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Ghost-o Ko Nang Bumitaww
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Awoooo...We're baaaaaaaaaack!!
Patawarin nyo kami, we blame our Aquarius placements for ghosting y'all for a short while. Ang mahalaga, bumalik! Chareeeng
!Bilang napapanahon sa Ghost month, paguusapan natin ang Ghostiiiing
For our the first episode of our second season (o diba, hiatus break kasi yun, di lang kayo informed), we talk about the act of ghosting in modern dating.We talk about the hows, when's and why's of ghosting, and of course, the "now what?" after some f*cking air sign ghosts your ass kahit ang bait-bait mo naman. Saan ako nagkulang? Binigay ko naman lahat! Nag-effort naman ako. Boring ba ako? Hala, baka ang bilis ko kasi mag reply tapos ayaw nya sa clingy HUHUHUHUHUAy sorry, na-carried away ang beshie mo. HAHA! AnywaayyyyyKaumay ng online dating! Pagusapan nalang natin! Kaya mapa ghostee ka man or ghoster, swipe right na to this episode!
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Transcript
Introduction and Life Updates
00:00:00
Speaker
You're listening to the podcast. Hello.
00:00:46
Speaker
Like, I don't know every episode. Life got in the way. So, if you want to listen to a lot of people and not listen to this, you should listen to it. Yes, of course. You don't want to listen to a lot of people. You don't want to listen to a lot of people. You don't want to listen to a lot of people. But... What was the last episode that day? July?
00:00:52
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I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
00:01:16
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June! June? I don't know. I don't know. Excuse me. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:01:47
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I hope you enjoyed this episode. We got scared of the commitment. We got to defeat them. We are going to have a good time. We are going to have a good time.
00:02:04
Speaker
Just to make that clear, that's why we're so busy. But before that, I want to say something. I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something, that's why I want to tell you something.
00:02:34
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Sorry. Why are we single? Why are we single? Why are we single? Why are we single? Wait.
00:02:58
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This episode is going to be in the next episode. Anyways guys, I'm going to show you how to make this video. I'm going to show you how to make this video. I'm going to show you how to make this video. I'm going to show you how to make this video. I'm going to show you how to make this video. I'm going to show you how to make it.
00:03:27
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So I don't know, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:03:56
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I'm a master manipulator. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I don't know what I'm talking about. I'm talking about building.
00:04:21
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I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not. I don't know if it's building or not.
00:04:54
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:05:26
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I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi. I don't know how to say it in Hindi.
00:05:58
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Oh my god, please do not use the name of Taylor Swift in vain. We are very sincerely sorry that we did not end the last season properly.
00:06:21
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I don't know how to end the season, I don't know. Imagine a Papagal! I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:06:47
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I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:07:16
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I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:07:36
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Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Actually, the recording is not that big, but it's not that big. It's not that big, but it's not that big. As usual, it's not that big. It's not that big, but it's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big. It's not that big.
00:08:05
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I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't
00:08:22
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August 16th.
Exploring Ghost Month
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This year's Ghost Month begins on August 16th and ends on September 14th.
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know.
00:08:47
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I don't know if I'm going to be able to do that, but I think I'm going to be able to do that. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:09:04
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Me guard badito. Why is August? August. August. August. No, no, no, not complete.
00:09:25
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Why is August a ghost month? The practice of observing the ghost month originated with the Chinese. According to Chinese folklore, the ghost month is a time when spirits of the dead and their ancestors and relatives visit the world of the living. Oh my god. Oh my god.
00:09:55
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But in November, I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I
00:10:48
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Anyway, we digress.
00:10:53
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It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad. It's not that bad, it's not that bad.
00:11:20
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I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day. I want to ask a minute of silence for the joke of the day.
00:11:50
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about cash we're gonna talk about ghosting at very appropriately August is ghost month it's a very according to the Chinese yeah according to the Chinese
00:12:16
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I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit. Anyways... I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit. Anyways... I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit. I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit. I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit. I don't know if it's because Virgos don't care about that shit.
00:12:45
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I know I'm ghosting. When did you learn about ghosting? I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:13:15
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I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know,
00:13:47
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:14:11
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I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry!
00:14:32
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I have to learn when it's called ghosting. When can it be called ghosting? When? Because that means what is ghosting. How can you say ghosting now? How can you say ghosting now? How can you say ghosting now?
00:14:59
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The moment that I see myself, I don't know. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them. I don't know how to interact with them.
00:15:29
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I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about.
00:15:57
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I call you ghosty. I call you ghosty? I don't know why you don't have a subconscious. I don't know why you don't have a subconscious. I don't know why you don't have a subconscious. I don't know why you don't have a subconscious. I don't know why you don't have a subconscious. I don't have a subconscious. I don't have a subconscious. I don't have a subconscious.
00:16:23
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And how do you feel about this? I don't know how to say it, but it's good. Wait, it's okay. If you want to know more about social media, this is what posting is. But during that time, I was already alone, with my partner, Venn. Yeah, so, but I never really experienced it, Venn. Because Venn is a dating app, so it's very prevalent now.
00:16:51
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So I learned 3 days before I got there. 3 to 4 or 5 days. I learned 3 days before.
00:17:31
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So I've learned sometimes it's not as simple as
00:17:39
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texting or chatting the other person if you want to talk to them.
00:17:43
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Apparently, you also have to be wary on how frequent you do it and who does the first move. So that's why my first calculation, I'm like, should I chat first? Have I been ghosted? Nobody would make a fucking first move. I went a lot of it. I mean, I see my algorithm is full of it. So I think it happens to a lot of people.
00:18:13
Speaker
Do you feel bad when you're ghosting someone? No.
00:18:42
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No. Should I feel bad? Bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person bad person
00:19:07
Speaker
No, it's a start. Like, how does this dating upward? Blah, blah, blah. So at first, you'd be like, of course, very excited if you have matches.
Dating Apps and Self-Worth
00:19:20
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So you'd invest your time or like energy in starting the conversation you want to sound interesting. You know, you become invested in it somehow, especially when you're new to the scene. Oh my God.
00:19:37
Speaker
I am self-worth, Godot. So sad to admit, but that's how it was at first. Because I really didn't know how it works. Or at least I knew it by theory, but not in practice. So when I started to try it, I didn't have enough of some what, investments, a secondary seizure going on with the person. But still, I still end up getting ghosted.
00:20:05
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Is there something wrong with me? Are they not interesting enough? Blah blah blah blah blah So yes, that's the reason why I feel bad I never really ghosted anyone before Like, especially, you know, I mean, not for instance I don't know if I'm a ghost or an ending I don't know if I'm an ending or not I don't know if I'm an ending or not I don't know if I'm an ending or not I don't know if I'm an ending
00:20:31
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I don't know what's happening. I don't know what's happening. We're transpiring in those. I don't know what's happening.
00:20:43
Speaker
Let's call it experiment time on how that works. It's so funny. Like what the fuck? Like how do people date under these circles? How do you all find partners? Like this is such a godforsaken place. That's what I think of the dating app sometimes.
00:21:10
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It's an option for straight women. That is so sad. Oh my god, bub. Tell us again, let's talk about that. Why don't you feel bad? Or why do you think it's okay?
00:21:33
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I don't think it's okay, but I also don't know why I feel bad about it. Usually, when I talk about ghosts, I don't know. Like, when I talk about ghosts, I don't know why I feel bad about it. I don't know why I feel bad about it. I don't know why I feel bad about it.
00:21:52
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No, I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to say.
00:22:17
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Um, I want to make you feel, nah, you know, I'm just here, but like. So usually.
00:22:39
Speaker
So usually it happens, like it happens, but, um, for example, politics, no other people, like big deal breaker, when a certain person subscribes to a certain type of politics, or most especially the laughter of you.
00:23:09
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Yeah, I don't think so, Leonard. Have you ever told a person, no? I think we should end this. Yes. You can say, I don't want to... No, I don't really like...
00:23:30
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because the meaning of the word like now is different. So let's say this person was a good person. I don't know if they're very kind, they're very independent.
00:23:41
Speaker
interesting but there wasn't... this was a girl... like she was very... she was quiet she didn't say much really and i had to... it was a podgaster moment i was with her so i was just asking about her and she was returning the questions to me and it was a nice... it was a nice interaction face to face
00:24:08
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How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face? How do you refer to that term face-to-face?
00:24:33
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So it wasn't a bad experience, but it was one that made me an alien. It's not going to work out. So I told her that after... We would still chat, but we didn't have time to interact. Wait, so it's not my own thing. Young situation shit.
00:25:02
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in too much of a situation. Yeah, the communication. So I was like, I know I don't think it's gonna, I don't think this should go in here, but I'd love to connect. I mean, I'd love to stay in touch.
00:25:32
Speaker
If you want to talk to someone, you can just reach out. Reach out! Talk to porn! If you need to talk to anyone, you can always reach out to me via email. Anyway, I don't know. I don't know. I don't want to talk to anyone because I'm a ghost.
00:25:57
Speaker
kinds of ghost. What are you in mumble for?
00:26:23
Speaker
Where are you located? How old are you? I'm just like speaking in theory. You never really got in depth yet, right? So when the conversation stops there, somebody asked a question and the other one did not respond anymore. That's ghosting now. That's qualified, that's ghosting now.
00:26:49
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and it wasn't responded so that's mostly is that a bad is that bad not really right because nobody really invested yeah like any any more than a few minutes I think that's okay that's like I already an indicator now okay it's not it's not a match so let's proceed let's go to the ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal ganal
00:27:18
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but apparently in a situation like there are three months in the talking stage or like I don't know I love you honey just be out of nowhere the other person just disappears I think that's
00:27:38
Speaker
Like Sadan. Like Sadan Talagad. Like Sadan. Oh my god. Is that a bad thing? Oh, I see. I think you always do the other person to say... But I don't know if you can establish that.
00:28:05
Speaker
I think it's a moral obligation to say not at least now. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this is not gonna work out. Sorry, this
00:28:31
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When I was in a college in the Philippines, I didn't have a memory of it. I didn't have a sense of memory. But when I was in a college in the Philippines, there were many Filipino cultural traits that I thought were confrontational people.
00:28:54
Speaker
Like, um, I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it, but I don't know how to say it.
00:29:20
Speaker
I don't like that. I don't like that anymore.
00:29:36
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I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work. I don't think this is gonna work.
00:30:17
Speaker
I would hope Nama gets my own message and it's gonna make me feel even more bad.
00:30:33
Speaker
So, anyways, I'm not, sorry, not that, not that parkour, not that one, you know, after the ghost happened, I ghosting back at Nango Ghost, right? Mm-mm.
00:30:46
Speaker
But when I was young, I didn't really know what to do. I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do. But I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do, but I didn't know what to do.
00:31:10
Speaker
How long have you been dating? I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now. I've been dating for three months now.
00:31:34
Speaker
We just have a political experience. Mostly political, because the personal is also political. But for example, there are conversations about how we are going to deal with this, how we are going to solve this, how we are going to solve this, how we are going to solve this, how we are going to solve this, how we are going to solve this.
00:32:00
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religious beliefs religious beliefs I don't know how to say it, I don't know how to say it, I don't know how to say it, I don't know how to say it
00:32:23
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until after you give it some time. After you give it some time. For example, when you say, you hooked up with a person, you guys clicked. It would take some time to really develop the relationship. But at the same time, you can invest in emotions. You can invest in time. So, you have to be able to be a ghost. Because you have to invest in yourself. But at the same time,
00:32:59
Speaker
Sorry guys. I'm a bad person. I'm a shitty person. For the same reasons I think.
00:33:14
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I don't know if it's a ghost or if it's a feeling or not. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.
00:33:39
Speaker
I have a personality trait that I don't have, I have a submissive type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type of personality type
00:34:13
Speaker
I think ghosting is a natural thing for me, because I don't know how to say it, but it's a natural
The Impact of Ghosting
00:34:20
Speaker
thing for me. What do you think about ghosting? It was a natural death for the... What do you think about ghosting? What do you think about ghosting? What do you think about ghosting? What do you think about ghosting? What do you think about ghosting?
00:34:26
Speaker
We changed our energy. We changed our energy. Good morning.
00:34:41
Speaker
This is going to be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction. This will be the end of the transaction.
00:35:06
Speaker
I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it. I don't feel bad about it.
00:35:31
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:35:59
Speaker
And then, I can't wait to learn. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes. I don't have to wait for 40 minutes.
00:36:21
Speaker
I don't know. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to do it.
00:36:37
Speaker
So, for me, it's been a long time since I've been here. Basically, it's been a long time since I've been here. I've been working on mental health support features for the users. To be honest, it's been a long time since I've been here. It's been a long time since I've been here.
00:37:03
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I feel very well-intentioned. I'm very happy to try a healthful option. I'm not a ghost. I usually don't want to be a ghost. I don't want to be a ghost. I don't want to be a ghost.
00:37:31
Speaker
nothing going as people who have been ghosted. Because I hear that it really does take a mental toll on people, especially self-stimulus, self-worth. It's a culture that, for me, a ghost is a culture that has ramifications.
00:38:00
Speaker
assuming that the ghost is not a ghost, but a ghost is a ghost. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
00:38:22
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how do you handle it can be also very different from how should one handle it exactly exactly that's why i'm asking two different questions yeah okay at first when i experienced that of course i already knew the concept of ghosting i mean i knew the the the shit about it but when when you're there it feels
00:38:49
Speaker
If it stings, that's the word that I usually use for it, because it doesn't mean ouch, like hurt. But my stings, I say, I am not like you, you would then think, was there something wrong? I said, like, what did I not, am I not interested enough for this person? Maybe
00:39:10
Speaker
Maybe she looked at or maybe they looked at my profile like and they saw that they didn't like this or they didn't like my picture or whatever. All of those things will go through your head like if I said this, if I said this in our conversation, would it have been different? Maybe I shouldn't have like chatted them like repeatedly.
00:39:36
Speaker
so me self-reflection oh almost a self-reflection a healthy one healthy button i think so it is healthy because you then review like um did i do something bad but sometimes because it's a self-reflection more like you look for what went wrong you kind of blame yourself when
00:39:57
Speaker
You do not take it personally. You just weren't their type and you know what? That's okay. First of all, you wouldn't want to be with somebody who doesn't like you. Okay, let's start there.
00:40:24
Speaker
I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it. I don't know how to say it.
00:40:46
Speaker
It's not, it's not your fault. Oh my goodness. It just wasn't a good match and that's okay, right? They don't make swipe right and swipe left. There's so many fish in the sea. It will be of course difficult to find a good match but once you do get to find one, you wouldn't even be trying too hard. You wouldn't think too hard on what to reply because the conversation goes easy.
00:41:15
Speaker
But I understand when some people did this, it's very hard to interact with chat or just simply with talking. I've learned now some people find it very hard to do that. No? And that's okay there. There are other mediums of how to find people, I guess. But it's not just all online dating. But the point is,
00:41:41
Speaker
There's nothing wrong with you, okay? And that's okay if they go stand you. Do not question your self-worth, because... You know what I'm saying? I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do.
00:42:08
Speaker
We don't even know if that's all real too, right? Like, social media is a fucking illusion. But also I've learned, you know, with matches, if it's not a good match, how could you tell? Like, if you're trying too hard, you don't know what the answer is next.
00:42:30
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And it's... If that's not happening in Pennsylvania, it's not happening. And that's okay. And that's okay. Unless it's going on, it's not my loss. There is no loss here. That's okay. So yeah. Usually,
00:43:12
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It's not even worth the bother of them telling me that it's not gonna work anymore.
00:43:36
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But I consider it not to be a bad thing. It's a bad thing.
00:43:44
Speaker
Well, sometimes we should consider that people have been ghosting us. The other party does not have, for example, the EQ, emotional quotient needed to confront the situation.
00:44:08
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Yeah, it's not a good match. If it's not a good match, it's not a good match. We should learn how to practice the art of letting go. Letting go. It doesn't work. It doesn't work.
00:44:38
Speaker
But it's okay to feel sad about it, right? But usually it's a bit, what we mourn about, what we grieve about, what was lost. Did that really lose anything? Because usually it's not gonna stay just maritime plants, too. We have plants, and we have to formulate imagination-ship. That was not their night. Imagination-ship? I don't know why. I'm not a Marcus administration.
00:45:04
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But sometimes you don't know more than that. We planned this. I was thinking about you were already and I having this plan in your head or like you were already visualizing it in your head and that's okay. Of course we all do that. And it hurts when we're like, oh, you didn't put it inside. And that's sad. That's okay. But again, do not take that.
00:45:33
Speaker
Because it's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's a bullet-dodged. It's a bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-dodged bullet-d
00:46:02
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Oh, God. I thought, um, I don't know if you're trying an episode or not, but I don't know what to talk about. This is a bit of a long time. Um, I don't know if I'm going to do this, but I don't know if I'm going to do it. I don't know if I'm going to do it myself. I don't know if I'm going to do it myself.
00:46:23
Speaker
It's social media. You can email, you can chat, you can eat, you can eat. So if you don't know how to speak, how to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak. How to speak.
00:46:56
Speaker
I don't know if this was the question that you intended to ask. This is a different one although similar.
00:47:17
Speaker
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00:47:41
Speaker
I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a ghost or not. I don't know if it's a
00:48:08
Speaker
Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I will see you again soon.
00:48:29
Speaker
We are back for season 2 and we are looking forward to having you guys around and having you have us around. We still get a few messages here and there.
00:48:44
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00:49:13
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You know, let us know that you're listening! Give us motivation! Yeah, it's been a long season now. I feel like we're in the process of like sorting shit in our lives.
00:49:31
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We continuously are. I don't want to go on an excuse, but I usually... I don't want to go on an excuse, but I don't want to go on an excuse. I don't want to go on an excuse, but I don't want to go on an excuse. I don't want to go on an excuse, but I don't want to go on an excuse.
00:49:56
Speaker
At the same time, I'm a fan of comments, you know, questions, because I don't know what to say. Oh yeah, please feel free to comment in our post. DM us, slip an end, slide into our DMs, Instagram, in Twitter, which is now called X, and I'm so confused, do I call it X? So confused! We're also in Facebook, you can reach us both in our
00:50:24
Speaker
personal social media accounts y'all can follow Darryl at...
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00:50:30
Speaker
Something. I don't know my social media. Yes. He's there. Just reach out to him and to me too. So, yeah. Un pla-pa. Un la. What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What? What?
00:50:53
Speaker
Anyways, have pair fun! You're not here, no? You know what I'm saying? I don't know, I don't know if you've ever seen this episode before. I've never seen it before. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying?
00:51:27
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