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100th Episode: Sibling Banter & Your Burning Questions!
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🎉🍾 We've hit a MILESTONE! Welcome to the 100th Episode of "Unsolicited Perspectives" where sibling revelry meets deep dives into YOUR burning questions! 🎤🎧 Bruce Anthony and J. Aundrea here, celebrating this landmark episode with a side of banter and a heart full of gratitude. It's a session of unfiltered chats, laughter, and even a dash of Cat Williams talk – all stirred into one epic podcast party. 🥳
From discussing the significance of reaching 100 episodes in the podcasting world (#BigDeal) to delving into the intricacies of dating and self-esteem, no stone is left unturned. We get real about loneliness, settling, and why you should date yourself first before seeking a partner. 🤔💘
This episode isn't just another number; it's a testament to growth, community, and connection. As always, we keep it authentic, whether we're talking about the effects of podcasting on personal life or the surprising fan interactions that keep us grounded and driven. 🌟
Expect nothing less than candid conversations touching on topics that resonate with us on a personal level – because that's what "Unsolicited Perspectives" is all about. We're here to break barriers and make sense of the world together. 💬🌍
So, if you're ready for a dose of real talk sprinkled with sibling humor, hit that play button. And if you love what you hear, don't forget to subscribe for weekly content that stirs the pot and sparks the mind. #UnsolicitedPerspectives #SiblingBanter #PodcastMilestone #CommunityQuestions
📢 Shoutout to our growing community - we've surpassed 1750 YouTube subscribers, and it's all thanks to YOU! 🌈✨ Your support fuels our passion for creating content that matters. Keep sharing with friends (and enemies!), and together, let's amplify voices that need to be heard.
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Remember, this is more than just a podcast; it's a movement. Here's to the next 100 episodes! 🚀🎙️ #EmpathyAndGrowth #CulturalCommentary #CommunityBuilding
Stay tuned, stay engaged, and let's keep the conversations rolling. 🎊👂
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Introduction to 'Unsolicited Perspectives'
00:00:10
Speaker
Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm Bruce Anthony. Your host here to lead the conversation in important topics and events that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation. Follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel to watch our video podcasts. Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share with your friends, share with your family, help, even share with your enemies.
Celebrating 100 Episodes
00:00:37
Speaker
on today's episode. It's the sibling happy hour and it's also the 100th episode. We're going to be answering your questions and also talk a little bit about Cat Williams. But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show. What up, sis? What up, brother? Welcome.
00:01:06
Speaker
We here. 100. As you can see, anybody who is watching us on the YouTubes, I do have my bedazzled 100 tiara. She got that 100 tiara, y'all. Why? Why? This is the 100th episode. This is the 100th episode. Because I am extra. Ain't nothing wrong with celebrating this milestone. No, it's a big deal. It is a big deal. You know, a lot of podcasts don't last. So what? That's true. It's a BFD.
00:01:37
Speaker
Okay. Yeah. Okay. Now I just got, I got that. I didn't get it at first, but BFD. Yeah. I got that. When I hit and then, then I caught it right before. You got it. I got it. It is a big deal. Like a lot of podcasts fail.
00:01:51
Speaker
Sure. A lot of them fail. A lot of them don't keep up with the work. This isn't going to be some self-congratulatory, patting on the back episode. That's not what we're going to do. Why the hell not? We made it to 100 episodes. That's a BFD. And if y'all are going to listen to, give us 30 seconds, y'all, to be like, that's a big deal and we did a good job.
00:02:12
Speaker
Yes, yes, yes, it's a big deal. But you know how I am, personally. You know, me and my sister respond to things a lot differently. I'm always like, meh. And she's always like, it's a celebration. We just respond to things differently. So I know 100 is a big deal. Yes. You gotta celebrate your wins.
Podcast Evolution and Growth
00:02:32
Speaker
Come on now.
00:02:33
Speaker
This is true, but also it's not like when I started this thing, I didn't expect to be here. So it's that constant of, yeah, you know, so it's a hundred episodes. I expected to be here, but also it's a hundred episodes. That's a big deal. That's a big deal. Yeah. You should be very proud. I know I am. That's why I purchased this tiara tiara. Yeah. No, I'm proud.
00:02:55
Speaker
And I'm thankful that we're way bigger now at our 100th episode, way bigger than we were at the very first episode when we were recording this bad boy on Zoom.
00:03:11
Speaker
Remember just how bad this show was when we first started? We didn't even have segments. We were just talking for an hour. And I was actually a friend of ours that said, hey, maybe y'all should think about segments.
00:03:31
Speaker
I was like, oh yeah, that's good. Have some sort of order to the show. Yeah, that's smart. Just some ordering and rundown. I think it was somewhere around the 20th or 30th episode when we actually started doing a rundown. Because before it'd be like, what do you want to talk about? OK, let's talk about this. Right. This would be this segment. This would be this segment. This would be this segment. Very loose.
Audience Engagement and Personal Insights
00:03:52
Speaker
Very, just very by the seat of our pants, yes. Very much. So a lot of people, okay, so we're already answering some of the questions that people said to us, like I said, some of y'all went too far with one of those certain things. Now I have to know what those questions were.
00:04:12
Speaker
Okay. Maybe we'll talk about on the after hours episode, but about our dating lives. Definitely about our dating lives. Types. What's our types? Yeah. Yeah. You know, like things like that. That's a fine answer on that. The answer is I don't have one. I don't have a type. Bad things is the only thing that I like, which is not true because I have definitely dated some
00:04:41
Speaker
Well, dated is a loose term, but definitely, you know. I mean, we've all stepped out of our lane from time to time. You know, loneliness will get you. I'm not going to throw my friend under the bus, but I am.
00:05:02
Speaker
It's your favorite thing to do. Yeah, I throw people on the bus, but I don't ever name names. And I try to always speak in terms where you don't even know their gender. I always try to use they or them. But I was telling them that, you know, the reason why your dating life is a little jacked up right now is because you're lonely, so you're willing to settle for anything. I was like, I think you need to take a step back, build your steam back up because you date
00:05:31
Speaker
your self-esteem. Yeah. If your self-esteem is high, your partner is going to be pretty high. Your self-esteem is low, you will settle for a lot of things that you wouldn't normally settle for. Yeah. All right, that's enough of... You gotta work the kitty shoes. Say what? Guy working kitty shoes? You gotta work the kitty shoes. All right, let's get to these questions, because I went down 14 of them, and that's a lot.
00:05:59
Speaker
So the very first question that I chose to answer, because I thought it was a good one, and we kind of answered it, was how do you get ready for each episode, especially when you're diving into sensitive topics? So all of our stuff is ripped from the headlines. What happened that week?
00:06:20
Speaker
You typically create the rundown. You let me know what the topics are and stuff beforehand. You create the rundown. If I have any input or anything, or anything I want to talk about, I let you know. And that's pretty much it.
00:06:37
Speaker
It depends on, I think there's another question about how deep we get as far as our research and stuff like that. That's actually the next question. Well, that's kind of the question, but I think more specifically what this question is asking or what this listener was asking is, is we talk about
00:07:01
Speaker
stuff that people out there in the world would deem as sensitive topics. They're not sensitive topics for us. So that's the reason why we don't really have a hard time getting prepared to talk about these topics. They're not sensitive to us.
00:07:15
Speaker
They're sensitive by and large to the world because sometimes the world just don't want to address these issues.
Handling Sensitive Topics
00:07:22
Speaker
They don't want to talk about abortion. They don't want to talk about immigration. They don't want to talk about white supremacy and racial discrimination. They don't want to talk about affirmative action, right? They don't want to talk about the attack on transgender people. They don't want to talk about the homophobia that's still
00:07:38
Speaker
permeates throughout our society. They don't wanna talk about that stuff. That's not sensitive stuff to us. That is what we live in. Yeah, you gotta understand, talking about me specifically, I'm a black woman in America. So none of these topics are sensitive to me because they are inextricably linked to my existence in this country.
00:08:05
Speaker
You know, all of these things are part of my lived experience. Racism, sexism, all these things are part of my lived experience.
00:08:15
Speaker
I'm just talking about my opinion based off my lived experience. And even if we're talking about trans rights or things like that, I mean, you're talking about my friends. You're talking about people that I care about. So nothing is going to be too sensitive for me to talk about when it's talking about the freedom and the justice for the people that I love and for myself.
00:08:43
Speaker
or not even people that you love or know, just the freedom and justice of marginalized communities because we're a marginalized community. And I say all the time that we can't be a marginalized community.
00:08:56
Speaker
and not support other marginalized communities. We at the very least will not have understanding exactly for everything that they've gone through. We have a better empathy because we have a slider, greater understanding of what they're going through. And if you recognize somebody else is struggling, like you have struggled,
00:09:16
Speaker
you don't step down or punch down on that person. You stay in your hand, you say, come on with me, because we're in this together. So I guess to the listener or watcher that asked this question, we don't deem these topics as sensitive.
00:09:34
Speaker
That doesn't mean that it's not emotionally taxing. That doesn't mean that it doesn't have some like emotional impact because it's a thing of like we've been dealing with the same things.
00:09:54
Speaker
since we were brought to these shores. Slavery was so long ago. It truly wasn't. And like my grandparents' parents were born into slavery.
00:10:10
Speaker
There you go, four generations. Okay, so it's not so long ago. The trauma of it, the generational trauma, the cultural trauma, all of that stuff, it's not like it doesn't take a toll. If you're asking how do we deal with that, we have a great community of people around us.
00:10:34
Speaker
constantly uplift us and, you know, there's marijuana, there's tequila and... Yes. But I was told not to talk about marijuana so much. No, you can talk about marijuana, but it's like, you will defame me on the show. And I'm just like, hey, man.
00:10:58
Speaker
She's talking about me calling her a pothead, but we're not going to focus on that. And I think back to the listener's question, me and my sister are support for each other. That too. So emotional support for each other.
00:11:15
Speaker
When loads get too heavy, we're both there to kind of be there. That's part of the dynamic of our relationship.
Inclusivity and Diverse Perspectives
00:11:22
Speaker
And really, it's the dynamic of growing up in our house. All of the siblings are very close. The siblings and the parents are all very close. Because in a way, we all grew up together, literally. All of us grew up together. So yes, when we deal with sensitive topics and we're talking about emotional stuff, how do we deal with it? One,
00:11:45
Speaker
We don't look at it as sensitive. We do look at it as emotional taxing. And when it is emotional taxing, we are there for each other. Yeah. That's part of the great thing about having a show with your sibling because we can be there for each other because I know when stuff is difficult for you to talk about, you know, when things are difficult for me to talk about. And so the just part of that dynamic.
00:12:12
Speaker
Yeah, and it's a look, right? Like we've known each other all our lives. So we most of the time know what the other one is thinking. And there's certain facial characteristics that the other one will pick up on. And we're doing this remotely, but we're looking at each other as we're doing it. Yeah. We still step on each other when we're talking sometimes that just happens. ADHD.
00:12:33
Speaker
Right, but there's that connection even though it's remotely, we're there. Okay, I hope we answered that question because we got a lot more to get to. Can you share how you make sure everyone's voice is heard during these discussions? That's pretty easy. If you're talking about the sibling happy hour, I purposely asked my sister to be on because I like hearing her perspective on certain things. She's extremely intelligent.
00:13:02
Speaker
extremely well thought out in what she wants to say and how she wants to convey it. So it's not easy, it's not difficult for me to just step away and let her go. If y'all notice sometimes, I will step away and just let her go on a rant or I would just say, hey, this one's for you, go. Because that's how we want to foster open discussion. Now, if you're speaking to my interviews,
00:13:27
Speaker
I'm bringing them on to discuss the subject. So it's not hard. I'm literally, I'm asking them questions and I want them, I want to hear their responses. I want to hear their answers. It's a conversation and the interviews have gotten better from the first ones that I did to the last one I did, they've gotten better. But yeah, no, we want to hear other voices, unique perspectives.
00:13:53
Speaker
And, uh, our ego is not in it. So I think a lot of times when you get these podcasts, a lot of his people bloviating, they like to hear themself talk. And, um, I mean, but like the people that will over talk that you don't even hear, you barely get two words out of their guests.
00:14:13
Speaker
Or, you know, you barely hear two words out of their co-hosts. That's people with ego in it. Like, we're not approaching this with any ego. Like, the whole point of the show is that you hear, you know, different perspectives, and hopefully, in these different perspectives, you can figure out what you think about it, or it'll solidify whatever position you already had.
00:14:40
Speaker
Yeah. The point is the point of this podcast is to learn.
00:14:45
Speaker
To teach and to learn, right? I will often say that I'm not the smartest person in the room. I'm smarter than most. I know that for a fact. I'm out here in these streets. I'm more intelligent than most. Let me rephrase that. I'm more intelligent than most. But I also know I'm not the most intelligent. And I can recognize that. That's the reason why I don't have an ego. I don't have a problem with admitting that I'm wrong. And I want to hear a different opinion than my own.
00:15:14
Speaker
I might say that different opinion is absolutely freaking stupid, but I still want to hear it and hear the person out and hear what they have to say. So that's not difficult for me. And my sister's right. There's no ego tripping on here. I will get on my soapbox. I absolutely will get on my soapbox. But the reason why I get on my soapbox, the reason why is because I feel like the answer to the question
00:15:42
Speaker
you already have it, you're just denying it. So when I get on my soapbox and I talk about abortion rights, you got the answers to the question already. You refuse to answer the question properly. So I get on my soapbox and I'm like, yo, okay, just look at this logically. What you're thinking is not right. And this is the reason why you're thinking isn't right. And do I come off as pompous sometimes? Yep.
00:16:12
Speaker
Because I am. I am a little pompous sometimes. Because I know I'm right. And I feel like, because I know I'm right. When I get on my soapbox, I know I'm right. You are not helping my no ego. No, no, no, no, no, no. Hold on now. What did I start out by saying? I started out by saying I'm a person that can admit when they're wrong. But when I get on my soapbox, I absolutely know that I'm right about that. I don't do the soapbox too often. You don't. I don't do it during the interviews.
00:16:41
Speaker
I would typically only do it.
00:16:44
Speaker
passionate about your position. I wouldn't, I just wouldn't say, I don't know that I would commit to saying, I know I'm 100% right about this. Okay. See, this is- That's a, you can call me non-committal, but that feels like- All right. And this is another reason why my sister's on the show to bring me down a pic or two. That's right. I didn't quite say what I wanted to say properly.
00:17:14
Speaker
I feel strongly that I am right, but I am always open to listening to opposing viewpoints. But every now and then, I get a muscle flux. You will give people the benefit of the doubt, of at least hearing them out.
00:17:34
Speaker
Yeah, you say that's one of my flaws. I give people too much benefit of doubt. I think you do give to people too much, too much. Um, cause you know me, I just, I'm not going to put up the emotional labor when I know and you know that Google is free. Like don't. Yeah, I know. Just don't. Sometimes people don't know where to go.
00:17:59
Speaker
Google can send you so many different ways. Google is a large, vast research engine. But you know this as a researcher, if you're developing a paper or a thesis, it's a specific point. You need a starting point. You can't just walk into
00:18:21
Speaker
preparing that research blindly. So you need a starting point and sometimes we have to be the people and sometimes other people have to be the people for us to give us the starting point. Then it's up for us and it's up to them when you get that starting point to go do the work.
Podcasting and Personal Life Balance
00:18:37
Speaker
But sometimes people just need a launch pad. I guess if people are
00:18:43
Speaker
being genuine in their curiosity, I will go into whatever diatribe I end up, or whatever rabbit hole I end up falling down. But I think it's the disingenuous questions of, what about black on black crime? I'm not going to answer that again. I'm not going to do it again. People love What About Chicago. And I'm going to tell you this. If you walk up to me and say, What About Chicago?
00:19:11
Speaker
I'm getting to that point in my life at my age where I have little patience for that. I might smack you in your mouth. I don't want to. I don't want to go to jail, but I might smack you in the mouth for saying, what about Chicago? Especially the argument, I don't want to get too deep into Chicago, but especially the argument of we're not focusing on it or we don't care.
00:19:34
Speaker
Dozens of organizations. So many. Black-led organizations, boots on the ground doing work daily in vulnerable areas. All the time. And the fact that you don't know that means it's like you can't even engage me in this conversation, like knock it off. This is true. This is true.
00:19:54
Speaker
Yeah, I hope that answered the question. We hope that answered the question. I forgot what the question was. The question was, how do we make sure that all voices are heard during those discussions? Oh, yeah. That's the point of the show, and also taking our ego out of it. Yeah. That's pretty much it. And my sister, anytime I do get a big eel, she will definitely check me. All right, the next question. What was the toughest episode to record? I had to really think about this.
00:20:23
Speaker
And if I believe it was the first. Yeah. Cause we just did not know what we were doing. Didn't know what we were doing. And we knew we had something. We knew we had something just like as siblings in our chemistry and stuff like that. Like we knew we had something and we knew we had something to say, but it's like, okay, well, how do, how do we do that? How do we actually have a show?
00:20:50
Speaker
How do we actually do it? The genesis of the show was this. I've told it before, all the way back in 2003, I did an internet radio show that my co-partners for my professional wrestling company was doing, came on the show, went back to my brother and sister, said, we should do that because we would be good at it.
00:21:11
Speaker
That was in 2003. Finally, in 2002, after the entire pandemic was when we probably should have started this podcast. 2020, not 2022. Yeah, 2020 is when we probably should have started the podcast. But in 2022 is when we started it. And I just woke up one morning. I think I saw an ad for podcast kit on Amazon. This is how basic our equipment was. I just bought it. I already had the equipment.
00:21:40
Speaker
Yeah, she already had the equipment I did. I just bought it because I said, once I have it, I've got no choice but to start it. I told Jay, I said, Jay, I got it. Let's start it. She's like, how are we going to do it? I was like, I don't know. We've recorded on Zoom and I will figure it out. I did a little bit of research about post-production stuff and just started it. And that first podcast was the hardest because we did a test run that we basically had to get rid of.
00:22:10
Speaker
that we just basically had to get rid of. Not the lost episode that was later used. There's a whole episode that we just deleted because we got 30 minutes into it and we misspoke on a subject. You remember that? No. We misspoke on a subject. We said that we are not something and said it wrong.
00:22:31
Speaker
That's how long ago. I think I remember. It was a very first episode and we were like 20 or 30 minutes in and we said something and it was like, whoa, wait a minute. Hold up. That is not what we meant to say. And we cut it. We deleted the whole thing. I was like, I don't even know if I could edit that out because I didn't know how to edit that.
00:22:51
Speaker
So to me that was the toughest episode because there was no, I think I had a couple of subjects that we were going to talk about, but there was no rhyme or reason, there was no intro music, there was no segment breaks, it was just talking. But I knew once we did it,
00:23:07
Speaker
I'll figure out how to make it better later. Just gotta do it. So that's my advice to anybody. That wasn't one of the questions that was asked, but my advice is if you want to start something, don't try to perfect it before starting it. Just do it. Continuously get better. Regardless of how expensive your equipment is or how much time you spend on it or what programs you buy, this, that, and the third.
00:23:34
Speaker
The first show's gonna suck. The first 10 shows will probably suck. Just record them. Just record them. Just record them. Or whatever it is. Just do it.
00:23:46
Speaker
Just take that first picture, take that first step, you know, uh, take that, you know, do that first interview, whatever it is that you do, draw that first picture, whatever it is that you do, just take the first step. And then next thing you know, you want to take another step and another and another. And next thing you know, you're running. Yeah. And next thing you know, you're on your 100th episode, that part, that part. And we've been doing this show now for 14 months.
00:24:16
Speaker
Mm hmm. Because we started the first show was November of 2022. So yeah, do you know you just get going and then it gets better along the way if you put in the work. This next question is it kind of leads into that. It was how does your personal life shape show content? Well, you kind of already
00:24:42
Speaker
touched on it, we live it. And if we don't live it, we know we're somehow connected to it because of friends or family, and we want to learn more about it.
00:24:55
Speaker
And sometimes you can't go to your friends and family specifically to ask them certain questions because the dynamic relationship, maybe they don't want to talk about it. Maybe they're tired of talking about it. And so you bring on individuals that you interview or you research it to talk about it because you want to learn more. Yeah. So that's how that's how my personal life shapes the show. How does yours?
00:25:20
Speaker
Yeah, I mean, that's exactly right. We're gonna talk about things that feel meaningful to us, even if it's just like pop culture stuff. There's a reason that we talk about everything that we've ever talked about on the show, that we have either some sort of
00:25:40
Speaker
No we have some sort of personal connection to it and it's meaningful for us and these are topics that were passionate about and these are topics that we think. You'd want to know about and we're hoping to foster dialogue with the people who listen that they.
00:25:59
Speaker
talk about it with their friends and family. And even if we're not on the same side of the argument or the issue, I don't know that that matters 100%. It's just like, are we talking about it? Are we moving the needle in some way? So I think my whole motivation for this is
00:26:22
Speaker
to move the needle in some sort of positive direction, to have some sort of impact in some kind of way. Even just a regular bum like me still has something that I think could be worthwhile for people to listen to. So it's a personal connection to everything that we talk about. Yeah. So staying with personal. Mm-hmm.
00:26:48
Speaker
The next question is how do you balance personal life with podcasting? Um, we're pretty strict with our schedule. Yeah. I think more, I think, I think the question is really asking us is how does podcasting affect our personal life and vice versa?
00:27:11
Speaker
So for me, it definitely does for me. And I will say this, not to make it's about me, because this is the sibling happy hour we do this show together. But my sister said it at the top of the hour, not the hour. Geez, what do I think I'm on radio or something? At the top of the hour, we have the deuce. Danny, what's the weather doing out there?
00:27:35
Speaker
I'd say the internet radio show is not real radio. As my sister pointed out, I do the post-production. I do the producing of the show. When I started this, I have a full-time job. I have a real full-time job. Let me rephrase it. Yes, we both do. We both have a full-time job. Now my sister,
00:28:05
Speaker
when she agreed to do this, did not realize how much time outside of actually filming this show actually takes. Let me be honest, I...
00:28:16
Speaker
Did I think 14 months later we still be doing this and be on the 100th episode? No. I was like, I was like, I'll do this, you know, for a little bit and then it'll sort of like taper off. And then I wanted to, cause I think if I, if I were to go back, of course I would still do the show, but I'd be like, every week. By the way, ladies and gentlemen, I asked, I require,
00:28:46
Speaker
an hour and a half recording time of my sister every week. That's it. It goes over. It goes over because of you, not because of me. Sometimes you get it going. You are very talkative. We both are. Stop. Don't throw me under the bus like that. I'm not throwing you under the bus. You talk too much. So do you. You talk too much. And you never shut up. No, but for me, my personal life,
00:29:16
Speaker
I do the post-production. Ladies and gentlemen, if y'all follow us on all the social media and the YouTube and all of that, all those clips and everything, we don't have a staff. I do that. That is me. And that is so tough. We don't have a staff yet. Manifest that. We don't have a staff yet. We will. Even when we do have a staff, I'll be looking over their shoulder. Don't micromanage. That's who I am. No, let it go. Let it trust your staff. I'm not directly over their shoulder. No, yes you are. No, I'm not. And you're too tall for that.
00:29:46
Speaker
But part of it, I enjoy part of it. I really enjoy doing the editing. All right. Time out. I don't enjoy doing the editing of the show anymore. I do enjoy doing the editing for the clips that I do enjoy. But the show, doing the editing for the show, that is very time consuming. So to answer your question, how is this affecting my personal life? I now have two full time jobs. I don't regret it.
00:30:12
Speaker
This is what I chose to do and I actually really enjoy it and love it. Right. Nobody's putting a gun to our head. Like we're choosing to do this. Yeah. But it does affect my personal life. Cause I, people would be like, Hey man, why don't you come out and hang that? I got some shows to edit or I got to do this interview or no, I can't do that. Yeah. Because I have two full-time jobs, but I didn't know it was going to be this time consuming. I don't regret it.
00:30:39
Speaker
Not at all. Now, what's surprising to me is you saying that you thought that this wasn't gonna last that long. I thought you would get bored with it. You don't know your brother. When have I ever said, I'm going to do something and not follow through with it?
00:30:56
Speaker
Yeah, I was projecting. That's me. I do think. No, I do think, but I get hyper focused on stuff, and then the novelty wears off, and then it tapers off. As far as any, how do I handle my personal life with the podcast commitments? Yeah, I mean, sometimes Thursday nights I want to chill.
00:31:20
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You know, I get off work and I'm just like, I got to do my research and stuff for the show or, you know, uh, things like that. We've got to record the show. So yeah, sometimes, you know, I'm tired. I don't want to do it, but it doesn't. And we have to start later. We have to start, we start recording after seven 30 because I'm still working until seven with my regular day job. I'm still working until seven o'clock at night on Thursdays. So.
00:31:48
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which means you're up even later cause you gotta edit the show so that I can go out the next day. And then I'm supposed to take Fridays off, but the last couple of months I've been working Fridays. So it's like, I'm up late doing the post-production so that the show is released on time on Friday. And then I have to work on Friday.
00:32:11
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So, but that sounds like I'm complaining. I'm not complaining. You asked me how's it affect my personal life. I'm giving you the answer. The answer is I
Health and Wellness Tips
00:32:19
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be working. I'm tired. If y'all haven't noticed, if y'all watch on the video, I'm starting to develop bags under my eyes.
00:32:27
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I didn't have it at the beginning. I didn't have it. I'm starting to get wrinkles on my forehead. I didn't have it in the original episodes. The forehead used to be smooth. Now it's like I got like Dwayne Johnson wrinkles on my forehead. I don't know where the hell that came from. All right. And if you're watching, my face got a little bit fatter. My sister's losing weight. I'm gaining weight. That's all about to change because I'm back on my diet for the new year. But I'm just saying. Are you keto again? Are you keto again? I'm going back.
00:32:52
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starting next week because I already started off bad this week. So I said, this is going to be the last week. And then no more chips from Sunday to April 1st. No more chips. Yeah, I gave up sweets and and Uber Eats. I like that it rhymes. But like so. So you have to understand, like even for before the surgery, I went zero sugar.
00:33:17
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So I had not had sugar. And then when I took my sabbatical, I said, I want to do whatever I want. I want to eat some candy or something. And so I got some candy and it was like crack, like it, because I hadn't had sugar in so long. And, uh, yeah, so now I have to kick my sugar. I mean, it's hard because I really want a slice of cake right now.
00:33:40
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Sugar is absolutely addictive. I don't know. I don't know if I remember this correctly and somebody in the YouTube comments will absolutely correct me. I love the YouTube comment community.
00:33:52
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That was me being sarcastic. I do love some of y'all. Some of y'all do not. I believe I saw a study a few years back where they studied sugar and cocaine on the effect of mice, and it had very similar effects. Like sugar is addictive. No, that's absolutely correct. It does have the same effect on the body as more drugs. And this is what I learned when I went keto all the way back in 2019.
00:34:21
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how much food actually has sugar in it. And it's not said on the label, right? A lot of times people won't recognize it in a label, but anytime there's a complex carb, there's sugar involved with it. So the nutritionist of me is about to come out. What is a complex carb?
00:34:39
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complex carbs or your breads, your grains, your pastas, your things, your potatoes, your things of that nature. All that stuff has sugar in it. So when you think they're like, I'm cutting out sugar, no, you're not. No, no, no, you're not. All that stuff breaks down and turns into what? Sugar. Well, glucose, but. That's sugar. Yes. Your sugar. Technically scientific. If it has oce at the end,
00:35:04
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Sucrose, fructose, glucose is a sugar. Well sucrose I think is a sweetener. I don't think necessarily it's a sugar.
00:35:15
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I think Sucrose is shook. We're about to get off topic. ADHD. Way off topic. We're not going to do that. We're going to go back to your questions after this quick break. Hey there, podcast listeners. It's Bruce Anthony here and welcome to another episode of Unsolicited Perspectives. Today, I want to talk to you about something that's been on my mind lately, the importance of staying hydrated and taking care of ourselves.
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Mental Health Awareness
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Stay refreshed, stay hydrated and keep rocking those unsolicited perspectives.
00:38:23
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All right, so my sister did a little research and what'd you find out, Jay? Sucrose is the chemical name for table sugar. It is actually sugar. Yeah, like I think it's just a sweetener. Yeah, no, so I was absolutely wrong. See, ladies and gentlemen, check my ego right there. But that's enough of us detour. Let's get back to your questions. Um,
00:38:46
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Any instances where your life experiences played a big role in shaping a podcast episode, specifically us. I can't, off the top of my head, think of anything personally. I mean, I talk about my personal life when I just do the show all by myself. I tell everybody about, you know, crazy dating stories. But I don't remember there being a specific instance where I was like, okay, I gotta talk about this.
00:39:16
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on the show unless I'm throwing people's confidences that they tell me personal stories. And I just say, a friend told me this, a friend told me that. Yeah. But for you when you had your surgery, OK, ladies and gentlemen, yes, I'm absolutely messy. I love when people tell me gossip. I love gossip. Yeah. I won't. I'm not messy in my personal life. Right. But I'll be in everybody else's mess.
00:39:45
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You will not share, but you will definitely consume. Yes. Yes. I ain't sharing. This is my one cuss word. I ain't sharing shit. Well, not true. I talked about crypto after three months. Yes. I did talk about crypto. And this is something. OK. It didn't happen right at that time. It happened three months earlier. But if you watch the episode,
00:40:12
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You can absolutely tell I got emotional and I had to cut it. Yeah. Because there's a, there's a cut, there's a cut and you see the eyes. They real, they real, you know, they, they little bloodshot because brother had to, you know, stop and cry a little bit. Uh, we're not going, let's matter of fact, let's switch the subject right now. Well, you had a whole episode where you let people see a deeper look into who you are. I think,
00:40:40
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Oh, the 50th episode. Yeah, I think the way in which your life experience shaped that episode is that typically you are not an open book like that. And it was you stepping out of your comfort zone. Whereas like me, everybody, if anybody has been listening to the show from the beginning, y'all know I struggle with anxiety and depression. I struggle with ADHD. When I got the ADHD diagnosis, I told everybody about that.
00:41:08
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Y'all know about my weight loss journey and I had bariatric surgery. I wouldn't say I'm an open book, but I would say the way in which my life experience shaped the way I present on the show, not necessarily show topics, is that I know what it's like to feel like
00:41:30
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you're alone in whatever issues you're in, like whether it's anxiety, depression,
00:41:38
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whatever it is. I had an eating disorder when I was a teenager, like whatever it is, there are times where you feel like you're alone. And not only that, there was such a stigma attached particularly to mental health. So when I'm more vocal about it, it's because I want to normalize people talking about it. Like we all struggle with our mental health is like our physical health is like our emotional health is like our spiritual health.
00:42:08
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we all have times we're feeling up and times we're feeling down. That's universal for everybody. Everybody has had a moment or maybe it's chronic where you have struggled with your mental health. I know a lot of particularly women, particularly black women are getting ADHD and autism diagnoses in their 30s and 40s.
00:42:35
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because they spent their entire life masking and didn't know.
00:42:40
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You know, so when I, when I talk about these things, talk about my life experience or things that I'm going through, how I present on the show is to normalize the discussion of it. Um, so that people don't feel as afraid when somebody asks you, yeah, how, you know, how are you doing? I'm like, Hey, you know, this, this week was tough week, but I'm, I'm, I'm feeling better. You know, like it's okay. You don't have to say I'm fine if you're not fine.
00:43:08
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So that's what I wanted to get across in the way that I present on the show. And I think that's so important because that's exactly what I try to do as well. Well, kind of, sort of, I'm not as open as you are. I will say openly that I suffer from anxiety. And it's funny because I come from the generation, 90s, hip hop, where
00:43:37
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can't be soft, got to be hard all the time. And I'm like, who wants to do that all the time, man? That's the reason why so many people, so many men are dying of heart attacks and strokes, we hold it all in instead of talking about it. I have two, my bestie I don't ever have to say that, I don't ever have to do that with, because she's a female, not to say that men and females are different. Hold on, I'm not going to sugarcoat that. Men and females are different when it comes to dealing with emotions.
00:44:03
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women are by and large, generally speaking, are a lot more vocal in expressing their emotions than men are.
00:44:11
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I said by and large, generally speaking. I put all types of caveats on that. No, but I mean, it's not something that's inherent. Like it's a societal construct. It's what we're allowed to do. You're absolutely right. Yes. By society, men are not allowed to express the full breadth of their emotions because that's somehow an attack on their masculinity, which is absolutely ridiculous. Right. We're taught as young children.
00:44:41
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Little girls can cry. Little boys can't cry. Right. So I never have a problem telling my bestie, because she's a female, I love you. We never have a problem going back and forth with that. My two other best guy friends, one of them, never have a problem with saying, I love you. Hey, love you, brother. Love you, too.
00:45:01
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other one, you know, we know we know he does. Right. And you know who I'm talking to. I'm talking to you. We know you love us. Yeah. And it just it just happened. I think on New Year's or Christmas, we send, you know, Merry Christmas or Happy New Year's, guys. I love you. Hey.
00:45:17
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The other one was like, hey, man, love you too. And another friend was like, Happy New Year. And I was like, just tell us you love us, dude. Like, I know you do. But he comes from that old school. It's just like, men are men. And this is like, nah, man. And it's like, well, I don't have those separate emotions. Yeah, you do. You're just suppressing it. You got them.
00:45:37
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You got them. And you suppress it and it comes out as anger. Not saying him in particular, but I'm just saying by and large, you suppress emotions. It comes out in anger. So if you're an angry person, it's got a quick temper. Because you resent other people who are able to express their emotions. That's where it comes from. Whenever you see somebody and all they can express is rage,
00:46:01
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It's twofold. It's one that's that's the only thing that they were taught that they could express was joy and rage. And that's it. And and also it's a resentment of people living authentically who just dropped the bar there.
Guest Interactions and Expectations
00:46:21
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Just drop the bar. Let's go to the next question. And this one. All right. So people, like I said, people asked about relationships and dating and stuff like that. This was the closest one to one of these questions that I was like, all right, we'll answer this one. How is doing the show or has doing the show had any impact on your personal relationships? Um, no. OK, none for you.
00:46:49
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Well, I think it's opened up conversations with people that I might not have normally had because they listen to the show and they think something that I said was interesting or they don't agree or they do agree or whatever. So I think it's opened up dialogues with people.
00:47:09
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that ordinarily I'd be like, I didn't even know you thought about that stuff. Hell yeah, we could talk about it. What's up? It's so funny. I have a nephew, one of my friend's sons, and he will hit me up when he comes across
00:47:26
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you know, some social justice issue, and he doesn't quite understand what the problem is, or he's trying to wrap his mind around it. He's like, I just want to get your thoughts on this, Auntie. And we'll have a whole conversation about it and try to get him to develop his own thought process. I'll give him my opinion, but I don't like to lead him to an answer. I'll be like, what do you think about this? Or have you thought about it like this?
00:47:54
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Yes, definitely. But as far as any kind of negative impacts, nah, not really. Except for the people who want to come on the show and we'd be like, nah.
00:48:04
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Yeah, there's, okay, so there's that, right? Like there are some people who's like, why don't you like, come on, let me, come on the show. I'm like, what are we going to talk about? You know, we can just, I like now. Okay, so you just want to be on the show to be on the show for what? I don't, I don't think people really understand what it's like to do a show, right? You think that you can just get up, people just think that they could just get up and start talking.
00:48:25
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but there cannot be dead air. There can't be three to five seconds of silence, unless it's like you're laughing or something or something like that. But when you're having speech and your conversations with people, you can't have a five second lapse of nothingness. You automatically lose the listener or the watcher. So,
00:48:51
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People could come on here thinking that it has something to say, not really be able to articulate it expansively, right? And they're like, oh, I said everything I need to say in five minutes. Well, we got another 45 to 55 minutes now. It's not easy to fill an hour. It's not. It is for us because we can talk. It is for us because ADHD and we can talk. But it's not easy to fill an hour. So. Oh, it's not.
00:49:20
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And a lot of times, people are like, I feel really strongly about this. I want to talk about it. Great. Let me hear what you say. Yada, yada, yada. OK. Right. Well, that's it? Yeah. OK, well, that's it. How did they respond again when you said that's it? Yeah. OK, but that was about 45 seconds. Right. You said all you needed to say in 45 seconds.
00:49:49
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A segment is 15 to 20 minutes. One segment. That's not a no. Like, no. You can't come on the show. Yeah, I've told a lot of people no. I've told a lot of people no. I don't. And they've gotten offended. And I'm just like, and I'm really not gentle with it. At my older age, I'm really not gentle. I'm very blunt and direct. I was actually really proud of you that one time.
00:50:17
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Yeah, I know you were. It's a no now and it's a no tomorrow. And I was like, you know what? I like that. You didn't know that I stand on business when it comes to business. I don't stand on business in personal life, but I stand on business when it comes to business. I never had that chance to see that side of you. And I really, I was like, the respect for you, it just even went, it went even higher.
00:50:41
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Okay. I was glad you said even higher because I was about to be like, I can't actually respect for you. I obviously respect you. You're my older brother. All right. So for me, this is the funny thing. I have friends that listen to the show that whether they realize it or not in the time that they're talking to me is giving me content. Yeah.
00:51:09
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because I will often go on a side tangent of my friend or this person that I know and this and that.
00:51:18
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And a few of my friends have said, I'm not telling you nothing else no more. I was like, why? Because you was talking about on the show. I was like, they don't know that I was talking about you. I didn't say your name. I didn't even say the gender of the person. Most of the time, I don't even say the gender of the person. I was just like, I got to be careful what I say around you. I was like, I didn't. I told your business, but nobody knows it's your business. Right.
00:51:40
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And the few people that I have had on to tell their business, one person, Allie, did not want me to give her a real name. She wanted to talk about the time that,
00:51:52
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She was on the Metro and she was drunk and yeah, I drove her home And I was like you don't have to show your face or anything when I had to give you a real name And I had another friend on when I was giving relationship advice to and I was like you don't like the way you look right now That's
Pre-show Rituals and Energy Maintenance
00:52:06
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okay. You don't have to be on video. Right? Can I can I use your name like that? Like I protect people I protect my sources. Okay, I did go I did start in journalism for
00:52:19
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a little bit. So I will protect my sources. Yeah. But that's how personal relationships people be like, I don't want to tell you this because you can put it on the show. And I tell them odds are yeah. And now it's gotten to the point where people tell me something that's like, I'm gonna be real honest with you. I'm gonna talk about this on my show. Yeah.
00:52:36
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I'm like, this is too good. I'm going to talk about this on my show. Like, I'm going to do it. Like, just let you know. Just to let you know, if you listen in, something's going to sound real familiar. Real familiar. Yeah. OK, so the next question, we kind of already answered this, but I think we can get in a little bit more detail about it. What are our personal habits or rituals that help us get ready for the show?
00:53:02
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We do spend a few minutes chatting before you actually hit record, just to kind of catch up a little bit, get in the zone. That's evolved over time. Because it used to be talking about how the show was going to go. And then recently, I recently, over the last couple of months, I've cut that out. And I said, sometimes it feels like to me, because my sister and I have different outlooks on life. She's always thinking,
00:53:32
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That's good. And I'm always thinking that could be better. That wasn't that good. So I was thinking that we weren't starting off right. And so I said, hey, I think we should just chit chat. Don't even talk about the show. Just chit chat before we get started so that we're already laughing and joking so that when we hit the ground running,
00:53:53
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We have that energy where I thought some of the shows took a little while to start picking up on energy. That's the reason why we always start with Dilly Daddling. Yeah, because that's new. But that is like that happened kind of like in the middle, like around the 50th episodes that we started doing that.
00:54:11
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It really happened organically, too. I think we just opened a show where we were just talking about nothing. And it was like, yeah, it's actually good for the first segment. All right, let's go. Let's go with it. We got a positive response. So we were like, all right, just go with it. Everybody knows Bruce is the sibling happy hour. So there's going to be a cocktail. That's another time. I don't have cocktails all the time. We always got a little something to drink, something, you know, whatever. I'm not always drinking on every episode.
00:54:41
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And I'm not always smoking on every episode. Well, we've had a conversation about the smoking before we started doing that episode. Right. So that was a ritual that we had to get rid of. Yeah. I was editing the shows. I was like, Jay, you said 17 words in an hour and 30 minutes. I still do not think that that's true. I think I was speaking.
00:55:05
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I got the transcripts. I got the transcripts where it says my name in the words and your name in the words. And there was one episode where you were high and I spoke for 80% of the episode. Anyway, another one of my rituals is, is setting up my room. Like my room does the background behind it. I don't know what's going on with the light on my TV right now. I don't know. I think that's kind of dope though. It should be flashing.
00:55:30
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It's usually just blue, so I don't know what's going on with that right now. But just my room doesn't look like this ordinarily. So the whole process of setting my room, it just helps me get in the zone. It's just another one. I didn't even think about that as a ritual. And then what up, sis? What up, brother? Yeah.
00:55:55
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That's part of the show, but we didn't even realize that that was a thing until a viewer pointed that out. He was like, you always say that. Is that your catchphrase? And I was like, what? And then I was going back. I was like, we do always say that. And that's not something that I got to practice. That's literally how we greet each other. Yeah, how we greet each other. So yeah. So for me, my personal rituals are making sure everything is set up.
00:56:23
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making sure that I have my rundown sheet in front of me and doing my throat exercises. So that's a new thing, doing throat exercises. Cause I noticed, you know, I get dry mouth real quick. I started smacking.
00:56:37
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And I get nasally. And listen, we got these pop screens on our mics and everything, but it still pick up every little pop. Every. Every. Everything. It's still. Everything. Yes. People be like, why you got that big thing? It's because y'all don't understand. I'll be popping a lot when I talk. OK. I'll be popping a lot. All right. Next question.
00:57:05
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And I thought this was almost been at this one hour. No, but I knew this show, I knew this show was going to be longer than our normal hour. I told you that's the reason why we're not filming after hours right after this. I said, this show was probably going to be about an hour and a half. Well, no, let's be real. A lot of our shows in that 100 span episodes, sibling happy hours was close to an hour and a half. So they run long. They run. We try to keep it to an hour.
00:57:32
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Yeah, we tried to, but hey, look, it's the 100th episode, right? We giving y'all what we giving y'all, because we trying to give y'all what y'all want. Right.
00:57:41
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Hey, I think that should be a slogan. No. We're giving y'all what y'all are giving it. We're giving y'all because we think. Not everything. You already forgot it, first of all. But not everything. I didn't forget it already. Wait, but we're giving you what we're giving you because we're giving you what you want. I don't know. You already forgot it. It sounded smooth the first time I said it, though. All right. I hate your guts. That's another thing. I hate my sister's guts if y'all didn't know. Well, that answers the next question.
00:58:11
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Yeah, because what's the most... Jesus, it'd be better if I could actually speak. What's the most significant thing y'all just... Just pay some pretty, just pay pretty. People might not get that. All right. If you know old Eddie Murphy and Sad Night Live, you'll get it. Yeah.
00:58:26
Speaker
I would love to get out this question. Go ahead. I've been in it after three times. I'm trying to. Can I get it out now? It's so funny. Stop not stopping you. You literally are stopping me. That's exactly the reason why I've been able to do it. All right. What's the most significant thing you discovered about each other? I sure hate my guts. No, come on now. No. We know I don't hate your guts. No, we tell each other we hate each other's guts constantly. It makes me love each other. Yeah, it's a term of endearment.
00:58:55
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Um, that we actually have more in common as far as our views on different issues than I thought we would. Like a lot of times you'll come with stuff and you'll be like, you'll probably disagree. And then you'll say something and I'll be like, no, I actually agree with that.
00:59:14
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I think that's happened like three times. No, I think that's happened more than three. I think when we talk about stuff, there have been times and I remember these instances where you'll say something or I'll say something and the other will disagree. Like that has definitely happened. But I think whenever we bring up topics or things to talk about, typically you and I agree more often than we don't. And that was surprising to me because I thought for sure,
Personal Growth Through Podcasting
00:59:44
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I'd be like, oh boy, I'm going to have to bring him in. Yeah, you know why you thought that. Because you used to be a male chauvinist. Absolutely. I would not shy away from that, from the man that I used to be. I was a male chauvinist, cheater, selfish, self-absorbed human being. Now,
01:00:06
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I'm no longer a cheater. I'm trying not to be a male chauvinist. I think I've come a long way from that. You definitely have. Am I still self-absorbed sometimes? I mean, I think all of us are a little self-absorbed. Self-absorbed sometimes. Yeah, that's the natural human condition is to care about yourself. I do not believe that I'm selfish anymore.
01:00:27
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I don't believe in selfish anymore. You like to do what you want to do, even if other people don't want to do it. OK. You want to watch the movie you want to watch. Hold on. All right. It was only that one time. Everybody in the room is already watching Jack Reacher and enjoying it. OK. Let's get into this. Ladies and gentlemen, my dad was showing off. He's got a media room. And when I say a media room, it's a movie theater. And when I say a movie theater, it's a legit
01:00:56
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movie theater in his home. This is America. A lot of people have those. Yeah, this is not well. You know anybody else that personally got a movie theater in their home? Yeah, one of my friends does. A movie theater like Dads? Yeah, it's pretty close. Yeah.
01:01:15
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I think a lot of people are putting them in the, you know, you got that extra little room and a lot of people are putting them in there. He doesn't have an actual little room. It's a thing. It's a thing. It's neither here nor there. We were watching Jack Reacher.
01:01:30
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And we were enjoying it. Not the TV series, which I think is really good. The Tom Cruise Jack Reacher, which also is pretty good. Jack Reacher is pretty good. Yeah, we were all enjoying it. Everyone in the room was enjoying it. But you just had to see Superman or something. I just wanted to see what Superman looked like with all the super surround sound and big movie theater atmosphere. I wanted to see what it looked like. Do it on your own time. How am I going to do it on my own time when it's at Dad's house?
01:01:59
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That's for you to figure out. But we were watching Jack Reacher. And you just had to do what you wanted to do. And you broke the damn system. All right. No, I didn't break the system. You did break it. It stopped working after I started messing. That's called breaking it.
01:02:17
Speaker
It was temporarily inoperable. Temporarily. Just for a short period of time. That's called broken. It became operable when the technician came out. And made it operable again. Ladies and gentlemen, y'all don't understand. I thought I broke my dad's media room, movie theater. I was like, I don't know how much it's going to cost, but I know whatever cost. I ain't got it.
01:02:46
Speaker
I was like, I'm so sorry, dad, I'm so sorry. It basically ruined the evening. So yeah, okay, all right. I'm not as selfish as I used to be. Can I say that? Yes. All right, all right. Did I show any selfish nature when I was down there to visit? No, we had a good time. Good time, you know what I'm saying?
Fan Interactions and Achievements
01:03:05
Speaker
All right, the last question is a two-parter. Do you have any memorable fan interactions
01:03:15
Speaker
And what achievements are you proudest of since the podcast began? I did. So I was at a birthday party. And one of the guests, I met her like once before that, but only in passing. And she's a friend of a friend. And she came up to me and she said, you and your brother are so funny.
01:03:39
Speaker
And I thought she was talking about her other brother. And I was like, but I was still confused. I was like, what? Because he wasn't there at the party. And so I was like, what? And she was like, the podcast. And it took me so long to like to register what was actually happening. I was like, wait, wait, wait, wait. You listen? And then you like and then like you came up to me to like. Tell me like you like you're
01:04:09
Speaker
You're our audience? It was so shocking to me. It was the first time that typically that doesn't happen to regular people. It just doesn't happen that people come up to you and be like, hey, I just love what you're doing. Oh, thank you. Yeah, it was awesome. And my proudest achievement are YouTube followers.
01:04:33
Speaker
Yeah. Are YouTube followers? Yeah. Because we did not project the numbers that we projected as far as getting subscribers much lower than where we ended 2023. It exceeded both of our expectations. We surpassed 17
01:04:58
Speaker
50. So we suppressed 1750 people or subscribers on a YouTube. And we were projecting we were hoping to get 500 by the end of the year. Yeah. So that was that that that is a really something I'm really proud of. I'm also really proud of just the audio version. Even before the YouTube took off, the audio version was being heard and
01:05:25
Speaker
all over the world, like all over throughout the United States, all throughout North America, Central America, South America, y'all need to pick it up. But Europe and certain parts in Africa and I was just like, wow. Like one, how are they finding us? And two, thank you for finding us. And it wouldn't be one-offs, it would be consistent.
01:05:46
Speaker
So I thought that was, that was really cool. So, um, I guess that's, I guess that's what I'm proudest of. I'm proudest of, you know, y'all really, you like us. You really like us. Another thing is we, we went kind of viral.
01:06:03
Speaker
On Instagram. That one video on Instagram. Yeah. It's almost at 70,000. Yeah. Views. Um, over 5,000 comment. You know, you're, you know, you're getting somewhere when they start to have a fight in your comments. That was funny when they, they not arguing with us. No commentors in the Instagram posts are arguing with each other over their comments. And it's like, we made it.
01:06:32
Speaker
we made it something like it something like it when they start fighting each other and that's that's where you know you made it yeah yeah that was really proud um have i had any fan interactions not in not i guess in person person
01:06:47
Speaker
There are people that I didn't realize that are somehow connected to me, that listen to the show regularly, that will come up to me and be like, I really enjoyed this, I really enjoyed that. And I know I disappoint some of them because they want to have a conversation with me about whatever it was I was speaking about. And I'm like, you have to remind me because
01:07:10
Speaker
I do these shows and as soon as I cut them off and added them, everything that was said was gone. Yeah. Right. The only time I get remembered about what happened on what episode is the clips. Yeah. Oh yeah. I do remember us talking about that. But sometimes people bring up stuff and I'm just like, I'm sorry to be a disappointment. I don't really know what episode you're talking about. Yeah. But if you can refresh my memory, maybe I remember. Yeah. That's been cool.
01:07:35
Speaker
Really, it's been a few commenters on a YouTube that have just been consistent, consistent watchers, and will comment. And their comments aren't vague comments. They genuinely watched the entire episode. And they have comments or questions, or they want to hear viewpoints or certain things. And I'm like, that's really dope. And I even encourage the haters. When they make comments, it's like, hey,
01:08:04
Speaker
You're watching. You hate watching, but you're
Cultural Commentaries on Cat Williams
01:08:07
Speaker
watching. So, you know, so I guess that that's yeah, thanks for the views. So that's the fan interactions and what I'm most proud of. Yeah. And that's the end of the questions. But that's not the end of the episode because something happened this week that we need to talk about. Let's talk about it. And it's the Cat Williams interview. And we're going to get into that next.
01:08:37
Speaker
All right, Jay, like we said, something funny happened this week. Club Shae Shae is a podcast that is done by Shannon Sharp. He should be most known for being one of the greatest tight ends to ever play the game. I think he's a three-time Super Bowl winner. TV personality, and he has a podcast that he does. Club Shae Shae doing very good work.
01:08:59
Speaker
on his podcast. Recently this week had Cat Williams, the comedian, on his show. If y'all don't know who Cat Williams is, he was Money Mike off of next Friday, Bobby Shaw on My Wife and Kids, Joe the Policeman in the What's Going Down episode of That's My Mama. Excuse me, that was Randy Watson, excuse me. But he's been in the comedy game for a very long time, has a whole bunch of specials.
01:09:25
Speaker
He recently went on Shannon Sharpe's podcast, Club Shae Shae, and literally just went loose. Unloaded. He unloaded. And what I will say, and I've listened to or watched the majority of the podcast, about 85% of it, he told some lies and he told some truths. Yeah.
01:09:49
Speaker
I watched the whole thing. I watched the whole thing on like between 1.5 and two times the speed. So it made it seem even more unhinged. I highly recommend, even if you've already seen it, watch it again on two times speed. It's even funnier. But yeah, it was a mix of truth and lies. You could take it with a grain of salt. But
01:10:16
Speaker
Uh, there were a few comedians, Steve Harvey, Cedric the Entertainer, Ricky Smiley, who were on Shannon's show. They said some things that Kat did not agree with. And so he took that opportunity. Right. And so that's, that's what I said to one of my friends. One of my friends said, I don't know why he did this, you know, it's crabs in a barrel. And I said, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
01:10:43
Speaker
These were people that were on Shannon Sharpe's podcast that said things. He's responding. You are well within your rights when somebody says something about you that you don't necessarily agree with to be able to defend yourself. And that's essentially what he did. Just because he etherd them doesn't mean that it came out of nowhere.
01:11:04
Speaker
Right. It came from somewhere. It was a response to things that were said that involved him or involved people that he respected, such as Bernie Mac.
01:11:14
Speaker
Right, and like I said, there was a lot of truth in what he had to say. Now, did he read 3,000 books a year and run a 4-3-40? No. Was he accepted to college at age seven? Listen. No. Probably not. No. Okay. Probably not. Was Steve Harvey wearing a wig? Yes. We all knew that. That is absolutely true. We all knew that. Is Ricky Smiley
01:11:42
Speaker
a really, really talented comedian? No. Is he a really, really talented actor? No. No. He's not. Is Cat Williams 5'5"? No, he is not. Yes, he is. He said that, and then he said Kevin Hart was 5'2". He is not three inches taller than Kevin Hart. Kevin Hart is in 5'2". I've met Kevin Hart. I have not met Cat Williams. I've met Kevin Hart. I've stood next to him, shook hands, dapped him up.
01:12:13
Speaker
He is a short man. He's probably around 5'4". He's not 5'2". 5'4", sounds about right. I don't know that I believe that Cat Williams is 5'5". Did Cedric the Entertainer steal his joke? Now, I've watched the side-by-side comparisons and they are similar. I don't think Cedric the Entertainer actually stole his joke.
01:12:38
Speaker
Are they similar? They are similar. Because he says verbatim, he just changed my car. I didn't watch the side by side. No, it's not verbatim. It's not verbatim. It's not. It's not verbatim because I watched it. It's not. But it is similar. Is it the same setup premise punchline? Yes and no. Cat Williams is talking about riding through the streets, cruising.
01:13:03
Speaker
in a car that's kind of hard to start get going, like an old deuce and a quarter or something like that.
01:13:09
Speaker
Cedric the Entertainer actually said a deuce and a quarter. Cat Williams said something else. Cedric's joke is about how they're going in the outer space and saying black folks want to go there too. We'll go in anything, we'll go in a deuce and a quarter and we'll spaceship it and we'll be blasting music along the way. So that premise of the joke is similar. But Cat said it's verbatim, it's not verbatim.
01:13:36
Speaker
But I don't know the comedy game. If you take a kernel of somebody else's joke and kind of craft it a little bit differently and make it your own, is that stealing a joke? I don't know the rules of the stand-up comedy game, but it's not verbatim. I think it is. Well, then he stole the joke there. And the thing that bothers me the most about it is that when Shannon Sharp asked Cedric the Entertainer about stealing the joke, he said the timeline doesn't add up or just it doesn't line up. That's not a no.
01:14:05
Speaker
Right. And the timeline does add up. Cat Williams did it on Comic View. Yeah, Cat Williams did it on Comic View, which aired before The Kings of Comedy. That's just a timeline. Steve Harvey did try to sabotage Bernie Mac.
01:14:27
Speaker
He did try to get hired on Ocean's Eleven. And that is an absolute lie that Steve Harvey said I didn't want to be a movie star. Cat Williams is right. Yes. Steve Harvey isn't a movie star. No. Because Cat Williams is right. Steve Harvey doesn't speak well. Yeah. He is, in fact, a country pumpkin. Yes. Now, Bernie also didn't speak well, but he did it in such a way that was comical that it didn't sound as bad as what Steve Harvey does.
01:14:58
Speaker
Bernie just had a star quality. That's another thing. He was just a star. I wanted to watch him. I wanted to watch him star in things. I wanted to see his movies. I wanted to see his TV shows. I can't say the same thing about Steve Harvey. No, I mean, don't get me wrong. I liked the Steve Harvey show. The Steve Harvey show was funny. But it was a rip of hanging with Mr. Cooper.
01:15:24
Speaker
I didn't even realize that until he broke it down and it absolutely was a rip out hanging with Mr. Cooper. And I did not know that he used the tour with Mark Curry. And that is funny that he was touring with Mark Curry. It was Mark Curry's tour, but Steve Harvey has never done anything with Mark Curry. So that's interesting. Also, I've heard it on other interviews with DL that
01:15:52
Speaker
It was originally Guy Torrey hosting Cedric the Entertainer and Steve Harvey. And Steve Harvey was supposed to be the closer. He was the closer. He was the closer, but Steve said he couldn't close because Seth and Bernie would go too long.
01:16:11
Speaker
And then when they brought in DL, they would go too long. So then they started mixing up the closers. But if anybody's watched the Kings of Comedy, and I know it was filmed differently to make Bernie the Closer, he may not have been the Closer that night, but Bernie is the king of that group. Yes. And if you are, if Cat Williams is to be believed that the producer of the show made the decision to change the lineup and put Bernie as the Closer.
01:16:38
Speaker
I mean, yeah, because Bernie should be the closer. Yeah, because he shut that show down. Like he was the perfect ending. Yes. And he was the funniest one.
01:16:50
Speaker
by far the funniest one. By a mile. And yes, the Kings of Comedy didn't do a second tour because Bernie kind of didn't want to do it. But that's because Bernie and Steve Harvey didn't get along. Now, you may not understand that now if you watch the Steve Harvey show because he does all these remembrance episodes, remembrance. What's the word I'm looking for? Like a memoriam? Memoriam, thank you. Memoriam episodes for Bernie
01:17:17
Speaker
But they wasn't really rocking like that, because think about it. Bernie Mac never appeared on the Steve Harvey show. Not once. Steve Harvey never appeared on the Bernie Mac show. Well, neither this said or DL. So none of them really appeared on the Bernie Mac show now that I think about it. And Bernie never appeared on any of their shows. So Bernie was just like, I'm just going to do my own thing. Yeah. And what happened? He became a star. He was starring in his big movies.
01:17:44
Speaker
Now Kat got his own issues. He's got issues with Kevin Hart. That seems like it's coming from hatred. I did a little bit of research. Fool's Russian was a movie that Kat Williams was originally supposed to have the Kevin Hart role. Yeah. He was cast in that role, but he was having legal trouble.
01:18:03
Speaker
and couldn't go to the filming in Australia, so it went to Kevin Hart. He's been better ever since then. I also do know the time that I met Kevin Hart, it was my friend who was working on the TV show, While and Out, which Kevin Hart and Kat Williams were both on, kind of while they were doing stand-up, right? I then went to Chocolate Sundaes at the Comedy Factory in LA. I think this was called a Comedy Factory. I know it's called Chocolate Sundaes.
01:18:31
Speaker
Cat Williams was the closer back then, not Kevin Hart. Cat Williams was a bigger star than Kevin Hart. Now you can't compare the two. Kevin Hart is global. Cat Williams is national. Now, I still feel like Cat Williams' standups are funnier than Kevin Hart's now, because Cat Williams has had to, Kevin Hart used to have really, really funny standups. The last couple of them, they've been okay.
01:18:59
Speaker
So, Cat Williams, there is some bitterness because Kevin Hart has not been on Club Chez Chez and hasn't thrown any shade towards him. The only shade that Kevin Hart threw at him was on the Breakfast Club a couple of years ago because Tiffany Haddish was originally on the Cat Williams tour, but he didn't do anything.
01:19:18
Speaker
for her. And when you think about it, Kevin Hart has brought up young comedians to try and give them an opportunity that Cat Williams hasn't. Yeah. So there might be some truth to that. But like I said, a lot of things I don't know about Harvey Weinstein, offer him to give him fellatio. He suggested that I don't know about that. I think he might be lying. He's also a comedian. What I will say is that the interview was definitely entertaining. It was very entertaining and funny. And now
01:19:47
Speaker
Now, I am a big Faison fan, just on the strength of baby's kids, okay? And parenthood. And parenthood. But is it true that he ain't got no specials? Yes. That is absolutely true.
Ethics in Comedy
01:20:03
Speaker
So, is he, should he be in this conversation or be giving his two cents? I mean, if y'all ask him the question, a man is gonna give his opinion.
01:20:13
Speaker
He's also been a stand-up comedian, like he goes all the way back to Robin Harris. That's how long he's been a stand-up comedian. And he got no specials. Yeah, yeah. And it is true that Sid does have specials, but you can't find him on Netflix or TV. No, he does have one on Netflix. He does have one on Netflix. Yeah, he does one on Netflix. It's not funny.
01:20:36
Speaker
but the show, the neighborhood, I do find funny, but do I find it funny because of Schmidt or do I find it funny because of Cedric the Entertainer? Both, or Tashina Arnold?
01:20:49
Speaker
or Tashina Arnold. Or actually the girl from Two Broke Girls, cause Two Broke Girls is a low key funny show. Two Broke Girls is a funny show. I highly read, that's a good show. See me asking her how to make comedies, I guess, or are we just getting old? I think it's the ensemble cast, really, that came in for me. Really good casting. It's same as the- Since The Entertainment was the star of the Steve Harvey show, I felt that he was funnier than Steve Harvey was on that show.
01:21:15
Speaker
I felt like he was a sidekick on that show. He wasn't a star of that show. That was his role, but he was funnier. Yeah, because, listen, Steve Harvey is funny. He is funny. He is funny. He is funny. He's not the funniest. Well, I think on the Kings of Comedy is Bernie Mac, DL, Cedric, and Steve. Yeah.
01:21:36
Speaker
I agree. D.L. is still funny. Yeah, and D.L. is still out here working. He had nothing bad to say about D.L. He said there would be no D.L. slander on this episode. He is great. Yeah, he had nothing bad to say about Dave Chappelle.
01:21:51
Speaker
I got some things bad to say about this, but... Yeah, so do I, but that's... I actually haven't watched a recent stand up. I've just gotten some feedback. I don't go on what other people are saying. I need to watch it myself to make a judge for it. But if he's doubled down again on what everybody's saying he is on transgender,
01:22:07
Speaker
I'm just disappearing. I'm just extremely disappointed. And my friend, my bestie had tickets to the show. I couldn't go because I had to work, but she was like, is it OK if I go? And I was like, I don't hate this man. I'm a huge fan of de Chappelle. I'm just disappointed in the fact that he wants to dig in on this. Like, why is this the hill you're going down? Why? Also, all of us have weird hills that we down. We just don't have the
01:22:34
Speaker
the platform of which he does. We all have hills that you're just like, why do you want to die on this hill? But any other things you wanted to touch on in the Cat Williams interview? I mean, it was just unhinged and wonderful.
01:22:52
Speaker
He was complimenting Shannon Sharp, but within the first five minutes, he immediately started reading him for Phil. He was like, you let him sit up here and say this and you didn't say nothing. Ricky Smiley was supposed to be Money Mike. He was like, Money Mike, I do believe Kat improvised those lines. I do believe he definitely had a hand in hair and wardrobe because it looked like Money Mike looked like something Kat Williams would wear on one of his stand-up specials.
01:23:23
Speaker
Also, I had to go to task with the fact that he said, the Cat Williams said he had done 60 movies or something like that, and I never played Cat Williams. Wrong. In just about every movie, you play Cat Williams. So I don't know what you're talking about. You play Cat Williams. I don't think you can play anything else. You're great in that role, but that's all you could play.
01:23:45
Speaker
But he's also not wrong that the movies aren't better with, like the movies are better with him in it. Like he's not wrong about that. Fools rush in. I think Kevin Hart was a better casting for that. I remember watching that when we- I've never even heard of that movie. You have because it used to run on loop in one of the cruises that we went on.
01:24:06
Speaker
I don't even know what it's about. Matthew McConaughey is in that movie. They're going for some treasure or something like that. Kevin Hart is like leader of these goons that are going after him or something like that, because they're trying to find this treasure. Him and Kate Hudson. This is literally the first time I've ever heard of this film. All right. Well, OK. Let's just finish up this segment in this episode, because now we're going long. Now we're going long.
01:24:35
Speaker
Yeah, I definitely believe that the Money Mike sexual assault scene that I'm glad that they did not do. Him walking out with his
01:24:52
Speaker
when it's nuts in the pliers, Terry Crewson. That was infinitely more funny. And then him getting released and running down the street. It was infinite. I am a boy, Damon. That is infinitely more funny than Anasaw. He was absolutely right with that. If that's how that story went, if that's the way it went, that he stood up for that, he's absolutely right.
01:25:15
Speaker
I believe it is because if you go back and watch the movie, first of all, I've seen bits and pieces of it recently and it's absolutely hilarious. I saw a clip yesterday and I wanted to text it to you, but it was late and I was like, nah, she probably sleep. I will text it to you after this episode if I remember. But that movie at the end gets dark. But then all of the Fridays kind of get dark at the end. Yeah.
01:25:40
Speaker
Deebo was ready to stab Craig in the first movie. In the second movie, Lil Joker had the machine gun pointed at him. Well, wasn't Craig gonna, or didn't he pull a gun on Deebo? And his father talked him into just fist fighting with it. Yeah, I mean, yeah, they all took a dramatic turn.
01:26:01
Speaker
Yeah, which is like, it's kind of an ice cube, but like, where are you going with this? But yeah, no, he was the what Kevin Hart, what Kevin Cat Williams said. Changing that particular scene was way better because he's right. There's a lot of things that you could find humor in the world. Rape is never
Reflections and Future Plans
01:26:20
Speaker
one of them. No, it's just never one of them. And he's right. They all have a weird face, light skinned wife.
01:26:29
Speaker
Okay. And listen, I would like to put my head in a ring. I have a weird face and I'm light skin and I'm single and I'm ready to be taken care of. I am ready to enter my soft woman era. And, but another thing he said was, is they don't say anything. That's completely fine with me. If I am being of everything I need is being taken care of and I'm on a yacht and all this, I don't need to say anything for the rest of my life.
01:26:59
Speaker
I just don't feel like you're the type of person that won't voice her opinion. I just don't feel like that's you. I will never, I never need to say nothing again for the rest of my life. Okay, on that note, what do you want to tell the people out there, Jay? A hundred episodes, you see the tiara, I'm invested.
01:27:19
Speaker
I purchased a tiara, you see it. I'm investing now, now I believe, now I can see the vision. But the amount of growth over these last hundred episodes like literally cannot thank the people who watch and support us enough.
01:27:44
Speaker
Wow, that is, it's really nothing that I expected. I didn't. I mean, I knew we had something, but I just, I didn't know that we would actually be successful. And we'll just get even bigger over the next hundred episodes. And so I'm excited to see it. Stick around, stay tuned.
01:28:09
Speaker
We're not going nowhere. That's right. We're not going nowhere. I'm excited for the 100 episodes that we've done. I'm excited to see where we are in the next 100 episodes. I want to thank all the listeners and all the watchers, those that support us, those that hate watchers. I don't care. I just thank you. I appreciate it. From the bottom of my heart, I'm humbled.
01:28:35
Speaker
and we're gonna keep bringing you this content and gonna keep getting better. So thank you for watching. Thank you for listening. And until next time, as always, aha.
01:28:50
Speaker
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