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How to Arrive on Time - Help for families {Episode 223}
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Are you perpetually late?? Embarrassing, right? Well in this episode, Bonnie & Audrey have 5 tips for learning how to arrive on time.
They start off with the WHY behind running late and WHY to arrive on time (or even early!) Next, they share 5 ways to arrive on time. Finally, they share great ideas on what to do if/when you arrive late.
About Outnumbered the Podcast:
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Whether it's tackling how to teach kids to work or discussing where to turn when you're all out of patience,
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Introduction to Punctuality Strategies
00:00:00
Speaker
Hello, welcome back to Outnumber the Podcast, episode 223, and we're talking about arriving on time. We're going to share with you why you should try to arrive on time, five tips to help you make a timely arrival, and then what to do if and when you arrive late. So are you ready? Let's make a timely start.
00:00:26
Speaker
Hello and welcome to Outnumbered the Podcast.
Hosts' Background and Challenges
00:00:28
Speaker
I'm Audrey. And I'm Bonnie. We are experienced moms to a combined total of 19 children. In our weekly episodes, we explore relatable topics using our perspectives of humor and chaos. Tune in for advice and encouragement to gain more joy in your parenting journey.
00:00:49
Speaker
All right guys, we are back with an episode about how to arrive on time as a large family. We are not very excited to record this episode because neither of us know very much about this. So maybe this is just like an information gathering session and you can like brainstorm along with us.
Personal Strategies for Timeliness
00:01:07
Speaker
Actually, I didn't want to tell you Audrey, but we've actually gotten a lot better at this and we are regularly on time to church, which I think is like the number one hardest thing to do because first of all, everybody has to get ready and decent looking. It's not like you can just run out of the house in your pajamas.
00:01:25
Speaker
we're all going one place together. So I feel like when we kind of hit that milestone of getting to church on time that I was like, yeah, I'm kind of amazing. To be fair, it was mostly my husband's doing that. When we first got married and before we had kids, a couple that had kids told us, now every time you have a kid, you need to add 10 minutes to your leave time so that you can leave 10 minutes earlier, 10 minutes earlier.
00:01:55
Speaker
No, we're going to have nine kids until we're like 90 minutes early. 90 minutes later. We're going to have to leave at two kids, so we're going to start getting ready at 12. We just, but then we're not far off there. We're going to share some good tips today, but I have to share it with you guys, a really funny meme I saw a while ago.
00:02:14
Speaker
And it said, I used to always wonder why my mom was the last one in the car. We would all get in the car with my dad and my siblings and we would sit and wait and wait and wait, all thinking, where in the heck is mom? What is she possibly doing in there? And now that I'm a mom, I know the answer is everything. She was doing everything.
00:02:36
Speaker
To be fair, we do have an excuse for running late. We're running in the house going, I guarantee that kid forgot shoes. I guarantee no one grabbed diapers and wipes. I guarantee that no light in the house is turned off, so I'm going to go through the entire house, turn it all off, lock all the doors, turn off the curling iron. Excuses abound, but we're going to give you some tips for making sure that you can get someplace on time.
00:02:58
Speaker
Oh, that is so good. Everything. It is true. But you know what? This episode is as much for us as it is for you. We still struggle with arriving on time as a large family. But we've gathered five tips that we do use to attempt to arrive on time in places.
Benefits of Being On Time
00:03:16
Speaker
And it really is complicated with the more kids you have, the more complicated it is to get somewhere. Because there's so many variables. But that's what we're going to try.
00:03:27
Speaker
That's what we're going to strive for in this episode. Yeah, please don't feel any condemnation coming from us. In fact, another humorous segment is Audrey sent me the link for this episode and the topic for the email was be on time, but guess who was late to record? Me. So totally something that we work on. Yeah, but I sent you the link right at the time we were supposed to record and I also had in my email, hang on a second, I gotta go to the bathroom. I'll be back.
00:03:54
Speaker
You guys would laugh at how many times we're like, okay, I'm almost ready to record. Let me just go to the bathroom and I'll be right back. Because does mom have a dedicated time to go to the bathroom? No. It's whenever we can squeeze in five minutes. Yeah. But we're all trying to do better, right? Yes. Okay. So why should you try to arrive early or on time? It's just kind of a respect for others. This is why we attempt to arrive on time. You may have some different reasons. It's a respect for other people who are maybe waiting for us to get there.
00:04:23
Speaker
Um, it's representing large families. Well, um, you know, that we don't always have our pants on fire when we walk in the door because we've been running so late, but it also, there's the logistics. It takes extra time to get everyone settled. When a large family walks in, maybe they got to go get some more chairs because they didn't have enough set up, right? Or something because.
00:04:41
Speaker
They didn't expect 10 more people to come in one minute before the time to start. Kids behave better with the reduced stress of your arriving on time. And then also mom and dad, like our mindset and having a peaceful attitude and aura about a timely arrival, it affects the whole family. Like if dad had to drive 10 miles over the speed limit to get there, he's just really not going to be in a very good mood when you get there. And that affects everybody.
00:05:07
Speaker
Mm-hmm. Yeah. And another thing is that if you arrive late to a place with a large family, you are way more disruptive than if there's just one or two or even five of you, right? Yeah, there's no sneaking in the door. No, 12 of us walk in late and every head swivels to the door. So it's really disruptive to wherever you're showing up to show up late. So we try really hard. If you want to fly under the radar, like, well, don't have 10 kids, but if you want to fly under the radar, like get there early, get settled, and get your kids behaving before things start, right?
Tools for Time Management
00:05:38
Speaker
Okay, so number one, put your calendar to work for you, whether it's a paper calendar or a digital calendar, it doesn't matter what your preferred calendaring method is, make sure you're putting everything on your calendar. You guys, I cannot believe how many years I functioned as a mother without a calendar. I mean, I had one like on the wall, but like something that said every single appointment, every single to-do.
00:05:59
Speaker
But my life got complicated quickly and I finally had to put it down. So we have a couple of calendars we use. Number one is phone simply because it has all the alerts on it, right? So when it's time to leave, I get an alert, all the things. But then we do use a wall calendar for both the week and a separate one for the month. And that is for the purpose of my children and husband seeing what's going on, right? They all know, oh, look, piano is this day. We have this recital here. We have this appointment here.
00:06:26
Speaker
on the big calendars, but it really doesn't matter what you do as long as you do it consistently. Yes, yes. We also use digital calendars for setting reminders. The really cool thing is with calendar apps, you can put an event in, and right when you put the event in, you can say, remind me,
00:06:43
Speaker
at this time, one hour before, two hours before. So we use it for setting reminders and tracking appointments digitally. It's helpful because if I'm out at, um, the orthodontist and I'm making an appointment for a month away, I'm not going to remember that by the time I get home guaranteed. But if I have my calendar right there, I can set it right there. And then it's, it's set. Um, and then we use paper calendars. We also, you know, record it. Like you said, where kids can see, everybody can see, and then like daily schedules. Those are.
00:07:11
Speaker
better for my kids on paper that they're not looking at. And I like that. I prefer that too. Like what I have to do in the day, I like to keep that like in a paper planner, that kind of thing.
00:07:22
Speaker
Yeah, I found myself really struggling with that, too, because I didn't want to pick up my phone every time I needed to see what was going on for the day. So we finally just got a chalkboard calendar just for the week in the kitchen. And so Sunday night, I'll write down everything that we have for the week. And so the kids can very easily say, what day was my worth of dollars appointment? What day was soccer practice, et cetera? I will also say that when it comes to regular things that I don't necessarily want to clutter up my calendar with, like, for example, a girl's dance rehearsal,
00:07:47
Speaker
I may or may – if it's a regular Tuesday thing, I might not always want to put it on my Tuesday calendar, but I always have an alert set. So I have calendars and then the alerts of when to leave, et cetera. And then I also have alarms in the clock app of my phone that reminds me to go pick up this kid from preschool, for example, because preschool will be on my calendar when it's time to pick the kid up.
00:08:07
Speaker
Where's mom? Who knows? I'm forgetting. So if you have something that you're perpetually late for, or you're not getting ready for in time, or you just completely drop the ball and forget, those alarms are so helpful. The only downside is when you go on vacation, your phone's going off every 30 minutes. What is happening? I'm like, this is the life I lead. Back in real life, I'd have to be going somewhere every half an hour.
00:08:30
Speaker
Oh, yeah. Yes. It is so helpful to have an audible reminder that you can hear, Hey, ding, ding, ding. Right. Because, you know, I'll look at, you know, look at the clock and I'll be like, okay, 15 minutes, but then I lose track of time, but pay attention. The timer never does. Yeah. Okay. Number two, use math.
00:08:51
Speaker
And you need to, I know, I know. You work backward. You start with a time. You need to be there or want to be there. And then you work backward from that. Okay. We need to add, well, do you add 10 minutes per kid? You know, that kind of thing. What do you do? How long does it take there? You know, put your route in on the map, that kind of thing. Yeah. Yeah. And always overestimate on the time it's going to need. So for example, our church building is
00:09:16
Speaker
quarter of a mile from our house, it's extremely close. We walk there sometimes. But when we drive, which is most of the time, it takes us less than five minutes to get there. But I estimate 15 because every time something is going to happen, right? So we never leave before
00:09:31
Speaker
a quarter to the hour if church starts on the hour because we're going to need five minutes to load up, five minutes to get there, five minutes to walk in and get settled, at the very least. So pay attention, give yourself lots of wiggle room. I know it seems, if you're the kind of person that loves to pack stuff into your day, I know it seems kind of useless. Like, oh, I'm going to, I'm going to estimate another 15 minutes. Like I like to work until the last possible second. I'm going to just put in one more load of laundry. The problem is your stress level goes through the roof when you know
00:09:59
Speaker
There's no way you can get there on time because somebody dilly-dallyed or you've lost your purse or the keys are nowhere to be found, right? A few other things to factor in are how early do you want to arrive? Like don't just think, well, I'll get there two minutes early.
00:10:12
Speaker
That's probably going to be eaten up by traffic or something. Give yourself five to 10 minutes early. Are there going to be any stops on the way? Do you have gas in the car? Is a kid going to get car sick on the way and you're going to need to pull over right back to that end? Also, another thing I noticed that's really important for me to remember are the phases that my kids are in. For example, every time I have a baby, I forget that when we're going to go somewhere, I have to stop
00:10:34
Speaker
nurse the baby, change the baby, get the baby in a car seat, and that takes a lot of time. I can't just pack up and go in five minutes. Same thing with the three-year-old who insists on putting his own shoes on. That's going to be an extra five to 10 minutes. Maybe he never knows where his shoes are. Right now, our phase is the dog, anything that's left on the floor, the dog picks up and takes out the doggy door into the backyard. So if you're missing a shoe or a sock or a book or a purse that's going to be in the backyard, you have to go on down.
00:10:59
Speaker
Or maybe your teen is going to be driving, right? We have a driver who has a permit right now, and very often he likes to drive. He's going to drive a lot slower and more cautiously. It's going to take more time. So I know it sounds like a lot, but just kind of walk yourself through. The last couple of times we were late, it was because of, right, write those things down, plan for them in the future.
00:11:17
Speaker
Yes. A couple of other considerations to remember to take in is are you going to cross a time zone line? So figure out this, this is still like mind boggling to me. We live not too far away from one. And if I'm going to an appointment in that time zone, I have to figure out how to set it on my calendar. So it shows it in my time zone and reminds me in my time zone, not their time zone.
00:11:41
Speaker
Okay and then remember you know the time changes in the spring and fall right now I mean they're talking about doing away with that but whatever for right now that we have to take into consideration the time change is there road construction on the way the nice thing about that is that
00:11:54
Speaker
It can show up like on a Google map or your Apple maps app. Now you don't have to just guess. Usually something like an accident. Well, sometimes Google maps will show that too. Like there's an accident and it's going to delay you this amount of time. Weather. Are you going to run into a storm? Are you going to drive through a storm? Is it going to be icy? All those other considerations that might add something to your time.
00:12:14
Speaker
Yeah, you know what I've found is many times I will drive someplace that's familiar to me, so I don't use Google Maps or Apple Maps. But I forget that I'm driving at 4.30 PM. And that's when all the coming home traffic is. And I'm going, oh, I should have pulled up my map, even though I know how to get there. I just need to know. Don't take that route. Don't remember that freeways I was clogged.
Family Accountability for Punctuality
00:12:34
Speaker
Okay. Number three, accountability. Someone needs to be accountable for getting there on time. If you always expect your spouse to do it and he always expects you to do it, there's going to be a problem, right? It could even be a child, right? Do you have an older child? I have an older child who really likes to get places on time. I think he just doesn't like people to look at us when they walk in places.
00:12:52
Speaker
So people will be like, let's go, let's go, look, it's time to get in the car, come on. And then very often they'll help pull some kids out into the car while you're doing the last minute things. Or maybe you're just going to leave it to your phone. You're just going to put in an alarm every single time you need to go someplace. And when the alarm goes off, you move, right? And you make sure that that's responsible, but somebody has to be accountable for that.
00:13:12
Speaker
Yes. My husband and I have the worst habit of assuming that the other person is watching the clock. And the kids were actually laughing at us the other day because they said, mom and dad, when you guys go on a trip, we're never late anywhere. Burn. It's us. You're saying it's us making you late. And they were like, well,
00:13:34
Speaker
I think we are just so conscious that we don't have mom and dad to help us, that everybody's watching. Nice save, kid. Nice save. Yeah. I'm like, uh, earn yourself some chocolate with that one or something. Okay. So I have to admit that for many years in our married life, it was generally my husband that wanted to be on time and was always getting people moving. I am becoming better though. And I think part of it is because my husband does travel a lot for work. So if we're never on time when he's gone, then, you know, we'd never be on time a lot of the time.
00:14:04
Speaker
But I have noticed just how empowering it is to show up on time. One of the first things I've noticed is that it eliminates my own stress level, right? I'm not always running up here thinking, oh my gosh, we're going to be like, oh my gosh, hurry up. I'm not yelling at kids. I'm not irritated when I can't find something. My whole stress level goes down. I tend to drive safer.
00:14:24
Speaker
right? I don't drive super safe when we are late because I tend to push the speed limit a little bit. And it just gives you more freedom in general. Like, oh, do we want to, on the way to the movie theater, do we want to stop off and get snacks someplace cheaper than the movie theater? You have time for that, right? Do you want to whatever, stop and say hi to a friend, you have time for that. Or just be a little bit more leisurely in your travel time.
00:14:42
Speaker
All right, step number four, this is planning. You've got to plan ahead. What can you do to make the exit easier ahead of time? Can you make sure, can you develop a little system where you have a diaper bag in the van and every time you get out, I say van, your vehicle, it's a van. We've got a large family for the van.
00:15:03
Speaker
you have a diaper bag in there and it's the car diaper bag and you never take from it and if you do you always restock it back when you get back home so it's ready for the next time so that you don't have to think about that okay diapers and wipes that's you know taking care of or a change of plans for the kid what if you have to leave early in the morning how about making breakfast ahead the night before um you know if you're going to church get your one thing you can do ahead of time is get your your bible cases in the van that kind of thing um so what what kind of things can you do that
00:15:33
Speaker
don't have to be done also last minute to take the pressure off that exit. Right. There's so much to be done to get a large family out the door just so that we're like dressed with shoes on, let alone all the extra things that need to happen, right? Like you're going to a potluck. Is the meal ready? Is it packaged up and can someone lift it? Is there a place to put it in the car? All the things that can come up at the last minute. Just ask yourself ahead of time what can be prepared to lessen that amount of stress.
00:16:01
Speaker
One thing I've started doing is in my calendar, I will write down what I need to bring, what people have asked of me. Even if it's just something like, I'm going to return a book to a friend at church, I will write that in my calendar so that at the last minute I'm not thinking, oh shoot. And yeah, I'll write it in my calendar and I'll stick it in the van, right? So it's there, ready to go.
00:16:20
Speaker
A few things that we do to help make things easier is we always have our shoes by the door. I say always, but the dog and the toddler. The best of our ability, we have our shoes in bins by the door, so they're always in one place. We also have socks in a bin altogether because I can't trust my kids to keep their own socks sorted in their rooms.
00:16:38
Speaker
We have diaper bag stuff in the same place all the time. Unfortunately, we can't leave wet wipes in the car because they dry out in the desert. But I was going to say, yours freeze, Audrey, because that could be cold in a little bit. Yeah, in the winter. Yeah. You don't know how many times I've wadded up a frozen wipe in my hand and held it, so I'll warm it up with some little bum music.
00:16:58
Speaker
Yeah, so that kind of thing, whether permitting, leave your wipes in the car. And then the other thing I was going to say is we very often have a bag of activities or things. So I know we're going to be driving for a little while. I'll have coloring books or something set aside in a bag. For church, I do let some of my little ones draw at church. So we'll have a bag set aside for that as well. And during the week is a great time to sharpen pencils or make sure that things are in there, taken care of, so you just have to grab it and go.
00:17:24
Speaker
Yeah. Develop systems. I have a friend, a fellow large family mom, and she is amazing at this. Having a system ready to go so that their family isn't ever late anywhere. They have everything. They never show up without something or forget something. It's really amazing. She's inspiring to me. You can put shoes out of the reach of toddlers. I always do that like I lay out my kids. My kids have clothes and they have town clothes.
00:17:55
Speaker
because there are things that they wear here on the farm that they just are not going to be wearing to town. So I lay out their clothes for, OK, we plan ahead. We need to leave this early because the kids are going to have to change to be wearing suitable clothes to go to town. And then I put the little kids' socks and shoes up out of their reach so they can see them and decide to put them on first thing when they wake up in the morning and then it's time to go and they're gone.
00:18:22
Speaker
layout closed the night before if you know you're gonna have something going the next day because you know me we moms do have everything else to do so what can you think ahead to plan ahead to and make it easier take the load off that exit time
00:18:35
Speaker
That's brilliant about the toddler shoes. Maybe I should take a clue. Start doing the same. I have a three-year-old who I think I've bought him five pairs of shoes in the last six months. Ridiculous. They just disappear. Who knows?
Preparing for Smooth Departures
00:18:49
Speaker
Okay. Tip number five, allow for some wiggle room. I kind of addressed this earlier. Just know that Murphy's Law says something will come up. Always. And if it doesn't, hooray. You guys get to sit and chat for a few minutes quietly before your event or whatever. You get to drive extra slow. I don't know. Whatever. Go the scenic route.
00:19:05
Speaker
But something will delay your exit or your arrival, right? So I personally love planning to get someplace 15 minutes early. Does it ever happen? No, it never happens. But it usually means that we get there on time. Like, for example, just this morning, I was only taking one child somewhere. We had a really important appointment.
00:19:21
Speaker
an hour and a half away and all of a sudden he couldn't find this thing that he needed for his paperwork and all of a sudden we couldn't use his car. We had to take a different car. One thing after another, the next thing we know we're there right on time because I had planned to leave like 45 minutes early because I just knew it was an important appointment and we couldn't miss it. So you'll never curse yourself for being there early, but late can cause some real problems.
00:19:43
Speaker
Yeah. You know what you say about just the ease and the good feeling that comes when you're early, or at least when you're not late. It sets the right stage for the whole event or appointment or whatever you're doing because you're just not harried.
00:19:58
Speaker
So find the sweet spot between arriving too early and arriving too late. If you're there too early, the kids are going to get bored, restless, go through all the things that you brought to keep them occupied if you arrive too early. And then there's the whole host of problems when you arrive too late because, well, we've been talking about those. So just find the sweet spot in there.
00:20:21
Speaker
Yeah, and like we mentioned before, there are gonna be lots of variables out of your control. And that's why we want there to be a lot of grace for ourselves, right? Because with so many variables, just each child is a variable that may or may not cooperate, right? There's a chance to be late, right? And so there are going to be days when we do everything in our power and it still doesn't happen. And other days when we're kind of going off half-cocked and we still make it there on time, but we can give ourselves the best chance at a stress-free trip and arrival.
00:20:47
Speaker
if we watch out for the traffic, the detours, potential car problems. Do you have a car that likes to give you issues? Be aware of that. Kid meltdowns. Mom meltdowns. I recently had a day when I was trying to get all my kids in the car and one of my kids was struggling. I went somewhere to go. I think I went to go check the car. She was looking for something and I came back and she was gone. I assumed she was hiding from me. Couldn't find her. Couldn't find her. I start melting down. Realized she'd actually gotten in the car behind me.
00:21:14
Speaker
somebody's gonna have a meltdown, prepare for it, and then give yourself the time necessary.
Maintaining Composure When Late
00:21:20
Speaker
Okay, now we have a little section for you guys, for ourselves, and it's about our mindset for if, okay, let's be real, when you're late. Like, how can you, what can you control? What can you control? Because you can't change the time that you arrived by stressing over it, by beating yourself up over it, by fretting over a late arrival.
00:21:44
Speaker
You can't control that you arrived late this time. I mean, you can put some intention in the future and not arrive late next time. Okay, so you arrived late. Now what? Okay, this is your mindset.
00:21:57
Speaker
How is it going to help if you are unable to settle in because you're upset about being so late? Like everybody else, it's just going to make everybody else not able to settle in for the event or the appointment or whatever you're doing because you were late. And so like if we can, okay, we did arrive late, but let's not compound that problem by having this horrible attitude and parenting style and
00:22:27
Speaker
whatever you want to call it, mood, once we get there. So work on your mindset. You can't control that you were late, but you can control your mindset now that you are there arriving late.
00:22:40
Speaker
Yeah, and this is a struggle for me because I very often can see in retrospect, if I only had done this and this and this ahead of time or planned for this and this, I wouldn't be late. So there's a lot of self-blame there. But this concept reminds me of the dirty pain, clean pain idea in life coaching, right? The clean pain is,
00:22:59
Speaker
whatever we're missing out on because we're late, right? We're missing, you know, maybe we're going to miss the beginning of service or we're going to miss part of the party, whatever, and we're frustrated and upset about that. The dirty pain is all the shame and the guilt and the anger because we're resisting the fact that we're late, right? Just accept what is. Okay, we're late again. Good to know. There's going to be umpteen times that we're late again in this lifetime.
00:23:22
Speaker
Okay, here's another one. Good to know. I'm prepared for it, right? I've come up with a mantra that I like to tell myself when we're running late for things, and it is, we can get there late while calm and in one piece, or we can get there late stressed out and also probably get in an accident, right? So that really helps me calm my mind and realize we're late no matter what. Take your heavy foot off the gas.
00:23:44
Speaker
Calm down. Make sure the kids know that you're not angry and it's all going to be okay. And it also shows them, is a great example to them, to how to behave when things don't go as planned, when they are late in life. Do they then speed and yell at everybody and honk and be irritating? No, they just accept what is and they try again next time, right? I think that's a really, really powerful example to our children.
00:24:08
Speaker
Yes, that is so so good. Redding red lights are pushing those yellows. It's like putting your family in danger. Just because you're late. Come on. Yeah, I know. I know. Compounding, compounding the the error or the you know, the bad, the negativity by with more negativity. It's the downward downward spiral.
00:24:30
Speaker
And I find myself saying, I just don't even want to go. If we're going to be late, I just don't even want to go. Those thoughts are not helping the situation either. My final thoughts are do what you can ahead of time and put your calendars, put your math.
Encouragement and Closing Remarks
00:24:48
Speaker
Put it in play, put it to work for you. Make somebody else accountable maybe rather than yourself because you know that most of the burden of getting everybody out the door is probably going to be on you. So give the accountability, responsibility to an older kid or a younger kid who's just learning to tell time. And they love to always be looking at the clock and announcing the time. Or, you know, your phone who's just kind of impartial isn't mad about saying, it's three o'clock. They just say, it's three o'clock. Yeah. So hopefully some of these tips help you, help
00:25:17
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us now that we put some intentional thought into it here that we're more respectful to others about arriving on time and really honestly more respectful to ourselves and our image as a large family but also our
00:25:31
Speaker
showing up not only at the time we want to show up, but as the person who we want to show up as. Yeah, one other thing that occurred to me as we're talking about mindset is we might want to ask ourselves why we're so upset about being late. Like, what's the big deal? Why is it a problem? Now, we mentioned at the beginning a few reasons why we want to be on time, right? Respect and other things. But I found for me, it's kind of some ugly thoughts sometimes that come up. I don't want to be late because I don't want people to think badly of me. I don't want people to judge me. I want to show this.
00:26:00
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this image of how I have it all together, even with a lot of kids. And that's not really a reason I want to keep. So it's interesting what comes up when I really notice, why am I so upset right now? What is the big deal? Am I really going to miss something or am I just upset about how I'm going to be portrayed? So that can be a really fun exercise as well.
00:26:20
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Yeah, you'll find, um, so ask yourself about those times that you are successful at showing up on time, like, like the departure of a plane. Okay. Once that thing has gone, you're like, there's no arriving late to a plane because they don't hold it for you. And they still like the president or something.
00:26:38
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So ask yourself what you did at those times where it was crucial to not be late. What systems, what processes, what ideas, what thoughts did you use at those times that were crucial, like the bus was leaving and you weren't on it if you weren't there at that time. Because you will get there when it matters enough. So bring maybe some of those things or the positive parts of what you did to get there
00:26:59
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At the crucial moment you like it's a two act play in the door shut at certain time and nobody gets into act like you wanna be there cuz your kids starting in it or whatever you know you there's things that are important enough that you get there on time and use those to inform.
00:27:16
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other things that maybe don't have a bus leaving or a door closing. Yeah, absolutely. Okay, everybody. That's it for today's episode. We hope something we said helped you. And if you have ideas, do us a favor and join us on Instagram or send us an email and tell us how do you make sure that you arrive on time? Because obviously Bonnie and I are still looking for answers. We'll talk to you next week. I'm Audrey. I'm Bonnie and we're outnumbered.
00:27:43
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00:28:08
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No, the sound. Audible. So helpful to have an audible auditory. Audible. It's audible. It means you can hear it, right? But now Amazon took over with their whole book thing and I'm like, no, that's the name of their company. Still audible reminder. Audible reminder.