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Sunglasses At Night
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There's a lot going on right now 😑
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Hey everyone,
Jerome's Career Transition and Farewell
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welcome back to another episode of Gather Them Podcast.
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I'm your host Jerome.
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We're back for another week.
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I know I'm late or early.
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If you don't think I'm going to post another episode this week, we'll see.
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It's just been a lot.
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Like lately, it's been a lot.
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Things have been a lot.
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No, previously.
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So last episode was me and Alexis doing the interview and I'll talk a little bit about that.
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But for this episode,
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you know, past week, like that week that just passed.
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It's been so fucking much.
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I finally am done with my main job and I'm in the transition period for my next one.
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I'm like so relieved to be done finally.
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It was just a lot of work, honestly.
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It was a lot of work just leading into it.
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It's so wild because I feel like
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It's almost like nothing was asked for me, but then I did a lot.
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And then they're like, oh, you did so much.
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And it's like, so it was just really weird.
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Like providers weren't really saying anything.
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People were just looking like, I don't know, little...
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annoyed or like, I don't know.
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I couldn't read the feelings.
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Like they were very like mixed.
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Cause of course there were people that were happy for me.
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And you know, that was largely my coworker team.
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But yeah, I even took like an on-call shift, like to be nice.
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I
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created documents and I did all this stuff and I just, I don't know, I'm glad to be done.
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It sucks because it's like when you're overseeing something and the way things function, um, and then all of a sudden it's like, you have to give it up and hand it over.
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It's like, Oh, what the fuck?
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So that part's hard and it's hard to leave.
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Like,
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Really good coworkers.
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My coworkers threw me a party on... I think it was last Thursday.
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And we went out for happy hour Friday.
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I've just been... One thing after another.
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No, it was last...
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Wednesday, and then it was cake Thursday, and then Friday we went out for happy hour.
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It was just a lot going on on top of trying to tie up loose ends, because I was still completing things as my last day happened.
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And I was just like, where do I turn my badge in?
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Like, what am I doing?
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Like, I don't even know what I'm doing, like how I'm going to like navigate anything.
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I just was like, I don't want to have to come back.
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Like, that's kind of the point.
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Like, at the end of the day, I just, I want to be like done.
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I want to cut, you know, you know, not cut ties, but like, I just don't want to have to come back to do anything.
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So yeah.
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That was not easy, of course.
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It was by no stretch easy at all.
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But it was like a relief when it finally hit that I was done.
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I was like, oh, wow.
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OK, cool.
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So that's done.
Family Reflections and Mother's Day
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Also, Mother's Day was last week.
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That was a lot.
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I went out with my
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friend, my best friend, well, when I went out with Alexis and her family, and we went out to this dim sum place, and the food was all right.
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I felt like the staff were a little annoyed, and I'm glad that we did go when we went because by dinnertime, there was really nowhere to sit in the restaurant, and so we were just kind of like, okay, well, I'm glad we're here, and
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again, the food was, you know, food is always pretty good.
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It's not like my go-to spot because our menu is like, as a, you know, vegan, it can be very confusing just to understand like what you can eat and what you can't eat.
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And I know that sounds weird, but the fact that there was like dry pepper chicken on the menu and then my, Alexis's boyfriend was like,
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oh, well, you can get that as a tofu dish.
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And I was like, wait, what?
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It doesn't say that, though.
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So how would you know?
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You know what I mean?
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It's like you just kind of have to ask, and I don't really want to just have to ask.
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I just want to be able to order and just know what everything is.
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So, yeah, but that was good.
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It just was like Mother's Day was weird.
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I was talking to my other coworker about this, just about how losing your mom –
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at a young age is just hard.
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And, um, I think it dawned on me that I was not really as a part of the conversation.
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Like I was kind of, I was like there, but I wasn't really there.
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Um, and the, um,
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restaurant and then even during that day like when i was texting family members happy mother's day i'm like yeah i don't have the capacity to text y'all back today i am so sorry um it was just a lot uh to deal with but uh you know happy you know belated mother's day to all the moms um
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Yeah, it's weird.
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Like, I still feel emotionally numb sometimes.
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And I was also talking to my coworker about this because he didn't know my mom passed, but I knew that his mom had passed.
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And he was like, oh, well, you know, you didn't tell me your mom passed.
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And I was like, I thought I did because, yeah, I was like, I thought I did.
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I feel like the older I get, the more I have to keep talking about it, the more it's not at the forefront of my mind.
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And then it's almost weird to just be like, oh, my mom died and someone just experienced a death or something like that.
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Even though my coworker had, and it was just weird to bring up, I think at the time,
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where I was like, oh, I can't, I don't know if this feels appropriate or if it feels like I don't want to, ooh, not me having my notifications on.
Podcast Appearances and Conversations
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I don't want to, you know, detract from, like, the conversation.
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So, yeah.
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What else?
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What else?
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Oh.
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Yeah.
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Oh, oh, oh, oh.
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So I went, I don't know if you guys know, but I went on my friend Marcus's podcast, Midnight Marcus, for the 420 episode.
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I think the episode was really good.
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I listened to it and it sounded really good overall.
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And I was, it's funny how we just, our conversation went from like one thing to the next thing, to the next thing.
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And then all of a sudden it's like,
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We're just on a completely different tangent from where we started.
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So that was like really interesting and a venture to say the least, but a fun one.
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And it sounded like we were just hanging out and talking and that was really cool to do.
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I also just wanted to reflect a little bit on
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my episode with Alexis.
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And that was also really fun.
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I actually did the interview a couple weeks ago and it was...
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Uh, if it flew, it was like flowing naturally.
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I think the biggest things were, um, the sound, like the sounds in the background.
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Like I always think about that when I'm recording too, sometimes like you think about stuff and you just start moving things and you forget you're recording or you're on air.
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Um, and that's also really why I would love to get into like a real like studio, um, um,
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versus being at my house or like create a room that like is like a studio so that it is um
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there's less distractions around cause I'm doing this on my desk where I, you know, would work, um, or do work at.
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And it's very easy to get distracted or to think of stuff.
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Um, and then also having to put your phone in D and D mode.
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Like there's like a whole thing that I don't, I would, I feel like I would think about a little differently if I were, um, in a, uh, like a studio kind of setting, but whatever.
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Um, yeah,
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Yeah, it was good.
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I felt glad that we talked about, you know, the sobriety kind of situation and, you know, hoping that like it would inspire other folks as well with talking about sobriety, because I feel like people just don't hear enough stories about people who,
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where I guess people are, you know, have a successful story, quote unquote, successful story.
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I know it's like not ever, it's a journey.
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It's like, you're never really completely at your end stop because you just know you're, you know, you can fall back into old patterns and you know how things can get.
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So it's a journey and it's good to hear about like, you know, stories where people, um,
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especially are able to self-identify the things that are coming up for them, um, in their life.
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And I think that that's like really important.
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It's like, it shows really great self-awareness.
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Um, when you're able to look at yourself and just say like, yeah, like this thing is really bugging me and you know, what am I going to do about it?
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Um,
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Or I'm, you know, drinking or whatever, like for this reason, or I noticed that it's just increasing and like what, you know, is maybe happening that's causing that.
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So, yeah, I think it's like really great when people are able to, you know, self-reflect on that level.
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and talk about their experience and, you know, educate other people as well.
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So it was a really good discussion on that.
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And
Friendship and Connection Challenges
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then just like some of the high school stuff that we talked about the career day, oh my God, the career day stuff was great to kind of talk about.
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Cause we were, I think having done it a couple of weeks after like career day happened all the way at the beginning of April and to have talked about it at the end of
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April and then, you know, put the episode out in May.
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It's been like an interesting listen because it's like we I don't know.
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It just was unexpected.
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Like it was unexpected.
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We didn't think we thought it would be one way going in.
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It was really another way.
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And yeah, it just felt like it was it was nice.
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But I think back and I'm like, when I do it again, I don't know.
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Like I would I feel like I would want
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more buy-in or something from like other alumni or whatever.
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Cause we don't, I mean, we, you know, I wouldn't say like,
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Like, we still talk and stuff, like, you know, through social media.
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But people always ask me, are you still talking to so-and-so?
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And do you talk to someone?
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And I'm like, no, I haven't really talked to them.
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The only person I talk to is Alexis.
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Like, that's literally it.
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So, I mean, but that I think also says quite a bit just about how people fall out and, you know.
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Life happens and all that, you know, rah, rah stuff.
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Yeah, I didn't, you know, there's not many people that can say I think that they have a best friend from high school.
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And if you don't have a best friend from high school, you might have a best friend from college.
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But again, that's if you're able to meet someone like that, like it's hard.
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to make long lasting friends, um, in life.
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And there's some people that, you know, one day have friends and everything is great.
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And then everybody just loses touch.
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And I think the thing that has really just kept our friendship together has been, um, open dialogue, like hang, like planning hangouts.
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Um, um,
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you know, just asking each other if there's, you know, we want to do this thing together.
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Because I think it is a lot of that.
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It can get very easy if, you know, you're traveling or someone moves.
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But even, you know, when moving, we've always just stayed in touch and whatnot.
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That's why I'm a little scared about moving to California because I'm like,
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Like it's kind of frustrating right now.
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And I think I'm going to just kind of eat it and live with it is the fact that a lot of my friends are like really busy, like chronically busy.
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You know, they have lives and they only have like majority of my friends don't even have kids.
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And it is like one of those things where it can get hard to.
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ask to do things or, you know, to not so much ask, but to like plan for us to all do stuff.
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And so I'm honestly like at the point where I'm kind of like, maybe I just need to lean into that.
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And that's okay.
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Like, it's okay to break off from people or do things by yourself.
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I just feel like people always look at me like I'm weird or something or like, I don't know.
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I'm trying to embody my Scorpio rising energy, y'all.
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I'm just trying to not give a fuck and just do the damn thing.
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Because I'm like, if I don't do it, it's like it'll never get done.
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And, you know, I get tired sometimes of being like, oh, do you want to do this thing?
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Do you want to do this thing?
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And then it's always the, no, I can't.
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I can't do this.
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I can't do that.
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It's like, all right, then, like.
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I guess I don't ask anymore or like I don't, or I just do it.
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You know what I mean?
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Or I just, um, do the thing.
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Uh, or even if, you know, but I, I feel like it's going to be one of those things though, where once I move, it's going to be like, everyone's going to be available or something.
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I don't know.
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I think I'm making that up in my head, but yeah.
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And it's nice out.
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Like it was nice as shit today.
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as on today and Monday.
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But it was nice as hell outside.
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I wanted to stay out a little longer, but I had stuff to do.
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I had to come home and do some stuff and then record, of course, and get ready for the rest of the week.
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But yeah, it's supposed to be nice for the rest of the week.
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And then Saturday and Sunday, I think it's going to be like in the 70s or something of that nature.
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So I don't know.
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It's looking up.
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It's looking up.
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New job next week.
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Starting like therapy stuff now.
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And it's, yeah, it's been, it's been very good.
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I've been, I've been feeling calm, which is great because I feel like I'm not normally a calm, well, I feel like I'm a calm person.
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Like I present calm, but that's, but honestly, people knew, like if honestly my body just cracked wide open and
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It might honestly just be a whirlwind of chaos because that's everyone's like, oh, you're so calm.
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You're so calm.
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You have this calming presence and blah, blah, blah.
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And it's like, if you honestly went into inside of my head, like think about the episode of Buffy where Buffy basically went catatonic or catatonic when Glory was able to take Dawn away.
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Like how catatonic she wasn't going between like all like between her childhood and the bookshelf and, you know, talking to Willow and all of this and that.
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And she just sat there in real life while Willow went into her brain.
00:16:45
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If you went into my brain, it would honestly look like a tornado.
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And that's very on point as an air sign, but it would look like maybe a hurricane.
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Like it would be wind.
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ripping, like rain pouring, like it would be absolute chaos, thunderstorm, like lightning.
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It is the inside of my head is just a lot.
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And so I, I, it's interesting when people always tell me that I appear calm, um, because in my head, I'm really
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It's a lot going on.
00:17:25
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But I will say the point of all of this is just to say that for the past couple of weeks, even though things have been chaotic, I've been remaining calm and I haven't been having really super bad anxiety or, you know, having things that are keeping me up at night, which has been great, honestly.
00:17:45
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So, yeah, moving on.
00:17:47
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Um, I wanted to just talk about two things, um, just for like kind of topics or whatever.
Celebrity Critique and Social Media Blackout
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Um, actually three things, one, well, uh, two and a half, we'll do two and a half.
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Um, I really wanted to talk about the celebrity, uh, the celebrity social media blackout just a little bit.
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Um, just kind of my thoughts, I think on it.
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Um, so what essentially what it is, um, the night of the Met Gala, um,
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I'm so burpy right now, was kind of what triggered all of this to start.
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So people basically were just saying that.
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the movement started, you know, from base, you know, in the, um, fact that there was this big, elegant Met Gala with, um, you know, celebrities wearing outfits that are thousands of dollars and, you know, being, um, almost like worship by fans and X, Y, and Z, while people are getting blown apart, um, in Palestine and, you know, um,
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to Sudan and, you know, and so long story short is that like the one thing that really was the trigger was that Haley B. Bieber or Haley, Haley Bailey, I think it's her name, but she's not Halle Bailey, which I'm like, I hate when white people do that.
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Like I'm going to be so, because that's literally what Azalea, Azalea, Iggy Azalea did.
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Like Iggy Azalea and Azalea Banks, you know, because, you know,
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She picked the name because she was like up and coming and it was like similar and it kind of blocked her a little bit, which honestly, I mean, let's be real.
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Like, yes, they do.
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They do have similar names, but I think had Azalea just kind of shut the fuck up sometimes.
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Like, I think she would have been fine.
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Yeah.
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But anyway, yeah.
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Going back to the block out, Hayley Bailey.
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I don't know why.
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I don't like saying her name.
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Because in my head, I'm seeing the way it's spelled on TikTok.
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And I'm just like, ugh.
00:20:13
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She said that she was in this outfit that was very inspired by Antoinette.
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Yeah.
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and Miss Antoinette and said let them eat cake, which, you know, she was the French, the queen of the French during the French Revolution, Marie Antoinette.
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And she has basically become
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this representation of classism where the poor people were like, you know, struggling and able to, you know, find food and, you know, and it just represents that disconnect between the rich and the poor.
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And she's just like, oh, well, if they can't, you know, find bread, then like let them eat cake, you know, because cake is like, I guess the point is that cake is like floofy or like it's not,
00:21:19
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It's supposed to be decadent and elegant and a treat or something, I guess.
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And that, you know, and it's also not filling like bread is filling, but eating a cake isn't really filling.
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I don't know.
00:21:33
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That's just an ignorant ass comment.
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Like she really was ignorant as shit when she said that.
00:21:38
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And I hope whatever fucking happened to her, like, or it's happening to her right now is, you know, whatever.
00:21:46
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Cause that is wild to say, but,
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Um, but after she like, you know, uploaded this video or whatever, people, you know, basically were just like, oh, you know, like, you know, outraged and, you know, saying that it's very tone deaf and yada, yada, yada.
00:22:04
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And then, um, she made this like apology video about, you know, how she feels, um,
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I barely remember.
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And that's the crazy part.
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Her name isn't even how like it's not even Hallie Bailey in real life is.
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Holly Khalil.
00:22:32
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That's crazy.
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I don't like that.
00:22:36
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But anyway, she made this video that was just like, I'm getting very distracted.
00:22:39
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But she basically made this video that was just, you know, that said that and then made another video that was apologizing.
00:22:47
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And then, you know, she was just very much like,
00:22:50
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not taking responsibility and X, Y, and Z. And people are like, this is what's wrong with celebrity culture and blah, blah, blah.
00:22:55
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And I'm like, this is what I've been saying.
00:22:57
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Like celebrities are so out of touch that they don't even ought to apologize.
00:23:01
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And, you know, for all that, they might as well not say anything.
00:23:04
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And I'll talk about that later.
00:23:06
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And with that, oh my God, we'll talk about that.
00:23:11
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But I might as well not even say anything.
00:23:16
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And so,
00:23:18
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people are blocking celebrities.
00:23:20
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A lot of A-list celebrities, people that have not spoken up about any of the genocides that are happening around the world and how we need to stop their influence, which is true.
00:23:32
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And I see it on both sides.
00:23:34
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Like I see the point where it's like, you won't get to their media, their content doesn't get to you.
00:23:39
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Cause even though like you might not be following Kim Kardashian, something Kim Kardashian might come up only because your phone hears you talking about it, or you might
00:23:47
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like search Kim Kardashian because like you want to know a random thing, like how old is she?
00:23:52
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Like, or what's her sign?
00:23:55
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Or, you know, whatever.
00:23:56
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Like you want to like know facts or whatever, but your phone thinks that you're interested.
00:24:01
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So it'll show you like commercials and shit.
00:24:02
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And then you're just like, all right, well, damn, now I got to watch a Kim Kardashian commercial.
00:24:08
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But if you are Kim Kardashian, um,
00:24:11
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Vine or not Vine, Reel or TikTok or whatever.
00:24:15
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And then I just have to block her, you know, in order to not ever see this shit again.
00:24:20
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So that's what's happening.
00:24:23
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And yes, it does impact like your revenue because you're not able to.
00:24:31
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Your people won't get to see your ads and stuff if certain things are blocked.
00:24:35
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But the thing that, like, bothers me, I think, the most is that, like, people are like, oh, block Beyonce.
00:24:40
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It's like, Beyonce... Okay, like, she hasn't necessarily said anything, but she's also not, like, this monster that's like...
00:24:52
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You know, and I feel like she still has to.
00:24:54
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And that's the thing about, I feel like people don't understand is that like, there are certain people that I think are on the good side.
00:25:05
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And I think it is very, and this is why I think people crave authenticity and why it matters is that if you never talk about anything like in your art or in your music, or give any indicator that you would be okay, um,
00:25:23
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with people just being like oppressed.
00:25:26
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Like if you are giving like openly oppressor, or if you are just not saying anything, but it never comes up in your art.
00:25:33
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I feel like that is more of a call to be like, all right, like we need to get this, you know, person out of here.
00:25:40
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Like someone like a Beyonce or I don't know, like
00:25:46
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I think about Quinta Brunson because somebody said that she hasn't really said anything about it.
00:25:51
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And I always just wonder, too, like, why y'all always put it on the Black people?
00:25:54
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Like, why do y'all always do that?
00:25:57
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Like, it should be literally the fact that everyone, like, yes, everyone should be.
00:26:01
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Yes, Kim Kardashian should be.
00:26:02
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Yes, Taylor Swift, like, all these people.
00:26:04
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But, like, y'all act like Beyonce didn't just drop a country album that was a fuck you to the country catalog.
00:26:17
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And the people that literally were like, oh, we're not going to nominate one of your songs because you're not a real country artist and we don't really give a fuck if you give a fuck or not.
00:26:29
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So I feel like people completely ignored that and just the whole Black Power thing and the fact that she just did an album that celebrated the LGBT community.
00:26:44
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There's just so many things that I feel like...
00:26:50
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she's like stood for to where I'm like, this is such a thing where people are, you don't have access.
00:26:59
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Like if you start, you know, saying like, you know, free Palestine, you might not have access.
00:27:06
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And I get that like, yes, everyone should be radical and everyone should be ready to just pop off.
00:27:17
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But I also think that
00:27:20
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There's things that we have to play smart.
00:27:22
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And that's all I'm going to say about that.
00:27:26
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I think there's things that we just got to play smart about and having great power and great influence and being like, I know it can never be me.
00:27:39
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That's point blank period.
00:27:40
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Like I can never be in Beyonce's.
00:27:43
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like category of power influence, you know, appreciating the people that support her, uplifting communities and like all of this and that.
00:27:55
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I could never do it because I'm the kind of person where I'm going to like tell everything.
00:28:00
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And that's going to get me barred from certain places.
00:28:03
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That's not, you know, it's going to not keep me
00:28:09
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stable or having that power or influence.
00:28:13
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It's like losing a platform, you know?
00:28:15
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And I'm not saying that, like, I mean, Beyonce would be okay, maybe either way, but I feel like it's still a lot more that you can do and a lot more you can reach when you have, when you don't really say anything.
00:28:33
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Yeah.
00:28:33
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Like, I feel like there's, but I feel like your actions and the things that you're doing, like your track record up until this point has to be that you've said stuff or you've done stuff or like you've really like,
00:28:48
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Like advocated or did something like the fact that something I talked about, I think a few months ago was that Beyonce and Kelly Rowland are or, you know, they're putting up a million dollars to create low income housing in Houston, Texas.
00:29:06
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And how like.
00:29:10
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That matters.
00:29:11
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Like, that does matter.
00:29:13
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Yes, like, I agree.
00:29:14
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Like, you know, we need more people, you know, speaking out.
00:29:17
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But I also feel like, I don't know, it's just something about being on the inside.
00:29:24
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And I just feel like being on the inside is where you really want to kind of be when you're, when all the shit kind of hits the fan.
00:29:34
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And to have certain folks allied.
00:29:41
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Or I don't know.
00:29:44
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I'm saying things, but I'm saying things.
00:29:46
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I want to say what I want to say, but I'm also kind of like centering myself a little bit.
00:29:50
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I'm not going to lie.
00:29:51
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I'm just leave it at that.
00:29:55
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But needless to say, the block list is online.
00:30:00
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You can definitely find it if you search, you know, celebrity or if you search celebrity block out 2024.
00:30:06
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It'll come up.
00:30:09
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You can go.
00:30:09
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You can block some folks.
00:30:11
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I'm trying to come to grips with the fact that I might have to block Chris Hemsworth.
00:30:17
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And that is like a lot for me right now.
00:30:23
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I mean, it's not a lot in the grand scheme of things, but it's a lot in a sense that like.
00:30:31
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Yikesies.
00:30:32
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Like, I mean, he has not said, I don't really know what he's like really said about anything really.
00:30:40
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I feel like he's donated to like a child.
00:30:41
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He's donated to children's charity work before, but I mean like shit that like, I mean, I'm not saying that don't matter, but I mean like life or death, like shit, like where I'm kind of like,
00:30:56
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Black people are being killed.
00:30:58
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Queers are being killed.
00:31:00
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Palestinians are being killed.
00:31:01
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Women in the Sudan are being sexually assaulted.
00:31:03
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Like, you know what I mean?
00:31:05
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Like, there's just so many things that are going on in the world.
00:31:07
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And I feel like they're these big... I feel like doing philanthropy work is just...
00:31:15
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Like, okay, or like you just donate some money to something.
00:31:20
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But it feels like different when you are able to openly speak out.
00:31:25
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And I just feel like maybe I haven't seen those moments.
00:31:28
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Or again, it's like you got to go through a celebrity's track history a little bit to see if they are with it, but they're just not saying anything because of...
00:31:42
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their platform and how they are trying to maneuver or what.
00:31:46
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So it is interesting.
00:31:48
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And I think also the con too, it's just at the end of the day, I just feel like we stopped using social media.
00:31:58
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I can't talk social media as much.
00:32:00
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This would not maybe be a problem.
00:32:02
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Like we could probably bear to log out or stop buying, you know, things from celebrities for a little while and just, you know,
00:32:11
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Let that be the protest.
00:32:12
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I feel like this social media thing, yes, you do get, you know, things for clicks and X, Y, and Z and ordering and yada, yada.
00:32:21
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Like I get all of that, but I think the goal is to make more because you have to like promote the product and you actually have to sell the product.
00:32:32
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And if the celebrity, I feel like can achieve, um,
00:32:37
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Both.
00:32:38
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It's like, okay, what the fuck?
00:32:40
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It's like one thing if we're all watching the ads or we're all whatever, and the clicks are adding up and they're getting their little coin.
00:32:50
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But I feel like if... I don't know.
00:32:56
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I feel like if you just don't buy this shit or you don't... I feel like it's just a waste of money then.
00:33:03
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If you don't ever click it or you don't ever...
00:33:05
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engage with it um or if you swipe that that's what always i just be swiping fast um or i mean i will block people like i do i did block a couple people who i was just kind of like all right girl i get i could stand to block you but or i don't really care what happens either way but um there's some people that i'm like damn these are like really they seem like really good people and then i'm always like damn drum you always say this you never know somebody you never know somebody like
00:33:34
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There could be a whole lot of allegation about somebody and then boom is video.
00:33:40
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And then it's like, well, I guess, you know, I got to stand on business then.
00:33:46
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So, yeah, that's that's what's going on.
00:33:49
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The
Racial Preferences and Societal Perceptions
00:33:49
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other thing that was kind of happening that I wanted to talk about that happened a few weeks ago was that.
00:33:56
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the fact that Vinny was on, he was on somebody podcast or T like show or internet show or whatever.
00:34:04
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And he said something about how he and Pauly D only like black women.
00:34:08
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And, you know, even whenever on the show, like they'd have to bring the white women home because MTV wanted them to do that.
00:34:13
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And I believe it.
00:34:14
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Like I fully believe it.
00:34:18
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And how, um,
00:34:20
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Because they used to really just be playing on white girls.
00:34:22
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That's the funny part about it.
00:34:24
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They used to be playing the fuck out the white girls.
00:34:29
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I think the thing that came up for me largely was just the fact that I think people are... And I can't really speak too much because I'm not a woman.
00:34:41
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But I feel like when...
00:34:46
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I believe that people can say like, okay, you know, I am attracted to a specific person or type of person or specific race more so.
00:34:58
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But then it's always like, why?
00:35:00
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Like, it's like, well, what's the reason?
00:35:01
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And then of course it's the description of the body and, you know, that always comes up, like literally always comes up.
00:35:10
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And that's what came up in Vinny's interview was, you know,
00:35:14
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About the shape, but my thing is just like, if you're not finna date somebody that's bigger or somebody that's handicapped or whatever, I just feel like people...
00:35:32
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fetish, fetishize people and the way people look versus like what people actually are saying or what people are actually talking about, um, or doing.
00:35:44
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And I feel like that's what ends up getting people in trouble with like this divorce stuff.
00:35:48
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It's like, if y'all don't are breaking up, it's like, if you don't, I get it.
00:35:51
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You won't always see eye to eye on stuff, but if it's like really heavy, like,
00:35:57
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red flags that are just like, yeah, you know, I broke up with my ex because I cheated on her or, you know, or she broke up with me because, you know, I cheated on her or whatever.
00:36:07
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It's like, okay, what makes you think like, like that would not make me, I wouldn't want to admit that.
00:36:11
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Like I would never really admit that.
00:36:15
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Because then I would feel like that person would always be, like I would be, if I were in the other person, if I was in that other person's shoes, I would either always be watching them, never trust them,
00:36:27
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Or be right.
00:36:27
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And then have them cheat on me.
00:36:30
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And then it's like, okay, like, what the fuck?
00:36:34
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But I think people just go too much off of looks.
00:36:37
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Like for me, it's not, I get it.
00:36:40
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Like you want someone nice to look at and, you know, there are a lot of exceptions I like make or people that I'm like, I don't know if I could, or if, you know, I don't know if I like, like I, I even fall guilty of that sometimes, but,
00:36:54
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myself.
00:36:55
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But I think when I talk to people sometimes, or the more I get to know someone over a period of time, the more I'm like, okay, I can kind of see past this.
00:37:04
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Like, or I could, you know, I can kind of see past this thing because this person's like very insightful or they're making a lot of sense or they're saying things that are very much in line with what I believe.
00:37:19
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And that is more the thing that attracts me to someone.
00:37:23
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If someone always if someone has said something or does something that is against what I believe, or even if they are attractive, it just makes me feel sick.
00:37:31
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Like, it literally makes me feel like I just want I just want to throw up and just like, I don't know, like, I don't even want to have like and be in the same room.
00:37:40
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Like, that's kind of what I feel like I want to be in the same room.
00:37:44
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For real, for real.
00:37:46
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But it's always the, you know, oh, it's the body type.
00:37:50
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It's the, this is the, you know, it's that, it's blah, blah, blah.
00:37:54
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Like, I feel like sometimes I can maybe understand the thing about when people say, like, I get like sometimes when white people say like, oh, I grew up in like,
00:38:11
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I don't know, like the hood or whatever, the ghetto.
00:38:15
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And I grew up poor or whatever, and I was around a bunch of Black people or whatever, and I just found myself attracted to Black people because I'm, you know, it's like all I know.
00:38:25
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Or it's like all I, you know, I don't know.
00:38:31
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Like, I just feel like there's ways to, like, or just even say, like, I'm just attracted to,
00:38:40
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know like i don't know there's just ways to go about it i just feel like the looks are just too superficial i feel like unless you have like a genuine kind of connection where you've grown up in the same kind of environment um like you still can't like say the n-word of course but like um but like if you grew up in like a similar type of environment and you kind of that's all you really know like it's a little bit more authentic than um
00:39:09
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someone who hasn't and they're just like, oh yeah, like I grew up in this all white school and I'm only attracted to black people.
00:39:15
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It's like, well, what makes you only attracted to black people?
00:39:17
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Like, what is that about?
00:39:19
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And there's not nothing against like interracial dating or anything like that.
00:39:26
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Cause I'm all for it.
00:39:27
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It's just the, when people open their mouths and they start talking about why they date,
00:39:39
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one type of person or one type of race or whatever, it just starts to get like, huh?
00:39:47
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Interesting.
00:39:48
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Like I start to really think about a little deeper or whatever, but yeah.
00:39:57
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But yeah, that was weeks ago and I was just like, I just wanted to kind of talk about that out loud because I was just like, I get you, but I, and I also like, I maybe kind of sort of get you, but not really, but, um,
00:40:09
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It's just like with the way people, I think, talk about how people can meet their needs in a way that's like so superficial.
00:40:25
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And then it's like, okay, well...
00:40:28
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cool but is there anything else like what is it what else is it because if i like literally set up here and said like oh i'm only attracted to white guys it's like everybody be looking at me like whoa like what's wrong with you um and there's nothing wrong with like how do i say this there's nothing wrong with
00:40:53
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Like you like who you like is that's, that's kind of point blank period.
00:40:56
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But I think when people put like such as emphasis on it, it starts to be like, well, what is that about?
00:41:01
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Like, why are you so obsessed with it?
00:41:04
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Like, you're not going to give any of anyone else a chance.
00:41:06
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Like you're not going to even step outside of your, your bubble a little bit, maybe explore around, um, nothing like, okay.
00:41:17
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But yeah, there was that.
00:41:20
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And then the last thing I want to talk about was that I have this book I want to start reading.
00:41:24
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It's called Breaking the Habit of Your Mind.
00:41:28
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And this actually will be a really good way to transition into the Media Lab.
00:41:32
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But I
Books and Music Discussions
00:41:34
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have this book, and it's basically this book that is about...
00:41:42
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How to lose, like the part, like the little subtitle is how to lose your mind and create a new one.
00:41:49
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And essentially the idea is that you would quantum leap into a new reality.
00:41:58
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Once you change your habits, change the way you think, change the way you do things.
00:42:03
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And there's science.
00:42:05
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And that's why I'm really interested in this because the author, I
00:42:10
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study biochemistry and, um, holds a, uh, degree in, in, um, like neuroscience, um, basically just talking about like all of the things like that, you know, like the very much like the cellular things, the physical things, um, that impact our bodies and how it relates to this almost like quantum mechanics, um,
00:42:40
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It sounds like this conversation that he wants to have is just like, it's not just that.
00:42:45
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Like, it's not just you're born this way.
00:42:47
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You have, you know, these things and this is, you know, you're predisposed and blah, blah, blah.
00:42:52
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But like, you can actually...
00:42:55
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shift the way you live your reality when you start to understand your ability to do that.
00:43:03
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So I'm really interested in reading this.
00:43:05
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I think I'll probably talk about it piece by piece on the podcast as I go through it.
00:43:10
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It looks like a really good, fun read.
00:43:12
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I can't wait to get into this.
00:43:14
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And I also want to read Gerald's Game as well, because I told one of my
00:43:20
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internet friends, Austin, that I wanted to read that book.
00:43:25
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And this is like the week to do it.
00:43:28
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This should be the week to do it, to start reading books.
00:43:30
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So, you know, we are going to read that, both of those books.
00:43:35
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And then I will report back.
00:43:37
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But we're going to go into the Media Lab.
00:43:40
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And first thing we're going to talk about is the new I Dress mixtape called Vampires in Beverly Hills.
00:43:51
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I love this mixtape so much.
00:43:54
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Like, it is one of the... It's very 80s synth.
00:44:00
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It's, like, very 80s synth.
00:44:01
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It's industrial times.
00:44:03
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There's some hip-hop.
00:44:04
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There's some rap influences.
00:44:07
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There are...
00:44:12
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some new wave feels to it.
00:44:14
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It's really good.
00:44:16
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Overall, it's very long.
00:44:18
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I will say that it is very long.
00:44:20
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It is 30.
00:44:20
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Let me see.
00:44:21
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It is...
00:44:38
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34 songs 34 songs long no it's longer than that because I took some of the songs out let me go see hold on wait a minute hold on y'all oh yeah it is 34 34 songs yep it is 34 songs and then I took out 3 songs let's see what the 3 I took out are
00:45:08
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let's see because that's what i wanted to talk about um never fuck with you i never i didn't really that song just didn't really do anything for me fake friend didn't do anything for me um
00:45:28
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Skater Dater, it just was a little annoying, I'm not going to lie.
00:45:32
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I'm not really a fan of the tracks that Elvira are on, I'm not going to lie.
00:45:37
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I think that the first track she's on, Lover's Lane, is good.
00:45:44
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I still have it on there.
00:45:46
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I like it.
00:45:47
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But overall, I'm just like, ah, it's okay.
00:45:51
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The songs are okay.
00:45:52
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I didn't know that they were married when I started looking into him.
00:45:57
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I didn't know they were married, but I love his music.
00:46:03
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I've listened on and off to his music because I always get him like I always think he's a millennial, but he's actually I always think he's Gen Z, but he's actually a millennial, which is interesting because of the music.
00:46:17
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It feels very Gen Z ish.
00:46:19
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Like it feels very young.
00:46:20
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Let me take a sip of water.
00:46:24
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There we go.
00:46:26
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But yeah, there's something youthful about his music.
00:46:29
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He had a lot of different people that were featured on the mixtape.
00:46:43
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I will say what some of my favorites are.
00:46:45
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I love Miss Valentine, of course.
00:46:46
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I played that on a repeat when it first came out.
00:46:54
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And then I also like, I'll say what my favorites are.
00:47:01
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Once Upon a Time, Tears in the Rain, It's All in Your Head, Birkin, I Still Want Your Love,
00:47:21
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Oh, here we go.
00:47:22
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I Miss My Pop Pop.
00:47:24
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And I think that might be it for like top, like favorite favorites.
00:47:30
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Of course, there are more on the album or more on the mixtape that I enjoy as well.
00:47:35
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I like my time.
00:47:36
Speaker
I like how it all starts.
00:47:41
Speaker
I like...
00:47:47
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war or war crimes goons will be goons it's like i can't i feel like gays have ruined the word goon for me because i'm just like all right now like what's going on there um a world without you sci-fi fantasy secret amyra amyra amyra
00:48:14
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Yeah, there's like a lot of songs on here.
00:48:17
Speaker
And I feel like I also like Only Blue, like the one at the last one.
00:48:21
Speaker
I like that one, too.
00:48:23
Speaker
There's a lot here.
00:48:25
Speaker
And there's a lot being said in it, too.
00:48:29
Speaker
Like some of it is political.
00:48:32
Speaker
Some of it is, you know, inspiring.
00:48:37
Speaker
You know, some of it is just kind of like, you know,
00:48:43
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romantic and dancey and you know it's just like a very it does feel like a bedroom mixtape album you know what I mean like that's I think what it feels like for me when I listen to it um oh my god my lip itches why do I always have stuff going on during a podcast it's either like my lip itch something itches or
00:49:14
Speaker
It's just always something.
00:49:16
Speaker
Anyway.
00:49:18
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Yeah, it is a good.
00:49:19
Speaker
And he went on tour.
00:49:20
Speaker
That was the other part.
00:49:21
Speaker
He went on tour and I missed it.
00:49:27
Speaker
Yes, let's skip the wedding.
00:49:29
Speaker
That was the one with a lot of his like jealous was a song that was.
00:49:36
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Really, that was everywhere.
00:49:39
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It was, I think, one of the ones that made him TikTok.
00:49:41
Speaker
Or people found him through TikTok.
00:49:44
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I also really enjoyed Can I See You Tonight?
00:49:47
Speaker
I could play that on a repeat.
00:49:49
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I love that one so much.
00:49:51
Speaker
That one.
00:49:51
Speaker
And what's the other one?
00:49:55
Speaker
Oh.
00:50:01
Speaker
Um...
00:50:03
Speaker
I'm trying to think of the songs in my head because I haven't listened to it in so long.
00:50:08
Speaker
I think it might have been Never Wanted to Be Apart or Romantic Lover.
00:50:13
Speaker
There's like three songs because it's Jealous, Can I See You Tonight?
00:50:16
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And there's another one in there that I really enjoy.
00:50:21
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But the end of it, I remember not liking it as much or not being as engaged with it.
00:50:25
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But I think I'm going to give it a re-listen and see what's going on with it.
00:50:32
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Definitely a good album.
00:50:33
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I missed the concert because I was on call, but I want to go to, uh, not Ohio, uh, LA, um, in September to go see him.
00:50:42
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Um, he's 33 birthdays next week.
00:50:45
Speaker
Gemini.
00:50:45
Speaker
Um, so he'll be 34.
00:50:49
Speaker
Wow.
00:50:49
Speaker
Okay.
00:50:53
Speaker
Yeah, I don't know why I thought he was... I think it's his style.
00:50:55
Speaker
It's the way he's, like... The way he dresses.
00:50:58
Speaker
It's very youthful.
00:50:59
Speaker
Like, there's this very youthful look to it.
00:51:02
Speaker
The sunglasses all the time.
00:51:04
Speaker
Like, literally, I think it's iconic.
00:51:10
Speaker
Yeah, because I'm, like, always just like, what does he look like without sunglasses?
00:51:13
Speaker
And I don't know if there's a picture at all with him without sunglasses.
00:51:22
Speaker
Um, that's also really badass and really like, I don't give a fuck to wear sunglasses literally any and everywhere at any time.
00:51:31
Speaker
Um, that's kind of iconic.
00:51:37
Speaker
Yeah, but I think that's it.
00:51:40
Speaker
I think that's it.
00:51:41
Speaker
Definitely think it's worth a listen.
00:51:44
Speaker
Um, it really fills my gothic like vibe.
00:51:48
Speaker
I feel like.
00:51:50
Speaker
And then also the other thing I wanted to talk about was Megan and Boa.
00:51:54
Speaker
I think it's a really good video and great song.
00:51:58
Speaker
And when I first started listening to it, I thought that I was playing Gwen Stefani on something else.
00:52:03
Speaker
So I was very confused as to what was happening until I realized I was like, oh, wait, this is coming out of the same song.
00:52:10
Speaker
I did not realize that.
00:52:11
Speaker
So, yeah.
00:52:14
Speaker
Great song, great concept.
00:52:16
Speaker
I love the different video games that were referenced.
00:52:22
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I love the, like, I love that the snake game was in there.
00:52:26
Speaker
The one, if you remember, if you were alive in the 90s, you know, there was the snake game on your phone.
00:52:34
Speaker
And then also on the PC, I think at some point, there was a snake game.
00:52:39
Speaker
And then it's interesting because they had Temple Run.
00:52:43
Speaker
As well on there.
00:52:44
Speaker
But the snake game was like.
00:52:46
Speaker
That was kind of fun.
00:52:51
Speaker
It was very basic.
00:52:53
Speaker
Like we've really come a long way from video games.
00:52:55
Speaker
And I like that.
00:52:56
Speaker
Seeing that in the.
00:52:59
Speaker
Video of like how.
00:53:03
Speaker
Far we've come.
00:53:05
Speaker
With that.
00:53:06
Speaker
Yeah.
00:53:08
Speaker
Yeah.
00:53:10
Speaker
Trying to think what else was going on.
00:53:11
Speaker
But yeah, like it was a really good video.
00:53:13
Speaker
I like the concept.
00:53:14
Speaker
I like that the video also had a story to it, like the curse of the serpent woman and how she the rules were that, you know, if you know, I guess you die in a game, you die in real life.
00:53:25
Speaker
Yeah.
00:53:28
Speaker
That was really cool.
00:53:29
Speaker
The, the, you know, the dancing, the outfits, um, I wouldn't get all the references.
00:53:35
Speaker
I remember there were some people online, um, that were talking about the different references to like one piece and, um,
00:53:44
Speaker
Tekken and you know all these other things but like I really grew up I'm like and this is how I know I have ADHD is because I wasn't always able to get into the things that other people were like into um there are things that I'm like I kind of want to get into that but like I don't have it in me or I don't have the patience to do it um because I like what I like and I like
00:54:10
Speaker
I don't know.
00:54:11
Speaker
I can be brought in.
00:54:12
Speaker
Like, that's not, it's not like I can't be brought in because I'm willing to give things a chance.
00:54:17
Speaker
But I also be feeling like people don't never give my stuff a chance.
00:54:19
Speaker
So I just be like, well, fuck it.
00:54:21
Speaker
Like, then I guess I, you know, I like what I like.
00:54:27
Speaker
And that's it.
00:54:28
Speaker
But yeah, really good video.
00:54:31
Speaker
Great song.
00:54:31
Speaker
I think the song, people are like, oh, this song isn't great or she raps the same and blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:54:36
Speaker
But no one says that about Future or any of these other dudes.
00:54:39
Speaker
Like, they literally don't.
00:54:41
Speaker
Like, you can find anybody that sounds like Future, like in Philadelphia now.
00:54:46
Speaker
Or like, you know.
00:54:51
Speaker
Because when it's funny, because when I listen to Joyride,
00:54:57
Speaker
And I'm like, okay, like, Future's just okay in this.
00:55:02
Speaker
Like, it's nothing, like, that's wowing me or that's, like, blowing me away or anything like that.
00:55:08
Speaker
But I feel like Offset did a better job on his song.
00:55:10
Speaker
So there's something about that where it feels like they have a similar style.
00:55:18
Speaker
But it is, like, Offset, I like the way he raps better.
00:55:21
Speaker
I don't know.
00:55:23
Speaker
Future is just okay.
00:55:24
Speaker
I feel like Future just raps very lazily.
00:55:26
Speaker
And it's just like, how can you just get away with that?
00:55:29
Speaker
Like, like, I don't know.
00:55:31
Speaker
Like, it's just like, what?
00:55:33
Speaker
And then still be a rapper.
00:55:34
Speaker
I don't know.
00:55:35
Speaker
That to me is just really odd to me.
00:55:40
Speaker
But yeah, that's it for the Media Lab.
00:55:42
Speaker
The final thought, I just wanted to quickly just kind of talk about, you know, not going to spend too much time here.
00:55:49
Speaker
Talk about the Diddy and Cassie video.
00:55:53
Speaker
And I didn't watch the video because I knew, like I saw like maybe five seconds of it or something.
00:55:59
Speaker
And I was like, nope, I can't do this.
00:56:01
Speaker
I'm not mentally, you know, in that space.
00:56:04
Speaker
Mother's Day just passed.
00:56:05
Speaker
I can't do that.
00:56:06
Speaker
Because when I was a child, I got eyewitness my mom being abused and it started bringing up that stuff like very quickly.
00:56:14
Speaker
And I was like, I cannot do that.
00:56:17
Speaker
So I was able to either scroll past it or whatever.
00:56:22
Speaker
And then it's just a couple days later, here he comes out with this apology, which I also didn't watch because I knew exactly what it was.
00:56:30
Speaker
I knew the apology was...
00:56:32
Speaker
You know, not a real apology.
00:56:34
Speaker
It was, you know, I was in a very dark spot.
00:56:37
Speaker
And, you know, I had to ask God, you know, for help and blah, blah, blah.
00:56:41
Speaker
Like, it is just so disgusting to me that people are still bought in by that.
00:56:47
Speaker
Like, that there are people that are like, damn, like, I heard Kelly Price was like, well, I got to pray for him.
00:56:53
Speaker
It's like, girl, pray for him for what?
00:56:55
Speaker
Like, to do what?
00:56:56
Speaker
Like, what exactly are you, like, praying for him for?
00:57:02
Speaker
you're not gonna pray for Cassie.
00:57:03
Speaker
Like the fact that she literally endured all of this and that no one believed her, like no one, like literally no one believed, like not everyone, you know, of course, because there were people like me or whatever, but like that, um,
00:57:18
Speaker
People are like, oh, well, you know, she's young and she's asking for it.
00:57:21
Speaker
And, you know, X, Y and Z and not even like distinguishing the fact that like Diddy is a grown man, like he should be held to a higher standard.
00:57:30
Speaker
And this is what I'm talking about when I talk about like men and women, straight men and straight women in the.
00:57:45
Speaker
music industry or like just in life in general it just it's like the expectations are just so imbalanced that it really is just like why i 100 like support women just being like fuck it i'm not gonna date nobody until like everybody and someone starts to treat me like you know with some respect and these guys just don't do it like they just don't i don't know who the fuck raised these guys i really don't um
00:58:14
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They just don't care.
00:58:16
Speaker
They do not care.
00:58:16
Speaker
They don't care.
00:58:17
Speaker
They just think you're supposed to wait on them hand and foot.
00:58:21
Speaker
Like I hear stories from straight women about the things that their boyfriends do or the things that their boyfriends make them do or whatever it is.
00:58:29
Speaker
And I'm just like.
00:58:30
Speaker
Why are you putting up with that?
00:58:32
Speaker
Because like, I'd rather just be by myself and figure it out.
00:58:35
Speaker
I know it's a lot harder to do that, but I don't know.
00:58:38
Speaker
I just, when it comes down to people being like, oh, I pay all the bills and, you know, he doesn't do anything or whatever.
00:58:48
Speaker
It's like, so why are you still with him?
00:58:51
Speaker
There's no reason like to still be with someone that's not providing.
00:58:56
Speaker
That's,
00:58:57
Speaker
Or not contributing anything.
00:58:59
Speaker
Like, that to me is just, like, a waste of time.
00:59:04
Speaker
And energy as well.
00:59:05
Speaker
Like, I'm not going to have somebody... Like, paying for an apartment, like, in most places is literally going to be, like, you know, in a big city...
00:59:16
Speaker
a bed, like two bedroom, you know, let's just say that it's going to be over $2,000.
00:59:22
Speaker
Like you're not going to find a $2,000, you know, you might get lucky or it might be in like a really trashy area, but, um, you're not going to find a good, like apartment, two person apartment.
00:59:36
Speaker
Um, and people might be like, well, I'll get a one bedroom, but it's like, okay, that's like 1500, you know?
00:59:41
Speaker
Um,
00:59:44
Speaker
It's really just like, I get it, it's hard to do things apart, but I don't know.
00:59:51
Speaker
Like, it's just, it's too, staying with someone just because, just because that's what it feels like is just that.
01:00:02
Speaker
So, you know, I, again, support women.
01:00:06
Speaker
That don't want to be with men or don't just want to fall in love with or be with a man just, you know, for the sake of getting married and being his wife and all of this and that.
01:00:17
Speaker
Like, I just don't understand people that can support abuse like that to me is weird.
01:00:23
Speaker
Like, it's like, what do you think?
01:00:27
Speaker
What are you thinking?
01:00:28
Speaker
Like, I don't know.
01:00:28
Speaker
What are you thinking?
01:00:29
Speaker
Like, it's because I know it is still like even in that you're blaming her, like you're blaming Cassie when you say I'm a pray for him.
01:00:39
Speaker
Because.
01:00:42
Speaker
obviously you feel like there's something that she did to piss him off like or whatever and make him abuse her and it could have been anything it could have been drugs it could have just been she just did the wrong thing it could have just been like it could have been anything um you know he she did the wrong thing according to him but um
01:01:08
Speaker
It's just disgusting.
01:01:09
Speaker
And then also people being like, well, where, you know, where the police, like, where are there, where's the arrest, like all of this and that.
01:01:15
Speaker
And it's like, well, the, I get it.
01:01:17
Speaker
Like the point of it now is that like, it's so far out that, you know, unless she had pressed charges, maybe like something would have happened, but this is just the system we're working with.
01:01:29
Speaker
Like we're working with a system that barely wants to hold people accountable.
01:01:34
Speaker
Um, um,
01:01:35
Speaker
Barely wants to hold rich people accountable.
01:01:37
Speaker
I'll say it like that.
01:01:38
Speaker
It barely wants to hold rich people accountable.
01:01:40
Speaker
If you can pay to get anything to go away, you know, that's what they'll do.
01:01:47
Speaker
No matter the race, like who they are.
01:01:51
Speaker
Like we've seen it with like Bryan Singer.
01:01:53
Speaker
We've seen it with Kevin Spacey.
01:01:54
Speaker
We've seen it with R. Kelly.
01:01:55
Speaker
We've seen it with Bill Cosby.
01:01:57
Speaker
Like we've seen it with all these people.
01:01:58
Speaker
And then Bobby Lee, I didn't know he like sexually assaulted him.
01:02:04
Speaker
uh a man um by grabbing his uh dick and balls like i didn't know that that happened i i just feel like y'all everyone just needs to keep their hands on themselves at this point like it's too much um again could have kept that fake ass apology nobody believed it
01:02:22
Speaker
Except for, you know, the people that we're going to support regardless, whether or not they saw the video.
01:02:28
Speaker
Because I'm like, how can you see a video like that and just not feel bad for the victim?
01:02:33
Speaker
Like, or feel bad for the person that is being attacked?
01:02:36
Speaker
Like, the abused.
01:02:38
Speaker
Like, how do you not feel bad for them?
01:02:40
Speaker
Like, that is weird.
01:02:42
Speaker
It's really weird.
01:02:43
Speaker
And it's really telling.
01:02:44
Speaker
Like, I just... Like, people just tell on themselves all the time.
01:02:49
Speaker
And...
01:02:51
Speaker
I just don't know.
01:02:52
Speaker
We got to do something about a lot of y'all self-esteem, I feel like.
01:02:59
Speaker
And it sucks because we don't really have time for it.
01:03:02
Speaker
Like, we don't really have the time to do a self-esteem retreat because people like the world is literally about to end.
01:03:11
Speaker
So, you know.
01:03:12
Speaker
Yeah.
01:03:15
Speaker
Well, that's it for the episode.
01:03:18
Speaker
You can follow me on Gather Them Pod on IG or X, formerly known as Twitter, which they've also changed the handle now.
01:03:30
Speaker
So if you type in Twitter dot com, it'll take you to X dot com.
01:03:33
Speaker
But it's weird because I was doing that anyway and it was still like doing that.
01:03:37
Speaker
Like, I don't know.
01:03:38
Speaker
I guess the domain name is dead.
01:03:41
Speaker
So I don't know if it's up for grabs or whatever.
01:03:44
Speaker
Um, someone probably already grabbed it.
01:03:47
Speaker
But anyway, um, follow me at Gather Them Pod on the socials.
01:03:52
Speaker
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01:04:02
Speaker
And that's it.
01:04:03
Speaker
I'm ready to get out of here.
01:04:04
Speaker
I'm ready to go and put a bed and get up early and do it all over.
01:04:13
Speaker
At least it's a vacation week, but I will talk to everyone again later.
01:04:17
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Bye.