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Understanding Your Unmet Needs | The Positively Healthy Mom Podcast with Taralee Eddington
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Welcome back to The Positively Healthy Mom Podcast! I’m your host, Laura Ollinger—teen and parent well-being coach—and today I’m joined by Taralee Eddington, Certified Relationship & Resilience Coach and founder of Peaceful Heart Journey. She’s also the host of The FOCUS Podcast with Taralee, where she helps families strengthen their most important relationships through emotional clarity and intentional communication.
In this heart-centered episode, Taralee introduces the STARVED needs framework—seven core needs that, when unmet, often lie at the heart of conflict in relationships. Together, we explore how to identify, communicate, and navigate these needs to create deeper connection, understanding, and peace at home.
Whether you're managing a marriage, raising teenagers, or trying to break free from overwhelm and resentment, this conversation offers practical, faith-grounded strategies to help you feel seen, supported, and stronger.
💬 In This Episode:
• What unmet needs may be fueling conflict in your home
• The 7 STARVED needs: Safety, Trust, Appreciation, Respect, Validation, Encouragement, Dedication
• How to communicate your needs without sounding like you're complaining
• Why “nagging” is often just an unmet need in disguise
• How to coach your teens through emotional growth with calm and clarity
• Letting go of control and parenting from peace, not fear
• Navigating adult children, boundaries, and broken expectations
• Why appreciation matters more than you think
• The truth about respect, autonomy, and letting go
📘 About Taralee Eddington
Taralee is a Certified Family Educator & Relationship Coach helping individuals, couples, and families move from conflict to connection through her signature FOCUS Framework™️. Her work is shaped by her own life as a wife and mom of three, her daughter’s cancer journey, and her mission to help others lead with peace and purpose. Her mantra: What you focus on expands.
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Introduction to Guest and Topic
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Welcome to the Positively Healthy Mom podcast, where positive parenting meets wellbeing.
00:00:10
Speaker
Hello, and welcome to the Positively Healthy Mom podcast. I'm your host, Laura Olinger, teen and parent wellbeing coach and founder of Positively Healthy Coaching. Today, I'm so excited to introduce you to Tara Lee Eddington, who is a certified relationship and resilience coach, speaker, and host of the Focused Podcast with Tara Lee.
00:00:30
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As the founder of Peaceful Heart Journey, she helps individuals, couples, and families strengthen their most important relationships through her signature focus framework.
Reconnecting and Collaboration
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Drawing from her own experience as a mom and her mantra, what you focus on expands, Tara Lee empowers others to move from conflict and overwhelm to peace and connection. So I love this. Welcome, Tara Lee.
00:00:54
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hi thank you for having me. This is exciting. Thank you. Yeah, very exciting. So um to the audience, so Tara Lee and I have met before. In fact, I was a guest on her podcast recently. And so I'm super excited that we get to talk some more, spend some more time together. And this time you're my guest. So, so happy to have you here.
00:01:13
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Thank you. I'm excited to kind of continue our conversation too and maybe open up some new topics because we had a lot of fun on mine. So this is fun. sure did. We sure did. Yes, absolutely. So I was really excited to hear about something that you've been excited about lately. And do you want to tell me kind of like some of the things that have been on the forefront of your practice and coaching with your clients and things that when you're just really needing to help them, were telling me about a certain kind of methodology of looking at their needs.
Understanding 'Starved Needs'
00:01:46
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So can you tell the audience about what this is?
00:01:49
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Yeah, so I am a marriage crisis coach. I've been working a lot with couples and individuals in that aspect. And I learned something from Dr. Matt Townsend. So I need to give him the credit for this um because he talks about these starved needs that we all have the seven basic needs that um if they're not met in our relationships, that sometimes that's where we struggle. He talks about how we have, you know, issues with um money or the kids or ah chores or whatever, those are just the smoke. And so we need to get down to the fire of what the true issue is. And that's what these seven basic needs and starved is the acronym that he came up with with that. And so I love it. And I, I'm
00:02:31
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Taking that and teaching it to everybody I know because it's so important and and I find that it's really can tie back to these. So we have safety, trust, appreciation, respect, validation, encouragement and dedication. And so those are the needs with some those aren't being met in our relationships. That's when we start to see the issues and things arise in and.
00:02:57
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The problems start piling up. The smoke happens when we don't have those seven basic needs met. Yeah. One of those. yeah Yeah. So can you give us some examples of how um you've used this with clients or kind of just in theory, how you would use this?
00:03:14
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Yeah. So, I mean, if we're just depending on what the issue is, um say we're fighting about money.
Exploring Relationship Conflicts Through Needs
00:03:22
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um The couple comes to me and it's never about the money, but we're fighting about the money where as we ask questions and we look a little deeper and we kind of figure out that maybe there's a safety issue about around the finances. Maybe the husband is, you know, grew up in a family that maybe had little money. And so it was very scarce. and he ah sees the wife spending money or whatever. Or, I mean, I've seen where it's been, the husband's spending all this money on golf, and she's a little nervous about him spending all that money because it's
00:03:58
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she isn't feeling safe around that. So it's not necessarily ah safety as far as like physical safety. It can be emotional, spiritual, ah mental, all of the financial, all of the different areas of safety. So if we look at that, we we can tie that back to that issue, that need that isn't being met in her. It's not about the money. It's about her safety or his safety around what that means to him.
00:04:27
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Yeah. Yeah. And I like that as that, I like that as your example, because we hear that word safe so much these days, it's just like constantly being thrown around. And for me, it resonates because, um, as you know, I kind of like work with the nervous system and, and do kind of that co-regulation as far as like with our, you know, child or someone else, or just like the internal nervous system and the heart brain coherence. And so about, um, And so much of that is just like the the need to get that parasympathetic nervous system kind of more activated, reduce the fight and flight. And so that's kind of that feeling of safety. And so I love the idea that you're saying like all these different areas, like it can be physical, mental, emotional, social, spiritual, all these types of safety, because that's just a word that I literally hear like
The Role of Appreciation in Relationships
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10 times a day. so oh Yes. Yeah, yeah, that was perfect. So, and then what else? Like how, what are some other kind of common needs that aren't being met in ah like a marriage or relationship?
00:05:29
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I think a big one is appreciation. i think sometimes we don't feel appreciated in what we do, especially like, you know, with with teenagers, I think a lot. If we're talking about teenagers, I think i I love working with teenagers too. And I know you do too, obviously. But um I think when we show our appreciation, even for the little things that somebody does, um That can show up in as little as a thank you or um acknowledging what they're doing and and recognizing some of those things. And and I think, um you know, sometimes as women, ah the little daily things that we do maybe don't get seen a lot in the household or, um but showing that appreciation to our partner or to our, kids is goes a long way. I feel like for creating those bonds and that again, back to safety and creating those strong relationships is showing that we appreciate one another for just even the little things.
00:06:30
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who That I feel like I can hear all my friends being like, yes, like not feeling appreciated. And so how would you go about, um helping the people in your family understand what your need is and like how they can meet it in a better way without sounding like the naggy woman, like nobody appreciates me. Like, how would you do it in a, in a loving way that's asking for your need to get met?
00:06:58
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Well, I think that that's kind of the biggest thing. I talk a lot about like, we have these manuals for people. Sometimes we have these expectations that we think that they need to do this. Like my husband, oh, I i want him to, i don't know bring me flowers or something. I was just discussing this this last week on my podcast. And, um you know, if I want these things to happen, or I want to feel these things, they can't read my mind. And just as I can't read their mind. So we need to first of all, express that, share that. um And then on the other end, if somebody expresses that need or something from us, we need to make sure that we're um showing up in that way. If they have shared that with us, we don't just brush it off, that we know that that's important to them. And so let's make sure that we're
00:07:49
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fulfilling that for them. But I i yeah want to say that carefully, because we don't necessarily want to have other people validate and you know, they're not responsible for our feelings. And that's what I really teach a lot of people is that You're responsible for your feelings. You're not responsible for your husband's feelings. You're responsible for, ah you know, you're not responsible for your kids' feelings, your their emotions and stuff. I mean, of course, we want to be careful and not purposely hurt anybody, but we're they're responsible for their own feelings. And so, um you know, I think that that making sure that we're communicating that to them and not just expecting them to read our minds and not having these expectations that they may not know about. So we need to tell them. So if we're if we're disappointed in something that somebody didn't fu fulfill an expectation of ours, we've basically created this manual that we've written all about how people should act and how they should be um behaving, except for we don't always give that to them. yeah And we're just expecting them to do it. And we they don't know that. And so if we can express those things and share with them, and and it really takes a safe place to do so, because if we've been hurt by before by them or have shared the things and they've brushed them off or ignored us or whatever, then it makes it very difficult to continue sharing that. So we need to make sure that we have that safe place and and work through some of those things if that's not a safe place to share those things.
Importance of Healthy Conflict Resolution
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So that's kind of what I think is don't expect somebody to read your mind about it.
00:09:27
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you need to communicate and learn to communicate. And that's something that I've kind of had to work with as I've gotten older too, because I, I've always hated contention. And I always thought that, you know, it's something that conflict and contention was something you wanted to avoid. And and I've had to learn as an adult and I teach my kids and, Stuff that conflict is okay. And we just need to learn how to work through those things and not just brush them under a rug or or skirt past them. Like it's okay to walk through them and do so safely.
00:10:03
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Right, right. I'm so glad you said that because I completely agree that when you avoid conflict, then it builds up into this bigger thing than it really has to be because then you have this resentment because you didn't actually say what you, the thing, and then it happens again and then you get my, and it can build up over years and it's just like, right? Like that's not healthy for anybody because then, you know, at some point you boil over and then you snap on the person. They're like, what? Like, I didn't even know that was a thing. Like, what are you talking about? yeah.
00:10:30
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Yeah, I love that what you're talking about, just like that healthy communication. um There was one other thing that was still coming up for me about that appreciation part, just because I think it strikes such a chord with moms.
00:10:43
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And so what I was imagining is... you know, asking for that appreciation from either, you know, your spouse or your kids. And what I wouldn't want to ah ah want to happen is that it somehow then becomes like an order, like you need to appreciate me, right? or Or like your spouse telling the kids, like, you need to appreciate your mother, right? Because then it sounds kind of like a punishment. And then then they're like, thanks, mom, right? Like, it's just not that genuine part. So I thought, well, what if we talk through that? Like,
00:11:16
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how could you ask it where, um you know, and I get this conversation would be more likely happening with the spouse than the kids, but if they are teenage kids and you're doing all this stuff for them and then they have never appreciated that or said thank you, like that is, you know, kind of teaching them to not appreciate, right? And so how can we teach people to appreciate, you know, others? It's not just about us, right? Like, but appreciate, notice and appreciate, like what would be some ways you could talk to your clients about that?
Teaching Appreciation to Children
00:11:47
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Well, I think really we have to model it ourselves, especially to our kids, to our spouse, to everything. I think um something that I've kind of always done it since my kids were little is that in front of them, I will acknowledge, you know, about their father. Thank you so much for working so hard so that I can stay home with our kids, you know, when they were little. And I'd acknowledge that. And he'd acknowledge you know, thank you so much for making dinner. It was delicious or whatever. He'd, he'd acknowledge little things or I'd acknowledge, thank you for taking that trash out, you know, without even, he saw a need and thank you. And so modeling that in front of each other and in front of the kids and,
00:12:28
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modeling the appreciation to them. Like, hey, thank you for sharing that with your sister or thank you for taking your brother to his soccer game or whatever and dropping him off. I really appreciate that. That was really nice that you, so just kind of acknowledging those little things and then when you acknowledge those, they see, okay, wait, that they didn't have to do that. That's true. Or just those little things as we show them and model that for them, even just when the waitress brings you your food, acknowledging, thank you so much, you know, even though, yeah, she, that may be her job and she's being paid for it or whatever we tip and But acknowledging acknowledging that in front of your kids that appreciation, I think, and gratitude and those kinds of things, I think it has to be modeled by us. And, you know, I think making i my kids have always known that we, my husband and I have a date night once a week, whether it's just going for a bike ride or when they were little, sometimes it was just a walk around the block or something or put the kids to bed and watch a movie kind of thing that We appreciate our time together and alone time and just to to be together. So to to show that we put each other first and and that's kind of part of it. But we acknowledge each other and the things that we do in front of our kids so that they can see that, look, we are appreciating one another for just even the little things.
00:14:02
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Man, I really want to talk about all the letters in STAR, but for some reason I'm obsessed with this because I can just feel how important that is, that appreciation and also the different levels or ways kind of like the the love languages.
00:14:20
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So for me, I don't need a lot of like verbal appreciation. Like that doesn't, yeah, it's nice if somebody says something, but it doesn't matter to me because either way, I know that I'm doing something good. So I don't need that feedback. um But maybe I do want a different type of appreciation. I haven't really kind of,
00:14:42
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thought through the other kinds, but I just um you know generally want to feel that my kids and I have a a good relationship. And so that's kind of all the appreciation I need. And that's not ah not even necessarily appreciation, but it is just kind of acknowledging and appreciating that the relationship is is a good one. um but But what do you think about like in a marriage, when people have different proportions of how or the ways they want to be appreciated, like what are some things that come up there that might be things that our audience could benefit from hearing about?
Appreciation Through Love Languages
00:15:17
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Yeah, like like you talked about the love languages. ah That's definitely because how somebody feels loved and appreciation and, you know, appreciation kind of is just, you know, it definitely doesn't necessarily need to be the the love language. It can kind of be ah just showing, acknowledging what somebody has done for you or gratitude or something like that. um I think that with as far as like couples, we can kind of show that appreciation, we need to make sure we're acknowledging because sometimes when somebody shows you appreciation, that's how they want to receive it too. Right. So that's, ah you know, if, if my kids, um, I think I have some that just don't, like you said, don't necessarily need the verbal acknowledgement of what they've done, but my appreciation can be shown in something else in how I,
00:16:15
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spend time with them. Or if they took the trash out or whatever, then I have more time that I can spend with them. And I know that they're, they like that quality time. And so it gives me time to be able to spend with them. And so I think we need to maybe kind of be aware of those things. And I think if we're just thinking about, okay, how can I show appreciation to this person who maybe doesn't need the verbal, but maybe they need ah ah head rub. You know, my daughter sometimes gets headaches. And so just sitting down with her and giving her a head massage is means a lot more to her than anything I could say.
00:16:54
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And so i I recognize that, I know that. And so that's maybe acknowledging that kind of appreciation in that way. Yeah. And you know what else I was thinking just now, like when I want appreciation is for when I do something that's kind of ah above and beyond.
00:17:13
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So like sometimes if I'm picking up my son and it's kind of like late at night and I'm like, oh my gosh, I really would rather be home right now. Like I don't want to be out driving when it's late, like kind of but if it's just like typical everyday stuff, I don't care as much. And so I'm wondering if this is striking a chord with moms everywhere where, and it's kind of like, you're doing the extra thing that you maybe didn't have to do. It's like, hello, come on. Like now I want some recognition.
00:17:36
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What do you think? Yeah. Yeah. I think sometimes, and that's, that's kind of maybe where our partner or our spouse or, or another one of our you know teenagers or something can be like yeah mom mom was really tired that was kind of cool that she went and picked you up anyway or something like that i think if we can kind of help recognize some of these things in in in those that are around us that that she didn't have to do that that was really late she was tired um or something like that that i think um can kind of go a long way just
00:18:09
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the acknowledgement of it can really help ah us feel better sometimes. But sometimes that may not be somebody's starved need. That may not be something that they right need appreciation. Because a lot of times, you know, I have i have one kid well, I say kid, she's 21 now, but she isn't one that necessarily does anything for any acknowledgement or any appreciation. Like it almost would...
00:18:36
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She doesn't need that. That's not one of her needs. But, you know, I think for her, maybe just encouragement or validation or one of those is something that can kind of really...
00:18:50
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it it kind of goes along with all of them. I think they're they're kind of, they kind of all build on one another too. yeah So, but I think, did that answer your question? Maybe i yes I kind of went off a little bit. Well, we did, but that's okay because I was thinking, wow, we really are, I'm obsessed with this appreciation concept because I know it's so important. And I always hear my friends talk, like the the feeling that they're they're talking about that they don't feel appreciated. And so i'm like, I really want to make sure we spend enough time on that. And and kind of just to finish that part,
00:19:20
Speaker
Sometimes, yeah, it could just be the smallest thing. So say I am picking up my son at a late time. If he was just like, mom, thanks. So that because otherwise he wouldn't be able to go like if he didn't have a ride home. Right. And so if all I would need to hear in that moment would just be like, thanks, mom. Thanks for driving me. Right. Like it was so simple. Yeah.
00:19:39
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And so maybe that's something that like I could spend more time. I mean, I'm not saying he doesn't do that by the way. In fact, he's really good about it, but like, I'm just thinking as a concept of like a teaching, teaching moment that like, that's really important. Just those small little praises throughout for any type of an effort by someone for us. um yeah So let's go through, cause I know we're kind of going out of order. What's another need that you think is really important that the moms hear about today?
Respect in Parent-Child Relationships
00:20:04
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um I think, yeah, really, i mean, we've got respect, I think is a big one that I hear sometimes where I feel like um if say, you know, especially like as I work a lot with women who have grown children, who maybe don't feel respected because their child isn't living the way that they think they should live. Well, I taught them better than that. And so they feel disrespected.
00:20:30
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That the way that I taught them is they're not doing what, you know, living how I taught them to live. Or I see a lot of um young adults who kind of maybe were raised in a church and kind of as they get older, decide not to really be part of any organized religion or something. And the parents of those kids might feel a little bit disrespected on that. Well, I taught them well, why are they not? And it's very much a common thing for 20 somethings to kind of try to find their grounding and stuff a lot more nowadays. And, and they're not finding it in organized religion a lot. And, and so it's,
00:21:11
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eventually I've seen where they come back and stuff. But during that time, depending on how that parent might react to that situation, disrespect it can a lot of times push those kids a lot further away. Yeah. Then if, because they're not, their need is it's not about the religion. It's not about that. It might be more fear that they're, the parent is fearful that their kid is going to I don't know, because they're not tied to a religion that they're now going to forever be lost. And and it doesn't necessarily have to be like that. ah And that's not a disrespectful thing to the parent. I don't think these kids mean it that way.
00:21:55
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It's just they're finding their own footing. But if the parent reacts out of fear, and stuff because they're feeling disrespected in that situation, then it can really be bad on all ends. But I've seen that a lot where, where kids team 20 somethings and stuff will cut parents off because yeah of,
00:22:18
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the respect. That's typically what it is. The parent isn't feeling respected. They try to control a little more and want their kids to do what they've been raised to do and taught how they want to be them to be raised and whatever. And so that's kind of one of the, the other things that I've seen quite a bit. And so if we can get that respect need and recognize that yeah that has nothing to do with that and where can we find, and that's the thing is sometimes Sometimes our spouse or our kid, you know, maybe is not fulfilling our need in that area. So where can we find that?
00:22:54
Speaker
elsewhere, because we can't, if after we've talked with them about it, we've, you know, explained it, and they're not willing to change, you have that conversation, are you willing to help me with this, because I'm not feeling this. And most of the time, they're like, yes, I'm going to, but if they're not, then you need to decide, am I okay with that?
00:23:13
Speaker
Where do I want my relationship to be with this? Because I'm not going to change that person. I'm not going to get that from them. So I either need to decide that that's okay, I don't need that from them, i get that somewhere else.
00:23:25
Speaker
Or yes, I do need this. And so now where do we go from here? And because you can't control that other person, you can only control you and how you feel about it. So that's where i kind of help people work through those kinds of decisions because it's not always easy sometimes.
00:23:43
Speaker
yeah Yes, yes. I loved everything that you said and I was so happy you said the control word, the C word, because I was like, as you were describing like with that kind of religious, um you know, need for autonomy for the young adult. Well, I have met just in a personal context a lot of people who had very controlling parents as when they were teenagers. And so they have then gone the opposite direction kind of in that, in specifically in the religious context that you were talking about, they're like, I'm never going back to church again, blah, blah. And the funny thing is that it doesn't have to be that way, but it's because they felt so controlled. And it's like exactly what you were saying, like the respect and the fear. And so it's like, how would you, if you were parents,
00:24:31
Speaker
that adult that parent how would you kind of coach them to kind of let go and kind of stand back and the reason for my question is because I see so much of that exact same pattern but in different categories not the religious but just other categories with parents and teenagers so I have always the parents that want to control the teenagers and the teenagers are rebelling right so how do you approach that Yeah, I think, I mean, the biggest thing there there was a book I read many years ago that was like, how to do life with your adult children, but leave the keep your mouth shut and the welcome mat out or something like that was like, I've heard that too.
From Control to Autonomy for Adult Children
00:25:12
Speaker
yeah you heard that book Yeah, it's, it's, that's the truth. Because I think, you know, it's as I've heard the analogy where with when they're teenagers, you know, you're, you're kind of coaching them or whatever. And then you're, as they get older, you kind of are more of a consultant and stuff. And so
00:25:28
Speaker
As they get older, you kind of need to step back and let them make their own decisions and you ask them. And a phrase that I think I use a lot, especially because I have 25, 21 and 19 year old now is when they come to me or they're talking to me about plans or things that they're doing and maybe...
00:25:47
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i i don't I don't ever really offer my opinion until they ask. Or I'll say, oh, have you thought of this, this, and this? Rather than, because if I suggest it, then they don't want to, you know.
00:26:01
Speaker
But and thankfully, I have... excellent relationship with my kids and it's hasn't you know i think some times through their teenage years it's hard and so having to bite your tongue and keep your mouth shut is been is hard and it but i i think what's more important sometimes we have to remember that what's more important is it me winning this argument or is it my relationship with them So if there's something that I see that they're doing or that I completely disagree with, I need to really get down to what is that need? Is it, you know, respect? Am I feeling disrespected by this? And that's why I am really, am I fearful? You know, never, ever parent out of fear because that is, to me, is... I think something that we do, especially when they're teenagers or young adults, because we can see or we think we can see or we know better than they do. And we don't always know what and where they're going with their life. And so we may have a way that we want it to go, but that's not always the right thing. And so we need to not parent out of fear and not react out of fear ever and, and and stop and and, get into our own thoughts. And why is this bringing up emotions? Why do i really want to, and feel the need to control or feel the need to,
00:27:24
Speaker
handle this situation? what What is it about this situation? Am I feeling disrespected? am i you know do I not trust that they can make a good decision? Am i worried about their safety or my safety? or you know valid they'll Start going through some of those things. why Why am I feeling this about whatever it is they're doing?
00:27:45
Speaker
And so make it more about you and less about them and and understand your own thoughts at why this is happening and why we're we're feeling the need to control that. and And then it goes back to ask yourself, what's more important, this decision they're making or this, whatever they're doing, is it more important that or my relationship with them?
00:28:08
Speaker
So kind of have to weigh those things out. Yes, you said that perfectly. Yes. There was one thing that I thought of, which is one of my kids loves to push my buttons and loves to try to get a big reaction out of me. And i have just, I mean, I think I just knew this instinctively, but even more so now is just to like,
00:28:31
Speaker
not react so much because that's what they're looking for. So if they're like, mom, I need to go blah, blah, blah. And, you know, kind of the inside of me is like, you can't do that. Right. But now if I'm just like, oh okay, tell me more about that. Right. Then it takes all the fun out of it for them. And then they don't want to do it anymore. But it was really just like that the excitement of, you know, kind of getting into something. Have you seen that happen before?
00:28:54
Speaker
Oh yeah, yeah, I teach respond, don't react, respond, which is when you respond, that is more intentional, that is more, you're creating, you know, cultivating your thoughts and whatever when you respond, rather than react, that's kind of what, because I think a lot of times we do, it's like, whoa, wait, we want to react and, and, but I think we need, if we respond, that's more intentional and more controlled, I guess, of ourselves when we respond. Right, right, right.
Closing Remarks and Resources
00:29:26
Speaker
um Okay, so this has been an amazing, I feel like I could spend hours going through all the letters, but we don't have time for that today. So how can people find you going forward?
00:29:35
Speaker
um Yeah. So my, my podcast is called the focus podcast with Tara Lee. They can, every Friday we have new episodes there. um But peacefulheartjourney.com is where I have um resources and lots of things that they can go and check out there and all my socials, peacefulheartjourney.com. So, or peacefulheartjourney is where they can find Instagram and Facebook and all of that. So yeah, thank you so much. This has been really fun.
00:30:02
Speaker
i agree. Thank you so much. appreciate it.