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Ep 41: From Burnout to Balance: A Wellness Mentor's Guide for Overwhelmed Moms with Rachael Towne
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Are you tired of feeling like you have to choose between taking care of yourself and taking care of everyone else? Do you struggle with guilt every time you try to prioritize your own wellness?
In this episode of Mommas Who Lead, host Laura Caroffino sits down with Rachael Towne, a wellness mentor and mom who helps women feel their best through balanced nutrition, mindset shifts, and sustainable healthy habits—without the extremes or guilt.
In this episode, you'll discover:
✅ Why "all or nothing" approaches to wellness don't work for busy moms
✅ How to overcome the guilt that comes with prioritizing self-care
✅ Simple, sustainable habits you can start today (even with no time or energy)
✅ The biggest myths about wellness that keep women stuck
✅ How to set healthy boundaries without feeling selfish
✅ Rachael's personal journey from burnout to balanced wellness
✅ The "wellness emergency kit" every overwhelmed mom needs
✅ Why rest isn't something you have to earn
Perfect for: Moms, mompreneurs, women leaders, and anyone who feels exhausted, overwhelmed, and guilty for wanting to take care of themselves.
Rachael shares her raw, honest story of hitting rock bottom with burnout and how small, consistent changes transformed not just her health, but her entire life and leadership. This isn't about perfection—it's about progress, grace, and building habits that actually fit into your real life.
Key Takeaway: You don't have to overhaul your entire life tomorrow. You just have to take the next right step. Your wellness matters, and it's not selfish to take care of yourself—it's necessary.
Connect with Rachael Towne:
Facebook: facebook.com/rachaelrtowne
Resources Mentioned:
- "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown
- "Atomic Habits" by James Clear
- "Jesus Calling" by Sarah Young
- Headspace app
- "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk
- "Intuitive Eating" by Evelyn Tribole
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Visit: lauracaroffino.com
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Transcript
Introduction to 'Mamas Who Lead'
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Welcome back to Mamas Who Lead. I'm your host, Laura Carafino, this isn't your average motherhood podcast. This is a movement for purpose-driven women who are building legacies at home and in the world. And today we're diving deep into something every mom struggles with, how to take care of ourselves without the guilt. the extremes, or even the overwhelm. And we're talking about holistic habit building that actually works for real women with real lives. Women who want to feel better, lead better, and live with more energy and confidence. Because here's the truth, you can't pour from an empty cup and self-care isn't selfish. It's essential for the leader, the mom, and the woman you're called to be.
Meet Rachel Town: Wellness Mentor
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And speaking of incredible women who've mastered this balance, I'm thrilled to introduce you to A sweet, good friend of mine, Rachel Town. Rachel is a wellness mentor who's passionate about helping women feel their best through balanced nutrition, mindset shifts, and sustainable healthy habits. As a mom and a team builder herself, she leads with authenticity, authenticity, that word's a heart for me today. again hey dirt Cut it out and go back in. I'll leave it in. but
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and So Rachel, she is showing other women how to create impact without burnout. And what I absolutely love about Rachel is that she doesn't preach perfection. She actually teaches practical, sustainable approaches that work for busy moms who are trying to do this, that, and just everything. And so she's leaving living proof that you can prioritize your wellness while still showing up powerfully for your, felt youre for your family and your calling.
Rachel's Holistic Upbringing and Inspiration
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So Rachel, welcome. So glad to have you.
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I'm so happy to be here. I've been, you know, i love watching you. I love listening to you. And when we were talking the other day and you're like, well, would you like to be a guest? I'm like, absolutely. Your mission is so on point with my mission and let's, let's talk together. Let's help these people that listen and want to be their best and and maybe feel like they're guilty for even wanting to be better. And let's just, let's get together and talk to them. So I am very excited for for all of our listeners and our viewers and to hang out with you for a little while. Oh, I'm so glad to have you here. so can you tell us and our listeners a little bit about more about you, about your origin, like where where are you from and how you became so passionate about wellness and helping women?
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You know, it's funny when you were we were talking about this the other day and I'm like, when did this happen? And I think it was a series of events. um So i'm from I'm from a very, very remote rural town, like 150 people population, very, very small, tip top northern New York up by Canada and Vermont. And when I was up there, I got pregnant for my first son and i worked with a doula.
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And so this is truly, this is where it started because I was raised rather holistically, but I i didn't acknowledge it because it was just normal upbringing. Like that was that. My doctor had a little practice in his home. I would go to his home and but I was sick. It was, you know, it was very 1940s feel now that i reflect on it, but i I didn't know that was different. um And then that's how I was raised. You know, we had our, all of our family had our own animals. We'd all go in, we'd share the food. That was just it. And then I got pregnant and then I got, you know, I started going to doctor doctors, real doctors, big like hospitals and stuff. And I was, I was ah to be the best mom, you know, I had to do everything that they said. And I was like, okay, yeah, I'll definitely do these things. And then I was working with a doula.
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And she was like, well, be careful, be careful. We also want to be our own advocate. and i was like wait, what? And she's like, you know, you have to educate yourself. And, and it came to my baby shower and she said, what would you like for your baby shower? And I said, and keep in mind this woman actually, she's one of the most, she was in the, the ah one of the most influential health women the top 100 in the nation. She was listed. Gail Oaks is her name. I didn't even know. She's like this super holistic midwife. um But anyway, I didn't know any of this. She was just my friend's mom and
Overcoming Health Challenges and Building Resilience
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she was my doula. And I told her that for my baby shower, I wanted the Johnson & Johnson white bottle, purple lid, baby lotion, body wash, and all the things. And she was like, no, you don't.
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And I'm like, oh, I do. It smells so good. My nephew used it I loved giving him a bath. And she's like, no, you don't. And she sent me home with a packet of papers like this much of all the endocrine disruptors and of like so much research.
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And I actually have my master's degree in research and technology. And so this was I was interested. But my focus prior to that had been psychology and education. I i was a math teacher. And so this was all new territory for me. And I started researching and I started digging into it. And and then my eyes got really open. And then honestly, I went a little ah over the deep end for about five years. um Super obsessive, no sugar in the house. Oh my gosh, don't you dare look at my child with a candy kitten in your mouth. You know, I went a little crazy, mid twenties. I think that's pretty common for for ladies that are on their first, second children. They're like, ah, I have to be perfect.
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which perfect for this. We are not perfect and it's okay. It's okay. But that's kind of where it started. No, that's exactly where it started. And then it continued on. Um, after my second child, I had a plethora of health issues. Um, I was diagnosed with OCD panic disorder. I had a mole on my arm that they were sure was, was a melanoma.
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I went in to get it looked at. They're like, it needs to come off today. And I'm like, Okay. Oh my gosh. Okay. And then they, they brought in like three doctors and they took it off and I didn't get the results for three weeks.
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So in that three weeks and I have ah a two month old baby and my husband had been in a head on collision in a motorcycle. Like it was like thing after thing, after thing. And then that it was a blue Nova. It was nothing. It was no problem. Which apparently is a very benign, abnormal mole.
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It's not, but it's fine. It's not not a big deal. Actually, my son had one as well. So I don't know, maybe there's some genetic thing there, but all of these things led to um a lot of mental distress, honestly. like after, I think it was, well, when my husband got in his motorcycle accident, it was when I was nine months pregnant with my second child. He was hella back to the hospital, you know, he's to the big hospital, far away from where I was. And I was driving nine months pregnant hours to go see him. And then I went into early labor and, you know, was a lot of different things.
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And my body was just over it. Everything went crazy. Hormones went crazy. I developed postpartum hyperthyroid. I weighed 110 pounds a week after my child. I I'm not a I'm not a small, small person. I've always been about 130, 140. So this was like, what is happening? Where are my legs? I remember I dropped something in my lap and I went to close my legs naturally to catch it. And it fell through. And I was like,
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Where am where are my legs? And that's why I went to the doctor and like, something's happening. Um, but you know, all of those challenges that I faced were amazing opportunities for growth. And I hadn't seen them at that. I didn't see them in that perspective and that light at that point, but we typically don't, right. When we're going through big changes, big struggles, big challenges, a lot of the time it's easy to be like, oh my gosh, my world is crumbling around me and I just want it to be over. I want this to be over. where if we can embrace it and be like, this is an awesome opportunity for me to practice gratitude for what I do have. This is maybe preparing me for further challenges in my life that might be harder than this. You know, if if you can kind of shift your perspective a little bit, even now, and even right now, you guys that are watching this or listening to this, you might be thinking, you know, I've got something going on in my life right now that quite honestly, it sucks. It it sucks. And I'm sick of it. Well,
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I get it, you you probably do. we We all have every single one of us, we can't escape this life without going through challenges, but it's nice to be able to think I'm not alone.
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This isn't the first or the last time a challenge is going to hit me. How can I spin it so that this is a growth opportunity for me and and anyway so i got better and better that was shoot my baby's 14 now so it was a while ago and i really dug into personal development things like this like you guys right now you're listening this things like this this is what i started doing youtube youtube podcast spotify Audible wasn't really much of a thing, but I'd get my books, get my books, and I'd read with my eyes, and I'd lick my finger and flip the page, and you know just pouring into myself and daily yoga, honestly. Yoga was a big part of my coping skills. um
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I love it. i actually the i aren Quite honestly, Monday, i had a terrible day. like I just woke up, and I was grumpy. and My husband's traveling, and that's that's a big part of it. I don't like it when he's not here.
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which is I have to accept it. He isn't always here. It's okay. He isn't always going to be here, you know, things like that. But my day was just a grump and I could not shake it. And I did a nice vigorous yoga session in the morning. And then i was eating very well. I was like, okay, you're going to fuel everything you can put in your body. That's good for your body. That's nourishing. That's, you know, going to do all the good things.
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Wasn't really working, but you know what i I started to do, which
Balancing Self-Care and Parenting
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I know not to do, but I was doing it anyway. I'm just being a bee. I can't get out of this fog. And I started telling myself these things. But the problem is when you start telling yourself those things, they become reality. And so that is what ended up happening. And then the evening, it was five o'clock. I ate dinner early. Cause I was like, screw it. I'm going to go to bed early. it was 4.30 guys, 4.30.
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And I'm like, I'm going to bed like soon. My kids are just going to deal with it. I don't even care how they go to bed. Don't care if they're tucked in Don't care if they brush their teeth. I'm going to bed early. But then I ate and I was like, no, Rach, you got to do something about this. So I, um, I looked, ah yoga sessions near me. I was like, well, let's try a new yoga studio. maybe Maybe I just need some other moms. Maybe I need to be around some women. It's been a while since I've like physically been around people. Um, it'd been a couple of weeks, but I like to be around people.
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And I went to this news this new studio three minutes from my house, right there. Didn't even know it existed. And it's right next to my favorite donut shop. I don't know how I never saw it. But anyway, so I walked in and oh my gosh, this one, Brianne. Brianne welcomes me. She's not even the instructor. She's just she's just ah a yoga person. Actually, she's practicing to become a yoga instructor. But she was the sweetest little thing. um Early 20s, I guess maybe 23 or 24, has a new baby, six-month-old. And she was is showing me all the things and she was just so sweet. And then I chose to put my mat next to hers and the energy was amazing. And I came home and I was like, yes, like I just needed women. I needed to practice with other women. And, you know, so sometimes we just have to say enough is enough. You have to do something proactive to get out of this situation. So
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That's a a long story of where I became, how I became where I am. No, it's good. You were like answering questions that I had like along the way. And I'm like, okay, okay. but totally So, um but you, you meant you touched on so many good things and that was let's see, let's go back to, you know, um,
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a lot of women deal with guilt when it comes to prioritizing their their wellness. And like you were saying, you know you i just want to go to bed, but you were like, no, I'm going to look look for you know the yoga studio. And how would you tell, or what would you tell the woman who is trying to overcome that guilt when it comes to prioritizing their own health?
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Well, the biggest thing is if we don't prioritize, like you have to step back and say, okay, if I don't prioritize my health, Where am I going to be tomorrow? Where am I going to be next week? Where am I going to be next month? What are my children, you're mom, what are my, and I'm assuming mamas who lead, you're probably a mama. What are my children going to see from me? Am I teaching my children healthy things? What would you do to your child? If your child was in a cycle of of doubt and fear and discomfort and grump and just meh, would you want your child to stay stuck there? This is something I really do have to practice a lot of the time, even when I'm working with clients that are, you know, they're working on physical transformations and they're, they're calling themselves fat and they're calling them, you know, they're using negative terms. And I'm like, careful with your words because your children are watching. Would you want your child to call themselves fat? Would you want your child to look in the mirror and tell themselves they're gross? Would you want your child to be stuck in a cycle of negativity or,
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would you want your child to pick themselves up would you what would you do for your child do that for you and you can't be guilty because if you don't if you don't do those things for yourself then you're going to be stuck and you're not giving your kids your best you you're not giving your partner your best you you're not giving your life you're not giving you your best you but once you start taking those little steps i'm telling you just a little step something special about you like even right now think for a second And what are you proud of about yourself? And I don't want to, don't want you to think I'm not proud of anything. Okay. Well, did you wake up this morning? Did you get your kids ready? ah Did you brush your teeth this morning? Sometimes you have to dig because sometimes it's, it's hard, but everything you do for yourself.
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even if it's Even if it's a ah longer shower or like listening to music during your shower or, and I'm trying to think different stages of moms, you know how it goes, Laura, where you got little ones. And sometimes it's really hard if you've got infants and, oh, my first one, man, he did not like to be put down and not it all. And I remember I'd put him in his little vibrating bouncy seat thingy. And I'd go, I'd still take a bath. I'd put him in there, like in the room with me. And if you start fussing, I'd just reach over the side of the tub and and kind of, you are fine. You're fine. I'm doing, I'm enjoying this right now.
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ah But you know, we just, if that's the biggest thing I think is yes, you can feel guilty for doing things for yourself. In fact, I have, I was, um I was attacked by a dog.
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and I've got this scarring. Now I don't typically, this was two weeks ago, so it's pretty fresh. I don't typically go get facials frequently. i don't typically um you know do a lot of stuff outside of the home for myself. If I want a foot spa, I'll give myself a foot spa. If I want a pedicure, i'll you know i I just, I like to do it. I do, I honestly do.
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So I'm doing this massage today. This facial massage is a full facial. I'm going 90 minutes even. Woo. o Like that's something I would never, which means that's 90 minutes and it's during my, dad I homeschool. So it's during my daughter's homeschooling time, but that's okay because my husband comes home from Oklahoma tonight. I'm going to have my face all done. I've had a rough couple of weeks since this attack. Honestly, it's been hard on my mind. So it's going to be lovely and it's going to be fine and the world will continue on but sometimes you have to just say if I don't do these special things for myself if I don't love myself a little extra then i might not lift myself out of the funk and then you're staying in the funk and then your kids and your partner are getting the funk they don't want the funk and you don't want to give them the funk and you know that like you know when you're being grumpy And your energy is low. The whole household energy is low and then it doesn't feel good. And then you're like in this cycle. So break the cycle, go do something for you daily walk. Like that's something I've been making sure to do lately is daily walks. And I'm not normally a walker. I'm a, I'm a Yogi. I'm a, I'm a lifting weights kind of gal, but the walks have been nice. I take my dog, the one that was just barking over there. I i take her and we go and we sniff and we have fun and And it feels good just to be out and moving in fresh air and sunshine. And it just, it does something for the mood. And that's a simple thing.
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You can bring your kids with you. If you've got little ones, throw them in a stroller. If you've got like my daughter, she always meets me. She always throws her helmet on bicycle. Eventually i i hear her coming up from behind me. like, there she is. She never wants to go with me. She wants to catch up and meet me. Independence, nine years old. Oh yeah, that's where it starts. Yep. Yep.
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Yep. So. And you you were also talking about like like your your spouse is traveling. And so you're, you know, us women, where we do a lot on our own. And so having, you know, making sure we also still take that priority for care for ourselves too, because we take on a lot of roles, especially if, you know, your spouse does travel quite a bit. Um, cause you're doing, you're playing, even though, you know, you're you playing your other partner too, at the same time, mom, dad, and both roles while the one is away. And, um, that's a lot of, it's a lot on our plate and at times can be so stressful.
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Um, you know, is there any, what do you think your biggest challenge you've overcome in your mental health? And, um, what did that teach you?
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Patience, patience. That is, that is definitely the number one thing I have worked on because, and a lot of people that know me now are like, I tell them stories. Like they get to be my girlfriends, like my real girlfriends where we go on girls trips and stuff. And I'm like, Oh, one time. And they're like, no. And I'm like, Oh yeah. Oh yeah. So when I was 19 23,
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nineteen to twenty three well I was in college and then I, you know, i was independent doing my thing. I was not very nice. I was, i mean, I was nice, but I was also insane and I just didn't care. You know, I was one of those women that would work until midnight, go out until four, go to college, go to work, go out. like It was just, it was a cycle of a very not so awesome behaviors and not, did not treat my body well at all. But I also in my, in this,
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in this, like somebody would do something or say something. And I, I also did a lot of grappling and submission fighting. And sometimes that would care, honestly, that sometimes that would carry out in my personal life. And I was, out that's just not, I'm not a very pleasant young woman. And so I just, I was a very short fuse. Like everything was short fuse. You do something that bothered me i was like,
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And then I had a child yeah that I got married and I had a child and my short fuse was still there. So I'm dealing with a child. I'm the second oldest of six children, by the way. I, you know, I've, I've had to be parent figure for a very long time and I never wanted kids. I really didn't. It's so funny to think, but I met my husband and my goodness, he was so cute. And I could just imagine having babies with him in the school. And so I changed my mind. And, um, but anyway, they do that to us. I was like, nah, think it's a hundred percent never in the future. Um, now I have three.
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And I love them dearly. And I'm so thankful. I can't even imagine not. But anyway, so there's the short fuse. And so with Maverick having him and coming from a fighting and sometimes like professionally, but you know, like this aggressive,
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loud, not so thoughtful of feelings person. To now I'm a mother who has a child who throws vids and yeah you have to go through all the, you have to, you can't put them in a submission hold. I mean, that's that's not allowed. So was really needy, super, super needy. I have so many videos of like, you know, like on the big camcorder thing. I like old
The Role of Resources in Personal Growth
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tapes. of me, Aaron, like coming out and I've got Maverick strapped to my chest as I'm cooking dinner, like the one-on-one don't cook at the stove with a child to your chest, hundred percent all the time. Cause otherwise but he I was going to listen to him scream. No, thanks for my mental stability and his safety.
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we're gonna strap it Um, but anyway, i work, we make it work. Sometimes, Hey, you know what? it's It's like the co-sleeping, um the kind the debate with co-sleeping, you know what made my life easy having my baby next to me. Some women, I understand that wouldn't work if you're a deep sleeper. No, that probably is not wise, but I wake up from the drop of a dime. It's fine.
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Anyway, so I, uh, I start, I got Chris. What was his, like I cannot think of his last name, Chris, something Thomas Thompson, Chris Thompson. Wow, I can't believe I remembered that. He he had a I don't remember, and I was poor back in then. this was i was like I was a teacher's assistant. I didn't even have a teacher and like i didn't have a teacher's job yet. I was an assistant. I was making like $14,500 annually. My husband had gone back to college, so we were like poor. but by I had ah I had a pain son, like he was driving me nuts. So I invested, i think it was like $37. And I, and I got this Chris Thompson's parenting troubled, tough, difficult toddlers or something.
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And i I was learning. I didn't, I never learned how to be a parent, you know, like I just did what my mom and dad did, whether or not that was good or bad. I didn't know a lot of other parents. Um, never really was a conversation, honestly, like how do you pair effectively? What do you do when your child just refuses to listen and screams? You know, I didn't know, but I'm one too, I don't like to be stuck where I'm not comfortable. I always want to get better. So anyway, I've got the course.
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I went through it. And I learned so much and I started, and then I got serious. I was like, I'm going to get all the books. I'm going to get books. I'm going to go to library. I'm like, they were library books. Cause again, I was poor, but I remember just putting so much into me. And so that was the biggest challenge, honestly, because at that point I didn't go through postpartum depression, but I went through, was like postpartum regret. Like, what was I thinking? I actually shouldn't have had children. This is terrible. should have just stuck with the idea that I was never having any And this would be happier. And you know, I was, it was a, it wasn't, it wasn't depression. It was just anger. It was like anger at myself for having a kid, honestly. And I didn't want that feeling. It was too late. already had him. What was I going to do? I just, no return to send her. Something had to change. And so that book actually, that training, and then the books to follow really did significantly impact me on my, on so many levels, like patients, understanding people like it just was a slippery slope to, to really having more interest in psychology and more.
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It's okay for people to not reach your expectations. Honestly, honestly, that's kind of where I was. I was like, um, this is how you should do things. And this is how you I expect you to behave. And if you don't, then what is wrong with you? You know, like that, it was, I don't know, but that was probably the biggest shift in, in how, who I became and who I am continuing to become was that, that my son being a pain in the ass, he really was. But that then the teachings, I, he wasn't anymore. Like I started to enjoy him. He, I needed to work with him because I wasn't understanding him.
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It was, it was very, ah very eyeopening. And then i was like, wow, you can do all kinds of things. If you understand people, I'm going to understand people. And most importantly, I'm going to understand myself because I don't think I did.
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yeah that's a good, I mean, that's a good point. like Understanding yourself. Are there any other resources that you can recommend that helped you through this journey and through also, you mindset and wellness? What has helped you get to here? beside ah Those two, that book and then um you mentioned the doula that you had as well. Yep.
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Gail Oaks, my doula, she's, gosh, she's pushing 80 these days. Like I just, she's getting up there, but she's still spry and she's able, you know, um, i ah so I'm currently, I like to listen to Rob Dial, mindset mentor. I like to listen to Gabby Bernstein. She does a lot of, um, uh, like affirmations and manifestation stuff. She blends all different Religions, she started off Christian base. I think now it's more like universalist type of stuff, but you know, just keep an open mind and whatever you believe. This is what I always say for you guys, anybody that you want to listen to, first of all, just, just Google, who do I give me a good podcast or give me a good YouTube channel if I'm looking for and whatever you're looking for. And then my suggestion, because earlier in my personal growth, I honestly, I have my own beliefs and my beliefs are my beliefs
Evolving Relationships Through Personal Growth
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period. um And i when I was younger, i remember I would listen to people that would very strongly say they would talk about their beliefs and that this is right and this is right.
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And I'd get so irritated, i couldn't even continue the book. I was like, oh, they're they're white and black. I can't stand it. we have to be open-minded. I am a strong advocate for open minds. and i But then I shifted. Somewhere in the the journey, I thought, well, these people are so...
00:25:58
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it's like their belief of their belief is so strong, commend them for believing in something so much and whatever they're talking about, let's say it's Buddha or Jesus or God or what gods, whatever, whatever they're talking about with such vindication that they believe and they have such powerful beliefs about. If you don't believe in the same things they believe, it doesn't mean they don't have a great message. I would pause and say, okay, good for them for believing in that so much. I'm going to take what they're talking about, and I'm going to put that toward what I believe in, but it's still the same thing. i mean, it's always the same thing, whatever. So that's what I would suggest because you're going to find a lot of people that have very strong religious beliefs. Um, and it might not be your same religion, but I would say, go in with an open mind and listen, because some of them are, Like, oh gosh, I can't think of the author, but the book is called believe bigger.
00:26:51
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She's a beautiful black woman. Um, gosh, I cannot think of, do you know who I'm talking about? Believe that. I think I have our book. I love her. i love her so much. And she's incredibly Christian based, um, which aligns pretty well with me, but I know a lot of people are like, ah, too much God. And I'm like, well, just think of, she loves God. Like she really loves God. What do you love?
00:27:12
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apply it to whatever you love. Same concept, same message. Marshawn? No, I think it might Marshawn. Daniels? michelle I honestly don't even know if I would know because I'm listening to it on, I read it before, but I'm listening to it on, um,
00:27:27
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audible And so I don't even, I just see her pretty picture and she's gorgeous. And it's beautiful. Yes, it's Marcella and Daniel. She has an incredible story too. If you've read like her book, like her, like how, like incredible story. um But yeah, i agree. Like total being open-minded.
00:27:48
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I did. um I studied religions of the Orient in college. um I was very, i just wanted to know why and what other people believe, even though i'm very ah solid in my faith. I just, and I believe wholeheartedly to be open-minded to hear and understand why certain people believe the way they do, but grounded in your own faith, you know?
00:28:10
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So, yeah. That's amazing. ands so um And i forgot where i was where I was going with this. um So speaking of like, you were talking about like faith and um being open-minded, that was it, open-minded to different resources to help with mental health and habits and mindset. Have any of your friendships and relationships changed as you've gone on this journey?
00:28:40
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Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Um, some hate saying this, it's a terrible phrase, but you outgrow some people, you do outgrow some people. And you know, one thing that I find that's sad, but reality is a lot of colleagues. And I'm sure you noticed this too.
00:28:57
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A lot of colleagues end up in divorce because when we are in the industry, of becoming the best versions of ourselves. And truly we are, we're entrepreneurs. We have to, we have to become the best, most dream bigging versions of our, possible. Like you have to be. And so Mamas Who Lead, you have to be, you guys have to believe bigger. Like i like with that book, you really do. And a lot of the times people are already in a marriage where they, you know, they were aligned when they got married and then their partner doesn't want to grow.
00:29:30
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And their partner is like, I don't know about this. Who are you? Because we do change. We do, we do grow. We do become more in tune with ourselves and our words and our thoughts and, and our beliefs and everything just explodes. And so relationships like, I mean, sometimes it, sometimes it is your partner. And then it's like, man, you actually do have to get divorced if they won't join. That's terrible. That's that you do see, like, I have so many amazing women in my life that had to leave the partner. It's never, they wanted to, but they're, they just outgrew them and their partner did not want to come with them on their journey of growth. Now that's like the worst. Now your friends, it's a little different. Like I have friends that they're still my friends, but they are not, I call it, I call my heart friends. I've got my heart friends. They get it. Like I can have these deep conversations. We can like get all teary and excited and be like, yes, the future and who in, and what we can be and the impact we can have. and You know, those excited conversations that I love to have with my heart friends. And then of course I've got my other friends that some of them surely think I'm crazy. And I'm from a ah very large family, one of six kids, you know, some a big family. My mom was one of 10. My dad was one of 17. I have over a hundred cousins. So they, you know, a lot of them look at me and they're like, wow, Rachel, she's out there. And but I don't care. You know, I don't, I don't care at all. i i love me. And I love where I've gone. I love where I continue to go. i understand that people don't get it. I do. I understand that it's easier to stay stuck in the, this is my life. This is what it was. This is what it is. This is what it will be. And that's that. I don't need to go bigger. I don't need to go better. I am fine the way I am. And if they, and it you know, as you get bigger, and in your heart when I say bigger, I mean in your heart and in your mind, you see those people in more of a, for me, I'm just like,
00:31:24
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That's too bad. Like that's too bad that you that you but you think you're fine, but at the same time, if they think they're fine, then they're fine. but It's whatever they believe. However, you know, when you have those deeper conversations and they're like, yeah, I dread going to bed, I dread waking up, I hate my job, I hate my life. And then you're like, you're not fine. But again, they perceive that as normal and fine. So man I'm not gonna try to impact them. You know, like if if
Morning Rituals for a Positive Start
00:31:51
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they're fine, they're fine, but ah that's not my fine. And so girls trips become a little different these days. You know, you go with the the ones that that lift and empower instead of drag you down and talk about all the the terrible things that are happening in their life nonstop. i I don't like to spend a lot of time around people like that. and And it really is too bad because a lot of my dear people that I've known forever are there. But I do find Laura that, and I'd be interested to hear how you deal with that. Cause I'm sure you also deal, you have people that you love that
00:32:23
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do a lot of, I kind of, it's kind of like, woe is me. They might not acknowledge it, but kind of, and I just, A lot of the times I, my, my father-in-law says what he's a, he's number one school psychologist in New York state. Uh, he he's an amazing man and his wife. Oh gosh. He's amazing. My husband's mother and her husband are amazing as her second husband, but gosh, they're amazing. They're incredible humans. And he says, whenever you're talking to somebody that just doesn't get it, you just, you just smile and nod and you don't have to be quiet. You can say something like, yeah, don't say.
00:32:59
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And leave it at that. i right her like I love it. Instead of engaging in an argument or going into debate, like a lot of the times it's useless, it's pointless, but we can just, you don't say and move on with our life. Don't let it eat at you because otherwise, I mean, we all but get guilty of that. Sometimes it's like, how could they possibly say that or believe that, but it doesn't impact you. Their words don't impact you, their thoughts don't impact you, you will impact you if you let it eat at you, but other than that, it's like, nah, it's okay. It's okay. We're not on the same journey and that's okay. I don't have to live with them. um And then that's when it comes back to the partner thing. That's really too bad.
00:33:39
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but You know, and it's funny that you mentioned that about, you know, the relationships and, you know, your partner and as the one changes, as they're going through this personal development, you know, and they're becoming better version of themselves. And that one partner just stays. i had guest, we were talking, she does, um well, it was a couple of episodes back on the podcast. you guys can listen to I can't. can't remember her name off the hand offhand right now. Mom brain right now. But um she does executive match major matchmaking. And it was really fascinating. Like the long list of questions. Like literally they ask them. And like it's a very thorough interview process. And I was just kind of mind blown with that. Because i when i when I dated, dated for a purpose. Like i I only... For the most part, i had college. College was fun experience. Right. but Let's just go on. That was just whatever.
00:34:38
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Whatever. yeah ah But i actually, you know, when I was dating, dating, like it was a purpose. And like, so I thoroughly interviewed these people that I would date. And if we were not synced by any means, like we weren't going anywhere. now But I think a lot of people, and and that was what she was saying on there, that a lot of people don't do that when they're dating. It's more of an attraction and they just kind of go with it and then they get into it and then they're like, oh, we're not really synced. And they have all these issues. And then when this person is trying to better themselves,
00:35:14
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that's where those issues come, come, uh, um, come across. And so it it's very fascinating that you mentioned that too, while ah while you're going on this journey and, and also relationships, you were talking about like the negativity I've had people that I love and I can just, but it is always negative. And it just like,
00:35:34
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I'm an empath it until like, I just can feel that energy and I'm like, I love you. But if you can't see that, if you keep saying you're, you know, you're fat, you're ugly, you're, you know, all these negative things about yourself, guess what? That that's what you feel. And you're putting that out there. It's like, it's just stop, like, look at the positive, like you are beautiful. You, you know, you got up this morning, you know, you got your baby's dress. That is a win. And it's, that it's just, I just wish more people would see that and see how effective personal development can truly be. As Rachel is saying, like, it is so important that we do it now. Um, what is your morning routine look like? Like how has that evolved?
00:36:21
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I love morning routine. I'm excited to share. So some years ago, I was, my business partner and ah partner and I were, we were talking about growing, like, okay, let's, let's focus our time and our energy on certain areas, dah, dah, dah. And we decided to do the miracle morning with Hal and Rod.
00:36:37
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Oh yeah. And I think I'm saying it right. Hal and Rod or Elrod something. And, and so we read the book and we started practicing it and we did it with our team. You know, we were, we were all like, okay, let's do the miracle morning. And I'll tell you, I hated it But I was like, I am dedicated. i am going to do this. And in for me, I give everything I try a solid 30 days. Like I give everything a solid 30 days because, you know, you might end up liking it after 30 days. So I did it 30 days and I was like, I don't hate it anymore.
00:37:08
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Still don't love it. I'm going to do it another 30 Did it another 30 days, so i had I was two months in and I was like yeah still don't love it. So, and then I couldn't i read the book again, I was listening, audible, so I was listening to it again, I'm like alright, let me, let me, maybe I missed something.
00:37:23
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How is this so not pleasant for me, it sounds on paper like it's going to be the best. So those of you who don't know, the miracle morning is basically at 60 you set your alarm you get up 60 minutes earlier than you normally would. You do meditation or prayer, you do movement, you do hydration, you do personal development, you you do journaling, all broken into segments. Now, I think because I am a ah black and white type A, like you tell me what to do and I'm gonna do it without making it my own. Well, I can't say I am. I have had history of being that way. I don't wanna be that way. So anyway, I read it again.
00:37:57
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Like a year later, I stopped, I stopped after 60 days. I was done. Um, but then I was like, you know, I did get a lot accomplished back when I did that. i I'm going to try a modification. And as I was reading it the second time, I, I, I wasn't doing it anymore.
00:38:11
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Like I was reading it. I was doing it. I hit 60 days. i kept reading the book, but I stopped doing the miracle morning. I was just still listening. Cause I do, I like listening to him. And I now, so the last, since March, actually March is when I started implementing this modified technique. of I wake up, I do not touch my phone.
00:38:32
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I actually wake up beautifully, but I've been treating my body really, really well. I'm so proud of myself. I'm like, no, no abuse. You, you fuel your body. You do not poison it with alcohol. I do drink alcohol, just very rarely. Um, but I've been treating my body well and I noticed that I wake up much brighter and bushy tailed, bright eyed, bushy tailed. Yes. And I, I have my, wa I keep a water and this is, i actually have a health group that i it's just many challenges and stuff, just a free little group. I like people to, I like to help people feel better without feeling like they have to hit the gym and go to cycle class and CrossFit and all these heavy things. Like, no, just like move your body. So anyway, I have, I always encourage people to keep a glass of water on your night so nightstand.
00:39:13
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room temperature water in the morning is great. helps your bowels get moving. We shouldn't be having ice water in the morning anyway. So keep the water on your bedside stand. You wake up first thing, take 15 swallows, get your body hydrated. You've been dehydrated all night long. We need those cells to be movable here. So anyway, hydration first thing i say kind of like a prayer, kind of like a gratitude thing. Thank you, Jesus for, you know, whatever you believe again, but it's just thinking for Waking up, thanking for my home that I, I tell people, i think in the and a past life, I was a veteran that lost their marbles and was homeless.
00:39:53
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and and um I really do. i do. I'm telling you, i have like, I've had it my whole life. If I hear planes, even as 40 year old woman, I hear a plane and I get a little anxious and apparently my my older sister and my mom say when I was little, I'd be like running for the barracks, like terrified when I hear planes or thunder. Thunder I like, planes I still don't like.
00:40:13
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I like flying. I just don't like the sound. And I have the most ridiculous gratitude for a home, heat, air conditioning, bed, smooth sheets, pillows. Like like every every night I get butterflies. Like even just saying that I got butterflies in my belly of like, oh I love home. Like I love comfort. It's ridiculous. I really do think I have some trauma in a past life here because I did not grow up homeless. ah um So I don't know where it came from, but anyway.
00:40:41
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So I, I like really get cozy. I really think of how thankful I am to have my home. I think of helping flamed for my health, for my children, just focusing on whatever you're thankful for. And then I do stretches right in my bed. i do stretches. i get my body moving. I lubricate the joints. I get up. I like, I like intentionally flex and move all of my body parts.
00:41:04
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And then i I brush my teeth and I put some water on my face and then I go back. But that's it. I make it simple now. I don't do all of the journaling. I don't do like the workout. I don't do all of that. But my morning routine takes about 15 minutes, but it's my time. It's like, okay, you're you're hydrating, you're you're doing a good job for your body, and you really do feel the difference. And so then when I'm up and about, I feel like I've been up for hours. Like, I'm just like up.
00:41:28
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I don't know, it works really well for me, is that that focus on gratitude, that moving your body, that hydrating your body, that putting the water on your face and getting your teeth nice and clean. I don't know, it's just, that's my morning routine and it works really well for me. I don't touch my phone in that time, no phone.
00:41:43
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I think that's key. Not touching your phone, getting things, putting and your, you know, i think the the gratitude piece is really key too. Like it just starts your day with positivity and thankfulness and yeah um it's just a good routine. And I love that book too. Like, I always taught on it, always coached on it. And it does make a huge difference. um I always feel better when I'm up and doing things but before I have to, if I'm like sleeping toward to to an alarm where I have like the bare minimum to like, you need to get going. It's like,
Business Values and Team Culture
00:42:17
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I'm rushed. The kids are rushed. It's I'm frazzled. And I don't like that. If I do intentional, like it's,
00:42:24
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you know, 60 minutes earlier or even 30 minutes. It just is such a blessing to, it brings so much more peace if you want. Yeah. Yeah. Because it is terrible. Like my boys now, they go to, a we've done homeschool and charter school through their whole life. We, we traveled to Europe. So we did homeschooling then, and then we just stayed homeschooling and we really liked it um So now they're older, 17 and 14, they get ready in the morning. They drive themselves to school. Like they just do their thing. I don't even have to be part of it. Thank God. Cause they leave at 10 to seven, like they start school really early. I'm not a morning person. My nine-year-old is homeschooled. So we do have much more flexibility, but I do know, like I, I start my work day at nine. I like to get workouts in beforehand. If I'm going to have breakfast, I don't always have breakfast, but sometimes I do. I like that to be beforehand, but I do find remembering back when the kids were in charter school and I had to drive them into the carpool because they weren't public buses at charter. um
00:43:23
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if I had their stuff ready the night before. Lunch is packed the nights before. Shoes, the the mysterious shoes that are always missing at least one, those are by the door. These little teeny things that can get your morning started better, like, okay, we're gonna wake up and give ourselves, even like realistically, some of you might be listening and you're like, an hour early? No, I'm not doing that. I already wake up at six. I'm not waking up at five. Okay, what about 5.45 instead of six? And give yourself just that 15 minutes to like,
00:43:52
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give yourself some time and give yourself some some relaxation before because like laura said it really does set the tone for the day if we're if our day is starting off like where is your shoe where is your other shoe i don't know mom how do you lose one shoe i don't know mom where's your backpack halfway to school ah your backpack you left it at the house you know like that's what your day is going to be and we've all been there i mean shoot how many times i've done this where i'm like this has to stop backpacks shoes you guys need a little cubby by the door i want to see that stuff checklist off before you go to bed at night but those things really do those tiny little habits habit it stacking
00:44:28
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You can add to your day just to help you throughout the day because Lord knows we need help with stress management. Like save yourself some heartache. like You know, you know, it's going to be chaotic. Let's just,
00:44:44
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Let's cut some of the chaos out, right? Yes, that. Yep. Well, um okay. What, let me see here. I have like a list of questions I wrote down that I wanted to like ask you. I know we've been on here a while, but I'm loving this cover conversation. I know, I'm enjoying it. um Oh, what, what values are important to you when you think about the kind of business impact you want to build? Hmm.
00:45:16
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What values are important to me that I have the business I want to build? Well, I'm not sure what kind of answer you're looking for, but I'll just share with you and you can tell me what, if you're looking for something different. So for me, it is very important for me because I do build a business. I do coaching. I lead a large team. Um, mostly women. I do have a few men. I attract women. The men that I have are my downline is downline. I do prefer to work women. I'm sorry. It's just who I am, but.
00:45:46
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I like them to feel like they're in a safe space. So some values and and I've learned in my career, been in this industry for over a decade now, um it is important to encourage and and build belief and hope and put the kibosh to the nonsense. And so, and i speak this way because I was partnered somewhere before where there was a lot of, and then i was younger too, I was later, later twenties, early thirties. And there was a lot of, Oh, she said this, or she did that and thenda that. And then it would be, tell her, tell her, tell her, tell her. And everybody was just, nah and then the whole team was like, yeah and there was this like negative energy buzz and it just was not fun. It wasn't fun for me as the leader. It wasn't fun for my, for my team. It was like, everybody felt uncomfortable. So it's always like, if I have somebody that has an issue, it's always
00:46:42
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Have you spoken to the person you have an issue with? Would you like me to to mediate with you? We can do a three-way chat. You know, it's it's it's empowering. So that I guess the value would be like positive communication and thoughtfulness and kindness. And this is something that we must have. And the same thing goes with our clients. You know, you get somebody that,
00:47:02
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that wants to purchase your products or your services, give them love to everybody gets the love and support. And it's just like, I got, honestly, Laura, it's as simple as being a really good human. That's that supporting people, uplifting people, saying kind words, actually my team mantra, I have to read this to you because when I partnered with my company, um, I just partnered in April because I was with a company that went bankrupt and they just shut, they just shut the doors. And i was that was my full-time income. I was expecting a very large check that I wasn't going to get. And I'm like, okay, what now? So I had some bitterness. Anyway, I partnered immediately. And I i have to read this to you because I would like you, those of you who lead teams, this mantra,
00:47:44
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Ashton Beisel, by the way, she's my mama bear. her love Oh gosh, she's an amazing woman. Wait do you hear the mantra she writes. This is, this is her team. She wrote, she got this for us. Little notebook in Dallas.
00:47:57
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Where there is unity, there is a blessing. Where there is no fun, there is no one. We work hard and we play hard. We will never sell the dream without actually living it. Our families come first. We don't compete or compare. We uplift and speak life always. When you walk out of the room, you can rest knowing you are always spoken highly of. We are inclusive. We take extreme ownership in every situation. We give the benefit of the doubt. We create the most incredible atmosphere for people who thrive and have the most fun they always, are sorry, they have ever had in business. And I'm telling you, when you lead your team that way,
00:48:33
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you can't not win. but he's Like you can't not win as long as you live by it. Now it's one thing to throw that out there and be a turd and there's one and there's another to throw that out there and live by it and talk about it every week with your people because then you're going to have these people that maybe they had a little bit of belief.
00:48:52
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Maybe they, maybe they weren't even on a personal development journey, but all of a sudden they start going on a journey with you. And then like, for me, my experience in this, with this team is I'm watching people that used to not be so positive. You know, they do a lot of negative focus. They maybe would talk about other people and, and then be nice to them. You know what i mean? Those types of people, they might've been that. And now they're like.
00:49:20
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Amazing. but They're amazing. And they get to be on my, like, I get to surround myself with people like this all the time. And so those of you, that you leaders, you get to, when you choose to be this way, you get to kind of mold. I call myself big sis. They all know I'm big sis. I'm younger than a lot of them. I have a lot 50s, 60s year old teammates.
00:49:38
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I'm still big sis because I am big sis. I am here for you. You have something to complain about. Come on in Give me, give me, I'll be your soundboard and I will not repeat. I will help you work through it. I will help you if you want to have a conversation with this person or if you just want to let it go, I'm going to help you with that. And that that really is a huge power move to have like in your business.
00:50:03
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Be the big sis, be the confidant, be the safe place for your team And, and don't ever feed the negativity. I'm telling you that was, it and I used to, I did, i didn't mean to, I didn't even realize I was doing it, but reflecting, I was like, oh yeah, that's probably why my team ah started to fizzle away. and it, you know, you just have to be aware of it.
00:50:24
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um yeah Yes, I agree with that wholeheartedly. i think having a mantra like that and something and living by walking that walk is so key. um And it makes a huge impact. You're just going to see that.
00:50:40
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live through your entire organization and or those you associate with. You are the sum of the five people that you associate yourself with, right? So um you're surrounded by that, then just goodness comes and flows
Success Stories in Mentorship
00:50:54
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through that. Yeah.
00:50:55
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Now, before we wrap up, like, what is the most beautiful transformation transformation you've witnessed in a woman that you've mentored and what made that so powerful?
00:51:07
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Ooh, I'm gonna get teary on this one. you so You even said the woman you mentored. I think it's gotta be Rachel Snyder. um I'm gonna shout her out because she'll appreciate it. She'll wanna listen to this for sure. she has She has been in my life for five years, I believe. I met her at another company. She was a sideline somewhere, but when I go to company events, always and forever, I am the flittering butterfly table to table, sharing all the goodies, soaking up all the goodies. I love going to events and doing that. Um, and so I meet a lot of people and she was one of them and I liked her. I thought she was funny. She was super funny. Um, she wasn't, um, she wasn't into self growth or anything like that. She was just there. She was, ah I don't even know if she was like a big leader or anything. I honestly didn't, I don't know where she was in that company cause she wasn't under me or anything, but I liked her. we We had, we had some drinks together. We laughed together. She was super funny. And then last year, last year, yes, last July. So we continued talking on Facebook. Okay. We're just, we're just whatever talking on Facebook, still having a relationship.
00:52:18
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The company had nothing to do with it. I wasn't even in with that company anymore, but, um, she was coming to the outer banks in North Carolina. I about It was like a four hour drive for me, but she was like, Hey, I'm going to go to the outer banks. I would love to see you. i hadn't seen her in a while. Cause I had left that company. And I said, yeah, sure. She's like, are you serious? i'm like, yeah it's like four hours, but no big deal. I'll, I'll drive over and see you. And my daughter and i drove over and got to meet her, like got to meet her kids, got to meet her husband, got to meet her mom. And her mom actually was a customer of mine.
00:52:48
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And so was Rachel. She was a customer of mine for my supplements that I had partnered with. And she, She, she was fun, but she kind of was, she had a little bit of a negativity thing, but I could tell, i could tell she's, she's like my baby sister. She really is. So I could tell she, she didn't necessarily want to do that. And she was, see there were things she was saying and things she was doing that she wanted to be better. And, and I was like, yeah, like, I remember, I remember being where she is. Like, I remember, i can see the the beauty in this woman right here. And like, I can see it. And so,
00:53:20
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And she was struggling with her health. She, she had a lot of weight that she just was struggling with. She didn't like her reflection, you know, and, and she'd get defeated. Cause we, we go on a, we go on a diet. We try to eat clean. Darn it. Those cookies keep calling and the break room is doing his thing. And we, the the two pounds a month that isn't fast enough. I want to, I want to lose 20 pounds a month, you know? So a lot of mindset I had to do with her in that part of the world.
00:53:45
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what Was it last summer? I think I, I can't remember if it was 20, 20, four or three, either way, it was fairly recent when that we started doing this thing. And then she partnered with me. She decided to partner with me. and she, she was like, I want to be my best. Like, I want to be the best. Actually, she's like, I want to be like you. And I'm like, well, I want you to be your best too. So I would give her podcast ideas. I would give her books, whatever that was within, i think it was like last year.
00:54:12
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was either last year or two years ago, but pretty sure it was last year. oh my gosh, it was, it was a hundred percent last year. And it just seems like it's been so long because now, okay. First of all, her physical transformation has been incredible. She has really embraced food is fuel movement is good for my mind and my body like these types of things but she is now she's partnered she when when i came over to this company she came over to this company she is my side-by-side leader she posts uh podcast episodes in our group chat all the time she hosts if i can't and we do saturday morning calls every saturday but i was in cancun for a company trip
00:54:51
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two Saturdays ago, she took it out upon herself to host the call. She's like, everybody, I still wanna see you. Like the the woman she has stepped into as this leading, confident, like, oh, like, oh, I just, she she makes me so happy. She has, I can't wait to see where she goes. you know You know those people that they just start into this journey of bettering themselves and they're just soaring and you're like, oh my gosh, where are you gonna end up going? This is crazy.
00:55:20
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That's her. Amazing. I love hearing these types of stories to see like how, you know, they've transformed and how much personal development really helps people. Like truly powerful. um You know, this, oh my gosh, Rachel, this conversation has been so incredible. um And I know where our listeners, they're going to walk away with something but like practical wisdom and maybe more importantly, permission to prioritize themselves without guilt.
Encouragement for Purpose-Driven Women
00:55:49
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Right.
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But before we wrap up, I would, is there anything else you would love to share with our listeners? feel like I've shared so much, Laura. Yeah. I'm like, oh, bless your hearts. I hope you have the ah the ability. you Hopefully you listen back at like one and a half times because my goodness, we can talk and I could talk. um I feel like I could talk to you all day long.
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um The biggest thing, really, truly, you are a priority. Every one of you, you are a priority. You cannot actually, should I pitch my book? I'm not even, I actually took it off.
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But I, uh, you filling your own cup, the mindset shift, uh, you cannot pour from an empty cup. We know you cannot pour from an empty cup. You have got to fill yourself. You cannot depend on your external, your partner, your friends, your kids, your boss. You cannot depend on somebody else making you feel good.
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It is okay for you to make yourself feel good. In fact, it is encouraged. And then remember. When you show yourself love and you demonstrate positive self-talk and positive, you know, you're loving yourself, your family, your friends, your kids in particular are going to see this as normal behavior. And your kids are going to grow up with positive communication skills, with the ability to love themselves, with big goals and big dreams because they watched their mama do it.
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And you're teaching them that this is normal. that That is, i think that if you can just hold that close, as close as you can to yourself, Like that will help you love yourself really truly because you want your cuers you want your kids to do that. So show them how it's done. Show them how it's done. We don't have to be back when we were raised in the eighties and nineties, or some of you, maybe sixties and seventies, probably not. Maybe, maybe. Um, but think of, think of the, we live in a beautiful world. A lot of people complain about where times have gone and where we're going and the changes and Our childhood isn't so wholesome. Well, you know, what's awesome is that women are more aware of of our ability to love ourselves and our right to do so. our permission to do so. We do not have to be the way that our parents and our grandparents were. we we are It's more normal and more embraced to love yourself without being ashamed and without feeling guilt about it. like it's It's okay. And I look forward to imagine our children's generation. I think with so many of us really focusing on building ourselves up ourselves, that we're going to make an impact on the generations. i already see it in my kids. like I see my boys like
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I don't know. I see a difference in them than I saw when I, when I was teaching and I had kids, students that age. And I was like, man, I see a huge difference even in that 20 years. it's It's a big difference. So I don't know. I think you got this. Do do it for you. Do it for your kids. Do it for your grandkids.
00:58:47
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It's okay to love yourself and it's okay. It's not an ego thing. It's not a boastful thing. You deserve to be loved. do You only have one life. Live at your best. Oh, amen. Amen. That is so powerful. You got this. You got this ladies. Okay. So I want to make sure everyone knows how to connect with you and continue learning from your heart and expertise. So how can they reach you?
00:59:09
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Best way is Facebook. Um, they can also go to the racheltown.com, but you have to make sure you throw the a in my name, Rachel. Grandma used to say Rachel, you spelled her name wrong, Diane, which is my mother. Um, but I think the easiest way is Rachel, uh, on Facebook, if you just even type Rachel town, even if you spell it wrong, I think it's probably going to direct you to my Facebook account.
00:59:29
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I'm very active. I do a lot of live videos on there. I do a lot of empowerment videos on there. Um, and then in my bio, you can like go to my website, you can go to their private Facebook group. Um, we do a lot of, it's called full health and wellness education and support. It truly is.
00:59:44
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a full health and wellness education and support. We do many challenges. We do mental health. We do better sleep, better fuel, like meal plans every Friday, like all all kinds of free resources for you guys in there. I understand not everybody can afford products. I do partner with a company. If you can't afford products, that's okay.
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You don't need to, you can still use food as fuel and and do your best. Bye. you know, daily movement, little teeny things. So that's where I would suggest people find me, Laura. Perfect. And if you guys check the show notes, I'll have all her information there too, so that you can just click and it'll take you right to her. So, oh my gosh, this been such a powerful conversation, Rachel. And if you're listening and feeling inspired to finally prioritize your wellness without extreme guilt, you're not alone. And remember taking care of yourself isn't selfish. It's essential for the leader, the mom, and the woman you're called to be. And the truth is you can't lead others there as well if you're running on empty and you can't pour into your family, your business, or your calling if you haven't filled your cup first. So Rachel has shown us that sustainable wellness isn't about perfection. It's about progress, grace, small, consistent,
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Those little steps they compound into transformation and to all my mamas who lead community This is your permission slip to start small start today and start with compassion for yourself You deserve to feel energized confident and strong and you deserve to lead from a place of abundance and not depletion So make sure you connect with Rachel and dive deeper into all of her amazing resources this and if this episode resonated with you Will you please share it with another mom who needs to hear this message too? So together we're rewriting the rules of motherhood, leadership, and what it means to truly truly thrive. So until next time, keep leading, keep growing, and keep believing in what is possible.
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You've been listening to Mamas Who Lead with Laura Carafino. Thank you for joining us on this journey today. Each episode, each story, and every piece of advice we share is a step towards building a community of empowered, resilient, and inspiring Mama leaders, just like you.
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Remember leadership isn't just about the title or the workplace. It's about how we navigate our lives, uplift those around us and pave the way for future generations. As we close today's episode, I encourage you to carry forward the insights and inspiration you've gained, apply them to your life, share them with your tribe and continue to lead with heart and purpose.
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Lead on Mamas.