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Is This Love or Control? Parenting, Trauma, and Teacher Tales
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Dive into the heart of parenting, education, and real-life drama with this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives! Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea break down a jaw-dropping father-daughter text exchange, explore what true love and support look like, and share personal stories about the teachers who changed their lives. This episode is packed with honest conversations, cultural commentary, and a mix of humor and insight that makes you think. Whether you’re a parent, an educator, or just love authentic storytelling, you’ll find something to relate to. Plus, get the inside scoop on our YouTube monetization journey, new membership perks, and exclusive after hours content. Join the conversation, laugh with us, and discover why teachers deserve more respect and why spite can sometimes be the best motivator. #parenting #teacherstories #teacher #teaching #LifeLessons #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
01:27 Breaking News: We're YouTube Monetized! 💰🎉✨
02:16 Exclusive Behind-the-Scenes Access: New Membership Tiers! 🎭🔓💎
06:25 Drama Alert: Parent vs Daughter Showdown! 👨👧💔🌟
08:16 Real Talk: What Does Love Really Look Like? ❤️💭🤔
21:02 Middle School Mayhem: Surviving the Stinky Years & Teacher Tales 🏫😅👃
22:08 From "You Smell Like Butt" to Hygiene Heroes: The Awkward Truth 🚿🦸♂️💦
23:13 Teachers Who Changed Our Lives: Shoutouts & Surprises 🍎✨🙌
24:41 History Class Showdown: How Spite Turned a C into an A! 📚🔥😤
29:33 The Unstoppable Power of Spite! 😤💪🔥
30:32 From Daydreamer to Storyteller: My Writing Journey 📝✨💫
34:46 Life-Changing Teachers Who Shaped My Future 👨🏫🌟💡
38:42 College Professors: The Real MVPs! 🎓🏆💫
39:20 Teachers Deserve Better: A Call to Action! 📢💪❤️
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Introduction to 'Unsolicited Perspectives'
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teachers, bad parenting or bad children. We're going to get into it. Let's get it.
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in an important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts.
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Monetization and Membership on YouTube
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Share it with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies.
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On today's episode, it's the best of. We're going to be giving you guys a sneak peek of our YouTube exclusive, the most recent one, and a little peek into our latest After Hours Uncensored.
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But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
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So we're technically still on vacation. So this is not going to be a full show. The first segment is going to be me giving you guys an update. The second segment is going to be a YouTube exclusive where we're talking about an interesting story between a parent and their daughter.
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And then we're going to be talking about teachers and a little sneak peek from my After Hours Uncensored. But before we get to that, some exciting news for the Unsolicited Perspective podcast.
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We are now monetized on YouTube. If you've been watching us recently over the last week and a half, you would notice that there are ads or commercials on our YouTube videos, both before, during, and after each video.
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ladies and gentlemen i cannot stress enough how much we really really need you to watch those ads yes some of them can be long 30 seconds some of them are even a minute but we get paid off of that and don't think by skipping it that the next person will watch it and it will get paid after that as well because everybody will be thinking the same thing no we need everybody to watch the ads if you support the show support us by watching these ads because that's how we make money also We are going to be doing a membership program on our YouTube page.
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There's going to be two tiers to start off. One is going to be $2.99 a month. The other one is going to be $4.99 a month. This is separate than our Patreon, but and in addition to our Patreon. Let me explain.
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So the $2.99 tier is going to give you guys some behind-the-scenes footage of our Patreon. show Also, we're going to be starting a discord.
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That's a basically it's a text messaging system that you can log into, join our account, and it'll just be like DMs or text messaging for IG. Or if we you had our phone numbers, you could talk to us.
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Predominantly me. But my sister would chime in every now and then. You could talk to us, send us you know messages, send us you know memes, give us show topics. ah That'll just be one of the ideas for the 299 membership.
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There's more, but that's just one of the cool things. You'll have more direct access to us. With the 499, we're going to do all those same things with the 299, but we're also going to add the after hours uncensored to this, as well as more in-depth behind the scenes.
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And then I in particular, but my sister will join us. We're go are going to do a weekly live stream. It'll probably start off as 30 minutes. What I'm thinking is it's going to let you guys into my Sunday fun day.
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You can interact. You can chat with me while we're on live screen, live recording. No, it will not be available for... to be watched any other time except for those people in the membership. So isn't something that I'm going to record and then release later. It's either watch it then or you had a membership and you'll be able to watch it, but you won't be able to watch it any other time.
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So there is more in depth and I will give you guys more and more information as I
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expand the membership. It's still a work in progress, but it'll be up and running before July 15th. So we'll make a big grand announcement. But yes, the podcast is growing and we're really excited about it. And it's really all because of you guys.
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So thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Now for the rest of this episode, you're going to getting a YouTube exclusive where we're talking about parenting. And a little bit of our After Hours Uncensored with ah me and my sister talking about teaching and the teachers that influenced us.
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For those people that have children, there's a little bit of cussing, but not much. Not like our typical After Hours Uncensored because we specifically filmed this to give you guys a chance to see what we talk about in our After Hours Uncensored. So...
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We will be back to our regularly scheduled programming
Reddit Discussion: A Daughter's Life Choices
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on Friday. So the next episode will be our regular episode. But while we're still on vacation, enjoy a little bit of the semi-original content.
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Okay, Jay, did it again. Went to my favorite social media site, found this Reddit post. Yep, I found this Reddit post that I thought was really interesting because it has to do with parents again.
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but You know, I didn't know how much I love talking about parents and parenting. yes So this is a conversation about a young lady who's decided to take a job. She's not from the U.S. She's in another country. She doesn't specify which country she's from.
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But she's decided to take another job. ah She's decided to go to college in the U.S. and her dad is not in agreement with her. Now, a little backstory about this young lady and her father is that her father basically raised her because her father and her mother split when she was younger. It was a nasty divorce from his perspective.
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Yeah. So she's dealt with that. And she wants to know if she if she's being a jerk. Or if she's overreacting because she's decided to cut her father completely out of her life.
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Right. So what we're going to do is we're going to read the text exchange. I'm going to be the father because you chose for me to be the jerk. ah Well, I mean, I just did it. I mean, I guess it's sexist, but I just did it across gender lines. Yeah, you did. Well, okay. So, all right.
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So patriarchy here. And you decided that I'm going to uphold the patriarchy in this role play. But I'm going to be the father. You're going to be the daughter. yeah So, audience, we're going to read this text exchange and then tell you what we think afterwards. So, yeah let's get it started.
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Don't comment on our acting. Yeah, don't come. Well, I'm going to act well. Okay. i don't know about my sister. All right, here we go. Here's a dad. You mean like calling out the fact you'll end up a whore like your mother?
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You always do this. You ruin good things for me. Good. Running off to play therapist in another country? I worked for this. I did it alone.
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You think talking to people about their sad little problems makes you special? No, but it makes me feel like I'm not disappearing. You'll disappear, all right, under some guy who feeds lies your mother fell for.
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Stop dragging her into this. I was a baby. I don't even remember her. You remember enough to act just like her, ah emotional, dramatic, always needing attention.
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I'm not her. i just wanted you to be proud of me. Then you should have made better choices. Psychology, what a joke. This is my choice, my life, I'm leaving.
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Don't come crawling back when it all goes to shit. It won't. I won't. You made sure of that. You ungrateful little whore. I raise you. You're all mine now.
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You're not leaving anywhere. Goodbye, Dad. You'll never hear from me again. Now, Jay, I don't have a daughter. But if I did, I have a goddaughter and I have little nieces that I adore.
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Yeah. Would never speak to them this way. Never, ever, ever speak to them this way. ah ah i I'm almost at a loss for words. So going let you tell me what you think and then I'm going respond to that.
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Yeah, so I don't have a daughter either, but I am one. over i have a whole dad. Whole dad. You got the same dad, okay? So I have, I am the, he would never.
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But you want to know why Because my dad actually loves me and my dad actually likes me. um I am so sorry, sweetheart, but because of the actions of your mother, even though it has nothing to do with you, your father does not like you.
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And your father does not love you. Because there is absolutely no way. Love does not look like that. Love is not you ungrateful little whore.
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Yes. That's not what love looks like. I think the best decision that you can make for yourself is to go on, go ahead, go off to school and leave that nonsense behind. Just leave the live the rest of your life.
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Live the rest of your life. Because... Again, that is not what love looks like at all. You're mine now. No, that's not what parenting is. Parenting is preparing your child to go off without you.
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That is what it is. He should have been preparing you to make this move on your own and be confident in that move. And and that's not what this is.
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He is trying to hold on to you and the way he couldn't hold on to your mother. And he is blaming you and taking out his anger that he has for your mother or out on you. That's not love and that's not what love looks like. The best decision you can make is to go no contact with this person that is not your father.
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That is not a father, period. I have a father. That's not it.
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I can tell you that straight up. So we've been lucky. yeah in the fact that, oh, don't get us wrong, we got some childhood trauma, but we've been lucky in the fact that our parents have always supported our endeavors.
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The biggest fans of this show Outside of ah my bestie and our aunt, our dad's older sister.
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Don't forget our two cousins. Our two cousins and our brother and our brother. Okay. These are all huge fans of the show. Yes. we We could go down a line of huge fans of the show.
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But the biggest supporters are our parents and yeah Our parents have always supported us, our stuff. You know, talked about it before. Even when it's dumb.
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Even when it's dumb stuff. I owned a wrestling company. You went to film school. Like, they're always like, go for your dreams, try your dreams. yeah I find this young woman remarkable.
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and and yeah And the fact that she grew up in this environment She is still going to college in the United States to study psychology. I would gather the reason why she's studying psychology is because of the environment that she grew up in.
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And she wants to help people. Yeah, she wanted to make sense. She wants to make sense. And I bet she wants to help people who might have gone or are going to go through or are going through similar situations that she did. and Was, because she cut off her yeah Are you overreacting? The answer is no.
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But I am going to push back on one of your points. You said that he doesn't love her. Correct. I don't know that we can definitively say that.
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Yeah, I think you can. Sometimes people don't know how to show love because they were never taught to show love. So this is going to be problematic. And ladies and gentlemen, let me just say I do not agree with the way these people act.
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Okay? No. But sometimes... Parents were raised a certain way where they believe showing their children love is by beating them.
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And I'm exaggerating when I say beaten, but kind of not. Right. By. Yeah. By not sparing the rod. Right. Right. and And some of them discipline.
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at the drop of a second, that is their initial reaction to discipline, to say that because they are abusive, that they don't love the person, I don't think it's true.
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I don't think can be said in every every situation. ha I would say that this person clearly Probably doesn't like his daughter, okay? That's pretty clear. Not probably. yeah Doesn't like his daughter.
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But to say that he doesn't love her, that's that's... I don't know if I want to go to that stress that stretch because it seems like, and I'm not making excuses for him, ladies and gentlemen.
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it seems like he is It seems like he is hurt, extremely hurt from this situation. And this is just his response. And you know, when people are hurt, they say things that they probably mean, but they didn't mean it to come out that way.
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OK. And I'm going to push back on your pushback. OK. A person's internal feelings that they don't express are not, that's useless to me.
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I can only go off the way you treat me. I don't know what you got going on in your head, but I do know the way that you treat me. And the way that you treat me is telling me you don't love me.
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I'm talking about, again, i don't have children. I'm talking about as from the perspective of somebody's daughter. I have a daughter to my father. I'm somebody's daughter.
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If my father talked to me like that, there's no way that I would believe my father actually loves me. I get it. There's just no way. So he could have all the feelings for his daughter in in all the world. He could have, he could love her.
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And really just, this is all just his fear. He doesn't want to let her go and all of that could be that she doesn't know that. yeah If he's not expressing it, if all that he's expressing is you ungrateful little whore, there's no way that I think this is a person who loves me.
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i i I understand that perspective and and i and I agree with it. But both things can be true at the same time. But what what you don't express means nothing. like it To you. Right. Yes.
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What you don't express is how it how is anyone supposed to know? Yeah. Well, how's anybody supposed to know? that Is it just as good as it not existing? yeah Long story short, baby girl, you're not overreacting.
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Not at all. Go do your thing at the States and may your life be blessed with success and happiness and reconnecting with your mom. And may you be white so that you were at least it was it At least have a little chance of not being picked up by ice.
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Not a big chance because we still got Australians and Canadians that are dealing with it over here. But I hope that you are able to have all the success that is possible in the United States right
Geographic Misconceptions and Personal Challenges
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now. So good luck to you.
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All right, now that we ain't got fired up, that that YouTube exclusive went longer than we originally anticipated. that's Yeah, I just was pissed off when I saw that. Honestly, I really was.
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And I'll tell you, I was correct. It is Xi Jinping. And I was like, yeah, Jonna, you got to something correct that has to do with politics. Because I don't know nothing. That's the thing that people don't understand. like People don't understand. I don't know nothing.
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That's not true, you do know stuff. But I'm not good at like world events or like even knowing where places are in the world. Like, hey, Jonah, can you find iran on the map?
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I can't, I don't know nothing. I mean, I can find Iran on the If you give me a blank map. A blank map, with no lines drawn or anything? No, the lines are drawn, but it's just no names, no labels on it.
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And you tell me to point out Turkey. Oh, no. I going to be able to find it. The only way I'll be able to find is because obviously I know where Russia is and Russia and yeah Turkey are close. And then once you start getting into Turkey, you you can start to kind of map out the Middle East a little bit.
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But I'm going to be real honest. It's not a big area. It's like the size of the East Coast. Like it's not a big area. They're all close. But you know what? I'm going to be real honest.
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and If you gave me a ah a pen and a piece of paper to write down all 50 states, I'm going to get it. I'm going to get it. Yeah. But it's going to take me a while. Actually, I'm going to do that. So as we get off, I'm going to try to write down all 50 states. I'm number a piece of paper, one through 50, and I'm to try to name all 50 states. And I guarantee you, I'm going to get to like 48, 49, and it's going to be that one last state.
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And I'll be like, what the hell is... That one last state is probably going to be Iowa. and ah Well, yeah. I mean, you you start you start by doing the 50 states alphabetically, right? And then you go all the A's and we ain't got no B states.
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But I'm sure people would be like, well, yeah, we do Boston. Boston is not a state, ladies and gentlemen. That's city and that's in the state of Massachusetts. But that's what's going to get people. People like, oh, another state of Seattle? No, that's in Washington. Seattle, Washington. This is like how y'all keep acting like Africa is a country and not a continent. Right. continent there are multiple countries and that's another thing could name could not name all them countries in africa no wouldn't even come close first of all there's 52 so i can tell you already no i could probably get eight i don't even at the most at the most i think i could probably name eight but then it'll start i'll start naming cities
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And then I'll be like, that's a thing, right? They're like, nope, that's in South Africa. i was like, okay, Johannesburg is not is not a country in Africa, that's in South Africa, okay. Then that's when I'll start. And so that's, yeah, i could probably name eight, honestly. And it's and it's places that either on my ancestry DNA I am from or people that I know are from these places.
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ah So, you fun fact, I think it's a fun fact. You can look this up and I could be wrong. But ok there is a country continent.
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Okay. Now I am going to look that up. Explain. Australia is both a continent and a country.
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Huh. Yes. I actually think that that is correct. Yeah. But that's the only one. Africa is not a country. It's a continent. it got australia Australia is the only country in the world that covers an entire continent, correct? yeah Just little known fact.
Reflections on Education and Influential Teachers
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Speaking of all these dumb facts... I wanted to talk about something that's near dear in my heart. Most people on this show, or fans of the show, actually we're in after hours. This is a sneak peek of the after hours.
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A sneak peek. A sneak peek in the after hours. That's the reason why there ain't too much cussing on here for the for the main show that we're releasing. Because, you know, we're sort of a vacation even though we still filming content.
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Yeah. I was surprised when you were like, Phil Fran? I was like, thought it was little vacation. Okay. Look, we're monetized on YouTube now. By the way, ladies and gentlemen, watch them watch them ads, please. I know you don't want to watch ads, but watch them ads, please.
00:20:55
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ah And listen to the ads on the audio, please. But since we're going down this road, a lot of people who listen and watch the show know, because I talk about it often, that I have degrees in both secondary secondary education and history, and I wanted to be a high school history teacher.
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ah why not middle school and high school? Because in middle school, the kids really stink because they they come into an age where they don't really know. i have a friend who's a teacher in middle school and she always says, so yeah um deodorant is your friend. that yeah tell Yeah, but they're still at an age where they're just starting to like need deodorant really like they were just in elementary school and they didn't need deodorant back then they could smell like outside and we'd be like you just smell like outside you smell like how kid should smell but now that you're in middle school y'all are getting to be teenagers like
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Y'all need some deodorant and you still transitioning into that teenage thing where you're like, oh i need a I need to put on a bra now and deodorant and shower every day. Yeah, you do. Because it's no longer a cute, you smell like outside. It's now, as you stay.
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Sixth grade. When that girl told me that I smell like butt, that's when I learned, Bruce, we need to start washing your ass, okay? Because I don't ever want to be told I smell like butt.
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Somebody told you. She either said I smell like butt or she got near me or somehow her face was near my butt and said that my butt stink. It was one of the two.
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Okay. I can't remember because I turned. hope her face wasn't near your butt. I think it could have been something that we were running around and she, you know how you little kids, you stumbling, you stumbling to somebody, you might, you know. could I can't remember exactly what it was because I just turned 45 and this is when I was 11. So that was. Yes. 34 years ago.
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I don't remember the exact terms. What I do know is at that exact moment, it was like, oh, every day, sometimes twice a day, shower time, and I need to scrub.
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yeah but But like I said, went to school to be a high school history teacher. decided during the student teaching, oh, I'm not mature enough to do this.
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I was a 22-year-old kid. They're not much younger than I am, especially if I was going to be teaching high school. And I was like, some of the things y'all are doing that I need to discipline, it's kind of funny, which means I'm too juvenile to be a teacher.
00:23:33
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yeah But... The reason why I wanted to be a teacher is because I had so many teachers, specifically in high school and in one professor in college that really inspired me.
00:23:46
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So this whole topic is about teachers that inspired. So before I go, i want to ask you, do you have any teachers? And we have to name them We don't have to name We could just say what grade and what subject they taught.
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But did you have any teachers that really inspired you? No. um
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But I tell you what I did have.
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I'll tell you I did have. I set that up You knew what we were going to be talking about beforehand. I teared it up. And you hit me with the no. So quick.
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but What? I'll tell you what I did have, okay? It was my seventh grade honors history teacher. Okay. She, i was in the honors class for the first three quarters.
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I had a C and like a perfect 75, like a perfect C. Okay. It was, I knew how much work I needed to do to maintain the 75.
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And that was pretty much about all the work I was willing to do. Because as you know, i am not good in history. I don't, I thought I had that answer one time and I was saying Lyndon Baines Johnson, but it was really Andrew Johnson or something like that. I don't even know. You kept saying Andrew Johnson when it was Lyndon Baines Johnson.
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I only knew Lyndon Baines Johnson's. I don't know who Andrew Johnson is, so I'm pretty sure. it was the president after Lincoln. Yeah, so I said Lyndon Baines Johnson because that's the only Johnson I know.
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right and it turns it was Andrew Johnson. Whatever. I don't know history. I don't care about learning it. And that's the far. So what she did was she pulled me aside after third quarter grades came out.
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And she said, i think you should talk to the counselor because, you know, the guidance counselors are also to talk to you, but they're also there to help you with your schedule and stuff. Right. Right.
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So I think you should talk to them. I don't think honors history is right for you. That's what she said to me. So the fourth quarter, i get an A.
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because what you're not gonna do is tell me I don't belong in this class. And I get the a with very little effort. She was so pissed off. She calls home.
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I answer the call. I answer the call and she chews me out for about 20 minutes. And she's like, you could have done this the entire time. I can't believe, she had just finished doing my grades and was so pissed off that I had, I think I got like 100%.
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and so And then she she noticed the pattern of it. Okay, she got a perfect 75 each of the three quarters. Oh, she did this on purpose.
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And then she's like, I want to talk to your parents. Who's there? I was like, my dad's here. And so I had a phone to dad, and I don't know what she said to him, but she was upset.
00:27:04
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And and that's that's when I learned this about myself, that I'm willing to put forth as much effort as I'm willing to put forth, but do not underestimate me. Because if you underestimate me, then to show you what I'm actually capable of. And again, with very little effort, I got an A. It's Final quarter. ah but So that that is one of them. But no, no, I truly, I did have teachers that and professors that really did inspire me. But a majority of them were in in college when I got to college. And just really, because in college, when you what you get are people who are really, really dedicated to the material, right? Because they spent their entire academic career learning this. And a lot of them are PhDs.
00:27:51
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in this subject and so what you get then is a passion for the material and it and it transfers over and so they they broadened my horizons they got me to think about things differently a lot of my like women's studies courses or sociology courses or you know my degree is in is english language and literature but i had a concentration of race class and gender studies So, like, just being in those classes, I'd say I took journalism class, like women in journalism and like things like that, like, and really having professors that care a lot about this material because it's their life's work also and that transferring over.
00:28:34
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And even and when I was in junior college, Actually, some of the professors that I loved the most were from my junior college, when I went to Montgomery College, because they really cared about the students. They really cared about you learning.
00:28:49
Speaker
Actually, he's retired now, is Dr. Coley. He was our chemistry professor. And i was doing well in chemistry. Our brother was not. But he he he cared, and he stayed after class and worked with them and talked them through it, and he was patient and, like,
00:29:06
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like really cared about you learning this material and knowing like how it could be helpful for you later in life so yes I did I absolutely did have professors but I also had teachers that worked my nerve too so you know you get a little from A and little from B I guess Spite.
00:29:27
Speaker
Spite is a powerful emotion. It's way powerful. Power. ah Because look, let me tell you something. Don't say i can't do something. I'm going to do it even if I don't want to do it. And I'm going to do it because you said i couldn't do it.
00:29:42
Speaker
Yeah. boy She actually said to me, I don't think you're in the right class. I don't think honors level is right for you. And I said, oh, you don't, do you?
00:29:55
Speaker
Okay. That lady called home and chewed me out. You could have done this the whole time. He just, he kind of chuckled about it because he also, he knows I am.
00:30:05
Speaker
yeah He knows I was going to give the bare minimum in that. yeah and then And then to turn around and get an A, and honestly, I put it like maybe an extra 10, 15% more effort.
00:30:16
Speaker
And honestly. Well, 15% more effort does get you to a 90. It does. So there you go. There you go. There you go. I had teachers, I'll never forget, I was in the fifth grade.
00:30:30
Speaker
And what people don't, or some people know, ah that listen or watch the show knows that my first major in college was journalism. I wanted to be a writer.
00:30:41
Speaker
Ladies and gentlemen, my sister is a better writer than I am. ah A better technical writer than I am. Technical, yes. I still think creatively. You're very persuasive in your writing, so wouldn't discount that. Creatively.
00:30:54
Speaker
ah But I'm a columnist, not a journalist. They're two different things. You're a hotbed guy. Yeah, I can't write just the facts and you not hear, you can't, you're going to hear and read my position yeah in in my writing. So, right but but that's what I wanted to do. Even going so far as to writing a comic book.
00:31:18
Speaker
Like the idea, the premise and everything of my comic book that I started 20 years ago with a friend who was an artist is still out there. We just never did it. So I wanted to be a writer and it sparked in the fifth grade because we had to write some composition or something like that. And I'm struggling in what cult and what's language arts. As you're in honors in the seventh grade,
00:31:41
Speaker
They thought I was a complete dummy. I was in the lower level reading classes from like second grade to fifth grade. I didn't catch up until I was like in middle school.
00:31:53
Speaker
OK, that's not your fault. You went to a Montessori school and they taught sight reading and not phonics. right And I can't stand people who swear by sight reading. It is just memorization. It is not learning to read phonics, y'all.
00:32:07
Speaker
Phonics, hooked on phonics worked for me. So ah this particular teacher actually did something. I don't know if it was before after this because my timeline is all screwed up because we're talking about literally 35 years ago.
00:32:20
Speaker
Yes. She said something. She did something that embarrassed me in front of the entire class because, you know, I would daydream a lot. If you started lecturing and talking, i would daydream. I just go off into my own world. And yeah she called on me. i I know she saw me daydreaming.
00:32:35
Speaker
I was looking out the window, not at her. She called on me to answer a question. I absolutely did not know what we were talking about. had no idea what we were even dealing with. OK, I'm in my all own little world.
00:32:47
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And what did I try to do instead of saying, I don't know? Try to answer the question. And it was a dumb answer because it was I didn't know what were talking about. And the whole class started laughing.
00:32:59
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The next day, without directly apologizing to me, she apologized. to the class, but not to me directly. Everybody knew who she was talking to, but she didn't call me out by name.
00:33:10
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And I was like, you should called me out by name. But anyway, so we had to write this composition and we had to read what we wrote in front of the entire class. So I don't remember what it was about.
00:33:22
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i don't remember what it was about. Okay. I just wrote. Yeah. Fifth grade, 10 years old, she stands up at the front of the class and says, that's absolutely beautiful.
00:33:33
Speaker
And this was a time where mom had this old school thick ass laptop. I said it right, laptop. and And I was so into the Godfather, I was trying to start to write my own Godfather-esque type novel.
00:33:49
Speaker
And I kept, I didn't know how to structure writing something. I kept coming up with ideas and starting over and starting over. So yeah I didn't realize that I was practicing that entire time writing.
00:34:00
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So when I wrote the composition, all these ideas were kind of coming together and I was crafting it, I guess, right. And she said it was absolutely... Like, the only person that got an absolute beautiful... is almost, like... It it touched her.
00:34:14
Speaker
Like, how beautifully written it was. And she may have pulled me aside afterwards and just said something to the effect, like, you're really good, you should really write a lot more. And so that that stuck with me.
00:34:25
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So... Bedford Hills Elementary School and and in Lynchburg, Virginia, fifth grade class. She probably, she was old then, so. Yeah. I don't know she's still with us, but. we we you never know.
00:34:38
Speaker
We never know. Then you fast forward to my senior year. I had a government class and um and in English, I mean, I had a whole bunch of classes, but my government teacher and my English teacher, one was an old Vietnam vet and they were trying to fire I him too.
00:34:58
Speaker
Yep, they were trying to fire him because he would have flashbacks sometimes in the middle of the class. I adored this man because he taught history the way I feel like it should be taught.
00:35:09
Speaker
People say they they don't like history. I'm like, yes, you do because you love documentaries. If you watch documentaries, you love history. You just don't like the way it was taught to you. He would teach it as a story.
00:35:20
Speaker
If you teach history as a story, you can get people engaged and they'll remember things. And so He taught government as a story, too. So I was drawn to that. So drawn to that in my English class, we had to write ah a composition on a person.
00:35:36
Speaker
And I asked him if I could interview him and write the composition on him. And he was like, yeah, of course. And there were some stuff, some questions, because even then, as a young journalist, I'm always going to...
00:35:49
Speaker
the heart of the issue, where's the emotion? And, you know, i talked about the flashbacks and things like that. wanted to ask those questions. And he was like, we probably can't talk about that. I probably can't answer. I'll answer those questions, but don't write them in your competition. Like that can just be between me and you.
00:36:04
Speaker
Yeah. But he was very impactful and also that English teacher. lot of people don't know that I did Othello in college, I mean, high school. The reason why nobody knows it is because i didn't talk about it, because I didn't want to talk about it, because I didn't want to do it.
00:36:18
Speaker
I was forced to do it by my English teacher as almost a black male to get the grade that I needed to get because she realized that I absolutely hated Shakespeare.
00:36:30
Speaker
I couldn't understand it But the story of Othello registered with me. And not because, you know, I was married to a white woman one time and it was a being foreseen that I'm a Black mayor, was married to a white woman, but because of...
00:36:45
Speaker
Iago and the manipulation and and that whole story, it was yeah it was very... I was drawn to it somehow. And I was drawn to to the character of Othello, who's this outsider, but has power.
00:37:00
Speaker
And it was just, there was just so much in it. And so she was like, i think you should play Othello. And I was like, no, thank you. Because I don't even want to read in class. So there's no way that I'm going to perform Othello in front of a bunch of people.
00:37:14
Speaker
She's like, yeah oh, ah ah you thought you had it a choice. Like, you need to do this in order to get the grade that you need in order to graduate. I said, oh, OK. I feel like I'm going pass the class. ah you know I feel pretty confident in that.
00:37:29
Speaker
Yeah, well. I think that this would be the best decision for you. It was the best thing for me. And the reason why is because without that, i this never happens.
00:37:43
Speaker
Let me tell you the connection. Getting over performing or fear or talking in front of people doing it and having it being well received, not just from her that said, oh, you did this well, but also from my classmates who were just like, yo, that was really dope.
00:38:04
Speaker
And then the theater people being like, you should like join the theater and and and do all this. And I'm like, no, because it's the nineteen ninety s and patriarchy and misogyny and toxic masculinity says that if I do that, I'm going to be perceived a certain way that I don't want to be perceived.
00:38:21
Speaker
So I'm not going to do that. Missed out on an entire life that I could have had. I could have been the first Michael B. Jordan. Could have. It could have been Bruce Anthony. Should have, could have. But it led to this. so yeah So those two teachers and then my college professor that taught African-American history.
00:38:40
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I took you to a class one time yeah when you were deciding on what school you wanted to go to. And I was like, you're going definitely go to me with me to this class because I need you to see how this professor does it.
00:38:52
Speaker
and You're right. Professors have a little different passion for their work. And so they all made a monumental impact on me. And what was only supposed to be ah quick 10 minute segment talking about teachers, we didn't talk for 20 minutes, but obviously, yeah they're important.
Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement
00:39:09
Speaker
They are important. Teachers- our teachers- Lord, we need to treat them better in this country. We need to pay these people. We need to give them the resources that they need to teach the next generation well, the current generation well.
00:39:26
Speaker
One of the things that I love about the program that I'm in now in graduate school is there are professors in my program that the literally it feels like the only thing they want in life.
00:39:43
Speaker
is to see us succeed and get great jobs and become data scientists. Like that, it literally, I'm like, do you sleep? Because you just sent me an email about an opportunity, but it was two in the morning when you sent that email. Like, do you sleep, professor? Like, what are you doing?
00:39:58
Speaker
Oh, I just, i it was great. It came across my desk. I wanted you to know about it. Like, they they, teachers care. If they didn't care, they wouldn't teach.
00:40:09
Speaker
Right. You ain't doing it for the money. You ain't doing it for the money. You ain't doing for the prestige. You're not doing it for the fame. You're not doing it for none of that. You're doing it because you really care about educating people and you feel like you have knowledge that's worth imparting to someone else.
00:40:29
Speaker
And you do, and it's and it's true. and and And I just think that we should treat them better in this country. I do, I think we should treat them better. And I also think we should make education more accessible for people in this country. So that's just my little, you know, if we're gonna go macro, if we're gonna go 30,000 feet, what's the what's the ultimate story here? The ultimate story is make education more accessible and give educators the resources and the funding that they need to give quality education in this country because we're going fall behind if you don't.
00:41:04
Speaker
We've already fallen behind. That's rule number one. and And to piggyback off of what you were saying, yes, We need to give teacher, we need to appreciate the teachers a lot more.
00:41:14
Speaker
Also, this whole new narrative of parents, parents having choice and and what their kids to a certain extent. Yeah, I kind of agree with that. But also, you don't know what the hell your kids need as far as education is concerned. You weren't trained in that. You don't know. Look, I went to school and it is way more intricate.
00:41:34
Speaker
than you think it is to learn how to be a teacher. It's not just going and reading a book and then regurgitating it because there's different ways that people learn and you have to yes be able to create a plan that's for everybody, not just regurgitating facts. And you have to make sure that they learn it, not memorize it because you're piggybacking off of other ideas. It's a build, it's a progression.
00:41:57
Speaker
So it's not something that you could just build do. You can't just, oh, I'm going to do this little study and I can become a teacher. No, it's a lot more involved with it. You as a parent, unless you have a background in education, have no idea what it takes to teach your child. Even though you know your child, you have no idea what it takes to teach your child. Sometimes you don't.
00:42:18
Speaker
Sometimes you don't know who that child is when they leave your house. but also and But also, yeah, you have no authority. It's kind of like, you know, government officials making health care decisions for people.
00:42:32
Speaker
You have no authority to do so. yeah You are not an educator. You have no authority to tell me how I should build this lesson plan to impart this knowledge to your child. If you don't want your child to learn, then teach them yourself.
00:42:48
Speaker
ah hint teach them do a homeschool them teach them yourself then but do not disenfranchise other students because you want your student to be a ah you want your child to be a white nationalist don't disenfranchise other students
00:43:07
Speaker
ah yeah from learning about the history of this country Right? Don't, it yeah because when you went to school, you had a home ec and typing class.
00:43:21
Speaker
And things have progressed quite a bit since then. Right. Okay, you don't know what you're talking about. You can barely help your child with their fractions. And you want to tell me how I should teach this class?
00:43:34
Speaker
Do not piss me off. yeah and yeah I'm trying to keep um trying to keep from cussing because well ladies and gentlemen this is the end of that preview it was longer than I anticipated anticipated it being we tried to hold back the cussing it was now we're going to get into the after hours on that note ladies and gentlemen I want to thank you for listening I want to thank you for watching and until next time as always I'll holler
00:44:06
Speaker
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00:45:27
Speaker
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