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Donna Briggs, Joey Swoll & The Unspoken Crisis of Gray Divorces
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In this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives, Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea tackle the viral Donna Briggs transracial controversy, the harsh reality of gym bullying, and the growing trend of gray divorce among couples over 50. From dissecting Hulk Hogan’s complicated legacy to exploring the billion-dollar skin whitening industry, this sibling-hosted podcast delivers unfiltered social commentary, humor, and real talk on identity, self-love, and modern relationships.
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:51 Sibling Happy Hour: Spicy Takes & Drinks 🍹🌶️
06:27 Gym Bullies Exposed: Standing Up for Fitness Newbies 💪❤️
10:27 Wrestling Legend's Legacy: The Hulk Hogan Controversy 🤼♂️💭
22:31 Transracial Twist: The Donna Briggs Identity Bombshell 🤯🧑🏾🦱➡️👩🏻
32:25 Vegan Vibes or Virtue Signaling? The Plant-Based Debate 🌱😏
33:09 Identity Crisis: When People Try to Change Their Race 🤔❌
34:47 Can You Love Yourself? Real Talk on Therapy & Acceptance 💖🛋️
35:24 Changing Faces: Is Complexion Just a Choice? 🪞🤔
36:05 Skin Deep: The Billion-Dollar Whitening Industry Exposed 💸🧴
42:29 Gray Divorce: Why 50+ Couples Are Calling It Quits 💔👋
43:53 Why Are Boomers Breaking Up? The Great Divorce Explained 💔👵👴
48:33 Breaking Free: Women's Independence Changes Marriage Game 💪💅
55:04 Golden Years Drama: When Retirement Tests Love 👴👵💘
57:21 Real Talk: Finding Happiness After 50 Is Never Too Late ✨💫
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Transcript
Introduction and Upcoming Milestones
00:00:00
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The March Towards the 250th episode. going to be talking about transracial, not what you're thinking, and divorce. We're going to get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:22
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping the today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to our YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube memberships.
00:00:41
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Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share it with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies.
Recording Logistics and Challenges
00:00:49
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On today's episode, it's the sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis, Jay Andrea. We're going to be dilly-dallying a little bit, and then we're going to talking about a person who changed their race.
00:00:59
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And then we're going to talk about gray divorce. But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
00:01:13
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What up, sis? What up, brother? I can't call it. I can't call it. We are marching towards 250. Yeah. 250 episodes. We done came a long way. And not pounds, y'all. Not pounds. Well, um I'm close to 250 pounds. but but Oh, but never mind then. I mean, we ain't got to talk about that.
00:01:33
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But we're getting close. yes So I want to let the people know that there won't be an episode released on Tuesday, but there's a good reason for it. yeah My sister is coming in town. This is episode 248 and there's 249 250.
00:01:45
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and there's two forty nine and two fifty We're going to attempt, we're going to try to record in the same room at the same time.
Livestreaming and Release Schedule
00:01:54
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And I'm adding a new caveat that I didn't even tell my sister about when we were doing the pre-meeting. That I'm going to try and live stream it as we're recording.
00:02:03
Speaker
Nope, but that's not gone. Okay. So I am trying to do a bunch of different things at the same time. Why? Because I can't do one thing at a time. I've got to make things the most maximum effort at all times.
00:02:18
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I think we're probably going nix that live stream thing because here's the thing. We're going to have such a hard time just getting it set up just to record it that you're not going to want to do the extra steps necessary to live stream it. i im I'm positive. I think I've already done the necessary steps because we've live streamed before.
00:02:41
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I think it's just a simple plug and play. i Look, I got two weeks to figure it out, ladies and gentlemen. So that's the reason why there won't be an episode releasing this Tuesday. um the What was this Tuesday? This Tuesday would be the 5th or the 12th.
00:02:59
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No episodes on the 5th or the 12th. We're going release episodes on the 8th and the 15th. So episode 249 will be the 8th. Episode 250 will be August 15th. That's one day before
00:03:15
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my sister's birthday. Feel free to send money. I'm on all major payment platforms. Okay. This is not a show for you to try to. Well, I guess this is a show try to gain some money. So never mind. Yeah, that's you're right. I'm doing the right thing.
YouTube Content and Personal Anecdotes
00:03:33
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I will say that there will still be YouTube exclusives releasing on YouTube, still clips, podcasts, clips on YouTube. If you're not on our YouTube page, you're missing out because there's a whole bunch of more other stuff. A whole bunch of more. like to have got to.
00:03:51
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i like to had a ga Had it not been for the Lord, I would have not a nan-nutter. Not a nan-nutter. Not a nan-nutter. There's a whole bunch of stuff on our YouTube page and our YouTube membership.
00:04:03
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All the stuff that's on our Patreon, you don't have to join the Patreon if you don't want to. You can just join the membership to our YouTube page. Same price, all in one area. Go get it. Plus the behind the scenes stuff. you know Check it out.
00:04:17
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But that's what's going on with us. is Big things happening. so yeah I'm excited. yeah I'm excited. I think I just scared the the pest control guy. So at I told him I had a call.
00:04:32
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If he needed anything, just knock on the door. So before we got started, he knocked on the door just to let me know he was heading out. And I just realized how creepy my room looks. All the lights are off except for
00:04:46
Speaker
that except for you know my little string light things, my little LED lights. I'm just sitting in the corner. in a dark room with a light shining on me and the mic and the you know the sound thing with the and i'm just looking at him from the corner and uh he looked like come on in but you know like he looked like he could not get out fast enough so that was that's great that's great now somebody thinks i probably do something creepy for it for work well maybe maybe hey look he was spraying for snakes
00:05:23
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No, ants. Oh, hey, look. Summertime, ants, especially them red ants, you know, they can kill people. No, I don't. It needs to be a lot of them. but they It's got to be a considerable amount.
00:05:37
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Yeah, no, but I mean, they be rolling deep. They rolling deeper than Row Records. Well, these are just, that's a deep cut. These are just, you know, the little black ants and because it's raining so much. They're coming in and I just be seeing them a little trail of them and they just be walking right in the front door. And I was like, okay, we got to nip this.
00:05:58
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Yeah. But yeah. So I'm gonna need you to come up. Go and spray. Cause I don't want to come back to my house being overrun. Yeah, because they'll pitch tent and be chilling the next day. You might not be able to get it in because, you know, they are what is the... They changed the locks.
00:06:14
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No, the vacancy laws for, like, swatters. Oh, yeah. Yeah, they probably got squatters rights. Yeah, so yeah we don't be messing with them.
Gym Culture and Public Perception
00:06:21
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Yeah. Jay, you know, we had the tribute to Malcolm Jamal Warner.
00:06:27
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but We didn't really talk about Hulk Hogan. And... i all right I gave a quick segment about Hulk Hogan on the show Tuesday.
00:06:38
Speaker
Something else happened. And I was like, man, this is really, really complicated. So do you know who Joey Swole is? No. Joey Swole is... It sounds like somebody I wouldn't know.
00:06:51
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ah You would know him because you're on social media. So what he does is, like, he shames people who shame people in the gym. Okay. Okay. He's like, how dare you do better? It's like this is motivational thing. And like, he will search out when people, there's a whole community of gym goers that are mean to infrequent gym goers or new gym goers.
00:07:16
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yeah Yeah. There's a whole segment of the population that are gym influencers that don't really give a damn about who gets caught in their camera while they're recording. They may shame a person in the background.
00:07:29
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They may get upset at a person walking in their shot, not realizing they're in a public place. He shames a lot of these people. He's like, the gym is a community. It's supposed to be a welcome community for all to come in to be able to work out and get healthy. And they don't need you doing these things, making it difficult for them.
00:07:46
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yeah Story time. Here we go. Here we go. Story time. I have a friend. who met a young woman in Starbucks. and Okay, so the friend is a client. I have a client, and I took about 100 pounds off of her in a year.
00:08:02
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Nice. Shedded that weight. She gets compliments all the time about how good she looks, right? Nice. So she was in Starbucks, and a young woman was just like, oh, my God, I wish my body was like yours.
00:08:16
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And I feel so insecure at the gym and blah blah, blah, blah, blah. She was like, I have a trainer, but I understand what you're saying because I feel that insecurity at the gym sometimes. She was like, yeah, like I went to the gym and because she's a bigger woman. And she was like, I went to the gym and people were mocking me on the treadmill. And so I went to the car, cried and I never i I can't go back because it's just the shame that yeah brought tears. which Makes no sense to me.
00:08:42
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Right. When my client told me the story, it brought tears to my eyes of sadness and anger. Yeah. And I was like, I'll go with her. And I dare anybody to do anything like that with I'm around.
00:08:56
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Because you shame people for being fat. And then when people decide they want to get healthier, It all had nothing to do with being fat, but you just want to get healthier. Then you shame them for trying to do that. And I just don't understand what exactly do you want?
00:09:11
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And that's really miserable people. That's really miserable people where it's like, where you can't win either way. So you don't like that I'm fat, but you don't like that I'm in the gym and you have to see me existing.
00:09:28
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in the world as a fat person. So you hate that too. So it's, I don't understand what exactly do you want? Nothing. Yeah. They just don't like themselves. Yeah. They don't like themselves. Yeah. And it makes them feel better to disparage someone else.
00:09:46
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Yeah. And she, I wish I could hug that person but because she should not make that a part of, that's not her problem. Right. So Joey Swole is a social media personality that calls out those people that yeah shame or make fun of people in any way in the gym
Navigating Legacies and Controversies
00:10:06
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community. And he's even done some things where like people have picked on a young man and he's flown to different areas and said, I'll go to the gym with you. like He's done really, really positive work.
00:10:17
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Nice. How does this tie into Hulk Hogan? So he had an old video where he was in, I guess it was a Halloween and he dressed up for as Hulk Hogan and he reposted it after Hulk Hogan's death.
00:10:32
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He did a live stream shortly after and people called him out for like celebrating Hulk Hogan's death. Yeah. And his initial celebrating, but paying tribute.
00:10:46
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pay pay Yeah, you're right. Paying tribute. yeah And he did what most people initially do when they're being attacked. He started defending himself. He started saying that all people make mistakes and we're not our mistakes. We are more than that. And we have to be given a chance to be better.
00:11:03
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Some people. so Some people are absolutely well who they say they are. yeah well It's funny because you i was listening to somebody earlier today and you don't get to determine your legacy.
00:11:13
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Your legacy is determined by how people remember you. so Correct. That's just what it is.
00:11:21
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He also, instead of saying people of color, said color people. Oh, no. Yeah, yeah, yeah. yeah No, no. He came out. With an apology. And is it I saw his apology. And you know, I could sense BS from miles away. I could tell from a person's heart if they're being genuine or not.
00:11:40
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yeah And he gave a sincere apology. he was like, hey, I didn't know all the horrible stuff that Hulk Hogan had done. I was ignorant. I apologize. I've since done the research and I've taken the video down because I did not know about his history.
00:11:57
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He said, i also want to apologize for saying colored people instead of people of color. It was a slip of the tongue, but nevertheless, it was a mistake on my part. And I want to apologize about that. Good video.
00:12:08
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Good video. Yesterday on his Instagram stories, he's like, I done had it. I had it. yeah I can't please none of y'all. I done done good. And all y'all want to see is this issue right here.
00:12:21
Speaker
I'm done with it. This man has got millions of followers and been on social media and he's ready to just quit. Why? Because there are people upset with him for taking a video down and there are people upset with him for putting the video back up. Even after he apologized, the apology wasn't good enough for some people.
00:12:39
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yeah And for some people, him taking the video down was, don't let anybody censor what you want to say. So he is catching it from all ends. And I get it. I'm like, look, man, we are one slip of the tongue away.
00:12:54
Speaker
We recorded the episode one time that we had to cut cut some stuff because I misspoke. We are one slip of the tongue away from... Like catching that type of heat, not quite cause we don't have as many followers as he does, but still.
00:13:07
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And I'm like, I would love to get them on the show to talk because ah we had to give people space to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
00:13:21
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Okay. Yes. But also we got to get comfortable with the fact that we're not going please everybody. That too. He realized his mistake.
00:13:33
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He apologized for it. He felt the need to take the video down. So that he did what he did, like that's it. And like, as far as that being able to please everybody, no, you're gonna catch hell and you go catch hell from a million different directions. But i i I apologize guys, there's nothing else I could do. I'm not putting the video back up because I don't feel comfortable putting it back up. It don't have anything to do with anybody else.
00:13:58
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I did the research. He did a lot of, he said and did a lot of crazy things. to colored people but yeah and about colored people.
00:14:10
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ah So, yeah, I mean, he's just got to get comfortable with the fact that you're not going to please everybody. You're just not. It's impossible. I also, yeah Joey Swole. So Joey Swole, just keep your head up.
00:14:24
Speaker
Continuing on with the Hulk Hogan conversation. Like I read... a post from his daughter. Now him and his daughter, there's been rumors going all around and him and his daughter had a falling out.
00:14:36
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And she was like, wow we didn't have a falling out. There was some distance there at the end, but like most families, they had some spirited disagreements about certain things and they didn't get that closure that they wanted.
00:14:50
Speaker
But she loved her father. And it made me think, yeah, so Hulk Hogan, not the greatest person, but He still had kids, he was still a father, and he may have been a good father to his kids.
00:15:04
Speaker
And maybe I should watch what I say. And I haven't really been dragging him. I should watch what I say when the man just passed. Like, I don't know what the right answer is.
00:15:16
Speaker
Should we throw him in the mud because he passed away and say whatever we we want to say? Or should we have respect because there are some people that lost a loved one that they cared about? And, you know, we got family members that we are real close to that got some issues, not them type of issues, but still got some issues about them.
00:15:34
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And it's just like, man, if somebody says something ill after they passed away, bringing up those issues, we would feel a real way about that. Yeah. ah Yeah, I think there is no right answer.
00:15:46
Speaker
You know, I think both of those things can exist at once that you can, like you said earlier, you don't get to decide your legacy, the people who you remember you do. And if what we remember is that you're not that great,
00:16:00
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then we can hold space for those feelings to be true while still being respectful of the people who did care about him in his life. So, yeah, I'm not going to drag him, but I can't... I'm not going to put up no memorials for the man either. Oh, Like, you know, so there's just not going to do that.
00:16:18
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Yeah, but I think, you know, you're responsible for your legacy. Even though you don't get to decide it you're still responsible for it. And so... He said those things, he did those things, and so that it it is what it is. Like, you know.
00:16:33
Speaker
I feel the same way about him as I did about OJ. And now people are to be like that's not the same thing. you're right, OJ did worse. He did. But I was an OJ Simpson fan, not because of the football player, because of the Naked Gun movies.
00:16:47
Speaker
Yeah, yeah. yeah no now The Naked Gun moves. I grew up on Naked Gun, Naked Gun 2 1⁄2, and Naked Gun 33 1⁄3. Right? right I'm mad that they make it a remake, but I'm still going to check it out because Liam Neeson is in it.
00:16:59
Speaker
Liam Neeson is in it or Leslie Nielsen? No, Leslie Nielsen is, I'm sure, past. Is he? I'm pretty sure. He was old when he was making a neck naked gun. No, he was just prematurely white. His hair was just prematurely white.
00:17:13
Speaker
Okay, but you I'm not going let you brush past that. What is Liam Neeson's name again? Liam Neeson's. but No, hope that is not his name. He ain't got no hassle, man.
00:17:27
Speaker
Liam Neeson's. Yes, but he's like a descendant of, descendant, good God, or like a son or a grandson of Frank Drebin. So, yeah, he's in the movie. I think it's getting good reviews. But, I mean, I knew OJ from that.
00:17:41
Speaker
It's going to kind of be, I don't know how I'm going to feel when Bill Cosby pass. I'm not going to feel a damn thing. Here's the thing. I did not know these people. You knew Bill Cot- well, you mean talking about personally. Yeah, okay. Yeah, I didn't know these people. And again, legacy is what it is. You can't get mad about it now that you gone. Like, you can't get mad at the way people remember you now that you gone. Like, it's too late. Yeah, look, it is. You did what you did. And so if you have one of those funerals where somebody get up, and yeah, say a funeral. You see my face light up? I was like, you messing up a word today. No, I said it like I was from Memphis. And the reason why is I've been watching a lot of First 48, and they've been in Memphis. Because it's a lot of reasons to be Memphis. A lot of reasons for Force 48 to be in Memphis.
00:18:34
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But then when you have those funerals where somebody gets up and they were like, Uncle Joe wasn't worth a damn. And everybody go crazy. Yes, he had to say that.
00:18:45
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Charlie, sit down. He wasn't worth a damn. And them kids in the back as his is his. None y'all know that. Y'all was wondering who they were. Those is kids. why you handle it Why are you channeling mic-ups right now?
00:18:59
Speaker
Because that's... because I don't know. That's what i saw in my head. It sounds like a big character. All right, let's wrap up this for a second. I just wanted to touch on the fact that
00:19:12
Speaker
some people that are celebrating, hawk well, honoring, giving tribute to Hulk Hogan's death might not understand everything that he did Or they don't care. That was going to be my next point. and A lot of them do not care.
00:19:27
Speaker
a lot of them don't see it as that big of a mistake. He apologized. And you see that from a lot of people whose hue is not like yours or I. They're not like us.
00:19:39
Speaker
They're not like us. It's really easy to excuse somebody when you have no connection to the offended. When you don't have a dog in the fight. You don't have a dog in that fight. If somebody accusing somebody else of decades racism. Well, they actually do have a dog in the fight.
00:19:55
Speaker
They do have dog the fight. Their dog in a fight was they identified with Hulk Hogan. That, yeah yeah. Okay. So yeah when they when they feel like Hulk Hogan can't be forgiven, they know with some stuff in their past and they're like, well, if that come out, will I not be forgiven?
00:20:09
Speaker
They see themselves in Hulk Hogan because of the similarities of them and Hulk Hogan. So I understand why they're defending them. They're wrong. I understand it. I get it. Y'all was Hulkamaniacs.
00:20:22
Speaker
I mean, I was a huge Hulkamaniac. Yeah, I get it. I pushed that to the side when that tape got released. you know Yeah, yeah. But, all right, we not going keep bringing y'all down, talking about funerals. I think that's it for the death for at least a couple weeks. And we going to talk about no more death.
00:20:42
Speaker
Yeah.
Transracial Identity Debate
00:20:43
Speaker
Actually, that's a bald-headed lie, because this next segment is about the death of your race. We're going to get into that next.
00:21:02
Speaker
The reason why I'm chuckling is because, ladies and gentlemen, my sister does not want to talk about this. But I think that it is very interesting and should be something that we should talk about. And it's about transracialism.
00:21:16
Speaker
That's just not a word. It's not a word. And also, it completely inappropriate in this context? It is.
00:21:27
Speaker
It is. But see, I know. Stupid people are going to try to make the connection from with this to the trans movement.
00:21:38
Speaker
I know stupid people are going to try to make the connection. And people are going to try to say, well, if you could say if you could change your gender that you could change your race to, I know it's going to happen. I know. Because there are always people that want that want to do this type of stuff.
00:21:53
Speaker
And they're not wrong in the sense that both gender and race are social constructs, right? And we've seen whiteness evolve over time.
00:22:03
Speaker
Yeah, what whiteness is to really changing. Yeah. So it's not wrong. But in this instance, no. Okay, guys, what talking for everyone. What are we talking about?
00:22:15
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Donna Briggs is a celebrity and former Sirius XM radio host who has become a highly controversial figure recently after going viral on social media for what many describe as denying her Black identity and radically altering her appearance to present as a white woman.
00:22:31
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Years ago, Donna Briggs was publicly known as a Black woman with photos and media appearances confirming her identity and features. However, in recent months, she has denied ever being Black, now attributing her former appearance to things like spray tanning and sun exposure and claiming she has always been white.
00:22:53
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Now, y'all, I'm dating myself, but there was this movie called Soul Man that was made in the 1980s where a white man white man made himself Black.
00:23:04
Speaker
Now, to me, He didn't look like no Black man. And the only people that he could possibly fool were some white people. Because yeah Black people know what Black people look like, even though we come in all different shades and color.
00:23:19
Speaker
But technically, American Black people technically aren't Black. We're shades of brown. Black does exist. We just ain't nobody. If you could find an American-born... I mean, Don Cheadle.
00:23:34
Speaker
Hmm? oh And Don Cheadle is pure. He's a pureblood because he did the, with Dr. Lewis Gates, what is that? The DNA show? Uh-huh.
00:23:45
Speaker
Finding Your Roots. Finding Your Roots. He did that. Yeah. Pureblood, that's what we call him now? Yeah. he he is He is African. Well, ours is is definitely tainted, but that's okay because...
00:23:58
Speaker
I found this hilarious because it's been blowing up on all social media. And there are pictures out there, ladies and gentlemen. She doesn't even look like Soul Man. It doesn't even look like a spray tan.
00:24:10
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It does not look like sun exposure. It looks like she was born a Black woman. who Pretty evidently. And she identified when she started her career as a Black woman.
00:24:25
Speaker
Yeah, because she is. And I think if you hear her speak, you know that. If you look at her, she looks like, on Chappelle's show, black white supremacist.
00:24:38
Speaker
No, wait, he was blind. That's right, he was blind. No, but she looked like him. She did look like him. She did. it's he did She looked like him.
00:24:49
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She was a sick seller. it yeah this is I'm also going to date my myself. ah Eddie Murphy hosted Saturday Night Live. bat It was his 80s. He dressed up like a white man to see how life was different. If you watch that, just Google that.
00:25:08
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okay and Look at his picture and then look at Donna Briggs and it's the same thing. Look at Sammy Sosa. What?
00:25:19
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And look at Donna Briggs. It's the same. Oh, so social ah people are compared on social media to Rachel Dolezal. But Rachel didn't. She didn't change her complexion.
00:25:31
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She changed up her hairstyle. She just put on some box braids. No, I think she does tan because Rachel Dolezal was like blonde, white, what like very white.
00:25:44
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So I do think that she does tan. Who Rachel Dolezal. Yes. Okay. Okay. But yeah, she just basically put some box braids. Yeah, I'm looking at her She does tan. She's got to.
00:25:55
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Okay. But she yeah she just put on an afro wig or some box braids. And dashiki. And got a NAACP membership and you couldn't tell her nothing after that.
00:26:06
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All so social media users, journalists, and commentators have debated whether the Briggs' situation reflects issues of cultural appropriation, reverse passing, colorism, or self-hate, or simply a celebrity repackaging herself for notoriety and financial gain, which is crazy. see How can you repackage yourself as a completely different race?
00:26:28
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But right J-Lo has... She essentially trying to. Now, what is J-Lo repackaging herself Well, she goes back and forth where she could be Puerto Rican and then she can kind of be white and then she can Puerto Rican. She is both of those things.
00:26:45
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Like, puerto Puerto Rican is a nationality. I think she is a Latino woman, but she's a white woman. Yeah, okay, so, okay. Okay. When I say people repackaging themselves for notoriety, gonna get dragged for this. The Rock is a prime example of that.
00:27:02
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The Rock is proudly, proudly Samoan. yeah and The Rock is also half black. His daddy was black. He doesn't like talking about the fact that he was the first Black world champion in the World Wrestling Federation or the World Wrestling Entertainment. He doesn't like talking about doesn't like mentioning it.
00:27:21
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He didn't like being in a nation of domination. He didn't even really wear the colors. right like All of his love interests are not Black. The only time he had close to a Black love interest was in Rampage.
00:27:34
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Well, no, he was in Tyler. He was at the end of Why Did I Get Married Too? And it seemed like him and Janet Jackson was flirting. But nothing ever really came of that. Yeah, he never. We didn't see. It was like a possibility. Yeah. you know it's a spot it He never done nothing with a sister on screen anywhere.
00:27:55
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Yeah. Nowhere. So, I mean, OK, I could see people repackaging themselves for financial gain. I mean, J.Lo has done it. J.Lo has played into her Puerto Rican heritage and also played into her white passing.
00:28:12
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Yeah. I mean, you got folks like, you know, Vin Diesel. I still think to this day you can't get him to say he's act black. ah Or Al Pacino, who hasn't played half black, but he's played, he's Italian, but he played a Cuban American in Scarface.
00:28:29
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Yeah, because, I mean, he's tan with dark hair. Yeah. okay ah But Al Pacino has always been for the culture, so I really don't consider him. No, you're you're talking about Robert De Niro.
00:28:43
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Oh, you're right. You're right. Never mind. Yeah, Al Pacino, I don't know. Yeah, I don't know that. All right. Beyond the but to be out yeah Yeah, Robert De Niro. Robert De Niro the one. Beyond the identity debate, Briggs has also sparked backlash for public statements, some of which have been criticized for negative negatively portraying Black women or the Black community. Critics say this is especially problematic, giving her rebranding and simultaneous focus on self-love and motivational advice.
00:29:11
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So how are you going to be a motivational speaker, but also putting down the group of people that you claimed sort of to be a part of before, but now no longer a part of.
00:29:23
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So it was a white woman, no, a black woman, trashing black people as a black woman, which certain groups in America absolutely love that because they could piggyback and be like, see.
00:29:39
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see yeah But now she repackages herself as a white woman.
00:29:46
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So now when she was criticizing the Black community, that makes things even more problematic. Yeah. Because before it's just like, oh, she's just making constructive criticism about her people. No.
00:30:02
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She's making some racist comments about another group of people because she says she's a white woman now. Mm-hmm. And I'm sorry, ah you just... All right.
00:30:13
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You can't go...
00:30:18
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What's the girlfriend that she played? Barbie. What's her name? Margot Robbie? Yeah, you can't go from Lil' Kim to Margot Robbie. Like, you can't. read that Which is what she's done.
00:30:29
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Yeah, that's exactly what it looks like. No, not even Lil' Kim. Well, Lil' Kim went from Lil' Kim to Margot Robbie. Right. it I was talking about 90s Lil' Kim because thats the photos that I see of Donna Briggs when she was black, it was like the late 90s, 2000s, so late she still got that aesthetic, but light you look like a black woman in white face.
00:30:53
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yeah Like nobody, and you can't just suddenly pretend like your clearly black skin was a tan because if white people could achieve that level of melination, there wouldn't be no racism because that's ultimately-
00:31:16
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That's the last step. I mean, to get the lip fillers and the and the BBL and all of that. That's the last step. All right. So to to get that level of melanation. But no, girl.
00:31:27
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No, girl. going to need you stop moving your mouse. I keep hearing that little bump bumping. i now I'm not. I'm holding this thing. I'm just... I don't know what that bump bumping is. I know the people... at Ladies and gentlemen, I don't know what that bump bumping is. Maybe y'all don't hear it. Maybe it's just my headphones just just picking it up. I don't think you just... so Your headphones are sensitive today because I'm not doing anything I don't normally do at the desk, which is just sit here. It could be my... I don't know what's going on. But I will say this She says it's not solely that she is avoiding the sun and not tanning anymore.
00:32:02
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She attributes the change to also veganism. No, God, no. No. I noticed that she had vegan in like all capital letters on her.
00:32:16
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What is it with vegans? And thinking that they're better than everybody else. I don't know. I don't know what it is. It don't mean like y'all eat healthier. You just don't eat. They feel like it is.
00:32:29
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It's not. It's not. I mean, you could still... i don't know. It don't necessarily mean that what you're doing is healthier. Well, let's just get back to some of these statements that she made. So Briggs has made... I gotta hear this.
00:32:41
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Yeah, Briggs has made remarks that some interpreted as blaming Black victim... Black victim... Mm. Mm. Mm. This tastes pretty good. This tastes pretty good. Mm-hmm. Black victims for injustice, such as saying Trayvon Martin knew...
00:32:57
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what he was getting into by dressing that way, referencing, of course, the high-profile shooting and the debates on racial profiling. She was involved in discussions questioning whether Black people's attire leads feeds into stereotypes, which leads to accusations of anti-Black rhetoric, making statements perceived as negative about Black women, with references to her commentary about rejection of being a Black woman and self-hate, even as she publicly brands herself as an expert in self-love and empowerment.
00:33:27
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yeah So we talked about that before, that she's sort of this self-love person. But her denying her Black heritage is a rejection of being a Black woman and self-hate.
00:33:39
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And also, she was doing these anti-Black rhetoric as she's saying that she's a Black woman. So like I said earlier, it makes these type of set statements even more problematic when
00:33:55
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She's now identifying as a white woman. Yeah. Yeah. No. good Good try though. Like, I appreciate that. it was a good try. You went through it a lot.
00:34:07
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You went through a considerable amount looking at the change. You definitely went through a lot, but no girl. And guess what? You still don't like yourself. Yeah. That's basically what comes to. come down Another situation in which a person does not like themselves.
00:34:23
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Yeah. And it doesn't it doesn't matter what you do. It doesn't even matter if you actually get us to believe you. You still don't like yourself. you need you need to talk to somebody. you need therapy.
00:34:42
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That's what you need. Because all of this is because you can't accept yourself. I have an interesting question. Uh-oh, we're about to go down a rabbit hole. I got an interesting question. If she doesn't like her complexion and she wants to make herself lighter like Sammy Sosa, like little Kim.
00:34:58
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ah what is What is the difference between that and a person saying, I don't like the way my body looks. I'm going to work out to change my body.
00:35:10
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Nothing. What I would liken it to is when you ask, like for instance, a black man, why he dates white women and his response is, well, because black women, dot, dot, dot, right? It's that.
00:35:22
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It's the fact that you have to denigrate another, i don't care what you, I don't even care that she did this to herself, right? Skin bleaching and skin whitening treatments is a billion dollar industry gold globally.
00:35:38
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People use them all the time where they just don't, they they they don't like how they look. They don't like their dark skin for whatever reason. Okay, I don't care. It's the fact that it is accompanied by, one you're completely trying to erase a part of your identity.
00:35:58
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And then you're denigrating the people who make up that identity. So, like, that's the part nobody can get with. You can do whatever you want to yourself.
00:36:10
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This is America. If you go to l LA, every billboard is a plastic surgeon. Like, it don't matter what you do to yourself. what is What are the actions that are accompanying it?
00:36:23
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And you look like a bad person who doesn't like herself. Mm-hmm. And so to be somebody who is, quote unquote, a motivational speaker and you've got this make, ah what is her name of her foundation?
00:36:38
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Make Every Day a Good Day or something like that. i don't know, some some foundation or something that. how I know she Black. Make Every Day a Good Day. Good Day. That's an Ice Cube song. Well, no, it's partnering with law enforcement to help make cities safer for tourism and stuff. So, no, I don't think it's very Black at all. But, like...
00:37:01
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Okay. But, yeah, I mean, it's it's just it's like a form of escapism, right? Like, I can't, you know, I can't say anything about that. You don't have to talk down about people. Do whatever you want to yourself. You don't have to talk down about people.
00:37:18
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Yeah, you're right. But this is still funny as hell to me. ain't never seen somebody just straight up being like, I'm not black.
00:37:30
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Unless they was Dominican. Everything that you see, right. Everything that you've ever seen about me in life is not real. I am actually this thing. And not ah yeah, no, we still have our balls. Right.
00:37:46
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And we saw that she was black and we saw the things you were saying while you were black and when you became something else, a third thing, not white, but a weird third thing. What are people going to say?
00:38:01
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What are people going to say? Because... Well, you've already said it. ah Other people's argument is going to be like, you guys are all for transgender rights. Why can't a person change their race?
00:38:12
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And my sister already pointed out that she answered that question. We don't care. Be whatever you want to be. It's the denigration of somebody else to make yourself feel better.
00:38:23
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Right. That's what's funny to me is because she was talking in this anti-black rhetoric when she was black. And now that she white, it means completely something different.
00:38:35
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Yeah. And guess what? You're still not going to get the benefit of whiteness if that's what you're looking for. It might just be something satisfying to you to look in the mirror and see that visage looking back at you.
00:38:52
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Might be something satisfying for you, but you're not going to get like the protection of whiteness. You're not going to get it because everybody, because you look like a fraud.
00:39:06
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And I'm only being this harsh because of your anti-blackness and because you have a platform by which to be anti-black. And so as long as you continue that, I'm going to stay on your ass. So that's... Rachel Dolezal is somewhere in her box braids being quiet.
00:39:29
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yeah That's why ain't nobody bothering her. She out there, I think she braids hair for a living.
00:39:38
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You know, out of her house or something. i don't know. Maybe she's an LPN. These are all very traditional. She might be getting into real estate. I don't know. Okay. But she's somewhere minding her business.
00:39:51
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Playing a stock market is a new thing. She's somewhere minding her business. That was the point. You have a platform and you are using it to be anti-black. So I'm going be on your ass and I don't care.
00:40:05
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And no, I didn't want to talk about this because I didn't want to give this lady any more traction. But y'all, y'all got, why is everything, why don't people hate themselves? They always got to drag black people and women into it. Stop. Stop.
00:40:23
Speaker
Leave us alone. God. We don't be worried about y'all. Why y'all worried about us? Don't be worried about Scott at Literally. Don't be worried about y'all at all. Leave us alone. Find somewhere else to play because this is... Please.
00:40:39
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Please.
00:40:42
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Please.
00:40:54
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Jay, we know people that's been divorced. Yeah. You know, I'm one of those people. yeah We know people. We got several family members that's divorced. We got several friends that's divorced.
00:41:06
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Divorce happens. 50% of marriages end in divorce. I feel like the number's higher. It's not. It's still 50? I think it's still 50. You still got a 50-50 shot at it. Still got a 50-50 shot. You got a 50-50 shot at everything.
00:41:21
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Pretty much. Yeah, you know. I mean, I don't have a 50-50 shot at Dunkin'. No, that's a zero, zero shot. This is zero. out this now Well, no, not true. I put you on the trampoline.
00:41:33
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Boom. There you go. Okay. An unassisted dunk. Okay. Yeah. An unassisted dunk. You got know shot and less no have no shot. Unless the rim was four feet. Unless I find them sneakers from Like Mike.
00:41:46
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Because other than that, a little Bow Wow reference there, if y'all remember him. They do? so bowen All right. So what is grade divorce? Because that's this new thing that's Becoming popular isn't the right choice of words, but it's kind of exploding a little bit. You see an increased frequency. and then Yes.
Understanding Gray Divorce
00:42:08
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So grade to four divorce refers to a divorce that happens at age 50 or older. but The rate of grade divorce has doubled since the 1990s, making it a growing trend even as overall U.S. divorce rates decline.
00:42:23
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yeah So now that I told you what a great divorce is, if you think about it, are you seeing people that are older millennials? Well, no, because I'm an old millennial and I'm 45. No, that's Gen X. That's Gen X. Are you looking out and seeing Gen X waking up one day being like, you know what?
00:42:42
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I'm out. Yeah, I definitely do. Because you think about it, that's the age your kids are gone. And so now it's just you and this person that you ain't really talked to in the last maybe 25 years.
00:42:55
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Right. Like really talked to, not about work, not about the kids, like actually checked in with each other. then you realize, not only do I not know you that well, i also don't really like the person I do know.
00:43:10
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but Oh, I'm just going to get out of here. you know, I'm just going to... We just separate amicably. So I'm gonna get into one of the key reasons for the rise of the great divorce. And that's one of the reasons. I think another thing that people don't talk about often is, you know, they call it the seven year itch. Like when marriages get to about that seven year, therere there starts to be a little bit of trouble and then people tend to go divorce or go their own ways. Like once you make it past that seven year mark, like you have a higher probability of staying in that marriage.
00:43:46
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At least in older times before this rise of the great divorce. And I was talking to a friend about it the other day and I was because and I was like, yeah, every seven years you hit like a new decade. Theoretically, theoretically, depending on when you got married, unless you got married at 20, 30, 40, 50, seven years, you go from twenty to thirty thirty years forty four years fifth yeah Yeah. i was saying I'm a completely different person. Even if you just take seven years into account, I'm a completely different person than I was at the age of 38. Yeah.
00:44:17
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yeah Like, my personality is still virtually the same, but my... The way I handle and move in certain situations is a complete 180. Right? And that's seven years, so that would mean that I'm a much different person than I was seven years ago.
00:44:32
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Prime example, there was a woman, another story, there was a woman that I... Briefly dated, like went on a couple of dates. Had to be like 2016, 15, 16.
00:44:43
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fifteen sixteen So close to 10 years ago. Didn't really care for me all that much because why? Real arrogant. I'm real full of myself. All right.
00:44:54
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Still some ways, but I've calmed down a little bit. We follow each other on Instagram and she's learning more and more ah about me through the podcast and yeah Because we don't we really talk or hang out. You know, we send each other messages, you know, happy birthday, happy holidays, things like that. But we haven't had no in-depth conversations.
00:45:13
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And then sometimes during these messages, it will turn into a back and forth conversation. and And she was like, this is not the person I remember. i was like, yeah, that person is, I'm not the same person anymore. We yeah grow and evolve. Yeah.
00:45:26
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Yeah. So if she had started dating, if she fell in love, she didn't. But if she had dated me and fallen in love with that Bruce in 2015 and 16, the one that she woke up to today is not that same person.
00:45:42
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And if you are busy with kids and work and things of that nature, you can wake up and be like, who the hell am I with? Because this wasn't the person that I met all those years ago.
00:45:56
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Yeah. The hope is, of course, that you like grow together, right? that that you're That you're maybe not on the same track, but you're running parallel.
00:46:07
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But a lot of people find out that they're perpendicular or they're just in a whole other direction, just not even on the same but page anymore.
00:46:20
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Library, they not close. So I could definitely see that. And I and i feel like it's an age where you're established financially or you should you you should be. So it's like, ain't no thing for them to be like, yeah, let's...
00:46:36
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Let's go on to have a parting of the ways. Yeah. So that's and also another one. You jumping all on the reasons before I can get to them, but that's okay. Oh, I didn't even read them. Sorry. Yeah, I know you didn't. That's mine okay. own mind. Okay. right. Some of the key reasons for the rise in the great divorce, longer life expectancy.
00:46:52
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This is not something that we talked about. People are living longer, prompting them to reassess their relationships later in life. Many people decide not to spend decades more in unfulfilling marriages. Okay.
00:47:04
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So, I mean, people just like, hey, look, my meemaw didn't make it to 65, but I'm 55 and I'm running. I'm going to the gym.
00:47:15
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The doctors say I'm healthy. i might god I might got another 40 years. i don't want another 40 years in this existence. No. Hell no. To be what? Your nurse?
00:47:27
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No.
00:47:31
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No. I'm still out here going to paint and sips and happy hour. And brunch. And brunch. And brunch. Still listening trap music. Still listening listening to trap music. Yes.
00:47:45
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So I'm going to music festivals and all kinds stuff with my tit. And yeah i'm I'm out here. I'm not trying to set up. No.
00:47:56
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All right. So there's also another reason changing social norms. Divorce has become less stigmatized and there's more social acceptance of ending unhappy marriages even after decades together.
00:48:07
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But I mean, you still are like Miss Susie and and James decided to get a divorce, but they've been married for 50 years. was couple of years too long for them.
00:48:18
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They were miserable every day. yeah You ain't seen them at church. and They didn't, they wasn't even sitting together. No, the kids was always in between them. They didn't even sit together in the pew.
00:48:31
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You know, something else that we didn't talk about, you know, typically as you get older, they say what happens when you get older is that you become more conservative. I think you become more conservative because you become more fearful as you move away from certain things.
00:48:48
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Let's just say you climb that economic ladder as you move further further away from more working class or poor people, that can scare you because it's not familiar to you anymore.
00:49:00
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And I think that's the reason why people become conservative. But I think that, I don't know, over the last 15, 20 years, there's a whole segment of the population, some even some of these boomers, that are not becoming more conservative. They're becoming more progressive. They're becoming more accepting.
00:49:18
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So if you're in a relationship... Yeah, because their children, their grandchildren, their great-grandchildren sometimes are are queer and they're dating another race. They're transracially adopting people.
00:49:33
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that's what That's what transracial actually means, ladies gentlemen, and not what Donna Briggs was doing. You know, so you're finding in order to stay, have contact with their family, because another thing is people are cutting contact.
00:49:47
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They're going no contact with family. So you it's almost like an imperative. You have to become at least more socially liberal. Yeah. And so if you're in a marriage and you're diverging,
00:50:01
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and one is becoming more conservative, one is becoming more progressive, yeah, you're going to not want to spend be with that person anymore. Yeah. Yeah, you can't. It's hard to spend your life with somebody you don't agree with ideologically on really anything. I don't know that you can. You brought this up.
00:50:18
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Financial independence, especially for women. Greater career opportunities and financial autonomy have made it more feasible to lead the marriage later in life. It used to be a time when women couldn't work. Yeah.
00:50:28
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Or they could only do certain jobs where they couldn't support themselves on their own. That's changed. Women out here making more money. Well, they're progressing further in careers than men are, but they still ain't caught up to that wage gap, though.
00:50:44
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There's still that wage gap. It still exists. Yeah, that's still a thing. But they women out here, look, every woman I know. Every woman that's in my circle support themselves.
00:50:56
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Yeah. And they're still underpaid. Isn't that crazy? Yeah. Yeah. You brought it up. Empty nest syndrome. After children leave home, couples may discover they've grown apart or unresolved issues become more apparent without the distraction of parenting.
00:51:12
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them hey Raising them kids will do it because you got to raise them kids together. But when they're not around, you know where you also see this? People that have jobs where they travel a lot, like pilots, ah professional athletes, they it is and it is such a high divorce rate when those professional athletes retire and they home all the time.
00:51:35
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Yeah, because I got used to you not being here for nine months out of the year. Right. It is so hard to be like, oh, I love you, but I don't like you.
00:51:48
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You get on my last nerve. Everything about you pisses me off. Not everything a about you.
00:51:57
Speaker
I don't like the way you chew. I don't like the way you breathe through your nose. I don't like yeah none of it. We got to... And now I'm too up in age to be dealing with this.
00:52:08
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and Ain't no dilly-dallying and no marriage. No. Not not now when you're in your 50s. No. this Hey, it might be the twilight, but it might not be. And like I'm saying, you don't want to be unhappy for the next 40 years.
00:52:22
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So you got to make it go. These two things, I think, are connected. personal fulfillment. Many seek happiness and self-actualization in later years, choosing to start anew rather than settle and shifting a shift in gender demographics.
00:52:38
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More women are seeking divorce and often due to unmet emotional needs, infidelity or abuse. And today they are in stronger position to rebuild their lives independently.
00:52:49
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So that's another thing. Back in the day, a woman might be In a horrible marriage where her husband is cheating all the time or she's being a abused all the time and emotional needs.
00:53:01
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Look, anytime I watch these TV shows from the 80s and 70s and the 60s, I was like, damn, do date did it is their wife just a housekeeper? Yes.
00:53:13
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It's just a sexualized housekeeper. It's a housekeeper that you get to have sex with. Yes. Because they even sleep in the same bed. They slept in separate beds. I was like, that's not I don't want nothing like that. I want partner. And then i think ah I think about shows like The Honeymooners, right? Where she was threatened with domestic violence every episode. Every single... Pal, straight to the moon. Now, he ain't never did it, but still...
00:53:37
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Well, we know you know, the cameras wasn't on them all day. You're right. You're right. But it's like she never left. She was just there to cook and clean. that That was it. And and women are like, nah, we ain't living that life anymore.
00:53:52
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No. At least well I love Lucy. At least she was outside getting it up to hijinks. You know what I'm saying? At least she had a little bit of a life, you know?
00:54:03
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But no no, a lot of it is is's just you were a housekeeper that they didn't have to pay and that they could sleep with. And there was a time where there was no such thing as marital sexual assault.
00:54:18
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No. So yeah yeah things have changed and women are like, we ain't taking that. Also, retirement and lifestyle changes. The transition to retirement can stress relationships.
00:54:30
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Differing versions for retirement or discovering new interests may cause couples to drift apart. So, yeah, like, We know somebody who is who has often said, i don't want to retire because when people retire, they die.
00:54:44
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And it's like, well, what's the whole part of working all your life? Like, you work all your life to retire. mean, but if you enjoy it. But if you enjoy it, you know? Yeah. I mean, if this podcast ever became our full-time job, I don't know that I would ever want to retire because I actually enjoy this.
00:55:01
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Yeah. You know? it when it's When it doesn't feel like work. Yeah. you you When you excited. Yeah. I like my coworkers. It's all right. It's all right. Almost. Almost.
00:55:13
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Almost. You know what's funny, though? Remarriage rates are high among older adults. But second and third marriages tend to have an even higher divorce rate.
00:55:26
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So what's that saying is they're like, I'll divorce your ass. and I'll go get remarried and guess what I'll divorce they ass too yeah yeah cause don't need nothing I need none of y'all I'll let everybody go I'll give a damn one two three four husbands who are they Liz Taylor damn you gotta find you that one sometimes you gotta kiss a couple frogs till you get a prince sometimes you'll never find them
00:55:59
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I wonder if that's the reason why Donna Briggs is so unhappy with herself, because she, you know.
Identity, Marriage, and Personal Choices
00:56:03
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Because she ain't getting no play as a Black woman? I doubt you getting any play as whatever you've become.
00:56:11
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She became eddie the female version of Eddie Murphy's character on that Saturday Night Live sketch. That's what she became. yes Yes. Yeah. That's exactly it. or Anytime you see a Black person in white face, that's what it looks like. Yeah. Yeah.
00:56:25
Speaker
Well, that's a great divorce, ladies gentlemen and gentlemen. So, look. Oh, man. i What I'm about to say next, I don't know if I should say it, but going to it anyway. don't. No, I'm going say anyway. Because you're going cut it anyway if you don't. No, no, I'm not gonna cut it.
00:56:37
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and I'm not going cut it. If you're out there and you're 50, 55, 60 years old and you're unhappy in your marriage, you can leave. Get some counseling first. Try to see if you can fix it first.
00:56:49
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Don't just take my words and be like, Bruce said to leave. I'm going to leave because I told you the story at that time that my friend was asking me about my divorce. And then next time I saw her, she was like, I decided to follow your lead. I said, ma'am, that was not what I told you to do. I was just telling you my story.
00:57:04
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Just telling you my story. But but if Gloria been pissing you off since 82...
00:57:13
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And you can't take it no more. Your kids are grown and out the house and they got their own lives. Go on, go and find you a little bit of happiness. i I have a client.
00:57:25
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who tells me the story of his parents after all the kids was out the house, they kind of split. Mom moved out, got her own house, and they kind of split. I was like, but they didn't split, though. Because the other part of the story was that his dad would go over to his mom's house three days at a week to spend the night, and she would come over to the his house three days of a week to spend the night. I was like, yeah they just created separate households, but they were still together. That's not the same thing.
00:57:52
Speaker
It is. ah We've decided that this works for us. I don't want to live with you. You can come over a couple nights a week. I just don't. I just want my own stuff.
00:58:04
Speaker
I just want my own space and my own stuff. I don't want to live with you anymore, but you know, you can still Netflix and chill. that nothing Well, they say, Hey, look, you know what the biggest spread of STDs are, right?
00:58:19
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No. Retirement communities. Oh yeah. That makes sense. They just, they some freaks in there. No 55 plus apartment communities. They nasty.
00:58:31
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I was thinking about it. i was like, I can't wait till turn 55 so I can live in that community. And mine was for, because it'll be cheaper. They will eat you alive. And I'm like, oh, my God. No, because yeah I'm 45. And somebody said to me, yeah, you can date somebody. Your age range is 35 to 55. And I said, 35 is cool. That's about the lowest I go.
00:58:51
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Ain't no way in hell I'm dating 55. And he was like, you wouldn't. I was like, hell no. That's so old. It's the same age difference between 35 45 and then 45 and 55. was like, me isn't.
00:59:03
Speaker
Not to me. Yeah. It's actually and not that old. It's not that old. Well, i mean yeah. but it's It's just not. It's gross. You think, but you're not a young man.
00:59:15
Speaker
ah Middle age. So no, I'm not young. We're not young. It's a crazy thing. It's like I feel young until I get around young people. and then And then I'm like, oh. they so loud.
00:59:29
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They're so loud. So loud. Oh my God. They don't have no inside voice. Well, we that loud. So loud. Yes. Yeah. Yes. Yeah.
00:59:41
Speaker
I was always causing a ruckus. Yes. I was that loud. Yes. Cause Wu-Tang Clan ain't nothing to F with. Pretty much. Yeah.
Closing Remarks and Engagement
00:59:51
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Jay. What do you want to tell the people out there?
00:59:55
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Cash rules everything around me. Cream, get the money. Dollar, dollar bills, yo. Shout out. Since we own Wu-Tang. Yeah. Shout out to Wu-Tang Clan. And on that note, tackle steve I want to thank you for listening.
01:00:08
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I want to thank you for watching. And until next time, as always, I'll holla.
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