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Raising Fully Functioning Humans w/ Jehan Sattaur
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Jehan Sattaur is a Certified Self Sabotage Expert trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Mindfulness, Hypnotherapy and Nutrition with a decade of experience.
In this episode we cover a number of interesting topics for parents to reflect on, I'm sure you will find it valuable!
Check out Jehan's podcast and connect with him through his website:
Podcast: https://jehansattaur.com/boundlessauthenticity/
Web: https://jehansattaur.com/
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Transcript
Introduction to Christian and Johan
00:00:01
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Welcome back to the Children's Health Podcast, Christian Yordanov here. Today's guest is Johan Sattaur, who is a certified self-sabotage expert trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, neurolinguistic programming,
00:00:18
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mindfulness, hypnotherapy, and nutrition with a decade of experience. I've had Johan on my other podcast Connecting Minds, and it's a great pleasure to have him on the Children's Health Podcast.
Johan's Journey into Psychology
00:00:30
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Johan, thank you for joining us today. Thanks for having me on. My chicken says hello. Hello to your chickens. We love chickens. So for the listeners, maybe you can give us a little bit of your background.
00:00:49
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Yeah so I basically was a musician and I stumbled onto psychology based on my own needs to grow and overcome circumstance and it's been a right I mean I can't believe that
00:01:07
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the ninth would actually be nine years since I've been doing this work.
Empowering Women and Parenting
00:01:13
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It's like where is the time to volunteer? So I basically got involved in coaching at first and I realized that the tools and the skill set that was necessary for dealing with people's everyday challenges and even my own were lacking. So I
00:01:32
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Studied cognitive behavioral therapy and I realized that something was going on with the subconscious so that's when I got into hypnotherapy and Yeah, you know I I've had to pick up other tools along the way like, you know, nutrition is a big deal when it comes to breaking through tough thinking patterns and stuff like that we don't realize how much that plays a role, you know, so I've had to
00:01:59
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A big toolbox basically, that's the short version. Yeah, from my conversations with you listening to your podcast and listening to you being interviewed on other people's podcasts, you definitely cover a wide gamut of topics and subjects and you have quite extensive knowledge on a bunch of different interesting things.
00:02:21
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Given the context of this podcast, it's the Children's Health Podcast, would you say most of your client base is adults or do you work with younger folks as well? Most of my client base is actually women. The worst women have children.
00:02:42
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naturally they're struggling in their lives and they want to know what can i do about my kids help me with my kids and um apart from that though i mean i've always been a mentor to kids um music is something that put me in that position very early a lot of kids young kids want to learn to play the guitar and stuff like that and
00:03:03
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they latch on to me because they love my personality and they come to look up to me and so a lot of the times what would happen is the parents would just dump their kid on me. So I learned a lot about kids before I even had to take care of kids of my own.
00:03:24
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Yeah, absolutely. Most of my clients are also women and definitely I either start working with the mom for her child's health or I start working with the mom for her own health and then we eventually she wants some help with a member of the family, usually one of her kids. And I find women are definitely much more receptive to advice. They seek out help
00:03:51
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more readily than men. For men, it seems like the ego plays a big role in them not seeking help. I know everything. I don't need help, etc. And I believe most of my listeners on this podcast are women. So whatever you say, based on your experience, I'm sure will resonate and be quite enlightening for a lot of the listeners.
Tools for Self-Improvement and Parenting
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Having said that,
00:04:17
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There's so many things we can talk about. What do you say we start maybe unraveling? How do you help women help themselves? And through those sessions with you, how does that translate into them being a more effective parent? How does that translate into the child's surroundings being more conducive to proper growth and development?
00:04:46
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Well, you know, if you look at environment and you look at the basics of psychology, everything is based on stimulus versus response. So in layman's terms, that means something happens and you have a reaction that is pre-programmed into your brain.
00:05:08
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When you're dealing with the world that we live in, there's a lot that you cannot control. But what you can control is your home environment. And that's the seed in which the plant grows, the seed being the child. And women often...
00:05:24
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When they come to me, they are still surprised. They're like, oh no, I was doing this thing and that thing. And they tend to be like, oh, I was doing it wrong. And I'm like, no, there's no such thing as wrong. There's just things you have not yet learned. And you can always go back and undo those mistakes because the good thing is that whatever the mind can do, it can also undo. In neuroscience, there's the saying softwire.
00:05:49
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And that basically means anything that is in your brain, any thought patterns that you have, you can overwrite those. Like you remember those old CD drives?
00:06:00
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just like that. You want to burn a new copy of something, you just stick it in there, you erase it, you put a new program on there. And I try to make it as simple as possible within the context of working with these women for them to understand that anything can change at any given time, as long as you have the right tools and you can learn to ask the right questions and you can be a little bit patient with yourself and especially with the children.
00:06:26
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Yeah. Yeah. So how do you approach it? I know you've told me that you have clients with kids on the autism spectrum. How would you, what sort of, I suppose we can't be too specific here, but what sort of problems are they coming to you with to begin with?
00:06:45
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Well, the parents individually, they are trying to deal with negative programming. And they're usually coming to me from the filter of they think they have childhood trauma. Some of them have been to psychologist, psychiatrist before, and that has failed them. Medication has failed them. So they're dealing with anxiety, depression, things like that.
00:07:11
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And the children, in terms of behavioral problems, they're beating themselves up. They're resistant to change. The usual stuff that goes along with autistic kids, because everything to them is a threat. It's like being inside of a shell and there's attackers outside. You're gonna freak out very easily if you hear a pin drop, right? So that's the typical kind of thing that's happening there.
00:07:41
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As you would know, I'm sure you see the same pattern in your work, they're just learning the real cause of autism.
00:07:49
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They've been programmed with the ideas that are all faults. And they don't know that it's all the preservatives and food colorings and that maybe it's been passed on to the kid based on stuff they've consumed.
Challenges in Children's Dietary Habits
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They don't know all that stuff. So it becomes this process of re-education for them. And there's a little bit of coaching work around that because they're nervous. Quite frankly, they're shitting themselves.
00:08:16
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because that's a lot of work to do. You have a child that when any small change occurs, they have a moment and you don't know how to deal with that. So something as simple as you used to get McDonald's, you can't change that very easily. If you drive past that McDonald's, man, you're in trouble.
00:08:37
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So they have to learn how to be firm and assertive and deal with the meltdowns and deal with all those different things. And, you know, it's tough. It's really hard to watch every single time. It never gets easier. No. And they, you know, they need that guidance. They need that helping hand to navigate those circumstances.
00:09:03
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Yeah, dude, this is so difficult. Myself and my wife, we're trying to break the habit of the pacifier with my daughter. And if you take it out of her mouth, we're talking meltdown of heavy forces.
00:09:21
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So you cave in. So then we started hiding them. But we know full well with herself that there will come a point in time where these things will disappear and she will have to deal with it. So I feel like a lot of parents may be in such a position where
00:09:42
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they know there's a lot of different things they have to do but they have a set amount of willpower you know energy all that stuff and they might try it with breakfast and then okay cereal there's no cereal there's no bread maybe there's no milk for breakfast if you're doing gluten-free casing free um but then two hours later there's something else and then there's something else so it's so difficult to maintain steadfastness all day long week in week out when
00:10:10
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There's so many things that you need to change if your child has a health issue because you and me, I think we know very well that these kids are under a tremendous amount of toxicity from the food, the air, the water, the environment around them. So it's
Emotional Regulation in Parenting
00:10:27
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difficult. And I'm glad there's guys out there like you that are able to give this kind of support to moms, especially, but parents in general.
00:10:38
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Yeah man, it's tough work and what you said is so true. It's the willpower factor and I have to do a lot of coaching around handling your own emotions when it comes to things. If you can
00:10:54
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keep your emotions in check, chances are the child is going to have an easier time and less reactivity as well because it's subconsciously reading the field that you are putting off. So when I say that it means it's reacting to how your inner state is.
00:11:11
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So let's briefly discuss some strategies for handling your own emotions. That's an area that it has to do with my childhood programming around me, but that's an area that I've always somewhat struggled with. I'm an Aries, first of all. Second of all, I'm from Eastern Europe. I'm from the Balkans.
00:11:34
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from Bulgaria. So there's a lot of factors that I could use to make excuses. But I tend to be impulsive, or at least before I used to be very impulsive. I would explode more often. I would start shouting much
00:11:52
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more easily than I would like. What are some strategies you teach parents on how to control their emotions so they're more of a pillar of stability for their child rather than an instigator for anxiety? The first thing I tell every parent is you're only going to get that moment once.
00:12:15
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When you put that into a bigger context and you realize that the thing that you're upset about, you could potentially wish that child was doing in 20 years time. Things change. We see a moment that we have an emotional reaction to as a real big deal when it happens. But then that time is going to pass and you're going to feel differently about it. So why don't you feel differently about it right now?
00:12:44
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you're reacting to something that happened in the past to you. And for that kid, that's a fresh thing. It's a fresh event. So it doesn't even have anything to do with childhood programming. We use childhood trauma as an excuse because that's what's been pushed on us nonstop on repeat.
00:13:10
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for the past few years because that's what people kind of I don't know that's what we consume from all the influencers and so-called psychologists and stuff like that and that's done for a reason so we have to realize that we need to put all that stuff to the side put everything that we know about ourselves in our past to the side
00:13:32
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and really try to figure out what does this child need from me right now? Because you can be guaranteed it doesn't need an emotional reaction. It doesn't need to learn that either. Every time you do something, it's learning. So when you know those small things, you can gradually begin to shift your behavior, your patterns of behavior. I suggest journaling a lot. If you do have an instant journal about that, why did that happen?
00:14:03
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Ask yourself the questions over and over these journaling prompts or thinking prompts as well if you're not a journaler because I'm not a journaler. I like to think self-reflection for what purpose did I just do or say that thing and Your mind is going to give you an answer
00:14:21
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And you've heard me say this before in other podcasts, I'm sure. But what happens is that the brain is just assigning meanings to things or it's recalling meanings that you previously assigned to things. So however your parents dealt with you, you probably are going to deal with your child like that by default.
00:14:43
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Or maybe it's something that you've seen repetitively in your environment, you know, and you need to figure out why you assign that meaning to that particular type of thing and question it to death until you figure out, OK, well, I really don't need to do that because that's not working. You know, yeah, everybody has to get there on their own, really.
00:15:09
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Yeah, that's kind of scary if you react how your parents react to you, if that's how you react to your child. That can be quite a scary thing because if you were unlucky to be in an environment of hostility or anger or God knows what else, or you're seeing parents fight a lot, that is your
00:15:32
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template for relationships in the future. I know you already mentioned journaling, self-reflection. What are some other strategies for
00:15:46
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for sort of deprogramming yourself from that. And maybe that could lead into one of the major topics we can cover, which is stages of programming and cognitive development in children. So maybe you can segue into that after what I asked about what other strategies are out there for repatterning ourselves so we don't have that reactivity, if that's a problem for us.
Cognitive Development and Child Programming
00:16:11
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Well, you know just as good as I do because you're a breathing master as well that the breath is what signals to the body the emotions you should really be feeling. You can override your emotions by learning to breathe correctly and I always try to unpack this as simply as possible. I would try to do it even simpler today. When you are breathing correctly,
00:16:39
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the thoughts and the unpacking of the programs if you want to think of a program as a cereal box and when you dump out a bowl of cereal each individual piece of cereal is a thought in a program.
00:16:56
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So that's how if you have a program that says, I'm bad and therefore I need to act in this way, for example, or it's not safe for me because let's put it in the context of parenting my child just did this thing.
00:17:14
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That's not good. My child is bad. I'm a bad parent. I don't feel safe. I don't feel like I'm keeping this child safe. I don't feel like I'm good enough to do this job. All those things start to program. Sorry. All those programs start to unpack.
00:17:33
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Then when you breathe, you slow down the frequency of the thoughts and you can pay attention to what the real issue is. You can put yourself in an easier state of mind that you can then begin to question, well, what just happened? Why is it I feel like I want to act in this way? So let me stop myself before I do something stupid, right? That's the simplest way I can put that for now.
00:18:01
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And when you deal with those things, when you question those things, like I said before you begin to software new patterns of reactivity. And so I recommend that every parent get comfortable with their breath.
00:18:17
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Learn to breathe properly. You should also be meditating because meditation doesn't have to be a 30 minute or an hour long habit. It can be five minutes here or there. It can be going for a walk. It can be doing anything that slows down your internal world and gets you more in touch with it because when you know what's in there, you can pick and choose a little bit better. It's not a perfect science, but it does work, right? Yeah.
00:18:48
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like that it's they're not the sexiest things meditation and breathing but it's they're the most effective some of you breathing all day anyway so there's really no excuse
00:19:03
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Oftentimes people just get afraid of what's on the other side of that. They're walking around in a state, and this is not to insult anyone, but they're walking around in a state of trance and they're incredibly unaware of how aware they actually are.
00:19:23
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there's a part of them that knows that if I peel back this layer about myself I am going to find things there that I don't like and so you're running this pattern I am imperfect and it's wrong to be imperfect when in reality we are imperfect by nature imperfection is the thing that becomes a catalyst for embracing our best
00:19:50
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abilities are the best versions of ourselves but we live in a world where everything is. Tailored to perfection everything has to look a certain way everything has to be a certain way tv is one of the worst things for you because in.
00:20:06
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skews your perception of reality. And so when reality doesn't match what's on the screen, we blame ourselves. We don't blame the people who make the TV shows, do we? Very high standards. Yeah.
00:20:26
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So yeah, let's feed that into then the stages of programming and cognitive development as a general subject. Where do we start unraveling this? Okay, I'll start by saying this. You cannot break a child. Children are the most resilient creatures on the planet. When you're dealing with stages of programming,
00:20:49
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You're talking essentially about Jean Piaget's theory of cognitive development. I'll break that down very simply.
00:21:00
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This has been proven. We know that from the time a child is conceived, it's taking in the mother's emotions, the father's emotions, information about the environment around it, and it's beginning to grow from a complex group of cells into a being.
00:21:21
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lives and breathes and learns and knows things and feels things. So that's really the first stage of cognitive development. It begins there, whatever it's exposed to.
00:21:34
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and then we go into age zero to seven which is where psychologists have laser focused in as the root of all of our problems but that's not it because things happen today that will affect you tomorrow or in the next few years we just don't realize it so we have zero to seven that's when we are in survival mode we're in a hypnagogic trance
00:21:59
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And we are downloading everything that's happening in the environment very quickly for the purpose of survival. Then from age 7 to 14, a child is naturally wanting to resolve those programs and learn new programs. So...
00:22:20
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Well, that's when you have things, for example, like around age eight, where a child will start showing the superhero bias. You know, they're very obsessed with people who wear capes or maybe mommy or daddy's their hero or someone like that. They want to look up to someone because they're asking the question, okay, where do I go from here?
00:22:44
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Because children don't know that adulthood is shitty. They think they're gonna stay in that state forever and to them the world is limitless. To them they don't understand fully yet even at eight or nine years old that if they jump off a building they can't fly.
00:23:03
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to them, their supernatural abilities are still very real. And so the longer you can keep a child in that state, keep them away from television, keep them away from preservatives, keep them away from bad influences, if you really can keep them out of school, because all those things are going to deprogram them from their natural state of being and turn them into people that they're not one of the first things that
00:23:33
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parents report when a child goes to school is a change in personality, right? And when that personality is changing, that means that they're picking up programming from elsewhere that is probably not going to serve them at all. So the longer you can keep them from age 7 to 14 in that place of resolving things on their own,
00:23:55
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the better suited they are to pick up better and more useful programs from the environment that they live in. And that part is under your control. Whatever is in your house, that's totally your responsibility. So you can add or remove as you see fit.
00:24:17
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the rest of the world the crazy people that want to kill us all they know that children are the next you know the the next
00:24:31
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leaders and rulers and teachers and those things. So they want to shape those children. They're not really interested in shaping you so much as they are the children. And so that's why you have to keep them guarded from seven to 14 because they're already in that place of questioning. And so they'll easily rebel against you because you're the one that set the criteria for the first seven years, right?
00:24:59
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So when you start changing things, they want to know why, right? Isn't that what
Parental Influence on Child Development
00:25:04
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they ask all the time? They're like, why? Why this? Why that?
00:25:09
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We have that very small window to decide are we going to give our children over to society or are we going to remain in control? So from 14 to 21 is another seven-year period that we're still resolving programming.
00:25:30
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And so when we get around our friend circles, schools, family members, we're also trying to resolve those things through the teenage years. And now we're resolving those things through emotional filters because we have a lot of hormones running. The body is growing and expanding very quickly. So it's trying to take in and delete information at a rapid rate.
00:25:54
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And then you have from 21 to I guess about 27, 28 when the brain is now fully developed. So we're still babies. Before we're 30, we're still babies. And we don't realize that because of the way the world is built. But if a parent knows that we have these seven year phases that children go through,
00:26:20
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That's empowering because you can then watch them with a different type of eyes. And you can say, okay, so instead of me thinking that this child is rebelling against me or reacting in a certain way, what they really do is they're asking for permission to keep or change a program.
00:26:41
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Right? And that's where you as the parent, you have to leverage progress over your emotions. You have to think about how is what this child is learning going to impact it for the rest of his life. I won't always be here to love on it and guide it. What can I do now that would set this child up with the creative faculties and the problem solving abilities?
00:27:12
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Because you have to learn all those things from young. There's a story that I like to tell from time to time. And the title of the story is Your Past Life Circumstances or Your Life Experiences, I think. Do not justify your present attitudes or circumstances. And the story goes like this. Two brothers grew up in abject poverty.
00:27:34
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Their father was an abusive alcoholic and their mother was a prostitute and a junkie. One day, their parents were murdered. At the age of 16, the boys were separated and put into foster care.
00:27:49
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A decade later, a family member tracked down the two boys for a family reunion. One of the brothers was a wealthy entrepreneur with a wife and three children and the family member asked, how did your life turn out this way? And he replied, what did you expect with a childhood like mine?
00:28:11
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The other brother was depressed and alcoholic, broke, no steady income, completely dependent on therapy, and had no sense of purpose or direction in his life. And the family member asked, how did your life turn out this way? And he said, what did you expect with a childhood like mine?
00:28:30
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Right. So your past life experiences do not justify your present attitudes. The attitudes that you have as an adult begin with how you were raised and how well you work out those programs and how well you're allowed to work out those programs. Because if you look at some of the things that we would have grown up under, like children should be seen and not heard, for example, things like that.
00:28:58
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When you are aggressive with a child, you invalidate them, right? You should always be firm and assertive. Never aggressive, ever. And it's hard because some parents do have to discipline their children. You may have to lash their child or something, but that can't be a tool every single time. That has to be saved for the most awful things.
00:29:26
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Because the only purpose that really serves, well there's two purposes. Especially with boys and their relationship with their father. They're looking for an authoritarian. They're looking for that lion versus cub response. Where the father will keep them in check when they push the boundaries. But they also want to feel as though they're safe.
00:29:50
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and the little girl needs that from the father too so they need that that vitriol you know that masculine energy where they know that you know dad can get angry and it actually makes them feel safe subconsciously when they grow up and there's no father present or the father is a weak beta male or something like that and you can't really discipline or be an authoritarian for the family
00:30:18
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The children don't feel safe and that leads to bad programs playing out when they're in their later teenage years. They'll rebel, they'll become emo goth kids or something strange. They'll do all these different things because they never felt like they had leadership in their life. Strong leadership.
00:30:41
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I guess both a history lesson and a psychology lesson is the real reason for marriage wasn't anything to do with religion. It was because when we lived in communities before they realized that
00:30:56
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When the father wasn't present, when the father was walking around, you know, humping everything that passed, the children didn't grow up mentally sound, but when there was a mother and a father present for the duration of that child's life right up until 2021, that child became a fully functioning member of society by default, right?
00:31:23
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So that's why we need those things and that's why we need both parents to be emotionally stable, secure in themselves, non-reactive, and to be good leaders. Because even in a business setting, if you're emotionally reactive and you're a mean leader or you just don't care about your team, everything's gonna crumble. You're not gonna succeed.
00:31:50
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How you treat your employers is going to determine the success of your business because they're really the bosses and not you. They're the ones that have to do the work. It's like that with kids too. You have to realize that they're the ones that are in charge because
00:32:09
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You're on their journey. You bring them into this world and they're looking to you to determine for them, how should I be programmed? What should I really be doing? And if you can't manage yourself, you're not going to be able to manage kids either. I hear you. It's so interesting. My daughter now, she will be
00:32:35
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Let's say she's about 19 months now, I guess. And at one point, my wife kind of started getting upset because she just would slap her. She was just playing and she'd just like lash out and give her a bit of a club.
00:32:53
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And I thought it was funny, but I wouldn't definitely, I wouldn't be laughing if she did it. I would be, you know, stern and say, what are you doing? That's not nice. And we tried to explain to her and when she, she does it with the dog, obviously we tell her, you know, that's not nice. We, we stroke the dog like this. Um, but yeah, my wife, she was getting upset and I feel like what you said resonates now so much with me because
00:33:22
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She's clearly testing boundaries with her mom. And she's done that to me a couple of times when she's like, we're playing. She's on my lap and we're having fun. She gets a bit overexcited. She just lashes out and tries to slap me. It was a couple of times. But my super fast reaction would be like, I
00:33:44
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you know, this kind of way. And I guess this more masculine reaction, she sees that that's a boundary she doesn't want to cross. So sometimes she's playing with something that could be putting her in a dangerous situation, potentially. So my wife would say, don't do that, put that down or leave that or bring that to me. And
00:34:06
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I'll go, give me that. And she just like, okay, she'll drop it. So she come back and give it to me or whatever. So it does seem like having that more, I suppose, masculine energy or that energy, definitely it has its place because they, the kids, they react in a different way to the mom and the dad, even though they might be asking them the, it might be the same request or the same piece of advice or whatever else.
00:34:35
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Yeah, in behavior, negative reinforcement never works. And it's the same for adults. That's why if you have an alcoholic or something, negative reinforcement doesn't get that person to change that habit. They'll continue drinking even though bad things keep happening, right?
00:34:53
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So that's where the being firm and assertive comes into place and that's where the masculine energy comes into place because the masculine presence is supposed to reinforce. If mommy says something, the dad has to agree and do the same thing in a different way to reinforce it. Like that same example when the child begins to test boundaries and starts slapping you and stuff,
00:35:19
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you just take that child's hand you say no we don't hit people and you show them what is the correct thing to do if you want attention or you want to test me for whatever reason you can just come and ask me questions or you can just come in you know do it in a different way because you know some kids start doing that before they can talk properly you know so you don't know what the hell they want yeah but you have to redirect that behavior to something else
00:35:45
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Rather than get mad about it a lot of people get mad about it and a lot of people can you slap their kids back and stuff like that Which is just retarded that is just juvenile So you're not teaching that child anything when you do that, you know, yeah, absolutely I what in your opinion
00:36:04
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What other reasons do you think for aggression in kids there are? My personal thought is, I've actually looked at quite a bit of the research on autism and a little bit on ADHD and other stuff and toxic, toxic metals and inability to excrete detoxified toxic metals has been like things like lead. What else? So a lot of mercury has been correlated with self injurious behavior.
00:36:34
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got this function of various kinds. He's also being correlated with
00:36:40
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aggression to self, aggression to others, and just in general, non-compliance to requests and stuff like that. So toxic metals and gut dysfunction and certain bacterial stuff that fall under the gut dysfunction category, things like certain clostridia bacteria species. But what other, in your opinion and clinical experience, what other factors do you think could lead to aggression in children?
00:37:11
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Okay, well I don't like opinions because opinions are just the best conclusions that we've come to. So let's talk about facts here. Everything you said, yes. Because if your brain is being poisoned, you're gonna be aggressive. Fact. Your entire body is interpreting that as I'm under attack. So therefore, when you're under attack, you're being bullied, what do you wanna do? You wanna lash out, right?
00:37:40
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So just take that and transfer it over to that situation. That child's emotional center is perceiving a threat. And the second part of that would be the language barrier. Children don't have the vocabulary to express the way that they feel, right?
00:37:57
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And anytime a child is acting out in your view, they need to be held. They need to be allowed to express what's going on because that's the only way that they have to move that
Diet, Behavior, and Child Health
00:38:14
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energy. That energy is stuck.
00:38:17
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they don't know how to say it in the words that we would be able to and oftentimes just from dealing with adults they don't know what to say either when they come to me and we're doing like a talk therapy session or something they don't have the words to express the way that they feel
00:38:33
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right because anything that's traumatic this part of the prefrontal cortex deactivates and it puts you inside of an emotional shell it's like a turtle going inside of a shell it's trying to protect itself from whatever is going on around there and so you only remember the the imprint of what happened you don't remember all the details or anything like that
00:38:59
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you don't really even truly remember how you felt. You just know that something's going on under the surface and you don't have the language for it, right? So imagine that capacity in children, they haven't, the language centers of their brain haven't fully developed. They're being poisoned. And if they're autistic, you know, even if they're not autistic and they're just eating like Kellogg's or something, you know, all of that's affecting them. Me and my girlfriend were noticing
00:39:26
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On our vacation we decided to bake cookies and the only poisonous ingredients that we used would be brown sugar. Now here in Barbados we have better quality brown sugar because you know commercially it's bleached and lime is added and all these different ingredients are added to it. Here they still use the original system they squeeze the cane it goes on to a thing
00:39:54
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And it's dried out and they break up those crystals. And so it's it's no added chemicals, but it's still sugar, which is not necessarily the best chemical to be putting in a small child. It's like rocket fuel, right? You notice that. She ate two of the cookies and she had a reaction. She was running all over the house and she was screaming and the little one. Yeah, the little one and.
00:40:22
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She wrapped a scarf around her head, she put on sunglasses, she had seven of her dolls and she was waving them all over the place and she went crazy, right? And I said to her, you see this behavior? This is the same behavior that happens in cocaine addicts and stuff like that.
00:40:39
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where they begin to regress back to this childlike state. And, you know, that's when you'll see them put on like all these weird different clothes and they'll start saying things like the first thing that comes. I want to do this. I want to do that. They'll still start talking and talking and talking. And essentially, that's what's happening. That brain is overloading. And in every idea that comes to mind, they want to do it. They want to do it right now. And so they're just going crazy.
00:41:05
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that's what sugar does to the child so imagine preservatives and things like that imagine like red number 40 or whatever yellow number five all those things that we just think are harmless and it's not really going to do them anything you're messing with that brain
00:41:27
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And we don't realize it. We don't realize that our kids are consuming nonsense, poison, nonstop. And that's the reason why we can't seem to control them and they can't control themselves. They hear you. I guarantee you that they hear you when you say they just can't stop it. Right. So we have to be very mindful of what these children are putting into their bodies. I mean, 20 minutes later, she crashed and it was fine. And we were like, OK, we're not giving her any more cookies.
00:41:57
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Oh yeah, for the longest time my daughter hadn't tasted sugar and most of the food she ate was organic and stuff and we weren't giving her gluten. Now she's there with my wife in a place where there's not as much organic food and
00:42:20
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There's going to family members and just people's awareness of the benefits of certified organic food and clean food is obviously not as high as it is. They're not as strict as we are at home because we're fairly strict about what we buy, what we bring into the house.
00:42:38
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In fact, because I'm on my own now, I was going through the kitchen drawers yesterday and there was a bunch of things that obviously I'm not going to throw them out because their food, it's still good, it's still in its packet, so I'm going to go and give it away. Just things like wheat, just stuff with flour, crackers.
00:43:02
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chocolates, things with added sugar, cereals, whatever. Still organic stuff, but anything with sugar in it, with wheat, I'm just going to give them all away because they've really no business getting into our body.
00:43:21
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Yeah, I don't think the majority of parents don't realize that how much the nutritional aspect influences behavior. I think it's very difficult for people to grasp this. And for decades,
00:43:42
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researchers, doctors, et cetera, that have been at the forefront of this have noticed even missing a single nutrient or lacking a certain nutrient or having an excess of a certain nutrient or compound can create a lot of differences. So for example, the very prominent one is high copper, low zinc. So in autistic kids, kids with ADHD,
00:44:11
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So in autism, it's the most common imbalance, low zinc, high copper. And there's so many things that you're going to have downstream from a low zinc and a high copper. So high copper has been implicated in depression.
00:44:27
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postpartum depression, as I said already, ADHD and autism, aggression, schizophrenia, I think it's serial killers they founded. So it's a factor in many
00:44:44
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Conditions and issues and diseases that affect the mind not just the body so that's just one simple example and when you look at what kids are reading a lot of kids don't need me a lot of kids is a lot of foods that are naturally high in copper.
00:45:00
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and there's a lot of very little zinc in their diet so and then you have problems zinc is needed for testosterone production for the immune system a lot of immune system dysregulation in autism it's needed to create digestive enzymes and other things hydrochloric acid.
00:45:19
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and stuff like that for a lot of kids are skinny nowadays and their twigs are twigs for arms and legs that's because of a zinc deficiency or that's a one of the factors causing it is a zinc deficiency so one nutrient is enough to completely discombobulate the body never mind when you have kids that are
00:45:40
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running on sugar, grains, non-organic food that is slowly poisoning them. Did that miss anything there? No, I don't think so. I mean, I think that the basics of that is what we put in the body is what we kind of get out in terms of behavior. And it's that simple. It's hard for people to hear because
00:46:08
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maybe they're in lower income areas or whatever, and all they can afford is garbage, but at the same time, if you, I've heard it said, if you've gotta sell your car and ride a bicycle, at least you're gonna live longer because of the food you put in your body, you know? And then you'd just be using that car to drive from doctor appointment to doctor appointment if you don't, you know? So, it's kinda sad the way things have turned out.
00:46:38
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But the positive side to that is that we are at that point now where that breaking point where the pandemic actually served to wake up a lot of people and get them to pay attention to what they're putting inside their body. I mean.
00:46:53
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I don't really want to make this dig, but if you've noticed all the people who are still wearing masks, you look in their shopping cart and, you know, it's DiGiorno. It's like they've got like all the packaged foods and Skittles and all the stuff with the food colorings and stuff like that. They're deathly afraid of.
00:47:12
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this thing a particle you know that we're all divided we don't know if it exists or if it doesn't what it is and nobody's asking any questions about that but we're still putting garbage in our bodies and expecting that somebody's gonna come along with a pill or an injection that's gonna
00:47:35
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Solve that problem when we really need self responsibility take all that other stuff out the equation. We just need self responsibility because We're gonna end up sick from something else either way if we don't clean up our act, you know so Yeah, yeah, this is where I think
00:47:55
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working with parents, yourself and myself, if we can tweak their understanding a little bit, add to their knowledge base that they already have about nutrition. Because honestly, there's a lot of folks out there that are doing a lot of things right. But still, something is amiss. I've got some moms I work with, their kids aren't diagnosed with a condition per se, but they're still having some health problems. And the beauty of
00:48:23
Speaker
working with me for six months, 12 months, even three months is I teach you to not need me and to not need a lot of quote unquote health services out there, right? So, um, same. That's the, yeah, that's the thing, you know, we got to get them off at depending on something. Yes, man. It's, it's, it's, um, it's a course in education. And then after that, you should be able to at least have, if you don't know something, you'll be able to discern. So like a lot of folks,
00:48:52
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For example, just off the top of my head, a lot of folks might try to force their children to eat vegetables, a lot of spinach, leafy greens, and they're not actually
00:49:09
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compatible with everybody's system. Some folks, if you have any leaky gut intestinal permeability, if you're eating a lot of things like whole grains or things with oxalates or things like that, phytic acid, digestive enzyme inhibitors, these things could not only be getting absorbed and causing immune reactivity, they could be damaging your gut lining, they could be inhibiting the absorption of minerals, like for example, phytic acid in oats,
00:49:40
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oxalic acid in grains, spinach. This could be binding with calcium, magnesium, iron, zinc, and it could be inhibiting their absorption. So I think there's a lot of intuitive knowledge. Kids know what to eat. The problem is when you warp
00:49:59
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their instinctual palate or instinctual drive to eat healthy foods with what you already said, sugar, colorful things, vibrant flavors, MSG, things with preservative. So that warps the microbiota, it warps the taste buds, and then they only crave that garbage.
00:50:19
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Yeah, exactly. It's like not everybody can eat a carrot and not everybody can eat spinach and you know, you probably heard me say this. I don't eat any meat whatsoever and I'm not deficient in anything. I don't know that actually. Yeah, I eat fruit, vegetables mostly.
00:50:38
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Dude, your arms are huge of things. Exactly. But it's because we have food and food is just tools. And like you correctly said, every person has to experiment and know the boundaries with each food. There are certain things I can't eat.
00:50:53
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There's certain fruits I won't eat because I know it has a negative reaction, right? And, you know, the certain vegetables I won't eat. And so we have to know for ourselves what we can and cannot digest, what we can or cannot get nutrients from, right? And
00:51:18
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It's sad. I feel sadness for a lot of parents because we're constantly bombarded with all this information. This thing is good for you. That thing is good for you. And there's a lot of good intentions that go into that. But then it destroys the child. Like you said, it destroys their gut health and all these different things. They become soft crackheads.
00:51:42
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It destroys their intuition and they can no longer tell what makes them feel good. Like with our little one, sometimes she'll be like, I want cookies or I want this or I want that. And we just tell her, no, you're getting an apple. You don't want an apple. You know already those things don't exist in this household. You're getting apples.
00:52:06
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And she was like, okay, she'll eat apple, right? There is no resistance whatsoever. You know, she might want to, she might want to be like, no, I want this, but we'll just kind of look at her and be like, we've done this a bunch of times. You only get apples. And you know, I think it's worth if they want something, I think it's potentially worth sometimes letting them have it and then making sure to, to keep them
00:52:38
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present and say like what's your what's your reaction to that we see how you feel you know in a couple of hours time or this evening or even tomorrow because sometimes food reactions or feeling crappy i noticed this myself is there's a great italian place here that do sourdough pizza and we used to live near it so we used to go there a lot especially when my wife was pregnant so we go there once in a while
00:53:06
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very rarely now. And I've noticed I feel okay-ish the same day, but the next day, I actually don't have that much energy. So I think if you're able to teach your child, your children, to have more body awareness, this could be enough where maybe not when they're eight,
00:53:26
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But when they're 15, I think especially with girls, they seem to have more body awareness, probably due to the menstrual cycle and just that entire process for women. But if you can teach them that, now you've equipped them with a tool that they will be able to use for life and maybe even teach their own children.
00:53:45
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I agree with you.
Teaching Resilience and Emotional Intelligence
00:53:46
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That's one of the things that we've lost. We've lost the ability to be present and so that kind of brings me around to being a fully functioning person. You want to raise a fully functioning person, teach them, teach your kids from early to be open to experiences. That will result in less meltdowns and less needing to control everything that goes on because
00:54:12
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Your kids are learning that from you anyway so you also need to be open to experiences. When I say that, I mean, fully functioning people don't resist negative emotions. They learn to embrace working through those emotions and they learn how to manage them in the moment.
00:54:29
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They understand that emotional experiences are just a part of day-to-day life and they don't have to dominate your whole day. There's no such thing as a bad day to a fully functioning person. They just understand that life has its challenges and a lot of that's going to be how we emotionally relate to situations.
00:54:47
Speaker
And so they just learn how to unpack those emotions rather than look for a label or a reason to justify poor behaviors and poor choices. They know that emotions are not illnesses that they come and go and it's actually healthy to be sad. It's healthy to be angry. It's healthy to have
00:55:06
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moments where you just feel kind of down in the dumps or whatever and that's an indicator of something in your environment needs to be changed. So children are very open to that idea. I've seen it with the kids I've mentored and I've had so many kids come from abusive environments in mentoring and stuff.
00:55:28
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and they'll come and they'll tell me I understand exactly everything that you've been telling me now because my dad just did this thing or said this thing and it almost became a fight and then I caught myself and I realized I really do have control over how I respond to that stuff you know I really do have a say and I don't have to get into fights with my parents over things because basically what these kids are telling me is that they're coming from these broken households and
00:55:57
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their parents just don't know how to manage themselves. Their parents are doing the best they can, but it's a polished turd at best. And the kids are beginning to sense these things. Usually around age 14, 15, 16, those are the age groups of kids that are telling me these things.
00:56:14
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And they're very open to these ideas if someone will tell them. But if they don't know that it exists, they're just going to model behavior because that's all children do, right? So fully functioning people are interested in creative expression and they are not interested in mindless consumption or useless identity constructs.
00:56:39
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They are interested in finding out who they are, their soul. They're interested in that more than anything else. And so to be creative actually means that you are motivated by freedom.
00:56:55
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new experiences and you don't want to be complacent with things that keep you safe or comfortable or you know just eat it because it tastes good or you don't want to be concerned with emotional security and things like that. You don't want those things to dominate you.
00:57:14
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So the longer you keep a child in that creative state away from the TV and the screens and keep them drawing and running and playing in the garden and climbing trees and things like that. The more likely they are to grow into a fully functioning adult. Right. The more they can think for themselves, the more they can control their behaviors, their emotions. They don't. Believe in the, you know,
00:57:57
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Now I have anxiety, they don't say things like that. They realize that, okay, I can just try and send this using my creativity, right? Everything that comes along in their life, it's an opportunity to be creative and not stuck.
00:58:09
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that's just call it the pink unicorn cult they don't believe in things like that they don't believe in
00:58:13
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you know and fully functioning people also they learn at some point to live fully in the present moment with their mind and their body they're not stuck in past events and they're not worried about what's gonna happen tomorrow or some other future date I have never met an anxious or depressed person that has come to me and said I have anxiety I feel anxious because this thing
00:58:41
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I've never met anyone like that who actually had a clear vision for their future. They're always comparing themselves to an ideal state that already happened or they're afraid it'll never happen in the future.
00:59:00
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they don't know how to get in there and tweak their behavior and tweak their choices to kind of get to any semblance of that ideal state, right? So fully functioning people from childhood need to be taught that the past can't be changed and that it was just the previous moment in time, which is now gone.
00:59:23
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But you can have that opportunity to change it now with what you do right now and your future will be better. It's useful for kids to understand that we don't get tomorrow by default. We don't know if we'll wake up tomorrow.
00:59:42
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And that's a scary prospect for a lot of parents because parents themselves are afraid of that reality, you know? But kids, you got that, like I said before, you got to catch kids when they're in that the height of childlike innocence because they know that death is a reality of life.
01:00:01
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They remember being a spirit still. They remember all these different things about our supernatural reality. So they're open and receptive to these ideas then. It's when you go into the second phase of development, you know, 7 to 14, that those ideas get beat out of them.
01:00:21
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They lose contact. So you gotta catch them as early as possible and just start priming them with these concepts. Get them emotionally and spiritually secure from then and they'll understand all these different things. Teach them that we don't have control over anything that can happen in the future. But just live and laugh and play and be happy and be grateful.
01:00:46
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Right now, gratitude is a really amazing tool for teaching children. We love to ask the kids, what were you grateful for today? Or what was the best part of your day? And focus on things like that and just forget the useless stuff.
01:01:05
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Something bad happened. You got to ask him, how did you feel about that? Leave it clear for them to lay their cards on the table, right? Because that teaches them to work on self-awareness too. And that's another thing that fully functioning people do. They're constantly working on self-awareness because that's what makes them feel good. They're not running away from the things that are tough. So they love to look at their attitudes and beliefs and ideas about life and about other people.
01:01:34
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Again, they're in their creative expression and so creativity is motivated by freedom, right? Freedom knows that there's a lot of people out there that are wrong, but it gives them the freedom to be wrong, right?
01:01:51
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They're pretty much aware of fully functioning. People are aware that what they think and they believe determines the quality of their experiences. They also know that the quality of their relationships determine the quality of their lives because we do have that social component where we
01:02:14
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are either modeling or trying to get something from someone by interacting with them. And kids need to be taught that. Kids need to be taught to realize that if they're hanging around little Johnny and little Johnny doesn't says things they don't like, that they have to assess that. And maybe they can come to you and say, I didn't really like this thing that he said or did. It made me feel this way. What about that? Can I change?
01:02:43
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You know, kids don't know that they can ask these questions. They won't. And adults end up that way because they don't know that they can do that. Right. So. You got to teach kids about inner peace and doing things that are fulfilling. Most of the time, kids just want to draw some shit. They just want to, you know, they just want to have fun and whatever it is they're doing, like if they're finger painting and stuff, you're talking about young kids, that brings them fulfillment.
01:03:13
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So you want to keep them doing things that really fulfill them and not worry about the extracurricular activities like cheerleading and all this other crap that's really dependent on someone else placing value on you for what you're doing.
01:03:29
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They have to be motivated by the things that make them feel joy inside and peaceful inside. Because what's happening in the world right now is that with all these screens and stuff or with alcohol or trying to avoid fear or trying to get sex or trying to get somebody to like me or all these different things, that's really all about instant gratification. Fully functioning people don't care about instant gratification.
01:03:57
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They don't care about getting another like on Facebook or Instagram. They couldn't care less. But we're learning or I should say we as adults are learning from a Sikh society to chase empty happiness and the children are following us.
01:04:15
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right so when they see us with these we have to be very careful i have a rule i will never use this in front of the kids phone ever if somebody calls me i either won't answer or i will show them that that's what the phone is for telephone calls
01:04:34
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not for typing and all this crap I will never do that in front of them and it's actually not that hard I've just made it a personal rule I've made it a part of my personal culture like the kid wanted pizza and I was like well you know that would be a tough one because we ought to find somewhere that's using no MSG no sugar all this kind of stuff right and there's a place there's been a place around here for like 25 years that does that like they it's no garbage right so
01:05:02
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I was like, OK, how am I going to play this because I've got to use my phone to go look at them because, you know, everything's online now. So you got to go look at the menu and stuff and get their number and all that kinds of stuff. And we didn't have a phone book. I'm like, how can I do this? So I just literally waited until they were not around and went on and I went directly to what I was looking for. Got the number and I called the number.
01:05:30
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I didn't let them see me using social media or anything like that because they're going to think that's normal. They're going to think, ah, daddy does that. That's normal.
01:05:41
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It's not. I still wish we had phone books. If I had a phone book, I would have looked through right there and I would just call. But you just got to find ways around that stuff. I know it's hard because some people are running their business off of a phone, right? But in that respect,
01:06:03
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communicate with the child like you know you know how we have food on the table well we need money for that this is how we make money did the only time make that the only time you're using these devices is for business stuff and make sure though that when your kids are talking to you and you know mommy look at me or dad look at me
01:06:29
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look at them put the phone down clearly put it away from you right because when they see the presence of the phone and they they make the connection between not getting the attention that they want or the response that they want they want from you
01:06:45
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The phone is the problem, right? They're gonna say, oh, daddy doesn't love me. I'm bad, but the phone is better than me. Whatever's in that phone is better than me, right? So you have to be careful about how your actions with technology shape the way that your child sees you and sees themselves through that, you know?
Impact of Technology and Societal Influence
01:07:06
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That's a huge one, man. I've noticed I need to definitely take this on board because the last while I noticed myself, yes, I was doing that a little bit. I'd be on my phone, and then my daughter would want to see what I'm doing, or she'd want the phone, and I don't want the phone anywhere near her.
01:07:29
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Then I let her rub on it when it's on airplane mode and on lock screen and she was entertaining herself for the longest time but it's not okay and I'm just telling my wife and we have to do something serious about this because This is it I can see with her nephews and my nephews they're already their screen time is through the roof and these kids are not even all of them are under
01:08:00
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between five and ten years of age, all of them are four kids and they're already, this is it, this is all they care about, games and cartoons and Jesus Christ.
01:08:15
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It's scary because we have so many books and she was so into books. So now I'm afraid if she doesn't get that love for books early on, it's a whole different story teaching them to love books later on in life. So it's a big worry for us for sure. Yeah, exactly. And when it comes to, you know, there's a really
01:08:38
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the the
01:08:55
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It's a book from 1983. He's a psychologist that realized that children have different forms of intelligence. So some kids gravitate towards art, music, reading, some kids like math, whatever it is, you have to figure out what that child's forms of intelligence are and just take away the things that are not that and let that child develop into a fully functioning person doing all the things that they love. So if your child doesn't love reading,
01:09:24
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It could potentially be that that's not their form of intelligence. Maybe they're more auditory based. They like to hear stuff. Maybe they want to play music. Whatever the case is. Foster those things.
01:09:36
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But there's a meme online, I think I posted it or something, and there's these two women sitting on a park bench. And the one woman is sitting there reading and her kids reading too. And the other woman looks over at her and she's holding a cell phone and the kid's holding an iPad and she says, how'd you get your kid to do that? Right? She's completely unaware of the fact that the child is just watching what she does.
01:10:02
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So as parents, if we want our children to do certain things, we have to suck it up and realize we're responsible for their journey. And they're asking us to inform them as to how to behave. So we've got to toss the cell phone to the side, pick up a book, pretend to be reading it if you have to, right? If you want them to eat a balanced diet, take all the junk out the house and you eat what you want them to eat.
01:10:32
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They'll follow you. But it's when, and I've seen this conflict because with the older kids, they're programmed by society and they're like, you know, my girlfriend doesn't eat. She doesn't eat anything except for fruit, really. She loves fruit. She just loves fruit. That's how she started eating it. She's like, I just love fruit. Somewhere along the line, I forgot to eat anything else except for fruit.
01:11:00
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Right. And she's totally healthy. She has no health problems. She looks like she's 20 years old. And she's had three kids and she's had three kids and she. But what triggered that for her is that by the time the second kid came along, she realized there's a reason that the doctors are telling me not to eat this stuff when I'm pregnant. I wonder why that could be. Oh, wait, it's poison.
01:11:28
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to begin with, right? So she's like, why am I gonna eat, continue to eat stuff after the baby's born that would've killed the baby when it was in me, right? So she just, she's very simple and it's one of the things that I love the most about her. She's very straightforward. She's like, why am I gonna eat something that I don't like to eat? I like to eat fruit, it's good for me, I eat it. I like to eat potatoes, tastes good, it's good for me, that's what I like to eat.
01:11:54
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So, the youngest sees that and models the patterns of good eating even though the influence is to eat the cookies and to eat the sugars coming from outside. So, you have to, I wouldn't say control but be aware of the influences that are coming in because
01:12:15
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She took the kid out of school within a few months because she realized that the best parts of the child were beginning to change once they got into school and got around other kids and things like that. She was like, no, I don't want her to suppress her soul. That happened with the other two and that's not going to happen a third time, right?
01:12:37
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So when are we going to learn is the question. When are we going to observe, become aware, and know that we are fully in charge of what our children take in because the other two are difficult to talk to because they have the programming of the world in their heads, right?
01:12:54
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And they think they're weird. That's exactly what I was going to ask you is what challenges have you had with the older ones? You started it. Sorry to interrupt, I just wanted to say that that was an important question I wanted to ask you.
01:13:10
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I just don't even worry about it. Non-resistance. They're old enough that they can choose their destiny if they want. Everybody has to go through that spiritual development where they become unconscious and sometime, I don't want to get astrological, but sometime around age 27, 28, things will change for them and they'll start questioning life in a different way. They want to move back towards
01:13:35
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spirituality and eating properly and all the things that go along with being a I want to use the term high vibrational person because that sounds douchey but you know being in touch with spirit essentially all all this junk and all these screens and stuff suppress our spirit
01:13:53
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Yeah, right. They were saying in a recent study that Gen Z is the worst generation to deal with in the workplace because they're easily offended. They don't have any motivation. They are so emotional. He can't talk to them about anything. And all they want to do is be on screens all day long.
01:14:12
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And we're now beginning to see the effects of that. So it's good that this information is coming out. Maybe it'll reach the mainstream and everybody can see the fruits of our labor and we still have time to change that, right? So we have to be aware of just, I've been saying the same thing over and over. We have to be aware of what we let these kids do, what we teach them as normal.
01:14:35
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Because unfortunately, to some people, dysfunction is normal. Do we really want more of that? Or don't we all just want to be chilling in that piece? So with the older kids, non-resistance works well. If they make a comment like, that's weird or whatever, you're weird because you eat fruit, we just don't pay any attention to it because, well, first of all, we don't care. We're secure people. So what they say doesn't matter or what anybody else says doesn't matter. We just let them have their thing.
01:15:05
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And they do eat healthy foods most of the time because that's what's in the house. If they want chocolate or sugar or whatever they want, they have their own money. They can get it.
01:15:21
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But they won't because they don't want to spend their money. Better things to spend your money on then. We're just not going to buy it for them. Before I was in the picture, they were taught to prioritize and save their own money and do things to get their own money. They understood the value of things like that. It's only when they're around their friends that they really want that stuff. When they're at home, they're like, whatever.
01:15:49
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Yeah, it's nice to have that base. The home is the base and to have that base. So if they eat most of their meals at home, if most of their influences are positive at home, then you can get away with the other stuff. I'm not saying that we should
01:16:07
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Condone at all, but there's certain things we just cannot Influence like you say and yeah, just to jump in there to solidify that point that you're making right there Because they eat Mostly foods that will detox them. It's okay if they go have a pizza or a milkshake or something with their friends and
01:16:29
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every once in a while, every couple of weeks or so because the rest of their time they're eating good food that's pushing that stuff out. So they still get to have typical American type lifestyle because that's what they want. They get to choose. But when we shape our children up to a certain age, if they decide they want to go off and live that lifestyle,
01:16:54
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You can't hold swords over their heads. You can't make them do it because there's a reason why they want to experience it. At least they have something to compare that to. And you did the best you could. You kept them alive and kept them healthy for however long you did. But now they're on their individual journey and somewhere along the line, they'll get back to that, you know? Yeah. Hopefully. Yeah. If that's what's in the cards for them.
Closing Remarks and Contact Information
01:17:22
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Yeah. Well, this was really very, I learned a lot today, Johan, thank you so much for your time. I for sure will be re-listening to this. I'll share this with my wife and friends that still even open messages related to my podcast on children's health and whatever else, because a lot of people just don't seem to care.
01:17:44
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But I feel like we have reached the people that are ready to be reached. And the other ones, we just have to let them continue on their journey. And this is something I've been learning more and more is to just live and let live, let other people.
01:18:00
Speaker
Discover the information if and when they need to discover it. Otherwise, let's not talk to the wall. Let's reach the people that actually care about learning and creating the most healthy and conducive to health environment for their kids. So thank you so much for your time. And before we let you go, please let the listeners know how they can connect with you.
01:18:24
Speaker
Yeah, so if you want to get me, you can follow me on Instagram at Johan Sator. That's J-E-H-A-N-S-A-T-T-A-U-R. I'm on Facebook. My page is self-sabotageinfo. You can email me at self-sabotageinfo at poton.me. Awesome. Johan Sator, thank you so much, brother man. Alright, thank you.