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19: Using The Enneagram As A Spiritual Tool
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The Holy Week reflections Laura Fleetwood created on Jesus and how he exuded all of the 9 personality types from the ancient spiritual growth tool called the enneagram generated a lot of buzz. Jill Devine asked Laura to dig deeper and explain more about the enneagram and how it applies to our every day lives, as well as our spiritual lives. In this week’s episode, Laura provides a general overview of the enneagram.
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Transcript
Introduction to Seeking the Still
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Seeking the Still is produced by Jill Devine Media. Welcome to the Seeking the Still podcast with me, your host, Laura Fleetwood.
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In this safe space, we come together to seek the still amid chaotic lives, to get honest about what overwhelms us, to become connected to one another and to the divine, to step into who we were created to be. Always real, never perfect, and forever on your side.
Reflecting on Holy Week and Enneagram Insights
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In the last episode, you got to hear these amazing reflections that Laura Fleetwood put together about Holy Week. and what Jesus may have been thinking and doing based on what we've read in scripture and also through the lens of an Enneagram coach, which Laura is.
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And so Laura and I decided we thought it would be really, really, really cool to dig a little bit deeper into that and talk more about the Enneagram. I'm Jill Devine and I am excited to share the next few weeks with you and with Laura on the different types of people when it comes to the Enneagram and how it relates to you and your faith walk with Jesus.
Understanding the Enneagram's Spiritual Connection
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Thank you for tuning in. Before we get into the types, which we will start that next week, you wanna do a little background on your coaching and what people should know about the Enneagram types and and all that good stuff? Sure. So the Enneagram is an ancient tool actually. I did not know this. Yes. So it was, I like to say it was not developed, it was discovered. So what is personality? Let's start there. personality is the thoughts, behaviors, and feelings that make one person unique from another. yeah hey So it's kind of the lens through which we all experience life. And what happened was early on in the age, this is what's been documented
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um In early Christianity, the desert mothers and fathers were people who kind of separated themselves and went into the desert to have their own little community, kind of like think of it as an early monastery kind of thing. And they recognized, because they lived amongst each other so closely, that there were really distinct types of people So while everybody's unique as an individual, there are commonalities in the way personality presents itself. And that is where the root of the Enneagram took
Enneagram Structure and Personal Growth
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hold. Enneagram actually means in Latin nine and diagram. So a diagram of nine things. And when you see the symbol of an Enneagram, it kind of looks, it's a circle with nine dots and then lines
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connecting in the middle. And that's because each of the personalities, not only are there nine unique personalities, but people have found and studied that the way each of those personalities respond in stress and in growth are similar if you belong to the same personality type. And so it's like, it's a diagram, it's a tool of human behavior that has been studied since early Christianity. And then what happened is that spiritual directors and people um in monasteries who would counsel others kind of picked up on it and used it as a way to help people understand why they think, feel, and behaved the way they did. And of course, as Christians, we know that God is all about wanting us to transform into the best
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possible version of ourselves. And so the Enneagram is not just a personality typing system, like maybe you've heard of Myers-Briggs or you know the the big four or the big five. Those are all personality typing tools. But what's different with Enneagram is it helps you grow. It doesn't just put you in a box and say, this is how you think and this is how you behave. It's like, this is your default. But under stress, you might look like this. Undergrowth, you might look like this. And then let's ask God to help us grow and transform so that we are displaying more of the positive characteristics of our personality than the negative. It sounds weird to say this out loud when I'm thinking, I mean, we're all different people.
Personality Differences and Conflict Resolution
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Yes. We all think different things. We all have different opinions. And yet it is something that I
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I struggle with a little bit because what you just said about the whole different looking at a lens in a different way. Like one thing that bothers me may not bother you. And I don't understand that. And how could something like this over here, not bother me, but bother you. And it's just, it's so complex. It's very interesting and intriguing and That's another thing that I like that you just said. is it I mean, we are typecasting ourselves, so to speak, with anything that we say that we are. That we label ourselves as. Yes. But to be able to grow from it and to see from like all the sides around it, that's what I think is the most interesting part. It's not just, hey, I'm a this.
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And that's just who I am. No, you can be that and also want to grow and learn to grow. Exactly. And I think that different personalities are the root of most of our relational struggles. Yes, they are. Because of what you just said, you can be in a meeting, let's say at work with six different people in the room. Everybody hears the same words. that were said, the same message you know that was shared. And yet, if you interviewed all six of those people after the meeting, I guarantee you that four, at least, or five would have different a different summary about the tone or um what they're supposed to do next or how they felt after that meeting with the same exact information
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And it's because we experience everything through the lens of our personality. It's so scary though, too. It really is. It's scary, but also so helpful. Because what happens is then when there's a conflict and you and I don't agree on something, I know to clarify and to get to the root issue, to not take it personally, but to understand that maybe you just experienced the situation or the conversation differently than I did. And if we could get to, if we could each share our perspective, we might go, aha. Right. That's the key. That's the key.
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Yeah, because you often, I mean, we just do this. We do this in our own head. Like, I think that I am saying it this way or thinking it this way, and you try to put it into words. And sometimes it's just so hard to do it, but the moment that you're able to talk through it all. And then just being able to, especially with this, to bring in what is it about my relationship with Jesus and how that all works and and and just recognizing that he has all of these types so he gets it. It's not just a
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Of course he loves you, so you shouldn't be doing this, or it's okay to think this way, or this is why you feel this way. there There's reasons. Right. I mean, God created us in his image image. So what that tells me is that if we've noticed that there are these patterns of personality, in the Enneagram it's nine, um that those nine personalities are reflections of God in a way. And so me being a type seven, I reflect like the joyfulness of God.
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you being a type two, you reflect God's nurturing nature, right? And so all of the types have a reflection of the divine. which is cool And he's all of it, yeah right? And he gives us a piece of it. And so, of course, it's beautiful to recognize that, oh, I may not see the world the way you do, but you have an important way of seeing the world. And so do you. And so do I. They're just different. And we need them all. Yes. That's okay.
Guidelines for Using the Enneagram
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So there are a few basics when it comes to utilizing the Enneagram. Okay. The first is that one type is not better than another. Okay. All nine types are beautiful and wonderful and needed. Okay. The um another thing is you must not, and these are, these are my own rules. You may not use the Enneagram as a weapon. So you may not say, Oh,
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I really don't like that person because he's a type eight and so he's commanding and abrasive. And so I'm just going to type cast him as being somebody that I would not get along with for an example. So you may not use it as a weapon and you also may not use it as an excuse. The example would be, oh, I'm a type seven. i just like to go from idea to idea to project to project. And so I don't have to finish anything oh because that's just not my personality. My personality is to flip and float. No, you cannot use it as an excuse right to not fulfill your basic duties and to to live life and to get along with people because every type from one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, and nine have a shadow side as well.
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as a productive growth side. a And so we can very easily fall into the ego trap, the sinful trap, because we're all sinful human beings, of acting and thinking and feeling out of our shadow side, which is not healthy. okay And that's where the growth and the transformation comes in. So by default, under stress, we're going to want to act and behave and feel out of our shadow side. And that's where we learn to identify when that's happening and to pause and ask the Holy Spirit to help us respond in health and in growth. And that's the spiritual transformation of it is that Jesus in scripture, you know, it says that um you will renew your mind.
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Like the Holy Spirit can help us live in the beautiful aspect of our personality instead of in the sinful side. And so it's important to note that we all have both.
Enneagram as a Tool for Personal Growth
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So as we prepare for the next three episodes that we will be releasing, what do you want the listener to know? ah The rules are great. Anything else? Because when we get into the next episode, we're gonna dive straight into those types and just start talking about those. um Anything you think would be helpful leading up to?
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It's not 100% accurate. It's not something by which, you know, you're going to define the rest of your life. It's simply a tool in your tool belt to help you understand why do I think and act and behave the way I do? And why do others think and act and behave the way they do? So it's just a tool. It's a helpful tool, I think. I think it's a pretty darn accurate tool. Yeah, I agree. um especially in in relationships and in understanding the people that you're closest with, um how God made them. So that's one thing. um The other thing that I would say is that the Enneagram
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is um something that is very personal. And that's why we shouldn't try to like type other people necessarily. Every person should kind of figure out their own type. And I've got an assessment that we'll share um that you can take. Everybody can take it's free. So you can learn your Enneagram type before the first episode when we go over types two, three and four. All right. So yeah, it I think it's exciting. um I would encourage you, even if you've taken the Enneagram assessment before, take it again and see, you know, if the assessment I use is is similar to what you've learned in the past and recognize that the nine types I think of as are like colors. So, you know, you can have red, blue, orange, purple, green, but in
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In each of those colors, there's a million hues of red. There's a million hues of orange. So not every eight is going to act, think, and be hit and feel the same as other eights. It's like you have your own shading. There's lots of different gray. Yes, there's lots. So we're not saying that you're exactly like everybody else who's your type. Of course not. no But there are some commonalities in how you move through life that might be helpful for you to know.
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and um Yeah, it's it's very interesting and fascinating and I think a wonderful tool for both your spiritual growth and just learning to get along with others in
Teaser for Next Episode: Enneagram Types 2, 3, and 4
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the world. I agree. So let's just put it into this one and get ready. Our next episode that will be released next week, we're going to dive into types two, three, and four. Be still.