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Don't Always Follow the Crowd
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Do you ever feel weird sometimes when you don't do what everybody else is doing? Like going to that movie everybody's been talking about or the company you should work for or the school that you should apply to just because that's what everybody did...
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Transcript
Reflecting on Wellness and Social Media
00:00:17
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What's new? Drinking another energy drink? Cause I just need help. I literally tweeted today. Well, not tweet. I don't know why I said that. Cause I'm not on, well, I'm on Twitter, but like I don't use it. And it's not Twitter anymore. It's like, what is it called? X now? I threaded today. I said, I am unwell physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, all of that, but
00:00:45
Speaker
and clearly not doing well but uh and people like started liking it and like someone said like i'm here for you i'm like wow like am i crying like what's happening i have no idea anyways that was a horrible horrible intro but hi guys welcome welcome back to the pod
00:01:04
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We missed one week because I was out of town, so I wanted to give you guys a time to listen back on other episodes that we posted recently.
Societal Pressure and Individuality
00:01:16
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So today, we are going to be talking about an episode, about a topic that I particularly not sure if that's, like, people are going to make any sense of it. But I think it's definitely something to mention or think about.
00:01:35
Speaker
that it is okay sometimes not to follow the crowd I think the way we are not necessarily like designed or like very accustomed that like just because someone else is doing something we are almost inclined to follow them and do what they do just like many other people almost like following the crowd
00:02:00
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and we're going to talk about today why you don't necessarily always have to follow the crowd just because the crowd is doing one thing or a lot of people are doing one thing doesn't mean that like that's the journey for you or you should be doing that in the first place just some of my thoughts that i want to talk about i don't know why he came up with this i feel like i have been feeling certain type of way about some topics lately
00:02:28
Speaker
or some of my decisions and choices lately, which I don't want to mention it right now. I know I'm saying that I'm not going to talk about it, but I want to say like from those experiences, that's how I come up with this topic because I made some of the decisions in my life just because a lot of the crowd did the same, a lot of people
00:02:50
Speaker
made that same choice. And I thought that would be beneficial for me as well. I feel like in some ways it did and it still is, but I feel like in other ways I just don't think it made me happy or I'm in a happier place. So I feel like that's why I want to come up at that. I think just because they're following it doesn't necessarily that I was supposed to do that. So that's why I got inspired from this and we're going to talk about it.
Travel Tips for Los Angeles
00:03:19
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But before that, let me tell you guys a little bit about L.A. Like, if you are planning on going to L.A. or never been to L.A. or you just want to hear about what it is like to visit L.A. I'm going to give you guys like a summary of my visits. This is probably my like, I don't know, fifth time or sixth time being in L.A. So I've been there quite a few times. So I just want to give you guys some of my, I don't know,
00:03:50
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recommendations that you can check it out. But I'm definitely gonna have like a vlog of me trying things and going to places and it will be my vlog channel so you can check them out later. It's not up yet. It's still in the process. But because this is my I think second time going back to LA since the pandemic
00:04:11
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because I have to be honest almost every city not just LA has been so like it definitely went through like a big phase after the pandemic I would say the same thing even about New York City as well like things are just not the same so I would say if you have visited any place any city
00:04:30
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before the pandemic and you think it's the same, I ask you to think twice. It's just different. Maybe not in a bad way or maybe some places in a bad way, but overall things are different, really is different. So let me say it from like about LA because New York has done another thing and I can definitely talk about that later, but like LA wise, like I think
00:04:56
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last time I was in LA that was in 2021 and that was like one day so I don't even count that anymore but like the time that I was actually in LA and was there for like for a week or so I was like living in I think Venice and I feel like Venice all the time I kind of hated Venice I have to be honest like it's a cool like boardwalk is nice you can walk along the beach and like
00:05:22
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I don't know, there are a few things to check it out and like nice restaurants there, 100% nice restaurants, shops like Abbot, Kinney, Billoward. I used to think that, oh my God, like it's just overrated, but how will I retract that statement?
00:05:37
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there are a couple places there like in terms of food and some restaurants and some bars and some like I don't know shops like it's a cool place again mostly touristy very in some ways very touristy but there are some cool places that you can check it out if you're planning to visit there like if you want a healthy lunch or healthy breakfast even like early dinner go to Greenleaf it is in Venice
00:06:07
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like in the abbot kenny boulevard they are close really really good food oh my god so good guys if you're into healthy food it's like if you are
00:06:18
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from Miami or Europe, from Florida. It's like Puravita, slightly cheaper, slightly, or almost the same price, but comparing to Puravita, this place is like, I have to be honest, like healthy places in Miami is like, it's bad, I have to be honest. To some people say like it's good, I'm like, you haven't had good healthy food. Like it's, I have to be honest, healthy food in Miami or most of the Florida, South Florida I have been, it's trash, like it's really bad.
00:06:45
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But like one thing LA knows how to make or older restaurants is like healthy food. They're just so good. I feel like it feels fresh. I just love it. So definitely going to Greenleaf. They have those to pop up there. So I went to the Bay's pop up. If you are not familiar, it's like Shane Mitchell's brand. Then I also went to host another place. Oh, like there's Alfred there as well. Again, if you're not familiar, Alfred Coffee is like another popular place in LA.
00:07:13
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A lot of celebrities go like very fun, cute coffee shop and they have like really cool drinks like lavender latte or something for the recommend. Then there's also Erewhon in Venice as well so I don't have to say too much about Erewhon because I could like not stop talking about it. Just google Haley Bieber's smoothie, you're gonna see. You're gonna see. If you don't know what Erewhon is, maybe you're not in the target market. That's all I would say.
00:07:40
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I swear I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just saying if you don't, at this point, if you haven't heard anything about Erewhon or Hailey Bieber's smoothie, you're not the person for it. That's all. I would say. Anyways, so yeah, definitely minus like, uh, surprise me because when I visited before pandemic, I was kind of like, I don't like it. What surprised me, what actually disappointed me was Santa Monica. Before the pandemic, I actually loved Santa Monica. It's like,
00:08:09
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nice area like i don't know like i love the equinox there and everything this time around like i'd be honest it kind of felt run down like and what surprised me is because like Santa Monica is like really expensive guys like especially like rent there i mean everything else is like expensive that's like relative you know it's california but like rent there is expensive so i was like
00:08:35
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Confused because I remember a couple years ago when I visited it was like nice and clean. It was like dirty as hell Run down the streets and everything like even the equinox I went there I remember a couple years ago. I'm like, this is like really nice I'm like, what was I thinking? I guess they didn't take care of it later or after the pandemic. It's like it looks bad. I
00:08:57
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What surprised me just like Venice is Culver City. So Culver City is one of those places that's like up and coming and neighborhood in LA. Many new places there, new everyone, new equinox.
00:09:13
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Sony Pictures and Entertainment is right there. Bunch of studios, Culver Studios, they have downtown Culver. Really, really impressive. Like, there's so many places in LA. LA is just so massive, that's one thing I would admit. There's so many places to go. But those are some places I've been to. Obviously, I've been back to Getty. Getty Museum is so good. You have like a really nice view of the LA.
00:09:37
Speaker
You can also go to Griffin Observatory. You also have a nice view. I don't know, you can go to West Hollywood. I went there just a couple drinks as a friend. And if you want to go to a good rooftop bar, EPNLP.
00:09:53
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Really nice, it's in West Hollywood, 100% recommend if you're ever going there. But that's like a wrap up on that. But you're gonna see most of the rest of the things in my vlog, but I want to give you guys a little bit, what is it? Like summer if you're ever planning on visiting LA, we recommend checking these places out.
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00:13:23
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I don't know, some smart, I guess, or very influential people refer to it. You don't want to be a sheep, right? Because sheep is following what all the other sheeps are doing. I believe that statement to an extent, because I feel like things are different in a way.
00:13:44
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but there are certain things that i was like looking it up as i was like wanted to talk about this topic one thing that come across my head was that like social proof when it comes to like many things like you know when you see like only one comment in someone's instagram right or you don't see any comment
00:14:04
Speaker
you tend to not write a comment because you're like, I don't want to be the first one. Or when someone doesn't have a review on their product, you're like, maybe it's not good, right? Like you don't want to be that person giving the shot or being like a guinea pig because you're like, I don't trust them because they don't have good reviews or they don't have any reviews at all. And now the other thing is like they don't have good reviews.
00:14:30
Speaker
This applies so much to like, I don't know, like restaurants or movies too. They're like, oh my god, like you check the reviews and the reviews say it's bad. And based on that, you're like, I'm not gonna go. And same thing with movies. Okay, so I would say you get my point. You see what I'm trying to say. Like again, it's like we are following what other people are saying.
00:14:51
Speaker
I get this to an extent like 100% I completely understand but I think what I want to get with this is that like just because someone is saying that this place is bad unless like they say it was a reasonable explanation that like that's why it's bad I'm not gonna
00:15:12
Speaker
make my decision based on that just because they are saying that or a bunch of people are saying that. I just need to know why like the reason why you know that's what I'm trying to say like biggest example I would say is with movies like because you know movies gets like rating and like run tomatoes score right stuff like that
00:15:34
Speaker
I personally don't check that. I mean, yes, I will Google the movie and exceed the score as you're Googling it because it usually tells you. It's not like I'm purposefully looking for it. But I wouldn't necessarily make my decision just based on that. I'm just not that kind of person. Like I would be honest, like I think Twilight when it came out,
00:16:01
Speaker
I think the reviews were bad. I think especially the first one. I think it got better as they published the second one, third one, and later. But I remember the first one was pretty bad. But I loved it. I loved the movie. It was amazing. I loved it. Same news. I think Venom, from the Marvel universe,
00:16:24
Speaker
Or is this Sony's Marvel Universe? Something like that. It's a licensing deal. I don't know why I was getting geeky about this. But yeah, it's not Marvel technically. It's Sony's Marvel Universe. It's not like made by Marvel. Same universe, but different production. It's like licensed. Anyways, not the point. So Marvel, so the Venom was like...
00:16:48
Speaker
I think it was also like bad like the reviews but I loved the movie and second one I loved it too like I still saw it and I would probably see it again I just loved it so much but people were like shitting on it they were like don't go see it but I'm like I want to see it I don't give a fuck what you're saying I have to be honest I'm sorry like I don't care and I think this what I'm trying to come at is that just because like people are saying
00:17:13
Speaker
bunch of bad things about particular thing doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't do it and this is like something simple like you know like the restaurants or movies right you just mentioned but there are like bigger things that we can mention and that's what I'm trying to come at is like I don't know like moving to places or I don't know like trying a new job or something or a company
00:17:42
Speaker
Yes, I feel like you always have to take things with a grain of salt, and that's what I'm trying to come at. You can't just make a decision just based on that. Certain things that I would say, the first thing I just mentioned is moving to your place. There are many times, even before I was choosing Miami,
Personal Decision to Move to Miami
00:18:07
Speaker
I was going back and forth between a bunch of places. It was not just Florida. It wasn't just Florida, honestly. I don't think I was considering myself moving to Florida. It was more like just Miami. I don't think I ever saw myself living other places in Florida besides Miami. But I'm saying I was considering places. And I think even at the time that I chose Miami,
00:18:31
Speaker
And a lot of people thought it's because all the New Yorkers are moving to Miami. That's why I made the decision. But I actually made that decision long before people were starting to move. Because I did not move during the pandemic. Because a lot of people moved to Florida during a pandemic.
00:18:52
Speaker
because they wanted to, you know, like more free and like do other things, stuff like that. But I didn't necessarily did that. Like I like moved like last, like in December, end of December. So it was like very much after the pandemic. So it had nothing to do with that. So I just feel like I made my own judgment call on that. And that's why I'm so proud of it that like, even maybe this might not be the journey for me.
00:19:18
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towards the end, it was still my choice. To top it off, I want to say, when you follow what other people are saying or what other people are doing, you almost feel like you are making a call, you're making a judgment call based on other people's experiences, not yours. And God forbid, if something goes wrong or if something doesn't work out the way you expect it to,
00:19:46
Speaker
you are gonna blame other people versus like you're like oh that wasn't necessarily my choice. I did it mostly because that's what everyone else was doing. I just remember this like in many occasions like in my life and like that's why I'm like so glad like there are many decisions I made that like that was mainly because of me like it was not just because like
00:20:11
Speaker
what everyone else was doing like another example I would mention is like this career choice of mine yes nowadays it looks like everybody wants to be a creator everybody wants to be
00:20:23
Speaker
I don't know, like, social media influencer, everybody wants to have a podcast, stuff like that. Again, nothing wrong, absolutely nothing wrong with that. But what I'm trying to come at is like, the time that I started, nobody wants to do this. Or nobody was necessarily, not necessarily wants to do this, nobody necessarily was like,
00:20:41
Speaker
like this is a great opportunity they were kind of like what are you doing in your with your life and like go get a job or like I don't know like this is not sustainable you cannot do this like they were like what the hell are you doing so I'm just saying like it was like
Choosing a Creative Career Path
00:20:59
Speaker
It was like one or two people. I'm not saying I'm not the only one, but it was very few people who chose a career like mine. It was not like this, but not everybody wants to do this. I'm just saying at the time it was super risky.
00:21:14
Speaker
and I absolutely had no idea what I was doing and like I was scared as hell that like how am I gonna continue doing this and I wanted to do it for the longest time so and I think that's why I'm trying to make an example and like just because like you might want to do something else that doesn't necessarily mean that like that's just the end of it or like or that's just wrong
00:21:39
Speaker
I think it might look wrong from the outside just because someone else is not doing this. But you have to remember that your journey is different. Just because it's just not the same does not mean that it's wrong. And that's what I try to not necessarily justify, but I feel like tell myself that at times that, I don't know, I feel like, oh, I should be doing this. Very similar things that
00:22:09
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I'm gonna mention later that like mention like you know like moving to place right or choosing a career job like that or like choosing a lifestyle just because you're in a group or you are at this age that I don't know people are going to parties or people are doing this you don't have to do it just because people are doing it you don't have to do it just because the biggest
00:22:40
Speaker
part of the group is doing it you don't have to do it like just because like almost everyone else is doing it and you're like i feel left out i feel like just just because you do something because everyone else is doing it or you feel left out that's not a good reason to do things and that's what i try trying to like come up with that that is so unhealthy
00:23:02
Speaker
Yes, there are times that that might, I don't know, like make us lonely or feel lonely in some type of way, but I think you have to discover your own journey so you can make your own choices. I realize this sometimes, like, but I'm just so proud of this because I honestly don't care at all. I would rather, I don't know, like, yes, I do like to go out sometimes, but I don't want to go out just because everyone else is going out. I want to make that choice myself. So,
00:23:32
Speaker
I would rather have someone not contact me at all just because I didn't say yes to them all the time when they were asking me to go out versus just stay at home. I would be glad to stay at home or I would be glad to just go to gym by myself. I just don't care.
00:23:51
Speaker
I think some people think that that's like lonely, but I think there's the biggest difference between being alone versus lonely. You see, right? I feel like you don't have to follow the crowd. I think people are doing this way too much. And I see this on like a regular basis, almost every place that I've been to. And not to say like, oh my god, I am deaf.
00:24:14
Speaker
like an outlier, like obviously not, like there are many people like me, but I realized this that that's just not healthy, first of all, but also you have to remember that you are not making the decision and not them, you're just following their decision.
Crowd Following vs. Personal Choices
00:24:35
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So, but you're gonna be suffering their consequences of their decision if you make the same decision.
00:24:41
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Because they are making a decision, I hope, for themselves, not because someone else did it as well. So if you do it yourself, at least you're gonna be like, this was my call, I did this, and now I have to deal with it. You have to own up to it. You cannot just be like, oh, people are going to this restaurant, I wanna go to this restaurant, people are doing this, I wanna do this.
00:25:08
Speaker
One thing I would clarify because I know people are going to come at me and say this, this is kind of ironic because I do many things like that. There is a difference between doing things for your job or for social media or for trends. Just like I was mentioning in the beginning, like going to that like expensive supermarket in LA, everyone, that doesn't mean I'm following the crowd. It's just I'm doing it for content and I just know that's going to get views.
00:25:36
Speaker
that's what I do for or like the things like trying a coffee place or something like that I do it because I want to do it it could be mean that also a lot of people want to do it but like I just feel like it might look like from the outside that some people are doing what everyone else is doing but as long as they have their own reasoning behind it it's okay just a lot of people might have the same decision I just used to get this all the time like
00:26:05
Speaker
I love Starbucks. I really do. My sister actually hates it, but I like Starbucks. I even like their food. It's not bad. And I would gladly go again many times. That doesn't make me that I'm following a crowd. It's just my choice. It might look like a lot of the crowd is
00:26:24
Speaker
just doing the same thing, but at the end of the day, it's my choice. And I am proud of doing that. So I feel like you really have to make the justification behind that, that like, are you making the choice because you want to do it? Or are you making the choice because everyone else is making the same choice? Like it just, you know, you need to be careful with that because I think as you get older, I realize this so much that like all the decisions you make,
00:26:55
Speaker
makes a big impact in your life it affects i don't know it just affects how you're going to be next day next year it affects uh your time like because you're committing time towards that like it's going to change your life in many ways i feel like in the past i never thought of that because i'm like oh it's fine i can do this i can go out tonight to
00:27:18
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or I can do this tonight like with the friends but then I remember I'm like no I was supposed to edit this video or I was supposed to do this or I didn't have time to do this you have to remember you have commitments for yourself so you have to always abide by your own decisions not because people are like oh that's like the right way to do it or that's the way to do it
00:27:46
Speaker
It sometimes sucks because it makes you feel like, oh, like something is wrong with you because that's what I feel most of the time. Like I'm like, oh, like I chose this, but nobody did. So I'm like, what the hell is wrong with me? But that's just not the case. I feel like sometimes we are outliers and like, and that's okay. I feel like that's why like Malcolm Gladwell wrote that book, Outliers. So don't ever think twice about it just because you're making a different decision. It just,
00:28:14
Speaker
It's just you. I think everyone of us is unique in our own way. And that's why we should have our own unique journey. Not the journey that everyone is going to follow. Anyways guys, so that was this episode for today. Sure, but hopefully sweet and you guys like it. If you do, please don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcast and Spotify. And I'll see you guys next week with another episode.