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Episode 10: Happiness & Joy
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n this episode of The Sacred Self-Love Podcast, I dive into the truth that happiness and joy are our natural state of being—but often, they feel just out of reach. 🌞💫 I explore how healing allows us to reconnect with these elevated emotions and uncover some of the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from fully experiencing them. From societal conditioning to deeply rooted fears, I break down the barriers that keep us stuck in cycles of suffering and share insights on how to shift into a space of true inner peace. 🌸💛
If you’ve ever wondered why joy sometimes feels fleeting or unattainable, this conversation is for you. Let’s embark on this healing journey together and reclaim the happiness that has always been yours. 💕✨
#SacredSelfLove #HealingJourney #HappinessWithin #JoyfulLiving #LetGoAndHeal
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Transcript
Introduction to Sacred Self Love podcast
00:00:07
Valerie Vazquez
Aloha and welcome to Sacred Self Love. I am your host and guide Valerie Vasquez. Thank you so much for joining me. and Today's episode is going to be about joy and happiness. And if you're new to this podcast, thanks for joining me.
Flow and spiritual healing journey
00:00:25
Valerie Vazquez
I'm really allowing myself to be in flow with this podcast and I'm allowing myself to further deepen my own spiritual healing journey to share things and that I've learned over the years and to hopefully inspire you to continue to come back to the sacredness within yourself.
00:00:55
Valerie Vazquez
and to be able to take care of yourself and to slow down when you need to and take deep breaths and reconnect into your body, allow your mind to rest, to just be a safe space where you can just be you and So before I go into today's episode, I wanted to give a little couple of updates on the
Farm life updates
00:01:28
Valerie Vazquez
farm. So if you, if you don't know, or you do know, I have too many cows and they are then they're honeysuckle and big red and they're so sweet. And we just gave them their last bottle yesterday and, um,
00:01:46
Valerie Vazquez
I don't know who's going to be more upset them or me. They will be for sure. And we also. a couple weeks ago actually after I had just recorded I think it was episode eight about how every moment is sacred and how we really never know when we will be able to be in the presence of a loved one or an animal literally the next morning when Chad and I went out to feed the animals
00:02:21
Valerie Vazquez
Two of our pullets are our younger chickens who aren't laying eggs yet. They're they're still young A couple of them came through the fence where into our yard where the dogs are And both of the dogs charged at them and there was really nothing we could do at that moment because yeah dogs have four legs we have two can't run as fast they didn't get the little chicken but it tried to get through the fence and its leg got caught and and it broke and so I have been over the last couple of weeks we I splinted it and we um just kept her away from the flock because right now we have like 44 45 birds between chickens and ducks and And so I separated her and I just took care of her and and I had and it was just big and swollen and like broken. And so anyway, today she was healthy enough to go back in with the flock. And I'm just so happy to have, you know, been able to take care of her and
00:03:29
Valerie Vazquez
She's so cute. Her name is Angel or little beep beep. Does anybody else call their animals? Like I have so many names for my animals, especially the ones I'm really close to. I call them so many names, but anyway, that was just a little farm update.
Embracing feelings and healing
00:03:46
Valerie Vazquez
And, um, yeah, so in the last episode that I released,
00:03:53
Valerie Vazquez
When I listened back, I kind of really wanted to explain and then kind of almost contradict what I said when I was talking about feelings. I was talking about how we're not always supposed to feel happiness and joy. And actually. In that context, what I meant was that when these other feelings come up,
00:04:22
Valerie Vazquez
allowing them to be what they are and not thinking that you have to be happy in the moment and then you know making it wrong for whatever you are feeling. But in reality, it's really our natural nature to be in happiness and joy. Once we have been able to heal And once we have been able to clear out the trauma imprints and all of the different things that we've experienced that have separated us from love and from really allowing and experiencing what joy feels like and what happiness really feels like. And so what's come up for me
00:05:16
Valerie Vazquez
very recently is this journey which we are on when we have awakened and when we make a choice to heal and to elevate our consciousness once we have made that choice it's like we are we are just going through so many different things like we are clearing out so many limiting beliefs and so many things that have been put on to us in this lifetime and in previous lifetimes and through you know the um our ancestors and all of that so
00:05:55
Valerie Vazquez
What has finally like really hit me in this way that I'm like, whoa, I have not been allowing myself to live in joy and in happiness.
Living joyfully despite perceptions
00:06:11
Valerie Vazquez
I haven't been allowing myself to do that.
00:06:15
Valerie Vazquez
And yeah, I realize like so many people will look at my life and they're like, oh my gosh, you live on a 10 acre farm and you have all these animals and these plants and this, you know, the all of these wonderful things.
00:06:27
Valerie Vazquez
And I'm like, yeah, but I still am stuck in my own mind about what I should and shouldn't be doing. And by the way, the word should is not a word that we we really want to use much because shoulding ourselves means something's wrong. Right. So.
00:06:48
Valerie Vazquez
I have not been allowing myself to live in joy and happiness. I have been putting so much pressure on myself to try to convince the world that healing is the answer to all of your problems. And while I still believe that being on a healing journey and being able to walk a spiritual path is how I cured my depression 100% and I know that this journey is an individual journey for everyone. And I cannot convince you to do anything that you're not ready for to do anything that your soul hasn't called you to do.
Public sharing vs personal joy
00:07:38
Valerie Vazquez
What I can do is I can share the things that I have been experiencing and if they resonate with you, then that's amazing. But I don't have to continue to put so much pressure on myself to make social media posts to do all of these other things to have an energy healing business or do any of those things right now because for me, I feel like what I'm really being called into right now is to allow myself to experience joy and happiness. And you know what makes me feel joyful and happy?
00:08:18
Valerie Vazquez
working with plants, herbs and being outside in nature and playing with my animals and not feeling like I have to share that all the time on social media, which, by the way, I have been very limited on social media lately. I haven't been on Instagram or Facebook at all. I occasionally look at TikTok and I. Yeah, I mainly watch recipes on YouTube and like animal things. I don't know. It's just like i I feel like I have this sense of freedom by not being on it. I also feel a sense of freedom by not feeling pressured like I have to share things. And that's for me, that feels good right now. And i I believe that we truly are supposed to feel good and allow ourselves to feel that anything that feels like it's pressure,
00:09:16
Valerie Vazquez
that just doesn't feel like it's an alignment, you know, it's okay to let that go. It isn't selfish to take care of yourself. It's not selfish. You know, I feel a lot of times in the spiritual community, there's like this,
00:09:34
Valerie Vazquez
Gotta find your purpose and you gotta to be of service and and that's like what you have to be. And I feel like that leads you searching for what it is. What is your purpose? What is the service that you're supposed to do on this big scale? Like there's so many pressures and maybe this is just a pressure that I feel personally.
00:09:56
Valerie Vazquez
But I do feel like other people also have to have faced this. I know you have, not you technically, but other people have because I've had these conversations with friends. But it's like.
True self communion
00:10:13
Valerie Vazquez
Your real purpose is to come back to who you really are, to come back to the communion with the God within, the goddess within, source, energy, the divine, sacred, whatever how whatever you want to call this energy. It's finding your way back to that energy. That's what your real purpose is.
00:10:41
Valerie Vazquez
and our society has made it so much more than what it really is and it's even like in other you know it's like your your your purpose yeah it's just to come back to you and it's just to be allow yourself to really feel what it means to have an open heart and to love and have compassion for yourself and love and compassion for others and on this journey not to think that you have to get to some level where nothing on you know is ever going to bother you again or that you're just going to be just this enlightened being and
00:11:33
Valerie Vazquez
You already are all of that. Like we're on this journey and it's always going to be like that. Like it's always going to just be a different situation that you're put in.
00:11:46
Valerie Vazquez
And the more that you can come from a place of love and and not react to things, but to know that this is just like part of our human experience is to be faced with different things throughout our lives. It's a journey. It's going to be a journey until the day that you go
Balancing energies and self-care
00:12:08
Valerie Vazquez
back to that energy.
00:12:12
Valerie Vazquez
It's a journey. And so why not make this journey the most blissful and happiest journey it can be? And yes, I know that there are things that we have to do, like we do have to make money and we do have certain things that we, you know, are responsible for. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves and taking care of our families and taking care of bills and you know ah appointments and car things and house things and for us farm things and you know all of these different things but it's all really a gift like it it really is.
00:12:56
Valerie Vazquez
And I really recommend, you know, if if you're stuck in this place, like I've been stuck in this place of just like feeling and I've talked about this in previous episodes. This is probably just like one of the things that I have really struggled with for years. It's just like knowing that I am doing enough and see that word doing. That's a very masculine energy.
00:13:24
Valerie Vazquez
And I really wanted and and needed to balance more of my feminine energy. And so neither inner energy is is bad. But if it's if you are unbalanced and you're too much in the masculine energy and not in the feminine energy, you are going to to to have struggles.
00:13:48
Valerie Vazquez
because you're not gonna feel like you're doing enough. You're going to have a hard time slowing down and and allowing yourself to rest. You know, the last, like, week before when I recorded my last episode, on the last episode about, you know, feelings and emotions being your the wisdom, I went through it.
00:14:13
Valerie Vazquez
for a week. I was like, uh, like really like in this place of just like, it was an uncomfortable feeling because I just, I just didn't have any umph to do anything. And I was so in my head and I was like, okay, well, you know what? I was like literally repeating all the things I know this will pass.
00:14:42
Valerie Vazquez
It's not gonna be like this forever. Whatever it is, is i'm you know there's just something here that wants to be cleared out, something here that wants to be seen, something that here that just wants me to sit with this uncomfortableness.
00:14:56
Valerie Vazquez
and to just And then it was like, once it broke, all of these, it was like an upgrade. And that's the interesting part about this whole journey is you know you've heard about ego death,
00:15:10
Valerie Vazquez
and like you're gonna die a thousand times, like these parts of your ego are just gonna die. Yay. and And as soon as they do, it's like you have this new excitement and it's like you just walked through this portable, not portable, but portal. You had like this quantum leap, you know, through this next dimension of like an upgrade within yourself. And that's what I'm feeling right now. I'm feeling like this. Wow. Like.
00:15:41
Valerie Vazquez
Wow, I really, it's okay for me to be in joy. And see, that's such an interesting thing when we've experienced, if you've experienced a lot of trauma in this life, a lot of pain in this life, a lot. I mean, we've all experienced so much. I mean, just being in this world right now, the way it is, it's like, woo, we've been faced with a lot. And To be able to to allow yourself to be in joy is almost difficult.
00:16:19
Valerie Vazquez
Yeah, I'm just going to say it. It's difficult. Because you if there's just this piece that's like been limiting you to think that you aren't worthy of that or that you're not doing enough to deserve it. yeah I mean, even if you tell yourself that or other people tell you that, thought you there's like an energy that needs to be released out so that you can truly believe it.
Stepping back for personal joy
00:16:46
Valerie Vazquez
And I've really been getting the message lately about distractions and how much distractions um social media. Um, that was for me. Those distractions pull you away from your joy. They distract you from the things that you really are interested in doing. Like,
00:17:13
Valerie Vazquez
I've made this new pack, I don't want to say a pack, but this new thing for myself that I'm going to try making one new thing a week.
00:17:24
Valerie Vazquez
whether that is, okay, today I made tortillas, tortillas. I made tortillas, homemade tortillas. I've never done that before. But I was like, this is really simple. I'm just gonna make tortillas. And my husband was like, oh my gosh, Valerie, like, a wow, this is amazing. I was like, yeah. And I'm also going to make, I have um some comfrey.
00:17:51
Valerie Vazquez
which is a really beautiful plant that we have growing on our land and it's a medicinal plant that literally can help um repair bones and like bruises and different things so I'm gonna make this comfrey salve I already have been drying the leaves out and I'm like so excited about these things like making things from the land like with the herbs with saves and whatever and then them just being for us not thinking that I have to oh well I'm gonna start making this and then I'm gonna start selling it on our website or I'm gonna start like you know making videos every time I do something so I can show the world or so I can get more views or so I can sell something more it's like that
00:18:46
Valerie Vazquez
that energy attached, that masculine energy attached to it. It's like, I don't need that. i I can just make these things for myself and for my family and enjoy them. You know, it's okay. Like the whole world doesn't need to know what I'm doing, how I'm doing it. I don't need to sell it to everyone. Not everything needs to be, you know, this like capitalistic,
00:19:17
Valerie Vazquez
thing. It could just be for me. And it has felt so good to be able to know that that is okay. That's okay. So thank you for being with me today and allowing me to share with you the things that I am healing through and the awarenesses that I am having and just supporting and knowing that it's okay to change.
00:19:55
Valerie Vazquez
over and over again. It's just okay. And you will during this journey if you allow yourself because remember those ego deaths are happening. So those pieces of you that you think you have to be start fading away so that you can be who you are, who you really are, your authentic self. The one that is here to be in happiness and joy.
00:20:24
Valerie Vazquez
because you're in alignment with your own truth. You're a lot you're in alignment with the God within, the source, the goddess. You're in alignment. It is okay to enjoy your life. It is okay to love your life.
00:20:48
Valerie Vazquez
No matter what other people are going through, it is okay. It's okay. So I'm sending you all so much love and I will see you next time. Aloha.