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The Mighty Tribe – a conversation with Bradley Glantz
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Swapping Online Virtual Networks for Authentic Real World Connections
Bradley Glantz is the founder of The Mighty Tribe, a community designed to help men understand masculinity and create the best version of themselves.
At age 13 Bradley was diagnosed with depression. Over the following three years he sank into video games addiction.
In this episode of the Abeceder work life balance podcast Rest and Recreation Bradley explains to Michael Millward how he recovered from that addiction and turned the lessons from his recovery into a community for men.
Bradley describes how addiction dominated his teenage years, and how he realised he was addicted, but at the same time powerless. He explains the education process he embarked on which led to him being able to build a new lifestyle free from addiction.
He explains the lessons he learnt and how he used that knowledge to help all men build lives based on purposeful and positive masculinity.
During their conversation Bradley and Michael discuss the societal norms that force men into lifestyles that involve constant comparison and competition but lack purpose.
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Introduction to Rest and Recreation Podcast
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on zencastr Hello and welcome to Rest and Recreation, the Work-Life Balance podcast from Abbasida. I'm your host, Michael Millward.
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Today, I am talking to Bradley Glantz about swapping online virtual networks for authentic real-world connections.
Podcasting with Zencastr
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and in the process, creating the mighty tribe.
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As the jingle at the start of this podcast says, rest and recreation is made on Zencastr. Zencastr is the all-in-one podcasting platform that really does make every stage of the podcast production process, from recording to distribution, so easy.
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Purpose of the Podcast
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It gives you a discount on subscription fees. Now that I have told you how wonderful Zencastr is for making podcasts, we should make one.
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One that will be well worth listening to, liking, downloading and subscribing to. As with every episode of Rest and Recreation, we won't be telling you what to think,
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but we are hoping to make you think.
Building Real-World Connections
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to- Today's rest and recreation guest is Bradley Glantz, a life coach who helps people swap online virtual networks for real world authentic connections and in the process is building the mighty tribe.
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Bradley is based in New Jersey, USA. I've been to old Jersey, but not the new version. If I do go to New Jersey or anywhere else, I make my travel arrangements with the Ultimate Travel Club because as a member of the Ultimate Travel Club, I can access trade prices on flights, hotels, trains, holidays, and all sorts of other travel-related purchases.
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You can also access trade prices on travel by joining the Ultimate Travel Club. There is a link in the description which has a built-in discount. Now that I have paid some bills, it is time to make an episode of Rest and Recreation.
Bradley's Personal Journey
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Hello Bradley. Hey, Michael, thanks so much for hosting me. I'm super happy to be here. I'm glad that you are here. It's a very interesting story that you have to tell and some very interesting and stretching objectives that you've set yourself.
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Can we start, please, with you just giving a little bit of the history of Brad? Most definitely. So I was diagnosed with depression when I was about 13 years old really lost in my life, very confused, didn't feel like I had any purpose. i always hated going to school. It felt like something in the world around me was wrong.
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And by 16 years old, after experiencing that for about three years straight, just waking up every day, not wanting to be here, I discovered an actual YouTube video on that just stumbled into my feed, where it was a guy named Elijah Long, who still makes YouTube videos till this day, just talking about men's self-development, making your life a better place, focusing on your mental health, starting to get out of your comfort zone, start to talk to women, make real relationships and create the best version of yourself.
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And I just heard one video of his and I thought to myself, my life kind of sucks. I should probably try some of this stuff. And so I did. And it started off with basic habits like going in the gym, going on walks, meditating, just kind of getting my mental health in check.
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And then it just transcended into the snowball effect of me getting obsessed with spirituality, philosophy, psychology. And then over the last six, seven years of my life, I've been absolutely obsessed with creating the best version of my life and have been able to make that transition completely out of depression into an exceptional life that I've created for myself. And now I help ah through my coaching practice, through YouTube, through podcasting myself, helping other men do the same for themselves, whether they are in that state of depression or they're just looking to find more clarity in their life, level up to the next point and find more purpose purpose in their lives.
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I'm here to help them. And so I've worked with over 80 men so far to really do all of that. And it's been, uh, it's been a pleasure so far. It's, uh, I wouldn't, I wouldn't be here and care about any of this material and creating the best version of yourself. If I didn't go through that depressive experience when I was 13.
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devastating experience to go through and to be like diagnosed with depression at 13 that means you've been depressed or in a state of depression for some time before that before the diagnosis and to be at 16 and still feel that same way that's a long time it sounds like you had one of those light bulb moments Absolutely. it was It was enlightening. You know, it definitely wasn't like one situation in particular where I just woke up one morning and I'm like, oh my God, everything's incredible now. My worldview has shifted.
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But in kind of studying different material and exploring in different mindset shifts and different concepts in the self-development space, Like i was mentioning before, started out very basic. And once it started to snowball, I just got absolutely obsessed with studying all the different concepts and experimenting with them in my own life.
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And then over the next, I'd say two, three months, the transition of the way that I view the world most definitely flipped. And within the next six months to a year, my life was absolutely changed. I mean, the way I viewed myself, people, the world, society, the way things are structured, completely changed forever.
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And I was also awakened to certain truths about reality that were very uncomfortable that I at first wish I didn't know. But then it became a pillar for me to explore the truth and be ah as honest as I possibly can in my life, whatever that whatever it means in terms of what the truth is to discovering that and reaching for the ideal for myself.
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So... it became an absolutely exceptional experience. And kind of that light bulb moment happened over the course of a few months. And yeah I don't think I'll ever go back to the state i was at before because of that. Was Bradley before that like, what with how were you spending your time?
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Well, I went to school as any normal 13 year
Understanding and Overcoming Addiction
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old boy would. I always had this slight higher awareness compared to maybe a few other people of the experience authority figures, which were the teachers and the principals, I found that a lot of them weren't actually reaching for the ideal, meaning they weren't guiding me correctly. They weren't really guiding any other people that were in school. And I felt like they were making a bad impression on me and I wasn't really learning anything. So I felt quite uneasy from that whole experience. And so what I would do is I would go home and any any moment that I wasn't sulking in school, I was escaping through video games.
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And so I Went to school, came home at around 3 p.m. And then from then until I went to bed, you maybe I get a little of homework done. And then I just either hop online with my friends, the few friends that I had, to actually play video games or play that by myself. And ah at first, of course, it was an enjoyable experience. ah Video games, or you're in a different world. You're leveling up. You're experiencing something that you quite literally can't experience in reality in terms of the specifics of it.
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um So it was exciting at first. And then it became more of an and and escape mechanism more than an actual enjoyable experience. And I'd find that I'd spend six, seven, eight hours gaming. But after I turn it off, I wouldn't feel any more fulfilled in my life. In fact, I felt more disconnected.
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And then I questioned that, but I didn't have any of the tools or mechanisms to, hey, how do I find something I'm passionate about or do something of purpose outside of this? So I had that thought.
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And then I went to bed, went to school, turned on the video games again, and just did that for years upon years. And at a certain point, it became very draining. But like any addiction, you keep doing it anyway. It doesn't really matter because you don't know what else to do. Right.
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And so that's where it started for me. I just ah my life was compelled with video games. And that's about it. You use the word addiction there and it's so like if you blink, you'd have missed you have missed it, so to speak.
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and But that's a very big, powerful word to use about how a 13-year-old is living his life. Did you feel that you were addicted, compelled to do something, even though it wasn't giving you the same rush, the same high as it did initially?
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Or is that you reflecting on you back then? when I actually decided not to go to summer camp for one year. And so what did I do during the summer too? I just woke up, played video games, listened to music, and did that for my entire day now, not just six, seven, eight hours.
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And I remember this one moment in particular where I looked out my window and i was just kind of, I had this overwhelming feeling of just hollowness. But you know at 13 years old, you don't quite know how to conceptualize that or integrate in any way, shape, or form. So I remember feeling it.
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But I didn't think about it any deeper than that. It was okay. Yeah, something's off. Obviously, I feel this. It doesn't sound like you were really having that good a time. No, I wasn't. Now, that being said, it's not to paint video games as the bad guy and as evil.
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At the beginning, it most definitely was fun. um But yeah, it got to a point where it wasn't fun anymore. It was simply I need this because I don't have anything else. When you get that feeling about anything in life, you know, you're in a dark place. Now attachment is something that's a part of the human experience. We're attached to people, we're attached to ideas, we're attached to outcomes.
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And there's a healthy component to this, but when it gets obsessive, and when there's one outlet for something, and there's nothing else that seems like there's there is insight to potentially quench that thirst.
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ah The thirst is never quenched, but you keep going back to the same thing over and over again. It's like with a lot of the work I do with my clients, I've had certain clients that have been addicted to Things like marijuana and then some harder drugs. And the process of them overcoming and quitting those things is actually pretty similar.
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I mean, for a lot of our addictions, it's a lack. The reason we get into these things, we're always blaming that the substance or the thing itself. Like, oh, I can't believe I'm addicted to alcohol. Like alcohol is evil. It's like, no, there's just a part of you that feels...
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burdened when you don't experience this because why you feel lack of purpose in your life, you you know, your relationships aren't intact. ah You don't feel like you're reaching for any ideals. You're not making any progress, right? And so for me, the only in school, since I hated it, I never, it didn't matter if I got an a plus on a test or a D, I didn't feel any level of satisfaction. I didn't feel like i was making any sort of progress, right? And so the only facet of life for me in which I could feel like I was doing something like was leveling up in some degree,
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was by playing video games, right? Reaching the next level, getting that new skillset, getting the, unlocking the the next level, whatever it is. It's the instant gratification almost. Absolutely. I have reached this level.
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Therefore I've had a successful day. Like I've done my good deed for the day. And what you so seem to be describing is almost like ah an endless spiral of, I don't like life. So I'm going to play video games because that makes my life seem worthwhile.
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Oh, I've been playing video games for six hours. Wasn't that a waste of time? That's six hours I won't get back again. Oh, my life is terrible because I've been playing video games for six hours. Oh, and it goes round and round in circles.
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And yet, actually, the way to jump off that treadmill is you've got to really think about and identify the real reason that Why is that you're doing something which is destructive?
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And what you're saying is that regardless of what the behavior is, whether that's alcohol, gambling, drugs, particular types of activities, it could, I suppose, be anything. But something that might appear to be ah very healthy could actually be you doing something in order to escape the reality of life.
00:11:41
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Most definitely. We have a very big gym culture nowadays. The gym is more popular than ever, which in ah in part is very good. People are focusing more on their physical health. The problem is for some individuals is that they spend three hours a day in the gym, maybe four, even five, or they go two, three times a day to the gym because why?
00:11:57
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They can't face their anger. They can't face their misery. They can't face their lack of purpose. So they make the gym their purpose. For me, I enjoy going to the gym to a certain degree. gets boring at times. So I kind of switch up my routine and things of that nature.
00:12:10
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The gym is not my purpose. It's simply something that I add to my life that adds to my physicality and it helps my mental health too. But it's not particularly something that's of purpose to me.
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I know one guy, for example, that I went to high school with that was incredibly skinny, no not an ounce of muscle on his body. And he got in the gym and over the next two years built an absolutely exceptional physique. And a part of the reason as to why he did that was because he was mentally cripplingly insecure about himself, his personality, the way he expressed himself, his inability to attract women in his life.
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And so he hoped that once he did that, that women would somehow just float into his life. having a decent to nice physical body will most definitely have women find you a little bit more physically attractive, but it's not in any way, shape or form a major component to if somebody is going to want to be in any sort of partnership or relationship with you, the personality and who you are as an individual is that most important piece. And if that's not developed,
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Obviously, these mechanisms can be used to escape rather than actually use as a combination. Like the gym is in combination to focusing on your mental health. It's in combination to managing your anger. It's in combination to finding more purpose in your life. It's not just a substitute because you don't know how to experience life.
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How did you go from this is the issue that I need to address to actually putting the things into place? Because there could be lots of people in the same situation as you were, but there's this element of then, yeah, I know what the solution is. I know what the answer is.
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Getting started on the new journey. What had to happen?
Taking Action Against Depression
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The biggest thing was taking in a certain level of knowledge that was able to actually be applicable because there's certain things you can learn, but you can't actually do necessarily physically with.
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There's a combination of actually getting out of your comfort zone and physically doing things that make you uncomfortable. yet You know, it's going to get you the outcome you want. There's also an element of simply discovering concepts that you've never heard about before. And it kind of gives you that light bulb moment. So for me, it started off in kind of the spiritual realm.
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Once I was 16 and got into this stuff a little bit more, I'm just studying the surface level of a few different religions, not getting so deep into the orthodoxes. And I was a rebel, like anything with rules, I'm breaking them as much as I possibly can.
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um And I think that's also a large component. of men. And it is we feel like we're caged animals, we're brought up and we're told we need security, but too much security in anything kind of beats down the aggressiveness for actually positive motives in your life.
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We get to that depressive state, we feel like our soul isn't in tune with anything. So the first thing to identify is where do I feel out of tune? Is it with my relationships? Is it with the relationship with myself? Do I feel like I have confidence? If I feel like I have a little bit of confidence, but not fully, like what area of my life do I feel confident in which one feels like I'm neglecting it, right?
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You get a general understanding of where you're at. That's the first and most important step. And then identifying of of of the course, those usually the small steps that are required to get what you want. And yeah, it's interesting because a lot of the answers are usually right in front of us. We just refuse to look at them.
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or we we refuse to take the action. And a lot of us are waiting. Like I need to wait till I don't feel depressed or anxious anymore to start to address this and start to start to be confident. Like i just need to be confident, right?
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You don't build confidence through simply just telling yourself I'm confident, right? It's in combination with stacking the evidence and showing yourself that you have the potential to get exactly what you want.
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And that's what i think a part of being a man is so learning to be one because most of us are never taught how to do that. And that's, of course, taking action despite feeling uncomfortable, because most of the time you realize you do get exactly what you want.
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But if you don't get exactly what you want, you get exactly what you need, which is some sort of learning lesson that gives you a piece of knowledge and intellect that you can then apply to the next experience. But you don't obtain that if you keep sitting in your mind, I'm depressed, therefore I can't do X, Y, and Z.
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Now, the shift is I'm depressed. I want to change that. And because I want to change that, I'm going to do X, Y, Z, despite me feeling depressed about myself and my experience. Because for me, it was how much longer can I experience this? was Three years into it, waking up every day, not wanting to be here, thinking about taking about my my own life at certain times, hating the world, hating myself, hating people.
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And it's like, I can't live life like this anymore. Now, the for most of that three-year duration, it was, I've just accepted this is going to in my life forever. But And exploring a few of these general concepts of just like, right like listen to a podcast like this, so watch your videos.
00:16:32
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Those are just beginning pillars. Just getting a few concepts floating around in your mind. Yeah, so building the confidence is you've got to tell yourself that you've got the confidence to be confident, but you've got to find steps, baby steps, to help you build that confidence.
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Through your own education, you've made this work for you, and then you've created you know a way in which you can share that knowledge and experience and learning with other people as well.
Introducing the Mighty Tribe
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yeah And that's become the Mighty Tribe. Tell me about the Mighty Tribe. Yeah, absolutely. So it's essentially a community platform and group that I created with ah currently all men. So guys age 18 all the way to the oldest guy in there is 60.
00:17:14
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And essentially everyone in there is looking to reach the best versions of themselves, constantly level up, learn new information, create a better life for themselves, more clarity, ah more purpose. It's an online group, but of course in the long-term future, we want to expand it to being able to actually meet up in person as more and more people get Live closer together, for example, because we got guys in there that are all over the US, guys in Canada, got a guy in New Zealand.
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So we have people from all over the world. And we essentially meet three times a week to dive into tons of different material relating to how to create a better life for yourself, whether it's me presenting information about something, or it's actually open Q&A where people are asking questions and receiving answers or open discussions about, hey, I'm going through this. How do I start to tackle this?
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have the interactive ones where I'll come up with a bunch of different prompts and questions relating to a certain concept. for us to dive into and essentially that's certain journal prompts or certain activities for people to do and practicalities for them to apply. And then I've also been in the podcasting space myself for the past few years. So I've out of the over a hundred people I've interviewed, I actually once a month like to invite one of them on to actually host one of the sessions that we do based on their expertise, ah whether they're a practitioner, a psychologist, another coach, a business owner, really bridging the gap between all these different components to help men create a better life for themselves.
00:18:35
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And it's been an exceptional journey so far to see the progress that the guys in the group make as a result of ah working with me as well as getting the opinions and perspectives from everybody else in there. Because, you know, there's guys in there that, of course, ah age 18 that can get advice from a guy who's, let's say, 40.
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forty And then there's also what's really cool is the guy who's 40. can actually hear something that the 18 year old guy says and actually resonate with it. Right. And for that to constantly be exchanged and for it not to be this, because in society, in society sometimes there's this weird dynamic where, you know, people who are older sometimes think that they, um so they're better than other people because they've lived longer. Sometimes the younger people are looking at the older people and saying, Oh, like they, they grew up in a time 50 years ago ago. So like, they don't know anything and we're just like rooted against each other. And so in this space, we can have people of all different ages that,
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backgrounds, areas of the world, different cultures, different things that they do for work, and everyone comes together. And we can talk about these concepts together and really look on how to actually apply these things to create a better life for ourselves.
00:19:34
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Sounds like the men have got to almost but depart from the social norm of what a man is in 21st century, even though no one's really properly defined what a man is, how they should behave.
00:19:52
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There's a lot of talk of toxic masculinity. and how that damages women, it damages relationships, it damages families, it damages men its themselves.
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Because part of the toxic masculinity is a man is expected to behave in this type of way, take these types of steps, even when the man himself doesn't want to and doesn't feel comfortable in that type of situation.
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So it sounds like you've created a safe place for men to explore, who they are and why they are, that they can then define for themselves what is the best version of them, rather than it being dictated by social expectations or by what they see in the media or anything really that is presenting an idealistic version of what a man should be, which is very often based upon commerciality. You know, we can make money if we can convince you that this is how you are.
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supposed to behave. if you're a man, you'll like this sport. If you're a man, you'll dress this way. If you're a man, you'll drive this type of car. You seem to have created this safe place.
Redefining Masculinity and Purpose
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Absolutely. In most of our relationships with other men, we're not really allowed to talk about what we're actually going through. We have to put on a face. We have to pretend we're okay when we're not.
00:21:20
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We have to bump up our ego to convince ourselves that we're right and that somebody else is wrong. And we have to be quote unquote aggressive about everything. It's very competitive, isn't it?
00:21:31
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Men are supposed to compete with each other rather than collaborate or be supportive of each other. Absolutely. And so you're in all of your friendships with other men or business relationships or coworkers. And there's this weird feeling that you have where you're always trying to one up somebody, right? It's like, Oh, I did this. Oh yeah, but I did this. And look, there is a healthy comp.
00:21:51
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There's a healthy competition, right? For men to compete in sports together, for example, and for me to go against my best friend and genuinely not view him as my best friend in this moment. And I need to beat him. Like that's a healthy thing to express and to experience. But if i need to beat my best friend and everything in life it's a never-ending journey and it's quite tiring even if you keep winning because you keep doing it for a certain level of validation that you never receive that's why you have to keep doing it and so in our space here we seek to explore and understand why we are the way we are and also having a space in which you can experience whatever feelings you have
00:22:29
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And dive into how you can integrate it further, right? And not neglect it. Because most of the time as men, if you go to one of your friends and ask for advice, they'll say, oh, just man up, dude. Now it's very unpractical advice because, well, you're telling me to man up, but I don't even have a definition for myself of what a man even is or if might or my definition of it.
00:22:47
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Maybe one of which you just described where it's like oh, I just have to make more money. And well, yeah, I mean, making money is good. And if you have a goal to make a lot of it to apply it to the certain lifestyle you want to live, it can be absolutely exceptional.
00:22:58
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But if there's if it's just I want to make money with no set standard or goal or vision, reaching an ideal of why you're actually doing it to help yourself and help ah help other people, it's a never ending journey. If you just want to do something for the sake of doing it, then you're doing it without a purpose. And one of the things that is essential as a man is to have a purpose, to understand why it is that you have to make money, why it is you want to live this particular lifestyle.
00:23:26
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And it's all about why you want to have that type of purpose. Rather than what seems, and I'm thinking about my experience as an HR professional now, men would want it because another man had got it. I need this job title, this car, this corner office. And otherwise, people won't respect me.
00:23:48
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It's all about possessions. What I can display rather than how I behave or how I treat other people. Absolutely. It's all about scarcity. and so It's all about I need more and it's never enough.
00:24:00
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I need women to view me this way. I need men to view me that way. And the funny thing is, is as you obtain more of these materialistic possessions, you very quickly realize, or unfortunately for some guys, it's a little bit more long term, you realize that it feeds, because all of these are based, these thought processes are based on insecurity.
00:24:17
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And insecurities can never be fed enough. Like you you always need to throw them more food. They need to eat dinner every single day at 5 p.m. And if you don't feed it, it barks it barks louder at you like a dog and it never stops.
00:24:29
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And you feed that insecurity by getting a little bit of validation from maybe a girl who says, oh, you have a nice car. Right. Or the guy who says, oh, dude, look, it looks like you're successful. Right. But do you feel successful?
00:24:40
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Do you feel like you've actually done enough? Right. The answer is probably no, because you always need more. um And so your your perceived purpose needs a purpose. Your purpose can't be to make money. Your purpose has to connect to your soul.
00:24:52
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And I know that nobody on this on planet Earth has ever existed in which money connects to their soul. for people who and who run million dollar businesses, they run million dollar businesses, not because they want to make a lot of money, but because they connect to the vision, they connect to the product, they connect to the service, right? And that's why in turn, they've been able to make a lot of money based on it. But if the goal is to make money, you could do anything to do that. i mean, you could scam people.
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You could take someone's money and run with it. This happens all the time in our culture. I know plenty of people in my industry who do things like this. I paid a guy a couple hundred bucks about a month ago and I didn't get what I paid for. it Right. It's like there's so many people trying to help, quote unquote, help other people when really they're just, quote unquote, helping themselves. But they're not even doing that because it's based on not only insecurity, but messing, screwing somebody else over, per se.
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Yeah, if we reach kind of the the authentic version of us is discovering like what connects to my soul? What can I do that provides value to yes myself and also the world?
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And that needs to be in combination. And if I'm just making money for myself, there's no end to it. If your vision is to make a lot of money to support your family, to allow to buy this thing for them, to have this experience, that's a little bit more tangible.
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But the thing itself needs to actually connect your soul. And so it's like there's plenty of people who... have a secure job that they don't really enjoy doing, but they can make enough money to do so. And since they think their purpose is making money and this job granted to them, yet they feel so unsatisfied at the job, they'll keep doing it over and over again. Because I mean, that's what I was told I'm supposed to do.
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I mean, that my purpose or my passion in life died when I was 13. It died when I started to wake up to reality, right? But you waking up to reality is you just waking up to what most people are experiencing.
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But you don't have to experience that not at least for the long term short term. Yeah, might have to work a few jobs, might have to do things that you don't really enjoy your pet or your passion about. I worked at a restaurant for years, there was no passion in my soul at all relating to a restaurant.
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But that was able to fuel me to then start other things in my life. Need craft a vision. But you need to craft a vision around it. I get the feeling really that this is not an issue that has appeared overnight.
00:26:56
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This is something that has been blighting Western masculinity, certainly for decades, if not longer. And we're really only scratching the surface of it today.
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Having said that, it's really very interesting listening to you explain it, which makes me wonder, know, where can people get more information about this?
Connecting with the Mighty Tribe
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What's your website? Absolutely. So if you look up school.com, S-K-O-O-L.com,
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and search up the mighty tribe, you'll find our actual group. If you want to get in contact with me personally on Instagram, it is mighty Brad official and YouTube in which I have plenty of lecture material up there and my podcast itself, that is going to be mighty Brad.
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And that's how you can kind of get started on the journey to discovering these deeper parts of you. That's great. We'll put links to all of those in the description as well. But you know, Brad, for today, really appreciate your time. It's been very, very interesting.
00:27:56
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Thank you very much. Thanks so much for having me, Michael. I had a blast coming on here. Thank you. I am Michael Millward, the Managing Director of Abasida. In this episode of Rest and Recreation, I've been having a conversation with Brad Glantz, a life coach who focuses on real world connections.
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