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Rest Isn’t Lazy: Changing the Narrative
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Rest should be simple—but for many women, especially moms, it feels anything but. In this episode, Annie and Jimena unpack the guilt, mental load, and constant pressure to stay productive that make slowing down so difficult, and why even “rest” doesn’t always feel restful. Tune in as the Whine Mamas redefine what rest really means and why it’s not something you have to earn—it’s something you need. Wine of the Week: Finca San Martin Rioja
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Introduction to Wine Mama Podcast
00:00:00
Speaker
Welcome to Wine Mama, a podcast where two bestie moms whine while they whine. I'm Jemina. And I'm Annie. Let's whine. And happy Wine Mama Tuesday to all who celebrate, which I hope that's everyone listening. I hope that you're ah a Wine Mama Tuesday celebrator like Jemina and I are.
Busy Schedules and Parenting Stories
00:00:20
Speaker
How's it going over there, my lovely co-host?
00:00:24
Speaker
Oh, you know, just here.
00:00:30
Speaker
me you're trying to honestly like I know we say this all the time we're trying to survive and thrive but like April it has been so busy and it will continue to get busy and I feel like it will not slow down for me until like mid-May just because we have our weekends like so packed um of fun things don't get me wrong like it's so it's everything is fine like it's great weekends it's birthday weekends you know it was my birthday was easter it was becca's birthday you know we're doing disney we're um doing actually it's a double round almost of disney because we're doing disney with the kids and then we're doing drinking around the world it's just it's tons of great stuff with like good people good energy but like it's also like oh my gosh like when am i gonna clean my house Yeah. Yeah. It's like, wait, I have to like, actually like take care of like my, like the the the regular, the not fun things to do. Like your day, yeah. Your day to day life. We're the same way since I know I told you guys, I have a new niece and new nephew. i
00:01:34
Speaker
don't know when I'm going to see them, meet them in the near future because I have, We all go to my parents for 4th of July. so other than Memorial Day weekend, if I decide to like try to go see them that weekend, I won't see them until I go up to my parents just before the 4th of July. Like that that's what it is. And I'm like, how? How did that happen? How did we get to the point where our their things are so planned out? And this is everybody, right? Like this isn't just us. This is like, i think this is a lot of people where you're just so far in advance planned out that you're like, wait, how did it, how did we get to this point where things were like this planned out far in advance? Like I love a planner. I love my colored Google calendar. Like she is, she's so beautiful, but I need her to like chill, chill the hell out because she's looking real, real colorful right now.
00:02:26
Speaker
Um, yeah, into summer. Crazy. Yeah. It's crazy. And I think, I think the answer to your question of the, how it happened, children, you have children with activities and all the activities.
00:02:40
Speaker
Yeah. just all the things. So, which is fun, you know, but it's, it just gets a little busy, but I do, i do have a funny, before we go into the wine, I do have a funny Kennedy story. oh yes. So I know we haven't really been doing kid stories lately because sometimes we just like jump right into the wine or it's like, Oh my gosh, we like, geez, can you remember like all these things these children say? So she's always reading the titles of songs on the radio. So like we listened to hits one,
00:03:08
Speaker
All the time. Now she started asking to listen to hits one. I'm like, oh my God, you're too grown up. If it's not an appropriate song, like, um've all the obviously, like, don't let her listen to it. But the song switched and it was the Sabrina Carpenter song, When Did You Get Hot?
00:03:21
Speaker
know what I'm talking about? Yeah. And so she's reading it all and she goes, when did you get hot? She was like, hmm. She was like, when did you get hot, mommy? i was like, oh, how do I get to this? And I was like, hmm.
00:03:34
Speaker
I was like, I don't know, maybe a couple years ago.
00:03:41
Speaker
she took that as my answer. She's like, all right. I'm dead. That's amazing. I know. i almost like, well, when welcome anyone I started doing, taking care of my body and working out and do my Botox, do my, yeah taking care of my skincare routine. when I turned 30.
00:03:59
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah, when I turned 30. So but it was just so funny because she was like, when she read it, and then she was like, realized it was a question and realized like, she's like, I'm gonna ask my mom this. And i was like, oh so yeah, my mother will answer question for me. Oh, my gosh, that's amazing. And I totally get it. Avery's favorite song right
Wine Introduction and Tasting
00:04:17
Speaker
now is Where the Hell's My Husband. And she does it. So go for it, queen. Find him. She's very much in her feminist era. Olivia Dean, you know, all the things. So just what what do the Gen Z's do?
00:04:31
Speaker
Oh, yes. This little, girl yeah. Little clap with his fingers. Anyways. um Yeah. But I think, I think with all that being said, i think we're probably ready for, i mean, i don't know. You know what you should have told her? She's like, I got hot when I was 21 because that's when I could start drinking wine.
00:04:51
Speaker
That's when it really started. So she'd be like, loved we all know that's where we all went downhill because we all abused, you know, No, I was not. No, I, no, thanks. I do not want to go and relive that look. She wasn't cute.
00:05:09
Speaker
ah She was not cute. Okay. like i've seen Like, you know, some people peaked at that time. no yeah that was not. see I'm a late later in life. Peaker is, um, is me because Same. When I look at the photos for my 21st birthday, i oh my God.
00:05:32
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. I'm honestly, don't, don't look it up. Same girl. Don't look it up. Don't look it up unless you really want to just have a good cry because it's just, why?
00:05:44
Speaker
who let me have a penguin theme? Like I know I loved, I love penguin. But like, I'm so hot from laughing so hard about this and just thinking about these. I can't. We've got to get to the wine. We've got to get to the wine. We need to get the wine. we've got We've got to pivot. fire and you know what Maybe it'll be a story time for another day. We'll bring up the our our trauma from 21st.
00:06:09
Speaker
We should talk 21st birthdays because like i just feel like they're so vastly different now. but we'll We'll put it put a cork in it, quite literally. Put a cork in it, put it in the calendar. But are we ready to wine with the wine of the week?
00:06:24
Speaker
Yes, please. Let's do it. Yes. So this week we are drinking the Finca San Martin Rioja. So it is a red wine. And shes like a red blend? Like I couldn't quite... Rioja, like type I know like it's a... you know what? Let me... Let's do a fact check. What is a Rioja wine?
00:06:47
Speaker
Let us know. I'm going to kind of read a little bit about the company and you find out about this, about this wine we're drinking and the grapes that it comes from. So founded in the 19th century, growing in the 20th century and still passionate in the 21st century and founded by eight in 1890 by five families. Rioja Alta is based in Spain and has been ranked as the third most admired winery in the world by drinks international. So that is a very wonderful,
00:07:15
Speaker
Bold statement there that we have by Drinks International. That is very interesting. um And to update everyone, Rioja is Spain's most known region. Okay. So it's a red wine that is famous for producing high quality red wines dominated by the Tempranillo region.
00:07:36
Speaker
Great. Okay. Okay. had number beneo In the past, we've had a Rioja wine, I believe before, like I'm very positive about that answer. So I'm excited to see how this one measures up. No, I don't remember what we ranked that, but I'm excited to see where this goes.
00:07:56
Speaker
We had a, we have a little bit of a downer last week. I'm hoping for little something this week. you We need some serotonin. we need some serotonin I know it's not serotonin. Serotonin makes you sleep. What's the other one? Endorphins.
00:08:10
Speaker
Yeah, that one. But think the serotonin make your sleep or mel, are you thinking of melatonin or are they both the same thing? You know what? This isn't a medical show. Let's move on. No. Let's move
The Challenge of Finding Rest
00:08:21
Speaker
on. let's Let's continue on. Tell us a little bit about but what we we'll be ah tasting and smelling this evening. Oh, I love it. Honestly, are we on the palate part? I don't remember where you saw. We sure are. It's going to be vivid cherry red color. oh beautiful. Thanks for the hint. Yeah.
00:08:39
Speaker
Which it is. It is a very dark. um So vivid cherry red color with medium high depth and an intense ruby hue at the rim. I see no difference in color. I think it's all pretty ruby red cherry is what it's looking to me.
00:08:53
Speaker
On the nose is surprises with its high aromatic intensity characteristic of Rioja a la Vesa, which I did read when I was looking up Rioja. There is different types of Riojas. I'm guessing it's based off of the region. Okay. Okay.
00:09:06
Speaker
With notes of blackberries, raspberries, and red cranberries. These intertwine with pleasant hints of clove, vanilla, roasted coffee, caramel, and sweet licorice. On the palate, it stands out for its balanced finesse and pleasant mouthfeel. Okay.
00:09:23
Speaker
Pause there. fund for effect Pleasant mouthfeel. Okay. Thanks to its soft, approachable tannins that lead to a fruit forward, expressive finish. fine, expressive, and well-balanced.
00:09:37
Speaker
That's a lot. That's a lot to unpack. A lot of things that we are smelling, a lot of things that we are tasting. i don't know the pleasant mouthfeel. I don't know there are many things in life that I would say are pleasant mouthfeels. So this will be interesting. the price is very fair, anywhere between $19 and $22. So very affordable, of course, as we always try to do.
00:10:03
Speaker
Okay, and just for ah perspective, there's three Riojas, and it is based off of their sub-regions. So the Rioja Alavesa is more of a cool, acidic place.
00:10:15
Speaker
um The other one, Rioja Alta, is higher altitude, elegant, and Rioja Oriental is warm and full-bodied. So we got kind of like the middle one with this description of what this wine is, which again, it's the Finca San Martin Rioja.
00:10:34
Speaker
Well, so let's give it If we've got the middle one, maybe we'll land somewhere in the middle grounds, but I guess we'll taste it and see.
00:10:45
Speaker
Cheers. We're about to find it out. Cheers. Cheers.
00:10:53
Speaker
Okay. It wasn't bad. the and I'm not saying it's bad, but like the initial, i think it was like the swallow kind of, I got, hold on, let me try one more time. ye It was the mouth feel. It was the mouth feel.
00:11:05
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It probably, I think she's saying it was not pleasant.
00:11:14
Speaker
It's a pleasant mouth feel. it's It's the like, when you like actually swallow it, that's throwing me off. Does that make sense? I think because it's a, it says it's a what medium to high depth, which i think is like medium to full body. So I think it's, that's what is getting. Like ah like yeah heavy, me okay heavy and rich. as I don't know where I stand with it quite yet.
00:11:39
Speaker
Yeah. I yeah think, I think, I think that um Ben and Greg would like this. Oh yeah. I think they'd really like this. I think they would. make turn this into a bourbon barrel and done deal oh my lord done deal we'd be finishing the episode with ben giving it a 10 yeah then getting a tattoo of yeah i think uh finca san martin rioja just say rioja real
00:12:09
Speaker
but i love that i'm yawning as i'm about to discuss what our topic is tonight It was actually really fitting that Yon was not a paid actor in in this at all. Like it was. I wish it was. i might For your sake, I also wish it was too. But I know that was very, very real because we are going to be talking about rest and why it feels that women really struggle to find that time to truly rest and resting isn't like pausing, take a, taking a second and getting on your phone or answering an email or like, just like resting is like truly taking a moment, not even just a moment, but like taking time for yourself to kind of like recharge and rejuvenate that you can then you can energize your bunny. Right. Like we just keep going, going, going, going. going We're going to have to, we got to pause, we got to pause for ourselves. Yeah.
00:13:05
Speaker
Yeah. But as women too, like what is pause? You know, we don't know what that word means. We don't know what rest means no matter how hard we try two rest.
00:13:21
Speaker
Yeah. Bug word of the night, everybody. Rest. um When was the last time you think you truly rested?
00:13:29
Speaker
The year was 1990. It's been 87 years. um it was nap time in kindergarten. I'm trying to like honestly think of a day.
00:13:45
Speaker
As the unpaid doctor comes back with my yawn, but um I can't even honestly tell you of an actual day. And now I will tell you everyone – Everyone makes fun of me, like my my neighborhood gal pals that like to listen. um They make fun of me because i love to take naps still. But why do y'all think I'm taking a nap? Because I'm so damn tired. you like i don't need and i don't know if I want to consider that the like an actual restful thing. Because I'm to think of like an actual day where i honestly cannot remember. like An actual day where i it was just...
00:14:24
Speaker
me, myself and I, and i put my phone, like, you know, a day that I didn't even look at at my phone or yeah and absolutely like did not have a to-do list in my brain and just literally let my body physically and mentally rest. I couldn't tell you.
00:14:41
Speaker
I was about to say, it's not just like physical, it's mental too. Or even like, say like, like the husbands take the kids somewhere and do something. Like I can absolutely guarantee you, you're still at home. Like we're still at home. Like,
00:14:55
Speaker
starting laundry or like picking something up or ordering a new, like whatever that is needed for the house. Or like, it's always like our brain doesn't really stop turning, like stop moving and going and thinking of the next thing.
00:15:08
Speaker
And I think that's part of it too, is like, yes, you can take a, you can take a nap and that's, that's resting your body. But like, your, your mind is still going, going, going rest and then up going, going, going. Right. So it's not like true, like mental, it's not like a true mental break. I feel like. Yeah.
00:15:30
Speaker
No, it isn't like, it's, it's like, you can't even consider it as downtime because you're still mentally busy in that headspace. Like, yeah. So that's why it's kind of, it's so hard to answer that question. And I think you can ask any woman that and they wouldn't be able to actually answer it because even if if you don't have kids, you still have a job, you still have a career, you still have a social life, you still have things you want to do and achieve and finish in in a 24 hour period. So it's not, you know, it's just such a and and here's what drives me crazy.
00:16:04
Speaker
This is what drives me crazy about this is men men are not the same. There's no tabs in their brain that's keeping them this mentally, not worked up, but like mentally full, if you will. So like, what is that like?
00:16:22
Speaker
Yeah. Like what, what is that? i remember that thing that was going around a couple of years ago, or it was like, how often do you think about the Roman, like, like ah the Roman empire whatever? Like, and that was like, I just, I'm like, wait, I'm so confused that this is what is going on or like not going on in, in your brain right now. But I think we also,
00:16:44
Speaker
And I don't know, I feel like we've we've started to come down from a little bit from it a little bit, but like that quote unquote like hustle culture where it's like you've got to like run run, run, run, run. You're in a rat race. You've got to get ahead. You've got to do all this stuff. And if you're like not being productive, not being promoted, not like this powerhouse person, like i don't say I don't think you're looked at as lazy, but there's this like stigma put on this life that these people are living where they're just like go go, go, go, go achieving all of these things. But like, I don't know. Are you, are you happy? Like, are you happy with that? And I, again, I feel like hustle culture is kind of had its peak and had it and had its moment. Um, but I don't know. i could be, I could be wrong there, but I feel like it had its moment. I'd say what, maybe like four or five years ago, i could be totally off base with that, but it's a lot.
00:17:38
Speaker
It's a lot. And it's also just the idea, right? Like there's this huge just like persona that women are wired to always be doing something.
00:17:51
Speaker
Honey, I don't want to be conditioned or wired that way. Please unplug me. Like mama's ready for a rest. I bet you if I asked Ben when's last time he'd be like, Saturday.
00:18:01
Speaker
with the masters on like you know like he could probably give me a solidified answer but um yeah it's just like this constant idea that we are wired to always be doing something and I think I heard this I don't know who it was that i heard this from or if I read this but the reason men are that way and is because they know that we will be doing it So they don't have to stress or be concerned over it because they know that we will handle it whether they ask or not. We are just so conditioned to always be doing because one, we know it's going to get done right. Right.
00:18:46
Speaker
Let's be honest. Like we don't want to have to do something twice. So we're just going to do it ourselves. Yeah. And. So that's why they can feel that sense of calmness and like restful state because they have that faith and trust that it's going to get done.
00:19:01
Speaker
So it's not a problem. And I'm like, oh, what a dream. What a dream. But also like, thanks for having the faithfulness in us and like the knowledge that like, yeah, we are going to get shit done. We are powerhouse workhorses. We get shit done. and thank you so much. But you know what? Eventually things like this will lead to like burnout, overly tired. i hate using the word overstimulated just like I feel like kind of on edge too, because you haven't gotten that time to rest. And even if you have like girls trip planned or something, i feel like even that you're still go go, go. Yeah. You're still go, go, go. Like it's, it's fun. And like, don't get me wrong. Like I don't take those for granted in any sense of the word, but I feel like that's not really resting yeah either, you know? Yeah.
00:19:57
Speaker
And then we also kind of, I think in our mental loads as, again, women and as moms, we almost borderline see resting kind of like selfish, like I could be doing so much and why am I not doing ABCD?
00:20:16
Speaker
Like I'm, I'm just sitting on the couch right now. Like, why am I not like turning like something as simple, like turning the Roomba on or just turning the dishwasher or like, let me just do this one little quick thing, you know, like, so we find it like selfish that we're taking that time to actually decompress. But you guys, that's what makes us better human beings, I feel like.
00:20:35
Speaker
We got to have that time. So it's almost like a guilt factor, really. Like there's a guilt factor laid into it. And i hate that. And like, i hate saying that, but it's true.
00:20:46
Speaker
Like it just, it just is. And again, this is for, I feel like this is a lot of women in general. It doesn't mean like, not whether you're like a mom or not. Like, yes, that adds a layer to it. But I think this is women in general. And we just don't know how to sit sit still. Right. Yeah.
00:21:04
Speaker
And we, we think that when we are sitting still, we're wasting time. We all have the same 24 hours, right? Mm-hmm. So if we're sitting still, who's getting all these things done? Like we're wasting the time that we have to be productive. And that is such like an awful narrative, but like that is the narrative that we have painted for ourselves within our minds. And if this is not the narrative as a woman, like if you're listening, you're like, oh my gosh, that's not me. I'm like...
00:21:33
Speaker
Good for you, girl. Yeah. Send me whatever you're taking every day. Or how to like readjust my mindset. Because I like I can't even on days where so like get us. So say I get up, I work out, get home, shower, get the kids up, get the kids to school, make my breakfast, sit down and work, working all day. Kids are home.
00:21:55
Speaker
stop working and like I'm like at that point when it's like five o'clock I'm like I need a like mental break because like let's color let's do this craft let's build let's play let's do all this stuff and you're like dude I need just a second like I just want a second but then that makes me feel so guilty to be like no like give me some time and then we can do that and like going and just like literally like sitting for five minutes and being like I have to like Turn off work mode, turn on like mom mode and then turn on like, let's play. And that's really hard sometimes. Like that's really, really hard. And as the guilt factor comes in where I'm like, hey, I'm not like, I need a minute. I need a few minutes to just like not be doing anything.
00:22:40
Speaker
one of the two right like work or immediately like straight into ma mode and even saying that makes me feel guilty but it it shouldn't like that's normal to like know need a second to decompress your brain yeah and it's just it's one of those things that in exactly how you describe it you just get so busy especially once they want you to be in that fun mom mode versus just like dinner, bedtime, you know, like let's put it in a playtime.
Solutions for Better Rest
00:23:09
Speaker
It makes like your rest, even if you are resting, like they're going come in there, they're going to interrupt you. So then at that point it makes it feel like, okay, well this rest is pointless. Like, let me just get up.
00:23:18
Speaker
Yeah. ah The interruptions, like I might as well just, what am I doing here? You know? Yeah. So it's just so hard to find that perfect balance because, but it's so important though, right? Like at the end of the day, that's why we're talking about this is because we honestly do need to have, like as women in general, this is not just moms, but like truly have that physical and mental balance.
00:23:46
Speaker
decompress mode, like a switch, right? Like I wish we all just had like a switch that we could turn that on try to turn it on and off. Right. And like not try to like multitask or do or think about anything else while you're taking that time for yourself, because then it's, that's not really the point of it. Right. Like that's, that's, and that's the hardest part is not wanting to like sit there and then be like, and thinking about the next thing or feeling guilty or, you know, it's, and that's like, ah it really is like the hardest part of it all is just like being and like being almost just like being still, you know? and we've talked about, I think last week was, was last week that we talked about working out or was that the week before?
00:24:29
Speaker
i can't remember. Yeah. um But that is such a now, of course, you're still like thinking through what you're doing, but that's probably the closest to like.
00:24:40
Speaker
not thinking about anything else that I have, because I really like, don't have, like, I can't think about anything else during like during those classes. I'm focusing on like breathing through, breathing through it really. So yeah, that's honestly probably the closest thing I have. Yeah. That's like the closest thing I have to like, I don't know, probably like a mental break. It's not a physical break, but it's a mental break.
00:25:03
Speaker
So true. Right. the True. True. Yeah, no it's true. I will say that when i by the time I get to the weight floor, though, it's I know my class is ending and I'm like, oh, God, okay, I need a shower. How much time do I have? Did I make breakfasts breakfast? Like my mind is rolling 10 miles an hour. But that's like could be a tinge of undiagnosed ADHD on my part. like yeah That's a whole nother conversation. That's a whole nother episode. But like you don't ever realize how tired you are until you actually slow down, right? Like
00:25:35
Speaker
Once you actually slow down is when it catches up to you that, oh my God, like I was running on autopilot like for so long. yeah And now that I'm sitting down for a minute, I'm understanding.
00:25:49
Speaker
the why I need to sit down. Like I'm going to be such a happier person. you know, some people will go get a massage. Some people may go to the spa for the day. If that is what it takes for you to like mentally just like have nothing, like close out all the tabs, shuts laptop off till the next day, like type of, eye do it, like go for it sister. Like I'm trying to think like, honestly, I feel like me, I i would need to go to like,
00:26:15
Speaker
a hotel for 24 hours. Like, let me just like do absolutely nothing. Oh my God, give me my robe. But you know I'm packing? If I'm going to this hotel, you do know when I'm packing with me? My Kindle. Oh, well, my Kindle. But I'm also packing my magnesium pills and my Nodpod because my friends, my friends.
00:26:35
Speaker
My guy. hey listen, my guy we are going to be sitting pretty in our plush robes. And we're going to be in our robes. We've read our little Kindle, maybe had a little glass of Savvy We've brushed our teeth. We're in our bed. We've taken our magnesium pills about 30 minutes ago. We're ready to kick it. It's time. This is the brain shutting off.
00:26:57
Speaker
You lean on back, maybe still in the robe. Like, I don't know. do people sleep in the robes? Like, they're pretty comfy. Put on the Nod Pod and you are out. No one's home. Goodbye. Enjoy the best sleep of your life because that is dream dream state dream state i can vouch for this um annie has been bragging about this nod pod by the way this bragging i mean you're not wrong is it bragging is bragging the right word but probably like hyping it up bragging is like oh i have this oh okay no they're not bragging what is it when you like talk a lot about something going on and on about it no there's gotta to be a word what's the word what's the word i'm looking for
00:27:39
Speaker
Anyways, Annie has been going on on about it. That's way too long. Bragging was Hyping it up. Hyping it up. Hyping it up. Recommending. I don't know. I don't know the word I'm looking for here. um Help me out, crowd. know Anybody. Bragging. I've been bragging.
00:27:52
Speaker
No, not bragging. It's like when you just talk. it's It'll come to me eventually. Anyways, besides the point, she's been talking about this for like months, months. And I'm a type of person, i do not do sleep masks. I just cannot, like I feel very claustrophobic. I don't want something like constricting my eyeballs. I paid a lot of money for Lasix so I could see. And the fact that a sleep mask is going to constrict that for me, it's just not my vibe. But for my birthday this year, my precious girlies got me a Nod Pod. And you guys, I'm i'm here to tell you that I have been humbled
00:28:31
Speaker
and And this thing, it's a weighted, it does not tie the back. So if that's something like if you're like me and you're like worried about something like being on your face all night, this bad boy does not tie. So it just lightly lays on your face. And if you if you're a side sleeper, don't fret, baby. There's a method. Like I read the entire pamphlet because I am a side sleeper. I'm a side sleeper. Yeah.
00:28:53
Speaker
And there's like a way in you guys, it just feels like a little hug on your face. And the pamphlet tells you give it three minutes if it doesn't work in three minutes. And I was telling Annie this story because I was recommending it now to Ben. I'm now bragging about it because I'm like,
00:29:09
Speaker
and i I know bragging is not the right word, but I'm like talking about it to everybody because I'm like, you guys, you don't understand. Like I don't do eye masks. Ben loves an eye mask, has slept with anyone that knows Ben knows that he is bringing that eye mask everywhere he goes. I call it his bra. His bra. That thing is that thing is massive. No, you can't see. I mean, you can't see. he He's in the dark, dark. He's literally in darkness. Like I can't imagine us being robbed and then having to like take that off to fight off.
00:29:36
Speaker
the robber. But I tried to explain to him, I was like, when I'm busy scrolling, right. When I'm trying to rest because it's that rest period versus doom scrolling, you know, itinerary in your head by And I'm like, literally put my phone away and this mask, it literally says it on like the little instructions guide on there. Give it three minutes. If I don't work in three minutes, I'm Okay. And I told Ben this, I'm like, Ben, I literally put it on. I plug my phone in, even though my mind is racing.
00:30:07
Speaker
my I'm still awake. I'm, but I know it's time for me to shut off. I know I have to like get the rest that I need in order to be a better human the next day. And I put it on and I swear, i literally just tell myself, I'm going to give it three minutes and I put it on and I'm out. Y'all, I am out out like a light. And Ben literally was like, how do you know it's been three minutes? That's the point. I don't. because i don't know You never have the thought of like, oh my God, this thing is not working. Because I thought the same thing. I'm like, okay, is this really going to do it in three minutes? and you're laying there. So it's weighted and it hits certain pressure points on your eyes that help, um,
00:30:43
Speaker
trigger like calmness or maybe maybe sleep. They try to, they trigger like calm. It's like, yeah. Calmness. And listen, pair that with your magnesium, ash, will gone to pills. See y'all tomorrow morning.
00:30:55
Speaker
See, see you tomorrow morning. Mama is gone. She is asleep. Nobody's home. So that is why I was so passionate about it because passionate. That's the word. it its That's what I was looking for. Passionate. Yes. that's why I was so passionate because i just, and I had the same things. I'd be like, okay, is it going to – like three minutes. Like that's a short amount of time. Like is going to – out.
00:31:21
Speaker
it's Gone. In the middle. gone. She's gone. Again, this is not sponsored by NotPod. This is literally free advertisement for them because, you guys, it's that good. And I need everyone to put this on their next Christmas list or honestly just go buy it for yourself. Like it's just – That's when I got It was Christmas and it was like sold out everywhere and it finally came available – and My mom got it for me and I was so excited because I had been dying to try it. And like literally it has been just, it's just been the best. And so I had to share the love with you and Allie. And so we got each other, we got each other them. And you know, have you seen the new ones they just came out with?
00:32:00
Speaker
It's silk. So they have the same one. So it like protects your hair. It protects your um skin because, you know, silk is really good for your skin. yeah And I was like, oh, my gosh, like they're just honestly this we're going to dedicate this episode to the Nod Pod. You know, it serves it right.
00:32:18
Speaker
Yes. We used to dedicate episodes. We actually were just teeing up this entire episode
Prioritizing Well-being and Rest
00:32:23
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talking about rest. We were teeing up at this entire episode to just plug in this non-sponsored Nodpod conversation.
00:32:31
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But but it it tracks because we're talking about rest, you guys. And like I'm telling you, i am one of those that lays in bed and I do scroll and then eventually i just fall... I have fallen asleep before with my phone in my hand, like probably still either like my thumb touching something. I'm always terrified. I'm going to go live and it's going to be me sleeping. would. I pray for the day. i know that you don't. I pray for the day because there's nothing I would do quicker than screen recording.
00:32:59
Speaker
I know you would. I know you would. i like And I just know it's going to happen at some point. So like this Nodpod situation like has truly helped me get my rest when it comes to that because I tell myself three minutes. if i can do that And even like when I take my naps, now that I have this thing, I'm like,
00:33:15
Speaker
I'm going to lay here and I'm not going to be on my phone. I'm not, you know, I mean, you can read, I think reading is a way like people do their, like, that's what resets their mind and and makes it restful to me.
00:33:27
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It depends, right? If it's like late at night and I read a lot, like it makes me fall asleep. Yeah. Especially when I'm like in the dark and I'm in the zone, but if it's like a thriller book or like it, that's not yeah making me rest. Right.
00:33:40
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Like my mind is going like I'm imagery. Yeah. who's Who's behind the door? Like who's coming out threat, like slasher, thrasher film. Yeah. Who's right. But we have to learn to like slow down and understand that things can wait. Right. Like we're not.
00:33:56
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Things aren't on fire every day of our life. Like it can wait until tomorrow. It can wait until next week. And if it can't, then we need to learn to prioritize. Right. And that goes for anyone anywhere, but we need to learn that slowing down is okay. And that goes for us too. Right. Like we are not geniuses. We're horrible examples of this. You know, like we're not saying that we do these things. You guys should too, because you just heard us in this episode saying like, we feel guilty. We don't know how to slow down, but that collectively,
00:34:25
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Like what's important, what has to be right and done right now. And if you're not in the mental state to handle something, push it to the next day, push it onto, i don't know, your support system, like push it to next week. Like there are ways that we can manage these feelings and we have to understand that like everything's not needed right this second. Everything's not a fire drill, you know?
00:34:49
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Yeah, no, that's so true. And like rest doesn't have to be earned. You know, it's not, not a reward for yourself. Like everyone will benefit from you getting the rest that you need and deserve. You will benefit from it. Your family, your friends, like literally your entire environment would be so different.
00:35:09
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And again, like, yes, should me and Annie practice what we preach right now? Absolutely. Because we are always on the go because that is just what it is. But like, I know for a fact that both of our bodies probably need that full. Honestly, maybe we need to go to like, what is it?
00:35:29
Speaker
Is it a, what is that guy, Jay? Jay Shetty? Jay Shetty. He used to be what? He was a monk. We need to go to a monk retreat. Okay. my god They, all they do is meditate. You can't talk. us You can't talk. You don't have any sort of outlets to the outside world. and maybe everyone needs to take a monk retreat. Like, can they like, do they do that? Like for beginners, like a three day retreat or something like. I highly doubt it because you know how many people probably after a 24 hour period are probably like trying to like pay off a monk to be like, Hey, like, let me use the landline, my guy. Like, come on. Like,
00:36:06
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We can work on a deal, okay? they're not going to be you know You're not going to be shortchanged at the pearly white gates if you let me use your landline, okay? Keep it a secret. keep it on the down low. So true. But like that's what I picture like being like actually like rested, right? like You are just like in this. And that's probably why a lot of people are like, you should try meditating. You should try... Maybe there's something to it. you know i so i will be I'll be the first to admit. I'll be the first one. no Squirrel. First of all, squirrel. yeah i and You guys literally witnessed my a undiagnosed ADHD every time we listened to this episode. yes like Let's be honest. But I also am like i feel kind of silly. like i I don't know. i just I've tried and I just feel kind of silly just sitting
00:36:50
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with my thoughts, you guys. So, cause if someone could teach me like the proper manners, maybe I just need to go to the monk retreat because like, I just feel so silly sitting there. Now, what has helped and what I have done though, and I even do this like with my kids when they're like having a hard time, starting to have a hard time to like calm themselves down from like a tantrum or being upset or something on your, if you have an Apple watch, have you ever tried the breathe app on there?
00:37:16
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It's three minutes and you literally just watch this flower open. and close and you just, that's your breathing pattern. And it helps. Like I've done it so many, I will, I've done it so many times.
00:37:28
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i don't do it daily. i just do it like randomly when one, it reminds me or like yeah if I want to distract my kids and I want to be like, you know what? We're having some big feelings. nothing's working.
00:37:40
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I'm starting to get frustrated and yeah I don't want to get there. So let's try this. And I'll show them. I'm like, let's follow the flower. Like we're going to breathe. And it works. So like that works, but like, yeah, I just feel a little silly meditating. sometimes with like thought Sitting there with my own thoughts and just, and just meditating. That's so funny. But you know what? It just, it benefits you, but it benefits everybody what else around you in the long run run. And that's really like the, the, you know,
00:38:07
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be all end all of it all right like it helps you but then it's also everyone around you right like your family your friends your kids your co-workers like truly like everyone if you are and again this isn't just like physical right like this is like mental rest too so as you guys go into your week maybe take whether that's easier for you done in the morning in the middle of your work day before you go and make your lunch in the evening before you go to bed, like take a minute and it doesn't have to be meditating, but just like be quiet with yourself well and see how it makes you feel. Yeah. See how it makes you, it makes you feel. And if you're like, Hey, i kind of like that.
00:38:47
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Hey, I feel a little more calmer going into whatever you're doing, maybe incorporate it into your everyday life. Yeah. and And you can start small, right? Like start and do 10 minutes.
00:39:00
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See how that goes for you. Then increase it the next week, you know, 15 minutes. Then go on a monk retreat. Your next step your next step is a monk retreat in Mongolia with a full 72 hours of no speaking, you know. ah No, just kidding. I mean, unless you want to, but it's just one of those things, you know.
00:39:26
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Rest is necessary for all of us, particularly women, because we do have that mentality, that drive, that workforce to always get things done and get them done right and get them done in time. And not even that, then we also add stuff on top of that because we we can do that.
00:39:46
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That's fine. I'll handle it. That'll take two minutes. Yeah, but when i can when you start adding everything on, it adds up, right? so yeah, start small. And I'm going to try my hardest, honestly, to take this advice as well. Like I'm going to not just consider my naps, my rest time. Yeah. no Again, plug for the Nodpod, man. Like truly has changed my my resting. i need to try the magnesium next. but
00:40:17
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um this is This is all stacking up nicely for you. I can guarantee that. Yeah. Like I just... I think it's just for everybody. Everybody is happier when they're well rested mentally, physically, spiritually, for sure. Whatever may be like, yeah think you will just be in a better place.
Wine Rating and Episode Wrap-up
00:40:35
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Yeah. Listen, you guys can take a glass of this wine, go sit outside if it's not super well. It's really hot here in Florida, you guys, but take a glass of wine, go sit in your room and read a book for read a chapter go sit outside. i would recommend this wine.
00:40:51
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I'm, I'm, I'm digging it. It's good. This is a, this is a good wine. Again, the, and the initial shock, it did say medium to high. What I said, it wasn't embodied. What word did it use?
00:41:03
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It said medium to high. don't remember. depth, medium to high depth, which I think that is, they're saying medium to full bodied. And I think that's that's what that first initial, whatever was, but this is a great glass of wine. So cozy on up. If it's cool enough where you live, you little bonfire, like a little outside, like patio, like fire our situation, have a book, glass of wine and use that time to just like, that's your time, right? That's your time. That's an escape.
00:41:37
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So just a little food for thought. But do we think we want to maybe move into some corking? Corking? Yeah. I think so. And like you I think you nailed it it. It was that initial, like, you know, the swallowing of the wine. You could tell. Yeah. and I think because I read what that Rioja Alavesa was, I kind of put that bad juju in my brain that it's going to be, like, acidic. And like so, like, that it kind of threw me off. Yeah.
00:42:06
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But as we have been sipping along, it's actually very much grown on me. Yeah. um'm So i'm curious I am curious. I want to go back and see our last Rioja, what we thought of it, because I'm curious if our corkings will be very similar to our last. I know. And I can't remember when it was or what it was. So we'd have to do some some digging. But I think I have my corking. And I stand by what I said. i think Ben and Greg would really like this one. Yeah. I think for being something different other than cab, I think they would really like this as like a different wine varietal, if you will. um All right. Well, give it away. you already You already got your cork. Let me have my last sip.
00:42:51
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Yeah, I think I'm ready. Mm-hmm.
00:42:57
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I'm definitely, I'm going to get another glass. I'm not going to lie. Oh my gosh. I'm so excited for you. yeah Thank you so much. It's probably not the best idea with an early workout in the morning, but I'm going to, I mean, that maybe maybe, maybe like a quarter cup, a little something, just a little, just a little extra little bit, just little something. going to have to hold off on the extra glass, but I will get one probably when I like finish up work tomorrow, um, to have with dinner because I am going to give this a 7.5.
00:43:25
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Oh my God. Stop. Same. Same. No, we haven't had the same in so long. We're always near each other. Swear. That's so funny. i swear it was going to be 7.5. That's I said, oh my God, like instantly my face, like said it all.
00:43:42
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i was like, she's ah the moment you said seven, I was like, she's going to say 0.5. Like i have a feeling she's going to say 0.5 because same. I think this is a very- funny. Even keeled wine. I think that's only way I can describe it. I think it's a very even keeled, I think a 7.5 definitely describes it perfectly. i think they nailed the description. um you know, it was a little bit harder to find more information about this specific wine, but they nailed when it came to like what's on the palate, what you're seeing, um the type of Rioja that it is. Like yeah I, so for that,
00:44:20
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I think the seven five is a beautiful, well-deserved cork. Perfect. Well, look at us matching wine corkings, matching nod pods, soon to be matching with our pop in our magnesium.
00:44:35
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Magnesium girlies. Oh, magnesium girlies. But listen, guys, just take it easy. this like its Take it easy. Kennedy asked me what she say.
00:44:47
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She asked Greg and i a question. She was like, I get very like creeped out and like, not creeped out, but like, it makes me anxious when kids ask about like years you've been alive and how long, how old I'll be in 10 years and 10 years after that. And then how old will you be? And I get like very anxious whatever.
00:45:05
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And she said, she asked the other day, she's like, how many lives, how many lives do I have? How many lives do we have? Oh my gosh. Oh, D was like, yeah, deep. I was like, oh no, please. No, I can't do this.
00:45:18
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And Greg was like, you have one. This is our one life that we get. So know that's so deep, but like, think about that, right? Like, yes, you got to kind of think about that. Like, no, yeah we can't be too serious with ourselves to see other people too serious. Just like our day to day.
00:45:34
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life um So just just keep that in mind, right? Like, again, that's so deep. Like, okay, yeah we all know we have one life, but like, you got to think about that.
00:45:45
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Deep, deep, deep coming from Kennedy Rose. i know. phof I was like, oh, well, but you know what? Sometimes we need the littles to put it in perspective for us because it's, it's, it's what we need, right? We all need that. That is what slows down the time for us, right? That is what puts it in perspective. Like, wow, you know what?
00:46:05
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the fact that they are connecting this and I get to be the example to set for them, let, no, we should live life at its fullest because we do only have the one. We should take that rest and we should do all the things that we want to do and dream big, baby, you know, do accomplish what you want to accomplish, fail and, you know, fail at things so you can learn that you can be better at some other things, you know, like a lot of times failure is not, it's not a negative thing.
00:46:32
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connotation in your life. You know, it just makes you better to continue keep and to keep going. So, wow, Kenny, way to drop the mic. Like, I'm going to think about that for the rest of the night. not going to lie to you. Same. I was realizing.
00:46:46
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Not going lie with you. But anyways, with that, that's a wrap. That's our show. That is all the resting tea we have for today. Thank you so much for listening. Don't forget to rate review us on whatever platform you're listening on. As always, tell all your friends and keep on whining.
00:47:02
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Cheers.