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Girls Trip, Hot Takes, and Failed Influencers
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Catch up with us this week on our girls trip, sharing our unfiltered opinions on some hotttt takes motherhood edition, and how we are failing on the "influencer" front. From matching family pajamas and birthday party favors to sleep training and screen time... nothing is off limits!
Laughs guaranteed per usual :)
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Transcript
Introduction to 'That's a Win'
00:00:02
Speaker
Hey guys Morgan and Rachel here. Welcome to That's a Win podcast, where we share the highs and lows of motherhood, celebrating the wins along the way. Thanks for joining us on our journey. Talk soon.
Weekend Trip to Bluffton
00:00:15
Speaker
Welcome back to another episode of That's the Wind Podcast with your hosts, Morgan. And Rachel. And we're fresh off our girls trip, girls weekend. I know. How fun was that? It was so fun. We um went back to Bluffton, South Carolina. Yes. Shout out. um We got to go to a mom's night out event for Abby Wedgworth, which we've talked about her on the podcast before, but somebody that we follow and like watch her, um not watch, but like, you know,
00:00:44
Speaker
engage with her content and stuff and she writes children's books she just came out with a book for moms and so they were throwing this event and Rachel was like hey do you want to go up there back to my old stomping grounds and so Yeah, it was fun. I know the story of how it all it transpired is so cool.
Sleepover Memories and New Hobbies
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Speaker
Like, so one of my friends there had reached out to me and was like, Hey, you should come to this mom's night out thing. And, you know, come back and see everybody. And you should, you should invite somebody. And I was like, well, of course i know. I know again it just the girl. d mean mean She's sitting right here to the right of me. um so I texted Morgan and was like hey do you want to go to this thing and she's like oh my goodness she's like I've been following her for like a couple years and she just really like uh inspires you as a mom and you love her content and and I'm over here like wait what like i was just like oh I thought I was just going to a mom's thing I didn't I didn't yeah know that the
00:01:46
Speaker
ins and outs of it, um which I'm so glad I do now. But I just think the way it just transpired is so cool and that it's someone that you had followed for a bit and we got to do that. And thank you to our hubbies for holding down the fort so we could do that.
00:02:02
Speaker
And yeah, what a blessing. i know All of it was so fun. know. It was fun. And just have like a weekend like... Like no responsibilities. Like we slept in until like 8.30 the first night or morning and we were like, oh my gosh. it was It was amazing. And it was like bringing us back to like our sleepover days. Like we we had two little twin beds, but we were in the same room. and It didn't break it, guys. Okay. Morgan did not break the bed. I was waiting for it. I don't know. Those beds are pretty rock solid. They were such a rock hard mattress. They were very, very hard.
00:02:39
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Um, but yeah, i feel like it, you know, we stayed up late, talked and, yeah you know, it just brought back some good memes. Yes. I think it was so much fun it was beautiful weather. Got to go to some, um, my tried and true places that you hadn't, I know you've had gone to some of them, but. A couple of you hadn't gone to. and Yeah.
00:03:03
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Seeing some more of my friends from there. It was just, it was a great weekend. It was a great weekend. And we discovered a new hobby that we're going to take out. Oh my goodness. Watercolor painting. Yes. um We were shopping around. I don't know what, was that Old Town Bluffton? Yeah. You know me. Yes, you do. I all the words right.
00:03:22
Speaker
And just these cute little shops. And there was these darling little shops. watercolor workbooks. don't know what you want to call it, but, yeah and it had like, it has like a tutorial, I guess, of like how to do it. And like you go through and you do all these different pictures. There's themed ones. I got the little fairy tale theme and they had the cutest little princesses and cottages and things like that, that I'm hoping like my vision is that I'll paint them. Hopefully they'll look okay. And then I can frame them, like put them in Eden's room. Like she would love like little princesses. Absolutely. They're the cutest little are like dainty little pictures. And like, I feel like anybody could do it. Yeah. Like, I mean, and I, she has like her names on it. It's Emily something. don't know. We'll have to get back. Yeah.
00:04:09
Speaker
Yeah. But, um, um, on the details of it, but I feel like anybody could do it, right? Like it even tells you what colors to mix to make the color it needs. It tells you like directions, like paint the body this, but leave that, you know, yeah it, it gives you all the directions. And, um, of course, like I had so many to choose from. Um, I mean, like you said, there were so many cool, but there was this one lonesome one just over in the corner on the side. wasn't even on the main table. How did you find it? No, I was on the hunt. Okay. I was over there looking at the statues of the birds. If you know, you know. um and there was a watercolor book with birds.
00:04:54
Speaker
And so, of course, I mean, it was just destiny. I had to do it. And it's so funny because my girls have looked through it and they're like, they name everything. They know all the birds in there. And I'm like, that'm incredible I'm teaching them right. Okay. There you are So they're into my bird loving stuff as well. But I am so excited to do that. I feel like that'll be such a nice little thing. Just sit on the deck or like, you know, and paint some watercolor. I mean, what?
00:05:23
Speaker
what could go wrong you know truly i and i mean i'm not gonna lie like when i do watercolor with my kids like mine turned out pretty good like my paw patrol not to like toot my own horn or anything but not me like comparing to everyone else's like mine's the best i'm like my okay five-year-old my three-year-old but you are pretty competitive yeah you know i know it comes out it comes out checks out checks out yes yes so i'm excited about that i feel like we had we just had fun like we posted a lot of
Influencing on Social Media
00:05:50
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stories. We like to a real live in our like influencer life. Like we really kept the people updated on where we're at. No, totally. And we don't usually do that. I know.
00:06:00
Speaker
Well, and speaking of influencers, if you want know the real true, like behind the curtain, I haven't even told you this yet, but what I got this email today. So we, you know, dibble dabbled in the little Amazon, like influencer link or whatever it is. like Oh yeah. Yeah. Yeah. yeah basic What, it's like we're deleting your account because... It said, you have 90 days. You have not made like an enough qualifying purchases... Goodbye....off your link or your account will be closed.
00:06:32
Speaker
So just keeping it real and transparent over we're trying our best but we're getting shot down yeah that's hilarious it's really not all rainbows and butterflies and it's hard it's it's hard out here okay it is a hard life we live so if you see us posting like a little links in the next few weeks and you'll know why this is why our account is about to be banned oh my gosh that's hilarious yeah so funny so funny oh man but yeah that was super fun and you're about to go on another trip i'm going on a trip we're just like the travelers i know this month of may i feel like it should be like a june or july like i don't know i feel like there's just so much yeah going on um and it's just made it go by so fast yes i know like i'm just like whoa
00:07:22
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But it's nice, too.
Travel Preparations and Family Moments
00:07:23
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It's fun. i just feel like I've probably done a million loads of laundry. Oh, my gosh. To, like, go on a trip, get home, laundry. Or unpack laundry, fold it all, pack it again. Like, I just feel like I'm on repeat. A cycle. Although, I mean, I do laundry anyways. But, don't know, it's just the act of, like, packing. Yes.
00:07:42
Speaker
That's a lot. I hate packing. i hate unpacking. Like... I know. It's just not fun. I know. Are you one of those people that, like, when you get home from a trip that you leap... What do you think? I know you leave it in the suitcase. But this time I didn't have a choice because I was like, oh, I'm going to bring this stuff. Yeah, you had to.
00:07:57
Speaker
To the beach because I'm about to go to the beach. Yeah. Two sleeps. um So I'm excited about that. But yeah, I was like, oh, I need this stuff like for this next trip. so I'm going to have to wash it. But you had to do it. Yeah.
00:08:10
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I'm like when I get home I like to do it unpack right away just to refresh I'm just sure that feels good oh for sure and I even which is probably doing too much work on my part but even if I didn't wear it I'm like in my head I'm like it's mixed with the dirty clothes so I literally just take it all and wash it but then I'm like time yes in a way yes pick out the clothes that are right just dump it in right exactly well let's move on to our wins of the week so now is a time where we share our win of the week and we celebrate our victories
00:08:48
Speaker
and my win this week, it's not really about me, but it was a sweet little moment that I feel like brought me just joy, made me smile. um Jude has been really in into golfing lately. He got a new set of clubs that was a hand-me-down from one of Cole's coworkers.
00:09:04
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And it was like basically the perfect size for him. So he's like carrying around his bag everywhere, got all his clubs and And he was like, I'm going to go play golf, Mom. And he went in the front yard. He took out these little square box toys. You know, like the stacking box where it's like bigger, yeah smaller thing. He took out of some of those and he made this golf course out there. He made four holes. He set up the little little boxes to be the holes.
00:09:30
Speaker
And he made them like, he was like, okay, this one you got to start on the dirt hill. And this one you got to go through the trees. Like he made it like complicated. Stop. And then he was going out there and just playing playing his golf of course, carrying his bag. He'd get out his club. He'd get closer and he'd look at it. and he And then he'd go back and get the putter when he got like close enough to put it in. I mean, it was just so stinging cute. How cute. And I went out there and I was watching him and he's said like, you can go back in, mom. Like, I got another round. Like, I'm doing another round.
00:09:56
Speaker
Stop. I was like, okay. cute. We're starting young here. But yeah. It was just so cute. It just made me smile. Following in the footsteps of dad. I know. I know. Didn't he play on the high school team? He did. Yeah. That was like his sport. I mean, I think he played baseball when he was younger, but golf was like his, his thing. Yeah. So I know. And they they played the other, they were playing the other night, like the course that Jude set up. And i was like, all right guys, like 10 minutes, we got to go in. And Cole's like, don't we really? He's like, can we just play a little more? He's like, this is like my dream come true. But really? Yeah. Yeah.
00:10:30
Speaker
oh i love that i know so that's just fun yes it's just sweet but just to grow up and watch them like he's very much like cole in this way like if we're watching golf then he wants to go play golf whatever if we're watching baseball then he wants to go play baseball and that's always how cole is and so it's just funny to see the little similarities already as yeah a younger age like that are just like innate in them so we'll be in our golf game this summer Yes.
00:10:57
Speaker
Man. I love that. That's so sweet.
Children's Growth and Milestones
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um Mine is also not about me, like something that happened to me, but a little moment that just, like a bittersweet moment, I would say. But my oldest daughter has now lost two of her baby teeth. I can't believe it. Truly. I mean, i am just like...
00:11:23
Speaker
It's so cool. But then you just are like hit with that reminder that like she's growing up yeah and like I literally can't stop it. Yeah. Right. But yeah.
00:11:34
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yeah So she lost one. And then what? Like maybe like a week later. so soon after. The second one came out. And the first one, it was hanging there and I could I barely moved it and it came out when we were at the beach. And then this next one, it was doing the same thing. And she got it out this time. So, um a lot of happy tears um and Tooth Fairy made an appearance. Okay, I going say Tooth Fairy, yes. Yes, yes, yes. Tooth Fairy made an appearance. It's so funny because,
00:12:08
Speaker
like she got, um, a $5 bill and the next morning she's like, I only got $1. You know, like doesn't know that like the dollars are different amounts. And I'm like, no baby, you got five. She's like, what? and butter Yeah. She's like, seriously, i only got $1.
00:12:28
Speaker
We got to work on the money amounts. Oh, my gosh. But she's thinking, oh, it's just I'm holding actual dollar. Physical dollar. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But, yeah, so just watching her grow up before my eyes, but also it's sad, but...
00:12:43
Speaker
a fun little like stage of life yeah too and I feel like that's something like you forget about as a mom that like they're gonna lose teeth yeah or I did at least and then I'm like you're hit with the reality okay here it comes literally and you can't stop it like it just is what it is so oh my gosh it's my win that's kind of a sad one but also cool because it is it is fun watching them like even yours like just grow up and kind of like go through those things and but then you're reminded that I know. They go so fast. And there's something about your first because it's like you're experiencing, you're both experiencing so many first time. Everything. Yes. Kindergarten, losing teeth, like walking, like all those things are the first time you're doing it And not that it's any less special the second time, but there is just something about your oldest when you're like, yes, you're doing it together, you know, like you're both like experiencing those firsts. yeah I know because I'm like, oh my goodness, am I handling it right? like I mean, the first one that she lost, ah she was crying. not a like She was like scared you know because she's like, what? It's falling out? I'm sure. it's like yeah They're not used to their teeth just coming out. Exactly. And then, you know of course, I make the thing like talking to her about like not swallowing it and then she was scared. And I'm like, Rachel, why did you why did you even say that? you know Just let it be. So i'm yeah I did better the second one. Yeah.
00:14:03
Speaker
But yes, we're experiencing the first yeah together. yeah But yeah, that's so sweet. I love that. um Speaking when you were talking about dollars that made me think about one time we I think it was Jude's birthday or i don't know, some kind of celebration where he was getting cards and stuff. So it was his birthday. But, um, he, or Christmas or something. And he, he opened up a card and he like, you know, looked through it, read through it. And then he handed it to Cole and goes, no dollars. There was no money. He's like, i I'm expecting the money. Come on. Who wants a plain card? Give me the gift card. Give me the money. Something. I'm like, man, they learn at a young age they do expect. Cause isn't that what we always think when we open a card? for sure. Where's the money? He just says it out loud. My mom always taught me.
00:14:53
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You read the card. Yes. Really take it in before looking what you get. So every time like there is money, even to this day, I'm 32 years old and I'm like looking at the money. Don't look at the money. Don't look at the money. Read the card.
00:15:07
Speaker
Yes. That's hilarious.
Family Traditions and Gift Giving
00:15:09
Speaker
All right. So today we are going to go through hot takes mom edition and we're going to see whether we agree or disagree with these and hopefully spark a little controversy a little.
00:15:20
Speaker
I'm nervous, honestly. okay we'll start. worst're still We will start easy. These are some that we came up with and that some that you guys submitted. So all right. Matching family pajamas are cringy.
00:15:34
Speaker
I disagree. i love matching jammies. Is that how it works? Yeah. I say I disagree agree Yeah. I mean, maybe it's overrated, but yeah i i any chance that I can match my girls, yes. I will have to say i disagree, but I also feel like it's weird when the guy has it. Oh, totally. me. Totally.
00:15:53
Speaker
It feels weird. yeah I'm just like, I don't really want to see like your husband in jammies. I don't know. You what mean? No, totally. Daniel has never matched with me and the girls. But me and my girlies, yes. Sorry, that takes me back to when we were just at the beach.
00:16:06
Speaker
We were, obviously, people watch at the beach. yeah Who doesn't? But there was this family where they were all matching the dad, the mom, and the baby. And you could just tell the dad just like...
00:16:16
Speaker
Hated his life. He was like moving his shirt and he did not be watching. See that? It was weird seeing the dad like in it. I know it was jammies, but that just made me think of matching. Yeah, that's funny. The dad was like not into You're like, we know what happened here. Yes, exactly. This was forced. Your wife bought that for and made you buy it. Yeah.
00:16:34
Speaker
Okay. Birthday party favors are overrated. i would say agree, but I'm always going to do them. But it's like, it's almost, you do it out of obligation of like,
00:16:47
Speaker
Why do I even... I don't know. It's like, feel like have to. and I'm like, you're gonna your kid the kid is going to go home and like throw all this stuff away anyways. And it's more junk. a waste. And sometimes it's like, as the mom, I'm like, do I really want to come home with like 18 little small trinkets? Right. I think I feel the same too.
00:17:03
Speaker
I... because it always is the most like cheap, like, yeah you know, and then it's also like, why are we giving gifts to people to come to you know what I mean? Like, why do they get to leave with the gift a gift? It ain't their birthday.
00:17:19
Speaker
Savage. You know what i mean? though I mean, I do it, but gosh, one time i was so, I went all out and I got, well, She only had like a couple, maybe like five okay friends come. So it wasn't. Yeah. But i I like ordered on Etsy like it was a princess theme. And each girl got like a different little um painting thing where they got to paint a little like princess something. And then I'm looking back like, why did I this?
00:17:46
Speaker
Well, again, i feel like with your first, you kind of do more. Yeah. Like, sorry. Parties and bigger things. But yeah. Sorry to my second. I know. Okay. Character backpacks are acceptable.
00:18:03
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I am never going to have my kids do it.
00:18:07
Speaker
But I don't hate on yeah kids that have them. But like mine will be wearing a character. Sorry. i yeah. If it is, like I'm thinking about. You don't care. She have a Minnie Mouse.
00:18:20
Speaker
Mickey Mouse. He Mickey Mouse. But they're like, what I was going to say was they're Minnie. Like they're very small. It's like a subtle print. He is a Minnie Mickey Mouse. Say that. Confusing. But yeah, it's kind of subtle. But no, I don't really care about that.
00:18:35
Speaker
I was going to say you would not care at all. Yeah. No, not for me. That's fine. But clothes, I'm fine with it. Yeah. When they're. you know I always thought that maybe I wouldn't have my kids dress in character clothes, but they make some cute character clothes nowadays. There are definitely like there's layers, right? There's levels like, okay, there's like the really bright, cringey ones, but then there's like the neutral and sets and stuff. There's really cute stuff. Yes. Okay.
00:19:07
Speaker
This one is just said elf on the shelf. So do we agree with it or disagree with it? I don't. I've never done it and I never will. Yeah. That sounds like so much work. Why would I single day? Yeah. Why would you start that? Then you have to keep up with the thing. I will never do that. Yeah.
00:19:23
Speaker
and But it's cool that people do it. Yeah. Which disclaimer. Yeah. any is Any of these things. These are just our opinions. Okay. Yes. This is true. um
Parenting Techniques and Challenges
00:19:33
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Okay. Sleep training is necessary.
00:19:35
Speaker
Agree or disagree. I think it probably depends. It depends on the child. Like my, I wouldn't even say I so sleep trained my girls. They just did it. They just slept well. yeah I mean, I followed like the taking care of babies, the schedule and stuff, but they just always slept well.
00:19:56
Speaker
But I think,
00:19:59
Speaker
It just depends on the situation and the child, right? Yes. I mean, I feel like for you, you did it like 12 different times. I sleep turned eating about 10 times. Yeah. Oh, man. So maybe you think it's overrated. I think it did help at some point, but I think at the end of the day,
00:20:17
Speaker
we want to feel like we are like in control and like helping and doing something, yeah you know, but sometimes your kid just really, yes, just, it's not a good sleeper yes and that's okay. Yes. And I think there was times when we did it when I'm like, okay, I'm really glad that we did this. I feel like we slightly did it with Jude, but he again was kind of an actual sleeper. So I'm sure it works and I'm sure it's good, but I don't think it's necessary. I think it just depends. Yeah.
00:20:44
Speaker
All right. No screen time should be allowed. No screen time yeah should be allowed. I don't care about screen time. Yeah. yeah So then I disagree. Yeah. I don't feel like it like makes my kids act better or worse. You know, some will be like, oh, my kids won't stop. Like if I say it's time to be done, they're like, okay. Yeah.
00:21:05
Speaker
So screen time, i don't. I don't take screen time away. yes i mean I feel like if you don't make it this huge thing, I don't know. We've gone through different phases of like what we've done. And sometimes we've been like, okay, I don't know, just different routines of it. But, um,
00:21:20
Speaker
It doesn't need to be this big ordeal. Like now I say, I don't care about that. They don't watch TV all day. We have specific times that we do. We don't watch it in the mornings. They can watch something at lunch and while we wait for Daniel to come home, if we're not outside or something. So, I mean, they watch it every day, but um I don't have the TV on 24 seven. Does that make sense? Yeah. i'm a Disclaimer again. so that They don't watch TV 24 seven. Right, right, right.
00:21:46
Speaker
Um, yeah. Again, i feel like in moderation and sometimes that will change like in the different seasons of what you do. Yes. All right. Boredom is overrated. Kids thrive with engagement.
00:21:57
Speaker
No, I disagree. Disagree. It's good for them to be bored and not have something to do all the time. Yeah. Because if they, ah no, no, they don't need to be doing something all the time. So many so many times, like, this has played out where they're whining about being bored or whining about something. and I'm like, you'll find something to do. And they're like, ugh, you know.
00:22:20
Speaker
And then in five minutes, they're outside. Dude's making some zipline, like... Tying together all these things. Golf courses. Golf courses. Yeah. So it's like they fight it at first. And I think that's probably normal. Just that initial like, I want something to do, you know. But then if they push through it and pass through it, then they come up with unique things and creativity.
00:22:41
Speaker
And then, of course, when I'm like boredom is where creativity starts to like, my mom. Mom, seriously. It is. It is true. That's why I love quiet time. Yeah.
00:22:53
Speaker
for my oldest because i feel like it's time for her to just be by herself and just it's so good for them to be creative and build magnet tiles and play pretend and look through but i don't know just yeah it's good for them i agree okay it's okay if your house looks lived in yes i agree oh yeah yeah yeah
00:23:17
Speaker
Sorry, I was replaying in my head. I'm like, wait, don't we live in our house? I guess I know like messy. It's okay if it looks. Okay. Okay. okay That's why I was, I think that's why I looked at you for so long. I was like, wait, I'm going back. yeah I'm going back on my answer. Yeah. I'm weird like that. I i like my house. I don't care if other people's are, but I do like for my house to be.
00:23:38
Speaker
That's why was giving you the stare down because I was like, wait, what? I know. Well, it's funny because I was listening to the question and it was weird. It was like going through my head and I was focused on the lived and And then I was like, what does that mean? I live in my house. what um So no, i retract my statement. For me personally, i love a clean, tidy house.
00:23:57
Speaker
So what does that look like to you? Like at the end of the day or are you cleaning it all throughout the day? I do stuff throughout the day. and But it's nothing that takes long. Okay. No. And my girls clean up their toys.
00:24:09
Speaker
I don't clean up their toys. Yeah. You know? Now, like my playroom, i can just shut the door up there. But like, I like the areas where we are the most. i I cannot stand clutter. I don't like things on my countertops. Nur, nur, nur. The places where you're going to see it messy, though, is like my bathroom. yeah The playroom.
00:24:30
Speaker
And that's probably everywhere. Wow. I mean, when you come to my house, does it look clean or does all the time. When you come to my house, let's flip the script here. I don't know why.
00:24:41
Speaker
I don't know if my mom was like that, but it's not like I'm cleaning all day long. i think it just stays yeah that way. That's, I'm really happy for you. That's amazing. But I don't judge people who don't. Well, clearly, because you're friends with me. Yeah, so you you my girl for life. We balance each other out.
00:24:58
Speaker
Hee hee. Hee hee. Okay, sibling fights shouldn't always be interrupted. Oh, like us chime in? Yeah, I think it's good for them to problem solve. Now, I don't always do the best at that because i I've actually... It's so funny you say that because I've been thinking about this lately because they have been kind of at each other. And I do always try to step in and solve it. And sometimes I make it worse. Like sometimes I don't need to address... I mean, if it's something serious, but if it's just like a little...
00:25:29
Speaker
side comment or something like I'm like Rachel why are you you're fueling it yeah sometimes they need to be left to figure it out themselves and come to a resolution I think I agree I agree and even it's like I don't have the energy to insert myself every single time yeah like it's like sometimes I'm like I'm protecting my own piece here and like gonna finish what I'm doing because it's I just can't, I can't jump in you know? And I'm also just like, I know how quickly they can bounce back too. It seems like they, it's so escalated one second and then two seconds later you're laughing, you know? So it's like, if you jump in all the time, you don't really like, again, you could prolong that. Yeah. You make it worse. You literally, or I do. So that, that is something I want to work on. Cause I do believe it's good to let them do. So I need to
00:26:16
Speaker
I think just the nature of your action, though. Yes. know, to, like, jump in and be like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Yes. But, um yeah, I think sometimes just, like, instead of being the referee of, like, in it, we can just... Trying to get them also to, like, talk to each other about why they're upset, you know? And, like, instead of being like, don't do this or don't do that, be like, what did you think about this? And we're going to listen while she talks, and then we're going to give you a turn to say your side and blah, blah, blah. So...
00:26:45
Speaker
I don't know. Can't do that every time, but. Eventually, hopefully it'll click, you know. So basically, step out of it is yeah what we're saying. Yes. Okay, bribery and incentives sometimes work.
00:26:58
Speaker
I think yes. Yes. Yes, it does. I do bribe my kids sometimes. mean, I'm sorry. I never, I always said I will never bribe my kids. I will never. But I'm trying to think of like and instances where, i mean, I don't do it a lot, but sometimes if I'm like trying to get a family picture, I'm like, okay, Eden, give you candy. Yeah. you do this. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She is just stubborn about stuff. Right. There's things that work. Yeah. I'm trying to think, I don't know that I really bribe them.
00:27:26
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Do I? I don't think so. I don't think I really do. Yeah. But you're just such an amazing mom that they just do everything you say. I threaten them. If you don't do this, then this will happen. No. um No, I don't feel like I bribe. Yeah.
00:27:41
Speaker
Like if you give, do this, I'll give you. Yeah. I don't know. But I'm not against it. Yeah. I mean, I definitely am not like proud of it, but I do it here and there. You're not alone, I'm sure. Well, I, now that I said that, I feel like it's going to come back around and bite me and I'm going to be texting you later. Like I just had to do a bribe.
00:28:00
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I mean, obviously that's not going to be a, like a sustainable thing you can do all the time. yeah But like here and there, like you said, for a picture or something, who really cares? That's literally all I have to say to her. And she'll be like, smile. I'm like, oh my gosh. And some, I wonder sometimes do they like forget or does she always remember? Oh, she forgets. So like sometimes I don't even have to, yeah, the bribe doesn't even, sorry, my voice just like escalated. I got really excited there.
00:28:23
Speaker
Okay. Kids snacks are out of control. Expensive.
00:28:28
Speaker
Yes. I think yes. But they get eaten. So yes to me, I feel like it's worth it. Yeah. I like doing the whole homemade because I know that it's like, usually I have the most stuff or I already have the things on hand and it's cheaper and blah, blah, blah, better ingredients. But then other times it's like, it's just so convenient.
00:28:45
Speaker
But it does end up quick if you're like going to Costco like me the other day. I'm like, oh my goodness. Yeah, you're like, hold up now. How does it? And they have so many like good, healthier option type snacks for kids, I feel like. Yeah. Yeah.
00:28:59
Speaker
But yeah, you've always, you've been good at making the homemade stuff. That's something i haven't fully dibble-dabbled in. Only the protein balls. But yeah, you've been good with that.
00:29:10
Speaker
I like the convenience though too sometimes. Okay, Instagram motherhood can make normal life feel boring.
Social Media's Impact on Motherhood
00:29:19
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I agree. don't get it. So like when you're watching other people like, oh, it makes you feel like your life is boring when what you're seeing the depiction of motherhood on like Instagram or something. Okay.
00:29:30
Speaker
I think, well, i don't know about boring, but I think that. it can seem like unrealistic sometimes, I guess, what you see like other people. Yeah. And you're like, oh, didn't, I don't know, like vacations and like people traveling with their kids all the time or like things like that. It's like, oh, we just kind of are at our house. But then at the same time, it's like, I'm kind of content with what we do. So yeah, I don't really. And if you just know, like what they're putting on there is not.
00:29:57
Speaker
I know they're at on a vacation, but it's all just amplified and more. You're always like not struggling with that. I feel like the comparison thing. I don't know why definitely I don't know. Maybe I have the other side of it though and I'm too prideful. do You know what i mean? Because actually when we were talking about that yeah on that this weekend or whatever, and you we were talking about the comparison thing, which I know that that's been something you've struggled with for Ever? Yeah. I was going to say a while, forever. And you were like, you don't really struggle with that. I'm like, no, I really don't. And then afterwards I was thinking, what's the other side of that? Because there's something else that's bad. So maybe, maybe I'm, is that the other, that would be the other side of it, right? Yeah.
00:30:38
Speaker
To think what, that like your way is the best way kind of thing? Maybe. Or that I just like don't care and I just... And I think that's not necessarily a bad thing. feel like that's a good thing. I don't know. I mean, we all have our things, but yeah that just might not be one of yours. Yeah.
00:30:52
Speaker
i yeah Yeah. Looking at stuff on there, and that doesn't make me feel that way. I'm just like, cool, they did this. Yeah. Now, like they may like influence me to like go buy their swimsuit or something. So maybe I care that way, but not in a sense where I'm comparing.
00:31:08
Speaker
You don't feel like you're lacking because of something that other people doing. No, no, i don't. I love that. All right. Let's end on this one. Hot take. Not every moment of motherhood needs to be cherished.
00:31:23
Speaker
Hmm. I'm going to say disagree. Okay. Okay. I think you should cherish it all. The good and the bad. Yeah, that's true. Because the hard parts are are meant to be... don't know what I'm trying to say. like You learn from them and they should be cherished still, I think.
00:31:49
Speaker
That's true. I'd like to remember all of it and cherish all of it because I think it's all a part and it happens for a reason and the good and the bad. I like that. I think I initially was thinking...
00:32:01
Speaker
agree because I was thinking well I'm not gonna like want you know there's certain things that are really hard it's like I'm not necessarily gonna like miss this and want to come back to it but I like that perspective of even if it's hard you can cherish it still and it doesn't have to be just like everything's good everything's good those are the only moments you know I'm grateful for but the hard moments are what is growing us and challenging us yes and you can go back and be like hey you remember that if you cherish if you just yeah you know I feel like there's good to both sides of okay just changed my mind there okay well now it's time for our bestie bite where we leave you with a little something to chew on and this week i have a little hack that i've been doing and it kind of goes back to our screen time tv time thing that we were talking about But I've noticed that it's something I've been doing lately and it's been helping. But so if I'm going to, I don't feel like we watch TV every day. It just kind of is random. But if I know that I'm going to like say yes to like them put a show on or something, I'll just say like, okay, well, before you do that, you need to clean up your room or like today Jude did the dishes and even like started a load of laundry, which obviously I helped her do. But you know yeah still getting in yes but and they're so much more motivated than to do those things quickly and clean up and whatnot because they want to watch something so i'm like yeah i know that sounds like duh but it's something that i've noticed that's been in a way helpful to be like okay well before we do that let's do x y and z and it goes so much quicker they don't put up a fuss about like stuff
00:33:37
Speaker
Yeah. So a little like TV time. Yes. Earning their screen time hack. I don't know. And they're doing something like practical and productive too. It's not like, you know what mean? Yes. Something you would probably want them to do anyway. Yes. It just adds a little. It just helps. Yeah. It brings those bribes Yeah. I know. Crap. I was, when I was saying that, I was like, dang it. Is that, ah is that like a bribe?
00:33:59
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But I'm not saying like, no if you don't do this, then you know, but I'm like, I was just joking. Totally. No, I thought the same exact thought. I was like, Oh, I'm going to get canceled over here. But yeah, it's been helpful for me. It makes it like just yes easier. And something gets done too.
00:34:15
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It's like a chore. I know. She's been like doing the dishes now. And I'm like, this is a new stage of like, yes. Does he do a good job? Yeah, he does. He does pretty good. There's some things that I've noticed that like, you know, it's harder for him to like reach up certain places and you know, he's learning where everything goes and all of that. But I'm like, okay. I'm like, it's really nice when you have people like helping out too. And that they want to also, yeah you know, it just, well, he doesn't always want to, but yeah. But the times he does, you cherish those. I cherish the good you cherish them. That's one thing about your kids are so independent and that's a testament to you, you know, teaching them that and doing that.
00:34:53
Speaker
And bribing them. Hey, you, you, take whatever it takes is just done. Okay. Oh, well. All right. Well, thank you guys for listening.
00:35:04
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Love to be back with you this week and we will catch you next time. Bye. Bye.
00:35:12
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Thanks so much for listening to another episode. Remember everyone is worth celebrating. Talk soon.