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6. Voice of Authenticity: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
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In this heartfelt episode of Healing Through Communication, we dive deep into the essence of authenticity and the transformative power of speaking your truth.
Join us as we share our personal stories of how not speaking our truth has shaped our lives and the profound changes that come with embracing authenticity.
We discuss:
Our personal journeys and the consequences of suppressing our true selves.
The power of learning truths from history, particularly from the perspective of women.
Effective practices that have helped us uncover and embrace our authentic selves.
How spirituality can serve as a powerful tool in the quest for truth and authenticity.
The intimate connection between healing and finding your voice.
Whether you're seeking to understand the impact of authenticity on your life, looking for ways to connect with your true self, or interested in the role of spirituality in self-discovery, this episode offers insightful reflections and practical guidance.
Tune in and explore how the voice of authenticity can lead you to a more genuine, empowered, and fulfilling life.
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Introduction and Objectives
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Aloha friends! Welcome to Spiraling Together, a mother-daughter healing journey. I'm the daughter, Chloe, and I'm the mother, Valerie. Our mission is to create a safe, nurturing space where mothers and daughters can begin a journey of healing and empowerment together.
Gratitude for Listeners
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Through heartfelt conversations, shared experiences, and our personal insights, we aim to foster deeper connections, strengthen bonds, and inspire growth. Before we dive into today's conversation, we want to take a moment to express our heartfelt thanks to all of you who are tuning in. Your willingness to expand and grow with us inspires us each day, and we are honored to have you as part of our community.
Engagement and Episode Title
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00:00:57
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Let's get ready to unravel the spiral. Together. All right, everybody, welcome back to Spiraling Together. Today we are on episode six. This episode title is Voice of Authenticity, the Power of Speaking Your Truth. So this one's going to be fun. But first off, we're kind of going to ease into things.
New Setup and Travel Stories
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um You guys might notice we have some cool mic stands if you're watching. Yes. Now we don't have to hold them anymore, which is exciting. Yeah, while you were gone, I was like,
00:01:36
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speaking to my friend Craig and getting some advice on how to help us just make this a little more comfortable for us. And also we got some new lighting and a little kitty cat meditation in the front there. And we're just, yeah, continuously upgrading a little bit for our comfort and for the quality of the video as well. Mm-hmm. And yeah, so you just got back. Yeah, I went to San Diego again. Yeah, of course. I also went to Laughlin in Vegas again. Not again for the first time. It was so hot. It was so hot. Yeah. Yeah. It was really hard to be outside for longer than like 10 seconds. I don't know how people do it out there. I really don't.
00:02:29
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Yeah, living here in Hawaii, we get used to, even on the hottest days, it's like what, in the 80s maybe? And you go under the shade and you're immediately cooled off. So right definitely when we travel anywhere that's really hot or really cold, you feel it because the temper differential here is only like 10 degrees. so And it was also like the dryness. like Hawaii is so humid like all the time. So it was the dryness mixed with like 110 degree heat. woo It felt like you were in a microwave. It's pretty bad, but it's still a good trip. Good. and Well, I'm glad to have you back for a little bit. And we immediately got to work.
00:03:21
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Immediately. Immediately. And I'm actually going to be going on a trip next week. ah My husband and I are leaving for Alaska. And so you and your brother are going to help us out with the farm, which we're super grateful for because once you have a farm or a lot of animals and a lot of land, you do really need good support. if you wanna travel. It's hard. Yeah. let's Well, it's fun, but it is a lot of stuff to look after, all the living things. Yes, we call them the heartbeats on healing hearts farm. Super cute. Yeah. So it's good to have you back. And I'm i'm really just happy to see you and happy to spend time with you. And I'm looking forward to this conversation today. Me too.
00:04:11
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All right, so are
Spiritual Background and Authenticity Discussion
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we ready? Well, do you want to start off with the card that is on our cat meditating? Oh, yeah. So I sometimes do draw from oracle decks. And I know it's not something we've really talked a lot about so far, but I am an ordained energy healer and minister. And I use spirituality as a tool. I do believe that we not only need to take care of our physical, mental and emotional health, but also our spiritual health. And I know that that was something that was lacking for me. And I'm definitely someone that is more into grounded spirituality and ancient practices. But like I said, I do draw from Oracle decks every now and then just as a tool. And right before,
00:05:08
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We started this episode, I felt drawn to ah Megan Watterson's The Divine Feminine Oracle Guidebook, because I really do love to draw wisdom from, you know, women in the past that were very connected. And so today, since It was just like so divine, voice of authenticity. I pulled the card ah Saint Perpetua and she's the saint of authenticity. And I pulled that and it was just like, I immediately knew that, you know, what you and I are doing is a lot larger than what I think that we really understand.
00:05:50
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And so she, like I said, is the saint of authenticity and her mantra is, I am my authentic self in all circumstances. So I feel like she's really here and present with us today. so
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yeah Yeah, I thought it was pretty crazy. Yeah. No, that's what that's the thing I really truly love. Like I said, I use the Oracle DEX as tools here and there. i I just sometimes feel like, oh, drawing from them. Or when I really feel like I need a little more support. And it was just like, I looked over and it was like, pull a card. And as soon as it came out, I was like, okay. can yeah yeah like yeah You Not just a coincidence, right? No, everything is connected. And that's what I've learned on my spiritual journey is just everything truly is connected. Nothing is crazy. I used to think that all the time. Oh my gosh, this is crazy. No, everything is truly connected. and
00:06:52
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When you're on a certain path, you will have signs and synchronicities that come up that show you that you truly are on the path, that you truly are guided and that you're not alone. And that's what really has helped me find my authentic voice and my ability to speak my truth is because I do get those signs and synchronicities that will come in and they will almost be like little nudges that are just like, you're okay. You're doing this. It's okay to speak your truth. It's okay to be authentic.
00:07:33
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So as far as authenticity goes and and speaking your truth, you know, I think maybe a little story of any time that you know that you've had to speak your truth. Yeah. There's, well, I think for me, like,
00:07:57
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I've had a hard time speaking up for myself my whole life. I'm still not great at it, but I'm definitely working on it a lot more. Um, I think a common feeling that like maybe a lot of people do have that I've definitely had before is that what I think doesn't matter. And like my opinion is not that big, you know,
00:08:28
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I've definitely had this like ideal in my mind that a lot of like major controversial stuff or whatever, I would just not even pick a side or I would not even like care to get involved because I was like, who cares what I think? I don't wanna get involved kind of thing.
00:08:57
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But I realized like I also thought that about just everything eventually. Like I would tell people like, Oh, I don't, I don't really care. And blah, blah, blah. And then I was like, Oh, well I also don't even like have my own opinions at all. I feel like that's, and I've talked about this before is like that lack of sense of self that I've had. Definitely comes with this because I never thought that anything I had to say mattered to anybody. Oh, honey I am definitely I know that what I have to say matters in my opinions matter now, but Yeah, I mean it took me a while to realize that that's what I thought for a long time.
00:09:45
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Yeah, and and I do believe that in certain company, it's not always best to necessarily get into a controversial topic with certain people, but with the people that you're close to, It's not that you necessarily have to have a controversial topic, but you that is when truly expressing your beliefs so that they know where you stand, especially with your your family and your loved ones and your close friends. But I might not do that type of conversation with like the grocery store clerk or like, you know, so
00:10:27
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Things that are just, yeah. um But I also think that I'm just gonna bring in this topic as a woman. We haven't really been able to ah speak our truth authenticity authentically.
Societal Pressures on Women's Voices
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And you know maybe even those things, just be a good girl. you know Don't use your voice, just be a good girl. Yeah, I was gonna say that too. I do think being a woman like you're
00:11:03
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or you're not like silenced, but we have this like pre-dispose belief that our opinions don't matter as much as a man or you know whatever. It's like we're not often in positions of power. I know time has changed a lot, but I think there is still that kind of like weight on our shoulders of like, oh, well, I feel like I don't have as big as a chance of other
00:11:35
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people like men to make impacts or talk about things and people are actually gonna follow what I have to say, especially, like you're probably not gonna get, it's like right now we don't have like a huge male audience following us and that's probably not gonna happen. which is okay because we want to help women, but there's still that like, not a lot of guys listen to this stuff. We're not going to portray these messages to them, but I don't know. And just, yeah, I mean, it's, it's definitely true and
00:12:25
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Even in, well, I'm just going to bring this in since we started out with St. Perpetua, even if looking at the church, there's just been this belief that men are the only ones that have a connection and that they are the ones that are the, you know, teachers of the teachings. but when not in actuality, women have a deeper connection to the spiritual world and a deeper connection. So there's a lot of things that we've been silenced and i'm I'm bringing this in. I mean, I don't know if you've heard of this, like the witch wound. You never heard of it. So that, I mean, you've heard of like
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the when witches were burned, right? So they were silenced because they were speaking the truth. They were using herbs and they were using ways of healing that the the government and the local state didn't want them to use anymore. And they were silenced. They were silenced from teaching the ancient wisdom that they knew. And that can be passed on and generation and generation and generation of not being able to use our voices. Like we're very closed off from our fifth chakras, like so closed off as women. So.
00:13:56
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Yeah, it's sad. Yeah, it is sad, but we are waking up and we are healing ourselves so that we know that it is okay to use our voices and it's okay to speak our truth now. I mean, look at us just doing this podcast and talking about what we talk about healing from generational trauma or any type of healing is just really starting to be talked about more and women, I mean, I don't want to bring up politics, but we do have a ah woman who's currently running for president. I'm not going to get into a conversation about that right now, but I'm saying that women are using their voices more and more and in social media and other places, they're stepping up to be in there.
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power. Yeah, definitely.
Gender Roles and Relationships
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i I would just also like to say, I guess, um
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I think, well, I don't know. so It's weird. We don't want to talk about politics, but I'm just going to say this also. Okay. We did have a female run before as well. She didn't win. And then now with this one, it's like the people that I've been around, like I was on a trip when all of this stuff was happening. It's ah everybody, even women are like, oh, she's not going to win because it's a woman. ah You know, and it's like. It's just annoying to hear that because I'm like, I don't.
00:15:47
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whatever, we're not going to get into what we believe in politics. right Who cares what side? But it's time to change the paradigm that women are not powerful enough to be in a place of power. like That is old. We are just as able to be in a position of power in that way. And I'm definitely not a feminist, okay? I'm not, because I do believe there is a place for both men and women. I don't wanna do all the things that my husband does. Absolutely not.
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oh Me neither. But our voices are just as powerful and as a matter of fact we have that that piece of us that is connected a little bit different and we're able to nurture and we're able to you know tap into that that feminine aspect of ourselves and
00:16:47
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Which I do want to say I think is pretty funny now, you know, like memes on Instagram and stuff. Of course. um I feel like more recently I'm starting to see like there will be stuff posted that's like, why did women fight so hard? Like I don't want to work a nine to five anymore. I don't want this to be normal. And it's like it's just because we had such a lack of power for so long that now that we do have the freedom to do everything and we do kind of have to to make ends meet if you're not in a healthy partnership.
00:17:30
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You're having to work the man's nine to five that was created for men. Like we said before too, their hormones go up and down and it's not that big of a deal. Our hormones are constantly changing based on our cycle. And yeah, it's really difficult to get up every day at the break of dawn and then go to work for eight hours and then come home and then chill or, or be expected to do everything around the house as well. Cause I've like guys probably, well, I'm not saying all of them, I'm not going to put every man into a box, but
00:18:16
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usually there's kind of some like, oh, well, you're gonna cook still, right? Or, oh, these chores need to get done, blah, blah, blah. But it's like, it's such a different time now that you can't do exactly what was done hundreds of years ago. It doesn't work anymore. And this is where we can be authentic and speak our truth and also understand that we have been duped when it comes to feminism. i I'm just going to say it. I don't know if you've heard this yet, but almost everything that i've I've unraveled so that I could find my own truth, you know, that was just so that there could be more tax dollars put in.
00:19:09
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Feminism was not actually about empowering women. It was about turning around and getting more money. And it made it seem that they were giving women power. So no, not really.
Authenticity in Professional Settings
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It was turning around so that there could be more tax dollars put in. Interesting. And then because women were already doing the nurturing and the mothering and the cooking and all of that, then they had to go to work. And so it just stuck that way. Now,
00:19:43
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In this day and age, what we can do is we can speak our truth and say, like on the last episode, how we talked about self-love, which is taking care of ourselves and speaking up and saying, hey, I need some help. Now we start showing that there doesn't need to be a gender role of a woman always doing the things. especially if you're working too. But even if you're not, the woman doesn't, her place is not in the kitchen. Again, that was just something that has been programmed into our society. You know, I personally,
00:20:21
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I love it when Chad does all the things outside and takes care of all the things and I can cook ah a nice meal for everyone or bake a loaf of bread and then you all help with the dishes or something like that. But I still love that part of being a woman that the nurturing part as long as I have help with other things. Yeah, that makes sense.
00:20:49
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Yeah, so that just came down to being authentic and saying, I don't mind doing these things if you do those things. Yeah. But because of social and cultural pressures, we can feel stuck in a box. and Agreed. Yeah.
00:21:14
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I also think another thing that can put you in a box from not speaking authentically um was like I was kind of saying like that lack of sense of self also is like self-doubt and my inner critic. like
00:21:36
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I think a lot of the time in like social situations, I just choose not to talk that much because I don't want everybody like creating these perceptions of me that might not be true in a way. like i
00:21:58
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I'm very shy until I actually get to know people, but I know that's because I just don't want them to like judge me when I bring up an opinion or, you know, whatever. When i when it's a large group of people, I'm just very quiet. But then on the other hand, that gets perceived as shy and quiet. And then I have like, I don't know. i've just i've I've definitely dealt with a lot of self-doubt that makes me not act authentically as I am, because you could also ask a bunch of my friends, and they're like, you're not a shy person, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, well, that's because I know you. okay That's because I talk to you all the time. But if it's around new people, I'm very closed off, and I don't act normal around them, my normal.
00:23:00
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I think that's really normal. What we do is we put these masks on to try to conceal our authentic selves. right Because like you said it, the fear of being judged by others, I believe that's what holds us back the most is being judged by others. definite But I'm not sure if you know this, you're gonna get judged no matter what. yeah Well, that's what I mean. If I don't say anything, well, that's how I'm being perceived. Exactly. You get judged whether or not. And so it's kind of like, I love the analogy of like us being in like a video game and being the main character.
00:23:48
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of our video game and everyone else is just an NPC. And so might might as well just have main character energy. Like that is your authentic self. It's being who you really are and knowing that either way people are gonna say something about you one way or the other. So you might as well just freaking have fun and do your thing and be authentic. That's fair. Yeah. But not at the expense of others.
00:24:19
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in In this sense that I feel like, well, I guess how I perceive the like think of everybody as an NPC, it's kind of like, you it's like this persona you're giving off that they don't matter to you in a way i know you're not saying that but i i'm trying to say if you want to think of yourself as the main character still think those npc's are
00:24:50
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human Oh, well, absolutely. I'm not talking about a narcissistic main character energy. I'm talking about a main character energy that you can be. So for me, being my authentic self means I'm coming from my truth. And truth comes from love. And love is a very high frequency. Some say it's the highest frequency. And so what I mean by that is still being loving and thinking about the people that you're with, especially those that are close to you. And I'm talking about like non-player characters like...
00:25:27
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people that are just like walking down the street or whatever, like that doesn't matter if you're walking, if you're wearing like your most fun outfit, it doesn't matter what they think about you true or whatever. yeah So I'm, I'm, I'm never meaning to come from an egoic place like that. It's more your authentic, loving, truthful self speaking the things that are really from the heart, wearing the things that you really wanna wear, wearing your hair the way you want to, your makeup, all of this without worrying about the judgments of others. Yeah. I do think that's something,
00:26:18
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and I guess authenticity will take you places in every area of your life. because not only like for self-love that we've talked about before, but strengthening other relationships in your life, creating new relationships in your life, maybe even at work. A lot of the time if you use honesty, it gets you a long way as well, like authentically owning up to mistakes and stuff like that. It also just helps you communicate better. It's overall a really,
00:26:56
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good thing to have and and exude. I agree. And when we're talking about, you talked about work. So in business too, I remember that I definitely wasn't true to myself or authentic to myself. I was really letting everything else pull me, like what clients wanted us to do, when they wanted us to do it. And I just, it was kind of not having the boundaries because I wasn't able to speak my truth. Like for instance, one time this client these clients, we didn't really know them that well.
00:27:43
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They wanted us to literally work on Christmas and... I knew inside, I felt like that wasn't the best thing, but because I wasn't able to speak my truth and just say, Hey, I need, actually it would be best for us to do this tomorrow and not today. Cause we're spending, like we traveled out of town to be with our families and, and so we weren't authentic with ourselves. And then everything ended up blowing up. It was almost like,
00:28:18
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There was some underlying thing that was like, yeah, when you do this, it's not going to work out anyway. And it didn't because we weren't authentic, even when we talked about it. Yeah. Yeah. And I would say like, I used to be a tour guide and it was a really cool job. There were days that weren't great, but I could tell it was because. you know I wasn't like in my body I wasn't actually caring about the work that I was doing which I don't like to admit but yeah some days it's like that but then the other days where I was like
00:28:56
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You know, like I really want to show these people a good time because in reality they are on vacation, like blah, blah, blah. I would like actually have authentic conversations with people and try to get to know them and all that stuff. And it would just be such a better day because
00:29:19
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It is like when you when you actually are authentic with somebody, you're trying to get to know them, you actually care about what you're asking them, you're not just being robotic with your everyday moves, it has such a better effect on you and that person as well. Most people can tell when you're being authentic with them as well, I think. Definitely. And so, It also takes a bit of courage if you've never used your voice, if you've never been able to speak your truth, because that is underlying under not being able to speak our truth. We do have some wounding patterns or traumas that have prevented us from speaking our truth. Like you were talking about earlier, you just never felt like your voice mattered.
00:30:14
Speaker
And so it's like, where do you find that courage to speak up when you never have before? Where does that come from for you? It's a great question. I never thought about that before.
00:30:32
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I guess, I think It honestly came from just like once I realized I was getting stepped all over by people. I mean, you know, some of, well, a lot of my friendships when I was younger, I would never bring up when my feelings got hurt ever because I didn't want the friendships to end.
00:31:08
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And then they you would would tell me when I hurt their feelings and I would just, Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. Like, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I hope everything's okay. Like we can figure this out. And then eventually I had started like losing my friendships because when it gets to a point where you realize like, I'm not speaking up about myself, but I have stacked up all these things that they have done to me. They don't even know that they've hurt me because I don't say anything, but now it's so far gone. I don't even, how can I even explain to them how badly they've hurt me up until this point? And then it's just like,
00:32:06
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Yeah, I guess once I started realizing that that was happening, I was like, okay, I need to take a step back and realize it's never gonna work. I can't just pretend everything's fine all the time because it doesn't just go away.
00:32:30
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And I've definitely fixed that now. I've gotten a lot better at it. You just have to practice.
00:32:38
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And I think the thing that was like the scariest to me was you know, when I went to someone to be like, Hey, you did this, didn't make me feel great. I thought that was going to be like, okay, bye. You know, or like they'd blow up at me or it would turn into this huge thing that we wouldn't resolve or it would make it so much worse. And I, I was always like, well, you know, they can hurt me as many times as possible and I'll stay with them just so that
00:33:14
Speaker
It won't be my fault if we stop being friends. That doesn't work. I realize that and it really does not work. You, it is your responsibility to go to somebody and tell them that something they did hurt your feelings. Cause if you don't, they're going to keep doing it over and over and over again. And they don't know in reality, remember people can't read your mind. That's so true. So for you.
00:33:47
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it took you many, many years of being hurt over and over and over again until you found that courage. Yeah, so so maybe you're someone that is experiencing that like Chloe where people are hurting you and you you're just taking it, but just know that you're worthy of speaking up for yourself and you're worthy of having healthy relationships with others. And I would say,
00:34:17
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also is to put it bluntly I feel like for me I liked not I liked but I would blame somebody else like for hurting me without telling them, which also is not right. Because ultimately, it is, like I said, it's your responsibility to tell that person. And with that, instead of thinking it's gonna go terribly, you just have to like think, if they do care about me and this friendship or whatever relationship this is, we're going to figure it out together.
00:35:05
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And if they don't want to figure it out, there are better people that will care for you and will want to figure things out with you. That's so true. And I do believe that that makes me think of this topic of During a healing journey, there are times when we start speaking our truth and coming from our authentic selves, and we will actually, people will leave our lives because of that, because they are not ready to have these types of conversations.
00:35:43
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and they will go away. and And I have definitely had friends during this journey that have disappeared, you know? And and it really... hurt in the beginning because I was like I'm just trying to heal and I'm trying to like speak my truth and and set these parameters for my life that I know that I can really be comfortable and healthy in and they just they were gone and I was like okay and I realized that each person that comes into our life
00:36:24
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is there to help us learn a lesson or lessons. And if you continue with someone and you are letting them hurt you over and over again, you're not learning the lesson.
00:36:43
Speaker
Yeah, it's true. So it's it's just knowing that you truly are worthy of speaking up, even if you have the potential of someone else leaving the relationship that you had together. And I know that's even harder though in a in a family, yeah because we kind of talked about that in previous episodes. But you could switch it and think of it like, I don't know, that quote, if you love them, let them go kind of thing. I think there's so much more depth into that than like what it seems to be.
00:37:27
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I think the reality of that is kind of like if you're the one trying to make everything work and you're the one that's putting in all the effort and they are not meeting you halfway, let them go.
Letting Go of Harmful Relationships
00:37:42
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Let them make the mistake with other people or it let them you know, realize that crap, that person was right. And now I don't have them anymore. And maybe they'll try to come back and they will have worked on themselves and realize the mistakes that they made.
00:38:06
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And maybe they won't. And that's, yeah, maybe they won't, but you know, if you, if you let them go in that time where they were hurting you or whatever it was, it's probably a good thing to let them go anyways.
Discovering the Authentic Self
00:38:24
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Yeah. So what do you feel have been ways that I mean, we how is someone supposed to even find out their authentic self, like who they really are when we have been put into so many boxes either as women or just all of these ways that we can we've been trapped from being our true selves? Because, I mean, we really are in a sense,
00:38:55
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enslaved in a way in in our in our current world. like There's so many rules that we are supposed to follow and there's so many ways. And it's like, how do you even really know who you are? like How did you start finding out who you were? Well, we have an episode on this. Yeah, okay. Well, the first thing I was just gonna say, social media, don't consume as much
00:39:24
Speaker
as you might be, unless you are have already looked into like the right accounts, the right people, ones that don't push like societal norms on you and stuff. And even at my age, I would say, I think there's a lot of consumption of, like I brought up earlier, like memes and you know so reels on Instagram, just funny stuff that doesn't even matter, quote unquote, brain rot.
00:39:55
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try to like slow it down just because I do think a lot of those accounts
00:40:03
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at least a lot of what I have seen and like people around me it is kind of those societal norms from long ago about women in the kitchen or like all this kind of stuff because it's like it can be funny when it's a joke but then it's like you can look at common sections of that stuff and then it's like people are you think like oh this is just funny and then you look at the comment section and people are like yeah or like agreeing with it and you're like are you trolling or are you serious and then it like just makes you question like do half the people in the world still believe this kind of stuff and then it almost sways you to be like oh maybe that's still normal
00:40:51
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If you have to question that kind of stuff, just turn it off, I think. Or if you realize that it's like you're not trying to think that, it's just coming at you every time you go on social media and stuff, just turn it off. That's my main thing. You just need to get the right kind of media and sometimes for me that's just like googling stuff and then scrolling. It's kind of like researching.
00:41:26
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Just look up the stuff that you care about and try not to get sucked into different tunnels and videos and everything that can sway you into different areas. um Or you could just get off of the internet completely. Just start journaling like what's going on in your head. That's what I was going to say. So there's this really cool book and it's like a whole program thing called the artists way and I didn't complete it. and I'll be honest I didn't but I started it cuz it was it's literally like writing first thing in the morning and it's just to get all the garble out of your head and then what comes out after is like the real authentic you your real creation and And you don't necessarily have to do that book. But like you said, journaling, if you just start writing after a while, the real you starts coming out. Same as when you can sit in a meditation.
00:42:36
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if you can sit with yourself long enough to like be aware of your thoughts and know that you aren't your thoughts. But after a while, if you meditate enough, you'll start to to know your your true self of who you really are. And you'll start to be able to be that person when you're with others and not worry so much about having to wear a mask, but you're able to be your authentic self with them because you're starting to learn yourself more and know that you're not your thoughts, but actually you are a beautiful creator within and your true authentic self is actually a really amazing soul.
00:43:24
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i would also say um right I genuinely believe that journaling is the thing that got me to understand authentically how I feel in certain situations. Because as somebody who didn't speak up about my feelings a lot, I would run to my notes app on my phone or start journaling how I felt. And sometimes there are just like three or four pages of just everything that's been bundled up for so long.
00:44:03
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other times it's like right after something happens or it's like a draft of letters to somebody but I do think that's a really good place to start and if you can't even if like you're at the point where you don't you're not even able to pinpoint your emotions take it back to your five-year-old self or something, look up an emotion wheel on Google and look at them and point it out and then start writing about it. I mean when you have all the emotions in front of you and you can pick one, it's really easy.
00:44:45
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um And everything will just start flowing out. Like you said, after a while of writing, it all starts coming out and it feels good to get it out. Even if you don't send it to somebody or come back to it, at least you had a way of getting it out of you. I love that. What was coming up for me when you were saying that into talk about speaking our truth with someone else,
00:45:18
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your truth isn't like anger. So in the moment when you're with someone and maybe if you feel something come up within you and you're triggered and you just yell at them or do something, that's not really what I would say is your truth. Because again, truth is love. And so maybe what someone is saying is definitely not truthful and not love, but it's how you respond to them that can help them see that you're being authentic and truthful and you're not trying to coerce them into believing your truth.
00:46:04
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o
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o We're not controlling or coercing someone else. And just remember that In this journey, we all find who we are, our authentic selves and our truth, and it comes at different stages.
00:46:28
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Yeah.
Support Systems and Family Growth
00:46:32
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Yeah. So.
00:46:39
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I don't know. Oh, you feel like you want to wrap up this, this wonderful episode of Speaking Your Truth, or do you have any? We could. Okay. Well, we could, or I have more truth to see. ah I don't know. I i think that
00:46:59
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speaking your truth and coming back to your authentic self, is a it's it's a process. And I know that I wouldn't be able to be where I am right now if I didn't have the support from others that were also on the same journey as me and being able to have like-minded soul sisters and brothers and you know I went to a school for a few years and during that process I had people that I could process with that I knew it would be okay for me to speak my truth and I also worked with energy healers, some people work with
00:47:45
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therapists or coaches. So this journey can feel really enormous if you're doing it alone. So I do believe it's very important if you're wanting to truly come back to your authentic self and know that being in your truth is okay and you're worthy of it, having a support system. Yeah. When you were talking about that, I was going to say if you hadn't started like your healing journey and stuff, I probably would still be afraid of telling people how I feel and like authentically being me, even in front of the people that are close in my life.
00:48:38
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Yeah. And I, I encourage you all the time to speak your truth. I wish, I know I can't go back in time. None of us can go back in time, but I wish I would have been able to teach you more of that when you were younger, how that I was okay, you know, but I didn't know either. Yeah. But now I'm like, I know, I know that um you've shared stories and situations with me. And I was like, Oh, I ah wish I would have instilled that strength in you or taught you that, but this is a journey. We're on a journey. Yes, we are. And each time that we do stand up for our truth in the in any other situations we come up in life, we have more courage because we've done it before.
00:49:34
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So
00:49:39
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I love you. I love you too. Thank you for showing up. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being vulnerable and having the courage to share what you've learned so far and not giving up on this journey of coming back to your truth because you truly have litten up. I don't know if that's a word. You light up. Let's lit it up. You have,
00:50:11
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become more and more of a light when I see that you are in your authentic self.
00:50:21
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So
Conclusion and Next Episode Preview
00:50:22
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thank you. Yeah. Well, I think we're going to wrap this episode up today. And I just wanna say thank you all for joining us and thank you for supporting us. I i do get DMs and text messages from friends and family and it it does mean a lot that you're here with us. I know that some of the conversations we have can be uncomfortable. I've had people tell me that too. Yes. But it's important. Yes. And so,
00:50:56
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If you haven't already, please subscribe to all the things, everything, everything subscribe. It just helps. You know, um, we're here to help encourage others to know it's okay to heal and to become their authentic become your authentic self again. And so yes, we're on YouTube, Spotify, all the podcast platforms, all the social media outlets. So thank you for your support. And our next episode is going to be the power of vulnerability, strength and openness. Wonderful. I look forward to that. Me too.
00:51:43
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All right, and as we end every episode, don't judge her, just love her.