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Episode 18: Sacrificed to the To-Do List: Choosing Self Over Chores
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We’re told a clean house means a clear mind, but what if the constant doing is actually pulling us further away from ourselves? In this episode of Sacred Self Love, we explore the quiet ways our energy gets siphoned into the endless loop of chores, tasks, and “being productive”—and what it costs us on a soul level.
Are we truly tending to ourselves when we’re always tending to our space?
Let’s talk about reclaiming that energy, softening the urge to over-function, and honoring rest as a sacred act of love. 💗
✨ Your presence is more important than your performance. ✨
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Transcript
Introduction to the Sacred Self-Love Podcast
00:00:04
Valerie Vazquez
Aloha and welcome to this episode of Sacred Self-Love. I am your host and guide Valerie Vasquez and as usual I want to thank you for coming along this journey, this spiral path with me and I really just want to honor because
00:00:26
Valerie Vazquez
because this is not an easy path to go down. and don't care what anyone says. um If you are watching people on social media and they are just saying love and light, love and light all the time. Yeah.
00:00:44
Valerie Vazquez
um I believe the true source energy is love and light, but we've all been separated from that is since we came down here to this
The Journey of Self-Discovery
00:00:55
Valerie Vazquez
planet.
00:00:55
Valerie Vazquez
Once we were born, um we were separated as soon as, you know, We were born, but we are all remembering bits and pieces of who we are. And we're coming back to the understanding that, you know, if you're on this journey, you chose it.
00:01:13
Valerie Vazquez
You chose to look at the parts of yourself that were holding you back from love and from joy and finding freedom within yourself and with others and And yeah, if you haven't subscribed yet, please hit the subscribe. If you haven't rated the podcast of five, please do so.
00:01:34
Valerie Vazquez
This just helps, you know, get some of these messages out and allows me to continue to spread these messages to other women. that are just like you and just like
Speaking Truth and Finding Inner Peace
00:01:47
Valerie Vazquez
me. And um I really feel that ever since, you know, Neptune has switched into the sign of Aries, I don't know, i can just feel this, like, I will not be silenced anymore. I will not be silenced from using my voice and knowing what is true, but I'm also at the same time not going to try to convince anyone else.
00:02:12
Valerie Vazquez
i'm I'm not here to convince you or anyone else to do the work on yourself. I'm just trying to share that if you choose to do it, you have the possibility of finding that heaven here on earth.
Living Amidst a Volcanic Eruption
00:02:27
Valerie Vazquez
It's not somewhere else. It's within you. And it's how you show up in your everyday life. It's how you show up in relationship to self and to others. It's it's really profound once you truly slow it down enough to Allow yourself to reconnect to truth.
00:02:47
Valerie Vazquez
And so, yeah, um I, for those of you that don't know, i am on the big island of Hawaii. And right now, the Kilauea volcano Pele is erupting and she's really been going off. And so,
00:03:03
Valerie Vazquez
this, um, there's fog in the air and it's really, um, it's a lot. Um, so my cow's eyes are weeping a little bit and, and, um, we're feeling a little tired because we're not breathing in that pure air from the ocean. It's also mixed in with the, the volcanic, I don't know what it's called. It, we, yeah, we call it fog. So not fog, but fog.
00:03:31
Valerie Vazquez
Um, So that's what's going on here.
Setting Boundaries for Self-Care
00:03:35
Valerie Vazquez
ah the thing that I wanted to share today is it's this question of what are you giving your energy away to?
00:03:47
Valerie Vazquez
And I'm not necessarily talking about other people because maybe at this time you've really like learned how to set boundaries with other people or at least you're in the process of trying because I feel like that's something that is very, you know, it's it's it's so taught on this journey about learning that it's okay to have boundaries. But this isn't really going to be a conversation about boundaries with others. It's going to be more about boundaries with the things like the dishes, right?
00:04:23
Valerie Vazquez
or the housework or the things that need to get done and the ways that sometimes we put all of those things before us and then we don't have the energy to actually take care of us.
00:04:39
Valerie Vazquez
So this is what I want to start really having you think about is, okay, do I need to have my house clean?
00:04:50
Valerie Vazquez
Do I need to have everything in order before I can feel comfortable? can can i start giving the best of what I have to myself first, walk out of the kitchen, allow the dishes to be there for another hour while I go do my yoga practice, while I go do my meditation, while I go do my walk, while I dance, while I sing, while I do ah
00:05:21
Valerie Vazquez
When I have the most energy, Can I just leave those dishes there? Can I leave that laundry there? Can I leave the things that take away like the best part of your energy?
00:05:35
Valerie Vazquez
can I do my workout or whatever first and then come to that afterwards? And the answer is yes, you actually can. Once you really realize that there is these underlying programs that are like saying that you need everything to be a certain way for you to feel good. Is that really true?
00:05:57
Valerie Vazquez
Is it really true that everything needs to be in place or is that way, is that your way to control the outside so you feel comfortable on the inside? So it's a really good question to ask yourself.
00:06:09
Valerie Vazquez
Like you will feel what you need to do for yourself or what you are wanting to do for yourself. For instance, I recently really started stepping up my working out again um and i And I'm you know just having to really feel into my body because I still have a little bit of issues from my explant on my left shoulder. So I'm having to modify all lie And that's showing up a whole
00:06:41
Valerie Vazquez
There's a whole lot showing up in there to that comparison of what I used to be able to do versus what I can do now. But that's ah that's another conversation at another time. But what I notice is, you know, obviously living on the farm, we have certain things that we do have to take care of because we have animals and some of them are babies, like our moo-moos, our moomers. I call my cows, my cowies, moomers.
00:07:07
Valerie Vazquez
Yes, I have nicknames for all of my animals, but some of the animals we do have to take care of. before we really get into taking care of ourselves but it's not getting lost in then the doing of everything it's we've made this process where we we will feed the cows we will feed the chickens so that they're not trying to infiltrate into our into our space um but then we turn the attention back to ourselves but hey what if you know
00:07:40
Valerie Vazquez
Once I'm in that motion of already doing I walk in and I see you know the coffee cups and I see the things and I feel like oh gosh the counters are dirty and I need to sweep the floors and I need to do all these different things.
00:07:52
Valerie Vazquez
If I go into that I drain myself. before I'm even able to do my workout. And let's be honest, I am in perimenopause right now and my energy fluctuates and i really have to like go, okay, right now I feel good so I can go do my workout.
00:08:14
Valerie Vazquez
But if I think, oh gosh, I need to do all those other things first before I get to me, then I just won't. Like I know I won't. I will drain my energy plus, Like how fun is it to do your dishes and sweep the floors and all of that?
Fitness and Personal Wellbeing
00:08:28
Valerie Vazquez
Like I'd much rather do my naughty girl fitness, which I don't know if you've heard of it or seen it, but it is so fun. And i have so much fun like moving my hips, shaking, dancing, you know, moving the energy out and and feeling into my body when I do that, that I end up having even more energy. So then I can go do the things, the
00:08:52
Valerie Vazquez
The everyday things that yes, we do have to take care of. But why are we doing that before we take care of ourselves?
00:09:02
Valerie Vazquez
And if our spouse has a problem with it, then we can just say, hey, I will get to this, but first I'm going to take care of myself and then I'll do it. And if they really can't handle it and they do it for you, bonus.
00:09:15
Valerie Vazquez
But that's on them and that was their choice.
Finding Peace Through Self-Care
00:09:19
Valerie Vazquez
So that's really what I just wanted to share today. And this is a really short episode, but I just want you to really ask yourself in the moment, is this where I want to give the best of my energy in this moment?
00:09:41
Valerie Vazquez
Or do I have to do it because I need it to be this way in order to feel comfortable? Yeah, those are just some questions to ask yourself. And it's not wrong if that's where you are.
00:09:55
Valerie Vazquez
It isn't wrong. But i what I want to encourage you to do is leave something that you normally would have to do to feel comfortable. Leave it.
00:10:06
Valerie Vazquez
Go do something for yourself first. And then later come back to it and see that you feel better.
00:10:18
Valerie Vazquez
You feel better because you didn't allow that program, which is not even true, to force you to control a situation to make you feel better.
Gratitude and Future Content Plans
00:10:29
Valerie Vazquez
Because I promise you taking care of yourself is going to actually make you feel better than trying to control your outside environment to make you feel better. Because nothing that you do outside of you is really going to truly make you feel at peace.
00:10:45
Valerie Vazquez
If it did, you wouldn't feel the need to do those dishes before you did whatever that you knew you need to do for yourself.
00:10:56
Valerie Vazquez
So I just want to send you so much love and yeah, thank you so much for those of you that reach out and let me know that you listened to the episode, ah that it's it's helping you along your journey.
00:11:13
Valerie Vazquez
And thank you for those of you that are sharing on social media. ah really appreciate it. um I'm still just moving through, you know, my own journey and my own process and Right now, just recording these voice episodes is so uplifting for me because I'm going to be honest, it's easy just to turn it on, record it and send it out.
00:11:43
Valerie Vazquez
um Whereas setting up a camera and having to edit and do all of those things just don't feel like they're in alignment for me right now.
00:11:55
Valerie Vazquez
but maybe in the future, i believe that'll come. But yeah, just have a wonderful, wonderful week and i will you soon.