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Taking Accountability: Rick Ross, Coldplay Kiss Cam & Apologies
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Accountability and real talk take center stage in this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives! From the rise of public apologies and viral moments to the unseen stories behind the pictures we share, we break down what accountability means in the digital age.
We kick things off by dissecting the recent Rick Ross drama and the widely discussed conflict with the 85 South Show and DC Young Fly's. Our host, Bruce, breaks down the nuances of this ongoing saga, exploring the challenges of public perception and the demands of owning your narrative when the spotlight is on.
But that's not all – we also unpack the shocking Coldplay kiss cam moment, where an innocent Fan Experience exposed a shocking affair, raising questions about relationship trust.
Plus, we get real about the dangers of sharing private pictures. Whether you're interested in the latest viral apology trends, the complexities of building relationship trust in the digital age, or simply want to hear authentic takes on accountability, this episode is packed with it all! #accountabilitymatters #rickross #85southshow #apologies #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
01:12 Behind the Scenes: The Real Truth About Podcast Guests 🎤🎭👥
03:48 When Interviews Go Wrong: The Untold Stories 🎬❌😮
06:18 Rick Ross vs 85 South: The Drama Unfolds 🎤💢🔥
10:33 DC Young Fly Speaks: The Truth Comes Out 🗣️💫🎯
13:49 Exposing Rick Ross: The Real Story 👀🔍💯
19:47 Why Nobody Wants to Own Up: The Accountability Crisis 🎭⚖️💔
25:22 Master Class: How to Actually Say Sorry 🙏💫✨
32:25 Owning Up: Why Accountability Changes Everything 🧭✨
34:30 Coldplay Concert Chaos: The Kiss Cam Scandal! 🎤💔👀
38:48 Busted on Camera: The Viral Apology Everyone’s Talking About 📸😳🙏
40:32 My Wildest Deception Story—Caught Red-Handed! 😅🤦♂️💥
43:39 Spicy Talk: The Dangerous World of Private Pics 🔥📱⚠️
47:37 Trust Issues: When Love Gets Complicated 💔🤔💭
01:00:06 Real Talk: Time to Level Up Your Life 💪🌟✨
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Introduction and Episode Preview
00:00:00
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being accountable, giving apologies, sharing pictures. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:18
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics in the shape of today's society. stay Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube memberships.
00:00:37
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies. On today's episode, we're going to be talking about accountability.
00:00:51
Speaker
We're going to be talking about a beef between a podcast and a rapper. And we're going to be talking and about sending pictures to people. I'll get into more of that specifically, but that's enough of the intro.
00:01:03
Speaker
Let's get to the show.
Guest Appearances and Selection Process
00:01:12
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You know, a lot of people ask me about the guests that I have on the show and when are we going to have more guests on the show? but Okay. First, let me address the latter. We are going to have more guests in the show in the fall. I've taken kind of a little bit of a break because I had to clean up a few of the past interviews that I've done.
00:01:30
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delete some of them because some information came out later about the guests that I had on. And so, yeah we're going to still do interviews, but we're going to bring them back. in And personally, I had some things that I just wanted to say.
00:01:46
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And when I do the sibling happy hour, I don't really get to, I mean, of course I get to talk, but you know, the the topics are more geared to a conversation between me and my sister. And sometimes I just want to get my rocks off and just let y'all know how I feel about certain things.
00:02:03
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And then maybe I don't want my sister to have to be attached to whatever it is and I'm saying. So yeah, we're going to bring the guests back and we're going to be getting back into all of that stuff.
00:02:13
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But people often ask me like, how do you come up with your guests? How do you contact your guests? How much do your guests get paid? And i here's a simple answer to that. ah Very rarely do I go looking for guests.
00:02:27
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Guests typically pitch their ideas and I decide whether it's something that i want to have on the show or not. If it's something that's interesting to me, then obviously I'm going to interview a person. I've been good and bad of picking and guests. You know, sometimes I think that the conversation will be a really good conversation and it isn't.
00:02:46
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And sometimes I'm going into a situation thinking like, oh They have an interest interesting story. This might be okay. It ends up being a really good interview. So you just kind of never know. We do not pay anybody.
00:02:57
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Everybody that's a guest on the show comes on free, just as when I'm a guest on other people's show, it's for free. That's kind of the the rule for podcasting is you typically don't pay for guests. Now, there are some podcasts that absolutely pay for guests.
00:03:13
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We aren't that because we ain't got the money. And I don't know if that will ever will be that, because I think that when you pay guests that you have to give up, a little bit of your vision of what your show is.
00:03:28
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And I don't think that I'm ever going to do that. So if anybody ever, if our guests ever said, well, how much am I going to make? You know, currently right now, I'm going to say not a damn dime because we're broke, but, but, you know, it's somewhere down the road,
00:03:41
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Maybe, but that always comes with concessions. Why am I bringing all this up? Because the podcasting game can be difficult sometimes when it comes to interviews and doing interviews with other
Interview Challenges and Guest Respect
00:03:51
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people. There have been times where I've interviewed other people And you guys will never see the interview because I don't like the way it went. i don't like what was said. I don't like what was discussed or the interviewer doesn't like what's discussed. And even though interviewer signed waivers that say I got control of the final cut.
00:04:10
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Sometimes they'll preach their concerns and I'll say, okay, you know, I can respect that. this wasn't a good interview for you and you don't want some of that information out that's okay don't need to put it out i appreciate it if something changes down the road we can re-record the interview and make those adjustments in that second go around you know i' i'm i'm just in my human nature i'm always pretty compromising as a person knowing that life is about compromise and so i i'm pretty reasonable i try to be a reasonable compromising individual
00:04:44
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But it's still difficult, you know, when you can have guests on your show that don't like the way the finished product is done. And I do send the finished product to the guest before it airs.
00:04:59
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Nobody has ever come to me and said, i don't want it to air. They don't have the right because they signed a waiver. Out of respect, if there's something that I'm thinking, okay, yeah, you didn't want to let that out. I can cut it out.
00:05:15
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or can it completely, but nobody has ever dictated to me what can and cannot come out. And I and i honestly never had a situation, well, I've had a few situations where people have come to me wanting to come on the show, set up appointments, and then bailed, didn't show, and then come back around saying, hey, can we still do the interview?
00:05:37
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And my answer to that is always no. If you don't give me an explanation, a reasonable explanation of why you bailed on me, then and no, I'm not going to want to do business with you. that I'm really stern when it comes to business.
00:05:51
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And I know I said they're not getting paid, but this is my business. This is something, this is my baby. So I'm very stern on the rules of parameters of which I work in this world and in my field, which is operating my baby, which is unsolicited perspectives.
85 South Show vs. Rick Ross Beef
00:06:08
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Why am I saying all this? If you guys are not in the know in a hip hop community, there was a beef. That's a little beef. It wasn't like a Kendrick Lamar Drake type beef. It was a little beef between a podcast and a rapper.
00:06:22
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That podcast being 85 South. It's an 85 South show. It's hosted by DC Young Fly, Chico Bean, and Carlos Miller. And that rapper being Rick Ross.
00:06:33
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So if you guys do not know what I'm talking about, I'm gonna give you a quick synopsis, a quick quick history everything that's going on, and then give my personal take on it. So this disagreement between Rick Ross and DC Youngfly centers on an incident during a 2021 taping on the 85 South show.
00:06:51
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Rick Ross appeared on the show, but left abruptly in the middle of the interview, gave little explanation at the time. This move sparked confusion and left the host feeling slighted as Ross reportedly departed to attend other commitments.
00:07:05
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Now, that in and of itself, I remember when this all happened and I remember watching the show. This 85 Sells is not a show that I routinely watch. I don't have a lot of time to watch a lot of other podcasts.
00:07:17
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Believe it or not, I don't ever watch the finished product of our podcast. I just don't have enough time. It's on to the next filming. on the next editing. I don't have enough time.
00:07:29
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But I have watched some full shows and have definitely watched a lot of clips of 85 South show. And look, Carlos Miller, Chico Bean, and DC Youngfly are hilarious, right? They're all comedians.
00:07:41
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They are hilarious. that It seems like they're all friends before starting a podcast. And you can see that coming out in the show. I have talked to ah few of my good friends saying that we should do a friend podcast as part of the Unsolicited Podcast Network.
00:07:58
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and And they are really adamant about it being completely uncensored. And I said, oh, okay, well, Uncensored can only work when I have a licensing deal and I don't have that yet, but maybe.
00:08:13
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But I think that I and my friends who are nowhere near as funny as Carlos Miller, Chico Bean, and DC Youngfly, but could have something that's really good. Kind of like, ooh, his name slipped my mind.
00:08:26
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Jeff Teague and his boy's podcast show, which is really, really good as well. So I remember seeing this clip. and being like, yo, what the hell happened? And they weren't angry.
00:08:40
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They didn't really throw a fit. They were laughing like, well did he leave? Like, they didn't even really know that he left. They were just like, did he leave? And they were like, yo, I've never seen that before. Somebody just walk out in the middle of an interview and just stop doing the filming of the podcast.
00:09:00
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This personal experience Situation has never happened to me on my podcast. I've never had somebody in the middle say, hey, I got to go. I can't do this.
00:09:11
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I have had podcasts run long and they say, hey, I got to go right now. Can we shoot more of this at another time? And I've done that. But I've never had somebody just completely walk out. Granted, mine is done remote. Theirs is done in-house, in-person.
00:09:29
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So there's a little bit difference there. But Rick Ross just walks out. So I've Ross sudden exit supposedly to catch a flight or handle other business was not communicated clearly, leading to real hard feelings, but some soft feelings among the 85 South team.
00:09:46
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The lack of transparency that was that was perceived as disrespectful. So the 85 South crew, they didn't have beef. They got love for Rick Ross, like a lot of people who love his music, got love for Rick Ross.
00:10:01
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But they were just like, yo, yeah we had you on the show and you just kind of walked out and there's no like there was no explanation as to why you said you had prior commitments, but that wasn't really specified beforehand and you just bounced.
00:10:17
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Now this all happened in 2021. Why am I talking about it now? Well, DC Youngfly later expressed a little bit of frustration, not just about Ross leaving, but that he gave a lengthy and open interview to a different white owned podcast know right after filming their show.
00:10:39
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On this other show, Ross was fully engaged, including discussing topics like him being a former correctional officer that the 85 South crew was like, hey, we're not going to talk about that out of respect.
00:10:52
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So this this left D.C. Youngfly, you know, feeling... ah a certain type of way. And this is all coming out now because DC Youngfly was just recently on the Roy and Mall show, which is another podcast. They are a spinoff from the Joe button podcast. They were the, I think the original crew from the Joe button podcast and they have their own podcast. Now DC Youngfly was on that podcast talking about this incident because he was asked about it.
00:11:18
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And he said, you know, with all respect, I love Ross. We just didn't understand why you would walk off, say you had other commitments, but then go to another podcast, a white-owned podcast, and which is nothing wrong. He's he's not making it a black and white issue, but what he was specifically saying is, look,
00:11:34
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we're a black We're a black podcast. You're a black artist that we're featuring, honoring you with respect. You would think that you would look out for us and just finish the podcast as opposed to leaving us to go to a another podcast that happened to be owned by white people, interviewed by white people, being fully engaged, which you work with us, and then talking about controversial issues that we would have never addressed with you.
00:12:01
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This is all understandable. And when DC Youngfly, I've seen a clip of this particular situation where DC Youngfly was talking about this. In this clip, he's being extremely respectful to Ross.
00:12:13
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And he was saying, look, man, we just don't understand why you bounce like that. and And then went and did another podcast and you didn't really communicate with us afterwards.
00:12:24
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but it's all love. We still love Ross. These were, I'm paraphrasing here, but these were his words. Four years after the fact, this is the first time it's been addressed in four years. Rick Ross came back.
00:12:36
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Rick Ross's response to it, he posted, I think it was on his eto Instagram, that he says, Ross insisted he came to the 85 South show for free. He kept saying for free.
00:12:47
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Didn't ask about analytics and showed love. He jokingly complained about wasting a Gucci jacket on the appearance and we're requested lemon pepper wings next time, referencing his Wingstop connection.
00:13:02
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So DC Youngfly in return set the record straight, noting that none of the high high profile guests that they've ever had on the show have ever been paid. These hope high profile guests include TI, Buster Rounds, Boosie, and Snoop Dogg.
00:13:16
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None of these people have ever been paid. He said the show's success didn't depend on Ross and extended an open invitation for Ross to return and even said we had 20 lemon pepper wings in the back day that Ross visited.
00:13:31
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So what do I feel about all of this? Because I'm nowhere near unsolicited perspective is nowhere near in the ball field of these other podcast podcasts, nowhere near 85 South, nowhere near Roy mall.
00:13:47
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I would never like, we're nowhere very close from having somebody like Rick Ross as a guest on, on the show. And quite honestly, I was a former huge Rick Ross fan.
00:14:00
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Rick Ross has kind of like pissed me off over the last couple of years. He pissed me off with the whole Drake thing, calling him white boy. Yes, Drake is half white. Just like Barack Obama.
00:14:10
Speaker
People seem to forget that. Barack Obama is half white and was raised by his white family. Okay? So was Drake. They said he's a culture vulture and all this stuff. I'm not going to get into that. I've already given my opinion about that. But what I will say is this.
00:14:28
Speaker
It didn't stop Ross from making a lot of music with him. Didn't have a problem with it then. See, Ross does things that are advantageous for him when it's advantageous for him. OK, so that's capitalism, right? That's being a businessman. Everybody's going to say that's capitalism.
00:14:45
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The fact that DC Youngfly was being very respectful in explaining the story and saying, we don't have a problem with Ross. We love Ross. We just didn't understand why he left.
00:14:58
Speaker
And Ross comes back with, I pulled up, came for free, wore a jacket that I can't ever wear out again because I appeared on your show with it.
00:15:09
Speaker
Y'all didn't have no lemon pepper wings for me. Well, if your fat ass had stayed... and finish the show, DC said there was 200 lemon pepper wings for your fat ass in the back.
00:15:22
Speaker
My problem is, is he thinks he's bigger than a lot of people out there. He had an issue with... 50 Cent. He then ruined the Black Mafia family television show because he wanted to do a concert with Big Meech.
00:15:37
Speaker
Knowing that 50 Cent is producing the television show. Knowing that he's got beef with 50 Cent. Knowing that 50 Cent takes any type of slight And he's so petty that he's going to have beef.
00:15:49
Speaker
He's going cancel the show, not do any more seasons, mess up big meats, bread, all just to stick it at 50. He attacks Drake. And then instead of just saying, hey, I had prior commitments.
00:15:59
Speaker
Yeah, I should have communicated better. He doubles down by saying y'all little podcast I didn't even ask y'all about what y'all had going on you know y'all didn't have nothing for me I done wasted my shirt for me and I came in free when everybody does the podcast free and oh by the way those names that they reeled off of guests that have appeared for free The majority of them are bigger than Rick Ross.
00:16:24
Speaker
T.I., bigger than Rick Ross. Soup Dog, way bigger than Rick Ross. These people came on the show, show love, spent hours on the podcast, didn't ask for a dime, didn't talk about analytics or anything like that. Show respect to these young brothers that are doing something positive and putting out entertainment and the show is entertaining.
00:16:44
Speaker
And here is Ron's fat ass talking about analytics and that did it for free. I don't mess Ross no more. I'm done. I'm done messing with Ross because he's always been a fraud.
00:16:58
Speaker
He stole a drug dealer's name from out in LA.
00:17:03
Speaker
Won't give him any rights back for stealing his name. Rick Ross is actually the name of a drug dealer out in Los Angeles that was the main drug dealer in Los Angeles in the 80s and 90s.
00:17:15
Speaker
He was really moving weight. Rick Ross is a fraud. Rick Ross was not no moving weight type of dude, like he always says in his raps. By the way, that's okay for some artists to you know exaggerate a little bit about what they talk about in the streets.
00:17:30
Speaker
Ross wasn't about that. Okay? He was a correctional officer. Did he sell some drugs? Maybe. But he wasn't no... Willie Falcone, who he had in one of his ah one of his songs doing a little speech. Willie Falcone was one of the cocaine cowboys in Miami that was done a documentary on Netflix.
00:17:52
Speaker
And he was a major cocaine trafficker. Rick Ross was not. 50 Cent, Ben done exposed him. 50 Cent told us years ago he was a fraud, but he made good music.
00:18:04
Speaker
And we respected his music. Now don't respect him as a man. I don't. And he won't care. He doesn't care because who am I to him? I'm just saying as a dude that is from a certain generation of people that has some real street in their background. Not saying me. I'm not saying me. I just I know some people.
00:18:27
Speaker
He doesn't get respect from me as a man because he perpetrates a complete and utter fraud. And him coming back at DC Youngfly just goes to show what type of person that he is.
00:18:39
Speaker
And 50 Cent Ben Dunn told us, DC, if you're hearing this, keep doing your thing, brother. Forget about Rick Ross. Y'all are doing some positive work. Y'all are doing entertaining work.
00:18:50
Speaker
I enjoy it. And yeah, podcast guests, they do it for free. And if some podcast guest is asking for money, it's gonna come with some conditions.
00:19:02
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So I just thought this was interesting because it was messy. And somebody who is now in this field, And who hasn't had to deal with this, but might one day. love the way the DC Youngfly navigated this. And this was something that everybody can learn from.
00:19:17
Speaker
Always have humility. Always have respect when dealing with anybody. Because you never know how things are going to turn out.
Understanding and Practicing Accountability
00:19:32
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Accountability. What is the definition of accountability? Because it seems like so many people lack that characteristic in their personality. So what is being accountable?
00:19:45
Speaker
Accountability is the quality or state of being accountable. That doesn't really give you a clear definition of what accountability means. Because a lot of people, even if I just say, hey, it's about being accountable, they don't understand that.
00:19:59
Speaker
Why? Because a lot of people are not accountable. So what does accountability mean? Accountability is an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions.
00:20:16
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Why am I bringing this up? I'm going get to a viral story in a minute. But I really want to talk about accountability because it's lacking. and And I know what a lot of people are going to say.
00:20:27
Speaker
Well, it's a new thing. People were accountable before or back in the day. No, they were not. People by and large don't want to be accountable for their actions because being accountable means that you have to acknowledge that you were wrong.
00:20:40
Speaker
That's what that means. And people having acknowledged that they are wrong, they hate that. Nobody wants to be wrong. Nobody wants to be wrong. Everybody wants to be right. I want to be correct.
00:20:52
Speaker
Correct wouldn't necessarily mean right. But if I know that I'm wrong, I admit it. I say, oh yeah, I was wrong about that. My bad. Or I'm sorry. going to get to that. I'm sorry. Next, but we're going stay with accountability.
00:21:05
Speaker
lot of people don't want to admit that they're flawed because if you say that you're wrong about something, there was a flaw. It was a flaw in your knowledge, a flaw in what you said, a flaw in your actions. People have this idea about being perfect. Nobody is perfect.
00:21:21
Speaker
And I think that people have their, in what's the right way to say this? People have their, what they want in life wrong. What do I mean by that? A lot of people, I see a lot of people out there talking about, I'm grinding, I'm chasing the bag, acting like that's what's important in life.
00:21:42
Speaker
In my 45 years, and it's taken me a very long time, I would say about 40 of them, 40 of those 45 years to finally figure out what i I believe the purpose of life is.
00:21:57
Speaker
It's to find happiness without hurting others. It's to find joy without hurting others. Forget about legacy. You won't be remembered. was talking to somebody the other day and I was like, look, after you get past three generations in your own family, you're forgotten.
00:22:13
Speaker
Right. A lot of people met their grandparents, know their grandparents, had a relationship with their grandparents, but not really their great grandparents. And so the memory of those people are lost to time. Legacy is such a ridiculous thing to try and say that I want to be remembered.
00:22:29
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There's no guarantee that you're going to be remembered. There are there have been 45 presidents. Yes, I know. You're going to say, well, isn't Trump 47? Yeah, he's 45 and 47. And there's another president that had two separate terms. So there's actually been 45 men that have actually been president of the United States. How many of you guys can name half of them?
00:22:50
Speaker
Half. And let's say that you get those half. You forget about the other half. You forget about it. So the idea legacy is ridiculous. So the idea of I want to be remembered, that's what life is about, is having a legacy. Oftentimes people have children and because they say, I want to have a legacy. I want to be remembered. You're going to remembered.
00:23:09
Speaker
There's no guarantee that your name is going to be continued on. If you have old girls, guess what? If they decide to take their partner's name, if they get married, end of the line for your branch of the family tree.
00:23:21
Speaker
So stupid. Joy, we have a short period of time on this planet. If you're lucky, you get 80 summers. I've said it before, 80. eighty I've had 45. I'm in my 45th summer.
00:23:32
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I'm hoping, I'm hoping to get 25 more. I know that's not 80, that's 70, but I'm hoping to get 25 more summers. If I can get more than that and be moving around and functional, cool.
00:23:44
Speaker
But 25 more summers, that's the goal. Short period of time, 80 years flies by. When you're a kid, you think it takes forever, but 80 years flies by really fast.
00:23:55
Speaker
It's short period of time that we're on this planet, that we're living in this existence. It's ridiculous for us to focus on getting that dollar. don't get me Don't get me wrong. Like we need money in order to live life. Like we have to, right?
00:24:08
Speaker
But for that to be your singular focus in life is to build up your bag. Your bag can be lost by the snap of a finger.
00:24:19
Speaker
It can be lost way quicker than it took you to attain it. So that shouldn't be the focus. It should be joy. As long as you're not hurting anybody else. Joy. Because once again, we have a small time on this planet.
00:24:32
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Now, the problem with having your main focus in life being joy, right? Peace, happiness, is that being wrong can conflict with those things.
00:24:46
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Because once again, nobody likes being wrong. And When people are wrong, they tend to try to defend themselves. What are they doing?
00:24:58
Speaker
Lacking accountability. And when they're caught out in these situations, they have a really difficult time apologizing. What is an apology?
00:25:10
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It's an admission of error or discourtesy accompanied by an expression of regret.
00:25:18
Speaker
I, my sister kills me and I'm gonna tell a story. It's not the sibling happy hour, but but she, she hates when I tell this story. I'm gonna tell it anyway. When we were younger, not even when we were younger, even when we were adults.
00:25:32
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When my sister was called out for being wrong about something, she would go, sorry. Now, to this day, she still says, hey, those sorry's were sincere. was just like, yo, your presentation is absolutely horrible because it's coming off as you're just brushing it off to a side.
00:25:50
Speaker
Sorry. That doesn't seem sincere at all. So what is the proper way to apologize? There's five ways to app apply to apologize.
00:26:03
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These five ways involve expressing regret, accepting responsibility, making restitution, requesting forgiveness, and showing a planned change.
00:26:14
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These methods demonstrate sincerity and a commitment to rectify the situation and prevent future occurrences. Let me give you a story. I'm having a debate with a gentleman the other day.
00:26:30
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This gentleman said to me, yeah, Vanilla Ice, he wasn't really popular. People didn't respect him in the rap community. I was like, well, you know, yeah I mean, he was kind of corny, but he made a hot song.
00:26:42
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and then And then it was like, was it because he's white? And I was like, no, there's been a lot of white rappers that have been accepted in the rap community vanilla ice was kind of corny but hell vanilla ice was just the white version of mc hammer at that particular time look before we continue on hammer deals with beef in certain type of ways hammer i'm not calling you corny at all i'm saying that at some point people looked at you as corny i'm not calling you corny i don't want no beef
00:27:15
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Please Hammer Don't Hurt Him and Let's Get It Started are my two favorite MC Hammer songs. It's in the lexicon of my favorite rap songs.
00:27:26
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Let's get it started and Hammer Don't Hurt Him. OK, but when he started to do can't touch this and he had to bag your pants, a lot of people weren't rocking with it. I mean, he sold millions, but a lot of people weren't rocking with it.
00:27:41
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And Vanilla Ice was kind of mimicking that. So a lot of people was like, that's corny. That's corny. But the person that I was talking to so tried to equate every white rapper like that. And I said, absolutely not.
00:27:54
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I'll go to two different extremes. There's Beastie Boys and then there's Eminem. he's like, well, why were they accepted? Well, they were accepted because Beastie Boys were on Def Jam, right?
00:28:06
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And Eminem was backed by Dr. Dre. and And Beastie Boys were from Brooklyn, right? New York, the home of hip hop. Eminem was from the D, Detroit, and was about a battle rapper.
00:28:17
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Like, they always get respect in the rap community. And matter of fact, Eminem might be one of the best lyricists that's ever graced the mic. Let me get to the point where he needed to apologize.
00:28:30
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He then makes a statement. Oh yeah, Beastie Boys and Jay-Z knew each other back in the day. I said, I mean, they they know they know each other now, but not back in the day, no.
00:28:40
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Yeah, no, no, no, they did, because they they had a producer, Rick Rubin, together. was like, no. Rick Rubin did produce a song for a Jay-Z.
00:28:52
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99 Problems on the Black album. They released in 2004. And he was a producer that worked with Def Jam. Rockefeller was signed under Def Jam label.
00:29:04
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But Beastie Boys and Jay-Z didn't know each other when Beastie Boys were like at their height. Yeah, they did. Okay. No, they didn't. Because Beastie Boys came out 84. Jay-Z didn't even start rapping, rapping until 88, 89 when he was rapping with Jazzo. They didn't know each other.
00:29:21
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No, you're wrong. Okay. So I look it up and sure enough, there is no connection, no connection that could be found at all in the mid eighties between the Beastie Boys and Jay-Z. And instead of conceding this argument, instead of having accountability to just admitting that they were wrong and apologizing that they were arguing with me and raising my blood pressure, this person continued on did find to try and find many colonels to try and figure out a way where they could be right.
00:29:48
Speaker
And then finally I said, you know what? I'm done with this conversation because it's very clear to me that you don't want to admit in any way that you're wrong. And you're trying to find a way that you can have a silver lining to be right.
00:30:01
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And they finally confessed to me. Yeah, nobody likes to be wrong. I said, but being an adult is having accountability and apologizing to me for raising my blood pressure all the way up, arguing with me, fighting with me when you are wrong.
00:30:20
Speaker
Person didn't apologize. They just said, hey, I mean, I guess i i guess I'm wrong. That's what they said. And I said, I'm never going to have a discussion with you, a debate with you ever again. Cause this is a person that I've had multiple debates with and they're always wrong.
00:30:33
Speaker
And the reason why they're always wrong is because I don't talk about anything that I don't know. If I don't know something, I was like, actually, I don't know anything about that. That goes above my head. I routinely say that's above my head. I don't know.
00:30:46
Speaker
If you have some information, please share it with me. And if I don't know something, I will go and research it. If I am wrong, I acknowledge the fact that I'm wrong.
00:30:58
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I apologize for whatever thing that I've done to the person that I've wronged. I ask for forgiveness if they can't accept my apology and then let them know, yeah, I'm going to fix this issue so we don't have this issue ever again.
00:31:16
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The five ways to apologize. Now, how do I know about the five ways to apologize? A former woman that I dated.
00:31:25
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said that I didn't really apologize. Well, i hey, I had this flaw that I didn't and you know want to take accountability and I had a problem apologizing. I'm not speaking about anything that I don't know.
00:31:36
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ah I used to be this person. stopped being this person. I started acknowledging. and and And this is another situation where got to give credit to my ex-wife for pouring these things out and helping with my growth. Now I've grown leaps and bounds.
00:31:54
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boun since dealing with her. So there have been other people along the way, but she was the initial spark to be like, yo, you know, the way you move in is kind of foul. You don't take accountability and you really don't apologize well when you take accountability.
00:32:08
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So, That is accountability and apologizing. There are some people listening and watching watching this right now that are just like, damn, he is speaking to my soul. Yeah, I'm speaking directly to you.
00:32:19
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That's not cool to be a person that lacks accountability and doesn't apologize. You know what ends up happening? People don't want to be around you. I hate being around people that feel like they have to always be right.
00:32:32
Speaker
They always want to argue, always want to debate, and don't want to admit, I guess I was wrong in my position in this argument. You get it a lot now in the political world, but you just have it just in everyday life. I am tired of the conversation Who was better, Michael Jordan and LeBron James?
00:32:49
Speaker
It is Michael Jordan. End of discussion. He is the greatest skilled basketball player that ever existed, as well as being one of the greatest athletes. You put those two things together, equals the best, the greatest.
00:33:02
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LeBron James is damn good. Damn good. He's in the top five. But stop saying that he's Michael Jordan. He Michael Jordan. I'm tired of having in this conversation.
00:33:13
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I'm tired of having the conversation who was better, Michael Jackson or Prince? I actually don't know the answer to that question. I like Michael better, but I also love Prince. Two things could be true at the same time.
00:33:25
Speaker
Couldn't they just both be great? But the fact of the matter is nobody wants to ever admit that they're wrong. Never wanna take accountability.
00:33:36
Speaker
You never wanna apologize. And if it's hitting your soul, I'm letting you know because if you don't change your ways, People are going to elect not to be around you because nobody likes a person that's so stuck it stuck in their ways, so stubborn that they can't be reasoned with.
00:33:56
Speaker
If you're not a reasonable person, you're going to find your so smaller ah your circle getting smaller and smaller and smaller. That's going to be a lonely existence. But why am I bringing all of this up?
00:34:07
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Right? like Like Bruce, what got you started on accountability and apologies? Well, If you've been living under a rock, there was this viral moment that happened at a Coldplay concert where a couple got caught in an incident.
Public Apologies and Viral Incidents
00:34:25
Speaker
Y'all know what I'm talking about because y'all have seen it. If you've been on social media at all, you've seen it. So at a recent Coldplay concert at the Boston Gillette Stadium, a couple was inadvertently thrust into the spotlight after being shown on the venue's kiss cam.
00:34:39
Speaker
During the band's performance, the moment became instantly awkward. The man was seen hugging a woman from behind. Y'all all know what you do when you hug a woman from behind. Look, I remember working in the restaurant industry and I'll never forget who she was. I'm not gonna put her name out there, but her name was Big Booty and her first name.
00:34:59
Speaker
Now I've said that a lot about a lot of people. Big booty something, big booty this. I have another friend that I call her, her first name, and then booty cheeks.
00:35:11
Speaker
You know, this isn't her name, but let's just say her name is saved in my phone as Lisa booty cheeks. It's a friend of mine um that I used work in the restaurant business with, but what did she have that were spectacular?
00:35:24
Speaker
Booty cheeks. So this particular woman in a restaurant that I worked at, I called her big booty and in her first name. To her face, like she knew that that that her name was saved in my phone like that.
00:35:36
Speaker
And I used to always give her a hug from behind. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I was a creep, okay? I mean, I was young. I was 40 years old.
00:35:47
Speaker
No, I wasn't. I was a lot younger than that. But I used to give her a hug from my behind. Y'all know what I'm doing when I give a hug from behind. And if you don't know what I'm doing, if you're a female out there, have a man give you a hug from behind and see what...
00:36:01
Speaker
It's touching you. Okay? So, my man is at the Coldplay concert. He's hugging this woman from behind. When they notice themselves on the big screen, both quickly separated, the woman turned her face away and the man tried to duck out the frame.
00:36:18
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Then Chris Martin, Coldplay's lead singer, commented on the on the jumble time, joking, either they're having an affair or they're just very shy, which got the whole crowd laughing.
00:36:29
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Now, This got caught and put on all social media sites. What ended up happening? So this viral clip goes viral.
00:36:42
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Social media figures out who they are. Andy Byron, he's the CEO of a software company called Astronomer and his head of HR, Kristen Cobb.
00:36:56
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Guess what? They're married. Not to each other, though. To somebody else. Remember what I said. Mind you, he's hugging her from the back. living They are living their best lives in this suite.
00:37:10
Speaker
Singing the Coldplay songs. Having a good damn time. They're not alone. There's an assistant
00:37:20
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That works in HR. That just got hired. That's in the suite with them. And when she pops up on the jumbotron. She looks embarrassed.
00:37:31
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Thoroughly embarrassed. So either she knew that they was cheating.
00:37:36
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Or. Nah she knew that they was cheating. yeah yeah There's no other reason for you to feel embarrassed. You knew that they cheating. And I got to be honest. That's bold. That is bold. That is bold to take your coworker that you haven't an affair with because clearly you haven't an affair.
00:37:55
Speaker
You don't hug no woman from behind unless you trying to do something or y'all are doing something. I've never hugged a woman from behind that, you know, hey, y'all know where I'm going with that.
00:38:08
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I ain't never did a hug from behind me, something different. And it wasn't even like a little quick hug. He was holding. It was a holding hug. arms wrapped around her front.
00:38:19
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He's standing behind her. She's grabbing a hold of her arms. They're swaying back and forth to the music. Guilty. I declare this couple guilty of adultery.
00:38:31
Speaker
It is clear. Now there's been a viral apology where he takes accountability at the beginning of the apology. Says, I'm sorry to my family, my friends, you know, my kids.
00:38:45
Speaker
This is not the person that I am. Everybody always goes there. this is This is who I am. This is who you are. And then proceeds to blame Coldplay for being like, you shouldn't be putting people's private business out there in the streets. Now, they have claimed the spokespeople for the company, since he's the CEO of a really wealthy company, have said that apology is fake.
00:39:11
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I tend to believe it because that apology really lacked strong accountability and was not a very sincere apology as they try to deflect.
00:39:25
Speaker
So I believe that it was fake. Also, it could be real. And then they said, this is a bad PR move. Let's just say that was a fake. That was a fake apology. Either way,
00:39:36
Speaker
Either that's the statement or he has not made a statement. And they both look bad. Now you say, why does he need to make a public apology? Well, because he was caught in public and he's a public figure.
00:39:49
Speaker
He needs to make a public apology, but I guess you got to get home straight first. I mean, it did just happen the other night. So you got to get home straight first. I hope, I hope. That when he goes to his wife, he uses those so five different things in his apology.
00:40:08
Speaker
Most importantly, when he does apologize, damn, he got to have some accountability. I don't know how you're going to explain it away. I got caught one time. It's out in the streets after the clubs let out.
00:40:22
Speaker
I thought my girlfriend at the time had gone away. Thought she was going home. I'm with my boys. I'm parking a lot pimping out there in the streets. Find me a nice tenderoni.
00:40:34
Speaker
I say tenderoni because I was 18. She was probably 18, 19, 20, 21 years old. She was around that age, right? Find tenderoni and I'm spitting game, right? I'm spitting all the game. Got her laughing and giggling. keep kiing I'm about to get the number.
00:40:48
Speaker
I hear my boys yelling. I'm not paying attention because I'm wrapped up in what I'm doing. I get hit from behind with a punch in my back.
00:40:59
Speaker
And I'm thinking to myself, I'm about to start fighting. This is messed up because I'm about to get this number from this dime piece. Turn around, it's my girlfriend. Now, she was Cuban and Puerto Rican. I'm going to put that out there.
00:41:13
Speaker
She was Cuban and Puerto Rican, okay? She loses it. I have to come up with a lie on the spot. Cause the girl said, you better hot you better handle that and walked away.
00:41:25
Speaker
So I'm already mad that I didn't get my ah that girl's phone number. But also my girlfriend looked like she about to beat my ass. So I came up with a lot cause the girl's already walked away and I'm looking dead at my girlfriend.
00:41:38
Speaker
And I said, baby, what you doing? She says, you out here hollering at other women? No, that was my friend. Look, I told you about her. Me and her had a falling out.
00:41:50
Speaker
And i was, I saw her out here as the first time I seen her this since the whole semester started. And I was trying to just see what's up and see if we could be friends again. I wasn't out here hollering. I wasn't like, I told you about her.
00:42:03
Speaker
I never told her about her. I never did, but she's drunk. She don't remember. Right? She was like, yeah, I do remember. That was her. That was her. That was all I was trying to do. Where'd she go? So I could, so I could let her know. I knew that she had walked away, but I'm playing it up.
00:42:17
Speaker
I got myself out of the situation. I did. I got myself out of the situation. Now, later on, that particular girlfriend i cheated on me, but, but, but she had caught me in some other things. So maybe she was justified.
00:42:29
Speaker
But anyway, I didn't apologize. I didn't take accountability. I lied to try to get my way out of it. Why? Because I was scared of losing something. I didn't want to be wrong. Maybe Andy will take accountability.
00:42:44
Speaker
and apologize, or maybe he'll come up with a good lie. I don't know how you can get yourself out of this one because y'all was cheesing, hugging from behind, having yourself a grand old time. I don't know how a lie is going to get you out of there. Their best thing to do is to admit that you were wrong, apologize, and take accountability. And for everybody else out there, let this be a lesson.
00:43:06
Speaker
Apologize properly, take accountability, or you're going to see your circle getting smaller and smaller and you won't have anybody else to blame but yourself.
00:43:23
Speaker
All right. For this segment, a little parental discretion is advised because I'm going to be talking about, ladies and gentlemen, this is the time Pause it if you're around kids, because I'm going to be talking about nudes.
Ethics and Privacy in Sharing Photos
00:43:38
Speaker
Nudes. It's one of my favorite things in the entire world. Sorry, mama. It's one of my favorite things. When I get a nude from a woman I'm talking to or dating or married to or what have you.
00:43:51
Speaker
It just brightens up my day, even though if it's my girlfriend girlfriend. wife or I'm in a relationship with them. I see them naked.
00:44:02
Speaker
I see them, but it's something about getting a nude. It's kind of like getting a package from Amazon. You know, me and my sister have talked about it. There's something about going down to the mailbox or going down to your Amazon lockers, getting that notification, going on down there, getting your Amazon box, forgetting what you ordered from Amazon, opening it up. It's like Christmas.
00:44:25
Speaker
When you get a text, and it says a picture, and you know what it is. Oh man, it's like Christmas all over again.
00:44:36
Speaker
Now, for some women out there that get unsolicited nudes from men, I apologize on behalf of all men. I have never sent an unsolicited nude. I don't really send no nudes out there. I mean, and that's that's just me. I ain't really the type person that's going to be taking pictures of myself like that.
00:44:57
Speaker
I just don't do that. I got a lot of them. Now, here's the thing with women that have sent me nudes. If they ask me to delete them, I delete them.
00:45:12
Speaker
I'm a man of my word. Well, sometimes, because, you know, back in the day I used to cheat and I said, i you know, I was going faithful. But if I say that I'm going to delete your new, um I'm going to erase it. I'm going to erase it.
00:45:27
Speaker
Right. Like I'm going to. However, if you don't tell me to delete it, don't assume that I'm going to delete it because I did not. I got a folder. that goes all the way back from 1999. And I bet you're asking yourself, Bruce, how did you get news in 1999?
00:45:44
Speaker
College, we had webcams. We had webcams in college. And you also had like Polaroids and pictures. So yeah, you got news.
00:45:57
Speaker
How do you get them in on your computer? If they were Polaroids or something like that? Oh, just scan them. Just scan them. I got a folder. Now, let me rephrase that. I got a hard drive. what six 26, 27 years of news and a Google Photo file.
00:46:18
Speaker
Am I a creep? um know Serial creep? Yeah, I guess so. um i'm a I'm opening up to y'all. Don't judge me. I am who I am. Don't judge me.
00:46:30
Speaker
Once again, if women ask me to delete them, I delete them. Now there's going to be some women that have dated me, that have sent me news, that are listening and watching this video.
00:46:43
Speaker
And they're going to say, I never told Bruce to delete them. I know now I'm going to get some DMs. And what I'm going to say to you guys right now is I got to find them.
00:46:55
Speaker
If I can find them, I'll delete them, but I got to find them. That's a lot of, that's a lot of files anyway. I was a player back in the anyway. Why am I bringing all this up? I bring all this up because i want to stress if somebody has sent me a nude and asked me to delete them, I delete them out of respect. I don't want that.
00:47:16
Speaker
I don't want that karma coming back on me. I'm a strong believer in karma. I don't want that karma coming back on me. Now I'm bringing this up because recently I was talking to a friend. Friend is dating a guy. See, it's it's her boyfriend.
00:47:30
Speaker
Right? They have been dating for like three or four years. They're together together. Okay?
00:47:36
Speaker
One weekend, he was away on a business trip. It wasn't a weekend. And it was a little bit longer than that. But he was away from her for a while. And he was like, hey, baby, can you send me a pic?
00:47:48
Speaker
Get me through this the spell that I'm without you. With some hesitation, with strong hesitation, She sent the pic and said, make sure you delete this.
00:48:00
Speaker
Now, they've been together four years. This was a couple of years ago that this happened. She recently found out he never deleted the pic. He kept the pic. And his response to keeping the pic was, you just look so hot, I couldn't get rid of it.
00:48:17
Speaker
ah Not taking accountability, right? He was wrong. He was wrong. He should have deleted pic and he did not do it. This is her man, by the way. Not some dude that she's dating.
00:48:30
Speaker
Just dating. Just met. Because women out there, let me tell you something. and Unless, you know, you're an OnlyFans model or you really don't have a problem with your body being out there, don't send no man no nude too quickly.
00:48:45
Speaker
Let that be your man before you send him a nude. Or... You got to really, really trust them because odds are, odds are one or two things are going to happen.
00:48:57
Speaker
and And I'm going to put you all on game. I'm breaking every guy code. I'm going to put you all on game because I got more female friends than I do male friends. And I've been telling them this, I'm to spread it out to the audience here.
00:49:07
Speaker
I'm going put you all on game. Men ain't deleting anything unless you tell them. And the majority of the time, men are going to delete it even when you tell them to delete it.
00:49:20
Speaker
And you might think that they care a lot about you. They might think you just somebody that they kicking it with and they're going to show their boys. They're going to show their boys.
00:49:36
Speaker
Now,
00:49:39
Speaker
my own personal belief is i don't really share what women share to me. I don't, I feel like it's disrespectful. They send it to me. They didn't send it to be spread out to everybody.
00:49:51
Speaker
And then you also run a foul of sending somebody something that somebody sent to you. It's their new, it's on somebody else's phone. It could be spread out.
00:50:04
Speaker
I look, I'm not going be a part of that. Never going to do that. So I can assure every woman that's ever sent me a new, ain't showing people. and Okay.
00:50:16
Speaker
Also, I wouldn't show anybody that I'm really serious with. Why? Because I don't want people looking at my girl. Now, hold on.
00:50:27
Speaker
Because I've dated women who were exotic dancers. And I even told the story, unbeknownst to me at the time, that I dated a former porn star. Afterwards, I had a really difficult time dealing with that. But I was young. I was 25. You know, that was 20 years ago. I wouldn't have a problem with it now.
00:50:46
Speaker
Right. I'm not going to just that's her decision. If she's openly showing her body to people in public, then OK, that's completely different than me sharing the picture to men that she didn't intend to see her in that situation.
00:51:09
Speaker
I'm telling you, women out there, I'm telling you.
00:51:14
Speaker
Don't be sending news to random dudes. Cause I have a lot of guy friends and there have been times that some of my, I guess they wouldn't be my closest friends. My closest friends have never done anything like this, but, but friends, people that, that I'm, I'm cool with have shown me women that they're dating and it'd be they girl. And I'm like, yo, bruh, like what you doing?
00:51:41
Speaker
Like, don't show me a picture. i don't want to see a picture of your girl. That's your girl. If it's a chick that you just kicking in with, okay. But that's your girl. Like, I know her. Like, I kicked it with her.
00:51:53
Speaker
We went out. We went out into the city and had a good time. Like, i don't want to see her. Why are you showing this to me? I'm not talking about anybody in particular.
00:52:06
Speaker
I'm just saying there's something that's happened to me back in the day. Right? Right. And I'm telling y'all women, don't be trusting these dudes. Don't trust them.
00:52:17
Speaker
And that's coming from a dude that's got a ah hard drive of not just pictures, videos, the whole nine. Okay. And if you think you sent something to him on Snapchat and he wasn't able to keep it, you was wrong.
00:52:31
Speaker
He kept all that stuff on Snapchat. There are different apps that you can open through Snapchat that doesn't delete it. It keeps it in a separate Snapchat ah file and you don't know anything about it.
00:52:44
Speaker
Okay. i get that I knew about that all the way back in like 2015, 16. Okay. I'm not on Snapchat anymore. I don't do that type I don't live that life anymore. You know, I'm 45. old.
00:52:57
Speaker
I haven't gotten no nude in a long time. You know, so like I'm not living that life in anymore. i'm talking about my younger years back in the day, but way way way, way, way, way back in the day, like 10 years ago and plus 10, 15, 20 years ago.
00:53:10
Speaker
But yeah, like you can't trust people. You can't. You have to always have some, be disconcerting when you're dealing with people.
00:53:21
Speaker
So I told my friend who came to me and was telling me about the situation with her boyfriend and what should she do. He swore to her that he would delete it and even did it in front of her.
00:53:35
Speaker
And I was like, did you check his recently deleted? Did you check and see if he sent it to himself? Did you check and see if he made a copy and kept it someplace else? Look, I know every trick in the book.
00:53:47
Speaker
I know every trick in the book. I was like, are are you sure? She was like, Bruce, if I'm not sure, then what does that say about our relationship? I said, it says a lot.
00:53:58
Speaker
says a lot. It says that after four years, you can't trust him.
00:54:04
Speaker
You can't. because you sent him some news that he begged for that you let him know that you were very apprehensive about doing it, requesting him to delete it. And you're finding out two years later, he still got him.
00:54:20
Speaker
Didn't really apologize until you pressed him on it. Because I s seen the text text thread, like they were going back in fact back and forth through text. And she sent me a copy of the text thread and and I saw it.
00:54:32
Speaker
And I was like, he didn't really apologize in the beginning. Like he didn't. He didn't apologize until you pressed him. And he was like, I'm so sorry because he knew in that moment, oh, this might be a situation that she leaves me over.
00:54:47
Speaker
He didn't realize before then that that would absolutely be a situation that she would leave you over because you disrespected her and you showed that she couldn't trust you.
00:55:00
Speaker
So she asked me, what should she do? And I said, I can't tell you what to do. That's not a fair question for me. to tell you what to do I can't tell you what to do. Your, your heart will tell you what to do.
00:55:13
Speaker
Either you're going to believe him that he deleted it, that it's going to stay deleted, that it'll never be done again. ah y'all are going to move forward from this and you're going to, he's going to do the things necessary to gain your trust back because he's lost your trust.
00:55:30
Speaker
Well, I don't think he would cheat. Okay. All right. But he's lost your trust. ah Sometimes trust trusting in your partner isn't about, oh, I trust that they won't cheat on me.
00:55:44
Speaker
I mean, that should be the bare minimum. It's about, are you do you feel safe around them? If you don't trust them, can you feel safe around them?
00:55:56
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I don't think you can. so i was like, I can't make this decision for you. I can't even tell you what to do. You have to decide what you want to do. ah You have to go with what's in your heart.
00:56:10
Speaker
I mean, y'all been together for four years. Y'all been talking about, you know, doing that walk down the aisle. You have to make sure that you're sure and that you can trust him.
00:56:21
Speaker
He has to be contrite. He has to truly apologize because he hasn't technically done it all yet. He has to take real accountability because he hasn't technically taken all the accountability yet.
00:56:37
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And y'all need to see if you can move forward. If you can't move forward, then it's time for y'all to go separate ways. And maybe this was a blessing in disguise to show you who he really was.
00:56:50
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Or maybe it was really just a severe lapse in judgment that he is a very trustworthy person. And he thought keeping the picture wouldn't hurt anybody. Cause that's also very possible. I told her that was also very possible, right? Like I've done things that I didn't have malicious intent, but were disrespectful to other people unintentionally.
00:57:14
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And that's when you find out you were wrong. You take accountability and you apologize. Something that Andy Byron still hasn't done.
00:57:25
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And Kristen Colbert hasn't done either. You know, that's going from the last segment. But but y'all know what I mean. So, you know, as much as I love him, I do know with great power comes a certain responsibility.
00:57:45
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yeah And my responsibility is to always respect the person that has decided to let me in to their privacy.
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And this isn't just about news. This is about anything.
Final Thoughts on Accountability and Privacy
00:58:01
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You know, ah people often tell me messy stories.
00:58:08
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And a lot of times I repeat them on this podcast. A lot of times I ask them before i talk about it on this podcast. Sometimes they just come to me in the spur in a moment and I just say, oh, there's a story.
00:58:21
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Never, ever do I ever put the name of the person in the story because I want to be respectful of their privacy. And I don't really need a lot of clues that can have people find out because people don't know who are the personal people in my life.
00:58:36
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And they don't know like how I'm attached to them. Is it a client? Is a friend? Because I say everybody, a friend of mine or somebody that know. Okay? say I don't say a friend of ours.
00:58:49
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say a friend of mine. little mafia trickery, right? But I respect their privacy. I'm not going to put their information on blast. It's not just about nudes.
00:59:00
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It's about if somebody tells you a secret, don't turn around and say, Ooh, I just found out something. Don't tell anybody that I told you. You're disrespecting their privacy. It's disrespectful.
00:59:14
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So when that happens to you, you got one or two ways to respond to it. If somebody disrespects your privacy, you confront them on it and they're going to do one or two things. They're going to take accountability and apologize or they're not.
00:59:30
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And if they don't move on, that's what I say. It don't take me much to to move on. My uncle used to call me the sniper because I cut people loose real quick.
00:59:42
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I'll walk past you and won't say a word to you every day. If I decided don't want you in my life anymore, I guess they say that's a cancer trait, but I don't know. But anyway, look, ladies and gentlemen out there, let's all grow up.
00:59:56
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Right? Let's acknowledge and when we're wrong. Let's take accountability. Let's grow up. And that's my message for you today. Not just for y'all, also for me. I still have lapses. I am still an evolving person.
01:00:09
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I make mistakes. When I make mistakes, I try to make sure I give a sincere apology and take real accountability for it. And then try to make sure that it never happens again.
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Why don't you try to do the same thing?
01:00:25
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It'll make sure that your circle stays strong. freedom to freedom over fame Make sure it doesn't dwindle. Because nobody wants to be around somebody who doesn't take accountability and doesn't apologize.
01:00:36
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And on that note, I want to thank everybody for listening. I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always,
01:00:47
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