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Speaker: Welcome to the Slut Next Door podcast, where we dive deep into desire, unravel kinks and fetishes, and explore the deliciously naughty side of self-discovery.
Speaker: I'm Beatrix Vale, an erotic audio creator, and your guide to all things kinky and curious. So let's begin.
Speaker: I took a little, i guess we could call it holiday break, so I am very excited to be back on the podcast producing new episodes. And today is one that is a very honest discussion because I think that some people assume that being memorable and a place where I'm producing content and interacting with fans means...
Speaker: You know, being memorable means being louder, more messages, more praise, more presence. But that's not what I truly notice. What actually stands out to me is actually a little more quiet than that.
Speaker: So this episode is going to be about how attention lands in my world. And I would assume that it might apply to other creators' worlds as well.
Speaker: And before I really get into it, I want to tell you why I'm talking about this. So I've been an audio creator for years now, long enough to see patterns for sure.
Speaker: I've noticed what fades and what stays. And I pay attention to my listeners, not just the messages, but also the rhythms.
Speaker: Like who comes back, who lingers, who to me feels present without demanding space. And I do have a pretty solid base of long-term fans, if you will. And one of the most interesting parts of this work is the parasocial environment it creates.
Speaker: It can be very intimate and psychological and I think a lot of times misunderstood. So before the end of the episode, I hope that you fully understand what makes a listener linger in my awareness and they're probably not even really trying to.
Speaker: Now, before I really get into the episode, I'm going to talk about what is currently making me feel like a goddess. This is a little segment I started last year where i just talk about things in my current life that are making me feel like the goddess that I am.
Speaker: And so I thought immediately what I would bring to you in this episode, in this point of my life, is knowing when to take breaks.
Speaker: So in December, I believe, I made the announcement that the podcast would take a short break and then I would come back in 2026. And And it was much needed.
Speaker: i think that sometimes a little bit of space to breathe and to be quiet is important. spend of mental energy trying to figure out what I bring to this podcast like what interesting topics do you guys want to hear what would really hopefully change someone's perspective um you know and that takes a lot of mental energy so i kind of just like last minute thought you know what
Speaker: I'm going to use the holidays as some time to take a step back from the podcast and then return after the holiday craziness. And i should have started the episode with this. Happy 2026, by the way.
Speaker: i am very excited for the new year. I love new beginnings. I love that fresh new feeling like here it comes. I get to tackle this. It's just that, that new energy. I love feeling that. So I actually love when a new year starts. Um,
Speaker: We all know as adults that the beginning the beginning of a new year doesn't really mean anything. um People put a lot of stock into it like, oh, I'm going to do this this year. I'm going to do that. um And I love that energy.
Speaker: i do. I love it. um But another thing that's making me currently feel like a goddess is I recently created this hypno session that was something I've never done before as in the styling of it and it was very a really forced me to put on my creative hat and i was thinking about how magical that is that I can take someone's idea someone one came to me and said hey here's what I think would make a great hypno audio and
Speaker: um They gave gave me this request and then I flush it out into a script. I took letters on my keyboard, put them together and approximately 50,000 words. Wait, not would be very long hypno.
Speaker: 5,000 thousand words I put those all together, took my microphone, said the words, and then I added some funky like little sound effects and put it all together.
Speaker: and boom, you've got this piece of audio that has the ability to make you feel like you are a knight in medieval times and you are being hypnotized by this witch and you know making you feel all these sorts of things that is that's some goddess shit right there isn't it You're like, yes, i already know. But like for me, that means a lot for me to take a moment to stop, to slow down and be like, that's magical, Beatrix. You are a goddess. It really does make me feel good to...
Speaker: And one of the reasons I love creating audios is that process. I love creating something out of nothing because it starts as nothing and then it turns into this amazing experience that no one else has created.
Speaker: and mean, and other people create hypnophiles, but no one created mine. And that's some goddess energy right there. So let's get into the topic of this podcast. So it's how to be a memorable listener, how to be a good listener If you know me, I hate using the word fan. It just makes me feel so gross. It makes me feel pretentious. so But I know sometimes i I run out of words to use and fan is the only one that works. but
Speaker: you know, how to be a memorable listener because I can think of some memorable ones in my mind right now a list of them. And i kept them in mind when I was planning this episode.
Speaker: Now, first we're going talk about what this is not because i would assume that some people would think,
Speaker: I need to send a lot of messages to this woman to be memorable. No, that's actually, i mean, it might make you memorable in a negative way.
Speaker: and So being memorable is not the frequency of matches messages sent to me. It's also not the intensity of your devotion. So it's not like,
Speaker: Oh my God, I think she's amazing. So I'm going to show her that I am so devoted to the 100 out of 10 mark. While that is very sweet and is very flattering, that doesn't make you particularly memorable.
Speaker: What also doesn't make you memorable to me is you trying to impress me. I'm like this in my regular life too.
Speaker: I don't like when people try to be something, you know, i like you to just be who you are and I'm going to love it or not, you know. So if you're trying to be something, like if you're not being authentic, that's not being memorable to me.
Speaker: And I can tell when people are trying to be impressive. I can tell. ah i also think that, or also notice when people are performing submission.
Speaker: So like they're, and I understand that like dominance and submission sometimes does take a little role play. Like you are taking on another role role little bit, even if you are naturally submissive, there is a bit of role play to it.
Speaker: But, you know, performing it in a very not as and authentic way is not going to be the key to being memorable to me.
Speaker: I think that anytime you put pressure behind something, It's never really going to work out, especially when it comes to relationships. You know, putting pressure into something is never a good idea.
Speaker: i think the best types of connections or just natural state of being comes from from ease, from authenticity.
Speaker: And I can think of those list of fans that I was mentioning that are memorable to me they i can tell they have never put pressure behind being something or showing something to me. They just simply r And I'm bringing this topic up because this is a very unique environment that I live in.
Speaker: The whole parasocial dynamic thing. I am creating very intense hypno... ah role plays and sessions and such that for a lot of people take them to very vulnerable places.
Speaker: I'm speaking to parts of them that have never been seen before that they are dying for someone to see, right? And So then am am an audio creator.
Speaker: This is my job. Luckily, i am very much into what I do and I put a lot of care into being my most authentic self and And so you've got these two energies that come together where i feel close to you in this weird way. You feel close to me in this weird way, but there are boundaries, you know, around those two things. So it does create a very unique environment. And i definitely love to talk about this when I can. how can we both
Speaker: be present in this type of strange situation where there's a very interesting parasocial dynamic.
Speaker: So what I've done is I've thought of ways that you can be present with me without there being a performance or you putting pressure behind something.
Speaker: So I think one of the ways that you can do that is listening fully instead of listening for the sake of preparing preparing a response.
Speaker: Like, hey, I'm going to listen to her file and I'm going to fully listen it listen to it for me. I'm not going to listen to it to be able to engage with her on this file like that that's not a good reason to listen i think that another way is just letting my words sink in instead of reacting immediately i see that a lot um over the years as
Speaker: Especially, i think, people that are new to kind of erotic hypnosis. they They hear a file of mine. Maybe it's the first time they've really interacted with the creator and, oh, my gosh, I can just sense the...
Speaker: overwhelming like, oh, there's just so much energy behind their words and I got to tell her everything and I got to, i gotta to you know, it's just, it's it's it's hard to explain, but there's just so much energy behind it and it's a little... overwhelming for me to sit with. So, you know, one of the things I thought is letting my words sink instead of reacting to them immediately.
Speaker: And it doesn't have to be reacting with me. That could just be by yourself. Like when you listen to one of my hypnophiles, instead of reacting to yourself, you know, like communicating with your inner voice immediately, let him let that file just sit for a minute and then reflect on it.
Speaker: I think that... especially in the parasocial dynamic type of world, I think that this next tip is just super crucial.
Speaker: um Being willing sit with silence or uncertainty because I'll paint this picture for you, okay?
Speaker: I've got... a lot of people that listen to my files. and like I can see how many like fans or subscribers I have, obviously.
Speaker: And that's not even counting the people that are just following or or the ones that are listening to just the free files. There's a lot of people listening.
Speaker: And there's one of me. So when I reply to my DMs, I am replying to a lot of people.
Speaker: And sometimes it may take me a minute to get to your message. So, and that's one of those weird parasocial things. I think that...
Speaker: the tip I have is being willing to sit with silence for a minute would be kind of crucial um because it's ah quite impossible for me to stay on top of interacting with my fans. it's a It's absolutely impossible for me.
Speaker: I wish I could. um But, you know, I'm always creating more and more content. I'm always doing various things. um Another tip that I have is allowing these deep hypno sessions to work internally.
Speaker: So when I craft these sessions, especially the ones that are like psychologically deep, they are crafted so that you will be able to experience it internally and hopefully that can turn into something productive for you.
Speaker: It'll open up a side of you that you can work on with yourself. You know, they are crafted for that reason. And why I'm such a fan of mommy dom too or even softer dom type stuff is...
Speaker: I know that those types of experience allow for very safe exploration for for some people. You know, they need to feel the softness in order to feel safe to to explore.
Speaker: So those are all tips that I have on how to be present with me that really don't call for much performance from you.
Speaker: And i want to step back for a second. You know, it would be easy for me to say that, hey, I, at this point in my career, there's too many of you. So I'm not even going to reply to DMs.
Speaker: It would be very easy for me to do because, you know, i think that my fans know that I'm consistent with creating the content. Um,
Speaker: And I think that they also know that that's very important to me to create the content. So I know that I could probably say I'm not going to answer your messages, point blank, period.
Speaker: You know, just enjoy me as an artist. I know that I could do that, but I don't want to do that because ah do find there's value and us connecting. And I enjoy it when I'm able to open up those DMs or I'm able to talk with people in my Discord server, i i get a lot out from that too. And I know you do too. So it's a beneficial type of communication. And something I've been working on too is
Speaker: Being able to share myself to more people at once. So example, my Discord server, I'm working on being more present in there, checking daily, doing my weekly hangouts, editing live, because I'm able to share my time and connect with my people um at a with a bigger crowd, right?
Speaker: um And then I answer my DMs when I can in my loyal fan subscription site. But, you know, it would be very easy for me to to to not do that.
Speaker: But I want to say that i want to do that. That was the point of all that. So, that and what I'm hoping to communicate through this episode too is the people that are memorable for me are not loud.
Speaker: they they are like, yes, I've talked to them in DMs and such, or they're at my hangouts, but they're not loud. They're not pushing themselves into my attention.
Speaker: um it's And we'll talk about this later. It's consistency because I do pay attention. I do notice who consistently likes something. Like when I log into loyal fans, I get notifications when someone likes something. um I can see it in my discord or in my Twitter or Instagram, whatever.
Speaker: i can see the user's name, the usernames that like posts or whatever. And I noticed those little things. Um, I notice the sweet little comments. You know, I notice the consistency.
Speaker: ah We'll get into that later. The next kind of topic I i brainstormed about on how to be memorable is um integrating work that work that I do within the hypnophiles integrating things into real life.
Speaker: Now, what I mean by this is allowing insights that you learn through the experiences of trance, applying those insights And allowing and letting that listening or things that you learned affect your behavior in positive ways.
Speaker: For example, I've had over time people say, oh my goodness, listened to XYZ File and I find myself working out more and more like you inspired me to work out like I used to or listening to your files.
Speaker: I noticed myself becoming more productive. i even got one recently that really touched my heart. and They said that I'm not me, but them, the listener is ADHD. And I'm, I'm realizing that I'm able to use your files to help me focus more during work. I mean, those are, so those are such beautiful things. And that's one of the layers of why I continue to do what I do, because I know what I do not only brings sexual pleasure, but it also brings
Speaker: Things that are even deeper than that, people gaining confidence, people gaining focus when it's hard for them to focus, um people bettering themselves physically because, you know, for whatever reason that they found in that file, those are all amazing things and they are things that I will absolutely notice. I will notice them. But If you're loud about that, going don't forget, if you're too loud about it i'm going to so I'm going to notice that, okay, okay, mister, I see you trying to capture my attention. I get it. i get it. You're working out more. Like you only need to say it once because I'm going to see it and I'm going to make note of that.
Speaker: So another thing that I brainstorm for you on how to be a memorable listener is These are things that often I cannot see ah from my observations, but these are things that I thought for you and things that I hope my listeners are doing already.
Speaker: So one suggestion I have is to ground yourself before and after listening. Now, what I what i mean by grounding as Being self-aware.
Speaker: um i use grounding techniques often during my day because they keep me sane. i do it every morning. i do it before bed. It is kind of gathering yourself and your thoughts and your energy within.
Speaker: Because my goodness, it's so easy for our energy and our thoughts to be scattered in a million different places. um So grounding can look different for a lot of people. I would just suggest maybe looking up how to ground yourself and finding something that works for you.
Speaker: But I think we all know what grounded feels like. So especially when it comes to intense hypno sessions, ground yourself before listening and also after Now, I know that sometimes people fall asleep after listening, so that's fine.
Speaker: But if you don't fall asleep right away, ground yourself, come back into your body after. I think that that would help foster...
Speaker: more intentional listening for a longer period of time. Because when we're not grounded, things can feel like super heady and not a good way.
Speaker: ah Even a little might create a little anxiety or stress. So that would be my tip for you grounding before and after listening. What i hope listeners do as a default is using my work, my audios as support, not a lifeline.
Speaker: And I talk about... like encourage addiction and obsession in my files. But I hope that we can all be aware and honest that that is kink.
Speaker: You know, that when I'm saying that, I'm over-exaggerating a feeling that we both like. I like feeling like a goddess. You like worshiping women.
Speaker: Yes, we all know that. And we all know that we love hearing like become obsessed with me or whatever. um But that should not be a lifeline.
Speaker: That should be of a support that you find through kink, that you find through pleasure, whatever it is. And with that said, i think what makes you a good listener over time is knowing when to step away.
Speaker: So being self-aware enough to know that, okay, I've been going in really hard. I'm going to step away for a week or a couple weeks, whatever.
Speaker: um to just kind of regulate myself again and then I'll come back to her after. um Balance is key.
Speaker: Balance is key to everything in life. Of course, I would love for you to listen to me every day, all day long, but I also want you to be healthy.
Speaker: I also want you to be balanced. And you can't be memorable if you are broken. And memorable listen listeners to me i ones that consistently come back, consists consistently are showing up, you know, sharing their love, sharing their likes or comments long term.
Speaker: You know, if someone comes in hard, because here's another thing. I can recognize as a red flag when someone comes in too hard right away.
Speaker: When that happens, I could probably place a bet and make a lot of money if I did that every time because I see it. It's like I've never seen this name before. They show up and it's like, wow, I mean, the words that they're saying blow me away and make me feel like a million bucks, but it's also too much right away.
Speaker: And what i what I can recognize is they are just, they're they're either putting too much pressure into it or they're not grounded.
Speaker: whatever it is. So that's not memorable. I noticed the ones that are there long term. And some of those, I can think of some of the the guys on my list that there's sometimes i don't see them for a minute, but then i see them again.
Speaker: Because like i don't i don't expect you to be, you know, all fingers in to your fingers dug into my content 24-7. don't expect that because we all have lives outside of kink and outside of, you know, porn, whatever you want to call it.
Speaker: um But, you know, I do notice that long-term kind of energy. And that leads me to the next topic is patience and repetition.
Speaker: And when I brainstormed this section, I really thought about that list of people that are memorable to me. And i am making an assumption that these are the things that they practice.
Speaker: Because I had to really think, what is it that what is it that creates this memorable lesson? And I think that they are letting things unfold over time.
Speaker: And so what I mean by that is allowing my art to unfold. They aren't putting pressure into themselves or into me.
Speaker: They are enjoying the ride. I believe that they're not chasing outcomes. They're not coming to me and saying, you know, to themselves or to me, i want to be your best submissive slave. I want to be the best blah, blah, blah. You know, I don't think they're chasing outcomes. I think they are rolling with the flow and just enjoying the ride.
Speaker: I think that they're also understanding that hypnotic conditioning can be a gradual art, if you will. It can be in a ah gradual process. It's not something that happens overnight. And that's another thing I noticed is that I think that some of the not memorable listeners don't have patience.
Speaker: I think that they want something here and now. I want it now. And that's just not how it goes, especially with hypnosis and especially with things like power dynamic.
Speaker: Those are very gradual. I think that my memorable listeners also respect the process. I think they respect the boundaries of this parasocial craziness. I think that they respect the process of an artist.
Speaker: I know that they respect that I'm not, you know, available like I know they wish I was, you know. I think that they just respect a lot of the realities of this kind of ah environment.
Speaker: So another thing I wanted to touch on was more like tips that I could give. you as a listener on how to be that memorable listener, that memorable fan.
Speaker: ah Boundaries are version of respect. I mean, boundaries are respect. Being one of my memorable listeners does not involve you feeling entitled to my intent to my attention.
Speaker: It's understanding that I have limited ways to share my attention and soaking that in as much as you can.
Speaker: I've seen that a lot. um They don't ever outright say it, but I can see it. I can see that. certain men feel entitled to my attention. They feel entitled to speaking to me as much as they want. And that that's, it's just not possible.
Speaker: You might need to go find another content creator that can give you more time because it's just not, it's not going to happen with me. Another piece of advice I would have for you is I totally understand the need to be reassured. i think we all do. We all have this need to feel like we're doing the right things.
Speaker: And it definitely, you're definitely not going to be pleased to know that I can't constantly reassure. um i don't think that's healthy in any type of relationship is healthy.
Speaker: you know, needing the reinsurance time and time again. um i believe that that comes in a healthy relationship. It would come naturally and not...
Speaker: needing needing it to fucking survive. you know Now, with that said, i am more than happy to, you know if a particular listener was like, hey, I just want to confirm if I'm if i'm doing this the right way.
Speaker: you know And and in coming to me with a specific example, I want to know that I'm listening the right way or i want to know if um I'm doing chastity the right way. That's fine. You know, um that makes sense. But, you know, and i can I can think of past listeners that are like, for example, am I being a good boy?
Speaker: am I being a good boy for you? And like, that I don't know. Are you, you know, like I, I don't know if you really need that type of reassurance, go listen to my, my file called boy, good boy trigger, or go listen to most of my files where I call you a good boy a lot. um You know, it's just not my job to, to give you that on a personal level.
Speaker: and and for you asking for it, right? and A big thing, and this just ties into the parasocial dynamic, is there's a, we can think of it as a container. You know, I live in this container, as in Beatrix Vale.
Speaker: You live in this container, like you as a listener, and so do all these other people. However, you can absolutely pretend all those other people don't exist. That's totally fine.
Speaker: But, you know, here's this container. This is what can happen in the container. you know, my files, your access to me, um you know, all the different ways that I do share myself is within this container.
Speaker: that's our happy space. Trust that container. And that's a big thing is trust. Like I get it. But you know, if if you like my work, give it a chance. Give it a chance to trust the container because there are some magical things that can happen in that container. um Another piece of advice I have is letting the relationship, if we want to call be what it is.
Speaker: Consistently reminding yourself that, yes, like this woman does feel like the best mommy dom i could ever ask for. um i love this woman's voice. i love the way she makes me feel.
Speaker: and that's just what it is. You know, um It's just being honest with yourself on the limits, ah the boundaries that our parasocial dynamic relationship can be. And while there are boundaries, I can absolutely tell you that I've got many listeners that i I do feel close with. Like I know that I can message them if I'm feeling uncertain about a choice I made in my work. Like, hey, what did you think about
Speaker: this decision and their response is very valuable to me um there are long-term listeners where there will be times i you know i might know they got a new job or that they retired or I don't know, they might be getting married. And I keep that little knowledge in my head. And if I ever see them like something, I'm like, oh, my gosh, I hope that they are so happy. And they're XYZ.
Speaker: You know, they just become like this super It's so weird. It really is so weird. And I feel like I fail every time I try to do these um episodes where I talk about the parasocial, like, because I do feel like they're my friends.
Speaker: that sounds so silly and I know that there's some where they feel like i am their friend I know that I know that for a fact um you know and it's such an interesting thing because most of them I have no idea what they look like most of them have no idea what I look like but we feel like we know each other is is it's wild it really is wild um you know and there's just the this shared love for each other that has nothing to do with romantic feelings.
Speaker: Now I know that they feel like they would love to take me on a date or something, but I know they know that there's no chance of any kind of relationship, but that adoration is still there. And it's just such a thing.
Speaker: experience it really is that I hope someone out there is able to communicate this whole parasocial thing but yeah so those were my tips for you on or maybe it was just confirmation for you if you're one of the ones that have been around for a long time just confirmation for you that um you can how to be a memorable listener how to be a good boy in my world and so I want to leave you i want to leave you with a couple things um
Speaker: I want to invite you to just reflect on some things. So what do you reach for when you want to be seen?
Speaker: And that can be in any area of your life. What do you reach for when you want to be seen?
Speaker: What do you What do you do when you want to be seen?
Speaker: and then another reflecting question is, are you listening to my files to be held or to be filled?
Speaker: Are you listening to be held or to be filled?
Speaker: And then the last question, just let let these questions just breathe with you for a minute. Can you let listening be enough?
Speaker: Is just simply listening enough for you?
Speaker: Just things to sit with. I mean, there's no right or wrong answer right now. It's not a quiz, but can be a nice check-in for you. with those questions and with that said I'll tell you this ah the listeners who stay with me the longest I don't think they are the ones who need me most
Speaker: I do think that they are the ones who know how to hold themselves when they listen. I do think that they are present and they are contained and they are patient.
Speaker: And I can tell you without a doubt that they are so fucking loved by me, so cherished. And that wraps up my episode. So I hope this was enlightening or confirming today.
Speaker: on how to be a memorable listener, how to stick around, how to be one of those that I just fucking love and cherish. It's not that hard.
Speaker: So thank you so much for listening and until next time. And that's a wrap for this episode of The Slut Next Door, where we dive deep into the raw, unapologetic truths of human desire.
Speaker: If you loved what you heard today, make sure to subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss a juicy moment. Want to connect with me outside the podcast?
Speaker: Click the link in my bio where you can find lots of juicy content and options. Until next time, I'm Beatrix Vale, your Slut Next Door, and I'll see you in the next episode.
