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The Gift of Community and Friendship
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In this episode, we’re talking about community and friendship in this season of life, and what it really looks like to do life together when schedules are full and energy is limited. We reflect on the beauty and challenge of staying connected, and how friendship often grows in the ordinary, everyday moments rather than big, planned gatherings.
We also talk about the power of initiating, what it looks like to take small, simple steps toward the people around you. Sometimes that means opening your home, inviting someone into your normal routine, or saying yes to a casual moment of connection instead of waiting for the “perfect” time.
We end by asking: what is one small step you can take toward community right now?
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Transcript
Introduction to 'That's a Win Podcast'
00:00:02
Speaker
Hey guys, Morgan and Rachel here. Welcome to That's a Win Podcast, where we share the highs and lows of motherhood, celebrating the wins along the way. Thanks for joining us on our journey. Talk soon.
Rachel's Return and Family Health Update
00:00:12
Speaker
Welcome back to another episode of That's a Win Podcast with your host, Morgan. And Rachel. Rachel returns. I'm back, ladies and gentlemen. i'm back. The stomach bug didn't keep us down long. you know Well, thankfully, Daniel and I didn't get it, but our children...
00:00:33
Speaker
They were down bad. That's the worst. But the the thing about it is you know it's going to be over soon. You're like, if I can just survive like 24 hours you know yeah by the time it's circled. Like if you're if you're down bad sick with it. Right. oh But those 24 hours are like so rough. yeah Yeah. Our oldest was up every hour that night that it happened. And i was like, I couldn't even really go to sleep because I knew, okay, it's In 45 minutes, we're probably going to be... yeah But, you know, you just... It's one of those things like when you're in the situation, you know it stinks, and but you just you just do it, right? It's just you get through it as best you can. Yeah. So...
00:01:15
Speaker
we are on the other side of that. Thankfully. I know. I know that's miserable, honestly, but I'm glad that y'all are feeling better. Yes.
Support During Tough Times
00:01:24
Speaker
Cole did a great job. stepped in, he stepped up. He did wonderful. So it's so funny. He's just like very introverted, very like chronically, like offline. Like he's just not like in that space. So Right. I was thankful that he stepped in, but i was to say, yeah, out of comfort zone, but he really, he stepped up to the challenge.
00:01:48
Speaker
Way to go. for the challenge. You know, that's day as Danny Goe. Oh, I was going to say, I don't know that
Music Preferences: Danny Goe vs. Blippi
00:01:54
Speaker
one. I bet Jude does. Oh yeah, for sure. That one, when that song was playing and no one knew what it was. He's like, it's the bravest night. I looked at my phone. was like, it literally is the bravest. I've never heard that one. He loves Danny Goe.
00:02:06
Speaker
danny That's one of those things where Cole's always like, why didn't I just think of this to like get on a video and do all these literally songs and whatnot. And daniel Daniel says the exact same thing. Millions of dollars. yeah And it all, like there probably are so many people out there who, who do it, yeah but it just, it takes that one to really yeah take off. Like that's so wild to me.
00:02:31
Speaker
Why they become popular. Yeah. Yeah. I would take that over Blippi, though. I'm just not a Blippi fan. No, I'm not a Blippi girly. Or, like, my kids don't watch them. Me neither. You're not just, like, like chilling, watching Blippi at night. Yeah, we don't do Blippi. We don't do Bluey, which I feel like is, like, everyone's always yeah you don't watch that. My kids have never watched that in their life. Mine haven't either, but all my friends are, like, all about Bluey. But they, I mean...
00:02:56
Speaker
here and there a couple, but they've never gotten super into it or yeah anything. Yeah. I know. I hear like, it's more like for the adults, like yeah adults really get lessons. I'm like, do I even really want to go down that? Like, do i want to start that? And yeah you know, so we don't right now, my girls love Gabby's dollhouse. i don't know if you've ever heard that. Never, never watched it. Um, it's actually so cute.
00:03:16
Speaker
It really is. So that's our go-to right now. Okay. Gabby's dollhouse. Yes. Let's check it out. Well,
Podcast Schedule and Instagram Updates
00:03:23
Speaker
yes. And then we did the episode with Cole and then we skipped a week. So we're going to start a new, a little housekeeping. We're going to start a new schedule of every other Wednesday we'll be releasing episodes. So yeah, I think that'd be good. And that way we can, um, we'll still have like little videos and whatnot and things will but we'll be posted on our Instagram. So follow us along there if you don't, but yes, episodes will drop every other Wednesday.
00:03:49
Speaker
Yeah. um Well, I guess we can just jump right into our wins if you're ready. Yes.
Solo Parenting Wins
00:03:55
Speaker
Now it's time for our wins of the week where we celebrate our victories.
00:04:02
Speaker
And um my win this week is, well, I guess, you know, I'm thinking about couple different things in my head right now. The one I was going to say that I was solo parenting on Saturday, like a weekend. I feel like that's harder when you're used to like having family time and whatnot. But Cole was gone for a couple different things. So...
00:04:24
Speaker
I had the kids. We went to the soccer. We did the team pictures. We did all that stuff. So it was good. It was fine. I feel like it was just kind of like a normal day. but i was going to say, I saw you Saturday and you were yeah killing the game. had some pep in my step. That's right. I like having stuff to do It's helpful to get out of the house and like have a plan for like what parts of the day you're doing something. Yeah.
00:04:48
Speaker
So it was good. It was fine. But I was like, you know what? That was the win. But then also was thinking about how the way the night went tonight. How are you even sitting here recording right now? I feel like that's a win and of itself. All the trials.
00:05:02
Speaker
You couldn't get out of your house. i know And then both of my kids were crying at bedtime. And then, yeah. It's real life. yes This is real life. So just showing up here tonight. That's Recording is a win. That's a good one. Yes, absolutely.
A Master's Themed Party Experience
00:05:15
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um Mine is...
00:05:18
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And if you've listened to, I think it might have been episode two, our second one with us coming back where we talked about me hosting Galentine's or whatnot. Yes. And how I have this like itch to do it. I love to have little theme parties, which is so funny because I don't know that I ever was like that before. Maybe I shouldn't have the people to do it with. I don't know. But um we, or me and my mom did help too, but we did a little master's themed party for the masters and had all the good stuff.
00:05:52
Speaker
The pimento cheese sandwiches, the egg salad sandwiches, and my absolute favorite, which i don't know if you've ever had peach ice cream before. I've never had it. No. It was my first time too. yeah I was like, i didn't know this was a thing. And I'm not like a huge peach girly. Like i don't really care about peach cobbler, like pie or anything like that. Um, so I was like a bit weary. I'm like, I'm going to like this.
00:06:13
Speaker
It was so good. The little, I made homemade ice cream sandwiches with the sugar cookie and the peach ice cream and the peach ice cream was just like,
00:06:25
Speaker
Not super flavorful, but it was just enough to get the little hint of the peach. So it wasn't anything like too overpowering, but it was literally the best thing I've ever eaten. Like, and I like to watch the game. I like to, the game. I like to watch the game. i like to watch the golfing match or whatever. What do you call it? The tournament? Yeah. There you The tournament as well. the race. The game. Sorry.
00:06:53
Speaker
The match. The match. No, that's tennis. Whatever. Anyways. Yes. But having the food to go along with yeah it also. And my parents came over and yeah. so my win is just getting to experience those foods. So fun. being with my family. and I think we're going to make it like an annual thing. Okay. I want to come next year. Absolutely. Yes. She didn't invite me guys. Gosh. What? Yes, I did.
00:07:17
Speaker
I know. I couldn't Come on, girl. Yeah, I know. But I know. But I think that'd be fun. And and um who doesn't love a good party with some good food, right? Literally. mean, it just makes everything better. it does. it absolutely does. It was amazing. And I'm dreaming about that cream So did you make the ice cream homemade? No. was like, wow, girl. um Yeah, no. And not the cookies either. I just bought some sugar cookies. Yeah. but um it's the tillamook oh yeah is that how you say it tillamook tillamook whatever that thing is um peach ice cream okay yeah i really like peaches too so i feel like i would love it like i love peach crumbler i love a good juicy ripe peach okay there you go yeah so you would i need to make one for you can you do it before next year 100 i'm gonna do it for you this summer okay yes okay perfect And I think I was so like, I never made like an ice cream sandwich before. So I didn't know like like if there was ways to like do it and like for the ice cream not to melt. yeah But like you have to get the ice cream a little bit melted to put it on the cookies first. Yeah. And then I just wrapped it in plastic wrap and then in the freezer and then you just let it sit out for a little bit before and it's, there we go. Perfection. Wow. That sounds delicious. So good. i definitely want to try that. i um I feel like I saw a bunch of people hosting master's parties. Yes. And like everyone's in their cute little green. I'm like, oh my gosh, that's adorable. Right.
00:08:40
Speaker
I know. Daniel's like, we're doing the annual thing. We're going to really good go all out. So, yeah. Love that. That's my win. That's so fun.
Friendships in Motherhood
00:08:49
Speaker
um Today, we are going to talk a little bit about community and friendship and how that affects kind of like your motherhood and your kids and like all of that. So, I think that a big part about...
00:09:03
Speaker
being a mom and being in your like thirties and whatnot is friendships and stuff. And sometimes that can be from the place of desiring that friendships, or it can be, you have those deep friendships and how that like impacts you and your life. And I, I think about, um, you know, what friendship looks like, I guess, in my life, like in this season of life. And I think that it looks a lot different than it did I don't know, three or four years ago, i think after, um, well, you were, you were moved away. my other really close friend, she didn't live here. And so I feel like I was in a season of just really desiring that deep friendship yeah and praying for that and really like feeling lonely, I guess. And i feel like just over the past several years, just in different, um,
00:10:00
Speaker
They got in different small groups and just things have changed, you know, and really grew some really great friendships. And I think that to be able to look back and be like, wow, like just a handful of years ago, i was really, you know, desiring that and seeking that.
00:10:14
Speaker
Because I think it has a really been impact on you and, you know, we can talk about that. later into. But I guess for me, when I think about that the past few years, I think a big part of that also was, which I know this isn't like reasonable for everybody to do, but when I quit my job after I had eaten and I stayed home, like it opened up just more time in your life throughout the week to hang out with other moms who are also stay at home moms and also looking for things to do. And you're, you know, meeting up and you're just like doing the everyday life things together. And, um, so I feel like that was like a big Kickstarter too, but I think friendship changes over the
Personal Friendship Reflections
00:10:54
Speaker
years. And that was always hard to me. Like,
00:10:58
Speaker
I don't know. I just always had my friend, like my friends, my, my two besties and my husband have been in my life for forever. Right. You know, like not everybody has that just like lifelong friendships. And that's not what every friendship that you have in your life that comes in is going to be like this lifelong. There's different seasons. Like we've been in it from the beginning, you know, like in baby, see it all the and Like the, the heart breaks, the breaking of the hearts, Breaking her the bed.
00:11:31
Speaker
Have we talked about that? I don't we've told that story, but I feel like we need to. Total side note, but. Morgan was broken.
00:11:42
Speaker
So many of my beds. You got it. You can take it away. There's so much lore here. Oh, I don't even know where to begin. we're the first one. like There's multiple of occurrences. Let's just do the purpose with this. morgy and i don't see her super late anymore at night but like when we would be in high school and so and maybe she still does with cole sometimes but she can get like the zoomies at night where she gets like a big cray cray and super hyper and stuff and again i don't know if you do that not really anymore i guess i'm just like tired running into the game but she ever so often would get wild y'all like just like so wild and crazy and um
00:12:28
Speaker
was this at your house house okay yes my parents like that's like yes yeah and she just like i don't even know what happened before but you were like being goofy and she just went from the floor and penciled onto my bed and just snapped in half i like jumped onto the bed like a like a dive and then yeah it just broke the bed oh that is a core memory that will live rent-free in my mind and for the rest of my life the amount of times when i've thought about that and it stops you in your tracks died laughing and then that wasn't the
00:13:05
Speaker
That wasn't the wasn't the end. That wasn't the only one. And I want to say I've broken someone else's bed. Like, I think this happened another occurrence now that it's coming to me. But with you when we came to visit you when you lived in South Carolina, your guest room.
00:13:22
Speaker
And we just had Jude at the time, and he was asleep. Like, we were all in that room. He was in a little pack and play. And we were laying there, Cole and I, and then the bed just...
00:13:33
Speaker
I did it again. I was like, I swear I didn't jump on it this time. And then you literally slept on it like that all night something. It was elevated. So literally our, our heads were up. So think about like, you know, those beds that are like remote control that you like intentionally lift them up. This not intentional.
00:13:50
Speaker
Oh my goodness. but i was like, well, I can't do anything. I just remember texting you. I think I just broke your bed. I know. I was like, And she didn't tell me that they ended up sleeping on it. I was like, I would have come in there and helped you. You know, it's so funny. We need a different bed. We still have that exact same bed. There's some sort of way it doesn't sit correctly on the frame or whatever. It happened. It happens to Daniel's parents. yeah It's happened to my mom before. So it's not just you, but you in beds, yeah you know.
00:14:15
Speaker
Maybe it was our bed. Maybe I did. Maybe I jumped onto our bed and then it like cracked. Something cracked here. Yeah. yeah That was definitely like our bed here. So I guess that's just fun for me to jump on beds. I don't know, but. Oh, that was hilarious. Oh my gosh. That is so funny. The best memory ever. But you're right. I think that.
00:14:33
Speaker
And I don't really like. when I've talked to people before about like us and what we have, they're like, that's like something from like a movie. Like that's not the everyday thing. You don't get it so often. And I'm so grateful for you and all that we've been through. I know it.
00:14:51
Speaker
I don't take it for granted. You know, we're lucky to have that lifelong For sure. Yeah. And yeah, so not everybody has that, right? And so friendship looks different in different seasons, but I guess like, what do you feel like in this season of your life?
Impact of Moving on Friendships
00:15:07
Speaker
What yeah that looks like? Yeah. So I think I'm in an interesting one. Um, as far as moving back here. Um, I think again, like you said, I had, and I have a ah handful of friends here, right. That are my close friends through,
00:15:22
Speaker
high school middle school, high school, even friends I met in college. um And i would consider them like my core friends. um But I think being away, it looked different, right? And now I've moved back. And while I still have my core, i before moving here, i was like, I also want to be really intentional about meeting new people as well. And that literally has been Daniel and I's prayer since we decided we were going to move here. I wanted to also meet people, people whether it was in a church or small group, whatever it may be. Um, even through, which I'll, I was talking, thinking about this too, like even meeting people through you and my, my core friends, like, you know, branching out and meeting new people as well through other friendships. But, um, I think,
00:16:13
Speaker
I'm in a season of like a blossoming, like, like learn or what's the word I want to say, like blossoming or blooming, like new friendships as well. Um, and since moving here and I've met some, a couple of girls from a small group that we joined and through Bible study. Um, so I think I'm like at a phase where I'm, I have my comfort and my core people, but also branching out and meeting new friends as well. And then of course now I'm like roles reverse. Like the few friends I had in Bluffton, uh, or in South Carolina, I, um,
00:16:54
Speaker
now I'm doing like with them what I did with like you all, right? Like the voice memos and the texting. So I'm still keeping up with them through technology, right? And now I flipped and I'm with you all and then also meeting new friends through church. So I think, yeah, that's where I'm at right now.
00:17:09
Speaker
It changes. And I feel like it takes time to develop those. friendships. You know, it takes like, I think like sometimes not years, like that sounds dramatic, but it really does like to like, yes you know, get deep with people. And right. Cause the first times you hang out, you're really not going to be like, all right here and here at all. It's so funny. The couple the girls that I have met through small group and Bible study, like we talk about how hard it really is to like meet friends when you're older, you know, you almost have to like be awkward and like, okay, who, does't Who wants to be my friend? You know, like, it's like, it's so hard to do. It is hard and to put yourself to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. And because I definitely can.
00:17:51
Speaker
i think that's why it was my prayer to be intentional, because I can get so comfortable in my little group and not that like what I have isn't wonderful. But um so, yeah, it can be hard because you're comfortable in what you know. yeah And yeah.
00:18:09
Speaker
i don't know. Yeah. Every, every season is, is different with friendships and whatnot. And I think that it is something about when you're older, it's almost like you just have to like cut straight to and be like, all right,
00:18:23
Speaker
let's, let's do this friendship. You know, it's like, somebody has got to be the first to just do the reaching out. And I was going to you know talk about that later, but just like initiating and not being worried about yes being weird or like coming off too strong. Cause it's like, everybody wants friendship, right? Like everybody has that desire. So I think that kind of getting over that hoop, you know, and then you have, you build that community around you of people who support you, you know, yeah during these Yeah. Just everyday life or big things or just, you know, all different types of things. Right.
00:18:56
Speaker
Yeah.
The Power of Community Support
00:18:57
Speaker
That's huge. Just putting yourself out there and really putting in the effort. Like who cares if you text them each time to hang out, you know, or whatever it may be. Cause I can do that too. Sometimes like, Oh, I don't want to seem like I'm being too much, yeah but it's like, you know what? Yeah.
00:19:13
Speaker
That's okay. Maybe, maybe that actually will benefit you yeah in the long run. Right. And you never know, like, I just remember like the first time after I, not the first time, but I ah wasn't working anymore.
00:19:28
Speaker
you know, Eden was a couple months old. Like I was like trying to figure out this whole stay at home mom thing and having a newborn and a toddler, you know, like navigating all these things. And for whatever reason, like it was a friend that I had and I had known for a little bit, but She invited me to the zoo and i like, we'll never forget that. Like I remember in the moment I was like so excited to go. Like I was just stepping into that world of like having plans during the week of like being with other moms and other kids and stuff. And, um, yeah, I just look back and I remember I was so excited. You're like, thank you for texting me. Yeah. And so everybody wants that. Yeah. That's what I was going to say. And you texting someone could be that person yeah someone else, like just waiting Yeah. I mean, we know life gets busy and whatnot, but it's the being intentional because it it is hard. It's hard to do that. But friendships, it's it's just so valuable, right? Like we're not meant to do this life alone. Yeah. And we got to have people in our corner. Yeah. Supporting us. What's like, what is, when have you felt, I guess, most supported by your friends since having kids?
00:20:37
Speaker
Yeah, that's a tough question. I think there's many ways. It could be as simple as a text. Like, don't nobody call me. I want i won't answer your phone call, but you can voice memo me or text me. I think just simple messages being checked in on. um i know after having both my kids, like, you know, the meal trains and those kind of things. Yeah. um And I think also just the solidarity of just knowing you're not alone in it yeah and the validation and within that.
00:21:09
Speaker
um Yeah. Yeah. you i Like somebody that can see you and like you can just share you know, all the struggles and they can encourage you and pray for you and see you. They know, you know, they know what you're, yeah you know, what you're going through and I think like, i don't know, there's so many times where just the little blessings that people give are huge, you know, or just like bringing you a meal when your family's sick. Like, oh, I'm going to drop this off. Like, I don't know, just the, the small, the things that seem really small really have a big impact. yeah And like, um, just, it feels lighter when you're doing life with other people. Mm-hmm. Just like somehow the mom math of like, okay, when it's just me and my kids versus when it's two moms and so there are three moms and six or eight eight kids, like how is it easier when you're like, you know, together? But it just is. it is. it is. Just sharing the load and sharing, like bringing that lightness to it. Absolutely.
00:22:06
Speaker
Absolutely. So grateful for that, truly. I mean, I always try to just be like, wow, this is such a gift, you know? Yeah. Yeah.
Teaching Children About Friendship
00:22:16
Speaker
Okay. Thinking about, you know, living life with other people and your kids kind of seeing that I was, I was trying to think like, what do our kids learn about from watching us like in friendship, you know? And I, I want, i growing up, I don't feel like we had very many like family friends or like we didn't like do a lot of things like with other families. Yeah. So I really do want to like maintain that, um,
00:22:46
Speaker
like I guess just our kids growing up seeing that like kind of, were little there's nothing wrong with that's how my, you know, upbringing was, but it's just like, I, I want that. Like I want to go on like the family, big family, like vacations and just like doing life with other people and opening up your home and dinner, game nights, yeah those little things. Yeah. Yeah. And I feel like they learn a lot too about like hospitality also and opening up your home for other people And just like having another trusted adult in their life that they yeah you know feel safe with who love them. you know Absolutely.
00:23:25
Speaker
like I think they learn how to be a friend by how they see us like dropping meals off for people. or like That's what I was about to say. They're seeing...
00:23:37
Speaker
that right in front of their eyes, like, oh, we do this, we do this yeah other people, you know, that's exactly what we're called, and what we're supposed to do, right, we're supposed to outpour that love that Jesus did for us, right, and yeah, like, they just see it all on display, you know, and it's like, there will be conflict in friendship, and they'll see, like, how you can handle conflict, and like, I don't know, learning what to prioritize, and um I think like overall when you're in a friendship when you're in community and friendships you're more supported so it's like you're showing up for them differently like that trickles down into how.
Creating a Community for Parents
00:24:14
Speaker
You show up for your kids. Yes. Yeah. I don't know. What do you think? Like other ways that they, that's basically what I was thinking too. A big thing i talked about, or I was thinking about, um, the conflict thing too. They see you come to a resolution if there is anything. Um, and yeah, I honestly, those are the exact same things that I was thinking about. I know. i know. It's just cool to think about like,
00:24:41
Speaker
I think the consist the consistency of... of um Like, it's not always going to be these big like deep emotional, like moments. You know what i mean? It's like just the consistency of doing life with other people. And it's like every, like every small group you have, isn't going to have like the most greatest flourishing conversation or every time you get together with a friend, it's not going to be, you're not going to be able to sit down and, you know, really pour out your hearts, you know, but it's like, it's in the mundane too. It's in the basic, simple moments. And just showing it up and over time, like that builds up, you know, You kind of are like making little deposits into this bank account every time you're like meeting with people yeah and growing that friendship. And it's like over time, you got a big old pile of cash sitting there, yeah a big reserve, you know? That's right. That's right. No, I totally agree.
00:25:41
Speaker
So I think also the other side of it is if someone is like in this season of like with little kids and it might feel overwhelming to be like, well, how I want this village that people talk about. I want this community that people talk about, you know, but what are like practical ways that, that we can initiate that or like try to get that if we don't maybe have it or, you know, what does that look like realistically? Yeah.
00:26:10
Speaker
Yeah. Without overwhelming yeah ourselves when you do have so much like right going on. Right. I am. It kind of goes along with what you're saying about just being simple things. But I think if you found like basic activities or hobby that you both liked, whether it was, like I said, like a game night or even just like walking or you find something that is so simple that you may both like. Yeah.
00:26:35
Speaker
And being consistent in it. And I think also when you said like to not be afraid to like reach out and say something right or text or give a call or whatnot. um I know there's also like.
00:26:50
Speaker
I guess on the other side of that, if that would be a, I guess that would be a thing to do if you already had the people, but I guess if you are so in search of that, I know there's probably so many like mom groups. I don't know of them off the bat in my head. Yeah. Um, there's stuff out there. Yeah. Whether it's little groups on Facebook or,
00:27:13
Speaker
Um, I know our scenario is we're involved in our church. So the small groups there, that's always a good way to get plugged in as well. Um, but yeah, I feel like if you find something like some sort of hobby or some little something small you like to do, like I said, like walking or, yeah and not being afraid to be rejected yeah or like yeah you know what i mean like just not fear of don't let the fear keep you from doing it yeah just do it initiate yes because like you said everybody wants yeah wants that yeah and to say on the other side too like sometimes you don't vibe with people right yeah it it doesn't click Yeah. But at least you would know that you try to put in the effort. That's what I think is just inviting someone into just your normal everyday yeah life, dinner, errands, you know, open your home up for like what you would be doing already, you know, yeah and just inviting people in and, and different people, I guess have different thresholds for like, I get so filled up when I'm with other people and I never would have thought of myself as an extrovert. Cause I feel like I'm a little bit more,
00:28:25
Speaker
reserved or like, yeah, like I'm not like the life of the party, super outgoing, but I do get filled up like when I'm with my friends and like Cole is more introverted. Like he gets filled up like being alone, you know? Yeah. And so I'm always like wanting to make all these plans and do all these things and that overwhelms him, you know? So it's like everybody has their different thresholds, I guess, for what,
00:28:46
Speaker
fills their cup or whatever. Yes, exactly. yeah yeah I feel like I'm a little bit of both. I do like my alone time yeah as well. So maybe like that helped, that fills me a little. And then I like being around people as well. I'm like, I don't know what I consider myself as, cause I don't,
00:29:04
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I wouldn't consider myself super extroverted. Would you? I feel like, but see, cause I, I coincide extroverted with like outgoing, like yeah talk to people, but that's not really what it means. Extrovert at first introvert is like, where do you get your energy from? Do your energy from other people? Where do you get your energy from being alone? Yeah. And so i don't know.
00:29:27
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Because I feel like you're a bit of a homebody. like i I love to be at home. If you have too much going on, you do get thrown off. Yep. it That is true. But you're outgoing and you can talk to anybody. Yeah.
00:29:38
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It's really confusing. So who am
Personality Traits and Social Interactions
00:29:40
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I? Okay. Introverted extrovert. But then I also like just stick with my comfort too. But if I'm in a conversation, if I'm around people, even that I don't know, I would talk.
00:29:50
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Yeah. You know what For sure. Probably overshare too much. Right. Oh, you remember what I did like last summer? was yeah like I would just be laughing. Feel the silence. And then I'll go home and replay it in my head and be like, okay, am I a freak or what?
00:30:04
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Oh, love a good a like drive home. Just rehashing everything you said. my goodness. That's literally like we we went to eat at um some Mexican place last week. And um afterwards Morgan was like, she texted me and she was like, I'm so sorry if I talked so much about myself and I was like, oh, shut up. I know. You're you're allowed to do that. I know. i just feel like I dominated the conversation. I don't know. Like I just, I just get to blabbing sometimes. I think that's part of too, like when you are around your kids all day and then you get around to other adults and you have the freedom to talk. I'm just like, I got so much to say. Word vomit. Here it all comes out. Literally. No, yeah.
00:30:41
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But yeah, starting small too and lowering your expectations of like, you don't have to go deep. So no initially, you know, it can be, it's going to be like the surface level when you're starting something new. 100%. And just know that like, it's worth it to put in that effort. It will, it will be worth it. And those conversations will happen organically. Yeah. The more you're consistent with catching up and texting or meeting up and doing XYZ, those things organically happen. Yeah. I love that. Wow.
00:31:11
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Okay. so in terms of, or in light of, I guess, like thinking about this topic, like challenge everybody listening and ourselves, like what is one small step you want to take towards community this week? So whether that's texting a friend, you know, inviting someone over, just be the one to initiate. And i think that it will bless you and it will bless that person too.
00:31:39
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Amen, sister.
Engaging Activities for Kids: Paint-by-Sticker Books
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All right. Well, now it's time for the bestie bite where we leave you with a little something to chew on for the week. And I'm bringing the bestie bite this week. And this is something that...
00:31:54
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my kids are loving, therefore i am loving, is those paint-by-sticker books. Have you seen those or done those? Yeah, I've you never done them, but I've seen them, yeah. So, I mean, it's such a... My kids love them, and they will spend, like, so much time sitting down. You know, it matches. There's part of a sticker, it has a letter on it, and then you have the picture, and you find the letter or number or whatever it is, and then it creates this little picture. And some of them... I ordered one, didn't realize it, but it had like 90, 90 stickers and they're like tiny. And I was like, okay, but Jude, he loved them and he did them and he got one for Easter. They got one for Easter and one of their Easter baskets from Cole's parents and got it on a Saturday night, I guess. And then Sunday morning when I went to get him out of the room, he had done every single picture in it. wow Like he just gets up and plays in his room before we get up and he had done all of them. How cool. I know. So, and I, and I was reminded about it because they, they got them those. And so i was like, this is a really good, yeah really good one.
00:32:58
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Yeah. And anytime you can find an activity that like your kids like to do, that's a win. I know. Truly. there Truly. That is a win right there. And both ages, both yeah gender. like for both Yes. It'll occupy them both. Yeah. I love that. Thanks so for sharing that. Y'all go get some sticker, sticker books, paint by sticker. You have to find the ones that like,
00:33:21
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it's, it's, there's like some offering ones that are good too, but the paint by sticker ones are, that's the best ones. The good ones. Yeah. Awesome. Love that. Yes.
00:33:32
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All right, y'all. Well, we missed you guys. Thank you for listening and we will catch y'all next time. Talk soon. Bye.
00:33:42
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