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Episode 9: Honoring the Wisdom Within
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In this episode, I explore the profound wisdom our emotions hold and the vital role they play in our healing journeys. Healing isn’t about suppressing or avoiding emotions—it’s about allowing ourselves to feel them fully, process them, and honor the messages they bring without letting them define us.
I discuss how becoming the witness of our emotional experiences—rather than being consumed by them—can deepen our self-awareness and lead to transformative growth. Whether it's joy, sadness, anger, or fear, every emotion has something to teach us. Join us as we embrace the full spectrum of feelings, honoring the wisdom within and finding balance on the path to healing.
Let’s journey together toward becoming more compassionate, self-aware, and whole. 🌿✨
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00:00:05
Valerie Vazquez
Aloha
Introduction: Valerie's Healing Journey
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Valerie Vazquez
and welcome to Sacred Self Love. I am your host and guide Valerie Vasquez. This is episode nine, honoring the wisdom within. And thank you so much for joining in today. If this is your first time listening, I am really here to share my experiences and awarenesses through my healing journey, my spiritual healing journey, and to hopefully encourage you to continue on knowing that whatever it is you're experiencing in life,
00:00:49
Valerie Vazquez
is normal and human as well as sacred and that we can all get through this together and knowing that you're just you're not alone in this journey.
Significance of Emotions in Healing
00:01:01
Valerie Vazquez
It it can feel very lonely.
00:01:05
Valerie Vazquez
but I promise you the work that you're doing, the inner work you're doing on yourself and the emotional healing you're doing is so immense, so great, and so needed. And so yeah, I just ah really wanted to dive right into this episode today.
00:01:30
Valerie Vazquez
about feelings and emotions in and all of the different intricacies and in ways in which we get lost in them and the the different things that I have seen along my journey.
Cultural Norms on Emotional Expression
00:01:50
Valerie Vazquez
And so yeah, I wanted to start with the, every feeling you have is valid.
00:01:58
Valerie Vazquez
Every feeling that you have is a signal. Our emotions are literally energy in motion. And I know in the world that we have, you know, been raised in and and grew up in especially if you're a woman, ah you have been told that certain emotions and feelings should not be expressed, especially anger. And we've learned to not cry. You know, we've heard the shut up or I'll give you something to cry about. and If you're a man, you've definitely been
00:02:45
Valerie Vazquez
could have been or have had an example of, you know, boys don't cry and you have to hold your emotions in and and so we've really, really been cut off from the safety of our emotional expression.
Childhood and Blocked Emotions
00:03:05
Valerie Vazquez
And if that started for you as a child and you never had a parent that would allow you to feel your emotions because they had already been cut up cut off from their own,
00:03:22
Valerie Vazquez
Then when we carry that into adulthood, you know, we become more blocked, our energy centers become more blocked. And we really have a hard time even allowing and accepting the emotions that come through us.
Experiences with Depression
00:03:42
Valerie Vazquez
And I want to kind of talk about the way in which, for me, I have talked about this before on ah previous episodes, and it is a part of my story. ah The bigger part of my story is through my life dealing with depression and what I believed that I would have for my whole life.
00:04:07
Valerie Vazquez
so ah So many people are diagnosed these days with a mental illness or a mental health diagnosis like depression, like bipolar, like anxiety. All of these things are heavily diagnosed and a lot of people just self-diagnose themselves.
00:04:34
Valerie Vazquez
and
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Valerie Vazquez
It really is a disconnection to who we really are. It's a disconnection of our internal guidance system, our intuition, because if we're sad and we're not feeling happy, then something must be wrong with us.
00:05:01
Valerie Vazquez
If we're feeling anger, we must have an anger issue. Something is wrong with us. When in actuality, these feelings and emotions are really guiding us. They're
The Role of Emotions as Guides
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Valerie Vazquez
telling us that they need to be released.
00:05:25
Valerie Vazquez
that, you know, we're attaching to them and holding on to them. And and that's what's causing us our pain is when we attach to a certain feeling like sadness, you know, you can go through a big event in your life or or just feel sad. And then if you've been diagnosed with depression, you can just tell yourself that I'm depressed And you will spiral down more and more into that because it's wrong to feel sad. But the truth is it's not wrong. It's never wrong to feel any of the feelings that we have. Most the time when we are having feelings of sadness or anger, we've been put in a place where we've come out of alignment within ourselves.
00:06:22
Valerie Vazquez
And. When we can start being the witness of that. A witnessing the feeling or the emotion and not being it when we can start allowing ourselves to actually feel the feeling. Like, for instance, if you. Feel like you need to cry.
00:06:51
Valerie Vazquez
Allow yourself to cry. If you don't want to do it in front of anyone else or in public, make a little meeting or like on your calendar with yourself to allow yourself to feel that feeling. So. I also feel that when we get caught in our feelings and we try to figure them out or we say, what is wrong with me?
Expressing Emotions without Judgment
00:07:21
Valerie Vazquez
I used to do this to myself so much when I would start crying just out of the blue and feel like I needed to cry and I would just be like, what is wrong with me? I had to start talking to myself and telling myself there is nothing wrong with you. It's OK to cry. There's nothing wrong with you. Just allow it to come through.
00:07:49
Valerie Vazquez
And now if you know me, if you're around me at all, when I feel it, I feel it. My husband knows, like i just it'll just come up and then he doesn't try to like run over to me with a tissue or ask me what's wrong. He just knows that I need to feel something and then it'll pass right out.
00:08:13
Valerie Vazquez
But for the longest time, I wouldn't allow myself to do that. And for the longest time, he would try to take my pain away. And that's another thing that we have to allow those around us to also feel their feelings without trying to fix it for them, without trying to take it away.
00:08:35
Valerie Vazquez
We can just know that just like laughter is highly acceptable, who crying is should also be acceptable. Because it's normal. It's normal to cry. It's normal to laugh. It's normal to have feelings. And it's normal to not need a reason. Why?
00:09:01
Valerie Vazquez
But in the beginning of this process, I feel like a lot of people try to figure everything out because we've been so much in our left brain needing to know why certain things needing to be analytical and figuring it out. Let me tell you right now, you're not always going to be able to figure out certain things that come through, you especially if you're a woman, especially if you're on this journey.
00:09:29
Valerie Vazquez
We
External Influences on Emotions
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have the planets that are around us. They do affect us. The moon cycles affect us. Our own hormonal cycles affect us. The things that we consume on social media affect us. Relationships that we are closely tied into affect us. We're just this big processor kind of, you know,
00:09:59
Valerie Vazquez
But we just have to allow ourselves to be that vessel in which these feelings flow through, not try to stop them, not try to label them, not try to figure them out, but just allow them, allow the wisdom behind them to guide us.
00:10:21
Valerie Vazquez
You know, maybe when you are feeling some type of way, You give yourself more self-love. You take care of yourself a little bit more. You take care of your own energy.
00:10:37
Valerie Vazquez
And you don't try to push it away. I mean, have you ever heard of that? Sit with it. During your healing journey, your emotional healing journey, spiritual healing journey, sitting with it is the medicine that you need.
00:10:56
Valerie Vazquez
It's allowing yourself to see that even if you're feeling low, that you can get through it. That you don't have to numb it out because it's not wrong. You don't have to smoke it away, drink it away, or do anything else. You can just be with it. You can just see it there. Be like, okay.
Survival Mode and Emotion Management
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Valerie Vazquez
Excuse me.
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Valerie Vazquez
you can just allow yourself to be with whatever the feeling is. And yes, in the beginning, shoot, not even in the beginning, feelings can be uncomfortable years into your journey. I still sometimes struggle with when I am feeling some type of way.
00:11:57
Valerie Vazquez
And I don't want to feel that way because I want to feel good and I want to go out and I want to do things. But again, that doing is just a way to push away feelings most of the time and pretend they're not there. But a lot of times certain feelings will emerge over and over and over again until you deal with them.
00:12:25
Valerie Vazquez
until you process them out.
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Valerie Vazquez
For me, one of the emotions that I would come face to face with a lot was anger. I had so much anger inside of me, which is really grief.
00:12:51
Valerie Vazquez
Not truly being able when I was younger to process through grief that needed to be processed through. Built up a lot of anger in me.
00:13:10
Valerie Vazquez
So much so that. Before I began the process of. Healing and going through my journey.
00:13:24
Valerie Vazquez
I had no real emotional intelligence. I was just living life in survival. I was living life moment to moment, allowing my nervous system to just be completely pulling me in every direction. I was living in autopilot. I was numbing out so much.
00:13:53
Valerie Vazquez
But I was beginning to kind of like crack, I guess you would say. My emotions needed to come out so much. That I couldn't hold them in anymore. And that anger became so. So strong. That there were times when. I mean.
00:14:22
Valerie Vazquez
When I say this.
00:14:26
Valerie Vazquez
A lot of people would say. You're crazy, but I would I would just get so angry and I remember one time I would I like pushed everything off the counter in the bathroom. Because I was just so angry and it was my own stuff like. So I broke some of my makeup and I broke other things, but it was just like my anger could no longer be. Suppressed.
00:14:56
Valerie Vazquez
And then when it comes to that time, obviously that is not a healthy way to deal with things. But it was really my anger showing me that I needed to start processing this. I needed to start taking care of myself.
Honoring Emotions and Self-Care
00:15:13
Valerie Vazquez
I needed to start dealing with why these feelings and emotions kept coming up.
00:15:22
Valerie Vazquez
And see the interesting part about that time of my life is that maybe I looked like the crazy one in my relationship or in this time. But but really, I was just the one that really had had it.
00:15:44
Valerie Vazquez
I had had it. I was no longer going to be able to live in a way that I was not in alignment with myself.
00:15:57
Valerie Vazquez
Excuse me. I was no longer going to be able to operate in the way I was operating anymore. See the wisdom in my body, that anger that was coming up and those feelings, they were pushing me and they were whispering. I don't even think they were whispering. They were yelling. Valerie.
00:16:19
Valerie Vazquez
It is time for you to take care of yourself. It is time for you to get back in alignment with yourself.
00:16:32
Valerie Vazquez
And it took it was a long road. We're still walking on it now. We're still on this journey because that's what this is all about.
00:16:45
Valerie Vazquez
But it is truly coming back and honoring yourself and listening to the wisdom of your emotions, not judging them, not trying to numb them out, not trying to hide them as if they're wrong.
00:17:04
Valerie Vazquez
But just being able to listen, being able to honor, and being able to know that whatever's coming through for you is real and it's okay and it's not wrong, it's not bad. We're not meant to always be happy and joyful.
00:17:27
Valerie Vazquez
Sometimes we're going to feel things. Sometimes we will do our breath work and we will do our yoga and we will do all of these things and still things can feel off.
00:17:44
Valerie Vazquez
It's just not getting caught in it and becoming that emotion. Just witness it and say, OK, you're there. No, you're going to pass.
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Valerie Vazquez
Allow it to pass. It could be days.
00:18:06
Valerie Vazquez
Give yourself more love during these times when you are feeling sadness or anger or any of these feelings. Give yourself more love. Take care of yourself. Find someone that if you have a hard time processing emotions alone, find a safe space to process
00:18:33
Valerie Vazquez
And when I say process, I don't mean emotionally dumping.
00:18:40
Valerie Vazquez
You will know if you have someone who can hold proper space for you because they will just. Do that. They will hold the space for you to process the emotion and release it. They won't try to fix it for you. They won't try to take away your pain for you. They will just be there to listen. And I know that's something I'm still working on as a mom.
00:19:12
Valerie Vazquez
I'm still working on that, especially with both of my children also being on their healing journeys. We have to allow people to have their own experiences. If they truly ask you for support and like guidance, that's one thing, but if they just need to process something, you just allow it.
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Valerie Vazquez
you
Allowing Emotional Processing in Others
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know't We don't have the ability to take away pain for other people. We might think we can, but we cannot take away pain for other people. We can also not prevent, we can't prevent someone else from experiencing pain.
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Valerie Vazquez
The only people that we can are responsible for are as ourselves and the our own emotional processing.
00:20:08
Valerie Vazquez
so Thank you so much for being here with me during this journey. It's allowing me to walk this path of continuing to see and dive deeper into my own consciousness and my own awareness and share stories that I hope will help you along your journey. And for now, I'm just recording episodes when I'm able to as long as everything's going okay on the farm. And so if you could just share the episode if you felt like it could help someone or, so you know, subscribing, you'll get the updates as I'm really not doing social media right now. I'm giving myself some space to just be without
00:21:07
Valerie Vazquez
trying to put out things or consuming. We live in such an interesting timeline right now. And um so social media is kind of something for me that I protect myself from when I hear the calling that, hey, this is a distraction.
00:21:31
Valerie Vazquez
um So anyway, I just am sending you all so much love and I hope you have a wonderful week. I hope that you know that you are worthy of all the feels that feelings again are just messengers. They're just wisdom. None of them are wrong.
00:21:57
Valerie Vazquez
And Until next time, aloha.