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DC Takeover, Dating Disasters & Why Summer Plans Fail
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This episode of Unsolicited Perspectives with Bruce Anthony is a rollercoaster of real talk, humor, and hard truths. From laugh-out-loud dating disasters (including the now-infamous “steak with your hands” saga) to why nobody can just pop up at your house unannounced, Bruce dives into the awkward, relatable, and downright outrageous.
We unpack DC’s federal law enforcement takeover, the deeper historical context behind it, and contrast it with Baltimore’s smarter public safety strategies. You’ll hear a moving personal story about grief, a funny-but-true look at failed summer plans, an honest take on giving your ex a compliment during divorce, and the internet’s top “places women refuse to go on a first date” #moderndating #RelationshipFails #DatingCulture2025 #DCTakeover #relationshiptalk #podcast #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Modern Dating Disasters & DC Power Moves 💥🍽️🏛️
00:18 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives! 🎙️🔥
01:46 Random Thoughts & Questions: Who Can Show Up Unannounced? 🤔🚪
05:10 Opening Up About Loss: A Personal Story 💔🐕
09:17 Would You Compliment Your Ex for a Divorce? 💍💔
15:25 Summer Plans That Never Happened 😅☀️
21:44 DC Takeover: A Historical Perspective 🏛️⚖️
24:21 Law & Order or Just Order? DC's Wild New Reality 🚓🗽
29:58 Is Safety Worth the Price? Rights, Protests & Power Moves ✊🔒
32:33 Modern Dating: Cringe Stories & Red Flags 💘🚩
39:25 Steak Date Disaster: When Etiquette Goes Out the Window 🥩😳
45:08 Who Pays? The Great First Date Debate 💸🤷♂️
47:20 Gym Clothes & Double Standards: Insecurity Unleashed 🏋️♀️😠
49:00 Jealousy, Trust, and Dating Bad Baddies 💃🔒
54:33 Places Women Won't Go on First Dates 🍽️❌
01:05:21 Outro: Thanks for Watching! 👋🙏
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Introduction to 'Unsolicited Perspectives'
00:00:00
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Random Questions, The DC Takeover, and Cringe Dating. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:18
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. stay Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:37
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rate, review, like, comment, share, share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies. On today's episode, I'll be doing random questions and thoughts.
00:00:50
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We're going to be talking about the DC takeover. We're going talk about, is it cringe dating or just modern dating? But that's enough of the intro.
Random Thoughts and Anxiety Issues
00:00:59
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Let's get to the show.
00:01:08
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I would say, hey, I'm going to introduce a new segment, but we all know if you're an avid listener, avid watcher, or if this is your first time coming to this podcast and you don't know this, I routinely introduce new ideas for segments and then completely forget about them.
00:01:26
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yeah i Look, I don't even remember the names of the segments that I created that was specifically pointing towards ah an idea. ah just... Kind of wing this thing. Not actually wing it, but these segments, look, I come up with them. I forget about them.
00:01:41
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And some way or somehow they come back, but they come back with a new name. This segment is random thoughts and questions. And I don't know if this segment is going to ever come back again, but for today's episode, for this episode, it's definitely a segment. And it's a bunch of stuff that's coming across my algorithm and my various social media platforms that I'm just like, hmm, that's interesting. Or, hmm, I think I have some thoughts about that and I'm going to give it to you guys. Why? Because y'all actually solicit my perspective, even though the show is called Unsolicited Perspectives because you're here.
00:02:19
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So I'm going to give you my perspective. So the first one, It's a question. And I think it's a very valid question in today's day and age. Who is allowed to show up at your house unannounced?
00:02:34
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And my first thought is not a damn person. place or thing. I don't know how a place would show up at my house, but maybe, you know, I've been watching a lot of DC. We might be in the vault multiverse.
00:02:47
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Nothing can come up to my house unannounced. Maybe a little kitten, maybe a lost puppy, but no human being except, and I'm dating myself right now, except for the people from the publisher's clearing house with a check.
00:03:04
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Now for all my Gen Z and Gen Alpha people who don't know what Publishers Clearinghouse is because I haven't seen a but a commercial for Publishers Clearinghouse in a very, very long time.
00:03:17
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For those people who don't know, I actually don't truly know what Publishers Clearinghouse is. I guess it was a place where you would sign up for magazines or whatever, and it and and it would enter you in kind of like a lottery or a raffle, and you could become a millionaire. They would just pop up at your house with a check.
00:03:37
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Now, this was a major thing in the 80s and 90s and maybe even the early 2000s. I don't know if it's still going on. I would gladly appreciate a publisher's clearinghouse person with a check not to sell me nothing with a check that just said, hey, you entered in this raffle in 1993 and we finally come around to you.
00:03:59
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Here's a couple of million dollars. Now, would I blow that million dollars rather rapidly? I would. I would because I'm bad with money. But those are the only people that could pop up at my house unannounced. My old mama can't pop up at my house unannounced. My old daddy can't pop up at my house unannounced.
00:04:13
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My brother and sister, and you know how much I love my family, they can't pop up at my house unannounced. Nobody can pop up at my house unannounced. As a matter of fact, it gives me great anxiety.
00:04:26
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great anxiety. When I get a random knock or worse yet, somebody rings my doorbell. Yes, I live in apartment, but I got a doorbell. Hey, I live in the luxury high rise. Don't hate the game.
00:04:37
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Don't hate the player. Hate the game. Anyway, i i get really nervous. I tiptoe to the door, look through the peephole to see who the hell it is.
00:04:48
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Let me give you an example of the anxiety that came across me just a couple of weeks ago. So I have a balcony and I, you know, I'm gonna let y'all in on a little something that's, that's very, very personal.
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The last two years that we're coming up on a two year anniversary of crypto passing, I haven't really gone out on the balcony. He actually, he didn't pass on the balcony, but he passed on the balcony when we were hanging out. That was our little spot.
00:05:19
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And I love my balcony that overlooks the courtyard. It is, i don't want to leave this place because I love my balcony in the courtyard view. I got a nice set out out there, nice couches, table, lights. It is a vibe, totally a vibe.
00:05:35
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And he passed, but basically he he passed away out there. I lost him out there. i lost him at the vet, but I lost him out there. And I haven't gone out there for two years.
00:05:46
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I haven't done it. I'm about to bring it up to a happier moment because I brought you guys down for a second. But I'm feeling better, right? I'm feeling better.
00:05:57
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And i was talking to my bestie and I was like, I haven't been out there. And she asked me why. And I hadn't realized, it hadn't dawned on me. The reason why I hadn't gone out to the balcony is because I'm still processing ah losing my dog.
00:06:11
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So I said that I'm going to clean out July. I stated I'm going to clean out my balcony because I'm going go out there for my birthday. I'm going to celebrate it. I'm going to get back to life out on the balcony.
00:06:24
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So it is crazy, crazy pollen and dirt on my balcony. What I decided to do was late at night, like 10, 30, 11, was clean off my balcony. And I took a big bucket of soapy water and I just dumped it on the balcony.
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And I'm scrubbing and I'm wiping. And on my balcony, I had these little things where, you know, I guess they're for, you know, flood prevention, where if it rains, the water will seep down in these little slits that's on the sides of the balcony.
00:06:56
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The only problem is, is that there are multiple balconies below me. So when the water slips down, it's actually hitting their balconies. So it's 1030 at night. I'm doing this because I'm assuming nobody is out on their balconies. I checked.
00:07:11
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And nobody's really going to be affected by it because by the next morning, it'll be dry. Well, I was wrong. I should have did it much later than 1030 because people were up.
00:07:23
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And how do I know that they were up? As I'm doing this, my doorbell rings. Now, once again, I told you, overwhelming anxiety when somebody comes to my door. So I go to the door, tiptoeing, tiptoeing, and I see two women standing outside of my door.
00:07:41
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I'm not answering the door because odds are they're the people below me. They're about to be like, what the hell is going on? So I'm not answering the door, but not only do they ring the doorbell, they knock.
00:07:54
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So i'm like, I gotta to answer this door. So I answered the door and they're like, Hey, uh, do you know there's water coming off your balcony? And at first I tried to act like didn't know what the hell they were talking about. And then I was like, yeah, I'm playing off the balcony. and they were like, oh, okay.
00:08:06
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We just wanted to check and make sure because we were worried like somebody's apartment was flooding or somebody was hurt or something like that. And I was like, oh, that's actually really sweet. Thank you. No, I'm okay. I'm just causing a major disruption disruption to you guys.
00:08:21
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But it'll yeah um' be done in a couple of minutes and it'll be cleaned up by tomorrow. I apologize for the inconvenience. It's like, no, no, that's okay. We just wanted to make sure everybody was okay. That's a good reason to come to my door. I still didn't want it.
00:08:35
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I still didn't want it. And trust me, I was sweating and almost pooped in my pants when my doorbell rang. And then it was a knock because i don't know who it is. And I'm definitely afraid of the popo coming to my door.
00:08:47
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I won't answer the door. I had I was dating a woman one time. She was like, why you were so afraid of the popo coming to your door? You don't do anything. I was like, I don't do anything, but I'm still scared them coming to the door.
00:08:57
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She was like, you don't have to answer it. I was like, well, I mean, if they got a warrant, she was like, yeah, but they also don't need to know that you're here. i was like, yeah, I mean, I guess you're right.
00:09:08
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So I guess I don't have to open the door. She's like, yeah. So just relax. And I was like, no, can't do it. Overwhelming anxiety.
Reflections on Relationships and Summer Plans
00:09:16
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So that long story short is to tell you nobody could come to my door unannounced but besides Publishers Clearinghouse.
00:09:24
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That's it. All right, here's another interesting question that came across my timeline. And as somebody that's divorced, and I know there are people out there that are also divorced, getting divorced, separated, thinking about divorce, thinking about divorce before they even get married.
00:09:39
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It happens, believe it or not. This question is for me and you. And leave a comment down in the comment section because I'm curious to see how people would handle this.
00:09:53
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What if a judge required you to give an honest compliment to your spouse before iting initialing before issuing a divorce what would you say My initial response that I have been divorced for longer than I was actually with the person.
00:10:13
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I think I was with the person a total of six or seven years, not married. That wasn't the whole time we were married. It was a short period of time we was actually married, but i think I was with the person for six or seven years.
00:10:24
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I've been divorced over 12. I believe it's like 13 years.
00:10:30
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officially divorced shorter than that, but we separated 12 or 13 years ago. So it's double the time that we were actually together. I've been over it so much so that we've not had in-person conversations, but we've caught we communicated through email recently to discuss some things that are personal to us, but you know to discuss some things, not about our marriage, but about people that we care about. so I don't have no beef with with her. And I'm pretty sure at this point she had no beef with me. And I don't even know that if we were really beefing. It just, the marriage just wasn't supposed to be. Just we weren't supposed to be together past the point of us being together. That happens.
00:11:10
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But the idea that even at the divorce proceedings that I wouldn't be able to give an honest compliment about her would be absolutely ridiculous. And I have a whole host of compliments about her.
00:11:23
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I once loved her and cared about her enough to marry her. So the idea that people out there wouldn't be able to give an honest compliment, an honest compliment I give her, she is literally one of...
00:11:38
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the most welcoming people that you ever meet. Comes from the whole, the whole family is welcoming. Just, they make you feel like your family immediately.
00:11:52
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Immediately. She's also hilarious. How do you think she kept me for six or seven years? Gotta to be hilarious. I can't carry the weight. She's hilarious. She's a good person. These are all honest compliments about her.
00:12:08
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And if you can't do that for your former spouse, it means one or two things. Actually, it can mean more than one or two things, but I'm going to focus on these one or two things because I just want to prove my point.
00:12:22
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It means one or two things. Either you never truly loved them.
00:12:28
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People don't want to hear that, right? You never truly loved them. Or... You ain't over the whole situation and you just don't want to admit it to yourself.
00:12:40
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And the second one, the latter, it's okay. It's okay to be in pain. It's okay to be in pain for a while. You know, they say typically it takes you half the time that y'all was together to get over in the relationship.
00:12:56
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I don't believe in that time period because I'm going to tell you one time I dated a woman and it was like four five months and it took me a whole year plus to get over her. And then we doubled back and it went through the same thing. It just to take me a year plus to get over again.
00:13:13
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But yeah, you know, sometimes you have those things that it's tough to get over. But theoretically, they say half the time you're with the person. that's that That's how long it takes you to get over a person.
00:13:25
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And that's okay if you're just not over the person, but you need to admit that. And then for the former, you never really loved them. Look, I realized in my older age,
00:13:38
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that I've only loved, romantically loved, two women, two, in my entire life. Now, have said I love you to, don't know, five, six, seven women that I that i dated, right? That they they were my girlfriends.
00:13:55
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Have said it to multiple women. But now in my Golden years, age of 45. I know, truly, I know I've only loved two women.
00:14:08
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And it was the one that cheated on me in college. I did truly love her. Now y'all will say, but you cheated on her all the time. I still loved her. Okay. I was just selfish. yeah Two things can be true.
00:14:19
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And my ex-wife, I did truly love her. Probably my ex-wife was the one woman that I loved almost unconditionally. Almost. Almost.
00:14:32
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But yeah, so a lot of times people will get married thinking that they love somebody and they don't. They love aspects about them, but not the person.
00:14:44
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So that happens. And if you can't give an honest compliment at your divorce date to get that divorce, that might be something that you want to try to deal with.
00:14:59
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Because obviously there's still a major issue. All right. On to the next thing that I thought was absolutely hilarious because it exemplified my life this summer.
00:15:13
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And the statement was ripped to all the we got to hang out this summer people. That didn't happen. We'll try again next summer. And let me tell you, I said in the spring I was going to be outside this summer.
00:15:28
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That's what I said. i said, I'm going to be outside this summer. um I'm going to go get it this summer. I made all these plans with friends saying, we're going to go here. We're going to go do that. going to stop by your house because I haven't seen your house and the new house that you bought five years ago.
00:15:45
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Don't judge me. Yes, I got a friend that bought a new house five to six years ago. To me, it's still new. She may have bought it five or six years ago, but to me, it's still new because I haven't been there yet to go visit her.
00:15:56
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To my credit, There's been some times where we made plans that she forgot. and it And she was like, oh, I'm out of town. I was like, all right, I just want point out that I put this in my Google calendar.
00:16:09
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I recognized that this was the time I was supposed to come visit you. And it didn't happen because you outside. Ladies and gentlemen, was not outside the summer. It was hot outside. It was ungodly outside.
00:16:21
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I wasn't even outside to do my evening walks. I would go down to the gym to do my walks in the treadmill. It was too damn hot. It was hot outside. Look, it's so hot you can't breathe in the D.C. area.
00:16:33
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Who wants to be outside? don't. And it was proven by the fact that I didn't go outside this summer. And I'm going to be real honest.
00:16:44
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The final part of this phrase that I found on Instagram, we'll try again next summer. We can try. We can try. We ain't going to succeed because it keeps getting hotter every summer.
00:16:55
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That means that next summer is going to be even hotter this summer. And I'm going to be a year older. I can't take that heat. I want to be inside the house with air conditioning. We could be inside. We can be inside, but I'm not going to be outside.
00:17:09
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I'm not going to be outside. So if we're going to hang, we're going to hang inside. and Look, let me tell you something. I went to go visit my sister when she was in town last weekend.
00:17:20
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Everybody knows I don't have a car. And I use public transportation. Do I use the bus? I got a free bus in my city. So it'll take me to and fro the metro.
00:17:32
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But most of the time when I'm going out, I'm just taking an Uber. The Uber where she was going to be at was going be like $50. I said, I'm going to take public transit. going to take the Metro. But as I'm waiting for the Metro, just stand in there.
00:17:47
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sweating profusely because I got this bald head, sweated through all my moisturizer. What was a point even put moisturizer on? I sweated through it because it's just ungodly hot out there. And then I'm like, I got my colognes and my body lotions. You know, I'm trying smell good, look good. That's the presentation I'm trying to present when I'm outside.
00:18:05
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And then I'm thinking to myself, I'm sweaty as hell. Did i sweat past all the good smells that I had? Am I going smell like outside when I get there?
00:18:16
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No, I don't want to go outside during the summertime. I'll catch you in the fall. I'll be outside in the fall. You know, when the air is crisp and it's not as hot and I can breathe. Yeah. And then I'm gonna be outside before next summer.
00:18:30
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Nah, man. And, you know, I'm not going to do exactly what I did this summer. Not a damn thing. I went out a couple of times. It was sweat. I don't I don't like to sweat. You know what saying? I did everything possible not to sweat.
00:18:44
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I even got a fat man's how when I go out to try and dap the sweat. But with a bald head, it don't work. Just be sweating profusely. that's just That's just how life presents itself for me.
00:18:55
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So, rip to all the plans I had to going on outside this summer and and rip to all the plans you might've had going outside this summer. The summer was hot as hell.
00:19:06
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So we ain't go do nothing. And guess what? Next summer, we ain't gonna do anything else outside either.
Trump's DC Police Takeover and Its Implications
00:19:13
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That's just what it's gonna be. But with that being said, there's a reason why I won't go outside right now because I live in the DMV area. For those that don't know, the DMV area is the district, Maryland, Virginia, the district being Washington, D.C., and I'm going to get into the reason why I'm not going out in the d into D.C.
00:19:35
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next.
00:19:44
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So, like I said in the last segment, I live in the DMV area. That's the district, Maryland and Virginia, the district being Washington, D.C. And if you've been paying attention to the news at all, you know that Trump has
00:20:01
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taken over the law enforcement in the city. And before jumping on filming this, I saw a headline and I didn't get to really read the headline, but I saw the headline that he is issuing national guard in 19 different States.
00:20:21
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If you're not paying attention to what's going on, I see it from a historian perspective. There is not going to be a traditional transfer of power when his term is up.
00:20:38
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It's going to be something else. And if you're an historian, you know, that these type of things though, extremely unfortunate, extremely depressing kind of have to happen.
00:20:55
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And this is what I mean. I love taking the quote from Clemenza and the Godfather. When Michael asked him, Hey, we're about to go to war with the other There are five families in New York. There was about to be four families against the Corleone family because they you know they attacked Don Corleone and the Corleone family was going to strike back.
00:21:18
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And Michael Corleone asked Clemenza, how bad is it going to be? Clemenza says, it's going be bad. It's going to be real bad. But... This needs to happen every 10, 15 years or so to clear out the bad blood.
00:21:31
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I live, I live by that quote every time there's unrest anywhere. And me being a historian, realizing that when you're dealing with a fascist
00:21:48
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dictator or an authoritative dictator, government, have you, These things have to happen. That push that push for more and more authority has to happen for the revolution to truly be born.
00:22:06
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People that are indifferent to their rights, their liberties, being trampled because it's not happening to them.
00:22:18
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Eventually, that dictator or that authoritative government, that fascist government, goes does an overreach for power, and it starts to affect the people that were unaffected before.
00:22:33
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And then they start to get angry, and they join the fight, and that's always, that's always what happens in these type of regimes.
00:22:44
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and Going back to the beginning of time, all empires have fallen, all of them. What would make America so different? And America is absolutely an empire. And we've already had a revolution twice in this country.
00:22:59
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We had the quote unquote American revolution. There was another revolution. There was a civil war. boom And it was a revolution for both sides. One side was right. One side was wrong.
00:23:10
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North was right. South was wrong. It's clear. So Trump has, you know, decided that, uh, The movements of consolidating power in the last eight months, it's not enough.
00:23:27
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And this was all written in their Project 2025 handbook that we all tried to tell you that this was going to happen. But now it's starting to affect other people. And what I mean by other people, in the D.C. area, there's a lot of wealth in D.C.
00:23:42
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What's in D.C. is a lot of wealthy, liberal and conservative white people. And in this country, no movement for righteousness or conclusion to righteousness and movements happens until the majority starts to take action.
00:24:10
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That's just been the case throughout our history. The marginalized can speak up, they can yell and scream, but it is not until people in the majority start to take notice and start to move in that action does true, true progress start to happen.
00:24:26
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And we are starting to see it in Washington, D.C. as people are protesting. people People that live in Washington, D.C.
00:24:38
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are starting to protest. They're not writing, but they're letting their voice be known that this occupation is not what they want. So I put on my author hat and I haven't done it in a while.
00:24:54
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And ah wrote something, wrote something that's been in my thoughts for like the last week and a half. And I just sat down and I wrote it and I think it's okay.
00:25:05
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What I'm going to do is I'm going to read what I wrote. That is my opinion about this entire thing. Put on my writer and teacher's hat. And I'm also going to post it online. It's going to be on unsolicitedperspectives.com in the blog section.
00:25:20
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I know. I haven't written in a long time. I really enjoyed writing this. I really enjoy writing. You know, I don't know why I stopped. Maybe I'll start to pick it back up as a hobby. I'm just really busy.
00:25:31
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But I took the time and this was relatively, this came to me really relatively quickly. It didn't take me a long time to write. But
00:25:40
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I'm going to read it to you guys and I think it will effectively explain everything that's going on now. So for those people who are on the other side of the country or on the other side of the earth, because we have people that are in other countries listening and watching.
00:26:00
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Thank you, by the way. I appreciate it. This is going to give you a perspective, a firsthand perspective of what's going on here in DC because I live here and I'm experiencing it. So, Law and order or just order over law?
00:26:16
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If you live in Washington, DC, congratulations. You've just become the first city in modern American history to have your police department put in timeout by the president of the United States.
00:26:28
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In August, 2025, Donald Trump ordered a federal takeover of DC's police. 2000 National Guard troops, federal agents on the streets, tanks of rhetoric rolling through neighborhoods where the crime rate is actually at its lowest level in decades.
00:26:45
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That's right. The city is safer than it's been in years. But somehow Trump says crime is rampant. That's like calling the fire department because your microwave popcorn burned. Not saying that I ever did that, but maybe.
00:26:59
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And of course, he showed up in person, flanked by cops, smiling for the cameras, hinting that he'd bring in the military if necessary. A 30 day operation.
00:27:11
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But let's be real, when was the last time government power politely stepped back after 30 days? And D.C. is just the first stop. Trump already named Chicago was probably next, then New York City, and the sun floated Portland, Oregon, because nothing says clear and present danger like anarchists at a poetry reading.
00:27:35
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But let's look at who's being targeted. Washington, D.C., Mayor Merrill Bowser, black woman, Democrat. Chicago, Mayor Brandon Johnson, black man, Democrat.
00:27:48
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New York sea City, Mayor Eric Adams, black man, Democrat. Big cities, Democrat-led, black leadership. You don't need a magnifying glass to see a pattern.
00:28:03
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Here's the twist. If Trump really wanted to crack down on America's most dangerous cities, he wouldn't start with DC or New York or Chicago because 13 of the 20 cities with the highest murder rates are in Republican led states.
00:28:22
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States like Mississippi, Alabama, Missouri, Tennessee, Louisiana, places where the homicide rates make DC look like it's running senior citizens book club.
00:28:35
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So why isn't a national guard in Jackson, Mississippi or Memphis, Tennessee? Because this isn't about crime. It's about control. It's about spectacle.
00:28:46
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And it's about who gets painted as dangerous. History has receipts. Every time government bends the rule to give police more power, human rights take a hit.
00:29:00
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Civil liberties erode. Stop and frisk in New York where millions of innocent Black and Latino residents stopped for no reason. Excessive force rises.
00:29:11
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We've seen it in racial justice protests with pepper spray, tear gas, and rubber bullets. It happened right here in Washington, D.C. I was out there earlier in the day.
00:29:22
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I came home to work. A lot of my friends were pepper sprayed and tear gas all while the president, Donald Trump, held a Bible upside down.
00:29:36
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Political dissent gets crushed. From Jim Crow to the war on drugs, law and order has often meant law against certain people. Order over others.
00:29:50
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And accountability? Gone. When police power expands, your avenues to fight back shrink. So when Trump takes over D.C. police, it's not just about one city.
00:30:02
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It's about normalizing a precedent where federal power steamrolls local control. wherever it's politically convenient. But just a few miles up the road, there's a completely different story.
00:30:18
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Baltimore Mayor Brandon Scott didn't call in troops. Didn't militarize his streets. Didn't pose for photo ops with Humvees. He treated crime like a public health crisis.
00:30:31
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He targeted those most at risk of violence. Offered support, intervention, and second chances. Invested in housing, jobs, youth programs, and trauma treatment.
00:30:44
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He built trust, not just tougher laws. And what were their results? Homicides down 28%.
00:30:52
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Non-fatal shootings down 19%. Baltimore's lowest crime rate in 50 years. 50 years! No troops, no tanks, no takeover.
00:31:06
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Just strategy, data, and community. So let's call this what it is. Trump's crime wave takeover isn't about safety.
00:31:17
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It's about power. It's about image. It's about race. Because when cities with black major mayors and large black populations are painted as lawless, it becomes easier to justify extraordinary force.
00:31:34
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But Baltimore proves there's another way. You don't need soldiers on corners to keep people safe. You need investment, partnership, vision.
00:31:47
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At the end of the day, the real question isn't about crime rates. It's about democracy. Do we want law and order that means soldiers in the streets and rights in the shredder?
00:31:59
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Or do we want safety built on justice, opportunity, and trust?
Modern Dating Challenges and Etiquette
00:32:05
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Because once you trade in your freedoms for someone else's definition of order, you might not get them back.
00:32:13
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And the only thing scarier than crime in the streets is freedom under lock and key.
00:32:29
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I was talking to a friend earlier today and she is a, I think a hilarious person, cute girl, fun personality, just given up on dating.
00:32:45
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And the reason why she says she's given up on dating is because of all the cringe stories. And I said, yeah, you know, it's a lot of cringe stories out there. Look, I've gone on some bad dates. Some of them I told on the show about the time I was punched that for I will forever be the craziest date that I've gone on. I've gone on on dates where the dates went really well, extremely well. Never heard from the person again.
00:33:08
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Things like that just kind of happen. Like you never know what somebody is actually going through in their own personal life. Sometimes people are just lonely, don't want to be alone, bored, and they go out on dates.
00:33:22
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Some of these men out of here are real creepy. But race basically what it comes down to is everybody is self-absorbed and our options are almost limitless due to technology. Hell, I was in a lifetime in the two thousand s where...
00:33:40
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You could only really date the people that were around you, right? Like MySpace was kind of a thing. Facebook hadn't become a thing yet. So you had to go outside, out in the streets and actually meet people and talk to people.
00:33:52
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You only met the people that you actually, the places that you actually went to. So your pool were limited. So that's how I have friends that are still married today because they met their person a long time ago because they would stop and focus on that person.
00:34:11
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It's very hard to focus nowadays when you got so many different options. So there's so many stories that that ah come across my algorithm on these social media and I just find them hilarious and wanna share my opinion.
00:34:23
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So this first story is about a man that takes out a woman on a date and then she explains her experience after the date. The key title for this is the woman reveals date left her to pay for her own meal because she didn't know how to properly eat a steak.
00:34:45
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Now, the headline to this makes it seem like, oh, he is definitely wrong.
00:34:53
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But I was curious. So I wanted to see what her response to all of this was. So this is what she posted. I finally let this guy take me out after he stayed in my DMs begging for a chance just for him to play in my face and walk out on me at a restaurant.
00:35:10
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If y'all man can't afford to take women out, stop begging for dates. It said he had to come up with a lame excuse just to leave me stuck with the bill and could I couldn't even afford.
00:35:20
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And the crazy part, his issue was me not knowing how to eat a steak. Like, be for real. As a man, it's your job to teach me, not embarrass me. So not only is he broke, but he's lacking masculinity too.
00:35:33
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I'm exposing him because the world needs to know how he did me. Okay. Not everybody takes etiquette class. I remember going on a date.
00:35:44
Speaker
No, I remember going out with one of my girlfriend's families. And ands My family, look, my mom and dad had me very young. We went through multiple social economic stages by the time I was 21.
00:35:59
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twenty one we went through all of them right? Like we come from welfare to the point where my parents built their own a house, like built their own house by time I was 21.
00:36:10
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So in those 21 years, we literally went from rats and roaches, welfare in the house, maybe not rats, definitely roaches, and welfare in the house to them building their own, I believe that house was 2,000, 3,000 square feet, maybe 4,000 square feet. was huge. It was a huge house, okay?
00:36:30
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So I've gone through every socioeconomical experience. And What I learned was, is that people that have, i don't know, people that have money have experienced things that I never experienced before.
00:36:47
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So I'm going out with my girlfriend and her family. She's Puerto Rican and Cuban. I'm in Miami. And we go out to this really nice restaurant. And as I explain what I did, guys, I know how bad this was.
00:37:01
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But at the time I was 21, 2021. didn't realize how it was. ah didn't realize how bad it was so Her mom says, oh Bruce, you should try this.
00:37:12
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And i said, okay. And she takes her fork with food in it and kind of puts it in my direction. I take my hand and I take my hand and take the food off the fork and put it in my mouth.
00:37:27
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My girlfriend taps me in her arm. She's like, that's not the right way to take food from somebody. You're supposed to, you know, like you scrape it off of their fork onto your plate. And I was like, oh, I didn't know.
00:37:39
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Because sometimes you just don't know. So this woman out to on a date with this man doesn't know how to eat the steak properly. And OK, like how bad was she eating the steak?
00:37:51
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Like she didn't know how to cut it. She ordered it well done. That always tells me where what experiences you've had in your life if you order in a well done steak. Because let me tell you something.
00:38:02
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I understand the history of why people order a well-done steak. ah Typically, you're coming from meager means and you're getting poor quality meat. So you have to make sure you cook it thoroughly.
00:38:16
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And that means well done. But good meat, you ain't gotta to do that. I actually eat my steaks medium rare. I like blood in my steak. makes the steak juicier. It took me a long time and working in the restaurant industry before I found out that's what you're supposed to be doing.
00:38:32
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But nevertheless, I eventually found out because my taste evolved. I climbed out of the meager financial beginnings that I had and experienced more things.
00:38:44
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So did she order the steak well? Like, what did she do? Well, ladies and gentlemen, um she ate the steak with her hands. She picked up the steak like it was a cheeseburger ate it with the hands.
00:38:55
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Now, was he wrong for just leaving?
00:39:02
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More than likely, yes. He could have explained to her how to properly eat a steak. But I haven't read to y'all the exchange that these two people had. So here is the exchange that these two people but had.
00:39:19
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Hey, are you okay? This is her. Hey, are you okay? You've been gone for from the table for like 10 minutes. He texts back, I left. She responds, what you mean you left?
00:39:31
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You haven't even paid and you said you were going to the bathroom. He responds, I paid for my food. Dude, what the F? I hope this is a joke. He responds, the joke is you, a woman that's almost 40, picking up a steak and biting it like you're an animal.
00:39:49
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You're embarrassing and classless. And i hate I ever hopped in your DM. You're nothing like you appear on the Internet. She responds, man, I only allowed you to take me on this date so I could get a meal.
00:40:03
Speaker
Ain't no way you playing in my face like this. A real man would have shown me how to properly eat the steak. If you broke and can't afford me, you shouldn't have taken me out on a date. I don't have the money for this food. You need to cash at me.
00:40:16
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He responds, shorty, you got your meal. You just got to pay for it. Be blessed. Big rabbit teeth.
00:40:26
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I'm sorry. That's funny. Big rapid teeth. All right. So they're both wrong. Call me as a mother. So you enter her DMs, you trying to get with her. Because you had this perception of that she portrays on the Internet of the woman that she is.
00:40:42
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You meet her and realize that's not the woman that you saw on the Internet and you decide to bounce. You wrong for that.
00:40:52
Speaker
I don't know if it's a man's job to teach people. I think it's all our jobs, male or female, to help people evolve. So ah she grabbed a steak with her big teeth, chomping on it.
00:41:08
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He could say, hey, it would be a little easier if you take the fork in the steak knife and cut it and you don't have to get your hands dirty and it'll be easier to chew instead of you trying to tear it apart with your teeth.
00:41:22
Speaker
That's one way you could approach it instead of automatically being disgusted. Now, this is karma for her as well, because she clearly states that she was using him to get a free meal.
00:41:36
Speaker
So, baby girl, you ain't get that free meal. You didn't get it because you was using somebody. So y'all both got karma, right? Him, Thinking that she was all that popping up.
00:41:47
Speaker
She ain't all that. Might've been the girl of your dreams in your head. In reality, she was not. And ma'am, you get it because you were using him to get a free mail. Not because, hey, he's been in my DMs. He's been wanting to take me out. Let me give this guy a chance. He might be an interesting person. I might have a good time.
00:42:08
Speaker
Nope. It was to get a free mail. And how you gonna come with no money? No money. Let me explain to women out there. i don't agree with this. I'm old school. I believe a man pays for the first date.
00:42:20
Speaker
I believe a man actually pays for the second date. By the time we get to the third date, it's whoever asked the other person out. I've gone on on three dates with a woman and she ain't paid. She ain't getting no fourth date. She don't even pump fake.
00:42:34
Speaker
She ain't getting no fourth date. She ain't even really getting a third date if she don't pump fake. That happened to me recently, like six, seven months ago. I took a woman out twice. She ain't even pump fake. I was not, there was not going to be a third date and she had a big old booty.
00:42:49
Speaker
She did women nowadays. You need to have your own money just in case. I got a lot of female friends and sometimes they guys ask to go Dutch.
00:43:02
Speaker
I don't. That's not my cup of tea, but I'm not going knock another man for saying let's go Dutch because let me explain some to you ladies out here. Well, traditionally, traditionally speaking, we're the ones that pay on the first date.
00:43:15
Speaker
If you're going on a lot of first date, that costs. That's not money to coming out of your pocket. How much money does it really cost for a woman to date? When you're in a relationship, yes, but to date, it's the burden financially is on men. And men in the manosphere don't come in here cosign on what I'm saying because I'm not an ally for y'all.
00:43:36
Speaker
I'm just thinking, generally speaking, the financial burden on dating typically falls on the man. That doesn't mean that women shouldn't have women shouldn't have their own money just in case that man says, let's go Dutch.
00:43:51
Speaker
And I don't know how to judge a man in today's climate if he asked to go Dutch because I don't know what he's doing in his personal life. But if you ask a woman out, bro, that's on you.
00:44:07
Speaker
So he should have paid for the meal. He could have paid for the meal. And be like, I'm never hanging out with you again. Because you are not the class of woman i would like to date.
00:44:23
Speaker
I think it probably had to do more with just a state. But honestly, 40 years old and you don't know eat a steak properly. You grab it with your hands and he actually has a picture up.
00:44:34
Speaker
I'm not going to post that. But if you Google search it, you'll find it. He he posted a picture of her eating a steak and she eating it like a hamburger. If I ever took a woman out and she was eating a steak like that, I'd be like, I'm never going out with this woman ever again.
00:44:49
Speaker
But they both wrong. But that is a cringe story. Like, you know, dude been in your DMs for a while and, you know, finally allow him to take you out and he act a fool. Hey.
00:45:00
Speaker
All right. Here's another story.
00:45:04
Speaker
A boyfriend and a girlfriend get into an argument. The argument is over the fact that she's wearing shorts and a tank top to the gym to work out.
00:45:15
Speaker
Now, this woman was curvy. Let let me tell something. I saw the picture of her. If she was in my gym working out, I'd definitely be sneaking some looks.
00:45:28
Speaker
She looked good. She looked good. But I have friends who are female trainers. I also work with female trainers, but I have friends that I actually talk to personally on like a personal level. People that work in the company that I work for, like I'm their boss. So I don't talk to them on a personal level like this. That's an HR, that's an HR violation.
00:45:52
Speaker
But my friends who are personal trainers or who work out the gym, I talk to them all the time about what they wear and and they constantly say, we wear what's comfortable. Can it be revealing sometime?
00:46:04
Speaker
Yes, but we wear what's comfortable. Well, that her boyfriend in this post was furious, furious about what she wore at the gym.
00:46:16
Speaker
And she was like, I don't know why you tripping. And he was like, yo, why are you wearing this in the gym? She was like, you knew what I was wearing when I left the house. He was like, nah, you had baggy clothes them on, quote unquote, pump covers.
00:46:29
Speaker
And she was like, yeah, but you knew what I had on underneath. Yeah, I didn't think that you was going work out in that. Why would I work out in baggy clothes when I'm at the gym? It's going to get hot. Eventually, I'm going to take them off. This is my workout gear. He says to her, if I knew I was going to be dating a hoe, I wouldn't have dated a hoe. She was like, I'm a hoe because I wore certain outfit at the gym?
00:46:47
Speaker
Like, how ridiculous. You're not going call me out my name like that. What was my immediate thought? Because I went into the comments and sure enough, sure enough, there was a bunch of men having a major issue about what she's wearing at the gym. If that was my girl, she couldn't wear that.
00:47:04
Speaker
That was my girl. I wouldn't wear it or wear that. And it's pretty clear to me ah that men are definitely insecure. So when men sit out there and say women shouldn't wear certain things, I always ask the question, why?
00:47:21
Speaker
Because they're presenting a certain thing, a certain way. No, that's your perception. That doesn't mean that's reality. Well, if I perceive it that way, then it's reality. No, no, still your perception. There's perception, there's reality. They're two different things.
00:47:37
Speaker
Can perception be reality? Yeah, but not in this case. This case, this woman who has a man that she lives with is just going to the gym to work out. This insecure man is having an issue with what she's wearing.
00:47:52
Speaker
Maybe I'm different. Maybe I'm different. Because I routinely date bad women. And what I mean by bad women, women that get attention from other men.
00:48:04
Speaker
How do you think they drew my attention? Physically. Have I dated women who are physically, you know, don't draw that much attention? Yes. because that's not the be all end all.
00:48:16
Speaker
But traditionally speaking, ah I've dated women that draw attention. And when I was younger, when they drew that attention, yeah, they used to bother me.
00:48:30
Speaker
In my toxic masculinity years, that used to bother me. As I've gotten older, it's been a badge of honor to know that you are dating a woman that other men can't stop looking at.
00:48:47
Speaker
Almost falling over because she's so fine. She's so beautiful. Just her presence makes people stop and stare because that's my woman.
00:48:58
Speaker
Why am I going to get jealous? Also, I can't control her. Don't want to control her. She's with me for a reason. If for some strange reason she does something with somebody else, I can't stop her from doing anything with anybody else.
00:49:11
Speaker
And I'm not trying to hold nobody under lock and key. Let people do what they're going to do. You afraid that she's going to cheat on you? Then you might want to reevaluate the situation that you're in.
00:49:24
Speaker
I mean, anything's possible. And anybody's possible, anything given the right circumstances. If you go through life realizing that, then you will be better for it. You'll be a lot better for it.
00:49:36
Speaker
So I can't understand why men would get upset that other men are going to look at their women, except for the fact that they're insecure. One of my women that I dated, ah dated her i in almost a year.
00:49:52
Speaker
it was ah It was a few years ago that I dated her. Very, very attractive. She could have been a I used to tell her all the time, you could be an Instagram instagram fitness model.
00:50:02
Speaker
Like, your body is crazy. Like, her body was absolutely crazy, right? Like, real life, people would have thought she had a BBL, but that just was natural, and she worked out all the time.
00:50:15
Speaker
At the gym, she didn't wear, like, crazy clothes. Like, that wasn't her thing. But when we went out... ah She told me an outfit that she wore one time. She had worn it before what a guy that she had previously dated a couple of years before.
00:50:30
Speaker
And he said, oh you about to wear that tank top outfit? Because it was a dress that literally like just fell below the curve of her butt cheek. And we were out and about. I remember we went to several places that night and I was like, wow, that dress looks amazing. She was like, you not upset that I'm wearing this? Like, hell no, I'm not upset that I'm wearing this. shit She was like, you know, people are going to be looking.
00:50:52
Speaker
I was like, yeah, I expect like when we're out, people are going to be looking at us. Not just you, by the way. so Not just you, by the way. They're going be checking me out as well. But I know the majority of the time men are going to be looking at you. I'm not tripping over that.
00:51:06
Speaker
She's like, you're really secure. um Look, yes. I am secure. Like I don't, I've been cheated on. It's not the greatest thing in the world, but it's not something that you can't get over.
00:51:18
Speaker
The fear of being hurt, you can't live your life like that. This guy is clearly offended that his woman wore that because of fear of the attention that she'll get because of fear that that attention may bring her to some other man.
00:51:34
Speaker
And that's not anything that you can control. I didn't agree with him. And I knew a lot of men in the comments agreed with them. And that's real funny that y'all would say that.
00:51:46
Speaker
But, you know, a lot of men out there have a double standard, right? They say what I can do is different than what a woman can do. And in some ways, some ways they are correct.
00:51:58
Speaker
sex but Sex for men and women are dip is different. It's been studies that proven that the physical nature of it is just, I mean, obviously the physical nature of it, but the chemicals that are let loose in the body for for females and males are just completely different. So, but with even with that being said, I don't give a damn about a woman's past.
00:52:29
Speaker
Halftime, I don't give a damn about a woman's present. The only thing I care about is what that future holds. That's just me. That, and it took me a long time to get there. It took me a long time to get there. It took me 30 plus years to finally get there. And some men never get there. Some men are so territorial.
00:52:48
Speaker
She better not do nothing. Better not looking them She, she, that guy's making her laugh. So what? The dude is funny. Get over it. ah Look, don't date a bad B unless you can handle a bad B. That goes for women too.
00:53:04
Speaker
don't data a Don't date a dude that's holding it down if you can't date a dude that's holding it down. I have a lot of female friends. for some women that date me that rubs them the wrong way.
00:53:15
Speaker
Because even some of my friends I've actually got history with, but we're just friends now. And I'm like, they're my friends. I chose you. I ain't got no time or the patience to try and lie to you because I can't keep up with lies, because I can't keep up with the stories that I tell, because I can't keep up with the conversations I have with people.
00:53:34
Speaker
It's too difficult. I'm not going to live my life like that. So I'm not going lie to you. I'm going to be honest. And I'm with you because I want to be with you. If I wanted to be with them, I would be with them. But I'm with you because I want to be with you. There's no reason for you to fear them.
00:53:48
Speaker
I'm here. Guys, when they with you, respect the fact that they with you. All right. The final one.
00:54:00
Speaker
a list of places that women don't want to go on a first date. Now, this is old. But it came across my out the algorithm again. And I was like, oh, they so they had added some things on the list.
00:54:13
Speaker
Now, we always know what the first list is. Once again, these are a list of places that women refuse to go on the first date. We already know what the first one is, Cheesecake Factory. And you know what?
00:54:24
Speaker
I'm cool with that. Cheesecake Factory is low key, kind of expensive. I went to Cheesecake Factory about three, four years ago, and I was like, this is ridiculous how much I'm spending. and and And it took me 35 minutes to read through the whole menu decide what I wanted to eat.
00:54:37
Speaker
So if you don't want to go there, cool, because I don't want to go there. Applebee's, Chili's, Chipotle, Olive Garden. Hey, look, I understand if you don't want to go to any of these places on the first date.
00:54:49
Speaker
If you're of a certain age. If you're in your teens, your early 20s, those are perfectly fine establishments to go on the first date because you ain't got no bread unless you're one of these Gen Z people that, you know, found a hustle, which by the way, a lot of these Gen Z people are doing that. So maybe, but I know at 20, 20 years old, Applebee's, Chili's, Chipotle and Olive Garden was all I could afford.
00:55:13
Speaker
And actually, I don't even know why Chipotle is in that list because Applebee's, Chili's, oligarch Olive Garden, I get it. Chipotle is basically fast food.
00:55:25
Speaker
So women are right. Going to Chipotle for a first date is not good. Not an official date. The movies. The movies are always a horrible place to go on a first date because you can't talk to the person.
00:55:37
Speaker
You're just sitting there watching a movie. So I actually agree with women. The house. On a first date, I just told this to one of my female friends the other day. Do not go to a man's house on the first date.
00:55:52
Speaker
It's not even if I don't invite women to my house on the first date, not the initial date. Maybe if the date is going well, I'll suggest, hey, do you want to go back to my place and hang out? We sit on my balcony, have some wine or some drinks or something like that and just vibe.
00:56:10
Speaker
But I've even stopped doing that, realizing that, you know, I i didn't it's not my intention, but women can sometimes feel trapped in a guy's apartment. You know, not knowing not knowing the guy because it's the first date, not knowing how how he'll respond to rejection.
00:56:26
Speaker
And the history says men ain't out here responding to rejection. Well, I'm not one of those people. I can handle rejection, but a lot of dudes can't. So, yes, I understand women saying they don't want to go to the house on the first date.
00:56:39
Speaker
Back to these fast food chain restaurants. I understand that. But come on, Buffalo Wild Wings. oh That's along with Applebee's and Chili's and Olive Garden.
00:56:49
Speaker
And they also got Wingstop and Red Lobster. Like who doesn't want to go to Red Lobster? I wish a woman would take me on a date, first date to Red Lobster. Ladies out there, if y'all want take me on a first date to Red Lobster, by all means, take me to Red Lobster. I love Red Lobster.
00:57:04
Speaker
A buffet. I mean, yeah, that I can understand not wanting to go to buffet. These are also, the next two are also one of them fast food type places. IHOP and Denny's?
00:57:16
Speaker
No, not on the first date. Now, however, dig this here. If you've gone on a date, let's say y'all went bar hopping, right? Or let's say y'all went to a club or a lounge or something like that.
00:57:28
Speaker
He had drinks. Y'all are vibing. And then afterwards, it's on a late night and the date is going so well that you don't want to end the night. The only places that are really open to eat are IHOP and Denny's.
00:57:40
Speaker
That's okay. But for an initial like, hey, let's on this first date, let's go to IHOP. No, I agree with women on here. That's absolutely unacceptable. The gym. Now, I'm going to combat this.
00:57:52
Speaker
I'm combat these next two. It's the gym and church. Those are perfectly fine first dates because that's showing that's the man showing the woman what's important to him.
00:58:06
Speaker
Have I done that? Actually, I have. I have gone on first dates to the gym. And it's just been like, hey, like, what are you doing? Are you trying to make plans of something? I got to go to the gym. Well, I got to go the gym today, too. Oh, you want to go the gym with me? We go work out together.
00:58:21
Speaker
You go work out and you grab something out to eat. If you're a gym person, that's a great first date. Not great. It's a good first date. church. Now, I ain't been to church in a long time, but if I was a person that went to church, I would want you to participate in what I feel like is that part of my life.
00:58:39
Speaker
There's nothing wrong with going to church. You go to church and they'll have you a nice little brunch afterwards. That's a good first day. You're going to praise the Lord and then get your grub on. That's a good first date. ah starbucks i Starbucks or coffee dates. Let me explain something to y'all, what I explained earlier.
00:58:55
Speaker
It is extremely expensive for men to be out here dating. It's too expensive to be going on multiple dates. I had a friend, I used to call him Mr. 51st Dates because he always was going on first dates.
00:59:07
Speaker
Coffee dates are really good. Coffee or grab a quick drink, right? It's really good because you're sitting down, you're having a conversation and you're trying to see if it's compatible to see if you want to go on future dates.
00:59:19
Speaker
I'm not taking you out to dinner on a first date because I don't like going out to dinner. Period. Right. But I'm not taking you out to dinner on the first date. I'm just not doing I'm not spending that type of bread.
00:59:30
Speaker
I want to know who you are. And if you're saying that I'm broke, cool, I'll just be broke to you because I'm just not going to do it. Ice cream dates. Are you kidding me?
00:59:41
Speaker
I went on an ice cream date on the first date. It was cool. We got some ice cream. We walked around the park and talked. Those are good dates. If that's not a good day for you, woman, and you know, I'm just not the dude for you.
00:59:55
Speaker
Family functions. Now, I actually agree. Don't be bringing no woman or no man for no first date to no family function. Now we're talking about what women say is that they are refused to do on the first date. And women, I get it. If a dude taking you to a family function on the first date, that's crazy. I would never take a woman on that to a family function on the first date.
01:00:14
Speaker
Never, ever. movie Movie night, Netflix, Hulu, et cetera. That's just basically coming to the house. That's a no-no. Somewhere where that requires a long drive.
01:00:26
Speaker
all right, I think this is absurd. Like maybe it's a special ah location. Maybe y'all, you know, maybe the first date is going hiking or something like that. He got something planned, little picnic afterwards.
01:00:37
Speaker
You're not willing to go for a long drive. I mean, what if what if he's picking you up and y'all just riding the car together? and You can't vibe in the car, have a conversation, listen to music while you get to your destination.
01:00:49
Speaker
That's crazy to me. ah Bowling. I think bowling is a cool first date. Right. You get the competitive juices out there. See what these people is really about. So I'm not I'm not I'm not that's I'm not agreeing with women on that one.
01:01:03
Speaker
Nightclubs depends. Is it one of these big box clubs, box clubs or is it a lounge? If it's a lounge, I, you know, I don't agree. Like you can go to a lounge on the first date, find you a little seat, listen to music, i have a drink, vibe and have a conversation. Now, nightclubs, those big box nightclubs. No, you can't.
01:01:21
Speaker
That's not some place that you take somebody on the first date. Hookah bar. I don't know. I don't go to hookah bars because don't smoke hookah, but it seemed like hookah bars are like a cool thing. So I don't know why women wouldn't want to go there for a first date.
01:01:33
Speaker
it's ah It's basically a lounge. It's music, it's drinks, and it's hookah. Why is that bad for a first date? A bar for just drinks? I told you, I'm not spinning that bread ah to take you out to dinner.
01:01:45
Speaker
We're going to go a bar for just drinks or you cannot go on a date with me. I'm absolutely cool with that because I want to find out who you are as a person, have this conversation. And also, you're not going to hit my pocketbooks on the on the first date.
01:01:58
Speaker
And besides, going to drinks, going to get drinks in Washington, D.C. or the surrounding area, that's a grip anyway. So it ain't about me being broke because that's going to cost a lot of money.
01:02:10
Speaker
We want to get to know each other. It's not about the experience. It's about the person. That's what's important on the first date. Waffle House, that goes along with Denny's and IHOP. I actually agree with that.
01:02:23
Speaker
That shouldn't be used in the first date. And the last one, sporting events. a I wouldn't take a first date to a sporting event, but I remember that I was
01:02:35
Speaker
dating a woman. We went out on dates. We weren't dating yet. She wanted to date, but I told her, I was like, no, I still go out on dates with other women. So she went on a date with another dude.
01:02:48
Speaker
The disrespect that she treated this guy with, I thought was absurd because she's on a date with the dude. This dude got her courtside seats to a Wizards game. She's texting me her seats at the Wizards game.
01:03:03
Speaker
And I'm like, yo, you're real close ah to the the court. Was this one of your clients or something like that? Because I didn't know she was on a date. I was like, is this one of your clients or something like that? No. I was like, yo, are you on a date right now?
01:03:15
Speaker
She's like, yeah, i'm on a date. as I was like, you're texting another dude you're talking to that has not done anything like that besides take you out for drinks?
01:03:28
Speaker
You're texting another dude you're talking to while you're on a date with another guy that has actually got you courtside seats to the Wizards game. And you're bragging about how close to the court you are with me, but you're with him.
01:03:43
Speaker
That is extremely disrespectful to him. It's made me feel great, but i was like, yo, I would be livid and you would never go on a date with me if I knew that you was texting another dude while you were on a date with me after I spent that type of breath.
01:03:58
Speaker
She obviously enjoyed the experience. So I don't know if a sporting event on the first date is necessarily a bad thing. But if women say they they don't want to go to a sporting event, maybe they're just not a sports person. I have female friends who are sports junkies, who are into sports more than I am, who...
01:04:16
Speaker
routinely go to all the stadiums to go see different football games, love going to arenas, love going to sporting events, will travel to other countries to go experience sporting events. If you took them on a first date to a sporting event, they would love it.
01:04:31
Speaker
So to each their own, I guess. But some of those things in the list, a bit ridiculous. But a lot of the things in the list, I actually agree with. Women, the most important thing is to be safe out there.
Closing Remarks and Call to Action
01:04:43
Speaker
And also come with your own money because you might be left at the restaurant rat by yourself because you ate a steak with your hands. state That's a possibility. But on that note, ladies and gentlemen, I want to thank you for listening.
01:04:58
Speaker
I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holler.
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