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What It Feels Like To Be Worshipped
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Ever wondered what it's really like to receive daily worship from hundreds of devoted men? The rituals, tributes, "good morning Goddess" DMs... and the hidden emotional labor behind it all?
In this raw, honest Behind the Scenes episode of my femdom creator podcast, I break it down:
What devotional energy actually feels like as a kink content creator
Emotional labor no one sees—stabilizing subs without becoming their therapist
Attachment vs true devotion
Burnout signals (irritation, numbness, avoidance)
My management strategies + decompression rituals (dogs, Netflix, shopping)
How YOU can hold devotion properly—enhance your life, not replace it
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Transcript
Introduction to the Podcast
00:00:07
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Welcome to the Slut Next Door podcast, where we dive deep into desire, unravel kinks and fetishes, and explore the deliciously naughty side of self-discovery.
00:00:25
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I'm Beatrix Vale, an erotic audio creator, and your guide to all things kinky and curious. So let's begin.
Emotional Impact of Devotion
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I'm going to talk about something today that um I've been circling around lately, and it's the weight of being worshipped.
00:00:56
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So I'm not going to be talking about... Making content, editing content, business, logistics. I did that multi-episode breakdown. If you haven't heard that already, I highly suggest you guys know how the machine runs if you've heard those episodes.
00:01:17
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What I'm talking about today is the emotional weight of it all. Having to of men pour their devotion into you every single day.
00:01:32
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And you know, i often talk about the fun side of this job because the fun side is, it weighs a lot. It's totally fun.
Power Dynamics and Psychological Challenges
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It's arousing.
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It's It's all the good things, but that power, the platform that I have, the goddess energy that I exude, the authority, while it is all real because it is me, it's it is who I show up as every day,
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But what nobody really prepares you for, what I certainly didn't expect when I started creating this psychological architecture, is what it actually feels like to be the container for that much worship.
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You know, to wake up and have messages waiting for you where men are structuring their entire day, their orgasms, maybe their self-worth, their emotional stability, all around your voice, around your approval.
00:02:48
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And this episode definitely is not going to be about me complaining because I'm not. This is the ecosystem I chose and I continue to choose every single day.
00:03:02
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I craft those experiences. I open the DMs. I have a Discord server where I bring myself to it every day.
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I am that resident voice in their heads by design.
Understanding Devotional Energy
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But there is this myth that if you're a dominant, if you're a goddess, you just absorb it all effortlessly.
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Like maybe you're this bottomless well of dominance and you never get tired. And honestly, that's kind of bullshit because that's not how it works. That's not reality.
00:03:49
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So today I'm going to get really honest about devotional energy, what it actually is when we strip away some of the fantasy aspect of it.
00:04:02
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And I'm also going to unpack the invisible labor of it, what it's like for me. And how I've learned to hold space for men, for submissive men, ah because I do take submission very seriously. i take my job very seriously. i don't i don't um fuck around with people's raw, gooey center cores. But i have learned how to hold that space without becoming too much like a therapist or like their actual savior.
Enhancing Devotion vs. Unhealthy Attachment
00:04:44
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So we're going to talk about the difference between healthy devotion and suffocating attachment. I'm going to show you my burnout signals and share what I actually do to decompress. When i see and feel those signals, even before those signals pop up, some ways that I decompress and really just get to the core about how i have this kind of life and keep it sustainable.
00:05:19
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Not... not claiming that I'm perfect in any way, um really how it has become sustainable for me. So let's pull back that curtain. But before we do, I'm going to do my small little segment where I talk about what's currently making me feel like a goddess. And this seems so fitting for this episode because I'm really going into my goddess energy.
00:05:54
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So what's currently making me feel like a goddess is the ability to corrupt and seduce.
00:06:05
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It is such a powerful feeling that with just my words, with my brain, with my voice, i can make a willing man, of course, do anything that I wanted. And all it takes is some seduction. You know, there's an art to seduction.
00:06:31
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Sure, it would be really, really easy for most women to seduce men using their voluptuous, gorgeous bodies. ah But when it comes to my world, where I'm really in the space of your mind and I'm just using my voice and my imagination, it becomes a bit more calculated.
00:06:55
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and that's what I like. Um, so it just, it just really swells up that goddess energy when I feel like i have that power and how do I feel that way?
00:07:12
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Well, I can gauge how someone is responding to me. i can gauge by, how willing they are to do something that they that like maybe a soft limit or we both know it's something they're into but they like to pretend like they're not like that is so so powerful and absolutely makes me feel like an absolute goddess it's very arousing too I think the listeners that know me well know that I become super aroused when I feel powerful.
00:07:51
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So when I feel like I have the power to seduce someone into something or... pump some corruption into their mind, highly arousing, high goddess energy.
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So with that said, let's jump into this topic.
Role of Rituals in Devotion
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So what is what does it feel like to be worshipped?
00:08:17
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So first, I kind of want to start with like what devotional energy actually is And devotion can show up in many different ways. um So in my world, it's not just men liking or commenting on my content or even purchasing it.
00:08:40
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In my world, the devotional energy looks like rituals. And I promote rituals. I think it is a way that you can show me that you are dedicated to me by using my content in certain rituals. So for example, I have a file called wake and Edge.
00:09:06
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And i have heard a lot of my listeners have used that every morning. It becomes part of their morning routine for a certain amount of time.
00:09:19
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i have certain men that have assigned morning and evening kind of journaling, and that's part of their rituals.
00:09:32
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I have men that show up in my DMs on my platforms every day just kind of giving devotion, telling me how they're using the files, how they're training to them.
00:09:48
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So in my world, the biggest thing is that devotional energy, it starts to become like a focus and then emotional investment, and then becomes ah deeper meaning.
00:10:04
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So I also see it as when a submissive man assigns symbolic value to me. And when all these things happen,
00:10:17
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I stop just being a person and start becoming a function in their psyche. And that's really heady. I mean, that's really deep. And for a lot of men, i think that that is what they're craving.
00:10:33
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And honestly, i crave to be that. Like I said just a moment ago, i am aroused by power. So when i would I become that function in their psyche, then I'm winning. um Devotional energy can be also, I mean, I guess this would be ritual, you know, dedicating edges orgasm control, wearing a chastity cage for me. I mean, a devotional energy can show up in a lot of different ways.
00:11:08
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But when I really was thinking about what it actually is, i feel like that focus, emotional investment, and then meaning really is the definition there. um And it's, like I said, very, very heady for both of us, for both me and the listener or the submissive.
00:11:33
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And I feel very blessed. I hate using that word blessed. But I am. I feel very blessed and thankful that I have a number of genuinely devoted listeners, submissive men that do show up every day. And that's what I expect. If they didn't, I notice that And, you know, I do have some, I would say, hardcore fans that they're not able to show up every day and that's okay.
00:12:06
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I always promote like, take care of your real life and then I'm the treat. Like, that's what I want to be. i don't want to replace your life because if I'm replacing your life, you're not working, you're not supporting me.
00:12:21
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you just become a bum who has devotional energy but cannot do anything about it. um So anyways, it's I feel very thankful and it honestly is just something that blows me away and i just, I don't have words sometimes. it It's very special and I hold it as something that holds a lot of meaning for me. um
00:12:54
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You know, because this goddess energy is something I feel and not just Beatrix Vale, but who I am as a woman in my real life. So it just kind of,
00:13:06
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yeah I always say that Beatrix Vale is me and I am Beatrix Vale. And that's just how I run my business. I can't be too fake.
00:13:19
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I play roles, yes, but... Who i am is who you see, if that makes any sense. Beatrix Vale is me, the woman that I am to to a point. you know She's a part of me.
00:13:37
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She is my my sexual spirit animal. She is literally me So the devotional energy and the men that do show up consistently just really um fill my heart with so much gratitude and and just pride.
00:14:01
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It's ridiculous. But with that said, let's get real. Let's talk about the raw honesty and of of it all because there is an emotional labor that no one sees.
Emotional Labor and Setting Boundaries
00:14:20
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Okay. So when I am someone's goddess, when I am am receiving that devotional energy, so what does that look like for me, from my viewpoint?
00:14:32
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So there's always messages, always. and i want I do welcome those. I do welcome them. And I talked a lot about this during my um multi-episode ah where I broke down you know my business. like I want you to be engaged because I think that's important. And i am dealing with some real some real emotions and some real devotion. So yeah, I mean, I have to show up and share myself.
00:15:07
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but there are the messages and decoding those messages. And within those messages, i can be holding emotional states.
00:15:21
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And that's something that i do encourage. Like I want to dig deep. I want you as a my listener to dig deeper ah through my content and through my energy.
00:15:35
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But for me, you know, there's a lot of those on day-to-day basis. And that is emotional labor for me.
00:15:47
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It's labor that I welcome, but it's there. It's a reality. And then i also have to work very carefully at being a stabilizer without becoming a therapist.
00:16:06
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And when I first started doing online sex work, I quickly learned that Doing phone, because where I started was phone sex. So doing phone sex often felt like I was i was a therapist. And I like that. i A little fun fact about me.
00:16:25
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I used to have a dream of being a mental health counselor. um I have a high interest in psychology, how the brain works. Obviously, I do with this content.
00:16:39
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um But I love also helping people. I've always been a people-centered job person. i love helping people and I've learned that I love bringing people pleasure.
00:16:54
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But... I do have to be responsible and ethical and making sure that I'm helping men stabilize their emotions instead of expecting myself to become their therapist.
00:17:12
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And another part that you probably don't see is, well, I know you don't see unless it's you, is there's a lot of invisible work of creating containers.
00:17:26
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So When I can see that devotional energy showing up, I try to be strategic and create a container for them.
00:17:40
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And so I'm going to give you some examples here. What does that mean creating a container? So I have a submissive male that is has high devotional energy.
00:17:56
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i mean, the best good boy that any dom could ask for. And when he first kind of showed up, there was... a little I could feel the the tension and him not knowing what to do, you know where to put this energy. And so we set up a container for him to exist in. So...
00:18:22
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creating, helping to create those rituals, having expectations of how he can show up. And once that is set, you know, there's some work up front on my part, of course, but once that's set up, he is the one that shows up consistently. Yeah.
00:18:44
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and it becomes super beautiful, then I can simply enjoy and absorb his submission without having to consistently think every day or bring myself, you know, of course I'm bringing myself to his DMs, but we've already set up the work and he fills that container and I nurture the container You know, there may be adjustments here and there or redirection, um but it's set up.
00:19:21
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And I also set up containers for myself. Like I mentioned, I'm very active in my Discord server and i When I am doing kind of the more emotional, the the kink, you know, the the good stuff, I save that for loyal fans DMs because that is that container.
00:19:47
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My Discord dm then becomes anything to do with the server or if I'm delivering a custom or asking about a custom they ordered, there is that container. Um, so, and that's just how I work everywhere in my life. I love having containers. I like having expectations and neat little organized places. Um, sometimes it's, um, organized chaos, but at least there's a container where I know things.
00:20:19
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should go. And the next thing that I wanted to hit on was attachment versus devotion, because there is a difference there.
Dangers of Attachment in Devotion
00:20:30
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So devotion should enhance someone's life. And when I say someone's life, I mean the submissive, the listener.
00:20:42
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My voice should inspire better habits, deeper submission, and you thrive with it. And that's my goal. I want to enhance your life.
00:20:55
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I don't want to replace. Because attachment, you you can crumble without it. And that's we don't want that.
00:21:08
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And I talk a lot about addiction, you know, because that's that's a very fun um thread to use and and mental domination. And of course, like i I want you addicted to my voice, but that's, I'm playfully saying that, like i don't literally mean I need you like a heroin addict shooting my voice into your veins, which that's actually a really hot line for an audio. But what I'm talking about is you can function without it.
00:21:41
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You know, you can function without me. Attachment is dependency. And we like, I don't want that for you. I want to enhance your life.
00:21:54
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And I can't show up for many, many men that are attached because attachment is like, oh my God, I can't i can't function unless she answers me. I can't. little little um it's It's not sustainable. Like I can't, I'm not omnipresent in DMs. that's It's impossible for me to do.
00:22:18
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So It's just it's all around smart business and it's ethical to set up those kind of containers where i become something that enhances your life.
00:22:31
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you know And then I also have listeners who are like, I would call them like weekend warriors, where during the week they're too busy or whatever. And then I'm just maybe the voice that accompanies them during their masturbation time, their gooning time. And that's great. Like you can still be completely devoted um and just be a weekend warrior or even a once a month warrior. You know, any of those are fine. The the the quantity
00:23:06
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she in equal the depth of devotion. um But the biggest thing that I wanted to bring here was the attachment is never a healthy a healthy thing to see. And I can see those red flags too. i can notice them right away and I just try my best to redirect them and that's part of that invisible labor that you may not think about.
00:23:39
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that I have to be responsible and ethical as a dom to recognize that attachment and point it in the right direction. And next, I wanted to talk about when all of this high vibrational devotional energy is accepted and witnessed and absorbed by me, it can be, it can be heavy.
Recognizing Burnout and Self-care Practices
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It can be amazing. But after some time, i mean, that's just not sustainable to feel that all day long. um so,
00:24:19
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there are some burnout signals because if I were to not decompress and balance my life, I would become burnt out. um And luckily, I've always been really good at recognizing these signals.
00:24:37
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Maybe it's because I'm so selfish, um but... You know, some of these signals to me is if i have any ounce of irritation ah when it comes to reading messages or even just logging in If I feel one ounce of irritated, I'm not going to log in because that's not goddess energy.
00:25:04
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um If I feel emotionally numb, so my empathy isn't there, i'm going to walk away. I'm not going to engage in the DM. if i This is a big one for me.
00:25:20
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And this ah I kind of learned this the hard way ah a couple years ago. If I find myself avoiding DMs, it that is a signal of burnout. I have to i have to walk away and come back refreshed.
00:25:39
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I don't want to avoid my sweet boys and my DMs, um but if I'm burnout, I'm going to feel that way because opening that DM is going to take energy for me. So I need to fill up my energy again so I can come to that DM with with freshness.
00:26:00
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um If I ever feel a loss of creative desires, I know burnt out. And that I really don't want that because ah content creation is my number one pet. That is my number one If you're ever wondering how can I be her number one pet, you can't because the content is number one. um So, yeah, so i've I've noticed, you know, if I'm burnt out,
00:26:30
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a bit. I am not feeling creative and I just need to walk away. Another thing that I've noticed, um and this comes up every now and then, it's not often.
00:26:42
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If I'm within that devotional energy from my listeners and I start to feel consumed instead of admired,
00:26:55
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it's time to like walk away and go walk outside. um Because I don't want to feel consumed. I want to feel admired. I don't want to feel, you know, it was hard for me to come up with the word for this and consumed was the only word I could i could come up with.
00:27:14
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um it's It's this weird ah feeling that I get sometimes where i think just mentally I'm burnt out.
00:27:24
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And when I try to go into the devotional energy, I feel overwhelmed, like consumption. I can't think of any other word. um so I hope that makes sense um when typically I just feel admired.
00:27:40
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So that's like a little red flag that I've noticed and I just walk away. And like I said, i feel very thankful that I'm able to recognize that because i don't I don't think I've truly ever allowed myself to be burned out to the point.
00:28:01
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I mean, obviously, burned out to the point where I quit. Like I've never been tempted to walk away from what I do. And I think it's because I'm i'm pretty good at at balancing.
00:28:13
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So how do I manage it? So how do I manage the devotional energy and not becoming burnout. And I think that's all balance.
00:28:26
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So, and being an architecture, creating the containers. So what does that look like?
00:28:37
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Having clear access points. So I kind of mentioned earlier, if you want to talk kink, if you want to be led and guided, That's going to be one place and that's through a DM and loyal fans. um You know, that that is where a lot of my energy, that invisible labor goes.
00:29:02
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I also like encourage and promote that my content should carry the weight instead of my presence because I am a content creator. I'm not a service provider as in a phone sex operator or a cam model, whatever. My content was made so you can experience.
00:29:26
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And that's a difficult thing. It's, um, challenging that, that i still continue to find because I want to deepen with my listeners. And I think that the ones that I have deepened with is so worth the time But like I said, you know, the content creation is my number one pet content creation is, takes a lot of my time. And I'm kind of a maniac when it comes to creating content, as in I just make it, ah ah make a lot of it because I get addicted to making it.
00:30:10
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I'm just a classic ah artist, is content creator, I guess. But, you know, I'm trying to do a better job at at finding ways to show my listeners that my content can carry the weight that you're needing instead of my presence, my my super active presence.
00:30:37
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I am present in DMs, just, you know, I can't be there all day because I'm writing a script or recording or posting something online, you know, doing all the things.
00:30:50
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And this next one, how I manage the devotional energy. This was something I've had to learn ah a hard way.
00:31:00
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And I feel like I'm consider like still learning, but I choose when to deepen with one of my listeners versus when to decline. And this one's a tough one for me because I am a people pleaser I want to help everyone. i want everyone to deepen with me, but I've learned that I can't do it with everyone. I can do what I can.
00:31:32
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And when I see, you know, i i had to say the stars have to align in a perfect way if you would want to deepen, because what has to happen is I have to see very strong devotional energy.
00:31:50
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And then I have to have space as in you know, I might be deepening with someone else.
00:32:01
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Or let's just say I might be deepening with two other people. And if someone with strong devotional energy shows up and I don't have time, i won't, I won't deepen with them. I will wait or hope they're still around when one of those other people, um you know, are off my deepening platform. ah You know, so the stars just have to align. But there I've had to learn and I'm constantly learning how to decline because I hate declining.
00:32:35
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i i want I want everyone to deepen, but I'm only one person too, you know, so that it's a lesson that I continue to learn and and get better at.
00:32:49
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So let's talk about what I do to decompress, share, let you know, let you behind who I am as a person.
Methods for Decompression
00:32:58
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So like I said earlier, balance is so important.
00:33:05
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Because when I'm sitting at my computer, the energy is high. The energy is powerful. It is one of my favorite places to be.
00:33:16
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But with that, I have to i have to do other things to keep me rooted like on earth. I have to keep my feet on the ground. So what do i do? um One of my favorite things every single day, I mean, it's like a multi-day thing, is I just go outside with my two dogs.
00:33:40
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Just going outside. I love being outside and i love just walking around with them. Plus just being around them also helps ground me because they're adorable and hilarious. um Like I said, outdoors is a big thing during the weekends or even sometimes during afternoons during the week.
00:34:01
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Going to a local creek, walking around, picking up rocks, finding fossils, um hiking on trails, all those things are just wonderful for me because it really absolutely grounds me out. I get held by the goddess earth because I do see earth as a goddess. Um, I get held by her when I've been holding men all day.
00:34:30
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So I love it. Um, I hate to admit this one, but online shopping is definitely a way I decompress. I overspend on, um, jewelry, crystals, um, So it's definitely a way to decompress.
00:34:49
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and Helps me um just feel good. it It's soothing. and that And it's something I'm trying to work on. But it is soothing. We all love a good shopping experience, I think. um Meditation is a way that I personally use to keep myself grounded, to bring myself down because like I said, the goddess energy is very high vibrational type vibes. So if I can bring myself down with meditation, it's great.
00:35:23
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ah Journaling. Journaling definitely brings me back into my body. ah A lot of evenings, I'm zoning the fuck out to something on Netflix, maybe.
00:35:36
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um That is such a great way for me to Decompress. I've told you guys on here before, I used to be a teacher and I'm an introvert, you know, so socializing, while I can do it, I'm not an introvert where I'm super duper shy.
00:35:56
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um I'm an introvert in that socializing takes a lot out of me. And teaching was the same way, you know, just having to be on all day, every day. And when I would drive home, i had like a 30 minute drive.
00:36:13
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There would be no music, no nothing. I want to sit there in the quiet and just be numb. And sometimes I recognize that in myself when I'm zoning out to Netflix.
00:36:28
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You know, it's just a way to like turn my brain off. So that's the real talk on devotional energy.
Sustainable Devotion
00:36:39
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I think that a lot of doms, especially if they're in the goddess arena, don't want to talk about this side. They don't want to appear like they are human, that they are real. But that is not how I approach because I believe that there are parts of me that are goddess level and Beatrix Vale
00:37:06
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goddess Beatrix, goddess mommy Beatrix is me. So I don't have to act or put on role too much when I do bring myself to the online space and to my content.
00:37:25
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um In this episode, we we covered what devotional practices look like, rituals, daily showing up or weekly showing up, whatever is is capable for that person.
00:37:42
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And all of that worship, it really does keep this whole thing alive. But I also got into the invisible labor, the messages, setting up containers, making sure it stays devotion and not unhealthy dependency.
00:38:03
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I talked about my own burnout signals that I don't ignore. and my grounding toolkit for for managing it all and decompressing.
00:38:17
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At the end of the day, the dynamic between me as Goddess Beatrix and you, a devoted listener, only works if we're both sustainable.
00:38:32
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You can't show up and burn out. I can't show up and burn out. You holding your devotion in a way that enhances your life and and not replaces things in your life.
00:38:47
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And then there's me managing the weight of it all so i can keep creating the content that I make that pulls you deeper and keeps me successful.
00:39:01
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You know, one thing that I keep noticing too, ah particularly in my Discord server, men are being very honest about how their life has changed since I came into their life.
00:39:16
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And meaning, of course, they've had lots of orgasms and sexy moments, but a lot of them mention that their life has improved. Either they're keeping up with healthy habits.
00:39:30
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They're finding themselves even closer to their partners, their wives, their girlfriends. And that, that is devotional energy.
00:39:41
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They do it. They do it all for them, of course, but also in my name with me, guiding them with my hand on the small of their back, guiding them towards their goals. And that's the fucking beauty. That's got a shit right there.
Conclusion and Invitation to Engage
00:40:01
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So if anything in this episode resonated with you, feel free to hit me up.
00:40:11
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And we're going to talk about that container. That is within loyal fans. You can DM me your your stories about, have you noticed that you were showing up without devotional energy? Have you ever felt dependent on me? um If you're not already in my little ecosystem, find me. i have lots of places I'm at. Like I said, I show up a lot in my Discord.
00:40:40
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All those links are and this episode's description. But I want to thank you so much for listening and of and an extra.
00:40:52
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Thank you to the ones you know who you are, the the men that show up with that strong devotional energy every single day.
00:41:05
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you You make all this just even better. I can't thank you enough, really. So thank you for that. And that's a wrap for this episode of The Slut Next Door, where we dive deep into the raw, unapologetic truths of human desire.
00:41:27
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If you loved what you heard today, make sure to subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss a juicy moment. want to connect with me outside the podcast, click the link in my bio where you can find lots of juicy content and options.
00:41:50
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Until next time, I'm Beatrix Vale, your Slut Next Door, and I'll see you in the next episode.