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How to Stop Bedwetting Permanently {Episode 248}
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Does your child struggle with bed wetting? Do you know how to stop bedwetting permanently? In this episode of Outnumbered the Podcast, Bonnie & Audrey share their tips for noctunural enurisis treatment. They share some psychological causes of bedwetting, supplements and foods to stop bedwetting, and their personal experience with bedwetting treatment for older kids. A must listen episode!
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Episode 41: Potty training episode
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Introduction and Podcast Overview
00:00:00
Speaker
You're listening to episode 248 of Outnumber the Podcast, all about bed wetting. We are going to talk specifically about older bed wetters and how to help those kids who struggle to stay dry at night despite your best efforts and how to also keep from going crazy when you're washing sheets nonstop. So let's take a look.
00:00:24
Speaker
Hello and welcome to Outnumbered the Podcast. I'm Audrey. And I'm Bonnie. We are experienced moms to a combined total of 19 children. In our weekly episodes, we explore relatable topics using our perspectives of humor and chaos. Tune in for advice and encouragement to gain more joy in your parenting journey.
Episode Focus: Bed Wetting Strategies
00:00:48
Speaker
Hello, everyone. Welcome back to an episode that is pure tactical tips of keeping life a little bit easier as a mom. And we're talking about bed wetting today. Every mom experiences this. For better or for worse, we all go through this season when kids are wetting the bed and we get to clean up the mess. Yay, our favorite. Oh, yes. Alternate title for this episode. How to wake up soaking wet even after you're potty trained. Exactly.
00:01:14
Speaker
I have to really, really train my children to, even though we have a baby who's still not potty trained, to not give her her water bottle in bed or not change her right before she goes to bed because she'll still wake up sopping wet eight hours later because they've just filled her so full of fluids. So we're going to talk about all kinds of stuff like that.
00:01:34
Speaker
I know, so crazy. I still will go to the effort of waking a kid up in the night when they're in potty training, waking up to take him to the bathroom. And I can remember this one time that I was taking my little kid to the bathroom and it was a little boy and it wasn't quite aimed in the right direction. It was dark and I ended up all wet anyway. So I was like, okay, fine. What was the point here?
Understanding Bed Wetting in Children
00:01:55
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So gross.
00:01:58
Speaker
motherhood man so fun so as we all know most moms are just thrilled when our kids become potty trained but the thrill wears off quickly when we realize oh generally they're not potty trained at night at the same time i actually out of all 10 of my kids i only had one who was potty trained at daytime and nighttime at the same time i thought he was just a miracle child i thought oh i'm just that good of a parent he was a fluke it was my first two he was a fluke oh i had one that way too day night everything and she was really young and i was like wow she must be really smart then i had
00:02:28
Speaker
eight other kids. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So bedtime wedding is super duper common. Do not think there's anything wrong with your child or anything wrong with your potty training techniques. Under age seven, bedwetting is completely normal and even over age seven, but we're going to talk about some factors that can help eliminate that in the older ages.
00:02:48
Speaker
Okay, side note, we do have an episode all about potty training kids, and that's a really good one too. And we mentioned a little bit about bed weddings, so you can go listen to that too. But today we're doing a deep dive into it. This is kind of one of our Got Kids episodes where kids with bad habits, we've talked about, oh, you know, those gross physical nose picking things that they do or interrupting or lying or the bad habits. But today is kind of more of a little bit, not a character flaw thing. It's kind of more about
00:03:15
Speaker
physical stuff and we're going to dive deep and share with you guys everything that we've learned about having kids that wet the bed because we
00:03:24
Speaker
have had this a few times. So about age seven is about when most kids outgrow it on their own. But even after that, some kids can still wet the bed. But usually by their teens, unless there's some other things going on wrong that we're going to talk about, most kids are potty trained. But around seven, they're mostly potty trained at night. You might get a little accident here or there.
00:03:47
Speaker
And some just take a little longer than most. Some are earlier, some are later. So just keep that in mind. There's nothing wrong with your kid. They're just learning. It's why it's called potty training. Yeah. And generally, who's the one being trained? Mom.
00:04:02
Speaker
Wait, wait, wait. Yeah. I know. Exactly. That's what I thought when I first heard about that method of potty training where you do it with babies. Yeah. And my friend was telling me about that. And she admitted, she's like, well, mostly it's me being trained to take the child. To acknowledge the cues and pay attention to them for sure. Yeah.
00:04:20
Speaker
So, the question is, why do some kids continue to wet? That's probably what you're wondering if you have a bed wetter who is maybe older than seven or just seems like they just keep dragging it on, right? Well, there's a couple of reasons that are of no concern at all. It just is how the kid is. One is just smaller bladders. If your kid gets potty trained really early on, two and a half or three,
00:04:39
Speaker
They're probably not going to be likely to sleep the entire night without wetting because they're very tiny, right? And they can't hold their urine all night long. Some kids are just deep sleepers. The ones that take forever to rouse in the morning are probably not going to pop their head up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom if necessary. A kid with a history of UTI, so urinary tract infections can cause that as well.
00:04:58
Speaker
and other developmental delays. So I have one neurodivergent kid who wet her bed forever because that her brain was just slower to develop in all areas. And so those are all common reasons.
00:05:11
Speaker
Right. Doesn't a kid with seizures more often with the bed because all the muscles are doing something different or am I wrong on that? Probably. That's my seizure kid too, so it makes sense. Okay.
Health Causes and Nutritional Factors
00:05:21
Speaker
Okay. So there are some less common things that can be going on, and these would be a cause for concern, like something that you would look into. But you'll have other signs than just bedwetting, but some could be like diabetes, early
00:05:36
Speaker
type 1 diabetes, serious constipation can kind of mess with the whole bladder control thing, sleep apnea, other physiological problems. And then there is also some health things that can be going on with a kid. So for example, one thing I have discovered with a couple of my late bed wetters was a magnesium deficiency. And magnesium has to be taken in combination with calcium and zinc.
00:06:00
Speaker
Like those three have to be at the perfect, um, ratios to each other in your body. So one of those gets off. Um, another thing is an amino acid imbalance. So the taking, giving them an amino acid complex, um, a potassium sodium balance can really mess with muscle control.
00:06:18
Speaker
And then vitamin A and E, these actually help normalize bladder muscle function. There are some herbs that really help if you give them to the child before 3 p.m., so parsley, plantain, oat straw, corn silk, there's more, give them before 3 p.m. And then B2 vitamins are very important. Like you can get a lot of B2 from like B pollen and there's other supplements you can give it
00:06:44
Speaker
Give them to help build that B2 and penithinic acid That's another one in the bee family a food allergy can be another thing that can be causing some bed wetting So there are some nutritional things to look at and I'm going to share you guys With you guys where I get all my nutritional information Like a bunch of it is a book called the prescription for nutritional healing and I just have this one in my mom
00:07:08
Speaker
um, health section of our, of our little library. Um, because I turned to it often to see, okay, well, what's, you know, what's going on? And I do prefer, you know, to try a vitamin thing first, because it's just vitamins. It's not going to hurt them. They're, you know, they'll pee it out. Literally. Probably all over your clean sheets. Exactly.
00:07:28
Speaker
Okay, there are other risk factors for bed wetting in older childhood as well. And one of them is family history. So if you were a late bed wetter or your husband or a sibling or a grandparent, that is more likely to happen as well. And I feel like in a family of our size, I'm sure somewhere in the family tree, there's somebody who peed their bed at age 10. And so it's probably gonna happen to one of our kids, right?
00:07:49
Speaker
In doing this research for this episode, we found out that ADHD is also a risk factor as is extra stress or anxiety in the child's life. You've probably noticed that anytime there's a major change or kind of traumatic event in a child's life, they can revert to bedwetting, which is quite common, right? You move or they change schools or a pet dies or something that is a little bit stressful and worries the kid and bedwetting can come up.
00:08:16
Speaker
Yeah, we have had that happen a big cross-country move and then suddenly you have a kid that was potty trained, not potty trained anymore. That's totally a thing. We have had two late bed wetters so far, so like up till the age of 10. And what we're going to talk about next is what to do about it. But there's a lot, like Bunny and I have a lot of experience with this because we've had kids that have wet the bed later. And all the things that you go through to kind of help the kid not only stop wetting the bed, but to
00:08:44
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like feel better about themselves as a person because they know that this is something unusual.
00:08:49
Speaker
So yeah, we've had two kids that are later bedwetters and certainly they don't, you know, we didn't do it where they peed the bed every night. We just got them the larger good night pull up things so that they could be, you know, not in a wet bed when they woke up and that kind of thing. Yeah, there's also history bedwetting in our family's history as well. I'm sure every family has it. But then like those things that I mentioned, like some of those deficiencies can also kind of run in a family as well. And so that is,
00:09:16
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Like once you clear up, say, a magnesium deficiency, what can look like hereditary can actually just be a common deficiency in a family. Like if you live in a certain area, for example, the area we live in has a selenium deficiency in the soil, and basically everybody here is selenium deficient. So it's kind of other things to keep in mind as well.
00:09:37
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Yeah, that's so interesting, right? That family history also just happens to mean that you have the same genetics for nutritional deficiencies or you live in the same area. Super interesting.
Emotional Considerations and Empathy
00:09:47
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So I'm glad you mentioned just kind of being gentle with the child. I've noticed just how traumatic it can be for a child to wet the bed, especially if they thought they were potty trained and they've had a fluke accident or kind of a regression there.
00:10:02
Speaker
So our number one tip for how to deal with it is to just be super considerate of your child, right? In my early years of motherhood, I did plenty of ranting and raving when I woke up to yet another peed bed that I had to change. But then I realized, who is this hurting? This is not hurting me nearly as much as it is them. They are the ones that are stressed out and worried and embarrassed and anxious, especially as they get older and older and older. So that's the first tip is, be really considerate of your child's feelings and their own embarrassment.
00:10:27
Speaker
Yes, that is so true because the older kids know that they, quote, shouldn't be wetting the bed and they can be very sensitive to this idea. Like it is around, you know, those later preteen years that they're just like so sensitive to not being babyish and nobody considering them babyish. But then they've got this thing going on, especially if they have a younger sibling that's in diapers, you know, they can be like, oh, me and the baby are in diapers at night, you know, that kind of thing. And it'd be so heartbreaking. So definitely I always made sure to tell my kids that we're late bed wetters,
00:10:57
Speaker
This is not your fault. We just haven't figured out exactly what's going on with you, but we know that this isn't your fault. This doesn't mean anything about you as a person. Yeah. And my late bed wetters, because all of our kids are just two years apart, they all had kids, siblings underneath them who were potty trained at night. And that was also extra embarrassing. Oh, the kid younger than me.
00:11:16
Speaker
It doesn't wet the bed, but I do. So it might take a couple of really sweet, loving talks with them to say, yeah, like you said, this isn't your fault. There's really so little that we can do about it until your body just figures it out, but we're going to do everything we can and explain to them the potential deficiencies in vitamins, help them make sure they have a good diet, all those things.
00:11:38
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And of course, because it is something that they can't cognitively control right when you're asleep, you're asleep, you can't really control whether or not you wake up or not, it can be super frustrating for them and cause some tears and some stress. I still remember, here's a TMI moment, I still remember trying to train myself to not wet the bed and having a dream that I got up to go to the bathroom and then I wet my bed.
00:12:00
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dream and it like traumatized me because I thought oh no I'm not supposed to do this you know it's just really kind of type A kid like a you know you wake up you go to the bathroom if you have to go and I was mad because I felt like my brain tricked me but just be considerate of how much stress they're already feeling even if they don't show it and be really considerate. I think every person has a dream like that at some point in their life don't you? And you know what that is another thing that we can share with our kids is
00:12:29
Speaker
Like this love and this mercy, this compassion is just like, hey, guess what? I know so-and-so struggled with this or I personally struggled with this or whatever. So that you're not alone is kind of something that is really helpful. And then discretion, like we do not talk about it in front of anybody else because it's something that's so sensitive and so tender with them.
00:12:51
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obviously have discretion. I don't know. It feels dumb even saying that, but when it does become at the forefront of your brain and of their brain, and you just got to be careful in how you handle it.
00:13:02
Speaker
Yeah, I would say especially watch out and be aware of this problem when you're sleeping in unfamiliar places. So usually you, you know, at least I try to pack appropriately when we travel or we're going to a family reunion or we're camping or something, but be aware that they're going to be extra stressed out about it too because they're in this unfamiliar place and maybe there's someone around that might
00:13:22
Speaker
notice that they're wearing a pull-up to bed or that they had to clean up their own sheets or something like that. You might also want to have a conversation with the person that is hosting you wherever you're staying. So if you're staying with friends or grandma or something, have a very private conversation with the host later on, hey, we're still dealing with this. If this becomes an issue, I will happily take the sheets and take care of them. Please just be discreet as well. That can be really helpful for the child. Yeah, we don't do sleepovers either, but usually there's like six kids
00:13:52
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piled in a bed and you don't even have to let them know which one went to bed. If it's a person or a situation where you know there's not going to be discretion, but there's a whole bunch of who knows who it was. One of them, it's fine.
Practical Tips and Solutions
00:14:07
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Okay, tip number two is be patient. Guys, this is really hard.
00:14:13
Speaker
We have to get a control on this on ourselves. They're not doing this on purpose. It's likely a combination of all the innocuous reasons that we mentioned and no cause for concern. But as a parent, as moms, that's our worry mechanism goes into overdrive. And we're like, we got to figure this out. And then we'll even start doing this dumb stuff like taking on, oh, I must be a bad parent because my kid's still bad. What's the bad? That's not helping our kids at all. Just be patient with yourself.
00:14:40
Speaker
Be patient with your kids so that you can teach them to be patient with themselves. Yes. And that reminds me that in my early motherhood years, I remember thinking, well, if I put a pull up on them, then it's like me giving in and saying, go ahead and just pee.
00:14:55
Speaker
That's not what I was doing. What I was doing when I actually prepared was making life easier on myself. For many years, I was like, well, no, they're just going to go to bed in underwear so that they can feel it when they start to pee. And then I just had to change sheets every single night. So do whatever it takes to make your job easier and also to allow them to feel comfortable. I really feel that it adds extra stress to their nighttime routine if they know they're going to be going to bed in underwear and they've had a consistent problem with wetting the bed.
00:15:19
Speaker
So get pull-ups or diapers, whatever it takes. There are also absorbent underwear and pajamas available now that are really discreet and good for those older bed wetters. Make sure you always have a mattress protector underneath the sheets or even over the sheets so that you only have to wash one thing and just don't make it a big deal so that you don't have to, you know, have all this drama when it's time to clean everything up in the morning. And we promise they will grow out of it eventually.
00:15:44
Speaker
If you do have concerns and you don't see any of these kind of innocent reasons for it and you're wondering why it's still happening, feel free to take your child to a doctor and see if they have any suggestions for you. But for the most part, they grow out of it with no lasting issues. Yeah, exactly. So that patience is key. This episode is brought to you by Project Run & Play. Do you enjoy sewing or do you want to learn how? Project Run & Play is the place to go for sewing inspiration, tutorials, ideas, and fun.
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00:16:57
Speaker
Okay, so now we're going to talk about some tactical tips, what you can actually do to kind of set them up for success. Not going to work every time. I mean, we've been talking a lot about pull-ups or those, you know, those larger good night diapers. Just, just set them up for success with those too.
00:17:12
Speaker
Um, and then like you can congratulate them and have a good reward or something when they do wake up in the morning and they're dry. Um, but you ha with the pull up is dry or the good night diapers dry, but you haven't, you know, gone through the whole wet sheet thing again. Okay. So here's an obvious one.
00:17:30
Speaker
limit liquids later in the day or after supper, or there's also diuretics, so things that create more urine. For example, caffeine is a major diuretic. You're thinking, I'm not giving you my kid caffeine, but what about like chocolate that's got a little caffeine in it, right? And then limiting fluids after dinner can help a lot. The thing you have to
00:17:51
Speaker
know about this is that you have to do it in such a way that if they're younger, they don't realize that you're limiting their fluids. Because if you start limiting fluids and you're like, no, you can't have a drink, then they're going to be able to think about drinks. And that's all. The only thing in their world will be water at that point, which you are not letting them have.
00:18:11
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That is so true. Have you ever tried to do that when I'm pregnant? I'm like, no, no drinking after six o'clock. And then it's like, I'm walking through the Sahara, right? I'm so thirsty. I'm going to die, right? Right. Be just kind of secretive about it. You know, just, just hide the sippy cup. Give them a little sip before bed, but don't give them a full cup of water, right?
00:18:29
Speaker
Right. And don't give them a bunch of salty popcorn or something that's going to make them want, and sugar, when my kids have sugar, they get extra thirsty too in the evening. That's a good point. Yeah. Note these little things. Right. If you want to have dessert or something, try it earlier in the afternoon so that they can drink it and then have dinner and be ready for bed.
00:18:45
Speaker
Oh, I love that you mentioned, you know, encouraging them to have a dry pull-up or diaper, whatever they're wearing. My older bedwetters have just promised me the moon sky and stars. Oh, just I don't need a pull-up tonight. I'll be fine. I'll be fine. But we just always say, okay, give me three nights of dry pull-up and then we'll try again, right? So that we don't always have to be cleaning the mess. That's a good tip. And then of course, have the child use the bathroom right before bed. I know this is common sense, but how many times have I gone to bed, woke it up in the morning and thought,
00:19:13
Speaker
Did I even make sure that they went to the bathroom? No, I didn't, especially the older kids. I'm not asking my eight or nine year old when they went to the bathroom last. I just assume they go brush teeth, go to the bathroom. But that's kind of a higher order thinking, right? Especially if you don't have to go. If the child's like, oh no, I don't have to go. Just try, sit there, see what comes out, and you will be that much more prepared to go to sleep all night long and not get interrupted.
00:19:34
Speaker
Yeah, totally. Make it part of your bedtime routine. So when everybody's in bed and you go to that child before you read them a story or rub their back or whatever they like, have them go to the bathroom one last time. And if they feel like they can't go, just turn on the tap a little bit and have the sound of running water. That almost always elicits a little more. But remember, we're talking about older kids here, because younger kids is just basically a size of their bladder thing.
00:20:02
Speaker
Okay, here's another tip. Try keeping a calendar of when the child wets the bed and then start problem solving from there. Was it an unusual or a stressful occurrence on that day? Is there maybe you're noticing other signs of a food allergy? So start tracking if bedwetting is tied with food allergy things. Think about what they ate that day that they have a lot of extra sugar. Was there a bunch of carbs? Try those things to see if you can
00:20:29
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problem solve a little bit and keep a calendar. Yeah. And then if you, if you can see patterns, even if they're things that you can't eliminate, like maybe it's every time they go back to school on Monday or something, you can at least be a little more prepared that day. That's the day they wear the pull up because that's the day that usually happens. It is so interesting to me whenever I keep track of things, really anything that my kid is struggling with, how often there is a pattern to it. And I don't, I don't think our brains and bodies, um, do things randomly, you know, there's always a reason obviously. So that's a great tip.
00:20:58
Speaker
Yeah, especially those of us with a lot of kids. It's hard to track which kid did what, and so it's just helpful to everybody. Right, and in your mind, you might be thinking, gosh, he's wetting the bed all the time. Then you look at the calendar and realize, oh, it's actually only been about once a quarter. That's doable. We can deal with that, right?
00:21:13
Speaker
Another tip is to work on getting your child on a super regular and predictable sleep schedule and routine. So that looks like starting to get ready for bed every night at the same time, going through the same habits, right? First it's pajamas, then it's brushed heath, then it's go to the bathroom, then it's a story, whatever you want to do.
00:21:29
Speaker
ensure there are no screens before bed, other regular habits that are going to make their sleep a lot better, make sure they have a quiet, comfortable, and dark sleep atmosphere. So in our research, what we learned was just that the better the quality of sleep, the more likely they are to not wet the bed, which is interesting. I would have thought that if you have great quality sleep, you sleep deeper, and maybe you'd be more likely to wet, but that's not what the research says. Research says good pre-bedtime routines and good sleep environment means that they're less likely to wet.
00:21:58
Speaker
Okay. Here's another tip. If you guys are going to try some of those things that I suggested above, like some of those, um, herbs or minerals or vitamins, just try one at a time. Me, I kind of, I kind of tend to be like, okay, we're going to throw in like five new things. And then I never know which one it was that worked. And so I have to keep doing all five things.
00:22:17
Speaker
Yeah, that's another great thing to put on your calendar, right? Like, okay, we added in B2 this week and we did that all week long and we didn't see any improvement. Next week we're going to add in something else, right? Right, exactly. And then
Tools and Patience for Parents
00:22:29
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another thing is there are mechanical things that are out there. Some I'm pretty sure are scams, but some are real and they might work for your kids.
00:22:39
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the little alarm that'll shake the bed whenever they sense moisture like that's that's kind of training the kid to wake up so there's more things like that that are out there that are actually made because bedwetting isn't
00:22:50
Speaker
Like we said, it's not an unusual thing. It's a thing. People want the beds. Okay, so guys, this is one of those parenting things that you just have to let go of a lot of the things that are gonna cause stress and make the situation worse. So your frustration, your impatience, your feelings of inadequacy. Because remember, your kid is struggling with all those. And this situation is really about them.
00:23:18
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And not about you. And so figure out what annoys you the most about it. Having to do extra laundry will then make sure they're wearing a pull up and you don't have to do the extra laundry thing, right? Um, just having a kid that's not potty trained.
00:23:32
Speaker
That's, you know, eight or nine or 10. Well, is that a pride thing? Maybe that's something that you could work on. So all these other things, like what can you do to remove yourself from the equation or at least the negative things that are causing the situation to be worse that are coming from yourself? Guys, I'm talking from experience here. I'm not like preaching at you. I'm saying like, you've got to figure out what it is in yourself that's making the situation harder. And then, um, then you can be a help to your kid. Like you can start getting into solution space. Okay. Let's try.
00:24:01
Speaker
I'll link the supplement that I actually specifically used with my kids. Actually, you'll know almost right away if it is, say, a magnesium deficiency. I started my kids on Kalmex zinc supplement, and within three days, there was no bed wetting ever again. It sounds dramatic, but it really is. A deficiency is kind of easy to
00:24:24
Speaker
clear up and fix the solution. So, um, you can get into solution space once you remove all of your negative thoughts and your negative energy and your negative self from the equation. And this is something you can overcome. Just remember it's one of those parenting things that your kid's not going to be doing forever. And if, if they are, they'll move out and manage it themselves. I mean, there's a, there's a nature where they're going to take over.
00:24:48
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them themselves. But you know, let's how one thing I always think about is like, how are my kids that are later bed wetters going to look back on how I handled it as a mom, how I made them feel, because that's really what kids remember the most. It's what I remember the most about my childhood is how I was made to feel. And so my goal once I kind of figured out that I was
00:25:10
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not helping my kid feel better when they were already in a situation feeling bad, was just to help my kids be empowered and feel better through a whole situation that was just not ideal. Yes, such great tips. And you know, I find that the vast majority of my suffering in life, especially in parenting,
00:25:28
Speaker
comes from when I wish things were different than reality, when I can't accept reality. And the reality is you might have a child who wets the bed until they're 10 or 11. You might have a child who wets the bed every single night and drives you crazy. If you can just embrace it, like sometimes I just tell myself, what if this was just going to happen forever? What if I knew my kid had a special need and he was never going to be potty trained at night?
00:25:48
Speaker
where would we go from here and to just confidently head in that direction and then when he does get potty trained which most of them do eventually unless there's serious serious issues then oh pleasant surprise look we don't have to deal with that anymore right but just constantly going oh i wish i wish and we actually don't deal with a lot of nighttime bed wetting anymore because um i don't know my younger kids haven't had that problem but when it does come up i noticed how frustrated i get because it's been a while since i've dealt with it so
00:26:15
Speaker
Just acknowledge that all the suffering in the world comes from resisting reality. This is your reality. Just confidently move forward and everything's going to be fine.
00:26:24
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My final
Managing Sleep Disruption
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tip is to make sure that you minimize disruption to their sleep if they do wake up wet. So very often your kid will wake up in the middle of the night, come say, oh, I wet my bed and they're crying and they're upset. Help them change quickly and put them to bed somewhere else. That's my best tip. Do not shower them. Do not strip the bed. It's just better for everybody. I mean, if they're sopping wet and they can't be in peace, okay, you might have to throw them in the shower. But in my experience, the little,
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the least amount of disruption you can do to both of your sleep schedules, the better it's going to be in the next day and everybody can deal with it in the morning. Yeah, that is such a good tip. It's just going to be usually a couple hours until morning and they'll get cleaned up. They're not going to get a rash from a couple hours of
00:27:07
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Finishing the night. So yeah good thoughts. Okay friends. We hope
Closing Remarks and Community Support
00:27:11
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this was helpful for you You are not alone so many kids deal with this reach out to us on Instagram if you have any other questions or want more tips and Good luck with those bedwaters. We'll talk to you next week. I'm Bonnie. I'm Audrey and we're outnumbered Thanks for listening friends click the link in the show notes to subscribe to our email and never miss another episode Show us some love by leaving a review on iTunes or sharing the podcast with a friend. Thanks for all your support We'll talk to you next week
00:27:41
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Have you heard of pjamas? Have you seen those ads? I have not. But Google is listening and probably going to send me all the pjamas. They're really cool. They're just super duper absorbent pajamas. Yeah. Even though I don't have a bed wetter right now. But you're going to get them all now. Yeah.