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Evolve or go Extinct
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Introduction and Discomfort on Camera
00:00:01
Wes MacMillan
What's going on everybody? Today's video is called Evolve or Go Extinct. And I'm not really comfortable on video yet. I don't really like looking at myself while doing this, but gotta get used to it.
Moral Dilemmas: Doing the Wrong Thing
00:00:19
Wes MacMillan
um So yeah, evolve or go extinct. I think just about the worst thing that you can do in life is knowingly do the wrong thing.
00:00:33
Wes MacMillan
And maybe like an example of that would be like, you know, you shouldn't say something mean, but you do it anyway. Because when you do this, you tend to just learn the same lesson over and over again. And then you're not growing.
00:00:56
Wes MacMillan
Because you really can't even learn unless you like change how you act. Like say you say something mean to your friend out of anger and then she gets really sad and she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. The next time say you make a new friend and then you get angry at her and you go to say something mean.
Choices and Growth Opportunities
00:01:20
Wes MacMillan
That choice that moment where you have the choice to repeat the same old behavior or change is pivotal, crucial.
00:01:35
Wes MacMillan
Because if you keep learning this, if you keep making the same mistakes, you do not grow.
00:01:44
Wes MacMillan
But if you have the potential to change, like keep growing as a person, if you change your behavior. So say the next time you get a friend, you get angry, you're tempted to say something mean, but you're like, hey, I don't want to lose this person as a friend. So you don't say it.
00:02:02
Wes MacMillan
And you'll probably be glad that you did, did not say it because every, like, you know, you shouldn't say everything you think when you're angry. At least I know I shouldn't. I got some egregious thoughts up there, but I don't say them. And after like not saying them for awhile, I have less of those egregious thoughts.
Regrets and Relationship Impacts
00:02:28
Wes MacMillan
because sometimes when I get angry, like I'm just trying to hurt your, like I get defensive and I'm just trying to hurt your feelings. And I've done that and it's like, either I say something that doesn't hurt their feelings and I'm like disappointed or I do. And I've landed a couple of those like real like cut throat insults. And it's one of the worst feelings I've ever had.
00:03:01
Wes MacMillan
Like when someone makes me mad or really hurts my feelings, my instinct is to... Like I'm thinking of like, what can I say that will really hurt them? And for a while, for a long time, I said the worst thing I could think of. And most of the time I didn't really hit a nerve, but...
00:03:28
Wes MacMillan
And this is like people I care about, like my friends and my family, they'd make me angry or hurt my feelings. And I would say the worst thing that I could think of to them. And the first time where I like really did it, I hit their nerve, something they were really like insecure about. I saw the look on your face and I felt like the biggest piece of bleep in the world. I hated myself in that moment.
00:03:59
Wes MacMillan
But here's the difference, after I learned that after like a couple times of like just seeing the joy run away from someone's face and just feeling them just like I made that person sad. Like that's not what I wanted. I was hurt, hurt people hurt people.
Breaking the Cycle of Hurt
00:04:19
Wes MacMillan
And I don't know if y'all are ready for this yet, but hurt people, hurt people, hurt people, hurt people, hurt people. And it goes on forever. Generational trauma type bleep. I'm trying not to swear. It's my new year's resolution and it's not the new year yet, but hey, can't hurt to get started early, you know? But so after a couple of times of me saying things to people that really like hurt their feelings, what I thought I wanted,
00:04:51
Wes MacMillan
And every time I got hurt, and it took a couple of times for me to learn it, so it's not like you have one opportunity. You keep learning the same lesson until you actually learn and do something different.
00:05:07
Wes MacMillan
So after I landed a couple of those knockout punches, cutthroat insults,
00:05:17
Wes MacMillan
The next time I was tempted to, the next time someone made me angry and I was tempted to say one of those things, I would shut my mouth and I'd walk away.
00:05:31
Wes MacMillan
And it's hard to do that. It's real hard. I still to this hate, I hate to this day doing it. Like so I'll be at a bar. I was at a bar and a guy like caught me on cut me in line.
00:05:44
Wes MacMillan
And then he was like, what are you going to do about it? I'm like, dude, I'm not going to fight you because you cut me in line. I'm not 10 years old, but like. It sucks when someone else is like, it sucks being the bigger person, but your boy is real big. No, but I, it sucks taking the high road. It sucks being the bigger person, but you're better off for it. Like so people would say.
00:06:11
Wes MacMillan
say bad things to me. And once I'd like, I stooped, I would stoop down to their level and try to insult them. Like they're just dragging me down. But if you walk away, it's not easy. If it was easy, everyone would do it. But if you walk away and don't let them like bring you down, you win. there They got some negative energy going on.
00:06:38
Wes MacMillan
And if you walk away and just don't even let it faze you, I promise you'll be better off for it.
00:06:51
Wes MacMillan
And this brings me like, it's the same topic, but we're going to pivot or proceed. I don't know. So we learned that lesson.
Exploring Taboo Topics
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Wes MacMillan
Since we learned that lesson and we changed our behavior, we can move forward. And the next thing.
00:07:12
Wes MacMillan
The next thing is like the concept of taboo. This has been on my mind for a couple weeks. So I had to rip out the mic and let them know. Taboo definition of taboo. I'm not going to look it up. um Is like things that you shouldn't talk about. And. I really want to swear right now, but I won't take in the high road.
00:07:39
Wes MacMillan
uh i really don't agree with that concept of taboo i don't think there should really be anything that you shouldn't talk about because the reason taboo and i'm i don't know i'm quoting it when the reason taboo exists is because of Like we, so here's what happened. I don't even know what happened, but this is what I think happened. There was a dinner party and everyone was having like a respectful discussion about something taboo, like politics.
00:08:14
Wes MacMillan
And Jim was like, Hey, I, I think we should lower taxes. And then Beth was like, well, I think we should raise them to take care of the people who don't have any money.
00:08:27
Wes MacMillan
And then there they were like, hey, I don't agree with you, but I respect your opinion. Now let's get back to the party. and And then there was this guy named Jeff. And Jeff walks up, he's like, nah, like Beth, you an idiot for that. like How could you even think that? like I don't even want to like be around you. And Jeff's the problem. The problem wasn't talking about politics. The problem was Jeff.
00:08:58
Wes MacMillan
And so someone else at that party, I don't want to give them a name because it would just get too confusing, was like, hey, maybe we just shouldn't talk about politics. And not it's like, nah, maybe Jeff shouldn't get aggressive. And maybe Jeff should be able to talk to people without agreeing. And that like that's OK.
00:09:24
Wes MacMillan
Cause the world now it's like Republicans watch Fox and liberals watch CNN and you just are rewatching the same recycled, the the opinion you already had.
Open-mindedness and Discussions
00:09:38
Wes MacMillan
And that's not it good. Like what? Like if I already know what I think about birds, like I'm not just going to go rewatch everything.
00:09:51
Wes MacMillan
that taught me what I already know about birds. Like I'm gonna check out the new bird documentary, see if it like shakes my worldview, makes me, like it's awesome when for me, it's awesome when like I changed my mind. I'm like, and I never thought about it like that. And that's the problem with Jeff. He can't like, you gotta to be open minded. And you also gotta be like, hey, it's okay to disagree. I'm not saying that you need to talk about politics at a party.
00:10:23
Wes MacMillan
Like, you really shouldn't probably. Well, I don't know. Like if you and your bro are just like, your new bro you just met are on the side and you were like getting deep talking life, then why not? But it's like, if you're in a like multi-person conversation at a party, probably don't bring up, paul I don't know. I don't know. See, it is complicated.
00:10:47
Wes MacMillan
But like you're at ah essentially it's like you're at a party to have fun, have a good time. You don't need to talk about politics and religion. But then when do you talk about them? There's never really a great time to talk about them these days because everyone's so sensitive and doesn't know how to talk to someone who disagrees. Everyone's so like close minded. That's the problem.
00:11:15
Wes MacMillan
Like there's, I know a lot of people where it's like, they, they say they hate everyone on the like other side. Like I know some liberals that hate Republicans. I know Republicans that hate Democrats and think they both, both of those people I know, like think the other sides are like dumb. And it's like, no, they just, they have different experiences and they've, they think about things differently. And I.
00:11:44
Wes MacMillan
I've talked to people like my, I don't know, I grew up in a, my parents had a certain political affiliation and I was pretty like diehard. I wasn't diehard. I never really cared too much about politics when I was younger, but I was like, I rock with this too. And it's like, yeah, cause the people like that's like,
00:12:07
Wes MacMillan
because my monkey see monkey do, you know what I mean? Like, I learned everything I know from my parents who are a certain political party. So yeah, I'm going to be that political party. But then the first time I talked to someone from the opposing political party, I was like, you're probably wrong, but like, I'll hear you out. And say if it's like our issue on like,
00:12:35
Wes MacMillan
guns, like liberals don't like guns because of school shootings, but like one Republican point of view might be like someone broke into my home and shot my grandpa and my dog and my dog's friend.
00:12:54
Wes MacMillan
So yeah, I'm gonna want a gun for the next time that happens so I can save the lives of those I care about. And then I'll be like, I, the liberal might be like, man, I never thought about it like that. And even if someone doesn't change your mind, like agree to disagree. And if it's getting to the point where it's like, no one's mind, it seems like no one's going to change their mind and just get back to talking about other stuff, easier things to talk about where people aren't so in like disagreement. And my other,
00:13:33
Wes MacMillan
I don't know what to call it. My other thing that's related, it's like I talk to some people and it seems like they don't want to talk. ah Like i ah I'm always, for the most part, I'm usually getting deep, getting down. I'm deep, da like I'm talking big life, like life stuff, like not me.
00:14:00
Wes MacMillan
I'm talking about big things like, I don't know, I talk about like, religion, society, politics, I don't really, I kind of shy away from politics because everyone's like, we got to learn how to communicate again. And some people don't want to communicate because they don't want to like, hear something or realize it. This is my perception. I feel like some people don't want to talk because when they're talking,
00:14:30
Wes MacMillan
they're like, in their mind, they're like, I don't want to say anything that disagrees with the choices I've already made.
00:14:40
Wes MacMillan
Because they don't want to like, like, I can, you could logically bring me to a point, but it's like, if I don't want to change anything about my life, then I'm gonna be like, hey, let's agree to disagree. And I'll be like, I'm in but
00:15:03
Wes MacMillan
You know what I'm trying to say? I'll talk to someone who hates their job, and I'm like, it's so important to like be passionate about your job. And they're like, yeah, but you got to make money. And I'm like, well, yeah, but it's harder. But you could find something that like you're passionate about and makes money. And they're like, let's agree to disagree.
00:15:35
Wes MacMillan
And it's like, that's fine with me. I'm, you can, you can do whatever you want. I only control me. I'm not trying to, I don't really, I'm not worried about what you think, but I like to talk. I like to have conversations and I like to like talk about this stuff. Cause I like when someone says something that like changes my mind.
00:16:03
Wes MacMillan
Like I was, I was doing a podcast with my boy, Adam. And I think he said, he said something that I'd never heard before. And I live for that stuff. And he said something like fear is the most selfish emotion. And I was like, oh, stank face immediately. Ah, but like I live for that.
00:16:33
Wes MacMillan
I don't know if that's the reason I live, but like I love that. I love seeing things from a new way because it gives me like a better understanding.
Embracing Change as a Constant
00:16:42
Wes MacMillan
And I walked in my brother's room the other day. I see this. I don't know if you can read or it'll be backwards, but I'll read it. I'm pretty good at reading. Says meet success like a gentleman, disaster like a man. And I've never heard, but I saw that and I was like, stank, stank face.
00:17:04
Wes MacMillan
Oh, what is that?
00:17:10
Wes MacMillan
I love that. Like immediately I was like, because i I'm like, my head is full of like mantras and sayings, like easy conversations. You can have easy conversations in a hard life or hard conversations in an easy life. And every time, like the first time I heard that, I was like, damn,
00:17:30
Wes MacMillan
Damn, let's say damn is not a swear for this episode. But I was like, oh, stank face. Because I was like, that's so true. And I've never heard that before. And I love that because and like, life's about new things, like evolve or go extinct. Like, I'm not trying to talk about what I already know. I'm trying to learn new stuff because new stuff. Here's a kicker.
00:17:57
Wes MacMillan
new stuff can either ummar new new stuff also known as like change new things are like change like synonyms cinnabuns but you can when something new happens you have the opportunity nah nah nah you have the choice to be like you excited or scared and here's the difference
00:18:29
Wes MacMillan
say like you were younger and it's like so oh did you hear so-and-so joined our friend group and you can be like ah from what I know about so-and-so I don't like them at all or you could be like new no example new example the old ones tapped cooked we're done with that one say like
00:18:56
Wes MacMillan
Say someone's moving, say someone new is moving in next door. You could be like, what if they're a murderer trying to kill me? That's fear. And now I'm gonna do excited.
00:19:14
Wes MacMillan
What if we become best friends? Two equally valid dots. two equally valid dots. Nah, nah, maybe two equally valid questions. But one of them provokes fear and one of them provokes excitement.
00:19:43
Wes MacMillan
I mean, like someone's moving in next door, you could say, Oh my God, what if they kill me? Or you could say like, what if we go to the water park together and it's awesome. It's your choice. And it's mindfulness is tricky. Thoughts are kind of your choice, but it takes a long time to adapt. We'll get more into that later. But like, here's a saying I love the first time I heard it. I was like, oh, stick face. The only constant in life is change.
00:20:18
Wes MacMillan
oh Stank face. The only constant in life is change. Like humans always want to like cling on and get everything figured out. And then something new pops up and you're like, ah, I thought I had everything figured out. But the only constant in life, the only thing that stays the same is that things are always changing. Nothing is permanent.
00:20:47
Wes MacMillan
So when new things come along, yeah, you can be like, Oh, I was, I was doing good. I had everything figured out. Or you could see it and be like, what if this makes my life even better? Two equally valid points of view. Okay. It'll get, they get you in two completely different ways about thinking about change.
00:21:15
Wes MacMillan
And that's, I think one of society.
Societal Changes and Acceptance
00:21:18
Wes MacMillan
Yeah. I talk, I don't know why I like talking about society. I'm like a big picture guy, but like that's one of society's like biggest problems. Like it used to be like.
00:21:31
Wes MacMillan
Women had little to no rights. They couldn't vote. I want to make a joke about it, but I won't because this is serious. but And then one woman was like, hey, we should be able to vote. And all the men were like, kidding me, kidding me. Hey, why don't you go cook my hand? Kidding me. But then another woman was like, nah, she's right. We should be able to vote. And then one husband, one man was like, hey,
00:22:02
Wes MacMillan
Why shouldn't they be able to vote? And now it's not even in question, at least in America, sort of. But like we've came, women's rights have come so far. But like when they first, and it's the same thing with like gay people, the first dude was like, hey, I like other men. And o society did not like that one.
00:22:32
Wes MacMillan
oh
00:22:39
Wes MacMillan
But then another dude was like, Hey, I like men too. And then everyone else was like, Oh, hell no. But now like, we're so much more accepting of gay people, which I support, by the way, I want to be clear on that. But what if like, and I think the reason Like it's what I was just talking about. It's because when something new comes along, you're like, nah, we got that. I had everything all figured out. What's this new thing? And we get very angry and we can be very, very hateful. But what if like, what if the first time a guy was like, and I'm i'm not saying, you know what I'm saying. What if the first time a guy was like, Hey, I like other men. We were like, hell yeah, man.
00:23:32
Wes MacMillan
Like I've never heard of that before, but like, what do you mean? Well, I know what you mean, but like, I never heard of that. Can you, let's talk more about that. I want to know where you're coming from instead of like throwing them in jail and beating them up.
00:23:53
Wes MacMillan
And to play devil's advocate.
00:24:01
Wes MacMillan
there are like some like new things that could be seen as bad are some and that's where I'm going to go next good and bad but say say like a known criminal is moving next door it might not be the best thing to just think like, Hey, what if that guy's my best friend?
00:24:40
Wes MacMillan
And that's where it's kind of like a plan. It's kind of like plan for the worst hope for the best, but it's a little different. My I would rather say like,
00:24:55
Wes MacMillan
Do everything that's in your control and have faith that the rest will work out. And that way you're golden. You're golden Caulfield.
00:25:07
Wes MacMillan
Um, cause yeah, what if a known criminal moves next door and then you're like, Hey, what if he's my best friend? And then that night he comes to your door and he kills everyone, your family, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang.
00:25:26
Wes MacMillan
not great. But if you're a little concerned, then like maybe get I don't know, find some way to protect yourself. Like get a get an alarm system or get a guard dog or get a some to protect yourself with. But don't be like some new neighbors are known criminal.
00:25:57
Wes MacMillan
like what if they were wrongfully convicted and maybe like what if what if they did it but like they now they know it's wrong and they changed like just because they did one thing wrong no one should ever like talk to them or hear them out or be friends with them again sounds a lot like cancel culture which I really also don't agree with but like
00:26:27
Wes MacMillan
No, like people make mistakes. That's what makes us human. We're not robots.
00:26:36
Wes MacMillan
And like today, I'm getting like, I don't really like talking about society, but I guess that's what we're doing. Like, I don't like cancel culture, like,
00:26:52
Wes MacMillan
oh this celebrity said this one awful thing they should not be famous anymore like like they shouldn't no one should ever watch or listen to anything they have to say ever again like what what like what if that like if you're if your mom says one thing that you don't like do you cut her off forever no and ideally like you say hey
00:27:24
Wes MacMillan
Like the baby is a good example. He said something horrendous about, I don't know, something about the LGBT community. And it was, I don't remember what it was exactly, but it was bad. It was real bad.
00:27:41
Wes MacMillan
And everyone was like, no more DaBaby. No one listened to his music ever again. Like Lil Baby, not Lil Baby. DaBaby, he said something bad. But he also like he apologized to the LGBTQ community. Like, it doesn't
00:28:01
Wes MacMillan
one One mistake doesn't mean someone's a bad person forever. Like everyone makes mistakes. By that logic, we'd all be bad people forever. No.
00:28:16
Wes MacMillan
It's the same thing if a known criminal is moving next door.
Life's Transience and Living Fully
00:28:23
Wes MacMillan
Make up your own mind. That's another thing. Make up your own mind.
00:28:32
Wes MacMillan
what if you're like hey okay I'll i'll talk to them but like I don't know they're a known criminal and then Betsy from next door was like ah no he's he's I tried to be open-minded but he's a bad guy you might be like I had my feelings Betsy thank you for saving me that conversation and I could have been in danger but you're you're always in danger
00:28:58
Wes MacMillan
in some way or another like I'm in my house right now what if my house collapse collapse duh I can't like really I'm not gonna like prepare for that I don't think that's gonna happen like you're always in danger in some way or another like every time you're in the car any other car could crash into you and you're gone like that
00:29:27
Wes MacMillan
Because life, life is temporary. Everything in life is temporary. Nothing is permanent. The only constant in life is change. You're alive, then you're not. And you don't know when that's going to happen. And that's real scary, but nothing you can really do about that. Are you going to live scared?
00:29:50
Wes MacMillan
Are you going to live life? o and Is that a West original quote that got the stank face? That got the stank face. Are you going to live scared or are you going to live life?
00:30:07
Wes MacMillan
Cause like you could be scared of anything.
00:30:19
Wes MacMillan
I feel like I, so let's get back. Betsy's like, he's a bad guy. You're like, thanks for telling me, Betsy. Now I have more information, but I'm gonna go talk to him. And then you go talk to him and he's a great guy. He's like, yeah.
00:30:37
Wes MacMillan
20, 10 years ago, I robbed a store because I needed money because my family didn't have any food. And I know that was wrong, but I'm trying to, I'm trying to be better.
00:30:53
Wes MacMillan
What do you say, neighbor? And me and would be like, shake that hand. I'm like, hell yeah, man. People change. People change. People change. Like.
00:31:12
Wes MacMillan
people change, like one mistake, I'm not gonna like rule you out forever. I started everything's connected, man. But one time i I think I already talked about this on another episode, but my friend in middle school was like, I don't want to hang out. And I was like, well, I don't want to the kind of friend that doesn't want to hang out with me.
00:31:34
Wes MacMillan
And I cut him off. No more that friend. and i meant And I realized how stupid that was. And the truth was he didn't want to not hang out ever. He didn't want to hang out right now. And that's fine. Like I can have friends that don't want to hang out with me all the time. I don't even really want friends that want to hang out with me all the time.
00:31:56
Wes MacMillan
But. I know I'm all over the place, but make up your own mind.
00:32:06
Wes MacMillan
and when something new happens don't like assume the worst you can plan for the worst if you want but like hope for the best because you you'll miss out on a lot if you're always assuming the worst like say oh he's a known criminal even betsy said so i'm never gonna talk to them and i'm gonna like every time you walk outside you're like scared you're going fast to get the mail because you don't want your neighbor to smoke you with that choppa. And then there's another timeline where you're like, hey, they're a known criminal, even Betsy said so, but I'm gonna go up and you talk to them. And they either they weren't, they were wrongfully convicted, or they knew what they were did, what was wrong, and they're trying to change.
00:33:03
Wes MacMillan
And like a quote I love is,
00:33:07
Wes MacMillan
If you're breathing, it's not too late. Stank face. And that like, and that's, that's not a fact. That's what I believe. Like if someone's trying to be a better person, I'm a, I'm gonna give them the benefit of the doubt.
00:33:28
Wes MacMillan
Because one mistake doesn't make you a bad person forever.
00:33:38
Wes MacMillan
But like, you gotta give people a couple chances. What happened at three strikes, you're out.
00:33:49
Wes MacMillan
Like, say your friend does something you really don't like, and you're like, hey man, I didn't really like that. And they're like, okay, I will never do it again. And then the next week they do, and they're like, I'm sorry man, it'll never happen again.
00:34:02
Wes MacMillan
You shouldn't, you should be aware that that's been twice now. And you're like, all right. And you should tell them like, but if you do this again, like I'm not going to be your friend anymore. Next week, bang, they do it again. Like at that point, it you gotta, you are at that point, you are, what's the word? You're enabling them. You're enabling them.
00:34:32
Wes MacMillan
But I think I'm going to tie it back to what I first started talking about. It's like evolve or go extinct.
00:34:46
Wes MacMillan
Like if you don't learn your lesson and you keep making the same mistake over and over again, you're just going to get sour about life and then die. And you're going to die anyway.
00:35:01
Wes MacMillan
But what if instead you learned you're like, sometimes things happen that you don't want to happen. But if you learn your lesson, you grow and that that's an amazing feeling. You can be proud. You should be proud of yourself when you grow and you can move on to bigger and better things and you keep like leveling up.
00:35:21
Wes MacMillan
And then one day you get smoked with a choppa or you get hit by a car or you die of old age if that's even a thing. Can you really die of old age? What age? Yeah, it has to be some form of like disease, I think, but nothing in life is guaranteed except death.
00:35:51
Wes MacMillan
and taxes they say but like you can either level up or you can say oh that's taboo I don't want to talk about that and you can stay in your little box and keep learning the same lesson and get all sour about life and then you die and you're that that doesn't really sound like a great life to me but it's like ah bad thing happened to me I overcame it bad thing happened to me I overcame it bad thing happened to me I overcame it that's the story of a hero do you want to be a hero or a zero do you want to be a hero like D Rose do you want we could be heroes like D Rose
00:36:45
Wes MacMillan
He's a basketball player for any of you you that don't know. Or do you want to be a zero? her That was kind of random, but let me tie it all together. Let me cook.
00:36:57
Wes MacMillan
D Rose was one of, he was I think pretty much the best basketball player in the NBA at a young age. Very young age. I think he like beat the cat. He had one shot like beating the Cavaliers with LeBron James in the playoffs. Like he was him. but Maybe you guys don't know basketball.
00:37:18
Wes MacMillan
i
00:37:20
Wes MacMillan
He was the best player in the NBA, which is very hard to do. And then he had a knee injury and he tore his ACL, I think.
00:37:32
Wes MacMillan
And he was never the same, but, but he worked as hard as he can. He could, he fought back to the NBA.
00:37:45
Wes MacMillan
and he dropped like 60 in a game and he was crying and the stadium was going crazy and that's just about the best thing you can do in life bounce back that's an overplayed song by Big Sean but that's really what it's all about like things you don't want to happen are going to happen what are you gonna do now?
00:38:15
Wes MacMillan
Are you going to pout? Are you going to quit? Or are you going to work harder than you've ever worked and overcome what happened to you?
Reactions Over Events
00:38:38
Wes MacMillan
Life is 10% what happens to you. and 90% how you react to it. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. And you don't even control what happens to you. So your whole life is pretty much how you react to things. Which is like that moment where you're angry and you could say the worst thing you can think of
00:39:15
Wes MacMillan
and try to hurt that person's feelings, or you can you can learn your lesson and walk away.
00:39:27
Wes MacMillan
One story is
00:39:30
Wes MacMillan
I never learned my lesson. Two is it wasn't easy, but I overcame that and I was better off for it. Like that's the difference between a sad life and like a winner. That's the difference between a hero and a zero. That moment, that life is in that moment when you can either decide to keep doing what you know is wrong or to move forward.
00:40:02
Wes MacMillan
Life. Life like those moments are what make or break you.
00:40:15
Wes MacMillan
D Rose, best basketball player in the NBA, debatably. He's up there. He's Rushmore. So debatably the best player in the NBA gets hurt. He don't he doesn't know if he could ever play it in the NBA again. He worked his whole life to get to the point. That sucks. Do you know like that? And he was never the same.
00:40:44
Wes MacMillan
And that sucks. Life can suck sometimes. life Life can punch you in the face hard.
00:40:53
Wes MacMillan
And are you gonna stay on the ground or are you gonna get up?
00:41:00
Wes MacMillan
It's not about how many times you get knocked down. It's about how many times you get up. I fan all sunshine and rainbows. I love that Rocky scene. I don't know the whole thing. I wish I had that memorized.
00:41:22
Wes MacMillan
But like, your whole life is determined by what you do right after something bad happens. Ooh, should I talk about that now? Should I save that for a new pod?
00:41:43
Wes MacMillan
Eff it. Not swearing makes you sound like such a nerd. Eff it. Are you kidding me? But I'm trying to be more like everyone can watch me, you know? I'm trying to be more versatile. So eff it.
00:42:07
Wes MacMillan
Like I freaking out. Oh yeah. So I think that was clear. Like life, your whole life is, this is what I'll leave it as. Your whole life is determined. I look like Trump. Your whole life is determined.
00:42:24
Wes MacMillan
Sorry, I'll leave it on this. Your whole life is determined by what you do right after something you perceive as bad happens to you. And now I'm goingnna talk about ah by now i'm going to talk about why I said something you perceive as bad instead of bad.
00:42:49
Wes MacMillan
I
00:42:54
Wes MacMillan
I don't know when I kind of realized this, but a part of me believes that I'll just start talking and I'll figure it out. Two of my three of my least favorite words are good, bad, and objectively.
00:43:21
Wes MacMillan
Like anything can be good or bad. It's about how you look
Perspective on Good and Bad
00:43:25
Wes MacMillan
at it. It's about perspective. Like, hey, you win the lottery. Oh, that's awesome. That seems like such a good thing. But then all everyone in your life asks you for money and then hates you when you say no. And then you don't have to work hard. So everything kind of seems meaningless.
00:43:48
Wes MacMillan
And your whole life, like, and that actually turned out to be a bad thing.
00:43:57
Wes MacMillan
It's like good, you know, I'll keep going. Say. Say you break your arm.
00:44:13
Wes MacMillan
So you break your arm playing football right before the championship. You're like, this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.
00:44:25
Wes MacMillan
And then in the next game, the guy who replaced you, he gets like a concussion and can never play again. And I'm kind of blending two points together here.
00:44:42
Wes MacMillan
The first is like, nothing. I genuinely believe like, nothing is good or bad. It's all about how you look at it. And then secondary point is like, especially because you can't see the big picture. And like we were just talking about, like you write your story, like,
00:45:12
Wes MacMillan
something say say your dad dies almost anyone I think would call that a bad thing depending on who your dad is but let's say he was a great guy like you can just that's gonna hurt real bad but you can either like And I'm not saying you can't be sad, but you can let that like, you could pout and be sad forever, or you can be sad for a bit and be like, well, I'm gonna make my dad proud. For the rest of my life, I'm gonna work as hard as I can and make my dad proud. And a better example is like,
00:46:08
Wes MacMillan
Drake and this is kind of related Drake's dad. I think he was like a kind of a hands-off father. Maybe I don't know I think base what I know is like he's a hands-off father. You can either look at that and be like, oh My dad doesn't love me. No one else will probably love me. I should probably just be depressed and just wait around to die or
00:46:35
Wes MacMillan
You could be like, my dad didn't want me. I'm gonna show him how wrong he was and how great I am.
00:46:45
Wes MacMillan
Because your dad not wanting you. It may seem like a bad thing. It may seem like the worst thing in the world. It may seem like there are no positive aspects to it. But that's where you're wrong. A positive aspect can be, it fills you with a fire to be great.
00:47:08
Wes MacMillan
And that's nothing is good or bad. I don't think I'm explaining this perfectly,
00:47:16
Wes MacMillan
but and i but like nothing is good and or bad. Everything has pros and cons.
00:47:36
Wes MacMillan
I think I'm going to stop here. I'm probably going to talk about that another time because I don't feel like I'm explaining it as best as I can. And that may seem like a bad thing, but it's not because I'm going to come back and explain the living s out of it next time. So is it really a bad thing? I'll leave you with that. Thanks for listening. Getting more comfortable being on camera.
00:48:04
Wes MacMillan
Stank face. All right. I love you. Ooh like subscribe Comment let me know what you think Jenny Let's put all that oh let's put all that over here for a second first of all. Thank you for listening I love you second of all like subscribe comment post notice post notice post notifications turn them bad boys on and because I'm going to keep going. I got more to say. um Follow. Tell your friend about it. But I love you. Thanks for listening. Peace.