous job scope, but I'm not that disappointed. I don't know, I don't know, novelty.
Speaker: I don't know if you're going to be a better employee, or something like that. But I don't know. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee. I don't know if you're going to be a better employee.
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Speaker: I think I am sick. At least I am at school.
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Speaker: Yeah. It was the first time ever. It's never ever in my life. This is horrible. This is a horrible feeling. That didn't go well, did it? How soon were you able to drink again after that? I don't remember exactly, but very, very soon.
Speaker: Yeah, I think everybody has gone through that super hangover and they're like, I swear to God, I've never got to drink again. I don't know about you, but it's not mainly the alak or the getting intoxicated with alcohol when I'm drinking. It's more of the company that of the people that I'm with.
Speaker: That alcohol just helps you loosen up a bit. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
Speaker: Here's the thing, and we've already covered this on our first episode. Oh, I live. No, what we've covered is sometimes, or most of the time even, what we plan is not how it turns out, but it doesn't mean it turns out for the bad or for the worse.
Speaker: Sometimes things just happen on their own and wherever we land is where we land and it's not exactly the worst place that we could be. It's still good. Change has happened, but it might not be how we planned it, but it still happened because change is inevitable. Right. And
Speaker: Where was I going with this? I know but like people are being pressured. I think I felt I feel pressure. I always feel pressure every time like I open the fridge. Every time I look at social media and others are still riding their bikes and I'm not gonna I feel pressure whenever like people are still motivated to work when I'm not or
Speaker: when people get to save this year. And I don't get to do that. Yeah. So, are you trying to say that... Well, about the pressure that you were talking about, I think...
Speaker: Do you feel a good feeling? Or am I in a good place or a bad place? Because if you don't feel the pressure, then it's okay. Like it's okay. You don't care about whether you have changed or not. No, it's okay. I think it's a metric for you to see if you are in the right spot.
Speaker: I think the pressure is not the right metric for you to measure that. There are other metrics, but the pressure is not. The pressure is there to... I mean, pressure does two things. It either demotivates you or motivates you, right? Yeah. So I think as long as you're able to see that pressure as a motivator, that's a good thing.
Speaker: Of course, you won't see that as a motivator all of the time, right? And whenever that happens, it would be a good time to remind you not to remind yourself. It doesn't have to be like right now. You may have your own reasons why, you know, you're not doing X and X, like you're not riding your bike again. You're not going to the gym. But I understand. It's a song.
Speaker: It's a stimulus for self -reflection. To check and see if you are still doing the right thing. There are people that they don't trade bikes because they don't have awareness, privilege, that not all people can have other options.
Speaker: I think what we have to remind ourselves constantly when we are seeing these quote unquote pressures on social media, because I am assuming you are talking about social media because that's where we see other people doing their own shit, right? I think what you have to be reminded of is what do you want to do? You always go back to that. Is biking something that you want to do?
Speaker: If yes, then go do it. Maybe not now, but on your own time. It's kind of like a bookmark, like someday, one day soon, I'm going to go back to biking. I will have the energy and I'll bookmark this and I will be able to do that again. If it's something that you no longer want to do and you just seen that, oh, look at them, they have their own bikes and
Speaker: like wow such a consistent person I wish I was that consistent but I no longer I'm interested in riding bike so should I still ride a bike because this person I think that's that's not a right motivator I think the main motivator is is this something that you want to do someday one day soon
Speaker: then let that motivate you. Whenever I see posts like that, like before, for example, in my example, what I can think of is, this is a very, very, very disgusting example that you're going to be bringing up in other episodes.
Speaker: like before I would be like so hurt or like so triggered and so down it would remind me and I wasn't able to you know finish I just repeated that in English
Speaker: It was reminding me of kind of a failure. Like, yeah, it was reminding me that I was a failure. Is this something that I want to do? That's how I started to see it. Like, is this something that I want to do? And others also reminded me of that. Like, do you want to?
Speaker: Then my answer to that was, yes. Can you do it now? My answer to that was, not yet. Do you think you'll be able to do it someday? And I said, yes. And then, OK. Then let that be a motivator. So every time I see somebody graduating, it's like, you know what? Fucking soon. I'm going to fucking come for that diploma soon. Maybe not now, but in my own time when I can.
Speaker: I will so it was no longer a pressure like a negative one or like a pressure in the sense of around like something you have to do this yeah yeah no it was more of you know what someday someday I'm gonna I'm gonna be able to do that too and you know what it would be fucking better because my kids would be there to witness it with me
Speaker: like to witness that moment and I would be so proud of myself once I would be able and I'm excited for that day to come. Right now I don't have the energy, the time, nor the finances to do that but yeah I just bookmark it as soon. So like goals don't have to be something that you have to like achieve right away because we are all constrained by our own
Speaker: Yeah, and you don't have to even be consistent about it. I think that's a good takeaway. That's a good takeaway from you, Geshna. Even if, yeah, as long as you want to do it or you don't want to do it, it's okay. It's okay if you don't want to buy it. It's okay if you don't want to go back to school and focus on other more important stuff in your life. That's also okay.
Speaker: If you don't do it right away or consistently such as like going to the gym or New Year's resolutions or fixing your bed, do you have to feel bad about it? No, you should not. You should focus on the things that you want to do and
Speaker: Yeah, so even if you want to like, not do chores this weekend and just lie down in bed and just stressed and just do it. As long as the guru...
Speaker: Oh, oh. You'll be like, but I don't want to do it. I don't want to do it. I don't want to feed you now. That's another, of course, that's another. As long as you don't trample on other people's lives, I guess. You're talking about another man, like personal goals, not responsibilities. These are goals outside of our responsibilities. Oh, wait. So let's talk about that.
Speaker: I don't have the responsibility to do this. I don't have the responsibility to do this. Sess you. Sess you, right? Same, same. Like as long as it's functioning. Got it. Got it. Yeah. So I think like circling back to the things that we wanted to change before or things that we wanted to change about ourselves when we were younger.
Speaker: I think a lot of them were pressures from like a lot of those changes were because of pressures that we felt from outside, not like within ourselves. It's not really something that we want to do. It was because we felt compelled to do it. Yeah. Hence it did not really work out well. Felt compelled to do it. Because we kind of made the commitment to get in on it as well. Yeah. For example, like for
Speaker: Losing weight. Let's see. Let's use that example. I felt like I had to get thin or else I'm just gonna be like You know, I would see everybody I felt I felt nobody really told me that but I felt like you know everybody would see me as ugly and undesirable or you know and all that nasty shit and I never really felt motivated
Speaker: to do it, to actually do it. But like last year when I just told myself, nah, I just want to focus on myself, on making myself feel better.
Speaker: And I think what would make me feel better physically is if I, you know, start to exercise and take care of myself a little bit more. It doesn't have to be drastic. It just, whenever I feel like it, like, you know, you were talking about gym memberships and we were talking about how you were not be like able to consistently exercise. Yeah. But do you intend and do you intend to want to be better?
Speaker: I think that's what's important. And you just have to go back to that whenever you have the energy to do so. And action is there for secondary.
Speaker: Yeah, it's important. Yes, it's important. But I think great motivator you, I want this for myself. I actually want this. So with that being said, what are the things that you can say right now for this year that you'd like to have that you want and you're claiming for yourself?
Speaker: I really want to have that assurance of being financially stable but it does not mean I have to have the money that I want but I want to have that peace of mind that even if I am not there or if I
Speaker: I will throw shit at you. You know, that's what we've learned throughout the past years. Peace of mind. I am okay. I'll be okay.
Speaker: I would like to thank you for your privilege, for your opportunity, and for your meaningful support.
Speaker: So what will you do? What are the actions that you're going to take? What are the actions that you're going to take to get that? Being more mindful about expenses, about your income flow, about how you will juggle
Speaker: what's going in and what's going out. And you know, always checking my privilege. It's a process of really reflecting. Yeah, I remember you like you're very
Speaker: concerned about losing your vert. And everybody will be great. Yeah, everybody is. Everybody who is like in this economy, right? But I think one of the things that I remember, and I also took, but I'll take away, was like,
Speaker: Worrying will not really get you anywhere. Reminding yourself on what you already have and what you can do to work with that. Like, again, circling back to what you mentioned, life will throw shit at you unexpectedly. And that's how it is. The important way is how you're going to get back on your feet. Knowing what you already have. And sometimes we forget that. We worry.
Speaker: too much and we get swallowed up by, you know, the anxiety. And I get that. That happens. But we got to just let that, you know, after we process that, we got to remind ourselves, you know what, I'll be okay. I'll be okay. If I lose this job, that would fucking suck.
Speaker: Is that a defense mechanism? Is that how we're just trying to calm ourselves? Yeah, it might be because we have to calm ourselves because what can we do if we are panicking? Like the first thing that you have to remember during a crisis is what? Do not panic. It's not called gaslight yourself to thinking that you're all going to be okay when the earth is, you know, when there's some earthquake.
Speaker: No, it's not that. It's for you to keep calm, for you to be able to think properly and plan what's the next thing that you're gonna do. Because without a sound mind, you won't be able to do shit. You'll just get overwhelmed and your fear is gonna swallow you and you're gonna be paralyzed and you'll end up doing nothing. And you know, it's just gonna be a downward spiral after that. So what I was trying to tell you back then was like,
Speaker: You gotta keep yourself calm, bro. Calm your fucking tits. Yes, but at the end of the day, again, panicking will not get you anywhere. I know that sometimes that's something that you cannot control. I understand that. But it's okay to panic, right? It is, right? It's a fucking natural response. But after you panic,
Speaker: You have to, like, if you're in the right state of mind, once you do get to that right state of mind, you have to remember, okay, I panicked, now what's next? Now what's next? We have really drifted far from the topic. We are now talking about panicking.
Speaker: No, but this is again, going back to the discussion for this year is for us to accept that everything will eventually be fine. Everything will be fine. It's gonna be okay. You have to let your heart believe that. Even though you have no assurance that things will be okay.
Speaker: Because who fucking knows if you will be okay? Nobody really knows. But you have to let yourself at least have that hope that everything will be okay. And you know, having that hope will be enough motivation for you to go forward instead of like, yeah, yeah, got it. Regressing and not, not.
Speaker: I don't mean that, everything will be okay.
Speaker: But there's a lot of work to do, from time to time, in this economy. There's a lot of big things to do, like groceries. That's definitely a different scenario. Yeah. There's a lot of things to do. But there's a lot of things to do inside. There's a lot of work to do. There's 600 things to do. There's a lot of work.
Speaker: Yeah, that's a very different conversation. Yeah, it's a very different, I know. That's not what I was referring to. I was referring to like personal shit that's happening in your life that you can or that you cannot control. You can do something about, I'm saying, that you can do something about.
Speaker: Unfortunately, your fridge, let's start with your... Your attendants. Your attendants in the gym, yeah. Those are things that you can control, right? Those are within your reach. You have power over.
Speaker: I think that's it for now, because I know that the circle is a circle, so I want you to be okay. You have to power someone. You cannot. Yes, that's true. There has to be a balance. I love you.
Speaker: depending oh yes okay now there are some things that you have to do something about it there are some things that you cannot control but you still can't speak about it you know you won't necessarily be mum about it or not say anything about it can you do anything about it well with your actions no not really but you can start the conversation with it about it rather yeah there are different contexts
Speaker: I know, I know. But yeah, I get you, I get you. And thanks for that. That's actually a very good insight. You're very, very welcome. I think one of the resolutions that I am having or I have for this year is continuing what I have already started last year.
Speaker: And what I've started last year was this podcast. This podcast. Like last year was a very good year for me in terms of experiencing life again, I guess, because that's last year I allowed myself to
Speaker: Like, to travel, kayaking medium, and super reliable. But it was one of the first that I've had after so many years. Actually, not even so many years. Like, first in my life, honestly, to travel. And I realized now, ah, okay, if I make plans, I can make it happen. I realized that. I just have to follow through with the plan.
Speaker: And, you know, not, yeah. So, yeah. That's one of the things that I plan to continue this year. Make plans and make them happen. There's so many things in store for this year that I've, I have started to manifest. But manifesting doesn't just, you know, stop at, you know, you thinking about it repeatedly.
Speaker: Manifesting is conditioning your mind and your heart. Setting that this is what I want and that will give you the motivation to act on it. This is something that I manifested
Speaker: I'm in the right path. It won't happen if you don't grab on the opportunities. That's what I've learned this year, like last year. I have to actually make it happen. Well, it's an amongarian for us.
Speaker: I just wanted to conclude it with, like, because we were talking about, you know, this, like, a new year, a new start. I was thinking, you mentioned earlier, like, the same day, just a new calendar. I realized that. You should gaslight yourself and think it's a new year.
Speaker: I was thinking what is the reason why the new year is like eventful when in reality we know that when we wake up after you know midnight I mean when we wake up because we discovered that the world turned around yes so there has to be like an event for that
Speaker: Yeah, I was I was wondering about that. Like, why is it an eventful, you know, aside from, you know, another. There is nothing else to celebrate aside from your birthday. We have to understand that not a lot of people.
Speaker: Again, or has the luxury to, you know, sit back down and ponder on what they've already, like, what are their goals? They cannot do that randomly. Not everybody has that luxury. But the new year is a great, you know, time stop and when to check. It gives them a moment to reflect what happened for the past year. What are the goals that I set last year? What actually did happen? Yeah.
Speaker: Now that there's a new year, what else can I, what else do I want to achieve? I think it's maybe not, it's not a change like something, a change that you can see aside from, you know, the new year, or aside from all those,
Speaker: It's, what changes is our mindset, right? This is a new, a chance to start again, to, okay, this resolution I wasn't able to do last year, but you know what? It's a new year again. I can start again. Cause who doesn't want second chances, right? Or third chances or just another chance in doing what you want in life. Who doesn't want that? So it's, I think it's a reminder for us now.
Speaker: to not give up with trying. I don't know if you felt this not, but I'm feeling gonna. It's so ordinary and nothing changes. But the new year, a new year gives me a chance to reflect, you know what, I can set new goals now. I can have the chance to go for them again. And I think that's really beautiful.
Speaker: you know, not shit on, right? It's a new start. It's really a new start for people like us. For people like us, we're very busy. Yeah, I think it's the reason. Yeah, it's a very good reason why it is a very meaningful day. And yeah, yeah. Hi, Yuan.
Speaker: Happy New Year, Tess. Happy New Year, Dario. And I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year. I wish for this new year.
Speaker: We might not get there like today or the next episode, but we'll get there. We're a baby podcast and I think we're doing great.
Speaker: Yeah. I think. Relatively. Relatively. Relatively. Yeah, but I am hopeful. I am hopeful and I am excited. Yeah, because we are very excited. We are also excited to hear your stories. So if you have like any topics to share, any life stories, please write us, message us on social media, follow us on
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