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Men Caring for Men - Happy New Years
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Tonight, on Men Caring for Men Connor invite Blaze from the network to talk about New Years resolution and the importance of mental health navigating the new year.
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Episode Format Transition
00:04:31
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this way am i doing this is my day
00:04:44
Speaker
but ba bo That was Jules in the house. What a great way to start this show. I mean, I absolutely love that intro.
00:04:55
Speaker
Um, but anyway, ladies and gentlemen, as you can tell, this is a free record this time. We are not live this Monday night. Um, some scheduling is going to make that a new consistency that you're going to see in the upcoming future. Uh, I will be trying to do one to two live shows per month, and then we will do mostly prerecorded sessions, uh, outside of that. But.
Power Outage Experience
00:05:19
Speaker
Welcome. It is January. Well, when this posts, it'll be January 13th, 2025. Welcome to the new year. Blaze, how you doing buddy? I am good. I'm in, I'm in like chill mode today. I'm not very hyper, but am I really, but I'm good. I'm good. I'm doing good. It's sunny outside. It's, it's, it's creeping into the high thirties. Things are melting.
00:05:48
Speaker
it's getting sloppy out there, but it's so nice. Yes. Um, that was, that was an interesting week we had last week. I had to, uh, I thought I was going to have to cancel the show if I couldn't get somebody to, uh, to host the show for me because I lost power for a little over two days straight, uh, in the house. It got done, got down into the thirties. So we actually went over to my buddy's little one bedroom apartment with him and his wife. And, uh, we slept on the couch and the boys slept on the floor and,
00:06:16
Speaker
My daughter was there. and Oh my goodness. We were packed into one house because they had electricity and heat. It was a good time. It was a sleepover. Yeah. Yeah. he He messaged me at like noon on day two. He was like, hey, do you guys have power yet? And I was like, no, dude, my house is freezing. We've got the the fire going real good. and ah And he was like, well, my wife just made cookies and I'm brewing hot tea right now. You guys want to come over?
00:06:44
Speaker
And I was like, dude, tea party at your place right now sounds so good. tea Tea and crumpets, I'm there. Absolutely. It was ah it was a great time. But before we go go too deep into this tonight, remember, you can check us out pretty much everywhere that you find podcasts.
Weekly Podcasts Overview
00:07:05
Speaker
Blaze, tell them about our shows. Tell them what we got. Oh, man. I usually do this to Jeff. oh Well, my you're here. I get to pick on you. Right. Mondays. Well, you're here with us right now. mencar for men But prior to that is with Wally, uh, reptile talk, coldbuded yeah cold sports.
00:07:32
Speaker
I did. Cold-blooded conversations. Yes. Cold-blooded conversations followed up by us, Men Caring for Men. Speedway Stories and Cold-Blooded Conversations. See, I knew right. The Tuesdays, of course, is Glick's House music, where he typically has a guest on, an up-and-comer, getting their stuff out there, giving them some plugs and some love. Stop on by. Tuesday nights are pretty fun.
00:07:59
Speaker
Wednesday's is what the fuck news where you have Blake and Jeff Reporting on what makes them ask what the fuck in in hopes that you'll ask the same Thursdays Thursdays is up in the air. It's it's it's Jeff's garage night, but I think he's working on stuff behind I don't know. Yeah, there's there's a lot of there's a lot of behind the scenes going on with Jeff's garage right now I know he's doing some scheduling stuff. He's he's working with He's working with some some guests on the side trying to get everything laid out before he re rolls out the red carpet for everybody on on just garage podcast. Friday nights is the night you guys can catch me all the time. Jeff and I will sit there and watch some short films commentary review and rate them sometimes be rate my god last last week I picked two two two snorers
00:08:57
Speaker
but this week's, this week's going to be a little bit more upbeat and it'll be some comedy and some not from YouTube. These are, ah yeah, it's ah from, I found a site called Clip List. Anyway, I'm not going to go too much on Friday nights. And then Saturdays, of course, we have Cash's corner early in the day where Glick and his son talks about the wrestling and all things in the wrestling world.
00:09:26
Speaker
um lots of belts. You'll see a lot of belts. ah The champ. And then later Saturday night, you have the flagship show. nonical Nonsense Open Door Challenge where you, the audience in the comment section, driving down the road in your car, jump on up, yell at me, make fun of Jeff. This degree of a glit. Hey, have a foot race. It's all true.
00:09:57
Speaker
Can you outrun my throw? Yeah, right. And then Sundays we close it out with unnecessary roughness. The network sports show Sundays will click and Rick and I think he has Cam up there sometimes and some other wrote rotational guests. Kind of like what I do over here. Yeah, some rotations in and out with people. Nothing wrong with that keeps it fresh.
00:10:27
Speaker
Absolutely. And if you want to know where you can get all this, go ahead and click on the bio dot link slash nonsensical network.
Mental Health Resources
00:10:36
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You'll see all of our social medias as well as where you can listen to our podcast. We do go live most nights. ah If not, you'll get the pre recorded version, which in my opinion, still not bad. um Speaking of with this show being pre-recorded today what you should know is that in the future you should stay tuned with Men Caring for Men because I do have some guests in the work here locally to me here in Evansville Indiana who are who may be coming up here on the show as well as Glick has maybe been putting some things in the work for me ah to bring some other people who are a little more
00:11:14
Speaker
ah that was nationwide. So we will ah we will keep everyone updated on what guests will and will not be here. And then I like to throw this up here. Just remember, this this is a mental health show that we do talk about some some tougher subjects. And I just want you all to know that there is, oh, maybe, there it goes. There is a hotline. it's never That's never the option that you should take. But if you're thinking about it, then there is a phone number for you to call where they will and can help you.
00:11:44
Speaker
So suicide prevention hotline 1-800-273-TALK. That's for everybody, not just for the and men out there. That's correct. That's correct. Well, it's Monday night, and it is, well, it's talk of the weekly bro check.
Job Hunting and Mental Health
00:12:02
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Blaze, how you been doing, buddy? I know you said you're chilling today. What you been up to? um You know what? The only big stress I got going on right now is uh you know what uh before I go into me, I just wanted to say something real quick for you know, you brought up a suicide hotline. You know, there's a line out there for veterans too. It's uh dial 988 and then press one. It's the crisis line. Okay. Nothing about that. Um everything's fairly good with me. Just the stressors of job hunting. I got I got yeah I got some more concrete goals for this year and um I wanna see them come to fruition for my own sanity's sake. So
00:12:42
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it's going to rely on getting a better paying job, at least temporarily. Other than that, that kind of stress. Job hunting, I've done a lot of job um hunting since I got out of the military. I can absolutely attest to the fact that that it can be stressful. It can really suck. Sometimes you go to interviews, you just don't get a fucking call back. Nobody cares to do it.
00:13:09
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yeah Sometimes you put in applications to like 12 different jobs and nobody fucking calls you back and I think my biggest hurdle is finding that job that I'm copacetic with that I feel fulfilling and That I'm not gonna go in to just y'all like Yeah, did um I'm not I'm not the boss's favorite person I've been fired from a job for asking too many questions. That was See, i got I got kind of lucky with my current ah current job.
Library Security Fulfillment
00:13:40
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We're gonna go to the library as as simple and as menial as it might sound, especially in security for a fucking library.
00:13:47
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ah I actually get a lot of fulfillment out of it. We work with a lot of homeless people. we i've I've met a lot of really, really great groups of people, people trying to get back up on their feet that just use the library to stay warm in the winter or cool off in the summer, get off their feet and stuff like that. And it's really nice to be a part of something like that. And they got a really good community of employees and staff there. um And they pay pretty well. I can't complain about it. I would love to have a full-time position, but I understand that a nonprofit Things are things are combo convoluted and complicated But yeah, I got kind of lucky with that and it was definitely there was a lot of Applications there were a lot of interviews there were people I said no to Because I just I didn't see myself having any sort of future where I'd enjoy my time at work
00:14:42
Speaker
and then starting to work at the library and now I go into i go into work and i I smile on my face and it's not fake. I'm like walking, I'm like, dude, I'm just happy to be here. The librarians look at me like I'm fucking crazy. I'm like, I don't think you get it. i'm high am gray like like I'm happy to be, this is like the most calm environment I've ever worked in in my life. I get to essentially sit back and relax, talk to people, meet new people, help people.
00:15:08
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And, and it's, it's, it's really good. So finding that is going to be a big deal. I think especially for you, I think it'll help out with your mental health, health specifically, not just, you know, achieving that goal for monetary reasons, but also bring some sort of, uh, warmth to, to the purpose of what you want to try and do with your life. Yeah. It's, I mean, it's not just for monetary purposes. Like I said, it's, uh, it's a stepping stone for my, for my,
00:15:37
Speaker
not a final goal in life, but a big goal, you know, and I've talked for before and start that van life shit. So, you know, I got to get a van and I don't want something I have to pay off. So I want to, but I don't want to buy something that's going to break down either. So I'm finding, I got to find that happy medium of affordability and not having a pay, a payment on it. You know what I mean? Yeah.
00:16:05
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Good shit, man. Yeah, my world, uh, my world's been pretty interesting over the last week or
Winter Storm Impact
00:16:11
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so. Like I said, we had the, we had the outage. We had that winter storm come through it. I used everything over real good. Uh, and then that same Friday. So, uh, I think the the storm ended on like Monday.
00:16:24
Speaker
Monday evening, Monday afternoon, and then Tuesday was everyone was trying to get power back and they had the fire trucks were going all night. The center point was trying to get everyone's power lines back up. I think that the total was like over 80,000 people without power for over for longer than 24 hours and something like 40,000 for longer than two days.
00:16:47
Speaker
Uh, and then Friday, we, we had another snow storm come through, but it was just snow. So we got another six and a half inches of snow roll through on Friday. Uh, you guys got hit a lot worse than we did a lot. Granted, this was the little hole, little metro area, um, specifically, but this was the most snow they've got in the last 30 years. at once or Yeah.
00:17:13
Speaker
Yeah, we had it we had a ah similar statistic. I think that the previous the previous record was like four inches. And you know coming from Columbus, Ohio, that doesn't really seem like that much. But it was we got five and a half inches of combined with snow, sleet, and ice, and freezing rain. And then on top of that, we got more to more on Friday.
00:17:37
Speaker
ah And they were like, Oh yeah, we're breaking records, breaking records for power outages, breaking records for a school being out due to snow days. My kids didn't go to school one time last week. Yeah. My sister's kids, did yeah they were home the entire time. They were, I mean, granted it was the tail end of their winter vacation from Christmas. So I think in all actuality, they missed three days of school, not all entire week.
00:18:04
Speaker
the way the calendar was set up for the winter vacation. Yeah, it's going to be interesting taking them back to school tomorrow, having to get up at six o'clock again, start waking them up. I got to find all their school school uniforms, make sure those are clean. oh ah they I'm going to be happy to have the house to myself and just be me and my daughter for a little while again. But at the same time, I got to get up stupid earlier tomorrow.
00:18:32
Speaker
And then I got to check on their homework and I got to do all this, that and the other. It's going to be, it was a nice little three week vacation because they were supposed to go back to school last Monday and it was, that was supposed to be the start back from winter break. And we had that snow storm come through or that winter storm come through and it was just like a whole extra week.
00:18:53
Speaker
But other than that, man, I mean, it's been it's been really
Post-Holiday Routine
00:18:57
Speaker
chill around here. We've had nothing super crazy going on. um Back to back to work because libraries open again. oh Honestly, it hasn't been too, too crazy. You've got some if you'll notice. You got some contacts in instead of wearing those big old fucking Coke bottles on my face. Yeah, yeah, you're looking a lot different these days. But Other than that, I mean, things really haven't been that crazy. it's been It's been a nice refreshing winter break compared to at least leading up to and going into the end of last year and the beginning of this year. It's been a nice reprieve from what what has been. Do you have to do a lot of snow shoveling? I tried.
00:19:47
Speaker
I tried on Monday. I was like, I just want to go go outside and like get my body moving a little bit. My wife's like, it's a bad idea. I was like, it's just fucking snow. And I went out there snows heavy and like. It's heavy on your back. Well, it was the thing is it was cold enough outside that all the snow was pretty light. Actually, it was really fluffy, easy to move. The problem was we had all the freezing rain and sleet. We had a about almost almost an inch of just ice.
00:20:17
Speaker
in between all that. So, it was like a layer of snow, a layer, an inch thick of ice, and then another three inches on top of that. And I went there, I went outside and I did one stripe on our driveway and I was like, can't fuck that. ah That's not gonna happen. that I don't wanna have to call the ambulance in this fucking weather. It's not a good idea. So, I just went right back inside, warmed up by the fire. Had a good old time. so There's some snow melt out there. It'll it'll drain away. Yeah.
00:20:47
Speaker
i kept I kept whispering to my wife, because we had we had everybody held up in the living room ah with the fire going. And we put blankets up over the entryways because we don't have doors to the living room. And so we were just trying to block it off. And so we all slept downstairs. And I kept whispering to my wife at night. I was like, hey, you know if if the kids weren't down here, this would actually be kind of romantic.
00:21:12
Speaker
She's like, I fucking hate you. Go to sleep. is but the kids are asleep is what I'm saying. She's like, I'm not going to touch your pee pee. Well, Carson's laying five feet from you. ah
00:21:31
Speaker
She was not interested. Fair enough. Fair enough. But, uh, but yeah, welcome to the new year's new year, ladies and gentlemen, I'm sure that, uh,
00:21:43
Speaker
I'm sure that last show, I actually didn't get to watch it but I'm sure the last show, you guys welcomed it in pretty well but I wanted to. So, Monday. day like Yeah, I don't know what you guys did on on Monday. I don't think I was there on Monday. I think Glick Glick did a show I thought for for me on Monday. Mm hmm. Did we not have a men caring for men last Monday? Oh, this no, this past Monday. No, we did not. Oh, okay. we'll see and I asked about it. and then like Oh my god. Why do I even post in that chat anymore? I don't even know. I don't I don't remember anybody saying anything last Monday but I don't know. Last Monday, you know, I was getting hit by the storm. Blake was getting hit by the storm. Jeff was probably just getting hit by things falling off the ceiling so I don't know. Yeah. People on the walls. Shit like that. I think it was a washout last Monday. It happened. Yeah.
00:22:44
Speaker
Well, yeah, in that case, well, I apologize for last week. Welcome to 2025.
New Year's Mental Health Goals
00:22:51
Speaker
I think that this this show today, we're going to kind of talk about what we can do to keep our mental health moving in the right direction as we move into the new year. I know that last year for me was a bit of a reset.
00:23:04
Speaker
um for my mental health coming out of the military and and trying to reassimilate back into life. And I was actually recently reminded by my wife that I needed to keep up with it. Otherwise, ah you know, things go backwards. And you can't do that. very You end up in a worse place than you were. So um I think we're going to go for a short break here. It's going to be a shorter show just to pre-worn everybody, just because it's a pre-record. But we're going to go ahead and go to a quick break and we'll come back and we will talk about our 2025 plans for staying mentally helpful. Let's go with... Mentally healthy. That's what I said. Same, same. Shut up. Words are hard. I don't want to hear it. Tell you what, let's go with life is beautiful by 6am.
00:28:04
Speaker
Damn, sometimes I forget how depressing that song is. I don't think I've heard it. I might have. I mean the first time I heard it was on was on this was the podcast so that was life is beautiful by 6 a.m Welcome back to the mentoring for men show on the non-sensible network Go ahead and check us out at bio dot link slash nonsensical network if I can find the damn thing. There we go Hit that like smash as described ding that dong though
00:28:42
Speaker
Ding that dong bell. Always like it when you when you smash that dong. power So Blaze, as we went into break there, we kind of briefly touched on what the topic of the day is going to be, the topic for for today's show. um Moving into 2025, everybody has their Everyone has their resolutions or goals for the year. And 1 thing that a lot of people forget to put on that list is to remain mentally stable and to keep their mental health in check and to not forget about that. And they end up getting so busy with their.
00:29:22
Speaker
with their goals and trying to achieve those and stay consistent with those that they completely forget about keeping that in check as well. So with that said, do you have any like big goals or plans for 2025? Oh, shit.
00:29:43
Speaker
I mean, I have goals. And they each are set in place for a bigger goal, like, you know, starting van life. that's really my ultimate goal. I'm not saying I will be on the road living van life by the end of this year. It might be, might trickle in the next year, a little bit, but I don't like to restrict myself with too many resolutions. ah I don't, me personally, I just think I'll change stuff as I need to change them. I don't need to set a date per se, I guess. Yeah.
00:30:20
Speaker
ah But for mental health, I mean, keeping all my mental health and keeping myself mentally stable is definitely part of me accomplishing that goal. Because if I'm not, I'm not going to be able to put my my my self-worth into a focus on on what I need to. So yeah yeah me so maintaining my meds. ah You had asked me earlier if I see a psychiatrist or a psychologist. I do see a psychiatrist.
00:30:48
Speaker
Um, so keeping up with that, that stuff, therapy wise ah my meds, keeping, keeping in contact with my docs and all that stuff is definitely something that, um, I don't really look at it as a goal, but just like a part of my life now. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Something that you don't want to like, forget to check that box. Yeah. It's like, it's like brushing my teeth every day. It's just, it's not a.
00:31:18
Speaker
Yeah, it's a goal to brush your teeth every day, but but I don't have to think about it. Yeah, it's just part it's a part of life. Yeah, it's a habit. Right. rare Right, right, right. And I think maybe that's why I have a problem with resolutions is I notice that a lot of times when we talk about making our resolutions, it's to better ourselves, better our habits and stuff.
00:31:45
Speaker
I don't, it's probably, I think in my head, if I try to set a date, January 1st, I'm going to start this. It's like, if you know you need to start it, just start it. Kind of falls, for me, it kind of falls into the empty toolbox fallacy. So that's kind of the way I go with it. Are you having a speaker issues? I can't hear you.
00:32:16
Speaker
It is okay. There we go. I think I hear you now. My headphones keep, the audio on my headphones keeps cutting out. It'll be like go for five seconds and then it'll go pop-pop and it'll go away for a second or two and it'll come back. I think I have an issue with my headphones. But yeah, I mean, <unk>ve I've noticed a lot of times people make these big New Year's resolutions and these big goals for the year and they're so,
00:32:42
Speaker
ah They're so different than how they acted or behaved the year prior, that for them, it's like starting from scratch. And to remain consistent while keeping other things in check is really difficult, especially if you're doing it as this quote New Year's, New Year's resolution. There's almost like, it's almost like assumed when you make a and New Year's resolution that you're going to fail at.
00:33:08
Speaker
It's, it's, you're gonna, you're gonna stop, you're gonna start, you're gonna stop, you're gonna start, you're gonna stop, you're gonna start. Or at least that's what I've seen from myself, from my friends, from myself when I've made them. I've kind of, I've kind of quit making those quote unquote resolutions. ah And kind of like you said, I just kind of have a plan for what I want to do throughout the year.
Maintaining Good Habits
00:33:31
Speaker
when, where there are timelines for certain things, but it's stuff that I've been working towards already and I'm already consistent with. Like, hey, I want to be better at this. Like last year was a big trying to to get realigned mentally and physically, emotionally, spiritually with all my surgeries and stuff and i had lots of mental stressors. And so I had to, I had to kind of realign and that's what I did last year. And this year I don't want to stop. It's just a different,
00:34:02
Speaker
It's a different goal that I have in mind to get to, or a different thing that I'm working towards, because I feel like I accomplished that last year, but I'm not changing my routine by completely doing something totally different. Yes. Some, I think, I think some people look at New Year's resolutions as like, they gotta completely, it's like for years we wake up when we put our shoes on, you know,
00:34:31
Speaker
You don't think about what she was on the foot. You just kind of do it by habit. It's like waking up. It's like going to bed with the idea. OK, I'm going to wake up tomorrow and I'm putting all my shoes backwards. And when you wake up in the morning, you're not thinking, thinking, you're just going by the by the numbers and your shoes end up on your feet the way you're supposed to. And you're like, oh, shit, I fucked up. I told you I was going to wear them backwards. It's a funny analogy, I know, but But it it goes, I think it lends testimony on how our brains work. And if you're going to commit to a resolution or a positive change, whatever you want to call it, start with, I don't want to say, I know, I know change is uncomfortable and it's good to be uncomfortable when change happens sometimes. But sometimes I think if you're going to make this drastic change, you might have to look at it in steps. If I'm going to reach this goal, what
00:35:31
Speaker
small steps. So I need to get there and start there. Sometimes yeah it is about those, those small steps. Right. I mean, we're, we're, we're creatures of habit, right? You know, everything that we do is habitual. Like you said, wake up, brush your teeth, go downstairs, but get or get dressed, put your shoes on, get ready, go to work. And to add a brand new habit out of nowhere that you're not used to is doomed to fail at least a couple of times before you can recognize it and re-go back into it. Um,
00:36:02
Speaker
You know, like no last I don't want to discredit I don't want to discredit those people that do have that are able to like quit told quit Yeah, cold turkey people out there mad prop Jealous of you, but not all of us Yeah, that that that is true. I mean some people are fucking Some people make New Year's resolutions and then by the end of the year you look at them and they're the completely different person and You're like, what the fuck happened? like Well, I wanted to change my life this year and I did.
00:36:34
Speaker
i I'm impressed. Good job. But for me, I've i've got i've got to take, like you said, those little steps. Like last year was, you know, mental health, wanted to focus on that, wanted to focus on ah my finances a little better. But I and didn't do it like, hey, I need to attack all of my debt today, within the next month. And I want to get rid of it and yada, yada, yada. Last year, I increased my income. This year, my my objective is to get that to a point where it's manageable.
00:37:06
Speaker
you know is to not slack on what I was doing last year, keep moving in the right direction and not move backwards. i don't I think my only real resolution for this year is to stay consistent with the good habits that I started last year. And and I think that it long as as long as my wife and I keep consistent and keep each other accountable like we did last year, it's gonna remain a successful year.
00:37:33
Speaker
thank yeah I'm already going in on a positive note with, dude, i've I've never been this, this calm and happy and chill in my life. Yeah. And so going into this year, I'm like, I'm already, I've already got a leg up on last, last year's me. You do. You do. Um, got, I had a thought. Oh, for those people, for, for people in, I've done this myself, you'll set a goal and
00:38:03
Speaker
on the, on the, on the journey of reaching that goal, you stumble or you fail on something. Don't beat yourself up to it. I know this is so this in this, and I know people in recovery probably understands this. Like if you slip, it's not the end of the world. So yeah, don't beat yourself up about it. Yeah. I mean,
00:38:29
Speaker
And like on on the, on the topic of like mental health and things like that, you, there are obstacles that are going to be in your way. I mean, Oh yeah. Oh yeah. There's not, no matter what goal you, you said you're, there's going to be a struggle toward it regardless. Oh, absolutely.
00:38:47
Speaker
there's there's gonna be this just an unforeseen thing that happens that knocks your ass in the other direction for no reason and you gotta figure out how to how to kind of improvise and adapt and overcome. Hoorah. But. it time Sometimes you gotta learn to live with who you are now. Yeah. it's it's It's those things where having having that help on the side, having that Not only relying on yourself for your long-term goals becomes more and more important. Yeah. You know, Blaze, you mentioned going to go to therapy and having a psychiatrist, having someone that you can rely on to like, Hey, this just happened in my life. It's completely thrown me off over the last three weeks. I haven't been myself. I don't know what to fuck do, you know, maybe we need to adjust some medication here, and maybe we need to see each other a little more often so that I can, we can start working these things out. I know that, I mean, like I i keep mentioning me last year, but like last year was fucking tough for me. Shit. My whole life got flipped.
00:39:58
Speaker
at late like you just completely pivoted and it took support from my wife, took support from my family and some gumption on my end to say I need to go get some help and I did that and without it if I hadn't gone and and started doing my therapy sessions, if I hadn't gone and started seeing a psychiatrist and getting that a little bit of medication here and there where I needed it ah I don't know that last year would have panned out as well as it did. All those obstacles wouldve would have ran the entirety of my life, the entirety of last year. So I think it's. Can you hear me? I can hear you. Yeah, you're freezing a little bit, but I hear your voice. yeah but my Your video is choppy, but your voice is
00:40:49
Speaker
clear and concise. Yeah, my my my audio keeps cutting out on my microphone, which is weird. um But I think it's imperative to to keep a a support system in place. And whether that is your mental health support system, whether that is family members, close friends, etc. If you don't have that there to, yes, keep you accountable, but also keep you up you know, hold you up when you're in those fucking tough spots or you all of a sudden you have the schedule to change or hey, your buddy died or hey, you know, I i had to fucking pay for a new furnace last week and now all my finance finances are all fucked. I can't do anything for the rest of the month. You know, you got to have people that you can rely on.
00:41:36
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to to help you mentally and physically get through a lot of the the obstacles that you're gonna run into throughout the rest of the
Importance of Support Systems
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year. Otherwise, these these resolutions, these goals that you have, the plans that you have for the year are pointless.
00:41:51
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Yeah, if you set some resolutions for yourself, let's say you want to quit drinking or cut out fast food or quit smoking, whatever that bad habit is, you wanna change into a good habit.
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so Sometimes that involves a good support system. Sometimes that involves maybe mitigating some of the people that you already associate with that. Hey, yeah let's go have that beer afterward. Oh, of quitting is for losers here. I have another cigarette kind of shit like that. Like if you're serious, let those people around, you know, that you're serious about your cold changes that you want to make about yourself.
00:42:37
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And if they're not serious about it with you, maybe rethink that at that support structure. I don't want to sit here and say cut people from your lives because sometimes you don't have to go that far. just so yeah Sometimes you do. I mean, some of the best advice I ever got was you are the average of your five closest friends.
00:43:01
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you are the average of your five closest friends. So I think about like my five closest friends, shit, I can only count two that i'm I've like really great friends with. And then I've got obviously the guys on the podcast, but I think about my closest friends. I try and keep people around me who are financially signed for the most part, who've got some semblance of self-awareness.
00:43:26
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so that, because, so they know what's going on in their lives. They know when they're stressed, they can tell. Um, and if you don't have people that are at least where you want to be or moving in the same direction, then it's tough to, it's tough to make yourself want to do the same thing. Like if you've got a whole bunch of, if you don't want to be a pothead, you shouldn't hang around for pothead buddies. Right. I agree.
00:43:59
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Blaise and I both smoke which is why I made that analogy but like if you don't want to smoke, you probably shouldn't hang out with just me and Blaze all the time. Exactly. If you don't want to freaking uh be a, you know, bar hopping drunkard, don't hang around with other bar hopping drunkards. Don't hang out with Glick and Jeff. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with bar hopping drunkards. I've been there too it was fun or when it lasted. Yes. It was fun while my body could tolerate it.
00:44:36
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But like you want to be or you want to surround your people, your little words are hard. You want to surround yourself with people that are moving in the same direction as you and or who are willing to support you through that and not people that are going to push you in the wrong direction because they want, you know, the microwave mentality. Not that not that I have an issue with the way that other people live their lives. I just know that I want to spend my time around people who are moving in the same direction as people who want families, people who have families. That's why my most of my friends are older than me. Everyone on this podcast is like 20 years older than I am. yeah Yeah, you are kind of the generation oddball out. wrong it is It is and it's okay.
Personal Growth Reflections
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It's okay to be the oddball in a group of people. It's also okay to
00:45:25
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kind of like place, it's okay to cut yourself away from or or to distance yourself from groups of people that aren't doing that. Even if they're like your good old boys, you know, I stopped hanging out with a lot of my high my high school buddies and my high school friends because they were in that college phase. I had at nineteen, I had my first kid.
00:45:46
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And so I kind of stopped, I stopped hanging out with all my single friends and the the buddies who wanted to go out and drink it at the bars and try and pick up chicks because my goal wasn't to go pick up a fucking girl and get drunk at a bar. My goal was to go out and be a good dad and to fucking provide for my family and figure out the next years of my life. And it's hard to do that when all your buddies and the people that you hang out with 24 seven just want to go get fucking hammered and forget that night.
00:46:13
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So there's there's a there's definitely truth to what you said said. You have to be willing to distance yourself from the people who aren't supporting your goals. Yeah. Yeah. That goes for, I mean, I asked even if it's a goal that you start in the middle of you don't have to wait till you use resolutions.
00:46:39
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that That's that's the other thing ah and we all make a big deal out of the New Year's. How I make a big deal out of the New Year's. A lot of people do. It's it's like uh it's just something we we're kind of I wanna say influenced into conditioned I mean, we, we make a big deal about new years and making new year's resolutions has been a thing that people's been talking about for for decades. So it's, it's kind of like a, it's a thing. It's a thing in America.
00:47:16
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It is. It feels like it ends up feeling like the time to reset, you know, and it is, it is nice. And I, I do that. I mean, I did kind of hit, try and hit my reset button a little bit in in the new year. I tried to you know take some time and reflect on what I did and what I wanted to continue versus what I wanted to stop, stop doing, et cetera. But like ah we're we are conditioned to look at the new year as a new year, new me. Maybe we should do new year.
00:47:47
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it's like one new habit or new year. Let's keep getting better. Let's keep moving in the right direction because it doesn't it doesn't matter what time of **** year it is. It could be July from from December 31st to January 1st. What has really changed about you as a person other than you woke up? Sorry, my my my laptop is going plug it in No, you're good. If my wife calls me again, I'm gonna have to answer it though. Yeah, you better answer the phone or you're gonna have to answer her later. Four fucking times.
00:48:30
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Jesus Tim. Okay. Really? She's asking me what shoes I have. What shoes you want? What kind? What shoe size I wear? We've been married for nine years.
00:48:45
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she doesn't know your shoe size. I know her shoe size. She's the size eight. Yeah, she's getting she's getting smaller though. You know, it so and there's probably things she does remember you that you're not. Yeah, like probably she probably knows my favorite color and I can never fucking remember her. I know what her favorite flowers are but she doesn't she she says her favorite color is one thing and then like a month later, it'll change. It'll be something else.
00:49:14
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I'm just like, I don't, I can't keep fucking tracking. But anyway. She makes a new month resolutions this month. That's exactly right. That's exactly right. But, but yeah, I mean, I hate to, I hate to run around in circles on it, but the the the time of year doesn't change. What what happened yesterday doesn't you know, today isn't a new **** day, new **** you. Just like this year isn't a new year, new year. Work on little things and move in the right direction. It's like worth these, these pieces of **** See, then you gotta to go do all this weird **** with like educated people know and you gotta remember, I don't **** read. These are this is you I'm sure, I'm sure you're
00:50:07
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i'm sure if i explain the concept youll understand it. Let's say you you have this brand new ship that's been built and throughout throughout this time, you have to replace this part of the whole or this part of the I don't know all my ship and go you **** master or whatnot. Yeah. wait And let's say over like a span of thirty-three decades, this every piece of that ship has been replaced by a new piece. Is that the same ship it was when it was first built?
00:50:39
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Yes. It's just, it's, is it? I mean, yes and no. Yeah. Just like us. I mean, every day we, we lose skin cells, we grow new cells, we, we gain new experiences. We lose out on past experiences are really don't leave out on past experiences. You always have those experiences, but sometimes I'll fade from memory or whatnot. But the point being is.
00:51:07
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between January 1st to one year to December 31st of that same year and on. I mean, we are constantly changing. It's like, you know, it's it's like the river. You know, you put your your foot in the river. Well, two seconds later, it's not the same river. It's constantly changing.
00:51:30
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It's just the cycle. Yeah. That's the way I look at it. That is an interesting concept and it is very true. It's something that you see more so over longer periods of time. I know a lot of my friends who I recently caught up with a couple of my friends from high school and I'm like, dude, you're just completely fucking different.
00:51:48
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you're You're not the the person that I remember you to be. I'm like, yeah, I know I've grown. I've changed things. My my life has changed. My experience, i've I've had tons of experiences in the last 10 years. Jesus has been 10 years since I was in high school. um I've had so many experiences between in those 10 years that have changed me as a person. I've had so many things in my life change. I'm a father now. I'm a husband. I've got.
00:52:17
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you know, I've got these plans and goals that i I have for my family, not just for myself. I'm not just living for me. I'm a completely different person because I've had a ton of experiences in this time. And so yeah, you are a different person over time, but it doesn't happen all at once. And that's like that happens at the end and beginning of each year is people want to try and change who they are all at once.
00:52:47
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Uh, yeah, I don't think that's how we work. I don't think that's how we work as humans. Are you okay, Blaze? Yeah. I don't know if you hear the growling in the background. It's my dog. She's staring at, she's staring at the window with this real growl horses. Like as soon as he lets me outside, I'm coming.
00:53:07
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Sorry. No, you're good. I was just like, I saw your face was changing and I was like, uh, I'm like, you I was like, there's people here that grow and I hope they don't think i'm hurt I don't I don't hear anything. Blaze, are you over there growling at the growling at the moon? No, not me. Not yet. Moon's not out yet. Later on.
00:53:28
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um
00:53:30
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But when it comes to I'm glad you pointed to something because you can sit there and you have some self introspection, self reflection like man, I am not the same person I was 10 years ago, five years ago, 20 years ago.
00:53:47
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You can recognize the changes that you've gone through in your life. I've noticed some people can't. They think they're the exact same person and they don't see the changes they move through. It's kind of weird. Kind of weird. not Not to go into that whole diatribe. No, I do. I do see that ah particularly in the, and I know it's cliche, but like the the quote peaked in high school people.
00:54:13
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you know, they they don't they refuse they either refuse to change or they refuse to see that they've changed. Yeah, I wasn't going to high school. I haven't been cool since high school. I'm so late. I'm still waiting for that. It's going to happen Sunday, right? Blaze, you're cool now, man. I'm I'm just I'm just guys think I'm cool because of me. i'm Well, yeah, of course you're cool because you why would we let you on the network if if you weren't cool?
00:54:43
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Yeah, so it should work. You're welcome. If it weren't for me, you wouldn't be here. Maybe.
00:54:54
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I like blowing smoke up people's asses. It's fun.
00:54:59
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But I'll be i'll be honest, i'm um'm I'm running out of, and I feel bad because this is the first show of 25. I'm running out of things to talk about. I didn't i didn't have a really great plan going today into today. I think i think think it touched on a prominent thought process yeah and in the now, and the you know new year, new year's resolutions.
00:55:26
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change how that ah you know affects her mental health. You know, you mental health being being an important thing to help accomplish those changes in gold. I think it's all relevant. Yeah. um But I feel like we've had a short show, but I don't i don't enjoy going around in circles. So, Blaze, if you've got more that you wanted to mention and talk about, then send it. But I'm ah i'm running low on on on fuel here.
00:55:56
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I don't have anything but if ah since this isn't a live show and there's no audience you know ah interjection which is kind know uncommon for us anybody listening to this if you want to drop us a message drop it in the comments when you listen to it hit us up phone on on another show if it's relevant saturday nights or um check us out on a monday when we are alive and built to course absolutely we will we will not leave your questions unanswered and if I don't have an answer I will direct you to to the expert someone who does I like it honestly honestly I like that ah you know that was the biggest thing that was the biggest thing i I learned when I was in military I was a munitions troop so we had we had technical orders when we you know stored these bombs and missiles or put them together
00:56:53
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we Yeah, we had to go through. But one thing that I always clicked, you don't remember the TO. Know where it's at. Know to go back to it. Have it open when you do your job. Because, yeah, you can be doing this job for years and if something changes and you don't know, then all of a sudden, something's fucked up. So, always know where to go getting it. Not always know. Have a ah clue on how to go find answers. Don't rely on them. Well, i guess too i guess I guess my point is,
00:57:27
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as long as it's drawn out and it was. Go ahead, Connor.
00:57:33
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um Actually, i kind of I kind of like the idea there. Being that this is a prerecorded show and there are going to be lots more prerecorded shows in the future. If you guys have questions, topics, et cetera, that you want us to touch on in the future or in future shows, so drop a comment and on our Facebook, Instagram, et cetera.
00:57:53
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Give us a shout, shoot us a DM, and do what you need to do to get us that question. And we can talk about it on our next show. I will find the answer for you. If I don't know it, I will find the place to find it. And we can we can address it then and there. Hell, yeah. And we can make that a little portion of the Human Equipment Caring for Men show.
00:58:15
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ah I think that's going to pretty much wrap it up for us. I do want to touch one more time and just shoot this up here because it it is important to to us here at MenCaringForMen and on the Nonsensical Network.
00:58:29
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podcast, National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. It is 1-800-273-TALK or 1-800-273-8255. If you feel like you're going down that road or you're you're in the middle of a mental health crisis, give them a call. There's always someone going to be on the other line who's there to help you.
00:58:48
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There to talk to you there to listen to you So give them a shout if you're on that and then as please mentioned earlier, there is also a veterans Crisis line 9 8 9 8 8 the veterans press But that is gonna be all for us here at the men caring for men show blaze Do you have any final thoughts anything you want to leave with the audience?
00:59:16
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Yeah, happy new years. However, don't let 2025 define you. buy I like it. And I've said it over and over and repeated myself throughout the Throughout the show today, but as you move into 2025 like blaze said happy new year as we move into 2025 don't don't focus on creating a whole new you focus on keeping those good habits you had from last year and Eliminating the bad ones keep a support system around you and as I jump off a and as Glick likes to say a strong man is that is one who builds a
00:59:56
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their foundation with the bricks that others throw at them. I think he says something like that. Anyway, I like what he says when he says that, which is why I try to repeat it. ah Anyway, I appreciate you guys coming in here. If you get a chance or if you want to know where we're at, go ahead and check out bio dot.link slash nonsensical nonsense. Check us out on Instagram, Facebook, X formerly known as Twitter.
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