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Beta Boys: Understand The Ache To Submit
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In this episode, I’m diving into the psychology, the fantasy, and the erotic power behind the word beta. Often thrown around as an insult, beta male takes on a completely different meaning inside the world of erotic submission and humiliation kink.
Why does being called beta turn some men on? Why is surrendering status—and even embracing humiliation—so intoxicating for certain submissives? And… why do I enjoy playing with beta boys so much?
You’ll hear real, anonymous testimonials from listeners bravely sharing what being beta means to them, plus my own thoughts on why this particular flavor of submission is so delicious to explore.
Whether you’re a curious good boy, a devoted beta, or simply hungry to understand the craving to serve, submit, and worship power… this one’s for you.
For more of my hypnotic audios, custom experiences, and ways to surrender even deeper: https://www.missbeatrix.com
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Introduction to 'The Slut Next Door'
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Welcome to the Slut Next Door podcast, where we dive deep into desire, unravel kinks and fetishes, and explore the deliciously naughty side of self-discovery.
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I'm Beatrix Vale, an erotic audio creator, and your guide to all things kinky and curious. So let's begin.
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welcome. I have a question for you.
Redefining 'Beta' as a Kink, Not an Insult
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Have you ever felt the need to kneel, a longing to surrender, or to give up the exhausting need to be the alpha and just simply melt into the aching truth that you're beta,
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You might have heard that word tossed around like an insult. Beta. Lesser. Weak. And while that can be true, a lot of times in my world, it's not really an insult.
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It's a kink. It's a fantasy. It's a role that some men crave more than anything else. So today, we're going to talk about it.
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What does it mean to be beta? Why do so many men need this? And why is it so fucking hot, to admit out loud, to own it, to offer yourself up as la knowing just how much that turns me on.
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But before we get into all that deliciousness, if you're enjoying these episodes, make sure you're subscribed. Tap that follow button, leave me a rating or a comment.
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Tell me your thoughts, your fantasies, your questions. I love hearing from you.
Invitation to MissBeatrix.com
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And if you're hungry for even more, you can explore my audios, blog, and custom experiences missbeatrix.com.
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That link is in the description of this episode. That is where all the good stuff is waiting for you. Now, let's talk about beta boys.
Submission vs. Dominance: Empowerment Through Beta Role
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So what does it mean to be beta? You've probably heard that word before and maybe even had it thrown at you like a slap, like an insult.
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It's the opposite of alpha, as people call it, second place. Weak or even soft. But what if I told you that's exactly the appeal?
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You see, the idea of alpha versus beta originally comes from a misreading of animal behavior. So old studies on wolves in captivity that labeled some as dominant, others as submissive.
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But in the wild, these hierarchies don't even work the same way. And yet the language stuck. Alpha became the cultural ideal.
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Aggressive, powerful, competitive. And then Beta is the one who submits. The one that follows. The one that's not trying to compete at all.
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And in the mainstream world, beta is often used to shame men who aren't aggressive, who aren't loud, who aren't fighting tooth and nail to be at the top of the pact.
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But here in my world, being beta can be beautiful, even erotic and powerful in its own way.
Embracing Beta Identity: From Shame to Empowerment
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Because when you choose it,
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When you lean into the surrender of it, the worship of the feminine, the acceptance of your softer, and more obedient self, it stops being an insult and becomes a gift.
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It becomes something that makes me smile, turns me on because I know just how deep that need runs in you. And of course, not every submissive man calls himself beta.
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Some prefer a good boy. Some crave even things that sting more. And some ache to be sissy slut. But for the men who just love the word beta...
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There's something so raw about that. That a mission of being underneath. Not the king, not the winner, just the one that serves.
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So you might be wondering... Why would a man want this? Why would he want to call himself beta? Why would
Freedom in Submission: Emotional and Erotic Release
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he ache to be beneath, to surrender, to let go of the so-called alpha ideal the world has shoved down his throat his whole life?
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And it's simple, really, because for some men, the greatest relief, the deepest pleasure comes from letting go of the burden of dominance.
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So all day long, the world tells you to compete, to conquer, to chase success, power, control, be the boss, be the leader, take charge, always be strong, never soft.
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But what happens when all of that becomes exhausting, when that weight of performance, of expectation becomes too heavy to hold,
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For some men, submission becomes the escape. The surrender becomes the freedom. And calling yourself beta, admitting that you're not the one in control, can feel like a release.
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But there's more to it than just relief. For a lot of betas, it's not only about giving up power, it's about the shame of it.
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That delicious, aching humiliation of being seen as weaker, lesser, and small. Because shame can be erotic, and we have discussed that already on this podcast.
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So like when I call beta, man that wants to be called beta, when I call him my beta boy or my pathetic little cuck or my weak, needy submissive, I am seeing him for what he is.
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And when I name it out loud, it hits something deep. That little part of him that feels exposed, vulnerable, and helpless.
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And that helplessness, that humiliation, that then turns you. heat and to arousal and to need.
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And some men, they crave to be beta because they want to worship power and especially to kneel before the feminine, to adore, to serve, to please.
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And the more they're reminded of their place, Beneath and always beneath, the harder they ache to please. And sometimes it's simply about masochism, not just physical pain, but emotional masochism.
Exploring Erotic Hypnosis and Beta Content
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So the desire to be degraded, belittled, and put in your place and to love every second of that. Now, before we go even deeper, let me slip in a little something i think you'll enjoy.
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My website has been completely redesigned. So if you have not visited missbeatrix.com, now is the perfect time to explore.
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You're going to find all my erotic hypnosis files. You'll find where to find them free, the public ones, and you'll find where to find them, the premium ones that are either behind my subscription wall or on clips for sale or I want clips.
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You will find my blog where I am in the process of laying out this podcast, announcing things that are important. There's going to be lots of things there. So stay tuned for that.
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Everything is laid out to help guide you deeper and into your own desires and and into mine. So again, that's MissBiatrix.com.
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Go ahead, take a peek, and let's get back to where we left off.
Beta Listeners Share Experiences: Transforming Shame
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Now, I want to share something very, very special with you.
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When I was planning this episode, I actually reached out to my fans, my aching little beta listeners.
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And I asked them to answer a couple questions. So I asked the following questions. What does it feel like when you're called beta? Why does that word turn you on?
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And what does it mean to you deep down when a woman sees you? as beneath her. And the responses I received, oh my gosh, they were so honest, raw, and beautiful.
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So many of you were brave enough to share your thoughts with me anonymously. And I thank you so much for that. You trusted me with your confessions. And that kind of vulnerability deserves to be honored. So um Now I'm going to read a few of the responses i received within each question.
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Each one is anonymous, but each one is powerful in its own way. And I did this because I wanted to bring along...
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the why why are men into this because I I want to believe that beta humiliation and just the simple word beta is probably confusing for some like why are people so into this well who better to tell you but the betas themselves So let's start with the first question.
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Why does being called beta turn you on And here is what one gentleman said. He said, it's a turn on because it categorizes me as lesser than, not in the same species below or unworthy. And Not sure if it's an answer to your question, but I think I sexualized the failure and that made it into something desirable.
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Physically, there is like a blush, but instead of turning it into a shameful experience, it's now a sensual one. So I love this response because the key um sentence there is i sexualize the failure. and that is such a core of erotic humiliation is taking ownership of something that you particularly feel less than about or you have some lack of performance in certain ish in certain areas. I mean,
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And you turn that into something that arouses you and that excites you. And I think that's think that's so great.
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um I have told this story before, before I even put on my femdom shoes, before I truly you became a woman and I feel like I became a woman when I really owned my sexuality.
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um But before then, i i had a journey of coming to... my slut side. It's a big reason why I called this podcast, The Slut Next Door, because I'm very proud to call myself a slut. That was a journey for me to get there. I had to look at this sexual beast inside of me that felt a lot of shame for being so loud and being so needy.
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And it became something that I eroticized. was ah and was such a horny woman. du to i don't know how else to put it. And I was craving it was a need to it explore that side of myself. And there was a lot of shame with that.
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And so I own, eventually I owned it. And ah so your response made me think of that, ah taking ownership of something that I felt shameful about.
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It's wonderful. um So let's hear from another beta for, again, the question is why does being called beta turn you on? This person said, because being considered sexually inferior is a masculine taboo.
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Because accepting that label gives me permission to give up my role as a sexual instigator. Kind of like being in a waltz. where I'm allowed to give up the lead in the dance.
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I thought this response was so well said. For one, they brought up the taboo. And I think that is a piece of it for a lot of men.
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What kind of maybe drives it Because there's so many societal pressures for men to be the one in charge, to be... masculine and hard and you know all that stuff and you know and beta type content you're not expected to do anything masculine so it is pretty taboo in that way For a man to give the woman the the lead spot to submit, that is in itself taboo.
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And I thought the sexual instigator was very interesting too. ah It's often thought that men aren't the sexual instigators.
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And when you're beta... You don't instigate anything. you just do what you're told. so I love that. And of course, a comparison to the Waltz. Beautiful. Now, I included this response because it was straight to the point.
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And this also was to give you different different insights into how different fans of beta content are and to hear their reasoning and their whys.
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So again, the question was, why does being called beta turn you on? And this man said, because it is the truth, period.
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So you can see this man. knows at a very deep level that he is lesbian and he's owning it. And I think that's beautiful. So the next question I asked was, how does it feel when a woman sees you beneath her?
Power Dynamics: Mental Domination and Masculine Taboos
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And I have some really fascinating responses here. So one person said, day to day, it's not something I care about as I'm gender neutral in terms of equality.
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In sexual terms, it isn't about being beneath a woman. It's more about being excited by the perception of her having more sexual ability and experience than I do.
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My beta tendency isn't about the mental abuse of being beneath someone. It's about mental domination and submission. there is a big difference in my mind.
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You can be dominant or submissive while still being equal. So to answer the question more directly, it does not feel good when anyone sees me as beneath them. However, when I'm sexually dominated, there is a tickle sensation throughout my body, like a sex shiver along my spine.
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I suppose it's the release of endorphins from my brain doing that as I progressively lose control. It's very addictive and pleasant. It's similar to mild edging without the stimulation of genitals involved.
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So what I loved about this response, um because I do feel the same, i I believe that a dominant in the and a submissive are essentially equal because I do find value even if I'm pushing you down, deflating your ego as hard as I can, calling you the meanest names.
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Even though I'm doing these things, I still see you as a valuable person. And the same thing happens with beta. um Although I'm saying you're beneath me, it's more so just putting you in your place. It's not that I think you're a piece of shit and you know you should just give up. it It's playful thing.
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playful a playful thing. It's a, it's power dynamics is what it is. So I really enjoyed, um that part of this response.
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It really brings in the, the realism that can happen with this kink because there's a lot of porn. I think when you, if you were to take a look on a popular porn tube site and you looked up beta and you're going to see a lot of, you know, fuck you loser, you're you're nothing, blah, blah, blah.
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And that's well and good. That makes for great content um for some. But for some people that are more in tune with their emotions, it's like,
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I don't just want anyone to say that. I want a woman that I choose to say that about me. So let's move on our next response.
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Again, the question is, how does it feel when a woman sees you beneath her? This person says, it excites me to be a objectified by woman in any way but even more so when i'm found lacking because it validates my own feelings of inadequacy and a body positive way paradoxically enough it's satisfying to have feelings of inadequacies that I've internalized reframed in a way that still acknowledges me as a being that needs his body to be seen and sexualized by the opposite sex.
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I love this response. um I believe that, and just in my experience, just kind of playing around with betas, that last sentence, being sexualized by the opposite sex,
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So if you do have, let's just say you do have a smaller penis, you know you can't last in bed, you know, whatever else that makes you feel nervous,
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inadequate. When you're able to have a sexual experience with someone that knows how to reframe those inadequacies in a positive sexual way, i mean, come on, because it's really, and I find this a lot when I make beta content, a lot of times I'm just speaking the truth
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Because that's a it's a funny thing sometimes. And I'm sure we talked about this on the small penis humiliation episode. I feel for you guys, if you don't have a large penis, i can't I can't imagine how it feels to reveal that thing for the first time to a woman and then there'd be this this sense of, oh.
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Or if you finish too early and it's like, it's all awkward you know that's that's a lot of pressure and so you know when I there's a lot of times when I make beta content I'm just speaking like honestly like yes you'll never be big enough to satisfy a woman but that doesn't make you useless you know that just makes you a beta whatever it is um So yeah, I think that's so beautiful and I feel like he really like captured for me what my beta content is about.
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Love that response. Let's go to the next response. How does it feel when a woman sees you beneath her? He says...
Submissive Empowerment: Comfort in Beta Identity
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It's only a turn on if it's meant to be a essentially rousing experience.
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I mean, if she would be my workplace boss and she thought my work was bad, then no. If it's a game and I see it arouses her to belittle me,
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then that is very arousing. and Consent. Consent is always key. I mean, going to speak on this here in a moment in the next segment, but like, I don't want to call a man beta if I know it's not going to turn him on.
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So love that response. Next response, how does it feel when a woman sees you beneath her? This man says, intoxicating.
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I truly believe women are superior to men. When a woman sees me as beneath her, it feels like a puzzle piece slipping into place. She gets it and I get it.
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In that moment of mutual understanding, the world finally makes sense. Sounds like a true, true beta.
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Love it. And if you didn't know, there is a lot of men that truly believe that women are superior to men. And I think there is people like one of our other anonymous guys said, I believe in gender, you know, neutral in terms of equality.
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And then i'd I do know there are men that probably deep down inside think men are better than women. So none of those things are wrong or right.
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It's all about how you see it, you know, how you frame it for yourself. Like I have opinions about each of those outlooks, but you know, that doesn't matter. And I have what I believe.
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You have what you believe. So anyway, next response. How does it feel when a woman sees you beneath her? This man says, oddly empowering.
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I know that I am not in control and that's comforting. This is my happy place. where I can relax and succumb to pleasure. That is a true submissive nature right there. And I love it.
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ah That is, that's the core two right there. Oddly empowering.
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love
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There was a time where I was submissive. i thought I was submissive. And I found empowerment in that as well. Being able, like I felt proud of myself.
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It felt good. felt right in that moment to submit. and i And I feel that. I feel that this is my happy place that he said. I feel that because that was my happy place at one point when I was much younger.
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Let's move on to the next question. I have three responses I pulled out. The question is, what does being beta mean to you personally?
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And one person said, it's only a part of me, but a significant part. If I'm really in a beta state, I'm I can be ordered to do practically anything.
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When I hear a woman ordering ah her dog to sit, I do feel the urge to follow her orders, even if these orders weren't clearly not meant for me.
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Or when I hear a woman complaining about doesn't matter what, her husband, a waiter, her physician, i feel the need to make it better for her. Failure in doing that is also being sexualized and so on.
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I found so much beauty in this response. i i love i love him bringing up hearing a woman ordering her dog to sit and he feels urge to follow her orders.
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That's true submission as well. And I'm sure this man also believes that women are superior because I mean, he's just, I want to, I want to help her. I want to follow her orders.
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You know, i want to do what she wants me to do. And that's beautiful. All right. Next response. The question, what does being beta mean to you personally?
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This man says, My entire life, I've worked to help others, help to make them better. Being a beta is simply another way of saying, i am there to serve, support, assist, and please someone more powerful than myself.
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In an effective dynamic, the alpha can communicate their desires so that I can better serve and please others. her. So here you have someone who just loves to serve, loves having that purpose. And there is no weakness.
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I feel like that's a misconception. There's no weakness there. Now we can tease that the weakness is there, there They are finding empowerment and purpose and fu fulfillment and serving.
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And that's beautiful. Next response to the question, what does being beta mean to you personally? This man says... Being a beta is a lifestyle of commitment and trust.
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Each moment of relaxation is handed over to mommy for her discretion, where I get the privilege of following her divine commands. Now, this anonymous beta is obviously ah beta of Beatrix because you can see he is handing everything over to his mommy dom, me, having the privilege to follow her divine commands.
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You are sucking up and you are earning brownie points and I'm not mad at that. um I do love that you said relaxation.
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You know, you feel ah soothing feeling when you hand over control, when you follow commands.
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That's truly being a beta. Yeah.
Pleasure in Power Exchange: Teasing and Nurturing
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i hope that you guys enjoyed those anonymous responses and it kind of helped paint the picture of what it means to be beta, why men are end into it.
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I feel like these men did such a beautiful job painting that picture, giving their vulnerable responses. And I want to thank them one more time for taking the time to really give us an insight into this particular kink.
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Now, before we close, I want to share a little bit of my own heart with you. So you've heard what it means to be beta and why so many men crave it.
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But what about me? Why do I love playing with beta boys so much? Here's the truth. I think beta males are absolutely adorable.
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There is something literally so sweet about that craving, their need for attention, their adorable hunger to be seen and put in their place.
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i like I can't tell you how much I love giving a good beta boy the attention he aches for. and Here's the thing, though, too, is I don't just give them attention. I give them purpose.
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And to explain myself a little bit. See... I'm a little sadistic. i I love teasing.
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i love power exchange. I love knowing that I could just say like a few words or I could give a command or even laugh and And it can make a beta boy melt and then cause him to be so weak, submissive and aching and desperate.
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there It's that cause and effect. I'm so, i get addicted to it. pressing your buttons so pressing the buttons of a beta boy is so fun because I love seeing how they react it's adorable and really hot and there's ah beautiful balance in the way that I play with betas because Yes, I love teasing them and reminding them where they belong, which can sometimes be harsh.
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But I also love nurturing them, like guiding them and shaping them because deep down, I believe, i know there is a purpose for a beta boy.
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And that purpose is to serve, submit, and adore. To worship power and to worship me. and I'm also ah fan of cuckold.
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So it feels very natural for me to lead a beta man down ah path of acceptance and to remind him that it's okay to be small, to be lesser, to find pleasure and submission and service and knowing its place.
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And there's just, I mean, this is the sadistic side of me. and There's something so satisfying and so intoxicating about taking a man's ego and either gently or not so gently reshaping it or even sometimes just stomping on it.
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Okay. But it makes me feel powerful to be the alpha woman, like to know that my words, my attention, my control have the power to unlock a side of a man, you know, that sometimes he's never felt before.
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And, you know, I'll say this too. I only, only want to tease, shape, humiliate if it's something someone wants.
Consent and Mutual Desire in Beta Dynamics
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Like if you've given me your consent to play that way. Like when I when i meet someone new, like a new subscriber and loyal fans, I always ask like what kinks are into.
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and if they don't really tell me, I'm going to ask questions. There's oftentimes I'm like, I'm sorry for all these questions. I just want to understand you because I don't want to do something that someone doesn't enjoy. That makes me feel gross.
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You know, like I don't want to give you something you don't want. Um, I want to press your buttons. So, you know, without consent, without their desire, it's no fun for me.
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Absolutely none. So it's just, it's always that mental... or in mutual hunger that makes it hot.
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um That dance. that And someone mentioned that earlier, the waltz. The dance of control and surrender. That's where the magic really happens.
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So there you have it. Beta isn't just a label. It's a craving a surrender, a truth that some of you feel deep in your bones.
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And it's not about weakness. It's about honesty, about dropping the mask, giving up the fight, and letting yourself be seen exactly as you are.
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So I want to thank you for being here with me, for listening and letting me tease and guide you through this exploration.
Exploring Beatrix's Beta Content Series
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And i want to give one more special thank you to the brave boys who shared their words with me.
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And you made this conversation even more real. You made it even more beautiful. So if this episode stirred something inside of you, like you're aching for more, make sure that you are first subscribed to the podcast and check out my website.
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You should go find, if you enjoyed this episode, Something that I've called my beta male training series. It's a crowd favorite amongst the beta fans.
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And it's been so popular that I actually redid the series because... Well, the first time I did the series, I had mic that wasn't as good as this mic. So when I re-listened, I was like, ooh, gross.
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And so I've redone them, made them even better, even more...
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teasing if you will um and then also I'll have to add in there if you are a fan of this podcast as in this um episode particularly about beta another crowd favorite are my beta virus series I have a beta project loop I have a beta virus upgrade and here soon of the date of posting this podcast, next week I'm going to have oh beta virus lip gnosis.
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um So all that to say, i have tons of beta content for you to explore. if you haven't heard it and you love being called beta, definitely check it out.
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But until next time, stay soft, stay hungry.
Closing Invitation to Connect
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And remember your place, Baina. And that's a wrap for this episode of The Slut Next Door, where we dive deep into the raw, unapologetic truths of human desire.
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If you loved what you heard today, make sure to subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss a juicy moment. want to connect with me outside the podcast, click the link in my bio where you can find lots of juicy content and options.
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and Until next time, I'm Beatrix Vail, your Slut Next Door, and I'll see you in the next episode.