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The Cost of Helping Too Much: Menopause, Money, and Messy Friendships
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In this episode of Unsolicited Perspectives, Bruce Anthony and J. Aundrea tackle the tough questions about friendship boundaries, menopause, and the hidden costs of always helping others. From hilarious sibling banter to real talk about trust issues, relationship red flags, and the challenges of saying “no,” this episode is packed with relatable stories and practical advice. We dive into the surprising connection between menopause and oral health, explore the double standards in relationships, and break down the hypocrisy that often goes unnoticed in our lives.
Whether you’re struggling with setting boundaries, curious about women’s health, or just need a good laugh, this episode has something for you. We answer a viral Reddit dilemma about helping friends in need, discuss the importance of self-care and emotional intelligence, and share life lessons that will stick with you. Join us for candid conversations, trending topics, and the kind of humor only siblings can deliver. #menopause #friendship #redflags #trustissues #toxicfriendships #relationshipadvice #midlifehealth #MensHealthAwarenes #BoundariesMatter #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapters:
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:50 Sibling Happy Hour: Spicy Takes & Drinks 🍹🌶️
01:28 Trust Broken: When Friends Show Their True Colors 🤔💔
04:23 Red Flags: How People Treat Wait Staff Says It All 🍽️👀
12:50 Hypocrisy Unmasked: Double Standards & Calling Out the Fakes 🧐🚨
14:04 Faith vs. Facts: The Religion Hypocrisy Showdown ⛪🤯
18:37 Menopause Mayhem: Surprising Links to Oral Health 🦷🌡️
27:54 Smile Through the Change: Smart Dental Hacks for Menopause 😁🦷
29:09 Male Menopause? The Truth About the Midlife Shift 👨🦳🔄
30:02 Let’s Talk Libido: What Really Changes for Men & Women? 👫🔥
32:17 Battle of the Sexes: Who’s REALLY Superior? 🤼♂️👑
36:08 Pain Olympics: Who Handles Hurt Like a Champ? 🏅😬
40:51 The Friend Zone Trap: When Helping Becomes a Burden 🧑🤝🧑😓
43:36 When Good Deeds Go Bad: The Hidden Cost of Always Helping 🤦♂️💸
50:18 Setting Boundaries: Learning to Say No Without Guilt 🚫🛡️
58:31 Last Call: Unfiltered Final Thoughts & Farewell 🍻👋
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Introduction to Unsolicited Perspectives
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Believe it when people show you who they are. And also remember, if they asking for too much, you might have to cut them off.
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We're going to get into it. Let's get it
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Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that shaping today's society. same Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts.
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On today's episode, it's the sibling happy hour. I'm here with my sis, Jay Andrea. We're going to be dilly-dadding a little bit. Then we're going talking about menopause. And then we're going to be talking about friends that ask for a little too much.
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But that's enough of the intro.
True Character Revealed Through Actions
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Let's get to the show.
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What up, sis? What up, brother? I can't call it. I can't call it. But i can't call it. This ain't a situation where I can't call it. I can't call it.
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However, I had an interesting conversation with somebody. Now, I'm not going get into the specifics of the conversation because people are tired of me telling their business. And that's understandable.
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yeah But I know I've talked about this before on my own show, but I want to get your perspective on this. friend of mine just ended a friendship with another friend of theirs.
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okay And the reason was, is because that friend of theirs did something little bit shady. And when my friend told me the story, I said, don't know why you're surprised.
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This person has shown you who they were to everybody else. You just thought you was different. And it's a common misconception that people have when they deal with their friends, family.
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For me personally, women that I've dated, like they show you who they are, the way they interact with other people. That's who they are. Don't think that you're going to be treated differently. You're not special.
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You're going to catch it. It just may take a little while. Like, have you ever seen the movie? He's just not that into you. I think I have. Who was in that movie? Where he talks about being the rule and not the exception.
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Most people are the rule. Most people are not the exception. yeah win But they always think they that they are the exception. They always think that they're the exception. No, you're the rule. If somebody... Look, if you could watch somebody do another person dirty, know that that you could be next.
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like, don't think just like, dang, they did that person dirty. Oh, well, no, no. Remember that. Don't forget it. And remember that when you start letting information out, you know, that just, you know, remember that this person, somebody said, somebody said this once and ah it's true.
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If you see somebody kill a bug outside, Don't trust that person. What the matter? What? No, why? A bug just outside in the world, in its habitat,
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ah Oh, okay. it Did the bug fly in your face and you swatted it away? No, you walking down the sidewalk, you see a bug and you step on it. I don't trust a person like that. Yeah, no, I agree. That bug was just literally living its life in its habitat. And you came and stepped on it.
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No, don't trust. People will show you who they are. Like, watch them. Watch how they are with their friends. Watch how they are with their coworkers. Watch how they treat people in the service industry. Watch how they treat their family.
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Like, just watch and you'll see a good indicator. I think it's always a good idea for a ah one of your first dates to be going out to dinner because you've got to see how that other person treats people in the service industry.
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well youin't go Look, as a male, I say you ain't got to go out to dinner because it's coming out of our pockets. I say you can go to a drink. You go to a restaurant and have a drink. But my point is, like, they you want to see how they interact with people in the service industry.
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Yeah. So i I went out on a date yeah probably about a month ago or something like that. And I picked up on the fact I'm very keenly aware because I'm always like, thank you so much.
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Yes. May I? Yes. Thank you. Please. That's who i am. General common courtesy. that's That's who I am. and And this person didn't get nasty or rude, but just was basically like almost didn't acknowledge them.
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Yeah. And I mean, it wasn't rude, but it it wasn't up to my standard of how I think people should be treated. When somebody brings something to you, even if it's their job, you say thank you.
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Yeah, I'm sorry. You just say thank you. When they drop that plate or they drop that drink or whatever, like, oh, thank you so much. If they come and they start, you know, clearing away dishes, thank you.
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i don't Because they could have left that dish right there, crowding up everything, getting in the way. Like, just because they're in service doesn't mean you're going get good service, so okay? So when you do, acknowledge it.
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Just because they're in service doesn't mean that they're your servant. Thank you. yeah You know, ah but, but back to this thing about people, you know, showing you who they are. I had this friend in high school.
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People that know me and know me back then are going to know who I'm talking about, but I'm still not to put this person's name out there like that. Well, wouldn't put this person's name out there anyway, but ri or whatever. They,
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had sticky fingers. What I mean by that was, is I couldn't go anywhere with them yeah without them pickpocketing something. yeah Walk out of the grocery store and be like, hey man, I got this stuff. I was like, you got money.
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Just buy it. Why do you always need to steal? Klepto. Well, it was more than that. This person just wasn't a trustworthy person. And I picked up on the fact that I was like, you stealing and you don't have to steal. right It's not... I understand the allure, as Jay-Z says, of breaking the law.
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I get it. It is somewhat intoxicated. But like you clipping ah Snickers bar from the 7-Eleven Like, what' was the point of that? What's the point of that? and that person and that and then And that person kind of betrayed me later on in college and said something to him to a a female friend of mine.
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that I told him in confidence that I obviously didn't want her to know. And he did that to do an end around to try and get with her. And I was like, I knew you was this person this entire time. I knew who you were. I've had it with
Hypocrisy in Relationships and Red Flags
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females that I dated, like certain ways that they treated their parents.
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yeah And I was like, how you gonna get mad at your dad? Cause he's sick. Just because it's a holiday and you had this all planned and you was really looking forward to the holiday, your dad is sick.
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Maybe instead of being upset that the holiday is ruined, you should be worried about how sick your father is. But once again, I'm always thinking I'm special just because mom and dad told us we were special.
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yeah think I think I'm the exception to the rule and ain't never been the exception to the rule. Well, and also you got to ask yourself, do you want to be?
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Sometimes. Why not? No, because mean, you know, this person is not trustworthy. Do you really want to be the exception to the rule of ah ah and a person that is not trustworthy?
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Well, hold on. Not trustworthy or not nice. There's two different things. No, this was your this was i jump went over your scenario. Well, which one? Because I gave you two of them. The one person with the sticky fingers. like Yes.
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that like um Do you want to be the exception to a person like that? I'm going tell you, I actually, it was a long time ago, but I heard a friend that I considered a friend at the time talking crazy to her mother.
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And I was like, oh, no. And I'm not friends with that person because I'm like, if you could talk crazy to your parents,
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oh Hold on now. Did they talk crazy to the parents in front of folks or you just heard them it was supposed to be private? No, was standing there. Oh, okay. Yeah. No, you can't do that. Now, you're talking crazy to your parents, look, I'm tired of raising my parents.
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Okay. i thought They hardheaded. They hardheaded as hell. And every now and then you got to check them. You got be like, look, I'm tired of raising you. Okay. You supposed to be a grownup.
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Stop being this stubborn, but I would yeah never do it in front of somebody. Yeah, no, this was not a situation where this person was like asserting a boundary or something like that. No, they were just talking crazy there to their mother. And I was like, oh. no Because if you could talk that crazy to your mama, what you saying about me behind my back or something like that? oh what would you say to my face? Or what would you say about me in front of other people? it's I was like, nah, nope.
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No, when people show you who they are, I believe them. I lost a friend. Somebody that said they was like my big bro. Because I hired them and then had to fire Yeah.
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And another mutual friend said, don't do that. don't Don't hire him. and i was like, no, no, no, no. That's my big bro. You know how they are. I was like, nah, ain't gonna do me like that.
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Damn sure did me like that. And yeah almost like, like, jeopardized my standing in the company.
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yeah Because here I am the boss, I hired you, I'm vouching for you, I'm paying you more than I'm paying anybody else, because you're supposed to be my homie and I trust you, and here you go screwing me.
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yeah And it was like, that person had always shown me who they were. yeah Always. See, that's my problem. I be trusting in the good of people when I should just trust in the real.
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No, you your problem is you expect people to behave like you. Yeah, well. Instead of taking them at as who they are. You're expecting people to treat you, treat your business, treat your thing, treat your space, everything the way you would.
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That's what you're expecting. That's what we're all expecting. We're all expecting to be liked, loved, respected the way we would respect and like and love somebody else. And when they don't act the way we expect them to act...
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Then it's like, there's a problem. So no yeah, you have to see, you do have to meet people where they are, but if people are showing you that they're not trustworthy, they won't keep your confidence, they're not honest, things like that, believe that.
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Believe that for sure. Yeah. ah Okay. I get what you're saying when you're like, you're looking for people to respect you and your surrounding and your things as if you would.
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Sometimes, sometimes people's expectations are higher than their standard. Yeah. Their standard for themselves.
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They expect more from other people than they
Religious Hypocrisy and Societal Expectations
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expect from themselves. And yeah that's the thing that really be driving me crazy. I'm like, well, hold it up, though. You be doing this. So how are you going expect me to be better than you when you doing the same thing?
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Right. How you gonna get a homeboy for doing fraud and you do fraud? and You do fraud? don't do that type of fraud, though. You sell drugs in the community.
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You know, like, how you gonna... Come on, how you gonna fight that? You know, so, yes. People be out here being real life bonafide hypocrites.
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And I will not throw everybody out and not call myself out as well because I be a hypocrite sometimes too. yeah However, when somebody calls me out on my hypocrisy, I'll be like, oh, you know what?
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You did right on that one. You did right. I had to call somebody Sometimes you just have blind spots and you don't realize it. I had to call somebody out for their hypocrisy on religion.
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Well, you know me. I love when so I get one of them hypocritical Christians start they start getting the preaching. I'll be like, okay, well, what about this, this, and this? We all sin. i was like, yeah, but you judging other people's sins a whole lot the hell harder than you judging yourself.
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right So this person was like, what did the person so say? This person sent me a meme. And I was like, oh, you really don't know me.
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Because they sent me a meme and it was basically so a ah ill bro joking on a trans person. Yeah, they don't know you. yeah and i And I was like,
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Why'd you send this to me? Because it's funny. they'd say They say that there's something that they're not. And I was like, I'm i'm not that i'm not your ally for this for this one. you You honestly don't know me. yeah And it was like, it's against God's word. I was like, well, first of all, no, it isn't.
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It's not. And I was like... It didn't mention it at all. It's not mentioned. And I was like, just because you go to Bible study, i was like, yo, didn't you just hook up with a dude that helped you out on your rent?
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And you thought this was your man? No. Didn't I see you eat a seafood boil the other day? We're not supposed to be eating shrimp and stuff that crawl on the bottom of the ocean according to the Bible.
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But I swear I saw you eating a seafood boil the other day. that's Not the whole seafood boil. You already wrong. yeah I'm like, hold on, are you out here at having premarital sex? And I was like, the Bible say absolutely something about that. I was like, the Bible law also talk about judging, right? The Bible also talks about vanity.
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I was like, you out here doing some of the most... You participate in a lot of the seven deadly sins, but you want to judge somebody else on something that the Bible don't even talk nothing about.
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Yeah. Yeah. That is the number one hypocritical thing about Christian nationalism. I'm sorry. If Jesus didn't say nothing about it, baby, leave me alone.
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Well, you know, I'm not we're not going get into the religion conversation. Folks, I promise. I promise we're not going. But I am going to say this one thing. Hopefully it won't lead into a deep dive. I don't want it to. But I do have to say this.
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American religion. Is not true Christianity. Well, you just said something that's gonna... You gonna receive so much hate mail. Yeah, I know I am.
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And you know what? I don't care. Because it's not America... Okay, I said something. It was real generalized. Let me get real specific. yeah Evangelical! No, there's a lot of different denominations yes in America yes that say that they're Christian, but they really focus on a lot of the Old Testament...
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And that is the be all end all. yeah And I'm like, well, You say you're Christian. Christianity is... You're supposed to be the sequel. Yeah, Christianity is based on Jesus Christ. You're supposed be in God book two. Right, right, right, right.
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And they they stuck in the Old Testament. And I'm like, oh, okay. When you look at a lot of the laws that were established, how this country was established, it was Old Testament.
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Old Testament. So, yeah, that's what I mean by a lot of people. If you're out there practicing Jesus' teachings, his true teachings... then then you practice well true Christianity, but a lot of American Christianity And we only say that because we only know Christianity in America. but Yeah, don't know where else. So we don't know nowhere else.
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um um ah I know where else. I would limit it to things like Christian nationalism, religious writing, and things like that. And the reason being, the reason they stay in the Old Testament as opposed to Book 2, okay, is because Jesus isn't giving them anybody to hate.
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Mm-hmm.
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Well, that let's not just solely say Christian nationalism, because I know a lot of Baptists that be preaching that same type of hate.
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Yeah. So but that's just why I said and there's a lot of... it Look, Mormons, they excluded Black people until the 70s. You couldn't even be Black and Mormon. Now I walk down the street, Mormons is all up in my face, talking about, hey, you want to go to
Understanding Menopause and Its Impacts
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church? I was like, I thought I wasn't allowed.
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All
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right. That's enough of religion because we're going to go off on a tangent. Yeah, we're definitely going to do that. But tell you what's also crazy. What's that? Menopause. We're going get into that next.
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Jay.
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ja but We're going to talk about menopause. and Okay. And look, some of my men are going to be turned off by this, but don't worry, guys. going to bring it all around the reason why this affects you as well and why you need to be a little bit more considerate, considering the fact that you don't have to go through this.
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Even though, Jay, you said you wanted to go through menopause, and I don't even know what that is. I said we could talk about menopause. Not that I wanted to go through menopause. I don't even want to go through menopause. Why would I want to...
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I didn't mean go through it. I meant like get to it, talk to it, talk about it because I don't even know what menopause is. Something made up. um Okay. All right. Well, was reading this article. It was in and NBC News. was written by ah the contributing editor.
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This tastes pretty good. This tastes pretty good. By Bethany Hittman, the con contributing editor from NBC News. And the title of the article is Menopause Can Do a Doozy on Your Teeth.
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Here's what to do. So a lot of people are like menopause and teeth. Bruce, what is your point to all of this? My point is to establish that women be going through it. So in this article, it highlights the significant but often overlooked impact of menopause on oral health.
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Declining estrogen levels during menopause can trigger a range of dental issues, including dry mouth, increased risk of cavities, gum disease, and even changes in taste. Now, when I read that, I said, that's the reason why women have such a hard time pay picking out what restaurant they want to go to.
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Women don't come at me. That's just a joke. It's just a joke. But yeah also explains a lot. Anyway, the article features insights from both a gynecologist and a dis and anna dentist who explain these effects and provide practical strategies for maintaining oral health during menopause.
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Since there's good oral hygiene, which, by the way, You should be doing anyway. Yeah, you really should. Staying hydrated, regular dentist visit v regular dental visits, which once again, you should be doing all the time anyway.
00:20:06
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Every six months. And consulting healthcare providers about treatment options like hormone therapy. We're going to get into all of that. But Jaya, just at first glance, when I talk about...
00:20:18
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menopause and oral health. That's something that really is not talked about. But like the article says, it's something that's very, very important. We'll get into the details later. But when I just tell you, yo, you there's something else you got to worry about.
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Not just the hot flashes. What else is in menopause? yeah Oh, a lot. There's a lot. Well, now it's more. Yeah. Now now you you just added an extra thing. I didn't i personally didn't add it.
00:20:45
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I mean, you didn't. letting people know. Yeah. But no, high flashes, mood changes, fatigue, sleep disturbances, changes in libido. Now my teeth falling out.
00:20:57
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Great. well at Well, your teeth don't necessarily ah have to fall out. falla Okay, aside from the the regular associated symptoms from menopause, of which you just established, you know, hot flashes and mood swings, which by the way, did not know mood swings was part of menopause. Is that also a part of pre-menopause?
00:21:15
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Yes, it is. And I have funny story about that. Oh, less no, no, no. Tell me the story. So, I don't know if it's funny, but, you know, i'm ah hey, I'm oh i'm well about to be over 40, okay, in August.
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in in august Okay. I'll be 41. I mean, technically you're over 40 right now. Well, yeah. Okay. So I'm over 40. So obviously all my friends, r ah We are, we all hitting that stage, right?
00:21:40
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So who one of my friends, ah apparently her husband has been telling her for some time that she has been having mood swings. She did not realize it.
00:21:51
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We all go out and boy, she's just talking to us crazy to the point where we're just like, why are you talking to us like this? So later on in the evening, we bring it back up again.
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and we and she was like, did I really do that? It it um that upset her because she didn't realize that mood swings. Your mood, yes, I mean, heavy swings.
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Now, I'm not talking about her specifically. I'm talking about in general where you're yeahre up and then, boy, you're down, then you're crying, then you're laughing hysterically. Mood swings.
00:22:27
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Yes. You ain't got to get into specifics, but how how was how was she talking to you crazy? Because we were just saying, hey, the turret's coming up on the left. Okay. That's a sin.
00:22:41
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It was like, hey, why... Why you got much sauce on that okay? it was the last sauce There was a lot of emphasis on that okay. yeah no yeah But ah yeah it's it's not it's not anything really that's within your control.
00:22:59
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you know There's nothing you can do. You just gotta ride that bad boy out for several years. So for my men that are listening to the shows, it's like, oh, man, you talking about menopause.
00:23:10
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Why you even focusing on that? is it He always talking about stuff that ain't men related. No, this is a man related because... A lot of times guys don't understand what women are going through physically. And and this is what I'll say about that.
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Learn. It's really not that difficult. You can ask. Maybe they can explain it. Maybe they can't explain it. But there is Google. You can research information to find out why your woman is acting a particular way.
00:23:36
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It might legitimately have nothing to do with you as evident. ah Make sure it's so written by a legitimate person and peer-reviewed. Please don't just start Googling stuff about menopause and then next thing you know, you buying her a crystal because you heard that this crystal could help with hot flashes. No, because then going get punched in the face. So like read actual medical journals information from reputable sources, please.
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Yeah, ah not Joe Rogan. like people the rep So yeah menopause is diagnosed 12 months after the menstruation cycle. Premenopause is the preceding phase marked by declining of estrogen.
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How this all affects your oral health, well, for women out there. Estrogen is vital for oral tissue health. Declining estrogen can cause, once we said before, dry mouth, burning sensation in the tongue,
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heightened gum sensitivity, altered tastes. yeah So,
00:24:42
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wait a minute, what? Burning sensation in the tongue? I mean, the rest of you is burning. Why not your tongue, too? I mean, that's where you get the hot flash. I literally, I saw a woman, she was rocking a ball dance, video that circulated on social media.
00:24:57
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And she was outside, I think, in like a football, high school football game something was cold out. And she was having a hot flash. And you just see the steam actually coming off the top of her head. It's insane. Right.
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Hormonal changes increase the risk of gum inflammation, gingivitis, and periodontal disease. Now... Periodontal. That's what said. Periodontal is what said. That's, I believe, a dinosaur.
00:25:27
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I'm just kidding. Yeah. It's not a dinosaur disease. No. It's not that. yeah i yeah oh yeah yeah ah it's not a dinosaur disease no it's not that Reduced saliva production, which is essential for neutralizing acids, preventing decay, greatly sustainable, ah ah greatly it makes you susceptible to cavities, infections, and difficulties with speaking or swallowing. Menopause may also increase osteoporosis risk, weakening the jawbone, and potentially leading to tooth loss or complications with dental implants. Didn't I just say? Teeth falling out. Yeah. So, fellas, out here.
00:26:14
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They talk about menopause ain't no big thing. We don't want to go through it. Look, first of all, you tell me that I'm going to have dry mouth. I got dry mouth all the time anyway. And I don't even know why.
00:26:25
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I brush my teeth and floss every day. just don't know why I have dry mouth. OK, I have had gingivitis one time. It is not cool. All right. now Gingivitis is not cool. I know of a man that had to get his gums pulled down because they were raising too high that was making his teeth loose.
00:26:46
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yeah And I said, what? What is that? He was like, yeah, it's a common thing. I was like, then immediately I have run to the mirror and start looking at my gums and saying, are my teeth loose? Because it's it's what, look, I could deal with a lot of things. I could deal with rashes all over my body. You can give me boils on my body.
00:27:03
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As long as I can cover them up and people can't see it, you can give me boils. They're painful. I would rather go through that than lose my teeth. you know how much no that You can get a replacement.
00:27:15
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You know how much they cost? Yeah, a lot, but no. It could be two to five grand per tooth. Come on, Roscoe. We're trying to film a show.
00:27:26
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Roscoe's in the background barking. It's like two to five grand a tooth unless you go to Mexico. Mexico, they got good dental work in Mexico. They got good dental work down there. I don't know what the problem is.
00:27:39
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You can get you some good dental work down in Mexico. What's problem? Well, I didn't say there was a problem. just i You got to get to Mexico. I don't feel like my teeth falling out is that big of a deal. as as I just don't.
00:27:50
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It's a big deal to me. So now okay strategies for maintaining dental health during menopause, you know, good oral hygiene. Brush your teeth twice a day with fluoride two-place, not two-place, paste.
00:28:03
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Floss daily and use alcohol-free mouthwash. Alcohol-free mouthwash? I wonder if I use that. I use alcohol-free mouthwash. Oh, what is Listerine?
00:28:15
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Listerine definitely got alcohol in it. Oh, okay. You got to stay hydrated and create increase your fluid intake to combat dry mouth. Consider saliva substitutes.
00:28:26
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Regular dental venous, we said that before. You got to get your checkups. You got to get your cleaning. It's crucial for all that stuff. And if you're going through it, Go ahead, talk to a healthcare provider. You know, if you starting to have oral symptoms that are related to, you know, menopause.
00:28:43
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Yeah. You know, because you don't want, you don't want your teeth to fall out. I don't care what you say. I don't want my eyeballs or my teeth to fall out. Those are the two things.
Gender Differences and Societal Challenges
00:28:51
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Yeah, I definitely don't want my eyeballs to fall out.
00:28:54
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That is much bigger issue than my teeth falling out. um Tomato, tomato. i oh Okay, we're going to agree to disagree on that one. was wrong.
00:29:08
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Manipause is not made up. That is a real thing. It is a term used to describe the natural hormonal changes that occur in men as they age. Wait a minute, say what now?
00:29:19
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Yes, it's also referred to as andropause or male menopause. Yes. So what the hell happens? So symptoms can vary from person to person, but some common size and signs include decreased libido and erectile dysfunction.
00:29:34
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loss of muscle mass and strength, increased body fat, fatigue and decreased energy levels, mood changes including depression, irritability and mood strings, difficulty concentrating and memory problems, sleep disturbances including insomnia, hot flashes and sweats and reduced bone density.
00:29:53
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And it's basically characterized by a gradual decline in testosterone levels. Okay. Yeah. Well, I mean, our set, our testosterone levels start to decrease at the age of 30 anyway, which is crazy because as women are going through menopause, their libido spikes.
00:30:11
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Women's libido spikes in their forties and up. um and No. the it that A woman's libido spikes in her forties.
00:30:25
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Go ahead. Go ahead. Resource it. i You keep talking. Trust me, because I didn't dealt with a lot of 40 year olds and they got the strongest libidos. Yeah. So the dr there's a drop in estrogen and testosterone levels during menopause that leads to a decrease in libido due to these hormonal changes. Well, menopause is maybe I'm thinking the premenopause, whatever women. there it It is a joke that I think God played on us.
00:30:55
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Whereas men's libidos is at the height, it's like 20, 25 years old. For women, it's like 30, 35 years old. As the man's libido starts to decline, the woman's libido starts to rise.
00:31:08
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And that's the reason why you have all these stories of these married men talking about, man, she was on me all day. I was like, look, I only got one round in me. Who she think I am? Jamal Moore?
00:31:20
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I ain't no Blair Underwood. You got any drumming me? I'm going to sex with Jamal Moore. that pops from the way it's the way it's brothers and my son it no so yes men's sexual drive tends to peak in their late teens and early 20s while women often experience their peak in their 30s yep so before menopause i would say that i was going through menopause but there's a lot of things that just don't uh don't uh Like, I am definitely not losing muscle mass or bone density.
00:31:54
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No. Yeah. But that um that comes with decreased testosterone. like I do know that my well my testosterone is decreasing just because it just naturally decreases. I still think I have a relatively high level testosterone, but that just be that just could be because I work out all the time because that helps boost testosterone. But we're going back to menopause. Look, fellas out here.
00:32:16
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You think life is easy for a woman. It seems like it's the worst. what yeah yeah What I mean by this is like, I'm so glad I still think women are the superior gender.
00:32:31
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If you go by male, female gender, I still feel like women are the apex because they're smarter. They're, they're more emotionally intelligent.
00:32:42
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They're more caring. They have a higher pain threshold. The only thing that we have over them is physical strength. That's it. It was even, I learned this, women weren't allowed to be astronauts at NASA, right?
00:32:54
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But the women still wanted to go through the same tests that the men were going through. and And they go through physical tests. They go through mental tests, emotional tests, all this type of stuff. right They found out that women scored higher on everything except for physical.
00:33:10
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because men are just physically yes stronger than women. But women scored higher and everything else. So they are the more evolved, more advanced version of the human species, okay?
00:33:22
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They just are. don't know. I feel like everybody has the capacity. I'm not, I'm speaking very generally. Obviously there are people with certain, you know, psychological disorders that are not capable of like empathy and emotional intelligence. Right. But like in general, I think most people are capable of that is what does society tell us is important.
00:33:49
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Yeah, that's what that's the reason why I say they're... And what is being fostered in that gender or in that sex that's not being encouraged in the other? Yeah, no.
00:34:00
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yeah But that's the reason why they're more evolved.
00:34:04
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yeah Yeah, I mean, I don't disagree. As a woman, I don't. I mean, if you keep teaching kids at it from birth how to say they're ABCs, one, two, threes, right? Do they one, two, threes?
00:34:16
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And you have another group of kids that they don't even get that information until they're 20. Those kids that are getting that from when they're babies. Yeah. Each generation is going to build upon that be more evolved.
00:34:29
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We've got thousands of years. True. Women have been given the right to be emotional, address those emotions, learn how to deal with those emotions. And men have not. Just because we're getting started now don't mean that we're going to catch up.
00:34:42
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And that still doesn't say anything about intelligence. And I always find that strange, by the way, because for most of these things, men were the thought leaders of of psychology, right? Of themselves.
00:34:58
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Right. But I mean, it's just like, y'all came up with it. Why aren't you investing more in the thing you... Because it ain't manly.
00:35:08
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and Because it ain't manly. and and And when I say men are physically stronger, I mean simply physically stronger. They cannot tolerate the physical pain that women can.
00:35:21
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Because I guarantee damn to you if men had to go through, well, I guess there is menopause, but it's not widely known, right? And and not every guy has to go through it. But if men had to go through that, whoo!
00:35:34
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And that's still not talking about the pain. i and and it and our I sent you a sit you ah video where somebody is... was talking about what if you had like the male version of menopause like most men couldn't go through it but yeah I mean i don't know so actually the research that comes back is that women actually don't have a higher pain tolerance than men.
00:36:04
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but how is what What research is that? Yeah, studies consistently show that women tend to report higher pain intensity and have lower pain thresholds compared to men.
00:36:16
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For and what? Women like more are more likely to report pain sooner when pain stimulus is applied and tolerate less pressure or intensity before reporting pain.
00:36:27
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So one and and that's that's from reports. So like... There's really no way to scientifically determine if you have a higher pain threshold, aside from like sitting them down, applying a painful stimulus, and when do they report feeling the sensation of pain? well I feel like men would tend to hold out longer. Yes.
00:36:54
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Before reporting pain. Because of toxic masculinity. But that doesn't mean that they have a higher threshold of pain. Case in point, you've seen the videos where they have that machine that mimics menstrual cramps.
00:37:06
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Yes. And men double over on a three. And women be like, this ain't nothing but a light Tuesday. Right, but you got to understand that is a light Tuesday once a month, every month.
00:37:21
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And most of these women that are in these videos are in their 20s. So maybe it's been they've been going through it for about 10 years now. So if you experience something 12 times a year for the last 10 years and another person has never experienced it.
00:37:36
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Oh, okay. Yes. You're saying, all right. I've seen up here trying to big up women and you, you come, you're woman. I'm not, I'm not saying. You anti-woman now. No, that's, we all know that's ridiculous.
00:37:49
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ah yeah But i'm just I'm just saying, no, we don't have ah higher pain tolerance or threshold any of that. It's just we have, we are more likely to experience chronic pain. and And because of that, we are able to handle pain because we get used to it.
00:38:11
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Not because it's there. Stop trying to punch holes in my theory. I'm going to stand by my theory that women are the more advanced, more evolved, superior. version of the human species. And going through this menopause is just another prime example that you could lose your teeth just being a woman.
Boundaries in Friendships and Financial Obligations
00:38:28
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Just being a woman. Just being a woman, you can lose your teeth. Now, men will lose their teeth because they did something stupid, thinking that they go out there and play softball. The sun is in their eye. Softball hit them in their mouth.
00:38:38
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They lose a tooth. You shouldn't been out there trying to play anyway. You was 55 years old trying to live dreams from 40 years ago. That's how we lose our two teeth from dumb stuff. Y'all lose it just being in existence.
00:38:51
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Yeah. I swear, it's God's cruel joke on women. yeah the Y'all are the bringers of life, but also the life is sucked out of you every day. That's part of it, right? like you got to think of it. like I'm probably going to get some hate for this, but if you think about it in general...
00:39:10
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in general A baby is sort of a parasitic organism. It is literally sucking the life out of you. me Okay. That's why you had to take ah more vitamins and eat more stuff because this baby is feeding off of you.
00:39:31
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but but ah that good That's what happens. And then they're here and then they age you because they be doing dumb stuff like getting hit in the face baseball and knock their teeth out. yeah that happened That's a bill for me. That's a bill now. that's a but Oh, they cost a lot too. We love them. I love the kids.
00:39:50
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no i Love the kids. Love kids. All right That's enough talking about menopause. Let's talk about when your friends just be asking for too much. And going get into that next.
00:40:10
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All right, Jay, it's thundering over where you at and we might lose power. So we're going finish up this last segment the best we can. And it's another Reddit post and it's called, What Should I Do?
00:40:22
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This is what the poster writes. My long time friend Jennifer is a single mom of three kids, ages five, eight, and 10. She was married but divorced, a husband about three years ago, and the husband isn't very involved or helpful, and the kids actually prefer not to see him.
00:40:39
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For the past five years, I've helped Jennifer raise her kids as she works different jobs to help support her kids. In addition to paying 30% of her rent, often provide gross leaves groceries and help with taking the kids to and from school.
00:40:53
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Yes, I know it's above and beyond, but I care about the kids and I see that Jennifer is truly struggling. Last Friday, her oldest was involved in accident at school during their PE class.
00:41:05
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From what I was told, they were playing flag football and one of the bigger kids legit tackled her as a joke. However, this actually caused a severe injury where not only was her hip dislocated, but required immediate surgery to fix and tear...
00:41:21
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ah fix a tear in the tendon. yeah I spent the last five days at the hospital with Jennifer and her kids, bringing them food, sitting in with doctors and taking notes, just being a support system.
00:41:31
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However, I've spent a lot of my own money during this time. And now Jennifer is asking me a lot of help, is asking me to a lot of help. This person didn't write well, but that's okay.
00:41:43
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With her daughter being released from the hospital soon, Jennifer has to make up all the money she lost by not going to work and somehow pay for a lawyer to sue the school and cover all those hospital expenses.
00:41:55
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She asked me to pay her entire rent for the month of May in addition to all that I've already spent and says it's only for this month. This is a huge ask of me and i would and would essentially take up my whole paycheck.
00:42:09
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She begs me for this kind of help. I feel so bad for her since she's so emotional and stressed out from this whole ordeal, but I feel like she's also being unfair by asking me to do so much.
00:42:21
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On a personal note, she hasn't said thank you once to anything that I've done. Again, I've let it slide due to the amount of information she's getting people. people that are tech talking to her and family that are consistently calling her for updates.
00:42:35
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But it does anger me slightly that she hasn't shown any gratitude and is now asking me for even more. Again, I don't mean to make this about myself, but I've got it. i But I've torn on if I should make this huge sacrifice and help Jennifer or if I feel like she's asking for too much now.
00:42:53
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What should I or she do? Yeah. and um so So, writer.
00:43:05
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um Jennifer can always ask. Okay? I believe in shooting your shot. Okay? That's a hell of a shot to shoot. But that don't mean she gonna sink it.
00:43:20
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Okay? if if it yeah it let him It's your whole paycheck. It's your whole paycheck, fam. She already given 30%. She already paying 30% on the rent. Yeah.
00:43:33
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It's, you got to tell you ain't got it. Because if you're agonizing about this, it means you don't have it. If it was an ask that she made and you got it, you wouldn't write a Reddit post about it.
00:43:45
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yeah If you're, it's, you said it would essentially take up your whole paycheck. And yeah you're asking me to do so much and it's too much. And is this, it's such a huge sacrifice.
00:43:59
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That's, these are all key indicators to me that you don't have it like that. And she's assuming that you do because of all that you do for her and that you don't ask for nothing in return, including paying 30% of her rent, groceries, picking the kids up, going, being at the hospital, all this stuff.
00:44:19
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She's assuming that you got it. This is going to be a turning point. if This could be a turning point in your friendship. When you tell her, I would, you know, I would do anything for you.
00:44:33
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I don't have that. I don't have your whole, I don't have the whole month. I could do what I've been doing and you could see if you could find somebody or a couple of people to help you come up with that other 70% or you can talk to your lease and office, let them know what the situation going on and see if they can make an exception or give you an extension, but I don't have it.
00:44:54
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And then watch her response because a lot of people keep you in their life for what you do for them and not for you.
00:45:06
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And so if she starts to make you feel like you're doing something ragging by protecting your own finances and your own household, then you know where you stand with that person.
00:45:18
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But if she says, friend, I understand. I just I thought I asked because I just. You always been here, so I thought I would ask, but I completely understand. Then, you know.
00:45:31
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did then you might even be more inclined to help her out. If she says, I completely understand. Thank you so much for all you've been doing. I know I haven't really gotten a chance because everything's been such a whirlwind. I haven't got a chance to say that.
00:45:43
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You know, if that's the turn the conversation takes, you might be more willing to say, okay, maybe I can kick in 50%. percent Right. But all of the language in here is telling me you ain't got that.
00:45:58
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And you need to tell her you don't have it. it is smell it It's hard. I know it's hard. This is your friend. You've been your longtime friend and you see she's struggling, but you don't want to put yourself in a position where you're struggling because you can't fill from an empty cup.
00:46:14
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and
00:46:17
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And it just is what it is. i ah i I like your sympathetic approach to this. you know I love the empathy and the sympathy that you are showing.
00:46:33
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Yeah. ah The poster and Jennifer. Yeah. I, on the other hand. Oh, boy. I'm not going to be like that. The hell you asked me to pay your whole damn rent for it? You out your mind?
00:46:47
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That's a hell of an ask. And I know you say you shoot your shot. No, there's just some things that you just don't ask for. And now maybe it's something wrong with me because I'm genuinely the person that doesn't ask for help when I need it. And that's a problem in and of itself. But this is asking for way too much. Fact of the matter is, why wouldn't she taking her ass to work?
00:47:05
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ah Her kid need to have surgery. The kid's in the hospital. I get it. But if your homegirl is sitting up there helping out, then take your ass to work while your homegirl is there. I can go pick up a couple hours on my shift or something like that.
00:47:20
Speaker
Go start a GoFundMe. Start an OnlyFans. Okay? Do something. Do something. Don't ask me for your whole rent. The audacity. if if If the person had phrased it a little differently and be like, hey, look,
00:47:34
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You know, things is a little tight. I got all this stuff going on. Can you, is there any way that you might be able to give me a little extra more on the rent than you normally would? If you can't, that's cool. I understand.
00:47:48
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But a little bit more. Not, can you take care of the whole month? Because this is the one point that you didn't bring up.
00:47:56
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That was specified by the poster. Mm-hmm. She said her friend said it would only be for this month. I don't believe that because she hired a lawyer to sue the school.
00:48:08
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First of all, it's a it's a um it's a case where it's like a car accident case. What do they call those? Car accident? No, no, no. Where you got the the malpractice, not malpractice lawsuits, but it's like ah like a personal a personal injury. Personal injury, yes.
00:48:28
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They take that. They don't take no money up front. They take it. They cut at the end when they win. Right. So what lawyer fees are you paying? That's first foremost. First and foremost. ah No, that's second.
00:48:39
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Because all I already pointed out how the hell she going to ask for the whole month. So that's second. Right. That's actually third. Because the second thing and that i pointed out was that she could have been taking her ass to work when a friend was there. yeah ah She might as well just move in with a friend.
00:48:54
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You pay 30% on the rent anyway. How much? How much? How much of a friend do you got to be when you're hurting yourself in the process? that That was my point. Like, you have to... You cannot overextend yourself from other people regardless of their situation. You can't put yourself in a bad situation to help them out of a bad situation.
00:49:18
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I'm not even talking about that. I'm talking about... When is it a time where you be selfish for yourself and say, hey, look, friend, I love you to death, but you are costing me money that I could be doing other things with.
00:49:40
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I could be living my life. You're hindering me living my life because at no point did she say that her friend was like, yeah, once I get on my feet with these other jobs, you won't even have to pay me the 30%. No, this is a built-in monthly expense to for your friend.
00:49:56
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And look, I'm all for helping people. I'm all for it. But for her not to even say thank you, that means that she feels like this help is just part of the friendship.
00:50:08
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That's why I said to clock her response to saying no. And it and and it it to me, it doesn't set it says, in addition to paying 30% of her rent, I also provide gross. Yes, I know it's above and beyond, but I care about the kids and I see Jennifer's truly struggle. So it doesn't sound like this is something Jennifer is asking for.
00:50:30
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It sounds like it's something that the author is offering, ah So you think that the author is has has been offering this and ne gave gent that gave Jennifer the idea like, can you just take care of all the rent since you're doing so much anyway? Yeah. that It makes me think that Jennifer thinks she's got it like that.
00:50:50
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You need to let her know that for and to pay her entire month of rent? I don't have that. What she said is just take up her whole paycheck. Yeah, i that means I don't have it because I have my own bills and expenses and things I have. I can't spend my entire paycheck and I'll get another one for two weeks.
00:51:10
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yeah Like, I can't go two weeks broke so that you can have your rent paid. I... I don't have it. And then Crocker responds.
00:51:22
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Yeah, but my thing was she had family calling to ask about the kid. Family need to be like, hey, go take a collection plate at the local church to help out with some of these bills.
00:51:33
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I just, I am just flabbergasted. Yes, I'm not saying that it wasn't. The fact that she put entire rent all in caps, a huge ask, again, all in caps,
00:51:45
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She also feels the same way you do. I also feel the same way you do. But I'm trying to look at it from Jennifer's perspective. You already giving me 30 percent of my rent every month. Can you cover the whole thing? Can you give me 30 percent?
00:51:59
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Can you give me the whole seven? Can you just for this one month? Like, you know, so I can see her train of thought. You already contributing to my rent. on rent.
00:52:10
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You already probably got my password to the rent portal and all that stuff. I think she might just be zelling her a little bit of money or something. Maybe, I don't know. Hold on. Another thing that bothers me about Jennifer, the reason why this ass, you know, I am really, I'm really like, I look at people and I'm like, you made decisions to get to this point. There were decisions that you made before you were at this point, right?
00:52:36
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Rent is due every month. Yes. Yes. it always. yeah okay but it a I don't know too many times it's been an exception. Even when it the first falls on a holiday, rent is do it is due. Rent is always due. yes So you going through this whole process knowing that rent is due and you not doing anything to help to try and Cut that problem off before you get to it.
00:53:04
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Right? Like just there are steps that people get to. When people ask me for help, I'm always like, well, how'd you get to this point? yeah Did you do this, this, this, this and this? there Well, I mean, sounds to me like you living dumb.
00:53:16
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Why should I have to pay for your dumb actions? Right. And also you can't pay your rent and you only miss five days of work.
00:53:30
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I don't know. was confused by that. It was only five days. It one business week.
00:53:39
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like One week. And you can't cover none of None of the rent. None of the rent. That's what I'm saying. That's the reason why I was like, you're being real empathetic and you're being real sympathetic to this whole situation.
00:53:50
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And i look at what I look at situations and I'm like, how did you get here? What dumbass decisions did you make to get to this point And why did you let it wait to get to this point right before asking me for help?
00:54:05
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Because if you had asked me for help five days ago, i would have been like, what are you doing to ah make sure that we can cut this off at the path? Right? This problem off of the path.
00:54:17
Speaker
Oh, well, i I haven't been able to go to work. Well, I'm here. You can leave. There's no reason for both of us to be here. right You can go. Well, I don't want to leave. Well, then...
00:54:28
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When the rent is due, that's on you. Because I'm giving you options here. yeah So that when people come to me with these type of problems, I'm like, look, and I know i could be Spock sometimes and be real logical when and devoid of of certain emotions.
00:54:43
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But when it comes to putting yourself in dumb situations, yeah that's jeopardizing other people. See, if this was... Yo, you messed up a situation. You live by yourself. Rent is due.
00:54:57
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You got to figure it out. Yeah. Okay. Well, I mean, that's you. But now you affected me and your kids because of your dumb decisions. And I just am not buying the whole... some Pay for the lawyer, first of all, to sue school.
00:55:13
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there The statute of limitations for that, you don't have to do that right now. Like, if you ain't got the money for the lawyer, you ain't got to do that right now. You got at least a year, two years. She looking for a payday. She looking payday.
00:55:25
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And then as far as the hospital expenses, which is real because this is America, this is a one a single mom with three young children who Clearly, she works different jobs to help support kids.
00:55:40
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So, there I don't see any reason why these kids aren't on Medicaid. So... She might be in a state where they make it real tough to get on Medicaid. No, single mom, three kids, and she's got a bunch of different jobs.
00:55:55
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That lets me know she probably does not have health insurance at these jobs. There's no reason these kids aren't on Medicaid. Oh, well. Does Medicaid cover all... Yes. And not only that...
00:56:07
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You can always apply for a lot of hospitals have reserves that they keep for charity, which is, you know, and they'll cover the cost or a majority of the cost for the hospital. So again, it's like, I see your point too of like, okay, well, what have you looked into as far as getting these hospitals and missing five days shouldn't mean you can't pay none your rent for that month.
00:56:35
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and only The only thing I could think of, she work at a restaurant and it was going to be some mega week where she was going to make her whole rent check. And if that's how she live in the first place, that's a problem. win in race yeah Yeah, that's a problem. in and of so Look, i I'm all for helping. This is going to come off as me just being like a hard ass. I'm all for helping people. I'm not knocking her friend for having that big heart and and helping her friend out.
00:56:58
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Yeah. But I see. I know this is just words on the paper. I see. Will you help me out all the time anyway? What's the big deal covering this?" And I also see a slippery slope where she says it's just one month.
00:57:11
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But some of these situations that's going on is not going to end immediately right now. Yes, the kid won't be in the hospital anymore, but it's not like the kid had to repair a tendon and had a dislocated hip.
00:57:23
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Like that kid is not going be able to move around really well for a while. So that means she's probably going have to be home, which means she probably ain't be able to go to work. right. that if If she's paying lawyer fees, that's not going in tomorrow.
00:57:35
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Right. These type of personal injury type things, lawsuits, take a minute. Yeah. Take a long minute. yeah So I see, I foresee, I look at how problems are presented to me and what could potentially be more problematic from From this one initial problem.
00:57:55
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Yeah. i I'm always looking That's why I think the author should say no. Even if she does have it, say no, just because you need to see what her response is going to be, what Jennifer's response is going to be to you telling her, no, I can't do that.
00:58:11
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Look, she need to do the opposite of what Floetry said. Floetry said, all you got to do is say yes. All you got to do is say no. Hell no. but On that note, Jay, what do you want to tell the people out here?
00:58:26
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Man, don't let these people use you. Sometimes tell people no just so you can see their response and know where you stand with them. I like that. Don't let these people use you.
00:58:37
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I use no all the time. That's the reason why people don't ask me too
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