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Desire Without Obligation | A Calm Talk About Fantasy
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A lot of people carry quiet anxiety about their desires.
Not because of what they want, but because they believe wanting automatically creates an obligation.
In this episode, we slow that assumption down.
We talk about the difference between desire and action, why fantasies speak in symbols rather than instructions, and how privacy can be a form of maturity rather than avoidance. This is a gentle conversation about containment, discernment, and trusting yourself with your inner world.
If you’ve ever felt pressure to act on, explain, or justify your wants, this episode is an invitation to breathe. Wanting something privately does not mean you owe it a public life.
There’s nothing here to solve. Just something to understand.
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Transcript
Introduction to the Podcast
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Welcome to the Slut Next Door podcast, where we dive deep into desire, unravel kinks and fetishes, and explore the deliciously naughty side of self-discovery.
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I'm Beatrix Vale, an erotic audio creator, and your guide to all things kinky and curious. So let's begin.
Understanding Sudden Desires
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So have you ever felt or even thought about something and more of a sexual setting? Like maybe while watching porn or just letting your mind wander um and then you almost immediately panic about what it meant?
00:01:02
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If you've ever experienced this, this episode is going to be for you. I'm talking about the moment a desire shows up and then your mind just starts flooding with questions like, what does this say about me?
00:01:22
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Do I have to do something about this? Does this mean I'm supposed to change my life? tell someone, act on it, explain it. And for a lot of people, this is where the shame creeps in because it's really not about what you want, but because you've learned to believe that wanting automatically creates some sort of obligation.
00:01:50
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And that's what we're going to talk about today. I'm going to slow that whole process down because i believe that wanting something privately does not mean you owe it a public life.
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Desire doesn't have to become this big decision. it doesn't have to turn into action or some big confession or even an identity.
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Sometimes our sexual desires are just information. or even just a sensation or a passing truth that really doesn't need any witnesses.
00:02:30
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So that's what we're going to sit with today. But before I get into that, I do like to start my episodes with talking about what's currently making me feel like a goddess.
Personal Resilience Story
00:02:44
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Now, this was a bit challenging to do because I have recently went through an experience where I felt the complete opposite. ah so My area where I live, we suffered one of those historical ice storms. We had snow and ice. And the amount of ice accumulation was just, what was the word they kept using? Like catastrophic.
00:03:15
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um Yeah, it it was intense. There was a lot of ice. And so that caused a lot of power outages. So within my home, I was out of power for getting close to 60 hours.
00:03:32
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So three days of no power and freezing cold temperatures, no heat source. It was rough. um So I did not feel like a goddess during that time. I felt pretty, pretty helpless. However, coming out of it,
00:03:52
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I do feel like a goddess because, you know, I i did remain composed. I was super observant and i was in control of myself when everything around me, my whole world was uncertain and was absolutely in survival mode and I didn't truly break down. i survived. I had prepared for it.
00:04:23
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And that makes me feel like a goddess because it could have been super easy to break down and just be, I mean, yes, I was miserable, but...
00:04:37
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i I wasn't so miserable that my own mind became an enemy. So that's my goddess energy for this week.
00:04:49
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Thankfully, I'm out of it. um Yeah, it was an experience. I'll tell you that. now Let's get into this topic of desire.
Men and Secret Fantasies
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And before I really start talking about it, if you know me, you know I get super passionate about squashing shame around sexuality.
00:05:11
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It is something I noticed like immediately actually when I really started doing phone sex and interacting with men about their kinks and their sexuality.
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I noticed very quickly that a lot of men had these secret fantasies, these secret desires. And, but, you know, along with that, they held a lot of shame, which was strange because I would experience them and just the most heightened levels of pleasure. And then they may disappear or I never hear from them, but I do hear from them months from down the road because they tried to quit whatever it is they're trying to quit. And
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I just saw this like cycle of shame and it was very interesting to me because... they were, they were into things that I didn't think were a big deal. um you know, like no one's getting hurt.
00:06:19
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It's a pretty common kink. So I don't know. i don't know what the problem is. So anyways, I'm looking at the shame and it may it makes me sad. It makes me sad because I hate to think that people feel like they, you know, something that makes them feel good also makes them feel like a piece of shit. You know, like I just...
00:06:48
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That was just, it's heartbreaking to me. So I love getting into this topic of shame and desire. And we're going to first talk about why wanting something feels like a problem sometimes.
00:07:08
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Now, in my experience, I think a lot of men must experience desire as this kind of pressure instead of it being like a little curiosity. And i can't, my mind can't help but go to sometimes, you know, I think as adults, we we fantasize about things sexually and ah can't help but think it's like our inner child still working its imagination but at this mature level um so i think a lot of men will have a desire a fantasy and then it becomes a sort of pressure or i think you know
00:07:57
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maybe a new kind of desire appears in their mind and then ah immediately they jump to consequences. And also like believing that fantasizing about something or desiring something demands an action um or I must confess this or I must explain this. And I don't think it has to be that.
00:08:26
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you know Sometimes in ah in our lives, we may come across a new desire and it becomes something that truly defines us. And that's great. I'm more talking about the little desires that you may or may not have that aren't particularly even something you want to act out.
00:08:48
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um Let's just say, let me give you a couple examples. Maybe someone might have come across cuckold porn or cuckold audio and they heard it and thought it was the hottest thing they've ever heard.
00:09:07
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And they actually don't ever want to live that kind of life out. It's just kind of like a fantasy that's hot. I think that's a good example.
00:09:18
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Or this is one I saw a lot during my phone sex days. a man who their whole life has considered themselves heterosexual and then all of a sudden they just have this strange desire like encouraged desire and Then they get kind of twisted up and oh my gosh am I by am am Am I gay? You know, like they're they're wanting an explanation for it. Or do I need to go out and, you know, have oral sex with men because I desire this in porn?
00:09:58
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So those are just a couple examples for you. um You may have one that's sitting in your mind right now. ah But also with this topic, I can't help but not ignore or think about how a lot of us have some rooted stuff from our childhood um or from religion where we're taught something that And that becomes something within our core.
00:10:30
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So then when you're older and you have these desires, I think that some men might be taught that, you know, ah a good man knows how to control everything in his life.
00:10:45
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Or maybe you've been taught that wanting... Wanting something means that something is wrong or sinful or evil or that sexual thoughts must be suppressed or even A very logical line of thinking is sexual thoughts have to be justified.
00:11:14
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You know, there has to be reasoning behind that. So ah throw that into the mix and then a simple desire, something that just kind of tickles your fancy or tickles your brain, or it tickles, you know, that thing between your legs, um that starts to feel like dangerous.
00:11:35
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It starts to feel like something that needs to be pushed down, avoided, or dealt with, whatever it is. And I think the interesting thing is that when we try to push something down or if we try to ignore it, something inside of us, that's when it becomes the most loudest is when we do try to push it down. And so then that that starts a whole cycle there.
00:12:05
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You know, you have this the secret design. You're like, okay, this is wrong. i have to push it away. i have to ignore it. But guess what? Typically, it just comes back even harder because of these weird things that our minds do And I also think that sometimes I would say, especially for men, that that the mind tries to like solve that particular desire instead of just simply feeling it. Because we all know that, I mean, biologically, women are just more more internal and emotional and everything. And men can be more on the side of logical things.
00:12:51
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So I think for men that also becomes something is you might be trying to treat this desire as something that needs to be dealt with or needs to be solved. I got to put reasoning behind it when sometimes these desires are just simply a way for us to feel good um,
00:13:15
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something that just tickles us in certain places and that's all it is really. um You know, and so that desire just becomes this whole thing like it's got to be labeled or it needs to be confessed or I need to escalate this. You know, if I have this secret desire, I must act it out to see if I'm truly into it. Or if I feel this way inside, it must be how I truly feel as a person.
00:13:49
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And, you know, these just become, they can become loops. Loops that, you know, first was kind of just like a playful curiosity and then that loop turns into shame. And then the shame then makes the desire, the fantasy feel like this compulsive kind of behavior.
00:14:14
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and And it's not because that curiosity became stronger. It's just because it it it's not contained within in a healthy way.
00:14:26
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So before we talk about what desire kind of means, I do want to slow down and talk about what it doesn't mean.
Nature of Sexual Desires
00:14:38
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Now, most of the time, sexual desire happens automatically. And I know you know what I mean by that. you just see something and boom, you feel that little twitch.
00:14:51
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um You hear something and you feel that twitch. A lot of the times it's going to happen automatically. And so when we have a thought about something that we desire like a particular fantasy that does not equal a decision, it's not an obligation,
00:15:15
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It's definitely not particularly intention. A ah body response doesn't even mean like a commitment to something. Sometimes our minds just go in very interesting places because it's fun or we're trying to kind of heal a part of ourselves or we're trying trying to subconsciously feed void within our own inner world. ah
00:15:49
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Those reasonings can vary, but sometimes desire and fantasy doesn't doesn' it need something that happens after. there's There's no effect really. the only effect that should happen is it turns me on.
00:16:10
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Sometimes. And like I said, for for some of these desires that pop into our lives, I mean, you may have a desire that just greatly identifies you as a person. i Definitely not looking at that today.
00:16:26
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I'm looking at the sexual desires that really live in our imagination, in our minds, the things that you pretty much know that i I would never do this in real life. Like I'm either too scared or I'm not in a situation where I can try that out, um whatever the reason.
00:16:49
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But it's definitely something in your mind that feels good. And I think it's perfectly okay to notice a particular want that you have, a desire, without having to make any decisions about it.
00:17:08
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I don't think there's anything wrong with that. i think it's I think we're allowed to let a particular fantasy you know pass within our thoughts without truly like having to feed it or even trying to fight it down.
00:17:27
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I believe that we are allowed to keep our desires contained. And I think that takes a lot of emotional maturity, being comfortable with yourself. And that may be one of the weak spots for men that I've come across is, and I'm definitely not like talking shit, like these men are not emotionally,
00:17:54
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mature i think emotional maturity is something that is constantly developed. But um I truly believe that being confident in your sexual desires and kind of understanding them and knowing when it's something you can just kind of let pass or recognize and not have to be something that you act on, i do think that takes some emotional maturity there.
00:18:23
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And you're definitely not failing yourself when you decide to keep a certain sexual desire contained because containing it is a choice. ah It's not a failure because if you're able to recognize, we'll take the cuckold example.
00:18:42
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If let's say that someone recognizes that, man, I love cuckold porn. You know, I don't want to be in a relationship where I am the cuck, but I love it. I think it's so hot. I think it's the hottest thing I've ever heard and seen. Okay. So what is wrong with that person containing that inside?
00:19:08
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They don't have to tell anyone because they've already come to the conclusion that I would never do it in real life, right? I don't even want to dirty talk about it with someone. You know, like that's how much they don't want to participate in it, but they still think it's hot. So what's wrong with them keeping it contained?
00:19:28
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They're not failing themselves. They're not keeping something from happening in their lives. They're just... I think it's actually pretty healthy because you're recognizing that something feels good.
00:19:42
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ah a lot of times I also like to take sexual desire and porn and kind of push the judgments aside that, you know, because those things can have some negative connotation. If we push aside the the judgments that swirl around these topics and I can easily see like this cuckold example as um let's say this person also likes to read
00:20:16
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um historical fiction for fun. That's a hobby of theirs. They don't do it every day, but every now and then they just love to binge themselves on some historical fiction books. um So they're going to, when they're stressed or they need to decompress, they're going to turn to that historical fiction book because it makes them feel good.
00:20:41
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They could also turn to Beatrix Vale's cockled audios to satisfy that desire inside that they think is so hot and it makes them feel good.
00:20:57
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I don't see what's wrong and in that situation. you know So my point is is that containing something, a desire that you have that doesn't identify you, that doesn't define you, that doesn't need to be said to anyone, there's nothing wrong in containing it within yourself.
00:21:22
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And when you stop treating a particular sexual desire you have like it's a demand or something, it just it it becomes less heavy. it'll It'll soften and it'll lose that that urgency because when you try to push it away, it's just going to get louder And then when you finally give in to it, it's just this urgent thing that you just have to masturbate to because you've been pushing it aside for so long and trying to talk yourself out of it.
00:21:58
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um That goes away. it just it it stops escalating within your inner world. It stops becoming that monster that keeps coming back because it's not a monster.
00:22:11
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It's just this fantasy that that you may or may not have. I also, you know, I think I see it a lot too with even just simple like preference of femdom,
00:22:26
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whether it be porn or femdom kind of like interaction or even just femdom fantasies. I see it a lot with men where it's like, man, this is so hot. You know, they love...
00:22:38
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love digging into it, but, but something comes up to where they think, you know, well, fuck this. I, you know, I'm a man, and i don't need this. Or, you know, I think some societal pressure that was developed in their childhood or, you know, the, their parents' voice whispering in the back of their head, you know, you gotta be a man, um,
00:23:06
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you know, the whole patriarchy environment that that we've grown up in. And, um you know, I just, I don't see anything wrong.
00:23:19
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If that makes you feel good, you know, partaking in femdom kind of sexual content, if it makes you feel good, it Let's even say if it's something that you don't really want to practice in real life, like you are a pretty dominant man and in the bedroom. But hey, I just like I like to feel a little smaller or I like to feel a bit more weaker sometimes.
00:23:48
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when a woman makes me feel that way, what what's wrong with that that's that? That's my whole point today. There's no problem in keeping that contained within your own world.
00:24:04
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Because here's a big point of today's episode is sometimes fantasies are are misunderstood because fantasy doesn't, it doesn't speak in like instruction.
00:24:22
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And let me explain that. So fantasy is the language of our imagination. It's not the language of what's going to happen, you know, in real life.
00:24:39
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Fantasy exaggerates. It dramatizes. It also can often invite very much communicate sensation, you know, where when we make real world plans, There's strategy. There's there's planning. ah Fantasy is not like that.
00:25:01
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Fantasy can be something that could never happen in the real world. ah I immediately went to one of my favorite good boys who loves to order audios from me that are about him shrinking, like physically shrinking, so a little giantess. Yeah.
00:25:25
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Usually it's a witch that puts a spell on him and he becomes like really, really tiny and then she has fun with him. um Obviously, that could never happen in real life, although I'm sure he would love if it could.
00:25:42
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but You know, and I have to give him credit because I, and I don't know how his journey has been, but he seems very confident. And this is what I'm into. I love this fantasy um because the way he talks and there interacts with me about it.
00:25:58
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And I commend that, that, hey, I, you know, this would be his internal thinking, ah I believe. I recognize that this is a fantasy for me.
00:26:12
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I don't have to confess it to the world. i I don't have to you know exaggerate. I don't have to make sense of it. I don't have to do anything with that. All I have to do is just enjoy it.
00:26:28
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And here's something to really get you thinking. It gets me thinking. Fantasies are, most of them, tend to be like symbolic.
00:26:40
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So they're going to point towards a feeling. And when I say that is the fantasy represents a feeling. Or the fantasy represents a shift in control.
00:26:59
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So ah fantasy can represent something that is way more deeper. than the fantasy itself. And the important thing here is that this means that fantasies don't always have to be real world scenarios.
Interpreting Fantasies
00:27:19
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They can just be a representation of something much more deeper, you know, in our inner world. So let's break that down. i'm going to bring in the shrinking example for this, okay?
00:27:35
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This fantasy that this man has to be shrunk down into a one-inch tall man and used by this woman There's obviously some things going on here about, of course, being smaller. um There's some control there. So his control is just stripped away because he becomes like a speck.
00:28:03
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um Definitely there's some surrender and some you know, I have no control over what's happening.
00:28:13
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um So if we think about that, what could he perhaps be expressing through that? So maybe it's a desire to, you know, stop having to perform.
00:28:29
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Maybe it's the desire to just simply let go. Like it's, gosh, life is so exhausting, especially if you have like a high impact job where you're constantly stressed.
00:28:45
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ah So maybe this fantasy speaks to that. I think for this particular example, I would imagine it is simply, this would be my best guess, is the feeling of being smaller and insignificant in a way.
00:29:07
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um Let's pull up another example, the cuckold one. that fantasy, and again, let's speak about a person that could be into cuckold porn, but could never do it in real life. So that fantasy, I think would definitely be about surrender, control, being replaced. And so that could express that deeper need of maybe wanting to rest inside of a role. So like not having to perform or maybe there's some
00:29:46
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deep-rooted things about his own sexual performance and it's hot to be put in his place through it. You know, so the point of this is that fantasy often is just trying to tap into something that perhaps is trying to heal or is trying to find a way to cope, you know,
00:30:15
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having holes filled. um Yeah. So like it's fantasies are often just way deeper. And, and why this is important is that I think the mistake people make is they treat a fantasy like it's like, it's a set of instructions.
00:30:37
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And You know, so like if I imagine this, like if I'm turned on by this and I'm fantasizing about it, it must mean i want it in real life. And often that's just going to create either panic or shame And it could be something they would never want in real life. You know, it's, it could just be something that the imagination likes to hold for a minute.
00:31:09
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And you can treat your fantasies, Like you learn from them without ever building it in in the real world.
00:31:20
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Maybe just sitting and reflecting with it. Maybe don't. Maybe let it happen and there's no need to make sense of it at all. But you can learn from it.
00:31:31
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There may be a lesson there. You can, you know, listen to what that fantasy may be pointing toward. Sometimes there's no need to act it out or to escalate it unless it's that's something you want to do.
00:31:49
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And where the next point is going to be is Sometimes being private becomes like super important because not everything you understand within yourself needs to be shared.
00:32:09
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Sometimes it's okay to have a private thought, a private fantasy, your own little gift and And I think there becomes confusion between the words privacy and secrecy because there's a big difference between those two.
00:32:30
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When you have privacy, that's a choice. You chose to keep something private where secrecy is more framed as fear of something.
00:32:44
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Making the choice to have privacy is deciding what belongs only to you. Having that internal world that doesn't require witnesses.
00:33:00
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Privacy is ownership of your inner life. And there's nothing wrong with that. I keep while I talk through this I keep thinking about maybe a man that is in a relationship and he has a particular fantasy again it's one that he doesn't want to live out it's just this fun little fantasy that that tickles his pickle so to speak um I don't think there's anything wrong with him keeping that private unless he wants to share it, unless he wants to, you know, with his partner be like, hey, let's share this to together. it Let's dirty talk about it. Or I want to tell you about it.
00:33:46
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You know, that because it's the choice. It's the choice. Like if you don't want to share it, you're not, I don't believe you're being,
00:33:58
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you know, what's the word I'm looking for? Like negative. um I don't think you're lying because you decided to keep this fantasy that you don't ever want to see the light of day. um If you choose to keep that internal, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:34:20
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You don't have to say everything. I mean, that's not normal. That's actually not normal. Like not... We don't say everything our weird minds are thinking all the time.
00:34:32
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You know, we don't have that stream of consciousness, thank goodness, because it would be weird. Our minds are weird places sometimes. But speaking on the word or the term rather, secrecy.
00:34:46
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Secrecy comes from a place of shame and i know you know what that feels like. It's very tense and it can feel like you're hiding something dangerous.
00:35:02
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But here's the thing. If you have that little secret fantasy or that secret sexual desire, not disclosing it doesn't make it this this element of of secrecy.
00:35:17
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Because if it's your own, if you choose to keep it private, then that's what it is. It's private. There's there's not any shame swirling around it. I mean... Maybe in your mind you may think, oh, if I told my partner, i would feel shame about that. um You know, I'm not talking about that. I'm talking more like when you give that little secret sexual desire, when you give it room to be that little monster inside, then it does become more on the side of secrecy because
00:35:58
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It just it feels like you're hiding something dangerous. you know So if you don't have your own self-acceptance with it, then i think it is going to feel like that secrecy.
00:36:10
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But honestly, i don't think that everything needs to be processed out loud. Having private fantasies when you're in a relationship does does not equal betrayal, in my opinion.
Privacy in Relationships
00:36:24
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And I think when something is allowed to stay internal, you chose to keep it inside and keep it as your own. It's going to totally soften and it's going to lose a lot of urgency that it would have if you're sitting there thinking, oh my God, I'm going to have to tell my partner about this. I got to tell someone about this because This is defining who I am is, you know, whatever it is.
00:36:53
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um It just becomes your private little secret. And again, that kind of goes back to the kind of emotional maturity, because I think that is required, the emotional maturity to know what should stay inside and trusting yourself with that decision.
00:37:14
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That takes some maturity there. I think a very mature point of view with this topic of sexual desire is being able to say like, okay, for one, I know that this sexual desire makes me feel good. It's very intriguing. It's very exciting. You know, I know I don't need to act on it and I know I don't need to reject it either.
00:37:43
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And I think that's the sweet spot. And that does take some maturity. And if this episode resonates with you at all, um you know that better than anyone.
00:37:57
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And that when you when you reject it, it just it but comes back. It comes back louder. And there's really negative self-talk that'll happen with it too.
00:38:14
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You know, a lot of shame and a lot of guilt and rejection and failure, like all these really negative things just swirling inside when all it really took was being aware enough, being confident enough to say that, you know,
00:38:36
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I know this turns me on. I know it's something I don't need to act on and I don't need to reject it either. I mean, goodness, i so many men, like from particular particularly during the phone sex days, so many men I'm thinking about, you know, that would just come to me in a tizzy, like wanting to, wanting to be bisexual with a man. no one knows about it, but he's calling me because, you know, it becomes like this, he's telling me a secret and he's totally turned on.
00:39:21
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But afterwards feels really weird about it and really gross about it and questioning everything. And, you know, that just makes me sad because if if he could just, in this example story, if he could just accept that, hmm, I know this turns me on sometimes.
00:39:44
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I don't want to act on it in real life. So you know what? I'm not going to reject it. I'm just going to accept it as something that turns me on. And then even to take it even deeper on a maturity level is maybe he spends some time reflecting. So what is it about this fantasy that...
00:40:06
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what is my mind trying to work on or what is it trying to reach at a deeper level? Because I know that fantasy isn't real life or it's not instructions for ah for real life.
00:40:23
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hmm, I want to feel soft. I want to feel what a woman might feel and a sexual setting. I want to feel softer when I'm turned on.
00:40:38
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That's just an example of what he may be tapping into that has really nothing to do with his sexual identity. Sometimes our sexual desires are just things that we want and really don't need to be lived out.
00:40:58
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Sometimes our sexual desires do want to be lived out. That takes some maturity inside to know the difference between those two. Or maybe you're in a situation where you're in a relationship, so can't can't or you won't act out in real life, that's okay.
00:41:20
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You know, accept that sexual desire, dig into it in the safest way as possible. And that's all it is.
00:41:33
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You know, it doesn't have to be this identity changing stance. It doesn't have to be something that turns into this big, ugly shame spiral.
00:41:44
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not everything you want sexually needs to be lived out to be understood. Sometimes when they're not lived out and you do have all that time to live it out and you're in your inner world, I would argue that sometimes that becomes even more understood.
00:42:10
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With all that said, this is where i want to leave you. Okay. I want to leave you with some reflection. i i definitely don't want you to take anything from this episode and turn it into some work that you have to do because there's nothing here to solve or decide, no action that you need to take.
00:42:35
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Now, if anything, i just want you to notice what it is that came up during that episode. What things came up in your mind? Like were there any sexual desires or particular fantasies that that hopefully may feel a little quieter.
00:42:58
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And I would absolutely want you to notice how different it feels to let a thought exist without without having to immediately respond to it.
00:43:14
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That response being to push it down or going through all these panic spirals or shame spirals of other people discovering something about you or whatever it is.
00:43:29
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Because wanting something doesn't really mean you have to become it. It doesn't mean you have to explain it and it doesn't mean you owe it a place in your life because some desires really do soften when they are allowed to stay private, when you choose to have them be private.
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And there may be some parts of you that just want to be acknowledged. They want to be acknowledged without you having to act on them.
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Because I truly believe that you are allowed a world that belongs only to you. You are allowed to contain and you're allowed to trust yourself with what stays inside.
Closing and Listener Engagement
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So I want to thank you for listening. And if you would like to hear more of my actual content, don't forget to check out the link in my bio or go to missbeatrix.com to find free audios and a ton of other audios that are available in other places.
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Until next time. And that's a wrap for this episode of The Slut Next Door, where we dive deep into the raw, unapologetic truths of human desire.
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Click the link in my bio where you can find lots of juicy content and options. Until next time, I'm Beatrix Vale, your Slut Next Door, and I'll see you in the next episode.