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EP 14: Embrace your Sprint Cycles, Duck Distractions and the Power of the Pause with Brigitte Jarvis
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As Promised, this episode features a special guest and self described friend of the neurodivergent community, the one and only, Brigitte Jarvis. She's a massage therapist, storyteller, actor, self-produced writer, she has written and produced over 20 projects, earning multiple awards including Best Stage Adaptation, Best Actress twice, and Best Sketch Comedy.
This episode is for the neurodivergent creatives, entrepreneurs, and anyone tired of pushing through. This episode is your permission slip to stop running a marathon that was never designed for your brain and start honouring your natural sprints instead.
We talk about embracing the sprint- rest- repeat cycle, rather than forcing yourself the run back to back sprints until you collaps. From creative surges to essential rest, we explore what it means to work with your brain, not against it.
Letting go of the pressure to be “always on” is not a failure, it’s a strategy for sustainability, joy, and actual productivity.
Brigitte’s passion now lies in her ‘Grow Your Own Work’ workshops, where she mentors fellow creatives to discover their unique voices. Recently, she’s expanded this space to help people connect back to themselves, drawing on her extensive experience as a therapist and her deep study of the human condition—including her own.
About Brigittes “She Speaks” and "The Softening" Women’s Workshops.
She Speaks is invites participants to connect with their happy inner child and wise future self through Guided visualisations and intuitive writing.
"It's not and endless quest to live up to slogans, it's about coming home to yourself."
It’s a gentle journey — not into trauma, but into light. Into who you are, what you need, and what you long to reclaim.
The Softening is a winter reset, guiding women back into their bodies, their hearts, and their sense of inner home.
Participants won’t leave buzzing with stimulation, they’ll leave wrapped in honey, with tools they can access in ordinary moments: sipping coffee, standing still, or simply breathing.
Find more about Brigitte's offerings on instagram
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Transcript
Introduction and Acknowledgment
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You are listening to Awaken ADHD, a podcast where people share their ADHD stories, life before and after diagnosis, support, strategies, strengths and challenges.
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Hi, I'm Jade and I'll be your host. I'm a counsellor, ADHD coach and fellow ADHD-er. So join me as we Awaken ADHD.
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This podcast was recorded on the land of the Boon Wurrung people of the Kulin Nation. and we wish to acknowledge them as traditional owners. We recognise First Peoples of Australia as the original storytellers and pay our respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
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Alrighty, welcome to another episode.
Meet Bridget: A Multitalented Creator
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We are joined today by a friend of the neurodivergent community, an individual who collects neuro sparkly people and may often find herself saying,
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I don't have an ADHD diagnosis, but dot, dot, dot. Fill gap here. Fill gap here. ah My first coffee and chat with this person left me feeling energized.
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The conversation was random, divergent, filled with interruptions, random tangents, lost tracks, and, oh, look at that duck.
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And I think you may have picked a flower mid-conversation as well and even thanked that flower. That's beautiful gift. Did I? You did. And my favourite quote from you is, if we were in a fashion catalogue, we'd be on the same page.
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I wonder if we would today, do you think? I don't know. I don't know. You're going a bit more maybe. You've got more flowering.
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Anyway. The formal introduction is Bridget is a massage therapist with 20 years experience and a storyteller for even longer. She's an actor, a self-produced writer,
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creating multi-art form theatre, short films and web series. Alongside her creative work, Bridget is involved in production design and as always and always has unfinished canvases around the house.
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Hmm, sounds familiar. Waiting for just the right moment to be completed. Uh-huh, I'm suspicious here. Since 2015, she has written and produced over 20 projects, earning multiple awards, including Best Stage Adaptation, Best Actress Twice, and Best Sketch Comedy.
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We are expecting some humour from her today then. and russia No pressure. No pressure.
Mentoring and Creative Passion
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um Bridget's passion now lies in her Grow Your Own Work workshops where she mentors fellow creators to discover their unique voices.
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Recently, she expanded this space to help people connect back to themselves, drawing on her extensive experience as a therapist and her deep study of the human condition.
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including her own. Welcome Bridget. I feel like clapping myself. Come on, round of applause. I'm sure there's like a ah clap button I can probably press here.
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Thank you. Thank you very much. It's actually really
Humor, Memory, and ADHD Traits
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good to be here. And I loved our first conversation together too. So funny. I did pick a flex. It does ring a bell now, I did. I did. Oh, you remember it, right? Yeah. Do you have bad memory? Is that a thing? No. think No, okay.
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Yes, I do. A bad working memory, like short-term memory yeah and sometimes long-term memory. Yeah. I've got a terrible memory generally. Do you? But I'm not ADHD.
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She's not ADHD, but I forgot what I was just about to say. This is going swimmingly. ah No, no, I love this. So on the day that we caught up for our coffee and random duck spotting flower picking walk, we got talking about um some of the themes that were in that piece that I wrote.
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ah hadn't written it yet. I wrote it after that. Yeah. And when I sent it to you, some of it resonated. And you said you even wrote notes. I don't suppose you've got your notes.
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I don't. and They're in your head. Because I have a terrible memory, I can't remember. You can't remember what resonated. don't what it was. but Honestly, the other day i was doing some role playing and I had to give feedback on the scenario I'd done in the morning. and This was at five o'clock. i had to give the feedback.
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And Alrim looked to me because it was my turn. And I ah basically said, i'm I can't remember what I did this morning. Right, right. I think it's got really bad.
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yeah was going to ask you, how do you remember your lines? I don't... It's almost like it's a skill. You learn, it's like a tool. Oh, okay. Correct.
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It's just... If you asked me to say the lines I said in the play two months ago, I couldn't tell you what they were. But when I'm doing it, I learn it in different ways. i have sort of several different levels of learning them.
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So it's almost like it just goes in. Curiously, I'm wondering whether that skill of learning lines could actually be applied to ah some of us ADHDers that do...
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Forget things. I often say to my client, say taking medication, I have to look at the medication, look at what I'm wearing and imprint the moment, not just the taking of it. I kind of have to see the whole like, oh, it's raining outside. I'm wearing this top. and And then once I've locked that in and I've done it mindfully and intentionally, then I know I've taken it.
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If I just go and take it That's amazing. Yeah, I get it though. That makes sense that you're creating a of and ah sensory memory of it rather than just.
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Absolutely. But I realized I had to look at what I'm wearing because otherwise I'll refer to that memory and go, yeah, but was that yesterday's memory? yeah So I have to give it more context in
Life Patterns and Productivity Cycles
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order to lock it in. Yeah.
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All right. So you don't remember exactly the notes that you made regarding this concept. just give me a couple of words as to? Okay. So what we were what we were talking about was around the concept sprint versus marathon. Oh, yes. So people, ah you know, do things maybe in – waves rather than a steady stream. Yeah.
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Sprint, rest rather than just a continual side, you know. That made, it resonated so much with me and and I saw it in some of the people close to me. As I said, I kind of seemed to collect um interesting people.
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Collect interesting people. All right. That sounds like I have ownership over them, doesn't it? I have just thought, and it's got more extreme as I've gone into perimenopause, that my rhythm, I've just become more aware of my rhythms, but the way you described it in your uncoaching, it just made it make sense.
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And then it kind of makes it okay. Just understanding that rather than constantly berating myself for not being consistent. You know, that's one big word that comes up for me a lot where I'm still shaming myself is my inconsistency.
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Absolutely. Don't we live in a world that says consistency equals success? To be honest, even if you read the self-personal development books of all the great CEOs, that it's always consistency, which isn't very helpful.
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Well, yeah. It says you you know you have to be disciplined, and disciplined means you are consistent. and And if you don't have those two things, you're screwed.
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But your idea of the sprint is that we actually packed a pack a lot more into the sprints and then we have the deep breath. Absolutely. Slash crash. Slash burnout.
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Yeah. Existential crisis. I really can't talk to anyone for at least a month. And then we go into a sprint again. And and that's what what people see as the sprints. And then what we experience is there the burnout and the kind of hibernation.
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And I think the burnout and the hibernation, i don't know about you, but for me it is often if I haven't realised that I have been doing consecutive sprints all the time. Yeah.
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And you quite wisely on our little walk down along the creek when I was talking about this, you said, well, if you're sprinter, printer And yet you've just told me what your week is looking like and what your week is regularly looking like.
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When are you resting? I'm like, oh, crap. I'm a sprinter doing a marathon. i'm sprinting consecutive sprints to make a marathon. And then I'll crash and burn.
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oh yeah So thank you, therapist Bridget, for your wise counsel. Did you? Take it on board and have a rest? I did. Did you? I did. And I have started factoring in more rest.
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But I think that's where, you know, the shame is i should keep going. I should be running the marathon. And also the expectation of the sprint, what the energy level of a sprint is, is people come to expect that's a level.
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That you can work with. Yeah. If I was working for an organisation, I have many clients that come to me and they're reflecting how much they can do. They are prized, they are valued.
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And yet as soon as they drop the ball and stop doing the work of 10 people,
Boundaries and Personal Growth
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they're like, what's going on? Why why aren't you delivering? They're getting other people to expect that high level of them.
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Yeah. And so they can't come off the sprint. Because then it's harder to say no or completely clear your diary.
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I mean, I'm learning now, actually, ah to have much firmer boundaries. And that can sometimes feel a bit rubbish because I feel like I'm not supporting someone or I'm not showing up for them.
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But sometimes now in the last few years, I've kind of gone, I'm not feeling connected. I'm feeling... quite discombobulated and and I need to say no without really having to explain.
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Gee isn't perimenopause a great gift? in that I think it's an awakening. It is. Absolutely I think it's not a midlife crisis or it is the pause but it's also an awakening.
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Absolutely because you don't know how would you describe it? I feel like everything I've been doing with my own journey think everything I've been working out about myself and I'm packing and all that stuff I'm still you know still think I've got myself worked out and then I have another like oh my god like the tiniest thing just like unravels all this other stuff but I feel like now everything I've been learning I'm actually actioning and I've created the life that serves me I'm able to
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keep tapping into my creativity and this isn't all the time at all I'm still working on it but it's the awakening for me is that I'm I can see everything lot more clearly almost like I've got a bit of space from it rather than just being overwhelmed or consumed by it all the time i can actually see things for what they are don't know if I'm explaining myself no no you are but I'm thinking in order to be able to see it does that mean you have to stop sprinting for a minute Does that mean you're actually stuck? Do you know what the funny thing This is what happens to me.
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i stop the sprint and I find that I'm really present with myself. i'm When I'm with people, I'm with them. I'm literally not thinking about anything else. And this isn't all the time, but when I stop, I can pull. And I know that and no people feel it, my family feel it, when I'm kind of just like there, not thinking about anything else.
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And that's when the magic like fills up in me again. And then I'm kind of bursting with like all this creativity and joy and love and excitement about life.
Rest and Creativity
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I'm like, oh my God. And I just want to like, just give it to everyone and yeah create stuff and I get excited. And then I'm in the sprint.
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Right. But I need, yeah. I don't can't what your question was. I don't know what my question was. I'll have to rewind. The rest is. essential for me because that's actually where I feel my cup but then rather than staying there and going like oh this is really nice I just want to be slow it actually inspires me to want to sprint again absolutely that is it right we need those rest and recovery in order to get up and do that thing again because when we are running the sprint
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we're on, we're lit up. where you know if i'm If I'm thinking about you know my fellow ADHDers, we are firing on many, many cylinders. Our brain is making connections and bouncing around in ideas or really focused in on one is problem solving.
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But at a fast pace, higher level capacity yeah you mentioned about something about school pickup and i went oh my god i used to hate it the small talk at school pickup i couldn't ever do it and i think it's because like i don't really like small talk it makes me anxious you can see my body language like i can't do small talk because it feels i want to either get to really know how you are what's happening like give me some let's talk about something or i just want to kind of be in my own little
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fairyland in my head please absolutely and I I used to do the small talk really well I was actually really good at it but I think it came at a cost it was a mask I was wearing it was a socially appropriate thing to do when inside i'm like I don't I don't really care or tell me much much more or look at that duck yeah just thinking about it now I'm I'm better socially if I go into a net networking scenario so god you just made me cringe yeah idea network I can yeah ah or ah let's uh I like to look at it as like who's interesting who because I mean you're in a room usually full of creative people I want to find out about people what
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yeah what they're into, what they're doing. Well, I'm in a room full of counsellors, so it's just not as exciting.
Meaningful Connections and Authenticity
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But, like, you can ask a couple of questions that aren't just, like, what are you working on at the moment, the question that you hate as a creative, because quite often you're not and then you feel rubbish.
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But anyway. was going to say you're not working on the thing because you're working on 50,000 things and you've put aside the thing that you really wanted to be working on so then you feel guilty that you haven't got back to that.
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and yeah Someone said the other day on my social school, I was like, isn't this the hardest question and and they were saying you know the answer should be I'm working on self-actualization right now thank you very much so but my I can't remember what my point was oh so I can do that because I know that there's big conversations to be had there it's in scenarios ah at school pickup let's say where isolate myself the most and I feel most awkward even though I'm a very social person I love people and I love yeah hanging out with
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interesting people and having diverse conversations the small talk of what this kid wanted in their sandwiches doesn't feel authentic but there's so much going on under the surface for people that's not the conversation surely there's and and there's so much happening in the world that's not the conversation well maybe it is maybe i'd be a happier calmer more um you'd be more boring no no but I think that the conversation that I would say feels boring is because it is ordinary and mundane and you could have it a thousand times and I don't
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I don't have time for that. Right. I am. My brain is firing off in too many different directions. And that puts me to sleep. It's not saying that that's not interesting to somebody else or more tolerable to somebody else. And that's why I don't want it. Like I used to kind of admire the people that were like, or hanging out talking about, I don't know what, I was always just like hanging out with one or two people that I knew look for that person, you know?
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yeah And, and, and it's, Yeah, interesting because I think a lot of people that you but know me, whether they know me from a distance or really know me, they probably think I'd be fine with that scenario and I could talk to anyone.
00:17:43
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That could, but you don't really want to. Yeah. Yeah. And so that is even the the power of the awakening in the menopause phase is um um not going to do that anymore.
00:17:59
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I'm going to make the choice. I'm going to put the boundary in place. that Those conversations actually exhaust me. Yeah, and I think that the shift is I'm not going to feel like less than for not doing that anymore.
00:18:14
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Uh-huh. Absolutely. I'm actually going to accept that that's just who I am and and that's not that's not serving me, so i'm not going to have those conversations. I'll sit in my car and I'll write something or read something. That makes a lot of sense.
00:18:27
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In the work that you do, ah the Are there other expectations on productivity or the measure of success in having to go, go, go? Or is it in the creative industry, it is more acceptable to to be a sprinter?
00:18:44
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I think we put the pressure on ourselves. I believe there's this constant kind of carrot that everyone's chasing. You can't just wait for the phone to ring. so you've constantly got to be working that system.
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You've constantly got to be hustling in order to make enough noise to get noticed or connect with the right person to make the next
Creative Pressures and Satisfaction
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thing. or And there's this sense of it never being enough. And I would say even for, let's talk about acting for a minute,
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Apart from probably like five, maybe up 15 lead Australian actors or the other actors, even if they're household names, they're not consistently working. So there's constant kind of need to keep connected.
00:19:30
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and And there's a lot of pressure and it feels like a hustle all the time. It's not like you can go to work, come home. you know, let go of it. It's just constant.
00:19:43
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So yeah, there is pressure. So it's about the conversation with you have with yourself. And that's something I struggle with because I don't just act. I also make films.
00:19:53
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I also work in production design. I also make theatre. So there's so many different pools that I need to be splashing around in.
00:20:04
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For me, there's this real... dichotomy between like the need to hustle and also the understanding that I actually need to just do my thing and flow and enjoy whatever I'm doing at the time and splash around in the pool but don't actually I've let go in the last couple of years of that need to hustle so what feels right at the moment for me is to be sharing everything I've been doing And help other people with themselves, with their own inner artist or with their with their inner child almost to be happy and to feel fulfilled.
00:20:44
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And also me at the moment writing a new show, but I can't do all of the things all of the time. Can't do all of the things all of the time. there There are a few things that I'm curious about. I have a lot of people that come in and like me, they have multiple things on the go.
00:21:05
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And they might start something and then kind of lose the passion for it or lose the momentum.
00:21:16
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What happens to you if you start something, you start writing something, you start creating something, but you Lose the flow, lose the momentum.
00:21:28
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Does that haunt you? Do you feel like it does? Do you feel like you have to come back to it, that you have to finish it? um Or is it okay for it to be part of the process? It's always that it is okay to be part of the process.
00:21:43
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There are some things that I know have such potential that I've worked on and spent a lot of time on and then have got, and, you know, I'm still trying to work out why.
00:21:55
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I'll probably spend my life working out why. You know, is it? The why it's paused? Yeah, why I'm not coming back to it, why I'm not taking it to the next level, why I'm not pushing it to many different festivals. Is it because I'm kind of done with it, it's served its purpose and the important thing is the journey, it's experience. Also when there's other people involved and they put in time and effort and if something isn't completed and and it's been, it's usually been when I'm working with other people.
00:22:24
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Mm-hmm. And this ball has been dropped or the pace has slowed and it's got more and more kind of like wading through treacle to the point where I'm just like, oh, this is shiny, new and fresh. I'll do this instead.
00:22:38
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She said shiny and new, people. She's not ADHD, but. But this one sparkles. She said shiny and new, which is, you know, one of our favourite phrases. Oh, is it? In the ADHD world, yes.
00:22:52
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yeah You can have it though, that's fine. You can borrow it. So when you have other people involved, it haunts you in a bigger way. Why is that? Because they've put in their time and effort and usually it's not paid.
00:23:03
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And their talents. You don't want to let people down. let them down. I i want to see it through for them. i want to show my gratitude by actually producing the episode that they were in.
00:23:14
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If there's no external factors, what gets you... back into the project well well quite frankly we're in trouble jade there's no hot poker oh it depends i mean quite often i found it's because and i was thinking about this this morning actually i really want to go for some funding for this but i have this concept for one woman show and now it's in the periphery i'm starting to get ideas drop in and it's starting to show itself to me let's say If I get funding, ah have some accountability to see it through.
00:23:52
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And have some support as well. So I think it does help to have some sort of accountability. Absolutely. On my own. it's Yeah, it's it's really hard sometimes to finish. Sometimes I'll only finish them because I'm so pissed off with myself for being useless.
00:24:08
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Right. Okay. So the inner critic comes along and says, ah kind of you know punishes you until you eventually finish it but saying that i have finished a lot of things and uh-huh and here is another piece of it that we forget how much we actually have done and because we are producing ideas or creating things in our head or figuring things out or we have so many different ideas and plans and
00:24:45
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goals or thoughts we've done a lot of them but because we haven't done the 50 billion that are in our head we forget to actually acknowledge the ones that we have done you're gonna say that's huge in the ADHD yeah and in the I think in the creative world diagnosing me everybody I'm not ready for this no no but in the community of individuals that have that are creative fast big thinkers it's funny because i do say that to other people all the time like let's There's evidence that you actually do finish stuff or you do great things.
00:25:20
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You have evidence of that. So this one thing is just the thing that got away. Or it was part of the process. There are many things that I haven't finished in my life. Many, many, many things I haven't finished.
00:25:33
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And they used to be collected as evidence of crapness of inconsistency of she's never going to oh oh I want to therapize you now yes yeah please is that just so that could be childhood thing of like see you've proved them right again and proof that because for me that's definitely a part of it is being told I was a failure as a child and kind of you know that kind of okay yeah I'm just just making sure I reaffirm that narrative
00:26:07
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Yeah, that's definitely something I've
Childhood Narratives and Creativity
00:26:09
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been working really hard. on Many neurodivergent individuals that I work with and any individual, right, we have these stories and patterns from our childhood and often an ADHD will have experiences and stories around laziness.
00:26:24
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Oh, you had potential. Yeah, yeah, of course. If only you ever finished something. Oh, look, but here you Here you go starting something new before you finish the last thing.
00:26:36
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Oh, what, that thing's not interesting anymore? And just a trail of different jobs and different projects and different hobbies. My mum actually said to me, you're having a really interesting, rich life.
00:26:48
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To sort of expand on that, I would say i agree with her. And I think it's really important to acknowledge that your tapestry is what you make it. And if you want it to have loads of colour and rich...
00:27:02
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you know, textures in there, then you're probably going to need to do lots of different things. I've had a colourful life, colourful in many contexts, but there is a lot of things I have tried and done and and some of them are not finished. But why why is that the gold standard? Why is that the narrative, consistency, staying in the one job, running that marathon?
00:27:30
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That's fucking boring. i want to try new things. I want to be curious. I want step into things and fail if you put it under that language and then back out again and try something new.
00:27:46
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And every single experience or activity we do or thing we try, it's informing who we are and our own life story.
00:27:57
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Absolutely. And we're learning. Every single time. We're learning, we're growing, we're experiencing. So I think we've both just made it okay. We've made it okay. yeah. Absolutely.
00:28:07
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Go out there, try new things. I did frame it to a client the other day. The only challenge or caveat is when we start expensive degrees online,
00:28:22
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And then we collect debt. There are many, many projects that do actually have an ADHD tax to them. Yes, true. If you're curious about going and learning something or trying something new, do the cheaper free version first.
00:28:38
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So many times, oh, I should do a master's of this. I've done many short courses that I never finished. Loads, I did it. writing in the editing diploma that I only halfway through, like creative writing. I've done just loads of things that I've not finished.
00:28:54
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And I'm okay about that. The ADHD tax is quite low. Hobbies, we often joke that we should have like hobby exchange because we often buy all of the things from the hobby and then we just need to like swap it.
00:29:06
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No, I'm not into photography anymore. I want to swap it for your pottery. Yeah. Yeah. I love that, yeah. You know, even the things that I've written, you know, I've got like two half-written books, maybe 10, I don't know, lots of stuff that I have created.
00:29:23
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and I don't know that I ever have to finish it. Once I surrender and free myself of the expectation of it has to be, well, who says and why? you know I think we could circle back to the sprint marathon thing. I think the important thing...
00:29:38
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With that, with the doing lots of things and kind of it's a okay if you don't finish any of them, is as long as we can in those quiet periods really get quiet and listen to our gut and be able to hear what is important to us.
00:29:56
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right If there's 10 books that haven't been read, finished, but there's there's one that's just really been playing on your mind and you get quiet and it's like it's nagging you to be able to ask yourself the question of what is it about that idea that's still you know speaking to me?
00:30:15
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Is it something that actually need to see through for myself or ask ourselves questions without all the chaos and the noise to be able to kind of hear the intuition essentially?
00:30:26
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Absolutely. Is it the external cultural expectation? Is it the the marathon um norm that is saying I should finish this?
'She Speaks' Workshop
00:30:37
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Or is there something from it that I do want to complete? Yeah. isn't it It's not an a one-size-fits-all. So I'm very much looking forward to next Saturday.
00:30:53
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and just share a little bit about this because I think it's a great segue what you've just been saying. I'd love to. I'd love to. Actually, is. it Next Saturday I'm running the first She Speaks workshop.
00:31:05
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I'm really combining my experience as a massage therapist because you do kind of end up being a bit of a therapist as well because you learn a lot about people, humans, what blocks they have and et cetera, and my storytelling. Mm-hmm.
00:31:22
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And then my own experience as well. So through helping the participants tell themselves their own stories, it's like they're going to go and visit through guided visualizations and through some guided writing exercises and some discussion. It's going be more of a women's circle. They're going to go and visit past self, but happy child.
00:31:43
Speaker
um not going into deep trauma trauma we're actually trauma where is she goingnna go and find the light right back at the beginning and they're also going to visit their future selves and they're all going to have messages for them there will be some beautiful acknowledgements of where they're at right now and the intuition they'll sort of have ah an understanding of what they might do and bring into their life to um to make them more truly live more truly to themselves because as women we tend to put ourselves out to everyone else and forget what she needs.
00:32:17
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So it's about she speaks. It's about coming back to who you are, what you need, what you want, and actually how could you ah tease that back into your life a little bit. I'm so excited. I'm so excited for it.
00:32:30
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You know, i I love doing these sorts of processes with my clients. I have not stepped into it enough. from the other side. You know, I might do a little bit as I'm creating or building something myself or reflecting at the same time as working with my clients. I reflect a lot, but not actually creating that space.
00:32:55
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And I think doing it, um like having three hours to do it, you're actually going to go on a journey rather than just like at one meditation or, you know, you're actually going to kind of really travel. three time And the second day is um called the softening.
00:33:10
Speaker
It will be a mixture of embodiment. So some visualizations that really bring us back into our body. So it's really designed for that kind of midwinter reset, the hibernation, the coming back to ourself.
00:33:27
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and really feeling into that. And then a little bit of breath work and techniques that will, instead of just going to a workshop and having a great time and coming out feeling good, this one is people are going to come in, they're going to experience some beautiful grounding, and they'll feel like they're probably like, they're not just going to float out the door, they're going to be like this sort of lovely honey, just like oozing out of the door and into the car and driving home but they're also gonna have some little tools in their back pocket where they can like come back to that throughout their day without having to kind of add any more time I want to give them tools to integrate tiny moments of not just being mindful or present but actually fully embodying this really good feeling in their day-to-day life
00:34:16
Speaker
Absolutely beautiful. I can really see the benefit of this sort of work that you're talking about, this space to actually connect and and tune in and understand what it is we what it is we need, what it is we want, when we have been sprinting, sprinting, sprinting.
00:34:34
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And it's very easy to go, okay, i need to be more mindful. I'll go for a walk, which is where our mind goes. like oh you know like Sometimes i actually find myself walking and going okay what what can I be thinking about this is more about literally the softening know if you've done heart meditation but like really simple heart heart math meditations where you you feel this beautiful love this pure love in your heart and it radiates through your whole body to feel that in a moment where you're just literally smelling the coffee
00:35:10
Speaker
Yeah, we're so busy. I think it's just really important to find ways to anchor, anchoring that into our dayto day to day. Yeah. I'm excited. This has been an absolute pleasure to meet a friend of the neurodivergent community.
00:35:26
Speaker
It's been great to be here. It's been lovely. Is there anything you kind of want to say where where people can find you i've got two instagram handles is that what we call it i don't know not um maybe we'll put them in the show notes it's just bridget jarvis is my sort of creative one and that's for um or everything creative and the work the creative workshops as well so grow your own work and then in good hands massage who and they certainly are so thank you everybody for listening if you'd like to come on and share your story maybe you're a friend of the adhd community maybe you're a collector of neurosparkly individuals whatever it is i'd love to hear from you so um yeah jump on to
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00:36:22
Speaker
try and be better no i won't i'm always going to be shit at it i will accept it all right well thank you so much
00:36:38
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