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Pornosexuality Explained: Kink, Psychology & Erotic Freedom
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What does it mean to be pornosexual? In this episode, I unpack the kink, the psychology, and the erotic power of pornosexuality—why some people prefer porn and fantasy over “real-life” sex, and why that choice is nothing to be ashamed of.
✨ We’ll explore:
- The definition & context of pornosexuality
- The psychology behind why fantasy can be stronger than reality
- The overlap with gooning, chastity, and erotic hypnosis
- Porn as worship, art, and ritual
- Why kink shaming has no place in today’s world
For more of my content, visit https://beacons.ai/beatrixvale
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Introduction to The Slut Next Door
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Welcome to the Slut Next Door podcast, where we dive deep into desire, unravel kinks and fetishes, and explore the deliciously naughty side of self-discovery.
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I'm Beatrix Vale, an erotic audio creator, and your guide to all things kinky and curious. So let's begin.
Exploring Porno-Sexuality
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Hello, darlings. Today we're going to talk about porno-sexuality. It is a term that can sound a little provocative, maybe even taboo for some, but at the heart of it, it's just another way to experience erotic energy.
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And for some, it's a kink. For others, it's even an identity. And for many, it's both. So we're going to unpack what it means, where it comes from, and why it can be such a charged, fascinating part of sexuality.
Feeling Like a Goddess
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Now, before we dive in today's episode, I want to introduce something new I'll be doing at the start of each podcast episode. I've decided that every week I'm going to share what's making me feel like a goddess lately.
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I've said this before on the podcast. i always feel like a goddess. I believe I am oh literal goddess. yeah It's something i live and letting you peek into that feels like a great way to begin these podcast episodes.
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So the first thing that's making me feel like a goddess currently is I was thinking about all the balls I juggle.
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And yes, I realized I just said balls. um But truly, like all the things that I do work-wise, that CEO energy, and then on top of that, I have my personal life and my personal relationships and family and, you know, work that I'm doing within myself, you know, my routines of self-care
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My hobbies, of some of you know that this crazy thing. I'm not going to get into it, but I i get sometimes, it doesn't happen every week, but sometimes I get hold of a lot of things that are severely discounted, severely.
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And what I do is I go find places where I can donate them because it makes me feel good. um And it's fun. It's, yeah, it was just a silly little thing that I do. but um anyway, so There's all these things. Like every day I'm juggling ah billion things sometimes and I like my life that way.
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i like feeling busy. i like feeling like I'm doing something. And i do all that and maintain pretty good level of sanity.
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You know, i'm I remain calm and I... I can have a billion things running at me and I'm dropping so many of those balls at the same time. And i um i can be okay with that.
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you know And that makes me feel like a goddess. That makes me feel very powerful and proud of myself um that I can do that. And that's just how... part of my energy, I guess, that's how I'm built is being able to remain calm. Now, sometimes internally, there may be a little turmoil and a little bit of panic, but, you know on the outside, I'm able to move with calmness and smoothness and can be pretty fluid.
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um So yeah. And so the other thing that's making me feel like an absolute goddess is I, let me think. Yeah. Over the weekend, i got my hands on a new selenite necklace pendant and I wore it for the first time today and it is truly making me feel like a goddess. It's gorgeous.
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I love selenite. I love how pure it looks. I love that it is a yeah you know, something that cleanses and it just makes me feel like a goddess wearing it.
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um And then lastly, what's making me feel like a goddess is and was thinking about the gifts that I do receive from my very good boys,
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that always makes me feel like a goddess. Just gifts, like metaphorically placed at my feet, makes me feel taken care of and like a goddess. I mean, it's that simple.
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I love it. And I have to laugh because I had a friend on Twitter, a fellow content creator. and so a recent gift that I received was this ah vacuum cleaner and I know that sounds so silly that that's on my throne wish list but I feel like she really was able to say what that means and what that means is that's a milfy gift and That just made me laugh.
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um I think that just shows, you know, when you're a woman at a certain and maturity level, a vacuum, ah new vacuum is so luxurious and so exciting to get. So it is very milfy and um I love it.
Deep Dive into Porno-Sexuality
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So with all that said, let's go ahead and dive into the topic today. Pornosexuality. Or you may hear it as pornosexual.
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So what does it mean? um Being a pornosexual just means that you find porn more arousing, more fulfilling and even more desirable than physical sex with another person. So think of it like bisexuality, homosexuality, pornosexuality.
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So we're putting porn as the source of sexual arousal. So that can look like someone who would rather have a night alone with their favorite porn or even an erotic hypnosis vial than an actual physical encounter.
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And it is their sex life. It becomes, you know, the central focus of their erotic identity And it often overlaps with other kinks, especially gooning.
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So gooning where men just, and women, let me not exclude the women, ah lose themselves in endless porn consumption. And porn is just an outlet for arousal.
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But I definitely want to say that pornosexuality is not inherently about addiction or dysfunction. And that's not to say that I'm sure there are people that identify with being a pornosexual that are addicted that do have you know some kind of dysfunction.
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I'm talking about the pornosexuals that have a nice grasp on their pornosexuality. But, you know, it's it's not about addiction. It's more about preference, orientation, and just simple desire.
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Now, some people do embrace it like playfully, lightly, while others, the pornosexuality is this um center of shame. and But that's what turns them on about it.
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And then there's pornosexuals that are very proud of them being a pornosexual and really standing on that ground that that's who they are.
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So why would this way of you know living out your sex life with porn, why would it have such a pull for some people?
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I think it comes down to, we well, really a lot of things. But one thing is definitely control. um I think that porn offers just like a perfectly curated sexual experience.
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experience It's like fantasy on demand, if you want to call that. Like you can choose the exact fetish, the tone you're going for, the intensity, and it just delivers consistency in a way that say a human partner simply cannot.
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And then there's an element of, you know, having this sense of safety because Trust me, I know that real intimacy can feel very complicated for some people and very vulnerable and messy. And then porn allows people to immerse themselves End desire in sex without the risk of rejection or judgment.
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And so the whole time I've been planning this episode, thinking about this episode, I'm thinking about one particular fan that I have that has been with me really, i could say almost since day one, they absolutely identify as a pornosexual.
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I helped them. I believe I did. i think I helped them, um, come to that conclusion, gave them the word for what they were already doing.
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And so I'll go ahead and tell you that he is a married man and older gentleman as well. And, you know, in his life, in his marriage, he's in a place where there's not there's not physical interaction.
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And that's okay. That's like not a negative part of their relationship. um I'm assuming he probably... would love to make love to his wife, but they're at the age where that's just no longer there.
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And so he still has these desires sexually, is absolutely in love with his wife, has the most wonderful things to say about her.
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But the only thing is that, you know, then to satisfy that hunger, that... that arousal and the sex that he needs, he finds that in porn.
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And then that saves him from having to, unfortunately, you know, satisfy some desire, say, outside of the marriage. Then there's a whole debate. I'm sure people would say, oh, porn's cheating, blah, blah, you know, whatever.
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But I'm, you know, I don't know about you, but I'm never in the business of judging someone for what they do. You know, we all have our own desires and reasons we do something.
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So I'm never going to stand and make judgment on people. However, I bring this story up because I think he's a great example of why pornosexuality isn't this negative thing.
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gross, oh my God, you're addicted to porn type thing. You know, this beat this has become something that he feels safe exploring.
Personal Reflections on Relationships
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and makes his marriage feel like it's in a safe place.
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He's tapping into sides of himself without having to step outside the marriage or, you know, just push that side of himself down. And then he's, you know, a sexless husband in his marriage.
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You know, I'm also thinking about another fan that I have that, you know, they share the same characteristic that they're proud to be pornosexuals.
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um But this one is not married. And i actually had him on the podcast. um You know, i used to do this podcast like i think it was like two years ago.
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And i just archived all those old episodes, unfortunately. um but it was such a great episode because I had him come on here explain why he is a pornosexual as a single male.
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And he just has this really, like, I would call it a love affair with porn. I mean, it is... something that is almost personified in a way um and he's able to explore himself and the safety of his own home and you know for whatever reason he just doesn't need that physical intimacy with someone else And again, who are we to sit here and judge? i don't really understand why people do that.
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um I can hear it in my, like I can hear people that would hear that story and be like, oh, well, you know, he's just not living his life to the full extent or whatever.
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Like why does him having a physical partner, equal having a you know, this quality life when this makes him perfectly happy?
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What is he missing out on if he doesn't want to get married or have children or you know, whatever, that doesn't matter to him, then who who the fuck cares?
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So just wanted to bring in those real life examples because they're definitely on my mind when I think about this topic. And now let's get into the psychological level because you know I love this level.
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I love peeling back those layers and getting into that raw side of kink. So, pornosexuality... is also i think about the power of imagination.
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You know, when you become more aroused by say pixels on a screen or a voice or even your fantasies, if you get turned on by those things,
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more than physical touch, it really just shows to me how potent the mind can really be in terms of eroticism.
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You know, some people I know for a fact would say that pornosexuality is a weakness, but I see it very differently because to me, it demonstrates how creative and adaptive we're our erotic wiring can be.
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And I'm going to be completely honest with you guys. I was at a point in my life
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not too long ago where I had just I was kind of in my own journey and i was very comfortable in my own skin. I was very comfortable with my choices.
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And I had made this kind of mental um epiphany, not an epiphany. i had just like really stood my ground mentally and thought, you know what?
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I think I might spend the rest of my life alone as in as a single woman. And I was totally okay with that. I can remember a time where I wasn't because I thought that I needed someone to complete me.
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And i was fine with that. You know, I've i've had my my history of failed relationships. I've had my sexual experience.
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And, you know, at that point in my life, I was very comfortable. ah like It's like I could see the draw to a life of porno
Challenging Societal Norms
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sexuality. Now, while wild porn doesn't hit for me like a true pornosexual.
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I was totally fine with lifetime spent, you know, pleasuring myself. um Again, it just kind of shows to me who is someone to judge why they do something?
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You know, I just, I really will never understand that. But going back to the psychology behind it all, I think there's also for po pornosexuals, there can be this submissive edge to it.
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Um, because I think especially men that I've come across that identify this way, it isn't just about liking porn. It's about like feeling owned by it.
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And it's actually kind of really neat. It's like porn becomes the, the altar, if you will, or the authority, something to worship.
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And then With that too, there's an avenue to travel down for some people where the humiliation and admitting that you'd rather have porn than an actual partner, there's kind of this liberation that happens with it and that really, you know, that sting of erotic humiliation that some people do like.
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So the the paradox of the shame aspect, the humiliation, but then also the ecstasy, i think is what makes you know this identity or this kink like so psychologically rich.
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and So now let's talk about the shame that I think often gets attached to pornosexuality.
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And honestly, porn is such a dirty word for some people. And I will keep saying this. I don't understand why. It's still a dirty word in the year 2025, but whatever. we won't get into that.
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um You know, but there is this level of shame and judgment really to any non-traditional form of desire.
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Like people just love to judge what they don't understand. And I think that people are measuring worth based on outdated standards.
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So like how often you're having sex, if you're in a relationship, if you fit the mold of what and to intimacy is supposed to look like, but...
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You know, here's the absolute truth that I, my truth that I've came to and this line of work that I do. and then also judging by my own history, not everyone wants sex in their life.
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Not everyone needs it, you know, and if you do need it, that's totally fine. You know, that's i'm definitely not saying that pornosexuality is for everyone.
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But for some people, they don't need it. and And my eyes, that does not make them broken or less valuable because... we are all so unique.
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Our erotic identity is kind of like our fingerprints. there None of them are truly alike and identical. And so, you know, I was reading something the other day or I was listening to something that was talking about the generation of young people that are like young adults right now and how so many are not drinking.
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They're not doing drugs. They're not smoking cigarettes like, say, older generations did in their young adulthood or their teen years even.
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and So that i when I think about pornosexuality, i'm kind of reminded that that we live in a totally different world, like especially compared to when, say, your grandparents, or ma depending on your age, when your parents grew up. Because let's just say like in the nineteen fifty s Your entire value was tied to whether you were married and reproduced and stayed inside the lines of a quote unquote respectable life.
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And then if you weren't in a relationship, I think that people assumed something was wrong with you. And I wish i could say that today we know better. i know that some of you do, like me, because I know i understand that fulfillment doesn't have to come from marriage or even from to traditional sex. We live in a very interesting world, you know, with the...
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internet and social media you can stay in your home and almost feel like you're traveling the world do you know what i mean like you you can buy sex toys that feel like the real thing you know and I think people are scared of that they're scared that oh my gosh people are gonna become so isolated and whatever You know, but what if that's something they prefer?
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What if something that's something they chose? And why is why does that bother you is what I want to say. But, you know, you know, if you know me, I love pushing back against kink shaming because You know, what's really threatening about pornosexuality to me is that it challenges those old rules, you know, because it says I don't need to conform and I don't need to prove my worth through, say, relationships or traditional sex issues.
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It's saying that you define your desire you your own way. And isn't that true liberation? You know, the the refusal to apologize and surrendering to your own truth.
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I'm sorry, but i going back to the beginning of the episode, that's goddess energy right there. um So yeah, so let's dig into pornosexuality a little more.
Connection Between Porno-Sexuality and Gooning
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um My mouth is wanting to trip up on myself a lot in this episode, but... Like, so when I think about pornosexuality, I really don't see something to be pitied or mocked unless I ask for it. Some do, and that's fine.
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I will absolutely pity and mock you. But when I look at the core of it, I really see a lot of devotion and creativity creativity.
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I also see erotic energy flowing in ways that really don't look like anyone else's definition of intimacy. It's like a very modern day definition.
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And ah do you think it makes a pornosexual a little different, which i think is good. And know I keep harping on this, but I don't think anyone has to fit yourself into an outdated relationship.
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um idea of value you know if if this is what you want then own it and this might make a little bit more sense let me get back to the uh defining part of this um because I do get so emotional about the kink shaming um the more erotic the fun side of pornosexuality Um, pornosexuality definitely has a overlap with gooning.
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And so if you don't know, gooning is, you know, just getting lost in the spiral of porn and masturbating, edging yourself, surrendering time and focus and even willpower.
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And gooning can become like very trans-like, which then feels addictive. Notice how I said feels addictive.
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um And i think for some people, that state of mind, that addictive-like quality, the trans of it all,
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is is the goal. It's arousing and it is the goal. um And so, pornosexuality, i think that you can't really, i mean, you could, I guess. i was going to say you can't have pornosexuality without gooning, but it is definitely one and the same a lot of times. Now you can goon without being a pornosexual for sure.
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um But like I've mentioned previously in the episode, there There are ways where pornosexuality plays into humiliation and that's not all the time. That's only if you like it, you know.
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So what what does that look like? it i think for someone who's into the humiliation of it all, um it's a admitting that you'd rather have porn than a partner and even just confessing that becomes degrading and that's what makes it hot.
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You know, it's stripping away ego, which is the core of erotic humiliation and turning kind of like obsession into fetish itself.
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So, you know, it's like saying, i don't need real women. i just need porn. I just need your audios, you know, whatever it is they're saying.
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They're really saying that they choose worship over reality. And then on the other hand, you have pornosexuals that are just pure worshipers of why porn becomes exalted,
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elmas like a living, breathing art form. And it's like a whole ritual and reverence, giving themselves over to something bigger.
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And that's where someone like me ties in really nicely because if porn becomes the altar, then then I become like the high priestess in a way, guiding the ritual and my voice, my files. I'm like the high priestess of their pornosexuality.
Empowerment Through Embracing Desires
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And I love it. I love it. And I think that when i create gooning files that a pornosexual listen to or even just a gooner I think it creates a sense of I'm not doing this alone, which becomes fun, you know, or even i'm doing it for her.
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But to wrap it all up, you know, when we look at pornosexuality, I'm thinking about what do we see?
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And I hope through this episode that you have seen that it's not, it doesn't have to be a weakness. It's not a brokenness. It is creativity.
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It's worship. And even it can be devotion. Porn for some is just entertainment. But for pornosexuals, it becomes something way more than that.
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like I mentioned, like an altar. And when you step into that truth as a pornosexual, when you claim it without apology, it stops being shameful and it becomes powerful.
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And I know that for some that can be very challenging because you're working against societal pressure and norms to be a certain way. And I know that you may have a past that tells you what you're doing is completely wrong. And even, i roll my eyes as I say this, even a evil, if you have this religious upbringing.
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So I recognize that it's not as easy. it's I definitely make it sound easy. so I recognize if you struggle with this side of yourself,
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You know, I see you and I understand, but, you know, we don't live in the 1950s anymore. Your worth, in my opinion, is definitely not a touch like tied to whether you're in a relationship or how much you're having real sex.
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I don't think desire has to fit into anyone else's box. So porn, if gooning, if listening listening to erotic audiophiles lights you up, then that's your truth.
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And that can be freeing. And it doesn't have to be something that's permanent. you know it's it can be something that just feels right in the moment of you know your journey through life.
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So if pornosexuality is your path, I encourage you to own it because in the end, what could be more divine than giving yourself fully to your own desires?
00:32:42
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So with that said, thank you for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode. As always, check out missbeatrix.com. That's M-I-S-S-B-E-A-T-R-I-X.
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If you would like to hear what kind of files that I do have for pornosexuals, and or for gooning. um i have free files within those themes that you can find right now.
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ah But again, thanks for listening and until next time. And that's a wrap for this episode of The Slut Next Door, where we dive deep into the raw, unapologetic truths of human desire.
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and Until next time, I'm Beatrix Vail, your Slut Next Door, and I'll see you in the next episode.