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The Brutal Truth About Friendships, Dating Icks & Lottery Wins
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Friendships, dating, money, and a whole lot of sibling chaos. In this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives: Sibling Happy Hour, Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea dive into the “icks” in dating, why compliments cause controversy, and the inconvenient truth about maintaining real friendships. They break down therapist Shahe McClaren’s viral take on why friendships require effort, explore the loneliness epidemic, and get hilariously sidetracked with 90s rom-com nostalgia and even the infamous Titanic door debate.
But that’s not all—wild lottery stories take center stage, from fake winning ticket games turning real to a couple secretly splitting millions. Add in Arizona iced tea inflation, hilarious sibling banter, and laugh-out-loud tangents, and you’ve got a must-watch episode packed with humor and real talk.
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00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:48 Sibling Happy Hour: Sips, Laughs & Sibling Shenanigans 🍹😂
04:43 From Side Hustles to Success: The Real Entrepreneurship Story 💼💪
07:38 The Truth About Inflation Nobody's Talking About 💰📊
11:22 When Compliments Go Wrong: The Dating Game Changed 💄🤦♀️
22:33 Real Talk: Why Your Friendships Are Failing 👥💭
31:31 When Being Too Deep Ruins the Vibe: Social Skills 101 🤔💭🤦♂️
32:43 Level Up Your Social Game: Practice Makes Perfect 🎯💪🔥
33:46 How to Find Your Tribe: The Secret to Belonging 👥✨💫
35:18 Why Friendship Takes Work: The Hard Truth 🤝💫💡
35:53 No Magic Pills: The Brutal Truth About Weight Loss 💪🏋️♀️🎯
39:48 Wild Lottery Stories That'll Make Your Jaw Drop 🎰🤯💰
46:18 90s Rom-Coms That Hit Different: The Golden Era 🎬❤️
49:48 The Titanic Door Debate: Could Jack Have Survived? 🚢💔
59:50 The Secret to Lasting Relationships Nobody Tells You 🤝💫
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Podcast Introduction
00:00:00
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the ick, friendships, and the lottery. We gonna get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:17
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation or follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcast, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:37
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your
Sibling Happy Hour Segment
00:00:45
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enemies. On today's episode, it's the Sibling Happy Hour. I'm here with my sis, Jay Andre.
00:00:51
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We're going to be dilly-dadding a little bit, and then we're going to be talking about friendship and the rules surrounding it. And then we're going to be talking about funny stories about the lottery. But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
Travel & Setup Challenges
00:01:11
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What up, sis? What up, brother? I can't call it. I can't call it. How are you feeling right now? Well, I tell you, my whole household is asleep right now and I'd like to rejoin them.
00:01:22
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So if we can go ahead. I've been traveling. I've been doing a lot. So, ah you know, like to go home. going back sleep. Yeah. Well, so ladies and gentlemen, my sister got back to Atlanta yesterday.
00:01:39
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And I was dreading texting her this morning. I was like, we got to show the film. I know she's tired. And I know yeah she probably forgot about it. I did. So this morning I texted her and it was simple words, simple phrases, because that's what you like. You don't like a long drawn out.
00:01:55
Speaker
You want simple. Hey, yes what time works for you today? And I knew by saying that you would know exactly what the hell I was talking about. and At first you was like, I don't know. Three. was like, three is perfect.
00:02:06
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We ain't get started till 315, 320. But, yeah you know, we here now. Because I'm literally roaming around the house doing things like my whole podcast set up is set up already nothing's set up it's in my luggage so like you're not ready for the show at all and so you know 10 minutes before the show i'm covered in the room like well nothing's ready uh nothing's ready i don't know why i thought it was so yeah my bad i was late to the show um i apologize for that
00:02:41
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Look, ladies and gentlemen, I joke and I throw my sister under the bus, but I really ain't upset. And she knows that. She knows I ain't really upset because I'm like, I get her on the show because I know the show is better with her.
Sibling Dynamics & Tardiness
00:02:52
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So I ain't really tripping. It's kind of like your star basketball player or star football player. They can just get away with practice. We talking about practice. They can just get away with stuff yeah that normal people couldn't get away with. I have actually canceled.
00:03:08
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Whole interviews because guests have arrived late with no reasonable explanation, no heads up. Like, hey, where are you?
00:03:18
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Our interview was supposed to start 30 minutes ago. i don't know what time you think I'm on, but I'm not on that time. Yeah. And we're like, well ah can't we reschedule? I'll be real honest with you. This would have been a good conversation, but I'm a little thrown off. I have canceled so many interviews.
00:03:33
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interviews yeah because of that you the only one that could get away with some stuff like that plus you my sister so yeah it's also that yeah you know yeah i think it's more about the fact that i'm your sister and that no because yeah so with some family was supposed to be on the show and got and got stripped of that well that's true also yeah you know what and okay then it's probably just because i'm on the show then so well i'm I mean, yeah, so better with ah with with the with you. Well, abstract abstract I wish you hadn't told me that. I mean, I'm not going to abuse it.
00:04:08
Speaker
You are already abuse it you know that that's just me not even acknowledging the fact that of what you just said. That was just me. That was just my behavior being dead. Yeah. Yeah.
00:04:22
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You're already like that. But that was, it was not intentional. Like now it might be a little bit of, what's it gonna do? Fire me? You know, now might be a little bit of that. Yes. Yes. Okay. Well, nevermind then, ladies and gentlemen, I'll be on time for the next show y'all. Cause I could get fired.
00:04:42
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Well, ladies and gentlemen, I'm going to y'all into a little thing, a little behind the scenes. You doing
Entrepreneurial Ventures & Anecdotes
00:04:48
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this podcast with me, you youve you know I've been an entrepreneur for 20-something years. Early your whole life, yeah. several Well, not my whole life. It's not like you and our brother with your sham Olympics, Kid Olympics.
00:05:02
Speaker
It wasn't a sham. but But ever since like 10 years, right? Like I've been out there trying to hustle some. not so legitimate.
00:05:13
Speaker
yeah Right. Like, husband, if you tell me go sell some candy bars, I might tell you that I got robbed but didn't sell the candy bars on the side to pocket the money.
00:05:25
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Or it might say it's $3 for a candy bar and I might sell it for $5 and pocket extra money. Dumbness type of scams that I was talking about was not really legitimate. but Oh, just straight up lying. Well, ah okay. Well, and been you know twisting the truth anyway yeah okay inflation anyway i've also solved inflation don't you know inflation's done we solved it you didn't see that no i didn't no oh yeah no inflation's been solved okay so you don't even have to worry about that those are verbatim words ladies and gentlemen inflation it is that mission accomplished banner
00:06:09
Speaker
all over again. Wow. Okay. You know how know. You know, I'm talking super first world problems. But because I don't drive, didn't see the price of gas.
00:06:20
Speaker
Where I've been affected with inflation is eggs and Gatorade. No, yeah just eggs and Gatorade. I haven't noticed it anywhere else for me personally.
00:06:32
Speaker
But eggs and Gatorade, I've seen the prices go up. But I was telling a story before your ADHD.
Friendship Effort Discussion
00:06:41
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oh I've always been an entrepreneur.
00:06:44
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So I've started several companies. Some of them have a lot of them haven't worked out, but but I've started them. Some have been successful last couple of years, however you want to measure success. But you've never really worked with me outside of our time at Hard Rock. You've never seen me be a boss boss.
00:07:02
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And right through this podcast, you've seen how I'm a boss boss and you realize, oh, my brother don't play. No, no. So I go back to my original.
00:07:14
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Y'all be on time for now because I could get fired. Like your fave could get fired. Like he doesn't care. and I mean, I do care. I wouldn't yeah want to fire you.
00:07:26
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Yeah, but. But I fired people that said they was like my big brother. So, yeah. and i But speaking of inflation, still want to give as much as I've been giving him the shout out for a while now.
00:07:44
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Don Votaglio. Sorry if I mispronounce your name. Co-founder and chairman of Arizona Beverage Company. Shout out to you for keeping that can of Arizona. 99 cents.
00:07:56
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I thought I did read something a couple of weeks ago where they were questioning and they was like, Hey, we might have to rest raise the price. No, I don't want y'all do that. Don't do it. It's not about you wanting them to do it. I think recently an article came out.
00:08:10
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i don't know if I read the article, if I just saw the headline. And you know headlines can be mis misleading. But I thought I saw something where it was like, they're like, hey, look, these tariffs, we might have to raise the price. Yeah, they are because of aluminum tariffs.
00:08:24
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They are considered raising the price, but they're just considering it. Y'all, please, I rely on that 99 cent. Arizona iced You could just drink water.
00:08:38
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Or you could shut the hell because I am supporting... yeah that yeah It ain't no small business. don't care.
00:08:49
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I'm not supporting this business. Yeah, six days ago there was an article in USA Today. Yeah, that's what I thought. i saw You know I'll be up on the news. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Only if they keep getting pressure from these astronomical tariffs.
00:09:04
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Which again, another... I feel like it was the same interview ah with Captain Carrot that... ah He said, yeah, that he said also we're getting millions, actually billions, billions back in tariffs paid by the other countries, by the way, just lies.
00:09:25
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We're not getting billions in tariffs and it is not paid by other countries. We are getting millions. still paid you. yeah We are getting millions. Yeah. Yeah. But we are not getting billions and no, it's not being paid by the other countries.
00:09:38
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It's being paid by us. The dumbasses. Politicians have always kind of lie. And most of the lies misleading. what This is what I mean by that. Like, you could take a statistic and numbers don't lie, but you can twist the statistics. interpretation of them. Yeah. So most of the time, politicians do that. Most of the time, it's not an outright lie.
00:10:00
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It's a bending of the truth. Yes. As Obi-Wan once said, I was telling the truth from a particular point of view. So yeah that's kind of what they do.
00:10:13
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The orange man, bald-headed lies. I say bald-headed lies. Shout out to Tommy Strong from Martin. God rest your soul. Bald-headed lies. Bald-headed lies. Yes. but Straight up untruths.
00:10:28
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Just a lie. Just a lie. Inflation is not solved. And thanks to the tariffs, it's worse. And we are paying those tariffs.
00:10:40
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He's taking away your health care. He's federalizing the police. And
Friendship Pet Peeves & 'Icks'
00:10:45
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he's a big old terrorist who hates America. All I know is... Oh, he's not sending aid to states that don't support him. so Yeah. you know All I know is that eggs used to be 99 cents a dozen. Used to.
00:11:00
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Yeah, used to. At Aldi. Last year. Yeah. Last year. You know how I know, ladies and gentlemen? Because I eat lot of eggs. I eat a lot of eggs.
00:11:11
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I eat at bare minimum eating a dozen eggs a week. Yeah. Jay, something came across my timeline and it wasn't about the orange man, but it's about women and Ix.
00:11:23
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Now, I am not a subscriber of the Manosphere. and Okay. I try to not up... feel a dangerous butt coming. No, no, no, no. It's not a dangerous butt. It's more like a...
00:11:40
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It's more like, ah you know, Jennifer Love Hewitt from Can't Hardly Wait, but not a Rosie Perez, but Rosie Perez, that's a dangerous, but would you know, love Hewitt nice, but good, but.
00:11:55
Speaker
Okay. you Good, but but not dangerous, okay? Got it, right. Don't subscribe to Manosphere. Don't describe the patriarchy. Try to not be misogynist and and toxic masculinity. I'm still growing.
00:12:11
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Yes. Some of these women, x I actually agree with. But two of these things that came across my timeline that had to have been from the Manosphere that creeped into my algorithm somehow, some way,
00:12:25
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I do not agree with. Here's one. Young lady, very attractive young lady. I would say, well, actually, i can't tell what age she is because Gen Z looks old. So I'm going to assume that she is absolutely in Gen Z, maybe a young millennial, right? Mm-hmm.
00:12:43
Speaker
Okay. says that an older man, and when I say older man, she said somebody 60 to 70 years old, walked up to her and said, you are gorgeous.
00:12:54
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And she said, thank you. But then in her mind, she started running through the table. She was like, wait a minute, did I say thank you just because I'm a people pleaser? Was what he said appropriate?
00:13:05
Speaker
Ugh. Men, just leave women alone. no And I was like, hold up now. Now, if he said... Damn, baby, you got some ass. Yes.
00:13:16
Speaker
OK. Yeah. Those are words that have actually been spoken from 2002. Bruce. OK. ah I've said those words. He had just said you're gorgeous.
00:13:28
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And it reminds me of the story that I've told on this podcast before when I was at Target. And this woman, I don't know if she was. Persian, Italian, Latina, light-skinned black, who knows, right? Yeah, she was something.
00:13:42
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She had a skin tone not unlike the color of my skin tone. Okay. ah But you know, with Lil Henna, something else. Right, right. A little hint of something else.
00:13:54
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A little hint. little hint. But she had on this hot pink dress. And I walked up to her and I said, ma'am, I'm not hitting on you at all.
00:14:04
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I don't want to make you uncomfortable. i'm just going I just want to let you know that that dress and your skin tone matches perfectly. You look fantastic today. You have a great day. And walked away.
00:14:15
Speaker
As I'm walking away, she said, thank you. Like she wanted to continue on the conversation. But as I said, I wasn't hollering and I didn't want to double back, even though yeah I wanted to double back. And so this, it kind of bothered me. I'm like, young lady, take the compliment.
00:14:28
Speaker
Yeah, that sounds more like a like a question of her own, you know, kind of self-worth, maybe. Not so much that, I mean, people have eyeballs.
00:14:43
Speaker
They do. They can see. So if you look nice and someone says in a polite way that, you know, they compliment you in a polite way.
00:14:54
Speaker
i don't see what the problem is with just accepting the compliment and moving on with your day. ah If they go get titties, then I can say. yeah you know those that are lefting yeah For those that are listening, y'all didn't get that that that the buildup to what she said, but those in the videos saw her almost act like a seizure because that's how men be acting. That was perfect.
00:15:21
Speaker
Right. You know, then I can say, okay, get a little upset. You know, it's funny because I actually saw a video of this from a stud content creator.
00:15:34
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And she was like, hey, ladies, especially straight women, just because I compliment you don't mean I want you. There's a lot of times where a gay woman or particularly a stud will come to a woman, hey, you're beautiful or you look beautiful.
00:15:52
Speaker
And the response will I'm not gay. I didn't say i wanted to holler. I'm just saying i have eyeballs and you know the lashes are popping, hair is done, nail done, everything big.
00:16:05
Speaker
I mean, I'm just trying to compliment you on that. So, like, you know, sometimes people are just innocently trying to compliment you. And I feel like if they they're doing it in a respectful way, you know, you'd be right.
00:16:21
Speaker
Just say thank you and move on. Is stud an offensive term? Because... i because I feel, you know but you know me, always get up and get my panties in the bunch with certain words. I'm like, is that offensive? I'm not trying to be offensive. Please excuse me. so is I'm more offended by the fact that you said panties. who That's an expression. Get your panties in the bunch.
00:16:45
Speaker
I have never liked the word panties. I don't like it. Well, okay. I think it's a better way of saying women's underwear. Draws. Just say draws. ah that Draws is absolutely it's absolutely what they are.
00:17:01
Speaker
I mean, i this gentleman was appropriate. It's not like we were just together this past weekend going to the bowling alley and our server, I said to you, she got a porch back there because her booty stuck out. but Literally, it was a porch. You could have put plates of food up there.
00:17:19
Speaker
It definitely, you could have been sitting on it with a rocking chair and a mint julep. A full mint julep. Some mistake. You know, like, like for sure. And so, yeah. So, like, it wasn't that.
00:17:33
Speaker
You know, it's okay if somebody says you look nice, you can say thank you. And keep it pushing. Keep it on. Keep it on about your day. Now, if they get disrespectful after that, turn up. You know? yeah There you go.
00:17:44
Speaker
I'm a retired crash out. I get it. So, like...
00:17:49
Speaker
You know, but if it's, if it's, it don't, you don't have to overthink it. I think a lot of times I feel like this person was just overthinking it. It was. There's another, there's one more that I want to get to before the end of this segment.
00:18:01
Speaker
And there's another one that came across my algorithm. And there was a woman in the airport complaining that she was complaining about men's wear in the airport. And what she said was, men wear pants.
00:18:15
Speaker
And I was like, yeah, men should wear pants. But she was being very specific. Jeans, cargoes, khakis, things of that nature. Men can't wear joggers. And I was like, wait minute, we can't wear joggers or sweats in the airport?
00:18:28
Speaker
Kiss my ass. She'd be like, that's not manly. Wear regular pants. it's like, they are uncomfortable and I'm on this plane. You've got to be lucky that I'm not in some boxes, some loose fitting boxes yeah and a baggy t-shirt. And all the reason I'm doing that is because flight attendants say, don't let...
00:18:45
Speaker
your actual skin touch anything on the airplane because it's gross. yeah absolutely um Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, y'all, stop being weird. Literally, stop being weird. like Let people live. i don't There's no problem with men wearing joggers.
00:19:02
Speaker
I don't understand. They're just sweatpants. They're sweatpants with a tapered leg. there there that I get that they're more fitted sweatpants, but you're supposed to be able to jog in them.
00:19:13
Speaker
They're my favorite sweatpants. Matter of fact, I like a tapered leg pant anyway because I like to show off my shoes. You like to show off the shoe. Yeah, like to show off my shoes. So, no, there's no... Yeah, stop being weird, y'all. This is a lot of people doing way, way too much.
00:19:27
Speaker
Now, it's just... It's more of like your personal preference, but you're trying to assign it like like is it should be felt by everybody.
00:19:39
Speaker
And no, that's just your personal. You personally, I don't like to see men in flip-flops. I don't like it. Most of y'all don't take care of y'all feet. Okay. If you're going wear flip-flops with some socks on, it if you know them feet look natural.
00:19:56
Speaker
I hate that expression. they look very earthly. yeah if they look very earthly
00:20:06
Speaker
Okay? If they look like you've been running across the earth. i'll keep Keep some socks on. But that's not ick. that's not a That's not something that should be... Everybody should feel that. That's just my personal thing.
00:20:20
Speaker
If you don't take care your feet. But honestly, that's anybody because i see some women with some gnarled, gnarled digits. And it's hammer time, hide your toes. Y'all shouldn't have them out either. Because don't want to see it while trying you know eat my Burger King.
00:20:35
Speaker
Not your burger cake. So on that note, for the audience, what are some of your ics? And what do you think are some of those ridiculous ics?
00:20:46
Speaker
Leave a comment down down in the section where it's comment section. Yeah. And holler at us. It seemed less about them struggling to know where the comments are and you struggling to know what the word was and it was comment section.
00:21:06
Speaker
Yeah. And you tried to make it seem like it was their problem when really it was yours. Yeah. but Okay. Okay. Yeah. No, absolutely right. But on that note, what gives you the ick in friendships?
00:21:18
Speaker
And how can we establish better friendships? We're going to get into that next.
00:21:32
Speaker
Jay, you sent me a very interesting video.
Inconvenience in Relationships
00:21:36
Speaker
And anytime you send something to me like show topic, I'm like, yeah, we're definitely going to it because that just takes little bit of less work that I have to put into it. And it's something that interests you. So I definitely want to talk about it.
00:21:49
Speaker
And it was this young man. I'm going to call him a young man because I'm assuming that he's younger than I am talking about friendships. And he is therapist. Yeah, I believe he is a therapist. Correct.
00:22:00
Speaker
Okay. So he, in the video, I'm going to give you guys a quick synopsis of the video. In the video, he discusses the idea that friendships require inconvenience. He argues that maintaining and building friendships often means pushing past personal boundaries of comfort, like showing up when you don't feel like it, initiating plans, or being vulnerable.
00:22:22
Speaker
Okay. this they are He also emphasizes that inconvenience isn't just part of sustaining friendships, but also the entryway to them. Many adults struggle with loneliness because they avoid putting in the necessary legwork to form bombs compounded by declining social skills due to technology and the pandemic.
00:22:43
Speaker
And then I have some takeaways from the video that I put in the different categories that i you know, think were important talking points. But just when you sent me this video, I was like, yo, he's making very valid points. And it's not it's not just friendships.
00:23:02
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It's relationships. Relationships with your friends, yeah family, loved ones, coworkers. like it it's All of these stuff are built on, yo, you're going to be a little inconvenienced if you want to participate in this thing.
00:23:19
Speaker
Yeah. His name is Shahem McLaren or McLaurin. I'm so sorry if I mispronounced your name. But he is a therapist and licensed clinical social worker and the owner of Freedom Collective Therapy.
00:23:30
Speaker
Yeah, it was a really... um It really hit home to me because, you know, I moved to Atlanta about 10 years ago. and My brother was here.
00:23:43
Speaker
i knew one person and that's it. And it's just like, how did I, over that decade, build the community that I have now? And it was by inconveniencing myself. And that's not, all ah you know, I think we take a we take the word inconvenience and we think,
00:24:04
Speaker
okay, whenever we're inconvenienced, that's a bad thing, but it's not. It was an inconvenience that I chose because I'm a homebody. I like to be by myself. I like to be in the house, but I also wanted community. And so that means I have to push myself outside of what, like you said, past your personal boundaries of comfort. You got to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and do stuff in order to one, build the friendships and then and then sustain them. Like having a friend is an active thing.
00:24:37
Speaker
Having any relationship is an active thing on your part. It's not just saying, this is my friend, boom, that's it, we're done. No, it's you got to keep working at it every single day. You got to keep up that communication, got to keep up that contact and you have to push yourself.
00:24:53
Speaker
yeah And yes, that requires a level of inconvenience. So and something that you said yeah that piqued my interest and inconvenience is uncomfortable discomfort.
00:25:07
Speaker
And to me, true growth comes from discomfort. Yes. So if you want to grow as a person, you got to put yourself in inconvenient situations and in discomfort.
00:25:20
Speaker
That's just how this thing works. Like they say, the long road is always the best road to take as opposed to the shortcut, because there are no shortcuts in life.
00:25:32
Speaker
You need to go through all the lessons. That's pain and misery and everything. And that makes the accomplishment of taking that long road even better when you get to your goal. In this situation, a goal is friendship.
00:25:45
Speaker
Now, I will be the first to say, I'm a bad friend. ah Well, actually, I'm bad in all relationships because I really don't like being in convenience. Growing up with me, you know i was a spoiled brat. And if it was something I didn't want to do,
00:26:01
Speaker
I was going to make everybody miserable if I had to do it. Yeah. My boys still bring this up. It's like, you know, back in the day, if Bruce wasn't having fun, nobody could have fun. And i was like, yeah, I need to grow up and mature because the people that are in my life right now, the friends that are in in my life right now do real work.
00:26:18
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to bring me out of my comfort zone. And my comfort zone is just like yours. Sitting in the house, chilling. My favorite thing in the entire world. I mean, my house very comfortable. It's very pleasing to me.
00:26:30
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yeah know And I love nothing better when there is nothing on the schedule. People say, well you got planned for this weekend? Not a damn thing. That's my favorite thing. yes But I have to make time for my friends. yes I have to show them you you matter to me.
00:26:48
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Yes. And that means doing the things that are completely inconvenient for me. Yeah. But that's what friendship is. So one of the takeaways that ah I got from this video and that you just touched on is that true friendship often requires sacrifice, stepping outside of your personal comfort.
00:27:09
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And missing these steps means relationships can't deepen. If you want that superficial stuff, don't put in the work. Yeah, there's a lot of, and you know, sometimes certain friendships, certain relationships are meant to be superficial, right? Like to me,
00:27:28
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I find like work relationships like that, like right? like you You don't wanna to bring too much of your personal stuff to work. So like yeah, you're not gonna do too much ah deepening of ah of a work relationship, but if you want a real friendship, yeah, you're gonna have to push yourself.
00:27:50
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you're going to have to push yourself. There's nothing wrong with inconvenience and there's nothing wrong with sacrifice. There's nothing wrong with making compromises if it's your choice, because I'm choosing this person to be in my life. I'm choosing to have this person. That's the beauty about friendships versus like, say your family, your family is what you're born into, but your chosen family or your friends, these are people that you're choosing. And if you're making that choice,
00:28:19
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to have a relationship with somebody, put the work in to really have a relationship with somebody. And that means building community, which requires the effort of making calls, arranging plans and showing vulnerability because yeah you have to initiate that closeness if you want to have deeper bonds.
00:28:41
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yeah Also, just because you want to be friends with somebody, don't mean and that person wants to be friends with you. So rejection is also part of the process. Not everyone is going reciprocate friendship.
00:28:53
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And accepting reality means trying again with others rather than withdrawing. And once again, i feel like this can all be placed in relationships, whether it's family, you know, friends or somebody that you're trying to date or your loved one.
00:29:10
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Like, yeah just because things don't work out, just because you're rejected, that don't mean that you withdraw and don't go back out there. Yeah. Don't put yourself back out there. I mean, I had that. I had i met a person that I was like, this person's cool.
00:29:25
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I would like to be their friend. I worked to make that friendship happen. And it it didn't, you know, it lasted for a little bit. But, you know, i was... i guest was more invested in being friends than the other person was.
00:29:42
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And that's okay. Like, you know, sometimes people in your life for a reason or a season, I definitely feel like this person served a purpose for that time in my life. They provided a lot of great advice and support and encouragement for that time.
00:29:57
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And that's okay. That was it for that time. and And it was beautiful and I have no regrets about it. So like that that's also okay. But just because you lose that one friend is not there.
00:30:09
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Well, F everybody, right? No, get it get back out there and try again. like And it is, you see kids do it, right? When a kid first get on the playground, some kid will run up You want to play?
00:30:24
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Yeah. And then they run off, right? because at the And that's it. And that's all it is. It's like, you can actually see somebody and be like, that person looks cool. I would like to be their friend. And just go up and start talking to them. Like, just be like kids because you're about to touch on this. That's so important.
00:30:42
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We out here and lonely. Yeah. Yeah, there is a lonely epidemic that is, I've talked about it on a previous
Loneliness Epidemic & Social Skills
00:30:50
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podcast episode. It is a real thing.
00:30:53
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And avoiding inconvenience or connection contributes to the rising loneliness. Also, technology and the pandemic have eroded people's social skills, making it harder.
00:31:04
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That's another thing that doesn't get talked about. Sometimes people are just, don't have the social skills. So yeah i ah that I had a friend recently and I've known this person for a few years, but we got closer recently.
00:31:23
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And this person said to me, you really love talking about serious stuff. And I was like, what? Because I'm naturally jokester and prankster and clown.
00:31:35
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Yes. However, I also like deep conversations. I love learning how people think, what makes them tick and what makes them go.
00:31:47
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And sometimes my social awkwardness will put me in the positions where I want to have those serious conversations. When ain't time to be serious.
00:31:58
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We at the bar. yeah I don't need to ask you. So you and your your mom are having a falling out right now. What's going on? How are you doing? No, that's not the time to ask that. So sometimes people can just be like,
00:32:11
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I don't hang with Bruce because he's too serious all the time. And I'm like, am? Do you know me? But sometimes I be too serious sometimes. And not everybody want to be serious. Not everybody want to get deep and in the feelings.
00:32:22
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Yes. So that's a part of rejection. Not all the time. But yeah, like, I think you're absolutely right also that you know, the the pandemic and technology have eroded people's social skills. There's a quote in the Pride and Prejudice film that I'm gonna butcher, but basically Mr. Darcy says to Elizabeth, I don't have the talent of conversing easily with people I've never met before. And she said, maybe you should take your aunt's advice and practice.
00:32:52
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Like, it's just about, you just gotta try. You gotta, there's no way of building social, there's no book you can read. There's no it's called the skills of being social. You got to go out. You got to meet somebody. You got to be social.
00:33:08
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that And that's how you build social skills. Yes, it's going to be awkward and you might be cringy at first, but you'll slowly learn one how how people communicate now in person, which is very different, right? You'll slowly start to learn that.
00:33:26
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And then also you'll slowly start to see who are your people and who's not your people. And there are people for everybody. I know there's a lot of people that feel like I just can't make friends for whatever reason. I know a lot of neurodivergent people Like myself, sometimes you have a difficult time making friends or building connection. Sometimes you miss certain social cues and things, but just be friends with other neurodivergent people. And we all understand each other. Like, that yeah that's the solution that I found. Like, and so we can all understand each other.
00:33:59
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And we can all, you know, go on those info dumps and things that we have when we get really into a topic. Like, I had a very long conversation about what the flesh inside a grape is called. It's pulp, by the way.
00:34:12
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I looked that up. I went down a whole rabbit hole about that. But I had a good conversation with another neurodivergent person. You know, it's about finding your community and finding your people. And you can only do that by actually going out and looking for That's true. Pulp, like orange juice has pulp, so that the grape also has that. It's called the pulp, yes. And that's the fleshy part of the grape?
00:34:37
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Mm-hmm. Okay, so you know how you got the skin and you got the flesh. I just thought it was the grape, but the whole thing is the grape. The whole thing is the grape. and you And then you have inside is the pulp, yes. i was eating some grapes, and I was like, what the hell is this part of the grape called?
00:34:56
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And that is the answer. I went down a whole rabbit hole about it. Yeah. Okay. All right. And we also, in friendships, when we talk about inconvenience, we have to kind of reframe, as you said earlier, what that word actually means. Take negative connotation out of what inconvenience means and understand that it's an effort.
00:35:22
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Yeah. it's it You might look at it as a burden, but it's an effort. And the cost of this quote-unquote burden or inconvenience is meaningful human connection.
00:35:36
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yeah So... For all those people out there that's like, I want to lose weight, there's no magic pill. You can take Ozempic. Ozempic will have you have Ozempic butt. You don't know what that is? Google it.
00:35:49
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Or Ozempic face. Yeah. Or Ozempic face. Like, it makes you look sunken and droopy. It's not cool. You want to lose weight? Guess what? You got to eat a certain way.
00:35:59
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Put yourself in calorie deficit. and then work out. yeah It sucks. As somebody who is a trainer, people ask me all the time, you like working out? No, I don't like working out. It hurts, literally. It hurts.
00:36:14
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I enjoy the feeling after. Every now and then I feel that high during. But for the most part, it is not something that I'm always looking forward to.
00:36:25
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now I know it's the inconvenient part of Trying to look the way that i want to look. Yes. Yeah. Same concept here with friends.
00:36:38
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Yeah. convenient it's The inconvenient thing is you gotta you got to get ready to go work out. You got to put the clothes on. You got to put the the braces on because we over 40. So you got to put some on your knee or your wrist.
00:36:52
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Okay. that You might have to put something around your back. You might have to put on you know something to support your back. You got to go to the place where you work out. That's an inconvenience because you've got to leave your house sometimes.
00:37:06
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You know, I don't, but some people do. um Okay. You got to then spend the time and the labor of working. Like inconvenient. It's not supposed to be easy. o It's not supposed to be easy to inconvenience inconvenience yourself. And I think that's a lot of times why people look at it as a burden.
00:37:26
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But if it's a choice that you're making to add some value to your life, through relationships, take that inconvenience and use it and grow some relationships and and stop being so lonely out here. You know, you be your phone be dry, you just be looking out a a rainy window, know, like Carl Thomas or somebody, because you alone.
00:37:55
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Yeah. Oh, look, ladies and gentlemen, nothing from nothing leaves nothing. Right. You had to do something. First punch you in the mouth. that whole yeah All For my people out there, question, have you ever lost a friendship because neither person wanted to put in the effort?
00:38:17
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If you have, drop down in that comment section, leave us a little bit of that story. Might even talk about it on air. Maybe. Probably if it's good enough because I'm messy.
00:38:28
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Yes. Speaking of messy. Up next, we're going to be talking about some interesting and messy lottery stories. We're going to get into that next.
00:38:45
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Jay.
00:38:51
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Something came across my timeline, my algorithm, like often does, to pique my interest.
Humorous Lottery Stories
00:38:57
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And not lottery stories that you typically hear about. You typically hear about lottery stories where people get the millions.
00:39:06
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They've never had millions before. yeah Think that millions is going to last, should last, but they spend and end up going broke. Yes, you hear about the horror stories. Either people going broke or they fighting over it or somebody dies. So yeah, you hear a lot of the horror stories.
00:39:24
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These aren't necessarily horror stories, but they're funny stories. In my mind, they're humorous. So here's one. A British family used to play a game where they would pretend to win a lottery ticket, taking photos, holding up a fake winning ticket. They used to do this all the time.
00:39:40
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Amazingly, the day after s playing the lottery, they actually won the lottery for real, turning their play pretend and into reality. Yeah, I think that's hilarious.
00:39:52
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Like, first of all, that you have a whole ritual around it. And then, like, ah you've been practicing winning this whole time and then you actually win. That's dope.
00:40:06
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I've been practicing winning without yeah ever playing. I play only when it gets to the billions. But then I think about how I'm going to give all the family members, certain family members, not everybody, money.
00:40:19
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And I'm like, how am I going to escape The tax situation, but still my family money. And then I start thinking. Oh, there's a way. Yeah, there's a way. And then I start thinking about, you know, the things I'm going to with it.
00:40:31
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And believe it or not, it's nothing crazy. Yeah. Like, I don't care about cars. I'm never going to get back on a motorcycle again. That's a lie. ah If motorcycles had training wheels, I'm on it.
00:40:44
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They, there are three wheelers. I saw one recently and that looks like if you turn the corner too fast, you're going flip over. Yeah, for sure. Probably. yeah Yeah. But I feel like that's the same for a motorcycle.
00:40:57
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Oh, absolutely. But yeah i feel like you could take a sharper turn in a motorcycle. Anywho. yeah Yeah. No, that's pretty cool. You've been practicing and then you win. I hope that when they won, that didn't cause no friction in the family.
00:41:10
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Because you think about, hey, we got to split this money. And that's typically money is where problems come in with the family. More money, more problems is what you typically often find, yeah according to the Notorious B.I.G.
00:41:24
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Now, this one was this is interesting. Interesting. A man in Massachusetts accidentally won the same lottery twice. He used his favorite number for a ticket, forgetting that he had also been entered automatically with the same numbers by a season pass that was gifted by his family.
00:41:43
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He ended up winning twice in the same drawing. Now, I don't think you get twice the money, but you won twice. Why not? That's not how it works. You have two winning tickets.
00:41:56
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ah Yes. Well, I guess if it's multiple people that's one, that should be. You should win twice.
00:42:04
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I don't know if it's... So I feel like when multiple people hit the lottery, they split the grand prize. Yeah, they That's what I'm talking about. Okay. So if it's multiple people and they split, his split should be different because he didn't want it twice.
00:42:18
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Right. Yes. So if it was me and one other person, winner but you know I get two-thirds, they get a third. Right. Because I got i got two tickets.
00:42:29
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I got and it and if they want to go to war we can this war we're not splitting this 50-50 we're not splitting this 50-50 because lay the tickets out there's three of them two of them belong to me and one to you let's do this math here you're gonna need you're gonna need this because you got money now so you're gonna need to learn how math works How does math work, Jay?
00:42:53
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Look, lay the tickets on the table. How many are there? Three. So you already know this pot is going to be split three right ways. Now, just because one person owns two of the tickets don't mean this is now fifty fifty Take the people out of it.
00:43:10
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Assign the money. Assign the racks to the number of tickets. And then the owners of those tickets are the owners of them racks. Right. Right. That's how that's how that works.
00:43:22
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That would be an interesting legal argument. If any lawyers out there listening, yo, drop us a line, a DM or or something like that. because I don't really feel like doing the research. Because that seems like that would be really intricate. I'm sure there's probably been a case out there. I feel like it's easily a Googleable.
00:43:37
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Yeah. I don't know. Okay. This is one of the rare times where I don't feel like looking it up. So lawyers out there, please break that down for me. feel like looking up. But you know what I instantly thought? If you're awarded two winning tickets in your lifetime,
00:43:51
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who I'd be pissed off it if it's for the same lottery. Yeah. Yeah. Because if I'm the sole winner, yeah that don't change my fortunes. I want to win two lotteries, not one lottery twice.
00:44:05
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Because I'm now questioning the amount of like merits or karma or everything that I've built up over my lives that one, I've built up so much that in this life now, I have the opportunity of winning the lottery twice. Right.
00:44:22
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But I also did something. Because a little, some just, some karmic justice came in there. Where it's like, yeah, you built up enough merit to win it twice.
00:44:36
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But it's going to be the same one. Like, it feels like, and you just would be like, wow, that's okay. I mean, I'm happy that I won. but this just feels like a waste of all that karma that I just built up. Right, right. Yeah, I'd be pissed.
00:44:51
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All right, this one is gonna sound familiar to a lot of my millennials and Gen Xers. Okay.
Real-Life Lottery Inspiration
00:44:58
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In New York, a police officer and a diner waitress split a lottery ticket using numbers they each selected.
00:45:06
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They won big together. This story is loosely inspired. The story loosely inspired the movie. It could happen to you starring. um ah oo Who was that star?
00:45:20
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Nicolas Cage. And was Meg Ryan? You know, it feels like a Meg Ryan thing, but actually, no it was a Bridget Fonda. Oh, you're right. Bridget Fonda. And then the woman with the dangerous butt was also in that movie. I'm talking about rosa Rosie Perez. Rosie Perez. Yes. Yes.
00:45:38
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Yes. ah Though, and this is a real life story that they made a movie off of, though in real life, there was no romance, just luck and teamwork. That's actually based on a true story. I did not know that.
00:45:53
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I didn't know that either. You learn something new every day. Yeah. and i Very sweet movie too, yes. Oh, it is a beautiful movie. And first of all, they don't movies like that anymore. Let's let's talk about that for a quick second. Yeah, yeah.
00:46:06
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Listen, the early and mid-90s for romantic comedies, i mean... Yeah, I mean, wow, just a beautiful time.
00:46:17
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We had a lot of really, really good rom-coms in the 90s that I feel like we don't have. No, we've had them in the 2000s. They just all starred the same person, Jennifer Aniston.
00:46:30
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Yeah. And J.Lo. Jennifer Aniston and J.Lo have a lock on all rom-coms. Every now na and then, Gabrielle Union gets thrown one. who But the rom-coms, you know what the rom-coms are now? Tyler Perry movies.
00:46:42
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yeah And that's disgusting to me. And I think that we all know my position on that. But yeah, I mean, it started with ours were all all like they weren't even based in reality. Like it started in 1990 with a little film starring Richard Gere and Julia Roberts called Pretty Woman.
00:47:05
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Not based in anything real. Well, that's a story of Cinderella. This is Cinderella with a twist. Yeah, but let's come on, y'all.
00:47:18
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And look, love ladies and gentlemen, you know, sex work. I'm not going to shoot down sex work. I live in a state that is not legal. But if it was legal and a woman that looked like Julia Roberts, then or now.
00:47:32
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Yeah, I would. Yeah. You know, partake because, yeah, Julia Roberts is a beautiful woman. 1992, we got Boomerang. one of the greatest rom-coms, and give it leave it to Eddie to give himself two beautiful women to choose between, Robin Gibbons and a young Halle Berry.
00:47:50
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And guess what? Mushroom cut Halle Berry, y'all. I don't think y'all understand. Mushroom cut Halle Berry. That was top tier Halle Berry. Right, strictly business. First of all, Halle Berry has always been top tier. She's top tier to this damn day. But in that movie, she wasn't top billing.
00:48:16
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No. Robin Givens was supposed to be the most attractive woman in the movie. Can you imagine that? ah In a movie that Halle Berry is in, she's not playing the most attractive woman? That was a thing in Boomerang.
00:48:30
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The one that got the little theme music as she walked into the office and it was... get out to do You know, it got the whole thing. You see her legs and all this stuff. No, that was Grace Jones got the theme music.
00:48:41
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Well, ah no, because there was also her walking there. She got the theme music, too. everybody Robin Givens also got the theme music. But you got Sleepless in Seattle. you get I mean, ah we had... Sleepless in Seattle and the movie that is exactly like Sleepless in Seattle, you got mail.
00:48:59
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Yes. That stars the same two people telling the same damn story. Yes. one of one Another one of my favorites, Forget Paris. for You want it?
00:49:11
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You got it. This is starring Billy Crystal and Debra Winger. He was an NBA referee. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was a good one. We took a detour. Let's get back. I'm sorry, but the 90s, you can't. That was my time. So let's go back. You know what else is also a rom-com?
00:49:30
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What? Titanic. Is it? yes Okay, it's definitely funny that she let that man drown when there was plenty of room on that dough. But I'm going to be honest with you.
00:49:41
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I have not seen that one second of the film Titanic. I've dated several women that have made me watch that movie, including when it came out. I was dating a woman and she was like, we're to see Titanic. And I was like, I really want to see that movie. She said, we're going to go see Titanic.
00:49:57
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And while yeah everybody is crying in the movie theater, I'm actually chuckling because it was fun. It's a funny scene. It's not funny, but it's funny because of my dark sense of humor with a boat.
00:50:10
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It turns not ah it's no longer sideways. It goes vertical. Yes, yeah. And people start falling down. Not only are they about to drown out to death, but they're hitting railings and bouncing before they hit the water.
00:50:22
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It's not funny, but I'm like, yo, I'm getting ready to die. Don't break my back on my way to drowning. At least let me drown fighting current like swimming.
00:50:34
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I can't drown because I and it got paralyzed on the way to the water. No, you definitely can still drown. Here's a thing. I would actually prefer to hit various things and be killed before I hit that ice cold water and drown.
00:50:50
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I would rather... But I would rather break my neck, hitting a ah deck chair, falling down, out and then just be dead, then have to die freeze to death first.
00:51:03
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Okay, I agree with that. You said hit several things. I don't want to hit several things. Well, many things that it takes for me to die before I hit that water. Yeah, okay, I agree with that.
00:51:14
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Yeah. Yeah. I just thought it was funny. if People was falling and the band still playing as they sink in. And I'm just looking around. Don't nobody else find this hilarious? Yeah.
00:51:25
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And don't know about it. And I don't know about anybody else. i I try to be a gentleman. I would pushed Rose off that thing. And like, yeah we're going to alternate.
00:51:36
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Yeah. And when I can't take it anymore in this water, let's switch. You get in the water. I get it. If we really, truly can't both fit on this door, which I refuse to believe that that's the case. They just did us. They just, the director just proved it was something that came out recently, just proved that they both can't fit on that. And I've actually seen other theories before two people get on there.
00:52:00
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it It gets top-de-turvy. You flip off. You can't. I've seen it before. Then alternating. Like, I just don't understand. We're alternating. All right. we had This turned into a daily daddling segment. Ladies and gentlemen, we're going to get back to yeah lottery and these last two ones.
00:52:16
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Now, this one is funny to me because of my dark sense of humor.
Lottery Mishap & Irony
00:52:20
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Two brothers from Kansas win $75,000 and decide to celebrate with a wild night at home.
00:52:28
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Unfortunately, their party plans backfired when refueling their butane torches to light bongs. One brother caused an explosion that blew up their house.
00:52:38
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He was wearing his lottery T-shirt at the time. Yeah. It just seems like that would be something happen on curb. and that and And all the money you just won now has to go in to repairing your house.
00:52:54
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They blew up the home. They got yeah got to buy a new home. Yeah, I mean, you got some insurance, but you're going have to replace your things. And so all that $75, that's gone. That's gone now. Congratulations. Does insurance cover lighting a bong and blow up your house?
00:53:12
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Yeah. Oh, okay. All right. Yeah, that's the thing. A lot of people don't know. Insurance cover is stupid.
00:53:21
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A majority of the things are due to people being stupid. Yeah, people are stupid. All right, this last one. I thought it was real interesting and shady at the same time. Okay.
Secret Lottery Win
00:53:32
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In a hilarious twist, a woman in the UK kept her 2.65 million lottery win a secret from her husband for years, worried he would re relapse into old habits of spending it recklessly.
00:53:47
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She disguised her new purchases as pay raises or bonuses from work, keeping the massive win under wraps. For how? i mean, for years. Like, did he ever found find out? Like, I mean, obviously, yes, right? Because it became a story. became a story. But it was for years. She did it for years.
00:54:10
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Wow. What type of spending? Now, me, you got spending habits. Yeah. Both of us, money flows in our hands and out of our hands. Yeah.
00:54:21
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Holding money in our hands is like putting your hand, cupping your hands under the sink. having the water run and trying to hold the water. Yeah. That's how money in our hands is. So we yeah empathize with her in the standpoint of, yeah, I want somebody to check me. Like if I won a lottery, I'm putting the money in trust and things like that. And then I'm getting an allowance because I'm going to blow through it just by getting kettle chips from Harris Teeter every day.
00:54:53
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Yeah. um she He done got them into some trouble before. Yeah.
00:55:00
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Okay. And I mean, big trouble. Um, and probably more than once to the point where this amazing thing happened.
00:55:12
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She couldn't share it with family, friends, nobody. She had to keep going to work. yeah but Well, and all you me in all honesty, in all honesty, If you win $2.65 million six ah two point six five million dollars now, got to take your ass to work. that it that No, you can make that. No, you can make that work. You can't. You can live.
00:55:36
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You can absolutely live off $2.65 million. I mean, you can. You don't have to live like a, you're not going to live like a millionaire.
00:55:46
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You're going to live like a person that makes $60,000 or $70,000 a year. Wait, even if you do a hundred thousand a year, you know, that's 26. No, that's i okay. o No.
00:55:59
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Yeah. and That's 20 years. Yes. Plus. Yeah. Oh, you make in a six figure salary. Yeah. Yeah. You can live off that just fine.
00:56:10
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But in 20 years, I'll be 65. What the hell else am I going to do? The money going after that. Hopefully you've taken that.65 and invested that.
00:56:23
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Hopefully that's been invested. And you've been living for the last 20 years and and saving your money, investing your money well. It's just like if you were saving for retirement when you just normally work in a six-figure job. It's the same premise. You know how I know we bad with money?
00:56:40
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Because your ass just said, it instead of... Every year paying yourself $100,000 an account. You said, just take the 65 of the 2.65 million, that's $650,000. Just take that because that's what the 0.65 right? It's $650,000. Just take and invest it and spend the rest of 2 million.
00:56:55
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just take that because that's what the point six five is right it's six hundred and sixty thousand dollars just take that and invest in and just spend the rest of two million no No, no, You live for 20 years.
00:57:07
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Right. But like also like you're giving yourself a salary. Yes. Part of your salary is going into your retirement fund. Yeah, that's the same thing. Like invest.
00:57:19
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a portion of it, like take a large slump sum and invest a portion of But at the very least, you don't have go to work. That's what you're you don't have to go to work. if you know But she had to go to work. She had to live life as normal.
00:57:32
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Well, we don't know. For years being a millionaire. We don't know how much of debt they were in because of his past spending habits and recklessness.
00:57:43
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He done got them into some things enough where she was like, I am willing. as now a multimillionaire to keep living my life normally and just buying myself little things here and there, a trip, a vacation here and there. And I just say, I got a bonus at work.
00:58:02
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And I'm willing to live like this. And I don't have to. Talk about inconvenience in relationships. She yeah lived it. Because he done got them into some things a couple times.
00:58:14
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My thing is, just get a divorce. Yeah, honestly. He take half, you take half. Because if I got to go through all that, if I don't trust you... Right. Right.
00:58:24
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If I don't trust you, why am I with you? I might love you, but I can't trust you. Right. Like maybe you won't cheat on me. You can't be with somebody you don't trust. Right. Maybe you won't cheat on me.
00:58:35
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yeah I can trust you in that standpoint, but I can't trust you with money. And what is the number one cause of divorce?
00:58:43
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Money. I would assume so, yeah. Yeah, money. It's not infidelity. It's money. It's money. People can't forgive being cheated on. People can't forgive you making us go broke. You know hard it was for me to make this money?
00:58:55
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ah yeah I lost it all. All of it? Because you at the casino? Not the casino. Yeah, when it when it's not a no when it's not a good place, it's the casino. Okay.
00:59:09
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When you're going with your friends, you're on vacation, then you're going to the casino. But when you done lost all my money, it's the casino. All
00:59:20
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right. We have dilly-dallied in this third segment, and that was not the purpose. But, Jay, before we go, because you want to get some rest. Yeah. What do you want to leave the people with?
00:59:31
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Inconvenience is not a bad thing if it's a choice. If I'm saying I'm choosing... this relationship and this person over my own comfort in this moment, that's a good thing.
00:59:47
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And it's okay to go ahead and lean on into that. Or you gonna be lonely as hell with a dry ass phone. I cherish the day that I could have a dry ass phone and be lonely as hell. From that note.
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