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Speaker: Do you know what it's like when you wanna go cry But you can't let out all the feelings inside So you lay in your bed under blankets And how do you let people know that you're feeling just fine And your pillow gets stained with the tears that you cried And you're praying nobody comes in And that's why the redness is already taking your rise I wish you could hide it but there's no disguise in it Cry, let it all out If I had to be completely honest with myself I'm tired
Speaker: I'm tired. It's not a physical tired. It's a very, you know, it's in the soul. It's like I'm fucking tired. I'm tired of going through this shit. I'm tired of... tired of everything not working out. And I'm just like, I fucking tried. And it's a... I can't not lie and say, it's not a, it's not like you don't want to live kind of thing. It's more of a, if God were sitting across from me right now.
Speaker: there would be a part of me that would just want to go up to him and say, listen, I'm done. I'm done. I'm not. I can't do this anymore. I'm just, I'm fucking physically and mentally spent and I'm done. And it's a, it's a silent battle too. Um, and it's a, it's a battle kind of hide from the world and from the people we love and the people we want to love or want to love us because
Speaker: Who wants a broken person? You know, it's like, if they knew, like if the people in your life knew how broken we were, like, would they stay? And then that raises the question of like, how do I fix this? Can you fix this? I don't know. I can't hide myself
Speaker: I don't expect you to understand I just hope I can't explain What it's like to be a man It's a lonely room And they don't care about what you know It's not about how you feel But what you provide inside that home
Speaker: you can't always live up to expectations you try to please everybody while you struggle so you fake it and end up out of balance compromising situations as a good man
Speaker: everything he could man you might find yourself feeling all alone inside a house you built that you don't recognize as home and that's what my daddy told me and I'll tell my son the same now that I'm older I relate and I actually feel his pain he never cried he might have lied but he did not complain and he said son one day you have to do the same I'll get emotional when I stop and think and I look around
Speaker: Beyond the county lines of my small town, I think about all the men out there who feel like I do now Who are screaming on the inside but won't ever make a sound
Speaker: Keep fighting, as a man our sun is our horizon And our fathers actions play a role and we end up like them So they can't let us see them hurt, cause we'll embody what they do And start a generational curse, no wonder most men are so depressed All the things that they can't express, they go to war get thrown on the shelf
Speaker: Then grab that bottle and ask for help Try to pull themselves out of hell Then fall back down and then realize That they gon' have to do it themselves It's the circle of life as a man you provide They don't know what you were till today that you're dying That's when they start crying Then move on to a man you're confiding
Speaker: We are hanging out. We're going to talk about tonight. We're going to talk about coping.
Speaker: the way we cope with things, the way we deal with things, how we cope when we're finding ourselves struggling or dealing with stuff or whatever. We're going to get to that here in a little bit, but thank you guys for tuning in. Hopefully you guys are having a good start to your week so far. It is Monday. Don't worry. You made it at the end of the day. You made it through another day. We always start to show off with Dax, or to be a man. That's Dax featuring Darius Rucker.
Speaker: Uh, great song and really kind of hits the nail on the head, uh, for what it's like to be a man and, and what we're doing here on this show. So if you guys like that, go check it out. Um, go show Dak some love DAX. If you don't know who he is, then apparently you ain't been on social media in the last two years because the man's everywhere. Uh, but, uh, we got a surprise visit tonight. You normally don't see this face here on Monday nights. Jeff is in the building hanging out with us. I am here.
Speaker: You know that one of the joys about to show, you know, just typically not here on Mondays, but he's handy. He said he's kind of having a little bit of a rough day, so don't worry, we're here.
Speaker: Uh, then we got the usual suspects in the building. Chair Vichy hanging out here with us. Hey, yo, hey, yo. Hey, mom, I'm trying to do a podcast over here. Nice. And then we got long time, no see. He's been MIA for a little while. We'll get into that. We'll get into that here in a few minutes. Jeff's here to audit us to make sure the show is viable folks.
Speaker: Yeah, he's the one to judge that. I'm guessing make sure it works. If you guys know me, I'm Glick. If you're not already, go ahead and check out the social medias. You might start to see some things start to change. Maybe some names change and maybe seeing some more shows popping up. Well, that's all part of the plan. Don't worry. That is the nonsensical network, the nonsensical network.
Speaker: It's a lot of shows. We have Monday nights, men can from in Tuesday nights is Jeff's garage.
Speaker: and like alternating Tuesdays or? Well, right now it's just going to be Jeff's garage. Um, the alternating Tuesdays will come back eventually with a dollars and cents. Yes. Yeah. Dollars and cents on Tuesdays, Wednesday nights is nonsensical nonsense. And you're going to see changes on Wednesday nights, nonsensical nonsense. We already started last week. I think we had an awesome show last Wednesday night with a couple little changes that I threw in there. Um,
Speaker: I think we had a really fun show Wednesday night. Thursday nights is talking shit. They are off this week, but they will be back the following week. Lazy motherfuckers. Well, Mark, I think it's his anniversary. Greg Mark and him and his wife are going on a little vacay. So I understand. Okay. I'll let it slide. I'll let it slide. Happy anniversary to Mark and his lovely life and our wife and, uh,
Speaker: Mark's wife, I'm sorry that you had to put up with this man for 26 years and you've been married to him for 24.
Speaker: I mean, this may be the year that, you know, she kind of pushes Mark forward.
Speaker: Talking shit is on Thursday nights, Friday nights, every other Friday night. And alas, guests change it, but right now to be the first and third is Glick's House of Music. And this Friday night, I do have another guest coming on the show, Mr. Hunter Lott, artist out of Nashville, I believe. He's gonna be joining me Friday night. We're gonna hang out for a little bit and get to know him and hear some of his music. I guess I should start promoting that, it is Monday.
Speaker: And then Saturdays Saturdays is nonsensical nonsense with a twist We call it the open door challenge the nonsensical open door challenge And we throw the link in the chatters box that we we invite anybody and everybody Who wants to come up on the show come on and hang out with us? We've been having a lot of fun with it lately Last couple few weeks. We've had full fucking panic Awesome We've met some interesting people some new people
Speaker: And then from days we wrap the week up with my man down there in the bottom Jerry V. She doing the Jerry V. She podcast if you didn't catch last night's episode it is up on to the Jerry's podcast with special guest. Blaze, if you guys know Blaze and you've seen him out here, you've seen him on the other shows. He got around with him and talked to little porkies.
Speaker: Yeah, I I worry about Kim controls health health after watching that because they wouldn't shut up about her. I'm just saying. Yeah, I was like somebody find out that she's address. Make sure she's okay. I'm just saying facts. We do have a whole. Yeah, we do have a whole week's worth of shows going on and who knows down the road in the future, there might be more shows on there. But wait and see what happens. But if you're not already, go ahead and check out all the social media.
Speaker: Facebook, Instagram, X, and TikTok. Don't forget, we are also live Mondays through Sunday, basically, on YouTube. Our shows here are on Facebook, X, and YouTube is our official live show there somewhere. And you can listen to all the shows.
Speaker: We'll be able to listen to all the shows momentarily before long You hit that little barcode thingy right there or yeah, okay
Speaker: Well, you can go to Biodot and think that's nonsense. Not only will all of the nonsensical nonsense shows be there, but the Men Can for Men, Glitch House of Music, Jeff's Garage, Talking Shit, Jarvis, because these guys all do have their own pages and fan pages. So, you know, we want to keep those pages, you know, whatever.
Speaker: those links up there including links to our sponsors over at liquid ivy energy in zen caster go ahead and use our promo code words are hard to check out let me check the sponsors out and get your savings and discounts you know i was like create a network it'll be cool it'll be fun it'll be fun create a network that'll be fun they say all we could do was make my internet work right yeah who told you it would be fun
Speaker: It's actually not a lot more work than what I'm already doing. You know, I just got to go through and, you know, I'm going to change the Facebook page, the actual quote unquote page, the nonsensical network. We do have our group, our group page fan page. That'll stay nonsensical nonsense. But to talk, we'll change over to the network. We'll change over to the network. YouTube will change over to the network.
Speaker: the the the
Speaker: Yeah, basically, Zencaster has already switched over to the Nonsenseful Network, and I have a new description in there, home of all of our shows, and all that. You know, and all the difference is, it is a lot more work, but I have a lot, which I have not had in the last three years. I actually have help, and I have little helper monkeys that'll help me to save them. Nobody here.
Speaker: But I am super excited for it. And, you know, I want to see the fact that, you know, Jarvis and Mark and Brian are like, Hey, yeah, man, we like what you're doing. We like what your game plan. We trust you. Let's, let's rock and roll. That means a lot to me as well. Um,
Speaker: You know the thing? The fools! They're putting their faith in me. Watch their views just tank. Hold on. I have to put what Glick told me to say. We enjoy being part of the network. We are not being forced to say this against our will. Yay. Nonsensical nonsense. The food is great. They're very humane. You have to do his behind the scenes work this week.
Speaker: No, but I am. I'm very grateful. Facts on facts. I'm excited that you guys are willing to take this risk and run this adventure with us. Jeff and I, you and I started the Nonsenseful Network and whatnot. So I am grateful and I'm super excited. I'm just glad I don't have to do any extra work. I'm super excited that
Speaker: All of our shows are going to be working with Rocky and Rocky's going to be creating more intro music for us and whatnot so we can get his name out there more and people can see more of what he's doing. So you know there's a lot of things going on. I feel bad asking him for to build me an intro. I really do.
Speaker: Yeah, but here's the thing. We're bringing more business to him. I get it. I get it. I'm just like it's all about. It's all about supporting each other. Wait, wait until I'm able to until him and I release the news that we have and you might not feel so bad. They're both trans. No. At least with this network, I don't we we don't have to worry about being fired by text message.
Speaker: No, it's all through Snapchat. It's all through Snapchat. It's coming. It's coming, buddy. And the sad thing is not even Glick fucking firing people. It's either Connor or Jeff like, yeah, Glick didn't want to cause a scene. So we're going to have to let you go. I can't fire you. I'm already fired. And we want to do it on Fridays because we feel like most of the time we won't have to deal with you any other day of the week.
Speaker: collaboration time that's an office space these are real collaborations and real things are coming about but i'm excited for it a super collab if you will yes you know a huge shout out and a huge thank you Jarvis to you and and to the gentlemen and talking shit for being the first victims i mean the first guys to uh
Speaker: Steven Steven, just remember it puts the lotion on its skin. I know I know my job here at the nonsense. No, no, no, no one knows polishes that squad full like I do. To be honest, it's this. It's like you're smoking a joint.
Speaker: That's a pretty small joint, but I mean hell on Call of Duty reference Sorry, I'm new here reverence Everyone here has reverence for you Leggy. I get to listen twice. I
Speaker: I need to, I need to set up notifications. I really do. Yeah, yeah. Usually when she's posting it, I'm uh, I'm uh, listening, listening because she's like, you know, doing everything that she does. And then she goes live while she's doing it. Usually I'm in there, uh, typically I'm, you know, I might not be chatting the whole time on my, cause I'm out doing forklifty things. Yeah. And literally sound like you're driving over a graded road.
Speaker: The other day the other day Licketer talking on the phone. He's like so up we're gonna do and I was like, yeah, buddy I'll be I'll be honest that I'm terrible about watching other people's shows It took me forever to get out of the talking shit podcast and watch them and I'll be honest You know exception and it's nothing first. No, I'm just I'm just an asshole. That's what it is. You know what?
Speaker: I caught the end of your show the on last night I'm starting to watch it. I like said I got bombarded with with stuff today and Because all the streaming sites have ads now I sort of got there's an ad every 30 seconds on Hulu
Speaker: So then I would turn it back up while, while Hula was playing. Um, but then I actually listened back through today while I was at work, I was filling out all my benefits stuff. You guys did a good job, man. From what I literally have to say, blazing was probably the saving grace of that. Cause if I tried to do that show on my own, it would be a lot more. I do think you need to go. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah, like a permanent co host. You know, you know, if you got somebody that you that you, you know, that you like that you can do it with that it's not gonna have a problem doing it. Not to be a dick, but not me because No, no, no, that was cool. I was gonna be the same the same thing. I was like, you know, not be a dick dude. I'll show up every once. Well, but I just know I
Speaker: Like I told Mark when he gave up his chair, I'm like, the only way I get a permanent co -host is if Mark and Alyssa sign off because they were my two co -hosts to begin with. It's also nice to venture out and invite somebody else.
Speaker: Yeah. You know, somebody that you click with, somebody that you vibe with, like you just said down in the comments, you know, you got to have that right rhythm, that right flow. But, you know, I think it would do you great to have a co -host and, you know, all pop in from time to time, just not permanently. Well, no, I don't expect it, Mark.
Speaker: Yeah, I would that would be cool if you had to listen to it. I don't know if she's got the same taste of music. I would love to do it with Alyssa, but there's still you can't do that on the show. Nope. Yeah, it's a family. Be on the show with Alyssa as my co -host. Oh, and Jarvis, but that's on the other part of the network that, you know, is that only a squash only fans? Yeah, you set up.
Speaker: We have an adult version of non -sensical network. For those who want to watch that, it's on xhamsterlive .com. Also known as the Richard Gear site. Can I explain the joke? I don't get it.
Speaker: My assumption is it's something Google it. Google it. Yeah, I know. I don't want to. OK, if anyone else on this panel would have told me to Google it, I may have done it. But because it came from you, Jeff, I know that some nasty. It's it's a movie that Richard Greer stars in and it's out of man, pet hamster and all the adventures they get into.
Speaker: It's a real heartwarming movie. Or all the adventures, rather, that the hamster gets into. Well, you know, I am just probably. That's why you buy the cat. How? Originally was going to star in there, but then they got the Sasquatch, female Sasquatch in there. She's upstairs. We're in the same house. All right, go talk to your wife.
Speaker: It was gonna be it was gonna it was originally gonna be called pretty squatch But then they went with they went with old horse face McGillicuddy and called it pretty woman But no There there is literally someone out there in the world that I need to go find that was talking shit about my wife when she used to do the show with me Yeah, you know, let him be it is what it is. I
Speaker: It it it pissed me off what they said about her boat. Well, and that's the thing that actually got a nice segue into coping. Well, hold on, Joe. I know. But it's one of those things you guys are trying to do the most. I'm not. I'm just saying because I kind of need to get into it. Oh, excuse me. It's like an act. OK, you got to learn. You got to learn those.
Speaker: Ignore that shit. That's what I was telling Trent on Saturday. There's always going to be some asshole that thinks he knows everything. True that. And once you actually meet that person in person, you're like, wow, this person's a fucking idiot. What was I worried about? Shout out to Trent too. He was awesome Saturday night. Right? I love that kid. He was awesome. Although I will say this the whole time I was
Speaker: There's a lot of things for him to like go into a normal voice. Oh, I had it too. I had it too. I was just, just, just in case I got my finger like this. Any second now, there's me a big old penis on our screen. We know to be fair. But anyways, hopefully we get through this and then Connor will be back and I can, uh,
Speaker: Oh, I'm sorry. I'm not supposed to do that. You know, we do our normal show and just kind of joke around a little bit, but I do always like to go around or around the panel or whatever and just do a little broad check. And we're going to start with you, Jeff, because typically you're not here on Monday nights. Usually he's not here a lot. It's not just.
Speaker: I was just, you know, how's everything going, man? How's your week? How was your week last week? How, you know, what's, what's going on in your world? It just comes down to, uh, it's, you know, the, it's a work thing. You know, I know my, my work is not everybody's favorite subject, but it's just the frustration sometimes is just, Oh,
Speaker: make sure you want to eat a bullet. You know what I mean? I think every job comes with frustrations and aggravations. Yeah. But the different, the difference between mine and yours, mine is 100 % commission based. Like I don't get paid if I don't close. And so I have like 27 deals in four different programs that I'm staring at the screen all day going any second now somebody's going to sign that fucking agreement. Yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. Yeah. And then, you know, 14 packs of cigarettes later, I'm going, well, that was a waste of fucking day. Yeah. Well, that's, that's the downside. The unfortunate side of, you know, when, you know, it's like a car salesman. Yeah. Well, the upside is, but when it's bad, it's real. Yeah. Well, well, it's, you know, I remind myself,
Speaker: the way I deal with it is I remind myself every day, nobody ever got rich working for a salary. And so, you know, the stability of a salary would be great. But the fact that if one of these deals close, I'm good for like a year. So I'm like, yeah, it's worth it. I get it. Let's go Ponzi scheme.
Speaker: Yeah, if it if it was only a positive scheme, I would probably make more more people. No, no, because actually K mag and I were talking about this today. It's not even remotely a positive scheme, because have I ever once asked you guys for money for it? Yes. No, I have not. Lie like a broke dick. I love how you and K mag are talking about this, like behind the scenes. K mag is actually bringing me clientele.
Speaker: I have an NDA. I'm not allowed to talk about it. Yeah, I can't talk about it either. Don't bother me. But like it's just like I said, it's it's that and and you know, I have right now I think I'm five weeks out. And then I'll run out of money. So so I'm kind of sitting here going,
Speaker: Yeah, you know And my the thing is and I was talking to a co -worker about this day Who's in the same boat? I said, you know what's gonna happen the last week six of them will drop You know, we'll piss and moan and worry and then the last couple days We'll just get a big old book. Then we're like, haha. We're good for another like two years Yes, uh, some of them I do have residual pay on but
Speaker: Those are the hardest ones to close. The residual pay, like we have the preventative health care one, I get $2 a head. So 100 people on the, like, if we sign up a company that has 100 employees, I get 200 bucks a month for as long as they're in the program. Well, right now I have four deals that are like 20, 20 employees apiece. So I'm like making a hundred bucks a month on it, which is great for my cigarettes.
Speaker: But I have one that I'm I'm what I'm as soon as I close it I'm good every month because it's 1400 people and I'll get $2 ,800 a month Where I can be like which covers my nut for the month How much are you paying important subscriptions no, no that I'm talking about groceries and
Speaker: Oh, you said you're not I thought you were being literal no, I know my not I thought that's an expensive hobby, buddy Those subscriptions are cheap though. Those Mexican are not cheap. Let me know Paying for Chris's day -to -day is not I subscribe to your only fans Family discount bro. What more do you but it's like uh, I
Speaker: groceries. I don't have a mortgage, but I have a property tax. I have, you know, my internet, my water, my electric, all that shit is right around two grand a month. And the biggest problem with my job is like for the longest time I had a salary plus my commissions. Well, that program closed because the program ended. It was a program through Congress called the Employee Retention Credit. It was COVID relief for businesses.
Speaker: Well, it ended because it was only for so many years and it ended. So it ended in February. So I'm sitting here going, well, we have these eight other programs and I've been working on those, but some. Hey, dude, you're really loud. The couple of programs, the green energy program, it takes a year to pay out, but the commission is massive.
Speaker: I have one deal. It's a $40 million deal. My commission is $250 ,000. But if it closes tomorrow, I don't get paid till December or January, February. So it's like, yeah, what are you going to do? So and I have seven of those going. Suck beer for dick money, dude. That's why I said I was about next thing you know, I'll be out on the corner going 20 bucks is 20 bucks. Come here, Daddy.
Speaker: That shoe box is looking like a wonderful lack of a mortgage payment. Yeah I've been with a company for three years But I was originally hired to do the employee retention credit and my job technically now is what I do is as I talk to a business my job is to get them in front of an expert and then it's out of my hands the expert has to sell them and and close them and
Speaker: out of, out of all the people that used to work for the company, a lot of them didn't want to work for commission anymore. So a lot of them left. And so 60 % of the deals that are in queue are mine because I'm the only one in the entire company that hasn't taken a day off of three years that, but I strike that I took one day off, but I was so sick. I was died. Um,
Speaker: And too bad you didn't I work from I know usually But I I work I Open up my laptop at 10 and I work till 7 every single day Monday through Friday and With the exception Wednesday, I jump off early so I can jump on the show but but other than that that's My day today is I have appointments set for me by my guys that I pay and
Speaker: to actually set appointments with businesses. I rock those out and through it on the schedule. And then in the meantime, I've actually taken a second job where I sell drug testing kits that I just started today and I sell drug testing kits to rehab centers, halfway houses and shit like that. And that's going to be a great company. But the commissions, even though the residual, they're small. I need like 50 of them before I can make a grant.
Speaker: but it's better than a poke in the eye or sucking dick. But it's, it's, it's a frustrating endeavor. It's, you know, uh, I actually just signed up for another, uh, the, the company that I signed up with the drug test and comes, they brought me another one. It's a, uh, it's an advertising company that sells handwritten letters and they have these machines that actually write handwritten letters with mistakes built in.
Speaker: And it literally looks like a handwritten letter, but it's advertising. And so what I would do is I'd set up a company like, let's say it's a, uh, uh, a car dealership and you bought a car there four years ago. Well, your car will get a birthday card that looks like it's handwritten, but it's also an advertisement. Hey, by the way, we got a sale coming up and it is kind of cool. And I literally just learned about that one Saturday or Sunday.
Speaker: And so I signed up for that one today. That's a hard sell, though. It's not something I could just from one day to next. Let's start rocking it out. I have to figure out a pitch, because every product that we have, I've created the pitch for everything. Because nobody really gives you a pathway to go. They say, here's the information. Do with it what you will. And I'm like, yeah.
Speaker: Yeah. Sit down classes in son. Let the big boys teach you how to do a real podcast. But yeah, like I said, it's just the frustration of like today was today I had back to back meetings until about six from from 10 till six. I spent the entire time on the phone and I got the kids running around like my sister -in -law and brother -in -law here and they're heading out the door. What happened to your office?
Speaker: So I create bullet points that I have a pitch that I do and rock it out.
Speaker: Nikki I need a I need to buy a new fan Because my office the problem my office is it's as you know It's just a small half bathroom And if you sit in there for too long you will sweat your ass off So I've installed a fan But the fan died and I just need to actually go buy a fan and I just haven't had the time or money to do so So I bounce around the house to quietest room of the moment
Speaker: trying to find the quietest room. Love you, Brian. Uh, which I, you know, I understand with little ones in the house and, uh, you know, it's seriously unprofessional when, when two, two kids come running down, arguing over who's going to use the phone while I'm on the phone with a client and they're yelling in Spanish, no less.
Speaker: Yeah, exactly. You know, that's, that's the thing. I mean, send them outside, something like, I don't know, go to the pool. Well, my internet all goes so far. I can't get to the pool all the way to the pool and have internet. But there's times I've sat outside on the hood of the car and just, it's more comfortable out there when they're in the shade. But struggle a little bit in a third world country.
Speaker: It's not even about the, it's not even about that. Like in your house right now, if I was working from your house, I'd have you walking by, Nikki walk by, you guys talking about something, not realizing I'm on the phone because of the simple fact I have, well, you know what I mean though? Like it's no matter where you are, you have to worry about kids popping their head and what you doing? I'm on the fucking phone going, you know, you know,
Speaker: I figured, I figured something that got you riled up because you messaged me and ask if we were doing the show and I said, yeah, it's, you know, it's one day. Um, very rare that we're not here in a matter of seconds. I mean, I was like, Oh, what's going on with Jeff today? Move on, move on over a little Jeremy. She was clown, buddy. How you feeling, man? How's everything going in your world? Um,
Speaker: For the most part, pretty good. Still trying to find a. Still trying to find a supplemental income where you know don't have to worry about paycheck to paycheck like we normally do, but you know it is what it is. Yeah, thank you. And plus you know one thing you know it's just it's nice to be able to come on here and be able to hash shit out. You know I like.
Speaker: I asked my wife, I was like, why do I do, you know, like my own show and then Monday I'm doing this show, Wednesday I'm helping out. And then Saturday it's the open door challenge. And she's like, because Steven, if you didn't do those shows, like you would be so fucking bored and you'd be like, God, you know, you'd be watching those shows saying, God, I wish I was on those shows or doing a show.
Speaker: And I mean, that's the thing that's helped. One of the things that helped me cope is that, you know, on Monday, although last Monday we didn't do one, but looking forward to Mondays, you know, and being able to talk about some of the shit we deal with. And, you know, nice seeing Connor with the hard ER. Nice having Jeff on here. You know, he might not be here on Wednesday. It depends on, you know, what's going on with the schemes and all that.
Speaker: But hell, I wish it was a scheme. I'd make more money. I mean, he could probably, like, I remember when we were on Snapchat that call, Jeff, and you were, like, telling me about, like, your plans on doing your show for Tuesdays. And I was like, dude, I don't know a lot about cars, but I'm definitely going to watch that show. Well, like, I already got a plan for tomorrow. OK. I got a theme for the episode.
Speaker: You know, uh, just being able to now be a part of the network. It's, it's nice. And I can't wait to see where, how big it grows and, you know, um, Hopefully fingers crossed. No FedEx is coming. Yeah. You know, I'll be in there supporting a little bit, you know, I don't know. You like watching an episode of a Chinese television show. I don't know what the hell's going on or what Jeff's talking about, but I'll still be there.
Speaker: Uh, but, uh, no, I mean, I always look forward to the shows. Um, I know it takes up a lot of my time and whatnot. I just, I just hope at the end, at the end of the day, I just hope that it's all worth it. And, you know, the work and hours and everything that I put into it, it's all worth it at the end of the day. But, um, you know, like I said, like I've told you, uh,
Speaker: You know, it might take another tomorrow. You might get an own call. It might be two years down the road. Uh, next Sunday while on one thing. Yeah. Sorry. We're going to have to go on another direction. You're going to have to take everything of your desk and move downstairs. As long as you know that it's coming eventually. Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, I know why I'm on the network. It was a lot of doing this, maybe a little bit of this. But ultimately, I got the job done. It's hard to get a Sasquatch off. Literally. Actually got to worry about hair. Not even know if this is the right one, but nope, that ain't the right one. Sorry. To answer Brian's question,
Speaker: Yeah, man, it was, I mean, it's essentially the same job, just new company. The new company seems pretty cool. I'm working through, I just got my laptop Friday. So now I'm able to access things and start setting up all my, all my shit. So there's that, you know, my benefits and all that fun jazz. So, you know, I'm an official, but Connor, a long time, no see. You've been, you've been going.
Speaker: What's up man? How you doing brother? Yeah to answer Brian's question I'm I'm in hell right now my own personal hell I've been over the last nine years. I have moved seven times and I'm ready to be fucking done over the last year. I've moved three times Yeah, yeah fucking it's terrible, but yeah
Speaker: It's a lot. I mean, like I said, told Jeff earlier while we were off air, I've got in my hallway boxes stacked from floor to ceiling. And this is my dining room or what will be my dining room. And it's still covered in boxes. And my living room is covered in boxes. And it feels like it's never fucking ending. And everyone's like, oh, you need to make sure you take it easy and blah, blah, blah. And you're back this and yada, yada, yada. I'm like, dude.
Speaker: I can't take it fucking easy. There's not until it's done. Yeah, because if I don't, then my house is going to be a fucking mess. My life works. My kids are no fucking help because they're seven, five and one. So if I want it to get done this fucking year, seven when I was seven, I had a full time fucking job to get off their ass and tell them poor kids in China that are making Nikes. Oh, good girl.
Speaker: that we hired
Speaker: three trips worth to get all the boxes left uh that we're at the house so it's been uh it's been a lot and then of course I got two men in a truck to move shout out to yeah two men in a truck little TMT I'm an alumni what's going on so you guys you know you should well you're too old to call us and say hey I'll buy pizza Jeff I'll buy heroin
Speaker: Connor has got moved, but I, I, I moved this case of beer. I moved it. Which one of you flatfoots ate my beer? This box, Connor, am I helping? By the way, you're doing that wrong. Hold on. Hold on. I gotta grab, I gotta grab another one.
Speaker: Lift with your back in a swift jerky motion Yeah, it's been it's it's definitely been a lot I've still got a lot to get done I got sick about two to three days ago and and now my wife's got it and VA appointments and finally getting my surgery and my procedures lined out between all that trying to do my fucking schoolwork and
Speaker: people are asking me to do work on their guns and I fucking I can't I just I physically can't legally can't and I've it's it's starting to do a giant shit show over here and and it's it's definitely fucking stressful. How how long until you're able to start going down that road of you know what you with with with your gunsmithing and stuff do you have to wait until you're done with your college classes or are you a license or something or so? Yeah, I'm I'm waiting waiting on my FFL license from the uh
Speaker: from the ATF to come back. I submitted it probably last week. And so they've got to send that back to me and then I can submit my license paperwork to the state so they can get my LLC. And then once I have that, then I can start accepting money for working on people's guns. Technically, I can start working on other people's firearms as soon as I have my FFL, but they can't technically pay me because I don't have a actual company. Yeah, I don't have an LLC yet.
Speaker: of the
Speaker: for $500 a month, you, you can be an official sponsor of the network and we can shut out your gunsmithing. I'll send, I'll send you a check in the mail. Just don't cash it. Okay. $500 hairs. It will, uh, it will absolutely bounce either that or if the $500 bill is pink, don't worry about it.
Speaker: Well, as far as color is the Monopoly money, yellow. As long as the bank passes it, once it bounces after that, it's your problem. It's not me. It's going to bounce because the account that I do it from isn't going to exist. As long as it clears my bank, then it becomes a new problem. I'm going to go talk to the good guys you can and have them build me some fake checks.
Speaker: Yeah. On the Gabrielle, go for it. Exactly. That's exactly. Outside of all the craziness and the anarchy in your world, it's got to feel good being a homeowner, though, because you are officially a homeowner now. Congratulations, man, on that. That was going to be my next question. Are you guys buying? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We we bought a house in downtown Evansville. Something I thought I'd never do was downtown.
Speaker: And you know, I do openly invite anybody in the area to walk through my front door, break it down, do whatever you want. As long as you're cool with a 308 size hole in your chest, walk on in. And home insurance is great. Yeah. So but no, yeah, we did just buy this house. It's it's beautiful. It's huge. Fucking it's got three floors, like 3000 square foot. It's fucking it's massive.
Speaker: but it's a, it's like an older historic home where we're over by the historic district. So it's, it's got a lot of character. Yeah. Character to it. There are some things that need work and there's some things that we want to keep original, but it's a, it's a gorgeous house and it's going to take some work to flip it around so that we can sell it one day. But just so you know, before you walk into it blindly and get blindsided, if it is,
Speaker: labeled a historic house, not necessarily on the registry, but if it is considered historical before you start modeling and remodeling and stuff, make sure you know there's some things that you cannot change. They won't allow you to run into that down in Charleston a lot. But even up here in Ohio, especially where I live,
Speaker: people go to buy these historic houses and they go to start remodeling them and flipping them. And it's like, oh shit, well, I can only use certain colors. Oh, I can't remodel the living room. Oh, I can't do anything on the outside. I can't do the stonework because it has to be the original stonework, which, you know, props to the contractors and stuff down in Charleston.
Speaker: get a lot of those houses set on stone and shit like that. And there's those two, 300 years old, whatever. So they would go into the crawl space, remove the original stone, and then put the new blocks and stuff behind it so that they would have the original if they had to replace it.
Speaker: Yeah. So we did, we actually did, did the research on it before we bought the house. Um, it's, it's technically not a historic house. So there's nothing that we have to do permit wise when it comes to that, we just got to make sure that the neighbor, the neighborhood is okay with whatever we're doing on it. Um, as, as long as, Oh, you're not in an HOA, are you? No, it's just, you just gotta get permits from the city. Um, so they're going to correct.
Speaker: Yeah. So I mean, nothing's super crazy about it that we have to do with that. But there are some there are some things definitely that we're trying to fix up and change. But I'm just happy to finally be like settled in somewhere. Well, here's another reason why I'm like so panicky with like unboxing everything is because I'm moving around so fucking much. I'm just ready to sit down and relax.
Speaker: I'm just ready to fucking like be settled in like give it a month. Yeah. Like one of the things that was exciting about buying the house is like we can finally start building on our, our life in one place. And I don't have to worry about someone giving me a fucking piece of paper and saying, Hey, you're moving here and not having a fucking, not being able to do anything about it. So we're, we're happy. We're excited. It's just, it's a lot. It's fucking stressful. It's painful. And now everybody in the fucking house is sick. So.
Speaker: the joys of home owning when you walk in you see blood coming down from the ceiling
Speaker: Well, yesterday I was hoping I would go down. I would go to sleep and just not wake up. And I woke up this morning. I was like, fuck, I feel better. God damn it. God, I felt that way after Saturday show, but that's another topic for another. You don't feel that every day because I do. Facts on facts. I was just trying to make my life in the basement that's waiting for me if I ever choose. The first thing that happened to poor Connors when they opened the door, they're like,
Speaker: No, we bought this place. You get the fuck out. The crazy thing is with your back problems and everything like that, you would think, oh, you know, maybe find a house like a ranch style house, you know, with a ramp for you. He finds a three story house that, you know, at some point in the next year or two, when you're wheelchair bounder, you're gonna be like, well, I guess I'm
Speaker: It'll be like that old lady from the gremlins have that What I'm gonna do is I'm gonna do the house thing We're gonna put an elevator in there and I'm just gonna I'm gonna like balance the wheelchair as I go down the steps And one of these days probably the first time I try it that my wife's just getting here Yeah, don't piss off your wife cuz she'll have to push you and she'll be like, oh hey stairs. Oh
Speaker: I'm not taking your ass upstairs the night No, I'm sleeping in my fucking bedroom. Oh, yeah
Speaker: The good thing about that brand new climate, baby trying to climb up the fucking stairs with the fucking wheelchair behind them. Oh, my God. So after I had my first back surgery, I literally crawled up the stairs with my with my upper body only because my my legs were just so dead to the world. And I mean, it looked like I looked like one of the one of the creeper zombies from fucking Call of Duty. I was. Oh.
Speaker: Dude it's all fun and games. I've gotten stuck on the toilet before and that's that's a rough time. That's an embarrassing moment It was at work
Speaker: That's when you find out who your two friends and family are. I had to call one of my guys and he was like, I'll have, I'll have one of leadership come and get you. They're going to come open the door, take a picture and laugh. And then they're going to tell some private to pick my ass up. Let's see, Connor. That's when you know who your real friends and family are. Oh yeah. I've got zero.
Speaker: Connor, I would help you off the toilet. Of course, after I got pictures and videos, then I would still help. Yeah, yeah, I could just see it now. On my face, you take advantage of me and then you feel like you couldn't feel that, could you? I'd be like, dude, I couldn't feel it when I could feel my legs. You're good. He ties a toe strap around Connor and goes like, hold on, Connor, I'll be right back. Fucking has to come along.
Speaker: None of my extension cords are long enough to reach my bathtub. So for the first hour of our men's mental health show we've joked about suicide about 12 times. Hey, we haven't joked about toaster baths yet.
Speaker: Oh, I just did. I just made a fucking toaster bathroom. What are you fucking? What are you on? Sorry, only half listening because it's you. Well, I mean, we didn't do a show last Monday. That's fair. I forgot. Oh.
Speaker: He's got a picture of you with your pants around your ankles. How's it feel, Connor? How's it feel? I'm going to get everybody in here to make fun of you for an hour.
Speaker: you can't rage quit this one motherfucker yes i can get out of my bathroom bitch oh no it's it's it's easy that's why you always carry concealed just slams the door with me my hands on the ground god damn it jokes on you fucker you can't get off the toilet without your wheelchair i can get off anywhere
Speaker: Connor tries to reach down and get out of his pants and around his ankles he just falls forward Hey cool place to park my bike By the way before we go to break how's your life? Oh, it's peachy keen
Speaker: Wait, wait, wait to let loose, buddy. Jesus. Well, you know, it's not like it is like a few words. Some days the sun's shining. Sometimes it's storming. No, no, no. You know, I honestly, I really, you know,
Speaker: The job transfer is going great. The new company seems really cool. I said that earlier. You know, everybody I've talked to is they've been super helpful. I'm learning my way around. We have a whole social media for our company. It's just our company. And, you know, because we have a we have a
Speaker: The company I work for is owned by a larger company that owns like a whole bunch of, uh, restaurants and property management and, and, and stuff like that. Uh, so there's a whole social media and the cool thing about it is there's potential to transfer. We have places in Tennessee. We have places that actually they, they have some stuff down in Charleston. I want to look and see what they have done in Charleston, uh, down in South Carolina.
Speaker: Uh, because you're lucky you're going to send to California. Well, no, I mean, no, if they've got a property management company down there that I could maybe transfer to here in the next eight or nine years on cash graduates high school, because I'll be working until I die. There's no foreseeable retirement for, well, you know, I might be able to retire at 65. If I stay with, you know, if I stay with this company, if I'm fortunate enough to stay with this company for the next 25 years,
Speaker: But me and I see what options are because they do have companies throughout the country. So I might be able to go somewhere else. But yeah, I'm really digging it. I'm kind of getting the feel for everything. And I like their social media platform. Thursday, I didn't go because I was busy with some other stuff. But Thursday, they did an outing to top golf.
Speaker: So it was in the middle. It was in the afternoon. It was like from one to four. So, but it was all, you know, it was all paid for it. Every Wednesday they do a happy hour at this restaurant slash bar. They're going to cancel that about a week after you start going.
Speaker: Well, it's on Wednesday, so I won't, I won't, I won't, uh, you know, I'll go. I do want to go because I want, because our, our main office is right across the street from my buildings, which is cool. I do want to go because I'd like to get the opportunity to meet everybody and, and, and whatnot. And, um, you know, I might have one or two beers, but I'm not going to go over there and get freaking hammered or anything like that.
Speaker: But I think they do that like every Wednesday or something or some shit like that. So, you know, it's cool. I mean, they do things and they want to make sure everybody's involved. And, you know, I like I like that. I like that they have their own social media. It's like their own like Facebook page kind of. It's like their own Facebook, but it's just for our company. Oh, wow. That's cool. So everybody that's on it is all employees. So that's that's really cool. You know, I'm digging it.
Speaker: Yeah. Well, booster morale type stuff like, like Brian just said here in the comments, um, you know, but I'm digging it so far. Um, you know, there's a lot of benefits and perks that I've never had before, uh, that comes with this company. So that's, that's really cool. Um, but I'm digging it. We did finally get Nikki's car fixed.
Speaker: That's been a stress factor for both of us. So you bought the five gallons of gas in a match and that's, I'm proud of you. You know, but, uh, you know, unfortunately we did have taken to the dealership after we put almost three grand into it and it turned out that it was
Speaker: you know, the **** that got fixed needed to be fixed anyways, but I just wanted the car running and then we would have done it a little bit at a time. You know what I mean? Right? Yeah. Oh, I get that. Doing it all in a single sitting is like, oh, it hurt. Oh my god. You guys stabbed me in my wallet. Jesus Christ. So, but it turned out to be a crankshaft sensor. Uh so, so they got that fixed. She's up and running. Um so, Nikki's happy about that.
Speaker: and some of the things that needed to get taken care of. Now you can sell it by a Chevy. It's just that fact. If I could get what I put into it out of it, yeah, I would 100 % just be like, you know what? Let's just sell it. Hey, Carmax, how are you doing? Yeah, let's just get rid of this and get you something a little bit newer and not a Jeep.
Speaker: But so, you know, we've got that we've got that that headache and that stress off of both of our plates right now. So, you know, she's up and running, which is which is good. You know, it makes it makes her life easier. It makes my life easier. And like I said, it's just that nothing like when you have to have a car, when you need a car.
Speaker: That's when they break down. Yeah, you know, there's two people that work and you have two cars and then one goes down and then you've got the stress of, all right, you know, I have to go to work. There's no sayings or butts about it, but now we got to figure out how to get you to work. And then she's limited to the shifts that she can work or the jobs that she can work because she can't get to them until 4 .30 or five at the earliest.
Speaker: It's just, it's just, and it's stressful for both of us. So now we don't have to worry about that. So that's, that's nice. Um, but yeah, I mean, I really give it a week. It's a Jeep. Yeah. I mean, I really ain't got nothing to, you know, I'm nervous and excited about this new network. I don't want to keep beating a dead horse, but I'm, I'm, I'm super nervous. Uh, but I'm also at the same time, really excited. And, and
Speaker: But yeah, this network man, I just it's gonna be so great like oh man, I like the fact that you know, we're
Speaker: but uh hey i'm just saying you know chevy probably lasts a lot longer than i fucking do but you know the beauty of the whole network thing is we're guaranteed at least some of us um sorry steven but some of us will be guaranteed to actually have listeners but like i said i i started to i like said this morning i woke up and i went shit i totally forgot
Speaker: that Steven was going live tonight and or last night and so I started to To watch last night's episode and then I looked at my counter. I was like, yeah, I'm not gonna be able to finish this right now Because I literally had just boom boom boom boom. My calendar filled up so fucking quick this morning I was like, yeah, so I'll watch it later and then the frustration of the day is
Speaker: showed up and I was like, I wonder if the boys going live tonight. Really? What really frustrated him was that God awful, the Jarvis prod podcast. Luckily he had a great co -host in the name of blazing that failed his ass out. The only criticism I have
Speaker: And it's something that you'll learn. Yeah, it's arms and all that shit. No, not even that. Your intro was you almost need to rehearse it a little bit. But it comes with time like the first episode I get of of dollars and cents. I was I literally started to say nonsensical nonsense and I changed it to the nonsense network. But if you listen to that first episode, yeah, I definitely say nonsensical nonsense.
Speaker: and it's
Speaker: It'll get better dude. It'll get going from pre -recorded like I normally used to do and I used to do a live show with Mark before him and Brian Went off and did talking shit. That's sh ttt for everyone Because you know, they can't spell it right Florida people am I right? Actually, I actually I do have a suggestion, you know, you do have the ability of screen share you should have the
Speaker: The the movies IMDB page up So like why you guys are talking about? Who the characters are and or who plays who you could actually show that person because like obviously He doesn't know fucking Kim control But like you were talking about the sheriff and the in the guy and porky himself And I could not picture them in my head without looking it up. I
Speaker: well alex carras who played the sheriff and he was mongo from uh blazing saddles okay well there you go say uh you know what i'm actually gonna start doing that thank you just it's not a terrible because not only that you can show the poster because you guys were talking about the poster a little bit yeah and i was like i can't picture the poster and i had to
Speaker: jump off the show long enough to look up the poster where you're having the poster up or you're having that IMDB page up. You can show it so people don't have to step away to do it. I mean, let's be honest. To be fair, my first time on the doing the whole sharing of the stream yard thing and I was on the I didn't know I could make my own fucking thing until today.
Speaker: But once again, that's something that is learned over time. I felt so bad for Glick. I'm like, are you sure? And then I'd get an Insta Snapchat. Yes. Like the brand thing, when Chris figured out the brand thing, it was right like two weeks before I started the $1 ,000 and cents.
Speaker: And I was like, oh, good. That's one less thing I have to worry about because I don't have to figure out. I don't have to download all this shit that I need to delete for that show. Well, yeah. And I mean, there's so much I'm learning and thank God, like I even told Glick, you know, with if they're going to upgrade Streamyard, he doesn't even have to ask. I'll get if he needs 10 bucks or 20 bucks. I'll give him that. You know, I don't matter. We'll talk about that down the road.
Speaker: Yeah, because I think I want to help. I want to make this network. I do as well. I just don't have any funds right now. Well, I mean, there's like last year I was making one hundred and eighty two hundred thousand dollars in a year. And now I'm always giving blood. Yeah, no, no, no, not in Mexico there. I know you can't give blood in Mexico if you have tattoos. Really? Not a joke. They won't.
Speaker: But I mean, we are at that point of the show, aren't we Glick that, you know, we take a break? Yes. Who's ready for a beat off break? Don't forget about it. I want to talk about that on Wednesday. But you have tattoos. Oh.
Speaker: I think it comes down to it. Yeah, no, that's fine. Oh, I'm sorry, Glick. You're the host. I'm sorry. You're my no, no, no, no. No, I get I get his question about it. And it's a simple answer. But yeah, no, I'm not trying to overstep my balance here. Trust me, he's used to it. He's a bottom. I got my little I got my little notepad here, so I make notes.
Speaker: Fire Jarvis fire Jarvis this motherfucker one more check mark in the That's a poster behind his screen This red -headed motherfucker is trying to make himself What was that Billy Madison or whatever where People that kill yeah
Speaker: Anyways, yeah, we are going to take them. I wasn't going to be rude. You guys were talking. I didn't want to be like, hey, assholes, shut it.
Speaker: Sorry, Connor. You've never done that before. Yeah, right? I do want to take a real quick break. When we come back, we'll get into the meat and potaters of the show. You know, usually we take the first hour and kind of chitchat, have a little banter, do a little weekly check, a little weekly bro check, if you will, and see how everybody's doing and see where everybody is and all that jazz. But before we go to break, I want to tell you guys
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Speaker: All day, staring at the ceiling making friends with shadows on my wall And all night, hearing voices telling me that I should get some sleep Because tomorrow might be good for something Hold on
Speaker: Feeling like I'm heading for a breakdown And I don't know why But I'm not crazy, I'm just a little on my way I don't right now, you can't tell But still a while and maybe then you'll see A different side of me, I'm
Speaker: How I used to be me, talking to myself in public and dodging glances on the train
Speaker: I know, I know they've all been talking about me I can hear them whisper And it makes me think there must be something wrong with me Out of all the hours thinking Somehow, I've lost my mind And I'm not crazy, I'm just a little on my own
Speaker: Now you don't care But soon enough you're gonna think of me And how I used to be I've been talking in my sleep Pretty soon they'll come and get me Yeah, they're taking me
Speaker: Just a little in bed I do Right now you don't care But soon enough you're gonna think of me And how I used to be
Speaker: You're still in the well
Speaker: that was a spot on impression
Speaker: Uh, anywho, uh, welcome back to men caring for men. Hopefully you guys are enjoying the show so far. We have a rare appearance from Jeff hanging out with us tonight. Jeremy, she's in the house as always.
Speaker: And then Connor is here. Welcome back again. And you guys know me. I'm good. Go ahead and check out all of our social medias. Check out everything that's changing. Everything is changing, man. It's a, it's a, it's a crazy world out there, but we are changing and evolving. Make sure you guys check it all out.
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Speaker: The way we cope and deal with things and And whatnot You know, and I just want to start the conversation real quick here Like I always do when we have something like this For those of you guys who may not know coping basically coping usually involves adjusting to or tolerating negative events
Speaker: or realities while you try to keep your positive self image and emotional equilibrium coping occurs in the context of life changes that are perceived to be stressful so right now we are all currently going through some sort of
Speaker: life change or something, whether it be Connor moving for the umpteenth time this year, uh, medical issues and whatnot, Jeff and the financial burdens and the stress of his job and, uh, Jarvis with the stress, uh, you know, Jarvis.
Speaker: The stress of starting a career, going down the path of the career that he wants to be in. And then, you know, myself. Being a Sasquatch trapped in a human body. Yeah, just just the normal day, you know, you're doing the
Speaker: And we're all, except for drivers, we're all parents, the normal day -to -day job. That was actually pretty funny. Good job, Maris. Come here. Relationship stuff, you know, stuff like that. Obviously, starting a new network. I'm kind of all over the place. I'm kind of everywhere. You know, I got my oldest ones getting ready to graduate. You know, so,
Speaker: It's how we it's how we go about dealing with those things and whatnot. And, you know, just some of the examples of some of the things that might help you out, we'll kind of dive in a little bit more and get a little bit more personal with it. But, you know, deep breathing, meditation, exercise, some people take some people take to journaling, maybe doing some art, you know,
Speaker: talking with friends, maybe doing a podcast about mental health, uh, positive thoughts, trying to flush the negative thoughts out with positive thoughts, trying to stay positive when things are crazy, uh, you know, taking a bath. Yeah. A, uh,
Speaker: Men like to take baths too, just so you all know. Ain't no shame in taking a bath. It's quite relaxing. If I could fit in a bathtub, I would take more of them. Unfortunately, it is very uncomfortable for me to squeeze into my bathtub. Maybe reading a book or playing video games. Oh, just some examples there of positive ways to
Speaker: to cope with, with things. Uh, obviously we do know that there are negative coping mechanisms. Um, I have been guilty of it in the past, whether it was drinking or as Jeff said, now I've never done drugs, but as Jeff said, crack, you know, those are just a couple, uh, right off the top of my head, but negative coping mechanisms that are out there. Um,
Speaker: But all in all, essentially with coping, it just boils down to trying to stay positive and dealing with the situation the quote unquote right way. Now Jarvis, you brought this topic up.
Speaker: in our coping mechanisms are kicked in by many. I mean, I just gave a couple of different examples. You know, we're out of the bat that are currently affecting the four gentlemen that you see tonight, which completely unintended. And it kind of worked out perfectly, this being the topic. But Jarvis, you. Hey, God. I dropped something. I was trying to find it.
Speaker: Travis, you brought up this topic and I want to ask you, I'm going to kind of let you, I'm going to let you co -pilot this ship tonight a little bit because you brought up this topic. Was there a particular reason? Was there something on your mind? Was there something you were thinking about? Well, I mean,
Speaker: I actually, to be honest with you, I didn't know that if we did one of the shows on what our coping skills were. So I was like.
Speaker: We did one on trauma. We did one, which that one was a really, really tough show to get through for me. But, uh, you know, at the end of the day, I was just like, you know, I don't know if we ever really had a discussion about what we use to cope either. If it's something like, Hey, I used to do this and found out that it wasn't really a good one or Hey, I do this now. And it's a really good coping skill or, you know, Jeff being a comedian and roasting my ass on a men's mental health show.
Speaker: the the
Speaker: I mean I can it's just it's frowned upon but no like I went to not doing drugs but a game called Call of Duty I found out that on that game coping skills are not the greatest. I shouldn't be laughing about that but thank you Glick felt that kind of full of times on Saturdays but you know that
Speaker: But no, um, I think coping skills, it depends on this whole journey of mental health exploration or exploration, as we call it. Um, you do find different ways to cope with things. I mean, me being sometimes a sarcastic person, you know, and like, if you're out there, yes, I am fine. Just sometimes there is times where, you know, I get a little bit pushed over the edge, not saying it's because of Glick or anyone on the show.
Speaker: But I am. I blame Blick. I blame Blick for everything. That's how I cope. I just like it's fucking Glick's fault somehow. I don't know how, but it is. Well, I mean, he is better. He's better than us. I mean, he did create a whole network, but he's the champ champ.
Speaker: Don't make him do the fucking acknowledge me thing, because I mean, honestly, there's only so much more that I can take of that shit. Thank you. Look, look, all I did, the talent was already out there. All I was was the Tony Stark of putting the Avengers together. Don't ever call us the Avengers. The talent was already there. I just there's a tick tock, Jeff, that I need to get on the Avengers.
Speaker: the fifth
Speaker: I got something in mind, but everybody sent me a headshot. I could see Glick for mine. It's Iron Man and the Hulkbuster just punching me in the face like, go to sleep, go to sleep, go to sleep. That's me. That's me. Even when he says headshot, he just means a picture of you from the neck up, not a picture of you giving your head. Honestly, I'll work on something. I got something in mind. I got something in mind. I'm standing by the knees on Glick on like,
Speaker: But and I'm going to tell you right now, Glick, I'm not giving you the Tony Stark role, but I have an idea. And wait, wait, wait. The reason why I'm saying that is because the clip I have. Tony doesn't really talk, so. But Tony, it's just not on this show anymore. Jeff's got the closest thing to Tony Stark's face.
Speaker: What I have in in in mind you will find flattering sir
Speaker: But let's let's stay on topic boys, but no uh good ways to cope I've figured out is just knowing what triggers Triggers you oh good god That was with the tea that was with the tea and in our No, it all seriously though. Don't you kind of hate that that word has been come tainted. I hate that word so much right because
Speaker: It's kind of like the same space, you know, for this show. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. It is what it is. And this is the same space. And when we, you know,
Speaker: as men, fuck it, it's a men's show. But as men, when we have an episode of depression or anxiety or something like that, it's a trigger.
Speaker: something's happened that's triggered that reaction. Unfortunately, yes, I feel the same way you guys do with the word. It's the same thing with same space, but it's just reality. It is what it is. Unless you go up with different words and my therapist calls them stuck points instead of triggers. I was going to say, that's what I call Steven when we're hanging out.
Speaker: the the
Speaker: The problem with it, just like the safe space thing, it's become so used that it's lost its meaning. It's become synonymous with snowflakes. I do like that stuck point though.
Speaker: Genuinely because when you think about a trigger numerous am I right? The the stuck points are where your brain gets stuck on something and can't get off of it, right? It's it's where you become so focused on it Your brain is stuck and it overwhelms you with whatever emotion it overwhelms you with sadness fear Anger, you know, whatever depression acceptance
Speaker: Yeah. So I mean, that's what, that's what she calls them. The stuck points. Okay. I like that. We'll, we'll, we'll use that for now. So you were saying, John, shout out to Dr. Hines. Hold on one second. Good things. Not as good as we are, but good things nonetheless. No, she's helping out a whole bunch of veterans. So yeah, I think she's doing better things than we are. We just kind of exist and people in the DR watch us.
Speaker: We, we have veterans that will be coming up on our show here very soon. Gosh darn right they will. You know, and I'm, I'm also in therapy and all that, which was my choice again, as much as I'm with Connor, it was his choice too, which for some, for me, I really needed the therapy. It kind of was, kind of wasn't my choice. Jeff may or may not know what I'm talking about.
Speaker: that
Speaker: There's certain things like the the the stigmatism of why can't you talk to your wife for me it's like
Speaker: Why? So she thinks less of me? Yeah, no, ain't gonna play down that game. I've fallen in that trap before. Hate to say it, Jeff. She's not the only one. Oh, I know. I don't think you should feel like that. And I'm not saying my wife would.
Speaker: But it's like I have it in the back of my head. It was like, wait, so she could put this in the Rolodex. And then the next time we have an argument, she's like, I think that fucker. Yeah. I hate to continue to walk on your your your talking here, Stephen. But no, it's what you it's what you grow up with. Yeah. I mean, I'm the youngest one on this panel. And that's how I grew up was you show you don't show weakness to your family. Yeah. You find one or two off.
Speaker: You find one or two buddies that you're willing to just fucking let it all out but not cry around and fucking you you let it out and then you go get drunk and you fucking be an idiot and then you come back and if you're not fine, then you're you know, That's what we were taught. Yeah. Yeah, I think that's I think that's the biggest thing is ultimately at the end of the day a
Speaker: you don't want to come across as weak, significant other. You don't want them and not saying that they will because God knows Nikki's seen me at my absolute lowest, you know, and we'd only been dating for a few weeks at that time. You know, my absolute fucking lowest moment.
Speaker: But you still have that in the back of your head. You know, we as men are taught to be protectors, providers, and to never show weakness. So sometimes, no matter how healthy the relationship is, sometimes it's hard to talk about things. For me, there's a point where I don't feel I'm loquacious enough to actually get the point across.
Speaker: where it just sounds like it. Lequations means explanatory. I don't know the right words to actually get it out. So so. No, I love the word. I love that word. Again, you said it before and I told you it sounds like a stripper. Why do you think I like it? Everybody like question. Yeah, that's why that's why I like that word. No, but it's like
Speaker: I literally, if I'm explaining to anybody how I feel, I'm like halfway through, I'm like, yeah, you know what? You just don't get it. I can't get the words out where it doesn't sound like I'm sitting here going, woe is me. I'm a giant pussy. So my coping mechanism is bottle that shit up and then let it explode one day so you kill the entire family.
Speaker: Yeah, easy Benoit. Sorry.
Speaker: Came across that that issue that issue again. I'm we're walking all over Steven here first I Had a conversation with my wife the other day because I'm in the middle of school and I've got the surgery coming up and it was essentially, you know, she wanted me to wait to have the surgery and I was like
Speaker: The thing is, because I do my very best to not show how much pain I'm in. I've been moving these boxes. I pick up my kids like I'm not supposed to. I do as much as I can to be dad and all this, that and the other. And she's like, just stick it out for a few more months.
Speaker: I was like, I've been waiting for this surgery for over a fucking year, dude. Like, I don't know how to explain to you the pain that I'm in, like physically in like, and how bad every day fucking hurts. Like, how do you, how do you explain this? And she's just like, well, why can't you just wait? It's just pain. Nothing's going to change between now and then. Like, but that's the thing is it's, it's physically draining one and two. It's hard to be in that much fucking pain and not
Speaker: express it, not express it and not feel it emotionally and be so sick of it that like shit, you know, it's hard. I'm like, I don't it's changed me. You want me to be the old me, but it's hard for me to be the old me when I can't do what I used to do. Right.
Speaker: the the the
Speaker: You better you better put it down gentle Yeah, exactly I think that's the only thing you know Kind of can dumb it down They don't always you know our significant others. They don't fully understand When we do try to explain something, it's nothing. It's nothing that's their fault. It's just you know to get inside the man's head or the the mind of a man is is a
Speaker: is a dangerous world because of how we were brought up and how we were raised.
Speaker: you know, it takes a lot for us to get to that point to express how we feel and everything like that. And they don't really fully understand. And it's not a bad, again, it's not a bad thing. It's just, that's, that's life, man. Um, but, but correct me if I'm wrong. And most, and most women and most women are women because this is what they're taught or this is just what's ingrained. They're nurturers.
Speaker: right caregivers, you know, men are fixtures. So we want to fix the problem, you know, and women want to nurture the problem. But they also, you know, when it comes to dealing with men's mental health, they don't fully understand, you know, what's going on in our head, because at the same time,
Speaker: You know, I'm going to use a big word. We can't always articulate exactly how we're feeling. Well, and like I said, correct me if I'm wrong, but do you or do you not hold back when you're explaining? 100 % hold back because we were talking. I don't give the whole story. We know two emotions. You know, growing up, it's happy or angry. Yeah. You know, there's another no emotion.
Speaker: You know, so so that's that's that's our go -tos. We're either happy or we're angry and it's not because We just don't know any better at the end of the day. Yeah, we're big dumb animals So it is it is it is sometimes very hard to open up to your significant other And it can be very frustrating for them because they want you to open up but we don't know how to open up either because we have all those feelings in the back of our mind of
Speaker: If I tell her how I'm feeling or what I'm going through, then she's going to think less of me. She's going to think I'm weak. You know, then there's the other thoughts start to creep in. Oh, now she thinks I'm weak. Now she thinks I'm this. I'm less of a man. Well, now she's going to start looking elsewhere for a man who in her eyes or in our eyes, whatever is more of a man than I am. And then that starts to raise those negative thoughts.
Speaker: And those are the hardest thoughts to kill. I believe, uh, uh, I believe blazed and said rumination where, uh, you know, I think he said that when he was on the show here, all the negative thoughts, and then that puts you into a tailspin. So that's that, that's that negative, you're not properly coping with the things that are going on. Instead, you're letting the negativity creep in and get, get the best of you. Um, you know, that's why there's those.
Speaker: Alter your ways to to deal with coping positively Jarvis we're eventually gonna let you get your point across tonight. Go ahead. What are you saying, buddy? You guys you guys pretty much nailed what I was trying to say Is that you know, there's times where you're afraid to open up you know when when stuff does happen and you're afraid to
Speaker: pretty much uh tell your segment win fuck you god no we were we were we were going off of blazing sorry blazing was like i got it right yeah mark that note on the calendar i got something right how many times glick has got something right or jeff's got something right but but correctly if i'm wrong once again just the reason why we
Speaker: happens is why we start making jokes is start creeping into that touchy feelings and we're like, huh, somebody's got a light in the mood. Yeah. Okay. You know, so it's a, it's a, it's a mechanism. And we talked about that when, uh, but I am blazing. I'm always hard, but you know, we talked about that when we, when we did the trauma show, when it started getting a little bit too heavy for Connor,
Speaker: and I made it Jarvis or I made a joke. No. I started getting real heavy for Jarvis, you know, Connor or myself made a joke, you know me. I'm I'm an asshole and you know, I only partial. You know, you and I see the jokes coming a mile away and you're like somebody's got to. You know, I only partially open the door so it doesn't get super heavy. I don't know what that word is. But but but it. Yeah, the brevity.
Speaker: No, but like brevity is is heavy. It's you know, it's it's getting it's getting thick. It's getting we're getting deep into our feeling We understood the brevity of the situation. Yeah, yeah Situations getting a little heavy brah Yeah, because we're we're more What's the word I'm simple we're more in life. Yeah. Yeah, we're more lighten you know, sorry
Speaker: the
Speaker: You know, yeah, that's another story. I think at the end of the day, like we were saying, you know, is that sometimes just coming on here and talking about our problems and being like, you know, this shit's so difficult. And I'm sure wives or significant others are watching this going like, God, what's hard about your guy's life? You're on a fucking podcast right now talking about your problems and all that. And it's just like, honestly, there's times on this show where it's just like.
Speaker: Now I get to open up a lot more than what I can do with my wife. Cause I don't want to bore her with some of my problems. I mean, yesterday, yesterday, after I got off doing the show with blazing, I was just like this. I literally put my hands in my, in, or my fucking head in my eyes, just going like this and shaking my head. And she's like, you know, is everything okay?
Speaker: You're like, yeah, I'm good. I'm just tired. I was just like, uh, I was like, yeah, everything's fine. And she's like, I can tell that you were kind of flustered about how you did during the show. I'm like, Oh yeah. I'm like, blazim was very well in that. And he wrote shit down. He did very good job. I was forever grateful for him coming on, but me, I felt like I let it down. And
Speaker: No, like I said, I, you know, in that, you know, I do the same thing, you know, and I know Chris does as well. It's like, even on, on, on a show like nonsensical nonsense, when we, we say something and it doesn't get the, the laugh that we expect or somebody doesn't hear it, you sit there afterward, you're like, that was stupid. I shouldn't have said that. Or when Jeff, you know, the asshole always tells people that, let me explain the joke.
Speaker: That's just funny. I'm sorry, buddy. Well, it's a good thing to know that when I, you know, when it's my time, whenever that you just hit it and you quit it, bro, you drop a line and then you let it, you either let it die. But once again, but once again, Chris, once again, correct me if I'm wrong. How many times did I explain the joke in the beginning of the show? Oh yeah. Jeff was bad. And he beat it out of me.
Speaker: to the point I don't know it no more. So that's what I had a really good joke. And then I fucking went back to my own. Yeah. Yeah. And you'll learn if that's what we're trying to teach you. You just drop your line and you let it simmer. It's either going to pop or it's going to die either way.
Speaker: And that's the thing, you know, confidence is the biggest key in doing shit like this. And what have I been telling you, man? Like I said, I had the show on. I was turning it up when a commercial came on, so I got to hear a good chunk of it, but I didn't get to watch it all. So I went through today when I was doing my stuff at work, and I put it on, and I was listening to it. You did a good job, man, like I said.
Speaker: I never thought I'd be doing this show here in particular. I wanted to do it, but I never thought I would have the confidence, uh, or be brave enough to do it. So, you know, doing the podcast that Jeff and I was doing nonsensical nonsense. That was, that was my outlet. That was, that was my escape from all the, and I was in a, when we first started this show up until last year, uh,
Speaker: the confidence is going to go back and listen to our first few episodes.
Speaker: Maybe a year and a half. I was in a bad, I was in a bad place. I was in a very dark place, man. Uh, and, and, and, and, and I had been there for a while. So doing the podcast.
Speaker: But doing the podcast Was was my escape it was my way to vent my way It was a coping mechanism for me. It was it was a way to forget reality for that that time we were online and There were times after we get done with the show that we just sit there and stare at the camera for five minutes or or in some case punch the wall or whatever
Speaker: The others like you alright dude. Yeah, I'm good. I'm good. I just I needed that tonight kind of thing and it It is what it is Well, yeah, and you know Before I even started doing podcasts and all that like I was that kid in school that People would be like hey, how are you doing Steven? I'd be like, oh, hey, how are you doing? You know?
Speaker: had really was not social at all. Shut up, Glick. I seen that smile. I was. Oh, I was waiting for Glick to be like, wait, you're a child in school one time. No, no, cash is in here throwing a fit. Yes, not all of us reached maturity by the time we were 13. You bearded bearded sasquatching.
Speaker: but are you talking about I'm 42 years old. I mean, 22 years old and I have the maturity level of a 12 year old boy. I was going to say, I think you just taken puberty for maturity. Didn't mean I got mature. I mean, Hey, I took my, I took my toys or toys or us very seriously.
Speaker: I'm a Toys R Us kid. I don't want to grow up. There's a million toys that I can play with. I just want to be a kid. I don't want to grow up. I took my oath very seriously. I will never be mature. And that's just a cold, hard truth. If you want maturity, you better go fucking find somebody else because I ain't the one.
Speaker: Yeah, get in line and grab your book because you know, I created a fucking podcast where we do dick and fart jokes to escape reality and to cope with everything that I was dealing with in life. I have outbreaks on the show of anger and frustration directed at people that maybe didn't deserve it. Maybe Jeff, maybe Mike, maybe Tony, maybe people that were in the chat. Yeah. But, you know, for the most part,
Speaker: This is, that allowed me to escape from the bullshit that I was dealing with in real life. Facts, lady facts. But yeah, you know, that was just that was, you know, I guess maybe a healthy coping mechanism for me and maybe for Jeff. You know, but
Speaker: that's, that's what we do. And, and, you know, we find that, we find that outlet, you know, wherever we can, you know, I have more outlets now. Um,
Speaker: And I'm not, you know, fortunately for me, like I said, the last year, year and a half, whatever has, you know, outside of fucking normal day to day life, bullshit, nothing. You know, I've had a couple of episodes here and there, but for the most part, I can't, I can't complain a whole lot, but I've also done a whole lot of rediscovery and, and, and, and, and, and learned, uh,
Speaker: one percent. And so it's okay to put my foot down. It's okay to stand up for myself and everything like that. Also, just eliminating toxic people for my life. It's been amazing. And then here we are doing this show. This is a show that I wanted to do. This is a show that I ever since we ever since I decided to do a Monday night show, this is what I wanted to do. But I
Speaker: Uh, I didn't, I don't know if I had, didn't have the confidence. I wasn't brave enough or whatever, or it was just a simple fact of the matter was I knew the right people were not in place to do a show with me on Monday nights. Yeah. Do you want me to go back up to blazing's comment? And then, no, no. And then, and then as the other thing I had to, I had to stop beating myself up so much. Cause I was my own worst enemy. I think about something that happened 15 years ago.
Speaker: because like he was on you like he was in my ear a lot about this show her and a few other people were in my ear wanting to know when I was going to do it where it was at telling me I should do it and everything else but you know that was the other thing I would go back to something that happened when I was in high school man and spend myself up about it like man I wish I could go back and
Speaker: you know, apologize and say, I wish it never happened. Or, you know, I wish I could go back and not do the things that I did, but, uh, Oh, unfortunately what's done is done. You know, so that's on that negative side, you know, there, there's positive and negative coping mechanisms. And that's one of those, those negative coping mechanisms. When you start letting that hamster wheel of negativity, negativity, just, just start
Speaker: eating up. Well, here's my question. Since you're talking about the Hampshire wheel of negativity, how do you stop the fucker? Because I've been trying to find the brake on this motherfucker for years. There's no I can't tell you. I mean, I can tell you what worked for me. What worked for me was was a
Speaker: doing the podcast, you know, be, I mean, even before the podcast streaming, streaming was my outlet. I was on Periscope and I loved it and it was my escape and I could go on there and I could be myself and I could have a good time and I could have fun. Then I was on TikTok, not only doing TikTok, I was making TikToks. If I was in a bad mood, I can make four or five TikToks.
Speaker: with some sad shit depressing fucking songs that hit me a certain type of way. And I ain't doing it to get likes or anything like that. I'm just doing it because it's helping me get it out. And I'm putting it, you know, and then I move on. And then that's some hippie hippie shit blazing. Yeah, hippie. It's also it's also, you know, like blazing just said, you know, you got to bring your mind back to the president or to the president.
Speaker: Meditation exercise Journal right now. I got a journal man. I've got some I've got some dork fucking shit Dude, if I write a journal and somebody I'll call it my manifesto. I swear to god Jarvis fuck I can't do it Mark. I can't do it. I literally I'm I'm I'm literally allergic to weed
Speaker: Oh, that sucks. It helps me a lot. It helps me out a lot. Jeff's fucking journal is going to be listening to Jarvis explain a joke over and over again makes Jeff a small boy. Like I said, you know, I've got a book and it's only a few pages, but it's got some dark shit in it, man. It's just shit that's going on in my head right now. And I got to get it out. But if I come online or if I say it in a social media post, yeah, I'm going to wind up on a fucking list.
Speaker: Yeah, we're already on the list. Yeah use gummies Jeff or They're harder to come by in this town. No, but it's like it's like They too too long to kick in it for me the only way I it sounds so stupid to say it out loud but Sounds like really oh no, trust me dude. If I if I beat that thing anymore, it's gonna come off
Speaker: It does. Yeah, but you're like that gets old after a while. What the fuck do you want? Jesus Christ. Hey, it brings out that self release that you need for about five seconds. Jeff, I know you like to rag on us for playing video games. Hashtag Louis Wayne. I don't rag on it. I just I get no I get nothing out of it, honestly.
Speaker: You got to find a game you enjoy. It's, you know, that's my way. I came home today. I jumped on for maybe 10 minutes, played a few games. You know, I didn't, I seen Mark was, was on there, but I just, I just wanted to play a couple of games, just kind of unwind.
Speaker: And get my dailies out of the way and that's all I did But you know, there's some days like Sundays, you know I do enjoy playing most of the day playing video games whether I play with Mark Bryan and Jarvis or if I'm just playing Games by myself or whatever. That's part of my release. You know, I told you guys I am and that's the other thing Unplugged man on Sundays. Mm -hmm
Speaker: The week and unplug put your phone away specifically used even unplug on Sundays just stop Yeah, put your phone down don't get on social media watch movies with the kids whatever go outside Jeff Go outside Jeff get some fresh air. That's great. I do that I go outside on Wednesdays and Saturdays When I do the show that that's my going outside. No, but it's like I
Speaker: It sounds stupid to say what I do to my unwind is my daydream is the best way to put it. But even that, there's days where I just like, what's the fucking point? Like in general, it's to the point where even the stuff that you like, just eh.
Speaker: Like, yeah, even my favorite pastime is watching like card shows. I watch them now and I just nitpick and bitch the whole time. Well, God, I can't build a car to save his life. You have to find a way to shake the negativity and replace it with some sort of positive positivity, something, you know, and it's not. It's a lot easier said than done. The boys trust me. Trust me. Yeah, it is. Jeff. Jeff has seen me as some of my deepest, darkest moments. I mean, I can really get into him.
Speaker: and i know jeff can too um you know but uh it's very hard it's a lot easier i end up i end up like if i get my depression gets real bad i'll just sleep all the fucking time and then i feel bad because i'm sleeping all the time and i'm wasting my my life away and then it just the whole cycle starts over
Speaker: Hey, you just had to find something that you can use. Again, we're talking about coping mechanisms tonight. You have to find that method or that mechanism that you can shake the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. I mean, I would tell you to look at your family, but I mean, that's all. That just makes you want to punch them in the face.
Speaker: no you know the problem is is i can't get away from them i think that that that's a small factor as well i i literally i can't get away i need a little time but he needs alone time and that's you know go for a walk go go i walk every morning when i go get my cigarette
Speaker: Just go to the beach for a couple hours and leave every like just tell Tony or whatever. Hey, I need a few hours to myself. I'll be back. Don't worry. But everybody needs some alone time every once in a while.
Speaker: You just let the dark thoughts come in there you just and that's why I said you find something that you enjoy I mean, you know when it took me a while to discover things that I enjoyed doing and that you know that I was able to go do and and and You know get rid of that negativity and I'm speaking for me personally, you know, I like going to the gym. I'm God damn it. I'm I'm telling you guys eventually I'm gonna get back there. I
Speaker: I keep saying Monday, Monday, Monday. Well, here it is Monday. Did I go to the gym today? No. His next location for doing the show is him in the gym just pumping iron. I'm going to give you one of those harnesses so I can attach my phone and I'm going to just be at the gym working out while I do the show. But yeah, I love going to the gym because I have to force myself. I hate it.
Speaker: I put my earbuds in and I swear to God, it's no joke. I said it a week or so back. You never know what I'm listening to. I could be listening to Britney Spears. I could be listening to Guar. I could be listening to Eminem. I could be listening to fucking ABBA. You never know, but I got my music in, noise canceling earbuds. I can't hear nothing.
Speaker: My brain shuts down because I'm focused on working and out. I'm enjoying, I'm listening to the music and I find my happy place. Or hour and a half that I spend to work out. That gives me that alone time. That gives me that time to work out that anger, that frustration, the negativity to get to a positive place, to get to a positive ground.
Speaker: and it does sound like some hippy dippy weird shit, but it is. I mean, I'm in that zone. I get that way when I play video games. I get that way. You know, I used to, one of the things that I miss more about, more than anything about being in Charleston is the water. The water is my happy place for me, whether it be a river, a lake, a beach, you know, the ocean, a pond. Water is my happy place. I could be listening to Alaska Thunderbug.
Speaker: No, but like, I think, I think, um, once I get my bike, I need to get, I need to get my bike. So what, cause I went, you know, back in high school when I had my bike, I can just be gone for like three days. Right after high school, I had a bike and I could just be gone for three days, not see anybody. And I'd come back just happy. I used to, I used to love hitting the heavy bag. It was one of my fucking favorite things. I can't do it anymore.
Speaker: But I mean, half the time I wasn't even in there doing anything technical. I was just beating the shit out of the heavy bag because it was pissed off or I had to get an anchor out. It wasn't positive. I didn't leave feeling better. I left feeling like a little, a little mad, but like I got some of the aggression out that I can't do around my family, that I can't do around people who are quote unquote normal.
Speaker: And so you get that aggression out. And then on the drive home, you try and I mean, it's it's it's nerdy and it's hippie, but like do that deep breathing shit. And just try and try and relax. You don't need to have happy, happy thoughts if you're if you're calm and just try and turn off the noise. I'm a big proponent proponent of you can't really turn the negative off.
Speaker: But you can you can silence it. You can make it quiet. You can't you can't always be positive. You can't always have a have a good mentality in life. But if you can if you can get the negative shit out of your way and really take out your aggression and whatever you need to take out and then just breathe it away and be calm, find something that makes you calm. Don't worry about being positive. Don't don't find your happy place. Don't worry about that. Just fucking get rid of it. You've got, you know,
Speaker: your happy place to Jarvis I hope it burns unfortunately I'm gonna be in my happy place and every building's all burned there's a shit just you fucking Connor that sounds like my happy place burning down your happy place is my happy place
Speaker: You do you know, unfortunately Screw that blazing thing Look on the bright side of life by Monty Python. Yeah, no, but like even even like One of the things that you know, like we were talking about this a while a long while back Chris and I were talking about old TV shows
Speaker: I can't get into them anymore. I'm just like, oh, I can still watch old shows. It just depends on which ones. That's the thing in general. Well, we're right up against it. We're going to come back and continue this conversation, you know, doing coping and dealing and.
Speaker: and trying to find ways that works for you because just because something works for me doesn't necessarily mean it's going to work for you or if it works for Jarvis or if it works for Jeff. Did we really get any tips out? I mean, it kind of just went into what we do on Wednesday. We're talking personally. We're not experts. We're not doctors in this. So we're not going to tell people what they have to do. We're just going to share our experiences and share what we do. That's the great thing about this show is
Speaker: Is is it's it's on a part. It's on a very personal level whether it be with the with the three guys who who? Who uh hosts this show or when we have guests and jeff here guests on the show tonight. Let's be honest Yeah, you know or when we have other guys who come on the show Uh, you know, it's it's it's personal. It's it's very personal based. Uh, you know, it's not uh, I just don't want to go back to my old ways of walking around town wishing a motherfucker would yeah, I mean I could I can google I can google a bunch of stuff that
Speaker: people with degrees and shit like that never been through it have have written if you want me to Jarvis and we can and we can read that if you like I'm just I was just asking because I know we we kind of bounced around but at the same time like like everyone says you know coping skills do vary from person to person something that blazing finds
Speaker: his coping skills may not work for us but in the in the same way we're always we are also giving out our own kind of way of how we cope with stuff and who knows maybe something Connor does help someone else maybe some Jeff nothing anymore no yeah well I mean cry went cry I live by that thank you
Speaker: I mean, that's a hell of a coping skill. If you think about it for about like five seconds and then you feel ashamed and want to cry again. So you do it again. Like I said, I do want to continue the conversation, but I do want to take a real quick break. Yeah, I got to I got to go make my bladder, bladder as as please and says. We're going to recycle some alcohol. All right, just fine. Let's go. Oh, that's good. Bladder. Yeah, that's good. Good job, please.
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Speaker: He might have got lost in the house or he's stuck on the toilet. I don't know. He's in the basement going like, how the hell did I get down here? We got a mission point. Stuck point going down. APB, we are looking for a guy. Motherfucker needs a map. The motherfucker needs a map and a compass. And you guys know me. I'm click. I'm I'm posting this just shit show.
Speaker: Who are you calling a nerd? Damn it, Jeff, we don't have it on here. Oh, I can switch it back and forth real quick. Yeah. But welcome back. We're talking about coping and coping mechanisms and finding ways to get yourself out of a funk and to get rid of the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. You know, Connor said something that
Speaker: It's not about getting rid of the negative, it's 100%. I mean, like Connor said, you can go take your anger and frustrations out on a heavy bag or whatever the case may be. But ultimately, at the end of the day, you do got to be able to shake the negativity and replace it with positivity. And it's a lot easier said than done at the end of the day. We assumed you got lost in your house and you had to GPS your way back to the room.
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Speaker: Here's dude. She's if she had it her fucking way, dude, we would have a wheelchair. We would have one of those fucking scooters. We would have the elevator thing that goes up the side of the stairs with the chair. I want one of those from my house. Oh, my God.
Speaker: She's more she's more into getting equipment for me than I am. I'm just like I'll figure it out. I figured it out after the last surgery and I could barely feel my legs. I'll figure it out this time. No, I get winded going up my stairs. So I was going to be in the pulley and strap and he's going to be like, don't worry, I got this fucking next thing, you know, one straps broke and he's just dangle.
Speaker: The neighborhood kids are like. Have you seen the family guy where Peter has to go to the bathroom so he goes over to Joe's house? He gets tangled up in the fucking pulley systems. He's like, I can't figure this out. And Connor stuck on the toilet and all he hears is Bravo going dark. What the hell?
Speaker: This is my Bluetooth headset reach the fucking computer because I can just do the choke here Don't worry about it If you see me fighting a bear help the bear because I'm gone anyway Thanks
Speaker: Yeah, well, I mean, sometimes you need the bear. Sometimes the very you just see a bear like back like sticking out of his bathroom. What's going on in there, Connor? Don't ask. And in the case in the case of the revenants, sometimes you grape the bear. Sometimes bear grapes you. And that's what they said. I haven't I still haven't seen that fucking movie. I haven't seen it either.
Speaker: And then sometimes I've seen and I'm like, you know what? I'm good. Anyways, that's a whole different, we're not going to go. Sometimes there's a bunch of men on a podcast talking about random stuff that no one knows what they're talking about. They don't even know what they're talking about at the end of the day. So, so, you know, we're, we're, we're talking about COVID and obviously, and Jeff, because it is Monday night and it has been caring for men, clearly this financial situation has got you in a deep, dark punk band.
Speaker: Dude, I'm a bit of a fucking serious. I am spiraling I Can see that like like how we've all seen twister. I'm I'm I am the twister, you know, I'm just You know and it comes down to it's it's literally I I know it's gonna work out. I have no doubt but and 90 yeah the meantime and
Speaker: and in 90 % of the time I'm like, I got this, no problem. But every once in a while it's just, it's like getting punched in the back of the head. You don't know what's coming. And the depression just sits in and I, I talk, I was talking to myself cause I never do that. But I was talking to myself. I said, I can go upstairs. I can go lay down and spiral or Glick and the guys are doing a show.
Speaker: The healthier is one is get on the show. I don't know if that was the correctness because you're not I'll let you know But it But it was probably not Because because I know that if I sit up here and lay down a spiral. Oh, I'm not good to anybody
Speaker: Yeah, like first for like a month. So these may find bodies That was my old coping mechanism was especially if I was having a really bad day I would walk through the hotel zone with a come on. Let's try some are you want to look on my face and and just Wishing that somebody would just feel a drop of beer on me because I
Speaker: I've been kicked out of every bar in town at one point or another because somebody looked at me funny. So it's like I could do that or I can jump on the show and not spiral out. Let's jump on the show. Let's try something new. That mentality is
Speaker: You know, it's it's keeping it's keeping the saving lives. Well, no, no, no, no, no, that that that anger and because, you know, as I've said on this show, I have a very violent past. I have a very violent history because that's how I dealt with things was through violence. I'm not proud of it. I'm not bragging about it. I'm not. This is not a.
Speaker: Pissing conversation. This isn't measuring dicks or anything like that. I have a very violent history a very violent past I wear the scars both physically and emotionally From the things that that I did and the things that that happened, you know But that is taking the negative The trying to think of how to word this
Speaker: That's, that's taken, taking it from a mental standpoint to making it a physical standpoint. So you're replacing the, the, the negative mindset with a negative physicality, which at the end of the day, doesn't do anything for your situation. It's kind of like, you know, like Connor said, you know, he likes, and then don't get me wrong. I mean, I'm the same way. Trust me, you know, go to the gym. It's still a physical thing.
Speaker: You go, you know, you go and you get a heavy bag, you get a speed bag. It's a safer outlet than getting into a physical altercation with somebody else. Exactly. It's a Band -Aid. It's not actually, it's a Band -Aid to make you feel a little bit better for that time being, but unless you're able to find
Speaker: A way to spend the negative into positive that then it's just going to continue that vicious cycle. You're going to stay in that vicious cycle. Um, you know, so you have to find that outlet and, and, and Jeff, I really do believe. And, and I think I can say this and I think I can speak for everybody in this panel. And I think I can speak for everybody watching this as men. We do need that alone. We do need that time when we are just alone.
Speaker: whether you're lost in your head for a couple of hours, it gives you that time where you don't have to worry about the kids. You don't have to worry about your significant other. You're just by yourself and you're able to kind of work through everything and let, let your head run crazy for a little while. You know, as crazy as this sounds, you know, there was several times where I would, again, the water was my happy place. When I lived down in Charleston, I would, I would go to the beach,
Speaker: And it would be, it would be 10, 11, 12 o 'clock at night where I'd go down to the battery and battery was in downtown Charleston and it was right up against the water. And it'll be late at night and I would go down there and I would start to get lost in my thoughts or whatever. The water would start to calm me and relax me. And then I would just let out a, uh,
Speaker: I don't know, man, I don't know what you want to call it, a scream, a roar, a yell. Just from prehistoric days, just everything. Sasquatchian days. Sasquatchian yell. Just unleash it. And, you know, every once in a while, there might be people that are walking around battery or walking around the beach that late at night that I scare the absolute shit out of because it's not every day that you see a Sasquatch just
Speaker: yelling into the yell into the moon or whatever. There's a squatch in these woods. You know, squash on vacation, but but it allowed me to to clear my mind. It allowed me to clear my head. It gave me that.
Speaker: You know, it's as crazy as it sounds because the alone time was killing me because I was alone in my house and Charleston and it was killing me. But to get out of my house, to get out of that, that, that world and go somewhere else, but still be alone was actually therapeutic in a way. But at the end of the day, you know, because when I'm sitting at the house, I'm thinking of everything with the failed marriage and the kids didn't want to be around me and, and, and, and, and, you know, and everything else.
Speaker: And once I got out of the house that I was able to start to process shit and, and, and, and slowly that hamster wheel of negativity would start to slow down. And I was able to, to, to process and think about things, but Jeff, you don't get a moment ever alone. You need time alone, man. You got to take, like I said, you know, and, and, and I'm not saying that she is like, if Tony doesn't understand that.
Speaker: Did shame on her or somebody's not even about that. It's like, I hate being alone. Like when I'm alone, it gets worse because my mind is the worst place I can be at a time like this. But if you find something that you enjoy, something that you like, something that puts you at ease, something that calms you, it's not the same. Like I said, that's why I said when I was at, when I was at my house,
Speaker: I couldn't be alone there, I hated it. But if I went to the beach or I went to the battery or whatever, it was a different environment, it was a different world. So yeah, I still had those same thoughts and everything, but I was also able to,
Speaker: Have a you know, have a conversation with myself And not let the negative thoughts just overwhelm me or just like it's or just fucking listen, you know listening to music or something or or Hell I can't tell you how many times I went to the beach in the middle of the night and just fucking sat on the beach and Watched a movie on my phone I got a 75 -inch flat screen TV at home that I can watch a movie on But I'm sitting here watching out my little on my little
Speaker: Yeah, on this. Right. You know, but I'm I'm I'm kickbacking and share. I hear the ocean. You know, it's it's a nice night. You hear the critters. You know, it's it's it's all about finding your peace. And you can't just go well, you know.
Speaker: you're defeating the whole purpose when it's like you got to find your peace, you got to find your happiness, you got to find your happy place when you just want to go ahead and take a shit on everything that's out there. I mean, like, you know, you made those signs and I know you're super proud of those signs and they look good outside of your racist one, but it's not right. Oh, well, that one. That one's hidden. Yeah. But, you know, something like that. I mean,
Speaker: Again, you know, when, when it's afforded find a, find a shop or something and rent you a shop and just be like, all right, I'm done work. I'm going to go to the shop and I'm going to, I'm going to do woodworking. That's the plan. Or if you, cause I know you made those at home with what you have right now. What kids are in bed.
Speaker: I'm going to go to the backyard. I'm going to make, I'm going to do so. Right. Well, that's the plan. I want to use the side yard. I want to turn into a shop, but all that stuff costs money. You get to a point where you don't have to use power tools. So you're not pissing the entire, not that it matters because I've heard mariachi music at your house at eight o 'clock in the morning. So
Speaker: I was gonna say and and and the the one thing but his neighbors and that's no joke one time 8 o 'clock in the morning and I was like what the fuck are you doing Jeff? Somebody's fucking birthday my neighbors and it's their people wake people up with their birthday with a mariachi band and I like shoot it's 6 o 'clock in the morning you got three more minutes then I'm gonna come down there and start swinging
Speaker: I'm not allowed to own a gun in Mexico because I'm a foreigner Oh, that's unlike in the states where they hand them out when you cross I feel like everybody's picking on Jeff right now
Speaker: But it comes down to that's why I came on the alternative. Yeah, well, I mean Not picking on you in a bad way But I mean I feel like the focus is on you to you tonight Jeff and I I am the guest far far be it from far be it from me to to preach to you about Mental health or how to take care of yourself when it comes to that because it's just a pot on the kettle black
Speaker: I've, over the last year, I've lost essentially every fucking coping mechanism that I used to have that was positive in my life. And appreciation is my biggest tool. If I can abort it. But appreciating what I have, and I know it's dumb and it's cliche, but like Glick said, I mean,
Speaker: the the
Speaker: but you can find some calm in what whatever's going on. I, I don't know you the way Chris knows you, but fucking, I mean, I'm sure you've got, it seems like you got a pretty, pretty fucking busy life. And yeah, between essentially being a stay at home down at dad and your work is primarily at home and you don't get, and I definitely have four jobs. Yep.
Speaker: You don't get time away from the kids. You don't get a whole bunch of time away from the wife. You don't get time to yourself. There's an importance to it. And it's not the importance of just having you time. It's the importance of finding the calm, the calm and the storm, finding the eye and the storm like there's, it's not that the positivity is coming tomorrow. It's that there's a whole bunch of shit in between us and, and the positivity and we'll get there eventually, but just sit in the calm for a second and breathe.
Speaker: and whatever you have to do to find that that calm is what you need to fucking do and nobody there is no one size fits all like we've like everyone says over and over it's trial and error for everybody fuck I'm on my fourth fucking therapist so that's that's where I find you guys impressive the fact that you could actually go to a therapist and open up you wouldn't get me through the door I it I was though
Speaker: Yeah, I was essentially told that I could go on my own two feet or they were going to drag me kicking and screaming. That was why I did have, I did have a two sessions of mandatory, but after the first one, the therapist is like, yeah, he scares me.
Speaker: So the first time I ever went. He asked me to tell me how I felt and I went. And I would do it. We're good. He's good. Just don't let him back in my office. So the very first time I went to therapy, I literally told the therapist, I'm like, I think your profession is a joke. I don't know why I'm here and I probably ain't going to show up. And my therapist literally after I said that said. OK.
Speaker: You don't have to be here. No one's forcing you to be here. And when I left that, she's like, I'll see you next time. And I'm like, yeah, I'll be here next week. Fucker. And I just walked out the door. Like I literally did not give a shit, but at the same time, it's like, I've always believed that it's something happens for a reason. You may not know it at the time, but I mean, I was just starting to date my now wife and.
Speaker: at that time I didn't open up like I told this I'm like she's always like God I wish I would have been in high school I'm like you wouldn't have been able to see don't make me in high school like I didn't even like who I was in high school and yet I was the quiet kid like I had my head down people would say hi to me it's like hey how are you doing fucking fuck off you know and at the end of the day granted therapy doesn't work for everyone but I mean at the time you can
Speaker: you can pick out what does work and put it into your own way of dealing with shit.
Speaker: And me hearing me say some of this thing, it's like practice what you preach, asshole. But, you know, but I get it. It's like, no, it is like you were saying you were the quiet person in high school. Ask Glick. I was not the quiet person. I was the one yell that for talking in class. And when I joined the Navy, I got I did so many push ups. Jesus Christ, I could have looked like John Cena if I'd actually kept at it. Say Glicky G. But but OK, when when
Speaker: but you get me alone and you know, I, I think the reason, like the way I was in high school and the way I am in a crowd or, or in a group, it's the a hundred percent opposite. If you walked in my house, it's scary when you're alone, when, when you're not even, not even alone, like even here with the wife and kids, I literally live like days. I just, they're like, are you alive? I'm like, yeah, I'm here. I'm listening.
Speaker: Go ahead. Tell me your story. I'm listening. But like I it's not like I walk in the room like, guys, you never guess what just happened on the walk to the fucking store. I do that on the show. But here in the house. Jesus, they got a damn near beat me. Make sure I'm I talk because I have this weird thing where where especially like on a day like today, I just shut down. I just.
Speaker: fuck it. I say I give up a lot. I give up. What's the fucking point? They're my go tos. What's the fucking point? I don't fucking care. Oh, it's so easy to. Yeah. And my wife will yell at me. She went out with her friends today because I was in a mood. She's like, yeah, I'm going out with my friends. Yeah, go ahead. See you when you get back. Well, yeah. And that's not healthy for you because you're in a mood rather than being there to be
Speaker: No, no, I told her I said you don't want to be around tonight I'm telling you now if you've got a chance to go out your friends go because I'm just gonna be moody and pissy all night and normally is Well, no, but because normally, you know if if I'm not in a mood Well, we'll sit down watch TV, you know, we'll comment about the show or watch it or like, huh? That's interesting but
Speaker: like Chris, you you you talked about a while back that naked attraction. We started watching that and. Because we we originally started watching and I was like, wait, they blurred everything. Fuck this. I don't watch that. And then they I wanted to see how they did. They did here for like.
Speaker: three days. And I was like, Well, what's the fucking point? I can't see no poutine. I don't know. Fuck it. I'm out. Fuck you, Mexico. I put it on again. And I was like, Haha, they took off the blur. Now we're in. You know, and you know, it's one of those things that was like, it became, you know, obviously the kids, we don't gather around the kids, hey, kids, we're gonna watch this cool show, you know, but, but, you know, like Kevin, Kevin wanted to watch Fallout the other day. And I was like, I don't know.
Speaker: I, you know, I said, if you can get through the first episode and I got up, I forgot what was going to happen. I got up to go to the bathroom and he goes, and I hear from the bathroom. Holy shit. I'm like, yeah, see, why isn't he dead? Well, he's special, I guess. But I like not if I'm in a mood.
Speaker: I'm like, yeah, you know what? It's probably best because the problem is I'll get in a mood and then for no reason, I'll start an argument. Oh, I mean, definitely, you know, and that's the thing. It's like if you're quiet, then, you know, they want to sometimes be like, what's going on? What's going on? You're just like sitting there like, leave me alone. I don't want to talk about it. It's exactly fine. Then you start talking about it.
Speaker: and then all of a sudden you do start talking about like Connor is saying and then all of a sudden it's like gosh it sucks you only think about yourself or it sounds like a you problem or something like my wife one time she's like you never say anything ask me how my day is and it's like it's like someone hit the asshole button today okay let's ask you about your fucking day it's not like no like I mean all of a sudden it's like oh god you know I
Speaker: Hey, look, a fucking thing outside that I can swing from, you know, it's yeah. No, I love hearing about my wife's day or my kid's day when they come back from school and stuff. I love that shit. But they're like, how was your day? I'm like, yeah, it was fine. And then they get mad because you don't open up. Yeah. And it's like.
Speaker: You guys really don't want to hear this because I'm literally gonna just go over what I'd said in a meeting Which is repeated 14 15 times 16 today. I had 22 meetings. I said the same thing in every fucking meeting Because it's a pitch, you know, you know you change it up a little bit but not by lunch, you know per industry and And I was like does it matter? Did I close anything? No, did I get the docs that I needed for that? No, I
Speaker: What do you want me to fucking do? You know, and like, uh, it's, it's hard to explain. It's like, I that's like, we were talking about before the show, I want to buy a 3d printer so bad for the simple fact, like what we were talking about with Trent the other day, that I think that would be a good thing for me to like, I, I watched this guy on YouTube. He builds dioramas.
Speaker: And but he's so detailed like he 3d prints his own parts that don't exist and stuff like that But he makes it look like it's you know 40 years old it's been sitting in a field for 30 days, you know or 30 years and and like I would love to do something like that, but My fear is if I start doing I'm like, yeah, I just wasted $5 ,000 on a bunch of equipment and now I don't like it
Speaker: So where you know and it's like I love working on my cars, but you want to talk about expensive hobby Jesus Christ You know, that's like going on the websites and finding those models like diecast models are like the batmobile and all that shit It's like yeah, you can have this and a year's time where you have to build it from yeah, I've seen those yeah, I don't like those but like even even the plastic models that you build and
Speaker: I can't get them here. I love building those fucking I can't get them. I have to order them off Amazon. It takes a week to get here. And when they do get here, then I got to figure out. Well, no, no, they come fine. But then I got to buy all the paint I got to buy. You can't buy it here anywhere. Really? It's all you have to buy especially stuff. And, you know, yeah, I can go buy automotive paint that costs 10 times as much.
Speaker: And then I got a half a gallon or a quarter gallon laying around for six months that I needed one blue color Yeah for this one car you spray the card three times to get it covered and then well What are we gonna do with the rest of this half quarter gallon? Oh Put it in this shelf. We'll use it eventually and then it sits there and goes bad. So it's it's a it's one of those things where it it's not like
Speaker: Back in the day and you're probably too young for it, but you walk into walmart and they'd have a fucking row Of all the models and all the shit Well, remember reme - I don't know if you ever did boy scouts or anything, but remember a soapbox derby cars Yeah, the pine wood derby cars pine wood. Thank you. Yeah and oh my god, like if you didn't have the decal you wanted or paint you wanted to
Speaker: Literally, you could go to Walmart and yeah, I get a pain. Yep. Yeah, I can't yell for it. I can't get them. I can't get them No, exactly like there are Cancun is Relatively a small town. There are still places that I find. I'm like, huh didn't know that existed like there's a there's a there's a really big motorcycle Customization shop here. I have no idea where it is. I'm seeing it online and and you know
Speaker: And I looked it up online. I know where the area is, but couldn't find the interest to save my life out. Well, yeah. I mean, I want to watch this. Wait, even at that time, you know, it gets to that point where.
Speaker: Like I told my wife, I was like, that's one thing I can't wait for is when I'm older or when we have kids and they're older, when we start being able to do the box cars and all that shit and fucking the boats and all that shit. Cause I mean, my dad helped us with that. And I always had to have my dad paint like the most.
Speaker: Detailed like decals on there and it's like he's like Steven I have to go to work in the morning I'm like, but dad I have to have the coolest looking car cuz I knew I was gonna fucking lose so it's like why not lose with the coolest car well, like Well back in the day, you know that the thing is Like click was talking about the woodworking that all fine and dandy but once again Like even just the saw blades for my scroll saw
Speaker: There there's one place in town that sells them one Yeah, it's not Home Depot. It's what store and they have the weirdest fucking hours and I Still don't know how to say the name in Spanish You know, it's where as shop No, no of the part that I need, you know, yeah, you know and it is the frustrating thing is I could if they'd let me in the back and
Speaker: I could walk right in front of there. It is. That's what I need. But, you know, I got to show up pictures and they're like and they show up. They give you something that's this big. You need something that's six inches tall. Yeah. You know, and shit like that just frustrates the shit out of me. You know, there are there are a bunch of specialty stores for, you know, woodworking craftsmen's, you know, like I could go to certain certain wood stores and get zebra wood, you know, all these different exotic woods.
Speaker: but they don't let me in the back. So, you know, where my wife makes fun of me, she's like, you know, you spend three times as much when you go to Home Depot. Then if you go, yeah, but the guy won't let me in the back. So I can't look, I don't know what I want, you know? And she's like, he'll bring you samples as a gap, which means I have to take your ass with me. And you get frustrated because I'm like, I don't know. What's it called? That one?
Speaker: You know, and so it's it's that it's a weird thing. Like all my hobbies that I love, I can't do here because of one limitation or another, like, especially when it comes to model building, you can't get the stuff here. You have to order it online and states. Yeah, get right on that. Let's leave the wife behind. That's not a bad idea.
Speaker: freedom If I can get healthy by next year you trip out in the Appalachia's yeah but you know it it's it comes down to the worst part about it is like especially right now like Four months ago or or a year ago when I was making 200 grand a year Yeah, I just well just order it all if it's not the right one. I'll buy it on the one now. It's to the point where it's like Yeah, I can't afford it
Speaker: I think the biggest thing, and I'm going to speak for you personally, Jeff. I used to be the same way. I was the exact same way. You can give us every excuse and every reason under the sun, but at the end of the day, and this is something that I've learned recently is,
Speaker: Until you're willing to essentially just accept, you know, again, it is what it is. You know, you got to, you've got to learn to accept it so that you can then find those simple pleasures in life. Those simple things that do make you happy.
Speaker: until you do that, you're going to, you're going to find yourself in this, in this, uh, wormhole rabbit hole, whatever you want to call it, uh, of a spiral. And I say that not to be a Dick to you or anything else because I get it. You know, I, I was there. I was, I was, I was the same, you know, Jim doesn't, you know, I don't like, yeah, I like going to the gym, but you know, whatever. I gotta go, I gotta go to work and then I gotta come home and I gotta change.
Speaker: You know, I like going to the beach. Oh, I gotta go home and I gotta do what it is. I'd rather, I'd rather shoot myself to go to the beach. I hate the beach. Yeah. I'm just saying like, you know, for me, you, you, instead of, instead of accepting, like, look, I'm dealing with this shit and it fucking sucks. And I know that I just got to change. And then, but instead of actually realizing it, I don't want to say accepting, but actually realizing it and actually wanting it, actually what it boils down to is wanting to make the change.
Speaker: You know, you can while in your own self pity and your own misery, you know, for, for ever, if you want, uh, you know, that's up to each, each one of us individually. We can all do that. Or we can go, this fucking sucks, but I'm not going to let it continue to wear me down and beat me down.
Speaker: And until you're willing to make that, let's call it what it is, that gigantic leap forward, because it's not baby step. It's not a baby step. After you make the leap, it's baby steps in my experience. But until then, you're going to go and go, yeah, I love doing woodwork and it's something I enjoy.
Speaker: everything right now everything right now just boils down to price. I just don't have like I said, I got five maybe six weeks of money left and that's and that's you know, you it doesn't always have to be you know, it can be something as simple as like I said and I'm gonna say this is all blue in the face. I'm gonna say this to everybody.
Speaker: We need alone time as human beings. We need time to be alone. And if, and if being alone means you're, you're stuck in your own dark thoughts for a few, so be it, but we all need time alone. We all have to, I'm not saying like single or anything like that. We just need, um, we just need all alone time. No, no, even Nikki, I mean, I'm sure she enjoys being able to not have anybody in the house and watch her shows or read her books when
Speaker: When nobody's home, you know, on Sundays when, you know, Nikki's got to work. Yeah. I mean, of course I miss her and I miss our Sunday routine of, you know, being lazy and watching movies together. But at the same time, if she's not home on a Sunday, I enjoy that alone that there's no kids here.
Speaker: You know if Nikki's at work, then I was like, all right. I get the data myself I'm not gonna do shit except fucking sit around and watch television or or or You know play video games Maybe I'll work on podcast stuff or whatever, but it's that time alone. We all need it We all need it. We all need to be able to recharge our batteries and that's what I said and I'll say this forever I Think it's extremely beneficial
Speaker: If you are able to take a day where you can unplug, get away from your laptop, get away from social media, all social media, Tik TOK, whatever. You know, if you have a game on your phone that you like to play, fucking play the hell out of it. Play it until your fucking thumbs fall off. You know, but get away from social media and get away. You know, I'm sure sometimes a lot of people think I'm an asshole on Sundays because I just blatantly ignore people, but I've said it a million times.
Speaker: people. It's no secret. Sundays are my own plug date. I don't want to, I don't want to talk to anybody on Sundays. Right. I, you know, Jarvis, obviously an exception. You didn't do anything wrong yesterday. Don't worry about it. Oh, no. I already know. I'm low on those totem pole. Don't worry. No, no, no. You didn't do anything wrong yesterday. You know, that's totally different story. You know, but I was playing call of duty and you know, and I was playing with Mark and Brian and, and again,
Speaker: It's an exception, but I'm doing something that I enjoy. I'm playing video games, you know, whatever the case may be, but until you're willing to want to, to, to, to, to make a change or whatever. And like I said, I'm not saying this to be an asshole. I'm just saying this because I get it. This was the realization I had to come to. Things aren't going to get better. It's not going to get easier. That goes out to everybody. You can sit and while they're in your own self -pity and feel bad for yourself all day long.
Speaker: We've all been there. I've told you guys a million times. Hey, I'll give you the suitcase. Go fucking visit. Don't fucking live there though. Go visit. It's all right to go visit. I'll help you Pat. You want to go away the wall or in yourself pity and boo -hoo and feel bad for yourself. All right. You got the weekend, but you're not living, not moving in. You're not staying there permanently. Well, yeah, I mean, you know,
Speaker: that's the thing at the end of the day is it's okay to have those it's okay to have those days where you're down it is it's 100 % okay but at the at the same time there's times where you gotta kind of grab yourself by the fucking shirt and say hey it's time it's time to get this shit off your chest grab yourself by the bootstraps
Speaker: Thank you. I was, I was wondering for the analogy there. Jeffrey, you know, you know, the ones I'm talking about. Yeah. You know, once the one that daddy likes. Yeah. My, uh, my pain management guy actually told me something similar, Chris. Um, a big thing that we talk about obviously as, as men is being tough. And especially when you're in the military is one of your big things. It's like quit being a bitch, right?
Speaker: quit being a bitch and push through it. And it's not about, like it's just like Chris said, like it's okay to be, it's okay to be there and to be fucking going through it. Like that shit sucks. Like losing, losing function in a leg sucks. Losing, you know, being in pain 24 seven sucks. But if all you do is fucking think about that, then you're, you're, you're doing yourself a disservice.
Speaker: You can sit there and you could be mad that you're in a shitty financial situation. You could be mad that you're in pain 24 seven. You could be mad that you're not doing what you want to do in life, blah, blah, blah, whatever you want to fucking put in that box and check it. You can be mad about all that and have all the self pity you want. But are you going to sit there and be a bitch or are you going to fucking man up there? You can do something about it. And I know that right now there's probably not a whole lot you can really do about it. That's the problem. There is nothing I can do. But you got it. You got to fucking eat it, dude.
Speaker: Yeah, you got it. You got to eat the fucking tough times. It's like I said earlier, there's no there's no getting around it. Nobody can blow smoke up your ass and just turn off the fucking negativity. Nobody can make the storm stop. You're just going to go through it and find something. Find some way to not be in that mood 24 seven. Let it not be. Yeah. Yeah. Don't let it don't let it consume you because it's not just going to affect you.
Speaker: the the the the
Speaker: You know, Batman learned to use the anger, but Bane was Bane was molded by that shit. I mean, he literally took Batman and broke his back on his knee and just said, you're done. You got to like, you know, that that that outlook might be your your your Jeff's garage, man. Or beaten your death. That's kind of a hope. I beat my dick enough. I don't know.
Speaker: Fucking it's that it's that moment, Steven. It's that moment when Bain and Batman are fighting in that end fight scene and Bain looks at him and he goes, how did you get out? How did you survive? I broke you. I fucking I ruined you. You know, I ended. I ended. What was Bruce Wayne? What was Batman? What was this? How did you get out?
Speaker: He fucking sat there and he was broken for a minute. And then he got his ass up and he fucking tried like 17 times to get his ass out. That's just how he broke his back a couple of times on that stone pillars. But, you know, I still walked away from that. I mean, it's all cliche, but there's a reason they become cliches because there's the truth. There's always a little bit of your skills, Batman. Hmm.
Speaker: the the the
Speaker: And you know, because I don't want to feel like I'm picking on you. No, no, no, no, no. I'm not trying to terrify you. Oh, poor Jeff. You know, Jarvis, Jarvis, do what he asked you. You wouldn't make sort of make sometimes you're all right. You know, it.
Speaker: I am kind of speaking to you, Jeff, but I'm also kind of speaking to all the men out there that might be listening to this. It's okay. Just the loungers. It's okay to put your foot down. That means laying down the law in your house. What? If I'm, if I'm working, you guys got to stop. You know, you, there's no answer butts about it. You got to chill the fuck out. Hey, you know, if you're going to show a, you know, cash comes in here, Nikki comes in here, but
Speaker: just to be a blatant asshole distraction. Uh, they, it's, uh, it sounds like a dick thing to say, but they don't know better. It's, it's, it's a matter of respect, but they, that's because look, they know I'm doing the show. They know that, you know, yes, I can mute my mic. Yes. I can turn around and I can answer questions. Nicki and I have talked things and that's perfectly fine, but to like,
Speaker: run through yelling and screaming and run through and enact a certain type of way. It's all right to put your foot down. It's all right to set boundaries. You know, we're allowed to set boundaries for ourselves and to put our foot down as well. Um, it doesn't make us an asshole. It doesn't make us a terrible person or a bad dad or a bad husband or a bad boyfriend or, or anything like that. It's just like, look, this is, this is my thing. You know, you got to give me my time.
Speaker: And if you can't respect that, then, uh, then, then you're going to make me the asshole that you want to pretend that I, because then I'm going to have to, you know, yell at you guys or scream at you guys or, or make you go sit in your fucking room or, or something. And hello, princess. Hello, princess.
Speaker: I think I'm just fucking the show, little one. But she's not happy to... she's a... words are hard, everyone. She's a happy distraction. She's waving at us. Hi. Hi. She's a happy baby. For the most part.
Speaker: Hello, that's right. Good job. Hello. Cherish these moments because in about five years she's going to get an attitude. Don't worry, I've got I've got two other dickheads that run around my house. So is she going to take after the wife or is she going to take after you, Connor? God willing, she takes after my wife. I was about to say. Oh, hi.
Speaker: And this is the part of show where we forget what we're all talking about. And that's just something in life in general that, that, that, you know, I think, you know, because we're told that if we set boundaries or if we put work, put our foot down, we're bad. We're bad. Yeah. We're the asshole. Yeah. Toxic masculinity.
Speaker: Yes. And it's not a bad thing. You know, you know, that's something that I've had to learn. And that's something that again, in the last year and a half or something, that's something that I've learned, you know, there's nothing wrong with me having, having, you know, putting my foot down or, or, or, you know, whatever the case, maybe I lost my train of thought the now I'm not John Cena, you guys can still see me, but where'd he go? Where'd he go?
Speaker: the fifth
Speaker: Gentlemen, have a great night. Ladies, if you're listening, have a good night. And we will see you all on Wednesday. Much love, brother. Bye, Connor. Boundaries, that's the word I was looking for. Yeah, in the last year and a half, I've learned that it's all right for me to put my foot down. And it's all right for me to set boundaries. And it's been extremely beneficial to my mental health.
Speaker: I mean, yeah, there's times where I'd like to tell certain parts of someone's family to go fuck themselves. But, you know, I gotta be the nice guy because then they use that against me. You can't do it. Yeah, that's a good way to get yourself in trouble. At the end of the day, and I'm going to say this for personal experience, as long as they have your back, it's not a problem because they don't matter. You didn't marry them.
Speaker: you married her and she's going to support you in your decisions. Then sometimes you have to, I had to make, I had to make that call one time. No, granted it was after we split up. Uh, but still I had to put my foot down and it was one of those things. I don't have to be a nice guy. You know, be grateful that I am, but no, I'm done, you know, and, and, and,
Speaker: Like I said, for me personally, and I, you know, personal experience, that was one of the greatest things that I ever learned, uh, you know, as far as my mental health goes, was that it is okay to set boundaries. It is okay to put my foot down and it is okay to stand up for myself because what I learned was a lot of people walked all over me. A lot of people just got away with a lot of things that they should have never gotten away with. And, and ever since then,
Speaker: You know, I still have my bad days. I still have, you know, cause we're human, but, but it's gotten better. It's gotten a little bit easier. Not only that, but I was also able to stop. Yeah. We're all going to have those moments where we're going to feel bad for ourselves and everything like that. But I also learned that, Hey, I got to move past this shit. Uh,
Speaker: What was it? Scott Hall said. Hard time or dreams come true. Yeah. Hard work pays off. Dreams come true. Bad times don't last, but bad guys do. That is Hall of Fame in 2014. Yes, bad guys do. Sorry, Scott Hall. I kind of butchered that a couple of times. We're sorry folks. But yeah, I mean. T -shirts coming soon.
Speaker: Yeah. Once you, once you learn to accept it, and then not only that, but accept to move forward, all those, yeah, buts, or, well, this, or, I mean, I could, but I wish all that shit's going to start to go out the way. I did that shit for years with wanting to start a podcast.
Speaker: Start a podcast, but I have to buy a laptop. I have to buy a microphone. I have to do this. I have to do that. I mean, I feel sorry for myself and continue to be a shitbag me. I'm talking about Sasquatch. But no, I was like, you know what? The opportunity is here. Let's fucking go.
Speaker: Well, I mean, and that's the thing, you know, doing this show has been the biggest blessing in disguise. Like Alyssa's even like, she's like, you're really, really excited to do that Monday night show. Aren't you? And I'm like, yeah, because I said, I can take all the things that have happened and I can just fucking say, Hey guys,
Speaker: this what happened I'm letting it all off my chest like there's so much more shit I want to get off my chest and one show bam I'm lighting that powder keg and we're going fucking we're on the highway to hell yeah click I believe you take Tuesday off because I'm feeling a little more frisky yep
Speaker: You know, I used to be in the mindset, you know, when one door closes, another one opens. Hey, if a door closes, I'm kicking that sumbitch in. Jarvis knows how I kick a door in and surprise people. Knock, knock, open up the door.
Speaker: You know, I'll kick that some bitch off the hinges out of this story and closing until I'm done in this room, motherfuckers. I decide when the door closed last year, we arrived at the door. Next this year, we knocked on the door. Next year, we're going to kick that some bitch in. Bum Phillips. Yeah. Lovey blue. The old oilers of the 80s, man. Lovey blue. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker: You know, and we, we kind of got off subject tonight, but I thought it was needed, but, uh, you know, at the end of the day, it's, it, it, it all boils down to how you deal with things and how you cope with it. Yeah. There's a right way. And there's a, let me rephrase that. I was going to say there's a right way and a wrong way, but I, you know, you gotta find what's what works for you. You gotta find what works, um, and gets you through another day.
Speaker: At the end of the day. Well, that's like me right now. I gotta do the fucking count my finger fucking shit. Yeah You know the worst thing you can do is let them negative thoughts take control and consume you and I feel like and I feel like it's kind of where you're at right now Jeff and I've been there before and I can see it kind of on your face. We've all been there, bro Who would have thought I was a? smart guy We all have our moments
Speaker: I'm a therapist and I didn't even know it. Now pay me my $50. You're copay at the door, bitch. Yeah. There's a towel. Clean yourself off, Joe. Dirty whore. No, I mean.
Speaker: Ultimately, at the end of the day, man, it boils down to ladies and gentlemen, gentlemen of the jury, gentlemen of the jury, because this is a man show. Not guilty. It comes down to the fact that we have to learn how to kick the negative. We are entering a different era of manhood. We are
Speaker: understanding that it's okay to have emotions. It's okay to feel some sort of way, but we're also sitting boundaries. We're also putting our foot down. And for our mental wellbeing and for our mental health, there's things that we're going to need to do. And you know, if somebody's got a problem with it, well, then they're, they're a part of that world that needs to be
Speaker: ex communicado, if you will. Sometimes you gotta just be John Wick and take that motherfucker out. You just have to kill off 9 million people in one movie.
Speaker: I mean, at the end of the day, you really do. You gotta, you gotta get rid of the toxicity, man. You gotta let the, you gotta let the negative go, man. Believe it or not, it does go away. And I'm just speaking for me personally. You know, I, I beat that, I beat that demon, man. Yeah. Sometimes he shows his ugly stupid face every once in a while and the negativity gets the best of me, but.
Speaker: You know, it doesn't last very long. And I think that's where a lot of us need to be. And a lot of us need to get to and not say that negative is always going to be there. There's nothing you can do about it. There's absolutely something you can do. Oh, definitely. 100 % something you can do about it. You don't have to let it linger. You don't have to let it stay. You don't get to live here rent free. No more gentlemen. Why? Because we're men. We're minimally men.
Speaker: And we're men in tights. Tight tights. Tight tights. We're manly men. It's just like we don't let ignorant people or toxic people live in our head rent free. Why are we going to let the negativity live in our head rent free? Yeah.
Speaker: I mean, and at the end of the day, you know, like you say, you know, there's those people out there that are going to be like, oh, well, negative negativity is always there. Joke's on you. I turn it into my powerful fuel. Power fuel. Darvishy fuel. T -shirt's coming soon. It's like you hold up a bottle of fucking water, be like Jarvis aid. Drinks coming soon.
Speaker: I can absolutely let the negativity stay here, man. I can definitely. I can come on every I can come on every fucking show. I can come on this show. I can come on Jeff's garage. I can do nonsensical nonsense. I can do talking shit. I can come on there and just be negative as fuck all the way across the board.
Speaker: I can be motherfucking everybody in the, in the, and I was, and I've been there, like I can be motherfucking everybody in the chat picking fights, looking for fights, you know, just being an asshole. But at the end of the day, I didn't do anything. I wanted to make me look like an asshole and make me feel like an asshole. Why am I going to, why, why, why am I going to let that negativity just fester and feed? Don't make no sense. Don't make no sense, Jeffrey.
Speaker: I get it. Don't make no sense, man. The pennies and dimes aren't adding up, brother. Nah, I saw that coming a mile away. Be a Jeff, not a Godzilla. Jeff, I'm going to need you to be more like Hello Kitty. Right? I feel like he's like the one guy from Super Troopers 2 after he takes the steroids where he's in the pet store just going like,
Speaker: Well, soft puppy, soft. Yes. Yeah. The dogs just like put me down. I'm more like I'm more like Lenny of Mice and Men. There is something wrong with us, but all right. I think it's about that time. Yeah, it was about that time. But before I can go into my whole bullshit,
Speaker: He's got to take the SATs folks hold on But yes everyone, you know living in that constant fear of He drops his fucking camera, but doesn't mute his mic Hold on, hold on Getting old reeks of asparagus even though I didn't have asparagus
Speaker: fucking sorry. But no, there's always of coping. There's, well, use the good ways, not the bad ways. Don't be like Connor, don't cry, won't cry and then redo the cycle every now and then because you know, it feels good for about five seconds. Then you're crying because you're doing that. It's hard. And then you look at what you were just watching like,
Speaker: What the fuck is wrong with me? God, what's wrong with me and these Asian women on the screen? Whoa, Charles. I feel like you're projecting a little bit there, buddy. Oh, you haven't even seen projecting. Well, maybe you have. Have you seen me lately on Saturday night shows? God. You're on Saturday night shows? Yeah, evidently. I had no idea.
Speaker: Yeah, he's the he's the the speed bag in the corner. Everybody bunches off. Yeah, no shit. Yeah, we all have our roles to play, buddy. Yeah, Jeff's like, don't worry, bro, we'll bring some rookie in one day of me and my mind just like, please be soon. I don't know how much more that rope is going to take, boys. You rope Christmas.
Speaker: Your replacement your replacement said I Don't know how much longer I can be David Carradine before the thing decides to go south boys All right, let's end this ship before we do go before this gets darker than it needs Hey, you haven't even seen dark yet Before we start hearing the banjos in the corner and I start looking over my shoulder like death. Are you here?
Speaker: OK, what's the phrase that your guest here tonight? Your deuces are not going to work. Hello, darkness, my old friend. You stole it. Fucking. Like you can steal a quote if you'd like. You can give us a quote for men's mental health, whatever. But you can still say, you can still say, but that's just not going to work. But hold on. We got every other show. I got one. I got one I'm stealing.
Speaker: Okay. Go ahead. Uh, it's just like every show. Thank you guys for listening. Thank you guys for hanging out. Hopefully you enjoyed the show tonight. Um, maybe it'll help. Maybe it won't help. Maybe you guys are going to push you over the edge. Maybe you guys are going to have us all Baker acted for some, at some point in time, but, uh, we do appreciate you guys listening. Appreciate you guys hanging out, being a part of the show.
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Speaker: It's a men's mental health show, as you just seen tonight. Tuesday's Jeff's garage every other Tuesday. Brand new. Yeah, we're going to do every other Tuesday. Well, you can do it as much as you want. Yeah. Yeah. We'll see. We'll see. That's all right now. Every other Tuesday, Jeff's garage debuting tomorrow night on the network. Wednesday nights is nonsensical nonsense. A little taken down version. Nonetheless, still having fun. Thursday nights is talking shit.
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Speaker: Make sure you throw a like down there and tell your friends about us. Don't be shy. Hit that share button. Oh, nonsense network. We got the shows you need. Yes. I'm going to always do. This is kind of come to closer. I don't know if it's going to stay the closer, but it might be. I'm going to see if I can, uh, I'm probably going to start over. I'm probably going to stop, start asking for one too many favors when it comes to Rocky.
Speaker: But I wanted, I wanted him to do a cover of the DAX song. I would like for him to do a cover of this so that we don't get in any trouble. Uh, but this is, uh, kind of become our, our closure for the show. It is shine, shine downs save me. I love this song and I think it speaks volumes when it comes to mental health.
Speaker: And I've got a spoon. I live in a hallway with no doors and no rooms. Under the windowsill, they all
Speaker: and what went wrong couldn't handle forgiveness
Speaker: I like that. I love that fucking song. I can feel it. Come. No kidding. Easy, easy, easy there. All right. Well, that's going to be about it. And I appreciate y 'all listening. Hopefully you guys enjoyed the show. We'll be back next Monday now with a brand new episode of Men Cam from Men. Make sure you tune in the rest of the week to all the other shows. Jeffrey, since technically you are the guest here tonight,
Speaker: Yeah, I got one. What you got? What you got for a closer for us, man? Hashtag feelings. Right on. Right on. He's a man. I stole from Blaze and put my twist on it. Yeah. He's a man. He's a man of few words, ladies and gentlemen. That's why we love him. I had another one, but I was like, ooh, that's too morbid.
Speaker: My other one was death would be an awfully big adventure. This is my last resort. Cut my legs in two pieces.
Speaker: If I die, no breathing. Suffocation, no breathing. I don't give up if I cut my arm. Yeah. Anyways, Jarvis, Jeremy. You know, even though I said it earlier, I have to quote a wise poet. Dreams are hard work.
Speaker: pays off dreams do come true nonsensical days don't last but nonsensical men do nice i was so worried i was gonna fuck that dude i was saying it it was like don't fuck it up don't fuck it up you're fucking up you're fucking up don't fuck it up
Speaker: Well, that being said, ladies and gentlemen, well, actually, you know what? Not ladies and gentlemen, gentlemen, gentlemen, gentlemen, listen to me, listen to me. Five things in life to quit. We're trying to please everyone. Stop fearing change. Quit living in the past. Quit putting yourself down and quit overthinking.
Speaker: Yes, I'm the only thing that I do is overthinking Guilty as charged and with that being said always remember Yeah Always remember that And you can quote me but you can't quote me no always remember a successful man Is one who can lay a firm foundation? With the bricks that were thrown at him
Speaker: And those are two lines. Those are two quotes that I, that I in there, this show with every Monday night. I love them and they speak volumes and it is what it is. And with that being said, thank you guys for listening. Thank you guys for hanging out again. We do appreciate y 'all chatter's box. You guys were awesome tonight. As always, we will see you next Monday night, but don't forget right here, same nonsensical channel.
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