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Emotional Maturity, Sibling Rivalry & Viral Reddit Stories
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After Hours Uncensored sneak peek: raw sibling banter, Reddit drama about a $30K inheritance vs. a destination wedding, emotional maturity vs. being an empath, and a weird health scare about swelling after a salty meal — plus our Patreon-only “dilly ding” clips and behind-the-scenes talk.
In this episode, Bruce Anthony and Jay Aundrea dive deep into family drama, emotional growth, and the viral stories lighting up the internet. From sneak peeks of their After Hours Uncensored show to a heated debate over a $30,000 wedding inheritance, nothing is off-limits. The siblings tackle tough topics like childhood trauma, empathy, and setting boundaries, all while keeping it real and relatable. Plus, they break down a wild Reddit post about family, money, and expectations—sparking a conversation you won’t want to miss. #YouTubePodcast #redditdrama #FamilyDrama #AfterHoursUncensored #unsolicitedperspectives
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Chapter
00:00 Welcome to Unsolicited Perspectives 🎙️🔥💥
00:46 After Hours Uncensored Sneak Peek 👀🔥
04:42 Getting Called Out: The Self-Centered Reality Check 😬💭
06:29 Emotional Maturity: Three Siblings, Three Different Styles 🧠💬
09:51 Childhood Trauma vs Being an Empath: The Truth 🔮😢
12:32 Predicting Outcomes: When You're Always Right 🎯🔍
15:22 Health Scare: When Your Feet Start Swelling 🦶⚠️
18:33 The Probiotic Soda That Cleans You Out 🥤💨
22:18 Learning to Accept Compliments & Self-Praise 🙏✨
24:51 The Show is GOOD: Why We're Ready to Pop Now 🚀🎬
27:48 Reddit Drama: Sister Demands $30K Inheritance for Wedding 💍💰
33:08 You Can't Just Drop Everything: Setting Boundaries 🚫👊
36:58 Destination Wedding on Someone Else's Dime? Hell No 🏝️❌
39:47 Stop Assuming You're the Main Character 🎭🙄
43:06 Sell the Classic Car: Make Your Own Sacrifices 🚗💸
45:19 If You Must Help: Make It a Loan with a Contract 📝⚖️
47:51 Thank You for Rocking With Us - Peace Out! ✌️🎉
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Transcript
Welcome and Introduction
00:00:00
Speaker
You're getting a sneak peek of our After Hours Uncensored show. We're going to get into it. Let's get it.
00:00:17
Speaker
Welcome. First of all, welcome. This is Unsolicited Perspectives. I'm your host, Bruce Anthony, here to lead the conversation in important events and topics that are shaping today's society. Join the conversation and follow us wherever you get your audio podcasts. Subscribe to YouTube channel for our video podcasts, YouTube exclusive content, and our YouTube membership.
00:00:36
Speaker
Rate, review, like, comment, share. Share with your friends, share with your family, hell, even share with your enemies.
Episode Preview and Plans
00:00:44
Speaker
On today's episode, I'm giving you two sneak peeks of our After Hours Uncensored show and another segment that's a Reddit post that me and my sister are going to dive into.
00:00:55
Speaker
But that's enough of the intro. Let's get to the show.
00:01:05
Speaker
All right, guys, I'm not being lazy. I'm not being lazy. We are producing original content. I just want to give everybody a heads up. In about a couple of weeks, my sister's going to be taking a break for six weeks, not filming, so there won't be a sibling happy hours, sort of.
00:01:22
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sort of She's got a lot of stuff going on with her final semester and graduating. She's not leaving the show. She's taking a brief break, but we are recording so much content to fill in for the fact that you guys won't get your full sibling happy hour show. So...
00:01:39
Speaker
There's going be a lot of interviews. I've been preparing for this. There's going a lot of interviews that's going to be posting. And then I'm going to do my show. And then the final segment will be a segment with me and my sister. So you guys still get a piece of my sister.
00:01:54
Speaker
Still be doing the after hours. still will be doing the YouTube exclusives. There's so many that we've recorded so far. So you're still going to get my sister in the content.
00:02:05
Speaker
But to make up for the fact that there's not going to be a sibling happy hours, I just want to stress our YouTube membership and Patreon channel has hundreds of episodes
Membership Benefits Discussion
00:02:19
Speaker
multiple hours. like I don't know how many hours. If it's 100 episodes, then maybe like 50 hours, at least 60, 70 hours of content of me and my sister just shooting a breeze. If you love Dilly Daddling, you will love the after hours uncensored and some of the content that we have behind the paywall how do you get to it you can go to our website at unsolicitedperspectives.com there's a link to join the patreon page i would recommend going to the youtube membership because you get everything from the patreon play page plus more there's some different stuff that i'm going to be adding on ah the youtube membership page after the first of the year
00:03:00
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going to be doing some live streaming, going to be doing Sunday Fun Days with Bruce. I'm going to be introducing a new like short show, 15 minute show where it goes messy. Bruce's messiness um as well as After Hours Uncensored. And then when you join membership, you get the behind the scenes of all the recordings. So when we record the main show, when we record the After Hours Uncensored, just the stuff that gets left on the cutting room floor.
00:03:26
Speaker
So you can join the Patreon or our YouTube membership. and get all of that content. So yes, my sister's gonna be gone for just a little while while she's finishing up her graduate program, but we still is pumping out a ton of content for you because we know that you love my sister. or I know how much you love my sister. My ass, you can take me to leave it, but my sister, y'all need to have her. So we're gonna make sure that y'all get that content. So these two excerpts, one is from an after hours,
00:03:58
Speaker
and that we filmed in March. The other one is from June. We're talking about any and everything. We're talking about trauma. We're talking about emotional connection. We're talking about dilly-daddling.
00:04:11
Speaker
It is all types of stuff. So here's the first clip of an After Hours was Uncensored that was filmed in March. parental discretion is advised from here on out for all of our shows, no matter if it's the main show, after hours uncensored, look, if you got little kids, we gonna be cussing, right? Not like it's an Eddie Murphy, Ross standup, but we gonna be cussing. So just be careful with your kids. But that's enough of me rambling on.
00:04:38
Speaker
Let's get to the clip.
Personal Growth and Storytelling
00:04:39
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Man, it's tough when you're doing work to improve upon yourself and then you get called out on the shit you're doing work on and you be like, fuck. Because it's like, it's never ending. It is never.
00:04:50
Speaker
Damn. And I don't know what so somebody called me out for being selfish. I actually got called out twice recently in the last month and a half of being like self-centered. And I was like, damn, that was self-centered. One was a particular situation where person person had been drinking like all their life they were like in the 60s 65 they've been drinking all their life and i was like and ain't got no issues good i should be fine and then the person was like m that's a way to think about it think about it by yourself about yourself and i was like damn that's
00:05:23
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I mean, I did mean it like that, but I didn't mean it like that. But yeah, damn, like, no, this person that I was particularly talking about drinks too fucking much. ah So it's not good to compare myself. But so like, oh, I'll be good. No, no. You shouldn't be worried about this person. And I was like, damn, that was the person threw it as an aside.
00:05:42
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Like, that's a real way to make it about yourself. And I was like, damn it. I do do that. And then you told me about the story time and I was watching something else and it was a comment that somebody was making on Instagram or something like that.
00:06:00
Speaker
When somebody is telling you a story and you tell a story as well, to relate, but that could come off as trying to make it about you. But it's a twofold. Like, you're not trying to make it. Sometimes people do make it about themselves. Sometimes you're just like, yeah, I've been through the same thing. But at the same time, it's like, you just need to just listen.
00:06:21
Speaker
But you don't want a person to feel alone. Like, that's a trick that's a tricky situation. yeah to be involved in. I deal with it. Like it's case by case, right? Like you just, you handle everything case by case, whatever the situation calls for. And you also think about your relationship with that person.
00:06:37
Speaker
But I listened to the person and I'm like, okay, is it, Is it right for me to insert myself here or should I just validate them? Like sometimes the validation doesn't have to come with my own story.
00:06:51
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It could also just be, yeah I hear you. You're absolutely right. That shouldn't have happened. that like You know, and that and that and that and let that be it and let them be centered in the conversation that they're trying to have with you about you.
00:07:07
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I mean, about them. You know what mean? So like. But you do realize, Jay, like you in particular are way more emotionally mature when dealing with other people. You still got your own fucking issues with yourself. But when dealing with. It's managed with my it's managed with my cuckoo meds.
00:07:25
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No, but I mean, like, I look at the three of us and how we deal with other people. Completely fucking different. It's three different ways of how we deal with other people.
00:07:38
Speaker
who I'll tell you sometimes, dang, you're being a real rough on that person. Then you'll say you're too lenient on that person. and then yeah Then our brother might be like, y'all are both too lenient. You need to cut everybody off.
00:07:48
Speaker
We'll be like, well, maybe you being a little too hard on somebody. It is so crazy how the three of us all and neither one of us really listen to each other. I listen to y'all. I i Do I internalize everything that y'all say? No.
00:08:05
Speaker
I'm not Pikachu's. but You know, like I'm Pikachu's. but But I definitely listen to you all. But like... It's, ah I think about it, you know, some people, like I know if I talk to you, you'll respond
Emotional Maturity and Trauma
00:08:22
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to me giving a similar story about my experience. Like that would validate you.
00:08:28
Speaker
Some other people, that won't validate them. They just want to vent. They just want to vent and have somebody hear it. it It doesn't have to be, you know what?
00:08:39
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Something like that happened to me. Okay, but nobody, let's circle back. yeah yeah That was a lesson I had to learn in the many dating relationships I've ever been they've been in. Like, I had to learn early, because, you know, I'm Mr. Fix-It.
00:08:55
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yeah And I know how to fix... ah ah For some strange reason, people could come to me with a scenario, and I'm like, this is how it's going to go. These are they're going to be the responses. you should do this i'm always right i remember my ex-wife she would come home and vent about stuff and i learned to just be like just sit there and listen and then every now and then she would look at me as i was listening get frustrated and be like just go ahead and give me the answer i know you know what the right answer is you're always right i was like no i'm just sitting here listening she's like no you're always fucking right just tell me what it is i was like are you
00:09:31
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Like, are you being condescending right now? She's like, no, you're always right. And I know you want to tell me what to do. i was like, i don't want to tell you what to do at all. I'm just listening and being supportive. What is your suggestion, Bruce?
00:09:42
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<unk> Since you're asking, this, this, this, and this is going to happen. And if you do this, this is going to happen. Sure enough, she would come back. You were right again. i was like, okay, I just, I don't understand how you couldn't see it, but...
00:09:55
Speaker
Emotions are evolved, right? Like when emotions are evolved, people can't predict the outcomes because can't predict my outcomes all the time. All the time when my emotions are evolved. Actually, I can. i just ignore them. Yeah, that's that's also a choice. Yeah, yeah I think it's, ah you know...
00:10:15
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my favorite My favorite phrase, childhood trauma, that makes you hyper aware of the emotions of others. A lot of people think they're empaths. They're not. ah You're just hyper aware of other people's emotions because you've always had to be.
00:10:27
Speaker
like being an empath better than being a... being a traumatic, a trauma victim. That just sounds better. I never called myself that, but I love it when are like, you're just an empath. I'm like, I'll take that over trauma victim.
00:10:40
Speaker
No, that's not what that is. It is a response to, it's a you've protected yourselves by always being aware of the feelings, emotions, and emotional state of other people.
00:10:58
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And that's how you make sure to protect yourself by always being aware of when you should be around and when you shouldn't. Right? But that doesn't automatically mean that you are able to predict how people are going to respond. because here's another thing about you and your meticulousness.
00:11:16
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You look at every case scenario All of them are flowing through. You know when Doctor Strange was looking ahead to see if they were going to win the fight against Thanos.
00:11:30
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best You are looking into the future sir and looking at all possible scenarios. And you're like, here's the most likely one. Because that's how the human brain works. like That's how we design...
00:11:43
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ah AI, right? It's to mimic the human brain by thinking of what's the best oh or the most likely possible next step or next answer or next word or next sentence. That's how the human brain works.
00:11:55
Speaker
What is the most likely outcome? Well, having heard about your issues at work or with your friend or whatever for some time now... I got a good grasp of what was possibly or probably going to happen. And here's how it's going to play out.
00:12:12
Speaker
Like, that's just being aware yeah as a as a neutral third party. Right. Because you're not in that specific bubble of like whatever turmoil that person is having. You're a neutral third party just observing it.
00:12:26
Speaker
So after hearing about it for a while, getting to know the temperaments of the people involved, and this is likely what's going to happen based on my experience of being hyper aware of people's emotional states.
00:12:39
Speaker
I'd rather be an empath. and m Can I just call my myself an empath? Sure. yeah let's say that I got a sixth sense. I got a third eye. And it's not because of fucking trauma. The crazy thing about it is Trauma, I guess, is all different. Like when you say trauma, when you say the word trauma and you say the word childhood trauma, I know certain generations don't get it. The younger generations get it.
00:13:06
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Yeah. But certain generations would be like, what was your trauma? Like, were you kidnapped and molested as a kid? Or were you abducted and raised in a farm and under the barn? Like, those are trauma.
00:13:18
Speaker
Yeah. Yeah, no, i just had young ass parents that didn't know how to be parents. Well, that's not trauma. i yeah OK, I didn't, you know, parse like that word trauma who to me is such a triggering word, because when you say trauma, trauma in ah in and of itself, I don't know what the exact definition is, but trauma is very heavy.
00:13:39
Speaker
Yeah. is if the word The word feels heavy. hey so So the the definition, I'm looking at it up here. The definition is going to be different in like in psychology.
00:13:55
Speaker
Like the DSM-5, I think it has like a different definition, but it's basically a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope, leading to long lasting negative effects on their emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical wellbeing.
00:14:16
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And so the thing of it is, is it's objective, right? Mm-hmm. It is is subjective based on just the person, based on on their environment, based on their culture.
00:14:26
Speaker
Like a lot of us, you know, being black, you know, we get whoopings, right? Like test that's ah a lot of us don't get. PTSD because we had whoopings. We actually talk about the stories of about them and they're just, we're like, remember that time you got so got your butt whooped because you missed bus? like yeah that's's that's truth That's a true story, ladies.
00:14:52
Speaker
And there's different ways that it can be experienced. It could be direct harm. It could be you witnessing harm. It could be like adverse circumstances like experiencing homelessness or financial distress. It could be loss. It could be threat. Like it could be a lot of different things. And it just depends on the person.
00:15:17
Speaker
This next clip is from an after hours that we filmed in June.
Health and Diet Insights
00:15:22
Speaker
Once again, it's us fully uncensored, fully talking nonsense.
00:15:28
Speaker
Fully thanking you for being just fans of the show. And for those people that do pay for the Patreon, especially thanking them. And also extending a hand out there for you guys to join our membership and our Patreon page. If you like our show, you're going to like more of that.
00:15:50
Speaker
So here's the second clip of the After Hours Uncensored. Oh, speaking of health stuff, something scared the hell out of me yesterday. Uh-oh. I don't eat stuff with, I hardly add salt to my food ever.
00:16:02
Speaker
I'll add spices. like i know The only time I would add salt to stuff, I added salt maybe every now and then to my eggs. But that's pretty much it.
00:16:13
Speaker
Yeah, I don't add salt at all. But yesterday we was at Dad's and he ordered from that seafood place that that we that he loves. yes And i was eating the food and I was like, okay, um i ate half of it because they pack it in so much. yeah ate half of it.
00:16:29
Speaker
And then by the end of the evening, and then also ate some Popeyes. some chicken poise and french fries. Because one my boys came over there was like, you ain't getting us no chicken box. I was like, no, I'm not getting you no chicken box. You a grown man. You ain't come over here. thought they had a better spread than this. No, I didn't get us no chicken box.
00:16:51
Speaker
So he ordered Popeyes and of course our cousin is like, I'm hungry again. I was like, you literally still have food that you ain't eat upstairs. right So I eat the Popeyes and my feet start being tingling and swelling.
00:17:06
Speaker
and And so I researched it and I was like, it could be gout, but it's not gout. No, it's the water retention. Yeah, the water retention. And I was like, because my body, I don't normally eat yeah that much salt. yeah And I was just like, yo, I never would have felt this before, but it was like, my feet really hurt.
00:17:24
Speaker
Yeah, yeah. like And they swelled up. I put my shoes, I had my shoes off because i I like to take the shoes off when I'm at dad's house. Yeah. i took I put the shoes back on and I was like, yo, I can barely fit in these shoes. My feet swell up. And then I got home. i was like, yo, my feet are swollen.
00:17:38
Speaker
Yeah. And I was like, I can't do this no more. This is dangerous. when i was When I was heavier and they're still in eating a lot of salt, even though I have high blood pressure, my The swelling was so bad, it would start at my feet and go all the way up to my knees. My entire leg lower leg would be swollen, and it would be so tight it was uncomfortable. Yeah, just get real tight. My feet still kind of tight, and then I still got leftovers, and i'm like, should I eat them? Just drink a bunch of water. You already do that. Well, Gatorade.
00:18:09
Speaker
No, because Gatorade has sodium in it, I believe. It does. Yeah. it Just a little bit. Just drink a bunch of water and filter all of that sodium out of your system. Well, that's probably to happen because I'm drinking champagne and Gatorade. So i probably just shouldn't. Then I don't know what to tell you.
00:18:23
Speaker
yeah I'm drinking a Celsius in my solo cup, so i i can't I can't tell you nothing. I got some school work to do after this, so I got to stay focused.
00:18:34
Speaker
There's this new, it's not an energy drink, but there's like this new, it's almost seltzer water. Mm-hmm. I forget what it's called. It's expensive. Like a can cost you $2.50. But it's probiotic. yeah that's awesome but it's a probiotic Oh, are you talking about Olipop?
00:18:49
Speaker
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And yeah, I got a can of grape soda Olipop in the thing. Yeah. i was like fridge right I was like, probiotic. This ain't no damn probiotic. No. It is. No, it is. It is.
00:18:59
Speaker
Clean you out real quick. And the thing is, you drink them and it tastes just like grape soda. Like it's delicious. They use, it's not, it's not grape drink. They actually use grape juice in the soda. So it's so tasty, but it's a probiotic.
00:19:17
Speaker
Yeah. Yes. Which is good. Well, the first one I had, my stomach was hurting. And I was like, am I about to get a stomach virus? Like, my sister, I don't want that shit. Let me say, that stomach blue was violent, but I lost all that holiday weight.
00:19:34
Speaker
And I'm back down to my purple face. That was funny. Yeah. That is funny. But yeah, no, that was, I drank it and I was like, look, they just need to do a reduction on the price and I'm going to stick with you. It is expensive. I have one can in the fridge right now, a single solitary can and and I'm saving it for when I eat something bad and I'm like, let me go and drink the solid pop.
00:20:00
Speaker
Well, so I mixed it. the The first time I drank it, i just drank it. Yeah. But then I mixed it with my morning juice. I just replaced what I normally would do to seltzer water with that. So I mixed the apple cider vinegar with a little bit of the caffeine liquid enhancer and then that.
00:20:17
Speaker
Yeah. And I was like... And I did it yesterday. Was it yesterday? think I did it yesterday. And even with all of that stuff that I ate yesterday, which is bad, that normally would upset my stomach, my stomach was not upset.
00:20:30
Speaker
So I'm thinking, i mean, it's you can get two for $5 at Harris Teeter. Well, Harris Teeter, i don't yeah honestly don't know why you shot there. It's so expensive. Because it's a block away.
00:20:42
Speaker
um That's the reason. And they don't have it they don't sell it at the Aldi. Harris Teeter is so expensive. But OK. a It's actually, when I compare it, the difference is a few cents per item.
00:20:56
Speaker
It's not like dollars. It adds up. It does add up, but if you... You see all the space where he just took a little sit up couple cents off the top? I win that Superman 3.
00:21:09
Speaker
It's not a new premise.
00:21:13
Speaker
It's not a new premise. No, not the that's funny is when Richard Pryor did that in Superman 3. Yeah. When we're Superman 3 is a Richard Pryor movie starring Superman. No, special guest Superman. Special guest Superman is a Richard Pryor movie.
00:21:26
Speaker
But they were like, he probably lay low. and he And he's in a bright red Corvette. Look, Superman 3 does not get his due for the comedy.
00:21:37
Speaker
That is one of Richard Pryor's greatest yeah comedy movies because he is hilarious. We tell the story about Superman and then he was right he was on the skis and he had little cape.
00:21:48
Speaker
It was not a cape, it was robe. Yeah. fell down the building and then he lay on the ground and just start whistling. That movie is hilarious. Yes. Yes. Top tier. All right. We're almost done with this. I think we got a couple more minutes. We want to tell these people out here that's listening to us paid and paid.
00:22:07
Speaker
Yeah. I don't know oh no
Listener Engagement and Feedback
00:22:10
Speaker
why. ah I appreciate it. Stop saying that before they stop doing it. No, no. I mean, I just, it's hard to like, get people my paper song no, see myself as a person. People want to pay to hear what I have to say. So I, I it immensely. And so I just gotta, you know, try to look at myself as somebody that I say something people actually want to hear it.
00:22:39
Speaker
But so that's okay. If y'all say so, Okay, so I'm going to say something. How often do I give myself praise? Never.
00:22:51
Speaker
and What is my normal response when somebody gives me praise? if usually It's usually something, what's the word I'm looking for? ah Deprecating.
00:23:01
Speaker
Yes. yeah boy My boy yet last night was saying, hey man, he was like, yeah, you're not like the other people that got bald heads. I don't see other people's like patchy and they got nicks all in their head. It's like, yours look real good.
00:23:15
Speaker
What do you think I said? Something lame. Something like, oh, well, you know, like I got, I do have some nicks and like I got scratches on my head. Like, automat that's, I don't know what that is about me. Trauma response.
00:23:28
Speaker
Probably. Everything goes back to trauma response. Everything. Every now and then. And you would think because I do all the editing that I would it I'd be watching this stuff as I'm editing it, but I'm not.
00:23:45
Speaker
yeah I'm just editing it. And you know, as an editor, you don't necessarily got to watch it yeah You got to know the breaks the point. yeah Every now and then, just because I want to hear what ads are planned for the audio podcast, ah I'll listen to it.
00:23:59
Speaker
And I was just be like, I'm just going listen to the intro part just to see what the ads are. And I'll start listening to it. Yeah, we're really fucking good at this. And the reason why I say that is because I listen to other podcasts. yeah I watch other podcast episodes of other shows and stuff. yeah And I'm just like...
00:24:16
Speaker
the The reason why they get traction is because they have name value. Yeah. But there's so much dead space and nonsense talk. Yeah. That, yeah, you're you're going to get a viral moment because these people do have a personality and there is talent.
00:24:31
Speaker
But the overall yeah product from beginning to end, it's not that great. Right. We from been beginning to end, and I can say this now. Yeah. Now we're getting there. Yeah.
00:24:43
Speaker
It's good. Yeah, it is. The content is really good. And so I was talking to dad yesterday. He was like, the show's good. go get It's going to pop. And I was like, I'm ready for it to pop now.
00:24:54
Speaker
Yeah. I'm glad it didn't pop previously. yes Because it was a shit show. But now it's a little bit more polished. We can still tighten up, but I actually don't want to be too polished because I think it takes away our creativity in in the moment. Right. Right.
00:25:09
Speaker
But now is the time. Now now we're ready. yeah We weren't ready now a year ago. We weren't ready six months ago. yeah We're ready now. And I think now the time is coming because the shit is good.
00:25:24
Speaker
yeah So, yes. Why are people paying for the Patreon? It's because... They love dilly-dallying. Yeah. That's almost one of people's favorite segments is dilly-dallying.
00:25:37
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There's no script. I'll put it in a rundown, ladies and gentlemen. You literally just write dilly-dallying. That's it. That's it. It's just that first 15, 20 minutes, something like that.
00:25:49
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It's just us checking in. yeah it's It's straight freestyle. yeah Every now and then I'll put something that kind of want to talk about in dilly-daddling, but for the most part it's that. And then after hours is nothing but dilly-daddling with all the cussing and shit.
00:26:04
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Yeah. Well, cussing and shit. I'm cussing and shit. And so, yes, people find us entertaining because if you go back, because I know you're like me, you don't really want to watch yourself. I do listen to us.
00:26:15
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And here's the thing. I do listen to the audio. Okay. Or Spotify. Like, you know, I'm in traffic or something. I'm like, let me hear. And I'm in there cracking up. Like, it's not our show.
00:26:26
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Like, it's not yeah us I'm hearing. I'm in there like, these two are funny. Who are they? I had somebody who listens to the show contact me the other day and say, I can't listen to it in the office because I'm sitting at my desk busting out laughing. yeah yeah And I was like, oh, really?
00:26:45
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and And then she said, she told me this and she was like, yeah, it was your show. And I was like, oh, wasn't a sibling happy hour? She was like, no, was your show. She was like, I always laugh at sibling happy hour.
00:26:57
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I was like, but your show, you said something and I spit out my drink and I had to cut it off. yeah And I was like, what the fuck did I say? And when I do the shows by myself, it is just me, ah camera and some lights there's no feedback yeah and so i'm like that was a shit show because what do i say after every show you always say that you and i was like good show you'd be like yeah it was all right it tris it gary show and i was like so you enjoy the shows i do by myself like yes the shows are good and i was like oh okay i was like okay no we got this yeah we got this i'm
00:27:42
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For this final segment, this was supposed to be ah YouTube exclusive, but it was such an in-depth conversation and it went so long. We literally just recorded this this past Sunday.
00:27:55
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And I was gonna save this for later, but I was like, this would be really good to put on as a segment for the show. And it's about us talking about it. Am I the jerk? Which if you watch the YouTube exclusives, you know, I get a lot of content from Reddit and we hear these people's stories and we give our critique and comments on it.
00:28:14
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This one was an interesting one about two siblings, inheritance and a wedding. So check this clip out. Tell me what you guys think in the comment section because this is real interesting. All right, Jay, here's another one about a wedding. Another Reddit post and another bridezilla. And this this one, you know, we go through these different situations on these Reddit posts where people with people in these weddings and the bridezilla. This one is a little bit different.
00:28:45
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Because there's some animosity between these two siblings. So the title of the Reddit post is, Am I a Jerk for Refusing to Give Up My Inheritance to Pay for My Sister's
Inheritance Dilemma Discussion
00:28:56
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Wedding?
00:28:56
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Now, but hold on now. Just from the title, Somebody's Inheritance. If I inherited money and you was getting and you was getting married, I would, you know, break you off a little bit. You know, you had, you know, you would volunteer it. I wouldn't ask.
00:29:13
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You know, I wouldn't assume either. You specifically wouldn't ask. I had to be like, hey, oh, Jay, why don't you take a little bit this money? how i I'm good. It's like we eating baloney. It's my wedding. So like I'm.
00:29:27
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i'm not planning on having a wedding that I can't pay for. Then I'm not having a wedding. Well, let me tell you how this story goes. All right. So here's the Reddit post. My dad passed away last year after a long illness.
00:29:40
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It was devastating. But honestly, the the last few years of his life were harder than the funeral itself. I, a 28-year-old female, was one who moved back home to take care of him. I handled doctor's appointments, late-night emergency bill late night emergencies bills, and basically ran the house when he couldn't anymore.
00:29:56
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It was exhausting, but I don't regret it. He and I got very close during that time. My sister, a 32-year-old female, on the other hand, lives out of the state. She came back twice in the last year of his life, once for Christmas and once for his birthday.
00:30:11
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I don't think she's a bad person, but she's definitely distanced herself from from the responsibility. Her excuse was that she had her own life and couldn't just drop everything. I understood at the time, but it still hurt.
00:30:24
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When dad passed, his will specifically left me a decent chunk of money, not millions, but enough that I could pay off my student loans and actually start saving for a house. It was clear in the will that his money was for me because of the sacrifices I made while caring for him.
00:30:41
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My sister received other things. He left her some jewelry and a classic car he had restored that she had always loved. But the majority of the liquid assets went to me. Fast forward to now.
00:30:52
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My sister got engaged in May and her fiance is nice enough, but they both have champagne tastes on a beer budget. The wedding they're planning is way out of their price range. Destination resort, design address, open bar, huge guest list.
00:31:06
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I assumed they were going into debt for it, which I thought, hey, that's their choice. but then about a month ago, my sister sat me down and said, I need your help. Dad would have wanted you to use some of your inheritance to make my wedding special.
00:31:20
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She wasn't asking for a small loan. She wanted me to hand over $30,000 to come to the venue and the catering. I told her no. I said, Dad left me that money for a reason, and I'm using it to build stability in my life, not blow it on a party.
00:31:36
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She immediately got defensive and accused me of being selfish and choosing money over family. Now, my mom has gotten in involved. She said, I know how you feel about that stuff.
00:31:48
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all right. She said, dad would have wanted me to share and that family comes first. I told her dad literally wrote a will that reflected his wishes. And if he wanted to fund my sister's wedding, he would have set aside money for that.
00:32:02
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Mom keeps saying I'm tearing the family apart. My sister has been telling relatives that I'm punishing her for not being around when dad was sick. which makes me feel sick to my stomach because it's kind of true.
00:32:14
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I am resentful, but it also feels unfair that a person who did all the work gets nothing and the one who barely showed up gets rewarded. Some cousins are on her side and and have texted me things like, it's just money, you'll make more, and your dad would have wanted her to have a special day.
00:32:32
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Others, thankfully, have said it's insane for for her to even ask. yeah Now my sister says that she won't invite me to the wedding at all. And my mom is begging me to reconsider for the sake of peace.
00:32:45
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But honestly, I can't see myself handing over $30,000 just so my sister can have a fancy Instagram wedding while I put my future on hold. Still, the guilt is eating at me.
00:32:57
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Am I really the jerk for refusing to share my inheritance with my sister to pay for her wedding? No, because you have your own life and you can't just drop everything. Period. Say it again for the people in the back who didn't want to hear you.
00:33:12
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You have your own life and you can't just drop everything because your sister is getting married. Here's the thing. Should you be resentful for your sister not helping while your dad was ill and prior to his passing?
00:33:28
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No, I think you honestly should let that go. Here's the reason why. You volunteered to come home and take care of him. Yes, it was hard for you. It was exhausting, but that was your choice.
00:33:42
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Okay. Your sister also made a choice.
00:33:49
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Like you can't hold your decision to volunteer to do this for your father because she didn't make the same decision.
00:34:00
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is not It's not fair for you to hold that against her. Okay. But I just find it interesting. First of all, and this is really going to moms because it's always the mom.
00:34:13
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Mind your business. Mind your business, first of all, okay? But I just love the fact that it's only when people want something from you that they want you to be a team player.
00:34:27
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Right? that is now Now you're choosing money over family. Family comes first. Family didn't come first. When you only showed up for for Christmas and dad's birthday.
00:34:43
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Now family comes first because you want something. Family didn't come first back then.
00:34:50
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The fact the matter is, if he wanted, sell that classic car. oh That'll get you to $30,000. Sell the jewelry. Sell the jewelry, sell the classic car. He did give you things.
00:35:03
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You want that $30,000? Sell the car. sell a car then you can have the money to cover the venue and the wedding. Don't act like you need my, you inherited things also. Just cause I inherited the cash doesn't mean you ain't get something also.
00:35:17
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right Use your stuff. yeah I'm just really tired of this double standard that people have of like, you will not be anywhere around when you're needed.
00:35:32
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But as soon as you need something, Everybody else has to drop it everything or they're selfish. Now y'all can go to hell with that. Like, no, you're not being the jerk.
00:35:44
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You do not. She got an inheritance also. She can use that. That is your money to set up you your own life. Like, do you understand the kind of wealth, generational wealth that you're going to be building by no longer having student loans and getting started one on having a home?
00:36:05
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Like you're really at 28, you are really setting yourself up for success. Do not let go of that because of someone else's selfishness. Hell no.
00:36:16
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And tell your mama to mind her business. And if it comes to it, anybody that got a problem, block them.
00:36:28
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Block them. If this were, we had one YouTube exclusive where a mom needed surgery or something like that. This was like a person needing something like, it oh, they get they're about to lose their home. Or...
00:36:42
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You know, maybe she got some nieces and nephews and it's like, hey, we need a little bit of money to help pay for this, you know, tuition to go to school or something like that. You know, that's something where I'd be like, OK, yeah, I could dig into my pocket.
00:36:54
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um This is a loan. Y'all gonna pay me back. But, yeah you know, I could dig into my pocket to help out. This is the pay for wedding. And there was a wedding that they started planning with the thought in mind that you were going to give them that thirty thousand dollars. Absolutely. That was one of the points I was about to make.
00:37:11
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Also, what the hell are they paying for? If the venue and the catering, the $30,000 for the venue and the caterer, what are they just paying for? The flowers, the cake? and No, catering, it takes care all the food. So the flowers and the dress, is that it? That might be provided by the venue.
00:37:28
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I mean, not the dress, not the dress, but like with the flowers. Yeah, you're right. What the hell did they Open bar. What are they paying for? Their flights to a destination wedding. Let's not forget destination wedding.
00:37:41
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So as I was reading this, couple of things stood out to me that pointed to what the dynamic of the family might be. I think she's daddy's little girl.
00:37:54
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he She said that they were kind of close, but that they grew closer during this. Yeah. Yeah. She, it seems like, because the mama was not involved in helping taking care of the dad. So the mama and dad, it seems like the mom and dad are no longer together.
00:38:10
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And there might have been So really need to stay out of it. Right. And there may have been a split. There may have been a split in the family. And it seems like the younger sister kind of, made sure to have this connection with both her parents, but gravitated maybe more to dad, or maybe just gravitated to dad because the dad was in need. but like Yeah. she she was couldn' He couldn't care for his household or for himself anymore.
00:38:34
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He needed help. She volunteered to do it. Right. yeah and And, you know, the older sister, maybe through the split of the mom and dad, favor mom. This happens when parents split, right? Like, even when you don't want to choose sides, there's a part of you that chooses ah a side over another, depending on how they split.
00:38:54
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It's just human nature and... It's emotions and you got to get past it and move on. But it seems like from this post that she was just like, look, I'm going to drop everything. take Dad is not doing well. Dad doesn't really have anything, at anybody to help take care of him I'm going to drop a few things.
00:39:13
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And she probably did it out of heart. She gained two things. She gained... she grained two things she gained closer she She grew closer with her dad during this time.
00:39:25
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And she got paid for it. yeah and And I'm sure that was not the intention, but she did. yeah And for her sister to come and be like, yo, know forget what dad wanted.
00:39:40
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Right.
00:39:43
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I need you to give me the money that dad gave you. Right. So that I can have this day. With a dude that she said, she was like, he's, you know, he's nice enough. But I mean, she didn't even know that particular about it.
00:39:58
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So it's like, people need to stop assuming that, what's the point I'm trying to make here? People need to stop assuming
00:40:11
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that they're the main character in everybody's life. Right. You're not. You're not. and and to And honestly, as the older sibling, to potentially deprive your sister of setting herself up well financially for the rest of her life, just so you can have a party, i feel like it's wild.
00:40:36
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And it really lets me know where her sister's head's at. Well, so this is the reason why it's wild to us, to us specifically, to me and you, the reason why it's ah wild to us because we would never do no shit like that to each other.
00:40:51
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No. But we're not all siblings are like us. We've seen it in our own family, our own extended family, that not all siblings are like us.
00:41:02
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So sometimes we have to take it out of, damn, I would never do that to my brother and sister. Because that's just not how I move. Sometimes you got to take it out of that and look at it in a larger context and be like, no, just because they siblings don't mean that they close.
00:41:15
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Yeah. You know? Yeah. and i And I don't know. You know, we can make inferences about, you know, maybe one sister is closer to one parent than the other, that, and third. I think it's probably more of like her sister, the older sister, the 32-year-old, she lives out of state. Maybe she couldn't, due to her job or her circumstances, pick up and move back home.
00:41:38
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Yep, true. Maybe since she clearly has champagne tastes on a beer budget, she could only afford to come back Christmas and his birthday. Right. And her distance and herself from responsibility. Look, caring for an ill and dying loved one. Tough.
00:41:55
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Is hard on every single level. It's hard physically, emotionally, mentally, psychologically, spiritually. It's hard on every level. And so not everybody.
00:42:08
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has the capacity to do it, right? And that's that's just a fact of life. And I don't think we should hold that against people if they just don't have the capacity to give that much.
00:42:22
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Maybe she gave what she could, okay? But the fact of the matter is her sister also received inheritance, right? She got jewelry and a whole ass car, fully restored classic car that will definitely give you more than that 30,000 that you were looking for.
00:42:43
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Sell it. If it's really that important to you, then you make some sacrifices. there you go I made my sacrifices and I got my reward.
00:42:54
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Now you make some sacrifices. To get your reward. To get your reward, which is this dumb ass wedding you want to have to this kind of okay dude. I'm going to assume that she love him. I'm going to assume that she love him. Okay.
00:43:10
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But both of y'all are delusional. Both of y'all are delusional. But like, if if she doesn't invite you to the wedding... Okay. Well, you just saved yourself $30,000. Actually more because you would have had to pay for your flight, hotel accommodations. You would have had to pay for your outfit. I'm sure you'd have to pay for your food and everything while you were there and all of that.
00:43:33
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So she just saved you a whole hell of a lot of money. Not just that. If she had money left over. Don't think her sister won't hit her up at any time for a loan. If you gave me $30,000, you can get me $1,500. Yeah.
00:43:52
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yeah Don't think it would be over. And it's just money you'll make more. who um and yeah privilege get out my face The privilege of certain people to think money grows on trees. Money don't grow on trees.
00:44:06
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And this is the idea that you'll make more. yeah If you're lucky and you're privileged, you can make more. But that doesn't mean that that makes up for what you lost. You just might be trying to recover what you already spent. You in the hole, trying to dig yourself out of hole. Who the fuck wants to be in the damn hole all the time?
00:44:24
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If the guilt is really eating you up, To the point where you are actually considering using this money for your sister's wedding. That's fine.
00:44:36
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But it's a loan. It's a loan. yeah you remember going get back She got to pay that back. and if she And get it in writing. Because if she don't, take her to court. Y'all stop. Stop playing.
00:44:48
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Just because. but Listen. do don't just boom do Just because it's family. Don't. make When money involved. Don't play. If you want to do it. I'm telling you not to do it. And don't go to that wedding either. Because these are people who clearly don't have your best interest at heart. They clearly don't care about you.
00:45:06
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So, but if you, if the guilt is eating you and I i understand that feeling, it's a loan and get it in writing. And both her and the okay dude have to sign it.
00:45:18
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They're both responsible for that promissory note. And if they don't pay you, take them to court and get that classic car. Ladies and gentlemen, that's cold.
00:45:30
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Ladies and gentlemen, what do you guys think? Is she a jerk for not loaning her sister $30,000 to help her pay for her wedding that her dad left her an inheritance? Go ahead and drop a comment down in the comment section and we gonna get at you. All right, ladies and gentlemen, I hope you enjoyed the show. I hope you enjoyed the sneak peeks to the After Hours Uncensored. Remember, those are just clips from the show.
00:45:49
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