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250 Episodes! Love, Trust & The Betrayal We Don’t Admit
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Celebrating 250 episodes of Unsolicited Perspectives with a Sibling Happy Hour packed with laughs, real talk, and the hard truths about love, trust, betrayal, and whether you should judge a partner by how they treat other people. We unpack “girl’s girl” discourse, traditional vs. modern gender roles, and why relationships work best as 100/100 partnerships—not a rigid 50/50 scorecard. We also react to the day’s headlines about National Guard deployments and what it says about leadership and community. Then we play a spicy sibling game to see how well we really know each other—favorite snacks, shows, pet peeves, first jobs, and more. Drop a comment with your take and binge the back catalog to ride with us to the next 250! #RelationshipTalk #datingadvice #LoveAndLies #blackpodcasters #familydrama #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:47 Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂
02:22 Cheers to 250 Episodes: The Journey So Far 🥳🎉
04:53 You Made Us! Shoutouts to Our Amazing Listeners 🙌💖
07:55 Breaking News: National Guard Drama Unpacked 🚨🪖
11:42 From Day One to Now: Our Wild Podcast Ride 🚀🎤
12:47 Sibling Squabbles & Trust Issues: Real Talk Ahead 🤝😅
18:02 Viral Video Breakdown: Gender Roles & Hot Takes 🎥👀
20:28 Love, Trust & Red Flags: Relationship Realness 💔🔍
27:20 Tradition vs. Today: Who Pays, Who Stays? 💸🤔
32:21 Betrayal & Self-Discovery: Lessons Learned 🕵️♂️💡
38:22 Sibling Secrets: Favorite Colors Exposed! 🎨😲
39:21 Snack Attack! Our Ultimate Comfort Foods 🍿🥨
45:05 Screen Time: Our All-Time Fave Shows & Movies 📺🍿
48:00 Pet Peeves Unleashed: What Drives Us Nuts! 😤🙅♂️
51:24 Toys, Games & Sibling Memories: Back in the Day 🧸🎮
53:25 First Hustles: Our Wildest First Jobs 💼🤑
57:46 If We Won the Lottery: Big Dreams, Big Plans 💰🌟
01:00:43 Dreams & Goals: What Keeps Us Going 🚀✨
01:06:10 Thank You for 250! Until Next Time... 🙏🎬
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Transcript
Introduction and Episode Theme
00:00:00
Speaker
What if the person that you love is lying to you and you don't even know it? We gonna get into it. Let's get it
00:00:17
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts.
00:00:30
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00:00:42
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Share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies. On today's episode, it's the Sibling Happy Hour. I'm here with my sis, Jay Andrea.
00:00:52
Speaker
We're going be dilly-dadding a little bit, and then we're going to be talking about love, trust, and betrayal. And then we're going to playing a sibling game that's either going to lead to us being closer or the show being over.
Sibling Banter and Milestone Celebration
00:01:04
Speaker
But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
00:01:15
Speaker
What up, sis? What up, brother? I can't call it. I can't call it. Yo, we live in the studio. Live and in color. i So the name of the studio is? Dynastia Studios. Studios. It's in Virginia. We're filming here on location.
00:01:32
Speaker
This is a The opportunity that that presented itself with my sister being in town and we were able to bring this to you guys together. I am spitting and it's going to show up on the HD camera. It's not. You're not spitting. I saw the spit fly out of my mouth. Oh, well, then everybody's going to see that. Everybody's going see it. Our brother is also in the studio.
00:01:53
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He is not going pop up on screen. No. um But but he's going to be in the background. Probably may you might hear his voice because he's going to make some comments or something like that. I hope not.
00:02:06
Speaker
Why you hope he doesn't? don't know. Because you never know what he's going to say. No, it might bring some new levity to the show. Okay. Well, we're doing this for a specific reason.
00:02:17
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Yes, we are. I mean, I said it already. We celebrating 250 episodes.
Podcast Growth and Audience Support
00:02:23
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I don't remember. I'm sorry. I didn't hear you say it. I think I said it in the intro, didn't i Yeah, but I mean, this is the... this is Yeah, we in the first segment. We in dilly-dally. I thought you would say more about oh why we're at Dynastia Studios. So this is our 250th episode. Yeah.
00:02:40
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A lot of podcasts don't make it this far. They really don't. We stuck through it. We stuck through it because, quite frankly, i won't allow us to quit. but but That's...
00:02:52
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but That's actually really accurate. yes that That's the reason. I won't allow us to quit. We done started something and we're going to finish it. What that finish is, the hell if I know, but we're here right now. Yeah, because I've tried. ive Honestly, I've tried to kind of worm my way out of it. You have definitely tried. Yeah. You come here with minimal effort, but you did drive us here today.
00:03:14
Speaker
I did. that was my contribution. That's your contribution, but... In all honesty and in all realness, I want to thank everybody, even if you haven't been rocking with us from the first episode.
00:03:26
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And if you haven't been rocking with us from the first episode, we thank you because them first episodes were trash. They were trash. um Full basura. And I'm not even talking about like just the audio. I'm talking about when we switched the video.
00:03:40
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yeah They look like we, that look, ah we have really advanced our presentation. yeah I'm really proud of the presentation that we now present.
Current Events and Social Issues
00:03:51
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It's given more professional.
00:03:52
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It's given real professional. It's given 250 episodes. Yeah. So, I mean, I feel like we're doing good. i'm god This is fun. like Being here, is for out it's a little nerve wracking.
00:04:04
Speaker
I don't know why. It's just a conversation between siblings like we do every week. Yeah, but it's like when i'm when we do it like remote, like there's a comfort. It's home court. Well, because you're in your house. Right. We're playing an away game right now. Yeah, for sure.
00:04:18
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But this is doper. Doper isn't a word. More dope. Well, dope in itself is not really a word. and No, i think it's in the dictionary. It's dope in the dictionary. We'll have our producers.
00:04:32
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Okay. All right. You heard our brother's voice. There you go. There you go. Everybody's been like, when's your brother going to be on the show? He just popped up on the show. He way too important to be on the show. I'm sorry, guys.
00:04:45
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Yeah, you know, we the two idiots are just throwing ourselves out there for everybody to to laugh and joke. But no, seriously, like we wouldn't be here. what Without y'all. Like we could still be here just because of my ego and the fact that I don't like quitting anything.
00:05:01
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But we wouldn't be where we are as far as the podcast progressing. We're monetized on YouTube, baby. That's because of y'all. Big time. That's because of y'all. I mean, yes, we're creating the content. Y'all are watching the content. Do y'all know what that feels like to put something out there and it gets received?
00:05:17
Speaker
Over 20,000 people are are following us on YouTube. yeah We get well over a thousand, multiple thousand downloads. audio each month like that's dope yeah and y'all are not just watching the main show y'all are watching the YouTube exclusives y'all are watching the clips y'all are leaving comments some I don't let be put on cause y'all some of y'all get out of pocket like let's listen we not celebrities okay is this my camera we not celebrities so I will clap back in the comments so just so you know
00:05:55
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y'all some y'all get out of pocket but the rest of y'all seriously like this i have to second what you're saying because um yeah we wouldn't be here we wouldn't be in this beautiful studio we wouldn't be doing a lot of the stuff that we're doing with the show without the support of everybody out there so thank you so much thank you yeah thank you like for real thank you one person i don't want to give a thank you to current president.
00:06:22
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Now, we're going to make a lot of this show light. Yes. But we're we're recording this show on a day that it was announced that he is going to unleash, and I'm using that word specifically, unleash the National Guard onto D.C. streets and take command of MPD, m pd this Metro Police Department,
00:06:48
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And basically occupy the city. yeah Now, I was in a group chat with some friends and they were like, these YNs is wildin' out.
00:06:59
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And I would say it is, but the statistics show that crime is down. Like 30% as far as as, from what I've read, yes. It's not Baghdad, what he tried to claim. no He tried to claim that it was Colombia.
00:07:15
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Narco trafficking. He's stuck in the 80s. Yeah. He thinks he thinks Bogota and Medellin is literally still Pablo Escobar are still running things. And you've been.
00:07:25
Speaker
Well, he's never progressed past like 1988. his bile ah you know, his his interior decorating tastes, nothing about him has progressed past like 88.
Sibling Relationship Dynamics and Modern Relationships
00:07:39
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So I can, I get that. And plus, that's probably the last time he actually read a newspaper or watched news that wasn't 100% geared towards him. But yeah, what he's doing right now, what he announced today is he's going to be deploying about 800 National Guard. He's basically federalizing our police force in the district.
00:07:59
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It's extremely unsettling. Of course, this is probably the only time he did his job right, which is he notified Congress appropriately, which means he's got 30 days um unless they step in and curtail it. But he he can do this for the next 30 days. So basically, only thing we could say is y'all stay safe out there. Didn't do it for January 6th.
00:08:24
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No. Didn't do it for January 6th. No. well but But right now he wants to do it. And then what other cities did he name that he was going to do this to? Chicago. New York, Baltimore, Baltimore, which, by the way, Baltimore's homicide rate has dropped significantly since the new mayor has taken over and instituted social programs to give something not only the kids can do, but people in the community can do. Because why? When you introduce social programs and things for people to do, things that give people hope, they won't turn to crime. It's it's.
00:09:00
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Simple concept, but I guess if you've been rich your entire life and been handed everything to you, even when you bankrupt your companies multiple times, you get bailed out by overseas banks that got shady dealings, yeah then you know that you can get away with anything. And that's all you know. You don't even know any other part of life. And any other part of life to you is just...
00:09:24
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trash. Yeah. Yeah. So he's in talking about there's a bunch of criminals and degenerates and stuff in the district. um The data is not showing that ah this is clearly just something he's going after democratic cities, democratic strongholds. This is ah straight out of the fascist playbook. So even though, even though statistically red states still commit more crimes,
00:09:53
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i don't know the hundred I don't know the data on that. I looked it up. Statistically, okay now when you can numbers don't ever lie, but you can play with the numbers to make them make your case. Well, they tried that on the jobs report. It ain't work.
00:10:08
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My man came out there with some chants. He said, look at the chart, holding the chart up. I was like, what am I looking at? Right. He just held it up and just nodded his head. I was like, bro, what are you doing right now? You know, that man is straight comedy. And the press conference today when they had, what's her name? Janine Perrero.
00:10:26
Speaker
Oh, God. What's her name? Yeah, i think that's it. Janine Perrero. Yeah. Janine Perrero. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, okay. Janine Peril, she was up there. That looked like an SNL sketch. You know this upcoming Saturday. Yeah, because it's a joke.
00:10:38
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They're going to replay the whole thing. Yeah, verbatim. And Pete Hegsteg, what his name? Hegsteg? I don't know. don't know these people. cabin It's a cavalcade of of D-list right-wing celebrities.
00:10:53
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I don't know. I don't know any of these people, but... Except for ah ah dumbass Pam Bondi. that's ah That's it. um But other than that, yeah, I mean, so there will be National Guard deployed in the city.
00:11:09
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ICE has already been here and conducting raids. Yeah, I think, this is not going to be a sprint. It's going to be a cross-country race.
00:11:21
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So just, you know, hell, I don't have any advice, to be honest with you. My advice is this. This is my camera right here. My advice is this. We got 250 episodes. Just go listen to another 249. Even if you've heard them and watched them, watch them again because you're going to need some joy in your life to deal with this pain.
00:11:39
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And we bring a lot of joy.
Podcast Content Creation Challenges
00:11:41
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What we haven't talked about. Honestly, by the time you finish, midterms will be here. ah By the time I finish what? By the time y'all finish watching all 249 episodes, the midterms be here. Yeah, because that's at least 249 250 hours. Right.
00:11:56
Speaker
And that's not even including YouTube exclusives. Yeah. you go Go ahead. Go watch all our content and then the midterms will be here before you know it. You know how y'all binge stuff? Binge our stuff.
00:12:08
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah. Instead of watching that murder mystery, go ahead and crack a smile. We talk about serious stuff every now and then, too. Well, now, I'm not going to give up First 48. I'm not going to give that up. But everybody, that's on Hulu, so y'all can check that out. But everybody.
00:12:23
Speaker
Jay, we often talk about this, just going back to 250 episodes, because I said I wanted to bring that up with Trump, but yeah the rest of this is going to be really self-centered. We're celebrating ourselves. Yeah. And you.
00:12:37
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Celebrating ourselves and you. What to you has been a moment in us recording this show that will be memorable? Because we're not going the show forever.
00:12:48
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One day, we're going to be old and decrepit. Yeah. And you're going to look back upon the time of us doing this show, whatever number that we eventually get to. Yeah. Is there going to be a moment that you're just like, no, that was funny.
00:13:02
Speaker
That was fun. Or that was a dope conversation. There are really so many. i don't know that I have like one specific one. We talked about a lot of good. Honestly, anytime i you give me the space to just kind of go off.
00:13:16
Speaker
Yeah, you'd be going off. deaths those are my Those are the most fun times that I have. i I don't remember what we were talking about, but it was the time that so many people reached out and was like, y'all are good, because we got into it one on one show.
00:13:33
Speaker
Yeah. and And what y'all don't understand is that we get into it often. Yeah. Off air, on the last bunch of stuff that we recorded, I said, hey, you're going to quit calling me out. What?
00:13:47
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you're gonna quit calling me out on stuff. Stop doing stuff that I have to call you out on. I was like, look, i't I don't like this because you're trying to say that everything that I talk about is about me. And I'm like, no, I'm bringing it. I'm telling the story.
00:14:00
Speaker
Yeah. But I'm bringing it. Because always got a story. I always got a story. Yeah. And I got a million and one stories a day. People calling me talking about, here's something you can talk about in 250 episodes. And I'm like, cool. You said you got a lot of stuff.
00:14:11
Speaker
And they gave me one suggestion. Yeah. And I'm like, that's That's not a lot of stuff. That's not even a segment. That's not even a part a segment. That's not even a couple stuff. I don't really think people realize how challenging it is to get up and talk For an hour and keep it engaging. Yeah. It's not easy. It's not easy. And so there was a time to me and you got into it.
00:14:35
Speaker
and and And people were reaching like, are y'all good? I was like, hell yeah. Me and my sister, we cool as a fan. Yeah. Like our brother is in here. He's going put himself on camera. But we all get into it. Yeah.
00:14:45
Speaker
But our parents kind of raised us to challenge. Back up what you're saying. Yes. If you can't back up what you're saying, you don't you don't have no right to say it. Right.
00:14:57
Speaker
Go defend your argument. If you can't defend it, it go research it. then come back and defend your argument. yeah And because that's the way that we interact, we ain't never gonna have no problem.
00:15:08
Speaker
No, no, no. We ain't never gonna have problem. We just, we're not gonna always agree on stuff. And I think that's when the best content comes out is when we don't agree. Yeah, because people accuse us always agreeing. I'm like, no, our conversations are a lot more nuanced than that. If you listen to us, we might agree on some things, but we don't agree on everything. No.
00:15:28
Speaker
and I mean, we're going to agree on a lot. We're siblings. We have a very similar value and belief system. So almost we're going to agree on lot of things. We're going to get into it in the second segment. Trust me on that one. But, hey oh, we're going to have a difference well of opinion on the second. Yeah, I believe in that second one because you're going accuse me once again and make it about me. And I'm like, it ain't about me. But never mind. We're going to have a conversation.
00:15:49
Speaker
Okay, we're going to talk about it. We're going to talk about it. But, yeah, it's the times where we where we disagree and we really get to talk about the full breadth and of a and of an issue. those are Those are the best, I think, the best times. Yeah.
00:16:05
Speaker
Because we have trust. Yes. Because we trust and respect one another. Exactly. And that's the foundation of any type of relationship. Right. Is trust and respect.
00:16:17
Speaker
And that's not easy with siblings. Because you grew up together fighting. Yes. And then one day you wake up in the morning and be as adults, you'd be like, you know what?
00:16:28
Speaker
He's all right. You all right. yes I ain't like you for a good 15 years.
Exploration of Relationship Themes
00:16:35
Speaker
But you all right, actually. But like i said, trust and respect yeah is important in any relationship.
00:16:42
Speaker
Yes. You know where it's extremely important? Where is that? In romantic relationships, especially when there's marriage involved, but even when there's not marriage involved.
00:16:53
Speaker
And we're going to get into trust, respect, and betrayal. Next.
00:17:08
Speaker
Jay, you sent me a video. Mm-hmm. And I'll often put you on blast on this show. say you don't do noah no producing. No. And I freely admit that. Yeah.
00:17:19
Speaker
But when you do, I'm like, oh, this is something that sparked your interest. We definitely going to talk about it. Yeah. Because I love that you said that I just like I just let you go.
00:17:31
Speaker
Yeah. i love to just let you go because the audience loves that. And you're always very insightful. And you'd be dropping some jewels every now and every now and every once once in a blue moon.
00:17:41
Speaker
But sometimes. Yes. So you sent me this video. Do you want to break it down for the audience what this video was basically about? Yeah, so it was the it was the Pop the Balloon show. Favorite show And there was a gentleman and I feel like all the women popped their balloons.
00:17:58
Speaker
Pretty quickly. They did. And so the host was asking each woman why she popped her balloon. And overwhelmingly, it was because of the way he interacted with another woman. He was very argumentative, very you going to hear what I got to say type of. And and when the women would stand up.
00:18:20
Speaker
for the other woman, I don't, I pop my balloon because I don't like the way that you spoke to her. Oh, you a girl's girl, huh? You a girl's girl. Not really defining what that meant. He was asked several times what he means by girl's girl.
00:18:33
Speaker
And I could tell you what he meant as feminist, as a pejorative. And so I just thought it was an interesting video because his perspective was, you shouldn't be worrying how I talk to the next person just worried about how I talk to you.
00:18:51
Speaker
And that to me it was just, no, how you handle other people is a clear reflection or indicative of how you're going handle me. And so if I see you freely disrespecting other people, that's a turnoff for me because what's going to stop you from disrespecting me?
00:19:14
Speaker
So I just thought I wanted to get your thoughts on it. So if if if it's his current actions, yes, I absolutely believe that you can judge a person on their current actions when they're directed towards another person. right However, everybody in this room know I got a shaky past when it comes to relationships.
00:19:39
Speaker
Yes. But I've grown and matured. I wouldn't want somebody to know about my past and judge the person that I am currently. you Right. On my past. Yeah, i'm full I fully agree that you have to give people the opportunity to grow and change and mature.
00:19:56
Speaker
This was him in that moment. The way he was talking to another woman. It completely turned off every woman that was in there. And he was out of pocket. Yeah.
00:20:08
Speaker
And he was out of pocket, but I was also watching. There's this this, he's not new. There's this pastor. He's a Christian nationalist. He talks about women's place and what they should be.
00:20:22
Speaker
Some of his people, some of the people in the leadership are talking about repealing the 19th Amendment, yeah saying there should be one vote, one household, basically saying that women shouldn't have a voice. And there are some women that actually agree in that congregation, like, yeah, he's the leader. He's the head of the household. He makes the decisions. Okay.
00:20:42
Speaker
I don't agree with that, but if other people want to live that life, that's up to them. Yeah, that's fine. And so this brother that was on this Pop the Balloon, that's the life he wants to live. And if that's the life he wants to live... There's a reason why he's on that show. yeah Okay.
00:20:56
Speaker
There's a lot people on that show for various reasons. No, the reason why he's single is because of the way he talks. Well, there might be some women ah that are just like you somebody that are subservient.
00:21:08
Speaker
Yes. Ladies and gentlemen, hold on. I don't want no subservient woman. nobody but But also read something recently yeah that somebody, it was a maybe was philosopher was a feminist or something like that, said that men might settle for subservient women, woman, but they want an independent woman because they want to be able to cage that bird.
00:21:37
Speaker
Like that's what the appeal is. Yeah. Yeah. And so I was like, damn, I hope I'm not one of those type of people. i feel like a cage that bird I feel like that's true because because of the attack that the tax that independent women.
00:21:53
Speaker
hmm. constantly field from these podcast bros, right? Of like, oh, let's see, she's independent woman. Oh, she's a girl's girl. She's feminist. She's this, this, that.
00:22:05
Speaker
Why do you feel the need to take me down a peg? I'm just not the woman for you. Right. and So this goes back to what I said so many times of just finding someone who shares your value system.
00:22:19
Speaker
If you want a traditional household with traditional gender roles and things like that, there are plenty of. it But the problem is she don't look like Megan Thee Stallion. That's the problem, okay? We all want a Megan Thee Stallion. Miss Julie down at the church.
00:22:39
Speaker
Not Miss Julie. Who will make sure your house clean, the kids are washed and homework done and the dinner is ready by six and all of that. Miss Shirley and them, they don't look like Meg.
00:22:53
Speaker
And that's what that's the problem. that's That's the problem. But guess what, fellas?
00:23:01
Speaker
Who is Meg Dayton? ah Clay Thompson. Yeah, y'all don't look like Clay Thompson. Well, I mean, it's not like Clay Thompson. Hey, y'all ain't got Clay Thompson money. Okay, now say that because it's not like Clay Thompson is handsome brother.
00:23:13
Speaker
He's not ugly. I think he's attractive. His personality, if you like see him on interviews and stuff like that, he's hilarious. So, and i so I try to tell guys all the time, yes, women are drawn to physical characteristics. Yeah, we're human beings too.
00:23:29
Speaker
But not like men are. Men will be with a woman. She could be bad as hell and the worst person in the world. yeah I've seen it. I've seen it. And I'm just like, my guy, you're unhappy.
00:23:40
Speaker
Yeah, but we look at her. Right. And I'm like, well, all right. And then you will see a fine woman with a brother. You're just like... Any sitcom. Any family sitcom.
00:23:52
Speaker
It's the beautiful wife and the schlub husband. Because Harriet was beautiful and Carl showed the hell wasn't holding it down. I'm talking about family matters, ladies and gentlemen. Right. But going back to this video, I don't see anything wrong what the woman did. They were judging him how he was interacting with these women. Yeah.
00:24:11
Speaker
I find a problem with him because, look, bro, if... If you want a subservient woman and they're not going to be subservient, there's no reason to attack them for it. for it Right. That's just not the woman for you.
00:24:27
Speaker
But this is where I said that we were going to disagree. Because this brings me to a larger issue that a lot of people are trying to fit. ah What is it? Round pegs in the square hole? Yeah.
00:24:38
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that That's not what it is. That is it. That's it? I said it right? Yeah. Ladies and gentlemen, I said to right. Let me give you an example, a personal example. Because, you know, I got a story to tell. know you got a story. Yes.
00:24:50
Speaker
I have known this woman for years and we are not dating, but we talked about it because there is mutual interest. yeah And she got on me because she said, you want everything to be 50 50.
00:25:06
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I said, that's not what I said. I said, I'm looking for a partnership. Yeah. She's like, what's the difference? I said, the difference is a partnership. There's a hundred percent effort. By both people. Yes. But the percentage of what they give is going to be different in time.
00:25:22
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Right. Yeah. It might be 70 percent the male, 30 percent the female because she's got a lot of
Understanding and Compatibility in Relationships
00:25:28
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stuff going on at work or she's going through something personally and vice versa. But there needs to be 100 percent effort given into that partnership.
00:25:36
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That's what I mean in a partnership. Yeah. And she was like, I just think men should take care of everything. I was like, well, you don't believe that. Because if you believe men should take care of everything, then that means you want to go back to those traditional roles.
00:25:49
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And in those traditional roles, when men take care of everything, women shut the hell up and do as they're told. yeah And you're not the type of person to shut the hell up and do as they're told. No, I have a voice that had to say something.
00:26:00
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Then you don't want a traditional situation. and What you want is a cake you need it too. I said, what you want is friends with benefits. It's the same concept, right? You want what you want in your corner and your favor.
00:26:13
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Yeah. With complete disregard to the other person. Yeah, i mean, I feel like ah inherently most people are selfish. selfish yeah Yeah. So, of course, we would like for our lives and our relationships to be exactly what we would want them to be or better.
00:26:32
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So that's I understand that. But if you're going to get into a relationship. It might as well as advice coming from two single people. But if you got get se my no i'm single you're to get into a relationship, you can't think like that anymore.
00:26:49
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Right. No, you have to think it is a partnership unless y'all both agree. Right. These are going to be traditional roles. But for a lot of these women out here, and I'm not dragging women, I'm dragging specifically women that talk about they want to have these traditional roles where men take care everything. Mm hmm.
00:27:06
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But they don't want to go back to what that actually meant. What that meant was women couldn't get a credit card without men signing off on it. Yeah. Women can only do certain jobs. well I only want to work.
00:27:18
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I only want to be at home and take care of the kids. Cool. You don't get a say in anything. yeah Yeah, that's that's how things were back in the day. Things are better now. yes So but if you want that, cool. Just understand that when it when it comes to that, you want that traditional male.
00:27:36
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Realize that traditional male is controlling. He wants things his way. Yeah. And if he's paying all the bills and taking care everything, you can only shut the hell up.
00:27:49
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You can't have it both ways. And for the men out there that say, I want this woman to be at home taking care of the kids and and cooking my meals when I come home. Cool.
00:28:00
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That means she ain't got to work. Yeah. That means she ain't got to have a job. Right. You why? Because you want this traditional woman to be a traditional man. You be the breadwinner, the only breadwinner. And that's the problem that I have with a lot of people out here talking about traditional roles and taking it back yeah is that they want it one way.
00:28:19
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And as the great Marlowe Stanfield says, you want it one way, but it's the other way. Yeah, don't even know what that means, but it sounds good.
00:28:32
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No, meaning that they want it their way, but it's really the other way. Like it it's, if you want traditional, it's gonna be traditional. It's gonna be back in day traditional. And and i as a feminist,
00:28:44
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The whole point of it is not, you know, equality with men, because then again, you have to ask which men, right? Because not all men are equal. It's not about that. I don't, it's not even really to me about equity. It's about choice.
00:28:59
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It's about being able to say, okay, I choose to be a traditional wife and mother, or i choose to be a working wife and mother, or I choose not to be a wife,
00:29:12
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a mother at all, or I choose to do it on my own. or i like It's about being able to choose the life you want for yourself. And there's nothing wrong with wanting traditional a traditional household, traditional gender roles, or any of that stuff. There's nothing wrong with that as long as it's your choice.
00:29:31
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And back in the day, it was not a choice. It was just the way you had to live. But now we don't have to live like that. So if it's your choice ah you and it works for the two of you, great, great.
00:29:44
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That's wonderful. It's the people who that who keep going out their lane. Stay in your lane. Date the people who share your belief system, who share your value system.
00:29:57
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Stop trying to convert people who don't have that same value system. If you meet a woman who wants to be taken care of and she'll take care of the home while you provide and protect and all of that, but you want 50-50, stop trying to convince her to go 50-50. Y'all have two different value systems.
00:30:20
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Find somebody else. stop Stop being out here terrorizing people. yeah But you asked me, what does betrayal have to do with any of this? Yes.
00:30:32
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It's betrayal of yourself by not being honest to yourself yeah about what you want, communicating what you want, yeah and accepting the fact that maybe the person that you want doesn't want the same things as you.
00:30:48
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Yes. But you try to still work it out anyway because that's the person that you want. You're betraying yourself. And you're portraying the person that that you want to be with. Yeah.
00:31:00
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And... Yes. a yeah to yes And you're closing yourself off from the person you could actually be with. Right. By entertaining things or or trying to force things that...
00:31:15
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That aren't, like you said, it's a square peg in a round hole, but a round peg in a square hole. Maybe. Sure. and The fact is, the shapes don't match. And so... Truth to power or power to truth. One of the other. Taking it back to the first episode. That's how we sum up for 250, baby.
00:31:32
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You got to bring a full circle. You got to bring a full circle. It's one of the two. I'm spitting crazy on this mic. They're have to clean it afterwards. well as I see the Lysol wipes there. yeah They got clean it. because yeah spinden all this This is a post-COVID world. Lysol wipes everywhere. mind got me a little drink, but I can't handle a little drink in the studio. Plus, there's too much you know expensive stuff in here. I'd be spilling stuff. Yeah, you would. I'm a little kid when it comes to this stuff. but yeah It's betrayal of yourself.
00:32:01
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I agree with that. And and it we look, you know, i had to tell the person I was like, look, this is probably not going work because we're not going see eye to eye on this. And and um as I was trying to explain it to the person and and mind you, I've explained this particular issue with a lot of my female friends, because who doesn't want to be taken care of?
00:32:22
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Ladies and gentlemen out there, women, just let you know, I'm willing to be taken care of. I'll be a trad husband. I don't care. Like, I'll accept the role. I don't know anybody who doesn't want to be taken care of right to a certain extent. Like, we're human beings. We desire being nurtured, loved, all of these things. So there's, they to a certain extent, everybody wants to be taken care of in some way, shape, or form.
00:32:49
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But it comes with a cost. it It comes with a cost. There's a trade-off for everything. Yeah. Nothing's free. You can that trade-off. more power to you, but if you can't, you're portraying yourself and portraying the other person.
00:33:00
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yeah People need to come out here and they need start realizing, hey, look, I like this person. I love this person. This person ain't the person for me because I want different things. if If a person, if two people get together and one gets offered a new job on the other side of the country and it's their dream job, yeah but you can't move because of your current job,
00:33:24
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What do y'all do? Well, y'all gotta do what's best for Yeah. Don't betray yourself. Don't say, well, i'm not going take my dream job because you can't come with me. Well, I can't leave much. People that. People do that every day. And then they end up resenting the other person. Yes.
00:33:39
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and And that's another part of but betraying betrayying yourself. Yeah. And I just see it so often. And I want to be like, why can't y'all see what I see? But I've done it to myself numerous times. Oh, so have I. I be betraying the hell out of myself every day.
Sibling Game and Personal Insights
00:33:55
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I've dumbed myself down. I've... i've not dumb yourself down you done dumb yourself down I've dumbed myself down I've done things like go to eat at a restaurant I would never eat at in a million freaking years what restaurant we gonna name nah let's not it could be a sponsor one it could be so I'm not gonna do that but like just little things where was like why why am I changing myself for somebody that honestly if you think about it only kinda like
00:34:29
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But you know what? People do that in life in general. yeah Like when you meet people and you're like, I want this person to be my friend. I want them to like me. You might switch up your demeanor a little bit. yeah As you get older, you stop doing that because I don't do that no more. Oh, now that I'm on the other side of 40.
00:34:44
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Are you the other side of 40? Yes.
00:34:48
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Aren't you just on the side of 40? I don't think you're on the other side of 40. Yeah, I've lived now for over 40 years. and Okay. All right. I feel like I'm on the other side of 40. I'm on the other side of it. And I'm only in my mid-40s. Literally the day after my 40th birthday, to me, I'm on the other side of it.
00:35:07
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But now that I'm on the other side of it. Halfway to the upper room. Halfway. But now that I'm on the other side of it, and there is like a
00:35:17
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Like a freedom that comes with age where you no longer like change yourself so drastically for someone else. Because because you don't want to.
00:35:29
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Yeah, I'm not. Because you don't want to. No matter how fine you are. And believe me, they be fine. but Yeah, but I mean, you could you can find somebody else yeah finer. You know, that as they say, the older berry, the sweeter the juice. I don't think...
00:35:45
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I don't think that's a, I don't think that's a saying. I say that sometimes. All right. Well, there you go. That's the end of this segment. who
00:35:55
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yeah But ladies and gentlemen, tell us what you think. Yeah. Leave a comment down there in the comment section. Let us know what you think about what we discussed about trad, relationships, and betrayal.
00:36:09
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Betrayal of yourself and other person. But, And do you think somebody's behavior, people's behavior towards others is indicative of how they'll treat you? I mean, that goes back to the original question. Yeah. And it the answer is, if they are currently doing that. Yes. Yes.
00:36:25
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If it's their past, judge them on what they are currently doing. Yeah. Yeah. um But we say it all the time. When people show you who they are, believe them. Yeah. Yeah. Because that's who they are.
00:36:37
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Yeah. But now we're about to show you how close we are by playing a sibling game that she came up with. We're going to get into that next.
00:36:56
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All sis, you came up with this sibling game. Yes. To see how well we know each other. And I don't know how this is going to turn out. Because some of these questions, i was like, oh, damn.
00:37:07
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Right. I don't know. I don't know either. ah So you want to break down what made you come up with this idea and what made you come up with these questions? I honestly, I have no idea. You i you had said something about, didn't know what we were going to talk about. So I was thinking of stuff and I was thinking about what we did for like the 100th episode, how we answered viewer questions. Right. But I was like, what if we asked each other questions to see how well we know each other? So that was the idea.
00:37:38
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And I came up with questions. They get progressively more difficult. Mm-hmm. So it's 10 questions and we'll answer about each other. Right. We'll start off with some softball questions. Yeah, it's called level one warm up.
00:37:51
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Yes. All right. Yes. All right. So you want to start off with the first? Yeah, do level one. you already know what my favorite color is because the first question is, what is my favorite color? And you know what my favorite color is. Pink.
00:38:02
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Everybody know what my favorite color is. Yes. Now, what is your favorite color? What is it? I believe it's black. That is incorrect. Damn. I think I took one of my questions wrong.
00:38:13
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That is correct. It's what? Green. Green is green? Green is my favorite color. That's just because you like money. That's my birthstone. It's my eye color. It just fell in line. Yeah. I don't really ever see you wearing in green.
00:38:28
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Think go about my childhood bedroom. What color was it? It was green. and Okay. Because childhood bedroom, like, I wouldn't know. it was It was green. Okay. Green is your favorite color. Well, ladies and gentlemen, green is my sister's favorite color, and mine is pink.
00:38:44
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What is pink and green in that sorority? Yes. Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated is pink and green. There you go All right. but The second question. What is my go-to comfort food or snack?
00:39:00
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is the damn warm-up questions.
00:39:06
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Crunch and Munch? Why would it be Crunch and Munch? Because you did use a like Crunch and Munch when you were... Technically, you're not wrong. It's popcorn. I didn't know popcorn was your comfort food.
00:39:16
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Yes, I ate a lot of popcorn. Oh. Yes, popcorn. I mean popcorn is good. You know I'm saying? It's healthier. Yeah. the Healthiest. Yeah. help ah health Healthier. And Crunch and Munch, I believe, is like caramel-covered popcorn, correct? We, as kids, used to tear up ah Cracker Jacks.
00:39:35
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Yeah. And if we could find Crunch and Munch, we was going to eat some Crunch and Munch. maybe Crunch and Munch's toffee. Yeah, it was all that mixed in together. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:39:48
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Yeah, they had peanuts too. They had peanuts in it. What do you think my comfort food or snack is? I was going to say there's a pack of pretzels that's like $2 that you like to get.
00:40:00
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You also like munchies. So so but one of those two maybe? Close. Okay. Kettle chips. Kettle chips. Okay. Specifically the Harris Teeter brand. If Harris Teeter wanted to, you know, sponsor specifically those damn chips.
00:40:15
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Yeah. Those chips is the reason why I'm on here looking like a chubby rock. yeah Y'all are probably we allll are probably looking at him and don't see any chub anywhere. Let me tell you something. There's a reason why I'm wearing black. Black is slimming.
00:40:30
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but Okay. I've been eating a lot of them damn kettle chips. i Everybody it that's close to me knows I got ah almost a habit. I knew was some sort of chip, something that come in a bag. I knew that. See, the munchies my favorite snack.
00:40:42
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Yeah. But the munchies, like if I don't have a probiotic a multi-enzyme, some zinc, some lactate. Before I eat the munchies, yeah it's a problem. Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot of cheese. There's a lot of cheese in there. There's a lot of cheese. That's my comfort food. So if munchies, Harris or them Harris Teeter pretzels, because it's Harris Teeter. Yeah. That's $2. $1.99 is a bag of him in my cupboard right now. Yeah. Along with ah the the the popcorn that's kettle popcorn.
00:41:16
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Oh yeah, the like the sweet popcorn? Yeah, and I like that kettle popcorn. I love that kettle popcorn. I like snacks. Yeah, I mean snacks are great. Yeah, love I love snacks. don't know anybody who likes snacks.
00:41:27
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I was wrong on both of the warm-ups. Yeah. And it's all downhill It's going to get progressively. this Now we're moving on to level two. This is medium familiarity. I feel like I should should should explain to the people.
00:41:41
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Okay. Now... All three of the siblings are here in this room right now. Yes. You and our brother are closer in age. Yes. And are frickin' frack.
00:41:53
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Sure. Y'all been attached by the hip with your little ventures in the woods.
00:42:00
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and Since y'all was kids. Yeah. Y'all little, y'all, y'all had adventures all your life. Yes. Your bedroom. Various adventures and schemes. Your bedrooms was right next to each other. Your entire lives are across the hall. Yeah.
00:42:12
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My bedroom has always been downstairs away from everybody else. Yeah. I've always been, what do y'all call me? the the the yeah The guest star. The guest star in the family that if it's 26 episodes, I'm coming, I'm popping in. How many episodes?
00:42:28
Speaker
I feel like you will probably show up for about like no more than seven. um after i would say three or four. So I'm Sandra on the Cosby show. Basically. The first season. They didn't even have her on the TV guide cover. No.
00:42:43
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That's on Sandra. Not because, you know, something's wrong with me. We're separated by years. And by the time we were all sentient, My ass was out in the streets. I was outside. Yeah.
00:42:56
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So I don't know a lot about the both of you and our mom and dad. Well, you're learn today. Yeah, I'm learning. At least about The reason that I needed to get that long, you know how love to give long explanations. Yes, yes. Even though you didn't have to again. No, I need to explain why the hell we've been doing 250 episodes and people be like, Bruce, don't know his sister. Yes, I do. Sort of.
00:43:21
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You'll know the answers to this next question. Okay. So you want to ask this next question? Because we're on level two. This is medium. And this is talk about music artists, favorite show or movie, and biggest pet peeves. Yes. So if I could only listen to one music artist for the rest of my life, who would it be?
00:43:38
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Prince. Hands down. I knew that one. Hands down. That should have been in level one. Yes. I don't know the answer to this. I'm going to say if you could listen to one music artist for the rest of your life.
00:43:51
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Only artists, right? What do you mean? I can only listen to one artist. You can only listen to one music artist for the rest of your life. i Like, I'm feeling like it's Jay-Z, but I really, I honestly don't know the answer to that.
00:44:04
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You'd be right. Yeah. Okay. It'd be Jay-Z. Okay. Because, so I didn't know the answer to this question until you just gave me the answer. there you go. It would have to be somebody whose catalog is long enough. Yeah.
00:44:15
Speaker
And the only other person would be Michael Jackson. Yeah. But once I get past four albums, if you don't include the Jackson 5, you just say Michael Jackson. Yeah. Then, yeah, no. But Jay-Z, my favorite rapper of all time.
00:44:30
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And he's got loads of classics. So, yeah, it would be Jay-Z. Okay. Yeah. and Okay. All right. I'm going to ask you, what is your favorite all-time TV show or movie?
00:44:42
Speaker
No, you you're you you're supposed to say, what is my? Yeah. yeah because i Because I'm answering for you. You're not asking me. Oh, i I was asking you the question. No. Well, ladies and gentlemen, we we on the road. We figured this out after the long. This is it. All right. Let me re-ask the question. Yeah.
00:45:00
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but Okay, what's my all-time favorite TV show or movie? I'm going to go with TV show. I've got two in mind. Okay. I've got two mind. You should have gone with the movie.
00:45:12
Speaker
But go ahead, go with the TV show. I should have gone with the movie? You should have gone with the movie. TV show or two? Difficult to to hammer down. We're talking about what is my favorite all-time?
00:45:23
Speaker
I don't know your favorite all-time movie. Okay, I'm going to give you Okay. Can I guess bring a whole? Yes. Above the room? Above the room is great, but no. what is my What is my favorite thing?
00:45:40
Speaker
I've got a tattoo. Oh, okay. Superman. Okay, okay. But what Superman movie? Don't know. Man of Steel. Oh, okay. So I was going to go with TV shows. I had two in my, it was Martin or Bernie Mac show. I was leaning more turn towards Bernie Mac. Yeah, it would be Bernie Mac show. Yeah.
00:45:59
Speaker
It would be the Bernie Mac show. Yeah. My favorite all-time television show or movie. Damn.
00:46:09
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I'm not going to choose movie. That would be too difficult. Let's go television show.
00:46:15
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Television show. Mm-hmm. Should I go movie or television show? that It's your choice. hey bro you want Bro, do you know what it is? He knows my favorite movie.
00:46:28
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Purple Rain? It's been the same. Graffiti Bridge? No, it's not a Prince film, no. ah
00:46:35
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Four Curler Girls? I don't, for color girls, no. It's not going to be anything involving Tyler Perry. I'll tell you that right now. All right, so let's go TV show.
00:46:46
Speaker
Your favorite, it might be the first 48. The first 48 is not my favorite TV show. all right, so I didn't get this one right. I don't know what it is. What is it? I actually don't have a favorite TV show.
00:46:58
Speaker
Okay, so what is your favorite movie? It's a, it's a very, oh, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait minute. The Wiz. wiz This is not my favorite movie. Oh, damn. as of You wouldn't guess it.
00:47:09
Speaker
It was a little-known picture starring Christian Slater and Marissa Tomei and Rosie Perez. It was called Untamed Heart. And that is my favorite movie of all time. I don't even think I was.
00:47:21
Speaker
You probably have never even seen it. Most people out there probably have never seen it. But that is my favorite movie of all time. Okay. you I think I know what the answer to this next one is. Okay. What's my biggest pet peeve?
00:47:34
Speaker
I thought I knew the answer, but then I was thinking about it. I don't know the answer. Punctuation. People being late. No. Lying? Mm-mm.
00:47:45
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I don't know what your biggest pet is. you know what their biggest pet peeve is? I just spit in the air. think might be the sound of me eating. I don't know what your biggest pet peeve is. I know what yours is.
00:48:00
Speaker
You think you know what mine is. It's not hypocrites? Hypocrisy is not your biggest pet peeve. No, it's not. It's what you say is your biggest pet peeve, like all the time. Yeah, I hate it.
00:48:13
Speaker
ah hate it the most. Yeah. But it's part of it's a hypocrisy is as a small thing. That's a part of a larger thing. Mm hmm. OK. But let's focus on your pet peeve first. What's your pet peeve? My biggest pet peeve is when people ask me things that are easily Googleable.
00:48:32
Speaker
ah Please do not. I can't stand when people ask me stuff that a quick ah cursory Google search will give you the answer. Please don't. I hate it.
00:48:44
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ah hate it so much because I'm just going to Google the answer. Yeah. Yeah. And why do they think you in the encyclopedia of knowledge? Because I Google the answer and give it to them tell instead of telling them to look it up themselves.
00:48:58
Speaker
But, yes, I can't stand when people ask me stuff that you could easily... a cursory Google search will give you the answer to that. Google is your friend, gentlemen. Google is your friend. All right.
00:49:08
Speaker
So my biggest pet peeve, consideration. Ah, that was my second guess. But... hypocrisy is in consideration as well. So yeah, mine is considered, it's when people are inconsiderate, my level of inconsiderate, because we've had this conversation that maybe- Which it's a high bar.
00:49:27
Speaker
I don't think it's a high, it's no higher, i don't hold people to a higher standard than I hold myself to. You hold yourself to an incredibly high standard. There are several times where I tell you, you don't have to give me so much of an excuse. i feel Just like tell me the thing.
00:49:40
Speaker
I feel like holding yourself to a personal high standard is a good way to live. That's just my personal opinion. now drive i I didn't say that I wasn't crazy. I started this podcast. it But you know what? 250 episodes in.
00:49:54
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Hey, we're here. We're here. So the next level, level three, is called Memory Lane.
Dreams, Aspirations, and Personal Reflections
00:50:01
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I'm 45 years old. I don't remember what I ate yesterday, but OK. All right. So what was my favorite subject in school growing up?
00:50:09
Speaker
We know it's not math. It's not math, no. it was And I think everybody know it ain't history either. It's not math or a history. And you I want to say English only because you're good in it, but I don't think that was your favorite subject.
00:50:22
Speaker
No, it is. It is? just thought you just like... I love reading and writing. No, that was my favorite. Reading and writing. It was my major in college. Yeah, but I mean, I didn't... Okay. No, I love reading and writing. That's my favorite subject. Your favorite subject would be history. Yeah, that's my favorite subject. yeah But it didn't become my favorite subject until high school and one specific teacher yes that showed me that history is just being messy.
00:50:52
Speaker
Yeah, it is. It's just being messy. And being messy is my favorite thing. Which childhood toy, game, or hobby do I love the most?
00:51:04
Speaker
It's... I'm going to say video games. But I also feel like wrestling men are in there somewhere.
00:51:17
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Playing with your wrestling men when you were a younger. yeah Playing with my wrestling men up to the age of 16, 17. sixteen seventeen It was yeah hot when our brother gave our my ah my wrestling men. I was in my 20s.
00:51:30
Speaker
Hot when he gave them to our little cousin. Hot. yeah So it was my wrestling men. For you, you don't remember this. But your early years, it was that damn glow worm. Oh, loved that thing.
00:51:42
Speaker
It was your glow worm. No, absolutely 100% remember glow worm. And it was just a little ah hello stuffed worm that lit up. But no, I did But and that's actually, that was not my favorite childhood toy.
00:51:58
Speaker
My favorite childhood toy is how I got the nickname that our father calls me.
00:52:05
Speaker
um don't even know the nickname that... It's literally tattooed on my arm. But I used to have a mother goose. That you put a tape in it and it'll tell you a story. And it's very similar to a Teddy Ruxpin.
00:52:18
Speaker
And I used to carry it around by snack. I took that thing everywhere. And that's how i got the nickname Goose. But yes, it was that Mother Goose toy. That was my favorite. You know what? I don't remember that toy.
00:52:30
Speaker
I remember the Teddy Ruxpin. I remember the glow worm. I do not remember the Mother Goose. Which is crazy because it was like a three foot goose. Do not remember it. A three-foot white goose. What age was this?
00:52:41
Speaker
I was very, very young. Like four, five? Yeah. I was outside. Yeah, you was outside. outside I was outside. don't no mother goose. Yeah, yeah. don't remember no mother all right, can you name my first real job or way I made money?
00:52:55
Speaker
Well, yeah the first way y'all made money was at Olympic scam. The kids' Olympics. Yeah. was gonna be ah It could have been a real thing if we had gotten the funding and everything, if we had gotten it off the ground. But we had some we had some haters that didn't want to that made us give the money back. But the Kids Olympus could have been. there But that's not my first job. It was my first job. I know what your first job is. Are we allowed to say the name of the the place on air? Just say what it is.
00:53:25
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i mean you were You don't have to say the name it. You worked at a sporting goods store. That wasn't my first job. Grocery store. I worked at the grocery store. Where did you work at the grocery store? used to put people's bags in there when I was 14.
00:53:38
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I do not. and now Why was you getting jobs so young? i didn't get my first job until I was 17. Because I wanted that mood. I didn't want to ask nobody for nothing. Case in point, that Olympic scam. Yeah. I always had some sort of money-making venture. I do not remember. You were 14? Yep. I used to put people's groceries in their car.
00:53:57
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I wouldn't remember that. I was in college. Yes. I wouldn't remember that. True. Yeah. I was literally in college. Yeah. But that was my first job. I worked at the grocery store and I i was too young for the register. So I put groceries in people's cars.
00:54:09
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And then one day ah guy came and said, you're too cute to be out here working. I said, you're right. And I quit.
00:54:17
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but That's one thing all of us will do is quit a job. We will quit a job. Your first job was at the calendar store. No, that was my first management job.
00:54:28
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They made me a manager. I was 18 years old, assistant manager of a store and a major brand store because it was a calendar store for the holiday season, but it was a bookstore.
00:54:41
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Oh, right. Because I lied and said, it was like, you read a lot of books. I said, hell yeah, I read a lot of books. I don't read not a nad not a book. No. What was your first job? That was my first job.
00:54:52
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That's what I just said. books. yeah yeah yeah You said a calendar store. Oh, that was your first manager. Okay, your first job was the bookstore. yeah got it Actually, technically, my first job, paying job, was a basketball counselor.
00:55:07
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Oh, yeah. well they Where I had to defend him because he was running his mouth against the two biggest people and both neighbor and and the neighbor in neighboring high school and my high school, both older than me, and they was about to throw him in the trash can. And I was like, man, look,
00:55:24
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I'll die for my brother. Do y'all feel like dying? Because y'all gonna win. It's a choice. It's a choice. It's gonna be never ending. Y'all better put my brother down. yeah But I knew my brother was wrong. Matter of fact, my brother has gotten me into a lot of fights through the years.
00:55:40
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Nah, that's... You haven't? That's overstated. ah you What you missed was people messing with me because I'm little. What about the time you made me punch that boy because you said he bothered you and then I was barred with playing all the other kids in the neighborhood? We're going all this y'all. No, we're not. We're leaving this in.
00:55:57
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Because I got some pain and suffering. got more questions left. All right. My bad. My bad. My bad. We got level four. first job, I worked at a bookstore, ladies and gentlemen. I didn't read nothing. No books.
00:56:07
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they People used to come in there. What do you recommend? There's a whole section of books over there that might want to check the out. That's I'm talking about. but so And Table in the Middle, that's the new stuff that just came in. I was like, good check that out you look like a romance lady. there There's some books. They're not going to be in order because they told me to to put the books in order.
00:56:24
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I just got tired just started putting books wherever self-help all in the different in non-fiction and fiction as in the people be coming up and they just be like us i found this romance novel in the action adventure section next to star wars i was like you know what people always not putting stuff back where he's supposed to be here you go i'll take it i'll take it the manager was like that's happening a lot lately was like don't know what's coming on It was there's me.
00:56:53
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It was me. It got real bad when I got to be assistant manager because then I just wouldn't put no books away because then I was the boss. I was like, I'm going to stay up here the cash register right and y'all go go ahead and put these books away.
00:57:06
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Oh, fake ass dubly-desil system. All let's finish these last two. All right, level four is called tricky and personal. Right. So if I won the lottery tomorrow, what's the first big thing I would buy or do?
00:57:25
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Now, I know what this is. Yeah. And I've talked about it before. The first big thing you would buy or do if you won the lotto.
00:57:39
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We ain't got all day. I literally don't know. Okay. So if I won the lotto, I have to help people. Yes. Got to get right with the Lord. You're right.
00:57:51
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I've always had the idea of a way to end or help homeless people. Okay. Is by building a hotel, giving them a job, giving them...
00:58:04
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A place to stay in a hotel as they work in a hotel. Yeah. And it wouldn't be to generate money. It would be an opportunity for people to get back up on their feet. And I would promote it as that.
00:58:17
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Yeah. And then, you know, a lot of people who are like, oh, he's just trying to help the community. We'll come and stay in a hotel and that would just go back in the services. We would have social service programs to help with anything that they might be at to medical programs, if they had mental health mental health issues. yeah That's the first thing I would do would be start a foundation that would lead to the building of a hotel or something like that. Yeah.
00:58:39
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To help homeless people get back on their feet. Very cool. what would What would I do? If I won the lotto tomorrow, what would be the first big thing that I would buy or do? Well, we know you're not going buy a boat.
00:58:51
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No. We know that. Now, I know you're going buy something.
00:58:57
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Mm-hmm. But what would be the first thing I do? The first thing? Oh, the first thing you do is give everybody in the family money. Yep. Yep.
00:59:07
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That's the first thing that you would do. yeah We've often talked about that. ah Ladies and gentlemen, that's not the first thing I'm going do. going make sure that do my one thing to get ready with Lord first. first thing I would do is pay my bills. No, I'm giving people money first before than my bills. I got some bills. My student loans, yeah they done tripled since ah Trump took over.
00:59:26
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Yeah, that was the first thing. But after i do I do that, like that cursory thing where I get my financial situation straight, it will, yeah, it would be to start cutting checks pretty much.
00:59:39
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Because ultimately, if I won the lotto, I would give myself a salary and then everything else would be, ti I wouldn't be liquid because then ah because then people can say, Hey, can you loan? Can you give me a million dollars? Nope. I'm not liquid.
00:59:55
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I get a little salary based on just maybe my returns or something. I get little salary and that's, that's, ah that's how I live. Yeah. I mean, that's basically, that's basically. All right. Last question.
01:00:07
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Go ahead, it's your turn. What's one dream or life goal I've told you about that I've never told many other people? It wouldn't be me, it would be him.
01:00:18
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You did tell me. It would be him, he would know. Okay, well then what's one dream or life goal that I have? You've done... everything that you almost wanted to do.
01:00:29
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There's one thing that I've wanted that's pretty much been the only thing I've ever wanted for myself. Are we talking about the thing that you're about to do rest soon? Yeah, it's to have kids. Yep.
01:00:42
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That's it. That's all i I've always just wanted to be a mom. That's
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it. That's pretty much my only life goal that I've ever had. coffee shop and event space. Oh, yeah.
01:00:53
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Yeah, that, yeah. I would also like to have little coffee shop slash event space, but my ultimate life goal. Yeah. But my ultimate life goal or dream is to be a parent.
01:01:04
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Yes. Okay. Well, that's mine too. And if any woman out there that's got some money, want to take care of me, just want somebody to, I actually, you know, I have an agreement with a good friend of mine.
01:01:18
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Mm-hmm. You know. and As we tend to make at our age. Yeah, yeah you know. But, yeah. You got to have a plan B. I don't think that well i havent i don't think that's what my goal is now.
01:01:31
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What is your life goal or your dream now?
01:01:38
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I don't have one. Yeah. Because I don't, ooh, I don't have a goal. i was literally. this podcast off the ground, nigga.
01:01:48
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Yes and no. If my goal is to make money off the podcast, then it ceased to become authentic.
01:02:00
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Yeah. Because then the goal becomes to make money. and And don't get me wrong, this is a business, but as somebody who has done businesses before...
01:02:12
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the larger goal has to be why you started it. yeah And I didn't start it to make money. This is a byproduct. And that's a great byproduct. It'd be even greater if we was making more.
01:02:24
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For sure. To at least cover the bills. but But no, ah the goal, I don't have a larger goal. and And honestly, I've accomplished everything that I've ever wanted to accomplish in my life aside from having a family but everything else i've accomplished everything there's not been one thing that i've been like damn that didn't then that didn't happen the way i wanted to yeah i wanted to play college ball but i still had the opportunity to i chose once i got to college i didn't want to play ball yeah because i didn't love it i liked it yeah i was in like with it not in love which i've also found out that happens with me with a lot of women
01:03:05
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But I think that's okay. Like, I feel like a lot of times people get too wrapped up in like, what's the purpose of my life? I mean, i really honestly don't think it matters. I think that if you go to bed feeling like,
01:03:22
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today was all right, then I feel like that's that's fine. Like, I don't think you need a life's purpose or some ultimate goal or things, because then once you reach it or accomplish it, then what you gonna do?
01:03:36
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yeah I think it's ah life is just a series of small goals that you set for yourself. yeah and And you hope to accomplish them one by one, and then you set another. And I think that i think that's fine.
01:03:51
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but enjoy the journey of accomplishing those goals don't be so obsessed with accomplishing your goals that you can't appreciate the journey like the fact that we're 250 episodes in yeah we're in this great studio with this great setup yeah and that's the next goal the goal is to do this more consistently.
01:04:15
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Not the show, but the setup like this. yeah i feel like the final product is going to be really dope. Something that the audience is really going to enjoy. And I got an odd feeling they'll be like, we want more of this.
01:04:27
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And we might we might make that happen. Maybe. But Jay, what do you want to tell the people out there? Oh, yeah, guess I'm supposed to do that every episode, huh? but you know what I mean? Sometimes... Most of the time I don't have anything, and today it's no different. No, you just drop something with the goals and life and all that. Oh, yeah, yeah. I would also... you don't have to have an overarching purpose or dream or goal or plan, and that stuff is great.
01:04:57
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But, you know, write it in pencil because life happens. and life be life and And then i would also encourage everyone as you are tackling these dreams and goals and things to remember to be present.
01:05:12
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And enjoy where you are because you're further along than you were yesterday. And if you're not, then you got some things to get together. You know?
01:05:24
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And on that note, he's the same I want to thank you all for listening for 250 episodes. I want to thank you all for watching for 239 episodes. And until next time, as always, I'll holler.
01:05:42
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