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203. Dear Griever: A Letter to Those Who are Grieving by Kendra Rinaldi
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I felt compelled to write a Dear Griever type letter tonight. A letter for anyone who is in the midst of grief. This is a short episode of me reading it.
Grief is heavy, unpredictable and deeply personal, yet I wanted to share some love and compassion to anyone of you who are in the thick of the pain right now.
I pray this brings you a bit of comfort. You are loved, you are seen.
Love,
Kendra
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Transcript
Introduction: Personal Letter on Grief
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Hi, welcome to today's episode. Today, I wanted to share something from the heart. I felt inclined to write a letter to someone that's grieving.
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And honestly, when I wrote it, I was thinking of myself. thinking of what I would have written myself and how I would have spoken to myself in all the different times that I've grieved.
Reading the Letter: Varied Grieving Processes
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So I share this with you.
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If by chance you're grieving, take it lightly, take it however you want. Again, not all of us grieve the same way. Yet I, again, I felt inclined to just write this to someone who is grieving. And again, like writing it to my old self in the beginning when I was in the midst of my dream, of my dream, of my grief.
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So we'll see how it goes.
Heartfelt Message to a Grieving Friend
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Dear friend, I know you are grieving right now. You're in the midst of one of the most painful moments of your life. You may feel completely alone, yet somehow you found this podcast.
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Maybe someone sent you a link, a quote, a card, or a book. Some of those things may still be sitting unopened on your desk or nightstand or even a dozen of unopened texts.
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The prayer a close friend sent you might feel comforting one night, but a week from now, you might feel angry at God and not even want to pray. Each day will look different.
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Actually, each moment will. Your emotions will show up unexpectedly, sometimes shifting second by second. Some of them will surprise you.
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As unreal as it sounds right now, you may even find yourself laughing amidst your grief. You might say the most cynical things or crack a joke with dark humor.
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I'm not saying all this will happen to you because your grief is unique. No one will experience it exactly as you do. So please have grace with yourself.
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Be gentle. Be patient with those around you. Some of the things people say in an effort to comfort might make you angry.
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in fact In fact, maybe even listening to this is making frustration rise within you. Don't tell me how I feel.
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Don't tell me how to feel. You're not me.
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I hear you. I've been there. I felt those emotions too. Grief is disorienting.
Advice on Accepting Support
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It can make you feel like you're drowning.
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one thing I can say is this. Take what people tell you and only apply what feels right for you. Leave the rest behind.
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Some advice may come in handy later and some will never make sense to you at all.
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Know that even when people say or do the wrong thing, most of it comes from a place of love. Grief is daunting, not just for you, but for those who want to support you and don't always know how.
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Right now, your grief may feel unbearable, but one day,
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whenever that may be, you will carry it in a way that doesn't feel as heavy. It will still be with you, but the space between the tears and sadness will be longer.
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I just want you to know that you are mourning exactly as you should.
Reassurance of Value and Love
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Trust yourself in the process. Listen to your intuition. It will guide you toward what is best for you.
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You are loved. You are supported. You are seen. Much love, a fellow griever.
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I sit here with my hand and my heart, sending you all so much love in this moment.
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I...
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I am not the best of words. I know I have this podcast and and I talk and I ask questions and I write these things, but when someone's grieving, I really truly am at a loss for words.
Personal Struggles in Offering Support
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So I can relate to some of the people that really do not know what to tell me or have not known how to support me and my grief.
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So as I sit here reading this to you that I wrote,
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I hope that it brings you just a tiny bit of comfort. Grief is not something that's to be overcome.
Grief as a Continuous Process
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Grief is something that you're supposed to feel.
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Grief is something you will carry. Again, it will not feel the same way.
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and I'm not going to say tomorrow or a year from now, it will it will change because you will change.
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I send you so much love.
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I hold space for you.
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And I know that others around you are doing the same. Allow them allow them to be there for you.
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It's hard. It's hard to be vulnerable. It's hard to accept people's help and support. But just know that it helps them as well to know that they are in some shape or form showing up for you.
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Sending you love.
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Sending you peace.
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Thank you again so much for choosing to listen today. I hope that you can take away a few nuggets from today's episode that can bring you comfort in your times of grief.
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If so, it would mean so much to me if you would rate and comment on this episode. And if you feel inspired in some way to share it with someone who may need to hear this, please do so.
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Also, if you or someone you know has a story of grief and gratitude that should be shared so that others can be inspired as well, please reach out to me.
Conclusion: Sharing Grief and Gratitude Stories
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And thanks once again for tuning in to Grief, Gratitude, and the Gray In Between podcast. Have a beautiful day.