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Social Media Isn't Real Life
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Once again I'm talking about social media and I thought I could add this to my next series of episodes about social media. There's always something to talk about since it is always changing and we're evolving through social media so I thought it would be important to update my thoughts on that.
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Transcript
Weather and Makeshift Setup
00:00:14
Speaker
Hey guys, so welcome back to the podcast. You would see, oh my God, I wish this was like a vodcast. So you guys see what kind of ridiculous like podcast setup I have right now. So the weather is pretty hot today. It's like 70 degrees.
00:00:34
Speaker
So I am like inside of the apartment well the office space that I'm in right now is very cold and I try to put on the heat and I think the heat is not working because the outside is warm. There's this weird thing going on with New York City when it's like warm outside you cannot turn on the heat or something.
00:00:54
Speaker
weird. I know every building is different, but if you have especially if you're in an older building, that's usually what happens. So I'm pretty cold because I was wearing my I was wearing t-shirt because outside. So I have my blanket right next to me. I look like a burrito, like a live burrito.
00:01:17
Speaker
anyways yeah just doing this recording as a burrito for this podcast anyways so today we are going to be talking about
Detachment from Social Media
00:01:29
Speaker
Social media, and I know you guys are going to say you have talked about social media quite a lot. Yes, I have, but this is more like a continuation to those series because I think I have made an episode I checked very recently talking about like, you know, how to live in the moment, not on social media. This is kind of a continuation to that, but more is going to be like titled as social media is in real life because it's not.
00:01:57
Speaker
And also I feel like very recent experiences with social media and many experiences with TikTok, Instagram, and Twitter very recently. I just want to deep dive in a little bit and talk about it because I just want everyone, including myself,
00:02:14
Speaker
to take everything with a grain of salt when it comes to social media and how to kind of detach ourselves from it. So we have a healthier lifestyle or just healthier connection with social media. And that's what I'm hoping to do in this episode.
Personal Updates: Breakup and Miami Move
00:02:32
Speaker
But before that, let me talk a little bit update because there's quite a lot of things that's happening in my life right now. In case you guys can tell, like from the last few episodes I've been talking, there have been a lot of changes. I keep saying it's coming up. I already mentioned one of them, you know, the breakup. The other one is and I am finally saying it here. It's not like official official yet because things can change. You know, you never know, but
00:03:00
Speaker
there's a very high chance that I might move to Miami by the end of this year or beginning of next year. Even just saying this sounds, I don't know, unreal because I don't know if this will happen because you never know, right? Like just things happen. And also, like, I don't know if I will like the apartments.
00:03:25
Speaker
All I know is that next week, this has been like in the works for a month now, I think, essentially, at least three weeks or so, that I wanna go see some apartments with my dad. So we booked some tours and everything to see some apartments. So that's why we are going to Miami next week. So yeah, that's just like essentially beginning of the end for me, for New York, I guess.
00:03:51
Speaker
I mean I'm making it sound so sad or just so like I don't know I cannot like I can't but it's not gonna be like that I will definitely come for sure but it just feels so weird to me that it's all happening and the fact that like I'm going to see these apartments
00:04:10
Speaker
When I booked it, I was like, yeah, I will go see them. But like the fact that this is all coming together and it's literally next week. I can't believe it. And the fact that I can't even believe them like I might leave.
00:04:23
Speaker
I mean, it just I feel like I always wanted to live another state and just try that lifestyle, but just still very scary. I cannot tell you guys how scary that feeling is. Scary, exciting, terrifying. I'm absolutely terrified.
00:04:43
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I had the same exact feeling when I was getting my car and I was like, oh, my God, I'm so terrified. I might be way over my head, which the same thing I'm feeling right now, because getting an apartment is not also easy thing either.
Living Alone: Fear and Excitement
00:04:59
Speaker
And I also want to make sure I can do by myself.
00:05:02
Speaker
And being a self-employed is also very difficult thing too because they always ask for so many documents as a self-employed. I'm not worried so much about my credit, but self-employment part. So I don't know. I feel like this will be a chapter for me to start something myself and leaving alone.
00:05:21
Speaker
It is very scary. I feel like I haven't lived alone for a very, very long time. I feel like the last time I lived alone, that was when I was, I don't know, 17 or something, maybe 18. And that was only for maybe like a couple of months because my aunt was away. And that was the last time because every other time I either had a roommate or I was living with a family. So it has never been like by myself.
00:05:49
Speaker
Hence, it's like very scary, very exciting, because I do want to try this out. And I feel like this would be good for my growth, living alone. And I would definitely document all the journey of me moving in, empty apartment or the
00:06:04
Speaker
other tour you know that i decorated hopefully that part is scary but i'm not sure you know how that's going to like i feel like that part is kind of fun after is but i'm curious to see which apartment that i would be able to choose and everything because you know
00:06:21
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there aren't that much like Miami market is also very crazy too like it's not as crazy as New York City market in terms of prices but the prices in there are pretty crazy too but also it's like there aren't that many availabilities because of I guess time frame that I'm choosing so
00:06:37
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I'll keep you guys posted, but I just want to put it up here first. You guys always hear the first, because that I will post it on my vlog channel, most likely, or main channel, I'm not sure. I keep going back and forth, but yeah, then it's gonna be on my YouTube.
00:06:52
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then probably the last one is going to be like my Instagram. Because I was tempted to put on my Instagram saying in New York City, soon Miami, then I'm like, oh, oh, oh, back up, Merz, back up. You know, there's that TikTok and saying like, hey, hey, hey, calm down, like with something like that. That's the filter I'm picking my head. I'm like, no, I need to like calm down. It's not done yet because I don't want to jinx it. You know, when you're so excited about something or still scared about something, but like,
00:07:19
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You don't want to announce it yet because you don't know what will happen. Hence, I'm first thing in here because it's just the idea of me doing this. Then we will see how it will go. You know, if I like the apartment, then we'll see if I will sign a lease.
00:07:37
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and then I will move because there's so much that's going through my head right now and it's making me even more nervous but I just want to share with you guys because then it's an experience for me but it's also experience for many of you guys especially in their 20s
00:07:52
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you know, including me. That's what I'm trying to say. Because I feel like this is a growth process for a lot of us. A lot of us don't have the opportunity to live by themselves or haven't gone like apartment by themselves. So, and I feel like this is a growth for me, but also example for many of you guys. That's why I wanted to just mention it over here, but we'll talk about it later more.
Social Media Existence Misconception
00:08:15
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But now let's get on to today's episode.
00:08:19
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So the first thing about social media and this one is kind of like I think everyone almost kind of feel about this and like we are all guilty of doing this. We think that if we don't have social media, we don't exist.
00:08:34
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And I feel like to an extent that is the truth because social media is essentially our footprint in digital experience, I guess, like that's our home in a way. So I feel like we do see it that way. And I feel like to an extent that is very true. But we also have to make sure to tell ourselves or kind of like make a distinction that that's not it. Like we still exist in different ways.
00:09:03
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Social media is just like a portfolio of what we are trying to put it out there. And I feel like sometimes we also need to tell ourselves that we don't necessarily owe anyone to do anything or to post anything.
00:09:22
Speaker
Sometimes we think the old people answers, even if you are a social media influencer, even if you're a creator, even if you're a creator with millions of followers, you don't owe anyone anything but yourself. Like you need to tell yourself that. Yes, people get invested in things, people get so curious about your life and everything, but you get to share what you want to share.
00:09:47
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With respect, obviously, because there are times that, you know, you do want to share things and when you're sharing it, but that doesn't mean that, like, you know, you don't exist or you don't do things if you don't post on social media. And there are many things I have kept personal and kept like myself and
00:10:07
Speaker
You know, like just for myself, for my lifestyle out of social media. And I'm so glad I made those choices. And I will say in a few of them, I remember.
00:10:19
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For many of my short relationships, I guess they weren't even anything serious. I have posted on social media and I have it backfired for me. Many times people use me for it or they post it about it or they I don't know. It just never ended well for me.
00:10:38
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So I learned a lesson from that, even my experience from my very recent breakup. It had nothing to do with social media, but we kept most of it private. I mean, there were a couple of times we posted things, but it was never like tagging each other or anything. Maybe it was a couple of pictures in my photo dump and stuff like that.
00:10:58
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But it was nothing like that open on social media because people get so nosy. They want to know everything. They want to Google things. They want to search things. They want to talk to people. Just an example.
00:11:14
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or there are many other things like my family and everything. There were a couple times that I have posted my sister on social media and people have gone through and somehow found her
00:11:30
Speaker
And that was probably most likely my mistake because I tagged her in many photos and kind of like tried to, I don't know, like follow her, especially as a private profile and someone even tried to hack into her account. I don't know if it was all because of me, but I'm just saying like it's just like she's a very private person and it didn't work out good for her. So I'm just saying like there are many experiences I had
00:11:53
Speaker
that I learned my lesson to kind of like differentiate that and keep what it is for me and that doesn't necessarily mean that like they don't exist because sometimes I used to tell this to myself that like oh if I don't post my sister if I don't post my family or my boyfriend on social media that's that means they don't exist
00:12:13
Speaker
But over time, I just realized that that's just not the case. And also, there are times that people don't want that. It's just but I think I was craving and still crave to this day sometimes that I have just this person that I can take pictures with, take videos with or do things with and still post on social media. I thought I having to feel guilty that I did it because that's like my life and that's what I want to do.
00:12:41
Speaker
But I do understand that I have to respect to people who don't want to be on social media and don't want their life to be on there at all times. And I learned so much from that. And I think nowadays I pick and choose what I want to post.
00:13:01
Speaker
And that doesn't necessarily mean that it doesn't exist because it's not on social media. But this is just some of my experience. Sorry, I'm getting emotional because I remembered many things that has happened with my family and with people. And I just I had good lessons from it. And that's why I wanted to put it out here. Number two thing, this thing used to bother me a lot, but I feel like I have become almost like a
00:13:27
Speaker
retiree from this experience because I just don't care anymore. Whenever Instagram used to crash or just not work at all, I would always get so upset and be like, oh my God, like what is happening? What is going on? I lost my account. Some means got happening. Like I was always like so crazy about it. But after a couple of tries,
00:13:49
Speaker
Also, after YouTube and TikTok started dominating, I just didn't care as much because I was like, I have other platforms that I don't have to worry about. But even very recent experience with Instagram crashing and also a glitch happening with account suspensions and losing followers because I lost like 300 followers. 300, 400 followers was in an hour. Then I gained them back the same day. I was so confused.
00:14:19
Speaker
I realized why they were trying to do it because I think they're trying to remove some bot profiles, like they're not real accounts, but it was just mishandled very badly. But it made me realize that, yes, I will be so devastated and so upset if something happens to my account on Instagram. But I also tell myself many times
00:14:44
Speaker
that this is not my end goal. Yes, it's a part of it, and that's how I'm making money with it. And this is a place for me that I explore many things and I post about it, but it's not my end goal. So even if something happens, it's not end of it for me. I have still many other platforms that I can rely on, do things.
00:15:08
Speaker
And that's the same thing I would try to give advice to anyone else if they get so
Adapting to Social Media Changes
00:15:14
Speaker
upset about it. If you like, yes, obviously try to recover your account, but don't think that like this is end of the world and like your social media career or social media that you created is over. Definitely back up things and like I have all that data that you got, like your files, your reels, your images and everything. You can definitely do that.
00:15:37
Speaker
But don't think that this is the end of the line for you because sometimes I feel like we go into that worst case scenario, then we lose our passwords when we get suspended from an account or then we get this like warnings. It's like, trust me, it happens to all of us. Don't take it too hard. And I guess I can move on because
00:15:59
Speaker
That's why I'm coming to my next point is that like, detaching ourselves from social media. I kind of mentioned from the first point that I was mentioning, but more is that like, always have boundaries on why you're posting what you are doing. And when you are, you have these clear boundaries, you don't get so upset when something bad happens because you know, it's bound to happen. When you think about it is this,
00:16:27
Speaker
Maybe not the stock market. I was going to use the stock market as an example, but let's just think of like fame. Yes, you could be famous for a while, but it's not going to last forever.
00:16:42
Speaker
You just have to ride the wave as long as you can. And that's the same thing with social media is that like, yeah, you can try to be relevant and stay in this game for as long as you can and you will be. But it's like at one point it's going to die down. And I feel like it is a time for maybe Instagram to die down, I guess. Not to say like it's not working. It is somewhat working, but it's not like
00:17:11
Speaker
doing well. So and I have kind of accepted that I'm just saying that I have other endeavors that I am really focusing on other things that I can I can work
Temporary Nature of Social Media Popularity
00:17:24
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on. And that's what we need to tell ourselves sometimes that like, well, this is kind of this this wave that I have been writing is kind of coming to an end. And that is okay, because I have been prepared for this, you kind of have to prepare yourself because average social media platform kind of last
00:17:41
Speaker
Not like I'm saying it dies completely, but the popularity lasts maybe four to five years. Then afterwards, it moves on to something else. When you think about it, all of the platforms that first came around, it was so popular. And same thing is even happening with TikTok. It used to be much more popular. Yes, people are still on it, but it's not what it used to be, which is... That's what I'm saying. It's just a thing. It's like it's not going to be popular forever. At one point,
00:18:12
Speaker
the changes is going to happen and people are going to shift their focus into something else, like more shiny object. I feel like it's just social media is just like that.
00:18:25
Speaker
us people, I guess, you know, let me see the first shiny object. We look at it. We look at it for a while. Then let me see another shiny object. We already forget about the shiny object that we were looking at a minute ago. And that's the same thing is like we just move on to something else. And that's just a part of it. I know I was trying to tell myself, so I don't get so hooked on it.
00:18:48
Speaker
I mean, to be fair, I have spent money to grow my channel and spend money to do things, meaning I invested in myself, I learned editing, I learned a course, and I did Photoshop and everything. But I also gained money from it too, so I don't see it in a bad way. My return of investment is definitely good, and I am in the positives for sure.
00:19:15
Speaker
But I'm going to write it as much as I can, but also not kind of think too deep into it that like, oh, my God, this is it. And last, well, there's two last ones that I mentioned.
Importance of Backup Plans
00:19:26
Speaker
Making money with social media is
00:19:30
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double-edged sword because it is absolutely amazing that you can make money with social media because it's just so rewarding for something that you're putting out there, your thoughts, your content. It's just amazing. Like I cannot express the feeling that I, I don't know, I feel every single time I work with a brand that I like or I just work with a brand, I still feel great about it.
00:19:57
Speaker
Yes, there are some occasions that I've had few ups and downs with certain brands, but I overall had a very, very good experience. But I think because of because I make money with social media and sometimes I take it too seriously that I'm like, oh, something could happen or my God, I'm posting this or whatever.
00:20:17
Speaker
Things can happen and we are not in control of this. You just have to know when to pivot and do things. Like, I think I mentioned this once, but very simple example I want to mention. I recorded an ad for Instagram stories and the time I think Instagram was rolling out this new feature for Instagram stories, the usual length of Instagram stories is 15 seconds and they made it to 60 seconds.
00:20:47
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And that day I was like, oh, that's great. So I can make a longer explanation because I really wanted to talk about the product so people can understand what the product is all about versus like making it super short so they can, they cannot, they have to find out themselves. So I recorded each frame because they were asking for three frames. Usually brands always ask for three frame stories and they consider it as one story.
00:21:12
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So I shot it, but each one, one of them was at 60 seconds, rest of them were 30 seconds. So Brenda proved it. But what happened was the next time after they approved, I was about to post it. Instagram decided like, oh, well,
00:21:29
Speaker
60 seconds, you want it? Let me take it back. Did you take it back? So my story is essentially my first story, 60 seconds split into like three or four, then the 30 seconds of them got split into two. So I had like eight stories, eight frames of stories.
00:21:49
Speaker
Which was like, I'm like, that's so ridiculous. No one's going to listen to this. So I cut some bits and pieces. Then I sent it to the brand again to approve it. Then they got it back to me. They understood. But you see, right? Like I pivoted into another direction. I did not have to shoot the content again. Thank God I cut certain pieces to make it more. I tried to be more creative.
00:22:08
Speaker
But I'm just saying, things like this happen because at the end of the day, we have to remember that we are not in control. Yes, we make money with it. We control what we want to post, but we don't own the playground. Like we don't own Instagram. We don't own TikTok. We don't own Twitter. We don't own YouTube. They own it. So it's their playground so they can do whatever they want.
00:22:31
Speaker
And we kind of have to swallow it, whatever they say, and kind of adapt to it. And that's what I have learned over the years to not get upset with new features or new changes, because there is nothing you can do. Yes, you can complain. I mean, imagine for years we have been complaining about chronological order for Instagram. They didn't do anything. They don't give a fuck. They don't care. They're not going to do it.
00:22:57
Speaker
That's what I'm saying. There are many things. Yes, you can talk about it and you can mention it, but it's not going to happen overnight. At the end of the day, all they care is their ad revenue and how much money they can make from ads. And that's the goal of a lot of social media platforms these days, sadly, because yes, initial thing for them is to gain
00:23:20
Speaker
audience gain users that who are engaging with the platform. But afterwards, they have to make money somehow. So an only way they can make money is ads. So just wanted to put it out there. So that makes some clarification.
00:23:36
Speaker
And lastly, and I feel like I have mentioned this quite a lot in one of the episodes I was talking about social media, is that like always have a backup plan because as I mentioned, it's like social media can go away any moment. Like today I have account on social media or account on social media, account on like Twitter, TikTok or whatever. Next day I might not have it.
00:23:58
Speaker
And to this point, I kind of accepted that. I'm like, that is okay. And that's one reason it's good to have backup plans. It's good to not rely on this one place. With social media, but with also everything else in your life, always have a backup plan.
00:24:17
Speaker
It never hurts to be safe. And that's one reason, especially with social media, because it's such an unpredictable platform, unpredictable space. Things happen so fast. I can compare it, and I feel like it's the perfect comparison. I don't know why I'm talking about finance too, but think about crypto.
00:24:41
Speaker
especially the Bitcoin, Ethereum, whatever. It's such a volatile platform, like a coin. I mean, the whole system, the crypto itself is volatile, but like the Bitcoin, Ethereum, like it can go up and down so quickly. Like literally a year ago, it was like 40K Bitcoin and now it's like 20K. I'm just saying, yes, exactly. So there are so many things could happen. It can go up and down and same thing with social media. It can be
00:25:10
Speaker
so rewarding one day, the next day, it does nothing for you. Like, this is the last example I would say, and then we can end this episode. Like, one of my reels on YouTube, on my Instagram, which I posted actually from TikTok,
00:25:29
Speaker
It was doing well for a while and it maybe got like seven or eight thousand views, right? I was like, OK, fine. And I got money from it, from the Reels bonus. I haven't gotten the money directly, but they show me how much money I'm going to get soon. They haven't done the payout, which their payout system is just absolutely ridiculous. But another topic to talk about when it comes to finance on being a creator.
00:25:52
Speaker
But yeah, and today, and the last two days or three days, I have been getting more likes and views and now I think it's at like 18,000 or 17,000 views, which is absolutely insane because it's not like it's something I spend very little effort and I shot it in my car. Maybe that's why it's doing so well. Love my car. Thank you, Smokey. I have to pay her. She's been sponsoring all my videos. But anyways, I'm just saying, like,
00:26:19
Speaker
Yeah, it's doing so well, but my another video is like doing so bad. It's like maybe 2000 views. That's what I'm saying. It's super unpredictable. You can think that like you perfected the algorithm and you know what's going to happen, but you don't. And that's why I'm just saying like, don't take it to the heart.
Episode Wrap-Up and Listener Invitation
00:26:38
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Just play with it, enjoy it, make money with it, but then move on to something else because it's not going to be here forever.
00:26:48
Speaker
Anyways, guys, so that was the episode for today. I hope you guys liked this episode. If you do, please don't forget to rate us on Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts. And I'll see you guys next week with another episode. Bye, guys.