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Season Finale: What Your Kids Will Remember - FF S2 E17
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The crew is back for the Fatherhood Friday Season 2 Finale — and they're not going out quietly. This week's panel digs into the bad fatherhood advice that somehow everyone still believes, what our kids genuinely wish we gave more of our time and attention to, and why those two things might be more connected than we think. Oh, and college football gets its moment, and someone had to ask: is Star Wars even worth watching anymore? Close out Season 2 with the guys.
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Season Finale Introduction
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Well, hello, all of you listeners out there. Welcome to the Preacher Dad Podcast. And folks, you've made it to Friday. That's right, it's Fatherhood Friday. And this is the final episode for this season.
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We were very pleased to share some things together. We talk about everything from the most important things dad these dads need to think about right now in our society to whether or not Star Wars is dead, what's happening with college football, a really fun and engaging discussion I hope that you'll stick around
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All right, folks, we would sure love to see you. Come on out and check us out. But without any further ado, here's the season finale of Fatherhood Friday.
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Well, hello everybody. Thank you for joining us tonight.
Meet the Panel: Generational Perspectives
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I am Jared. I am the preacher dad, and I'm here with our fatherhood panel tonight on this beautiful season finale evening, evening, evening, evening of the fatherhood Friday episode of this preacher dad podcast. on our panel this evening is Nate Eisner, our, uh, uh, millennial rep. He's repping the millennial generation.
00:01:55
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And Mr. Matt Stewart. You're about me? I'm Gen Z, man. You're Gen Z? I'm millennial, unfortunately. Oh, I got that i got that wrong. ah Matt just seems so young. I thought he was Gen Z. No, I'm sorry. Apparently I look old, so you know. yeah Nate's representing the Gen Z portion of our audience. And Mr. Matt Stewart is a tried and true millennial.
00:02:19
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Although he seems not typical millennial to me. I'm one of the oldest of the Of the group. Yeah. Yeah. Millennial. Yeah. Well, we are so glad that you have chosen to give us a little bit of your time tonight. And I just want to throw out a couple of interesting questions, some conversation starters here. And Matt Stewart, you get the first ball. I'm to throw it your way. Hopefully it spirals and you can catch it. ah Not if you throw it, Jared.
Challenges for Christian Fathers
00:02:49
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Well, what would you say are the biggest challenges facing Christian fathers today? What is the biggest challenge you think Christian dads are facing?
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Well, I'm not sure necessarily biggest, but um challenges that, and I'm just going to speak from you know my myself and things that I struggle with or that I notice other Christian fathers are struggling with, but really it's just teaching your child what's true because they're hearing lies all the time coming from um wherever. I mean, if they if they're not on social media, it's riding down the road looking at bulletin boards. It's a commercial on YouTube. it's
00:03:38
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It's whatever. Like you're just hearing lies everywhere and they sound so good. Like, oh, that makes sense. You know, and so are there more lies that we can keep up with with Christian fathers? You know, can we address them all?
00:03:54
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And so Probably not. No, we can't. We can't. And then that's just relying on the the Holy Spirit to do a work in their life and and teach them, you know, right from wrong. But that's a big thing. And then another thing that pops in my mind is just, and maybe it's just the the time of the time of my life and the age of my kids, but a big challenge is staying too busy, right? Missing out on opportunities to to teach my kids the truth, to do a Bible study with them, to pray with them, to sing, to whatever it may be, just having good conversations, just everything is just out there. Like always something to do.
00:04:35
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Sports and even good things, church, community, yeah all kinds stuff. It's just, I know you mean. I feel like you're not careful. It's going to be every single night of the week.
00:04:47
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You're not careful. Oh, absolutely. I feel like even today, I've been driving on two wheels everywhere I'm going. it's just It's just overwhelming. And it's so difficult to say no because a lot of those things, like you said, are are really good things and beneficial. yeah And you know Matt, you have a fairly good-sized family. I have a good-sized family.
00:05:08
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Nate's working on a good-sized family. And ah you know we're we're seeking that full quiver, all three of us. yeah And so when you do that, there's just a lot of stuff to do because you know i got older kids older teenagers i got toddlers still and you know there's just various things that you have to you have to deal with um in all of their lives and so when they all when when they're all at the same time that's just a lot of stuff to do but you're oh you're so right dealing with that that busy monster i think that um one of the things that i try to do is remember that just sitting down and reading a book to my children
00:05:50
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is much more meaningful than yeah than i i think it is you know like we we we think about oh we got to do all these big things for them and i you know i get discouraged that i haven't done a manhood ceremony for my firstborn son yet he's yeah definitely a man you know and i haven't done anything but you know there's a lot of other things that i have done for him and for all my kids and i think even those little moments have a big impact. I mean, one of the things I remember from my own dad, one of the most significant things he ever did was take me to the store when he ran an errand.
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I loved going to the store, just to the grocery store for three things. and And we would talk on the way. Sometimes he'd buy me a, you know, a treat or something on the way to eat on the way home. I mean, that was great time with my dad. And I think that that sort of thing is really much more meaningful than we think.
00:06:48
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Yeah. one One quick little story. I just got to tell this. So, Jared, you probably haven't even seen my little newly four-year-old Samuel before. But just just think about the cutest little kid, a blind blind boy. His voice is so cute. and Anyway, sadder are Sunday, few days ago and whatever, i I said, hey, you want to go to Lowe's with me?
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And he goes, sure. And I said, ah but you can stay here and play if you want to. You don't have to go with daddy. He goes, oh, I want to go with daddy because it makes you happy when I go with you. And then and then we're and then we're there and I'm like, I'm so glad you came, buddy. And he's like, why do you want me to come? And I'm like, because it makes me happy and I love you. And he goes, oh i I love it too. And anyway, but yeah, just me and him. And then I said, and we get some treats sometimes too. And anyway, he ah he just loves going places with me. He loves it.
00:07:41
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yeah Yeah. That might change as he gets older. but Well, I think that's cool that he picks up on that too. You know, that he's like, hey, what makes daddy happy when I come? yeah um And I think it's important for both boys and girls. I mean, I don't have any boys. I just have two girls. But I hear it a lot. mean, obviously i listen to a lot of fatherhood, man talk stuff, all the all all the all the big guys, you know, Lovell, Freitas, all the guys.
00:08:07
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um And that's that's a point that they drive home a lot is, you know, Both communicating with your actions, but also your words. And I think that's something Nick Freitas has talked about a lot with his um with his daughter. He tells a story about when he was in the military.
Communicating Love and Attention
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And he was so somebody in his group. i'm not a you know I'm obviously not military. I don't know the lingo, whatever you know group he was in. But basically, there was a guy that was just a womanizer.
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And he had a new a new woman every weekend. um They were fighting over him. And he asked the guy point blank one day, he said, so how can I raise my daughter to not be to to not desire a man like you?
00:08:51
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Which, I mean, you got to have some backbone to ask that question for one. But the guy said, never tell her you love her. you know Do nothing to express the fact that you love her because if you don't, then she's going to come looking for that in a guy like me.
00:09:05
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And that was a very honest answer. um And I probably got that wrong as far as – I'm probably paraphrasing here, but um he was driving home the importance of verbally communicating to his daughter, i love you. Daddy loves you. Because if she never hears those words, then she that's it's creating a void in her heart that she is craving from her father. And it's all the more um opportunity for the enemy to use that.
00:09:33
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in her heart um down the road. But I think for boys as well, you know, tell them you're proud of them. um and i've But I've tried to be intentional about that. my ah My oldest just turned five on Saturday and I took her out um actually to run some errands before her party.
00:09:49
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And I remember just turning around and just saying, you know, daddy's really proud of you. You're you're growing up to be a really a good godly woman. I know she's only five, but, but, you know, like I, try i try we, my wife and I both tried to really Drive home that in her heart that she is growing up to be a godly woman. that That's what we're trying to raise her to be.
00:10:09
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um Yeah. Anyways, I can ramble on about that. but No, no, that's good stuff. I mean, that's really up it is a big challenge because the devil would like to. You've heard that acronym about busy, right?
00:10:21
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B-U-S-Y stands for being under Satan's yoke. Yeah. Um, the devil would love to make us busy with all kinds of good things and we sacrifice the best things in favor of those good things. So it is a very, it's a very real challenge, Matt. And I think it's just one that we have to just cry out to God to help us. And, you know, just remember that, um, I could do everything perfectly right as a dad and still my kids could turn on, on the Lord and they could reject him and they could, you know, it's not that it's up to me to do everything right.
00:10:55
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It's up to me to point my kids to Jesus and to trust in the grace and the the guidance of the Lord. Um, even in, you know, even in my fathering of my kids. So, yeah, I think that's important to remember.
00:11:10
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I try to, you know, keep a, I try to keep it all balanced. Um, I'm just thinking like right now, you know, my kids are doing swim team because it's summertime. And so that's a, that's a little bit of time.
00:11:24
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Um, they all want me to plant a garden. So I did that. And of course we know what all comes with it. and That's daily work almost, especially if you're not getting the rain, you have to water it a lot. Um, and then, know, there's the play time, just play having a good time with them.
00:11:41
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And then it's the teaching and it's eating dinner with them. So I'm just trying to like, if there's some nights where I spend afternoons where I'm like working outside for two hours and don't get to play with them, I try to play with them some the next night. You know, I try to, keep it balanced and do what I can. And, you know, well, I mean, you just listed like four or five different things that you're trying to do to help your kids grow in a godly way. I mean, man, if you, if you do three out of five in a week, you know, I say you're winning, you know, you know, you got 60% of the things that you should be doing, you're doing.
00:12:14
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I think that's a win. I know, I know what you're saying, Matt. I'm just saying, yeah don't be too hard on yourself. You know, we need to cheer each other on and and celebrate the wins. Yeah.
00:12:25
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All right. You may ask a question now. yep Yeah. Ball's in your court now. All right. So, Nate, maybe if you want to start it out or anyone, but 10 years from now, what would our kids wish we had paid more attention to?
00:12:41
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Yeah. Yeah. What comes to mind immediately is probably just them. And you're talking about and genuinely, um,
00:12:53
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you know the Going back to your first question, what's the biggest challenge that Christian fathers face today? i think a lot of it is cell phone and other forms of maybe not even entertainment, but work and the news and anything else. um You have a good, awesome Fatherhood Friday podcast that you might be listening to.
00:13:14
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No, please keep listening. um But no, for real, like i've I find myself... Addicted to my cell phone to the point where I've my wife and I've had serious conversations not not that we're picking on each other but like Recognizing that hey We need to be on our phones less, you know life is moving by so fast and We live in a culture that is such It is so consumeristic Um that our kids don't even know what life is like without these things and um
00:13:53
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Yeah, I think that's that's huge, is is probably paying attention to them. I mean, that and that sounds so blunt and simple, but I mean, think about how many kids out there are starving for attention from their parents because of the cell phone or the television, Netflix, streaming, Hulu, whatever, Disney+. plus Some of them probably don't even realize they're starving for attention because they themselves are are growing up basically by themselves and being raised by the by the phone. Yeah.
00:14:23
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you're talking about truth you know on billboards and signs. I mean, that's that's all happening on your cell phone as well. um So yeah, I think paying more attention to our to our kids um simply just by being present, that doesn't mean that you you know make it all about them. They need to understand that the world does not revolve around them. Obviously, we need to model what a godly relationship looks like with our wives, and we need to teach them that you know, as as dads, you know, mom comes first, my wife comes first, but just underneath that, i would God comes first and then wife and then then children. um
00:15:04
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But um we can simply do that it not by just giving them undivided attention, but but just simply by not having our noses down in a device. um Something that my wife actually showed me the other day, i don't know who to credit this to, but she was watching some Some lady that she
The Case for Homeschooling
00:15:23
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follows on Instagram or or Facebook that was talking about being more present with her family.
00:15:28
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And something that they did was they got this little attachment. it uses adhesive, and it's basically like a little phone holder that goes on your refrigerator. And she was talking about turning your smartphone into a house phone where you treat it like a house phone where, hey, when you're done using it, whatever you needed to communicate on, it goes back on the wall and it stays there until you need to communicate again.
00:15:51
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kind of like it was back in the olden days. And I did grow up with a house phone, so yeah, even though I'm Gen Z. But I do know what a landline is. I actually have used a rotary phone. Whoa! You've used a rotary phone? Yeah, man. I made a prank call on a rotary phone one time. was awesome.
00:16:11
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Your education is complete, sir. That's right. Homeschool for the win. yeah Yes. Oh, that's so true, man. Homeschooling is the way to go. If there's a dad out there and you're on the fence and you're not sure, i think all three of us would vote 110% every time. yeah Go for homeschooling. Dude, and I'm telling you, man, I don't care if you have to sell the dog and you eat rice and beans. Do it, man. all right
00:16:42
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All right. I say that as someone that was homeschooled, and we are homeschooling this year. um We were actually in the process of getting all the stuff, you know, filed and, yeah you know, planted out curriculums and stuff. um but males In the People's Republic of Virginia.
00:17:00
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That's right. That's right. The Soviet Socialist Republic of Virginia. Hey, it's still it's still a battle. hey We're not giving up that fight. Not yet. We'll stay a part of the resistance. That's right. But seriously, it's worth it. From experience, is worth homeschooling is hard.
00:17:20
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It's not easy. But who said things are supposed to be easier? And, you know, it's it's challenging. No, because, I mean, public school, you just send your kids away. You got half the day to kick around in, do whatever you want to do. ah And then they come back to you and they're atheists, ah you know,
00:17:39
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government worshipers, you know, but, ah but homeschooling is worth the investment and it's worth the work and it's worth the attention necessary. But Nate, you really hit the nail on the head too. When you talk about putting a cell phone away and giving your attention to your family. Yeah. And don't hear me say that I'm doing this right because I need to work on that a lot. Oh yeah. Like I, yeah, I don't have that one down yet, but.
00:18:06
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Well, you get but The first step to solving a problem is admitting you have one. So there you go. Anybody that's got it, any dad that's got it down already, we want you to start a podcast because we want to listen to you. So please get get going on that.
00:18:23
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Yeah. All right, Nate, the ball's in your court. What are you going to answer to end our our our season of Fatherhood Friday? Okay.
Prioritizing Spiritual Growth over Materialism
00:18:35
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Jared, what what is a piece of parenting advice that everyone repeats that you think is flat wrong? that's an roll um
00:18:45
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Parenting advice. i had one for marriage advice. happy Happy wife, happy life. that's that's right That's the wrong way to approach it. yeah But as far as parenting advice um that everybody thinks that is just totally...
00:19:03
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off balance. um I think that ah the thing that people say about their kids is, I want my kids to have it better than I had it.
00:19:17
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You know, I want to make life easier for them or better for them in some way. And i'm just I'm just completely not there. ah I don't want my kids to have it better than me.
00:19:31
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I want them to follow Jesus better than me. I want them to have a closer walk with God than I have. But I think that a lot of parents, you know, bend over backwards and do things that they think are, you know, beneficial for their children's lives, like giving them nice place to live or nice school to go to or a nice car to ride in until they start driving. And then they give them a car, their own car when when they they they can drive around in and they They work hard to get them into a great college and they think that they're giving them a great life and they they're just leaving no time at all for um attention to Christ or spiritual guidance or, you know, they're sacrificing.
00:20:12
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ah Just like Jesus said to the Pharisees, he said, you sacrifice the weightier things of the law. He said, you you tithe on God. mincemeat like cumin and you tithe on the tiniest little fractions of things, but you are leaving off the weightier parts of the law. And I think that parents are, you know, trying to give a better life to their kids and they're just spending so much time and energy and effort, uh, doing all those things that they're like, I'm too tired to go to church or this is just too hard uh, to also get them to Sunday school because what's more, you know, what's more important, um a walk with Jesus or a scholarship to a good college? ah you know What's more important for their future life? you know having Having a deep relationship with Jesus or or you know getting getting straight A's, getting ah ah getting into a great college. Maybe they don't go to college at all.
00:21:10
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what ah what would What would we say to that? um Maybe that's not so bad. And you know if they have a walk with the Lord and they have wisdom,
00:21:21
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See, the Bible says, get wisdom. The wisdom is the principal thing. It says, with all thy getting, get understanding. It says, you know, buy, sell, whatever you got to get wisdom. How how hard are parents trying to give their children wisdom?
00:21:40
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Yeah. The Bible says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. How are we giving them the fear of the Lord? What we're teaching them to do is to seek after self-reportation. pleasures.
00:21:52
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We're seeking them to, we're teaching them to be fleshly and not spiritual, not, not Christian and godly. And I think that is ah ah a thing that a lot of people repeat and it's just, it leads you down the wrong path. I'm just not at all there.
00:22:06
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want to ask a follow up to that real quick. um I've heard that phrase a lot and I've heard it said another way. um So you, the way you said it was,
00:22:20
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I want my kids to have a better life than I had. I've also heard people say, I want to give my kids everything I didn't have. And so Jared, what's so, and my, what immediately, what sparks into my mind is that consumer thing again. Well, you know, we were dirt poor growing it up and I, we didn't have the toys. We didn't have the vacations. We didn't have the house that we couldn't afford. We didn't, you know, what, what, what, what what would you say to that? You know, on the more materialistic or materialism,
00:22:50
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consumeristic mindset of like, I just want to give my kids everything up until the point where they almost, you know, get everything handed to them on a silver platter. what are What are your thoughts there? Well, i I understand the emotion because I love to give my kids things. I love to do things for them and make, you know, see them with joy and gladness.
00:23:10
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um that's worth that that's worth a lot to me and I like doing it. So I understand the emotion there to want to give them all these wonderful gifts, but ah it's it's misguided because it's focused on material things bringing you true happiness. yeah And that parent that says that believes that because they didn't get to go on vacation all the time every year or they didn't have ah new shoes and new clothes, that somehow that that poverty hindered them from true happiness. So they've spent all this time seeking material things to bring them happiness. And and if that is a Christian that thinks that, they have completely misunderstood biblical values.
00:23:54
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And that is the fastest way to become unhappy and to to make your children unhappy with you and discontent because what your children need is not more stuff. They need more parent.
00:24:06
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yeah They need more of you than they need stuff. And I think kids that grow up and say, you know, we didn't have anything. We were always wearing hand-me-down clothes and we never did all these fancy things. We drove jalopies and lemons and did all this stuff, but we we were so happy. We were so glad. We were so, you know, we never felt poor. People say that because those kids had good parents.
00:24:28
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yeah Parents that were investing in them, parents that were spending time with them, parents that were paying attention to them and helping them to see, hey, you can be content with nothing. Yeah. I think you nailed it. I mean, that's it really just hits at the heart of discontentment. I think if you've come to the conclusion that you know happiness is founded, all the things you didn't have, I think you just are looking back at your life and and wishing that you had, I guess it's really, it's covetousness.
00:24:57
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Really. You're you're coveting what you didn't hit what you didn't get, what you wish you hadn't. That was it. I was done.
00:25:08
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Jared, um so you're not saying though that you don't want your children to be successful, right? Because you do want them to to get a good job and to make money.
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You know, and, um, and maybe make more money than you. Like that would be a good thing. That's just not the priority. Like that's not what you're going to focus on it, but you're still going to teach your sons how to, how to use their hands, how to, how to work hard, how to use their brain to solve problems. Like you still want all that to happen and you're going to help your children. I just wanted to clarify that because. Oh, absolutely. Yeah.
00:26:32
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Yeah. Thank you for that. I'm not saying that, that we shouldn't teach them to prosper in the world and that, you know, if they somehow figure out a way how to make a lot of money, praise God, Jesus is trusting you with wealth. yeah If Jesus trusts you with riches, you are a godly Christian because it is hard for a rich man to get into the kingdom of heaven but uh you know i think that uh teaching you know you're right the emphasis needs to be on serving christ honoring him glorifying him with my life and then you know if god blesses you financially great but the focus is not material wealth and i think a lot of parents get stuck into that materialistic idea. Even Christian parents are like, oh, I just want to make sure they're happy and they get into a good school. And if they get into a good school, they'll get a good job. If they get a good job, they'll be happy. And and and it's like, why are we pursuing happiness so hard?
00:27:30
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that God didn't put us on this earth to be happy. Happiness is a byproduct sometimes. But we we walk in the joy of the Lord even through sorrows. Christians have hard lives. because the devil doesn't like us to be Christians. And so he'll come after us. But parents seek after happiness for their kids. They should be seeking godliness for their kids, wisdom for their kids. Look at the scriptures. What does the scripture say you you said you should give to your children? It doesn't say it says give them houses and you know ah inheritance is from the Lord. That's fine, that's a good thing. But the purpose of those things is not to make you happy,
00:28:10
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The purpose of those things is to bring glory to God, to advance his kingdom, to bring others into the kingdom. That is the the point, I think. And I think that a lot of parents are missing that the point.
00:28:23
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And again, I'm not saying I got this down or i'm I'm great at it. I'm just saying that's one thing that a lot of people think that is yeah wrong. I think it's good, though, like because you know the first half of what we were talking about.
00:28:36
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of of being content when you don't have a lot, when you do drive the junker, when you do have enough money to to buy the basics. And you don't like, there's that side, but then there's also, there is such a thing as godly ambition.
00:28:50
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There is selfish ambition, but there is godly ambition. And kind of like Matt, what you're talking about, you do want to teach your kids to be, at least how to be a productive human being. um And we just so happen to live in a country where you really can.
00:29:07
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i mean, you really can be successful, but that's a two edged sword. And I think really at the end of the day, like there are two sides of that coin. And I think it's a really beautiful tension at the end of the day, because but like i guess that's the straight and narrow, man. I don't know. i don't know how to articulate that any better, but that's a good way to put it. Yeah. Straight and narrow. Yeah. yeah Because I mean, there's a man I'll, I'll, I'll,
00:29:31
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up up There's this term, you know, content creator. I'm a content consumer, man. I just listen to podcasts. Let's be real. Like, I'm a fan of so many podcasts. But there's a um there's a guy love listening to. I brought him up before. Joby Martin. He's a pastor in Florida.
00:29:50
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And he he loves to harp on an old Scottish proverb that he heard one time. And basically that is, um for every mile of road, there's two miles of ditch.
00:30:02
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and I love that term. I love that that saying because it's so true. I mean, you know, there is exactly what we're talking about. You want to have the success, but at the same time, you also want to be okay if it doesn't happen. And you can be, I guess, the one ditch on the one side of the road is you're constantly chasing after that consumerism to the point where it's unhealthy covetousness. But the other side is you take a unhealthy vow to poverty to where now you're demonizing all wealth. And that's also wrong. And so, yeah. Yeah.
00:30:40
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Every mile road, there's two miles of ditch. I like that. I've never heard that before. Man, Nate, I'm, I'm an old man and and, and you're, you're sharing phrases I've never heard. That's, that's.
00:30:53
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Hey, that's cause we're not Scottish.
00:30:57
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Well, I got a fun two-parter for you guys. Uh, Matt, uh, first, first ones to you. ah the question is, is college football dead or will still live
Future of College Football
00:31:13
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on? Is it dead? Like is what we love about college football.
00:31:16
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Is that not coming back? I mean, are we to have like, uh, are we gonna have, you know, March badness in the college football playoffs? I mean, what, what, what's happening? Do you think, do you think that we have a future, especially in this, like, um NIL era, you know, should that go away? Is that ruining everything? I've heard Nick Saban saying he he says it's awful for the sport. What do you think? Well, if they let him, if they put him in control of it, it would be fixed pretty quickly. You're right. That's true. No, it's so many people love college sports, especially college football.
00:31:54
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It's not going away. It's not going to die. Now, does it aggravate people? Yes. Do I hear, I listen to several podcasts and they're just bashing on it.
00:32:05
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the The potential for 16 or 20 teams in a playoff and paying players and all this. kind There's always so much there's so much junk going on. But we still watch it. We still watch it every single Saturday. and it's a billion dollar, you know, billions of dollars generated every year. But you know how sometimes sports can get messed up by people messing around in it.
00:32:26
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Like, have they messed it up too far? and Are they going to be able to bring it back? No, I mean, they'll they'll get things straightened out, I think, at some point. It's not going to be football like we grew up watching, for sure. Yeah.
00:32:40
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You know, but it's, um you know, how just ah one little note about that. You know, back in the day, Jared, they couldn't even celebrate after a touchdown, you know? And now they have these choreographed routines where they're doing all kinds of stuff in the end zone, and it's just ah it's just a different game. It really is. That's true.
00:32:58
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I have no idea what you guys are talking about. yeah yeah this Hang on. You'll get your chance. You'll get your chance. Okay. Well, I appreciate your expert opinion there, oh Matt. Hey, one thing I wanted to say, that i i learned this the other day. There's been one team in in the 25-26 season that made the playoffs, men and women's March Madness, and baseball and softball World Series. You have any idea who that team is, Jaren? Oh, don't. I have a guess, but you can say it.
00:33:30
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University of Alabama. Yeah. Only team to make those five biggest tournaments. Go ahead. let' sort um Also, the ugliest team in college sports. But wait, that's okay. We won't go there. ah um Nate, second part of this question jeff is, would you say Star Wars is dead?
State of the Star Wars Franchise
00:33:56
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Is Star Wars dead or not? Matt has the opportunity to start shaking his head now. I just, yeah no clue. um I do want to, hey, real quick, I will need y'all's advice. i I do want to watch it sometime with my kids, but I don't even know where to start. And there are like 20 There are. Hey, Matt, there's three Star Wars movies.
00:34:17
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Okay, look. Look. right, go ahead I'm sorry. yeah I will tell you, after and Nate, I'll give you a chance to think about this question for a second while I tell Matt how to watch them. You need to watch episode four, five, and six, the three original movies. The first one, The Empire Strikes Back, and The Return of the Jedi. Everything else does not really make sense unless you watch those three, and those three are the best ones. The next one that you should watch is Rogue One. Agreed.
00:34:47
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Rogue One is a great prequel. It's really the only prequel that the the three original movies need. Now, if you want to go further back and find out more about Anakin's story, you can go back and watch episodes one, two, and three.
00:35:02
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ah they At the time, we didn't think they were that great, but compared to the new trash they're making, they actually were pretty decent. So... you know If you really want more about Anakin and see how it became to Darth Vader, then go back and watch 1, 2, and 3. But you need to start with 4, 5, and 6. Watch Rogue One, and then 1, 2, and 3. After that, don't pay attention to anything unless you feel like watching The Mandalorian. As you say, The Mandalorian will be the exception there. so Season 1 and 2 of The Mandalorian were decent.
00:35:28
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quick Quick question. What's the the age range? like what kids What age kids did I start out with? ah For the originals, it's probably... Okay, so here's my guardrails for the original because we just watched them about that long ago.
00:35:41
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um There is minor cussing in the and all three of them. ah You know, minor cuss words. Episode six has some nudity.
00:35:53
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Our borderline nudity. so it's yeah it's Very skimply dressed. Let's put it that way. Yeah, super skimpy outfit. Enough that I would not allow my son to watch it. Yeah. Return of the Jedi, there's a whole section that you need to skip um on Jabba's.
00:36:10
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And I don't have a son, but still, hypothetically. It's a whole section where Leia is in a slave girl outfit. So when she's in that outfit, you just kind of need to skip to the next scene. And that's in six?
00:36:24
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that's in Yeah, six, Return of the Jedi. you see You skip that one. And you're not going to miss much of the story. You really won't. yeah we've We've skipped it for years and it's not that big a deal.
00:36:35
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Now, um as far as age range, I would say it depends on the child. There's a couple scarier things. So I would say if a child is between eight to 10, they could probably probably do it. All everything.
00:36:52
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um Any younger than that, you might want to watch it first and figure out, OK, I probably don't need to let my four year old see the. the, you know, the Rancor eat to somebody. So yeah yeah, stuff like that.
00:37:06
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But anyway, Nate, Star Wars, do we get, is it is it dead? Is it gone? Or is is it can it come back? So the fact that they have Dave Filoni in there now calling some more heavy shots, I think there's a chance.
00:37:23
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But I will be honest, my faith has been severely damaged. Yeah. I feel like, you know, I'm trying to remember how old I was when the force awakens came out, but I was very excited. And I rode that wave of excitement of, Oh my gosh, these are the best movies ever. And then, cause you know, we were all excited for more star Wars movies. And then you go back and you watch it when it's not in the theaters anymore. And you're like, you know, this is really a pile of crap. So Yeah, that's that's my opinion on it. We watched, ah yeah, I was not, I can say that I'm really not a fan of any of the three sequels. um
00:38:04
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I think of all of them, I don't know. I'm not a huge fan of the three sequels. The Mandalorian was pretty good the first two seasons, like you said. Rogue One was phenomenal. That was probably, I think Rogue One and The Mandalorian are probably the best things they've put out um since Disney acquiring it.
00:38:22
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Yeah. But, Yeah, it's... I can tell you this. I haven't seen The Mandalorian and Grogu yet. Oh, I've i've heard... I kind of want to see it so I get my own opinion about it, but I've heard people say it's not worth the money. I never watched Andor.
00:38:38
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i didn't I watched part of Obi-Wan. You know, Andor wasn't awful. It had some liberal mumbo-jumbo in it and, you know, stuff, but it wasn't awful. Anyway, what I want to say is this.
00:38:49
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I have actually heard a rumor that may have a little bit of legs... yeah That they're going to retcon episode 7, 8, and 9. And make it so like Luke wakes up from a dream that he had. That all of that stuff happened.
00:39:04
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That would be awesome. That would be i awesome. they would I would champion that. I would champion in that. I am on that team. I would love to see them do it. I would love to see them do it.
00:39:16
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but i'm with me Fine with me. yeah I think that's about the only chance it has. I mean, honestly, here's the deal. The Force Awakens was basically a remake of A New Hope, but they at least set up some halfway decent character development to where they could have taken the story anywhere they wanted to go. And then Rian Johnson just crapped all over that idea. And then J.J. Abrams had to come back and try and tie all those loose ends together. And he made the best of what he could. So that's my thoughts on the ah the sequel trilogy.
00:39:44
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yeah but Thank you very very much. Jared, one final question for you. Okay. And I think we'll be done.
Benefits of a Large Family
00:39:52
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Why should you try to feel your quiver with a bunch of kiddos?
00:39:59
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I want wire. know the first part of his answer. Dad. yeah Dad. Close your kids ears for a second. I know the first part of his answer.
00:40:10
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Because. Okay. Three, two, one. Here comes. Because sex is fun. And it's more fun without a condom. Okay. Let's just say that. ah No, we're going to clip that that. That's going on the reels. That's going to be in it. No, man, this is a PG episode. No, I want to say that ah why should a dad fill his quiver? Because why would you not want to have as much impact upon the future as you can?
00:40:39
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yeah I would ask this question too. You guys have kids. A lot of the people I talk to about this have kids. And I'll say, look, you your children...
00:40:50
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are a lot of work, right? I mean, it's a lot of head headaches and a lot of challenges and a lot of heartaches and a lot of sorrows, but there's also a great deal of joy that comes to your life. A lot of blessings, a lot of happiness, a lot of cuteness, hilarity. I mean, just keeps you young, all kinds of good things that come to your life because of your kids. You get more benefit from those children than you do Hard work, you know, like you're putting a lot out, but you're getting a lot back to your return on investment is incredible.
00:41:24
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And that is true no matter how many kids you have. So why would you not want to have more of that blessing? Yeah, you're going to have more work. Eight kids is a lot of work, but it's also a lot of blessing, a lot of joy, a lot of eternal benefit. And that's my greatest opportunity, much more than this podcast, much more than any sermon I ever preach or book I ever write.
00:41:47
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My greatest opportunity to have an impact upon the future is through my children, through the legends that i set in their lives, the culture that I develop in our families and the the way that I point them to Jesus. That's my greatest opportunity for impact. Why would I not want to have as much as I can? I want to have as much impact upon the future as I can. And to get there, I need to have more kids and to get there.
00:42:15
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I need to be more persuasive and more suave and more seductive to my lady. Can I add to that real quick? Yeah, go ahead. My wife and I just went to the homeschool conference or convention in Richmond um and Nick Freitas was there and I had the opportunity to ask him ah not so not the same question, but something that was fairly related.
Political Impact of Godly Children
00:42:37
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At least his answer was was along lines of what you just said there, Jared. But I asked him,
00:42:44
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How can us dads with small children be involved in politics and make a difference in the world? And the the heart of my question was, and I articulated this to him, was I feel a responsibility to leave a better country than I have now to my children, or at the very least, know that i didn't abdicate my role in protecting the freedoms that we have been given.
00:43:14
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by God. um But that's really difficult when you have small children in small amount of time in your margin, because you do need to maintain that relationship with your wife. You do need to maintain that relationship with your kids. So we can't just be out protesting all the time and campaigning and just be gone. We actually have to maintain a house at home. So like where is that tension? Where is that balance? And his answer was, do not interest underestimate the impact that you will have on society by simply raising godly children, by simply teaching your children to follow the Lord, by simply teaching homeschooling your children and teaching them the Constitution, teaching them the rights that God has given them, teaching them American history, teaching them the truth. um And he's he said this line a handful of times throughout his speeches, and I've heard it say it a few other times.
00:44:02
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um And I'm gonna paraphrase again, because ah I don't have a great memory. But it it's something to the effect of you show me a generation That loves the Lord and protects freedom, and I will show you a nation whose politics you don't have to worry about.
00:44:16
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Because at the end of the day, the conservative side, the Christian side, is having more children than the other side. And so the issue that is coming about now on the left-leaning side is because they are not having children themselves, they now have to indoctrinate the other side because they don't have anyone that they can raise up in their quiverful.
00:44:40
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But anyways, so I wanted to add to that there, but I can hear my kids screaming outside my door. So we should probably bring this episode to a close.
Conclusion and Encouragement for Fathers
00:44:51
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I think you're right. Well, we're sure thankful for everybody out there. That's ah been tuning in and listening in ah all two dozen of you. Hey, two dozen.
00:45:01
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00:45:24
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00:45:36
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But we've enjoyed this season, and we hope to see you next time. May God bless you. May God cause his face to shine upon you. And Dad, keep in the fight. Don't give up. We're behind you.
00:45:48
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Have a nice evening. Bye-bye.