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Judgement and Jealousy with a Manifestation Challenge
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Today’s episode is in response to the below question which was asked in my Facebook community which you can join here.
Any advice / tips / journal prompts / podcasts to stop judging people?
I want to be kinder and more compassionate but I feel like I’m always going back to judging people and complaining about them. It’s making me feel bad and lots of guilt.
In today’s episode, not only do we do a deep dive into the topics of judgement and jealousy, I also share a ‘manifestation challenge’ which I’ll be doing for the month of July. Following this is a cheeky discount code just for my podcast listeners and Pass Around the Smile community. This can be used on any of my oracle cards, journals, crystals, meditations, EVEN my online courses!
If you want to skip straight to the judgement and jealousy portion of the episode, go to 16.20.
Yet another vulnerable episode which I really hope helps you on your self development journey. Self reflection when it comes to judgement on yourself and others, along with the jealousy you may feel toward others, plays a huge part in our lives. The negative feelings which stem from judgement and jealousy have the power to not only block our manifestations, as we are left vibrating at a low level but also have a big impact on our overall happiness.
Jealousy is a normal part of human behaviour and I chat about this topic realistically. We can’t eradicate it completely, but we can use it in a different way. Jealousy and judgement allow us to hold a mirror up to our own insecurities/struggles/desires. This can help uncover why you’re feeling blocked in certain areas in your life.
We also chat about how misery loves company, and how jealousy can spiral into negative thoughts toward those around us. The real question is, do you actually want the things you’re jealous over - or do you think you want them because they make others happy? A thought provoking chat I think my community will love!
Cleo xx
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Introduction and Podcast Overview
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Pass Around the Smile is like your go-to friend, the one that lifts you up and backs you to the end. She's there to guide and inspire, challenge and teach, and remind you that your best self isn't out of reach. Self-development, manifestation, self-love and more, it's time to trust the process more than ever before. Welcome to Pass Around the Smile, the podcast. I'm your host, Cleo Massey, and I am so glad you're here. Let the magic begin. I know how frustrating it can be when you are just wanting to get to the topic and when your podcast host is waffling on
Manifestation Challenge and Community Offers
00:00:35
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about other things. So I wanted to let you know, if you want to jump straight to the jealousy and judgment topic, go to 16 minutes 20 and it's all from there. But what you will find before that is a really exciting manifestation challenge that I am doing with my community, as well as a discount code for my podcast listeners and my community members only. So that's what you'll find beforehand.
00:00:58
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Hello and welcome back to another pass around the smile podcast. I am really excited to be in the studio today because I'm having kind of like a full day doing pass around the smile stuff today, which lately for me, that doesn't happen often, but Luke is on school holidays. He's watching the baby and the dog. And ah this little studio that I record in is my dad's studio and mum and dad are also at work.
Main Theme Introduction: Jealousy and Judgment
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And it's like, I am so alone. But it's it's great. It's I'm like a alone to be creative and free and I have the whole day to just Do what I want to do. Oh my god. This is so exciting Have I called Luke at least three times today to check in on indigo and crumpet and him? Yes Have I watched millions of videos on my phone because indie has started smiling recently? Yes
00:01:55
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Have I also watched a few more because she's also started giggling and I actually can't deal when she giggles? Yes. But I'm here and I'm doing a podcast and today's podcast is in response to a post I got in my pass around the smile community. If you're not a member, link is in the show notes below, join. It is such a supportive and beautiful community that makes myself and others feel really inspired and excited and heard, which I think is really amazing. It's something I'm really proud of. But the post in the group said this from an anonymous community member,
00:02:30
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any advice tips journal prompts or podcasts to stop judging people i want to be kinder and more compassionate but i feel like i'm always going back to judging people and complaining about them it's making me feel bad and lots of guilt As Pass Around the Smile episodes are they are, they're honest and they're real and they're vulnerable. This episode will be just that. I'm not just going to scratch the surface with this topic. I am going to go deep. I have kind of thought about ways that we can combat jealousy and judgment while being realistic because we are humans. We do judge. We we do get jealous of other people. It's normal. It's natural.
00:03:12
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But there are ways that we can we can combat it and we can look at it differently. And I've done up a bunch of notes and I'm kind of gonna talk through them with you. And I think it's gonna be a really exciting and motivating episode. And I hope that this episode in particular helps you to feel a little bit free within yourself. Because like I said, we have all judged, we all feel jealous. ah Whether it's something that you're dealing with now that you dealt with a lot in the past or something that might come up more in the future.
Engaging in the Manifestation Challenge
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It can be really dependent you know regarding what you are going through as well or how you are feeling but I really hope this episode can yeah have you feeling really light and heard and supported um because we all do it let's face it let's be real um but we can we can do better we can absolutely do better so
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A few things before we get into the episode. First of all, I want to challenge you to join a manifestation challenge with me. Starting on the 1st of July, I believe this episode is coming out on, I don't know, a couple of days before the 1st of July, but this gives you a couple of days to listen to it. And if you are listening late and it's past the 1st of July, just start on any date and do it for 30 days. So I will be posting in my Facebook community as as well as in my Instagram broadcast channel, which I've just created. Anyone can join the broadcast channel.
00:04:39
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um just click on it and my little bio on Instagram. I will be kind of keeping you guys accountable, sharing things that I'm doing. I won't be checking in every day because I don't want to annoy you, but I think it's something that we all could do together, lift each other up, support each other. tap into that communal, exciting energy and manifest together. I know you guys loved when we did the 30 day gratitude challenge. There were so many people that were having big realizations and feeling so much better and letting things go. And we were all kind of talking about it and going through the motions together, which I thought was really cool. So this is another challenge.
00:05:19
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but it's different to the gratitude challenge. So what this challenge is, is it's not a direct, really obvious manifestation challenge, which you may expect. It's a little bit different, which I think is exciting because It's quite easy in the sense of manifestation. It's easy because we aren't with this challenge. um What's the word? Like we're not directly manifesting. We are doing something else. And the results of the something else that we are going to be doing is going to help you manifest without even trying to manifest, if that makes sense. So what we're going to be doing is we're going to be raising our vibrations.
00:06:00
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and honoring ourselves, lifting up our self-worth. So what is the challenge? I should just get into it. So every day for 30 days, I want you to do three things for you that make you feel really good. It might sound so simple, but days get away from us and we can get stuck in that rat race and we get to the end of the day and we're like, oh, I didn't do this. I didn't do that. I didn't fill my cup, et cetera. Some people will find this challenge harder than others, I completely acknowledge that, but we can all find moments in every day where we can do three things that make us feel good.
00:06:41
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They can be big, they can be small, they can be in between. So I will give you some examples. It can be things like I actually took my half an hour lunch break at work today and I went and sat in the sun. It could be something like I took an extra five minutes in the bathroom while the kids were screaming. It could be I chose to read my book for half an hour you know, extra today even though I had cleaning to do because I was loving the reading. It could be something like I, you know, took five minutes out to do a meditation or I did some journaling. It can be I treated myself to a really nourishing meal even though it was, you know, ten dollars more than I wanted to spend
00:07:21
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so it can be anything that makes you feel good and I don't want you to think it has to be only things that are like healthy or good for your body or good for your mind like healthy eating or exercise or you know self-development things like journaling or meditating it doesn't just have to be those things those things are great and they fill us up and make us feel amazing and they will definitely be counted in your three things But sometimes like you feel like a cookie, for example, and you treat yourself to your favorite cookie from Patek Bakery. In my case, I'm going to do that this weekend. And that's probably going to be on
Aligning Self-Worth with Manifestation
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one of my three things. It could be something like I allowed myself guilt free to watch the Kardashians for
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you know an hour because maybe you just need to space out and not think and watch something like the Kardashians that's quite mind-numbing you know it can be things like that as well as long as it is making you feel good and not guilty because let's say i might go to paddock bakery and buy six cookies and eat them over the whole weekend and then feel you know bad and guilty about that then that's kind of like crossing the line and not aligning with what I'm talking about but it's things that make you feel good in the moment that aren't too far, too far gone to make you feel bad if that makes sense. We need to find this balance in life. Life is supposed to be lived and enjoyed and that is what I am wanting to kind of encourage with this challenge but what this challenge is doing is it is
00:08:59
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helping us vibrate higher but more importantly i think is that we are telling the universe that we are deserving of good things we are deserving of time we are deserving of feeling powerful we are deserving of feeling wealthy we are deserving of having fun we are deserving of feeling a deep sense of relaxation. So whatever it is that you are allowing yourself to do three times in one day, whether it's giving you that relaxation or the feeling of, you know, spoiling yourself with this dress that you've wanted for two months and you buy it, that is something for you.
00:09:32
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Or, you know, you want to go to this music festival with friends. You did it for you. It was so fun. Whatever it is for you, wherever you are at, there's no wrong or right. As long as you're doing three things for you that feel good, you are saying, I deserve this universe. I deserve this. I feel good about this. I am taking it in. I am enjoying it and more, please. more exciting things, more relaxationy things, relaxation things, you know? So let's honor ourselves because everything stems from self-worth. When we are doing things for us and we are feeling that sense of pride pride, proud, pride, wow, I'm really getting my words mixed up today, but when we're feeling, you know, deserving, we are literally telling the universe that we are deserving of our manifestations. And as I mentioned at the start, what this
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challenge is going to do for 30 days, honoring yourself and doing three things a day that you you know deserve and want. You are raising your vibration. You are you know living through what you deserve and you're knowing your worth. And the result of that is going to be really good, cool, fun, relaxing, exciting things coming into your life that match the vibration that you have now lifted yourself to. The consistency of doing this over 30 days is going to add up. These things might feel small, but it is going to add up and it is going to help your manifestations materialize so easily. You won't have to directly
00:11:06
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Try so hard to visualize, journal, meditate about it. You won't have to be thinking about surrendering constantly to let it go because you're going to be vibrating at a high level. That vibration will kind of take over and do the hard work for you. So the challenge is the challenge in itself, but I want to challenge you also this month, the month of July from the first to how many days is in July? 30 days, that's September, April, June. So 31 days. 31 days. You are letting your manifestations go. ah It's time to allow the universe, your angels, your higher powers to work it out for you while you for the next 31 days live and enjoy this life that you have been given by doing three things a day that lift you up and make you feel good and make you feel worthy and deserving.
00:11:57
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If you get to the end of the day, for example, and you've only done two things, right? And you think, I'm just so tired. I just want to go to bed. That could be your third thing, allowing yourself just to go to bed guilt free and have a longer sleep because you were so tired. What about if you get to the end of the day and you've done nothing? Well, then the next day I want you to do six things. and I want you to keep a tally. If the next day you only get to five things, then the next day after that, you'll be taking that one and doing four things. Then if you do the four, you'll be back to the three a day, if that makes sense. Honor yourself enough to do this. And, you know, talk to a friend who is a Pass Around the Smile community member as well, or if you don't have a friend that loves Pass Around the Smile, well, tell your friends about Pass Around the Smile, obviously. But, um you know, post in the community group, we're all here, we're all doing it.
00:12:48
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Let's make a commitment to ourselves and then experience really exciting shifts as a result without even really trying. Oh, and make sure that you write them down every single day, whether it's in your journal or on your phone, make sure you're writing them down. Okay one more thing before we get into the juiciness of this judgment and jealousy episode is I have had a few messages from my community asking if I'm doing an end of the end of financial year sale and the answer is no. I i don't do sales often at Pass Around a Smile. When I do they are big and exciting but I just don't do them often.
Understanding Judgment and Personal Insecurities
00:13:27
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and something that I am personally working on which I will share with you guys because that's what Pass Around the Smile is all about is really knowing my worth and my product's worth. i Each deck of cards that I create take a year to create. They are like just filled with so much of my love and my energy and also my beautiful illustrators love and energy. They really do take so long to create and they are something that can be used over and over and over again and I just know the power of these cards I know the magical energy in these cards and my journals and my crystals and all of that as well my online courses as well which is why I am well it's it's I guess it's quite tempting to do a sale because
00:14:15
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you know while I'm on maternity leave I'm not like I'm not working it would be great to make more money but pass around the smile has never been about making money it's about helping others you know find their path of positivity to get in touch with themselves with their higher powers to start their spiritual and self-development journey that's what really lifts me up. In saying all of that, in acknowledging that i I really do believe that my products aren't worthy of having sales all the time, it it has been a really hard year for so many small businesses, mine included, so what I'm deciding to do instead
00:14:54
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just for, you know, my pass around smile community listeners. This will not be going on my Instagram or my Facebook publicly. I will only talk about this code on my podcast or in my broadcast channel or my Facebook community. I'm going to give you guys a 15% off code. I'm going to leave it up for a while. I don't know when I'll take it off, but I'll let you know when I will. It's going to be community love in capitals and it's going to give you 15% off your entire order the only thing that it won't work for is the bundles because they're already discounted and it will be available for purchases over 65 dollars so that is my thank you to you guys i think it's kind of like a good balance of me
00:15:40
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still knowing and protecting Pass Around the Smile's worth, knowing that, you know, I'm not just like putting a sale out there to everyone, but this is like a thank you to you guys for being so involved and so loving um as my community members. I also am just so passionate about sharing my cards around the world and not just my cards my journals as well and of course my courses but my cards ah I'm just so obsessed with them I am so obsessed with them and they
00:16:16
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like change my life on the daily, not to be dramatic. I just want so many people, so many more people around the world to experience them. And if an extra 15% off helps, then great. Amazing. All right. Well, let's get into it. That code is community love in capitals. So judgment and jealousy, as I mentioned before, it is something that we have all felt in the past and I think it's really powerful to acknowledge that you have felt it and to admit that you are human and we feel these feelings and it's normal and it's okay. While it can feel really yucky, we can spin it.
00:16:52
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in a way that is realistic, I believe. So when we're judging others or we're feeling jealous, it definitely is a reflection of what we are lacking within ourselves. It's a direct reflection of what we desire or what we are self-conscious about or what we don't have yet. And feeling jealous or judging other people, it really gets us nowhere. Actually, it does get us somewhere. It it sends us backwards. It lowers our energetic state, leaving us vibrating at a really low level. By judging others, we project negative energy out. And not only does this block our manifestations from materializing, but it simply just makes us not a very nice human to be around. And you might think, yeah, but I'm only judging in my head. No one knows that I'm actually judging this person.
00:17:47
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Energy doesn't care. Energy flows and grows and moves and attracts. Energy attracts other energies sitting on the same frequency. So whether you are speaking these thoughts aloud or not, by judging others, you are doing yourself and those around you a huge disservice. Judging yourself really is the same as well. I don't know about you, but I will find myself judging myself on things that are just so harsh and so unnecessary. Like back when I was acting, for example, if I didn't get a role, I would go straight to judgment mode, to self judgment mode. I would pick myself apart thinking I didn't get that role because I'm not funny enough. I'm not pretty enough. I didn't learn my lines well enough. And then that would stem into I should have given myself more time to learn them. I'm so stupid. I'm so silly, like getting really critical on myself. This kind of self judgment brings us so low energetically.
00:18:48
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Sometimes it can feel productive picking yourself apart so that you can grow and make changes and be better but there are gentle ways of doing this. In my case let's say for example it would have been things like this is to be more gentle. I didn't get that role but that's okay because it obviously wasn't right for me. It has nothing to do with my abilities as an actor or my looks. And even though I messed up that line a little bit, I spent hours learning and practicing and that was enough. However,
00:19:21
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I am feeling down about it. So next time I'm going to make some changes by meditating straight after the audition. I am going to try and let go of the results and I'm going to see the audition as fun. And I'm going to treat myself for doing something challenging afterwards. So can you see how you can still reflect in a way that is gentle and not so critical of yourself?
Jealousy vs Reality: Personal Insights
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Judging yourself is such a waste of time. And that last bit I actually got from my friend Melina. When I first met her, she's an actor as well. She said, every time I do an audition or a self tape, I will treat myself after to, you know, it might be, I think she was talking like food wise, like she'd always go and grab herself something yummy to eat afterwards.
00:20:10
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um But it could be anything you treat yourself to a massage or you know, whatever. And I loved that so so much because she was like, I deserve something really good after doing something that was really challenging that made me feel nervous that I worked on for you know weeks learning my lines and studying the character and I'm going to treat myself after. I really liked that so that's kind of where I got that from and I've actually taken that into other areas of my life when I do something that is like yeah really scary or big like I know when I started my podcast I said to Luke let's go out to dinner and celebrate because this is deserving of celebration this is deserving of like recognition of myself being like I did this like good work. So jealousy
00:20:56
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Again, it's a normal part of human behavior to feel jealous. I don't think we need to aim to eradicate it completely because I think that's, it's just not going to happen and it's just, it's just not going to happen. However, I do think there is a difference between feeling jealous and letting it dictate your happiness versus feeling jealous and letting it go. And what we can aim to do is recognize when the jealousy is coming on and instead use it for inspiration. not copying this person, not trying to be somebody that you are not, but looking at the actual reason as to why we are jealous in the first place. I feel like we often get trapped in feeling jealous about things that actually really don't matter in the scheme of things like followers on social media or the girl that has the nice handbag or the cool car. Maybe you are jealous of that small business that seems to just be pumping out orders.
00:21:55
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But I think what we need to do in this instance is we need to look at it deeper. Are you jealous of the followers or the handbag, the car, or the orders? Or are you jealous of the feeling that person would get when driving the car or receiving the orders? Do you see where I'm going here? This way we can turn it around. I would think instead of wanting that car, you're probably craving financial freedom. or the proud feeling that you would get after having a day with lots of orders in your small business. Maybe you want to feel powerful or influential on social media with more followers. You don't necessarily crave or just want the followers for followers sake. You want to feel powerful and influential. So look deeper. What are you actually craving? What are you actually wanting? Why are you feeling jealous of these certain people?
00:22:55
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or this certain business or this certain thing that someone has. So really start looking at the feelings you are jealous of rather than the tangible things. Because I bet when the time does come and you get these things, it won't complete you how you think it will. you'll get it and it will feel good and it will feel exciting and then you'll create a new goal as we do and you'll start feeling jealous over different things and you'll get in that vicious so that vicious cycle. So think of it like, are you actually jealous or do you just want that thing because it makes someone else happy? And that's another point I want to make.
00:23:30
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just because something else makes someone else happy doesn't mean that it's for you, doesn't mean that that thing or that circumstance will make you happy as well. Just because you see something making someone else happy doesn't mean it's going to complete you like it completes them or like you view it. completing them. It might not complete them at all. It might not even make them happy, that but they might tell you that it makes them happy or they might promote on social media that it makes them happy. But, you know, they could be fabricating and you're telling this story in your head that this person is so happy because they've got this thing and I don't have it, so I'm not happy.
00:24:07
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You know? I'll give some examples. So recently I found myself getting a little bit jealous over my mum friends who are on maternity leave, like full on maternity leave from their jobs where they're not working at all and they can put all their love and their time and their energy into solely being a mum. However, when I would have a week where I was solely a mum, I would then find myself craving being at work and opening my laptop, thinking up new products, planning new events. So I was actually feeling jealous over something that I didn't actually want.
Energy Blocks through Judgment
00:24:41
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just because it is right for other people doesn't necessarily mean that it is right for me however I was wasting energy thinking that I should be on complete maternity leave and I should be giving 24-7 of my time and energy and love to Indigo and I think a bit of mum guilt comes into that as well because when I do take time away from her I miss her so much and my energy is you know more importantly spent with her of course it is because she is my world she's my number one priority but for me personally I need to share my energy and my love a little bit with my work because that lifts me up as well and if you are a mum who is solely a mum and that lifts you up and that completes you then amazing like and I am like even saying that I am still a little bit jealous I'll admit it
00:25:30
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but we are all different and I think I am jealous of the idea of something that is not actually right for me. So really looking at what you are jealous of, are you jealous of the idea of it? Because that idea of it is going to be different in your life like say that idea that you know makes someone else happy all of a sudden that idea is your reality and you don't actually like it because you haven't tried it it might not be for you i hope this is making sense so how are you judging yourself are you critical of yourself do you feel as though you never achieve enough do you feel as though you are not enough
00:26:11
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Like let's say, for example, you have a bad relationship with your body at the moment. Chances are you'll have negative feelings toward those who love and celebrate their bodies, those who eat well and move their body frequently. Chances are you'll probably feel jealous of them or chances are you probably judge them. Even if you don't mean to, even if you don't wish them bad things or anything like that, you're human. So you might judge them because you are lacking in that yourself. What about another example? um If you feel you have low self-worth, I'm sure you probably find yourself judging those who hop on social media and promote themselves unapologetically. Because if you have low self-worth, you wouldn't be able to do that. What about if you're struggling creatively? You might find you're judging or feeling jealous of others
00:27:01
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creations that they are selling or putting up photos of or maybe you start critiquing how you would have done it better. However, are you even trying at all? That's the question. Or maybe you're single and wanting a relationship. I have seen the difference in someone who is single and genuinely happy for those around them versus those who are single and resent their family or friends for being in happy relationships. There is a difference. So really looking at how you feel and then how as a result, you are projecting your energy outwards and don't think like I mentioned before that just if you are keeping these thoughts within yourself or even say in your close friend circle like I only told my best friend I was jealous or that I hated the way that this person does this or that it's energy doesn't lie
00:27:49
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energy feels everything. So don't think that you can say, do or think these things and they just pass you by and you know, you can say your gratitudes and then all of a sudden be full of gratitude and good energy. It doesn't really work like that. Something that I like to remind myself when I'm feeling jealous or when I'm judging other people is that there is more than enough to go around. I know I've said this before a million times on the podcast, but there is, unlimited possibilities awaiting us all. It's all just energy.
00:28:24
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Everything is made up of energy. The universe has unlimited possibilities. It is just about what we align to, what we match energetically, that will be brought to us.
Societal Influence on Jealousy
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It doesn't matter if someone else has something, it doesn't mean that they have then taken that something and you can't have it, or you can't have a version of it, or you can't have something better than that thing either. But really check in on why you want this thing. that you are jealous of or that you are judging other people about and you might be thinking oh no I don't want that thing that I'm judging that person about like I really don't like that about them or I see this person doing this thing or not doing this thing and I'm judging them because it's wrong but there's more to that as well there's more to that judgment
00:29:09
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So really I would do some journaling on that. Who are you judging? Why are you judging them? What don't you like about what they are doing? And then direct it right back to your life and how you're feeling. Do you do similar things actually? Maybe it's something similar but in a different field. Maybe you think a certain thing but don't say it out loud like this other person does. So really just like forgiving yourself and being kind to yourself as you unravel these things about yourself but knowing that these shifts are huge. Like when you are acknowledging these things or when you are self-reflecting enough to admit that maybe sometimes you are wrong or maybe sometimes you have cruel thoughts, you are human, it's okay but the acknowledgement is huge.
00:29:58
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like seriously well done if you are doing that and you're listening to this episode so you're obviously open to it well maybe you're judging me right now maybe you're judging the things that i am saying and again that's okay i mean i'm putting myself out here on a podcast for people to listen to it's bloody scary i'll tell you that and i judge myself all the time but if you're judging me then maybe you know, check back on why. What am I doing or saying that isn't in alignment with who you are? Or am I doing or saying something that is evoking a certain emotion out of you because you want something that I have or that I do? That's another thing I like to remind myself of is
00:30:40
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People, you might just think that you're jealous of other people, right? But I can guarantee you there are so many people who are jealous of what you have, who are envious over something in your life. You might be jealous of someone's relationship, for example, right? But that same friend might be jealous of your financial status. Or that same friend might be jealous of, you know, the way that you're single and free. and maybe deep down they're not in a good relationship. You just never know. But we get in our heads and we create these stories and we spiral because we're human. And if you're like me, you're an overthinker. um So yeah, that's kind of, you know, a few little examples.
00:31:31
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Another thing that you want to make sure that you are not doing is just because society says that, you know, you are successful if you do this or you are in a happy marriage if you do that or you are healthy if you do this. It's not just because society says that it doesn't mean that you should strive for it or want it. Do you want it genuinely or are you feeling jealous over someone that's doing that thing because society says that it's right or that it's accepted? we really can turn that jealousy, that judgment, that envy into inspiration. When you are feeling like, no, you know what, I've self-reflected and I actually really do want what that person has. I do want a job like theirs or I do want a body like theirs or whatever it is that you are comparing yourself to or that you want, then seek inspiration instead of jealousy.
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So what are they what are they doing that you could be doing that makes that makes you feel better about yourself? Like use them as inspiration just because they have it doesn't mean that you can't as well. Remembering that there is more than enough to go around. So instead of feeling into that low vibration of jealousy and envy, feel into the high vibration of inspiration from this person, motivation, gratitude that they are showing you the way. It's exciting. I take inspiration from so many people. And again, I'm not saying that you,
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have to go copy, but you can take so much inspiration from so many people that are on television, on social media, your friends, your family, someone that you know at work, your grandma, your dog. You know, your dog might be relaxed and chill all the time and you might need to relax and chill a little bit more. I'm obviously being and a little bit weird here, but you know what I mean? We can take inspiration from everything and anyone. Now I want to finish by getting really, really real here, really deep. So when we're feeling really down in the dumps, when we're feeling super low, like we are super unhappy with where we are, we're expressing judgment about others to friends or family. We're gossiping.
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because it can give us that temporary feeling of power or that temporary feeling of like, I'm right, they're wrong. It can give us that feeling, I guess, of entitlement when we're gossiping or when we're judging and we're bringing others into our thoughts and almost trying to get them on our page about someone else or something
Transforming Negative Feelings into Growth
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else. We've all been there. Let's be real. And I think, you know, this is like I'm on a podcast and I'm saying, I've absolutely judged. I've absolutely gossiped about people. Who hasn't? And if you're saying, I have never thought or said a bad word about anyone or anything. matt I don't know. Maybe you're a fairy. Maybe you are. I don't know. But like, let's be real. It's really easy to fall into the trap of gossiping or judging with other people about other people to pull them down to make ourselves feel better. And I'm sure you've been on both ends of it. I have personally. It feels yucky when you're doing it and it feels yucky when you are the receiver of it as well. There is no good in judging or gossiping. I think there is a difference between venting. I think when something happens to you and you're upset or feeling hard done by or you just really need to have a vent to
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someone that you trust, I really do believe that that is important to let it go and to have that support, but it's different than judging and gossiping. So when we are in this state, right, we're feeling super low, we're projecting this negativity onto to another person. whether we know them or they're maybe a colleague, like an acquaintance or someone we don't know completely, we just follow them on social media, it is not going to take anything away from them, like your negative energy toward them. And again, being very vulnerable here, but when we're feeling super low and super unhappy with ourselves,
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Misery loves company and that feeling of feeling so awful yourself, you almost want to bring other people down with you so they can feel and understand how you're feeling as well. But the feelings that you are expelling toward them, it's not going to bring them down. It's not going to change their success or their happiness. It's just going to change yours. And if you are feeling low, if you are feeling awful, the only direct effect that that is going to have is on the people that you love the most.
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Now I know intentionally none of my pass around the smile community would judge and feel that jealousy of wanting other people to fall or to fail. But it really is true that like I said, misery loves company. It's like, it's a natural thing. And we've all probably been there before. And I think there is so much power in acknowledging that you have been there before or in the future when it comes up going, this is what I'm trying to do. It's not going to make me feel better. I actually don't want this person to fall or fail. I just recognize that I'm unhappy in this area. um And again, we judge or we get jealous of people.
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thriving in certain areas, but you've got to remember that there are people that are jealous of you thriving in different areas too.
Episode Wrap-up and Community Connection
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Like life is always going to be up and down. This kind of comes into the law of rhythm again, where we can be up, you know, say in our financials, but we can be down in our love life, or we can be here there and everywhere always, but the law of rhythm will take us up and down and in and out. And it's getting used to that flow of life. There are a couple of quotes that I like. um One is, those who are busy discussing your life are probably not happy with theirs. And the other one is actually a lyric from a fundamental song that I always like when I hear the song. And it says, I think it is a quote, actually like an old school quote, but with different names. But it says, when Billy has a bitch about Susie to Millie,
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it says more about Billy than Susie, which is so true. So I want to leave us with that and I want us to remember that when we are having a bit of a, we're having a down day and let's say that we are having a bitch or a gossip or, you know, a judgy moment about other people, How is it a reflection on where you're at at the moment? And it is most likely saying more about you than this other person. I know that when confrontation happens or when there's falling outs, things like that, you might want to get so many people on your side to like prove that you were right or so you that you have that support.
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but really it's just it's just not helping anyone and I mean this isn't really an episode on confrontation confrontation is something that I'm absolutely terrible at um so I don't think that I could talk on that topic anyway um but yeah really look at just look at where this is all coming from you it's all about you And yeah, I think we'll end that episode there. A big reminder of our challenge, our manifestation challenge, which isn't actually a direct manifestation challenge, which is why I'm so excited about it, because I'm so excited to see what happens, the shifts and the things that you guys manifest without directly trying to manifest. And I think this will also have
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us learning a lot about surrendering, about letting go and focusing on things that make us feel good instead of focusing on what we don't have and trying to make it our reality. We're focusing on things that we have control over that raise our vibration and then the result is really cool things manifesting and I think because we're surrendering and we're not focusing on you might on it you might be actually receiving things that you didn't expect and that is so exciting and not only is that like exciting in the moment that you might get a surprise or something really cool, it's also the universe trying to have a say in your life and direct you to your right path, direct you to the next big thing.
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So let's not forget about that. I'm personally going to start on the 1st of July and do it for 31 days for the month of July, three times a day. And if, you know, I don't get to three things a day, and again, they can be big and small, relevant to you, do not compare with what anyone else is writing in the community or anything like that. Just it you are going to do it right for you. And remember that code, again, I'm only saying it on my podcast and in my community and broadcast channel, I won't be putting it on social media, but that discount code, um oh now I've forgotten it, no. Community love in capital letters will get you 15% off
00:40:21
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Your whole entire order ah it will not include bundles though because they're already discounted And it will be for orders over $65. I love you guys. Thank you so much for listening to listening Wow, thank you so much for listening to another episode if you liked it There's a little Q and&A thing that you can do on Spotify you can let me know what you thought let me know if you have any ideas for podcasts upcoming and And yeah, I'll chat to you guys in my Facebook community or in my broadcast channel on Instagram. I'll put the link to that below as well. Actually, no, I want won't because it's just my Instagram profile that you can get to it by. I don't think it actually has a link. You guys are amazing. Bye.