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Tips and Tricks for Moving to a New City
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In this episode, we will explore the excitement and challenges of moving to a new city. From the excitement of discovering a new place to the difficulties of adjusting to a new environment, we will discuss the various emotions that come with this transition. We'll discuss topics such as:
- Finding a new community: how to meet new people and make friends in a new place.
- Adjusting to a new culture: how to cope with the culture shock that comes with moving to a new city.
- Discovering a new city: the importance of exploring and discovering all that a new city has to offer.
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Transcript
Introduction to Wild Facing Season 3
00:00:14
Speaker
So welcome to wild facing season three. So new soundtracks, new covers coming.
00:00:23
Speaker
everything new essentially and we're doing seasons so I'm still figuring out that but yeah I just wanted to say hello and welcome to the new video cast version so if you are on Spotify and YouTube you will be able to watch this but on other platforms you can easily just listen so it's totally fine but I'm in the new apartment so this is going to be like the studio essentially if you're on YouTube or video version you will see this
00:00:52
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I'm going to, like, start decorating it. I'm thinking about, like, neon sign over here. I don't know. Make some stuff. There's, like, a bar card behind it. Maybe I can offer people, like, some drinks. Yeah, I'm trying to get my guests, like, drunk. Anyway, so I'm working
Challenges of Moving to Miami
00:01:07
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on that. But today's episode is going to be about what is it really like moving to a new city? I do want to talk about, like, what is it like living in Miami from a New Yorker perspective. That's another story.
00:01:22
Speaker
I feel like I need to dive in a little more before I give that advice, but I have picked up a few things. What is it really like living in a new city? And this kind of applies to a lot of cities, honestly. It's not just one for all, and I feel like this would be very useful to talk about.
00:01:45
Speaker
so before that let me give you guys a little bit this is kind of like going to be like an update but let me guys let me give you guys a little bit like how it's been so i officially moved to this apartment like december i think 19th or something like i started we were doing a road trip so i got here about like 20th or 21st or something
00:02:10
Speaker
uh then it was like a very very long drive honestly we only stopped once well except i mean like overnight a couple times we stopped for drinks and everything and i expected like it was going to be like oh my god fun i don't know drive i assure you
00:02:28
Speaker
some parts were kind of I don't know like I honestly like what to say in a way that like if there is nothing else nothing to see you're not gonna see that scenic drive it's not Pacific Highway in California it really is not but it isn't it's okay drive you know and I also did some of it like at night so it was not bad at all so would recommend
Furnishing a New Apartment
00:02:51
Speaker
that afterwards the biggest challenge for me in this apartment was that like because this is my first apartment and I never had my own furniture before I mean I had a few things but never had like my own things like that big things like a couple things you know like my Roomba I don't know my TV like those kind of things but not like a couch or I don't know like a
00:03:17
Speaker
even my book I had a bad yeah but I left it in New York I got another one like there's a few things I did not have so it took like a while truly a while to get all these things together so like first couple weeks it was like there's no couch here there was nothing here even like there's still few things missing you guys see the walls are empty so yeah I'm still like working on that but
00:03:45
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It's essentially been a process, and here we are. I'm very excited, honestly, for this journey to see how it's going to be working out. Also, if you guys want to see my apartment hunting and also this empty apartment tour, I did post them on my blog channel, Merse Vlogs, so you can definitely check them out. I will link it in the video description, but you guys can also just Google it on YouTube. You can find it if you're on other podcast platforms.
00:04:15
Speaker
But let's get started on what is it really like going to a new city.
Finding Solace in a New City
00:04:21
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So the first thing I would say, and I feel like this is just like kind of given, doesn't matter what kind of person you are. This only applies though if you don't know anyone in the city. I only knew like one or two person and that wasn't like the people my age. That was like my dad's age. So I was like,
00:04:44
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I don't know if I should even count that honestly, so... I would say it does feel lonely at first. Like, this is at first, it's just because, like, you don't know people. And I have to be honest, I actually, like, don't necessarily have a problem with that, because it's just, like, it's a fresh start. It is something you're just starting out.
00:05:06
Speaker
You are figuring things out. You are trying to find your crowd. You are trying to understand what is happening around you. You're trying to see like, is this the place you want to go for? Like, is this the supermarket you want to go for? Is this like where you want to go for a workout? Like is this what you want to do? Like it's like those places, you know, you're figuring things out.
Avoiding Friendship Desperation
00:05:26
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So it's a, it's a process and you're not going to like make friends right away. And also one thing I would say is that like,
00:05:33
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Yes, you should make friends, you should connect with people, but also you don't have to be super desperate about it because not everyone you meet is going to be in your circle and not everyone you meet has best intentions. So you have to be careful with that because sometimes
00:05:52
Speaker
I don't think desperation ever brings anything good, I have to be honest. At least from my experience, I don't think being desperate ever just like, oh my god, brings something so good. It's always like desperation equals to bad mistakes, equals to mistakes. I mean, legit, it's equal to mistakes. It's not gonna be
00:06:17
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It's not going to be good. So I would avoid that.
Budgeting for Relocation
00:06:20
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Yes, you want to make friends, you want to meet people, but just take your time. And I'm going to give you guys a few tips in the next bullet points. You just have to put yourself out there. You have to explore places, figure out who you want to do. And also don't say that
00:06:41
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just like, you know, put yourself every place, like go to this place, this place, that place, like no. Because you have to consider like, this is what I learned. This is not the finest podcast, but moving is extremely costly. Like I knew this was going to be costly, just did not realize how expensive it was going to be. Because even if you have like,
00:07:10
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your own furniture and you're not buying anything, you're going to be paying for the company to bring it down here or wherever you're moving to, right? So regardless, it's going to cost money. So I'm just saying relocating is expensive. It can be a lot. So you won't be able to do everything you want it within the first month that you're moving because sometimes
00:07:32
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You can't be going out to bars, you can't be eating out all the time, you have to like, buy too much. Even if you are comfortable with your money, you still need to take into consideration how much money you're spending. Because I remember my first month here, because it just passed, I mean it was in January, end of January, I was like, oh my god, how much money did I spend?
00:07:52
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I was like I don't want to look at my card statement but I'm just saying like just be like cautious with that because don't worry like as long as you are putting yourself out there people are gonna like find you and you're gonna find your people so just like be open about it because there is it's so interesting that like there were times that I I wasn't even like trying to talk to anyone it just like it just happened
Making Friends in Everyday Places
00:08:23
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It's the way it works out sometimes like I feel like sometimes you're on the street or Sometimes you're just like I don't know walking There are times that people talk to you like it's so interesting how that might work out sometimes I know the venue say it like this. It sounds a bit strange, but I'm telling you it happens like there are times that like I was Like at the grocery store, I think
00:08:47
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Someone was like, oh, do you know about this brand? Is this good? I was like, yeah, like I think I have tried this one. It's like super random, right? But I'm just telling you, it's so interesting. I haven't heard from other people that like they met their boyfriend or they met their friend at a grocery store or this place. So I'm saying like, you never know who you're going to meet. So keep you as long as I feel like you have like a like a
00:09:13
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Do you have like an open mind? Like keep yourself open. Be like, just be open about it. Like open to meeting new people. And here are the ways that I'm gonna tell you how we can meet people. First, if you are religious, again, if you are, you don't have to do this. If you are a religious person, or you're a believing God and everything, and nothing wrong with that, you should join a church.
00:09:41
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there is a church next to me actually I consider joining I just now one of those Christians or people honestly nothing wrong with that again because don't come for me just saying that like I I'm one of those people who would go to church for me before the holidays Easter Christmas like again holidays I wouldn't go look
Social Opportunities in a New City
00:10:00
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on a regular basis but my sister would so I'm like if you're that kind of person you should join a church because
00:10:06
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my sister definitely met people through church and they're like she has met like pretty good people like i'm just saying like you never know who you might meet so church is definitely a great place to meet and but if you're not that kind of person just ignore this step next one would be definitely joining a gym
00:10:25
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It doesn't have to be expensive gym, whatever you can afford, whatever is in your budget. So I joined this gym. Well, I had this. It's the same gym that I have going in New York. But I started taking classes here and I met people that are there. So I actually.
00:10:41
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One of my neighbors is taking most of the class there so it's kind of worked out because he also lives in my building so we're taking classes together. So like it's very interesting how it worked out. So I'm saying like you would be surprised how many people you can meet. And I remember this even from New York when I moved back to New York after college.
00:11:01
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and I didn't know many people and at that time I was a part of like New York sports club and I was taking these dance classes at New York sports club and it was really cool like because I met a couple people from there and I think a couple of them I think they are still like friends I want to say like close friends but we are friends I mean I met people through there again don't always think that like people you're meeting and you're being like connected
00:11:29
Speaker
it's gonna be in your life forever. It's just like everyone has time because you have to remember you are your own character like main character and this is your story so you get to decide who you want to keep in your story so that's what I think about so I'm like yes you met someone you learned something from it or
00:11:49
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didn't, but just won't happen. You know, like they don't have to stay in your life, but I'm just saying it's a good way to meet people. Another option is this kind of controversial for some people, but I'm going to say it actually works. You should be on the apps. Even if you're not looking to like date at the moment, definitely consider like being on the dating apps because what I experienced so far, I mean, I'm only like on one app.
00:12:19
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that you can meet people that you might not necessarily be attracted to, but you could end up being friends.
00:12:26
Speaker
I didn't think of that in the beginning because New York, it has the different vibe a bit. I feel like it's more like hidden quit vibe. It's definitely hookups more than friends, but Miami is a different story. So, and I'm sure that there are other cities that are kind of like that too. That's the same thing I felt in LA too. Like you can definitely meet people
00:12:50
Speaker
and be friends with them. Cause that's what happened to me in LA too. Like I was only there like I think three weeks and I was on the apps and like I met a couple of people and we ended up being friends. Like nothing else happened, but I was good to like, I'm like, okay, that's good. You don't necessarily have that mindset. I mean, some people don't have that mindset when they're on dating apps, but you never know. So I'm just saying like just being on the apps sometimes opens that possibility. And I would recommend it honestly.
00:13:20
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Next thing I would recommend is joining sports. This is again, like it's up to some people. If you're not into that, it's totally fine. Some people are into being a part of the team. Like I always love being a part of the team. Like in college, high school, like I was always a part of something and I love that aspect of it of my life. I like being part of something. I don't know. Not like a cult. The way I'm saying it sounds like a cult.
00:13:48
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Not like that, just like it feels nice. I would say that. So definitely consider that. Like you can be a part of like some soccer team, volleyball team, I don't know, like whatever the team says out there. Or, or again, this costs money, but you can cut it out later too. Depends on your budget. You can be a part of a club.
00:14:10
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like tennis club or i don't know there are so many other clubs honestly like a golf club like you can't really meet cool people at these clubs you'll be surprised that's what i'm saying i feel like yes sometimes you're like oh my god this kind of waste of money or whatever you have to think about your future and think about who you want to meet and what kind of people you are you want to be associated with
Investing in New Experiences
00:14:37
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like it's going to be worth it because
00:14:42
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One thing I learned, maybe this applies to just business, but I feel like it also applies to relationships too or life. You have to invest. And the same thing applies in here. Like if you invest in yourself or invest in this kind of things, it will pay off. Your relationship will happen. Like relationships will occur or you will develop some sort of relationship with people or you will meet people. You're essentially investing it. You're essentially like buying into it.
00:15:11
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It might not pay off. It's risky. Investment is risky. But that's kind of what it is. You are investing in yourself. You're investing in your future. So you have to try it and see how it works out. And lastly, this is also a hit or miss, honestly. But it's also good to have a good time.
00:15:32
Speaker
Go out. Go out to clubs or bars, restaurants. I don't know how to sound on bars. Scratch that. Bars or clubs. It's good to go out because it's good to have a good time sometimes. You need that. You need to get that out of your system. Right? It's fun.
00:15:50
Speaker
but also you can meet some people too because you have to remember yes sometimes we tell ourselves that like oh my god what kind of like responsible person goes out or whatever actually a lot of people you'd be surprised like there are yes there are responsible people who don't got all the time
00:16:10
Speaker
but they're also people who goes out all the time and they have no job or anything, steady job. But I'm just saying, there are definitely people who goes out all the time, but you will see who you can meet. But I'm just saying, you can definitely meet cool people, like the people you want to be associated with. So definitely be careful the crowd that you want to be associated with, but you can definitely meet people. So I would say keep your options open, like 100% open.
00:16:37
Speaker
another thing i would say is to just like taking it all in you know because you're in this new phase of your life and you don't know what's going on you don't know what's going to happen yet
00:16:52
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don't like throw your opinions and don't like start judging immediately. Be like, I don't like this person. I don't see this. I don't like this anymore. Whatever. Because we are already, we are automatically going to make assumptions because of where we have lived before. Like in my case, it's like New York and like Miami, like different story, right? So definitely keep your options open, like keep your
00:17:20
Speaker
I feel like the best way to say it is like don't judge it yet because you don't know enough about this new place. I know I feel like as a human being we are like this kind of people that like we are like oh my god like I don't like this place and like I don't like this anymore like whatever but just because like you just got here you don't know enough about this place. Obviously you're going to have your own opinion, own thoughts about this place.
00:17:45
Speaker
But you don't know enough about it to judge it. You just don't. Just give yourself some time to process and understand what's going on. Listen to people. Listen to what people say. You're going to meet a lot of people when you first move to a new place.
00:18:04
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so listen what they say, listen their advice, listen what they say about this place that then you don't have to do you don't have to do exactly what they say because you know you're an adult you can make your own choices but there might be some truth to it so definitely just take it take everything with a grain of salt that's what i think about with every single advice that i ever get yes people might be influential they might know more than me but
00:18:34
Speaker
I feel like at the end of the day you sometimes also want to make your own decisions so like whatever they might be saying is like you're like I still want to do what I want to do and that's totally okay like I feel like it is okay to make mistakes it's okay to do what you want to do you are not someone's puppets to just do exactly what they say that you should do so
00:18:57
Speaker
it's okay but i just would say like in the beginning stage just like take it all in listen listen i feel like listening is huge sometimes i feel like people don't listen like this is what i do nowadays i'm just like yeah i don't know this place i don't know because people haven't been here have you been there i'm like super honest i'm like no i haven't like tell me all about it like what is this like what is it like it's cool like maybe i am annoying
00:19:22
Speaker
Maybe I ask too many questions Sometimes I just like ask but sometimes I'm just like yes I'm curious like tell me all about it like if you want to tell me it's cool if you don't want to tell me it's also cool but just like tell me I I would listen because I am in that phase because like I truly just don't know like I have visited Miami many times but I can't
00:19:42
Speaker
being a visitor is such a different experience than actually living so just saying that and i feel like that kind of concludes what i wanted to say here
00:19:55
Speaker
This is so far what I have gathered and I also want to make these episodes kind of short because it was the guess it's definitely going to be a lot longer and I'm also trying to balance it out to see how long I want to make these episodes because I think max was the guess I'm also gonna make it 30 30 minutes max that I will also make like maybe
00:20:16
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two parts you shall see but this whole episode I'm gonna keep it 20-25 minutes or even sometimes under 20 minutes so this is kind of wrapping it up right under 20 right 20 something so that's actually perfect but I just hope some of these were useful tips for anyone who wants to move to a new city because I know not just me a lot of people have been moving to new places Miami, South Carolina, Denver
00:20:46
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people moving from New York to California, people moving from California to New York, like everyone has been moving. So I feel like this is a very relatable topic to talk about. And I hope some of these tips would be helpful for anyone who's going through the same process. So I hope you guys liked this episode. If you do, please don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcast or very listen or watch this podcast. And I'll see you guys next week with another episode.