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How I got meditation to stick (I tell you that in 15 mins then yap)
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Introduction to Meditation and Habits
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What's going on, ladies and gentlemen? Welcome to a bonus episode of Wes Reflex. First bonus episode of Wes Reflex. B-b-b-bonus. And this episode is for people who want to know how to meditate. And that's what it's for, but you know how to meditate. You just don't know how to get it to stick.
00:00:31
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as a habit.
Personal Journey & Benefits of Meditation
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And I'm someone who's been meditating every day for at least 20 minutes for over a year now and it has had a large impact on my life. And I don't think I will ever stop. And I don't know how you could get meditation to stick for you. Maybe you don't want to do it bad enough. But I can tell you how I got it to stick for me.
00:01:02
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And that is what I'm going to do now. So the first thing is that you got to do it first thing in the morning and you don't have to do anything but the easiest way to get it to stick is doing it first thing when you wake up. And it's also when it's the most beneficial because normally I think if you don't meditate the first thing you do when you wake up is you check your phone. And like sleep is so like
00:01:28
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It heals you, it gives you some like time to like rest, like I don't gotta explain sleep to you. And then you wake up, you check your phone and you go on like Instagram or TikTok or even like text and you're just flooded with like a million pieces of information. And it's like, you're just like you're, you're done. Your whole day is ruined. And that's an exaggeration, but like, say,
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I get on, say I don't meditate, I get on Instagram, I see this picture of like a ripped guy. Immediately I'm like, oh man, I wish I was ripped. I should work out more. And it's like, no, no.
Techniques and Tips for Effective Meditation
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And whereas if I did, I wake up, I meditate, and then I go on my phone, I got my mind right before I jump into all that information. And when I see that picture of the ripped guy, maybe I think, damn, I wish I was ripped like him. I should work out more.
00:02:26
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Yeah but I'm in, and then this is, I'll notice that thought instead of just going with it and I'll be like yeah but I'm in pretty good shape, I'm healthy and that's what I really care about. And then I'll go about my business. And that's the difference. It's like it gives you the ability and the awareness to notice your thoughts.
00:02:47
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to recognize to one recognize they're not you and to like respond to them. So if you like mess up on something and you think like, No, I'm an idiot. It's like, normally you just go with that. And no, you're not an idiot. You're someone who made a mistake and everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes are how we learn. And you got to tell your brain that and they'll be like, Oh, you're right. Because your brain, like you got to
00:03:16
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I think debatably the most important thing in the world is controlling your own mind because your mind can either feel like heaven or it can feel like hell and how you feel is like everything because if you feel like hell you're not going to want to do anything and if you feel like heaven then you're going to want to take on the world. So without further ado I'll get into it.
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First step is like do it right when you wake up. You can like brush your teeth if you want first, but do it before you check your phone. That's what I'll say.
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And then you're going to want to sit down in an upright position. And the reason for this is you don't want to fall asleep meditating. It's a very like relaxing thing, but it's different than sleep. And you want to like, you don't want to fall asleep meditating because that like takes away the whole point. It's supposed to like give you 20 minutes of like observing your mind so that the rest of the day you can use it instead of having it use you.
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So sit down in like a chair. Don't lie down because you're going to sleep.
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Step two is you start a stopwatch on your phone, not a timer. So you are going to do it for like 20 minutes, but you don't want to set a 20 minute timer because meditating gets you in like a very relaxed state. And if you have like a beep going off at the end of it, you get like yanked out of it and you're like, oh my God. And then you're, it kind of like takes away from it because you're like rattled, stressed again. And this is about like de-stressing and being chill.
00:04:53
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So set a stopwatch on your phone, not a timer. Step three, close your eyes. Meditating is something you do with your eyes closed because I don't really know. I mean, it's meditating and it gives you when your eyes are closed, you can focus more on your thoughts and less on your visuals. Bam. That's why.
00:05:17
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Step four, you want to focus on something. Some people do their breath, but I think a mantra is best. And the mantra I often use is so hum. And the reason I do this, do it right now if you want, it's like if you say so hum in your mind without saying anything, you will automatically inhale and exhale. And so it's it's a vibe. So
00:05:46
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you focus on your mantra and you say your mantra over and over again and then so sit sit down in a chair set a stopwatch close your eyes and start in your head don't say it out loud saying so hum and you'll just breathe in and out and then you just breathe you do that until you get lost in thought and the analogy that I think makes the most sense for meditating is like
00:06:15
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Meditating is like standing on the side of a highway or a road. It's really more of a road. It's not a highway, it's a road. It's standing on the side of the road and watching cars go by and those cars are your thoughts and
00:06:37
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it's inevitable that at some point you're gonna get lost in your thoughts even even though you're trying to focus on your mantra you're gonna be like spend three minutes thinking about um jenna from next door and how she bakes better muffins than you and you're gonna get maybe you get real angry but then after three minutes you just gotta return to the mantra and this all this is why i love the analogy every time you get like lost in thought it's like getting
00:07:07
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so you're watching cars on the side of the road and every time you get lost in thought it's like getting in one of those cars and then it's driving with you in it and then you're like realizing your lost in thought is like realizing you're in the car and as soon as you do that you just get out of the car um and go to the side of the road and then you resume um
00:07:32
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You resume watching your thoughts, like you resume repeating your mantra. And it's very important here that you don't like get mad when you get lost in thought because like that's why you meditate. You are training the muscle of
00:07:51
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You are training the muscle of awareness. You are training the muscle of like being able to recognize your thoughts instead of getting lost in them. It's like if you get mad every time you get lost in thought, it's like going to the gym and getting mad every time you lift a weight. Like that is why you're doing it. So don't get mad. And it's also, like if it's a negative thought and you're like, ah, and you judge yourself for like having a negative thought,
00:08:21
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Like that's what kind of keeps it going. And I don't really know how this works completely, but when you just like state your awareness, be like, I'm aware that I got lost in my thoughts or like I'm aware of, and then insert the thought that you were thinking about. So I feel like you spent three minutes thinking about Jenna and her muffins. Think about, just say like, I'm aware I was thinking about Jenna's muffins.
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without like getting angry and just like but if you are angry just like notice how notice that anger where do you feel that anger in your body and then just return to your mantra if you will like let yourself get angry about oh I should have been thinking about that like you're not getting the full benefit and it's hard to do because um
00:09:13
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I don't know it's natural because you're like you don't want to get lost in thought you want to have like a quiet mind but that's another thing it's like you don't meditate to have a clear and quiet mind my mind is still it's always moving but the difference is I is like I don't get lost in my thoughts like getting angry at your um
00:09:39
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getting angry at your thoughts and your emotions is like that's a it's not a thought but like it's an emotion and part of this is also like to get distance from your emotions so it's like you're choosing what thoughts and emotions to like you realize they're just thoughts and emotions and also
00:10:01
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You have that like distance and that distance is everything. You're still gonna have thoughts, you're still gonna have emotions, but you just don't get lost in them. And that is what brings a lot of peace, but your mind won't be like quiet. And you keep just returning to your mantra or repeating your mantra until you're
Personal Transformations through Meditation
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done. And how do you know when you're done? It's when... It's when...
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You open your eyes and... Alright, I gotta say this. I... I recorded a voice memo of this exact thing telling my friend how to meditate and it was awesome and it was natural and it was goofy and it was perfect. And then I sent it to her and I pressed save. But it didn't save and now it's gone and now I have to do this all over again and I hate that. But I'm aware that that's just a thought and I'm gonna keep going.
00:11:01
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So how do you know when you're done? Well, your eyes are closed and there's no timer going off, so to check if you're done, you're gonna have to open your eyes and look.
00:11:10
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at the timer and Once again don't like so and oftentimes especially when I first started I'd be like, oh, maybe I'm done I'd open my eyes it'd be like four minutes and 30 seconds have gone by and you're not done until you hit like the 20-minute mark or I did 20 minutes I think you should do but You can
00:11:38
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Yeah, you're not done until you hit the 20 minute mark. So if you open your eyes, it's like nine minutes and 12 seconds, then just close your eyes, keep repeating your mantra.
00:11:46
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And next time you think you're done, same thing. So once you, one of the times when you think you're done, you're going to open your eyes and it will have been 20 minutes. And at that point you have to say, you don't have to say it, but I say it, meditation is over and say this out loud and then stop meditating. But you have to keep your eyes closed for two more minutes. And I think I read this all in a book. I probably should have prefaced that.
00:12:11
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I read all of this information I'm telling you in a book called Bliss More by Lightwalkins and that's how I got meditation to stick but not a lot of people want to read a whole book and that's why it's like maybe you if you wanted to meditate that bad you would but all this stuff is just like building a habit but I rest my case
00:12:35
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You say meditation is over and then it is, but you have to keep your eyes closed for two more minutes and it is your choice what you do in this time. I use it to pray to my Lord and Savior who I don't even know what I'm praying to, but you can do it. You can use it for breath work. You could do it to just like list all the things you're grateful for. You could do it to like think about birds if that's your thing. I don't care.
00:13:03
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but this just gives you a period like you're in a very relaxed state and it's kind of acts as a buffer in between your meditation state and getting back to your real life so it's not just like close your eyes immediately check my phone and it's like a buffer like meditation is a buffer between sleep and the waking up and then this two minutes is a buffer between meditation and this so it's all like we're getting real buff
00:13:31
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And then so same thing, say you think your two minutes is up, but you open your eyes and it says like 20 minutes, 21 minutes and 30 seconds. So that means you still have 30 seconds to go. So close your eyes, keep thinking about birds. And then you're like a couple seconds go by and you're like, I think I'm done. You open your eyes. It's like 20 minutes and six seconds. Perfect. You are done. Open your eyes, go about your business and
00:14:01
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Kind of what I was saying about like, you know how to meditate, you don't know how to build habits. It's like do it for 30 days and you will be amazed on what it can do for you. And if you can do it for 30 days, do it for 90 days. And I did it for 90 days and now I'll never stop. And my life, I, like my life will genuinely never be the same. I was in,
00:14:25
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I was in a not great place and then I started meditating and I think it was the first domino. It was one of the first dominoes and the thing that changed my whole entire life forever. Because thinking your thoughts are you. Like, and that sounds so like ambiguous, but if you like make a mistake, you're like, Oh, I'm such an idiot. Like you didn't think that that thought just came. You didn't choose to think that, but it is your choice.
00:14:56
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to get lost in it or not. And the choice is whether or not to meditate.
00:15:03
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and it's something like I pretty I think that I explained that pretty well but like it makes a world of a difference like every time you like someone stops in traffic I used to get like irrationally angry but then after I've been I'd been meditating for a while I noticed like that anger I was like why am I getting so mad just because like someone stopped and it's like I'm not even in a rush
00:15:26
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Right now like I'm just driving home and when I drive home I'm gonna eat dinner like watch some TV and go to bed does it really matter if Like that person like if I'm 30 seconds and not like late I get home 30 seconds later no and that's like it allows you to choose what thoughts and emotions you go with and
00:15:49
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and if you don't go with them and you just like observe the ones that you don't want to go with they go away and then that like your whole mind changes and it's amazing and it's chill and it's dope and it's a vibe I still I'm still thinking about that voice memo I sent to my friend but I can't do anything about that I tried to get it back and I couldn't find it and there's also
00:16:15
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I did a part two to this that's gonna be the majority of the bonus episode and you can stop listening now I'm done talking about how to meditate but I think I go over some cool stuff if you want to keep listening so yeah I hope you had a good time listening. Thank you. I love you. Bye Ladies and gentlemen, the kid is back It's been
00:16:44
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It's been about probably over a week. It's probably been about over a week since I've podcasted. But my friend just asked me, who shall remain nameless, who shall remain nameless, who shall remain nameless, has just asked me, Wes, how do I meditate? And if I'm being honest, that's probably the third or fourth person
00:17:15
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who's asked me that question. And those people are always like, Wes, I want to know how, I want to meditate, but I don't know how. It's like, yeah, for the most part you do, but you might not have all the information. So I can supplement that for you. And that's what you just listened to if you're still listening. But man, did that feel good.
00:17:42
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And like that's why I want a podcast because I've been meditating for every day, every single day for over a year. And at one point I wasn't consistent either. Like I tried it and then it didn't stick. But what did stick is I read a book and after the book, the
00:18:06
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it did stick and I just told you everything that I learned from that book in about 15 minutes so you don't have to read the whole book but I strongly suggest you do because surprisingly he was more thorough in a book than I was in my 15 minute yap stash but like that's
00:18:28
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I recorded that, that my friend was like, hey, send a voicemail on how to meditate. And I did it. And immediately I was like, man, I missed this. I missed just yapping. And clearly, I mean, that was one small example, but like clearly she wanted to know something that I know. And that's why I started this podcast is because I figured a lot of stuff out on my own and I'll tell you how to do it.
00:18:57
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And I could continue to do so. Like if I say I run out of stuff to talk about, tell me what you want to know. I'll talk to like the author of a book. I'll read the book and then I'll tell you how to do it in 15 minutes. The efficient version. The efficient version. The efficient version. The West way. The fast way. And that's what I'm all about. I do things fast and I can give you the summary.
00:19:30
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But yeah, as soon as I started doing it, it's like, man, I miss this. This feels good. And yeah, I really want to keep doing this, and I think I will. So tell me, you guys ought to tell me you can comment on Spotify, I think, or you can just text me if you have my number. Like, tell me, if anything, what you would want to hear. And I'll tell you, because I've
00:20:01
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figured a lot of things out on my own and I fear I may start repeating myself because that's was a tendency of the last the first couple episodes and also like their
00:20:16
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you heard it, there was nobody else there in the first couple episodes. And so I was just like trying to weave a lot of complex ideas together. And that's not to like toot my own horn because I was taking like 10 second pauses and that wasn't for no reason. It's because I was like thinking, I was processing, I was figuring out how to weave them together. And I eventually did weave them all together just like I figured out all these other things on my own.
00:20:43
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and i'm proud of myself and i want to tell you because because i was depressed like but yeah i was down in the dumps for many years and i figured out how to claw my way out tooth and nail whatever that means i clawed my way out and it was not easy it took a meditation it took a couple books it took breath work it took
00:21:10
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like so many things it took like emotional intelligence it took and I'm here and I know you don't want to read all those books I know you don't want to do all the hard work it takes to fight your way out of anxiety and or depression and or whatever the hell else is going on with me and that's fine because I'm here and I'll tell you how to do it
00:21:37
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I don't know how that sounds.
Overcoming Struggles with Consistent Practice
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I don't care. Because I did it. I know how to do it. I have the hidden recipe. I have the blueprint. And I want to give it to you. All you gotta do is listen. That's it.
00:21:56
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and listening to a podcast is a lot easier than reading all the books I read than figuring out what it takes to get meditation to stick. To find out journaling is extremely helpful for processing emotions.
00:22:12
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And it's like everyone, like people, not everyone, that is a vast exaggeration. But three people at least have asked me like, Wes, I want to meditate, but I just can't like stay consistent or I don't know how to do it. And that's what I'm here for. That is why I'm here. That is my purpose. That is what I believe my purpose to be. The reason that God put me on this earth. And maybe I'm wrong.
00:22:42
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but we'll find out for show. Like I went through a lot of hard years and that was really hard on me. But it would be, if because of that, I can help tens, twenties, hundreds, thousands, millions of people, any of the following, even if it's just tens, even if it's like 14 people that are like, Wes, you're dope man, keep doing this shit, I'll keep going.
00:23:12
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You know why? Because if this doesn't work out, I'm going to be a fantastic therapist. That's a hell of a plan B. But like I, I went through all that stuff and you know what, like it would be, it would give that area of my life meaning. That area of my life when I
00:23:37
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hated life, that area of my life when I felt lost, that area of my life where fill in the blank, it was the hardest time of my life. And it's pretty much over. It's certain, like it's getting better every day. And one of the reasons is because I meditate, but there are a lot of other reasons and I am willing. I'm not only willing, I want to tell you all of them. You know why? Because I love you.
00:24:08
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And I love me. I love me, man. If I didn't, I would've gave up on Wes a long time ago because it got real hard. But there's a couple mantras I use. It's like, this too shall pass. I didn't have faith that things would get better, and they did. And I was no small role in that. I was, besides maybe God, love you, man.
00:24:35
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I was the biggest factor. I didn't give up. I kept looking. I kept searching. I kept learning. I kept fighting until I crawled my way out and I am out and I feel amazing. And I know, I know that there's a lot of people in the hole I was in and I don't have a rope. I can't pull you out, but I do have the way I got out and I can give it to you.
00:25:07
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And I might, I'm gonna start having other people on the podcast and it's like, it'll slowly come out over time. And, but maybe I'll do for legit, anything you ask me to like write out or detail or talk about, I will.
00:25:22
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Drop a comment, text me. This podcast is not big yet, but you can text me or whatever Instagram DM me, Instagram me, man. But reach out however you see fit. Like come to my house and tell me in person, call me, tweet at me, send me a Venmo for like $3.19. It's like, Wes, can you talk about journaling and what it's done for you?
00:25:52
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And I'll do it. If you get the information to me, I will talk about it. And maybe I don't have the information yet, but if someone was like, hey Wes, how do you... I'm sorry, I gotta think for a sec. How do you put up a Christmas tree? I may not know. And that's okay, because you know why?
00:26:22
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If someone, I promise you, this might not be true if the podcast blows up, but I promise you, if you're like, Wes, I don't know how to plant a Christmas tree. And I'll be like, look man, I don't either. But I'll read a book about it, and I'll figure it out, and I'll tell you, that's how committed I am. I will read a book, I promise you, I will read a book. I don't know if I'll read a book, but I will figure out how to do what you don't know how to do, and I'll tell you.
00:26:52
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because I love you. And I want, like I'm doing this to help people. And even like you chose to listen to this, which I love doing. So I'm gonna do something for you. A little quid pro quo. How about that? Because I love you, I care about you. And you might be listening to this. I've said this before. I'll try to stop repeating myself, but it's like,
00:27:16
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Yeah, Wes is saying that, but he doesn't really mean it. He doesn't know I'm listening. Ma, all I need to know is that you're human. And on top of that, you took the time to listen to this, and that means a lot to me, because I want to keep doing this, and you allow me to do so. So tell me what you wanna know, and I'll figure it out, and I'll give you the cliff notes. I'll give you the West way. I'll give you the super fast squibbity-bitty-ba-ba-da-boo-da-ba.
00:27:49
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And yeah, because I care about you. And at one point in my life, I needed me. That's why I'm doing it. Because if I had found a podcast where this guy was like, anything you want to know, I'll figure it out and I'll tell you like, bro, he would have been my best friend. When I was going through my tough times, I needed me, but me wasn't there yet.
00:28:19
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But I'm here now, and I'm not going anywhere. I'm here to stay, and I'm here to fight for you. If you're struggling, let me in, man.
00:28:30
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because I'll make it our fight. I know, man, like everyone going through like middle school, high school, that's probably who this podcast is gonna end up being for. But it's like everyone going through middle school, high school, even college, like everyone is struggling. That's my intended audience. If you're doing good, man, go about your business. Good for you. But most people are not. And if you tell me what you're struggling with,
00:29:00
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and you let me in, I promise you I'll do my best to figure it out and I'll tell you. Because I want to help you. And I needed someone like me and I wasn't at that point in my journey. I didn't know anything. I had to figure it out myself. Like I said, it took a lot of hard work, but I'm here and I wanna help. And that's the thing about life.
00:29:28
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My mom was like, you should focus on other people and you should like help them. If you're less focused on yourself, then you'll be happier. And Ma, I love you. You're right. But you got to help yourself before you can help other people. And that's why I like, I could go volunteer at some shelter and I could help people, but I can't volunteer at some shelter and help people, help people
00:29:58
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any better than my neighbor, any better than anyone else in the world. Like that's not what I'm, that's not what I'm, that's not what I know. I don't have any knowledge that makes me any better at that than from Joe, from Joe Schmoe, from Michael Orr, from anyone. Like me and you, me and you, if we both volunteered at
00:30:27
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Um, like any shelter or any like nonprofit, like I'd probably be a little better than you just cause I'm him, but I wouldn't be that much better. But I promise you, uh, this, like this area, this crawling out of anyone who's struggling, like I'm the king of struggle. That's how I feel. It's like, I, it's what I'm an expert at and I don't,
00:30:57
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And that might sound cocky, but it's not, and I'll tell you why. It's because I believe everyone is an expert in something. I believe everyone is an expert in something, and this is what I'm an expert at. It's what I spend all my time doing, figuring out how to feel better. And I know most people aren't feeling great, so I'll help you, because I love you.
00:31:29
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I gotta tell you, it feels good to hop back on the mic, man. It's like when Michael Jordan picks up the ball again, he's like, yeah, I forgot about this, man. And every shot, it's like swish, kachow. And that may sound cocky, but man, it's how I feel. And I don't control how I feel.
00:31:57
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I just control what I do about it. So I found the thing. I'm the Michael Jordan of depression. I'm the Michael Jordan of mental health struggles. And that's not completely true. I only know my own. But I've struggled with anxiety, depression, and I know a lot of people have done that. And I'm the Michael Jordan of that. I'm the David Ortiz of that.
00:32:26
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whoever your goat is, I'm the Kanye West of fighting your way out of struggle. At least caveat asterisks in terms of what I've been through. And I believe that's for everyone. It's like if you're growing up and you have Crohn's, I'm sorry, I don't have Crohn's. I can't tell anyone how to figure out Crohn's disease and learn to live with that.
00:32:55
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maybe I could read a book about it and tell you what the book says but also like I don't have chrome so how why should you listen to me you know because like I could tell you information but the reason I could give you the cliff notes of what you actually need to know of that book
00:33:18
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It's called, did I even say the name of the book? If not, I'm sorry, I'll put it in the description, but it's called Blissmore by Light Watkins. Like I said, the book is a lot more thorough than my yap sesh is, but I can tell you what I learned from the book in a quicker amount of time.
00:33:37
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Um, well, what was I talking about? Yeah, I can't, and I can't tell you what you really need to know if it's not something I've dealt with because I haven't dealt with it and I don't know what you actually need to know in order to beat it, in order to succeed, in order to thrive, in order. Yeah, I can only tell you what I've been through and that's kind of true for everyone.
00:34:10
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If it's something I can learn though, it's like, hey Wes, I want to learn how to do a backflip off a diving board. I'll be like, man, I already know how to do that. I figured that out a long time ago. And let me tell you, when I do it, all the girls are like, whew, Wes can backflip off a diving board. God damn.
00:34:34
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And I'll tell you how I figured it out. So that's a bad example. But if it's like, Hey, Wes, I want to know how to do a double backflip off a diving board. I'd be like, why are you asking me? But I'll, I'll find out and I'm willing to die for this. Maybe that's an exaggeration, but I don't know. Like this, this is what I feel to be my purpose and I care about it debatably more than anything else in the world. So if I think I can,
00:35:04
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Do a double backflip on a diving board and not die. I'll do it. I'll figure it out and I'll tell you how I did it. And I think part of the reason that is, it's like a lot of my lessons have to come the hard way.
Learning from Challenges and Embracing Uncertainty
00:35:20
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And there's pros and cons to that. But one of the pros is that they stick when they stick, they stick. And another one of the pros is I'm not afraid of learning things the hard way.
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If you're like, hey Wes, tell me how to get girls to like you. I'd be like, I certainly haven't figured that one out, but I'll figure it out and I'll tell you. And I somewhat have figured it out. You just got to be yourself. It's like the key to everything. But, and you got, yeah, you just got to be yourself. Like look them in the eye.
00:36:00
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make them laugh, just never been too hard for me. And be yourself, like tell them the weird stuff about you, but that's, say it's like, I keep getting off track and that's kind of becoming a pattern, but say you're like, hey Wes, the diving board example is kind of the perfect thing. It's like doing a double backflip
00:36:29
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off a diving board, like that sounds incredibly scary. I'm scared of that too. That doesn't mean I won't do it. In fact, if something scares you, it's almost always, that's not true. I'm gonna walk that back. Pretend I never said that. But it's oftentimes
00:36:52
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Like you shouldn't put your hand on the stove and I'm scared of doing that, but that's for good reason. But say you're like scared of talking to a girl. It's like, that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to girls at all. Like if you're afraid it sometimes, it sometimes means something's important and you're probably afraid to talk to girls cause you want girls to like you. And I've been through that and I'll tell you about it. Um,
00:37:21
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And yeah, life is literally just besides the things that are rational. Like so many of us have irrational fears. Like I'm afraid of wearing a bathing suit in a swimming pool. It's like, yeah, but you're not afraid of that because you're going to die. You're afraid of what other people will think of you.
00:37:43
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and that's bad so we should change that and the way you change that is by putting on your bathing suit and cannonballing into that pool and then you realize like hey nobody's even looking at me nobody cares about me because either they're having a good time swimming or they're too concerned about what they look like nobody cares
00:38:04
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You're like, oh, what do other people think of? They don't think of you. They think of themselves. I promise you, nobody cares about you. And that may seem like a bad thing at first, but once you accept that,
00:38:17
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You have so much freedom because you can do whatever the heck you want without being afraid of what other people think of you. Like, why do I have the audacity to start a podcast? It's because I know no one cares. Either they care and they'll listen or they'll make fun or they don't care. And if they think I have like, they're questioning my audacity, then they'll make fun of me and nice. Have fun making fun of me. I don't care.
00:38:43
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Or they'll be like, oh, I don't want to listen to that. And then they won't listen to it. And it's like the main thing that would have held me back from starting a podcast is being afraid that no one would listen. And I found out. I found out. That was a strong fear of mine.
00:39:04
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That didn't stop me. I recorded an episode, I posted about it, and I think 60 people have listened by now. People have spent hours of their time listening to that, and that's not to toot my own horn. That's to show you your fears aren't always true, and you can fight them, and you can beat them. You can cannonball into that pool and realize,
00:39:28
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that swimming is great and you don't want to miss out on the great parts of life because out of fear that's what I'm an expert in I'm an expert in battling fear and let me tell you I'm kicking fears ass man fear had me down fear had me down bad like you've heard this my sob story yeah I had a lot of years of my life where
00:39:52
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Things weren't too easy for me. It's like no one cares, but here's why you should care. It's because I never gave up. I never tapped out. Fear was whooping my ass. Fear had, let me tell you, man, fear had me down and I didn't, I, and I try, I tried to live life letting fear win. And the analogy there would be like a guy had me pinned down.
00:40:24
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or girl I'm accepting I would have liked that a little more though okay so a guy had me pinned down and I tried to live with fear having a pin on me for a while I tried to just like numb myself I tried to
00:40:41
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live small. I tried to live in my comfort zone and I was miserable and the analogy there is like a guy's you pin down it's like maybe I'll just live my life on the ground forever getting pinned down by this dude and let me tell you this is coming straight from the kid
00:41:00
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Like it's no way to live. As obvious as it is to like, it's not worth living a life, just like accepting being pinned down by that guy. That hairy man. I promise you, like it may seem less obvious to you, but like not doing everything you're, not doing anything that you're scared of is a horrible way to live.
00:41:29
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a horrible way to live. And then at West, well, how could you know that? Cause I did it. I was like, maybe this guy will pin me down and I'll just like, I think maybe I'll like talk to the people that are watching me get pinned down and it's, it's no way to live, man. Cause you know why? Cause you can fly and it's not easy, but I'll help you. And like I say,
00:41:59
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First, I tried accepting that I was just, from here on out, I'm going to be pinned up on the floor by fear, that hairy old bastard. And that did not go well. So what did I do? I didn't give up. I was like, hey, maybe I'll try to wiggle my way out. And that sort of worked. So I was like, hey, that sort of worked. Maybe something else could really work. And so after I wiggled, I was like, maybe I'll ask him to get off me.
00:42:28
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And so I'm like, hey, fear, you big hairy old bastard, can you get off me? I don't wanna be on the ground here. And that did not work. But you know, it did work in a literal sense. I asked, hey, man, why are you pinning me down? And fear was like, because I love you and I wanna protect you.
00:42:59
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And I was like, what? What are you talking about? You're the one hurting me. And fear is like, man, yeah, it may seem like I'm hurting you, and I am, but I'm protecting you from death. And then I'm like, what? Fear, you hairy old bastard. I'm gonna die anyway.
00:43:28
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I'm gonna die no matter what. And he was like, oh, I didn't realize that, I'm sorry. And even when that happens, it's not like he just gets off you slowly. Fear slowly loosens its grip on you. And now I'm at the point where I can breathe.
00:43:54
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I still experience fear, but I'm not scared of fear. The only thing to fear is fear itself. Jamie, who said that? I don't know. Okay, then I guess we're not just going to know until I have a clip guy. But it loosened its grip.
00:44:15
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and dead ass dead ass bro the only thing to fear is fear itself you know how much happier i've become once i stopped letting fear pin me down like me and fear are boys now now when fear is like hey man you should be scared of that i'm like really he's like so i'm like all right say let's go back to the hand on the stove example it's like
00:44:41
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fear is like hey man you should be scared of that and I'm like really why is like because you will burn your hand off if you don't and I'm like you know what man you right you right I don't want my hand to get burned off and it's not worth doing that for literally no reason but another example it's like hey I don't I don't want to jump hey fear I don't want to jump in the
00:45:03
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Your fear is the one telling you that you don't want to jump in the swimming pool because fear is afraid. Fear is you. It's getting a little complicated, but you know, hopefully you know what I mean. Fear tells you that other people might not like you. And it's like, okay, well, do I want to not do anything that people may not like me for? And it's like, there's not a lot of things that fit into that category.
00:45:32
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besides being yourself and yes some people will not like you but I promise you more people like you when you're yourself it's wild it's like it's wild and it's the opposite of what I thought it's like I'm gonna try to make everyone happy and please everyone and be an empty shell of myself and people didn't really mess with me because you know why I'll tell you it's because I wasn't being myself like they knew I wasn't being genuine
00:46:03
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I wasn't being genuine and you think that people can't feel that, but they can. Even if they don't know that you're not being genuine, deep down they know. And no one likes someone that's like fake. It's like, what's the point? Why would I talk to you if you're not even being real with me? Why would I want to be your friend if you're not even being real with me? Why would I want to date you if you're not even being real with me? Why would I want to hang out with you if you're not even being real with me? And they're right.
00:46:34
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It's like I don't want to hang out with someone who's like pretending to be someone else trying to be pretend to be like what they want me to what they want me what they want I I don't want to hang out with someone that's pretending to be what they think I want them to be and it's
00:46:58
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I've already talked about how you don't really know what people think. The only way to find out is just to be yourself and find out. It's like when you hang out with people, it's like, I hate bears. And they're like, yeah, man, I hate bears. And then you're like, oh, really? I thought I was kind of rare for that. And then you're testing them. It's like, I also hate fun. And they're like, yeah, fun's the worst. And it's like, what?
00:47:27
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Why would I talk to you if you're just gonna agree with everything I say? Like, and that's what people pleasers do. And it's like, I, if I, if you hate, if you love fun, tell me. Cause you might be right and you might convince me to love fun and then I'll have a fun life. And I could be missing out on fun if I'm hanging out with you and you're like, yeah, I hate fun too. Fun's the worst. Even if you know darn well that
00:47:54
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fun is great like tell people like if and it that's an easy example it's like obviously i'd tell my friend i love fun but you can't be like afraid of confrontation you can't be afraid of hurting people's feelings you can't be afraid and i'm not saying go on go out of your way to do things but like tell and ladies and gentlemen the thing i've been doing over the past couple weeks days is like i've been telling the truth about everything and
00:48:25
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I have this original quote that no one has ever said before. Honesty is the best policy. And it's like you can, life is amazing. Life is amazing. Bifur's amazing. When you're yourself. I don't care that I just did a voice and it was weird. Weird is good. I'd rather be anything than boring. And if that's weird, then so be it.
00:48:55
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my favorite is amazing. Like, be yourself. Everyone else is taken. But it's true. It's corny. But it's true. I'd probably be the best name. And maybe you just laughed at me voice crack and I don't care. Because I'm myself and I'm way happier myself than not being myself. And I
00:49:24
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I don't know if you will be too and the only way to find out is to try. The only way to find out is to try. Pardon my French but like fuck around and find out. That's what it's all about. It's all about a lot of things but that's one of them. It's like fuck around, you don't know? Cool. Fuck around and find out. You like that girl but you don't know if she'll like you?
00:49:54
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fuck around and find out you think maybe you could be a podcaster but you don't know if anyone will listen fuck around and find out just take the first step and do it just do it once and if you were right like if no one listened to my podcast maybe I'd never do it again but people listen so I'm gonna keep doing it and you can do the same it's like
00:50:22
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Oh, you don't wanna talk to the girl? Cause you don't know if she'll like you, fuck around and find out. And even if she doesn't, like, the way my mind works, which is so frustrating and aggravating, it's like a girl would reject me and be like, oh, all girls, all girls probably don't like me. I'm probably unlovable. I'm laughing at that now, but that was true. There was like a brief period where I gave up on girls.
00:50:50
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And it's not because I didn't want them, it's because I'm like, oh, probably all of them hate me. And the only reason I got past that is because I fucked around and I found out. I kept talking to girls until one liked me and I fell in love and it changed everything. It's because I fucked around and I found out
00:51:20
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I, in my mind, I was like, there's no way that girl will ever like me. She is beautiful. And I'm mid at best, but I talked to her and thank you God, if it was God, but maybe it's God and maybe it wasn't. And if it wasn't, it was because we had been through some similar things.
00:51:52
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It's comforting to know that someone else has gone through what you've gone through But I talked I fucked her on I found out by talking to her and it turned out she liked me And I'll never look back I'm not gonna say she saved my life, but she I
00:52:14
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If not that damn near, maybe another girl would have came along, maybe something else, but it came along that like proved myself wrong. Like prove yourself wrong. Like fear told me, West, that girl would never like you. And I'm like, why? Fear was like, ah, cause you're not that good. It's like, well, I don't think I'm that good, but maybe she does.
00:52:41
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And that's why fear is not like evil. Because like I said, fear is like, hey, jump in that fire. Hey, like drive off the road. Like everyone has impulsive thoughts. Like I said before, it's like, hey, drive off the road. And you're like, listen, buddy, I'm not going to do that because I don't want to die. And then fear is like, touche. But if fear is like, don't talk to that girl, she might not like you. It's like, what if she does?
00:53:06
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It's like, even if you don't think you're great, she might. And that's what happened to me. I thought I was a loser. I thought I was a good for nothing sack of feces. That's me not swearing. I think that's even weirder. I don't know. I thought I was good for nothing. I thought I was a bum. I thought I was a loser. I thought no girl may ever like me. And that's not exactly true, but I didn't think a girl of her caliber would ever like me.
00:53:37
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but I fucked around and I found out. I'll stop saying that. But I went up to her, I talked to her and that was probably the scariest moment of my entire life because she was gouges. She was beautiful. And she liked me. I rolled the dice.
00:53:59
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I didn't know if she'd like me, but I rolled the dice. That's what I'll start saying instead of fuck around and find out I rolled the dice. I took a chance and by some act of God or by me making an incorrect assumption that all girls or no girl of that caliber would ever like me. I was like, let's find out. I rolled the dice. I took a chance. I accepted the possibility that, Hey, she might not like me.
00:54:29
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hey, a girl for caliber might never like me, but I liked her enough. I was like, I'm going to find out because it was a Hail Mary. It turns out I was Tom Brady and I didn't even know it. Because I keep throwing Hail Marys and let me tell you, most of the time, I don't know about most of the time, but a lot of the time they intercept it or
00:54:57
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my throat doesn't even make it there or I overthrow it or a guy gets his hands on it but he doesn't catch it and I'm like man that stunk so bad but if he almost caught it if I throw another one he might catch it and that's the thing you can't stop throwing Hail Marys you can't I I got so scared and sad that I stopped throwing the ball at all in life and when you do that it's like
00:55:26
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The game of football is your life. Not even, listen, the game of football is your life as a quarterback. If you never threw the ball, maybe. And it's, it's like, you're not taking enough chances. A lot of things are not going to go well. I promise you. Povity is nerf-icked. Nobody's perfect for anyone who can rearrange those letters. It's a pretty common expression. You should know that one, but.
00:55:55
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Like, roll the dice. Take a leap of faith. Take a leap of faith. Because you'll be surprised. That is one thing I can guarantee you. Well, honestly, no, I can't guarantee you that. What I can guarantee you is I was shocked. I was bamboozled. I was baffled. And I'll never be the same.
00:56:25
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Because I was like, I'm never going to throw the ball again. What if someone doesn't catch it? But you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Wayne Gretzky, Michael Scott, Wes McMillan. So yeah, if you shoot it, you might miss. The goalie might save it.
00:56:50
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you might not score. There is a, in some cases there is a very, not even in some cases in hockey, if every time you shoot, you're more than likely not going to get it in the net. And on your second shot, you might not either. But if you keep shooting, one might sneak by and then once, once it sneaks by, you're like, Oh my God. Oh my God. I never thought that could happen, but it did.
00:57:20
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So why the hell would I ever stop shooting? And then you keep shooting and you get better at shooting. And suddenly you're Wayne Gretzky. Suddenly you're Tom Brady. Suddenly you're Michael Jordan. Suddenly you're Wes McMillan. And I used to have like a negative connotation in my mind when I said Wes McMillan. I'd be like, kidding me, that guy's a bum. That guy's a loser. But I kept shooting. I kept throwing the ball.
00:57:50
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And look at me now. And you might still think Wes is a loser. Wes is a bum. Or you might think Wes is like the goat. Wes is Tom Brady. Wes is of that caliber. And I only, I went from bum to Tom Brady in my own mind. And like, I don't think I'm Tom Brady for no reason. Like I think I'm Tom Brady because I went from
00:58:21
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I went from being someone who felt like shit every day to someone who loves life. And that is a Tom Brady level change. Act, whatever you want to call it. It's like, I'm not that good at football. So yeah, I'm not Tom Brady, but I'm the Tom Brady of
00:58:49
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Battling depression, battling anxiety. Because it had me pinned down and now I laugh at it. It's like my rich laugh. Oh fear, you thought you could stop me? And I think many of us, I think many of us are in a battle. I'm the Tom Brady of battling fear. That's all I am.
00:59:17
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And I don't know Dick from Jack about throwing footballs. But I do know Dick from Jack about battling fear. That's what I am an expert on. And it's really not that complicated. And I'll tell you how. And the reason I have a podcast is because I genuinely believe
00:59:44
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Listening to this could change someone's life. Maybe I'm self-centered, absorbed, cocky, but I'm gonna find out. I'm gonna find out. I promise you that. And you already know why. And you gotta find out. I think Theo Vaughn has this podcast clip where it's like,
01:00:07
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ask her out. And he's right, it's the same thing I did. I asked her out, the girl I'm scared to talk to every day, every day. I think genuinely, and that's where the expression do something that scares you every day comes from. And I don't know if that's literally true, but I do because I'm because I found out I rolled the dice and I found out myself. Because when you do things that scare you,
01:00:37
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You're gonna get hurt, but you'll also figure out that everything you're scared of is not actually going to happen. You know how many irrational fears I have on a day-to-day basis? I'm like, I probably shouldn't talk to them, they might hate me. I talk to them anyway, and I hate it, because the whole time I'm like, this person might hate me. I'm like, yeah, but I'll never know unless I try.
01:01:07
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And it's not like, it's not all talking to people. It's like, I don't know what scares you. I only know what scares me, but it's like, a lot of it is with people. That's kind of my kryptonite is I think everybody might hate me. And I know I'm not alone in that battle, but maybe your kryptonite is like jumping in the pool. Maybe your kryptonite is, and by kryptonite, I think,
01:01:36
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by kryptonite if you don't know that expression is like man I haven't even seen Superman and I know that expression but it's like maybe your kryptonite is thinking you're dumb and you don't I really don't think I'm dumb I really don't maybe that sounds cocky but I don't care I think I'm a smart guy but maybe your kryptonite is thinking you're dumb and so you don't try in school because you think you're dumb and you don't
01:02:06
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try to do anything academic or intellectually, you don't do a lot of stuff because you think you're dumb. And listen, this sounds bad, but maybe you are. But the real fear is that you're too dumb to do anything. And I don't know, but I'm confident that's not true.
01:02:32
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If I was a betting man, I'd throw the house on the fact that that's not true. It's like, yeah, maybe you're too dumb to be a doctor. I'm sorry. That stinks if you really want to be a doctor, but you're not too dumb to do most things because anything is possible. I genuinely believe that, especially when I'm talking in this microphone, like say you want to be
01:03:01
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a cook and you're like maybe I'm too dumb I can never figure that out it's like my brother yeah maybe you're too dumb to be a cook but maybe you're not the only way you will ever find out is to try pick up the knife and saw in a vegetable and saute that Johnson saute that puppy and find out and maybe you're like
01:03:31
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I can't do, maybe you stink at sauteing, maybe you can't be a chef. And I'm sorry, if you wanted to be a chef, and you're too dumb to be a chef, I'm sorry. But maybe you're sad about that for a little while, and then you're like, hey, it'd be cool to do pottery, to be a professional potterist. And I'll change that example, because that's not very common, but it's like,
01:03:59
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Maybe I'm too dumb to be a mailman. Maybe the bar, that seems like a low bar and maybe, but like for you, that bar is too high because you think you're too dumb, but try. Go, I don't know where you go to that. Go to the post office probably. Cause that's where mailman tend to post up and hang out and chill and vibe. So go there and be like, Hey,
01:04:28
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I'd love to be a mailman." And they're like, okay. Maybe they give you a test. You're like, oh man, I'm so dumb. I could never, I'm so bad at tests. I can never be a mailman. Find out. Do your best. That's all you can do. And when you do your best, you'll find out if you're good enough or not. And if you're not, that sucks and I'm sorry. But maybe you are. And when you do things that you think you could never do, it feels amazing.
01:04:55
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and you can keep doing it. And that's where I'm at. I think I, I know there's things I can't do. I'm probably not tall enough to be in the NBA. I also don't want to be in the NBA enough to really try. But maybe, maybe I'm good enough. And that's another thing. It's like the core root of like depression,
01:05:25
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And I've learned this from watching Inside Out partially. I've also learned it from meditating partially. And I've learned this a million ways. But the main root of depression and the main belief that holds people back is like, maybe I'm not good enough. And what you need to do is say, what? Good enough for what? And you'll be like, oh.
01:05:54
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good enough to be in the NBA. Try to play basketball. See if you suck or see if maybe you're good at it. There's a lot of things I suck at. I suck at memory. I have a pretty bad memory. So anything that really heavily requires memory, I'm not too good at. Other faults of mine. Yeah, I'm not tall enough to be in the NBA.
01:06:23
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See, when you're this good at this many things, it's kind of hard to find faults. I'm not good looking enough to be a model. But this is the problem. So many people are like, I'm not good looking enough. I didn't think I was good looking enough to
01:06:53
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get like that where that girl could ever like me. But in at the base, it was like, I'm not good looking enough. And that is not true. I've no like, you got to ask yourself for what? It's like, yeah, maybe I have this I watch this podcaster. And I think she's amazing. I think she's so fine. I think she's beautiful. Her name is like Madeline Argy. And
01:07:19
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Oh my god, dude, I didn't even know I had a thing for British accents until I heard this shoddy. And, um, yeah, maybe I'm not good looking enough to ever get her to like me. Maybe she thinks I'm butt ugly. But maybe she doesn't. And I will never know unless I ever encounter her. And I'm like, hey, Madeline Argy, I think you're gorgeous.
01:07:47
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and just see what she says. You could leave it at that. She'd be like, oh, thank you. And then you will be shitting your pants. But then what if you're like, do you think I'm not ugly? Do you think I'm a decent enough looking chap to where you would ever consider dating me? And maybe she'll say no, and that'll sting because I would love for Madeleine Argy and me to go on a date. And with me, like all I need is a date and I'm funny, I'm smart and kind.
01:08:17
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and apparently I'm cocky but that's not what I'm talking about but if she ever like went on a date with me then there's a chance and all you all the kid needs is a chance and maybe she doesn't like me maybe she thinks I'm too cocky and that's sad and I wouldn't be very sad but guess what there's other girls out there and I don't just like my own Argy I like
01:08:48
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I know I like a lot of girls. And there's plenty of fish in the ocean, my brother. And I know you gave up on fishing. I don't know that. Maybe you gave up on fishing, but man, get your hook back in that water because you might. Maybe you can only catch crappie or sunfish or trout or smallmouth bass.
01:09:10
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But man, maybe you could catch a pike. And if you don't know, a pike is like a massive fish. Maybe you could catch a whale. Maybe you could catch a shark. Maybe you're listening to this and like, I have no interest in catching sharks. Good. Remember that. So don't try to catch sharks. But if, and that's, this is obviously an analogy or a metaphor or whatever. You catch my drift.
01:09:39
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Maybe it's not fishing. Maybe it's shooting a basketball and if it gets it in if you get it in and that shivers your timbers Then my brother keeps shooting. You're not gonna make every shot, but maybe you're pretty good maybe you're athletic enough to play basketball professionally and Maybe you're not fuck around and find out roll the dice. Take a leap of faith. Babadaboo, Baba and You're like, oh, maybe I'm not athletic enough to play in the NBA
01:10:09
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yeah maybe you're not but maybe I've already said maybe you are but like find your NBA find your for me it seems to be the podcast because I really love doing this and I've gotten some people to listen and I plan on getting better until a lot of people listen but even if they don't I'll still keep doing it because I love you but find your NBA I know I've talked about this but find your NBA find your podcast find your dream find your dream
01:10:41
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Because maybe you're not good enough, but hey, I don't know if I'm good enough. I have a podcast with, I think, a little over a hundred total listens. And maybe I can't make this into a monster, but this is my NBA, so damn it, I'm gonna give it all I got. I'm gonna try as hard as I can. I'm gonna give it everything I've got, and I think you should too. I think you should find your NBA, you should find your podcast, and you should give it everything you got.
01:11:12
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Because yeah, maybe you're not good enough to be successful at it but maybe you are. And the hint at your dream is find out what you lose track of time doing because that is my this. I lose track of time talking into this microphone.
01:11:30
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I lose track of time talking to my friends and that's, I'm going to start next episode or maybe the past episode or maybe blah, blah, blah, blah. Like I'm, my current plan is to start talking to my friends on this podcast and hopefully people listen and maybe they don't, but this is my MBA. So then I'll say, all right, maybe people just want to listen to me, which is doubtful, but maybe they just want to listen to me.
01:11:56
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And it didn't work before completely, 100%. It didn't blow up when I was just talking into a microphone with no plan. But maybe if I prepped a little more, then maybe they might listen. And I'm gonna keep rolling the dice until I'm gonna keep throwing the ball. I'm gonna keep throwing Hail Marys.
01:12:16
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until I figure out how to make this successful. And you know why? Because this is my MBA. This is my podcast. This is my dream. This is what I want to do more than anything else in the world. This is what I lose track of time doing. This is what sets my soul on fire. And I really want you to do the same because my life is exponentially better when I'm doing what I love, when I'm doing what I dream about.
01:12:42
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Maybe you're not religious, but maybe you are. And if you are, some people think that God gives you like dreams. He's the one that puts dreams in your head. And you're like, right now you might be like, Oh God, I could never do that. But God believes in you. I believe in you. Yeah, if you don't believe in God, I believe in you. I believe you can accomplish your dream. And I had a lot of dreams growing up. One of them was to be a professional athlete. But then I was like, I'm not
01:13:10
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I'm good at lacrosse but a lot of these dudes are bigger than me and lacrosse players don't make that much money so I don't really want that anymore and that's okay like the thing in your back of your mind I know you have something in the back of your mind while I'm talking about dreams do that and maybe that's not your end goal because I had
01:13:30
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and the reason I know that is because I thought my dream was being a professional cross player and then I realized it wasn't and then I thought hey maybe I'll make like quick videos on instagram to inspire and motivate and help people maybe that's my dream but it wasn't because it took too much prep and I didn't want I didn't want to keep doing it so I stopped doing it
01:13:54
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But I didn't give up on my dream. I didn't give up on dreaming. Don't give up on dreaming. And here's why. Because you figure out your true dream by figuring out what your true dream isn't.
Refining Dreams and Personal Aspirations
01:14:10
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I played lacrosse. Turns out it wasn't that good and I didn't want it. So I stopped.
01:14:14
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I stopped making those videos, but it get every time you find out, you find out what you don't want by trying anything. And you're like, Hey, I don't like that because blank. And then you're like, Okay, so I don't like blank. So my dream, it takes your dream from anything to dreams to can dreams that don't require you to blank. And in that case, for me, it was preparation.
01:14:42
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I don't really love preparation, so I have to do something that doesn't require too much preparation. But that helped me. That helped me narrow down what my dream could be. And then I tried this, and it was like love at first sight.
01:15:04
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I love this microphone but it narrowed it down and I got there kind of quickly I won't lie to you if this is my dream maybe maybe in a couple episodes I'm like maybe I don't love this and then I'll be like hey why don't I love this and then it will narrow down my dream to things that don't require preparation and whatever reason that I stopped liking this and that's what you do you gotta try things
01:15:34
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And when you don't, like getting rejected, I promise you it's your best friend. It might not be, I know it's probably not right now, it's probably not for most people, but it can be. Rejection is my best friend. And I'm not saying rejection, it doesn't feel good when I get rejected, it probably never will. Because rejection means you took a chance. But it also tells you that you went for something that you didn't know you could get. And that's what it's all about.
01:16:03
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Like I did that Instagram account and I stopped loving it because it wasn't for me. It wasn't my dream. It wasn't my purpose. And another word, a dream is a great word for what I'm talking about.
01:16:17
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The other word is purpose. And maybe you don't think you were put on earth to do one thing. And honestly, I don't either. I think you were put on earth to do a lot of things. But I think everyone was put on earth to help people. And so I was like, okay, I want to help people. So I narrowed it, narrowed my dream down. I narrowed my purpose down to something that helps other people.
01:16:40
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And then I tried that Instagram account and I was like, I don't really love this. I don't really want to keep doing it. So I'm not going to keep doing it. And that's fine. It's okay to quit at some things if you stop loving them. But then try something else. So I tried the podcast, hungover in my friend's basement. And now I have over a hundred listens. I have over, I think I might be over 30 consumption hours now. People have listened to me yap for,
01:17:07
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Fucking 30 hours and that is amazing to me because I never I thought maybe no one would listen I had a feeling some people might want to listen but people have listened for 30 hours and Less than a month ago. No one had listened for Jack shit Because I didn't try I didn't have a podcast but I gave I put myself out there and some people listened I
01:17:34
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And that is momentum and you can't let the kid go get momentum because I found something where I'm not going to quit because I love it. It helps people and I love it. Find out what helps other people and what you love. Say like you love knitting, but you're like, Oh, maybe I'm not good enough to be a professional knitter motherfucker. What if you are find out, start trying to sell your mittens.
01:18:04
Speaker
And maybe no one will buy them. And if that happens, I'm sorry, but you can pivot. You can always pivot. It's never too late. A quote I love is if you're breathing, it's not too late. It's never too late to start. And maybe you're 60 years old and you're like, I don't really love my job. That's okay.
01:18:24
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I know that feels very, very scary. I've been there. I wasn't 60, but I was on a career path where I was scared of doing it because I didn't love it. I found something, but eventually I kept trying things. It went from... I'd still love to be a therapist. And if this never blows up, that's what I'm going to do. And hopefully I didn't make too many dumb jokes for nobody to hire me, but we'll find out.
01:18:53
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And I was willing to make the dumb jokes because if this ever blows up, I don't know if you can hear me whistle, but it's like, that's it, man. I found out something that helps other people and that I love doing and helping other people. Like I've had people reach out and they're like, hey Wes, I listen to your podcast and that was amazing. And that's all I will ever need.
01:19:21
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because I love doing it, I can keep doing it, and it has helped at least one person. And I'm gonna try to figure out how to make it help a boatload of people. And after that, I'm gonna try to figure out how to help a building full of people. And I'm gonna fail. I'm gonna fail at certain aspects, but I'll never give up. Fairly confident I will never give up.
01:19:51
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And that way, the only way for me to quote, unquote, is that the expression? I always say like, quote, unquote, and I don't even really know what I'm saying. But it's probably quote, unquote, now that I think about it. But if I, the only way I can quote, unquote, lose is if I make it to 90 years old and I die and I helped no one. But guess what? I've already helped people.
01:20:20
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And I'm gonna figure out how to maximize the amount of people I can help. And it's gonna be a hell of a ride. I can feel it in my bones. I know I can do this. And the only reason, if I don't, is because I didn't believe in myself and I gave up. And I'll never give up. Maybe I will, but I'll never give up as long, asterisks, as long as
01:20:49
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I stop as long as I don't stop loving it. If I keep loving it, I'm never going to stop. The only way for me to deem this podcast a failure is if no one listens and people have already listened. So I'm already a success. Wapow. Kachow. I'm Lightning McQueen. Kachow. Hey Mater. Owen Wilson is Lightning McQueen. I love that guy's voice and I love that dude. And you know what?
01:21:15
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He didn't know if he was good enough to be an actor, but he rolled the dice. He found out maybe he had a dream before that where he's like, I want to be a plumber so bad. And that doesn't sound too realistic because he wants to play with poop. But, but maybe he was like, I want to be in the NBA. Maybe he wasn't tall enough. And then he was sad about that for a little while. Then he was like, it'd be pretty darn cool to be an actor.
01:21:42
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And then he tried acting and it just, it clicked, it gelled, it was butter. He lost track of time doing it. It was gravy. It was insert synonym here, fill in the blank. It set his soul on fire. It was his dream. It was his new dream. If you have a dream and you're thinking about it right now, try it. You might fail. If you find out you can't do it, it'll be sad for a while. But then you can find a new dream.
01:22:12
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and you could find a new purpose. It's like God, maybe it wasn't God. Maybe it was. Maybe God put you on this earth for a reason. Maybe he didn't. But most people agree with even non-religious people. It's like everything happens for a reason. Okay, so why are you on earth? Find out what's your purpose. Maybe you're not tall enough to be in the NBA, but maybe you can do a podcast. Maybe you're not me enough to do a podcast, but
01:22:42
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maybe you can I don't know maybe you could be in the NBA or maybe you can be a chef or maybe like figure all you got to do is figure out what you love doing and find a way to make what you love doing help other people and I there was I heard that and I was like yeah but what I love other
01:23:08
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What I love doing is like joking around with my friends. I could never be, I could never make money off that. But first episode, Brad Kessler is one of my friends. And all I really did was joke and laugh around with him. Laugh around, who am I? 90 years old. But all I did was joke around with him. And sooner, it was hard in the beginning. It was the first person I've ever had in my podcast.
01:23:37
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It was awkward at first, it was uncomfortable at first, but then it got better. And that's what happens with time, especially when you found your purpose. And eventually I was talking to him in two hours had gone by and I'm like, Oh, that was fun, man. I'm going to keep doing that. Cause I got, I know, and I love other people. Not that Brad's not good enough for me. Brad, if you're listening, you will always be good enough for me. Pookie.
01:24:03
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But if you're not Brad, I want to talk to you. Legit? Also, that's another thing. If you want to come on my podcast, I will have you on. The only criteria for being on my podcast, at least for now, is wanting to come on. Because I have about 20 potential guests lined up.
01:24:21
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And at first I was like, I don't know enough people to get on my podcast, but then I was like, I can just interview my friends, my family. And then hopefully people can listen to this and you can be like, Hey Wes, I would love, I love your podcast. I'd love to come on. I listen to you for two hours because I've struggled with some of the same thing you've struggled with. And I love hearing what you have to say. And I'll be like, motherfucker, hop on. I love you too. Let's do this thing.
01:24:50
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and I'm gonna figure out a way there's a movie I think it's like turbo it's like winners find a way it might be surf stuff those movies are like what get me fucking fired up man they get me going not in not in a sexual way but like you know I set my soul on fire because every time I watch one of those it helps me believe hey maybe I can do what I dream about like Cody Cody's this Cody's that Cody's me bro
01:25:17
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Like when I watched Surf's Up, it's like a penguin could never surf. But guess what? Cody did it. Cody was the best after Big Z. But I watched that and it fires me up. It fills me with fire about like, yeah, maybe I don't like surfing enough or want to surf enough to become the best surfer of all time. And I'm also not a penguin, but there is something
01:25:43
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Cody didn't know if he could do it and I didn't know if I could become a successful podcaster I still don't well I do because some other some people already listened and that's my definition of success, but I Don't know if I can make a living off this but guess what? I'm gonna find out I'm gonna find out There is no and that's another thing there is no tomorrow I got that from Rocky 3 and Rocky's feeling real down and out and he's sad and
01:26:10
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And Rocky doesn't want to keep fighting. Because his wife died or something. I don't know, it doesn't really matter. But Rocky didn't want to keep fighting. But he kept fighting. And he found his fire again. And that's what you need to do. You need to find your fire again. Because I found my fire again. And whoo. This life sure is sweet when you have some fire.
01:26:33
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and you find out what sets your soul on fire. For Rocky, it was boxing. For Cody, it was being the best surfing penguin of all time. For you, I don't know what it is. Find out. Take your best guess, find out. If that's not it, pivot. It's that simple, people. It's that simple, people. Fuck. I think you can tell I'm fired up right now. It's because this is that for me. Find out what it is for you. And if you don't, that's your fault.
01:27:02
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because you're gonna die someday and you gave up, never give up. All this stuff sounds so corny, but like, it's true, corny but true. That really should be the name of this podcast. I'm not gonna hold you. Corny but true with Wes Macmillan, the sexiest man alive. And it's like, I hear, a little bit of a tangent,
01:27:29
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That's my podcast, bitch. Like when I found out that Paul Rudd had won the sexiest man of life, I was like, what? But you know what makes Paul Rudd as sexy is because he's confident being Paul Rudd and he's not ugly and he rocks it. He is himself. And even I think they gave it to like John Krasinski.
01:27:56
Speaker
And maybe I don't think John Krasinski's the sexiest man alive. I think it's who's up there. Ryan Reynolds, that guy's devilishly handsome. Michael B. Jordan, devilishly handsome. But you know what? It doesn't matter what I think because John Krasinski did it. Maybe he did it unintentionally.
01:28:17
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You know, I did it unintentionally. It's because he chased his dream of becoming an actor and become one of my favorite actors of all time. Maybe that's a stretch, but The Office is one of my favorite shows of all time and he's one of my favorite actors on that show. So if you really think about it, like he's a goat, he's an undeniable goat. And you know who doesn't win Sexiest Man Alive? People who never chase their dreams. Maybe I could win. I know I'm not a great look.
Confidence, Success, and Personal Growth
01:28:45
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I'll probably never win.
01:28:47
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But maybe I just, I'm so confident and I'm so successful where it's like, damn, that guy, Wes, he's so fine. And for a while, no one thought I was fine. And that's what I genuinely, like girls, guys are a little more visual than girls, I think. And that could be a little chicken or the egg stitch. It's like maybe,
01:29:13
Speaker
That just happened because someone decided it happened and someone else bought into it, but that's like exactly what I'm talking about. I don't think... So here's the analogy. I don't know if being the sexiest man alive is the chicken or the egg. I don't know if that's...
01:29:36
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what he set out to do and he did it or i don't know if he just really wanted to be an actor and he did it and then he became the sexiest man alive therefore being the egg and i'll never know unless i ask him i would love to have him on my podcast one day but maybe i'll never know but if i have and i'll never know unless i ask him and maybe i never have the chance to ask him but
01:30:03
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I'll never know unless I find out and you'll never know what you could become unless you try. It's like people don't know it. One of the reasons of being alive, I think, is becoming the best version of yourself. Like Jesus, Buddha, John Krasinski, those people all chased their dreams. You think Jesus, maybe he was like, maybe I'm not good enough to be God. But he became that for so many people.
01:30:34
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maybe Buddha was like maybe I'll never find peace but he he tried anyway because that was his dream and he did it he found peace he became enlightened when I don't know if anyone had ever been enlightened before maybe Jesus had I don't know and I want to become enlightened I want to find that indescribable peace maybe I will maybe I won't and that's not really directly what I'm pursuing I'm directly pursuing this podcast because
01:31:04
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I want to because that's my dream because that's what sets my soul on fire. And I know I'm kind of talking in circles here, but like I'm talking in circles and then getting a little bit wider and finding something else out. And John Krasinski, especially when he first started the office, like he had that haircut where it's like it was kind of in his face and he wasn't sharing his light with his world.
01:31:30
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he wasn't sharing his light with the world and but eventually and at that point he was at that point he was just starting out maybe I think and his light is acting at least one of his lights one of his gifts was acting because clearly people watched he was good at it we'll see yeah and he he gave it a shot he tried acting
01:31:55
Speaker
And maybe he went out for an audition and he didn't get it. He was probably real sad. He's like, maybe I'm not good enough to be an actor. But it's like, wait a minute. That show told me I wasn't good enough for them. Or maybe I just wasn't what they're looking for. But he auditioned for the office. He got it. And now he's one of probably the most high paid actors.
01:32:17
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our generation and he's definitely one of the most successful and then he did the office and me people including me were like yeah but he he's not a serious actor like he's Jim from the office and then he did the quiet place and he shocked the world shock I want you to shock the world and I'm gonna try to shock the world and I'm gonna fucking do it that's a promise
01:32:39
Speaker
Maybe it's not podcasting, but I'm going to shock the world. Muhammad Ali. He's like, I shook up the world. There's a clip of him saying that there was a video of Kevin Garnett. He just won the NBA championship. And he was like, anything is possible.
01:32:58
Speaker
And he didn't know if he could win the championship, but he tried. Muhammad Ali didn't know if he could become the best, greatest boxer of all time, but he tried. And I don't know if I can start a podcast and win, but I'm going to try. And if I can't, then I'm just going to be the best therapist of all time. Because I know I could help people and I know I love talking to people. But yeah, like I said earlier, I was like,
01:33:26
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I love, all I knew is I loved joking around with my friends. That's what I love more than anything. That's what I love more than anything. That's what I lose track of time doing. And I, for a while, I was like, yeah, but I can't make money off joking around with my friends. And yeah, maybe I couldn't until I got a microphone and then everything changes, maybe.
01:33:52
Speaker
I know I'm yapping right now, but like, motherfucker, I'm also cooking. I may be cooking slowly, but I'm cooking. I am cooking. I'm the king of cooking. And like, you got to trust the process. You got to give it a shot. You got to give it a real shot. You can't like, say, most actors, I assume on their first audition, they don't get it. It's like, oh, maybe I'm not good enough. Wrong.
01:34:21
Speaker
You're not good enough for that show. Maybe you're good enough for another one. Maybe it's The Office. Maybe it's not The Office. Maybe there's another actor who tried out for The Office. I think there's a lot of notable people that auditioned for The Office and they didn't get it. I think one of them might have even been Will Ferrell.
01:34:40
Speaker
Maybe it wasn't, but who gives a rat's ass? Maybe it was. And in this case, maybe he auditioned for the office and he didn't get it, but he's still Will Ferrell. And the only reason he is Will Ferrell is because he went feral on his dream. He never gave up and he kept trying.
01:34:58
Speaker
I've watched a video of him and he's like I didn't know what I wanted to do I just knew I wanted to do something with comedy so I threw some darts at the dartboard and I know he did improv maybe improv wasn't his purpose but maybe yeah maybe it wasn't and it sort of I don't know I don't know if it is but you know it certainly was his purpose being in stepbrothers because that level of like greatness is undeniable you know like I'm
01:35:29
Speaker
This is what it's all about. I don't know what it's all about, but there's a couple of things where I feel like I know what it's all about. And it's like, many of them are the things that are corny, but true. Like you never work a day in your life. If you do what you love, bang, never give up, bang. Like all these sayings, man, they're true. I promise you they're true.
01:35:58
Speaker
And if you don't think they're true, that's fine. Find out. Take a chance. If anyone listened to all this, I think the title of this podcast episode is going to be...
01:36:13
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how to meditate or how to get into meditating or like listen to this if you want to meditate and that's why that's where i started and like we've look how far we've come i can't believe that we made it this far and i've literally i've had people make fun of me to my face for like i told on my second episode i think i talked about what that song means to me and how much that means to me
01:36:42
Speaker
because I genuinely, I can't believe I've made it this far. And so every time I fucking win, I throw that song on and I feel like heaven. And I told, I was brave enough to share that with the world. And I had people make fun of me for that to my face. They were like playing the song. You're like, oh, do you feel like you're on top of the world? And I did it. I was sad when they did that.
01:37:11
Speaker
It made me feel like I was vulnerable as hell. I was brave as hell. I tried to shine my light with the world and some people fucking clowned me for it. And I felt like shit. Like they were playing the song and I was like, I love this song and you're making me hate it. And then it really hurt me.
01:37:40
Speaker
Part of me is tempted to say, fuck you for that and yeah, fuck you for that. I told you like something that I'm really, that's really personal to me and you clowned me for it and fuck you for that. And those were my friends and I'll still be their friend because there's more to that than them. They did one, I'm not kidding, I was talking to my,
01:38:11
Speaker
Yeah, it was my mom. I was talking to my mom about this, about how there's a friend I had in middle school and I cut him off because I texted him to hang out.
Friendship, Communication, and Forgiveness
01:38:23
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He's like, I don't really want to hang out. And I was like, I don't really want to, I don't really want to have friends that don't want to hang out with me. You're done. You're finished. Goodbye forever. And then I did that.
01:38:41
Speaker
And then he was like, Hey man, you really going to cut me off for that? And I was like, yeah, you're finished. Or no, I actually, I was like, no man, you're right. That was stupid. But then I did it again and he didn't forgive me. And I think my life would have been a lot better if I didn't cut him off again. That's, I don't really know if I want to say your name.
01:39:09
Speaker
Like I'm, I wish I never cut you off, man. Cause we were good friends and you told me I didn't want to hang out. And I took that and I ran with it. But if I said like, what, what do you mean you don't want to hang out? He would have been like, I don't want to hang out right now. I would be like, Oh, okay. I don't need friends that are always in the mood to hang out with me. I can be a lot, but I thought I knew.
01:39:37
Speaker
I thought that he just, I thought that he just wanted to hang out. I thought he never wanted. A part of me was like, Hunter doesn't, ugh, I said his name. I wanna say his last name. Hunter, Hunter doesn't wanna hang out with me. Then I don't wanna be friends with Hunter. But Hunter was a great friend. And the truth of the matter was Hunter didn't wanna hang out with me right now. He wasn't in the mood.
01:40:06
Speaker
and all of my friends every like I think all of everyone's friends don't want to hang out with them all the time like your best friends you want to someone you want to hang out with almost all the time but even your best friend you spend like a week together and you're like I'm sick of this mamajama I need some alone time and hunter just told me I don't want to hang out right now and I said
01:40:31
Speaker
I made a false assumption and I paid the price. Because Hunter, the real one he is, he was like, you're really gonna cut me off for that? And I was like, no, man, you're right. I love you. But then I did it again. And Hunter, I don't know if he knew the saying, but he was like, fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice, can't put the blame on you. Fool me three times, fuck the peace sign, load the chopper, let it rain on you.
01:40:56
Speaker
And the first part of that expression is more popular. The second part is a part of a song by J. Cole. Forget what song, I think it's... Fool me one time, I don't fool shame on you. Fool me twice, can't put the blame on you. Fool me three time, fuck the peace sign, load the chopper, let it rain on you. Oh, yeah. Maybe it's GOMB by J. Cole, but maybe you don't care. So I'll stop talking about it.
01:41:27
Speaker
But Hunter, Hunter lived by the rule. I don't know if he was doing it intentionally, but he was like, fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice. I can't put the blame on you. Like if, honestly, if Hunter forgave me, I, I probably would have done it again because I hadn't learned my lesson and Hunter not forgiving me is the only way I learned my lesson.
01:41:55
Speaker
And in that way, maybe Hunter's the best friend I've ever had. I don't know if he's, he's probably not the best friend I've ever had, but he's been a great friend. And Young Thug, I've talked about this with one of my other friends, Young Thug has this quote where he's like, just because I cut you out of my life doesn't mean I don't want you to win. And maybe that's how Hunter feels about me.
01:42:21
Speaker
But maybe even if he doesn't want me to win, Hunter cut me off and I learned my lesson. And it was, Hunter was like my best friend at the time. But I hope you don't mind me talking about you, Hunter. But this is my dream, so I'm gonna do whatever it takes. And I also said your name already, so I can't really go back. And I'm a stoic, I only focus on the things I can control.
01:42:51
Speaker
But yeah, Hunter cut me off and I couldn't do anything about that. And it was really sad because he was my best friend, one of my best friends at least. And so from that, I was like, damn, I learned that lesson the hard way. And then it sucks because I lost a friend who was a great friend. To this day, Hunter, you are like, you're a standup guy. You're one of the best dudes I've ever met. I'm not saying you're top like five, maybe you are, I don't know.
01:43:18
Speaker
I really thought about it, I'm not going to. But you're at least like top 100. You're probably top 50. Should we rank Hunter right now for the number of stand up guys I've ever met? He's a dope dude. I'll give, I don't know, man. Let it go, Hunt. But Hunter,
01:43:46
Speaker
I wish he didn't, I don't wish he didn't cut me off. I wish I didn't have to learn that lesson the hard way, but you forced me to learn that lesson the hard way and honestly, I'm grateful for that. Because if not, then every time my friend wasn't in the mood to hang out with me, I'd cut him off and then I'd have no fucking friends. So thank you, Hunter. You did the hard thing. It's not easy to not forgive someone because we were close friends, but he was like,
01:44:16
Speaker
Fuck that man, like he didn't learn his lesson. And it took him not forgiving me to learn that lesson, but guess what? I learned it now. Now I don't cut off all my friends and I'm way better off for it. So thank you, Hunter. And I hope in some parallel universe, we're still friends. Maybe we could be in this life. Only time will tell.
01:44:50
Speaker
Only time will tell. I think that's where I'm gonna wrap this one up. Asking Hunter to be my friend again. Now with that, like, I cooked on this and I know I did. And even if I give people this dish and they're like, oh, that's too spicy, then I'll use less spice.
01:45:21
Speaker
And maybe less spice is being alone talking. Like less spice could be a lot of things and I'm gonna figure it out. And I'm gonna tell you how I figured it out because I love you. I genuinely, if you've listened to this whole thing, I love you. And maybe you don't want to reach out and tell me the things you're struggling with because that's how shame works. There's a quote by Brene Brown.
01:45:45
Speaker
She's a goat and I'll leave it at that but she said shame cannot survive if you like share it and that's just how it works and you know how I figured out how it worked because I was ashamed of things and I told people about them and then I didn't feel shame anymore and I was like oh that's cool I'm gonna keep doing that
01:46:04
Speaker
Deadass bro Fuck But what i'm trying to say is if you are struggling with something hit me up. I will not tell anyone I promise you you have my word. I will not tell anyone. I will just talk about it and maybe it will help you And maybe i've never gone through that But if it's something I can go through i'll put myself through it just to help you because I love you And I want to help you and I want to keep doing this
01:46:35
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If you are listening on Spotify, Apple Music, I don't know how, what the hell Apple Music is for because I'm not a bum and I've never had it. But if you were like, hey Wes, I want to learn how to learn Apple Music, I might download it just so I can figure it out and tell you. Like I put, I hear, people who have Apple Music genuinely, like it's one of my pet peeves. It's like Spotify is awesome.
01:47:02
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And I, maybe Apple Music is awesome too. I just, I've never had it. And I just know how much I love Spotify, but maybe Apple Music is fire too. So if you're like, I want to learn how to use Apple Music, I'll get it just so I can figure it out and tell you. Because I love you and I love doing this and that would allow me to do this. You know what I'm saying?
01:47:26
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So, deadass, maybe I haven't gone through it, maybe you're struggling with something that I've never gone through, but if I can put myself through it, I will. If you're like, hey Wes, I wanna learn how to put my hand on the stove, I'm gonna be like, fuck man. That's one of the last things I wanted to hear because I'm fairly confident, I don't know. I'm fairly confident that putting my hand on the stove is gonna hurt like a bitch and it might kill me. And it might burn my hand off, but I'm telling you,
01:47:51
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If you're listening, if you've listened to me yap for an hour and 30, I will burn my hand off for you. You know why? Cause I can still podcast with one hand. I can still, I can still live a full life without one hand, but I can't live a full life without chasing my dream. And this is how I chase my dream.
01:48:10
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So I'm kind of a long winded chap, but like, if you're like, I'm struggling with this thing, but I don't want to tell Wes because I don't know if he's gone through it. Maybe I haven't. But if I can put myself through it, I will. And I'll figure it out and I'll tell you. And maybe I'll get my hand burned off. And then I'll be like, well, man, I know you wanted to get your, I know you wanted to learn how to put your hand on the stove. I put my hand on the stove. That's where this is coming from, if you're wondering, but
01:48:41
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If you're like, hey, man, I really wanted to learn how to put my hand on the stove. I'll be like, hey, man, I tried putting my hand on the stove for five seconds. And that shit hurts so fucking bad. That shit hurt like that hurt maximum, that hurt maximum level bad. And that pain is telling me that I shouldn't do that. Listen to pain pain is can be your friend.
01:49:05
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but fuck I missed a tangent over here but if you're like hey man I want to learn how to put my hand on the stove and I tried it for five seconds and it hurt like a bitch I'll be like man I put my hand on the stove for five seconds and I think I almost died my hand is still wrapped up in bandages and it might kill you
01:49:27
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With that being said, do you still want to learn? And you'll be like, ah man, I love my hand. And I'll be like, I wish I knew that before, but I didn't, I didn't know that before. But I found out, and dead ass dude, I love podcasting so much that I would put my hand on the stove, like, I put my hand on the stove.
01:49:52
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free. I'm still the man I used to be. Yeah, yeah. I will literally
01:50:04
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I will literally, I'm damn, I'm almost certain that no benefit, little to no benefit comes from putting your hand on the stove. But if you come to me and you're like, Hey Wes, I want to learn how to put my hand on the stove, but I don't want to learn the hard way. I will learn the hard way and I will tell you. And if you tell me, Hey, um,
01:50:29
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Yeah, oh, yes, I know you burn yourself really bad, but I'm still, I still, I still kind of want to put my hand on the stove.
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01:50:38
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Like what if, what if 10 seconds it stops burning? And I'd be like, man, I am damn near certain, damn near certain that I know it won't get better, magically get better at 10 seconds. But you know what? I don't know. So I'll put my hand on the stove for 10 seconds.
01:50:59
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And don't, don't be telling me stuff. Don't be like, Hey, Wes, go jump off your house. Cause then I'll, I don't think I'd do that because I'm damn near confident I'll die. But anything where it's like, I know I'm not going to die. I'll do it because I love you and I, it'll allow me to keep doing this, which I also love and love is the answer. So if there's anything you're struggling with that won't
01:51:26
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that i could try and it won't kill me tell me and i'll do it and i'll figure it out and i'll tell you how to do it that simple and also if you're listening rate this five stars follow this on whatever platform you're on even if you're a bum who uses apple music if you're on youtube subscribe like post noti's baby kachow support me support me help me help you
01:51:54
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Help me, help you. And the way you help me is by supporting this, by listening, by rating it five stars, by following, by subscribing. Do it. And if you do that, I'll do anything for you that won't kill me. Because I'm Val Kilmer. I don't even know who that is.
01:52:15
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But yeah, and I think I should wrap there because I think this thing is like an hour and 15 minutes now. And I think people only like listening. I don't know if everyone wants to listen that long. Maybe they do, we'll find out. If you do, let me know in the comments. Reach out, text me, Skype me, call me, come up to my house, slap me in the face and be like, hey Wes, I like listening for two hours and maybe I'll keep doing it sometimes.
01:52:40
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But if people in general only wanna listen for an hour, then I'll cook for an hour, I'll turn off the stove, I'll come back tomorrow, and I'll cook for an hour again, and I'll do that every day until I motherfucking die, bitch. Ooh! Fucking fired up right now.
01:53:00
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Ending these things always feel weird. You can probably tell because I think about ending it for a while and then I don't, but this, I gotta end it. And it's sad. You know, it's because I like doing this a lot. But I'm gonna figure out a way to do it where people also like listening because that's why I'm doing this in the first place.
01:53:28
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Because I can't help people if no one listens to my podcast. Welcome back to corny but true with Wes Macmillan. I'm your host Wes Macmillan aka the kid aka vanilla thunder. And this is the kid signing off. This is gonna be so weird because the beginning of this is how to meditate and look how far we've come. I can't believe we never made it this fall. Um,
01:53:59
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But hell, I don't really care if people listen to this one. Because I know, I'm confident some people... I gotta shut up, man. But I know some people will listen. And if you're like... Some people are like, have told me, Wes, you paused too long. And so I'm gonna pause less by talking to other people. And I'm also just gonna talk about shit that I'm fired up about and I've already thought about.
01:54:24
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But I think you've caught my drift a long time ago. And if you're still listening, stop. I'm trying to wrap it up. Stop listening. Deadass. Help me stop. Because I love doing this. But in the grand scheme of things, the only way I can keep doing this long term is if I don't talk forever.
01:54:48
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come back tomorrow and I can talk some more. So that's what I'm gonna do. I love you. I'm proud of you for how far you've come. And I want to tell you to roll the dice. Take a leap of faith. Fuck around and find out. Peace.